Podcasts about divorce advice

The emotional rollercoaster of divorce can leave us feeling like we're constantly in survival mode, reacting to every text, comment, or situation with immediate emotion rather than thoughtful response. This heightened state keeps us stuck in cycles that prevent healing and forward movement.  I'm talking about this common struggle by exploring the difference between being consumed by emotions and being healthily connected to them. When we're constantly reacting from a place of anger, fear, or hurt, our emotions are actually running the show while we watch helplessly from the passenger seat.  When our nervous system stays heightened, our prefrontal cortex (the brain's decision-making part) becomes less flexible. This creates the effect of choices that may not be aligned with what's best and right for you, increased stress, and more negative emotions.  The solution is in creating space between stimulus and response. By validating our feelings without immediately acting on them, we gain the power to choose how we respond. I'll offer practical guidance on shifting from emotional survival to emotional resilience through simple but powerful practice in this episode.  This practice transforms not only our divorce experience but ripples through every relationship in our lives. As we model emotional regulation, we become powerful architects of our future rather than reactive victims of our circumstances.  Ready to stop letting your emotions drive your decisions? This episode provides the roadmap to build emotional resilience that will serve you long after your divorce is finalized. To download your FREE GUIDE: "7-Day Self Trust Reset" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

Standing in your kitchen at 8 PM, staring at unwashed dishes and feeling completely overwhelmed by the simplest decisions? You're experiencing what many women face after divorce which is decision paralysis. Even when you absolutely knew ending your marriage was right, the decision fatigue that comes after can leave you questioning your ability to choose anything from breakfast options to career moves. One of my clients said, "I feel like I used all of my decision-making energy just getting out of my marriage," and this summed up what I hear from so many divorcing women as a common struggle. After spending months or years gathering courage for that monumental life decision, even small choices now carry what feels like impossible weight. The challenge isn't just about making decisions. It's about making them as this new version of yourself you're still getting to know. For years, your decision-making muscles were trained to filter choices through questions like "What will keep the peace?" or "What might avoid conflict?" You learned to put everyone else's needs before your own. Now, you're suddenly expected to decide based on what YOU want except that muscle of knowing yourself, your wants, needs and desires has become weak because of years of ignoring it.  This episode walks you through four transformative steps to break free from post-divorce paralysis: grounding yourself, learning to process emotions, examining limiting beliefs that keep you stuck, and taking small aligned actions to rebuild self-trust. You'll discover that the courage and wisdom that got you through divorce haven't disappeared; you just need to reconnect with those qualities.To download your FREE GUIDE: "7-Day Self Trust Reset" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I guess this is just how my life is now," or "There's nothing I can do to make this better"? That's the trap of black and white thinking or all-or-nothing thinking. This is a mental habit that convinces us we have no control over our life, especially during divorce. In this episode, I dive deep into how black-and-white thinking keeps us feeling powerless and stuck in patterns that no longer serve us. When we believe there are only two options, usually the extreme end of the spectrum, our brains literally stop searching for solutions. We become convinced that our situation is fixed, immovable, and beyond choice of any kind. But that's a lie we tell ourselves, and I'm here to help you see through it. The truth is that very few things in life are purely good or purely bad, all or nothing. By learning to recognize this habitual way of thinking we can begin to challenge these limiting beliefs. The real magic happens when we step out of these extremes and into what I call "the gray"; not a place of indecision or uncertainty, but a place of possibility, nuance, and choice. Drawing from my own experience of breaking free from all-or-nothing thinking about marriage and divorce, I share practical strategies to help you recognize these patterns, challenge your thought processes, and gradually reclaim your sense of agency. Even a small 2% shift toward more flexible thinking creates movement that can transform your entire perspective on life after divorce. Ready to break free from black-and-white thinking and start living in the gray to discover the choices that have been there all along? Listen now to learn how to live in the gray, make decisions from a place of empowerment rather than fear, and create a more expansive story for your life moving forward after divorce.To download your FREE GUIDE: "7-Day Self Trust Reset" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

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In this powerful episode, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert Lisa A. Romano explores the hidden dangers of falling for charisma—especially for adult children of narcissistic or emotionally immature parents. If you've ever been drawn to someone magnetic and charming, only to feel emotionally used, discarded, or confused, this episode will help you understand the deeper psychological dynamics at play. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why individuals with abandonment trauma and codependent traits are especially susceptible to charm How narcissists use charisma as a tool of emotional manipulation and control The devastating impact of betrayal by someone who once made you feel special, seen, or chosen How to distinguish real connection from performative affection Why ignoring your gut instincts leads to emotional disorientation—and how to start trusting yourself again Why This Matters Charisma is not the same as character. For those who have experienced childhood emotional neglect, the attention of a charismatic partner can feel intoxicating—like love, validation, and safety all rolled into one. But when that charm is weaponized by someone with narcissistic tendencies, it can leave you emotionally devastated and doubting your sense of reality. This episode is for anyone ready to wake up from the spell of manipulative charm and step into a more grounded, self-aware, and emotionally empowered life. Take the Next Step Lisa's 12 Week Breakthrough Method is a neuroscience-based program designed to help you uncover the subconscious beliefs keeping you stuck in toxic relationship cycles. Learn how to heal from emotional abuse, build a healthy self-concept, and reconnect to your intuition. Explore the Breakthrough Method at 50% Off https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

Are you constantly making excuses for your partner's behavior? Walking on eggshells in your own home? Pretending to be asleep when they come to bed? Your intuition might be trying to tell you something important about your marriage. Society conditions us to believe marriage should last forever, that we must honor our vows "for better or worse." But what happens when that conditioning keeps us trapped in relationships that harm our wellbeing or prevent us from creating genuine happiness? This powerful episode tackles the signs that might indicate it's time to consider divorce, and more importantly, gives you permission to honestly ask yourself what you truly want. I'm not here to tell you whether you should get divorce. That decision belongs to you alone. However, I am here to help you recognize when your body, mind, and intuition are signaling that something needs to change. From researching divorce laws in your state to constantly walking on eggshells around your partner, these signals deserve your attention rather than dismissal. Many women stay in unhappy marriages because the uncertainty of divorce feels overwhelming. Will I be able to support myself financially? Where will I live? How will this affect my children? These are valid concerns, but they're obstacles that can be overcome with proper planning and support. As women, we are remarkably resilient and resourceful. We are really great at problem solving. We figure things out all the time, often while juggling multiple responsibilities already. You deserve to wake up feeling hopeful about your day and your future. You deserve relationships that add to your life rather than drain your energy. Most importantly, you deserve to give yourself permission to create the life you truly want, even if that means ending your current marriage. The healing begins once you face the truth of what you want and take those first steps toward a different future. Whether you're considering divorce yourself or know someone who might need this message, remember: choosing yourself isn't selfish; it's necessary for your wellbeing and ultimately benefits everyone around you.To download your FREE GUIDE: "7-Day Self Trust Reset" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

This week on Market Mondays, we break down the biggest moves in the market as stock futures rise ahead of Zelensky's White House visit and Jerome Powell's speech at Jackson Hole. We also dive into the real risks facing retail — not Q2 earnings, but the weak forecasts driven by tariffs and cautious consumer behavior. On the crypto side, we debate if now is the right time to buy Bitcoin and share our picks for the stock or cryptocurrency with the most upside potential through year-end.We're joined by wealth-building expert Cedric Nash, who shares lessons from real estate, divorce, and prenups, as well as insights on structuring wealth that lasts. We also cover U.S. trade changes that hit Shein and Temu hard while boosting Amazon, break down why TQQQ isn't a smart long-term play compared to QQQ, and analyze Warren Buffett's surprising bet on UnitedHealth. Plus, we unpack how traders can start treating their portfolios like businesses, from reinvestments to taxes and personal spending.Later, Tabitha Brown joins us for a powerful conversation on the Target boycott, its impact on Black business owners, and the importance of marketing with purpose. We also answer the burning question for investors late to the party: what's the right entry point for NVDA? Don't miss this packed episode full of insights at the intersection of money, markets, and culture.Invest Fest Ticket Link: https://investfest.com (code: Reform) for free tickets (first 50)#MarketMondays #EarnYourLeisure #Investing #StockMarket #Crypto #Bitcoin #WealthBuilding #CedricNash #TabithaBrown #Retail #NVDA #TQQQ #QQQ #WarrenBuffett #Shein #Temu #AmazonOur Sponsors:* Check out PNC Bank: https://www.pnc.com* Check out Square: https://square.com/go/eylSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/marketmondays/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Feeling like the ground beneath you has shifted after divorce? You're not alone. That sense of instability, of losing your foundation, is one of the most challenging aspects of divorce recovery. But what if reconnecting with your body could help you find your footing again? This episode of Becoming You Again explores what it truly means to feel grounded after divorce and introduces a powerful practice called "grounded sway" that can help you rebuild trust in yourself. Many women tell me they feel constantly off-balance during divorce, unsure how to recreate that sense of safety. The truth is, you have the capacity to create safety for yourself through reconnecting with your body's wisdom. The guided practice I share walks you through a gentle swaying movement that helps you experience different sensations while actively narrating safety for yourself. As you sway and feel the solid ground beneath your feet, you learn to stay flexible rather than rigid when facing uncertainty - like willow bending in the wind rather than breaking. There's no right or wrong way to do this exercise, only your way, as you discover what feels right for your unique body. So much of healing after divorce involves learning to trust ourselves again; our bodies, our intuition, and our ability to create the lives we want. This practice offers one gentle pathway toward rebuilding that trust, reminding us that everything we need to feel safe and balanced already exists within us. Sometimes we just need a reminder of how to access it. Ready to go deeper with your healing? Working one-on-one with me as your coach might be exactly what you need to implement these practices in your daily life. Visit karinnelsoncoaching.com to learn more about how we can work together to help you become you again. To download your FREE GUIDE: "7-Day Self Trust Reset" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano explores how codependency erodes authenticity and keeps people trapped in the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing. If you struggle to speak your truth, constantly seek approval, or fear setting boundaries, this episode will help you understand the deeper root of why you hide your authentic self—and how to begin unmasking the people pleaser within. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why people-pleasing is a trauma response rooted in childhood survival How codependency develops when authenticity is punished or ignored The difference between genuine kindness and compulsive approval-seeking Why suppressing your needs leads to resentment, burnout, and emotional confusion Practical steps to reconnect with your true self and honor your voice Why This Episode Matters Many adult children of emotionally immature, narcissistic, or unavailable caregivers learn early on that being “the good one” is the only way to feel safe. Over time, this coping mechanism becomes a false self—one that performs for acceptance while abandoning its truth. But healing is possible. By understanding the connection between childhood emotional neglect and adult codependency, you can begin the courageous journey back to your authentic self—one boundary at a time. Take the Next Step Lisa's 12 Week Breakthrough Method is a neuroscience-informed system designed to help you unlearn codependent behaviors, reclaim your voice, and build a self-concept rooted in worth and truth. Learn more: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp #CodependencyRecovery #PeoplePleasing #AuthenticSelf #ChildhoodTrauma #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalNeglect #SpeakYourTruth #BoundariesMatter #HealingJourney #LisaRomano

Self-love shouldn't come with conditions, yet so many of us hold ourselves hostage to impossible standards. I'm tackling this concept of "transactional self-love" in this throwback episode. Transactional self-love are the unconscious bargains we make with ourselves, promising kindness and acceptance only after certain benchmarks are met. We've all said it: "I'll love myself when I lose weight," "I'll be kind to myself once my divorce is finalized," or "I'll accept myself when I find someone new." These conditional statements reveal how deeply we've internalized the message that we must earn our own affection. I explore this phenomenon through multiple lenses; our biological negativity bias, childhood experiences of conditional love, and the societal conditioning that teaches women their value depends on external factors. The relationship you have with yourself forms the foundation for every other relationship in your life. When you withhold compassion from yourself, you're likely applying the same transactional approach to others. Breaking free from this pattern starts with awareness – identifying your personal conditions for self-acceptance and consciously choosing more compassionate alternatives. Through practical steps and thoughtful guidance, I demonstrate how to build an unshakable foundation of self-love that doesn't fluctuate based on achievements or circumstances. This isn't about achieving perfect self-love but creating a baseline of acceptance that supports you through life's inevitable challenges. You'll learn how to recognize your conditional thinking and practice new neural pathways of self-compassion through consistent, intentional thought work.To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

If you grew up feeling emotionally unsafe, unseen, or like your feelings didn't matter, you may have unknowingly developed codependent behaviors rooted in childhood emotional neglect. In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano, codependency recovery expert, breaks down how early life experiences shape your nervous system and self-worth—and why the "invisible child" often becomes an adult trapped in patterns of people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and toxic relationship cycles.  In This Episode, You'll Learn: How childhood trauma, emotional instability, or neglect programs the brain for codependency Why feeling unsafe as a child rewires your nervous system to seek external validation How beliefs like “I'm not enough” become subconscious blocks to self-esteem The hidden link between early emotional trauma and compulsive rescuing or caretaking How to start reclaiming emotional safety through boundaries, self-awareness, and nervous system regulation  Why This Episode Matters Codependency is not just about behavior—it's about the emotional blueprint you were given as a child. If no one ever mirrored your worth or made space for your needs, you may now unconsciously look to others for permission to feel safe, lovable, or whole. But healing begins with visibility—recognizing your patterns and rewiring the beliefs that keep you stuck.  Take Action: Journal Prompt: When was the first time you felt emotionally unsafe or invisible? How is that experience still influencing your relationships today? Self-Awareness Practice: Next time you feel the urge to fix or please someone, ask yourself: “Is this about honoring me—or avoiding rejection?”  Continue the Journey: Discover Lisa's neuroscience-based system for codependency recovery in the

Are you constantly hurt by a spouse who struggles to prioritize you? Do they avoid setting boundaries with their parents—even when it damages your marriage? If your partner was raised in a toxic or emotionally immature home, their nervous system may have been wired for survival—not connection. That early programming can lead to deep-rooted abandonment wounds, emotional shutdown, and a fear of conflict that puts your relationship at risk. In this episode of Breakdown to Breakthrough, Breakthrough Life Coach and creator of The Conscious Healing Academy, Lisa A. Romano, unpacks the hidden trauma behind emotionally unavailable partners and explores why some spouses can't put their significant other first—despite their best intentions. You'll learn: Why your spouse might feel safer pleasing their parents than protecting your marriage How unhealed childhood trauma impacts adult intimacy and emotional prioritization The subconscious fears that drive people to abandon their partner to avoid being rejected themselves What you can do to begin shifting this painful dynamic in a healthy way

Divorce guilt can be overwhelming, especially when it's tangled with religious upbringing, family expectations, and concerns about your children. In this deeply personal episode, I open my heart about the guilt I carried after ending my 20-year marriage, particularly how my Mormon background shaped my beliefs that divorce wasn't a viable option and that I was jeopardizing eternal salvation by making this choice. My journey through guilt included what I call the "parental report card" – this imaginary scorecard where I believed my parents were tallying my life choices and finding me increasingly disappointing. I began seeing myself as "the black sheep" of the family, assuming my parents viewed my authentic choices with sadness and disgust. Despite feeling more connected to myself than ever before, this guilt continued to weigh heavily on me. The turning point came when I discovered a passage that helped me create a powerful reframe helping me create a much needed perspective shift helping me heal from the guilt stories I'd been carrying and embrace a new narrative about my choices and their meaning. Whether your divorce guilt stems from religious teachings, family expectations, or concern for your children, or something else, healing is possible. You can learn to unwind from these stories, forgive yourself for the inevitable pain that comes with major life transitions, and recognize that choosing authenticity isn't selfish – it's revolutionary. You are worthy of setting down the divorce guilt in all its forms and embracing your role as a seeker of liberation for yourself and future generations.To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

Imagine finding a secret perk to divorce that transforms everything about how you see yourself, your life, and your future. That's exactly what this episode uncovers – the extraordinary gift that divorce offers women: the ability to have the best of both worlds.Most divorced women struggle with guilt for focusing on themselves, feeling trapped between societal expectations of motherhood and their own unfulfilled desires for personal growth. Through years of coaching women through divorce recovery, I've discovered that this painful transition actually creates a unique opportunity to balance two critical roles – being fully present as a mother while also honoring yourself as an individual woman with dreams, desires, and needs.This balance isn't just possible; it's necessary. When you become the best version of yourself by reconnecting with your intuition, setting healthy boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and learning self-love, you simultaneously become the best parent for your children. You model wholeness rather than self-abandonment. You create safety through self-trust rather than people-pleasing. You demonstrate what it means to live with integrity and authenticity.Breaking free from the socialized idea that marriage and motherhood represent a woman's highest purpose isn't easy. Many women completely lose themselves in these roles, forgetting they exist as individuals outside of caring for others. Divorce disrupts this pattern, creating space to rediscover yourself while still being the mother you want to be – perhaps an even better one because you're no longer depleted, resentful, or disconnected from your own needs.Ready to embrace this powerful perspective shift and start experiencing the best of both worlds? Listen now to discover the four key ways to become your best self after divorce, and join the community of women who are rewriting their divorce stories from ones of failure to stories of liberation, growth, and wholeness.To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

No one likes to be uncomfortable, but with divorce, you are going through so many changes and well, it's uncomfortable! Time to get comfortable being uncomfortable! But that's a good thing! My guest in this episode is Ron Platt, divorced dad and co-founder of the National Association for Single and Divorced Families (the NASDF.) Ron and I tell our divorce stories of feeling uncomfortable and some things we did to get comfortable. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/get-comfortable-being-uncomfortable-and-other-advice-on-love-and-divorce/

If you've ever found yourself stuck in a one-sided relationship—where you're the fixer, the rescuer, the peacekeeper—this episode is your wake-up call. In this powerful episode, best-selling author and codependency recovery expert Lisa A. Romano uncovers the invisible thread between childhood emotional neglect and codependent behaviors in adulthood. If you: Feel overly responsible for other people's emotions Stay in toxic relationships hoping things will change Obsess over your partner's moods Feel like you've lost your sense of self ...you're not broken. You're running survival patterns wired into your nervous system long ago—when love meant self-abandonment, and your feelings didn't matter. This isn't your fault. But now that you know, it becomes your power. Lisa explains how codependency is a subconscious trauma response rooted in unmet emotional needs and a lack of safety in childhood. We mistakenly learn that love must be earned through fixing others—especially the ones who hurt us. But this only perpetuates the pain and draws us toward emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners. In this episode, you'll discover:  How early childhood trauma wires your brain for codependency  Why rescuing others is a subconscious survival strategy  Why narcissists and toxic partners are drawn to codependents  How to spot the thinking traps of codependency  Actionable steps to reconnect with your authentic self Whether you're healing from a codependent marriage or waking up to your past for the first time, this episode will help you break free from emotional enmeshment and start living from a place of empowerment and emotional clarity.

Grief is an inevitable part of divorce, but the shame and judgment that often accompany it? Those are completely optional. In this episode, I explore why so many of us pile unnecessary suffering onto our natural grief during divorce—whether it's shame about past behaviors, feeling we weren't "enough," or guilt about hurting others, especially our children. Drawing on the Buddhist story of the two arrows, I explain how when we layer shame and judgment onto grief, we actually block the very healing process we're trying to move through. The solution isn't to avoid grief, but to approach it with self-compassion instead of criticism. I share a practical three-step self-compassion practice that you can use whenever that mean inner voice starts berating you about your divorce. This isn't about giving yourself a free pass—it's about creating the emotional safety needed to actually feel and process your grief without the additional burden of shame. As someone who's walked this path, I know firsthand how religion, family expectations, and our own perfectionism can make divorce feel not just painful but shameful. But I also know the liberation that comes when we drop that second arrow and simply allow ourselves to grieve with kindness. Your healing doesn't require suffering—it requires feeling, with compassion, exactly as you are. Ready to get off the emotional rollercoaster of divorce? Download my free guide "What to Expect During Divorce" through the link in the show notes and start feeling more grounded today.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep223To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

To thrive after narcissistic abuse, you will need to change your entire mindset toward narcissistic people in your life. The key to maintaining your sanity is not to take their attempts at baiting you into circular conversations where they get to act out their need to persecute others with self-righteous indignation. If you confuse love with guilt and obligation, and especially if you have high empathy and struggle to end toxic relationships due to abandonment issues, letting go can trigger complex trauma symptoms such as a burning brain, heart palpitations, brain fog, mental confusion, and emotional paralysis. One of the most difficult things in the world to accept is that sometimes the people you love are built to not hear you, although their words may say otherwise. When dealing with a high-conflict person, you will notice that they escalate drama, problems, and issues in relationships instead of de-escalating them. Narcissists need flying monkeys, and the more they have, the more emboldened they are to attack, confuse, persecute, vilify, diminish, and discard you or any feelings or opinions you have.  In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach, explains why changing your mindset toward the narcissistic people in your life can preserve your sanity, no matter how tough it might be to accept and let go.  What is your peace of mind worth to you? If you are ready to take the journey within to heal the core issues that result in you're being entangled in narcissistic relationships, join Lisa and her team of seasoned life coaches this July for The 12 Week Breakthrough Journey back to the divine self.  Register early and save $500  Register Early and Gain Exclusive Access to Lisa

Divorce creates the perfect breeding ground for resentment - that heavy, persistent feeling that can linger for years after your marriage ends. But what if you could finally set down that emotional burden? This episode dives deep into understanding what really fuels your post-divorce resentment. Through practical exercises and thoughtful guidance, you'll learn to identify the specific ways the resentment was created in the first place. The transformation begins with awareness. By recognizing exactly what you're holding onto and why, you create space to process these emotions completely. I walk you through a step-by-step writing exercise to help you name your resentments without judgment, identify the expectations and then I offer concrete techniques to process through the resentment and release it with intention. As a bonus, are you ready to free yourself from unnecessary emotional baggage? Download my free guide to managing the emotional rollercoaster of divorce through the link in the description to accelerate your healing journey. For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep222To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

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It's a significant test of emotional and mental resilience when someone you love attacks you through gaslighting, projection, moral superiority, subjective morality, innuendos, and storytelling, all of which downplay their actions and focus entirely on your reaction to their behavior or words. Loving those with high conflict personality means you are investing your emotions, time and energy toward a relationship wish a person who is not as invested as you are. In time, you will notice the one-way nature of the relationship. Through an enormous painful event, if you are lucky and wise, you will let go of those whose false mask, grandiosity, and tremendous insecurity prevent them from taking accountability for how their narcissism affects those who love them. In this podcast episode, you will hear from Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach and Award Winning Author, creator of the 90 Day (12 Week ) Self Love Recovery Breakthrough Program, share how when you speak to a narcissist with certain words, sentences and phrases, you successfully hold onto your energy and prevent them from dragging you onto the dark stage in their minds.  Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and transformation with Lisa's Conscious Healing Academy, which includes a 3-tier coaching system that assists with one's awakening, emotional intelligence, and mental and emotional mastery.  12 Week Breakthrough Program (Level One - The Awakening) 8 Week Master Your Reality (Level 2 -- Deliberate Creating) Soul School - (Level Three -- Ascending Ego) To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here; Contact Website Spotify Award Winning Books  Facebook Support Group

Divorce guilt is one of the heaviest burdens mothers carry, particularly when it comes to our children. We're bombarded with messages about "staying together for the kids," research on divorce's negative impacts, and cultural narratives that paint divorced families as inherently damaged. But what if we've been looking at this all wrong? In this episode, I challenge the notion that divorce harms children by offering four powerful ways divorce can actually benefit your kids. One of the profound gifts that I'll cover is your children get access to the best version of you - a woman who honors her needs, maintains healthy boundaries, and models self-respect rather than self-abandonment. When you reconnect to your authentic self after divorce, you demonstrate for your children what healthy adulthood actually looks like. Ready to release the burden of divorce guilt and embrace the positive impact your choices can have on your children? Listen now, and discover how reframing your divorce story can free both you and your children to create healthier, more authentic lives.To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep221

Struggling to feel grounded after your divorce? The path forward begins with something surprisingly simple: being present. When we're caught in the cycle of regret about the past or anxiety about the future, genuine healing remains out of reach. In this episode I'll share a powerful yet straightforward technique that can transform how you navigate post-divorce emotions. The 5-4-3-2-1 grounding exercise engages all five senses to anchor you firmly in the present moment—the only place where true healing occurs. What makes this approach so valuable is its simplicity and accessibility. You can practice it anywhere: during a stressful meeting, while managing chaotic family moments, or when those painful divorce memories resurface unexpectedly. By doing this practice you're actively realigning your nervous system and creating space for healing. This episode goes beyond just teaching a technique—it reframes how we understand emotional regulation after divorce. The goal isn't to achieve perfect calm at all times but to develop greater capacity to navigate life's challenges without being controlled by habitual fight-flight-freeze responses. When we can ground ourselves in the present, we gain the ability to make conscious choices about who we want to be and how we want to show up in our post-divorce lives. To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep220

The best way to stop focusing and ruminating about narcissists in your life is to close your eyes and fall in love with the self. Ancient Persian Philosopher Rumi is an excellent example of how to break up with, let go of, divorce, and go no contact with narcissists in your life. In this lesson, you will learn what Rumi has to say about releasing narcissists from your life, and why doing so is terrifying yet brings emotional freedom at the same time. Healing from narcissistic abuse, requires that you release resistance to the pain manipulation, gaslighting, triangulation, smear campaigns and discard have created. Through radical self awareness, and acceptance, we discover the power of sacred wisdom as it pertains to choosing nonresistance. A narcissist will never follow you into solitude. When you embrace solitude, narcissists will run away because in solitude their masks fall. And that's why you must travel into the silence within. Codependency is akin to spiritual death. It implies you are living in denial of what is, and running from reality. The answer lies in climbing the ladder of the mind, from the subconscious to the higher conscious realms. But first, we must figure out where you are now and at what level of awareness do you reside. Feel free to take my FREE Codependency Quiz to discover more. ✨ Take my FREE Codependency Quiz

What happens when the future you've always planned for suddenly disappears? After divorce, many women find themselves trapped in a pit of despair, believing their chance at happiness vanished along with their marriage. But what if this challenging transition actually offers an unexpected gift – the freedom to design a future that truly resonates with who you are? In this episode I'll explore how society's prescribed notions of family, happiness, and success have shaped our expectations. Those perfect retirement scenes in medication commercials? The idyllic nuclear family portrayed in media? These aren't universal truths – they're social constructs that have evolved (and continue to evolve) throughout human history. You'll discover how challenging these inherited beliefs creates space for authentic growth and self-discovery. The episode offers practical guidance for creating a new vision that aligns with your values and current reality. Through targeted questions – about your guiding principles, bold dreams, and how you'll view this chapter in hindsight – you'll learn to craft a future outlook that serves and inspires you. Because if we're going to "make up" our futures anyway (as we all do), why not create visions that genuinely support who we are and who we're becoming?To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep219

Raising a child now costs $319,000. Yet most parents are told to make it work with a court-issued child support number based on income and overnights.

The most dangerous people in our lives are not strangers, they are people we know and love. For a child, the most dangerous people are their parents and step-parents, and for adults, the most dangerous people in their lives tend to be their partners. In this eye opening podcast, you will learn about the statistics that suggest that while we teach children about stranger danger, w are neglecting to fully comprehend the totality of the abuse that occurs simply because adults have access to powerless children. This is not to suggest that all parents and all step-parents are abusive; however, statistically speaking, one of the contributing factors to child abuse and neglect tends to be associated with a nonbiological step-parent.  This podcast comes with a trigger warning, because it speaks the truth, a truth that many may not be ready to accept has occurred to them, a truth that a parent may not be ready to face about their choice in a spouse that had access to their children, or it may sting the eye of the one who has neglected and abused a child, or spouse.  The intention of this conversation is to fully acknowledge what is statistically true, so that we can all become more aware and responsible for who has access to our children, in addition to becoming more conscious of the fact that our partners are the most dangerous people in our adult lives. It's not the guy hanging out on the street corner at 3:00 am we need to worry about. It's those we love who may associate love with control, dominance, and power. Once we become entangled with them, we need to be more cognizant of the quality of the relationships we engage in.  If you're codependent, you are at great risk for becoming entangled in toxic relationships dynamics and that is not your fault.  Breakthrough with me here, with the 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program.  

When the emotional waves of divorce hit unexpectedly, leaving you wondering if you've somehow failed at healing, know this: you're experiencing grief in its most natural form. Grief during divorce isn't a linear journey with neat stages and timelines—it's an unpredictable rollercoaster that can send you soaring one day and plummeting the next. The profound disconnect between what you thought your life would be and what it has become creates the perfect conditions for grief to emerge. Yet unlike the grief that follows death, divorce grief often hides in plain sight, unacknowledged by both ourselves and society. You might hear that you have no right to feel sad if you initiated the divorce, or that you should feel only relief if your marriage was difficult. These judgments only compound the pain. What you're feeling is valid. Every time you feel like you've finally found solid ground, only to be blindsided by sadness while shopping at Target or driving to work, you're not moving backward in your healing—you're moving through it exactly as you need to. There's no "right way" to grieve the end of a marriage. Understanding the predictable triggers that launch you back onto this emotional rollercoaster gives you power. Knowing what situations commonly spark these feelings—and having practical tools ready to support yourself through them—transforms your experience from overwhelming to manageable. To help you navigate this challenging terrain with more confidence, I've created a free guide; What To Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce. This guide explains the science behind your experiences, identifies the five most common scenarios that set off emotional responses, and provides concrete tools to help you find your footing faster. Available as both a PDF and audio recording, it's my free gift to you. Download it today through the link in the below, and remember: your healing journey is uniquely yours, and you're doing it exactly right.To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep218

Social media can be an incredible space for support and connection, but when it comes to divorce, it's also packed with advice that sounds empowering but can actually do real damage. In this solo episode, Susan Guthrie breaks down some of the most viral (and misleading) divorce tips making the rounds on TikTok, Instagram, and beyond. And, shares what you really need to know instead. With more than 35 years of experience as a top divorce attorney and mediator, Susan cuts through the noise to expose what's myth and what's smart strategy. Whether it's the temptation of a $99 DIY divorce, the urge to vent online, or slapping labels on your ex, Susan helps you sidestep the traps and make choices that truly support your future. What You'll Discover in This Episode: Why even friendly divorces need legal review, because templates aren't enough The real risks of social media announcements and glow-up posts Why labeling your ex a narcissist can backfire in court How hiding assets + oversharing on social media can blow up your entire case Also mentioned in this episode: The FYI on DIY Divorce from the Founder and CEO of Hello Divorce, Erin Levine Your Roadmap to Resolution: 80+ Ways to Divorce Amicably (Yes, Really!) with Tracy Ann Moore-Grant Why You Need to Stop Calling Your Ex a Narcissist with Laila Aitken, Founder of Split.fyi ------ Take the Most of Your Listening Experience: If this episode resonates with you, be sure to: Subscribe to Divorce & Beyond so you never miss an episode. Share this episode with friends or loved ones who need hope and healing. Leave a 5-star review to help us reach even more listeners. Follow Us Online: Divorce & Beyond:  https://divorceandbeyondpod.com, IG: @divorceandbeyond MEET OUR CREATOR AND HOST: SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, has been nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country for more than 30 years.  Susan is the Chair of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is a sought-after keynote speaker, business and practice consultant, coach and trainer. You can find out more about Susan and her services here: https://susaneguthrie.com Divorce & Beyond is a Top 1% Overall and Top 100 Self-Help podcast designed to help you with all you need to know to navigate your divorce journey and most importantly, to thrive in your beautiful beyond!   ***************************************************************************** SPONSOR SPOTLIGHT: HELLO FRESH HelloFresh is now a proud sponsor of Divorce & Beyond! If you've been thinking about cutting back on grocery bills, avoiding food waste, or just getting dinner on the table without the stress — this is your moment, because right now, HelloFresh is offering one free item in every box — for life! That's right — every single box you order includes a free item, forever. And just to give you a taste of what that looks like... I got pineapple upside-down cakes in my first order! I originally discovered HelloFresh during the pandemic and fell in love with learning new recipes and expanding our dinner routine. I let it go for a while — hey, I live in Chicago with world-class restaurants on every corner — but with today's rising costs, HelloFresh is back on my table, and I'm so glad it is. So if you're ready to save time, money, and dinner — go to divorceandbeyond.com/hellofresh and sign up today to grab that free item for life. ***************** YUMIYU Jewelry YUMIYU Jewelry is Susan's favorite source for meaningful, handcrafted jewelry designed to empower women and celebrate individuality. Each piece is made with care, using high-quality materials like real gold and vermeil, and is water-resistant, non-tarnish, and hypoallergenic. During difficult times, like divorce, wearing a symbol of hope or protection—such as a hamsa or an evil eye—can be a comforting reminder to keep the faith and stay strong. As a special gift to my listeners, YUMIYU Jewelry is offering 20% off your purchase! Use the code "BEYOND" at checkout to claim your discount. Explore their stunning collection at yumiyujewelry.com and find your perfect piece today! Link: https://divorcebeyond.com/YUMIYU  Code: “BEYOND” for 20% off! ***************************************************************************** SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES AVAILABLE! If you would like to sponsor the show and reach our large community of those going through and healing from divorce, please reach out to us at  divorceandbeyondpod@gmail.com for pricing and details!!! ***************************************************************************** DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Have you ever noticed how society teaches women to shrink, stay small, and remain quiet? From childhood, we're conditioned to take up less space physically and emotionally, to soften our opinions, and to prioritize everyone else's comfort above our own. After divorce, this pattern often intensifies as uncertainty looms large. But what if divorce actually offers something revolutionary? What if, instead of further contraction, divorce presents the perfect opportunity for expansion? This episode dives deep into why I proudly declare myself "pro-divorce" – not because I think everyone should end their marriage, but because I've witnessed how divorce can catalyze profound personal growth for women who've spent years diminishing themselves. We explore our tendency to stay small, examining how the amygdala (our brain's fear center) works overtime to "protect" us from the perceived dangers of speaking up, taking space, and trusting ourselves. Through personal stories and practical insights, I share my own journey of expansion after divorce, including a recent situation where I refused to shrink myself to make my current partner more comfortable. You'll discover the power that comes from recognizing when fear is protecting you from genuine danger versus when it's simply limiting your growth. Most importantly, you'll learn how to trust that you're already handling uncertainty every single day – you're just not giving yourself credit for it. Ready to step outside the small box society has placed you in? Ready to expand into your fullest self? This episode offers both the permission and practical guidance to bloom unapologetically after divorce. Because you deserve to live without constantly apologizing for being who you are. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep217

Socrates once said,“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but building the new.” If you've ever wondered how long it might take you to heal from narcissistic abuse, emotional neglect, codependency, or even addiction issues, you're in the right place. When emotionally, financially, and spiritually abused, the amygdala takes over and life can become minuscule. All we can focus on, when being abused, persecuted, judged or gaslit, is the moment. And although this is a sacred design created to help us avoid threat and harm, the human brain can become stuck in fight or flight. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, a Breakthrough Life Coach, uncovers a simple yet profound mindset shift that can help you heal sooner rather than later. As a survivor of narcissistic abuse and an adult child of two unrecovered, emotionally abusive, and neglectful alcoholic parents, Lisa has relied on self-discovery work focused on healing at the subconscious level, compassionately embracing her inner child every step of the way to become an international advocate for adult children everywhere. Her research and nearly 30 years of self-healing work have established her as a prominent global voice in mental wellness, personal healing, and transformation.  Begin your healing and transformation journey with Lisa's groundbreaking approach, which is grounded in the latest trauma research, neuroscience, and cognitive science. Heal your inner wounds in 12 Weeks of Less: Click here To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here; Contact Website Spotify Award Winning Books  Facebook Support Group

Communication patterns can make or break relationships, and understanding the destructive "Four Horsemen" identified by relationship expert John Gottman can help you build healthier connections after divorce. Being able to recognize these patterns in yourself gives you the power to change your communication style for all future relationships. Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—these patterns create a cascade of disconnection that, once established, become increasingly difficult to break. In this episode I walk you through each destructive pattern and how to recognize when you're falling into these traps. Rather than approaching this knowledge with self-judgment, I invite you to view your communication habits through the lens of curiosity, opening the door to genuine transformation. Whether you're co-parenting with your ex, building new friendships, navigating workplace dynamics, or considering future romantic relationships, these communication insights will serve you well. By supporting yourself first and creating space for intentional communication, you can break free from destructive patterns and build the authentic connections you deserve. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep216

In this episode, you will explore 10 distinct forms of narcissistic manipulation tactics and the true agenda of a narcissist with whom you must engage, communicate, parent, and resolve issues. Those who display narcissistic traits often do not recognize themselves as narcissists. Instead, they tend to hold on to their grand illusions of themselves or see themselves as the victims of others. When they are up, it is because they believe others see them as the best, smartest, most beautiful, creative or talented. When they are down, that is because they feel victimized by evidence that someone, maybe you, no longer feed into their grand illusions of themselves. Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach, Award winning author, meditation teacher, course creator, and podcast host, is on a mission to awaken those who live below the veil of consciousness, and who are in toxic, enmeshed, codependent, subjugating relationships with those who are either narcissists, or who have high narcissistic traits. As an adult daughter of narcissistic and codependent parents, and as someone who escaped the undertow of a toxic marriage herself, she understands that the first step in healing from a narcissistic relationship is recognizing the signs that you are actually in a narcissistic relationship.  Ready to begin your healing journey?  Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and transformation with Lisa's Conscious Healing Academy, which includes a 3 tier coaching system that assists with one's awakening, emotional intelligence, and mental and emotional mastery.  12 Week Breakthrough Program (Level One - The Awakening) 8 Week Master Your Reality (Level 2 -- Deliberate Creating) Soul School - (Level Three -- Ascending Ego) To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here; Contact Website Spotify Award Winning Books  Facebook Support Group  

We've all been there—those moments during divorce when our minds spiral with thoughts that feel absolutely true: "I wasn't good enough," "I've ruined my children's lives," or "I'll never recover from this." But what if these certainties are simply stories your brain has constructed, not objective facts?  In this episode, I reveal how the thoughts dominating your divorce experience have been shaped by forces largely outside your control—biology, family conditioning, and societal expectations. Your brain, constantly seeking patterns and explanations, often manufactures meaning that aligns with these influences rather than reflecting reality.  When I faced my own divorce, society told me it would devastate my children and destroy my future. Instead of accepting this narrative, I consciously chose to define divorce differently—as growth, new beginnings, and ultimately a path to greater happiness. Years later, that decision has proven transformative not just for me, but for my entire family.  The power lies in recognizing that when we're stressed and emotionally overwhelmed, our primitive brain hijacks our reasoning abilities. Through a simple 3-5 minute writing practice I teach my clients, you can learn to distinguish between objective facts and subjective interpretations. This distinction creates space for choice—the choice to interpret your divorce and future differently.  This isn't about toxic positivity or ignoring genuine feelings. It's about recognizing that most thoughts causing your suffering aren't unassailable truths but interpretations you can question and replace. When you separate fact from story, you reclaim your power to chart your own course through divorce and beyond.  Ready to stop believing everything your brain tells you about your divorce? Try the practice outlined in this episode, or schedule a free 30-minute call with me to experience how liberating it feels to distinguish between what's happening and what it means.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep215

Ever notice how fear seems to drive every decision during divorce? That gnawing feeling in your stomach that whispers you're ruining everything—your future, your children's lives, your finances—even when you know leaving is the right choice. This invisible force keeps you frozen, making decisions from a place of survival rather than authentic wisdom. What if there was another way? What if you could acknowledge your fear without letting it control your choices? When our nervous system remains in a constant state of high alert during divorce, we operate from our primitive brain, interpreting change as a threat to survival. This "functional freeze" makes us appear put-together on the outside while we're drowning inside, unable to access our deeper wisdom. The result? A life guided by fear rather than intention. The secret lies in reconnecting with your intuition—that quiet voice within that knows exactly what you need, even when everyone else has an opinion. Courage isn't making fearless decisions; it's feeling terrified and moving forward anyway, trusting that inner compass to guide you home. Self-trust develops through practicing self-compassion, getting curious about who you are at your core, and accepting all parts of yourself. When your brain, body, and intuition align, you physically feel the difference between decisions that are right for you and those that aren't. This knowing creates a foundation of peace that exists alongside fear rather than being consumed by it. Ready to stop letting fear drive your life? Book your free 30-minute consultation today and learn how to reconnect with your intuition during divorce. Your deepest wisdom is waiting—you just need to remember how to listen. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep214

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If you love a narcissist and you're here listening to this podcast, chances are you are learning to understand that you are not viewed healthily and that perhaps the person you are dealing with perceives you through a skewed lens. Maybe you're realizing that it's not you and there is nothing you can do to please a narcissist, although God knows you've tried. Sadly, a narcissists mind works in black and white. You are either for them or against them, which is why having any type of conflict or disagreement is so earth-shattering to them and why they can become so mean, angry and vile with a flip of a switch.  To a narcissist, you are in their life because you represent an asset of some sort, most often as narcissistic supply. However, when a narcissist begins to sense that you can see through them, and especially if you stand your ground, their minds begin to view you as a liability. If a narcissist is unable to dominate you through coercive control tactics, you will be discarded sooner than later, because to them, you have now become a liability and offer them no value.  It's sad but also true and incredibly clarifying ONCE you see the dynamics for what they are.  Are you ready to develop that stainless steel spine we all need in order to develop self love and start manifesting the lives we deserve and desire, free of toxic narcissistic and codependent dynamics? If so, start your transformation journey with Lisa here; Breakthrough Program  Contact Website Spotify Award Winning Books  Facebook Support Group

The power to feel emotionally safe, even when life feels uncertain, might be the greatest gift you can give yourself after divorce. But our brains make this challenging in ways you might not realize.  Have you ever wondered why leaving an unhappy marriage feels so terrifying, even when you know it's the right choice? The answer lies in how your brain processes certainty versus uncertainty. Your amygdala—the primitive part of your brain responsible for survival—doesn't distinguish between physical threats and emotional ones. When divorce disrupts your predictable patterns, your brain interprets this uncertainty as danger, triggering fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses that can leave you feeling constantly anxious, overwhelmed, or stuck.  What's fascinating is how we can mistake familiarity for safety. Even in disconnected or toxic relationships, the predictability creates a false sense of security. Your brain says: "I know what to expect here, therefore I'm safe"—even when you're deeply unfulfilled.  The transformative truth? Uncertainty itself isn't dangerous. We live with it constantly! The key is learning to create emotional safety for yourself without requiring external certainty. In this episode you'll learn the first steps to dismantle false safety mechanisms and build true emotional security. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep213

How often do you look within and hear yourself asking the only questions that have any real potential to change your life, such as, "Who am I?, or "Why do I feel not good enough?" If you're like most people, you may never question whether or not you question the quality or validity of your thinking. That's why Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach wants to activate higher consciousness within you so that you have a chance at changing your life outcomes.  While going through the early stages of recovery, Lisa realized she had an authenticity problem.  Being raised to fear her mother's gaslighting, rejection, and emotional neglect, conditioned Lisa to feel as if her authentic self needed to be abandoned.  Learn why it is essential to stop apologizing if you are truly serious about becoming a cycle breaker and healing from codependency. Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Online Codependency Recovery Program Facebook Support Group Free Codependency Quiz

Feeling powerless in your divorce? That's exactly when you need this simple yet profound somatic practice for reclaiming ownership of your body and presence.  During the most challenging times of divorce, we often feel like everything's spiraling beyond our control – legal proceedings, relationship dynamics, and major life transitions can leave us disconnected from our own sense of agency. But what if there was a practice so simple you could do it anywhere to remind yourself of what you DO control?  This episode teaches a powerful bodily ownership exercise that anchors you in the present moment. Through deliberate touch and verbal affirmation, you'll learn to create an immediate shift in your nervous system and reconnect with your physical presence. I guide you through each step – from shaking out tension to orienting yourself in your environment to methodically reclaiming ownership of your entire body.  As we move through the practice together, I share why present-moment awareness is the only genuine pathway to healing. Your healing doesn't happen when you're worrying about future what-ifs or replaying past mistakes – it happens right now, in this moment, when you choose to reconnect with yourself and remember your inherent wholeness.  Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by divorce proceedings, struggling with co-parenting challenges, or simply needing to ground yourself during emotional turbulence, this practice offers an immediate pathway back to yourself. Try it whenever you need that reminder: in this moment, you are safe, and your body is your own.If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep212

If you struggle with worrying about what others think, you may be vulnerable to narcissistic manipulation. Codependents are often conditioned to seek external validation, fearing rejection or judgment. Narcissists exploit this by twisting reality, making you question your own experiences, and using your need for approval against you. They may say, "You're too sensitive," or "No one else sees it that way," to gaslight you into doubting yourself. They might also manipulate social perceptions, controlling how others see you through smear campaigns or triangulation.  In this episode, Lisa A. Romano exposes these tactics and teaches you how to detach from the fear of judgment, trust your own reality, and break free from the narcissist's control. If you don't know just upset you can become when others perceive you in a negative way, you might not realize how someone with high narcissistic traits could use that fear against you to keep you stuck! Tune in now to reclaim your power! We appreciate your like, follow and share.  And if you know someone who needs to know that a narcissist might be using their fears regarding how others perceive them against them, be sure to share this episode with them.  Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and transformation with Lisa's Conscious Healing Academy, which includes a 3 tier coaching system that assists with one's awakening, emotional intelligence, and mental and emotional mastery.  12 Week Breakthrough Program (Level One - The Awakening) 8 Week Master Your Reality (Level 2 -- Deliberate Creating) Soul School - (Level Three -- Ascending Ego) To learn more, contact Lisa and her team members here; Contact Website Spotify Award Winning Books  Facebook Support Group  

"When will my life feel normal again after divorce?" It's a question that haunts many of us during this profound transition. The discomfort of changed routines, financial shifts, and parenting adjustments feels deeply unsettling. But there's a fascinating biological reason behind this distress. Your brain's primitive amygdala interprets these changes as potential threats to survival, triggering fight-flight-freeze responses that actually reduce your cognitive function. First, regulate; second, question. The powerful opportunity within divorce lies in intentionally designing your life rather than returning to old patterns. I'll cover: Divorce creates feelings of abnormality that trigger our brain's survival responseThe amygdala interprets discomfort as danger.When the amygdala is activated, our IQ drops 10-15 pointsRealigning your nervous system through grounding techniques helps restore logical thinkingQuestion what "normal" means to youDeciding intentionally what you want your life to look like gives you powerConsider whether you want to return to your old definition of normal or create something new  If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep211

Divorce throws your emotions into overdrive, with stress levels soaring as you navigate uncertainty and major life changes. But what if one powerful stress-reduction technique isn't about better coping mechanisms, but rather dismantling a fundamental belief most women carry? The distinction between being "nice" and being "kind" holds transformative power for women going through divorce. I'm going to walk you through the societal conditioning that pressures women to be nice—putting everyone else's comfort before our own, staying silent to avoid rocking the boat, enduring unacceptable behavior to avoid being labeled difficult—actually increases our stress and disconnects us from our intuition when we need it most. You'll see how niceness keeps us small and stressed, while kindness—speaking our truth, setting boundaries, honoring our values—creates authentic connection and reduces anxiety.  You'll learn:Divorce creates immense stress due to uncertainty, worry, and emotional overwhelmWomen are conditioned in our patriarchal system to be nice over everything elseBeing nice means putting yourself last, forgetting yourself, and sometimes putting yourself in dangerNice behavior turns us into people-pleasers who don't advocate for our own needsBeing kind means being honest, using your voice, and setting clear boundariesKindness involves speaking up when things are uncomfortable or unacceptableStart with small steps to replace niceness with kindness in specific situationsAs you practice kindness over niceness, your stress levels will naturally decreaseBuilding courage to be kind helps align your brain, body, and intuitionThis practice helps reconnect you to your wholeness and integrity after divorceIf this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep210

With all that is going in Teresa's life with her new normal of being married to someone who has a $2.7M tax debt and $1.25M personal loan, we find today the perfect day to offer some divorce advice to Ms. Giudice and share a financial, romantic and career plan for the future. Albeit unsolicited, we suggest she listen.  In other RHONJ news, we address all the stories that have come out over the past few weeks regarding Jennifer Aydin - she let Tre borrow $500K - her and Bill have declared bankruptcy - breaking down the true origins of the stories, separating truth from fiction and reveal the details behind Ms. Aydin's recent dinner with the TreHugger's Queen.  Finally, Erika Jayne seems to be up to her old tricks, no pun intended, as she faces new legal troubles and, as the RHOBH season closes out, prepares for what may be a rough Season 15 when production begins later this year.  @behindvelvetrope @davidyontef Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever felt like someone's psychological slave, as if every thought you have, you must worry what someone in your life is going to think or feel? If you have ever loved a narcissist, you may have slowly lost yourself overtime and not even realized it until you felt like you were going crazy or like you were losing your mind. A narcissist lives in a very unique fantasy world, in their mind, and you are merely an actor in their play. You do not exist as an autonomous 3D human being, with your own unique beliefs, needs, expectations, emotions or opinions, at least not in their heads you don't. No, you play a role in their life and whether you realize it or not, in their eyes, you are their psychological slave and you are to bend when they blow. Lisa A. Romano, a breakthrough life coach, and expert in codependency and narcissistic abuse recovery, clearly explains in this episode how a narcissist uses their perception as a weapon of manipulation against you. Additionally, a special warning goes out to those who struggle with self-doubt, low self-worth, and the need to be understood, needed, and who identify as codependent. You have been conditioned since childhood to seek validation outside yourself to feel worthy. Dear One, you are a prime target for narcissistic abuse.  Listen good! In this episode Lisa is going to help you develop that stainless steel spine all codependents and those who have been psychologically manipulated by narcissists need to strive for on their transformation journey from inner wounds to inner strength.  Work with Lisa here: Codependency Recovery Accelerator Apply for her VIP Mastermind Groups VIP Mastermind Group Coaching Listen to One of Lisa's Books for Free Books  Join Lisa in Person at the Art of Living Center in May 3 Day Inner Child Retreat

Most women going through divorce don't realize they've been living in codependent relationships, desperately seeking external validation rather than trusting their inherent worth. In this transformative episode, I introduce you to a powerful reframing of codependence as "emotional outsourcing" as coined by Beatriz Victoria Albina - the habit of chronically seeking our sense of value from everyone and everything outside ourselves. This pattern didn't emerge from nowhere. From girlhood, we're conditioned to believe our purpose is making others comfortable, prioritizing everyone else's needs, and feeling guilty when we put ourselves first. The devastating message? You're not complete until you fulfill your "duties" as a woman. This harmful programming creates the belief that you're somehow broken or unworthy - especially when your marriage ends. Here's the liberating truth: We can replace emotional outsourcing with a deep, unshakable knowledge of our inherent worth. But contrary to what you might think, the goal isn't complete independence. True healing comes through interdependence - knowing your worth from within while maintaining meaningful connections where you give from abundance rather than obligation. Ready to stop believing you're broken? Your journey to wholeness begins with recognizing your worth isn't determined by anyone else. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep209

One of the most emotional and financially complex decisions in divorce is what to do with the marital home. This property often represents security, stability, and normalcy—especially with children involved. However, the decision to keep or sell the marital home comes with significant financial and legal implications that many people, and even attorneys, may overlook. In this episode, we'll explore the pros and cons of keeping the marital home, the risks of co-owning after divorce, and the challenges of selling or buying out a spouse's share. We'll also discuss what the monied spouse should consider in a buyout, financial hurdles for the lesser-monied spouse, and key mortgage considerations. Plus, we'll touch on the role of alimony, child support, and how high interest rates impact real estate decisions in divorce. Join Jeff Landers, a divorce real estate expert with 40 years of experience, as he shares valuable insights to help you navigate the complexities of the marital home during divorce—ensuring you make the best decision for your financial future. Connect with Jeff: How To Keep Your Martial Home So You Can Move On, Not Out®: https://divorcehousesense.com/ - Enter JBD at checkout for your $2 OFF coupon  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jefflanders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DivorceHouseSense/ Journey Beyond Divorce Resources: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg A word from our sponsor: TalkingParents provides a comprehensive platform designed to simplify co-parenting and enhance communication between parents. With secure messaging, a shared calendar, and features for tracking parenting time, TalkingParents ensures that all important details and agreements are documented and accessible.  We're grateful for TalkingParents' support in simplifying co-parenting and enhancing communication for our listeners. Discover how TalkingParents can bring clarity and organization to your co-parenting journey at www.talkingparents.com/jbd

Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you.Divorce can feel overwhelming—even when faith is a big part of your life. Many people turn to their church for guidance, but what if you don't feel comfortable talking to your pastor? What if the advice you're given doesn't match up with what you know is best for you and your family? What is there is abuse?  In this episode, Kelly Bennett, Esq., continues her conversation with Denny Brewer—a longtime family law attorney, Executive Pastor, and General Counsel at Fellowship Church in Grapevine, Texas. They explore what faith communities often get wrong—and right—when it comes to divorce (hint: especially if there is abuse involved), how to navigate faith-based guilt, what to do if your place of worship isn't the right fit for support, and why mediation can be the best choice for handling divorce for privacy and mental (and financial!) well-being reasons. Kelly and Denny chat about:Why many people feel uncomfortable discussing divorce with their faith leaders Why pastors and religious leaders should ask, “Is there abuse?”How abuse can go unmentioned and lead to tragedy When to seek professional guidance outside of your faith community Why mediation is often a better option than going to court Why there is no better time to embrace faith and lean into prayer than during divorce Plus, a couple of very surprising stories… Dennis Brewer is longtime family law attorney, and executive pastor and general counsel at Texas mega Church Fellowship Church in Grapevine, Texas. He is the co-author of the new book, Back to Court: A Complete Guide to Child Custody Litigation.  Note: This episode touches on abuse and real-life incidents with unfortunate endings. If these subjects are difficult for you, please listen with care. RESOURCES:DENNY BREWER'S BOOK: Back to Court: A Complete Guide to Child Custody Litigation. WATCH ON YOUTUBE: The Splitting Smart PodcastFOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM:  Instagram.com/saperelawfirmJOIN THE CONVERSATION ON FACEBOOK:  Facebook.com/saperelawfirmNEED QUALITY LEGAL HELP? Visit Sapere Law & MediationNEED SOME ENCOURAGMENT? Kelly wrote a book just for YOU: Victim Is Not Your Name: Remembering Your True Identity In the Midst of Life Challenges

Do you think you might love, know, or be related to someone who is a narcissist or exhibits narcissistic traits? Loving someone with a high-conflict personality can change you in ways you never expected. One thing you might do that keeps you stuck is hoping they will change. You can drain yourself trying to connect with them, seeking resolution, or negotiating a middle ground. However, you will ultimately realize their consistent pattern of being completely unresponsive, dismissive and revengeful to your request for fairness. In this episode of Breakdown to Breakthrough with Lisa A. Romano, the #1 bestselling author of The Road Back to Me and a coach specializing in codependency and narcissistic abuse, you will gain powerful insights into her deep understanding of the complexities of the narcissistic personality and its impact on your life, spirit, psyche, and world. It's time to grow beyond the limits codependency, childhood trauma responses and narcissistic abuse has had on your life.  Are you a action oriented, goal minded, self motivated person who is ready to shatter the ceilings of limiting beliefs created by adverse childhood experiences? And do you ache for deep transformation and are you willing to commit to healing your mind, body and soul at the most profound level so you can take your innate talents and bless them with the world? If so, you might be the perfect candidate for Lisa's VIP Conscious Healers Mastermind Group.  To learn more, contact Lisa at coach@lisaaromano.com to learn more.  Embark on the path to conscious awakening, emotional healing, and transformation with Lisa's Conscious Healing Academy, which includes a 3 tier coaching system that assists with one's awakening, emotional intelligence, and mental and emotional mastery.  12 Week Breakthrough Program (Level One - The Awakening) 8 Week Master Your Reality (Level 2 -- Deliberate Creating) Soul School - (Level Three -- Ascending Ego) Website Spotify Listen for Free Facebook Support Group

Why do codependents seem to attract emotionally unavailable partners while unknowingly pushing away healthy, loving individuals? In this episode, Lisa A. Romano unpacks the subconscious patterns rooted in childhood that drive these relationship dynamics. You'll learn how unresolved wounds from emotional neglect, abandonment, or inconsistent love set the stage for repeating toxic cycles in adulthood. Codependent people live in a box, and until they breakthrough codependency, which resides as a pattern and paradigm in the subconscious minds, it is not possible to live an authentic life.  Through self understanding and practical insights, we explore: How the need to feel "needed" blinds codependents to red flags. Why healthy partners may feel too "boring" or unfamiliar. The role of self-worth and inner child healing in breaking these patterns. Steps to begin attracting the right partners by cultivating self-awareness and self-love. If you've ever wondered why you feel drawn to partners who repeat the pain of your past or struggle to trust when someone truly loves you, this episode is for you. Resources: The 12 Week Breakthrough Program Free Inner Child Healing Resource Join The Breakthrough Warrior Membership Ready to start healing and attract the love you deserve? Tune in to discover actionable steps for overcoming codependent patterns and stepping into your power. Don't forget to share this episode with someone who might need it, and leave a review to help others find this content. #CodependencyRecovery #InnerChildHealing #HealthyRelationships