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We are back with the CPTSD Medicine podcast after a break; a much-needed time of refreshing, regrouping, and recharging. 2024 will be a year where Tanner confidently owns and claims her authority to present her solutions to your CPTSD. This season will be focused on and specially crafted regarding support for partners of those recovering from CPTSD. In today's episode, Tanner delves into what you can expect from this season and shares an in-depth overview of her personal and professional background that qualifies her for this type of work. She shares a few contextual factors she wants you to consider and stresses the importance of making a deliberate and dedicated effort to come together and work through this season together as a couple. Tune in now to hear more about what to expect from this season, with your host Tanner Wallace. Thanks for listening!   Key Points From This Episode:   A welcome back message to listeners.  What to expect from season 11. The number one question Tanner gets in her DMs.  Tanner shares a special dedication for season 11. An overview of Tanner's background that qualifies her for work with CPTSD and partners. A different frequency of healing and the goal for this season Ending the ambiguity and putting down the unhelpful energy. A few contextual factors Tanner wants you to consider. A dedicated effort: come together with your partner to work through the episode.    Quotes:   “The sexual stuff, the sexual connection, the intimacy is simply a symptom of much deeper stuff that's happening underneath.” — Tanner Wallace [0:10:54]   “In my healing, I now understand CPTSD [and] healing it doesn't make logical sense. You just gotta run with what's happening. You've got to lean into the flow.” — Tanner Wallace [0:13:13]   “What's so powerful about the ‘It's ending' or ‘I'm staying' decision is it's squeaky clean and it ends the ambiguity.” — Tanner Wallace [0:16:58]   “You cannot arrive at the final result — that squeaky clean ‘yes, no', when you have an exit door wide open; that you're in.” — Tanner Wallace [0:20:29]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:   Subscribe to Tanner's monthly newsletter - The Calling here CPTSD Medicine on Instagram CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

We are rounding out season ten by thinking about and imagining around, the benefits of Energetic Stewardship. This season has had a massive focus on the Energy of CPTSD Recovery and how the Energy Work around Unburdening, Unblending, Integrating, and Embodying, comes together in conjunction with Parts Work. So, in wrapping up this season before we take a podcasting break, we wanted to bring it all back to two really key foci when thinking about Energetic Stewardship. Join in to hear more about the four different milestones of the CPTSD Recovery framework and how Energy Work translates into results that you care about, including the areas of money, time, fear, trust, and ability. Take care, and come find me on IG @cptsdmedicine, for the new weekly Live show!    Key Points From This Episode:   Connecting the dots with two key foci when thinking about Energetic Stewardship. A message from Tanner to all the listeners.  The four different milestones in the CPTSD Recovery framework. We jump into the first of the four milestones: Unblending. Unburdening; what it is and why it's so important.  Where the Energy Work becomes important in the Unburdening. Integration: stabilizing the new constellation and proportionality of energies (the new space).  Transitioning from the realm of thoughts to the realm of physicality; becoming a tangible and vivid embodiment. The two courses, 5 Circuits of Healing Power and DEVOTED focus on these four milestones.  How Energy Work translates into results you care about including money, time, fear, trust, and ability.  Why we are taking a podcasting break!    Quotes:   “My sole-purpose [and] calling. [My] purpose [and] mission, at this point in time, is to create an efficient, effective, holistic, CPTSD Recovery curriculum that you can drop into for two or so years and arrive out on the other side ready to live the life of your dreams!” — Tanner Wallace [0:02:30]   “If we want to recover from something as complex and multidimensional as CPTSD, we need frameworks.” — Tanner Wallace [0:04:15] “In my Tanner, personal opinion, CPTSD Recovery hasn't even started until you've experienced Unblending.” — Tanner Wallace [0:07:17]   “[Unburdening work] is so sacred. And this work is so profound, I know that there is something larger than the human experience at play.” — Tanner Wallace [0:14:56]   “Fear. When we are making decisions out of fear and not love, it is always something that is going to need to be unwound or undone in the future. When we are showing up in love everything just unfolds.” — Tanner Wallace [0:30:25]   “Just because I'm gifted at something doesn't mean I answer the call. I answer the call because I want to.” — Tanner Wallace [0:33:14]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:   CPTSD and The Six Energy Centers of the Power Core Tanner's Healing Containers CPTSD Medicine on YouTube CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

When we are not taught to protect ourselves as children, dark energies can penetrate our protective energetic barrier. Today we are going to discuss the darker energies that we may be receptive to when recovering CPTSD and how we can unburden ourselves from them. Tuning in, you'll hear about what makes us more susceptible to dark energetic attacks, when we are most vulnerable, and how you can know if you have dark energy inside you. We delve into how Energetic Stewardship can protect us from this negative energy, the importance of releasing it back to the collective in its original form, light, and what the unburdening sequence looks like. So to hear all of this and even get some insight into our upcoming Instagram live show, press play now! Key Points From This Episode: What makes us susceptible to darker energetic attacks that don't serve us positively. The importance of ridding dark energy from those around us by returning it to the light.  How Energetic Stewardship can protect us and those around us from dark energy.  When we're more susceptible to dark energy and what that looks like.  How to know that you have dark energy inside of you.  A brief overview of the unburdening sequence and the challenges it brings.  The interactive live Instagram show you can look forward to.   Quotes: “When we don't learn that natural self-protection, it's almost as if – there are gaps in our energetic boundaries – that allows us to be susceptible to absorbing the darker energies.” — Tanner Wallace [0:05:50]   “I am the path of least resistance to healing.” — Tanner Wallace [0:07:53]   “It's the true act of compassion to hold all but simultaneously learn how to hold it so we ourselves are not being compromised or destroyed or consumed in the process of holding the darkness.” — Tanner Wallace [0:10:00]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast

Welcome back to the show and our sincere apologies for our absence last week. We've been busy with a workshop that explored how to find (and lean into) your edge, real-time CPTSD recovery, and how to accelerate the healing process. And if you are in your own process of complex PTSD healing and self-discovery, be sure to keep checking our Instagram Stories @cptsdmedicine and join our email list (link in show notes) to stay up-to-date about the upcoming Energetic Stewardship workshop. Now, our movement through life can often be restricted by what someone in our bloodline did many, many, many years, ago. Their actions cause us to behave in certain repetitive ways, often to our own detriment or those of the ones around us.  These fear-based frequencies are known as Legacy Burdens and today, we unpack our definition of Legacy Burdens and how it relates to Lineage Journeys and Ancestral Healing. Then, we explore the ancient wisdom that we all have access to, our inherent gifts, the task of unburdening from intergenerational transmissions of trauma and how Parts work fits into this process, and how having a guide is helpful but only you can do the work! It's great to be back.  And sorry about the sound quality! My recording microphone was not the one recording! It was my laptop set behind me! AND YES!!! celebrating 100 episodes!!!! Key Points From This Episode:   Welcome back to the show as we explain why we didn't have an episode last week.  How CPTSD Recovery happens in real-time, and exploring the elements that hasten this process.  What it means to find your edge, and why you should always lean into it. How social media is extremely helpful when used correctly, and a sneak peek into season 11.  Introducing today's topic: Legacy Burdens; fear-based frequencies.  Reiterating the wonders (in healing) of Energetic Stewardship. A breakdown of the types of energies that we steward and are responsible for.   How we came to understand Legacy Burdens.  Lineage Journeys and Ancestral Healing. The deep, ancient wisdom that we all have access to.  Intergenerational transmissions of trauma and how to begin the work of unburdening.  Differentiating your burdens from the ones you've inherited.  How Parts work using our gifts fits into the unburdening process.  Why only you can do the work, but having a guide can be helpful.  Keep an eye on our Instagram Stories and sign up to our email list to stay informed about the upcoming Energetic Stewardship workshop.   Quotes: “Recovery happens in real-time, in our real life. And, we can hasten that process or create stimulations to increase the likelihood that we'll have opportunities to do deep, unburdening work when we are finding ourselves at our own edge.” — Tanner Wallace [02:03]   “Instagram, as I experience it, is a very, very potent, helpful guide and structure when you consume it with Self Leadership.” — Tanner Wallace [10:41]   “There are patterns that keep repeating in my life that I don't even fully understand.” — Tanner Wallace [26:29]   “It's not just turning down the fear-based frequencies; it's that and transmuting them, alchemizing them, and releasing and integrating the gifts — this is legacy work.” — Tanner Wallace [38:07]   “I am not here to provide you [with] all the answers. I'm here as a guide to open up spaces for you to see, ‘Oh! This is what is possible; this could be my next aligned action; this could be my level up; this could be a space that I play.'” — Tanner Wallace [39:03]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:   Nicole Casteel Mark Wolynn Ann Sinko Five Circuits of Healing Power  CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

For many of us, the start of our CPTSD recovery journey is largely driven by fear. But what if fear didn't need to be your primary motivation? What if, instead, you found yourself inspired to live a life where you weren't just surviving but thriving? Today we continue our energy series and delve even deeper into the concept of Self Energy by unpacking The Three Principles for Amplifying Self Energy and the role it can play in your healing journey. In discussing the Three Principles of Amplifying Self Energy, we address the discomfort one can feel when trying something new, like Connecting to Source Energy, and how embracing novelty can help you move past awkwardness and begin the important work of deepening your learning. We then go on to investigate the need to understand yourself as one entity that has been fragmented — and how you can help your system realize that you are one entity under your own leadership — before examining how embracing simple structures can provide you with powerful pathways to practice. To learn more about how you can start to embody leadership by amplifying your own Self Energy, join us for this illuminating episode! Key Points From This Episode:   Taking a moment to engage in the practice of Energetic Stewardship. An overview of what we've covered in season 10 thus far. Why today's episode will be focused on diving deeper into Self Energy. Insight into the three principles for Amplifying Self Energy. The first principle; embracing novelty. Accepting that you may initially feel awkward, performative, or silly. The benefits of being exposed to different mentors and methods. Finding what resonates and is authentic to you. The second principle; learning to recognize yourself as one singular system. Why you need to understand yourself as one system that has been fragmented. Helping your system realize that you're all one entity under your leadership. How recognizing your singular system can facilitate massive unburdening. The third principle; embracing simple structures as powerful pathways. A rundown of the nine simple structures to provide you with a pathway to practice. Three different opportunities for you to dive deeper into this work.   Tweetables:   “Notice and try to get in touch with what part bumped you out of staying with me. What parts still don't feel like it's safe to be in stillness, to give yourself some time to be held, to be nourished, to be inspired, to be supported, to be motivated.” — Tanner Wallace [08:05]   “The first time I was integrating elemental medicine into my Parts work, I felt so stupid. I felt like I was pretending. I felt like I was performing. It just felt so awkward.” — Tanner Wallace [22:12]    “As I stuck with it, and I continued to try it, I then released myself from it having to look the way that I'd seen other people do it. And I started to just do it the way that truly resonated with me. And then it started to become more authentic.” — Tanner Wallace [22:28]   “It helps to be exposed to a lot of different ways of connecting with Source energy. So that you can pick and choose from different mentors, different examples, what really lands and has resonance in your experience.” — Tanner Wallace [23:12]   “If you don't embrace the novelty and get past the awkward, ‘this is ridiculous' stage, you won't come to discover what medicine is truly meant to be yours.” — Tanner Wallace [23:41]   “We're all one system that has been fragmented, and some parts may not realize that they're you fragmented off, and the sooner your system can realize that you're all one entity under your leadership, the sooner massive unburdening can happen.” — Tanner Wallace [26:11]   “This is a community. We are building a new paradigm of CPTSD recovery that when the next human discovers they have CPTSD they don't go online and have no resources to turn to.” — Tanner Wallace [39:10]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: Episode 95: Energy Work for CPTSD Recovery Episode 96: Protective Part Energy & CPTSD Triggers Episode 97: CPTSD and Inner Child Work Episode 98: Exploring Self Energy In CPTSD Recovery  Current Healing Containers DEVOTED Five Circuits of Healing Power Energetic Stewardship Workshop CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast

Life has an extraordinary way of guiding us toward self-discovery and self-realization. Often, in our quest for understanding ourselves and our purpose, we find ourselves on a unique journey of meeting our true selves, exploring the depths of our Self Energy, and embracing the concept of Energetic Stewardship. This narrative delves into the profound encounter of meeting yourself, understanding self-energy, and the transformative power of nurturing our innermost selves. In this simulcast episode, we unpack the concept of meeting yourSELF, Self Energy, and Energetic Stewardship through the lens of the 5 Circuits of Healing Power curriculum. The journey of meeting yourself, exploring self-energy, and embracing energetic stewardship will be a life-changing odyssey. This profound encounter will allow you to transcend the limitations of the physical self and tap into the interconnectedness of energies that shape your existence. In this episode, learn about the self-surviving mechanisms that limit your healing, honoring the misunderstanding of yourself, finding the edge of acceptance, healing language, and focusing on your core to generate Self Energy. Gain insights into the Protective Parts of you, harmonizing your energy, the steps to trusting yourself, and much more. Tune in and embark on this transformative odyssey and unlock the boundless potential of meeting yourself, embracing Energetic Stewardship, and discovering the interconnectedness of energies that shape your existence. Key Points From This Episode: An overview of the 5 Circuits of Healing Power curriculum Working through the 5 Circuits of Healing Power. Lessons and insights from people progressing through the modules. The benefits of knowing all the Parts of yourself. How to best approach working through Circuit 3. Giving yourself permission to be honest with yourself. Steps to begin systematically unburdening yourself. Digging deeper into emotions to get to the next level. Why mainstream therapy is limited in its potential to heal. The support system needed from others to heal. Hear how to generate Self Energy for CPTSD Recovery. Learn the definition of your True Self. Building trust in yourself during the CPTSD Recovery process. Tweetables: “Parts [of us] can show up mostly in our mind but they also have a body, heart, and spirit imprint as well, but some of those are harder to access depending on the part.” — Tanner Wallace [10:34]   “No one wakes up and cheers you on. You have to somehow find something inside of you that is so deep, so raw, and so convicted that you wake up and reconnect with nature and your body, and you say to yourself, ‘Okay, begin again.'” — Tanner Wallace [25:00]   “The more challenging it gets the closer I will come to myself. This is a period of the journey that is absolutely solo work.” — Tanner Wallace [34:17]   “You are not separate from your system.” — Tanner Wallace [36:31]   “True Self is not just Self Energy in my experience. True self is an amalgamation of all sorts of things.” — Tanner Wallace [42:18]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: 5 Circuits of Healing Power Course CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

If you are a human with CPTSD and you are familiar with inner child work but you're looking for something more, this episode is for you! You may have found some benefit or come into closer contact with your unresolved trauma by connecting to a younger version of yourself, but you may not have found the relief you were searching for. Tuning in, you'll discover how Wounded Younger Parts are the epicenter of where your trauma has been stored, how to access these parts, and how this relates to CPTSD recovery. You'll also learn more about emotional flashbacks, why they're so intense, and the different energies that flood your system when these happen. You'll then gain a deeper understanding of Parts Work and the complex relationship between Protective Parts and Wounded Younger Parts. For some profound insight into how parts work may be the key to unlocking inner child work on your journey to CPTSD recovery, don't miss today's episode!   Key Points From This Episode:   Who will benefit from this episode. Insight into why your host is so passionate about CPTSD recovery. New days, fresh starts, and new evidence to activate personal power and write new stories. Ending the era of outsourcing your recovery and operating in your own self-leadership instead. What Wounded Younger Parts are and how accessing them relates to CPTSD recovery. The different energies that flood your system during intense emotional flashbacks. How Parts Work enables you to gain clearer knowledge of your Wounded Younger Parts. Advice for responding to your Wounded Younger Part when you find them. The complex relationship between Protective Parts and Wounded Younger Parts. How working with Protective Parts differs from working with Wounded Younger Parts.  Recognizing that your Protective Parts and your Wounded Younger Parts are all you. Positioning Parts Work for CPTSD Recovery in dialogue with inner child work. Learning how to “unbend” as the first part of the process. Tweetables: “Wounded Younger Parts are the core or epicenter of where the trauma has been stored. Once you arrive at that place [and] you've gotten permission, access, and trust from Protective Parts, unburdening that and releasing that is ridiculously simple.” — Tanner Wallace [10:24] “What you'll often find with Wounded Younger Parts is they are simply a scared child, a scared version of you, a scared adolescent version of you, frozen in time at a scene of betrayal, rejection, or abandonment.” — Tanner Wallace [13:46] “The bulk of the parts work for CPTSD is building trust and facilitating a softening and transition to power between your Protective Parts running your internal world and you ascending to your rightful seat of power as the leader of your system.” — Tanner Wallace [20:34] “Inner child work with parts work is seeing yourself as a fragmented human with Protective Parts, Wounded Younger Parts, and you leading yourself—separated from these Parts but in collaboration with these Parts—to offer unburdening [and] integration.” — Tanner Wallace [22:44]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving  Energetic Stewardship Workshop The Five Circuits of Healing Power  CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

We begin today's episode with a Joyful Surprise! So make sure to tune in as Tanner shares the bigger context behind the surprise and the surprise itself. We then move into the content for today's episode which focuses on Protective Parts' Energy. Tanner elaborates on the larger context of working with Protective Parts and the key principle thereof. A quick recap on the True Self leads us into a discussion on understanding the value of having a pure anchor to ground it all, The Core. We then dive into the goals of protective parts work, and the difference between that and symptom management, and she shares her thoughts on unattached burdens. She elaborates on the four typical energetic signatures of Protective Parts and introduces two other kinds of parts that are distinguished by their use of punishing or despairing strategies to control. This episode is humming with insights and knowledge on this aspect of CPTSD recovery, so make sure to tune in to hear all this and more.    Key Points From This Episode: Tanner shares the bigger context behind her ‘Joyful Surprise'. More about the first workshop in the Energetic Stewardship Series. The ‘Joyful Surprise' (tune in to find out). An introduction to our topic for today's episode: Protective Parts Energy. The Four F's as seen in Pete Walker's book, From Surviving to Thriving.  The larger context of working with protective parts. The key principle of protective part works.  A recap about the True Self and what it is. Tanner talks about her shift of beginning to dislike the term True Self. Understanding the value of having a pure anchor that grounds it all: The Core.  We talk about what Protective Parts are and the goal of protective parts work.  The difference between Parts Work and symptom management.  Tanner addresses her thoughts and perspective on unattached burdens. Her major point: it's not just as simple as working with protective parts. Tanner elaborates on the four typical energetic signatures of Protective Parts. We touch on the language of the shadowy survival or protective energy of Protective Parts. She introduces two other kinds of other parts that use punishing or despairing to control. Tapping into the ultimate survival code: lean in to connect when in distress.  How a trauma ecosystem undermines positive youth development.  She circles back to talk about the punishing or despairing parts.  How legacy burdens differ from punishing or despairing parts. We wrap up with the energies of Protective Parts.    Tweetables: “I don't think, for CPTSD, self-energy alone is sufficient. At some point when you get to some of the most gaslit, injured, lineage-related, collective-trauma-related parts, energies, or entities inside of us, self-energy alone — is not adequate in its potency to help soften some of those parts.” — Tanner Wallace [0:04:42] Longer quote   “I think, and this is what is so powerful about IFS, is that there is a larger context with working with protective parts, that is really important to keep in mind, or else we can get lost in protective part work and lose sight of the key anchoring principle — the True Self.” — Tanner Wallace [0:07:59] Longer quote   “Protective parts are native, fragmented, aspects of self that have broken off from the central channel, or inner world, and — are now running their own energy.” — Tanner Wallace [0:11:51]   “The goal of parts work is to unburden protective parts of whatever they are carrying around — that make them want to stay separate from the true self, core, [or] central channel.” — Tanner Wallace [0:12:33]   “This is my major point: it's not just as simple as working with protective parts. Even though you can receive relief almost immediately working with protective parts, there is a larger, deeper, longer-term process of the unburdening sequence.” — Tanner Wallace [0:16:10]   “Protective parts are connected to our human experience, they are fragmented aspects of our self that separated and came online to run different survival energies when moments happened in our lives, in childhood or adolescence, when it was very clear there was no safe adult to protect us, love us, or nurture us.” — Tanner Wallace [0:23:34] Longer quote   “Lean in to connect when in distress; that's the ultimate survival code.” — Tanner Wallace [0:24:27]   “The unburdening sequence is about keeping pace with and matching the protective part energy with equal measures of self-energy, so that your seat of power, your leadership, never degrades or diminishes to the point where protective parts take over.” — Tanner Wallace [0:31:04]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: Energetic Stewardship Series Workshop Join the 5 Circuits Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving  CPTSD Medicine on YouTube CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

As we continue our exploration of energy in this season of the show, we come to the important subject of working with energy, and how to practically go about this. Though energy work might sometimes seem abstract or difficult to pin down, it doesn't have to be; we can actually approach this important part of our CPTSD journey in concrete and super practical ways, and that is what we are talking about today! With the foundation of the Internal Family Systems grounding what we do, there are many vital questions that we can address through the process of embodiment, so if you have not yet listened to the two most recent episodes in which some of these ideas were introduced fully, make sure to do that too. In today's show, we will get into cultivating our own medicine, and the six energies that we all possess as humans with CPTSD. These are namely Protective Part energy, Wounded Younger Part energy, Legacy Burdens or inherited family trauma, Darker Collective energy, Self Energy, and Source Energy. By becoming fully intimate with these concepts we can start to unburden, integrate, and embody the CPTSD healing! To close out the show we cover a few helpful ideas for working with energy such as alchemizing, transmuting, purifying, elevating, and absorbing, so make sure to join in today, and catch it all!   Key Points From This Episode:   Welcome to the world of action and doing the real recovery work! Finding a way to keep showing up through the CPTSD process.  Tangible ways to approach energy work.  Understanding the concept of dropping the story.  Moving back into the body and heart in order to connect to spirit. Using our mind to archive the lessons and wisdom of the process.  The six energies that we run as a human with CPTSD.  Concepts for working with energy; helpful ideas to explore and develop.  A reminder of the potency and longevity of healing energy work!    Tweetables:   “Energy work is really concrete.” — Tanner Wallace [09:48]   “There is no need for you to tell your survivor story any longer.” — Tanner Wallace [11:58]   “Your story is one of recovery, your story is one of cycle-breaking.” — Tanner Wallace [14:59]   “Energy work is a natural way to move out of thinking and analysis and more into awareness.” — Tanner Wallace [18:22]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:   CPTSD Medicine on Instagram CPTSD Medicine on YouTube Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

The work of a cycle breaker is profoundly sacred, and patience and determination are necessary in our pursuit to heal personal and collective trauma. On today's show, we will be exploring the Power Core, its six energy centers, and how we use these to bring about new images and interpretations of what we need to be, as we travel through our journey of dying and rebirth. Starting at the tailbone, and moving right up to the top of the head, these energy centers provide us with so much empowerment, and by tuning in, you hear about what each of these represents and addresses, from choice and manifestation, to possibility and beyond. Stepping into our own energy and the process of unburdening ourselves can be exquisite and world-changing, so make sure to connect and catch it all in this powerful episode! Key Points From This Episode: The importance of the Power Core; the six energy centers that run along our body.  Rewriting the old coding of fear, survival, and default patterns.   Protecting ourselves from external energy at the right times. Using the Power Core for unburdening and embodiment sequences. First steps in working with the Power Core; beginning a practice with the six energy centers. The Foundation Energy Center and its role in withstanding challenges.  Restoring our sacred right to choose through our Desire Energy Center.  Our Identity Energy Center and manifestation; purpose, authenticity, and quantum leaps.  Timeless synchronicity, belonging, and the Voice Energy Center. The Mind Energy Center as the portal to perspective and precise evolution.  Accessing the portal to possibility and resonance through the Inspiration Energy Center at the top of your head. Tweetables: “I believe that all of us, as cycle breakers, need to resonate with, find the frequency of the motherless mother.” — Tanner Wallace [01:55]   “We are energetically very messy, as a human running protective part energy, that has been activated by wounded younger parts.” — Tanner Wallace [05:52]   “We really want to rewrite the old coding.” — Tanner Wallace [06:24]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: CPTSD Medicine on Instagram CPTSD Medicine on YouTube Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

CPTSD recovery leads to liberation, finding wholeness, and honoring your birthright. This episode explores energy as the primary focus of CPTSD recovery by outlining six different energy types. Every resource you consult is influenced by the person offering it, and an evolving perspective involves considering different perspectives. While certain energy types affect all people, humans with CPTSD are more susceptible to certain collective energies. This discussion explores what this means for those individuals, and offers clarity on the misunderstood nature of dark energy. Tune in for an incredibly informative look at the complex energy structure underpinning CPTSD recovery today.    Key Points From This Episode: A reintroduction to your host, Dr. Tanner Wallace. Her shifting perspective on placing energy as the major focus of CPTSD recovery.  Why she would not have been ready to consider this framework a few years ago. How Season 10 returns to Tanner's academic roots. The six energies of CPTSD.   Why Self Energy is such a key factor of CPTSD.  What determines your focus in any particular field and why it is important to consult different sources. The two parts to energy-focused CPTSD recovery. Survival coding from our human experience and when it comes online. Legacy burden energy inherited by humans with CPTSD. Collective trauma affecting all humans on planet Earth. Why humans with CPTSD are more susceptible to dark energy. Clarity on the incredibly misunderstood nature of dark energy. Abandonment flooding or ‘I hurt' energy. The next episode: Power Core activation. Defining Self Energy.  Connecting to Source Energy.  What all of this leads to: liberation through finding wholeness and honoring your birthright.    Tweetables: “My understanding of CPTSD is that it's a constellation of energies that influence soul and spirit.” — Tanner Wallace [03:28] “If you're a human with CPTSD, one of the ways to describe what has happened to you, is you did not develop adequate access self-energy. You didn't understand how to return to it when things got chaotic or destabilized in your world.” — Tanner Wallace [07:27] “Dark energy is so incredibly misunderstood. Dark energy is light energy that has been co-opted and actually can be alchemized into the most potent form of source energy, love, and light.” — Tanner Wallace [17:49]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: CPTSD Medicine on Instagram CPTSD Medicine on YouTube Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

The ability to heal ourselves exists within all of us, we just need to learn how to tap into it. Today's guest, Nicole Casteel, is a sound healer, songstress, ritualist, facilitator, ceremony guide, and energy artist. In this episode, we do a deep dive into what her own personal healing journey has looked like and how she now helps others to heal by accessing their intuition largely through the powerful combination of breathwork and music. Nicole is a source of endless wisdom and just listening to her feels like the first stage of healing! Tune in today to hear why breathwork is so central to letting go of trauma, how it can help us reclaim our connection to our bodies, and why leaning into your community on your healing journey is an essential part of the process. The greatest gift you can ever give yourself and the world is to embrace the fullness of who you truly are, so let this episode be a starting point.   Key Points From This Episode:   How Tanner and Nicole met.  The power of breathwork and Nicole's journey of reclaiming her power through it.  What the three-part breath consists of. Why music and breathwork are so complementary.  The key to successfully holding a breathwork space for others. Gnosticism: An ancient feminine art form that Nicole is reclaiming (and helping others reclaim) through healing work. Nicole's lived experience of the 4 Line in the Human Design sphere. The importance of leaning into your community on your healing journey.  What trauma can turn into if it isn't dealt with. Masculine and feminine elements that all human beings need in order to be whole.  The importance of meeting people where they are as their healer.  Where our shadow selves commonly originate.  Signs that someone is not capable of holding space for you in your current stage.  The greatest gift that you can give the world!    Tweetables: “There's something that —I feel happens with breathwork where you can really tap into that body level awareness of your own power. That, to me, feels like where all of the healing comes to completion.” — Nicole Casteel [8:57]   “The body is the densest, most challenging part where we hold all of our patterns. It is the subconscious mind, so to get to rewire that through embodied practice like breathwork is really the key.” — Nicole Casteel [9:11]   “Music is — the heart of what I do and it really is about creating a space for people to be able to drop into themselves.” — Nicole Casteel [11:45]   “I've really been able to tap into my own intuition through the healing I've done through breathwork. It's like I really become this intuitive channel in the breathwork sessions.” — Nicole Casteel [14:08]   “We don't heal in a vacuum. We have to do the personal process but we also have to have community in order to heal.” — Nicole Casteel [28:23]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: Wild Heart Resonance Nicole Casteel on Instagram David Elliott Erin Telford CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

Whether you're a regular listener or you recently found this podcast through an algorithm, a friend, or a desperate Google search, know that you are welcome in this space. It's an honor to play a part in your healing journey! Today, we are joined by a very special guest who has been instrumental in my own journey and that of my family. Erika Straub is an international trauma and anxiety coach, author, and speaker. Her deep knowledge of soma and psyche is the genesis for her coaching programs, which focus on the resolution of anxiety and trauma responses rooted in attachment wounds and shame. In this expansive and enlightening episode, Erika shares her perspective on the importance of outsider witnessing, the intrinsic links between intimacy and safety, and how to recognize and respond to shutdown responses. We also discuss what it means to face shame, develop self, regain personal power, create safety, and move from emotional neglect to emotional intimacy, plus so much more. To find out how Erika can help you heal past trauma, free yourself from shame, and access a deeper level of safety and security through emotional intimacy, be sure to tune in today! Key Points From This Episode: How Erika holds a cycle-breaking frequency for Tanner and her family. The value of an external perspective to sort through the complexities of phobic reactions. Why long-term mentorship is an essential component of the healing journey. An understanding of the relationship between intimacy and safety. What shutdown responses can look like and the role that shame and fear play. Transformative arcs of rupture and repair in close relationships. The importance of celebrating every milestone in your shame work journey. Why Erika believes that seeing and feeling shame can be “a beautiful thing.” A question that can help you distinguish between shame and anxiety. Power differentials in trauma-informed practice, particularly when it comes to parenting. The magic of creating safety outside of sameness. Why intimacy is such an important part of Erika's work. Accessing a deeper level of safety and security through emotional intimacy. How children build secure, emotionally vulnerable attachments with their parents. A look at the intersection between the nervous system and the attachment system.   Tweetables: “It is so valuable for any of us to have that outside witness. When we're with someone who can witness, it helps us evolve our own internal witness.” — Erika Straub [0:07:52]   “The thing that makes us feel the safest is connection. If we can't access that deep level of intimacy and connection with someone, we don't actually get to experience the full spectrum of safety.” — Erika Straub [0:11:04]   “Shutting down contributes to a lot of anxiety because we're blanketing everything that we're feeling and we're distancing [ourselves], although what we really want is connection.” — Erika Straub [0:18:59]   “Once we actually see and feel shame, we don't unsee it, which is a beautiful thing. Then, we discover other pockets where it has inserted itself that we could never have seen before.” — Erika Straub [0:24:52]   “Safety creates freedom. That's where liberation from trauma is. It's not so much ‘what did happen' but ‘what can we do to repair it?' How can I show up imperfectly?” — Erika Straub [0:37:47]   “Once we can reach [a place of emotional intimacy], we access a deeper level of safety and security” — Erika Straub [0:42:10]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: Anxious Female Erika Straub on Instagram CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

Coaches and mentors offer a wealth of knowledge, expertise, and experience to help individuals overcome challenges, expand their skill set, and tap into their true potential. In this episode, I speak to Stephanie Anne Hughson, aka @itsxogingy on Instagram, the CEO, coach and content creator behind a multi-million dollar coaching business. Dubbed the "unicorn" of the industry, Stephanie is a content creator, influencer, and wealth expander extraordinaire. She has transformed her passion for social media and brand building into a life-changing coaching practice, complete with one of the most innovative personal online brands. Her coaching secret is maintaining a perfect balance of practical steps and energetic momentum that make her teachings truly transformative. In our conversation, we talk about energetic matches, showing up without the intention of getting something in return, and why courage and confidence are the basis for her mentoring approach. We also delve into the role of courage and confidence in her life, embracing failure, an essential realization from her personal journey, how she helps her clients ignite their own courage, and what it means to lead yourself through fear. We explore why some people resist the concept of coaching, before exploring what it means to take accountability for your success and failure, the type of relationship a client should have with their coaches, the secret to true transformation, and much more! Tune in and get ready to unlock your full potential with the coach you never knew you needed, Stephanie Anne Hughson! Key Points From This Episode: Background about today's guest, Stephanie Anne Hughson. How much you can expect to pay for a consultation with Stephanie. We discuss the value of energetic matches. What sets Stephanie's approach to coaching apart from that of other coaches. Learn about her personal journey to achieving the success she enjoys today. Why courage and confidence are core to her coaching methodology. Developing confidence through courage and why it is okay to embrace failure. Reasons why the people Stephanie coaches are able to achieve massive success. She shares her definition of success and why you should make the most of small moments. Find out how clients can leverage a coach or mentor to reach their full potential. We explore why some people are hesitant to coaching or mentorship. The type of relationship that clients should develop with their coach. Discover the secret to achieving true personal transformation. A final takeaway message that Stephanie has for listeners. Tweetables:   “I have actually, 100%, built my life and business through courage, not even confidence.” — Stephanie Anne Hughson [11:49]   “Courage is evolution, courage keeps us on an edge, and courage keeps us growing.” — Stephanie Anne Hughson [12:50]   “The point of the journey is to make mistakes and do good things. How else do we live?” — Stephanie Anne Hughson [22:31]   “I like to make the small moments really special and that is what I define as the ‘time of my life.'” — Stephanie Anne Hughson [28:44]   “Do not just listen to what the mentor is saying, look at who the mentor is.” — Stephanie Anne Hughson [32:26]   “Coaching is about relationships and every relationship has a different timeline and a different journey.” — Stephanie Anne Hughson [42:25]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: Stephanie Anne Hughson on Instagram CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

As we kick off Season 9 of the CPTSD Medicine Podcast, I share a bonus episode with you today. In this season, I will be interviewing some of the mentors, guides, and coaches who have been central to my own healing journey, but in order to situate the series and provide you with some context, I feel that it is important to share my own journey with you. Tuning in, you'll hear about my love of learning and how life and trauma interrupted my sense of curiosity and drove me to pursue recognition in the scientific community. You'll hear about the chaos, stress, and dysregulation I lived with, how despite years of therapy, no one ever mentioned the word "trauma" to me, and how the book Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving changed my life. I explain my introduction to Internal Family Systems, the research I did to structure my recovery, and how I developed The Five Circuits of Healing Power around my first phase of transformation. I also discuss Phase 2 of complex trauma recovery, the mentorship I sought, and how this relates to my work. Whether you have never heard my story or heard it multiple times, I hope it will inspire you as you see yourself, or at least Parts of yourself, in it.  Key Points From This Episode: Today's episode: my story and why I feel compelled to share it.  My love of learning and how life and my trauma interrupted my sense of curiosity. How this led me to become a professor in health and human development. How my chaotic personal life paralleled my career.  How in all my years of therapy, no one ever mentioned the word “trauma”. Why chaos, stress, and dysregulation feel normal if you've grown up in a trauma ecosystem. How the closest I got to “trauma” was “Borderline Personality Disorder”. My introduction to mindfulness and alternative ways to be in the world. The moment when my second marriage was falling apart and the absurd thing I did to fix it.  How the book Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving led me to realize that my problem was complex trauma.  The research I did to structure my own recovery.  My introduction to internal family systems and how this became the foundation of my work. How I developed The Five Circuits of Healing Power around my first transformation phase. Phase two of complex trauma recovery and the mentorship I sought out. Insight into how my thinking evolved in terms of divine feminine embodiment.  The CPTSD Wheel of Life, DEVOTED, and the Directional Callings it moves through. Two other containers in my coaching business: The CPTSD Sanctuary and Healing Power Full Force. What you can expect from Season 9.  Tweetables:   “Life and my trauma interrupted a lot of that curiosity, a lot of those open-ended expansive pursuits of knowledge, and were replaced by a more performative drive to accomplish, achieve, procure validity and status in the scientific community.” — Tanner Wallace [02:55]   “When you've grown up in a constant state of survival physiology activation in a trauma ecosystem, chaos, stress, [and] dysregulation all feel so normative.” — Tanner Wallace [05:17]   “Divine archetypal resonance, the elemental medicine, the activation sequence of the gene keys, the understanding of human design, lineage journeying, these realms across timelines and time-based experiences moving into the spiritual realm; this has been a huge focus of my journey.” — Tanner Wallace [25:35]   “Season 9 is a chance for me to open up a window, a portal, and pull the curtain open and show you the energy, the minds, the bodies, the voices, the inspirations, the knowings, the wisdom, the designs, the gene keys behind the humans who have supported my own journey.” — Tanner Wallace [30:33]   “Having to heal yourself from the inside out and alchemize the energy of trauma, gives you really pristine, pure, potent ways of showing up in your life.” — Tanner Wallace [33:46]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:   Parenting from the Inside Out   Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving  The Body Keeps the Score IFS & CPTSD with Justin Martin Tanner Wallace on Instagram CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast    

Welcome back to another installment of our ongoing exploration of the big symptom categories of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). In this special episode, which was recorded live on Instagram, we explore the fifth symptom category of CPTSD: the loss of a system of meaning. In part one of this discussion (which I encourage you to go back and listen to), I explain why I believe this is one of the most inaccurate ways to describe a CPTSD symptom. In fact, we develop a complex and well-defined meaning-making system in response to a threat to our attachment context. Today, we look at that system of meaning, what you can do to meet yourself within it, and ultimately, how you can find your way out of it. We also delve into how you can correct the mistakes your Protective Parts made when trying to find meaning in trauma in a restorative way that is not re-traumatizing. Finally, I walk you through a grounding practice of self-energy, source energy, and affirmation. As a survivor listening to this, as a human with CPTSD, I want to help you understand what you've been tasked with as you embark on your recovery journey. So, for deeper insight into the joys of unburdening yourself of Protective Part shadow energy, finding your “inner light,” and reclaiming your personal power, be sure to join me today!   Key Points From This Episode:   Why the “loss of a system of meaning” is an inaccurate symptom category of CPTSD. Insight into the important but misguided function of our protective parts. The meaning-making system we develop when faced with a threat to our attachment context. How to meet yourself within that system (and find your way out using your “inner light.”) The task of unburdening yourself of all non-native energy and amplifying your self-energy. Why modifying your thinking and belief systems doesn't work for CPTSD recovery. Important strategies for holding your own energy and releasing frequencies of shame. Ways to tap into frequencies of trust and conviction. Learning to identify the different energetic signatures of our protective parts. A reminder that you are not broken or flawed: you are burdened by energy. The importance cycle of witnessing and validating from a space of self-energy. When you can begin to work on compassionate, loving thought correction. How to get a free self-energy study guide from 5 Circuits of Healing Power. Closing with a grounding practice of self-energy and source energy.   Tweetables: “The idea that the Protective Parts of us don't have a meaning system is wildly inaccurate. In fact, they have developed a very well-articulated, well-versed meaning system around [the idea that] 'something is wrong with the human I inhabit.'” — Tanner Wallace [0:03:02]   “The one task you have in recovery from complex trauma is to unburden your system of all non-native energy such that you can amplify your self-energy, which allows you to be in a place of personal power and self-leadership to make all the decisions in your life.” — Tanner Wallace [0:12:02]   “We're not flawed. We're not broken. We're running about 18 different energies [depending on what] time of day it is and whoever is in our relational field. Cleaning this up is a matter of amplifying self-energy.” — Tanner Wallace [0:28:56]   “Love is what transmutes trauma. Love heals trauma.” — Tanner Wallace [0:32:46]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: The System of Meaning CPTSD Provides Us (Part 1) ‘What Is Complex PTSD (C-PTSD)?' 5 Circuits of Healing Power CPTSD Medicine on Instagram CPTSD Medicine on YouTube Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

Firstly, I'd like to start by saying that I am seeing a collective healing happening all around me. I am proud of all of you for giving yourselves the permission to level up, expand, and fully express yourselves. The loss of a system of meaning is the 5th symptom category of CPTSD and, in my opinion, also the most inaccurate. When we are dealing with complex trauma, we don't lose our systems of meaning; we merely lose access to them. It then becomes about tapping into our self-energy to unburden ourselves to be able to enjoy the limitless possibilities that come with self-belief. Today, I will be explaining why losing a system of meaning is hard to define, the mistakes our protective parts make when trying to find meaning in trauma, the joys of unburdening ourselves and gaining access to meaning through self-energy, and why you may be afraid of letting go of despair. If you would like to learn more about unburdening your inner world, amplifying your self-energy, and becoming your own most powerful recovery coach, be sure to check out my 5 Circuits of Healing Power self-paced curriculum. So much love from me to you.❤️   Key Points From This Episode: Leveling up, expansion, and giving yourself permission for self-expression.  The collective healing that I see happening all around me.  Losing a system of meaning, having no faith, and feelings of hopelessness.  The difficulty in defining a loss of a system of meaning. Mistakes that the Protective Parts of us make when trying to find meaning in trauma.  How we don't lose systems of meaning in our trauma, we merely lose access to them.  Having the self-energy to be able to access systems of meaning.  What we regain access to once we unburden ourselves.   The fear of letting go of despair.  Why ‘losing a system of meaning' is the most inaccurate symptom category of CPTSD.  The wonderful possibilities of tapping into Self Energy. Differences between how we work and other common thought-correction modalities.  The trials of trust that our Protective Parts put us through.  Taking a look at what we'll be covering in the next and final episode of season 8. The 5 Circuits of Healing Power self-paced curriculum.    Tweetables: “I am clearer than I've ever been before that we truly are leading a survivor-led trauma recovery revolution.” — Tanner Wallace [5:39]   “Our soul is connected to our earthly, human experience. Our spirit is connected to the beyond, boundless oneness we have with the universe.” — Tanner Wallace [16:34]   “The fear is: If we have a little bit of hope, if we try this healing out, if we see what's on the other side of letting go of the despair, letting go of this belief [that] nothing will ever get better  — if we let go of that, what happens if we can't heal?” — Tanner Wallace [18:11]   “Once trust is there in self, once confidence is there in self, [then] there is openness to receiving alternative meaning-making.” — Tanner Wallace [22:53]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: 5 Circuits of Healing Power CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

Complex post-traumatic stress disorder recovery is all about recovering the inner sense of innocence. Today, I want to encourage you to return to your body and awaken your senses so that you can be fully present for this special episode. If you haven't listened to the previous episode in this two-part series, please go back and do so now! Today, you will learn how to resurrect the part of yourself that is aware of the trauma you have experienced, what questions to ask the old version of yourself, how to recover your innocence, and the importance of surrendering to whatever response you may have to this process. I will walk you through how you can return to yourself and fully detach from your trauma. Thank you for joining me and remembering to love yourself!  Key Points From This Episode: A reminder to listen to Part One, as it sets important context for this episode. Take a deep breath, come back to your body, and be in this space with me today.  What CPTSD recovery is: the inner sense of innocence and why it is a birthright.  How to call forward parts of you that are aware of your trauma and what that may feel like.  Why you must surrender to your internal responses and be proud of surviving. Asking the old version of yourself if they are okay and how you can help.  Affirmations to tell your old self to help them come into the light.  Why there are no mistakes in this process. The solution for detaching from trauma: attaching to the parts that carry the burden. Tweetables: “CPTSD recovery as a journey is about the restoration of innocence. Inno-cence. It is an inner sense of the innocence [or] what we have lost along the way.” — Tanner Wallace [0:04:57] “I am whole. I am complete. I am worthy. I am beautiful. I am magnificent.” — Tanner Wallace [0:07:15] “Whatever happened, however long it [happened for], that is not you!” — Tanner Wallace [0:17:48] Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast

Detaching from trauma and pretending that distressing events didn't even happen has become a very tragic part of the human condition. Please note that this episode carries a trigger warning for complex post-traumatic stress disorder and sexual assault so please listen with care. Today on the CPTSD Medicine Podcast, we are discussing another one of the symptoms of CPTSD; detachment from the trauma. This is a very heavy topic that my body has even said ‘no' to discussing but I am doing it anyway in the hopes of helping you process the trauma. Tuning in, you'll hear why I changed the podcast's name, why people pretend that traumatic events didn't happen, how we create abandonment and trust issues within ourselves through this disassociation, and much more. I encourage you to acknowledge traumatic events that have happened to you and open your heart to experiencing those things before we try to process them in next week's episode. Thank you for tuning in and being brave today!   Key Points From This Episode:   The importance of listening to when your body says yes or no in CPTSD recovery.  The symptoms we've covered so far.  The topic of discussion today: detachment from the trauma, what it entails, and why my body is saying ‘no' to discussing it.  Why I decided to change the name of the podcast again and who I am for new listeners.  The trust-robbing experience of a traumatic event that people pretend never happened. The depth of abandonment we create within ourselves when detaching from trauma.  How I coached my daughter through healing from being touched inappropriately. Why people find it easier to ignore traumatic experiences.  How detachment from trauma is linked to the larger power structures holding hierarchy and oppression in place. What I encourage you to do before we process how to come back to the experience next week.   Tweetables: “So many of us experience – something [happening] to us [that] hurt us and robbed us of our humanity and we never speak about it again. We pretend that it didn't happen.” — Tanner Wallace [0:08:57] “The perpetrator-victim roles serve a destabilization to uniform power [and] a destabilization of harmony.” — Tanner Wallace [0:15:45] “I encourage you to – open your heart to any instance where you detached from a trauma.” — Tanner Wallace [0:19:38] Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: Making a Scene Tanner Wallace on Instagram CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

Complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) can profoundly impact one's quality of life. However, with proper treatment, people with CPTSD can learn to manage their symptoms and improve their well-being. But what about relationships? The impact of CPTSD on interpersonal relationships is significant. Those with CPTSD may struggle to establish and maintain healthy relationships due to their past traumatic experiences. From trust issues to difficulty with emotional regulation, CPTSD can create significant challenges for those seeking to form close connections with others. In this episode, we continue unpacking building healthy relationships, particularly how it relates to CPTSD and the different energies within each of us. We unravel how to create a space to understand where your problems lie and formulate how to overcome them, leading to a happier, healthier you. We start by exploring leveraging CPTSD for personal growth, the essential questions to ask yourself, and how to begin the healing process. We also delve into the different types of energy within each of us, our inherent power to heal, the concept of self-embodiment, moving from selfish to self-centered, radiating light and love, and much more. Tune in to continue the recovery journey, discover how to overcome your trauma, and start forming the healthy relationships you deserve.   Key Points From This Episode:   Dr. Wallace shares her past struggles with forming healthy relationships. The ultimate goal of the recovery process. Find out what the silver lining of CPTSD is. Discover why it is essential to persevere through the recovery process. A brief overview of self-energy and how it relates to parts work therapy. The other types of energies that exist in humans. How CPTSD impacts forming and maintaining healthy relationships. Learn how relationships can act as a training ground for achieving high levels of self-energy. Ways in which people limit their ability to acquire self-energy. How different energies manifest as behaviors in relationships. Hear about the various facets of CPTSD recovery. How to work with and embrace protective energy. Actionable steps to start your recovery journey.   Tweetables: “All of us have this core of healing power inside of us that was gifted to us at birth.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [11:46]   “In my personal experience and my clinical experience with clients, there typically, in the case of CPTSD, is a degradation to self-energy. It is not damaged, but is corrupt in some ways.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [12:45]   “Everything about healing is embodied, not only in what we do but who we are as a human and the frequency at which we vibrate.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [21:06]   “[Being] self-centered is incredibly appropriate and necessary for the bulk of your CPTSD recovery journey.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [30:25]   “Once you have reached self-embodiment, the really active CPTSD recovery is complete.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [32:54]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: Pete Walker Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving Difficulties with Relationships (Part 1) CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook Held By Tanner Email List CPTSD Medicine Podcast  

Human beings are social creatures. We rely on one another not just for survival but for meaning, connection, and the nourishing of our spirit. When our ability to form and maintain healthy relationships is compromised at a young age, it can have a ripple effect, creating protective mechanisms (also known as Protective Parts) that alter our behavior and interactions with others. While these may help us survive, they can also cause enduring difficulties in our future relationships. Bearing this in mind, we use today's conversation to delve into a major category of complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD): difficulties with relationships. Join us as we unpack the five wounding patterns that can form in childhood and adolescence and how each one manifests in our adult lives, all while taking a compassionate look at the unique difficulties they can create within relationships. You may recognize that you have one, some, or even all of these wounding patterns. Today's conversation is a reminder to address them one at a time and ensure that you feel settled and integrated before moving on to the next. Difficulties with relationships can be a constant source of dysregulation in your internal world and, ultimately, profound healing work lies within. We are here to help guide you on that journey. Tune in today to uncover how you've adapted to respond to trauma, what you can do to unlearn past protective patterns, and what it means to move forward!  Key Points From This Episode: Dr. Wallace's journey of healing, which began by recognizing her difficulties with relationships. How difficulties with relationships can cause dysregulation in your internal world. What you can do to address the most challenging things in your relational field. Ways to create space in your relational field when you're on your recovery journey. Understanding why CPTSD can make relationships so challenging. Our childhood environments and how they inform our relational template. Defining protective parts and the role they play in the recovery journey. What our protective parts can teach us about how our system has adapted for survival. The five wounding patterns and their influence on how you show up in relationships. Connection wounding, its origins, and how it prevents you from experiencing intimacy. Learn about the attunement wounding pattern and its attraction to codependence. The trust wounding pattern and how it causes you to relate to power and others. Autonomy wounding, how it's shaped by authority, and its impact on your independence. How the love and sex wounding pattern is formed and its effect on romantic relationships. Unwinding mantras to help you address your unique wounding patterns. Identifying your wounding pattern and why you may have more than one. Benefits of focusing on one wounding pattern at a time and tips for how to work through them. Tweetables: “In CPTSD recovery, what we're trying to do is raise your baseline of functioning, raise your baseline of nervous system regulation.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [05:38] “There's a lot of collateral damage from childhood trauma that results in complex trauma, or complex PTSD.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [11:12] “Protective parts are a hugely important thing to pay attention to in a CPTSD recovery journey because they hold so much wisdom of what the system has been doing to make it to this point.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [12:57]  “These unwinding mantras are about increasing tolerance for uncertainty and vulnerability in the relational field.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [21:00] “You can have several of these wounding patterns. You can have all of these wounding patterns. I suggest, in a recovery sequence, you pick one to focus on at a time and then bring in other ones as you feel settled and integrated with the one you started with.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [42:27]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:   Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving 2023 Year of Healing CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook Held By Tanner Email List Held By Tanner Podcast  

The process of co-creation is not always taught by our early caregivers, but it is something that can be learned from another source. During today's episode, we dive into the topic of healing through co-creation with the universe. While healed humans can offer us co-creation with many of our Parts, Tanner shows that there is a level that requires a source more powerful than Self Energy or the support of others. Unpacking how a negative self-view forms part of the system of a human with CPTSD, this episode explores what limits and what builds the foundation we need to find within to deepen our healing. Co-creation with the universe requires time and commitment, and it cannot take place without Self Leadership and Self Energy guiding the process. Tune in today as we go deep while equipping you with essential tools to heal from CPTSD. Thanks for listening! Key Points From This Episode: An invitation to find stillness before listening to a blessing of energetic containment.  Living in ‘I am' energy.  The role of a parent or caregiver in the process of co-creation. Learning the process of co-creation from another source. The role of co-creation with the universe in complex trauma recovery. Tanner's background and education leading up to her expertise today. How the podcast acts as a healing journey for Tanner's own experience. Tanner reflects on the podcast and how it ties into her life's journey. Major-symptom categories of CPTSD.  How a negative self-view is interwoven into the system of a human with CPTSD. Turning outside of the self in response to a negative self-view. How searching for validation keeps us from finding the foundation we need within. Why the Internal Family Systems Parts Model doesn't go the distance with the darkest Parts. What is necessary in those moments: a source of something more powerful than self-energy. Tanner's own experience of addressing the layer of confusion, overwhelm, and darkness within. How she came to parts work in a moment of desperation. Opening her heart to source energy and spiritual work.  Her movement towards finding a co-creator larger than herself. How healed humans can offer us a co-creation process with many of our parts.  Where the co-creation with the universe becomes necessary. The commitment required for the journey of co-creation with the universe. The next episode: Detachment from the Trauma.  Advice for those who are on a spiritual journey but never connected to the healing they're seeking. The importance of access to self-energy and Internal Family Systems. Why there can be no sidestepping self-leadership in the healing of CPTSD.   Tweetables:   “Those that are healed enough grant opportunities for refinement, clarification, revision, improvement, modification, adaptation, opening, beginning, clearing, and reimagining.” — Tanner Wallace [01:26]   “We move through life in an unfolding act of co-creation.” — Tanner Wallace [01:45]   “Living in that ‘I am' energy is the healing, is the journey, is the process.” — Tanner Wallace [02:49]   “Learning how to do co-creation with the universe as an anchor is such a foundational part of how I view complex trauma recovery.” — Tanner Wallace [06:57]   “Through my own experience, Self Energy couldn't convince or collaborate or fully unburden my most severely gaslit parts.” — Tanner Wallace [29:17]   “There is no sidestepping Self Leadership in the healing of CPTSD.” — Tanner Wallace [36:40]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:   Episode 82 Episode 80 Verywell Mind Tanner Wallace on Instagram CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook Held By Tanner Email List Held By Tanner Podcast  

As we continue our exploration of some of the symptoms of CPTSD in Season 8 and unpack them survivor-to-survivor, today we dialogue with the second symptom category which is a negative self-view. We break down what a negative self-view is, why this term feels so inadequate, and why this condition persists even though we can intellectually make sense of it as adults. Tuning in you'll hear about the parental neglect or rejection present in those of us with CPTSD, how younger Parts of ourselves become frozen-in-time, and how the Protective Parts of ourselves come online and develop belief systems forged in the context of parental neglect and rejection to result in a negative self-view.  We also talk about death-like feelings of helplessness and hopelessness that we may feel and the physiological state change and reach behavior that results. By really unpacking the CPTSD symptom of a negative self-view, we give ourselves language and conceptualization to understand it better, and develop a sense of how to deal with it, so join us today.   Key Points From This Episode:   The focus for the next two episodes: negative self-view. A definition of ‘negative self-view' and why this term feels so inadequate. How this negative self-view persists even though we can intellectually make sense of it as adults.  How Internal Family Symptoms (IFS) provide a framework for why this negative self-view is so pervasive and entrenched.  Insight into the dark energy of trauma that we inherit from our ancestors and how it activates our negative self-view.  The parental neglect or rejection present in those with CPTSD.  The Wounded Younger Parts of ourselves that become frozen-in-time and what they look like.  The Protective Parts of ourselves that come online and develop a belief system forged in the context of parental neglect and rejection that results in a negative self-view.  Why it's not the inner children or Wounded Younger Parts that have the negative self-view but the Protective Parts.  How this results in death-like feelings of helplessness and hopelessness.  How the Protective Parts make use of adaptive survival instincts which isolate the system even more. The physiological state change and Reach behavior that results in a negative self-view cycle. The disruption that happens that enables you to see outside of the reality you find yourself in. What you can expect from the next episode.    Tweetables:   “Why does this negative view of myself persist when intellectually, I can absolutely make sense of it?” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [05:27]   “In the context of parental neglect and/or parental rejection, there are these wounded younger parts of us that almost get frozen-in-time and fragmented off.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [08:29]   “These wounded younger parts of us have these feelings that until they're alchemized, or until they're released or unburdened, there is this level of ‘I hurt' energy in our system.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [10:59]   “It makes sense to me that if a protective part comes online, they're seeing the parents, they're seeing the wounded younger parts, that they develop a belief system based on observation which is forged in the context of parental neglect and rejection.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [14:13]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:   Verywell Mind  The Five Circuits of Healing Power Tanner Wallace on Instagram CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook Held By Tanner Email List Held By Tanner Podcast  

One of the signature symptoms of complex trauma is difficulties in controlling one's emotions. In light of this, today we discuss co-regulation. Tuning in, you'll hear what co-regulation is and why it's such an important part of being human. Complex trauma affects a child's ability to co-regulate and, as a cycle-breaking parent, helping your children co-regulate can be an important part of your own healing. However, finding ongoing co-regulatory support for yourself as an adult can be challenging, and it's important that you can do this for yourself. Today, we talk about how to identify a protective instinct and some of the various defensive strategies we may resort to when trying to control our emotions, before we break down some practical examples of how to deal with ‘I must' energy, ‘I won't' energy, ‘I can't' energy, and ‘I will destroy' energy. We have big aspirations for your time invested in listening to this podcast, so join us today as we take a deep dive into co-regulation, put a deepening to it, and gain an understanding of it from the lived experience of a human with complex trauma.    Key Points From This Episode:   An explanation of what co-regulation is. Why co-regulation is an important part of being human. How complex trauma affects a child's ability to co-regulate. Why helping your children co-regulate is so important for your own healing as a cycle-breaking parent.  The problem of finding ongoing co-regulatory support as an adult and why you need to do this for yourself. How to identify a protective instinct and respond to it.  Pete Walker's four ‘F' responses and various defensive strategies we may resort to.  How co-regulation helps us to separate emotions from fear and survival instincts. How you can help yourself, your child, or your partner to co-regulate.   How a large portion of the healing journey is arriving at your power core where you recognize ‘this is me'. Practical examples of how to deal with ‘I must' energy, ‘I won't' energy, ‘I can't' energy, and ‘I will destroy' energy.    Tweetables:   “Co-regulation is a really important aspect of being human.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [03:19]   “We run out of options when we become an adult for really deep ongoing consistent co-regulatory support.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [09:47]   “As an adult, you have difficulty controlling your emotions because you likely have 7 to 10 protective parts of you that are responding to any emotions in your relational field, both inside and out, with pretty well-developed survival instincts.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [11:24]   “It's not the emotions that are difficult to control, it's the fucking Protective Part energy that thinks the emotions of ours or somebody else are literally going to kill us. And that's what's difficult to hold.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [14:01]   “Ultimately on a healing journey, we're separating our emotions from fear, from survival instinct.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [15:38]   “That's a large portion of the [healing] journey is just to arrive in your Power Core where you recognize ‘This Is Me'.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [20:20]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:   Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma Tanner Wallace on Instagram CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook Held By Tanner Email List Held By Tanner Podcast  

During Season 8, we're exploring all the ways that CPTSD symptoms show up in our lived experiences, and ways of identifying the root cause of each symptom to offer your system release and start to reprogram its responses. In today's episode, we begin to dive deeper into what it means to have emotional control, why this is usually the entry point for addressing CPTSD, and how a human with CPTSD's emotional experience is different from the unaffected brain. A simple Google search won't lead you to the answers you need to truly understand and begin to heal from CPTSD, and there are aspects of the experience that are unlikely to be addressed through mindfulness and cognitive behavioral therapy alone. Join us as we begin to unpack the multifaceted implications of CPTSD on the mind and how the condition can be worked with to make room for compassionate attention and healing. Thanks for listening! Key Points From This Episode:   What this podcast explores during its eighth season: the lived experience of CPTSD symptoms. Your host, Tanner, and her qualifications, background, and pursuits.  The first symptom to be discussed over two episodes: emotional control. How lack of emotional control is defined and why we can all relate to it.  Why this is usually the entry point for addressing CPTSD. Why a person with CPTSD's emotional experience differs drastically from someone without it. Why a simple Google search won't lead you to the resources you need for emotional regulation. The influence of intergenerational family trauma.  What healing CPTSD is truly about. What a supportive structure should feel like: meeting yourself as a highly charged emotional being and doing the work from the inside out of how to alchemize these emotions.  Three key takeaways for contemplation. Why we aren't traditionally given appropriate protection from our thoughts.  Building trust with your inner system. How we perpetuate suffering in our own lives by recreating patterns.  Why self-leadership is so critical to healing.  What it means to go beyond performing healing. Light and love in the frequency of death and destruction. A reminder from Tanner that you can do it!   Tweetables:   “At some point, most of us have some sort of life event related to our inability to control our emotions that just makes it crystal clear that this has become unmanageable, this is not sustainable, and something needs to change.” —Tanner Wallace [04:12]   “Unlike the emotions of a non-traumatized human, or human without CPTSD, humans with CPTSD have these emotions that are interwoven into very primitive life or death fear frequencies.” — Tanner Wallace [05:49]   “These emotions are not just based on our human experience. they are also based on what we inherited from our family trauma intergenerationally.” — Tanner Wallace [09:27]   “Healing CPTSD, recovering from CPTSD is about leaning into the very charged emotions. Not separating or distancing yourself from them, but meeting yourself and all your parts in those moments very directly.” — Tanner Wallace [11:52]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:   Episode 79 Verywell Mind Tanner Wallace on Instagram CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook Held By Tanner Email List Held By Tanner Podcast  

If you asked me: what is the one thing that will aid me the most in my complex trauma recovery journey? I would say that you have to learn how to hold your own energy. Today, I break down what this means, what I've learned about it, and how you can create an internal sense of safety and facilitate your healing from the inside out. In this episode, I use the transformative model of Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a core foundational perspective without limiting myself to it, expanding on what it has to say about parts to create a more comprehensive and holistic view of the ways that we experience our inner worlds. This lends us a sense of self-authority and allows us to embody a deeper level of empowerment. Tuning in, you'll learn how energy differs from emotion, how the presence of fear keeps you stuck in survival mode, and how to hold the fear-based energy of trauma and show up fully for the parts of yourself that are most wounded. I hope you'll join me!   Key Points From This Episode:   How emotions motivate certain responses, actions, and thought processing patterns. Expanding on IFS to build a more holistic view of how we experience our inner worlds. The big six emotions and how emotions are different from energy. Why it's important to acknowledge the absence or presence of fear. Insight into the various nuances of fear-based energy and the inheritance of hurt. How to hold that energy without numbing it or distancing yourself from it. How this allows you to show up for the parts of yourself that are most wounded.   Tweetables:   “Not only can we recover from complex trauma, but in doing so, we unlock really powerful medicinal codes about collective healing.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [0:02:02]   “There are a lot of different ways to give form to thoughts, energies, emotions, points of view, urges, actions, responses, reactions in our inner world.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [0:07:00]   “Emotions are hugely important sources of information as humans operating in the world. It's when we add the zing of fear to an emotion that we start to move into unhelpful, unproductive, very challenging things to hold.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [0:14:26]   “I am a healer. I am a leader. I am a conductor. I am a facilitator. I am a human that can rise and raise and expand and hold all of my own energy.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [0:26:48]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:   Tanner Wallace on Instagram CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook Held By Tanner Email List Held By Tanner Podcast  

Hello love. ❤️ On my mission to change the way we offer complex trauma recovery to humans, today I'm going to break down a list of things we should celebrate more. Tuning in, you'll be reminded of the things that you've put down in order to heal and the hard things you've done to take your energy back. You'll also realize how much you have learned to heal from complex trauma, why this may be the next evolution of humanity, and why tapping into the frequency of compassion is such a victory. Celebration is a tough frequency for people with CPTSD but it helps us to tap more into the frequencies that we desire most, moving us away from fear and closer to love. So join me in celebration today!   Key Points From This Episode:   The first thing you should celebrate more in your CPTSD recovery: that you put down things in order to heal. How you have learned to heal from complex trauma on this journey. Why there needs to be a sequential process by which you heal yourself from the inside out. Why Tanner believes that the healing of trauma is going to be the next evolution of humanity. Tapping into the frequency of compassion as a thing to celebrate and why this is so difficult. Why celebration is a tough frequency for people with CPTSD.   Tweetables:   “So many of us have had to do so many hard things along the way that we don't often step back and look at how much we have actually laid down in the name of recovery.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [00:53]   “All of this knowledge that you've gained about the ‘how' of recovery from complex trauma is the ultimate guidebook to human evolution.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [03:31]   “Celebration can be a practice that starts to tap more into the frequencies that we desire most, moving us from not so fear-based into more of a love-base.” — Dr. Tanner Wallace [07:52]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:   Tanner Wallace on Instagram CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook Held By Tanner Email List Held By Tanner Podcast  

Hello love. ❤️ Welcome back to another episode of HELD by Tanner. Today I share an emotional IFS experience around broken personal boundaries and dealing with critical inner voices, intense negativity, ricocheting workarounds, and the deepest betrayals. Healing from complex trauma can sometimes lead us to a point where we either breakdown or breakthrough. In this episode, I want to share three things I've learned on my journey with the hope that they can help you embody yourself as a healer. Let's dive in and continue our work to find our true personal power. Please note that this episode carries a trigger warning with talk of suicide and suicidal thoughts.  Key Points From This Episode: A personal, emotional, and vulnerable story about an interaction between her and ex-husband involving her mom and her biological children.  Trigger warning: For those affected by suicide and suicidal thoughts be advised the topic begins from 03:40 onwards.  How Tanner navigated through an experience she could not control.  The only viable path forward for her: finding her center.  Establishing her personal power.  What IFS is and how it's often misunderstood by those wanting to use it for CPTSD recovery Three things Tanner has learned in her own personal journey. Key open-ended curious questions to ask your Parts. What it means if a Part is not present. Tanner talks about the true energy of Parts Work. A recap of Parts Work.   Tweetables:   “The only viable path forward for me, [after my suicidal experience] was to learn how to find my center. To meet myself in this and rise. To meet myself in this and find that personal power” — Tanner Wallace [0:06:00]   “When you work with a practitioner, it's a facilitated session to help you have a breakthrough with your system in ways — when you have a facilitated experience it's more likely that it can happen with some of the more difficult things.” — Tanner Wallace [0:12:27]   “The energy of parts work, true parts work for complex trauma recovery, is not a checklist. It's not something you do, it's not something you schedule, it is literally an embodiment of the experience of getting to know yourself.” — Tanner Wallace [0:14:37]   Links Mentioned in Today's Episode: Tanner Wallace on Instagram CPTSD Medicine on Instagram Tanner Wallace on Facebook HELD By Tanner Email List HELD By Tanner Podcast   Episode 077

Hello love ❤️ We found each other. This podcast has such a tender place in my heart. When I hit record back in the late spring, early summer of 2020, I had no idea the journey that would unfold in front of me. This podcast is essentially an audio diary of my own evolution and growth over the months I have hosted it.   Along the way, there have been high moments and low moments of healing in the public eye, lessons and celebrations for creating potent containers for transformation, and breakthroughs in my and my clients' CPTSD recovery so profound I cannot even put them into words.  Through all of this, the mission is clear: “Create a precise map for permanent CPTSD healing.”  And so, I continue walking,  and it just keeps getting better and better in my world.  If you want to know me more intimately, come join me on IG @heldbytanner and @cptsdmedicine or on Facebook @heldbytanner.  If you would like to receive an email each time I am selling a healing container or coaching experience, you can opt-in to my “Shop With Tanner” email list here: https://www.heldbytanner.com/heldbytanner-opt-in Sending you love…so much love. Recovery from CPTSD is no joke. AND you absolutely CAN do it (more quickly than you might imagine at this very moment.) Episode 76

Hello love ❤️ We found each other. This podcast has such a tender place in my heart. When I hit record back in the late spring, early summer of 2020, I had no idea the journey that would unfold in front of me. This podcast is essentially an audio diary of my own evolution and growth over the months I have hosted it.   Along the way, there have been high moments and low moments of healing in the public eye, lessons and celebrations for creating potent containers for transformation, and breakthroughs in my and my clients' CPTSD recovery so profound I cannot even put them into words.  Through all of this, the mission is clear: “Create a precise map for permanent CPTSD healing.”  And so, I continue walking,  and it just keeps getting better and better in my world.  If you want to know me more intimately, come join me on IG @heldbytanner and @cptsdmedicine or on Facebook @heldbytanner.  If you would like to receive an email each time I am selling a healing container or coaching experience, you can opt-in to my “Shop With Tanner” email list here: https://www.heldbytanner.com/heldbytanner-opt-in Sending you love…so much love. Recovery from CPTSD is no joke. AND you absolutely CAN do it (more quickly than you might imagine at this very moment.) Episode 75

Hello love ❤️ We found each other. This podcast has such a tender place in my heart. When I hit record back in the late spring, early summer of 2020, I had no idea the journey that would unfold in front of me. This podcast is essentially an audio diary of my own evolution and growth over the months I have hosted it.   Along the way, there have been high moments and low moments of healing in the public eye, lessons and celebrations for creating potent containers for transformation, and breakthroughs in my and my clients' CPTSD recovery so profound I cannot even put them into words.  Through all of this, the mission is clear: “Create a precise map for permanent CPTSD healing.”  And so, I continue walking,  and it just keeps getting better and better in my world.  If you want to know me more intimately, come join me on IG @heldbytanner and @cptsdmedicine or on Facebook @heldbytanner.  If you would like to receive an email each time I am selling a healing container or coaching experience, you can opt-in to my “Shop With Tanner” email list here: https://www.heldbytanner.com/heldbytanner-opt-in Sending you love…so much love. Recovery from CPTSD is no joke. AND you absolutely CAN do it (more quickly than you might imagine at this very moment.) Episode 74

Hello love ❤️ Here's the link for the 2023 Self-Paced Journey + Community Support 5 Circuits of Healing Power https://www.heldbytanner.com/5circuitsofhealingpower We found each other. This podcast has such a tender place in my heart. When I hit record back in the late spring, early summer of 2020, I had no idea the journey that would unfold in front of me. This podcast is essentially an audio diary of my own evolution and growth over the months I have hosted it.   Along the way, there have been high moments and low moments of healing in the public eye, lessons and celebrations for creating potent containers for transformation, and breakthroughs in my and my clients' CPTSD recovery so profound I cannot even put them into words.  Through all of this, the mission is clear: “Create a precise map for permanent CPTSD healing.”  And so, I continue walking,  and it just keeps getting better and better in my world.  If you want to know me more intimately, come join me on IG @heldbytanner and @cptsdmedicine or on Facebook @heldbytanner.  If you would like to receive an email each time I am selling a healing container or coaching experience, you can opt-in to my “Shop With Tanner” email list here: https://www.heldbytanner.com/heldbytanner-opt-in Sending you love…so much love. Recovery from CPTSD is no joke. AND you absolutely CAN do it (more quickly than you might imagine at this very moment.) Episode 74

Hello love ❤️ We found each other. This podcast has such a tender place in my heart. When I hit record back in the late spring, early summer of 2020, I had no idea the journey that would unfold in front of me. This podcast is essentially an audio diary of my own evolution and growth over the months I have hosted it.   Along the way, there have been high moments and low moments of healing in the public eye, lessons and celebrations for creating potent containers for transformation, and breakthroughs in my and my clients' CPTSD recovery so profound I cannot even put them into words.  Through all of this, the mission is clear: “Create a precise map for permanent CPTSD healing.”  And so, I continue walking,  and it just keeps getting better and better in my world.  If you want to know me more intimately, come join me on IG @heldbytanner and @cptsdmedicine or on Facebook @heldbytanner.  If you would like to receive an email each time I am selling a healing container or coaching experience, you can opt-in to my “Shop With Tanner” email list here: https://www.heldbytanner.com/heldbytanner-opt-in Sending you love…so much love. Recovery from CPTSD is no joke. AND you absolutely CAN do it (more quickly than you might imagine at this very moment.) Episode 73

Hello love ❤️ We found each other. This podcast has such a tender place in my heart. When I hit record back in the late spring, early summer of 2020, I had no idea the journey that would unfold in front of me. This podcast is essentially an audio diary of my own evolution and growth over the months I have hosted it.   Along the way, there have been high moments and low moments of healing in the public eye, lessons and celebrations for creating potent containers for transformation, and breakthroughs in my and my clients' CPTSD recovery so profound I cannot even put them into words.  Through all of this, the mission is clear: “Create a precise map for permanent CPTSD healing.”  And so, I continue walking,  and it just keeps getting better and better in my world.  If you want to know me more intimately, come join me on IG @heldbytanner and @cptsdmedicine or on Facebook @heldbytanner.  If you would like to receive an email each time I am selling a healing container or coaching experience, you can opt-in to my “Shop With Tanner” email list here: https://www.heldbytanner.com/heldbytanner-opt-in Sending you love…so much love. Recovery from CPTSD is no joke. AND you absolutely CAN do it (more quickly than you might imagine at this very moment.) Episode 72

Hello love ❤️ We found each other. This podcast has such a tender place in my heart. When I hit record back in the late spring, early summer of 2020, I had no idea the journey that would unfold in front of me. This podcast is essentially an audio diary of my own evolution and growth over the months I have hosted it.   Along the way, there have been high moments and low moments of healing in the public eye, lessons and celebrations for creating potent containers for transformation, and breakthroughs in my and my clients' CPTSD recovery so profound I cannot even put them into words.  Through all of this, the mission is clear: “Create a precise map for permanent CPTSD healing.”  And so, I continue walking,  and it just keeps getting better and better in my world.  If you want to know me more intimately, come join me on IG @heldbytanner and @cptsdmedicine or on Facebook @heldbytanner.  If you would like to receive an email each time I am selling a healing container or coaching experience, you can opt-in to my “Shop With Tanner” email list here: https://www.heldbytanner.com/heldbytanner-opt-in Sending you love…so much love. Recovery from CPTSD is no joke. AND you absolutely CAN do it (more quickly than you might imagine at this very moment.) Episode 71

Hello my love!!!! We're connected. We found each other!  Let's deepen our connection. Come find me on IG  https://www.instagram.com/heldbytanner/ or https://www.instagram.com/councilofguides and Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heldbytanner  Want information on my healing containers delivered straight to your email inbox? Join my Offer Insider List here: https://www.relationalhealinglab.com/relational-healing-lab-offers-opt-in I'm so grateful The Universe connected us! Welcome to my world!  Episode 70

Hello my love!!!! We're connected. We found each other!  Let's deepen our connection. Come find me on IG  https://www.instagram.com/heldbytanner/ or https://www.instagram.com/councilofguides and Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heldbytanner  Want information on my healing containers delivered straight to your email inbox? Join my Offer Insider List here: https://www.relationalhealinglab.com/relational-healing-lab-offers-opt-in I'm so grateful The Universe connected us! Welcome to my world!  Episode 69

Hello my love!!!! We're connected. We found each other!  Let's deepen our connection. Come find me on IG  https://www.instagram.com/heldbytanner/ and Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heldbytanner  Want information on my healing containers delivered straight to your email inbox? Join my Offer Insider List here: https://www.relationalhealinglab.com/relational-healing-lab-offers-opt-in I'm so grateful The Universe connected us! Welcome to my world!  Episode 68

Hello my love!!!! We're connected. We found each other!  Let's deepen our connection. Come find me on IG  https://www.instagram.com/heldbytanner/ and Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heldbytanner  Want information on my healing containers delivered straight to your email inbox? Join my Offer Insider List here: https://www.relationalhealinglab.com/relational-healing-lab-offers-opt-in I'm so grateful The Universe connected us! Welcome to my world!  Episode 67

Hello my love!!!! We're connected. We found each other!  Let's deepen our connection. Come find me on IG  https://www.instagram.com/heldbytanner/ and Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heldbytanner  Want information on my healing containers delivered straight to your email inbox? Join my Offer Insider List here: https://www.relationalhealinglab.com/relational-healing-lab-offers-opt-in I'm so grateful The Universe connected us! Welcome to my world!  Episode 66

Hello my love!!!! We're connected. We found each other!  Let's deepen our connection. Come find me on IG  https://www.instagram.com/heldbytanner/ and Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heldbytanner  Want information on my healing containers delivered straight to your email inbox? Join my Offer Insider List here: https://www.relationalhealinglab.com/relational-healing-lab-offers-opt-in I'm so grateful The Universe connected us! Welcome to my world!  Episode 65

I've simplified everything! Come find me on IG @tannerslight.  If you are looking for a non-social media way to learn about and buy coaching experiences and offers from me, sign up here: https://www.relationalhealinglab.com/non_social_media_opt_in Episode 064

I've simplified everything! Come find me on IG @tannerslight.  If you are looking for a non-social media way to learn about and buy coaching experiences and offers from me, sign up here: https://www.relationalhealinglab.com/non_social_media_opt_in Episode 063

I've simplified everything! Come find me on IG @tannerslight.  If you are looking for a non-social media way to learn about and buy coaching experiences and offers from me, sign up here: https://www.relationalhealinglab.com/non_social_media_opt_in Episode 062

I've simplified everything! Come find me on IG @tannerslight.  If you are looking for a non-social media way to learn about and buy coaching experiences and offers from me, sign up here: https://www.relationalhealinglab.com/non_social_media_opt_in Episode 061

I've simplified everything AND have created a new private space for us to connect on IG @tannerslight.  For a non-social media way to learn about new offers, opt-in here: https://www.relationalhealinglab.com/relational-healing-lab-offers-opt-in Episode 060

I've simplified everything! Come find me over on IG @drtannwallace to be part of the larger community of the Relational Healing Lab.  For a non-social media way to learn about new offers, opt-in here: https://www.relationalhealinglab.com/relational-healing-lab-offers-opt-in Episode 059

Unbelievably, my Yeti wasn't turned on for this episode JUST LIKE it wasn't back on September 28, 2021 when the original episode was recorded!!! In this episode, I return to the topic of trauma distortions in toxic relationships and zoom out a bit more to add what I've learned since I recorded the origial episode.  I've simplified everything, come find me over on IG, @drtannerwallace If you aren't on social media much, and still want to hear about the newest offers in the Relational Healing Lab you can opt-in to a special email list here. Episode 058

Come find me on IG @drtannerwallace Request to join Cycle 04|22 of The Gathering, our free thematic pop-up healing mixer. https://www.facebook.com/groups/rhlgathering

Who among us isn't always sure they know what reality is in certain moments? Not having an internal compass guiding us or feeling like our human radar system is broken, is a common, disorienting experience for the adult with CPTSD. In this episode, I share what I think is the most powerful reparative experience for gaslighting recovery. I also add some insights in Parts Work along the way.  A special shout out to all the Cycle 03|22 Gatherers. I see you!  Come find me on IG @drtannerwallace

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