The Happiest Lives Podcast

Worry might feel responsible. It might feel productive. But it's not. It's just a mental habit—one you've rehearsed for years. And today, we're turning it around.In this final episode of the Habit Turnaround series, we're breaking down why worry shows up, how it hooks you, and what to do instead. I'll teach you a simple, powerful tool—The Four P's: Panic, Pause, Pray, Praise—to interrupt the spiral and access the peace that's already available to you.If you're tired of overthinking, bracing for impact, and losing sleep over “what ifs,” this episode will challenge your mindset, reframe your responsibility, and show you how to move from anxiety to authority—one thought at a time.Relationship Reinvention is a self-paced experience for couples who want to reset patterns, reconnect emotionally, and grow together with intention.Walk through 12 meaningful sessions at your own pace—with guided conversations, practical tools, and lifetime access.⚡️Join by June 30 and get 3 bonus live coaching calls with Jill.⚡️

You're doing all the things—managing the schedule, watching the budget, keeping the peace, trying to eat clean and “be the good one.” But let's be honest: it's exhausting. That tight grip? That anxious push to make it all work? That's white-knuckling.In today's episode, we're breaking down the habit of white-knuckling—what it is, why we do it, and why it's not actually helping. You'll learn the real reason your efforts leave you tired, stuck, and secretly resentful… and what to do instead.I'll walk you through my four-part process for turning this habit around—so you can stop pushing, start partnering with God, and move forward without losing your mind (or your soul). This isn't about giving up. It's about letting go the right way.Let's talk about the difference between striving and surrender—and how to tell when you've crossed the line.Relationship Reinvention is a self-paced experience for couples who want to reset patterns, reconnect emotionally, and grow together with intention.Walk through 12 meaningful sessions at your own pace—with guided conversations, practical tools, and lifetime access.⚡️Join by June 30 and get 3 bonus live coaching calls with Jill.⚡️

Procrastination might not seem dramatic—but it's quietly draining your peace, cluttering your mind, and robbing you of forward momentum. In part six of The Habit Turnaround series, we're talking about how to stop putting things off and start showing up with purpose. You'll learn why procrastination isn't a time issue—it's a thought pattern—and how to break the habit loop with simple mindset shifts and practical tools. If you're tired of carrying around that mental to-do list or delaying something God has placed on your heart, this episode will help you move from avoidance to action. Let's turn it around—one small step at a time.Relationship Reinvention is a self-paced experience for couples who want to reset patterns, reconnect emotionally, and grow together with intention.Walk through 12 meaningful sessions at your own pace—with guided conversations, practical tools, and lifetime access.⚡️Join by June 30 and get 3 bonus live coaching calls with Jill.⚡️

This is Part 5 of The Habit Turnaround series, and today we're talking about quick thrills—the little dopamine hits we chase to avoid discomfort.Whether it's snacks, scrolling, shopping, or staying busy, these habits feel good for a moment but keep you stuck long-term. I'll show you how to break the cycle with the 10 Minute Habit Turnaround so you can stop buffering and start living with intention.Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Withdrawing might seem like the peaceful, “Christian” alternative to conflict—but it's not. It's just another sneaky habit that keeps us stuck. Whether you shut down in conversations, avoid emotions, or silently drift from God, today's episode will help you see the truth behind the habit of pulling away.In Part 4 of The Habit Turnaround Series, we'll uncover:• What withdrawing really looks like in your relationships, spiritual life, and self• Why it feels like relief—but leads to isolation• The habit loop that keeps you disconnecting• How lamenting becomes the path to re-engagement with God, yourself, and othersIf you're tired of feeling numb, distant, or unseen—this is your episode. You don't have to withdraw to feel safe. Let's talk about a new way forward. Let's go.Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Arguing feels automatic—but it's actually a habit. One rooted in fear, frustration, and the need to feel in control. In today's episode, Part 3 of The Habit Turnaround Series, I'll show you how to interrupt that habit and build a new pattern rooted in clarity, peace, and connection.You'll learn:• Why arguments keep repeating• What emotional flooding does to your brain• How to shift from needing to “win” to listening with love• The seven steps to turning an argument into a calm, Christ-centered conversationIf you're tired of going in circles, this episode is your turnaround. Let's go!Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Complaining can feel justified—but is it actually helping? In this episode, we explore how complaining becomes an automatic habit, why it keeps us stuck, and what the Bible teaches about a better way forward. Instead of venting frustration, we'll look at the biblical practice of lament—how to bring our struggles to God in a way that leads to peace, wisdom, and transformation. If you're ready to break free from negativity and step into a mindset of trust and empowerment, this episode is for you!Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Most of our habits aren't intentional—we just fall into them. But what if the habits shaping your life aren't actually serving you? In this episode, we're diving into The Habit Turnaround—how to recognize unhelpful patterns, understand why they stick, and intentionally create habits that align with the life God is calling you to.We'll break down the Habit Loop, uncover the sneaky rewards keeping bad habits in place, and explore what the Bible says about true transformation (Romans 12:2). If you've ever felt stuck in cycles of stress, negativity, or distraction, this episode will give you the insight and tools to start shifting those patterns today.It's time to stop running on autopilot and start stepping into renewal. Let's dive in!Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In this episode, we're wrapping up our Genesis Takeaway series with a powerful reflection on the story of Sodom and Gomorrah. At first glance, it's a story of judgment, but when we slow down and look deeper, it reveals profound lessons about hesitation, obedience, and trust.Are you struggling to move forward in faith? Do you find yourself looking back at what's familiar, even when you know God is calling you into something new? Today, we're diving into the dangers of hesitation, the cost of looking back, and the temptation to stop short of God's best.Join me as we explore how these lessons apply to our daily lives and what it truly means to trust God's call forward—without hesitation. Plus, I'll share a personal story about my own struggle with letting go and stepping into freedom.Don't miss this episode—it just might be the encouragement you need to take your next bold step of faith!Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In this special 100th episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, Jill Lillard dives into the lessons of waiting from the first 25 chapters of Genesis. She explores how God uses waiting as a powerful, active process that binds our hearts to His. Jill shares how waiting isn't passive, but a season of building faith, patience, and trust. Using the stories of Noah and Abraham, she reflects on how waiting strengthens us and prepares us for the blessings ahead. Tune in for encouragement and three tips to navigate your own season of waiting.Join the waitlist for Clarity+Courage at www.myhappyvault.com. Enrollment opens April 29. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In this episode, Jill Lillard dives into the messy side of relationships through her study of Genesis. She shares how God continues to work even in our mistakes to bring about his purposes, urging us to shift our focus from who's right and who's wrong to how God is working and what he is calling us to do. With practical questions and biblical wisdom, Jill helps you see how God's redemptive work can transform your heart and relationships. Don't miss out on this powerful episode that invites you to look at your relational struggles through a whole new lens.Join the waitlist for Clarity+Courage at www.myhappyvault.com. Enrollment opens April 29. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Ever feel like you—or others—need to be perfect? In this episode, Jill explores how Genesis reveals the beauty of God's grace amid human weakness. From Adam and Eve's fall to Cain's destructive choices, see how God's promises remain steady, even when we fall short. Tune in and be reminded that His strength meets you right where you are.Join the waitlist for Clarity+Courage at www.myhappyvault.com. Enrollment opens April 29. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This week, we begin a new series, Genesis Takeaways, where Jill shares what God has revealed to her in the first 25 chapters of Genesis. In this episode, she explores the beauty of God's covenant, the patterns of human weakness, and how His faithfulness remains steadfast. From Adam and Eve to Abraham and Sarah, discover how God's love story has been unfolding since the very beginning.Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In this episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, Jill Lillard wraps up the month's series on Spirit-Led Planning and Execution by exploring how to be a finisher. She reveals why we lose momentum on our goals and the role of the prefrontal cortex in follow-through. She shares ten practical strategies to overcome obstacles and finish strong. Discover how perseverance, accountability, and trusting God's guidance can help you achieve your goals with grace even when your faith wavers.Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In this episode, Jill shares how to manage your time with intention and purpose, which is part of her series on Spirit-Led Planning and Execution. Discover 12 practical tips to align your schedule with your core values, prioritize relationships, and balance work, rest, and spiritual growth. Learn how to invite God into your planning, steward time as a gift, and stay proactive in focusing on what truly matters. Tune in for insightful strategies that honor God while improving your daily life.Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is part two of the Spirit-Led Planning & Execution series, where we explore how to align your life with God's will by prioritizing commitments that align with your values. Jill offers practical guidance for evaluating your time, energy, and focus to ensure they reflect what matters most. Tune in to learn how to recognize misaligned priorities, make intentional choices, and steward your resources with purpose.Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In this new series, discover how to align your plans with God's will, partner with Him through obedience, and execute your goals with faith and surrender. Jill shares personal stories, biblical insights, and practical tips to help you balance spontaneity and control, stay anchored in your relationship with the Lord, and make decisions that reflect His greater vision for your life. Tune in for spiritual wisdom and actionable guidance to navigate life's challenges with grace and purpose.Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In the final episode of her series Reconciliation & Forgiveness, Jill Lillard dives into the art of receiving feedback—a vital part of having conversations that foster reconciliation. Jill explores the emotional challenges we face when receiving feedback and offers practical strategies for processing it effectively, regulating emotions, and delivering meaningful apologies. Tune in to discover how to approach feedback with a heart open to growth and reconciliation, grounded in your identity as a child of God.Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In episode three of the series Reconciliation & Forgiveness, we dive into the art of giving feedback with humility, kindness, and grace. Whether it's a minor disagreement or a major conflict, discover practical tools to communicate clearly, invite change, and strengthen your relationships.Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In this episode, Jill Lillard continues part 2 of the series on Reconciliation & Forgiveness. Through personal stories and biblical principles, she shares practical steps for healing relationships, setting healthy boundaries, and balancing peace with realistic expectations. Whether in friendships, family, or marriage, you'll gain valuable insights on building deeper connections through the ministry of reconciliation.Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In this episode, I kick off the Reconciliation & Forgiveness series by exploring the importance of forgiveness in our lives. I share a personal story of holding onto bitterness and the journey toward forgiveness, showing how God's grace can work through even the hardest emotions.You'll also learn the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, why they don't always go together, and the barriers that often keep us stuck. With practical, faith-filled steps, discover how letting go of hurt can free your heart and bring you closer to the life God intends for you.Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is the final episode of the series Marriage Designed By God. Discover how to love sincerely and sustainably, even when you don't feel like it. Explore the role of the Holy Spirit in marriage, and learn practical tips for cultivating a deeper relationship with God and your spouse.Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is part 4 of the series Marriage Designed By God. In this episode, Jill Lillard explores the inherent differences in marriages. Discover why God designed these differences and how they can bring couples closer together. This episode is perfect for couples and anyone looking to strengthen their relationships through understanding and embracing differences.Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is part 3 of the series Marriage Designed By God.  In this episode, Jill discusses the concept of covenant love in marriage, exploring its biblical roots and offering practical tips for living out a committed, sacrificial love in modern relationships.Ready to change your marriage without the exhausting work of trying to control your husband? Sign up for my FREE mini-course, The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In this episode, Jill explores God's design for intimacy in marriage, the barriers we face, and paths to vulnerability and deeper connection. This is part 2 of the series Marriage Designed By God.Click here to Join Clarity+Courage Now! Enrollment closes on January 15. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In today's episode, we start a new series called 'Marriage Designed by God.' We'll discuss what marriage means, how God wants it to look, and how husbands and wives can help each other. Get ready to learn about love, teamwork, and what the Bible says about being a good partner.Click here to Join Clarity+Courage Now! Enrollment closes on January 15. Discover ways to work with me at www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

I am seeking 10 women to join me in The Happiest Lives Academy 2025 Cohort. Will you be one of them? We start on January 1, but we are enrolling NOW. Secure your spot today. Contact jill@thehappiestlives.com if you would like to chat about this opportunity. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In the final episode of the Be Transformed series, Heather Gilion returns to share powerful insights about a season many of us struggle with — the season of waiting. While no one enjoys waiting, it's often in this space that our greatest transformations take place. Heather unpacks the idea that waiting is not wasted time, but a time where God is working behind the scenes for our good. Tune in as she offers a comforting reminder and a collection of promises to hold onto, giving us the strength to wait as long as it takes, knowing that something greater is being prepared for us.I am seeking 10 women to join me in The Happiest Lives Academy 2025 Cohort. Will you be one of them? We start on January 1, but we are enrolling NOW. Secure your spot today. Contact jill@thehappiestlives.com if you would like to chat about this opportunity. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In every season, especially the challenging ones, God is at work, shaping and strengthening us in ways we may not yet see. In today's episode, Into the Fire, I am joined by special guest Heather Gilion. Fresh from sharing her impactful message at our Happiest Lives Weekend in Missouri, Heather brings her heartfelt insights on walking with God through life's toughest moments.Heather is a gifted speaker, the author of Dancing On My Ashes, and a talented artist behind Story Designs. Sidenote: If you love surrounding your home with reminders of God's word, you won't want to miss checking out her beautiful artwork.In this episode, Heather's story serves as a powerful reminder that we're never alone in the “fire.” Even in trials, God's presence refines us, drawing us closer to Him. I hope this conversation leaves you feeling encouraged and confident, knowing that His constant presence holds you every step of the way.I am seeking 10 women to join me in The Happiest Lives Academy 2025 Cohort. Will you be one of them? We start on January 1, but we are enrolling NOW. Secure your spot today. Contact jill@thehappiestlives.com if you would like to chat about this opportunity. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This podcast features empowering stories from women who have undergone significant personal growth through the Happiest Lives Academy. Participants Dawn Valentino, Michelle Revelle, and Betsy Yost share their experiences as they embarked on five transformations in 5 months. The discussion highlights overcoming mental blocks, healing from past relationships, and enhancing personal connections as graduates recount their journeys of maturity, confidence, and closer relationships with God.I am seeking 10 women to join me in The Happiest Lives Academy 2025 Cohort. Will you be one of them? We start on January 1, but we are enrolling NOW. Secure your spot today. Contact jill@thehappiestlives.com if you would like to chat about this opportunity. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This week, we're talking about transformation—becoming the woman God says you already are. We'll look at what holds you back, the steps you can take to change, and what you need to do to grow. Join us as we learn what it means to become. Join me for three days of LIVE coaching (1 hour each day) and leave with a plan of How To Stop Being Disappointed In Your Marriage & Igntite Joy. The best part? It's FREE. Sign up for details at www.myhappyvault.com . If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

In this final episode of How To Get Unstuck, I'll show you how to keep moving forward with unwavering determination, even when you feel at your lowest. By tapping into Christ's strength, you can run your race with a clear purpose rather than relying solely on your energy. Learn to lean into your struggles and discover the power and joy of surrendering to God's goodness and sovereignty. Together, we'll explore how you can turn your challenges into steps toward victory.Join me for three days of LIVE coaching (1 hour each day) and leave with a plan of How To Stop Being Disappointed In Your Marriage & Igntite Joy. The best part? It's FREE. Sign up for details at www.myhappyvault.com . If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is part 4 of the series How To Get Unstuck.  A distress signal is an urgent appeal for help. When used for ships, we call it an SOS.  When we move into our personal pain, cry for help, and trust the Lord is with us, we move from suffering to surrender. This SOS is the place between where you are and where you want to be-- the Sea of Suffering turned Sea of Surrender (SOS). In today's episode, I show you what to do with your emotions, including six habits to cultivate in your emotional life.Join me for three days of LIVE coaching (1 hour each day) and leave with a plan of How To Stop Being Disappointed In Your Marriage & Igntite Joy. The best part? It's FREE. Sign up for details at www.myhappyvault.com . If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Welcome to part 3 of the series How To Get Unstuck.  In today's discussion, we'll explore renewing our minds, a practice rooted in biblical principles and essential for spiritual and emotional growth. We'll examine the narratives we tell ourselves—like “my husband is a jerk”—and how thoughts like this keep us spinning a web of frustration and disappointment.  Through practical examples, we'll learn how to shift our perspective, break free from limiting beliefs, and align our thoughts with truth to be the woman God says we already are. Join me for three days of LIVE coaching (1 hour each day) and leave with a plan of How To Stop Being Disappointed In Your Marriage & Igntite Joy. The best part? It's FREE. Sign up for details at www.myhappyvault.com . If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is episode 2 of the series How to Get Unstuck. In it, we explore why we often feel stuck and how our minds can trap us in repetitive cycles of worry or overwhelm. When we don't know how to approach a problem, we either obsess over it or let it grow bigger in our minds. Today, Jill introduces a tool that will help you step back, organize your thoughts, and understand the problem so you can focus on what to do next. Constraining the problem allows you to break free from the cycle and start making real progress. Tune in to learn how to approach challenges with clarity and take action and change your life. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Send us a textIn this new series, Jill will share a straightforward process she uses whenever she feels stuck. Whether you're dealing with overwhelm, indecision, or feeling lost, this method will help you gain clarity and take the next step forward. Tune in to discover practical tools you can use today to break free from what's holding you back and start moving forward with purpose.If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Send us a textThe hardest hurdle to communication is that visceral reaction when your body becomes emotionally flooded and you can't access all the smart things you know. The final episode of our Defensiveness series focuses on staying calm and connected during challenging conversations. Discover relaxation techniques, emotional regulation skills, and mindset strategies to improve relationships and escape attack-defend mode.If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Send us a textThis is part 3 of the series on Defensiveness. Owning your actions is about stopping your efforts to control the other person and taking ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. When we shift our energy from what we can't control to what we can, we can start making some headway in our conversations. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Send us a textToday, we're continuing our series on Defensiveness. Last week, Jill shared a personal story about becoming defensive with her family and promised to return with insights gained after interviewing her family about it. In this episode, she shares what she learned from those conversations.Our focus today is on assuming the best when you feel defensive. The alternative is to assume the worst, which hinders meaningful conversations and connections. We will discuss how approaching situations with a grace-filled mindset can transform relationships and promote understanding.If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women.Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.comJoin me for three days of LIVE coaching (1 hour each day) and leave with a plan of How To Stop Being Disappointed In Your Marriage & Igntite Joy. The workshop is only $27. Reserve your spot at www.myhappyvault.com and get a free pass to give to a friend. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Send us a textToday, we begin a new series on defensiveness, one of the four horsemen of the apocalypse identified by John Gottman. In this episode, we explore what defensiveness is, why we experience it, and how it affects our interactions. Jill shares a personal story about feeling defensive during a family vacation and how it impacted her relationships. She introduces practical steps to manage defensiveness using the Heart Scan Coaching method.Join me for three days of LIVE coaching (1 hour each day) and leave with a plan of How To Stop Being Disappointed In Your Marriage & Igntite Joy. The workshop is only $27. Reserve your spot at www.myhappyvault.com and get a free pass to give to a friend. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Send us a textThis episode wraps up the 5 part series on Urges. To enter the rest of God we must go into the future where our victory is complete and we have arrived at our destination. When it seems we are circling over the sea of suffering, we must persevere in believing and pressing on despite unwanted emotions and demanding urges that promise short term relief.  We can experience the joy and rest of God today as we partner with God in a battle that has already been won. Join Clarity+Courage Coaching before 8/31/24 and get LIFETIME MEMBERSHIP for the cost of one year when you use the coupon code LAUNCH. https://offer.thehappiestwives.com/claritycourage/If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Send us a Text Message.Today, in Part 4 of our URGES series, we tackle the destructive cycle of shame. • Shame Uncovered: Understand shame and how it differs from guilt. • Lisa's Story: Learn how Lisa overcame shame around answering unhealthy coping mechanisms /urges in her marriage. • Practical Steps: Discover strategies to move past shame, reframe thoughts, and embrace God's kindness when you are stuck in a cycle of obeying unwanted urges.  • Biblical Insights: Reflect on scriptures that help us overcome shame and embrace our identity in Christ.Join me as we explore how to transform guilt into positive change and step into the grace and freedom God offers.Join Clarity+Courage Coaching before 8/31/24 and get LIFETIME MEMBERSHIP for the cost of one year when you use the coupon code LAUNCH. https://offer.thehappiestwives.com/claritycourage/If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Send us a Text Message.This is part 3 of the series Urges. We all experience urges, and nothing is wrong with you because you feel tempted to do things that don't honor your greatest values. The good news is that God is faithful, and He promises that the urge won't last forever and that he will provide a way out.  If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Send us a Text Message.This is part 2 of the series Urges.  Urges are strong desires, almost a compulsion. Answering them may bring relief and even pleasure, but in the long game, answering urges that don't align with our goals and values creates greater suffering. Often times we will go unconscious and act like urges are happening to us, and yet we have the power to choose how we will respond. In this episode, I outline ways to respond to an urge and encourage listeners to choose a response that honors what is most important to them. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Send us a Text Message.This is part one of the series Urges. An urge is a pressing desire, almost a compulsion, manifesting in all life areas of living, including relationships, health habits, and work goals. Urges feel uncomfortable, even painful when we don't answer them. However, when we obey unwanted urges, we experience prolonged and acute suffering. In this episode, I introduce and normalize the concept of urges including their purpose in our lives. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Send us a Text Message.This is part 4 of the series Cultivating a Fiery & Fresh Relationship With Jesus. Today, I discuss the crucial role of the church, referring to the body of all believers as well as local congregations.  We. Look at the reasons you may be discouraged from attending church and why regular fellowship is still important.  I share with you about my involvement with the Christian community, reminding you that God has given us community not only to benefit us ,but so that we can be a blessing to others. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Send us a Text Message.This is part 3 of the series Cultivating A Fiery & Fresh Relationship With Jesus. God's Word is the ultimate source of truth, guidance, and transformation. Many Christians struggle with consistent Bible reading due to busy lives and distractions. In this episode, we examine how you think about Bible reading and offer practical tips and strategies for getting excited and inspired to engage in God's Word.If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

Send us a Text Message.This is part 2 of the series Cultivating A Fiery & Fresh Relationship With God.  In this episode, I will show you how to transform your prayer life from routine and one-dimensional to a powerful way to connect with God.If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This begins the series Cultivating a Fiery & Fresh Relationship with Jesus, where we explore what it truly means to passionately desire, turn toward, and experience God. Join me as we examine three distinct types of relationships: legalistic, complacent, and passionate. We will also delve into the depths of passion, uncovering the barriers that hinder intimacy and discovering practical tools for examining your relationship with God. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is part 4 of the series Making Everyday Life Productive & Fun. Join Jill and Coach Stephanie as they discuss how to balance work and play, the role of play in their lives, what they consider fun, and obstacles and antidotes to having a good time. At The Happiest Lives, we believe if you aren't enjoying the journey, you are probably doing it wrong. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

This is part 3 of the series How To Make Everyday Life Productive & Fun. In this episode, I share some of my favorite ways to get things done. Though "Plan A" is always to be flexible and open to how the Spirit leads you, "Plans B-Z "may include systematic processes and techniques that help you stay engaged with your life and increase efficiency. When we find ways to make the daily grind interesting, we increase the pleasure we experience in the mundane tasks of everyday life. If you are ready to become the woman God says you already are, you have to join me in Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching group for Christian women. Learn more and enroll at www.myhappyvault.com/clarityandcourageQuestions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com