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This week, we're sharing a conversation with Phil Barlow about his new book, published by Faith Matters, called A Thoughtful Faith for the 21st Century. If that sounds familiar, it may be because Phil published the first volume back in 1986. That original collection included essays by Eugene England, Laurel Thatcher Ulrich, Francine Bennion, Richard Bushman, and others—each exploring what it means to live a spiritually and intellectually honest life within the Latter-day Saint tradition.As Phil points out, challenges to faith are not new. Thoughtful people were wrestling with difficult questions decades ago in ways that still have power today. But, as he says, “the world has turned some” since then. The 2025 edition brings in a new generation of scholars and voices—Thomas McConkie, Melissa Inouye, Fiona Givens, Ben Schilaty, among others—who speak to today's distinctive challenges while honoring the wisdom and foundation of those who came before.At the heart of both volumes is an urgent and beautiful question: How can we hold together the integrities of our minds and our hearts and our spirits? That question—its weight, complexity, and quiet hope—sits at the center of this conversation today.Phil brings so much humility and clarity, and in this episode we get to hear a little about what's changed in his own faith, about the wisdom of surrendering the need to know, and why he still finds the Latter-day Saint tradition compelling, human, and a spiritual home he continues to choose with both heart and mind.We're so grateful to Phil for this conversation, and we hope you love it as much as we did. With that, here's Phil Barlow.Links for the show notes:Purchase the book through Bookshop.org (https://bookshop.org/a/108982/9781953677242) Amazon (https://amzn.to/4mgJsCf) or anywhere you get your books. Get a free look inside the book on our website: https://www.faithmatters.org/s/a-thoughtful-faith-vol-2

In this special episode of THE Exclusive, Ben Schilaty is joined by Emilee Cutler and Spencer David Smith to talk about the upcoming Gather Conference, taking place this June in Provo, Utah. Now in its third year, the conference creates a Christ-centered space where LGBTQ+ individuals and those who love them can connect, learn, and feel seen.Emilee shares her personal journey from fear to peace as the mother of a gay son, and how listening to LGBTQ+ stories helped transform her heart. Spencer reflects on coming out at 27, navigating faith and identity, and the unexpected healing he found by volunteering at Gather Conference. Together, they explore how the conference fosters belonging, compassion, and hope.To register for Gather Conference, please visit gather-conference.com. 

This month on OPEN Up, Charlie Bird and Ben Schilaty tackle the overwhelming noise surrounding LGBTQ+ topics in the Church and society, sharing personal stories of feeling excluded, politicized or dehumanized. Those experiences can bring a lot of loneliness but also a deeper, more complex faith.Loving God and loving our neighbor go hand in hand—Ben and Charlie ask us to ponder, what does it truly mean to love our LGBTQ+ neighbors? While individual acceptance doesn't make up for structural exclusion, allies are needed to cut through the noise by standing up, sharing stories, and catching stones when necessary.

For this episode of Live On Purpose Radio, Dr. Paul is joined by Dr. Ben Schilaty, a therapist, author, and podcaster who has had his own journey with labels. Listen in to this conversation about...

In this week's OPEN Up episode, Ben Schilaty shares his experiences with grief after recently losing his mother to her long battle with Alzheimer's disease. He reflects on the incredible life she lived, the challenges she overcame, and the profound impact she had on those who loved her.Ben also reveals what has been helpful in the mourning process—including the simple but powerful question, “What does grief look like for you today?”

This month on OPEN Up, Ben Schilaty and Charlie Bird sit down with Lisa Valentine Clark. Lisa is a mother of five and host of the podcasts “The Lisa Show” and “Council of Moms.”Lisa shares her experience with grief following the death of her husband. She discusses navigating life when it doesn't go as planned, including finding connection and living in the present.

In the new OPEN Up episode, Charlie Bird and Ben Schilaty sit down with Sydney Williams, LCSW, a therapist and eating disorder specialist, to explore the complex relationship between body image and the LGBTQ+ community.They share insights into the cultural and historical factors shaping body ideals and offer practical advice on loving and trusting your body as a gift from God.

My friends Dr. Ben Schilaty, Clare Dalton, and Liz Macdonald join us to talk about the rebranding of the powerful podcast “Questions From The Closet” to “All Out in the Open.” They share how the expanded scope includes once-a-month hosts including Iese Wilson focusing on international queer Latter-day Saints, Clare Dalton on how the scriptures provide principles to help queer Latter-day Saints, Liz Macdonald and Michael Soto talking about community building, and Ben Schilaty and Charlie Bird talking about how to be more open with ourselves and others. They also talk about the Gather/All Arizona conference in Mesa (March 29, 2025), the Gatherings monthly scripture curriculum, the annual Gather Conference in Provo (June 26-28, 2025), and a new conference called Belong (a conference for queer youth and youth allies—born out of the successful Gather track at the 2024 conference). If you want to feel hope in the LDS/LGBTQ space, please listen to this episode and (more importantly) listen to “All Out in the Open” podcast. Ben, Clare, and Liz are doing such great work and represent the hundreds of people in this space working to “expand the borders” of Zion where more feel loved, needed, and true belonging. Their principled approach gives us all better ideas on what we can do in our circle of influence to better support queer Latter-day Saints. Thank you, Ben, Clare, Liz for being on the podcast and all your great work! Links: All Out in the Open Podcast: alloutintheopen.org/ Gather curriculum: gather-conference.com/gatherings Gather Arizona March 29, 2025: www.allarizona.org/conferences (registration not live yet) Belong Youth Conference (in connection with Gather): Gather June 26-28, 2025: www.gather-conference.com/ (registration not live yet)

Don't miss the first episode of All Out in the Open in Spanish!In this special episode of THE Exclusive, Charlie Bird and Ben Schilaty share their experiences as gay members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints and answer frequently asked questions. We hope this episode can be a resource to support Hispanic individuals and families on their journeys of faith, love and understanding.

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Dr. Ben Schilaty, a social work professor and therapist, explains the Six Stages of Coming Out (first observed by Dr. Vivienne Cass in the 1970's). We explore both the experiences of LGBT+ spouses progressing through these stages, along with the corresponding experiences of straight spouses at each stage. This conversation aims to shed light on the various behaviors straight spouses may observe from their LGBT+ partners, as well as give context to straight spouses' feelings and experiences as their partners work through the coming out process.  Ben is the author of A Walk In My Shoes: Questions I am Often Asked as a Gay Latter Day Saint and cohosts the podcast "All Out in the Open" with his friend Charlie Bird. He is a cofounder of the Gather Conference which offers Christ-centered support to LGBTQ Latter-day Saints and those who love them. Website: https://www.benschilaty.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/benschilaty/ Podcast: https://questionsfromthecloset.com

Ben Schilaty, an incredible author and therapist, joins us to share profound insights surrounding his journey as a gay member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. He talks about his experience coming out, his initial thoughts and decisions, his determination to stay active in the Church, and why he chooses to stay active today. Ben is one of the most mature, thoughtful, and witty people we have had on the channel -- this episode is a must-watch! Thanks for joining us, Ben! JOIN THE GATHER CONFERENCE! https://www.liftandlove.org/gather-2024 FOLLOW BEN!! https://www.instagram.com/benschilaty/?hl=en https://www.amazon.com/Walk-My-Shoes-Questions-Latter-day-ebook/dp/B08PNM4GFC 0:00 - Introduction 1:07 - Praying, fasting, hoping to be straight 1:30 - Coming out at age 30, educational background, purpose 4:10 - Diverse experiences and stages in the LGBTQ community 8:20 - When people leave the Church 9:15 - Is the only path celibacy? 11:44 - Experience realizing the unfairness 15:30 - Live NOW 16:55 - Honoring people in their faith 18:23 - The most unkind comments 19:05 - Fear and negative comments from others 20:20 - When people know better, they do better 21:10 - Sit with people where they are 23:00 - Feeling heard and seen 24:30 - Why Ben chooses to stay active; feeling called to stay 29:00 - Sabrina's experience 32:30 - Gather conference: https://www.liftandlove.org/gather-2024

Dr. Ben Schilaty is a professor of social work at Utah Valley University. He also works as a therapist specializing in working with LGBTQ clients and their families. He holds three degrees from Brigham Young University: a bachelor's degree in Latin American studies, a master's in Hispanic linguistics and a master's in Social Work; he also earned a PhD in Second Language Acquisition and Teaching from the University of Arizona. He is the author of A Walk In My Shoes: Questions I am Often Asked as a Gay Latter Day Saint and cohosts the podcast "Questions from the Closet" with his friend Charlie Bird. He is on the planning committee for the Gather conference and is passionate about about building community with LGBTQ Latter-day Saints and those who love them.  Pride is the Opposite of Shame blog post Connect with Ben on Instagram: www.instagram.com/benschilaty ___________________________________ The ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Beyond the Shadow of Doubt™ podcast is a proud member of the Dialogue Podcast Network found at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DialogueJournal.com/podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Part of the Dialogue Journal, the Dialogue Podcast Network was founded by Eugene England, a Mormon writer, teacher and scholar. “My faith encourages my curiosity and awe,” Gene wrote in the very first issue of the journal. “It thrusts me out into relationship with all creation” and “encourages me to enter into dialogue.” My hope is that this podcast is an extension of his vision. Determine Your Values free guide StoryMapping™ Session (use promo code PRIDE2024 through the month of June) Join First Fridays Free Coaching ⁠ (or go here: ⁠https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/71129)! Connect with me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠meaganskidmorecoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠; click "Work with Me" to subscribe to get my free Pronouns 101 guide & download my free 20+ page LGBTQ+ Resource Guide for families. Schedule a complimentary chat with me here: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages?provider_id=17026. Hopeful Spaces is a ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dallas Hope Charities⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ component of Hopeful Discussions, which is sponsored by Mercedes-Benz Financial Services USA. Hopeful Spaces is a monthly parent support group facilitated by Meagan Skidmore Coaching. To join Hopeful Spaces send an email to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠chc@dallashopecharities.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  Please help the podcast grow by following, leaving a 5 star review on Spotify or Apple podcasts and sharing with friends.

ur friend Ben Schilaty (who recently turned 40 and is co-host with Charlie Bird on the Questions from the Closet podcast) joins us to talk about his decision to date men, his commitment to our Church and the gospel of Jesus Christ, his decision to leave BYU (on good terms) and start his career as a therapist (Ben has a Masters in this field) focusing of helping LGBTQ folks and their families in Utah. Ben also talks about the new Gatherings groups using the Book of Mormon/Come Follow Me to support LGBTQ Latter-day Saints. Ben concluded with his latest insights from the Book of Mormon. As usual, I was deeply moved listening to Ben's latest thoughts on his personal life, his career, what we can do to support LGBTQ Latter-day Saints and his scriptural insights to create Zion. I encourage everyone to listen to and share this podcast. Thank you Ben for all your efforts to create more understanding, unity and hope. Honored to have you on the podcast and count you as a friend! Links: Ben's Nov 2023 Blog: https://www.benschilaty.com/post/up-to-date Ben's e-mail: benschilatytherapy@gmail.com Gatherings Web Site: https://gather-conference.com/gatherings LDS Ministering Resources Site: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/counseling-resources/same-sex-attraction

Whether you're an LGBTQ individual and want to hear from other church members about their experiences, or you want to learn more so you can be a better ally, today's episode is for you.   I'm joined by therapist, author, and podcaster, Ben Schilaty to explore a new perspective on LGBTQ individuals and the doctrine of the LDS Church. We're discussing the struggles that church members experience when coming to terms with their sexuality, and we're looking at how we as a community can change our collective approach to supporting the LGBTQ members of the LDS Church.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://jodymoore.com/443

In this episode I talk with Ben Schilaty and answer the question “How can I help my LGBTQ+ friends who are in pain because they feel like they don't belong in the LDS Church?” Ben's question stems from his own experience of being a gay member of the LDS Church and from seeing loved ones in the LGBTQ+ community struggle to feel like they have a place in the Church.Ben and I talk about what he does now to try and help his friends. He shares that he's a great listener, but that sometimes it's hard to do so without taking on their feelings himself or explaining those feelings away. We talk about trusting others to find the answers to their own problems, how pride sometimes gets in the way of being a good listener, how to let ourselves feel difficult feelings, and more. Ben is a fellow therapist, podcast host, author, and Instagram personality. You can keep up with him in the following places:Questions from the Closet podcastInstagram @benschilaty Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now's your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don't miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify. If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

My friends Allison Dayton (founder of Lift and Love) and Ben Schilaty (co-host of Questions From The Closet and Author) join us to talk about a new LDS/LGBTQ event called “Gather: Christ-centered support for Latter-day Saint LGBTQ individuals and those who love them”. The conference is on Sept 15th and 16th, 2023 at Utah Valley Convention Center, Provo, Utah. Allison and Ben talk about why they (and others) decided to do the conference, who is invited, goals, logistics, speakers, and their personal hopes for the conference. I was deeply moved listening to Allison and Ben as they shared some of their story and the hopes for this conference. I encourage everyone to attend this conference and invite others. It will help you. And help all of us better create Zion. Podcast Links: Gather: https://gather-conference.com/ Lift and Love: https://www.liftandlove.org/ Questions From The Closet: https://questionsfromthecloset.com/ Ben Schilaty's Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08PNM4GFC

Join me and Emily Wardrop, the 'drop the war' life coach, on the podcast. She shares how doubt creeps in to our lives as parents. Her goal as she works with moms of young kids in her words is for moms to believe they are a good mom. It's not to late to catch the FREE content from the LDS Life Coach Summit, Courageous Discipleship. You can access it for Free Feb 21-22 2023. Go to my website, click on the “WORK WITH ME” button to register make sure to click “Free content” option. On Feb 21st I interview Ben Schilaty; on Feb 22nd I present the topic “How using your child's preferred name and pronouns is being Christlike.” You can also download my FREE Pronouns 101 Guide—click on the “WORK WITH ME” button on my website and you'll see the link to the free guide. The Beyond the Shadow of Doubt™ podcast is a proud member of the Dialogue Podcast Network (DialogueJournal.com/podcastnetwork). The Dialogue Podcast Network is a part of the Dialogue Journal. In 1966, Dialogue: A Journal of Mormon Thought was started by Eugene England, a Mormon writer, teacher and scholar. Questions or comments about today's episode? Please send me an email at hello@meaganskidmorecoaching.com.  Let's connect: https://meaganskidmorecoaching.com

Greg was called out again on Mormon Stories Podcast as "very conservative." Deseret Book Pride and Rainbow artist paints his rainbows as support for LGBTQ as we have discussed.  Website - www.cwicmedia.com  

Throughout Mormonism's history there have been a series of "rescues" where grassroots members, teamed with local church authorities, band together to rescue Saints in despair.  Are we seeing an LGBTQ+ rescue in Mormonism? We're digging in...and talking about it.  Inspired by Elder M. Russell Ballard's charge to "better understand the LGBTQ community," Ben Schilaty and Charlie Bird, gay Latter-day Saints, have been training ward and stake leaders/members on LGBTQ inclusion and love. Through these efforts, Ben and Charlie aim to change the tradition and culture surrounding queer experiences in Mormonism and creating a space of better understanding regarding sexuality in the church (not much is being said about gender identity).  In this special episode hosted by Latter Gay Stories and Mormon Stories, a panel of queer voices, moderated by John Dehlin, tackles this topic by analyzing a recently recorded fireside in a Surrey British Columbia Stake. Is this new method of training effective? Does it move the needle? #LatterGayStories #BenSchilaty #CharlieBird #GayMormonRescue #LGBTQMormonism 

Please join us for a panel discussion regarding a recent two-day LDS multi-Stake training in Canada focused on understanding LGBTQ members, led by faithful gay Mormon podcasters Charlie Bird and Ben Schilaty (hosts of "Questions From the Closet" podcast). Some questions that will be addressed by the panel include: What aspects of this training are groundbreaking and should be celebrated? How do efforts like this one help LGBTQ youth in the LDS pews? Is this a local/grass-roots effort or is it sanctioned by top LDS Church leadership? Does this training represent a "Gay Mormon Rescue" of sorts, reminiscent of the Swedish Rescue and Boise Rescue from previous years (see here and here)? What possible risks do trainings like this introduce for LGTBQ youth and young adults? To what extent do less-official, "grass roots" efforts like this prevent top Mormon church leaders from taking responsibility for the LGBTQ crisis (past and present) within Mormonism? Panel Members: Kyle Ashworth Julia Sanders Gerardo Sumano Maven Episode Show Notes Mormon Stories Thanks Our Generous Donors! Help us continue to deliver quality content by becoming a donor today: One-time or recurring donation through Donorbox Support us on Patreon Pick “Mormon Stories” as your charity on Amazon Smile or through the Amazon App  Our Platforms: Youtube Patreon Spotify Apple Podcasts Contact us: MormonStories@gmail.com  PO Box 171085, Salt Lake City, UT 84117  Social Media: Insta: @mormstories Tiktok: @mormonstoriespodcast Join the Discord

Deseret Book's Newly Produced Content Supporting the Pride Flag and Same-Sex Partners - New Online Course on DeseretBook.com on LGBTQ members of the church, openly support the pride flag - Reversal of the Two Great Commandments - Example of talking and supporting a gay Latter-day saint is a man wanting to have a same-sex partner and begin dating men - True tolerance and compassion is void without truth, reason, and charity   Website - www.cwicmedia.com 

I've been pondering this subject for a while now, my friends. In this episode, I want to talk to you about how you are not your kid's choices. That your value as a person has nothing to do with what they choose to do or not do. Don't get me wrong, I'm all about teaching values, but they get to choose what they learn from what you teach. I want to share with you 4 things that will help you separate yourself from your children's choices so you can show up as a better mom for them and a happier person for yourself. Inspiration Station: A Walk in my Shoes by Ben Schilaty

Today we have stories of people leaving home and finding new family and unexpected friends.(4:21) "Lee Nailing's Orphan Train Story": Storyteller Pippa White tells the real-life story of Lee Nailing, a boy who was sent off on a so-called "orphan train" to find a new family.(26:50) Radio Family Journal: Host Sam Payne shares a memory about traveling to Bulgaria to work on humanitarian projects for orphans. Of the many memorable things from that trip, a photo is the most powerful reminder of what he had learned from that experience.(34:04) "Georgina": Author and podcaster Ben Schilaty joins talks about his unlikely friendship with a near-total stranger who asked him to write her life story. The project ended up affecting both of them much more than they ever expected.(43:55) "Olaf's Story": Pippa White shares another real-life story of a kid named Olaf who had a dangerous encounter with the Nazis who were occupying Norway during World War II.

My guest today is Ben Schilaty, co-host of the Questions From the Closet podcast and author of the book A Walk In My Shoes, Questions I'm Often Asked as A Gay Latter-day Saint. Ben is with me today because I have, in the last 6 months been doing a ton of homework into the LBGTQ community after my oldest daughter came out as queer. One of the first stops on my path has been listening to their podcast. He and his co-host Charlie Bird are touching the lives of the straight and gay communities by openly sharing their own messy and marvelous coming out stories. Parents, friends and family of LGBTQ people, please hear this. Ben's Book - A Walk In My Shoes Ben and Charlie's Podcast - Questions From the Closet Instagram Facebook #GayMormon #MormonsAndGay #ComingOut #QuestionsFromTheCloset #AWalkInMyShoes #BenSchilaty #QueerMormon #LDS #Mormon #2ndCommandment #LoveThyNeighbor #LatterDaySaints #ContentOfCharacter #BYU --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/parrishthethought/message

Ben Schilaty is the author of the book, A Walk In My Shoes: Questions I'm Often Asked as a Gay Latter-Day Saint. He co-hosts a podcast called Questions From The Closet. He also works at BYU as an honor code administrator and adjunct professor. Ben shares his incredible journey of how he learned to embrace and love himself as a gay man and as a Latter-Day Saint. He also shares powerful insight into how we can be more supportive of our LGBTQ brothers and sisters. The tips he shares can help us deepen all of our relationships. We loved getting to know him better and feeling his warmth and love for others and we know you will too! If you would like to find more of Ben: Instagram Blog Book Podcast Ben's dad is on IG!

Join me as I speak with Ben Schilaty, BYU Honor Code administrator, author of A Walk in My Shoes, and podcast co-host for Questions From The Closet where he speaks openly about being gay and how to blend orientation with faith in healthy and productive ways. Ben shares how vulnerable members of the Church can rebuild trust and move past hurtful comments. Ben also shares how to be an ally, while still supporting church teachings.

This weeks guest is my new friend Ben Schilaty. Ben is one of the co-hosts of the popular podcast "Questions from the Closet". He is an author of the book "A Walk in my Shoes", available at Deseret Book or Amazon. He is the Honor Code Administrator, and Adjunct Professor at Brigham Young University, and he is also gay. In this podcast we talk about how we can love and accept those that are part of the LGBTQ community. Why words matter, and how they can effect us. He talks about his personal experiences, his hurts and his hopes. Ben is an amazing guy, and I learned so much from this interview. I know you will too. BTW it's suicide prevention month. Let's make a difference!

This conversation Allison and Jenie talk with Ben and Charlie about their journey as podcast hosts of Questions from the Closet. Charlie and Ben's podcast discuss questions they are commonly asked as gay members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Each week they are joined by a guest to talk about a question as it relates to LGBTQ+ topics within the context of faith. In this episode they share with Allison and Jenie their story about their friendship and how their podcast got started.  Some of their favorite moments and episodes, what they have learned, and how people have reacted to their podcast. Ben Schilaty is an administrator and adjunct professor at Brigham Young University. He has also written the book A Walk In My Shoes Charlie BirdI was Cosmo the Cougar at BYU. You may have seen his viral dance videos. He is currently back at BYU pursuing a Masters degree in Social Work. Charlie has also written  Without the Mask  Jenie and Allison host free support groups for our LGBTQ LDS families.  Please Join us for any of our monthly Lift+Love Support Groups - link sign up at Lift+Love Support . If you would like some personal coaching on how to do this please sign up for a free consult with Jenie at Jenie Hunter Coaching www.jeniehuntercoaching.com. For additional support and help please reach out to us on our IG accounts at Lift+Love and Jenie Hunter Coaching  

For today's episode as June and Pride month come to a close, we brought on two really special guests, Ben Schilaty and Charlie Bird. Charlie and Ben are both gay Latter-day Saints as well as authors published by Deseret Book.  They host a podcast together called Questions from the Closet.In this conversation, Ben and Charlie share a little bit about their backgrounds and faith, what “pride” really represents and why it's important to them, their thoughts on the process of coming out to faithful friends and family, and how leaders, friends, and loved ones can be effective allies to the LGBTQ community.To give you just a little bit more background on these two: Ben works as an Honor Code administrator at BYU and as a therapist at Family Services in Provo, Utah. He holds three degrees from BYU and a PhD in second language acquisition and teaching from the University of Arizona. He serves as a high councilor in his stake.Charlie was Cosmo the Cougar at Brigham Young University from 2016 to 2018 — and was the Cosmo from the original viral dance with the Cougarettes that was viewed over a billion times across social media platforms. He graduated from BYU in 2018 and is an active LBGTQ advocate, involved with multiple nonprofit LGBTQ organizations nationally and across Utah.We are super grateful to Ben and Charlie for coming on, and learned so much from them. We hope you enjoy the conversation.

Ben Schilaty works as an Honor Code administrator and adjunct professor at Brigham Young University in Provo, Utah. He holds three degrees from BYU: a bachelor's degree in Latin American studies, a master's in Hispanic linguistics, and a master's in... The post Ben Schilaty Ep. 528 The Cultural Hall appeared first on The Cultural Hall Podcast.

"All Flesh is in Mine Hand." Moderators Barbara Morgan Gardner and Daniel Becerra, with featured guest Ben Schilaty, take a deeper dive into the weekly Come, Follow Me resource. Come Follow Up complements your weekly personal and family scripture study.

Ben wears the titles of active Latter-day Saint, and being a gay man. He is telling a bit of his story in today’s episode, and giving practical advice for how we all can become a little more Christlike.   Grab Ben’s book, “A Walk in My Shoes” HERE: https://tinyurl.com/tte3jzrs  Listen to Ben and Charlie Bird’s Podcast “Questions From the Closet” HERE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/questions-from-the-closet/id1504990147

For the past 25-plus years, it has been the policy at Brigham Young University that it is OK to be gay, but not to act on it. That echoes the position taken by the school’s owner, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. There are clearly BYU students who are open about their LGBTQ identity while living the church’s standard of celibacy. But what about faculty and bosses? Ben Schilaty is a licensed therapist and BYU Honor Code administrator who has written his story in a newly released book titled “A Walk in My Shoes: Questions I’m Often Asked as a Gay Latter-day Saint,” put out by the church’s publishing house, Deseret Book. In this week’s show, Schilaty — who co-hosts with former Cougar mascot Charlie Bird the “Questions From the Closet” podcast — talks about coming to terms with his sexual orientation, his falling in love with another man, his commitment to living as a devout Latter-day Saint, the evolution of church LGBTQ policies, BYU’s short-lived Honor Code change, and his work at the faith’s flagship school.

My friend Ben Schilaty joins us to talk about his new book from Deseret Book called “A Walk in My Shoes: Questions I'm Often Asked as a Gay Latter-day Saint.” https://deseretbook.com/p/walk-in-my-shoes-questions-im-often-asked-as-a-gay-latterday-saint. Ben also talks about his podcast with Charlie Bird called “Questions from the Closet” https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/questions-from-the-closet/id1504990147 I encourage every Latter-day Saint to read Ben’s book which helps bring us together as the same human family. I also encourage you to listen to Ben and Charlie’s podcast. Great information to better understand and support LGBTQ Latter-day Saints. Thanks for being on the podcast, Ben. You are a great man doing wonderful things. The world is a better place with you in it.

My friend McKay Bryson joins us to share his story as a gay Latter-day Saint. I became aware of McKay as he was a guest on Ben Schilaty’s and Charlie Bird’s podcast called “Questions From the Closet”. McKay was on Episode 37 which I encourage all to listen to and share https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/is-there-a-place-for-me-in-the-church/id1504990147?i=1000501822009 McKay, who served a mission to Thailand and is graduating in Information Systems, shares coming out in May 2019—and what led him to this decision. McKay has wonderful, powerful, and unique insights into the life of a LGBTQ Latter-day Saint and how to get better love and support our LGBTQ friends on the unique and difficult road they walk. If you are LGBTQ or what to better understanding and support our LGBTQ members, please listen to and share McKay’s podcast. Thanks for being on the podcast McKay. I was deeply moved by your spiritual maturity, goodness, doctrinal insights and your good heart to help and bless others. You have a great life ahead of you. Deseret Book: www.deseretbook.com/p/listen-learn-and-love-embracing-lgbtq-latter-day-saints Amazon: www.amazon.com/dp/1462135773 Seagull: www.seagullbook.com/Listen-Learn-and-Love-Richard-Ostler.html

November 15: Ben Schilaty on Ether 1-5 Dr. Ben Schilaty works as an Honor Code administrator and adjunct professor at Brigham Young University in Provo, Utah. He holds three degrees from BYU: a bachelor's degree… The post Dialogue Book of Mormon Gospel Study with Ben Schilaty on Ether 1–5 appeared first on Dialogue Journal.

November 15: Ben Schilaty on Ether 1-5 Dr. Ben Schilaty works as an Honor Code administrator and adjunct professor at Brigham Young University in Provo, Utah. He holds three degrees from BYU: a bachelor’s degree in Latin American studies, a master’s in Hispanic linguistics, and a master’s in social work; he also earned a PhD Continue Reading »

Ben has a fantastic story about what it means to do something because you love the Lord and those your serve rather than just to try and "obey your problems away". He has a book coming out January 4th on Deseret Book titled A Walk in My Shoes" and Please check out his podcast here: https://www.facebook.com/questionsfromthecloset or on apple podcasts here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/questions-from-the-closet/id1504990147 Email thepulsiphyer@gmail.com or swingdancin4826@gmail.com with any questions. Please click that "follow" link on paulpulsipher.podomatic.com if you like what you heard here. Written reviews are also helpful on iTunes, Stitcher or Facebook

My friend Hayden and Sydney join us to share their feelings about helping and serving marginalized groups of people. Hayden, who had Ben Schilaty as his EFY counselor and is now taking his BYU class, shares his journey to better support LGBTQ Latter-day Saints. Hayden and Sydney have wonderful insights into how we can improve our culture to help everyone feel more welcome, valued, and loved. They also talk about Bryan Stevenson’s (author of "Just Mercy") speech at BYU gave them better principals to support others. Bryan’s four principals are: Find ways to get more proximate to those who are neglected and living in the margins. Change the narratives underneath the policy issues we grapple with. Stay hopeful Be willing to do things that are uncomfortable and inconvenient. Source: https://news.byu.edu/news/byu-forum-creating-justice Thank you Hayden and Sydney for being on the podcast helping us better help others feel welcome, understood, and needed in LDS congregations and society.

My friend Kurt Francom joins us to talk about Leader Saints’ upcoming virtual summit for local LDS leaders be better prepared to minister to LGBT Latter-day Saints. The summit starts on September with the over 20 pre-recorded seminars released (about two per day). Some of the presenters are Spencer Thompson, Travis Steward, Ganel-Lyn Condie, Ty Mansfield, Jeff Case, Becky Borden, Blake Fisher, Ben Schilaty, Chelsea Chipman, and Becky and Scott Mackintosh. I encourage everyone to sign up for the summit. For free registration and for more details, please see https://leadingsaints.org/lgbt Thank you Kurt for all your needed work at Leaders Saints and on the Board at NorthStar.

My friend Charlie Bird, former BYU Cosmo, joins us to talk about his new book published by Deseret Book called “Without the Mask” which can be ordered at: https://deseretbook.com/p/without-the-mask-coming-out-and-coming-into-gods-light-ppr?variant_id=186572-paperback. I encourage everyone to read and share his book. His book helps all of us better see/use the contributions of LGBTQ Latter-day Saints in at Church, in our families and society. Charlie is back at BYU working on a master in social work. I encourage everyone to listen to this podcast (and if interested Charlie’s easier podcast which is episode 96). Charlie has great insights for all of us. I also encourage everyone to listen to the great podcast that Charlie and Ben Schilaty started called “Questions from the Closet” https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/questions-from-the-closet/id1504990147. Thank you for being on the podcast Charlie. You are a great man with a unique and beautiful life mission.

As a popular blogger, a practicing therapist, and a gay man living in Utah County, Ben Schilaty gets to have interesting conversations daily. Today we discuss how his mom’s Early Onset Alzheimers Disease has given Ben the opportunity to come out to his mom over and over again. Ben shares powerful lessons today of unconditional love and what a beautiful life looks like.This Week’s Sponsor: Lark Dean GalleyBen Schilaty Blog

My friend Kelleen Potter shares her journey of her oldest son coming out as gay at age 14 (about 8 years ago) and her third child coming out as transgender who identifies as female (about 4 years ago). Kelleen also has a son on a LDS mission and two younger daughters. Kelleen shares finding resources, therapists (including Lisa Hansen) and community with Mama Dragons. Kelleen talks about why both of her LGBT children have stepped away from the Church and why she is at peace with that decision. Kelleen shares the story of the Heber City Pride flags (https://www.deseretnews.com/article/900074800/lgbt-pride-flags-heber-city-utah-spark-controversy-support.html) and how she feels that has helped her community. Thank you Allison Belnap for your efforts. We also discuss Ben Schilaty’s latest blog post (https://benschilaty.blogspot.com/2019/07/pride-is-opposite-of-shame.html) about the importance of Pride Month. It think it is important to listen to our LGBTQ friends on why Pride Month is needed. Thank you for being on the podcast, Kelleen. You are awesome and you are doing great work.

This episode features discussion from Ben Schilaty, a gay Latter-day Saint, Jodie Palmer, a lesbian Latter-day Saint, and Ann Pack, a transgender Latter-day Saint. Each person in this panel discussion offer their personal experiences being queer and LDS. They offer tips, suggestions and glimpses into their experience, in an effort to help others better understand their path. As Elder Ballard admonished, "...we need to listen to and understand what our LGBT brothers and sisters are feeling and experiencing. Certainly we must do better than we have done in the past so that all members feel they have a spiritual home where their brothers and sisters love them and where they have a place to worship and serve the Lord."

I attended a LDS Family Service leadership training meeting about ministering to our LGBTQ members where Ben Schilaty was the speaker. I wish everyone in the Church could have attended this meeting. Ben joins us on the podcast (not in an official Church capacity) to share what he taught at this meeting and to answer the questions that were asked. I encourage all my LDS friends to listen to the podcast and encourage you to share it with your local leaders. You are a great man Ben. Thanks for your helpful insights for all of us to become better disciples of Christ.

Ben currently attends BYU where he is getting his Master's in Social Work and teaches Spanish. Ben shares his journey coming to terms with his sexual orientation, coming out to his friends at BYU, staying active in the Church and broadly sharing his life story as a Gay Mormon.