The Divorce Devil Podcast

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Divorce recovery can feel like navigating a minefield, especially for men over 40. In this episode of the Divorce Devil Podcast, your hosts Rachel and David dive into the 7 Deadly Sins of divorce recovery and how to avoid stalling in them.

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David and Rachel, the hilarious and insightful co-hosts of The Divorce Devil Podcast, tackle the complex issue of Imposter Syndrome in this episode. With their signature mix of humor, raw honesty, and relatable anecdotes, they explore how imposter syndrome manifests during divorce recovery and how to overcome it. Here's a quick breakdown:Key Highlights of Episode 213

Welcome to "Divorce Devil," a dynamic and candid podcast series hosted by David and Rachel. In this thought-provoking episode, we delve into the concept of "Gray Healing" — a phase of emotional recovery that isn't black and white but exists in the gray areas of growth. Together, David and Rachel bring humor, raw honesty, and personal experiences to explore the complexities of post-divorce life, relationships, and self-discovery.In this episode, Rachel and David share their perspectives on navigating the ups and downs of healing, drawing on real-life analogies like fishing tackle boxes and speedbumps in a parking lot. They tackle the challenges of breaking old patterns, maintaining boundaries, and confronting outdated self-perceptions. Through this heartfelt discussion, the cohosts emphasize the importance of being actively present in one's healing journey. They also address the role of faith — whether in oneself, in the unseen, or in the process of life itself — as a pivotal element of recovery.With relatable anecdotes, candid humor, and valuable insights, "Divorce Devil" creates a safe space for listeners to reflect on their own healing journeys and find comfort in knowing they're not alone. Get ready for an engaging conversation that blends laughter, wisdom, and practical advice as David and Rachel remind us that healing is a messy yet beautiful process.Top 10 Important Points from the Episode:Gray Healing Concept: Healing isn't linear; it involves setbacks and progress in a "gray" area of recovery.Old Patterns vs. New Growth: Recognizing and breaking old, unproductive patterns is essential.Faith in Healing: Faith, whether in oneself or the process, is crucial in moving forward.Tools for Healing: Metaphors like tackle boxes highlight the importance of using the right emotional tools for different situations.Parent-Child Dynamics: Evolving parenting approaches while setting boundaries is vital in post-divorce life.Friendships Post-Divorce: Relationships with friends may shift, but they remain important to the healing process.Navigating New Relationships: Handling baggage and avoiding past mistakes in new relationships is a common challenge.Personal Growth: Healing involves self-awareness and embracing new roles and responsibilities.Humor in Healing: Humor can be a powerful tool to cope with tough situations. 10. Emotional Honesty: Open communication, even with oneself, is key to navigating emotional turbulence.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to the "Divorce Devil Podcast," where hosts Rachel and David delve into the complex world of post-divorce recovery for individuals over 40. In this episode, they tackle the often-taboo subject of the "hoe phase," a time when newly single individuals explore their sexual freedom and redefine their identities after a major life change. Rachel and David share personal anecdotes, insights, and advice on navigating this transformative period. They emphasize the importance of communication, self-exploration, and safety in dating. Tune in as they discuss the emotional rollercoaster of dating post-divorce, the challenges of rekindling confidence, and how to embrace this new chapter with humor and honesty. Whether you're contemplating your own hoe phase or just want to understand it better, this episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of love and relationships after divorce.Top Ten Interview Points:Definition and significance of the "hoe phase" in post-divorce recovery.Personal experiences and anecdotes related to dating after divorce.The role of communication in establishing expectations with potential partners.The importance of self-exploration and experimenting with new experiences.Strategies for rebuilding confidence after a long-term relationship.Navigating the emotional challenges associated with dating again.The impact of societal perceptions on individuals exploring their sexuality post-divorce.Tips for ensuring safety while dating and meeting new people.The difference in perspectives on sex and relationships between genders.Encouragement for listeners to embrace their journey and let go of judgment.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In Episode 210 of the Divorce Devil Podcast, Rachel and David dive into the concept of the "Ghosts of Divorce"—the lingering emotional baggage, fears, and unresolved issues that often haunt us post-divorce. These "ghosts" can manifest in new relationships, friendships, and even in our self-perception. The hosts discuss their personal experiences with these ghosts, from fears of loneliness to feelings of inadequacy, and explore how these challenges resurface in everyday life.Through humor and honesty, Rachel and David reflect on how these ghosts shape their growth and relationships. They emphasize the importance of communication, setting healthy boundaries, and practicing self-compassion to navigate these emotional hurdles. The episode highlights that while the ghosts of divorce may revisit, they lose their power as we heal, grow, and learn from past experiences.Listeners are encouraged to confront their own ghosts by recognizing patterns, leaning into self-awareness, and prioritizing their well-being. Whether you're dealing with fears of failure, struggles with trust, or navigating difficult friendships, this episode offers relatable insights and practical advice wrapped in laughter and real talk.Top 10 Topics from Episode 210:What are the "Ghosts of Divorce" and how do they manifest?Overcoming the fear of loneliness post-divorce.Setting boundaries in new relationships and friendships.Recognizing red flags in "ships" (relationships, friendships, etc.).How past patterns influence current connections.The impact of unresolved self-worth issues on new relationships.The importance of self-care and prioritizing personal growth.Communicating effectively to heal wounds and build trust.Learning from past mistakes and avoiding repetitive cycles.Finding humor and strength in the healing process.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this transformative episode of the Divorce Devil Podcast, Rachel and David dive deep into the challenges and triumphs of rebuilding life after divorce. With humor, insight, and raw vulnerability, they explore the impact of self-sabotage, the importance of mindset, and the power of setting realistic goals during recovery. This episode provides a roadmap for listeners to identify personal barriers, embrace vulnerability, and create a new, empowering narrative for their lives.Key topics include recognizing the patterns of self-sabotage, the role of mindfulness and self-care practices, and the necessity of building a strong support system. Rachel and David share relatable anecdotes, practical advice, and real-life tools for overcoming guilt, fear of vulnerability, and outdated beliefs about masculinity and emotional expression.Listeners learn how to replace negative self-talk with empowering affirmations, set boundaries, and prioritize self-care to reclaim their happiness. Whether it's journaling, discovering new hobbies, or seeking professional support, this episode emphasizes actionable steps to help individuals navigate the emotional rollercoaster of divorce recovery.Packed with humor, poignant stories, and heartfelt advice, this episode is a must-listen for anyone over 40 striving to rebuild their life after divorce. Tune in to learn how to let go of the past, embrace your authentic self, and chart a course to a brighter future. Keywords: divorce recovery, self-sabotage, self-care, healing, mindset, over 40, new narrative.Top 10 Points from the Podcast:Understanding Self-Sabotage: Recognizing how fear, guilt, or outdated beliefs may prevent healing and progress post-divorce.The Role of Mindset: Cultivating a positive mindset is essential for embracing joy and moving forward.The Power of Vulnerability: Allowing oneself to be vulnerable can be a strength and a pivotal element in the recovery process.Building a Support System: Surrounding yourself with supportive friends, family, or groups is crucial to staying grounded.Setting Realistic Goals: Small, actionable steps pave the way to long-term success and happiness.Mindfulness and Self-Care Practices: Prioritizing "you time" through journaling, hobbies, or other therapeutic activities is essential.Professional Support: Therapy or counseling can provide tools to address deep-seated issues and promote healing.Creating a New Narrative: Rewriting your story with confidence, authenticity, and optimism for the future.Challenging Negative Self-Talk: Replacing harmful inner dialogue with empowering affirmations to foster growth.Breaking Patterns: Recognizing and avoiding repeating past mistakes in relationships or personal behavior.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode of the Divorce Devil Podcast, Rachel and David welcome back guest Kyle for what they humorously call "Kyle 2.0." The episode dives into the raw and emotional terrain of post-divorce life, focusing on personal recovery, self-awareness, and the importance of authentic communication.The conversation begins with Kyle discussing his recovery process, how his sleep has been so much better,  and how he's been navigating life after divorce. He shares insights about the challenges of dealing with a breakup, from the emotional turmoil to the practicalities of day-to-day life. He reflects on his journey of healing, emphasizing the profound impact of small, intentional habits, such as practicing mindfulness and being kinder to himself. These habits, he explains, have helped him regain a sense of control and stability in his life.A significant portion of the episode is devoted to the emotional toll of divorce, including moments of hitting "rock bottom" and dealing with the stigma surrounding mental health. Kyle recounts a tragic story of a coworker's suicide after being served divorce papers, which sparks a conversation among the hosts about the importance of seeking help and supporting others in similar situations. They highlight the value of compassion, empathy, and simply listening to those in pain.The hosts and Kyle also explore the concept of authenticity in relationships, both during marriage and after divorce. They discuss the masks people wear when dating or trying to fit into societal expectations. Kyle shares his experiences of learning to set boundaries and recognize red and green flags in new relationships, emphasizing the importance of self-discovery before entering into new commitments.Top 10 Important PointsHealing is a process, not a destination: Kyle emphasizes that recovery from divorce takes time and involves ups and downs. Small, intentional habits like mindfulness and self-care can make a big difference.The importance of seeking help: The hosts stress the need for reaching out to friends, therapists, or support groups when dealing with post-divorce struggles, particularly when mental health issues arise.Compassion and empathy for others: Kyle shares a story about a coworker's tragic suicide after divorce, underscoring the importance of being there for others during tough times.Divorce is a type of grief: The hosts liken divorce to the death of a relationship, which involves mourning not just the loss of a partner but also the future you envisioned with them.The value of authenticity: Rachel and Kyle discuss the importance of being true to oneself in relationships, rather than trying to meet others' expectations or wearing a mask.Red and green flags in dating: Kyle talks about learning to recognize red flags in potential partners while also appreciating green flags that indicate compatibility.Boundaries are essential: Setting boundaries is a key part of healing and building healthier relationships in the future.Self-care is not selfish: The hosts emphasize that taking care of yourself is necessary to be able to care for others and lead a fulfilling life.Mistakes are part of healing: Both Kyle and the hosts agree that making mistakes, whether in relationships or personal development, is a natural part of learning and growing.Listen to your gut: Kyle's parting advice is to trust your instincts, as they can guide you toward better decisions and healthier relationships.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In episode 207 of "Divorce Devil," David and Rachel discuss the complexities of Valentine's Day, especially for those navigating divorce or separation. They acknowledge the emotional challenges this holiday can bring, particularly for those in the middle of or recovering from a divorce. The conversation highlights how societal expectations around Valentine's Day often exacerbate feelings of loneliness, loss, or inadequacy for individuals going through such transitions.David and Rachel explore the idea that holidays like Valentine's Day often become pressure points in relationships, with expectations sometimes leading to disappointment or conflict. They emphasize the importance of communication in relationships, suggesting that unmet expectations stem from a lack of honest dialogue. They also discuss how unhealthy expectations—whether of oneself or a partner—can be a barrier to healing.For those who are newly divorced or grieving the end of a relationship, the hosts suggest reframing Valentine's Day as an opportunity for self-love and healing. Ideas include sending yourself flowers or chocolates, focusing on personal growth, or even engaging in cathartic activities like smash rooms. They also discuss the importance of finding joy and gratitude in everyday life, rather than placing too much weight on specific holidays.Additionally, the hosts reflect on their own experiences and lessons learned from past relationships, emphasizing the value of communication, self-awareness, and setting realistic expectations. They encourage listeners to make every day special and to nurture their relationships with family and friends, rather than relying on holidays to show love and appreciation.Ultimately, David and Rachel advocate for self-care, embracing small wins, and letting go of societal pressures. They remind listeners that healing is a process and that love—whether for oneself or others—should be celebrated every day.  Every day is Christmas!Top 10 Topics Discussed:Valentine's Day and Divorce – How the holiday can be especially challenging for those going through or recovering from divorce.Unrealistic Expectations – The role of societal and personal expectations in relationships and holidays.Communication in Relationships – The importance of honest dialogue to avoid misunderstandings and resentment.Self-Love and Healing – Suggestions for focusing on personal growth and self-care during tough times.Reframing Holidays – Viewing holidays like Valentine's Day as opportunities for self-reflection rather than pressure-filled celebrations.Everyday Gratitude – Finding joy and meaning in everyday moments instead of waiting for special occasions.Lessons from Divorce – Acknowledging past mistakes, taking responsibility, and learning from them.The Healing Process – Allowing time and actions, like speaking your truth or engaging in cathartic activities, to promote healing.Family and Friend Relationships – Maintaining connections and showing appreciation for loved ones outside of romantic partnerships.Avoiding Societal Pressure – Letting go of the need to conform to societal norms and expectations around holidays.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Ten Key Takeaways:Prioritize Self-Care: Focus on your own well-being rather than external distractions.Establish Boundaries: Saying "no" is a complete sentence, and boundaries are vital for protecting energy.Healing Takes Time: Divorce recovery is non-linear, and progress may not always be visible.Control What You Can: Don't waste energy worrying about uncontrollable factors, like external events or your ex's actions.Humor Helps: Finding humor in tough situations can lighten the emotional load.Avoid People-Pleasing: You don't need to justify your needs or overextend yourself for others.Love Your Kids More Than You Hate Your Ex: Focus on minimizing conflict for the sake of children involved.Boundaries Are Fluid: Boundaries can shift as you heal and grow.Perspective Matters: Both individuals in a divorce have their own version of events, and healing involves focusing on your own journey rather than assigning blame.Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge and appreciate progress, no matter how small, as you move toward recovery.The Divorce Devil Podcast, hosted by Rachel and David, is a lighthearted yet insightful podcast aimed at helping individuals over 40 navigate the challenging journey of divorce recovery. Episode 206 reflects the duo's candid and humorous approach to discussing serious topics like emotional healing, setting boundaries, and coping with divorce-related stress. The hosts use humor, real-life anecdotes, and candid discussions to address the raw emotions accompanying divorce, offering listeners relatable stories and practical advice.The episode addresses the chaos of life during and after divorce, emphasizing the importance of prioritizing oneself while dealing with external challenges and emotions. The hosts highlight the necessity of establishing boundaries, practicing self-care, and focusing on personal growth during the recovery process. They use humor to lighten the mood, engaging in playful banter, and often veer off-topic with hilarious tangents, such as discussions about the price of eggs, "shit sandwiches," and "relationship plumbers." Despite the humor, the episode maintains its core message of resilience, self-reflection, and healing.Rachel and David also explore the idea that healing is a gradual process and that it's okay to take time to recover. They encourage listeners to embrace their emotions, practice compassion for themselves, and avoid people-pleasing behaviors. The hosts stress the importance of loving one's children more than hating one's ex and learning to set boundaries to protect one's mental well-being.Ultimately, the podcast's blend of humor, relatability, and practical insights provides solace to listeners, reminding them that while divorce can feel like a "shitstorm," the storm will pass, and life will eventually improve.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In Episode 205 of the Divorce Devil Podcast, Rachel and David dive into the concept of "The Divorce Wall"—the emotional and mental obstacle many face during divorce recovery, especially when triggered by memories, songs, or life events. They share personal anecdotes about their struggles, the raw emotions that arise in recovery, and the tools they've both used to heal. Whether it's hearing a wedding song or navigating life's “firsts” post-divorce, the episode emphasizes that recovery is a non-linear, deeply personal process.Rachel discusses how recovery often begins without realizing it and the importance of feeling emotions rather than suppressing them. David highlights the significance of taking small, intentional steps to move forward. Together, they explore how men and women may approach recovery differently and offer actionable advice for anyone hitting their own "divorce wall." With humor, candor, and relatable insights, the duo provides listeners with hope and practical tools to continue their healing journey.From finding hobbies to reconnecting with old friends, the episode underscores the power of intentionality in recovery. Listeners are encouraged to celebrate small wins and reach out to their support systems. Ultimately, Rachel and David remind us that recovery is a deeply personal journey, but one that can lead to empowerment and self-discovery.Top 10 Important Points from Episode 205:The Divorce Wall: Recovery isn't linear—unexpected triggers can make you feel like you've hit a wall, but it's part of the process.Feel the Emotion: It's okay to feel raw emotions; they are necessary for healing. Acknowledge them instead of pushing them away.Take Small Steps: Find one positive action to focus on, like taking a walk, journaling, or doing something you love.Celebrate Wins: Even small victories, like crying less or finding joy in something, are significant in recovery.Recovery is Personal: Everyone's divorce journey and healing process are unique; no two paths are the same.Intentional Actions: Reaching out to loved ones, trying new activities, or setting small goals can help shift your mindset.Men vs. Women in Recovery: While men and women may process divorce differently, both need to focus on self-care and healing.Find New Hobbies: Explore activities like pickleball, glassblowing, or even fantasy books to distract and inspire.Support from Others: Reconnect with friends or loved ones who've been there for you, even if it's just a quick text or coffee meet-up.Empowerment Through Recovery: Reflecting on how far you've come can provide motivation to keep moving forward.This episode is a reminder that healing from divorce takes time, effort, and a willingness to face emotional challenges, but the journey can lead to growth and empowerment.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode of the Divorce Devil Podcast, hosts David and Rachel welcome back guest Elizabeth to dive into the complexities of post-divorce life, dating, and personal growth. The conversation is a candid exploration of the emotional, mental, and relational challenges that arise after divorce, with Elizabeth sharing her personal journey of healing, self-discovery, and navigating new relationships. The trio discusses the importance of setting boundaries, recognizing trauma responses, and learning to communicate effectively in relationships. Elizabeth opens up about her experiences with dating after divorce, the lessons she's learned, and how therapy has played a pivotal role in her growth. The episode also touches on the significance of forgiveness, self-awareness, and the need to prioritize personal happiness while avoiding the pitfalls of complacency and unresolved trauma. With humor, honesty, and vulnerability, the hosts and guest provide valuable insights for anyone navigating the post-divorce landscape, offering practical advice and relatable anecdotes. This episode is a heartfelt reminder that healing is a journey, and embracing self-worth is key to building healthier relationships in the future.Top 10 Most Important Topics in the Podcast:Dating After Divorce: The challenges of re-entering the dating world, including navigating boundaries, avoiding complacency, and learning from past mistakes.Healing and Therapy: The importance of addressing unresolved trauma and seeking therapy to foster personal growth and healthier relationships.Setting Boundaries: How establishing boundaries, even with oneself, can lead to healthier dynamics and self-respect.Forgiveness vs. Letting Go: Differentiating between forgiveness and letting go, and how each impacts emotional well-being.Trauma Responses in Relationships: Recognizing and addressing triggers that stem from past trauma to avoid projecting them onto new partners.The Role of Communication: The necessity of open, honest communication in relationships, including discussing needs, boundaries, and expectations.Self-Awareness and Growth: The journey of self-discovery post-divorce and learning to prioritize personal happiness and self-worth.The "Hoe Phase": Exploring the concept of dating for self-discovery and understanding what one truly wants in a partner.Love Languages and Compatibility: Understanding personal and partner love languages to foster deeper connections and mutual understanding.Practical Tools for Relationships: Utilizing resources like couples apps, card games, and therapy to strengthen communication and intimacy in relationships.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to Divorce Devil Podcast, Episode 203! In this insightful and heartfelt episode, your hosts David and Rachel sit down with guest Kyle to dive deep into the journey of healing after divorce. Kyle, a friend of the podcast, courageously shares his personal story of heartbreak, growth, and self-discovery. Together, they explore the emotional and practical challenges of moving forward after a marriage ends. This episode is packed with raw honesty, humor, and actionable advice for anyone navigating the rocky road of divorce and self-reinvention.Kyle opens up about the moment his marriage unraveled, the struggles of embracing his new reality, and the difficult yet empowering process of choosing himself for the first time. The conversation covers everything from the emotional toll of divorce to communication struggles, the influence of past trauma, and the importance of finding a solid support system. With relatable anecdotes and candid reflections, the trio offers listeners a safe space to feel seen, understood, and encouraged.  Thanks to Kyle for coming on the show and being so honest and open.  We really appreciate it.  Before we jump into the episode, here are the 10 most important points discussed:The Power of Choosing Yourself – Healing begins when you prioritize your own well-being.Communicating Through Conflict – Effective communication is key, even in the most challenging situations.Healing from Past Trauma – Addressing childhood wounds can prevent repeating patterns in relationships.The Value of Therapy – Individual and couples therapy can provide clarity and tools for growth.Navigating Grief – Divorce is a loss, and grieving is a natural part of the process.The Role of Support Systems – Friends, family, and even a succulent plant can make all the difference.Social Media and Healing – Be mindful of the algorithm's influence on your emotions and mindset.Recognizing Red Flags – Reflecting on early warning signs can provide insight for future relationships.Taking Time to Heal – Avoid rushing into new relationships; focus on self-growth first.Being Kind to Yourself – Self-compassion is essential as you rebuild your life.Get ready for a conversation that's as healing as it is hilarious. Let's dive in!Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In episode 202 of the Divorce Devil Podcast, David and Rachel are joined by Elizabeth, who shares her personal journey of navigating divorce, co-parenting, and relationships after separation. The conversation delves into the complexities of divorce recovery, particularly for individuals over 40, with a focus on the emotional and logistical challenges involved. Elizabeth candidly discusses how communication breakdowns and lack of attention were pivotal in her marriage's collapse, leading to infidelity and eventual divorce. She emphasizes the importance of maturity, accountability, and learning from past mistakes to build healthier relationships post-divorce.Co-parenting is highlighted as a central theme, with Elizabeth sharing both positive and negative experiences. She describes initial successes in maintaining a cooperative relationship with her ex-spouse, even befriending one of his partners. However, tensions arose in subsequent relationships, particularly when her ex's new partner negatively impacted their children's well-being. The discussion explores issues like step-parent dynamics, children feeling excluded or unsafe, and the importance of fostering a supportive environment for kids in blended families.The podcast also touches on modeling healthy relationships for children, setting boundaries, and prioritizing a child's emotional safety over personal grievances. Elizabeth stresses the need for divorced parents to collaborate respectfully for their children's benefit, showing compassion and empathy even after separation. Through humor and raw honesty, David, Rachel and Elizabeth provide valuable insights into the delicate balance of co-parenting and personal growth after divorce.10 Important Points from the Podcast:Communication and Attention: These are critical components of a healthy relationship, and their absence often leads to marital breakdowns.Accountability: Taking responsibility for one's role in a failed marriage is vital for personal growth and healing.Co-Parenting Dynamics: Effective co-parenting requires mutual respect, open communication, and prioritizing the children's needs.Challenges of Blended Families: Step-parent relationships can significantly impact children, either positively or negatively.Children's Emotional Safety: Ensuring children feel safe and supported in both homes is a top priority.Maturity and Boundaries: Navigating divorce and co-parenting demands setting firm boundaries and approaching conflicts with maturity.Healthy Role Modeling: Divorced parents must model respectful and healthy relationships to teach their children positive relationship behaviors.Listening to Children: Paying attention to children's feelings and adjusting custody arrangements if they feel unsafe or excluded is crucial.Supporting Children's Relationships: Encouraging children to maintain strong bonds with both parents, regardless of personal conflicts, fosters emotional stability.Post-Divorce Growth: Divorce can be an opportunity for self-reflection, growth, and building healthier relationships moving forward.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

The podcast focuses on guiding people over 40 through the challenging process of divorce recovery, emphasizing self-awareness, intentionality, and personal growth. A key theme is the importance of being present in one's life and recovery journey. The hosts stress that self-care is essential, not selfish, and encourage listeners to prioritize their well-being. They discuss breaking free from stagnant routines by engaging in intentional activities that foster connection and joy.Processing emotions is highlighted as a critical step, with the hosts advocating for emotional release, such as crying or venting, to aid healing. The podcast also underscores the value of setting boundaries with negative influences and nurturing positive relationships. Listeners are encouraged to practice positive self-talk, recognizing their worth and replacing criticism with affirmations.The discussion reframes divorce as an opportunity for growth, urging men to embrace change and create a life aligned with their values. The hosts emphasize the importance of quality time with loved ones and intentional living, making conscious choices to build a fulfilling future. They conclude with a call to action for personal growth and kindness, inspiring listeners to strive to be better individuals.10 Important Points from the PodcastBe present in your recovery journey.Self-care is essential, not selfish.Allow yourself to feel and process emotions.Break free from stagnant routines.Set boundaries with negative influences.Nurture positive and supportive relationships.Practice positive self-talk and affirmations.Reframe divorce as an opportunity for growth.Spend quality time with loved ones intentionally.Strive to be a better person through personal growth.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Celebrating 200 Episodes of Divorce Recovery Insights: A Journey in Healing and HumorHey everyone, David and Rachel here, welcoming you to a special blog post where we're diving into the highlights of our 200th episode of the "Divorce Table" podcast. It's been a journey filled with laughter, lessons, and a lot of growth. Today, we're reflecting on some of the profound insights and humorous escapades we've shared along the way.Embracing the Healing ProcessOne of our all-time favorite discussions revolves around the concept of "Giving No Fucks" from episode 47. It marked a pivotal point in my early divorce recovery, where I shifted from anger and resentment to a more carefree approach to life's challenges. The idea isn't about being indifferent but about focusing on personal growth and not dwelling on things beyond our control.The Power of BoundariesIt took us 184 episodes to tackle the topic of boundaries directly, but it was worth the wait. Setting boundaries, especially with family, is crucial. It's about taking control of your happiness and peace, even if it means making uncomfortable decisions. Remember, "No" is a complete sentence, and sometimes, that's all you need to say.The Role of Pets in RecoveryOur furry friends often become our silent supporters through tough times. As Rachel pointed out, pets provide unconditional love without judgment, offering comfort that sometimes surpasses human interactions.Self-Care and Moving OnSelf-care is a recurring theme in our discussions. It's about doing for yourself what you routinely do for others. Whether it's taking care of a pet or finding a new hobby, these actions help redirect your energy positively, aiding in healing.Accepting New RealitiesThe process of divorce introduces numerous changes, and acceptance is key. Whether it's adjusting to new living arrangements or dealing with shared custody, embracing these new realities is a step toward healing.The Importance of HumorLaughter truly is therapeutic. Discussing lighter topics, sharing funny stories, or simply finding humor in our daily mishaps can significantly lift spirits and strengthen resilience.Misconceptions of DivorceEpisode 149 tackled the misconceptions surrounding divorce. It's not always about finding greener pastures; it's a complex and emotional journey that requires strength and perseverance.The Power of CommunityThroughout our podcast, the power of community—of sharing stories and experiences—stands out. Knowing you're not alone in your journey can be incredibly comforting and empowering.Future ForwardLooking ahead, we aim to continue providing support, laughter, and perhaps a bit of wisdom for anyone navigating the turbulent waters of divorce. We're planning more interactive sessions, live events, and we're always eager to hear from you—our listeners and readers.ConclusionFrom discussing the practicalities of life post-divorce to exploring personal growth and the unexpected humor in life's challenges, our podcast aims to support and enlighten. Here's to many more episodes, and thank you for being part of our journey. Remember, you're not just surviving; you're learning how to thrive again.If any of these insights resonate with you, or if you've got your own stories to share, drop us a line. We're all in this together, one episode at a time.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

David and Rachel, hosts of Divorce Devil, reflect on their journey as they prepare for their 200th episode milestone. In this informal "episode 199.5," they candidly brainstorm ideas for the upcoming celebration and seek input from listeners. The duo admits feeling stuck in a creative rut and uses the episode to revisit the core purpose of their podcast: helping people navigate the challenges of divorce and relationships.They reflect on the transformative nature of divorce, likening it to a form of grief or death, as individuals lose relationships, routines, and their envisioned future. Personal anecdotes highlight how divorce shapes relationships, friendships, and self-discovery. The hosts share their own struggles, including feelings of isolation, the difficulty of forgiveness, and the importance of personal growth. They emphasize the value of community, vulnerability, and finding new paths after divorce.Acknowledging the diverse experiences of their listeners, David and Rachel invite audience members to suggest topics, share their own stories, or even ask questions for future episodes. They reiterate that while they are not therapists, their podcast serves as a therapeutic outlet and a space for shared healing. The hosts also stress the importance of embracing change, finding positivity in post-divorce life, and maintaining self-care—especially during the holidays.The episode closes with a heartfelt message of gratitude for their listeners, a call for feedback, and a promise to continue evolving the podcast to meet the needs of their community.They are asking for your help!!!Connect with us through the contact page on the website -Divorce Devil PodcastAnd well definitely get back to you.This is your chance to have some input on the show you listen to!!10 Key Points:Divorce is a grieving process, akin to a death, with stages of healing.The podcast aims to support listeners through various phases of divorce.Personal growth and self-discovery are key themes.Divorce impacts relationships, often leading to loss but also new paths.Forgiveness and emotional healing are ongoing challenges.The importance of community and shared experiences is emphasized.The hosts encourage vulnerability and learning from others' stories.Holidays can be challenging post-divorce; self-care is essential.Listener input is crucial to shaping future episodes.Gratitude and connection drive the hosts' passion for the podcast.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode of the Divorce Devil Podcast (Episode 199), David and Rachel focus on navigating toxic relationships during divorce recovery, particularly with friends, family, and acquaintances. They discuss the importance of setting boundaries, owning your actions, and recognizing patterns of harmful behavior in relationships. David and Rachel emphasize the challenge of dealing with toxic family members, who often feel entitled to access and respect due to shared history. They argue that respect is earned, not automatically granted based on familial ties.Rachel shares personal experiences about growing up in a toxic environment, dealing with narcissistic behavior, and breaking cycles of dysfunction. She highlights the importance of self-awareness and refusing to perpetuate negative patterns in relationships. David adds that healing requires reflecting on past relationships and learning to build healthier ones, while also detaching from toxic individuals who disrupt personal growth.The hosts stress the need to avoid assumptions, take responsibility for one's actions, and communicate clear expectations to others. They discuss how divorce reveals deeper issues in relationships and serves as an opportunity for personal growth. Ultimately, they advocate for prioritizing mental and emotional well-being over maintaining unhealthy connections, even if it means estranging oneself from family members.The episode concludes with reflections on self-care, the power of boundaries, and the role of personal accountability in rebuilding after divorce.10 Important Points from the Podcast:Toxic relationships often surface during divorce recovery and require active management.Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining mental and emotional health.Respect must be earned, even among family members, and is not automatic due to shared history.Narcissistic and toxic behaviors can be deeply ingrained in families, but cycles can be broken.Self-awareness and taking responsibility for one's actions are essential for healing.Divorce provides an opportunity to reassess relationships and personal values.Assumptions and preconceived notions about others often lead to misunderstandings.Communicating clear expectations helps others understand acceptable behavior.Estranging from toxic family members can lead to greater personal well-being.Self-care and prioritizing one's emotional health are vital during divorce recovery.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to Divorce Devil Podcast, Episode 197, hosted by Rachel and David. In this heartfelt Thanksgiving Sunday special, we dive into a topic that resonates deeply with many going through divorce recovery: navigating new hurt after initially finding healing. Often, after surviving the storm of divorce, you can find yourself blindsided by fresh pain from unexpected places—relationships, friendships, or even family dynamics. In this raw, candid conversation, Rachel and David share personal experiences, humor, and insight about how to recognize, process, and heal from these moments of renewed heartbreak.This episode, titled "Getting Hurt Again After Divorce Recovery", explores the challenges of managing betrayal, setting boundaries, and maintaining hope when faced with setbacks in your healing journey. Whether you're dealing with post-divorce friendships, toxic family dynamics, or rebuilding trust in new relationships, Rachel and David offer relatable stories and tools to help you navigate the complex emotions of recovery.From practical advice to poignant reflections, this episode reminds listeners that healing isn't a linear process, and sometimes the hardest lessons come after the storm has seemingly passed. Join us as we unpack the steps to rebuild, reset, and reclaim peace in your post-divorce life.Major Points Discussed in the Podcast:Navigating New Hurt: The emotional impact of being hurt again after feeling like you've healed from divorce.Recognizing Familiar Patterns: Identifying red flags in relationships or friendships and understanding their impact on your healing.The Importance of Boundaries: How to establish and enforce boundaries with people who don't respect you.Forgiveness for Yourself and Others: Understanding that forgiveness is for your own peace, not necessarily for reconciliation.The Role of Healing in Setting Expectations: How healing can make you less tolerant of hurtful behaviors and help you prioritize your well-being.Grief Beyond Divorce: Exploring the grief of losing friendships, family ties, or trust in others after divorce.Choosing Your Circle: Being selective about the people you allow in your life and the importance of keeping your inner circle tight.Processing Betrayal: How to manage feelings of betrayal when close friends or family let you down.Hope vs. Cynicism: Balancing hope for better relationships while protecting yourself from being hurt again.Reclaiming Control: Taking charge of your healing journey and focusing on what makes you happy, while refusing to tolerate disrespect.This episode is a must-listen for anyone still navigating the ups and downs of post-divorce life and looking for actionable steps to rebuild trust and peace.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to Divorce Devil Podcast, Episode 197, hosted by Rachel and David. In this heartfelt Thanksgiving Sunday special, we dive into a topic that resonates deeply with many going through divorce recovery: navigating new hurt after initially finding healing. Often, after surviving the storm of divorce, you can find yourself blindsided by fresh pain from unexpected places—relationships, friendships, or even family dynamics. In this raw, candid conversation, Rachel and David share personal experiences, humor, and insight about how to recognize, process, and heal from these moments of renewed heartbreak.This episode, titled "Getting Hurt Again After Divorce Recovery", explores the challenges of managing betrayal, setting boundaries, and maintaining hope when faced with setbacks in your healing journey. Whether you're dealing with post-divorce friendships, toxic family dynamics, or rebuilding trust in new relationships, Rachel and David offer relatable stories and tools to help you navigate the complex emotions of recovery.From practical advice to poignant reflections, this episode reminds listeners that healing isn't a linear process, and sometimes the hardest lessons come after the storm has seemingly passed. Join us as we unpack the steps to rebuild, reset, and reclaim peace in your post-divorce life.Major Points Discussed in the Podcast:Navigating New Hurt: The emotional impact of being hurt again after feeling like you've healed from divorce.Recognizing Familiar Patterns: Identifying red flags in relationships or friendships and understanding their impact on your healing.The Importance of Boundaries: How to establish and enforce boundaries with people who don't respect you.Forgiveness for Yourself and Others: Understanding that forgiveness is for your own peace, not necessarily for reconciliation.The Role of Healing in Setting Expectations: How healing can make you less tolerant of hurtful behaviors and help you prioritize your well-being.Grief Beyond Divorce: Exploring the grief of losing friendships, family ties, or trust in others after divorce.Choosing Your Circle: Being selective about the people you allow in your life and the importance of keeping your inner circle tight.Processing Betrayal: How to manage feelings of betrayal when close friends or family let you down.Hope vs. Cynicism: Balancing hope for better relationships while protecting yourself from being hurt again.Reclaiming Control: Taking charge of your healing journey and focusing on what makes you happy, while refusing to tolerate disrespect.This episode is a must-listen for anyone still navigating the ups and downs of post-divorce life and looking for actionable steps to rebuild trust and peace.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Welcome to the Divorce Devil Podcast with our dynamic duo, David and Rachel! Where the almost 200 episodes of wisdom, humor, and the occasional snow day rant converge into the perfect storm of post-marital hilarity. Picture this: David, the voice of reason, with a penchant for turning life's lemons into a comedy sketch, and Rachel, the fierce advocate of self-love, who can find joy even in a Colorado snowstorm - which is actually going on at this moment.  Together, they tackle the chaos of exes, in-laws, and personal growth with the precision of a surgeon and the heart of a stand-up comic. Prepare to laugh, cry, and find your inner peace as they guide you through the maze of divorce recovery, one episode at a time. So grab your headphones and let David and Rachel remind you that even in the messiest of breakups, there's always room for a good laugh and a fresh start.10 Important Points:Set boundaries, don't build walls.Let go of toxic relationships.Self-care is a priority, not a luxury.Your peace is worth the fight.Family can be toxic too.Listen to your inner voice.Object permanence aids emotional detachment.You're responsible for your happiness.Reject unwanted negativity.Embrace personal growth and healing.These points encapsulate the essence of the discussion, encouraging listeners to focus on personal well-being, setting healthy boundaries, and finding humor and strength in their journey of recovery.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Guest time!  Welcome Junie Moon to the show.  She is a Global Love Mentor, author, speaker and a Certified Shadow Work Coach.  Her superpower is helping people unpack their past and move onto a better future.  Discussions of the movie Ghost, unpack and heal from the past, risk manager, hopelessness, space junk and dating research.  This is not an episode to miss, men and women.  It was a fun podcast.  Like a couple of friends having coffee.  Thanks Junie, Jersey Gurl!Topics of:Fend off the Saber catsLong term relationshipsRelationship blueprint exerciseFear of rejection and not being wantedLet's therapize David!It's a new chapterDo the workRelease the pastWe are not taught to do relationships wellWired to stay safeNext level loveJunie Moon's WebsiteJunie's Free ConsultationHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode of Divorce Devil, David and Rachel delve into the complexities of co-parenting and blended family dynamics. They discuss the challenges of introducing new partners into the parenting equation, the importance of setting boundaries, and the necessity of open communication. The conversation highlights the need for respect and understanding among all family members, emphasizing that both parents and children must navigate their roles thoughtfully. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to take ownership of their situations and strive for better relationships within their blended families.  It probably won't be a very Brady Bunch this Christmas!!Takeaways:Co-parenting requires clear boundaries and agreements.New partners can complicate parenting dynamics.Communication is essential in blended families.Respect must be earned, not given.Disrespect from children can be a significant issue.Self-care is crucial for parents in new relationships.Finding common ground is vital for family harmony.Taking ownership of your role in family dynamics is necessary.It's important to address issues before they escalate.Navigating blended families requires patience and understanding.Sound Bites:"You can't let the feral kids screw up your relationship.""The two people in the relationship have to have agreement and boundaries."Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode, David and Rachel discuss the complexities of co-parenting after divorce, sharing both positive experiences and challenges.  With concentrating on 5 negative and 5 positive things that involve co-parenting, they emphasize the importance of communication, understanding children's perspectives, and maintaining boundaries. The conversation highlights the emotional struggles parents face and the need to prioritize children's well-being over personal grievances. Through personal anecdotes, they provide insights into effective co-parenting strategies and the significance of loving children more than harboring resentment towards an ex-partner.Takeaways:Co-parenting requires a shift in mindset from spouses to co-parents.Effective communication is crucial for successful co-parenting.Children's emotional well-being should be prioritized above all.Recognizing signs of anxiety in children is essential.Setting boundaries helps maintain a healthy co-parenting relationship.It's normal to feel overwhelmed and exhausted as a parent.Children can adapt well if parents work together positively.Past experiences can inform better parenting strategies.It's important to be aware of children's feelings and reactions.Co-parenting can lead to stronger relationships with children. Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode of Divorce Devil, hosts Rachel and David discuss the importance of self-reflection and the lessons learned from their experiences with divorce. They explore the complexities of relationships, the harsh realities of financial independence post-divorce, and the necessity of owning one's responsibilities. The conversation emphasizes the significance of self-care, healing from past trauma, and embracing emotions during the divorce process. They also highlight the value of effort in relationships and the importance of recognizing one's role in the dynamics of a marriage. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to prioritize their happiness and personal growth.TakeawaysSelf-reflection is crucial for personal growth after divorce.Navigating relationships can be complex, especially post-divorce.Financial independence is essential for a successful recovery.Owning your responsibilities is key to moving forward.Self-care is not selfish; it's necessary for healing.Past traumas can affect current relationships and must be addressed.Emotions during divorce are valid and should be expressed.Finding happiness is a journey that requires effort and self-awareness.Effort in relationships is reciprocal and vital for connection.Recognizing one's role in a relationship can lead to personal growth.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Social media during divorce recovery.  Rachel says be smart and I say don't do it - take a break.  It never turns out well, most of the time.  So many people have an opinion on social media and divorce.  I have heard of instances where social media can be used in a divorce proceeding.  So, buyer beware!  Discussions of clearing the trash, celebrity divorce posts, social media has a lot of negativity, rudeness and social media and call a friend all are a part of the podcast.  You make the decision - what will you feel comfortable with?  The ball is in your court. Topics of:Tinky WinkyNo regretsWorst roommate everPeople want you to failDon Henley - Dirty LaundryPeople are boldPeople do betterKeep some of you prayers and thought for yourselfNo birthday party, no kid's wedding and not coming to my funeral then delete!They want you to ask them!Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Well, here it is again.  The craziness of the Divorce Devil Podcast.  We take off with starting with the notion of no control in your divorce or divorce recovery to road construction.  Never a dull moment.  You'll be hard pressed to find a more ‘unique' divorce recovery podcast.  Topics of round-a-bouts, loss of control is like chaos, you get a pony, Tootsie Roll, and Narnia goat.  Strap in because this show goes fast and all over the place.  Take a listenDiscussions of:Someone has to be an adultTrying to get back to some normalcyControl is an overrated wordReboundIt's ok to say noYou gotta be cruel to be kindYou can't control what happens at the ex's houseDon't talk about you ex on the first dateHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Well, it is another interesting podcast by the two of us.  Owning your sh*t encompasses so much.  We mainly came from the way of it's ok not to be ok.  You are going through some epic sh*t for the first time and how you react at first might not be the best reaction, but you learn over time and adjust accordingly.  Our other point is everyone is not your friend and everyone doesn't need to remain friends with you.  If it is a struggle to keep some friends, maybe they need to go.  Only you know for sure - and can act accordingly.  Just two parts to owning your sh*t!Topics discussed:It's ok to say Object permanenceTime to cleanse your friend listYou want everybody to like youLife is dynamicLive by hopeMake it simpleBaby stepsPoke the bear?I'm ok being the villain in your storyAm I watching Dexter?Friends vs familyNo f*cks buttonHelping people you don't knowDelete, deleteDo betterWe always digressTalking HeadsCall that friends that is no matter whatHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Well, it happened again.  We went off the rails again during a podcast.  We realize the initial pain of divorce is sometimes so overwhelming and intense.  Our own experiences play a part here.  All we can do is present what we went through and hopefully some of you can identify with it and realize some of your thoughts, actions and/or feelings are completely normal.  Discussions of taste the rainbow, joy and pain, the red flags, get help when you need it, emotional support person, the pain is the start of a new beginning, and don't involve the kids all play a part of this episode.  We firmly that even when discussing divorce recovery you have to laugh a bit and we took it to heart in this episode.  Enjoy!Other Topics:Heal through itBrush your teethMr. THard and directPeople pick sidesNorm!Divorce Devil LoofahsWhat can Brown do for you?The world is not coming to an endJoy and PainI come with pillsIt's ok to be sad, but no all the timeHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Well, here it is - the New 5 Minute Subject Slam with Rachel and David.  She doesn't know the subjects until I start the timer.  Let's see how it goes!  Co-parentingBoundariesPracticing what you preachWe are realLove when your kids leave, it's okGirls night outDon't be pettyBi-polarDon't use the kids as pawnsThey feel guiltyTry to make it workLove them more that you hate your exRead my bookLove them in a way in healthy on both sides Practicing self-careUsb port, batteriesSchedule a massageStart the new hobbyEat some Italian foodGet a motorcycleScheduling your own appointmentHikeConcert, get your nails doneLearning things you hate?Learn your stuffHated to buy a new carBuy 19 bottles of ketchupSuck it upParent/teacher conferencesHate the word hateHateration Forgiveness?AI generated forgivenessWas never going to get an apologyStill giving no fucksThe phone works both waysBoundariesA learning processHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Closing up the three part series of the Divorce Recovery Survival Guide was fun as always.  Getting a little off tract, like we do, we do understand that the third phase is actually where most of serious healing starts.  Discussions of Stella getting her groove back, hoe phase, don't sit in the silence, no is a complete sentence, ‘I'm done' is a boundary, self-care, and doing it all by yourself are all touched upon in the episode.  We just want you and everyone going through this phase - that all the things you are feeling are normal and we all have experienced it too.  But, if you feel that you emotions are running away with you - seek out professional help.  There is no shame in your game to do so.  Enjoy…..Topics include:You've signed the papers and been screwedJack in the Box ParentListen to my own adviceGet it phaseDon't ignore the red flags or negativesDivorce wrecksDon't go changingTwo separate householdsSitting in silence Free Divorce Recovery eBook and Weekly NewsletterHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Well, here it is - the meat and potatoes of the middle of your divorce journey.  We love doing these multiple part episodes.  We tend to have something  for everyone!  Plus, without much preparation and after over 180 shows, our OJT advice, tips, trick and methods are flowing throughout the show.  Discussions of legal separation, divorce permits, ride the clutch, you have a purpose, don't rule out therapy and self-doubt are all in this episode.  Stay tuned for Part 3 on the next podcast.  We have some surprises in store!Additional topics:The rabbit holeDr. Seuss words of wisdomThe ‘why' questionCry in the showerGrudges in your DNASybil SquirrelThe blame gameYour past can affect youGrief and depressionMost of the crap here is normalCourt datesIt becomes really realQuickies are good too!Everyone needs to learn on a stick!Free Divorce Recovery eBook and Weekly NewsletterHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Well, here it is - what to do when the divorce is fresh or hasn't even started yet.  Even though we are not professional therapist, we have a list of things, looking back, we wished we would have know about and/or done.  We would ask for forgiveness with the crazy start -but that is just part of the show.  That's the way it starts sometimes!  Discussions of a divorce song, sex on the beach, 30 seconds plank, divorce word as a weapon, tools in your belt, left foot stomp, half of 20 is not fifty, David's divorced friends, and embrace whatever you are feeling.  As usual, the podcast is fresh, raw and in your face and this episode did not disappoint!  Enjoy!Topics of:Don't go back for the last dip in the poolPay attentionConsequences for your actionsMost of the time, it ain't about the moneyBe cordialStop the pettinessTry all the sugar cereals…Own your sh*tDon't use the kids as pawnsGiving no f*cksCollateral damageDivorce Devil PodcastFree Divorce Recovery eBook and Weekly NewsletterHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Believe it or not, this is the first show we have dedicated to boundaries.  We all have been there.  Not enough at first then maybe too much in the end.  It is definitely problematic when healing.  Discussions of your truths, accepting my sh*t wholeheartedly,Everybody is not your friend, they know my blood type, and start with the walls up all are broached in this episode.  Listen closely, you may have some stake in this podcast.  Topics of:CinderblocksBouncy house of boundariesWhat the f*ck boundaryChildhood sh*tWe are not expertsDon't kick the tire with you toeOver communicationSmiling in your faceFun dadAmicable divorcesCategorize peopleHey Tim!Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

This is a continuation from the last podcast of forgiveness, contentment and happy.  This is final prize - accepting your new reality.  I know it is hard to fathom that for some people.  Discussions of not letting the past define you, pay attention to your past, see you next Tuesday, don't be afraid to ask for help, we only have one life.  There off-the-cuff topics turn out pretty good.  Thinking fast on our feet!  Enjoy.Topics of:Accepting your reality over timeWhat is you divorce storyGeppettoBaskets in parking spacesDisenfranchisedMen don't want to fee emotionsCompartmentalizingStop eating with your mouth openHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

How do we start?  Talking about the complex relationship between forgiveness, contentment and happy was a tough one.  We still agree that forgiveness still have a not giving a f*ck component.  Discussions of waiting for someone's sorry, forgetting time is a thing, Soul Train, See you next Tuesday, communication, heal in hell, grudges take a lot of work and happy is the goal.  We were slightly more confused more than we started with at the end.  Check it out!Topics of;Grudge in the bloodlineIf Colorado had a beachHappy in stepsObject permanenceBobby and CeciWhite girl downBust a movePeace, Love and SoulMustang convertibleADHDI forgive meWhat portion of contentment is settling?Soulfully sorryThe Jersey ShoreDoes forgiveness give you contentment?Future eBooks on Healing on website soon!Divorce Devil Podcast SiteHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Sorry for the two week hiatus.  Rachel was vacationing and I was down right lazy!  But we are back with another electrified session.  Friendships - before, during, and after your divorce….  What a such complicated subject.  We discussed topics of tour or tour, no stake in the game - judge away, trifecta - friends before, during and after, unrealistic expectations, quality over quantity, levels of friends, keep the givers and toss the takers, and the phone works both ways.Discussions of:Ride and die friendsSet the boundariesFriends for a seasonBe a friend despite you differencesNo friends, no dramaHaving the tools to get through the storm is importantEffort to change your pathYou choose what parts the give and receiveShow me the moneyAt any moment you are replaceableHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Well, here it is!  The final installment of the Divorce Storm.  And with all its collateral damage.  Your life is definitely changed - what you probably perceive as no for the better.  But, this is your time to finally realize you have to embrace this time and the efforts of the storm showing you the path to your new positive reality.  There may be smaller storms along the way, but the biggie is over.  Learn from that experience and let it be your barometer along your new journey.Discussions of:Divorce recovery can start at any stageTime to be selfishReflect on how to prepare for the next stormThe storm is overSee the bigger pictureDivorce coffee talkBeing your own advocateSelf-careI'm from JerseyBumrush the existing hostRebuilding your new lifeTear the sandbags downBe flexible and able to adjustFind your new happyBig thumbs texting, text to your own number firstHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Well, here it is! Part two of the series.  In this podcast, we discuss the challenges and unpredictability of going through a divorce.  Using the metaphor of a storm to describe the emotional turmoil and chaos that can occur during the process.  Watch out for the calm eye, it sometimes sends a false sense of security of the process.Discussions of:ABBACategory 1-5 divorcesBring the dogs inIt's raining DM'sWeather GirlsFight or flightRed flagsStorm surgeTry to look further down the roadRealistic expectationsDivorce sad playlistFight like Rock in your eye of the stormTurn the mic on!Victim statusStorm in your own personal spaceIn a chaotic stateHealing from musicHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Here we go with another series.  We actually love doing this.  Part one of the three part series of the Divorce Storm - getting your sandbags ready.  With all the three stages of divorce being important, this one is significant - it can lay the foundation for your recovery later.  But, you are not ‘married' to it.  You can still recover with missteps in this stage.  It's never too late to make a course correction.  Enjoy.Discussions of;The word todayAct oneSandbags made of cottonGetting my dicks in a rowRealistic expectationsLipton tea bagsTea bagging vs sand baggingSigns of the storm is comingHad to hate him to leaveConflict of interestKramer vs KramerEgyptian sheetsSee my kids everydayRoller Coaster rideBe less angryHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

In this episode of the Divorce Devil Podcast, David and Rachel interview therapist Dawn Wiggins, a licensed marriage and family therapist who shares her holistic approach to helping people recover from divorce. They discuss topics such as childhood trauma, the importance of failure in the recovery process, loneliness, and the role of grace in healing. Dawn explains the concept of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and how it can help unlock and heal traumatic memories. They also explore the victim triangle and the importance of setting healthy boundaries.  Dawn also discusses the importance of taking responsibility for one's own life and transforming negativity into positivity. She emphasizes the power of mindset and the law of attraction in attracting high vibe experiences. The conversation then shifts to the topic of guilt and how it can be appropriate in certain situations but often stems from victim consciousness. The hosts bring up one of their favorite topics - narcissism and Dawn stresses in realizing the importance of understanding one's own role in relationships. They explore the concept of healing and finding a sense of purpose in life.  Gotta get Dawn back for a part two!  She also has a podcast too!Discussions of:Hit with an anvilSetting healthy boundariesThe voice withinREM sleepOPP, STOP, AND OMD?David doesn't journalGraceLooks like a vaginaWe all get second chancesStole a pack of gumDo your own EMDRIt's ok to serial dateTruly anything is possibleListen to your lonelinessRealize there was a perception that you were never good enoughProtect your nutsLaw of attractionEverything Dawn WigginsHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Well, what can we say?  That's quite a mouthful - uncommunicated expectations are premeditated resentments!  Rachel takes the reigns early and we finally come back to earth.  Communication is the key in this podcast.  It's just that simple…..  DO IT!Discussions of:Get thehings Rachel's birthdayMen and women communicate differentlyRachel is a plannerMother's Day is canceledPutting up wallsMow the yard nakedNot everyone is like usSky rockets in flightFluffy ticketsLove languagesUnrealistic expectations in divorce recoverySo much to be thankful forHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

So, I took my spare time to create the new eBook ‘It's OK to Hate Your Ex'.  It took a while to complete it.  It's way different than people think it would be.  Rachel and I discuss the book and a bunch of other things - as we do!  Discussions of long term relationships count too, fertilizer stinks, give yourself grace to heal, people do better and ‘you is beautiful and you is smart'.  There is so much to this podcast.  Basically we want people to do better.  And there is a free gift to the first 15 listeners that jump on it after the podcast! And most people love free.Subjects of:How did you table your hate?You is healedMy care column is narrowNeed to balance the soilWeed can be family members tooForgive yourself firstI think I'm a catCaddyshackFind your peaceRiding the storm outParts of the cogs of divorce recoveryBe gone before someone drops a house on youGiving no f*cks or just being cynicalAARPHate can be subjectiveFIRST 15 LISTENERS!!Amazon Link  ‘It Ok to Hate Your Ex'Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

This is the most impromptu podcast we have tried as of yet.  We both came to the studio with no plans of a topic and pulled one out of the sky.  And, it turned out pretty well.  Guild and blame can derail your divorce recovery in many ways.  Conversations of self-retrospection, guilt can enable you,  it's ok to take some blame and be wrong sometimes, and take a pause.  This episode is kinda all over the place but you can see where we landed in the end - and that's all that matters.   Thanks for your patience with this one.  It was interesting!Topics of:SagenessDidn't sh*t my pants todayHow to train your dragon in a Nissan RogueF*ck them peopleBlogging is like journalingYour divorce does not define youWallowing in a cesspool of guiltAre you the problem?Do you have a bad picker?Sperm thinkerFlabby DubbyGlycemic IndexIt's just a fart!Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

One of our favorite subjects… the X factor.   In our divorce recoveries we have both experienced different X factors.  We do agree that you have some sort of compass in order to start healing, and that X factor(s) are them.  What is yours??Discussions of:Finding your funnyCo-parenting dogsCan't let her winPulled the trigger twiceLooking down the roadWhat is pulling you out of the ditchSharing your storyFigure out who you are as a wholeSerial datingRealize you will have steps backwardsEither I change or the world changes around meSetting boundariesThe best version of myselfVersions of the truthWhy worry?They are a great person, just not my personDon't vacation in the pain‘K' textInsanityHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

It's another fun Divorce Devil Podcast.  Our subject today is the interesting wins and fails in dating during divorce recovery.  So many things to cover here.  We feel we only scratched the surface.  Discussions of you are never really ready to date, phone a friend, there is always some baggage, Rachel swiped her thumbs raw and you need to go through the sh*t relationships.  Basically, Rachel and I agree that probably the first few times you get out there - it's a sh*tshow.  So, please go into them with realistic expectations.  It turns out better that way.  And, in all seriousness, take care of you in the process.  Self-care is not overrated!Interesting Points:Special code with the bartenderDon't talk about your divorce on your first datesGo play pickleballWatch out for the narcissistCut before you get cutRed flag collectorDon't get a projectYou can't fix peopleLittle divorce liesDon't date for marriageNot looking for ringsNo judgment or shamingHow they treat the waitstaffHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.