In Bed With Alexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined once again by photographer, ethical slut, and emotionally available king Matthew Kayman for a raw and wildly entertaining deep dive into threesomes, pegging, vasectomies, and how men can do better in sex and relationships.We go deep about what it means to unlearn toxic masculinity and embrace a more present, consensual, and pleasure-focused approach to sex. Matt opens up about getting pegged for the first time, navigating group sex with intention, and why he chose to get a vasectomy—and how it's impacted his confidence and partnerships.We also unpack:Why pegging changed how he shows up as a top and partnerTips for navigating MFM threesomes with care and curiosityHow to explore dominant and submissive roles without egoThe mental and physical realities of getting a vasectomy (and why you should get one!)How to communicate during casual sex without killing the vibeManaging a sex-positive roster (with check-ins!)The difference between protective and possessive behaviorFriendship with exes, emotional responsibility, and being a grown-ass slut

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with NYC-based photographer, ethical slut, and reformed cheater Matthew Kayman for an honest, reflective, and hilarious conversation about evolving from messy dating patterns to intentional, kink-informed, and transparent relationships.We unpack his shift from monogamy to polyamory, navigating play parties, unlearning toxic masculinity, and figuring out how to explore power dynamics while remaining ethical and emotionally available.✨ In this episode, we talk about:How Matthew realized he wasn't dating ethically—and what changed thatHis transition into ethical non-monogamy and what it taught him about himselfTips for flirting, FaceTime pre-dates, and dating apps that don't suckPower dynamics in dating, and how kink helped him explore both dom & sub rolesGroup sex, queer curiosity, and learning how to communicate mid-orgySlutty shame, hot guy privilege, and navigating softness in hookup cultureWhy it's not just about consent, but context and careLessons from play parties, switching, and setting expectations with new partnersThis is an episode about dating better—not perfectly, but with curiosity, compassion, and accountability.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by sex educator, performer, and self-proclaimed “dildo slinger” Dirty Lola (@dirtylola) for a raw and hilarious conversation about shame, sex, and self-acceptance.From growing up in a naked household to navigating deep religious trauma, Lola shares the journey of becoming a fearless advocate for shameless pleasure and body confidence. We get into:Her early sex-positive explorations and yes—high school sex parties!The complex layers of body image, fatphobia, and family shameHow shame shows up in our sex lives and what to do about itWhy orgasms don't equal worth, and how to stop performative sexWhat she's learned about micropenises, penis shame, and making pleasure work for everyoneHow to start loving your body—even before it's your “goal body”Tips on letting go of external validation and dressing for YOUAging, menopause, and staying slutty at every stage of lifeHow to be a better partner by showing up with kindness and complimentsThis episode is brought to you by Splash Blanket - the world's most luxurious waterproof blanket.  Feel more free and liberated in the bedroom with code ALEXA

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Catherine Drysdale—sex & relationship coach—who's on a mission to help women and femmes unlearn the “good girl” scripts that keep them small, quiet, and out of touch with their desires.We talk about:• What “good girl conditioning” really means and how it shows up in our lives• The difference between Good Girl Conditioning and being a "good girl" in a power dynamic• The pressure to be nice, palatable, and liked (and how that impacts our relationships and sex lives)• Why so many of us have trouble asking for what we want—especially in bed• The link between patriarchy and the fear of being “too much”• How to begin reclaiming your voice, your wants, and your power• Ways to get comfortable with discomfort, especially when it comes to setting boundaries• Rewriting your relationship with shame, worthiness, and sexual expressionThis is a permission slip to take up space and live more fully, more loudly, and more authentically.✨ At the end of the episode, we also chat about how this work spills into dating, communication, and how to support other women on the same journey.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is back onboard the Temptation Cruise!In this episode, Alexa reconnects with Mario Cruz, Cruise Director for Temptation Cruises, to dive even deeper into what makes a lifestyle-friendly cruise such a unique, exciting, and welcoming experience.Recorded live from the February 2025 sailing, we chat about:How Temptation Cruises create a safe, respectful, and fun environment for all guestsTips for first-timers: how to navigate nerves, set boundaries, and make connectionsDebunking common myths about swinger and lifestyle cruisesThemed nights, play areas, workshops, and how to make the most of the onboard eventsHow privacy and discretion are prioritized for every guestHow these cruises can open doors to self-discovery and new adventuresThe difference between Temptation and Desire Cruises (and which might be a better fit for you!)Funny, surprising behind-the-scenes stories from working onboard✨ PLUS: Alexa and Mario invite YOU to join the next Temptation Cruise this November 2025! Whether you're new to the lifestyle or just looking for a sexy, judgment-free vacation, this could be your next adventure.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Alex Fine, educator, activist, parent and founder of the pleasure-forward brand Dame, to talk about how to find the sex toy that actually works for you—and how to confidently use it, whether you're flying solo or playing with a partner.Alex shares how Dame is redefining pleasure with intentional, inclusive design, and we get into how to move past shame, communicate your needs, and create sexy experiences that center your pleasure.Whether you're new to toys or looking to level up, we've got guidance on how to explore in ways that feel exciting, not overwhelming.✨ In this episode, we cover:How to choose a toy based on your anatomy and what you likeTips for using toys with a partner without making it weird or performativeHow to bring up toys with a partner if they're nervous or skepticalThe difference between clitoral, vaginal, anal, and blended stimulation—and toys for eachHow to care for your toys so they last (and stay safe to use)Debunking myths like “you'll get addicted to your vibrator”How Dame is shaking up the industry with body-safe, beautifully designed productsThe role of design in enhancing your pleasure and creating easeMasturbation as a form of self-connection and stress reliefWhy you don't have to “fix” anything—pleasure isn't a performanceSuing the MTA so they could advertise on the subwayThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:https://beducate.me/alexa-april 

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with bisexual writer, sex expert, and chaos king Zachary Zane for a juicy episode all about how to suck dick like a pro. Whether you're a total beginner, looking to level up your skills, or just love talking about pleasure—we've got you covered.Zach shares his most helpful tips, wildest stories, and hard-earned wisdom from both personal and professional experience. We talk technique, confidence, communication, and why good oral isn't just about what your mouth is doing—but also how present, excited, and connected you are.In this episode, we discuss:How to make oral feel incredible with your mouth and your whole bodyDeepthroating 101: tips, angles, breathing, and how to stay in controlWhat makes a blowjob feel intimate (even when it's casual)How to avoid jaw fatigue and still make it look/feel amazingCommon mistakes people make when giving oral to penis-haversThe power of eye contact, vocal feedback, and enthusiasmCommunication tips—how to ask for direction without killing the moodThe difference between porn blowjobs and what people actually wantWhat to do if you're nervous, insecure, or don't love giving oral (yet)How Zachary's bisexuality influences his approach to pleasureThe importance of mutual pleasure and making oral a two-way experienceThis episode is informative, hot, and actually helpful—no shame, no judgment, just real talk about how to become a more generous, confident, and attuned lover.Thank you Fantasia for being a sponsor on today's episode. Check out fantasiatoy.online to see what your fantasy feels like!✨ Unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes of my dating & sex life, and access to my close friends list on Instagram available on Patreon

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with world-renowned sex educator and author Kenneth Play to talk all things oral sex on vulvas—techniques, mindset, communication, and pleasure-maximizing strategies. Known for his viral videos, global workshops, and author of Beyond Satisfied, Kenneth breaks down how anyone can become a more confident and skillful oral lover—no magic tongue required.In this episode, we discuss:The most common mistakes people make when going down on someoneHow to build confidence if you feel awkward or unsureKenneth's signature “sex hacking” approach and why it worksThe anatomy of pleasure: why understanding the clitoris is essentialWhy going slow is underrated and how to read your partner's body cuesCommunication tips that don't kill the vibeTechniques for different sensations: flicking, sucking, pressure, and moreHow to involve your hands, body, and breath for maximum connectionTips for anyone struggling to orgasm from oral stimulationWhat Kenneth learned from working with thousands of vulva ownersBusting myths about what “good oral” looks likeHow to prioritize pleasure over performanceKenneth's top tips for becoming a more intuitive, generous loverWhether you're new to oral or want to refine your technique, this episode is full of real, actionable tips that can immediately change your sex life.✨ Unedited episodes, behind-the-scenes of my dating & sex life, and access to my close friends list on Instagram available on Patreon: https://patreon.com/sexwithalexaThank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 50% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexa-april 

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with writer and relationship expert Hayley Folk to talk about an unconventional but increasingly popular relationship setup: living separately from your partner. Why do some people thrive in separate spaces? What are the benefits and challenges? And is this a better setup for non-monogamous relationships?We also dive into one of Hayley's most viral Cosmopolitan articles—what to do with your ex's nudes. Should you keep them? Delete them? Ask permission? And is it really wrong to revisit them from time to time?Plus, we discuss what it's like navigating relationships as a queer person, how queerness plays a role in her job and personal life, and why non-monogamy can feel so natural in queer spaces. Hayley also shares her experiences at sex parties—how they've helped her feel empowered as a woman and what she's learned from attending them.Why more couples are choosing to live apartThe pros and cons of maintaining separate spacesHow non-monogamy fits into the equationHow to set clear boundaries and expectationsThe debate around keeping your ex's nudes—what's ethical?How queerness plays into relationships, non-monogamy, and intimacyHayley's personal experiences at sex parties and why they make her feel empoweredHow past relationships shape how we handle intimacyThis episode is for anyone questioning traditional relationship norms and looking for fresh perspectives on love, space, queerness, and digital boundaries.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Miss Lauren to talk about how to take charge in the bedroom, tap into your confidence, and explore power dynamics in a way that feels fun and natural. Whether you're looking to spice things up or just want to feel more in control, this episode is packed with practical tips and expert advice on owning your desires.We cover:How she got started and what it's like working at a dungeon.How to start dominating your boyfriend—even if you've never done it before.Why confidence is key—and how to build it in and out of the bedroom.Ways to take the lead in sex—without feeling awkward or forced.How to introduce power dynamics in a fun, flirty way—no whips or leather required.The psychology behind why some people love being told what to do—and how to use that to your advantage.Findom (financial domination) 101—what it is, how it works, and why it's more common than you think.How to communicate what you want—and make sure your partner is on board.Easy ways to get started with small, subtle power shifts that can change everything.A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here.Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:https://beducate.me/alexa-march

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Lindsay Wynn, founder of Momotaro Apotheca, a brand dedicated to holistic vaginal health and wellness. After struggling with recurrent BV and yeast infections with no long-term solutions in sight, Lindsay set out to create products that actually support vaginal and vulva health—without harsh chemicals or unnecessary shame.In this episode, we have a raw and informative conversation about all things vulva health, vaginal wellness, and self-care. We dive into:How to prevent and treat common vaginal issues like BV, yeast infections, UTIs, and irritation—what actually works and what's just a marketing gimmick.The biggest culprits behind vaginal pH imbalance, from antibiotics and semen to diet, stress, and even your favorite pair of leggings.The dos and don'ts of vulva hygiene—should you wash with soap? Do you need probiotics? Are feminine wipes your friend or foe?Debunking common vulva myths, like whether certain foods change your taste and if tight underwear really causes infections.How sex impacts vaginal health, plus practical pre- and post-sex care tips to help you stay balanced.The truth about discharge and odor—what's normal, what's not, and why we need to stop pathologizing natural bodily functions.How to find the right products for vaginal health and what harmful ingredients to look out for.Changing the conversation around intimate wellness—why vaginal health is still so taboo and how we can normalize these discussions.Our personal experiences with squirting—Lindsay is still exploring, but she shares a position we should all try (trust us, you'll want to take notes).This episode is packed with science-backed insights, personal stories, and expert advice to help you feel empowered, confident, and in tune with your body.A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here.Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA60 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up:https://beducate.me/alexa-march

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Dr. Sonya Maya, a pre-licensed psychologist, sex therapist and content creator. Dr. Sonya helps people navigate relationships, pleasure, and personal growth with confidence and clarity. In this episode, we explore how to have casual sex in a way that feels empowering, enjoyable, and drama-free—whether you're new to it or looking to refine your approach.We discuss:How to know if casual sex is right for you—some people thrive in no-strings-attached encounters, while others struggle.How to set clear boundaries and communicate expectations so everyone is on the same page.How to avoid catching feelings (or handle it if you do) and ways to check in with yourself.Destigmatizing casual sex, especially for women and queer folks, and breaking down harmful stereotypes.How to stay physically and emotionally safe, including STI prevention, handling rejection, and self-reflection after hookups.Navigating casual sex in ethical non-monogamy and how it differs from traditional dating.Red flags to watch out for and how to recognize when a casual partner might want more than you do.How to make casual sex more enjoyable—from mindset shifts to exploring pleasure in a way that works for you.If you've ever struggled with setting boundaries, worried about emotional entanglements, or just want to make sure you're approaching casual sex in a way that feels good for you, this episode is full of practical tips, expert insights, and real talk to help you have more fulfilling, shame-free casual experiences.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Sarah Tomchesson, Certified Sex Educator, Embodied Intimacy Coach, Marketing Director for Magic Wand and host of the Fuck Yeah podcast, to talk about one of the most sought-after yet misunderstood experiences: full body orgasms. Recorded in Costa Rica at the Shameless Sex Retreat, this episode dives deep into what full body orgasms really are, how they happen, and how you can tap into them.Sarah shares her journey from discovering sex-positivity in college to becoming a leading voice in pleasure-based sex education. We talk about how shame, stress, and disconnection block pleasure, and how somatic techniques, breathwork, and body awareness can help you reclaim your pleasure and access deeper orgasms.We also cover:

Sexologist Alexa Andre (⁠@sexwithalexa⁠) sits down with ⁠Amy Baldwin⁠—sex educator, co-host of the ⁠Shameless Sex Podcast⁠, and author—to talk about everything from learning to enjoy receiving to becoming amazing at oral and navigating non-monogamy.Amy shares what it was like growing up with a sex-positive mom, opening a sex shop with her, and not having her first orgasm until 18—plus how she only started having really good sex in her 30s. We also go deep into her journey in non-monogamy, how she and her partner opened up their relationship, and how their rules vs. agreements evolved over time.We cover:

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sat down withApril Lampert in Costa Rica at theShameless Sex Retreat to talk about everything from sex shop secrets to navigating infidelity. April, co-host of theShameless Sex Podcast, has spent years helping people break free from shame and embrace pleasure—but her journey started in avery different place.In this episode, we cover:

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Jacqueline Soule, a system disruptor who feels everything—literally. From experiencing orgasms on bumpy roads to planning her life around her menstrual cycle, Jacqueline shares how deep body awareness has shaped her life. We discuss how to be more mindful and make everyday moments more pleasurable, how she taught her kids about cycles and sex education, and what it's like to navigate relationships with mismatched desire levels. Plus, she reveals what life is like without a negative internal voice—and how you can start silencing yours. Topics include:✨ Tips on becoming more in tune with your body✨ How to bring more pleasure into mundane daily moments✨ Why she plans her entire life around her menstrual cycle✨ Teaching kids about sex ed, body image & self-awareness✨ What it's like to have no negative self-talk✨ Navigating a higher libido than your partner✨ The power of sensory awareness & pleasure If you're curious about deepening your connection with your body, tuning into pleasure, and embracing your natural rhythms, this episode is for you!

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Amber Mallery, an award-winning sex educator and advocate for inclusivity in sexual health education, for an inspiring and candid conversation about sex, self-discovery, and prioritizing personal growth. (also see @bijoux_indiscrets) Amber shares her journey into sex education, her passion for fostering inclusive spaces, and how she navigates challenging but essential conversations around intimacy and relationships. They dive deep into their shared experiences giving workshops on Desire Cruises, discussing the unique dynamics of teaching about pleasure and empowerment in such a liberating environment. Amber also opens up about her decision to prioritize herself, how it's impacted her life and work, and why self-care is vital for showing up fully for others. From breaking stigmas around pleasure to exploring new areas of intimacy safely, Amber and Alexa unpack everything you need to know to foster connection, confidence, and self-love in and out of the bedroom. Amber's journey to becoming a sex educator Giving workshops on Desire Cruises and empowering others Why prioritizing yourself is vital for growth and connection Breaking down stigmas around sexual health and pleasure Tips for improving communication and intimacy in relationships Exploring kink and new areas of sexuality safely Creating inclusive, sex-positive spaces The importance of representation in sex education This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to deepen their knowledge, embrace pleasure, and live unapologetically.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) kicks off Season 4 with an exciting conversation with Mario Cruz, Cruise Director for the famed Desire and Temptation Cruises. In this episode, we dive into the world of swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises and explore what makes these experiences so unique, from themed nights and play spaces to fostering a respectful, consensual environment for newcomers and experienced swingers alike. Mario shares insider details about creating a safe space for exploration, including privacy measures for discreet guests, guidance for setting boundaries, and tips for easing into the lifestyle. We also debunk common myths about swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises, discuss the vibrant themed dress codes, and explore the balance between a thrilling party atmosphere and a comfortable, inclusive environment. Mario's stories from past cruises offer a glimpse into the memorable, funny, and heartwarming moments that make these journeys more than just about sex—they're about connection, community, and unforgettable adventures. Whether you're curious about the lifestyle or a seasoned participant, this episode is full of insights, laughs, and practical advice for anyone considering their first swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruise. Topics include: What makes swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises different from typical cruises Debunking myths about swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises Privacy, boundaries, and consent onboard Themed nights and how wild guests get with their outfits Tips for first-timers and navigating nerves Beyond sex: the community, workshops, and relaxation aspects Memorable moments from Desire and Temptation Cruises Join us as we set sail on an enlightening journey into the world of swinger/lifestyle-friendly cruises, where adventure and connection await!

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) welcomes Reed Amber, a multifaceted sex educator, sex worker, and co-host of the popular podcast Come Curious. In this episode, Reed opens up about her experiences and insights into sex work, body confidence, and intimacy. She shares her journey toward embracing nipple confidence, the challenges of vulva and labia diversity, and how growing up in a “naked family” helped her view normal bodies as healing and empowering. We delve into her private and professional lives, discussing how she balances intimate, private sex with her boyfriend and the content they create for OnlyFans. Reed shares her love for feet and tickle fetishes, breaking down the shame she once felt and how she now embraces her desires—right down to hosting tickle parties in London and experiencing orgasms from unique sensations like tickling or bladder pressure. Reed also reflects on growing up with an autistic mom who was open about sex, the joy and excitement she finds in sex work, and her thoughts on unfair UK laws targeting sex workers. She debunks myths about sex workers, discusses STI stigma and statistics, and opens up about her journey toward sobriety and how it has transformed her sex life, including attending sex parties sober. We also touch on her podcast Come Curious, how she met her co-host Florence (author of This Book Will Make You Feel Something), and how they navigate creative differences. Plus, Reed shares her evolution from being a “size queen” to reevaluating her preferences. Trigger Warning: This episode includes mention of childhood sexual assault. Topics include: Embracing nipple and vulva confidence Balancing sex with your partner vs sex for OnlyFans Growing up in a naked family and its healing effects Reed's tickle and full bladder fetish UK laws targeting sex workers and their impact STI statistics and breaking down stigmas Sobriety and its effect on her sex life Foot fetish content creation and Reed's joy in sex work Insights from the Come Curious podcast This episode is a powerful mix of vulnerability, joy, and breaking stigmas about sex, work, and identity. A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA60 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: ⁠https://beducate.me/alexa40

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Genevieve LeJeune, CEO and founder of Skirt Club, a revolutionary space for bisexual women and those curious about exploring their sexuality. Skirt Club has become a global phenomenon, hosting play parties in 36 cities worldwide, empowering women to embrace their desires in a safe and inclusive environment. In this episode, we dive deep into the story of how Skirt Club began as a response to the lack of spaces for bisexual curiosity and how it quickly grew into a vibrant community for women. Genevieve shares what a typical Skirt Club party looks like, how inclusivity is prioritized with clear criteria for who is welcome, and the unique challenges women face when approaching other women in these spaces. We also discuss: The common issues that arise during these parties and how they're addressed. Why it has been difficult to find women investors to help scale the Skirt Club app. How Skirt Club promotes sexual liberation and creates opportunities for female empowerment. The role of men in Skirt Club's vision and events. If you're part of the LGBTQ+ community, curious about female sexuality, or just interested in how women are breaking barriers through sexual exploration, this episode is for you. Join us for a candid conversation about creating safe spaces and empowering bisexual women to embrace their identities. A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 40% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/alexasbed

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) dives into the fascinating world of professional domination and kink-aware therapy with Miss Veronica Viper, a seasoned dominatrix and therapist. In this episode, Veronica shares her journey through an unconventional upbringing in different countries, her first experiences with pegging and consensual choking at 16, and how working as a stripper led her to find her true calling as a domme at age 19. We explore her training process, the diverse range of clients she serves—including surprising numbers of women, queer, and non-binary individuals—and the unique custom requests she's received. Veronica also opens up about her work as a kink-aware therapist, the creative objects she's used in sessions, and her tips for anyone looking to start their journey in professional domination. Plus, we bond over our shared hatred for overhead lighting and discuss how creating the right environment can make or break an intimate experience. Topics include: How Veronica became a professional dominatrix First-time pegging and exploring kink as a teenager Training as a domme and handling her first clients The unexpected diversity of her clientele Creative tools and methods in her sessions The intersection of therapy and kink awareness Tips for aspiring dominants A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 40% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: ⁠ ⁠https://beducate.me/alexa40off

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Zoe Atiko, the creative force behind @reignofsovereignty, a groundbreaking harness fashion movement. Zoe shares her journey from burlesque and hat-making to creating fluid, inclusive designs inspired by her experiences in Berlin. We delve into how Zoe's queerness and dedication to empowering others shape her work, as well as her philosophy of seeing bodies as monuments and rejecting the idea of imperfections. She explains what it's like working with her, the meaning behind her movement, and her goal to inspire confidence and comfort in all who wear her designs. Topics include: How Berlin inspired the Reign of Sovereignty movement The evolution from burlesque and hat-making to harness fashion Harness fashion as a tool for empowerment and fluid expression Zoe's queerness journey and its reflection in her designs Creating safe and comfortable spaces for clients Why bodies are monuments and imperfections don't exist Join us for an inspiring conversation about fashion, identity, and the power of self-expression. A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 40% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: ⁠https://beducate.me/bedwithalexa

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) delves into the world of paid companionship and intimacy with Arik Brückner, CEO and co-founder of CHOICE—a groundbreaking platform designed to provide safe, transparent, and stigma-free services. Arik discusses how CHOICE is redefining an often misunderstood industry, focusing on safety measures like ID verification, behavior guidelines, and post-meeting feedback systems to foster trust between providers and clients. Arik opens up about his entrepreneurial journey, from bootstrapping a SaaS business to its successful exit, to his inspiration for creating CHOICE in Switzerland. We explore the challenges of destigmatizing paid companionship, the ethical considerations involved in building such a platform, and the role of technology in making human connection safer and more accessible.Tune in as we unpack misconceptions about the industry, discuss the importance of open communication, and explore how CHOICE bridges the gap between companionship and meaningful intimacy. If you're curious about the future of companionship in the digital age, this episode is a must-listen! Topics include: What paid companionship and intimacy really mean- The safety and verification process on CHOICE- Ethical challenges in the intimacy industry Arik's background and journey to founding CHOICE Destigmatizing conversations about intimacy services How CHOICE is using technology to redefine trust and safety

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with Emma Sayle, the trailblazing Founder and CEO of Killing Kittens. In this episode, they discuss Emma's upbringing and her first experiences with sex that helped shape her journey. Emma shares how Killing Kittens was born and what sets it apart as a women-led, sex-positive space. They explore what attendees can expect at a Killing Kittens event, from who is welcome to where play happens and why single men aren't allowed. Emma also shares exciting details about their upcoming cruise in 2026 and the vision for the future of the Killing Kittens brand. Whether you're curious about attending, want to understand the philosophy behind it, or are fascinated by Emma's journey of empowerment and breaking taboos, this episode is packed with insights you won't want to miss. A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA60 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: https://beducate.me/60alexa

In this episode, Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with award-winning sex educator, trans activist, and author Dee Whitnell to discuss their unique journey through gender identity, activism, and self-discovery. Dee shares their experience growing up queer, their initial hesitation around exploring relationships with vulva-owners, and how they met their partner, a trans man, who helps them navigate safe spaces and supports them on tough body-image days. We discuss Dee's views on handling hurtful misgendering and how they've reached a place where it no longer impacts them as much. Dee also opens up about their advocacy work and the movement “Trans Kids Deserve to Grow Up,” inspired by the alarming rate of trans youth who struggle with societal acceptance. Join us as we explore Dee's thoughts on separating art from its creator, such as the Harry Potter series, given the transphobic views of J.K. Rowling. Dee also sheds light on the limited rights for non-binary people in the UK and how parents can support children in coming out. Finally, we dive into de-centering penetration in sexual intimacy and why Dee is experiencing some of the best sex of their life. Whether you're interested in allyship, queer terminology, or redefining sexuality, this episode brings a fresh perspective on identity, activism, and love.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (⁠@sexwithalexa⁠) chats with the internet's resident sexpert, ⁠Dr. Tara⁠, on a candid journey through Dr. Tara's sexual history, insights, and expert advice on improving relationships. Dr. Tara opens up about her childhood in Thailand with parents who avoided discussing sex, her early sexual experiences with girls at 13, and her exploration with guys after moving to Finland. She shares how her first marriage ended due to a lack of sexual compatibility and how, through friendship first, she built a strong relationship with her current husband, eventually evolving from monogamous to “monogamish.” We dive into Dr. Tara's research on sexual communication, with tips on navigating protective vs. possessive attitudes and how men often struggle to open relationships due to cultural ideas of ownership. Dr. Tara highlights her findings on the top predictors of long-term satisfaction—sexual communication, sexual esteem, and sexual mindfulness—and offers advice on bringing these into relationships. We also discuss her new lube line, “⁠Luv by Dr. Tara⁠,” and her tips for integrating micro and macro communication in intimate conversations. From the impact of inequities in oral sex and the importance of addressing them to funny experiences around poop play clients and why “dirty talk” is her specialty, Dr. Tara keeps it real. Join us as she discusses how a simple pro/con list can change perspectives in relationships and why we should prioritize equality, communication, and the right tools for a better sex life! A special thank you to our incredible sponsor, Beducated, for supporting this project. Beducated is committed to empowering individuals on their sexual wellness journey with expert-led courses that foster intimacy, communication, and pleasure. Their dedication aligns seamlessly with our mission here. Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Use code ALEXA60 to try their platform for free for 24h and, if you love it, get 60% off their yearly pass. 14 day money back guarantee if you don't! Click here to sign up: ⁠https://beducate.me/alexa60⁠

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) sits down with MJ Fox, co-founder of Joyride (@joyride.rave) a sex-positive rave redefining inclusive nightlife in London. In this episode, MJ shares their journey into the sex-positive space and how Joyride was born, a rave known for its vibrant, safe atmosphere and all-queer staff and DJs. We dive into what attendees can expect when they walk into Joyride, including the two designated play spaces, the event's unique 4 PM to midnight schedule, and MJ's decision not to enter the playroom. MJ opens up about how Joyride creates a welcoming environment for the queer community and what their dream party would look like in the future. Plus, a look at the challenges and triumphs of building this one-of-a-kind rave.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Karl, the founder of Klub Verboten, one of the most inclusive and progressive kink spaces in Europe. They delve into how the club was born, who can attend, and the rules that ensure everyone's safety and comfort. Karl shares his hot takes on why straight cis men tend to stay away and how he learned to become a great lover. We also discuss the importance of feedback from the community and how KV adapts to make the space even better for everyone. Karl opens up about dating within the kink scene and managing an entire community while being an introvert. From venue nightmares to why Klub Verboten doesn't bring performers to their events, we talk about it all—including Karl's experience using a fake online profile to better understand cis-het men. Plus, tips for anyone preparing to attend their first KV event and insights into why education and guardianship are crucial to keeping single women and all attendees safe.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Leanne Yau (@polyphiliablog), who shares her journey from growing up in Hong Kong to leaving a law career behind to become a full-time content creator focusing on non-monogamy. They discuss what it's like getting recognized at sex parties, balancing a large online platform, and how being neurodivergent shapes Leanne's life and work. Leanne opens up about her current relationship structure, her shift from orgasm-driven sex to scheduling time for pleasure, and her thoughts on whether non-monogamy is more challenging for men. They also dive into successful de-escalations as an alternative to breaking up and why sex, for both Leanne and Alexa, is totally a hobby! Check out Leanne and Zachary Zane's workshop on Bisexuality and Non-Monogamy on Nov 10th here!

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by sex educator and non-monogamy content creator Poppy Scarlett (@polyampoppy). In this candid episode, we dive into what we got up to in Barcelona, Poppy's journey through sex chat rooms, and her experiences as an emo kid. Poppy opens up about her sexual awakening, being slut-shamed for the first time at 15, and the creative ways she used to get off as a teen—think stuffed animals, electric toothbrushes, and even a vending machine plastic vibrator!We also discuss her first trip to Ann Summers, how she incorporates sex toys with her partners, and whether she's team frill or team flat (let us know which one you belong to!). We explore genital confidence, her queer awakening, and her polyamorous journey while being in a relationship of 11 years. Poppy shares her experiences with OnlyFans and embraces the term "greedy" because she wants it all and does it all. Plus, we rate our preferences between fingering, oral, and penetration in a fun and honest exchange.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Lily, co-founder of @quench_london, a unique queer party that centers people who are queer, kinky, of colour, trans, neurodivergent, disabled, and of all sizes. In this episode, we talk about who can attend Quench, what to expect when you walk through the doors, where you're allowed to play, and how they prioritize safety and inclusivity for everyone. Lily also shares Quench's journey, their dream venue and theme nights, and some unforgettable moments in the party's history.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (⁠@sexwithalexa⁠) is joined by Cydney (⁠@cydneythelight⁠) in this episode where they dive deep into postpartum body insecurities, bisexuality, and dating. Cydney opens up about her journey from being confident in her body before giving birth to hiding her body for 8 years after having her son at 19. They also discuss how her mom raised a confident daughter, but the lack of representation for stretch marks and postpartum bodies took a toll. Cydney talks about her bisexual awakening, what dating women is like compared to men, and how intimacy and sex differ. From insecurity to acceptance, Cydney shares her inspiring story of body positivity and love.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Emma Richardson-Gerrard, CEO and founder of Knude Society, for a deep dive into her upbringing in the UK, where sex education was lacking, and how she's changing that with her own daughter. Emma shares her story about her first boyfriend gifting her a vibrator, but never achieving an orgasm with him, and how she now advocates for introducing toys in the bedroom. We talk about the best ways and places to have these conversations, how to receive feedback, and how parents can create a safe space for their kids to ask questions. Emma also opens up about starting her company, the challenges she's faced, and the exciting new toys she's released – The Wanda and The Bette.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by content creator Taiwo (King TM) for a candid conversation about sex education in the UK and his first masturbation experience. We explore how growing up with a single mom gave him the freedom to explore, and why he made a pact not to have sex until he was 16. Taiwo shares how he learned to be a good lover by asking his partners for feedback, tells us the dynamics of low-effort vs. high-effort first dates, and dives into why men often enjoy the chase and respect these women more. We also tackle topics like penis size insecurities, cheating, and more.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Hani Dresner, founder of @gashtrays, a unique ceramics line focused on sex education. We dive into Hani's upbringing in a naked household, how it shaped her body image journey, and what it was like growing up as the "weird kid" in school. Our conversation explores why sex education is so important, society's obsession with big penises, the fascinating world of play parties, and the need for greater acceptance of genital diversity. Tune in for a deep, insightful chat that challenges norms and celebrates individuality.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by a very special guest—her sister! In this episode, they dive into everything from their easy orgasms and first boyfriends to their Catholic upbringing and how it impacted their body image and relationship with femininity. They share stories of sexual exploration as teens, their journeys with masturbation, and tips on how to ask for what you want in bed—especially when one of them is a pro at it despite their shared upbringing. The conversation also covers the difference between being vanilla and having a routine that works, the challenges and rewards of growing as a couple, and the balance between accepting your partner as they are versus trying to change them. Plus, they discuss what it's like to have Alexa as a sister, figuring out bisexuality while in a straight relationship, the quirks of dating a boyfriend without a sense of smell, and tips for making long-distance relationships work.

Kicking off Season 3! Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Jessica Stahl (@vanillacooldance), a sex-positive cartoonist and creative director. We dive into Jessica's mfm fantasy, her experience growing up in an open household, and how her mom gifting her her first vibrator shaped her advocacy for pleasure. Jessica shares her journey from anger at men to a place of curiosity, her experiences with toys and partners, overcoming dry spells, and the culture shocks she's faced since moving to Amsterdam. Plus, we get into the highs and lows of sex parties!

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Tara Michaela, a sex educator and founder of the Youth Sexpert Program. We dive deep into body image, sharing our personal experiences and discussing the importance of sensate focus and overcoming spectatoring. Tara offers insights on changing up your masturbation technique, the benefits of doing so, and why it's totally okay if you prefer sticking to the same routine. We also discuss her work in sex education, and wrap up with a candid conversation about men who boast about eating pussy but don't deliver when it matters.

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Rachel Wright, a therapist, sex therapist, educator, and non-monogamy expert. We dive into the most common issues she sees in her sex therapy practice and her 4-step process for better communication with your partner. Rachel shares her unique journey as a pregnant woman with another pregnant wife, discussing body changes, hiring a doula, and fulfilling people's desire to have sex with a pregnant person. We also cover how to ask for reassurance, cope with a partner's past cheating, and get along with an ex. Plus, a special update: baby Logan has been born since we recorded the episode and is a happy, healthy baby!

Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault In this episode, sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) is joined by Goddess Bats, a versatile and empowering sex worker. We dive into their journey, starting with camming at 18 and transitioning to various facets of sex work, including findom. We uncover the realities behind porn productions, like where the lube bottles are and how performer collaborations actually work. Goddess Bats shares their queerness journey, being demisexual as a sex worker, and how they navigate it all. We also discuss our takes on consent, providing valuable insights into this crucial aspect of the industry

In this episode, I'm joined by Sarah Casper from @comprehensiveconsent, author of The Kids and Consent Curriculum, and consent educator. We dive deep into the concept of consent, exploring its different types and how to ask for it. Sarah explains why consent doesn't necessarily have to be sexy but should always be asked for anyway. We also tackle some gray area situations, such as both people being equally drunk, whether you should ask for consent every single time in a long-term relationship, and how power dynamics like a big age gap can affect consent. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand and practice consent more effectively.

In this episode, I'm joined by Violet, an extremely lesbian-leaning bisexual and founder of Mesh, a queer event app in NYC. We dive into the world of queer dating, discussing how to pick up women (or non-cis men), how to approach, what to say, and where to go. Violet shares her insights on figuring out if someone is queer, handling rejection, and the differences between picking people up in real life versus on dating apps. Whether you're new to the queer dating scene or looking to refine your skills, this episode is packed with valuable advice and tips.

In this episode, I'm joined by Maybe Burke, a trans woman, artist and educator for an open and heartfelt conversation. We discuss her sexuality, orientation, identity, and expression journeys, and delve into her dating stories. Maybe shares how she stays safe as a trans woman and the unique challenges she faces. We also talk about the fact that she has never been in love, her thoughts on relationships, and some of her personal kinks. Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions about sexual assault and consent violations.

In this episode, I host my first threesome on the podcast with Vee and Elle, hosts of the Girls Gone Deep podcast, besties and lovers. We dive into their ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamy) journeys, recounting our experiences at Hedonism and the play party where Vee and I first met. Vee and Elle share how they met and their adventures in double penetration and double vaginal penetration. We provide tips for those wanting to try non-monogamy, discussing how to advocate for your pleasure and ask for what you want. Vee and Elle also talk about the vibrant non-monogamous community they have built together. Tune in for an open and enlightening conversation about pleasure, connection, and community in the world of ENM.

In this episode, I chat with Yair Lenchner, a private chef and husband to two pregnant wives (11 weeks apart), one of whom is sex therapist Rachel Wright. Yair shares his incredible journey from being a serial monogamist and cheater to embracing life as an open, polyamorous partner. We discuss how they're navigating the pregnancies, what they plan to explain to their children, and Yair's advice for those who have cheated or are new to non-monogamy (he's now taking coaching clients). We also delve into what dating a chef is really like, the valuable lessons he's learned from his sex therapist wife, and how they manage finances in their polyamorous household. Additionally, we discuss his therapy journey and the importance of seeking professional help. This episode offers a deep dive into the complexities and joys of polyamorous life, parenting, personal growth, and the crucial role of therapy in navigating it all.   You can email him at yairlenchner@gmail.com for his coaching services! @chefyairlenchner on IG.

In this episode, I sit down with Cassie Black (@safe.slut), a sex educator, herpes advocate, and adult entertainer. We dive deep into the world of herpes, discussing whether your sex life is over after a diagnosis or if you can still be a safe and empowered slut. Cassie shares her personal story of discovering she had herpes, the stigma surrounding it, and the common misbeliefs and myths that need busting. We also tackle the important topic of disclosure, exploring if and when you should always disclose and the best ways to do so. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand herpes better and break free from the stigma.

Join me for an enlightening conversation with Cory Bush, a non-binary full spectrum doula and sex educator. In this episode, we explore the profound role of a full spectrum doula and the magical aspects of birth, challenging the notion that childbirth must be traumatic. Cory shares insights on why opt-out consent can be beneficial for neurodivergent individuals, and opens up about their non-monogamous and queer journey.   We also discuss how coming off birth control has transformed Cory's life, providing a deeper understanding of body autonomy and self-discovery. This episode is a celebration of empowerment, inclusivity, and the diverse experiences that shape our sexual and reproductive lives.

I'm joined by Portia Brown, a renowned sex coach and educator, for a candid discussion on the importance of vocalizing pleasure in the bedroom. Together, we explore techniques for performing during sex, advocating for your pleasure, and giving and receiving feedback to enhance intimacy and satisfaction. Join us as we delve into why silent sex can be a turn-off and how to get better at making noise in the bedroom for a more fulfilling sexual experience. Portia opens up about her upbringing and queerness journey, highlighting the transformative power of radical honesty in relationships. We also emphasize the significance of self-pleasure and exploration regardless of relationship status, emphasizing the importance of owning your sexuality and desires.

I'm joined by the incredible Megan, known as @msgigggles, a fierce fat activist and self-proclaimed hottest whale in the ocean. Together, we embark on a journey of empowerment, discussing the nuances of reclaiming the word "fat" and challenging societal beauty standards. Megan fearlessly dives into the harsh reality of the fashion industry's lack of space for plus-sized individuals and offers invaluable insights on what slim people can do to support inclusivity. We explore the complexities of body confidence and share tips on how to become more self-assured in a world that often dictates beauty standards. But our conversation doesn't stop there! We delve into topics of queerness, the importance of being a supportive "girl's girl," and our mutual love for lingerie as a form of self-expression and empowerment.

I sit down with Billy Procida, the host of The Manwhore Podcast and a seasoned comedian. In this revealing conversation, Billy opens up about his journey from growing up without sexual shame to becoming a figure in the world of sex positivity and comedy. We delve into other chapters of Billy's past, from enduring bullying up until graduating high school to struggling to escalate casual relationships despite his active sex life. Billy shares candid anecdotes about setting up a gloryhole during the COVID-19 pandemic following NYC's sexual health directives, shedding light on the unexpected twists life can throw our way. Billy takes us on a humorous ride through his days of webcam work for money, his transition to OnlyFans, and his experiences hosting his own naked comedy show. We also explore Billy's evolving relationship with his body and its impact on his sex life.

In this episode I'm joined by Maxwell Fierce, a non-binary rope rigger, educator, performer, and tattoo artist, for a deep dive into the world of Shibari. Maxwell brings their wealth of experience to the table as we explore Shibari from every angle. We delve into the nitty-gritty of rope play, discussing how it serves as more than just a kink, but a pathway to self-expression and body confidence. From the intricacies of finding a trustworthy top to the risks involved in rope play, we leave no stone unturned. But our conversation goes beyond the technicalities as we ponder the profound impact of Shibari on personal growth and liberation. Max shares insightful anecdotes on how Shibari can unlock hidden desires and help individuals embrace their true selves. As an added treat, Maxwell throws in some playful tips on discovering your "porn name." Go watch the YouTube video for extra footage and a little rope demo!