By Faith with Christine Hoover

How do you discern the fine line between speaking up and remaining quiet with your kids as they are adulting? In this episode, Christine Hoover, the Women’s Ministry Associate at The Austin Stone Community Church’s Northwest congregation in Austin, Texas, shares insights on navigating the delicate balance of sharing information about your family while serving in ministry. Christine shares practical advice from her current season in life, guiding you on how to balance being honest about your struggles as a mom and being wise with how much you share about your kid’s life. LINKS FROM THE SHOW You are Not Forgotten by Christine Hoover Practical Wisdom for Serving with Brothers in the Church (an interview with Amy Petersen) CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Connect with Amy Facebook // Instagram // Podcast Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

In this Season 4 finale episode of the Ministry Wives Podcast, sit down with my husband Kyle Hoover and me for another Q & A episode. We wanted to give you more details following our episode with the Mandrells. We share about how God transformed our marriage during the COVID season, how that time served as a catalyst for my new book, as well as how God has been walking with us during our current trial with one of our children.     QUOTES “I would say we did push through, but at the same time I think we gave ourselves permission to not do some of the things that we normally would’ve done, and that’s okay. And, we pushed through with community. We had people who knew what we were going through and knew that we needed prayer and space and encouragement. We didn’t just push through isolated.” -Christine Hoover “I think what I enjoyed about the book is that it’s not just a fairytale; it’s a story of trusting the Lord in the midst and believing that God will take care of you and also call upon you to trust him and obey him. I appreciate that it wasn’t just a movie script kind of an ending where it’s ‘they all ended up being happy’. It’s a gritty story of faith and trust.” -Kyle Hoover “When I think about the prayers of God’s people for us and the care, it’s like a crowd surfing at a concert. I feel like we in some ways have probably even been protected from more suffering and pain because people have carried us through and lifted us and passed us along. I love that picture because that’s what it feels like. It feels like we’re being carried not just by people, but by the Lord.” -Christine Hoover LINKS FROM THE SHOW You Are Not Forgotten  How We Love Crosspoint Ministries  CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

Wisely navigating relationships between men and women is a vital but sometimes difficult conversation we need to be having with one another and our husbands. In this follow-up episode, long-time ministry wife and Ministry Wife Ministry Partner Amy Petersen helps walk us through the specifics of wisely cultivating these relationships. She stresses the importance of open communication regarding boundaries and how personality and baggage play into those boundaries. Amy and Christine also discuss the role of spiritual health and how it is critical to employing wisdom and discernment in this area.   SHOW NOTES Create boundaries that both you and your husband are comfortable with. Assessing your spiritual health/maturity is critical for navigating these areas wisely.  If you do have concerns regarding a relationship, lay them out before the Lord and ask Him for wisdom and then have a conversation with your husband. QUOTES “There’s just really no set equation for how it should look. I think that it just needs to be customized based on what you’re comfortable with, as long as you’re healthy. That’s the other piece to this. Am I healthy? Is my husband healthy? Is this other person healthy? Healthiness is huge.” -Amy Petersen “I think sometimes in these situations, I might feel some things about somebody, but need to really discern, ‘Is this more of a me issue? Is this something going on with me or is this genuinely something I need to bring to my husband?’ I do think in general, if we have concerns, we should bring it to our husband, but we need to be very clear about what it is that we’re concerned about and what we’re requesting.” -Christine Hoover CONNECT Connect with Amy Facebook // Instagram // Podcast Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

The Lord gifts each of us and our spouses so differently, and sometimes those giftings require sacrifices of different kinds as we respond to the call of the Lord in a given season. Singer/songwriter Caroline Cobb joins me today to describe her husband's volunteer position as a lay elder at their church and how she supports him and the local church through that ministry.  SHOW NOTES Though a lay elder is unpaid, their time is invaluable and vital to the health of the church.  As a lay elder's wife, wisdom needs to be employed to balance supporting your husband as he counsels others but also maintaining privacy of those walking through trials.  You can support your elder husband and your church through consistent prayer. QUOTES “I think when he is sharing with me what he needs support in. So I might not know all the details of a marriage that’s falling apart or who it even is, but I know that there’s a marriage falling apart and that he’s ministering to them. He won’t share their story because that’s their story to tell me. And yet, at the same time, if he didn’t tell me about it at all, I wouldn’t be able to support him and care for him as a wife. So it’s a little bit of a dance and there’s a lot of wisdom that needs to happen there.” -Caroline Cobb “As I’m praying for him, this is part of the way I’m serving our church. There’s freedom to serve in so many different ways, but part of the way I’m serving our church is by serving and loving and supporting my husband.” -Caroline Cobb LINKS FROM THE SHOW Advent for Exiles CONNECT Connect with Caroline Facebook // Instagram // Website Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

Walking into a church for the first time can be a very scary experience for newcomers. Sometimes it feels just as scary for us to approach and invite them into our circle. Pastor's wife, author, and podcaster Jen Oshman shares her practical tips for creating a culture of welcome within the church. Jen tells us how welcome helped draw her to Christ, reminds us who Jesus says our primary family truly is, and encourages us to embrace the awkward in welcome culture.  SHOW NOTES Treat those who are alone or new in your church with urgency. Stop what you're doing and intentionally draw them in. Ask God during the week, “Who do you want me to have eyes to see this Sunday?” Set a tone of welcome among the leaders in your church, and make the hard choice to choose welcoming newcomers over spending time with friends on Sundays.  QUOTES “Welcome is so much more than a greeting. I need to genuinely go toward people and welcome them not just to Sunday morning, but maybe to my home after church, maybe to another small group leader’s home, maybe to a women’s Bible study. How can I take that extra step to go beyond Sunday morning and welcome them at least initially somehow into my life and into my circle?” -Jen Oshman “I think we have lost a vision for our primary family being the family of God, our primary eternal siblings, mothers, fathers, aunts, uncles. It’s not actually our biological family or our nuclear family, but HIS primary family. Our primary family is those who walk with Jesus, those who follow him.” -Jen Oshman “It’s just going to be awkward, and that’s okay.” -Jen Oshman LINKS FROM THE SHOW Welcome: Loving Your Church by Making Space for Everyone CONNECT Connect with Jen Facebook // Instagram // Website // Podcast Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

We live in a broken world full of pain and suffering. We are bound to suffer trauma and grief; how do we navigate that pain as believers? Pastor's wife, writer and podcaster Danielle Kelly joins the show today to share how God invited her into biblical lament as a lifestyle and how choosing to trust God's character in the process transformed her life and relationship with Him. SHOW NOTES Biblical lament is more than crying aloud with your grief; it's grieving with a purpose that draws you into deeper trust in God.  On the other side of entering lament with Jesus is beauty, joy, and new growth. Embrace lament as a lifestyle that will ebb and flow throughout your life. Make space for it whenever it arrives.  QUOTES “One of the things that God started to show me is that lament is beautiful because I was scared of it. I said ‘Okay, I see you inviting me into this, but I feel like it’s a dark pit that I can’t see the other side of, and I don’t know what’s at the bottom of that pit.’ But Jesus is on the other side and He has lament with a purpose, our lament is not empty. He’s a savior that knows lament well and His invitation is not something He hasn’t walked through Himself.” -Danielle Kelly “When you sit in the darkness of lament with the Lord and allow Him to comfort you, to minister to you, to speak to you…then He starts to water you. Then all of a sudden beauty comes out of it and you are able to sing. You are able to worship, you are able to have a different perspective, but it has to go through a process of sitting in the darkness and feeling all the feelings and being there.” -Danielle Kelly LINKS FROM THE SHOW Dark Clouds Deep Mercy CONNECT Connect with Danielle Instagram  // Podcast Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

On this special episode of the Ministry Wives Podcast, Christine hands the microphone over to Lynley and Ben Mandrell as special guest hosts. Christine and Kyle open up about a very vulnerable time in their life and marriage, the lessons God taught them, and the book that was born out of that season, “You Are Not Forgotten,” out April 23. QUOTES “I think the main thing I learned was that God really does see me, and that’s why I wrote this book. These truths are holding me now as we’re going through a whole different season of suffering. I have not doubted God in our current suffering because I know what He did for me when I felt so buried, He saw me and He pulled me out.” -Christine Hoover “One thing I learned in that time was that I often thought about ministry as outside of my home, meaning other people that are not in my family. I thought of my kids as part of my ministry, but I rarely thought about Kyle as my ministry, and we just did not carve out time for one another.  But I look back now and I see that we were giving of ourselves to everyone else except for one another, and we had to carve out some extensive time to work through these things and to come back together. I would say we haven’t just come back together, but we have a new marriage and a healthier marriage, a happier marriage.” -Christine Hoover “I think in marriage, you can just keep going on cruise control. I think having times of dedicated work towards, what are those repeated conflict points that we have? What are the things that keep popping up? Who do we want to be as a married couple moving into the future? What are our blind spots? We need to be intentional with our time and energy to realize that our marriage needs that kind of attention as well.” -Kyle Hoover LINKS FROM THE SHOW You Are Not Forgotten CONNECT Connect with Lynley and Ben Lynley Instagram // Ben Instagram // Website // Podcast  Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

In theory, we should always desire to serve God in ministry to honor and obey him, but in practice, we may sometimes find ourselves struggling with our motivations in ministry. We struggle with what we think we “should” do, wanting to please others, even wanting recognition for our service. Pastor's wife Krissie Inserra shares how God has worked on the motivations of her heart in the last 16 years of their Tallahassee church plant. Krissie explains how God has taught her who He created her to be and how she recognizes the different seasons of life God has placed her. She also shares the importance of frequent heart checks, ridding her heart of glory-seeking motivations.  SHOW NOTES Don't fall prey to people pleasing behaviors. Ask God how He has gifted you and serve in those areas.  Be aware of what season you are in. You may be called to operate in a lot of ministry in church or you may be called to operate in ministry heavily within your home.  Regularly check your heart. Prideful motivations of wanting to be known can creep up unexpectedly.  QUOTES “If I’m really honest with myself, my motivation can sometimes be so that my name is out there. Why? I don’t know. Because that’s just our human nature. We want to be known. I have to check myself on that all the time.” -Krissie Inserra “Those of you just starting in this, you’re probably going to make mistakes and maybe do too much or not do enough and then realize, ‘I’m not going to do that again.’ Ministry is a lot of learning as you go and learning from your mistakes. Praise God that He is a gracious God who forgives and who is bigger than our mistakes.” -Krissie Inserra CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

God calls us to serve in so many different ministry contexts. Sometimes we'll be called to serve in large spaces with hundreds of people, and sometimes God calls us into small environments with less than 10. Church planting wife Wendy Ortiz shares her experiences serving in small churches both in the US and Puerto Rico. She explains the joys and challenges of small environments, including God's work in her heart regarding letting go of control.  SHOW NOTES Small churches allow a family-like atmosphere as well as an unearthing of gifts that may be overlooked in larger churches.  Don't fall into the comparison trap. God will decide how big He wants your church to be. Focus on being a faithful steward.  Encourage your husband, celebrate every victory, and be intentional about connecting with other church planting wives.  QUOTES “What would I say to myself? God is going to do what He wants to do. Don’t worry. Just be obedient, do what He calls you to do and help your husband and don’t be an obstacle for him.” -Wendy Ortiz “We are a family, so we know each other very well. We may have misunderstandings because our sin always goes out, but it’s just us. It’s just us. We work things together as a family and we can be the church. It’s very personal. It’s very straightforward. The discipleship is more personal as well.” -Wendy Ortiz CONNECT Connect with Wendy Instagram Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

As believers and ministry wives, we will experience times of spiritual dryness, times where we struggle to experience the truth of God's presence in our daily lives, times where our spiritual walk feels stagnant and emotionless. We live in a world full of distraction and fatigue; the battle to focus on Christ is ever present.  Author, mother, and pastor's wife Kristen Wetherell has experienced times of spiritual dryness in her own walk and joins us today to share her story. Kristen shines light on some symptoms of spiritual dryness to be on the alert for, as well as how to navigate those seasons with Christ and community at the forefront.  SHOW NOTES In times of spiritual dryness, choose community and confession rather than shame and isolation.  Symptoms of the beginnings of spiritual dryness can include distraction, discouragement, physical fatigue, ministry burnout, or temptation engagement. Discipline and desire go hand in hand. The more we discipline ourselves spiritually, the more we begin to desire God. QUOTES “In seasons of spiritual dryness, you will be tempted toward shame and isolation when what will be most helpful for you is to choose community and confession because those things bring freedom.” -Kristen Wetherell “It’s weird to think about discipline and desire, but I really think they go hand in hand. Sometimes the desire is there and our hearts are just a flame for the Lord.  Sometimes it’s a discipline, and sometimes it’s both. But I think if we’re disciplined, we can sit back and wait on the Lord to renew the desire. But if we’re not disciplined about it, it’s going to be really hard for that desire to have any space to grow when the Lord turns it on again.” -Christine Hoover LINKS FROM THE SHOW Help For the Hungry Soul Front Row Seat CONNECT Connect with Kristen Website  Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

There is no escaping the reality that women within our church will experience the loss of their spouse at some point in their lives. The Bible instructs us to take care of widows, but how do we practically live that out? Melissa Swain lost her pastor husband Chris unexpectedly in 2021 and joins the podcast to tell her story. Melissa shares how specific help, inclusion, and an admission of the hard has helped her and her children navigate in their new world.   SHOW NOTES Try to be specific in your offers of help (mowing the lawn, picking up groceries) rather than asking “What can I do for you?” Even though they might not always be able to attend or give input, continue providing opportunities for fellowship and ministry as you did before.  When you don't know what to say, don't avoid reaching out. It's okay to simply say, “I love you and I don't know what to say.” QUOTES “I understand the statistic that 50% of widows leave their church. Their person that they walk in with, sit with, go to classes with, do all the things with is not there anymore. So that makes it really difficult to continue to be involved in the same context with the same people around you, but you’re not the same anymore.” -Melissa Swain “A lot of times, it is easy to feel forgotten because most people assume, ‘Oh, after the first year, you’re fine. Everything’s good. You’ve done all the first things.’ And that’s kind of the mentality of a lot of people surrounding widowhood. You’ve done the firsts. Everything else will be easy. The second Father’s day was harder than the first one. Everything new that my kids do is a first. Sometimes it’s really easy to be in a room and feel like no one knows how hard it is to be there just to be there.” -Melissa Swain LINKS FROM THE SHOW Write it on Their Hearts CONNECT Connect with Melissa Instagram // Website Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

Sometimes unmet expectations seem to pop up everywhere in our lives. We experience hardship or failure in life and ministry over and over again. Today, author and pastor's wife Lisa Hughes teaches us how to reshape our thinking regarding unmet expectations. She shares that we need to not only expect the hard things, but also accept that the Lord is always doing what seems good to Him. We can find joy in the hardship while drawing closer to Jesus when faced with unmet expectations, choosing to obey Him even when it's hard.  SHOW NOTES Identifying an unmet expectation often means identifying a sin in your heart where you're not thinking rightly about God or what He's doing in your life.  Reshaping our thinking means letting the Lord do what seems good to Him and aligning our thoughts to match Scripture. You have to decide how to respond to unmet expectations: with despair or with belief and obedience to God.  QUOTES “It is the Lord, let Him do what seems good to Him. He’s given me this little incubator, this little pressure cooker time, this little hard thing because it’s not only good for her, but it’s really good for me. How do I need to think about what God has given to not try to escape it? I think a lot of times what we try to do is escape those hard things.“ -Lisa Hughes “Sometimes in the waiting times, our hearts just get so stretched, so thin, it’s really painful and it can be so discouraging. We need to believe just like David, that God is good and that He will provide good things for us along the way as He causes us to wait.” -Lisa Hughes LINKS FROM THE SHOW Anchor Bible Church CONNECT Connect with Lisa Facebook // Instagram // Website  Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

Life in a parachurch ministry often looks very different from life in other ministries, but the goal is always the same: live as a minister of the gospel. Rachel Shelton and her husband were called to minister full time at TBarM Camps in Texas. Rachel describes the joys and challenges of camp life, and how her family focuses on doing life with others as they point them to Christ.  SHOW NOTES Camp ministry allows campers to experience God in a unique environment where everyone is living outside their normal life.  Life at camp allows leadership to teach college students about pouring into others even when they feel completely empty.  No matter what ministry you serve in, strive to integrate the different areas of your life. You are called to minister the gospel everywhere.  QUOTES “We’re learning to be who we are as we relate to the students and share what the Lord is doing. They’re not looking for people older than them to try to connect and be real young and hip. They’re just looking for people who are going to point them to Christ. And we do our best to try to do that as we try to do that for ourselves.” -Rachel Shelton “I think whatever role in ministry we’re in, we strive for integration. So as we are connecting with others, whether that’s camp ministry or church ministry or parachurch missions ministry is just letting people in our lives and not separating out, work, ministry, school. It’s all integrated.” -Rachel Shelton LINKS FROM THE SHOW TBarM Camp CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

Ministry often stretches us to grow in ways we never imagined, some that are hard but many that can bring us deep joy. Raising children in a completely different culture for missions is no different. Missionary wife, author, and podcaster Keri Folmar joins me to shine light on the joys she experienced raising missionary children. She shares how God used their upbringing on a different continent to teach them about hospitality towards all and the unity that comes from Christ alone.  SHOW NOTES No matter what culture the Lord calls you to, parenting has joys and challenges. Embrace both and lean on Him.  One of the greatest joys in missions is allowing your children to see the unity that comes from Christ, not from culture.  The most important thing your children can see is you living for Christ and loving Him above all else, not living for your ministry.   QUOTES “The thing with being in a church like this, we don’t have any culture to unite us, but we’re united in the Lord Jesus Christ. We are united sitting under the Word being preached, and we’re united in our love for Jesus. Our children saw that. They saw these deep relationships with people who didn’t look like us, who didn’t act like us in many ways, who didn’t dress like us, but they saw these deep relationships and they had relationships with people like that as well.” -Keri Folmar “Live for Christ, not for your ministry. I think that’s important for both husband and wife. If you live for Christ and you love Christ, your ministry will come out of that. But if you are living for ministry, it really becomes idolatry and you hold on. But if you are living for Christ, they see that you love Him above all, and they see that your love for them flows out of your love for Christ.” -Keri Folmar CONNECT Connect with Keri Podcast // Website Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

Clint and Jennifer Clifton spent their lives planting churches as well as pouring themselves into training and encouraging planters and their wives all over the globe. Jennifer joins the podcast to talk about the legacy of her late husband and how she sees the Lord opening opportunities for her to continue to encourage ministry wives just like us. Jennifer also shares her unique perspective on helping marriage and family thrive within the framework of full-time ministry. QUOTES “What our roles are depends on what season we’re in. If we’ve got a bunch of little kids, it’s really hard to be super involved, but if your kids are older, it may be a little easier. Our roles change with seasons. It’s important for church planter wives to recognize that and be encouraged in that. And husbands need to recognize that about their wives and help them recognize what seasons they’re in and how they best can be used in that season.” -Jennifer Clifton “We just involved our kids in all the ministry things that we did, and so they got to see it. We told them, ‘This is what God wants. This is what God has said. This is what the Bible says.’ We were actively showing them those things, not just Mom and Dad saying them.” -Jennifer Clifton LINKS FROM THE SHOW The Praetorian Project CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

Finding your place in ministry as a pastor's wife or ministry wife can leave you feeling frustrated and stuck. You might feel constrained by expectations in your church, confused about where you are being called, or feeling stuck because a role you used to fulfill is no longer needed. Pastor's wife and podcaster Angie Brown Elkins joins me today to share how she has reinvented herself in ministry over the years and how changing her thoughts around “calling” has allowed her to always find ways to serve God.   SHOW NOTES Sometimes finding your place means saying “yes” to God, even if it means reinventing yourself and starting something new. Your calling is ultimately to make disciples and love your neighbors. There is always a way to minister in those areas. If you feel stuck, challenge yourself to do something you've never done before and commit to it. QUOTES “God will let you serve him if you will just say yes to whatever He’s asking, and maybe it will look completely different at times. You just have to be willing to let go of your idea of what it’s going to look like. If you want to serve Him, you can.” -Angie Brown Elkins “I’ve rethought my language around calling because really if this is my calling, if this is what God has called me to do, and man can stop it, is it really of God? So what I realized was our calling is not necessarily to a place or a person or even an exact thing, but it’s more to the things that all of us are called to as believers: making disciples, loving God with all our heart, soul, mind and strength, loving our neighbors ourselves. Those are our callings, and we can do those in lots of different ways.” -Angie Brown Elkins Links from the Show The Glass House Let It Shine CONNECT Connect with Angie Instagram // Website Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

As ministry wives, it's far too easy to put ourselves inside a glass bubble with expectations that God does not desire for us. First and foremost, God calls us to be faithful Christians and church members. Pastor's wife Jeanine Sanchez shares how she teaches other ministry wives to examine the motivations behind their internal and external expectations, focusing on God's intentions for them in ministry, and how to walk in the inevitable disappointment of others.  SHOW NOTES Examine internal and external expectations through prayer and intentionality, asking God to reveal the true intentions of your heart, always seeking the counsel of your husband. There will be seasons where God’s expectations will stretch you beyond comfort, but He won't keep you there forever. People will have unmet expectations of you. Disciple them by responding with humility and help them think rightly. QUOTES “At the end of it, you can’t be all things to all people. Think back to the Messiah complex. You are one person. You are not like God, you are finite. Know your limitations and disciple your congregation to see you as a normal church member.” -Jeanine Sanchez “Remember that the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. The Lord delights in those who fear him. So always thinking, ‘Okay, Lord, what do you think about me? What do you think about how I handled this situation?’ And then just pray, we have to have a heart attitude of prayer. ‘Lord, how do you want me to change? How do you want me to view this person?'” -Jeanine Sanchez LINKS FROM THE SHOW Upcoming Book Release CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

It can be difficult to fully understand the life of a pastor's wife without being a pastor's wife. But understanding this role can help us not only be more compassionate with one another as ministry wives, but also show us how we can better serve one another. Caroline Saunders has been a pastor's wife for the last 14 years and shares with us the difficulties, the joys, and even some of the hilarious moments she's encountered along the way. SHOW NOTES Pastors' wives have to learn to endure and persevere in building up the church even when they don't agree with the decisions being made by their husbands or the elders. Relationships are harder to navigate because of the nature of their husband's job and the complexities that go along with the areas of overlap. Bless your pastor's wife by asking God to help you see ways that she is unseen, and encourage her in those areas. QUOTES “This is the thing that’s teaching me faithfulness, the beauty of the body of Christ and how I must not let secondary issues create a wedge between my husband or between my brothers and sisters at church. Those preferences can be really tough to tangle with and people assume we’ve signed off on all things in the church in total agreement. But there’s something good that happens in my heart over time, having to lay down whatever I perceive my rights are and see the fellowship flourish.  It’s not because we’re all on the same page about the sermon series or everything, but because of faithfulness.” -Caroline Saunders “If someone is looking to encourage their pastor’s wife, I would say to find ways to see them or ask God to show you ways to see them, because there’s probably an area where they feel very alone and unseen. There may be a really practical way to minister in that place.” -Caroline Saunders Links from the Show Better Than Life CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

When Covid hit, none of us could have imagined how far reaching its effects would be, nor for how long we would be grappling with the various issues raised by its influence in our lives. Toronto SEND Network ministry director and church planter's wife Kimberley McGibbon shares how Covid forever changed her life and ministry. She explains how God used Covid to return her identity to Christ, pushed her to reach out to others amidst isolation, and opened her eyes to the new opportunities for discipleship within her city. SHOW NOTES Isolation is deadly. Humble yourself and be willing to be welcomed by other ministry wives for much needed love and support. Allow yourself to grieve when people leave, but take that grief to Jesus. He knows better than anyone what it's like to be left. Covid has made unchurched people question life like never before. The harvest is ripe for the church to minister in their cities! QUOTES “In the past 20 years, lots of times people have left for different reasons. Some of them have really hurt and it is hard to still keep living open handed, but I think we have to go to Jesus with those things. He above everybody else knows what it’s like to have people leave you in the middle of a very terrible time. His friends left him on the cross, Peter denied him. If anyone is going to understand it’s going to be Jesus.” -Kimberley McGibbon “There are losses behind us, and those years were hard years, but if anything, they refined us. They refined our faith, they refined our focus in ministry, and if we have eyes to see it, there are a whole lot of opportunities before us. And we may be doing it a little bit differently than we were doing it before, but maybe that’s good.” -Christine Hoover CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

In its most basic form, Women's Ministry isn't about fancy events or complicated Bible studies; it's about meeting women's needs where they are. Lifeway Women's Ministry Specialist Kelly King shares how we can create a lifestyle of women's ministry that helps get women in the Word, providing encouragement and creating a deeply desired community. Kelly also gives us some practical ideas for troubleshooting challenges that may arise, along with basic leadership principles to help us grow as ministry wives in leadership.  SHOW NOTES Successful women's ministries are centered on God's Word and create an atmosphere of friendship and authenticity. When trying to start a new women's ministry, look at the needs of the women in your church and community. How can you encourage them and lead them towards Jesus? If you are willing to listen to feedback, the Lord can help change you to love and lead others better. QUOTES “Number one, women need encouragement. So start there. How are we encouraging women, but also how are we calling them to embrace who Christ is through their relationship and through intimacy in His word? And then how do we echo His heart for the world? God’s word gets in us, but it changes us and there needs to be an outward expression of that.” -Kelly King “We are all wired very differently, and God has made us so unique. So don’t look at another leader and feel like ‘I’m just not like her.’ Walk in the person, the woman that God has created you to be. Don’t compare, be you. Because when you’re you, then that’s the best you can give someone else.” -Kelly King Links from the Show Scarlet Hiltibidal: Ashamed Lifeway Women Academy CONNECT Connect with Kelly  Instagram // Book  Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

Love one another. Serve one another. The New Testament is full of commandments instructing us to engage in relationships with one another, including those of the opposite sex. The church must battle against the lie that men and women cannot operate as friends and recover brother-sister relationships within the body of Christ. Close friends and colleagues Jen Wilkin and JT English share today how their friendship is based on mutual respect and trust, the importance of spiritual maturity in this area, and how the church can become stronger and more effective by embracing biblical male/female friendships. SHOW NOTES We need to recover friendship between brothers and sisters in the church, encouraging one another, celebrating each other, and elevating one another's gifts. Biblical friendship is dependent upon trust, respect, and spiritual maturity. Continue to offer the hand of friendship even in spaces where you don't feel entirely welcome. QUOTES “The lie that has been told to a generation, not just of pastors but of people, is that any intense feeling or strong feeling for another person, whether same sex or opposite sex, must have a sexual or romantic tone to it. The Bible says something very different. It uses the term one another over and over and over again in the New Testament.” -Jen Wilkin “What if we were credited for creating friends and brothers and sisters and just celebrating each other? I mean, when you do it, it’s so freeing and rewarding when you just look another human in the eye and celebrate and encourage them. This isn’t just a gender thing. This is a human thing.” -JT English Links from the Show You are a Theologian CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram We Want to Hear From You! Share your funniest or most embarrassing moments in ministry for a future episode! Visit Speakpipe.com/MinistryWives

Churches all over the world are dying and God longs to see His churches revitalized, brought back to life, thriving as lights for the Kingdom. But along with the excitement of revitalization can come burnout from the intense emotional, physical, spiritual, and mental work of revitalization. Today, Andrea Valenti shares how she has walked through the highs of revitalization and the lows of burnout, learning to ask others for help and asking Jesus to revitalize her heart.    SHOW NOTES Revitalization requires patience, active listening, and meeting people where they are. Burnout can look like numbness, mental and physical fatigue, irritated responses, and a feeling of being overwhelmed. Try to prevent burnout through healthy boundaries and habits, but if it hits, seek counsel from other ministry wives and resources like the SEND Network. QUOTES “Part of the issue is that sometimes there’s so much stigma in discussing the reality of burnout and other mental health concerns. There’s almost this idea of, there’s going to be judgment. If I share that I’ve been burnt out before in ministry, people are going to think that I am somehow less spiritual or less than, or there’s some kind of glaring sin issue that caused that.” -Andrea Valenti “You’re not alone. The statistics say at least half of people serving in ministry or other helping professionals are experiencing burnout or have experienced burnout. I think normalizing the fact that it is happening is really important for people to realize that it’s not just you. You’re not the only person. This isn’t a deficit about you, this is about the season and maybe a mismatch of priorities and ways that you’re serving.” -Andrea Valenti Links from the Show SEND Network CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram

Life as a church planter is rewarding and encouraging, but also spiritually, emotionally, and physically exhausting. It's easy to completely burn out when we aren't intentionally engaging in the rest Jesus commands us to take. Vance and Kristie Pitman share today how God brought them into a season of forced rest. What they found on the other side was trust in Jesus' work in His church, stronger family rhythms, and freedom. SHOW NOTES Rest is as spiritual as work and a command that comes from Jesus Himself. Ask trusted believers to be gatekeepers in your life, protecting you from over-committing and forcing you to take times of rest. The primary call on our lives is not ministry; it's intimacy with Jesus. QUOTES “We had to learn that rest is as spiritual as work. Jesus told the disciples to ‘Come away with me and rest for a while.' In the Greek language, it’s an imperative, meaning rest is a matter of spiritual obedience.” -Vance Pitman “The primary call on our lives is intimacy and ministry is what He does out of the overflow of intimacy. Too many times we think Jesus saved us so we could do something for Him, but He actually saved us because He wants to be with us and then He wants to do something through us.” -Vance Pitman LINKS FROM THE SHOW The Stressless Life CONNECT Connect Vance and Kristie SEND Network Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram We Want to Hear From You! Share your funniest or most embarrassing moments in ministry for a future episode! Visit Speakpipe.com/MinistryWives

The enemy hates any ministry that seeks to increase the kingdom of God. How do we recognize when we are in spiritual warfare, and how do we practically fight against it? James and Desiree Westbrook, planters of The Realm Church in Oakland, California experience immense spiritual warfare every day. They share with us how they battle warfare with Christ's love, truth, and a right perspective, remaining dedicated to preaching the gospel no matter how the enemy attacks.  SHOW NOTES Spiritual warfare is anything designed by the enemy that seeks to derail, discourage, or destroy. Shift your perspective past what's directly in front of you. There is a correlation between suffering and greatness in the kingdom of God. Fight warfare by gathering to pray, filling your mind with encouraging spiritual content, and intentionally taking time to rest. QUOTES “We have to be reminded that there is a correlation between suffering and service that leads to greatness in the kingdom of God. So when we are going through seasons where it’s difficult, the temptation is to say it’s because of this physical thing or that physical thing. But really, there’s something behind it and a right perspective tells us to expect suffering if we're going to be considered great in the kingdom.” -James Westbrook “Be ready. The enemy wants nothing more than to divide and conquer, to bring about discouragement. Look at all the readiness language in Ephesians 6, ‘be on guard, be alert, be ready.’ Paul uses all this language because he wants you to be ready for what will come. Not if it comes, it will come.” -James Westbrook Links from the Show Realm Church The Meaning of Marriage CONNECT Connect with James and Desiree Email: Mcross@therealmchurch.com Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram We Want to Hear From You! Share your funniest or most embarrassing moments in ministry for a future episode! Visit Speakpipe.com/MinistryWives

In honor of Hispanic Heritage Month, this episode of the Ministry Wives podcast is being released completely in Spanish. SEND Español is a branch of the North American Mission Board's church planting ministry, the SEND Network. This ministry resources and helps support Spanish speaking church plants all over North America. Today's episode features four Spanish speaking ministry wives sharing their heart for the Lord and their communities.  If you are a Spanish speaker, this episode is for you! If you are not, I encourage you to listen to the first few minutes, praising God for His mighty work in reaching every tribe and tongue and lifting up prayers for our sisters who are serving in Spanish speaking ministries.  Conmemorando el Mes de la Herencia Hispana, este episodio del pódcast Ministry Wives ha sido lanzado completamente en español. Send Español es una rama del ministerio de plantación de iglesias de la Junta de Misiones Internacionales de Norte América, Send Network. Este ministerio provee recursos y apoya las plantaciones de iglesias de habla hispana por todo Norte América. El episodio de hoy presenta a cuatro esposas de de plantadores de habla hispana quienes comparten su corazón por el Señor y sus comunidades. Si hablas español, ¡este episodio es para ti! Alabemos a Dios por su obra maravilosa de alcanzar a cada tribu y lengua, oremos por nuestras hermanas que sirven en ministerios de habla hispana. CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram We Want to Hear From You! Share your funniest or most embarrassing moments in ministry for a future episode! Visit Speakpipe.com/MinistryWives

Seeds of bitterness can grow in our hearts for a myriad of reasons. Our own insecurities, criticisms, and the sheer volume of tasks that need to be completed can harden our hearts towards those we've been called to serve. We can even be tempted to harden our hearts towards God in the midst of difficult ministry seasons. Author and Discipleship Director Amy Gannett shares the work God has done in her heart, teaching her to humble herself before Him and softening her heart for others and the work of ministry.  SHOW NOTES The enemy is the number one reason there is a fight against bitterness. He wants your heart to harden. God wants your heart to be tender, so pray confidently that He will soften it! When practicing forgiveness feels unfair, remember that God knows your story and fights for you and that you are held in the nail-pierced hand of a Savior who knows what you are feeling. QUOTES “So much of the weight we bear on our shoulders and carry in our hearts in ministry is unseen. Part of that is God’s call to bear with holy reverence the lives, discipleship, situations and people that have been entrusted to us in ministry. That is a holy weight. These conversations in our head and the ungenerous interpretations, that is unholy weight and it makes the whole load so much heavier. When we submit and say, ‘God, you’re at work when I can’t see it and I’m going to trust that you’re working in this person’s life,’ that actually takes so much of the unholy load off our shoulders because ministry is heavy enough. I don’t need my own sin tendencies added onto it.” -Amy Gannet LINKS FROM THE SHOW Tiny Theologians Biblestudyschoolhouse.com CONNECT Connect with Amy Website Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram We Want to Hear From You! Share your funniest or most embarrassing moments in ministry for a future episode! Visit Speakpipe.com/MinistryWives

Sinful comparison and competition can creep quickly into our hearts when we aren't focused on Jesus. It's easy to look at what other women are doing (or even what our husband is doing) and begin to compare what is “lacking” in our own life and ministry. On today's episode, pastor's wife Carla Sibley explains how God has taught her to shut down the world and turn her eyes on Jesus, refusing to give a foothold to the division that comparison and competition create.  SHOW NOTES Put on blinders towards the world, turn your eyes on Jesus, and ask Him to give you new eyes for your life. There's no comparison or competition in God's eyes. He has specifically gifted you and placed you where He can use you. Combat competition with transparency and by cheering other believers on in their ministries. QUOTES “What was purchased for me through Christ is so much more than anything earthly, anything temporary. So I don’t have to cling to those things I think I need or want, the accomplishments or the recognition. But sometimes we forget that we don’t have to have those things. So I just look to Jesus, spend more time in the Word, spend more time thinking about Him and listening to things that will draw my heart to Him.” -Carla Sibley “Make a decision. Do you want to be an instrument in the hand of the enemy for the destruction of the kingdom? Or do you want to be an instrument in the hand of God for the building up of His kingdom? It’s a decision we must make every single time the comparison thought pops in our head. Repent and turn from it continually. The more we exercise that muscle of gratitude and humility, the more we’ll be able to do this. It’ll come quicker each time.” -Carla Sibley CONNECT Connect with Carla Facebook // Instagram // Email: misscarla7@gmail.com  Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram We Want to Hear From You! Share your funniest or most embarrassing moments in ministry for a future episode! Visit Speakpipe.com/MinistryWives

When we look around our communities, we so often see the suffering of those living in poverty and homelessness. The fear of not knowing what to do frequently keeps us from doing anything. Cassie Hammett, Executive Director of The Hub Urban Ministries, shares how Jesus radically changed her heart for those in distress in her city. She explains how we can engage in our own communities, building friendships, meeting needs and allowing God to steer our ministries. SHOW NOTES Radical ministry can start when you allow Jesus to radically transform your heart. The fuel of community ministry is friendship. Once you know someone, you will better know what their needs are and how to meet them. Remove fear from encounters with those in need by taking practical steps to be prepared. QUOTES “I think what keeps people from engaging with individuals in different socioeconomic levels is that there’s an assumption of, ‘We are so different. There’s this chasm between me and her.’ We also make a lot of assumptions, ‘Well he’s in this situation because he did X, Y, Z or  has a mental illness.’ We have all of these predetermined ideas that create a lot of fear but the truth is that there isn’t that big of a chasm. Most of the time the difference is just material.” -Cassie Hammett “Our job is to pick up people’s mats and do our very best to get them to Jesus. But the reality is, it’s His job to heal. It’s his job to heal people and it’s the people in need of healing’s responsibility to take ownership of that and to receive it. We can’t do either of those. So I have to remind myself consistently, ‘I’m a mat carrier.’ If that person is not receiving help, that’s not my job. I did the very best I could do. I physically got involved and did everything in my power to clear the path between them and restoration. The rest is up to Jesus and them to receive it.” -Cassie Hammett LINKS FROM THE SHOW The Hub Ministry CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram We Want to Hear From You! Share your funniest or most embarrassing moments in ministry for a future episode! Visit Speakpipe.com/MinistryWives

If we want to reach the culture around us with the good news of Jesus, we must first understand that culture and the motivations of those who live in it. Author Trevin Wax joins the podcast to explain how we as ministry wives can learn about the specific culture around us, enabling us to connect with and draw others to Christ.    SHOW NOTES As you get to know someone, ask deeper questions that help you understand how they narrate their life, where their desires lie, and what drives their anxiety. We must be reaching into the culture while building a strong culture within our homes and churches to invite others into. We are all leaders; we have all been given a sphere of influence. Determine what your sphere is and be intentional with how you cultivate it. QUOTES “Sometimes we think of culture as something out there that we are to engage with. But we don’t recognize that we are to make and create culture in our own families and churches. That in itself is a really powerful way of demonstrating the beauty of the gospel for people to see.” -Trevin Wax “Start with observations, and then move forward over time to the bigger life story questions. It may be on the surface at the beginning, but the more you talk with someone, the more you’ll have opportunities to be able to see how they plot the trajectory of their life and that’s really where you have the openings for gospel conversations.” -Trevin Wax “If you are in the church and you’re listening to this podcast, you are a leader in your church and you need to lean into that and recognize that God has given you a sphere of influence.” -Trevin Wax LINKS FROM THE SHOW New Churches  Love Thy Body CONNECT Connect with Trevin Facebook // Instagram // Podcast Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram We Want to Hear From You! Share your funniest or most embarrassing moments in ministry for a future episode! Visit Speakpipe.com/MinistryWives

Life as a ministry wife doesn't always look like radical revivals. Often it's staying home while your husband leaves to minister to others or answers nonstop phone calls that interrupt family time. Unless you’re constantly lifting your eyes heavenward, it can be difficult to see eternal reward in the daily grind. Grace VanMaanen joins me today to share how prayer, intentionality, and a heavenly perspective protect her from bitterness as a ministry wife.  EPISODE GUIDE Praying for one another creates intimacy, even when physically separated. Be intentional about talking with your spouse about one another's needs, both at home and apart. Use the time that your spouse is doing ministry to engage in kingdom work of your own. BEST QUOTES “I think that’s what we forget: there is eternal blessing in the sacrifice. It’s that John 12:24 principle of a kernel of wheat falls to ground and dies and it produces many seeds. There’s fruit that’s born from that death, Christ being the perfect example of that. But I feel like for a wife, we don’t always recognize that sacrifice. There’s a death in our time, even in the comforts and pleasures of having your husband around. And in that death, we often forget that there is blessing. There’s an eternal reward.” -Grace VanMaanen “You’ve had intentional conversations with your husband, and then you’re intentional with your time when your husband is called away. You’re using that time to serve where the Lord has you. I think that can apply to any situation for husband and wife: be intentional about your decisions. For wives who feel like they’re sharing their husband with the church and starting to become resentful instead, maybe flip it on its head and say, ‘This is giving me time and opportunity to do something of my own.'” -Christine Hoover LINKS FROM THE SHOW Vintage Mission CONNECT Connect with Grace Instagram Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books  Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you! Connect with NAMB Facebook // Instagram We Want to Hear From You! Share your funniest or most embarrassing moments in ministry for a future episode! Visit Speakpipe.com/MinistryWives

Being a ministry wife is a vocation without a job description. So often, we know exactly what our husband's roles will be within the church, but are uncertain about how we should be operating daily in our ministry roles. Tara Dew, Director of Thrive, a training program for ministry wives at New Orleans Seminary, joins me today to discuss the importance of being a lifelong learner and the joy that comes from learning to thrive. EPISODE GUIDE If God is encouraging you to pursue training, trust Him, even if you don’t know what the end result will be. Dedicate yourself to being a lifelong learner: utilize resources that help you thrive in the ministry God placed you. You are gifted and indispensable, essential to the work of the church. BEST QUOTES “I believe wholeheartedly that if we can encourage and equip ministry wives, then they’re going to help encourage their husbands, and their husbands will stay in ministry and the churches will stay as lighthouses in their communities.”  -Tara Dew “You never know what God will do, so just trust Him in the process. If He is encouraging you to study or pursue something, trust Him. Even if you don’t know what the end result would be. So often we just need to be reminded that God is doing a work in us. We just need to be faithful to do what He’s called us to do. In His time, He makes it all make sense. He is writing this amazing story for our lives that we never, ever dreamed.”  -Tara Dew “God loves you. God knows every part of your past. He knows every insecurity and weakness that you have, but He loves you. He doesn’t make mistakes. He didn’t make a mistake to call you and your husband together. He did not make a mistake in calling you to serve a local church. He knows exactly who you are. He sees exactly who you are and He loves you.”  -Tara Dew LINKS FROM THE SHOW Thrive and New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary Delighting in the Trinity Jen Wilkin’s Books CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

As ministry wives, we often find ourselves in situations where women come to us looking for counsel. It can be difficult to know how to point them to God while effectively journeying with them through struggles. Counselor Kristin Kellen joins the podcast today to share introductory How-To's of counseling women. She shares when and how to speak, when to be silent, and when to seek outside intervention for the women in our lives.  SHOW NOTES You don’t have to have the right words. Sometimes you just need to sit and listen in silence. We cannot always provide a solution, but we can bring God’s Word into the midst of their struggle, reminding them of who He is, and that He sees them and is near. We help one another carry burdens for a season, with the intent to lay them at the feet of the One who has the answers. QUOTES “Give yourself the grace to not necessarily have to have the words, because it may be that this woman just needs to sit and process and think out loud. She may just need to have someone who sees her, hears her and hugs her at the end of the conversation.” -Kristin Kellen “We’re bringing God’s Word and God’s comfort to say ‘I hear you, I see you. God hears you, and God sees you.’ That’s so simple and yet so profound. We don’t have to have some 10-step method to fix people’s problems. Oftentimes, 90% of the issue can be met just by sitting, listening, being present and bringing some source of comfort from Scripture that is a reminder of who God is in the midst of those struggles.” -Kristin Kellen LINKS FROM THE SHOW Counseling Women Southeastern Counseling Certificate Program Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site!  CONNECT Connect with Kristin Twitter // Books  Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

The busyness of ministry and life's ever-changing rhythms can make us feel like we are struggling not only to keep Jesus first but also meaningfully connect with our husband regularly. Today, author Jani Ortlund opens up about the rhythms and mindsets that have seen her through over 50 years of ministry and marriage.   SHOW NOTES Our life as a ministry wife is not a performance. We should minister because of Him, out of His fullness, not duty. Your relationship with Jesus must be first and most important. Be the type of woman who feels the lack in her life when you aren’t regularly connecting with the Lord. Rhythms constantly need adjusting as life and ministry change. Communicate with your spouse and look for creative ways to connect during those times. QUOTES “I’m not ministering for Jesus. I’m ministering because of Jesus. I’m not trying to return favors or earn anything from Him. It’s just because of who He is.” -Jani Ortlund “I think the thing that has helped me most is my relationship with Jesus. When that has suffered, I have suffered. And consequently my ministry has suffered. So again, it comes back to my first priority. Ray and I live our lives by three priorities: Jesus, our brothers and sisters in the faith, and then mission. So if I don’t have Jesus as my first priority, if I have my ministry as my first priority, or people in the church is my first priority, then things get twisted around and lopsided and I don’t do as well.” -Jani Ortlund LINKS FROM THE SHOW Help! I’m Married to My Pastor Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site!  CONNECT  Connect with Jani Facebook // Instagram // He Restores My Soul Podcast  Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

When God calls you to a new place, it won't always be a smooth transition. There may be hurt and heartbreak over who or what you have to leave behind. Lynley Mandrell joins me today to share her story of a tough ministry transition, what she and her husband did well, what they did poorly, and how much the Lord taught them in the midst of the mess.  SHOW NOTES Just because the Lord calls you to something doesn't mean it's going to be easy. Find the balance between seeking counsel and allowing too many voices to pollute what God is saying to your family. Ministry is hard, no matter how healthy you think you are. Check-in with a Christian counselor on a regular basis. QUOTES “You take the things people say very heavily and then it makes you question, ‘Is that God speaking through this person? Are we doing the right thing or are we doing the wrong thing?’ This is when trust and faith in God comes in.”  -Lynley Mandrell “There’s a sense of ownership, right or wrong, that people feel about their pastors. So it’s really hard to release them to other people or to a different kind of ministry. It’s understandable, the shock and the sadness that they feel.”  -Christine Hoover “I think the thing that we have learned the most is no matter what, it cannot hurt to just have a check in with a Christian counselor pretty regularly. Ministry is really hard, and managing people’s opinions and perceptions is really hard. It takes its toll.”  -Lynley Mandrell “I think the best advice is: go into transition with your hands wide open, saying, ‘Whatever you have for me in this season God, so be it.'” -Lynley Mandrell LINKS FROM THE SHOW The Glass House From Strength to Strength Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site!  CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

We long to have deep friendships with other pastors' wives in our church. But how do we go about initiating and building those relationships amidst the busyness of ministry? Pastors' wives Meredith Miller and Bailey Leitch share today how they have cultivated a deep friendship with one another by focusing on trust, honor, and Jesus.    SHOW NOTES Cultivate a culture of honor in the way you speak to and about one another. Building a team of ministry wives in your church requires safety, security, and support. Center your relationship around Jesus and loving each other as friends, not the church. QUOTES “It is a huge blessing because there’s mutual encouragement. We are experiencing the same things as pastor’s wives, both of our husbands are on staff and there’s a uniqueness to that that we get to go through and encourage one another and pray for one another. I think having this relationship and getting to go through the seasons of ministry together has been really sweet.” -Meredith Miller “I definitely felt this weight of, we’re going to be doing life with these people. So Meredith needs to know all of my stuff and I need to know her stuff because we are going to be walking alongside each other in a lot of difficulty, but also a lot of joy. I think we both had the mindset of: we need to be committed to one another and that’s going to mean vulnerability to start propelling a friendship forward.” -Bailey Leitch “That is the huge key, right? Centering the relationship around Jesus, not the church. You’re seeking to love each other as a friend does and that has nothing to do with what your husbands do. You’re gonna understand things about each other that other people might not, but to me that’s the key.” -Christine Hoover LINKS FROM THE SHOW Center Church Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site!  CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

The responsibility of ministry drains us emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. Rest is a vital component for our overall health, as well as the health of our ministry. Pastor Gregg Matte and his wife Kelly explain how they have created individual and family rest rhythms through scheduling their days, Sabbaths, and sabbaticals. SHOW NOTES Dedicate a portion of your day to the Lord, a portion to your ministry, and a portion to family and rest. Create an environment of peace and rest by allowing the peace of Christ to rule in your heart. Taking time for rest moves your ministry from fatigue to fired up with renewal. QUOTES “Responsibility is stressful, and this is one of the challenges of having a job with responsibility, and it happens to be ministry. I’m going to blame responsibility, not God for putting me in ministry. That’s where you end up with that spiritual burnout where people are at the end of their ministry,  and they don’t like their Christianity. I tell our staff all the time, don’t let your ministry ruin your Christianity. Walk with God and let that be a part of your heart and your life.” -Gregg Matte “I think creating a peaceful environment starts with becoming a peaceful person. I think about Colossians 3:15, ‘Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts,.’ The more peaceful we are, the more we’ll create an environment around us that’s conducive to rest. That’s not always easy, sometimes it takes wrestling with the Lord to get to a place where the peace of Christ is actually ruling our hearts. But when we let God do a deep work in us, His peace fills our hearts and overflows into our homes.” -Kelly Matte LINKS FROM THE SHOW Capture the Moment Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site!  CONNECT Connect with Gregg Facebook // Instagram  Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

If God calls you to work outside the home or church, you may experience guilt or fear because you are filling a role that looks different from the traditional ministry wife “mold.” Pastor's wife and business owner Macy English explains how she overcomes these misgivings by communicating with her husband and practicing open-handed stewardship before the Lord. SHOW NOTES Scripture teaches that all work is sacred, whether it’s inside the church walls or outside the church. Don’t allow the guilt or fear of being different from the “mold” keep you from being a faithful steward of what He has gifted and called you to do. Practice open-handed stewardship by regularly going before the Lord with your spouse, laying down your life, work and ministry before Him. QUOTES “When we start to look at all of work as sacred, the Lord can redeem and birth something really beautiful out of the Excel spreadsheet I’m building. In conversations around being gospel centered in our homes, there’s lots of conversation about taking the mundane, redeeming it and seeing that we’re doing a good work, whether it’s laundry or dishes, or getting kids ready for school. I wanna take that conversation and actually think about what that looks like in work as well with the tasks that the Lord has given us. How can we steward, honor and glorify Him with the skills He’s given us?” -Macy English “The joy is so great when we see that we’ve been good stewards of what the Lord has given us and we can’t shrink back in fear because we will stand before the Lord. We will not stand before men when we have to give an account for what we’ve done with what we’ve been given.” -Macy English LINKS FROM THE SHOW Every Good Endeavor Women and Work Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site!  CONNECT  Connect with Macy Instagram // Website  Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

The weight of ministry can be heavy. We are often journeying with others through hardship and disappointment. But amid the hard, the Lord gifts us with sweet spots of lightness and fun. Pastor's wife and teacher Tanya York joins the podcast today to share how she finds joy and fun even when circumstances are hard. Tanya intentionally pursues the buckets of joy and wins the Lord gives, and gives practical tips on how we can do the same.   SHOW NOTES Take your sin seriously, but don’t take yourself too seriously. You cannot change the character of people who are giving you hard, but you can change the way you perceive them. Choose to see their uniqueness and have fun with them. Don’t use personality as an excuse to live negatively. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you see the wins and pursue life with a God who is as good as He says He is. QUOTES “I take sin very seriously, confronting sin in my own life and heart, but I don’t take myself too seriously. I’ve learned to laugh about things in ministry, and especially myself in ministry. Proverbs gives us that great verse, ‘A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bone.'” -Tanya York “I can’t comprehend a Christian being absent of joy. I’m not saying that you find joy in every single thing, but there has to be continual waves of that flooding through your life. That’s a uniqueness of Christianity that has to show up to draw people to Christ. In His presence is fullness of joy; I don’t leave His presence and He doesn’t leave mine. So the possibility of having a joyful heart, even in the middle of some very hard things is a choice that a Christian should make. I think it is incumbent upon the Christian to remind herself that she has the responsibility to portray the joy of Christ in her life.” -Tanya York LINKS FROM THE SHOW Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site!  CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

Mental illness can be very confusing as a Christian. We are followers of Christ, we know Scripture, so how could we feel hopeless? Today, Julie Busler candidly shares her journey through depression and PTSD. Julie has learned that medicine and faith go hand in hand, and that a mental illness diagnosis does not disqualify you for ministry.  SHOW NOTES Being a Christian does not mean you have to be happy all the time. Joy and sorrow can coexist. Telling someone your struggles may feel overwhelming, but until we bring things into the light, healing cannot happen. Medicine and faith go hand in hand. You may truly need medical intervention, but you also need Jesus every minute of every day to bring your soul to life. QUOTES “I actually went to another missionary and told her enough that she knew I needed help. This was so important because I think sometimes in ministry it can be pretty lonely, and it’s hard to find safe friends who you can be real with, because you feel like you have to have it all together as the one who’s always encouraging everyone.”  – Julie Busler “If you have cancer and you have chemo, I believe that’s a good thing. If you have diabetes and you have medicine, that’s a good thing. So I put mental illness in the same category. But again, nothing can give you joy and peace that is not dependent on your circumstances like Jesus.”  – Julie Busler “Even with depression, this diagnosed mental illness, I am still His workmanship. I am created on purpose with a purpose. And it might look different than I wanted, but it’s good.”  – Julie Busler LINKS FROM THE SHOW Joyful Sorrow: Breaking Through the Darkness of Mental Illness Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site!  CONNECT Connect with Julie Website // Facebook // Instagram   Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

Marriages can be strained by attacks from the enemy and the pace of church ministry. How do we balance the demands of ministry with the proper honor God calls us to give our spouses? Pastor and husband James Roberson explains how men can uplift their wives, how wives can approach hard conversations, and how the marriage partnership is a blessing from God.    SHOW NOTES Husbands: Slow down and consider the state of your own soul. Then you can assess and address the overall health of your wife, who is your partner and equal investor in ministry. Spouses: You are not just a tool for one another’s ministries. God chose you for one another for your life, growth, and sanctification. Wives: Approach your husbands with observations, not accusations. Remember that Satan would love to turn you into enemies. Saturate hard conversations with prayer. QUOTES “I think the navigation of my wife’s gifts is a broader holistic navigation of her mind, soul, and body. I need to budget time to assess all of that, not to just maintain a marriage that looks great for pictures. Jesus, in His sovereign vision for my life, chose my wife not for my ministry, but for my life, for my health, for my sanctification. So me investigating who she is and how she’s doing is part of me learning part of the ministry that God has given me for my life.”  – James Roberson “I think [you] have to have an infinite amount of conversations with Jesus before [you] have a conversation with [y]our husband. Saturate those moments in prayer and don’t come to him in the flesh. Don’t try to win the conversation. I think ministry wives need to feel that need for prayer and maybe partner with other wives in that prayer, so that the deep need goes towards intercession, not resentment.”  – James Roberson LINKS FROM THE SHOW Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site!  CONNECT  Connect with James Instagram // Twitter Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

Criticism is inevitable in the life of a ministry wife, but learning to respond to it well takes patience, practice, and peace from the Lord. Author and teacher Ann Swindell joins me today to share how reframing her views of criticism and immersing herself in God's Word allows her to navigate criticism with grace and love.  SHOW NOTES Your job is not to fulfill what other people want. Your job is to fulfill what God wants. Criticism always offers us an opportunity to grow, whether the remarks are valid or not. The Word provides peace to carry us through the emotions that arise with criticism and righteous conviction. QUOTES “It’s hard to let people down. Behind my back, people could be saying, ‘Ann seems inaccessible or isn’t doing what I think a pastor’s wife should do.' But my job isn’t to fulfill other people’s aims for my life. My job is to follow and walk with Christ in the season I'm in, trusting He will give me grace to do what I'm called to do.”  -Ann Swindell “Criticism always offers us an opportunity to grow, and I want to grow in Jesus. I want to be a woman who is tendered to the Holy Spirit, who is humble, who is responsive. Two main ways I see it is either the criticism itself is valid, and there’s something in my character that needs to grow, or their criticism isn’t valid, and I have a chance to grow in how I love a difficult person.”  -Ann Swindell “If I can get past my own defensiveness and to the heart of the person in front of me, God wants to heal them just as much as He wants to heal me. Usually I think criticism stems from a place of pain and, whether that pain is warranted or not, it can be very real for that person. We have an opportunity to shepherd and love them in that moment.”  -Ann Swindell LINKS FROM THE SHOW The Path to Peace Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site!  CONNECT  Connect with Ann Instagram // Website Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

Loneliness can be a very troubling feeling for us as ministry wives. How can we be surrounded by people and yet still feel totally alone? Rivers Partin joins me today to explain how acknowledging loneliness and its gifts has allowed her to become more connected to herself, others, and most importantly, God.  SHOW NOTES Loneliness is a gift–our soul signaling to us that we need to make some changes. Acknowledge the loneliness and try to identify which of the three types you are experiencing: with self, others, or God. Sometimes God allows seasons of loneliness to drive us to Him. QUOTES “The answer to why loneliness exists would be that we were created for relationship. We were created for intimacy. We were created to be known and to know others. You can’t escape it because it’s what we were designed for. What loneliness does is it drives us. It’s a signal to us that we aren’t in strong, solid relationships where we’re known, where we feel like we belong. There is goodness to that.”  -Rivers Partin “I think sometimes God allows seasons of loneliness, because He wants to teach us that relationships with other people are never going to fully satisfy the longing that we have for connection. He’s going to give us the gift of community and friendship, but ultimately we need Him.”  -Christine Hoover “Intimacy is the opposite of loneliness. It’s mutual knowing and being known. Vulnerability begets intimacy, being known, being laid bare. ‘This is me, these are my faults, this is who I am.' Intimacy is not saying, ‘I’m gonna stay here or you’re gonna allow me to stay here in my faults or brokenness or mistakes.’ But it is allowing another to know those things and then moving forward with grace and kindness for one another.” -Rivers Partin LINKS FROM THE SHOW The Voice of the Heart Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site!  CONNECT Connect with Rivers Facebook // Instagram // Twitter Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

We want our kids to love God and the church as much as we do. But when we force-feed faith, especially to teenagers, they can wind up resenting the church and losing interest in Christ. Author, mom, and pastor's wife Kristie Anyabwile shares how she's learned to take a step back, giving her teens space to choose the Lord for themselves while providing spiritual opportunities that fit each child uniquely.  SHOW NOTES Don’t try to force feed your teenagers into faith; cultivate their hearts, provide opportunities, and ask good questions. Do what works for your family to grow spiritually together, and do what works for each individual child to grow. When you feel fear or a need to control, take it to the Lord. It likely has nothing to do with your children, but something in you that needs addressing. QUOTES “We don’t want church and church activity to feel forced, to feel like something they have to do. We want to cultivate in them a desire to do it. Certain things are non-negotiable, like worshiping together. But as far as the life of the church, be intentional about finding ways to give your children freedom in terms of how much they want to participate. I think as parents, a lot of times we think, ‘They’re kids, they’re in my house, whatever we do, they’re doing.’ Then we cart our kids around so much, they start to resent church and church activity.”  -Kristie Anyabwile “Faith doesn’t come by force feeding. It comes by the work of the Spirit and the heart. Whether that heart is a little heart that’s 5 years old, or whether that heart is a teenager or older. So we cultivate hearts and we want the habits to be such that their hearts are tuned towards it, not bent against it.”  -Kristie Anyabwile LINKS FROM THE SHOW Literarily His Testimonies, My Heritage Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site!  CONNECT  Connect with Kristie Website // Facebook // Instagram // Twitter Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

Sunday mornings can feel incredibly stressful, especially when you have young kids. Lindsey Carlson, pastor's wife and mom of five, shares how she manages the chaos by having appropriate expectations of her kids, seeking the Spirit's guidance, and relying on grab-n-go breakfasts.   SHOW NOTES Recognize Sundays will be chaotic. Preparation and clear expectations help minimize the chaos. Remind your kids that they are not coming to church to be looked at or to impress anyone. They are coming because they are participants in the Body of Christ. When disciplining your kids at church, ask the Spirit to help you focus on what you are trying to teach your child, not on what everyone else is thinking. QUOTES “As a pastor’s wife, you have to reconcile the fact that Sunday is going to be the craziest day of the week. How can I minimize the chaos and show up as a servant to my husband, and my church body, but also to my kids that are along for the ride? While there are things that I can’t control, I can show up prepared knowing that it’s gonna be a crazy morning. I can also show up with tools that help me to manage the chaos a little bit and give my kids expectations to know what’s coming.”  -Lindsey Carlson “I want my kids to know they are not coming to church to be looked at. They are coming as worshipers to learn about Jesus, to benefit and to serve the body of Christ. Even though their parents have different, unique roles that they’re going to be fulfilling, the kids are not coming to be an extension of me and to be impressive so that I look better. The kids are coming because they are participants in the family of Christ. I want to be very careful that the expectations I set for them are the same I would put on any other kids attending.”  -Lindsey Carlson LINKS FROM THE SHOW Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site!  CONNECT  Connect with Lindsey Website // Instagram Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

Welcome to Season 2 of the Ministry Wives Podcast! We kick off this season with a very special guest, my husband Kyle Hoover. Kyle joins me for a special Q&A session. You had questions about our life and ministry together, we sat down and openly answered them. I hope you enjoy getting to know us a little bit better and find encouragement from our journey! BEST QUOTES “It’s not about me impressing people, it’s not about my kids being well behaved and impressing people. I want to be faithful in my being faithful. And hopefully people see that that’s what I want them to see: the Lord in me and not myself. I also don’t wanna get into this impressive mindset because I think that’s not helpful to people who actually are watching. I don’t want them to think that’s what faith in Christ is about, that it has to be this mold or this perfection. I want to just be me. I just want to be present with people and, as a sinful person, I’m not gonna do that perfectly, but that’s okay. That’s okay if they see that part of me.” — Christine Hoover “There was a time in my life where everyone knew I was going through things. I spoke about it in sermons. I was vague but honest that I was experiencing the conviction of the Spirit in my life, and that God was at work in some very powerful and painful ways to uproot some things in me. I think I experienced compassion from people. I didn’t experience their condemnation. I didn’t pretend that it was business as usual, and that was a part of my healing.” — Kyle Hoover “How I fight cynicism is to consistently be in the Word and to let the light and the water of Scripture aerate the soul of our hearts so that bitterness cannot take root.” — Christine Hoover LINKS FROM THE SHOW Overcoming Bitterness Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site!  CONNECT Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

The joys and challenges of ministry in a transient place are different from those in a traditional church context. Transient ministry requires detailed intentionality and remembering that God has entrusted people to you for only a short period of time. Brittany Brown understands transient ministry well, having walked alongside her military husband for nearly twenty years. She joins me today to provide insight into transient ministry and how embracing the movement has aided her in leading others towards Christ. EPISODE GUIDE 1. Embrace the unique challenges and movement of transient church plant ministry. 2. There are many joys in a transient church. BEST QUOTES “I think a challenge for us is raising up women to minister to the other women. At any given time, our church could be filled with 75% women and tons of little kids. Seeing that their needs are filled well can be a challenge. We have to walk alongside the elders to help minister to them.” — Brittany Brown “Our vision is to embrace the transient movement and see it as an opportunity of taking the gospel, reaching them with it, discipling them, and training up leaders. Then we send them out, holding them open-handed to go wherever they’re gonna go in the world and bring in that new batch of people to do the same thing again.” — Brittany Brown “There are hardships, but there are joys as well. As I watch young families move away and see them plug into a new church, I see them being faithful or growing in their love for the Lord, I find that really joyful. It’s a good reminder for me that I don’t need to be everything to everybody, God is gonna move them.” — Brittany Brown LINKS FROM THE SHOW The Pastor’s Wife and Social Media Podcast Episode Messy Beautiful Friendship The Gospel Comes with a House Key Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site! CONNECT Connect with Brittany Facebook // Instagram // Blog Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

Sometimes God calls us to serve in a culture that is unlike our own. Navigating multicultural church planting can feel overwhelming and isolating. The expectations of serving those whose lives look different from our own can leave us feeling as though we don't measure up. Andreina Fasolino joins me today to share how she has learned to manage expectations and grow closer to Christ while planting a multicultural church. EPISODE GUIDE 1. When planting a multicultural church, understand there may be very different expectations of you in a different culture and you may not be able to meet all of them. 2. You are not alone in the planting journey. God wants to teach you and grow you as you teach others. BEST QUOTES “They expect the pastor’s wife to be there in everything, doing everything. But at the moment, I had to also teach them in love and God helped me do that. First of all, we were church planting, we were just starting. I also had a child and my second one was on the way. I had to let them know that I loved to serve them and loved to do a lot of things, but I knew what God had called me to do and that’s not to do everything.” — Andreina Fasolino “I took time to connect with other church planter’s wives through going to a gathering and joining a Facebook group. I’m gonna take time to listen to podcasts about this, and I’m gonna see how others feel. There was a moment that I understood I wasn’t alone and that we all face the same expectation in different circumstances. That’s when I took the decision to go back to my calling, what God was calling me to do, and my identity in Him.” — Andreina Fasolino LINKS FROM THE SHOW Emmanuel Baptist Church East Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site! CONNECT Connect with Andreina Email Andreina Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

Living in long-term ministry requires a stamina that only comes from the Lord. Donna Gaines knows the secret to longevity in ministry lies in our intimacy with Christ, having spent the last 41 years as a pastor's wife and ministry leader. She shares today how that intimacy has kept her going, even in the darkest times. EPISODE GUIDE 1. Longevity is achieved through intimacy with Christ, a support system of friends and mentors, and prioritizing your relationship with your husband. 2. The Lord has prepared work for you, not only alongside your husband, but of your own ministry as well. 3. When you feel discouraged, make it a priority to meet with God everyday. BEST QUOTES “When I receive my basic needs for love and significance in my personal relationship with Jesus Christ, I'm able to love my husband, my family, and my neighbor out of the overflow. When I love Him with my whole being, He fills me with His love for others. I’m able to love them out of that overflow instead of sucking life out of them, instead of looking to them to meet a need that Christ has already met for me. That’s primary.” — Donna Gaines “I’ve never seriously considered quitting, because I felt so called. I believe if you’re a pastor’s wife you’re called because God doesn’t call half a flesh and we’re one flesh with our husbands. Operate in your giftedness. Whatever God has gifted you in is a gift to the body of Christ and we need to be living and walking in that giftedness. Whether you’re a pastor’s wife or not, that calling is on all of us as believers.” — Donna Gaines LINKS FROM THE SHOW Literacy Nonprofit: Arise2Read A Chance to Die Chronological Bible Teaching Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site! CONNECT Connect with Donna Facebook // Instagram // Bellevue Church // Books Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!

We often think the call to engage in ministry requires established groups, curriculum, and a clear plan. But what about the single mom next door we feel God tugging our hearts for? In my conversation with Elisa Medina today, she shares how God transformed her idea of what women's ministry should be. Rather than focusing on quantity, Elisa has learned to focus on the one. EPISODE GUIDE 1. Women’s ministry isn’t for someday; it is right now. 2. Your family is meant to be a part of your ministry and a core area that you seek God's transformation. 3. It’s not about numbers. Even if one woman is changed by Christ, you're accomplishing God's work. BEST QUOTES “I want to encourage every woman out there that is trying to build a ministry: I am sure there is one woman at her church already. Maybe not even at her church, because it doesn’t have to be at your church. Maybe it’s your neighbor. Maybe it’s the woman at the market that you see often. Maybe it’s a woman you see at the gym and God’s tugging your heart saying, ‘That is the girl you’re gonna take for a coffee because that is where it’s going to start.'” — Elisa Medina “I’ve learned to take on the call God has given me to teach women with my babies, with my children. You don’t have to hide your kiddos. We’re trying to help women understand that they can bring their whole baggage of kids and we’ll learn and grow together in the Lord. ” — Elisa Medina “If I set my eyes on just one person, if I can lead them to hope and Christ and experiencing His presence and it changes them? My job is done and complete.” — Elisa Medina LINKS FROM THE SHOW Saved By Grace Church Head over to www.ministrywivespodcast.com to check out the great content already on the site! CONNECT Connect with Elisa Instagram // Facebook Connect with Christine Facebook // Instagram // Books Visit How to Thrive as a Pastor’s Wife to access Christine's resources for ministry wives like you!