Pause Purpose Play

Ever felt like you can run a team, lead a business, or write a book - yet somehow can't manage to return a library book or put your laundry away? In this episode of Pause Purpose Play, I'm digging into the hidden paradox so many women with ADHD face: outward success with chaos underneath the surface. You'll hear personal reflections and real client stories that reveal how executive dysfunction can sit alongside brilliance, not in opposition to it. I'll walk you through: Why some of the smartest, most capable women struggle with the "simplest" tasks The emotional toll of being misunderstood (by others and yourself) How I approach ADHD assessments with both compassion and clinical conscientiousness If you've ever wondered, “How can I be this competent and still feel like I can't do adulting?” - this one's for you. Let's explore what's really going on beneath the surface, and why a deeper, more personalised understanding of ADHD can be a game changer...  because you can be smart and successful, and still ADHD.  www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/adhdclub to join other brilliant ADHD women

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas welcomes the founders of the Evolve Journal, Sam and Freddy Titcombe. They discuss the development of the Evolve Journal, a tool designed to help people live with more intention, clarity, and consistency by focusing on manageable progress rather than perfection. Sam and Freddy share insights on building healthy journaling habits, the importance of self-kindness, and the value of stoicism in daily life. The conversation highlights the balance of emotional reflection with practical goal-setting, addressing how to manage AHDH traits and the challenges of maintaining consistency. They also touch on the four fundamental pillars of happiness—health, wealth, relationships, and freedom—and provide practical tips for integrating them into daily life. The episode concludes with advice on giving yourself permission to make mistakes and continue striving for growth.   Join the waitlist for the next Burn Bright cohort here: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright Find the Evolve Journal here: https://www.evolvejourney.co.uk/

In this solo episode, Michaela explores the discomfort many of us feel when receiving compliments - especially when we're wired for self-criticism, perfectionism, or modesty. Sharing a personal story from LinkedIn, she unpacks why our inner critics hate being seen and how we can respond with compassionate curiosity instead of avoidance. This episode is for anyone who's ever cringed at being praised and wants to learn how to receive kindness more fully - without shame or self-doubt. You'll hear about: Why compliments can trigger our inner critic How upbringing and culture shape our ability to receive kindness Michaela's personal experience of public praise on LinkedIn The two-step process of compassion: sense-making + action-taking How to lead with vulnerability while staying grounded in your values Resources mentioned: Follow Lauren O'Carroll on LinkedIn Learn more about ADHD coaching for women: The Thomas Connection Work with Michaela: Feeling called to be more visible  - but scared of the inner backlash? Get in touch for 1:1 coaching or find out more about my programmes for neurodivergent women leaders.

When You Can't “Just Do It”: Motivation, Self-Discipline & Self-Compassion You want to do the thing. You care. You've got the vision, the list, the intention, and proof that you have done stuff like this before, because you DO achieve things. And still… nothing. You get stuck procrastafaffing with some irrelevant stuff until you've nearly run out of time. Maybe even feeling ashamed of how hard it feels to "just" start. If you've ever found yourself saying, “Why can't I just do it?”, then this episode is for you.   Inside, Michaela explores: Why motivation is so unpredictable for ADHD and burnout-prone brains The limits of “just push through” thinking and the myth of self-discipline as force Why self-compassion is not weakness, but a legit performance strategy What's actually happening in your nervous system when resistance takes over Practical ways to get moving again, encouraging yourself with kindness, not shame   You'll get some evidence-based reframes here: You don't need to hustle harder or push through You need to feel safer - in your body and your brain   Because we can't "just do it" with ADHD, we need to do a little dance with it, creating momentum through taking action and building on that energy step by step, rather than waiting for motivation to magically occur. Links & Mentions: Join The ADHD Club: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/adhdclub

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas explores the themes of anxiety, permission, and growth, particularly for those navigating compassion, ADHD, and perfectionism. Michaela stresses the importance of honouring one's energy and sensitivity while addressing anxiety gradually and compassionately. Using an example from Pauly Ello's personal journey, she illustrates how embodying leadership and facing anxiety can lead to significant growth. The episode also touches on Michaela's Burn Bright coaching program, aimed at helping neurodivergent women grow without burning out. She encourages listeners to pursue growth gently and at their own pace.

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas talks with Lauren O'Carroll, an ADHD parenting coach, founder of Positively Parenting, and a mom of two. Lauren discusses the challenges of ADHD parenting, sharing her experiences and expertise on navigating executive dysfunction as both a parent and individual. She emphasises the importance of self-compassion, acceptance, and trusting oneself as a parent. The conversation delves into emotional regulation, the impact of neurodivergence on family life, and the need for community support. Lauren also touches on her upcoming book and membership program aimed at helping neurodivergent families thrive.

Do you want another baby, but not sure if you can cope with it all again? Perhaps you're highly sensitive, or neurodivergent, and it was all too much first time? In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas is joined by Natalie Brunswick, a trauma and perinatal therapist, to discuss the complexities of deciding whether to have another baby after experiencing a difficult first journey - especially if being highly sensitive and neurodivergent. They delve into fears rooted in past trauma, the balancing act of desire to have another child, versus fears of not being able to cope, and the importance of self-compassion and robust support systems. The conversation emphasises the distinct needs of neurodivergent parents and the critical role of emotional healing and preparation in making informed parenting decisions. Resources and strategies are shared to help listeners navigate their own parenting journeys, no matter where they are in the decision-making process.     IG: @nataliebrunswick https://www.nataliebrunswick.com/ hello@nataliebrunswick.com

In this engaging podcast episode, the host welcomes James Brown to discuss a wide array of topics surrounding ADHD, including personal anecdotes, challenges of ADHD in modern life, and differences in how ADHD presents in men and women. The conversation sheds light on issues such as positive illusory bias, cognitive inhibition, emotional dysregulation, and the complexities of ADHD diagnoses. They delve into the difficulties that come with ADHD in relationships, the stigma and societal misconceptions, the importance of emotional acceptance, and the lifelong need for adaptive support. The episode is insightful, evidence-based, and filled with humor, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in understanding ADHD from personal and scientific perspectives.   James is a career science communicator who co-founded The ADHD Adults Podcast and the charity ADHDadultUK, and is co-author of the book ADHD Unpacked www.jbhd.uk, www.ahdadult.uk, www.theadhdadults.uk

In this episode, the host finally sits down with Anita Cleare, a developmental psychologist specialising in child development and parenting, particularly for working parents. Anita shares her journey from setting up local family services to working with corporate sectors to support working parents. The discussion covers key parenting challenges, such as dealing with teenage behavior, balancing boundaries and autonomy, and the importance of maintaining healthy relationships with children. Insights are provided on the common misconceptions parents have, the impact of striving for perfection, managing neurodivergent children, and the necessity of repair in parent- child relationships. Anita emphasises the importance of understanding and empathy over strict control and highlights the role of parents as partners in their children's developmental journey.   Instagram: @anitcleare_parenting X: @thinking_parent Facebook: ThePositiveParentingProject LinkedIn: Anita Cleare   www.anitacleare.co.uk anita@positiveparentingproject.co.uk https://www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas interviews Jess Rad, an award-winning speaker and advocate for gender equity and neurodiversity in the workplace. The conversation delves into the intersectionality of neurodivergence, hormonal imbalances, and perimenopause, particularly for women business owners and parents. Jess shares her personal journey, including her late diagnosis of neurodivergence, the impact of premature menopause, and her experience as a parent carer. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and self-advocacy, as well as the need for allyship and systemic change. The episode also highlights Jess's initiatives like the Womenhood, a community-focused organisation, and her Neuro Curious events. Resources for additional support, particularly for those dealing with child-to-parent violence, are provided. https://capafirstresponse.org/ Jess Rad LinkedIn  WomenHood Insta WomenHood LinkedIn Jess Rad Insta Please tag all of them. https://www.thewomenhood.com/ hello@thewomenhood.com

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas explores the consequences of executive dysfunction, inspired by a humorous yet insightful experience involving buying a pin that reads 'Well, well, well, if it isn't the consequences of my own executive dysfunction.' Michaela shares personal anecdotes about managing ADHD, perfectionism, and everyday mishaps, such as locking herself out of the house. Through stories of handling emergencies and finding humor in chaos, Michaela emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and practical strategies to mitigate the impact of executive dysfunction. She also highlights the value of seeking support and building systems to improve daily functioning.

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, Michaela Thomas, a clinical psychologist and expert on ADHD, compassion, and perfectionism, challenges herself to create an 11-minute solo podcast episode before her next coaching call. Michaela openly discusses the exuberance associated with ADHD and her encounter with Jessica Chivers, a chartered coaching psychologist. They shared their experiences and the importance of vulnerability in discussing the realities of running a business. Michaela emphasises that success isn't solely measured by income but by sustainable practices that allow freedom and flexibility. She highlights the need for support systems, self-compassion, and strategic decision-making. Further, Michaela encourages listeners to join the waitlist for her program, Burn Bright, which is designed to help business owners achieve success without sacrificing well-being.

In this solo episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas discusses the importance of self-compassion and resilience when life gets tough, particularly as a neurodivergent parent and businesswoman. Michaela shares personal struggles following her eldest child's diagnosis and emphasises the need to build supportive systems that allow flexibility in balancing professional and personal responsibilities. She highlights the challenges of parenting neurodivergent children and the pressures of running a business. Michaela also mentions future podcast topics and guest appearances, urging listeners to go easy on themselves and providing resources for further support.   00:00 Welcome Back to Pause Purpose Play 00:35 Guest Episodes and Shoutouts 01:31 Navigating Neurodivergent Parenting 03:00 Building a Business That Supports Life 04:40 The Challenges of Parenting and Self-Compassion 06:16 Upcoming Podcast Episodes and Plans 09:32 Seasonal Affective Disorder and Personal Reflections 12:06 Final Thoughts and Support Systems

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas interviews Dr. Amber Johnston, a specialist in clinical health, pain management, and neuropsychology. Together, they explore common questions about the brain, debunk myths such as the '10 percent brain usage' theory, and discuss the differences between ADHD, neurodivergence, and giftedness. They delve into the science behind synaptic growth, neuroplasticity, and how individual experiences shape our brains. The episode provides insights on maintaining brain health through good habits, managing stress, and the importance of novelty for cognitive growth. The conversation also highlights the significance of compassion in addressing personal challenges and the relevance of understanding one's own neurological makeup to foster better mental health. 00:10 Meet Dr. Amber Johnston 00:32 Debunking Brain Myths 00:39 Understanding Brain Function 01:49 The Science of Habits 02:52 Revisiting the Brain's Complexity 04:40 Blood Flow and Brain Activation 08:34 Neuroplasticity and Brain Growth 12:23 Forming New Habits 20:57 The Role of Novelty in Brain Health 23:44 The Complexity of IQ and Intelligence 25:01 AI and Human Intelligence: A Comparative Analysis 25:56 The Role of Algorithms in Shaping Our Perceptions 26:58 The Function and Limitations of AI 28:11 Giftedness and Neurodivergence: A Deep Dive 33:23 The Impact of Early Attachment and Trauma 38:35 Balancing Stress and Eustress 40:00 The Importance of Intentional Rest and Play

In this special episode of 'Pause Purpose Play,' Michaela is interviewed by her friend Dr. Claire Plumley as they celebrate the podcast surpassing 200 episodes. Michaela discusses the inception of her podcast during the COVID-19 pandemic, the impact it has had on listeners, and her motivations for starting it. The conversation explores Michaela's journey, her experiences with ADHD, and the challenge of balancing planning with spontaneous creativity. They talk about Michaela's various projects, including Burnbright, her associate practice, and other ventures. Moreover, Michaela shares personal anecdotes, reflections on her favourite episodes, and strategies she employs for self-care and emotional regulation. This episode offers listeners an intimate look into Michaela's experiences and the evolution of her podcast, along with valuable insights for entrepreneurs and content creators.

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas interviews Jade Cook, founder and lead facilitator of Spectrum Community Arts.  The conversation explores Jade's experiences with her neurodivergent brain while running a business, the significance of formal diagnoses, and the importance of self-compassion. Michaela discusses the benefits of diagnosis beyond self-identification, including access to support, and provides resources for those considering the assessment process.   https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/adhd/

In this New Year 2025 episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela discusses the challenges neurodivergent individuals face with New Year's resolutions. She encourages listeners to set intentions that prioritise well-being and self-care over traditional achievement goals. Michaela shares her yearly themes and advises balancing effort and ease, being realistic, and surrendering to one's unique needs. She invites listeners to reflect on their intentions and emphasises the importance of compassionate, sustainable practices for lasting change.

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Mikayla Thomas, a clinical psychologist specializing in compassion, ADHD, and perfectionism, delves deep into the concept of shame, particularly among individuals with ADHD. Thomas explains how shame, often external and stemming from societal judgment, exacerbates the struggles of those with ADHD. She discusses the importance of self-compassion in breaking the 'shame spiral' and offers practical advice on how to manage shame and adopt a more understanding and supportive approach towards oneself. Thomas also emphasises the need for compassionate assessments and provides various strategies to counteract shame and create sustainable change. 00:00 Welcome and Introduction 00:37 Understanding the Shame Spiral 01:49 External Sources of Shame 03:59 Compassion as a Solution 05:35 Practical Tips for Self-Compassion 10:03 Impact of Negative Comments 12:30 Breaking the Cycle of Shame 13:05 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas, a clinical psychologist, discusses the intersection of ADHD and mental health. Michaela explains the importance of authentic self-representation and her approach to ADHD assessments. She addresses the link between ADHD and challenges such as anxiety, depression, perfectionism, and burnout. Michaela explains why obtaining an ADHD diagnosis can be beneficial, how it can provide clarity, and how it helps in understanding one's strengths, challenges, and necessary accommodations. The episode emphasizes the importance of compassionate ADHD assessments and offers an insight into Michaela's unique approach, including both in-person and virtual options. 00:00 Welcome and Introduction 01:06 Understanding ADHD Assessments 03:26 Exploring Neurodivergence and Mental Health 05:36 The Importance of ADHD Diagnosis 06:58 ADHD and Emotional Well-being 10:51 Perfectionism and Coping Mechanisms 13:26 Final Thoughts and Next Steps

In this episode I delve into the importance of changing the story we tell ourselves about our ADHD brains. We explore how ADHD brains are uniquely wired and discuss practical strategies and support systems that can help us thrive.   Join me as we reframe self-judgment and celebrate our brilliantly different selves.   00:59 ADHD Mistakes 02:33 Understanding Self-Judgment and ADHD 06:52 Reframing Self-Critical Thoughts 10:03 Practical Tips for ADHD Management 12:39 Encouragement and Next Steps 14:05 Celebrating Milestones and Future Plans   Join the waitlist for ADHD Assessment in 2025 here: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/adhd

In this episode, we're exploring the connection between ADHD, perfectionism, and stress - three challenges that often collide. I'll uncover common misconceptions about ADHD in women, the hidden toll of masking and shame, and how self-criticism can hold us back. But most importantly, I'll share why compassion is the key to breaking free from burnout and brain fog. If you're feeling stuck or overwhelmed, this might be your sign to consider an ADHD assessment—because understanding ADHD can bring clarity and hope. Join me for an honest, supportive conversation packed with insights to help you feel seen and empowered   00:32 Understanding ADHD and Stress 02:18 The Misconceptions and Internal Struggles 03:53 The Impact of Masking and Shame 06:37 Compassion as a Solution 08:40 The Urgency and Adrenaline Connection 10:10 Considering an ADHD Assessment 11:52 Join the Waitlist!

In this episode, I share my insights on ADHD assessments. I discuss why compassionate and complex approaches are essential for understanding ADHD - especially for women - and how these assessments can become a transformative experience. I also explain the importance of creating a safe space for clients to open up, and the role of self-compassion in navigating ADHD diagnosis and life beyond.   00:46 Challenges of Consistency with ADHD 02:48 Understanding ADHD Assessments 05:35 The Importance of Compassionate Assessments 12:08 Booking a Compassionate ADHD Assessment    

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Debbie Sorensen to discuss the challenges and nuances of burnout. We chat about the importance of recognising and addressing chronic stress and the systemic and cultural pressures contributing to burnout. Debbie shares her personal burnout story and we explore the role of self-compassion in managing burnout.   04:30 Debbie's Personal Burnout Story 08:18 Identifying Burnout Symptoms and Risk Factors 18:52 Cultural and Systemic Factors in Burnout 37:01 Different Types of Burnout 39:46 Understanding Burnout Patterns 41:43 Setting Boundaries for Sustainability 42:34 The Importance of Self-Care 43:05 Navigating Emotional Engagement 45:20 Psychological Flexibility and Self-Awareness 48:54 The Role of Compassionate Motivation 52:17 Avoiding Prescriptive Wellness Routines   Dr. Debbie Sorensen  is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado, who has PhD from Harvard University and works with adults with chronic stress and burnout. She is a co-host of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast, author of ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and co-author of the book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

Join me on this episode where I share an amazing conversation with Dylan Holloway, a talented singer-songwriter and transgender man, who shares his journey to authenticity and his passion for music. Dylan opened up about the struggles of living inauthentically and the freedom he found after embracing his true self. We explored his hit song "Lemons," his powerful anthem "Chosen Family," and how music helped him find solace and connection. Plus, Dylan's story of duetting with his past self is not one to miss. Dive in to hear this inspiring journey of resilience, compassion, and the transformative power of authenticity!   01:35 Dylan's Journey to Authenticity 06:16 Navigating Identity and Acceptance 09:27 Musical Breakthrough and Success 11:54 Living Authentically and Neurodivergence 18:34 Relationships and Acceptance 24:47 Upcoming Projects and Music 26:32 Music as a Lifeline 29:17 The Power of Heartbreak Songs 29:42 ADHD and the Creative Arts 31:45 Chosen Family: A Love Letter to the Queer Community 34:58 A Vulnerable Revelation 45:28 A Message of Authenticity   Dylan Holloway, better known by his rockstar alias ‘Dylan And The Moon'. Award-winning musician and proud transgender man on a mission to inspire more people to live their most authentic and happy lives.  www.dylanandthemoon.com      

In this candid episode, I sit down with Polly Lavarello, an experienced business coach (and my own mentor!), to explore the unique challenges and joys of navigating business as neurodivergent entrepreneurs. Polly shares her journey to discovering her own ADHD through her children, how it reshaped her approach to life and business, and the scaffolding she's built to support her unique brain and role as a parent. Together, we delve into the importance of boundaries, self-compassion, and structure for those with ADHD and neurodiverse minds in the entrepreneurial space. 02:02 ADHD Awareness: Personal Journeys and Parenting  03:30 Navigating Neurodivergence: Self-Diagnosis and Validation  04:21 Balancing Business and Parenting: Strategies and Challenges  08:49 Building a Supportive Business Structure  12:35 Setting Boundaries: The Key to Success  18:41 Self-Awareness and Efficiency in Business  25:27 Shiny Object Syndrome: The ADHD Entrepreneur's Pitfall  29:49 Acceptance and Self-Compassion  30:19 Asking for Help and Soothing Shame  45:34 The Power of Long-Term Mentorship  47:17 Navigating ADHD Challenges in Business      About Polly Lavarello   Polly is an evergreen scaling strategist for highly-skilled and booked-out business owners ready to play their way to a simple evergreen business model that adds space to their calendar and spice to their bank account. www.pollylavarello.com  https://www.instagram.com/pollylavarello/  https://www.linkedin.com/in/pollylavarello/

Join me as I dive into a topic close to my heart - how you can be a perfectionist, even if you're what some might call a "hot mess." I'll explore the tension between striving for perfection and managing the beautiful chaos that comes with ADHD and I share my personal journey from unmasking my ADHD to recovering from perfectionism. This episode is unscripted, which I think beautifully embodies today's theme: that done is better than perfect.   00:21 Understanding Perfectionism and Chaos 01:44 Navigating Perfectionism with ADHD 03:04 The Reality of Perfectionism 04:17 Self-Criticism and Perfectionism 05:56 Perfectionism in High Achievers 07:19 Perception vs. Reality of Accomplishments 08:12 Verbal Processing and ADHD 08:55 Revealing My Hot Mess Moments 09:37 Embracing Imperfections 10:46 Inspiring Despite the Chaos 13:42 Finding Your Tribe Through Vulnerability 15:25 Join the ADHD Club   If you want to dive deeper into embracing both your chaos and your accomplishments, come join me in the ADHD Club, where a group of inspiring women lets it all hang out - imperfections and all. You can sign up at www.thethomasconnection/adhd-club and be part of this empowering space.

In this episode, I welcome guest Michelle Minnikin and we delve into the multifaceted realities of societal conditioning, gender expectations, and the unique challenges of living with ADHD. Listen in to hear Michelle discuss her new book, and the impact of 'Good Girl' conditioning and ADHD on women's lives.   01:41 Embracing ADHD and Personal Growth 03:46 Discovering Good Girl Conditioning 05:25 Coercive Control and Societal Expectations 06:41 Strategic Exhaustion and Daily Struggles 10:19 Imposter Syndrome and Workplace Challenges 20:46 Rebelling Against Good Girl Conditioning 28:21 Hope for the Next Generation 29:03 Navigating Personal Relationships 30:29 Household Dynamics and Gender Norms 32:34 ADHD and Neurodiversity 34:23 Self-Compassion and Personal Growth 39:39 Male Allies and Shared Responsibilities 39:47 Practical Advice for Women 42:11 The Power of Asking   Michelle Minnikin is a North East-based Chartered Organisational Psychologist, coach and author of Good Girl Deprogramming, available now from all good bookstores in paperback, e-book and on audible.       https://www.linkedin.com/in/mminnikin/ https://www.instagram.com/goodgirldeprogramming https://www.tiktok.com/@michelleminnikin https://www.michelleminnikin.com/

In this episode of Pause Purpose Play I dive into the joy of bringing playfulness into our lives and businesses, especially for those of us navigating ADHD. I share how embracing a playful mindset can lead to creativity and success, and why soothing our minds is key to achieving our goals. Plus, learn about my group coaching program, Burn Bright, and how it could be your next step. Tune in for all the details and let's have some fun together! 01:04 The Importance of Deep, Sustainable Change 02:29 Embracing Playfulness in Business and Life 06:34 The Power of the Soothing System 08:51 Unlocking the Power of Play 09:47 Burn Bright Program   Burn Bright is my transformational 6-month group coaching programme that helps you continuously calibrate what you need for your brain and your body, to balance your business with your busy ADHD brain.   https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright

In this episode I invite you to join me on a journey of self-discovery as we explore the essence of purpose in our lives. I share personal reflections and insights from the 'Sustainable Success Challenge,' where we delve into understanding our 'why' and celebrate the unique perks and challenges of entrepreneurship for those of us with ADHD. 01:20 Understanding Purpose and Pain 03:02 The Entrepreneurial Why 04:28 Setting Boundaries and Protecting Energy 05:24 Flexibility in Business for Neurodivergent Entrepreneurs 06:50 Insights and Actions for Sustainable Success 08:03 Personal Reflections and Podcast Direction 10:45 Burn Bright doors are open!   Burn Bright is my transformational 6-month group coaching programme that helps you continuously calibrate what you need for your brain and your body, to balance your business with your busy ADHD brain.   https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, I'm diving into the wild world of ADHD and entrepreneurship and sharing some golden nuggets from my Sustainable Success Challenge. We'll chat about why pausing is crucial to avoid burnout and how those quirky ADHD traits can be both your superpower and your kryptonite in business. Plus, I'm inviting you to join me for some amazing upcoming events - whether you're more of an online binge-watcher or a face-to-face lunch enthusiast. Let's explore this together and find the balance we all crave! 00:26 Sustainable Success Challenge Insights 02:35 Invitation to In-Person Meetup 04:14 Challenges of ADHD in Entrepreneurship 09:05 Balancing Passion and Practicality 10:57 The Importance of Pausing and Self-Compassion 11:44 Upcoming Events

In this episode I'm joined by Ross White, fresh off the release of his fantastic new book, 'The Tree That Bends: How a Flexible Mind Can Help You Thrive.'   We dive headfirst into the pool of psychological flexibility, discussing its unique edge over concepts like grit, toughness, and resilience. Ross unpacks the importance of balancing our 'get,' 'threat,' and 'reset' modes to keep burnout at bay.   With practical tips, playful metaphors, and Ross's authentic vulnerability, this episode offers a refreshing approach to thriving in both work and life.   Grab your headphones and get ready to bend without breaking!   00:48 Exploring Psychological Flexibility 03:15 Defining Resilience, Toughness, and Grit 09:04 The Metaphor of the Tree 10:15 Modes of Operation: Get, Threat, and Reset 14:24 Momentary and Bold Moves 18:16 Personal Experiences and Vulnerability 23:49 The Comfort Zone vs. The Transforming Zone 28:06 Navigating Career Breaks and Sabbaticals 35:58 Balancing Productivity and Longevity 41:32 The Role of Attention and Mindfulness 46:01 Anchoring Statements and Staying Present

In this special episode of the 'Pause Purpose Play' podcast I decided to step out of my comfort zone and record live on Instagram!   Join me as I chat about the scary but oh-so-important idea of feeling safe to slow down while still aiming high. With my trusty 'I'm not perfect' jumper and my ADHD quirks in full swing, I dive into how pushing through nonstop isn't the answer, how to avoid burnout and share practical tips for regulating our frazzled nervous systems.   Plus, I'm inviting you to join my upcoming 4-day 'Sustainable Success Challenge' for female business owners starting September 24th.    01:48 The Importance of Slowing Down 03:10 Sustainability and Success 04:08 September Reset 05:14 Embracing Imperfection 06:58 Interactive Q&A 09:33 Practical Tips for Nervous System Regulation 11:11 Upcoming Sustainable Success Challenge  

In this episode of Pause Purpose Play, I dive into the vibrant world of creativity for those with ADHD. I chat about how our brilliant, busy brains are naturally wired for imaginative thinking and how we can harness that spark.   I share my own quirks and experiences to remind us that done is better than perfect and why it's more fun to create than to endlessly scroll through raccoon videos. Plus, I'll sprinkle in some tips on how to allow yourself the joy of being a little more imperfect!   Join me, and maybe even sign up for my free Sustainable Success challenge if you're ready for more creativity and less comparison in your life.    00:31 The Role of Creativity in ADHD 01:42 Perfectionism vs. Creativity 04:35 The Impact of Consumption on Creativity 08:59 Commitment to Creativity 15:43 Upcoming Sustainable Success Challenge!  

Dive into the whimsical world of curiosity and discover how it can transform your personal and professional life! Int his episode I take you on an adventure through the curiosity mindset, the beginner's mindset, and compassionate curiosity.    00:00 Unlocking the Power of Curiosity 00:57 The Beginner's Mindset 01:19 Compassionate Curiosity 01:54 Applying Curiosity in Life 02:19 Access to Work Grant Challenges 03:15 Personal Experience with Access to Work 04:08 Upcoming Events and Workshops

This week I'm joined by the brilliant Dr Claire Plumbly, who shares her exciting journey of writing her first book on burnout, diving into how chronic stress can really take a toll on our minds and bodies. With practical tips on managing burnout, recognising internal pressures, and practicing self-care, this episode is packed with useful advice!      01:28 The Concept of Burnout 01:44 Writing the Book: Inspiration and Challenges 02:26 Understanding Burnout as Trauma 06:15 Recognising Burnout Symptoms 08:04 The Three C's for Nervous System Health 12:27 High-Functioning Burnout 13:29 Practical Tips for Managing Burnout 32:13 Entrepreneurship and Burnout 38:31 Connecting with Others and Finding Support   Do you feel overwhelmed? Too busy to stop? Resisting slowing down? Then you need a break, before you break! Download my free guide to help you spot the signs of overwhelm, learn simple ways of slowing down, and understanding what's getting in the way of you giving yourself the permission to rest and recover.  https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/calm/   About Dr Claire Plumbly:   Claire is a Clinical Psychologist & Director of Good Therapy Ltd, a psychological therapy centre based online and in Taunton, Somerset. Her private practice specialises in trauma-related issues and Claire herself has a specialism in sexual assault; early life traumas, and of course burnout. Her debut book ‘Burnout: How to Manage Your Nervous System Before It Manages You' is out in the UK this summer. It will show you how to harness the power of your nervous system, despite the persistent demands of modern life.  

We're diving into a topic close to my heart: the chaotic world of unfinished projects that seem to plague us ADHD-ers. I share a laugh-and-cry kind of story from our amazing ADHD Club, and together we explore some fun and practical ways to finally get things done.   I also chat about the importance of self-compassion, managing impulse control, and why taking breaks is your secret weapon against burnout. Plus, stick around till the end because I've got a special freebie to help you tackle those dreaded Access to Work forms!   So, if you want to turn your chaos into calm, hit play and let's get started!   00:00 Welcome and Introduction 01:07 Understanding ADHD and Unfinished Projects 03:52 Real-Life Example of ADHD Challenges 06:29 Strategies to Tackle Unfinished Projects 11:14 Community Support and Encouragement 15:05 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Events

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, I dive into the often daunting task of form-filling for ADHD business women. I offer four handy tips to break down this overwhelming task into manageable and even enjoyable chunks.   I explain the crucial importance of these forms for accessing things like government support and business funding, and provide practical, compassionate strategies to tackle them head-on.   Join me in turning this 'boring beast' into a more playful process and stay tuned for the next episode that promises more tips!   00:46 The Importance of Filling Forms 01:54 Why ADHD Brains Avoid Forms 03:07 Tips for Tackling Forms: Chunky 05:56 Tips for Tackling Forms: Funky 07:48 Tips for Tackling Forms: Junky 08:59 Tips for Tackling Forms: Monkey 10:44 Conclusion and Next Episode Teaser

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, I kick off a three-part series to help my fellow ADHD entrepreneurs tackle dreaded business finances. After a lightbulb moment with my ADHD assistant, Zoë, I realised many of us hate dealing with invoices and forms. So, tune in to get given five ways to approach your finances with an ADHD brain! These tips will help you manage cash flow, reduce stress, and keep your creativity flowing. And hey, if you need more support, check out my latest masterclass on sustainable ADHD business success. Let's make this fun and get you paid!   00:48 The Struggle with Forms and Finances 01:29 Understanding ADHD and Executive Functioning 02:24 The Importance of Invoicing 04:09 Why ADHD Brains Struggle with Business Finances 05:07 Five Solutions to Improve Invoicing 05:23 Solution 1: Gamify Your Invoicing 06:18 Solution 2: Change the Context 07:17 Solution 3: Reward Yourself 08:03 Solution 4: Automate the Process 10:03 Solution 5: Outsource the Task 13:14 Conclusion and Masterclass Information

How do you balance your business and life with an ADHD brain? In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host and Clinical Psychologist Michaela Thomas, returns from a podcast break to discuss the importance of clarity and self-care to have balance between work and life, prioritising family right now. Michaela explores themes of compassion, perfectionism, and ADHD, sharing personal insights on balancing family life and professional responsibilities. She introduces a framework for sustainable success, focusing on support, systems and self-compassion. You're also invited to catch a replay of a masterclass on how to balance your business and life with an ADHD brain, here: Balancing your Business with an Ambitious ADHD Brain - The Thomas Connection The doors are open NOW to Michaela's ADHD membership community, The ADHD Club for ambitious women with bright and busy brains. Join here: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/adhdclub  00:14 Reasons for taking a break from the podcast 01:00 Clarity and Family Priorities 02:17 The links between ADHD and perfectionism 03:06 Support, Systems and Self-Compassion 03:49 The Venn Diagram Framework 12:38 Permission to Seek Support

Having trouble sleeping? Join for some useful tips as Clinical Psychologist Michaela Thomas chats with the brilliant Dr. Ranj Singh - NHS Doctor, Furniture Village Sleep and Wellness Ambassador and TV presenter - about sleep, anxiety and wellbeing.  Discover how sleep is linked with hormone regulation, anxiety, stress, burnout - and even ADHD.    Dr. Ranj shares his top tips for better sleep hygiene, managing stress, and sprinkling some self-compassion into your daily routine. Plus, hear how Dr Ranj handles criticism from social media trolls with grace, and why dancing like nobody's watching might just be the lift we all need.    Ready to give yourself permission to have better sleep? Tune in now!   Connect with Dr Ranj Singh on Instagram: @drranj   We cover:   01:06 The Importance of Sleep 04:22 Short-term and Long-term Effects of Poor Sleep 07:44 Improving Sleep Quality 13:40 Self-Compassion and Sleep 18:05 Purpose and Meaning in Life 24:41 Navigating Social Media and Comparison 28:00 Balancing Inspiration and Pressure 29:33 The Reality of Imperfection 33:19 Finding Joy in Social Connections 38:34 The Power of Authenticity 44:46 Handling Criticism and Social Media 48:19 Final Takeaways and Self-Compassion Think your sleeping problems are linked with ADHD? Take a look at Michaela's ADHD membership community, The ADHD Club: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/adhdclub 

Welcome back to the Pause Purpose Lay podcast with me, Michaela Thomas. In this episode, we explore how to snack well with ADHD by understanding interoceptive cues, common sugar cravings, and the importance of self-compassion. We discuss the challenges ADHD individuals face with food, the impact of ignoring hunger signals, and practical tips to avoid energy crashes and binges. Additionally, I explain how to give yourself permission to snack and manage your energy levels. For those interested, I am offering access to my recent workshop recording on this topic. Join us as we navigate snacking strategies and move away from shame and self-criticism.   https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/adhdclub

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play Podcast, I discuss the impact of self-kindness on productivity and success, particularly for individuals with ADHD. I address common concerns about self-compassion leading to laziness and explain how being kinder to oneself can enhance effectiveness, reduce burnout, and foster a growth mindset. I also outline three key points: the benefits of kind self-correction vs. self-criticism, the importance of setting boundaries, and the role of rest and recovery in achieving high performance. Plus, I let you know about an upcoming masterclass focused on balancing business and ADHD.   Links: https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/adhdclub

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, I tackle the often-neglected concept of rest, especially for individuals with ADHD and perfectionists. I present rest as the best-kept secret of high performance, crucial for achieving more and preventing burnout. The episode explores the resistance many feel towards allowing themselves to rest, labelling rest as an act of rebellion against the pressures of a perfectionist, patriarchal society. Through listener questions and personal insights, I discuss the importance of rest for both mental and physical well-being and introduce the Pause Purpose Play Mini Mastermind designed to help ambitious women find balance, meaning, and fun. The episode emphasizes that resting and recovering are essential for achieving ambitious goals sustainably, without falling into the burnout trap.   https://thethomasconnection.thrivecart.com/pause-purpose-play/

This episode features a deep and personal conversation with Holly Matthews, a TV actress turned self-development coach, about the themes of bravery, authenticity, and dealing with grief. Holly shares her journey, starting with her early career in television, her approach to living with bravery and courage rather than confidence, and how writing a bold letter as a child kickstarted her acting career. She discusses the importance of having awkward, gray-area conversations, embracing life's nuances, and how she challenges herself to live boldly. Holly also opens up about the impact of her husband Ross's death from brain cancer on her and her children, how she navigated grief, and how the experience reinforced her determination to help others feel 'more happy and less crappy.' The conversation touches on dealing with ADHD, the value of asking for what you want, and the importance of dropping the ball sometimes to manage the juggle of life's challenges. Holly also provides insights into dealing with online negativity, emphasizing the power of seeing oneself through others' eyes and maintaining authenticity in the face of criticism.   https://www.iamhollymatthews.com/   https://www.instagram.com/iamhollymatthews/   https://www.tiktok.com/@iamhollymatthews   To be one of Michaela's inner circle women in her transformational group coaching, Burn Bright, apply now: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright  

This podcast episode features a heartwarming conversation between myself and Rachel Maloy, a facilitator of Singing Mamas groups. We discuss the profound impact that singing can have on mental health and well-being, especially for mothers. Rachel shares her personal journey of battling severe anxiety and depression after her son's birth and how discovering Singing Mamas became a pivotal moment in her recovery. She emphasizes the importance of singing as a form of emotional release, community building, and self-care. The episode also includes snippets of Rachel singing, along with a discussion about the benefits of singing for both adults and children, highlighting how it can improve confidence, mental health, and provide a sense of belonging. Rachel encourages listeners, especially mothers, to give themselves permission to prioritize their well-being through singing, exemplifying that everyone can sing and it is never too late to start.   www.singingmamas.org   Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk Instagram: @the_thomas_connection Facebook: www.facebook.com/thethomasconnection Pause Purpose Play Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/pausepurposeplay    Edited by MyPodcastAssistant  

Today's episode was a live conversation between host Michaela and her guest, Kylie, discussing the impactful journey and benefits of investing in one's well-being through the BurnBright program. Kylie shares her initial hesitations, the significance of building trust through engaging with Michaela's content, and how making a substantial investment in the program led to personal and professional growth. They delve into the advantages of group coaching over individual sessions, highlighting the community support and the value of shared group experiences. Kylie's transformation from a corporate role to becoming a business owner underscores the program's pivotal role in helping her find purpose, create space for personal growth, and achieve a sustainable balance between ambition and well-being. Michaela emphasizes the importance of commitment and how the program's structure, including recorded calls and a supportive online community, facilitates profound personal transformation. The conversation concludes with a call to action for listeners to consider enrolling in BurnBright to explore their paths toward well-being.   To be one of Michaela's inner circle women in her transformational group coaching, Burn Bright, apply now: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright Spaces are limited to six and doors close for this round on the 19th of April!

In this Pause Purpose Play podcast episode, I discuss the challenge of accepting compliments and feeling proud without feeling icky', especially for perfectionistic, high-achieving women. I touch upon the cultural and personal barriers to embracing one's achievements and discuss my personal journey with pride and vulnerability, including my reflections on receiving the award and feeling out of place yet proud at the ceremony. I also share my intention behind the podcast to help women see their own light and strengths. Finally, I announce the upcoming round of her Burn Bright program, emphasising my ethical approach to participant selection and my passion for genuinely helping others.   To be one of Michaela's inner circle women in her transformational group coaching, Burn Bright, apply now: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright Spaces are limited to six and doors close for this round on the 19th of April!

In this episode, I address the common habit of rushing through life, particularly among individuals with ADHD and busy parents. I discuss the negative impacts of constantly being in a rush, such as increased stress, reduced productivity, and potential dangers. I emphasise the importance of slowing down to improve effectiveness, focus, and mental health. I also talk about Neurodiversity Awareness Week, the concept of neurodivergence, and how rushing is often glorified in modern society. The episode delves into strategies for reducing the need to rush, including pausing to assess what's helpful or harmful, and the benefits of rest and recovery. I also highlight my Burn Bright program, which gives women permission to pause and manage the urge to rush, ultimately leading to a more productive and less stressful lifestyle. Email Michaela to get the on-demand recording of the Spacious Year challenge videos: info@thethomasconnection.co.uk   To be one of Michaela's inner circle women in her transformational group coaching, Burn Bright, apply now: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright Spaces are limited to six and doors close for this round on the 19th of April!

In this podcast episode, Ross, a specialist in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) in the workplace, discusses the principles of ACT and its application in both professional and personal settings. ACT, a practical and experiential form of therapy, is explored through its foundational skills of noticing, being active, and open, aimed at enhancing psychological flexibility. Ross shares insights into how these skills help individuals navigate the relentless modern workplace, reduce burnout, and lead more fulfilling lives by aligning actions with personal values. Through metaphors like 'passengers on the bus,' Ross illustrates how to manage internal dialogue and foster a healthier relationship with one's thoughts and feelings. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, kindness, and taking meaningful actions towards what truly matters, offering listeners practical strategies for improving well-being and effectiveness in their daily lives.   To be one of Michaela's inner circle women in her transformational group coaching, Burn Bright, apply now: www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright Guest email: ross.peoplesoup@gmail.com

In this episode, I introduce the concept of three flows of compassion – towards others, from others, and self-compassion – and how fears and societal norms can block these flows. I share personal anecdotes about her experiences with vulnerability, such as asking for votes for an Inspirational Modern Woman Award and the implications of unmasking my ADHD in a professional forum. Tying my story to the broader theme of International Women's Day and inspiring inclusion, I emphasize the importance of courage over confidence and becoming a beacon of change. Through sharing the positive feedback and support I received, I aim to inspire listeners to embrace their vulnerabilities, challenge societal norms, and prioritise self-worth and self-compassion in their pursuit of personal and professional success.