Podcast appearances and mentions of cindy wang brandt

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Play Episode Listen Later Jun 20, 2022 17:37

Summer is a busy season when you're in the church. There are lots of family activities going on, childcare to work out, and, of course, VBS. Because we're nearing VBS season, I thought it'd be a good time to talk about whether or not you should send your kids to VBS. Even more so, I want to discuss the bigger question of how we can protect our kids from toxic religion. We must learn how to equip our kids to navigate the world of faith and thought beyond our homes and what that may look like in our day-to-day lives. So, in this episode, I'm going to share all of my thoughts on VBS. Tune in to hear an overview of what exactly VBS is, its purpose and goals, and whether or not I think you should send your kids to it. Show Highlights: A summary of VBS. The evangelical aspects of VBS. Why I find VBS to be predatory. The genuine and positive aspects of VBS. The nuanced aspects of whether or not you should send your kids to VBS. How to prepare your kids if they are going to VBS. How to soothe your own inner child when your kids start getting involved in church activities. How to help your kids spot religious red flags. How to be a good resource to your kids. Links (affiliates included): Help keep the podcast going by joining the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt Parenting After Religious Trauma Membership - https://cindy-brandt.mykajabi.com/partmembership Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/3g0LJPn You Are Revolutionary - https://www.beamingbooks.com/store/product/9781506478302/You-Are-Revolutionary *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.

25: Parenting Forward with Cindy Wang Brandt

THREADS

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 6, 2022 42:59

Raising children is hard enough without juggling your own spiritual crisis. That's why this conversation with author, and parent, Cindy Wang Brandt is so refreshing. In this conversation, Cindy shares her expertise and insights from her best-selling book, Parenting Forward: How to Raise Children with Justice, Mercy and Kindness. *New episodes release every other Monday *Connect with Keith on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Visit the blog at keithgiles.com

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The Relief Grief Sandwich - Cindy Wang Brandt

Deconstructing Mamas

Play Episode Listen Later May 17, 2022 43:14

"Parenting may be less about raising our children and more about raising ourselves. It compels us to break our own cycles of shame and pain as we bring healing to our own childhood."In this episode on the Deconstructing Mamas podcast, Cindy Wang Brandt, author of that quote, cohost on the Parenting Forward podcast and author of Parenting Forward, really digs deep into the subject of religious trauma and how that plays out in parenting. How can we heal ourselves, make good boundaries with our families of origin and give ourselves grace and space in the process? SHOW NOTES:Cindy is the guru when it comes to deconstructing and parenting. She is a wife to one and a mom to two. She has done the hard work of helping parents unpack and heal from their own religious trauma so they can raise children with healthy spirituality.This podcast episode is packed full of so many nuggets of wisdom, but Cindy breaks it all down super practically. So if you are starting this journey or are in the middle or even far along, this podcast episode has something special just for you.Facebook: Parenting Forward Raising Children Unfundamentalist GroupInstagram: @parentingforward Twitter: @cindywangbrandtWebsite: www.cindywangbrandt.comParenting Forward ConferenceSPECIAL MENTIONS:Pete Enns

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LIVE Q&A SERIES // Sensitive kids and how to build resilience, attunement + self-love

Upbringing

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2022 49:52

Thank you for a great convo!Parenting is revolutionary and the way we treat our kids can change the world. Last chance to enroll in the virtual Parenting Forward Conference, beginning April 25th! We loved connecting with Cindy Wang Brandt about how to support sensitive kids. The conference also hosts some of our favorite parenting leaders of all time: Mr. Chazz, Rosalia Rivera, Jen Lumanlan, Shelly Robinson, Leslie Priscilla Arreola-Hillenbrand and Vivek Patel, among others -- Learn from experts and join the revolution! Virtual Conference topics:- Raising Sensitive Children- Preventing Childhood Abuse- Helping Kids Develop Socio-Emotional Tools- 3 Things You Need to Know about the Teenage Brain- Repairing Parenting Mistakes- Advocating for Trans Families- Representing Marginalized Stories in Children's Lit- Taming Your Triggers- Reparenting Yourself- Parenting the Early Years- Befriending Anger and Grief in Parenting- Breaking Cycles of Traditional ParentingEnroll in the Parenting Forward Conference, beginning April 25th!Looking for some support for challenges within mealtime, bedtime, hygiene, transitions, big feelings, resistance, screentime, homework, sibling conflict, anxiety, yelling, mean words and more?TUNE IN and VISIT OUR WEBSITE to build skills in:

THE 10 WAYS WE PARENT FOR SANITY + SOCIAL CHANGE!

Upbringing

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2022 46:51

Today's episode is a re-airing of one of our top podcasts where we explore 10 ways we are attempting to parent for sanity and social change through our discipline. We'll be on a quick spring break and back to you all soon!Parenting is revolutionary and the way we treat our kids can change the world. Last chance to enroll in the virtual Parenting Forward Conference, beginning April 25th! We loved connecting with Cindy Wang Brandt about how to support sensitive kids. The conference also hosts some of our favorite parenting leaders of all time: Mr. Chazz, Rosalia Rivera, Jen Lumanlan, Shelly Robinson, Leslie Priscilla Arreola-Hillenbrand and Vivek Patel, among others -- Learn from experts and join the revolution! Virtual Conference topics:- Raising Sensitive Children- Preventing Childhood Abuse- Helping Kids Develop Socio-Emotional Tools- 3 Things You Need to Know about the Teenage Brain- Repairing Parenting Mistakes- Advocating for Trans Families- Representing Marginalized Stories in Children's Lit- Taming Your Triggers- Reparenting Yourself- Parenting the Early Years- Befriending Anger and Grief in Parenting- Breaking Cycles of Traditional ParentingEnroll in the Parenting Forward Conference, beginning April 25th!#DoTheWork #SpiritedKids #AntiracistParenting #ParentingTips #Reparenting #RespectfulParenting #RIE #ConsciousParenting #Parenting #FeministParenting #GentleParenting #PositiveDiscipline #Selfhealers #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfImprovement #RaisingTheFutureDisclaimer: Hannah & Kelty are parenting coaches and do not work in a professional therapist's or MD capacity to diagnose or treat mental health disorders. They cannot advise parents on issues such as drug addiction, eating disorders, self-harm, severe psychiatric disorders, child abuse, assault, etc. Work with us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.Relevant Links:- Our Freedoms Model- Our RESIST Approach- Our Shop - GUIDES + PRINTS!- Our Resources Page- Our Coaching page- Amber Okamura, Upbringing's Artist- Mary Schroeder, Upbringing's Letterer- Alex Olavarria, our producer, musician, editor + husband/brother in lawVisit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you're doin', so get in touch -- we're better together.Email us: info@upbringing.coFollow Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.coJoin us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.

143: Parenting is Revolutionary w/ Cindy Wang Brandt

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Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2022 17:25

Parenting is revolutionary because it not only changes your perspective as a parent but it also impacts your perspective of your kids. Parenting is not just for parents but for anyone who wants to see a better world, not only for the children but for all of us that co-exist. Parenting is revolutionary because it changes us. It evolves us and it demands that we become better people. In this episode, we talk about the five reasons why parenting is revolutionary. One essential thing to note is how parenting teaches us to manage our triggers because the things our kids do that tend to push our buttons aren't necessarily our kids' fault. Instead, they are triggering something inside of us that needs healing, perhaps a past traumatic experience or simply the everyday trauma of living in an unkind world. Just the mere resurfacing of what needs to be healed inside of us is revolutionary! Show Highlights: Learning and unlearning relationship habits Re-parenting our inner child Preventing childhood adverse effects Managing your triggers Drawing better boundaries between your issues and your children's behavior Being parents to our society's children If only adults could just play more… What to expect from the Parenting is Revolutionary Conference Links (affiliates included): Parenting is Revolutionary Conference: https://www.parentingforwardconference.com Register with the discount code: PFPOD for 20% off!! Parenting After Religious Trauma Membership - https://cindy-brandt.mykajabi.com/partmembership Help keep the podcast going by joining the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/3g0LJPn1Little You Are Revolutionary - https://www.beamingbooks.com/store/product/9781506478302/You-Are-Revolutionary *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know I sent you.

Parenting After Religious Trauma + Sex Positive Parenting With Cindy Wang Brandt

BEautifully Unwinding

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2022 53:38

On the podcast today is Cindy Wang Brandt. Cindy helps parents unpack and heal from their religious trauma so they can raise children with healthy spirituality. She is the author of two books, Parenting Forward and You are Revolutionary, the host of the Parenting Forward Podcast, Parenting Forward Conference, creator of the PART (parenting after religious trauma) community and passionate about raising awareness on the topic of sex positive parenting. During this episode we explore: Healing from religious trauma while navigating parenting Toxic proselytization of children Sex positive parenting - tools to overcome sex negativity How the greatest gift we can give our children is to focus on our own healing And so much more! Thank you so much for listening in today for being open to the curiosity of what healing might look like for you. If this conversation has you curious and wanting more you can find Cindy's contact information in the links above or the show notes below. In addition, I have created a FREE journal prompt pdf to help you breakthrough the cycles that are causing you to feel stuck! - to access click > FREE JOURNAL PDF : BEautifully Unwind One Page at a Time Have a magical day my friends! CONNECT WITH Cindy Instagram: @parentingforward Website: https://cindywangbrandt.com/ CONNECT WITH TISHA Instagram : @beautifullyunwinding Blog: www.beautifullyunwinding.com Subscribe to the BEautifully Unwinding Podcast so you never miss one of these powerful and impactful conversations. *By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, including but not limited to patients that you are treating. Consult your own physician for any medical issues that you may be having.

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You are REVOLUTIONARY

KIDS CORNER PODCAST

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2022 8:06

Let's read together. Today's book is called You are revolutionary by Cindy Wang Brandt

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GUEST SERIES // H+K on The Parenting Forward Podcast - Raising Spirited + Sensitive Kids

Upbringing

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2022 47:15

Tune in for our interview with Cindy Wang Brandt of the Parenting Forward Podcast and parenting community!In this episode we talked about: How Upbringing came to be. Why we should talk about kids on a spectrum of diversity that's related to their sensitivity and spiritedness. What sensitivity and spiritedness mean. Why we need to accept our kids exactly as they are. How to simultaneously self-regulate and teach your children how to regulate themselves. How to navigate your resentment towards your kids' freedom. How to teach your kids to be fully themselves in a world with social constructs. Why your most important job as a parent is to teach your kids self-awareness. Why we need to redefine safety as former people-pleasers. What consent-based parenting is and how to practice it. Why parenting isn't about perfection but repairing connecting. The Parenting Forward podcast features interviews with thought leaders from progressive faith and non-faith spaces, resources to create better practices in parenting and life with children. They believe parenting is revolutionary, that if we change the way we parent, we can change the world. Follow Cindy and her amazing work!Parenting Forward's websiteParenting Forward on InstagramParenting Forward Podcast on AppleALSO........March small group coaching is now open for enrollment! Do you struggle with supporting your kids' big feelings and challenging behaviors in a calm and productive way?Join us Mondays at 11-1pm PST or 6-8pm PST!You'll receive:✔️4 coaching sessions with Hannah & Kelty✔️2 hrs per weekly session (recording emailed)✔️7 families to commiserate + connect with✔️LIVE Resources, discounts + more!DOORS CLOSE SOON! If you're looking for some support in showing up for your brilliant / infuriating kids, join us while there's still space! ✨ Learn more and sign up: www.upbringing.co/smallgroupcoachingRelevant Links:- Our Freedoms Model- Our RESIST Approach- Our Shop - GUIDES + PRINTS!- Our Resources Page- Our Coaching page- Amber Okamura, Upbringing's Artist- Mary Schroeder, Upbringing's Letterer- Alex Olavarria, our producer, musician, editor + husband/brother in lawVisit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you're doin', so get in touch -- we're better together.Email us: info@upbringing.coFollow Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.coJoin us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.

Episode 180: Cindy Wang Brandt (Instant Replay, Part 14)

What If Project

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 29, 2021 46:03

This week we look back on my conversation with Cindy Wang Brandt and in the intro I reflect on the part of our conversation where she gave me some very helpful advice regarding a question I had about my daughter. This is a good one! SHOW NOTES: PATREON - https://www.patreon.com/whatifproject BUY ME A COFFEE - https://www.buymeacoffee.com/whatifproject YOUTUBE - https://www.youtube.com/c/whatifprojectpodcast HERETIC SHOP - https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-heretic-shop/ JOIN THE COMMUNITY - https://www.facebook.com/groups/whatifprojectcommunity CINDY WANG BRANDT - https://cindywangbrandt.com PARENTING FORWARD - https://cindywangbrandt.com/parenting-forward/ SPECIAL MUSIC (FORREST CLAY) - https://music.apple.com/us/artist/forrest-clay/1488272740

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Parenting After Purity Culture

Straight White American Jesus

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2021 38:03

Brad takes a break from Mild at Heart to talk to writer, podcaster, and organizer Cindy Wang Brandt, the person behind Parenting Forward. Cindy discusses her journey from Evangelical convert to the go-to person helping folks navigate parenthood after deconstruction and in the wake of purity culture. Her new children's book, You Are Revolutionary, provides an inspiring child-affirming message that is poignant and timely. You are Revolutionary: https://www.beamingbooks.com/store/product/9781506478302/You-Are-Revolutionary Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://swaj.supportingcast.fm

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Errand Hang Fun Times!

Tiny Victories

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 21, 2021 15:44

Description: This week's topic was inspired by tweets posted by Cindy Wang Brandt and Annika Hansteen-Izora. They are fans of “The Errand Hang”, and so is Laura House, who has been doing it for years. She and Annabelle get into the psychology of why errand hangs are so fun, and we hear from House's bff Lovelys. Things You Should Stop Worrying About This Week How many millions of boxes of Girl Scout cookies remain unsoldhttps://www.tampabay.com/news/florida/2021/06/11/city-of-brooksville-accidentally-sells-its-water-tower/The 113 countries whose dogs have been banned from entering the U.S.This week's episode is sponsored by Owl Crate Jr.Save 15% off on your first subscription or non-renewing gift of Owl Crate Jr., with the code TINY at checkout.Do YOU have a tiny victory to share? Call the Tiny Victories Hotline: (323) 285-1675We want folks to share their tiny victories on our hotline because, frankly, we'll assume we're just talking into the void every week and nothing matters. Prove us wrong. Did you finally do that thing you were putting off? Tiny victory! Reconnect with someone you haven't been in touch with for ages? Victory! We only ask that you try to keep messages to under a minute so we're able to play it on the show.If you prefer, you can record a tiny victory on your phone and then email us the audio.Email: TinyVictories@maximumfun.orgHOW TO @ USTwitter@GetTinyPod@LAGurwitch@ImLauraHouse@Swish (producer Laura Swisher)Instagram@GetTinyPod

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Raising Humans - pt. 6 w/ Cindy Wang Brandt

Vinings Lake Church

Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2021 44:59

Author of "Parenting Forward" and special guest speaker Cindy Wang Brandt joins us for pt. 6 of Raising Humans: A Brief Guide to Parenting. We are all shaping the generation behind us. They are all watching and listening to everything we say and do. The question is, “How are we shaping them?” What are we passing off to them? For many, this reality creates enormous anxiety and worry. So we devour parenting books and podcasts looking for an owner’s manual. But the truth is there is no one right way to parent. In this series, we will sit down with actual parents and explore new, creative, and healthy ways to talk to our kids about God, religion, sex, gender, inclusion, death, justice, racism, money, boundaries, and discipline. We will learn how to worry well and not pass our own anxieties off to our kids. And we will explore how to raise humans to be who they are, not who we want them to be.

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Episode 261: Cindy Wang Brandt | Raising Kids While Your Faith is Evolving

Surviving Sarah

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 20, 2021 48:54

I am happy to welcome to the table Cindy Wang Brandt. She is an author, podcaster and host of the Parenting Forward conferences. A friend told me about her years ago and since then I’ve read her book, Parenting Forward, and always enjoy her podcast by the same name. We recorded conversation while I was hunkered down in the safest room in the house during a tornado. You guys, if that isn’t commitment to you then I don’t know what it is. In this conversation, we talk about how to create a space for kids to cultivate their own spirituality, advice on how to raise kids without unnecessary shame in regards to their sexuality and how to raise citizens of the world—that is, how to help shape conscious kids. Check out bonus content from today's episode over on Patreon. Sign up for Sarah's monthly Survival Kit Newsletter Connect with Sarah: Website | Instagram

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Providing our Children Spiritual Consent (with Cindy Wang Brand)

The Kate and Colby Show

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2021 85:35

Joining the show this week is author, podcaster, and revolution starter, Cindy Wang Brandt! (https://cindywangbrandt.com) Cindy has stirred up all sorts of good, holy trouble in the world of parenting--specifically as it relates to trying to raise children without the baggage of religious fundamentalism. We (Kate & Colby) can't get enough of important conversations around raising children to be compassionate, kind, and emotionally balanced. We were amazed at how much alignment Cindy and us have when it comes to treating kids as fully human worthy of respect, and trust, and freedom. We highly recommend Cindy's book, Parenting Forward, for all you Progressive Christian parents out there! https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Forward-Children-Justice-Kindness/dp/080287603X ---- Other Segments in this Episode VIEWER CHECK-IN: What do you wish you knew THEN that you know NOW as a parent? WHAT'S GIVING YOU LIFE? Kate shares about the book, "See No Stranger" (https://www.amazon.com/See-No-Stranger-Manifesto-Revolutionary/dp/0525509097) and Colby shares about the book, "Hunting Magic Eels" (https://www.amazon.com/Hunting-Magic-Eels-Recovering-Enchanted/dp/1506464653) ---- Support The Kate & Colby Show financially at: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/kateandcolby Other ways to Support: Subscribe to our channel on Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPECswRcM6SUr-bwUNwuX_A Like us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kateandcolby follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kateandcolby Get our newsletter at: https://www.thekateandcolbyshow.com and always know what's up and what's coming up!

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The Christian Soulmate Fallacy--Response to Timothy Keller

Straight White American Jesus

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2021 36:24

Brad responds to a Twitter thread by Timothy Keller, pastor at Redeemer Presbyterian Church. Keller argues for sex in a lifelong covenant marked by deep permanent union. He calls this biblical. Brad points out that the only biblical soulmate story we have of this kind is between God and Israel, which is a problematic example since God is both Israel's Husband AND maker. How do you have consent and symmetry if your spouse is your creator? He then shows that the soulmate myth Keller is advancing comes from Plato, not the Bible. And this non-biblical source of biblical sexual ethics is problematic for Keller because it includes same-sex soulmates and is articulated by a comic poet. In other words, it's meant to be a joke. Shoutout to Cindy Wang Brandt in this episode! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/straightwhiteamericanjesu/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/straightwhiteamericanjesu/support

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Cindy Wang Brandt on Raising Liberated Children

Huckleberry Gin

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 9, 2021 52:48

Cindy Wang Brandt is an author of "Parenting Forward," the parenting manual for social justice minded parents, and "You Are Revolutionary," a children's book releasing this October. She is a thought leader in progressive parenting, conference organizer, podcaster, and so much more.We talk about how to raise liberated children, how to have empathy on our children AND ourselves while parenting in a pandemic, and how to be an anti-racist parent. Then Carly forces Cindy into the role of therapist and projects all her fears and shame as a writer on her. Check out Cindy's Parenting Group on Facebook, and find her on Twitter at @cindywangbrandt or her website. For the mock-tail recipe inspired by Cindy that Carly makes with her daughter, head to @huckleberryginbar on Instagram.

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A Conversation With Cindy Wang Brandt

The Talk

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2021 44:32 Transcription Available

Parenting Forward's Cindy Wang Brandt is a writer, podcaster, speaker, and conference host who has built a valuable community around the concept of parenting with a focus on spirituality but absent of religious dogma. Cindy and I sat down for an informal conversation and discussed our podcasts, being brought up in church (and then leaving church), how our own parents influence our relationships with our kids, and what it means to strive to raise kids who are socially, globally, and culturally conscious human beings. You can find Cindy's work at cindywangbrandt.com, and be sure to check out her facebook group, Raising Children Unfundamentalist, a wonderful community for folks who want to parent in healthy moral and ethical ways, without the structures and strictures of organized religion. You can find "The Talk" on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter, and If you'd like to contribute to the conversation by sharing your story about one of our episode topics, you can do so by sending a voice memo or an email to thetalk@thetalkthepodcast.com. Support the show (http://www.buymeacoffee.com/CoffeeTalks)

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Episode 31: No Wes Andersons Were Harmed in the Making of This Podcast

The Trauma Club Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 16, 2021 94:23

In this episode, we catch up with each other after taking a break for a few weeks. Doug struggles to think of the word "pretentious," Vanessa places a moratorium on "Wes Anderson," we wonder about how "foreign exchange students" work and if they're still a thing, we make fun of the 90s, we trade ADHD stories, and we talk about the difficulty of managing relationships when depressed. Vanessa decided she's going to try to start listening to more podcasts, so Doug provided the following recommendations: Queery with Cameron Esposito, Sounds Fake But Okay, Parenting Forward with Cindy Wang Brandt, The Good Ancestor Podcast, and Narrative Therapy: An Animated Conversation. [TRIGGER WARNINGS: cultural appropriation, seasonal depression, misogyny, and grooming] This episode was recorded on February 10, 2021.

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090 - Cindy Wang Brandt - Parenting As You Deconstruct

The Phil Drysdale Show

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 16, 2020 112:22

Cindy Wang Brandt is the genius behind Parenting Forward. She helps parents who are deconstructing and unraveling religious trauma to raise their kids well. In this episode we cover so much great stuff on how to navigate deconstruction and still be a great parent and come out with some amazing well rounded kids. We talk about what spirituality is and how important it is to raise children with autonomy. We also look at some fascinating ideas like - does being a parent of younger children cause you to go through deconstruction quicker? Cindy's website is - https://cindywangbrandt.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/parentingforward/ And her amazing Raising Children Unfundamentalist Facebook group is here - https://www.facebook.com/groups/rcugroup If you want to watch these podcasts you can do so on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/phildrysdale If you'd like to connect with others deconstructing in your area check out https://www.thedeconstructionnetwork.com If you'd like to support what I'm doing by putting out all my content for free head over to https://www.phildrysdale.com/partner

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Security and Clarity w/ Cindy Wang Brandt

Dirty Rotten Church Kids

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2020 106:27

This week we speak to Cindy Wang Brandt (Author! Podcaster! Speaker!). We discuss parenting after leaving evangelicalism, re-framing how we see children and raising our family like a playground. Cindy answers questions from the Bad Apples and reminds us of the permission we have during and post-deconstruction. Brought to you by 'Spectators to Their Becoming', the DRCK/WB collaboration album. Cindy Wang Brandthttps://cindywangbrandt.com/ Aspen Green (use promo code BADAPPLE)www.aspengreen.com Leefy Organics(use promo code BADAPPLE)www.leefyorganics.com Dirty Rotten Merchhttps://teespring.com/stores/dirtyrottenchurchkids

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007: Surviving Deconstruction w/ Cindy Wang Brandt

Existential Happy Hour

Play Episode Play 30 sec Highlight Listen Later Oct 14, 2020 58:18

In this episode, I talk with Cindy Wang Brandt about deconstruction, deconversion, how to make it through intact, and what life looks like on the other side of it all. We get into religious trauma, choosing your own story, and learning to live a life of authenticity and agency in a world devoid of inherent meaning. Links:Website: CindyWangBrandt.comBook: Parenting ForwardPodcast: Parenting ForwardFacebook Group: Raising Children UnfundamentalistTwitter: @cindywangbrandt

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#57 Cindy Wang Brandt- Dont Screw Up Your Kids!

Christianity Without the Crap - Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2020 57:15

Cindy Wang Brandt helps parents heal from their religious trauma, so they can raise children with a healthy spirituality. She helps parents avoid screwing up their kids with negative religion! Even if you don’t have kids, this episode will help you understand your own upbringing and spiritual trauma. https://cindywangbrandt.com Donate at:www.patreon.com/christianitywithoutthecrap Facebook: www.facebook.com/christianitywithoutthecrap Email: cwoc.mark@gmail.com cwoc.tammy@gmail.com

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Episode 39 - Raising Children to Be Just, Merciful and Kind

Relationship Rewire

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 28, 2020

Cindy Wang Brandt joins Jon R Anderson to discuss her new book: “Parenting Forward”. Many of the commonly accepted parenting practices of Millennials, Gen Xers, and Baby Boomers were actually harmful to their children, leaving them with heightened challenges in relationships and greater difficulty navigating their environment in a way that is loving, kind and just. The ideas discussed here are crucial for parents raising babies and toddlers, and continued to be applied for life.

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Episode 39 - Raising Children to Be Just, Merciful and Kind

Relationship Rewire

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 28, 2020

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My Son has an Autism Spectrum Disorder: An Interview with Chrissy Brack

Handle with Care: Empathy at Work

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 31, 2020 48:56

- Chrissy Brack But if you want to know what it's like to be a special needs parent, it's pretty much like this year all the time, in a way, maybe with like less threat of death around every corner. Like there's not like that that like pandemic piece of it. But as far as the amount of hurdles and unknowns and what's going to happen and what's that going to look like and how do I even put anything into place to get through? We'll make a plan for one week and then everything changes the next week. Right. That's pretty typical for us, I would say, for how it's been the entire time from really the time I would say my son was two until now. INTRO Today, we are going to hear from Chrissy Brack about mothering a child on the autism spectrum: the challenges, the recalibration, the joy, and how it has transformed her as a person. Chrissy sees herself as an advocate for her son and her voice is just one of the many parents out there walking a similar journey. But Chrissy, more than anything, told me that she looks forward to handing her son the proverbial mic more and more. I learned so much in this episode and I am excited to share it with you. But first, a little bit more about Chrissy. Chrissy was a year behind me at college and we began to spend time together in Cuba, where we converged during a study abroad program. - Liesel Mertes So, Chrissy, you and I met on I think it was a trip to Cuba, like I have memories of you in Havana, which is a really cool way that we met. We met on a trip to Havana. - Chrissy Brack It's true. That is a true fact of this relationship. Chrissy was a Spanish major, which meant that she knew much more of what was going on than I did as a poly-sci major. Chrissy is now a music teacher, she runs a small studio in Fishers, Indiana where she teaches violin and the piano, although her work has definitely been affected by the demands of COVID. She also teaches music, part-time, at a local school. - Liesel Mertes So what led you to in your mid 30s teaching music from your Spanish degree? - Chrissy Brack I came to music almost by an accident. I've been a musician my whole life and I was staying at home with my son. And there was a post in my neighborhood Facebook group at the time where someone asked if there was anybody or if anybody knew anybody who could teach her step daughter piano. Although Chrissy had never formally taught, she answered the ad and begun. She has been busy ever since, with a long waitlist. - Chrissy Brack And I love working for myself and I love getting to pick really how my schedule can fit around my kids and what they need from me. Chrissy is the mother of two boys, Sam and Joe. Joe is the oldest and he is on the autism spectrum, which asks a particular level of care. But Joe is much more than a data point on a spectrum of autism. - Liesel Mertes what are some of the wonderful things that you delight in about Joe? - Chrissy Brack One of the best things about Joe is that. He engages with every single person as if they have the same amount of societal weight, intelligence attributes like whatever it is, or like we think of everybody in these boxes of power and structure and hierarchy and like that person smarter than me or, oh, wow, I get way more done than someone else does in a day or like, oh, I need to get to know this person because they can help me further some of my career goals or all this other stuff. - Chrissy Brack And because he doesn't buy into all the society B.S.. Right. Like it doesn't like, why would he think the mayor is more important than the garbage man or anything else like that? Doesn't make any sense to him and is truly beautiful to witness and to see. And I really love that about him. And he's the kindest human probably in part because of that, because he really wants everyone to feel love and accepted for who they are. Joe is eager and inquisitive, but Chrissy knew, early on, that there was something that wasn’t quite typical about Joe. - Chrissy Brack So somewhere in there, in those young toddler years and I remember sitting there and just saying that I wasn't really sure what was going on, but it wasn't registering to me as what I would have described as normal, which is not a word I love, but just that something is different and I don't really know why. And I had a doctor after doctor tell me that my child was fine and that he was on track and I had nothing to be concerned about. - Chrissy Brack And then I kept pushing and pushing until we got to see a specialist. And then when my son was four, we received an autism diagnosis. It was two years of visits to all sorts of specialists before Joe was given a diagnosis. He was bright, vocal, and loved to play. - Liesel Mertes And just because, you know, there might be those listening who are in their own kind of discernment process. You mentioned, you know, this is this is a child who's taught themselves to read. They're very verbal. And yet there were still some lingering behaviors. What, what were those things that you said? Oh, yeah. This specifically is causing me to continue in this process. - Chrissy Brack What we would probably, as parents just describe as tantrums. But in a way, especially now that I've had what is considered a typical developmental stage with a child who just went through those toddler years and have seen what tantrums look like versus what I experienced. They weren't tantrums to test a boundary, if that makes sense. They were tantrums because like, he could not deal in the same sense that if I kept you up for two days in a row and did not give you food and then asked you to go run a marathon, you would probably start crying. - Chrissy Brack Right. It was like that. But with things that don't normally cause that kind of reaction in a kid and just the ability to recover from those meltdowns or emotional episodes and the ability to what I describe as a pivot right. To turn the chapter and do something else was just not there as well as some social skills. - Chrissy Brack My son is actually pretty social and interactive. We had a lot of people who did not believe us when we got our diagnosis. - Chrissy Brack But it's definitely it's a different set of social engagement. And I would just watch how other kids of the same age would kind of interact and I could just tell it wasn't better or worse. I could just tell the way my kid did. It was a little different and all those things added up. - Liesel Mertes And for those who are listening and are unfamiliar, tell me about what diagnosis on the autism spectrum entails as far as receiving one or what that means, what it means, like there are some outdated terms and ways in which even just the, the descriptors that continue to grow. - Liesel Mertes So I'd love to get for you to give an overview of what it. - Liesel Mertes Yeah. What it means to have that diagnosis. - Chrissy Brack Yeah. So and I also I should have said this up front, but when we talk about people who are autistic, there are plenty of people who are autistic who are absolutely capable of sharing their experiences and their perspectives and their wisdom. And so I certainly just want to clarify that I am not trying to speak for anyone who is autistic. I'm merely speaking to my experience and hoping to come alongside and be supportive of that as well as, you know, for every person, much like I think most of us, we don't like to be defined by the way things are necessarily supposed to be defined. - Chrissy Brack And so, I'm going to do my best to describe it. But that's my little disclaimer that how someone who is autistic views this and describes it is correct over whatever I'm about to say. So give them over me. That's what I'm going to tell you. But when we look at something like autism spectrum, don't think of it as a linear thing with a left and a right where we move along this sliding scale and we're trying to somehow move to what we think of as typical or what we in the past would have called normalcy. - Chrissy Brack That's not it at all. Almost think of it as more like a circle. - Chrissy Brack Of how our brains work and typical people circles, let's say I'm just making this up, let's say you kind of have your circle and typical people circle goes in rainbow order, you know, and like a color, real fashion. When we talk about autism spectrum, some of those pieces do not line up in that Roy give way. It could be certain parts and certain ways. It could be language. It could be expressive language. It could be social language. - Chrissy Brack How we talk to one another. It could be sensory. It could be all sorts of different things. So there's really not just one thing that defines what it is. It also does not necessarily define anybody's ability to be competent or capable or intelligent, - Chrissy Brack but nor, on the flip side, doesn't necessarily define someone as what we think of as a savant. One of the first things people usually tell me when I say I have a son who is autistic is well, you know, like Albert Einstein was probably autistic and like, well, that's a really cute way to reinterpret history. - Chrissy Brack Like, the truth is that there are lots of families who have a lot of cognitive struggles with their children that get dismissed because there's this assumption that a lot of autistic people are savants and geniuses. - Chrissy Brack And this other thing. And that's actually I think I could be wrong on the statistic, but I think I once read it was something like less than 10 percent of the autistic population falls into that kind of category. So it really is quite broad. - Chrissy Brack And we also don't think of it as a functioning factor, because when you think about the term low functioning, which is a term often used to describe people who are autistic versus high functioning, it's basically saying that we reward certain behaviors or certain responses in people as more human or more acceptable. - Chrissy Brack And that's really just something I have tried to step out of as a mom with a child who is a little bit different that way, because it's first of all, it's like ableist, right? It's kind of a jerk move. And then secondly, just because someone appears to be well functioning in a certain way or in a certain situation doesn't mean it's not painful for them. And I think that's something we have to keep at the forefront of our minds when we talk about any disability. - Chrissy Brack Is that just because someone can manage a certain thing doesn't mean on the inside there isn't a lot of difficulty or pain to engage that way. Does that kind of help map it out a little? - Liesel Mertes That really does. You spoke you spoke with a lot of insight that I am just still processing really good on that. I just want to clarify that especially provocative at the end when you were saying, like, just because someone's functioning doesn't mean that they're not on the inside. Is that driving us to really consider, like, even people who are functioning with their own capabilities that people would define as normal? We don't really know the interior story of what that is demanding of them for a given situation. - Chrissy Brack Yeah, I think that that's huge. - Liesel Mertes So how does that look for you as a mom in a given moment where you're interacting with your son? - Liesel Mertes Because it's true. You know, you can speak descriptively of what you've experienced with people on the autism spectrum. You can definitely speak from your own experience. So you're gaining this insight. And when there is a situation where it's like, oh, you know, this is a response that's asking a lot of me, not that you are perfectly, but what are some of the things that you are like reinforcing to yourself with your parenting in that moment? - Chrissy Brack Well, I wish I had some beautiful book to promote here or some personal thing I could put out to the community. But it's really, first of all, just a day by day thing, which I think is true with most parenting situations, especially in this year. But absolutely, when I think about it, one of the things I try very, very hard to remind myself is that. What my son does is not always a reflection of how well of a job I have done at something, and that is a very difficult thing for me to accept. - Chrissy Brack I have a pretty type, a perfectionistic Enneagram 3 personality. And so to accept that I cannot get the situation to a place where things can run smoothly all the time is a very hard thing to accept. And then I kind of have this ultimate choice that I could buckle down and fight it out so that I could win or I can look at, OK, so how do we have a loving, supportive environment for all of the members of our family, including myself? - Chrissy Brack Because I, we all, hit a wall at some point with certain things and can only take so much of anything. And I think we all have found that limit with our children this year, regardless of whether or not they're diagnosed with anything but. Just to think about that and to think and then to rethink, when I talk about the things that are important in my life right now and ideas I'm reinforcing, it's less about how do I get my kid to do X, Y and Z, because that to me is not the end game. - Chrissy Brack When I look at it all, to me, the bigger prize to be had is how do I stop looking at the world, first of all, as a prize to be won? And secondly, how do I stop looking at these systems as. What should be because just because something is the way it always has been doesn't mean it's good or healthy or should be the norm. And how do I also get these systems to not just accommodate and support people like my kid, but really any type of diversity? - Chrissy Brack And, and then that pours into my family, too, like we have a rule at family gatherings when we have people over to our house, like in the previous years when we've hosted Christmas or whatever, that our son is allowed to go have a long time in his room any time he wants. There's no apology. There's no need to come sit like your grandma is here from out of town, like you have to come spend time with her. There's none of that because that's an unfair normal, like a social norm that we accept. - Chrissy Brack Right. That when, like we have family from out of town for the holidays, we all spend as much time together as possible and make that count where to him that time is not any more valuable because it's stressful, like it's not accomplishing anything beneficial for anyone to force him when he's tapped out to sit there. And it just leads to a lot of behaviors that are super detrimental to everyone. So that's an example of when I think about like the system or the situation, like how do we make the world better as opposed to how do I get my kid to be better by the world standard? - Liesel Mertes Well, and that brings up you know, we're going to talk some about social supports and how people move to or away from you. - Liesel Mertes In the midst of that, I'm struck that the move with Christmas or family gatherings is potentially flying in the face of a lot of expectation. What was it like to come to the process of being like, we need to do this and now we're telling all of you that we're doing this at home? - Chrissy Brack And I wish again, I just wish I had some magical answer for that. I think there is something about. I'll say motherhood, because that's my only experience as a parent, but I will say I think there's something in particular about motherhood that rebirth you and to me, when I had my son it I kind of had to let go of this. How do I meet everyone's expectations? Because he gets to have the priority and that can be daunting. - Chrissy Brack But I had to let go of caring what other people thought for my own sanity because I would lose my mind if I did nothing but try to make as what everyone else considers is acceptable or normal. And then also, I would really not just be doing my kid a disservice, but almost doing the equivalent of abuse with him to make him do something that is just so painful or harmful or not in his nature to do. And when you look at it through that lens, it becomes a little bit easier because you almost don't feel like you have a choice. - Chrissy Brack And it is hard because then for me, because I'm the grown up right. Like so I get to say that. And when I got a diagnosis for my son, I had this picture of all of these special needs parents in my head, and they all were sort of bathed in this like holy soft glow focus, light of just peace and love and all these things that I am not for. - Liesel Mertes Maybe not all the time. - Chrissy Brack I mean, I'm a pretty I mean, and I admit this, I'm a pretty high strung person and I am pretty like high maintenance that way. And so like to be like, oh, I'm just going be one of those moms who doesn't care. Now, what people think of me is definitely not innate to me. But the truth is I have to be the grown up here because he is not the grown up. And that's true for my other kid, too, that I'm going to have to be the one to figure this out because it's on me. - Chrissy Brack But that doesn't mean it doesn't come with a personal cost and turmoil and grappling because it does. And I think sometimes special needs parents can be hesitant to say that because it makes us sound like horrible human beings. But it is an exhausting job, often without a lot of support or a lot of things are not available to us that are available to a lot of families. And a lot of things that other people can assume, like I can send my kid to school is not something I have ever been able to assume. - Chrissy Brack So I am sort of like chuckling just a tiny bit. Everybody this year who's saying my kid has to go to school, my kid has to go to school when like, that is not an assumption I've ever gotten to make. Yes, legally, the state has to provide him education. But whether or not that would be in his best interest and I would send him really just depends on what that system looks like. But that is a lot to grapple with. - Chrissy Brack And you do mourn things, and that doesn't mean I don't love my kid or I want him to be different. It just means I have to fit with that and mourn it for a little bit as I adjust my expectations and understanding of my life. - Liesel Mertes What are some of your personal practices were like relational support that help you as you are making space for that grief and mourning just in the everyday demands of work like food has to be made and you have to be clothed. - Chrissy Brack Dinner have to still happen? - Liesel Mertes Yeah, always. - Chrissy Brack So a couple of things. I'm part of a couple of online communities. One is called Raising Children Un-Fundamentalist, and it is run by the lovely Cindy Brandt who I've never met or anything like that. She's an author and a like a kind of a public figure for this mantra of fundamentalist parenting and gentle parenting and kind of thinking about things out of the box. And this may sound silly, but honestly, sometimes just reading the posts in there and how people are being so thoughtful and intentional, intentional excuse me about the way they are parenting their kids, like, just gives me kind of that little inspiration that other people are doing the hard things, too. - Chrissy Brack And it kind of pushes me forward when I feel like so alone or so overwhelmed to know that, just to know that there's really someone else in the world doing it, even if their situation looks nothing like mine can be pretty inspiring. And I do have quite a few friends who, whether it's special needs or their kids, have just gone through things or their lives are just difficult for another reason, who kind of live in that realm of otherness and just having those people who get into text and to reach out and to respond to nonjudgmental on your bad days is really helpful. - Chrissy Brack And the final piece and to be honest myself, I guess I should say, because if I'm not honest, other people don't know that invitation is there build so much community through that authenticity, even if it's scary to step into or even in calling out some of the things that I have thought were toxic or not OK in an environment can be scary. But then I think, like, if I take that risk on and walk through it, I've paved the way now for everyone else to avoid that toxic environment. - Liesel Mertes Do you remember in a way that is noteworthy, like some of the first times of putting yourself out there in those vulnerable situations, whether that was expressing need or calling out something that you knew was doing damage. - Chrissy Brack Oh, I don't know if I have anything off the top of my head. Like, one of the things when my son was little and this is such a small example, was that he was not a kid who could be flexible about his sleep schedule. - Chrissy Brack And I mean, no one ever gave us a super hard time about it. But he was our first. And I think people thought it was a little bit of a first time mom syndrome. Right. Like, oh, that's cute. You keep your kid on the schedule or whatever. Like by the time you have four kids, like no one's on the schedule. But now, having had my second and seeing how much more flexible he is able to be, it's almost like sometimes I feel like Joe's brain works overtime, both in part because he's a pretty active and brilliant kid, and both in part because he is constantly managing a piece that none of us are usually managing. - Chrissy Brack And I think for him when he was little or sleep was such an important reset and refresh of that. And he really just could not cope if he didn't get it. And so I spent almost two years of my life. He took a two to three hour nap in the afternoon and I lived and died by that nap time. And I like it's such a small thing. Right. - Chrissy Brack But like people do sometimes look at you like you're a little nuts when you're like, no, like we are home for nap time and just like, no, I can't do that or no, I won't schedule that appointment then or no, you can't come over and hang out with us or whatever it may be. - Chrissy Brack And I always tried to do it in a gracious way. But I mean, I know we had family members at times who were probably super annoyed with us that like we just came late to the party or had things at weird times or like I put my kid down in the middle of his birthday party and I did not really care, but just little things like that. You really you just kind of have to put your stake in the ground and say, like, this is something that our family really needs to function and you don't walk this life. - Chrissy Brack And that's the other thing I usually tell myself when I feel stupid. I don't want to be judged, but when I kind of feel like people think, oh, if you would just and then insert whatever blanket would be, what I tell myself is like if they had to be the one that spent the rest of the day getting objects thrown at their head because their kid was overtired and couldn't self regulate, they would probably go ahead and put their kid down for a nap, too. - Chrissy Brack If you want to come and live my life, like feel free to tell me how to do it. But unless you're the one cleaning the toilets around here, you don't get to say that. We will come back to the interview in just a moment. But, I would like to take a second to thank our sponsors. First, we are sponsored by Fullstack PEO. COVID-19 has you worrying about a host of things, from hand sanitizer to toilet paper…and those are just the easy ones! Employee benefits does not have to be one of your headaches. 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Because in some situations I have to disclose his diagnosis and not like someone's holding me up against a wall, but like I would not it would not be fair to anyone if I sent him to school and didn't tell anybody he was autistic. Right. Not fair to him. Not fair to the teachers. Right. And so in situations like that, where I feel like I have to disclose his diagnosis, there's always this concern to me that people will see his diagnosis first and not him as a person first, and also that their mind will first go to like, how do I manage things I view as negative as opposed to what does this person have to teach me about the world or the way we look at things, especially socially, that maybe I would not have gotten if I didn't get to interact with them? - Chrissy Brack Because the truth is, I often say I think Joe has taught me more about life and God and friendship and love than I could have ever thought was possible from one little six year old. And I think if you can come at it like that, like what does this individual have to give us as opposed to, oh, man, how are we going to make it through dealing with some of these difficult things this individual presents us with? I think it's an important perspective change and I think then you get to see my kid for who he really is, which is all I want. - Chrissy Brack And then for me personally, I think the biggest area I feel most at and not in a huge way, maybe in part because I removed myself from any type of groups or environments in which I would feel this way. But is that that can't you just blank that I already mentioned this idea that if I did the right thing or worked harder or were somehow more competent, that my life would not be so hard. Chrissy Brack And the truth is, I was literally saying this to a friend. Was it last night or the night before where especially this year? I'm like, it does not even matter how much like no matter what I do, it just is always a disaster. Right? I'm like, whether I do the good things and all the hard work and go above and beyond disaster, I do nothing. I give up, I wallow in self pity disaster. I try to like, get it halfway. Right, not try too hard. Disaster like it just doesn't matter. Right. - Chrissy Brack It's not like a it's not a cause and effect situation for a lot of special needs. And I think there is this assumption if you just got the right therapy, if you just got the right support, if you had the right thing right. Or if you were in the right school district or if we did this or that, that somehow my life would not look the way it is, as if I have not already thought and tried one million different things to get to the point where I am right now. - Chrissy Brack I think I don't think there's anything wrong with offering suggestions. I just think sometimes the way it can be done. - Chrissy Brack And your intention behind suggesting something like should not be to fix my kid or fix my life, but to say like, wow, what kinds of things would really support you, given how some of the challenges you face that really aren't going to go away? - Liesel Mertes Right. The, the armchair critic that they're with their suggestions. And for those that, you know, think, man, I, I just don't know. I don't know what it's like. Would you open up what a hard day looks like for you as a parent? Yeah, you can be. - Chrissy Brack And I'm going to be careful. There's more things I could say, but I'm not going to say just because he deserves to be as a human as well. But I mean, it could be everything from. - Chrissy Brack Like, I mean, I got called like I like my joke, my kid made it maybe two months into kindergarten before I got the call to come pick them up because they needed him to be sent home. And everyone is like, that's not legal. They can't ask you to do that. And I'm like, I think they just didn't know what else to do. I think they were just sort of like, you won't stop and we don't quite know what's going on. - Chrissy Brack And so, you know, like, that's not a great day when you have to go pick your kid up in the middle of the school day, because no one quite knows what to do with how he's acting that day. And that particular week, he had gotten out of the building and out into like almost the road, I think it was three or four times that week. And so, I mean, that's like I didn't even want to send him back after I went and picked him up. - Chrissy Brack It wasn't like, well, tomorrow's a new day. Like we're going to start fresh. Right? I was like, no, you're not going to school tomorrow because I'm scared you're going to go run into a four lane street and get hit by a car. So now you have to. - Chrissy Brack I feel so scary. So then it would be like, OK, well, now my day looks like you have to stay home with me and we have to figure this out. And I have to call a meeting with your teachers and see what's going on and talk to your, you know, our our therapy support team and see if they have suggestions. And now I have to schedule a meeting with eight different people on top of which, you know, I mean, typical kid stuff, right? - Chrissy Brack Oh, my gosh. You just dumped that bowl of chips everywhere and dumped out your water cup and like, oh, my gosh, did your brother take off his diaper and let you know? I mean, like, all that stuff, like, am I a few weeks ago, I had a day where I did nine loads of laundry back to back and every because none of them could wait because every single item in there have poopy on it. - Chrissy Brack And I mean, nine is a lot in a day. That's one an hour right where I'm just back to back cleaning up poop. And I was like, could it just be something else today? Guys, I don't know what, like, spilled some orange juice, but like over the poop, like. Yeah. - Chrissy Brack So yeah, I can look like any number of things or really hoping like when Joe took his NWEA test which is test the school uses to kind of assess where your child's at and where their progress has gone over the last year. I was really like I said, he's a smart kid and I was really hopeful for him that this test would be a way he could show people something about himself that may not be apparent if they're just working on behavior management. - Chrissy Brack And partway through the test, his iPad stopped working and his internal thought process was, oh, this isn't working. When dad gets home tonight, I'll just tell him my iPad is not working. - Chrissy Brack So he didn't tell anyone that it wasn't working. And so his score was obviously reflective of you did not take half the test. Right. And that's not the end of the world. Right. But that is a little heartbreaking as a mom to know that he didn't really get the chance to show what he was capable of in a way that I would have liked. And so, like, that's a hard day to. - Liesel Mertes Yeah, I hear that. Well, and like you mentioned, I mean, so any parent out there right now has had the wrench thrown into the works with covid-19. I imagine that there has been a tremendous and particular disruption within social support services for families like yours. Could you speak a little bit to the added burden that that disruption has been on top of just the now normal crazy Avenal? - Chrissy Brack Well, this has been to me the greatest gift of this year. And what I've been telling people when they talk to me about that particular subject that in a lot of ways I will not lie. This year is not all that different for me. It is in the sense that my own personal supports and things are not there the way they normally look. And sure, there's more work for all of us. Right. Going to the grocery store is more work than it used to be, that kind of thing. - Chrissy Brack But if you want to know what it's like to be a special needs parent, it's pretty much like this year all the time, in a way, maybe with like less threat of death around every corner. Like there's not like that that like pandemic piece of it. But as far as the amount of hurdles and unknowns and what's going to happen and what's that going to look like and how do I even put anything into place to get through? Right. - Chrissy Brack We'll make a plan for one week and then everything changes the next week. Right. That's pretty typical for us, I would say, for how it's been the entire time from really the time I would say my son was two until now. That's like - Chrissy Brack So yes, it has been challenging and I can share some of our disruptions. But on the same level, I like looking at people and I'm like, oh, well, well. Come to the party, we ended the committee because none of us had time to welcome people anymore, but like grab a cup of coffee and pull up a chair and like, yeah, none of you are going to get through what you thought you were going to get through today. - Liesel Mertes Is there anything that you would say to this particular moment out of what you've had to be learning along the way as a parent? - Chrissy Brack I guess if I had to give a piece of advice from what I have done over the last six years that I think is applicable to many people now that maybe had not been in the past, it would be two fold, the first of which is a lot of the things we may think are essential or important are probably a lot less essential or important when it really comes down to it, especially right now. You have to pick and choose with a lot of discernment and it could also be a situation. – Chrissy Brack And when it's much, much better to start small and add in, as opposed to like trying a very large task or a lot of things and figuring out that it's all going to fall apart. And that is something my kid has definitely taught me because I am an overachiever. And so seeing that and recognizing that we are all limited in a way and being really comfortable with finding those parts of ourselves that we don't like, the parts where we do hit a wall and no, we can't do something we thought we could and and evaluating that before it happens, because that's saying no to things which can be challenging. - Chrissy Brack And it's also accepting our own weaknesses and limits, which can be challenging depending on your personality. And that is something my son does with a lot of grace and ease and that I've had to help him do as a mom that has made it easier for me to accept to like I know I was at a point and maybe, I don't know, April, where, like, I could not go to the store more than, like, once a week because, like, mentally, it was just super exhausting and everything was so new and terrifying and everything was so different and there were a lot of blinds to wade in and all those things. - Chrissy Brack And I just had to recognize that was taking an emotional toll on me. And I didn't really want to admit it. I wanted to think I was bigger than being affected by all those things. But it served me a lot better to just say, nope, like let go of that and it's OK. And and so that would kind of be the first thing and then the second thing. And now it's kind of like I lost my train of thought, where was I going with that? - Chrissy Brack And I think maybe just not don't be afraid. To reinvent what normal is or assume what we thought of as normal is worth getting back to a lot of ways, but don't rush to that conclusion because I would never want to go back to the way I thought of things or saw things prior to really learning what I've learned after receiving a diagnosis for my son. I would never want to go back to thinking about the world that way. I feel that I am a much better human because of him, and I will always have him to thank for that. - Chrissy Brack It's very humbling in a way, when your five year old with autism can be a better person than you can be because you're caught up in your head with your expectations and demands and all this other stuff, and you realize you're totally missing the point and that he knows it all along. So so just really like look at that bigger picture of what is truly important and the ways we accomplish that. And don't be afraid to get creative or you can let go of things that you think you can't let go of. - Chrissy Brack And it may just be OK. Yeah. - Liesel Mertes I always like to ask you spoke in some of the ways in which you've been messed up. - Liesel Mertes What have been some of the most important supportive gestures that your community has been able to make that have really meant something to you? - Chrissy Brack I mean, someone once told me. If you want to love somebody's family and love them, well, feed them and like. The Times, I can't even tell you how many times I have lost so like so much traffic, not by like a factor of two, but by a factor of two hundred, how many times someone has showed up at my door with lunch or dinner or a cup of coffee because, you know, they they heard my son eloped. - Chrissy Brack And that's like when he escapes, right. That he's eloped and, you know, like I had to call the police and all this other stuff. Right. And that's really, really stressful to go to, whether it's that or just those days where I had like nine loads of laundry and those kinds of things, like really I don't think you can go super wrong with just bringing someone a meal or a treat. And it sounds so superficial, but any of those little tasks that take that energy and focus that you have to now give to something else and just have it cared for is huge. - Chrissy Brack And also, it's a good reminder to me, like when someone shows up with food for me, that I have to eat, too, and that I have those limits and I have to stop and and do that, even if I feel like we're in the middle of a crisis, because if I don't eat, like, I'm not going to make it through the end of the day. So that would be like some of the best things I've had is just people who showed up at my door with a meal or texted me that it's on its way and it's coming and to not bother cooking. - Chrissy Brack And I, I think the people who I engage with on a really deep level who are just willing to hear about the hard things and not try to fix them. But also, more than that, it's not always just about the hard thing I've dealt with that day, but also how it impacts the way I have looked at my life. And the world around me can sometimes feel a little bit like an existential crisis. And for the people who have not been afraid to hear how those things have informed my views now, and even if they don't come to that same conclusion, I have space for it and say that my journey is valid and my conclusions are valid because of the life I've lived, and to not try to be corrected and to like, well, yeah, but we know X, Y and Z, right? - Chrissy Brack And I'm like, I don't know the alphabet anymore. Right. Like it all it taken away. - Chrissy Brack And so it not just understanding that day to day hardship, but how it impacts us on a bigger level and informs us and not shying away from that, even if you don't truly understand it again, that willingness to learn and be served by something we don't innately have or are experienced with, I think is helpful and humbling task for us all. - Liesel Mertes Yeah, I hear that. Well, and that that willingness to be in process with you without having to rush you to a conclusion. And that's hard for people. I mean, we want we want those around us to be happy and we want we don't like cognitive dissonance and we stop questioning that stuff. That seems important to me is oftentimes the vibe that we give off instead of being with people in it. MUSICAL TRANSITION Chrissy believes that true inclusion is about honoring and valuing diversity, not just tolerating it…and that this radical move flies in the face of power structures but, ultimately, benefits everyone. And she wants to see more of this true inclusion everywhere, but especially in the workplace. - Chrissy Brack My husband and I are both business owners, so I don't say any of this lightly or not from the perspective that I do not know what that is like, because my husband has employed up to 60 people at one time and has been the end of the line. - Chrissy Brack And the boss and I work for myself and have to carry that whole load. So I get it. And I'm not just trying to say that like they need to do everything because I get that because I am the they too. But when I think about my child and the world I want for him, I would really hope that when he is an adult, we live in a society that values the things he has to offer because of his diversity and not just say like we hire people with disabilities because we're good people, which like there's a place for that, too, right? - Chrissy Brack I'm not describing that work at all, but I do think my son and people like him or people who are different from him have so much to bring. And we have to see the value of that and find ways to think about it where when we're usually still stuck on, did they have a firm handshake? And look me in the eyes doesn't actually necessarily say anything about the kind of quality of work they can do or what they can bring to the community at large and to just kind of rework some of those things in our own heads and in our own places where we have influence and make it, you know, to see what they bring to the table as opposed to making them come to the table in a way we think of as acceptable. - Chrissy Brack And I really hope that for him one day and I think I see positive changes and I'm I am hopeful for that. MUSICAL TRANSITION Here are three key take-aways from my conversation with Chrissy: Respect the boundaries of parents living with a child on the autism spectrum.This is just an extension of the basic premise of respecting ALL parents and their boundaries, but it is especially important here. Chrissy bravely puts the needs of her son first, realizing how central she is to his well-being. But this sometimes means strong lines in social situations. Respecting boundaries means that, if they choose to leave a play date early, you DON’T try to cajole them to stay or put on a guilt trip, “Do you really have to go?” Instead, you say, “It was great to see you!” and leave it at that. Bring food.Food is such an immediate, necessary gesture of care. Be a friend that listens, just listens, without judgment or having to make it better.And, as you listen, remember that it is alight to have limits. We all do and COVID has thrown us up against them, hard. Don’t be afraid to look bravely at your limits and to imagine a new normal. This is a sort of bonus point.Chrissy mentioned online communities like Raising Children UnFundamentalist that I have linked in the show notes. A supportive community matters. OUTRO Raising Children UnFundamentalist with Cindy Wang Brandt: https://www.facebook.com/groups/665348930273216/

Parenting Forward with Cindy Wang Brandt

The Zeitcast with Jonathan Martin

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2020 60:00

We are so excited to share today's episode with Cindy Wang Brandt. Cindy is an author, podcaster, and speaker. Her book, Parenting Forward: How to Raise Children with Justice, Mercy and Kindness, was published in February 2019. She's the founder of popular facebook group, Raising Children Unfundamentalist.In this episode Jonathan and Cindy discuss finding hope in this age of despair- what it means to raise our children un-fundamentalist- and how we can continue to grow, without letting go of the beauty that holds us all together.Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/sonofapreacherman/Visit Jonathan's Website: http://www.jonathanmartinwords.com/Watch The Zeitcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdHzTuNKhTK-AZjfmkxQiwwPlease rate, review, share, and subscribe!Edited and produced by Joel Everson

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Episode 5: Kids

The Trauma Club Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 9, 2020 57:11

In this episode, we discuss kids and our relationship to them. Each of us discuss our reasoning for having decided not to be parents, but we also talk about how important our niece and nephew are to us as well as how important it is for us to see children as human beings rather than objects. We hope you enjoy the episode! [TRIGGER WARNINGS: miscarriages, wanting but not able to be a parent, not wanting but being expected to be a parent, dehumanization of children] Show Notes Starting off the conversation, Doug found himself inadvertently pitching a few of his favorite podcasts. He was drinking his coffee out of this mug from the Faith Uncut podcast and wearing the "Don't Should" t-shirt from the Sounds Fake But Okay podcast. Both the merch and the podcasts are worth checking out! Vanessa's beverage for the episode was a three ginger tea made by Pukka, and consumed in a "Prison Mike" coffee mug. In our introductory conversation, we also brought up Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, one of Doug's favorite shows that he finally convinced Vanessa to try. And now it's totally one of her favorites. We cannot recommend the show highly enough for people with mental health issues. It's so great! In discussing his journey in deciding not to be a parent, Doug mentioned reading up on "reasons not to have kids." Some great resources he came across were the organization No Kidding, and the books Two is Enough and Childfree by Choice. In talking about his evolving view of children, Doug mentioned one of his favorite people, Cindy Wang Brandt. The Facebook group she started is actually called "Raising Children Unfundamentalist," but she also has a book, a podcast, and even an annual online conference. You can also follow Cindy on Twitter and, if you become as much a fan as Doug, consider giving to her Patreon. The gender neutral term for niece/nephew that Vanessa and Doug ultimately decided they cannot stand is "nibling." Our Blog Things quiz for this week was "What After School Snack Are You?" This episode was recorded on June 4, 2020.

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075: Five Pandemic Parenting Lessons with Cindy Wang Brandt

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Play Episode Listen Later May 18, 2020 17:35

Today, I am sharing some of my own stories and reflections to hold witness to this unique moment in history - the COVID-19 crisis. I wanted to provide five pandemic parenting lessons I've learned so far. As we make our way through this crisis, I am sure there will be more lessons to uncover. I hope this episode inspires you, encourages you, and offers you support in some way. Show Highlights: The importance of giving transparent information to our kids. Some ways in which we can raise our kids to not buy into conspiracy theories. Our children can be a resource for us just as much as we are for them. How to capitalize on heightened spirituality. How to have a conversation with our children about privilege, equity. And how our well-being is intricately connected to the well-being of those around us in our neighborhoods, states, and even across the world. Why we should be raising our children to be storytellers. Links (affiliates included): Why did Jesus make the coronavirus? - https://mailchi.mp/21b30be69120/why-did-jesus-make-the-corona-virus?e=[UNIQID] Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB3 *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Season 2:5 Keep People Free for God and God Free for People (Cindy wang Brandt)

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Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2020 36:06

I interview Cindy Wang Brandt this week about parenting, shame, and embodiment this week. Please find out more about Cindy and her parenting conference and book at https://www.parentingforwardconference.com

Episode 36: Parenting De-Centering Whiteness with Cindy Wang Brandt & Leslie Arreola Hillenbrand

Parenting for Liberation

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2020 35:47

This episode is a podcast within a podcast, Parenting for Liberation founder, Trina Greene Brown, was interviewed by Cindy Wang Brandt of Parenting Forward and Leslie Arreola Hillenbrand of Latinx Parenting to discuss "parenting de-centering whiteness." Trina shared about Parenting for Liberation and the work to bring parents together to look at the ways the systems have oppressed us historically and current ongoing oppression, and how can we heal them. We also discuss parenting during the COVID-19 pandemic as Black, Indigenous, or People of Color.

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Season 2:1A The Condition Requiring Illusions continued (Rollins, Alison, Brandt, Moore)

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Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2020 29:08

1A is a continuation of the episode 1 that begins to lay out ideas about why we feel the need to pretend but why pretending is pointless! It's the greatest news. That's right, grace wrecks the illusion we have to be better than we are. And grace wrecks those who perpetuate the condition that requires illusions. And who might they be? Sigh, mostly, the church. I know, it's wild. Thanks to my guests who appear here and on a handful of different episodes this season. They are authors, speakers, professors, podcasters and people who are doing a lot of great work. Dr. Peter Rollins, https://peterrollins.com Dr. James Alison, http://jamesalison.co.uk Cindy Wang Brandt, https://cindywangbrandt.com Dr. Julia Robinson Moore, https://pages.uncc.edu/julia-marie-robinson I hope you find time to look into each of these people. I've been reading James and Peter, if I can call them by their first names, for 3-5 years now. Their writings and talks have helped me shift and re-shift my theology toward something which I consider much healthier. I can't recommend them enough. Cindy and Julia are newer friends of mine. Cindy is an author and podcaster. She has an online conference called https://www.parentingforwardconference.com that I highly recommend. And Julia is an author, professor and speaker that you will find has keen insight. As always, like, share, review, follow, or whatever you do on your particular podcasting platform. Feel free to track me down with questions and comments you might have.

Season 2:1 Condition Requiring Illusions (James Alison, Cindy Brandt, Julia Moore, Peter Rollins)

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2020 27:24

This is the first of a two part episode (1 and 1A) that begins to lay out ideas about why we feel the need to pretend but why pretending is pointless! It's the greatest news. That's right, grace wrecks the illusion we have to be better than we are. And grace wrecks those who perpetuate the condition that requires illusions. And who might they be? Sigh, mostly, the church. I know, it's wild. Thanks to my guests who appear here and on a handful of different episodes this season... Dr. Peter Rollins, https://peterrollins.com Dr. James Alison, http://jamesalison.co.uk Cindy Wang Brandt, https://cindywangbrandt.com Dr. Julia Robinson Moore, https://pages.uncc.edu/julia-marie-robinson I hope you find time to look into each of these people. I've been reading James and Peter, if I can call them by their first names, for 3-5 years now. Their writings and talks have helped me shift and re-shift my theology toward something which I consider much healthier. I can't recommend them enough. Cindy and Julia are newer friends of mine. Cindy is an author and podcaster. She has an online conference called https://www.parentingforwardconference.com that I highly recommend. And Julia is an author, professor and speaker that you will find has keen insight. As always, like, share, review, follow, or whatever you do on your particular podcasting platform. Feel free to track me down with questions and comments you might have.

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Season 2: Introduction (Peter Rollins)

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Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2020 16:54

Welcome back to another season of the podcast! We're obviously in a very difficult time in the life of our world right now. I hope that some of the stuff I offer up here will help you shift or re-think your role or God's role in the middle of all that is going on. These episodes weren't created with Corona Virus in mind, but I do think there's thinking here that might help the Christian faith be more sustainable now and in the future. In this introduction episode, I lay out some of the thinking going into season 2 and introduce some of my guests. I'm grateful each of these folks has allowed me to take bits and pieces of audio and spread them out over a few episodes. Dr. James Alison, http://jamesalison.co.uk Cindy Wang Brandt, https://cindywangbrandt.com Dr. Julia Robinson Moore, https://pages.uncc.edu/julia-marie-robinson Dr. Peter Rollins, https://peterrollins.com I hope you find time to look into each of these people. I've been reading James and Peter, if I can call them by their first names, for 3-5 years now. Their writings and talks have helped me shift and re-shift my theology toward something which I consider much healthier. I can't recommend them enough. Cindy and Julia are newer friends. Cindy is an author and podcaster. She has an online conference called https://www.parentingforwardconference.com that I highly recommend. And Julia is an author, professor and speaker that you will find has keen insight. As always, like, share, review, follow, or whatever you do on your particular podcasting platform. Feel free to track me down with questions and comments you might have. And if you've read this far you should know about our non-profit organization LQVE. LQVE is a really interesting relationship that has developed with Haitian people, for Haitian people in some of the poorest areas of the Western Hemisphere. Learn more at www.LQVE.org. Obviously, the Corona Virus could potentially be bad anywhere, but I can't even imagine what would happen if it hits such a densely populated area like Port au Prince. I'm praying for them and for all of us.

Cindy Wang Brandt

Carry The Fire Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 9, 2020 59:19

Today on Carry the Fire Podcast we have Cindy Wang Brandt. Cindy is an author, a podcaster, and a public speaker. She’s written a book, Parenting Forward: How to Raise a Children with Justice, Mercy, and Kindness, and has a podcast by the same name. A former conservative Christian missionary, Cindy underwent a phase shift and now speaks and writes about how that has impacted her life and how it impacts the often overwhelming and bewildering tasks of raising children. In our conversation, Cindy recounts the story of her own phase-shift and gives her advice for others going through similar situations. And she shares tips for parenting in a way that does justice for your children and also helps them to learn how to do justice in the world around them. FEATURED LINKS Official Website Cindy on Twitter Cindy on Instagram Parenting Forward Book SHOW LINKS Carry the Fire Podcast Website Instagram Twitter Support on Patreon Produced by Andy Lara at www.andylikeswords.com

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Episode 5 - Cindy Wang Brandt

Faith Forward Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 1, 2020 27:11

Cindy Wang Brandt joins Dave Csinos to share about how healthy spirituality can be fostered in families healing from religious trauma. An unfundamentalist parenting advocate and author of Parenting Forward, Cindy offers insights about the importance of seeing children and youth as whole human beings worthy of dignity and just how radical this perspective is in contemporary churches and the world at large.

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062: Parenting with Spiritual Triggers & Glimmers with Cindy Wang Brandt

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Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2020 25:15

Today on the show I share five spiritual triggers and glimmers that are commonly experienced in parenting, specifically when you have a history of spiritual trauma. Most of us know what triggers are—something that activates an unwelcome response. I recently learned of the term glimmers which is the opposite of triggers. A glimmer is an event that activates a welcome response—a light and airy feeling which brings joy instead of pain. And while glimmers do sound delightful, they are no more valuable than triggers. Here on the podcast, and within the Parenting Forward community, we validate every emotion—including anger, pain, happiness, and sadness. I will be sharing five spiritual triggers that are commonly present in parenting scenarios plus five spiritual glimmers that may come up in parenting. I hope you resonate with today’s topic and you will use these examples to help you become self-aware when these events happen in your own parenting. Trigger Warning Notice: This episode discusses five specific spiritual triggers. If you are working through spiritual trauma or think you may be triggered by this topic, please feel free to skip this episode. For official diagnosis and treatment of trauma or mental health always consult a medical or healthcare professional. I am not a licensed therapist, therefore, the content shared in this podcast comes from my own experiences and reflections. Show Highlights: Five spiritual triggers that can come up when parenting including several examples. Acknowledging we are parenting differently than our parents did, we want different outcomes for our kids, and recognizing sometimes the outcomes can trigger us. Five different ways I have experienced spiritual glimmers. One specific glimmer I believe is the most healing to a spiritually traumatized person. Links (affiliates included): Parenting Forward on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/parentingforward The Brand New Parenting Forward Conference - https://www.parentingforwardconference.com Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/2GB6eDB *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Episode 79: Cindy Wang Brandt Is Teaching The World To Parent Forward (Women's Voices You Need To Hear, Part 1)

What If Project

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2020 45:58

It's week ONE of our new series, "Women's Voices You Need To Hear" and today we're sitting down with the one and only Cindy Wang Brandt to talk to her about her book "Parenting Forward". Enjoy, and go sign up for her ONLINE CONFERENCE (** link below)! SHOW NOTES Patreon What If Project Community Cindy Wang Brandt Parent Forward CONFERENCE Parenting Forward Book Family Bumper Sticker Children's Bibles SPECIAL MUSIC - DJ KDOT - Apple Music - Spotify - Instagram

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“JMK Kids 3: Parenting for Inclusion”

Because You May

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 24, 2019

Date: November 24th, 2019 (Reign of Christ) Message Delivered at: Charlotte Congregational Church (UCC) Key Text(s): Mark 7:24-30 Download This is the 3rd of a 3-part sermon series based on the book Parenting Forward, by Cindy Wang Brandt. How do we raise JMK (justice, mercy, kindness) kids?

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“JMK Kids 2: Bodies”

Because You May

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 17, 2019

Date: November 17th, 2019 (Pentecost 23) Message Delivered at: Charlotte Congregational Church (UCC) Key Text(s): Genesis 1:26-27 & 31 Download This is the 2nd of a 3-part sermon series based on the book Parenting Forward, by Cindy Wang Brandt. How do we raise JMK (justice, mercy, kindness) kids?

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Episode 107: Cindy Wang Brandt - Raising Children in the Faith

The Bible For Normal People

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 10, 2019 46:43

A lot of parents who no longer hold to the same beliefs about the Bible and God they did when they were children are left wondering, “But how do we raise our kids?” Author and speaker Cindy Wang Brandt helps us with the question: How can our kids hold to the Christian faith without going through some of the more painful parts of an evolving faith? Show Notes →

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“JMK Kids 1: Raising Ourselves”

Because You May

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 10, 2019

Date: November 10th, 2019 (Pentecost 22) Message Delivered at: Charlotte Congregational Church (UCC) Key Text(s): Mark 14:32-36 Download This is the first of a 3-part sermon series based on the book Parenting Forward, by Cindy Wang Brandt. How do we raise JMK (justice, mercy, kindness) kids?

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Parenting Forward with Cindy Wang Brandt

Can I Say This At Church Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 1, 2019 55:11

Few things, very few, are more important than raising the next generation. I sat down with Cindy to discuss how to approach this. Guest Bio: Cindy Wang Brandt is an author, podcaster, and speaker. Her book, Parenting Forward: How to Raise Children with Justice, Mercy and Kindness, was published in February 2019. She’s the founder of popular facebook group, Raising Children Unfundamentalist. She writes at cindywangbrandt.com. You can also find her on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. Find more about her Conference that's upcoming right here: https://www.parentingforwardconference.com/ A Joyful Path that was mentioned. Music this week by The Eagle and Child: Tracks: Everyone and Everything, Beloved, and Radiance You can also find all the musical selections from all our episodes on our Spotify Playlist. Check out all the things over at the store...it's a great way to support the show www.canisaythisatchurch.com/store What are you waiting for; consider becoming a Patreon supporter of the show. You'll have access to many perks as well as guaranteeing the future of these conversations; even $1/Month goes so far as this show is 100% listener supported. https://www.patreon.com/canisaythisatchurch Follow the show: https://www.facebook.com/CanISayThisAtChurch/ https://twitter.com/cistacpodcast https://www.canisaythisatchurch.com/ Transcript for today's episode

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UnFundamental Parenting w/ Cindy Wang Brandt

Permission to BE

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 5, 2019 44:46

"I see faith in the irreverent, miracles in the ordinary, and beauty in the margins." -Cindy Wang Brandt This episode is jammed packed with intriguing conversations from parenting while deconstructing your spiritual beliefs, Purity Culture and more. Cindy Wang Brandt is the author of the recently released book, Parenting Forward: How to Raise Children with Justice, Mercy and Kindness. In addition to being an author, Cindy also hosts her own podcast, Parenting Forward and is the founder of the hugely popular Facebook Group: Raising Children Unfundamentalist. Don't Miss out on the upcoming online "Parenting Forward Conference" in September 2019, click here for more information. Click here to find out more about Cindy Wang Brandt, and for this episode's show notes.

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Parenting Forward with Cindy Wang Brandt

The Life After Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2019 64:59

Cindy Wang Brandt, author of Parenting Forward, joins the show to discuss how deconstructing parents can pass values to their children without relying on fear and indoctrination. Find out more about Cindy's work, including her book and podcast, on her website, cindywangbrandt.com. Connect with the Life After Podcast & Community here: linktr.ee/thelifeafter Special Show Note: We apologize to our friend, Chrissy Stroop, for using the incorrect pronouns in the last episode. Since we had recorded the episode in May, Chrissy has begun transitioning and prefers she/her pronouns. At the time of the recording, they/them were preferred. We fully support and affirm Chrissy. Read more about her inspiring journey here: http://ow.ly/ar3350vj4ug

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My Good List Summer Series (4/5) | 205

Simple

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 26, 2019 35:04

We’re continuing our summer series called My Good List, where Tsh has asked a few people to share four things in their life that are making everything sweeter: a thing, a habit, a work of art, and a philosophy. In this episode, Tsh chats with Cindy Wang Brandt, based on Taiwan, who runs the popular Facebook group Raising Children Unfundamentalist, and has a book and podcast both called Parenting Forward. Links From This Episode: Cindy on Instagram & Twitter Cindy's website & podcast Parenting Forward, by Cindy Brandt Tsh on Twitter & Instagram Raising Children Unfundamentalist Dyson hair dryer A’Driane Nieves & her painting Sign up to hear when the Travels With Tsh Guides release Kindly leave a review Become a patron Sign up for 5 Quick Things, the weekly email For any links and codes from our lovely sponsors, head here Download the transcript for this episode You can find new episodes of Simple, completely ad-free, only on Stitcher Premium. For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com/wondery and use promo code ‘WONDERY’.

Progressive Parenting & Rejecting Fundamentalism

Closing Argument with Walter Hudson

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2019

Walter has a conversation on progressive parenting and rejecting fundamentalism with Pastor Nathan Roberts and Cindy Wang Brandt, author of 'Parenting Forward: How to Raise Children with Justice, Mercy & Kindness.' She is also the founder of the popular Facebook group, Raising Children Unfundamentalist. It's obvious where we differ, but where are we the same in our values?

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Progressive Parenting & Rejecting Fundamentalism

Closing Argument with Walter Hudson

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 18, 2019 80:01

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Ep28. Parenting, Cindy Wang Brandt

Love Rinse Repeat

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2019 56:01

“How do we build a better world? One key way is by learning to raise our children with justice, mercy, and kindness.”I sat down with Cindy Wang Brandt to talk about her progressive Christian approach to parenting. We discuss what its like to write about parenting while parenting, talking with kids about the tough issues (like racism, climate change, gender inequality), extending autonomy to children and asking what it means to really listen to them. We also touch on her own faith journey, and how she thinks about sharing faith with children.“By becoming aware of the complex ways we participate in systems of inequality or hierarchy, we begin to resist systemic injustice ourselves, empower our children, and change our communities.”This is a special episode of Love Rinse Repeat, co-presented with Insights, the magazine of the Uniting Church in Australia, Synod of NSW/ACT.Cindy Wang Brandt is a writer, podcaster, consultants, and altogether awesome progressive voice living and working in Taiwan. You can check out her podcast by subscribing to Parenting Forward. You can read her articles here and you can join the Facebook community of Raising Children Unfundamentalist.Buy the BookFollow Cindy on Twitter: @cindy_w_brandtRead a sample chapter of book and access free study guide.Follow the Show: @RinseRepeatPod // Follow me: @liammiller87More interviews and writing

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#046: Shaking Hands with the Unemployed (HOTW: Cindy Wang Brandt)

Heretic Happy Hour

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2019 70:54

Masturbation can be a "touchy" subject. But is it a sin to rub one out? Listen as the Heretics explore the theology of pleasure without shame. Plus, Cindy Wang Brandt, author of Parenting Forward, is our Heretic of the Week!

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092 - Malleable Brain Cells with Cindy Wang Brandt

Twisted Sisterds

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2019 91:52

Join the Sisterds in a discussion about short order cooks and Parenting Forward, a conversation with Cindy Wang Brandt. Find Cindy at cindywangbrandt.com and on Twitter @cindy_w_brandt Find her book, Parenting Forward, anywhere you purchase books. Find her podcast, Parenting Forward, in your favorite podcast app. Check out Cindy's first episode with us: UnFundamentalist Parenting Find links to our Fangirling at our Twitter: @twistedsisterds and Facebook: facebook.com/twistedsisterds Subscribe and drop us a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts. Support us at www.patreon.com/twistedsisterds to join our private FB group the Twisterd Tavern, get Sisterds swag, and even shape the content of the episodes. Tweet at us @TwistedSisterds @sauronthequeen @calliesearch79 Follow us on Instagram @twistedsisterds @queensauron @callie079 Twisted Sisterds is part of the Inglorious Pasterds network of podcasts.

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Parenting Forward with Cindy Wang Brandt

Exvangelical

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2019 60:02

This week's guest is Cindy Wang Brandt, author of the new book Parenting Forward: How to Raise Children with Justice, Mercy, and Kindness. In this conversation, we talk about parenting after what Cindy calls "faith shifting" and how to raise our children well. Click on the link above to purchase Cindy's book, and learn more about her work at her website. Support the podcast via Patreon, follow Blake on Twitter, and join the Exvangelical Facebook group.

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Episode 32 – PARENTING FORWARD with Cindy Wang Brandt

At The End Of The Day [Film]

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2019 68:07

AT THE END OF THE DAY is Available for Preorder on iTunes! What? Yep! Go get it now – if you send us confirmation of a pre-order, we’ll send you these superfun pdf prints inspired by the movie! Kevin chats with Cindy Wang Brandt about her new book, Parenting Forward: How to Raise Children with […] The post Episode 32 – PARENTING FORWARD with Cindy Wang Brandt appeared first on At The End Of The Day [Film].

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I can't learn unless I talk: conversations on race, pt 2

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Play Episode Listen Later Feb 12, 2019 32:50

In this episode, Havilah finishes her conversation about race and racial justice with Cindy Wang Brandt. Patreon Cindy's website Parenting Forward Racial Justice Resources: Black and White: Racism in America Raising White Kids

220: Raising Children with Justice, Mercy and Kindness

The New Family Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2019 24:46

My guest on today's show has an interesting personal story to tell about differentiating her own parenting experience from the fundamentalist religion she was schooled in growing up. In fact, Cindy Wang Brandt has written a book on how to treat children with justice as well as how to encourage them to develop their own sense of what's right and wrong. It's called Parenting Forward: How to Raise Children with Justice, Mercy and Kindness. Cindy also hosts a podcast called Parenting Forward. She's here to talk about her upbringing, her work and her mission to spread the word about raising children with racial justice, gender equality, gender affirmation and their own sense of what's worth fighting for. Show notes Love our work? Please check out our Patreon Campaign! Become a patron of the show for as little as $1 per month

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I can't learn unless I talk: conversations on race

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Play Episode Listen Later Feb 5, 2019 22:10

In this episode, Havilah talks to Cindy Wang Brandt about the complexities of racial justice, how we can learn from others, and how not to be 'that' white person. Basically, it boils down to this: listen well. This is the first part of the conversation - tune in next week for the second half of the conversation. Patreon Cindy's website Parenting Forward Racial Justice Resources: Black and White: Racism in America Raising White Kids YA Book Recs

Raising Transgender Children - Laurie Frankel

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 14, 2019 42:35

At the end of the year, lots of people love posting round-ups of their favorite books. I was lazy and didn’t do a round up even though I read lots of good books, but IF I WERE to have done one for 2018, at the tippy top of the list would for sure be a novel titled, This is How it Always Is, by Laurie Frankel. Now, most of the authors I host on this show are non fiction authors, because parenting thought leaders usually write, well, parenting books, so it’s rare that I chat with a fiction writer. But I think this is such a relevant exception because this book is about raising a trans child, a subject that is near and dear to my heart because I have a trans brother, but we haven’t had a chance to explore it yet on the podcast, so I’m grateful for the opportunity to do so. But I’ve also been telling people that the book is not just like a LGBTQ niche fiction, it’s such a poignant read for parents in general, and really for all human beings, sort of exploring these transcendent themes that we all wrestle with. It’s just so well written and gripping and challenging and validating and beautiful all at the same time. I talk with Laurie about her life as a parent raising a trans child herself, and how that intersects with her fictional account. We talk about the characters she has created, as well as all the issues that arise with raising transgender children. Links (affiliates included): This is How it Always Is by Laurie Frankel - https://amzn.to/2RHQzbw Cutting for Stone by Abraham Verghese - https://amzn.to/2M3Dcgh Parenting Forward by Cindy Wang Brandt - https://amzn.to/2M10fZg PREORDER BONUS: As for me and my house poster - https://cindywangbrandt.com/parenting-forward/ Illustrated Children’s Ministry - https://store.illustratedchildrensministry.com?rfsn=1871132.f0ee48 Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt

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Cindy Wang Brandt

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Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 2019 46:55

This episode originally aired July 25, 2018.

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Refiner's Fire (Cindy Wang Brandt)

Be Still and Go

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 10, 2018 8:08

Malachi 3:1-4See, I am sending my messenger to prepare the way before me, and the Lord whom you seek will suddenly come to his temple. The messenger of the covenant in whom you delight—indeed, he is coming, says the Lord of hosts. But who can endure the day of his coming, and who can stand when he appears?For he is like a refiner’s fire and like fullers’ soap; he will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver, and he will purify the descendants of Levi and refine them like gold and silver, until they present offerings to the Lord in righteousness. Then the offering of Judah and Jerusalem will be pleasing to the Lord as in the days of old and as in former years.//I used to believe the refiner’s fire was meant to add suffering so we are purified by pain. But that paints a very masochistic view of God. If God is holy and just and loving, God’s fire illuminates so that we can draw together to relieve suffering of one another. Do not fear the refiner’s fire. It lights truth and justice and a path forward that includes those who suffer those among us.Prepare yourselves. He who comes will not be what we expect. It will not be the voices of those we are used to hearing from platforms and spotlights. It will be the surprising stories from those we have not heard before, refining us by opening our eyes, driving us to repentance, and then drawing us to a larger version of being human in our beautifully diverse world.-Cindy Wang Brandt//What messages have you been told about the refiner’s fire? How has your understanding of this metaphor evolved?//This episode was written and recorded by Cindy Wang Brandt. It was produced by Jim Keat. Samples include Refiner's Fire featuring Brian Doerksen & TWP Band. Background tracks include Relenquish, Blue Highway, and Smooth Actor by Podington Bear and Getting Lighter by Goldmund.Visit www.trcnyc.org/BeStillAndGo to download the 2018 Advent devotional and to listen to more episodes of Be Still and Go.

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Refiner's Fire (Cindy Wang Brandt)

Be Still and Go

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 10, 2018 8:08

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#27. Cindy Wang Brandt: Parenting for Progressives

A Better Story

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 27, 2018 54:58

How do you raise kids in a Christian environment without leaving them with loads of spiritual baggage? Cindy Wang Brandt is here to help. Cindy is a writer and speaker with a focus on empowering children to develop their own healthy spirituality. Between interviewing experts, curating conversations with thousands of parents, and raising her own kids, she brings wisdom and insight for parents and non-parents alike. You can catch Cindy on her own podcast, Parenting Forward, her website, https://cindywords.com, and on Twitter and Facebook. A huge thank you to Leigh Thomas for the crisp new logo. Check out more of her work at https://www.leighkthomas.com. Don't forget to head over to Theology Corner for like-minded voices, and check out Light Theory if you enjoyed the intro and outro music.

039: Deconstructing the Predatory Parenting of Evangelicalism (with Cindy Wang Brandt) Part 2

MindShift Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 5, 2018 39:42

In this Part 2 episode with Cindy Wang Brandt from Taiwan, we get into more specifics around how exactly one might classify raising children within evangelicalism as "predatory." Is it good and right for parents to pass along core values that are important to them? Including their own religion? Or should parents give children the space and autonomy to choose their own path spiritually? Find out more in this thought-provoking conversation!

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038: Deconstructing the Predatory Parenting of Evangelicalism (with Cindy Wang Brandt) Part 1

MindShift Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 28, 2018 35:55

Should raising children in an evangelical Christian environment be considered "predatory" on the part of the parents? My guest today, Cindy Wang Brandt from Taiwan, believes that in certain circumstances it absolutely is predatory. Children may not have the capacity or awareness to filter out teaching that may, in the end, prove to be abusive or harmful to their psychological, sexual, and relational development. Find out more in Part 1 of this fascinating conversation!

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135. Parenting Forward, an Interview with Cindy Wang-Brandt (Part 2)

Two Pastors' Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 7, 2018 20:46

The two pastors continue their conversation with author and podcaster, Cindy Wang-Brandt on progressive faith parenting. Her passion to raise spiritually grounded and socially mindful children is inspiring and prophetic. Come learn from her, just as we did. This is a stand-alone episode, but for those who missed the first part of the conversation, please refer to Episode 134.

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134. Parenting Forward, an Interview with Cindy Wang-Brandt (Part 1)

Two Pastors' Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 1, 2018 37:53

The two pastors enjoy a conversation with author and podcaster, Cindy Wang-Brandt. She writes and speaks about progressive faith parenting. Her passion to raise spiritually grounded and socially mindful children is inspiring and prophetic. This two-part conversation will be published as Episodes 134 and 135; in this episode (134), Cindy presents to us the five pillars of progressive faith parenting. Come learn from her, just as we did.

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When your faith shifts