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Mothering can be an inspired journey to our most glittering, authentic, passionate, creative and connected selves. Through the mirror offered to us by our children, we are taken to every hurt, unmet need, and also every joy and excitement we’ve ever experienced. We want every woman and mother to giv…

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    NTM 420: “Help! My husband doesn't seem interested in sex and I'm struggling with shame” - Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 10, 2023 35:17


    Following a listener's question, part 1 of our answer centres around self-reflection, compassion and the power you have to radically change how you think and feel about it.In this episode we discuss:It's not all them, it's not all you, it's a dynamic you're participating inYour unconscious beliefs that are keeping you stuck in this dynamicStop fitting your sexuality into binaries outside of youGet out of your head to create more room for love and connectionHow you feel about yourself affects your sex driveTo fix a sex life, don't focus on the sexCultivating compassion for where your partner may be strugglingThe impact on stress on your libidoHow happy are you in your life?Attaching your worth to patriarchal male gazeThe inner battle against your bodyThe conditioning of girls and womenAreas of your body that carry storyFind yourself desirable to be desiredTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 419: Going into biz with your bestie? Here's our top 6 tips

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 3, 2023 45:38


    It sounds like a good idea, right - you love her, she loves you, you love the same things, why would business be any different?! Well…the more touchpoints you have on each other, the more trigger points you also have.In this episode we get real about our own story of intertwining relationship and business and we bring you along with six hot tips for your own journey.In this episode we discuss:What an aligned vision looks likeNot sabotaging your success with hidden agendasBeing able to pivot with business when each of you go through identity shiftsIncreasing your relational skills that hold the business skillsBuilding integrity that underpins the businessKnowing the heart of your businessRunning every decision through a filter to stay connected to your whyGetting clear on responsibilities and reciprocitySupporting each other through different seasons of lifeKnowing the biases that trip you upKnowing how to nurture the friendship to strengthen the business relationshipTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 418: How are you meeting your own needs in school holidays?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 27, 2023 35:02


    We want you to set yourself up so that everyone has a great time, not just your kids! But to make that work, you're going to have to tweak your week, to create a win:win.In this conversation we share our personal tips and experiences in creating school holidays that work for everyone (by also sharing the ones that haven't!). In this episode we discuss: - You HAVE needs; getting clear on what your needs are - Remembering to keep it flexible; allowing space for your needs to change seasonally - Pivoting, adapting and changing plans that holds spaciousness - Not allowing yourself to tilt so far into parenting that you get resentful of your kids- What gives you ‘more'?- Kids' energy needs- Your social needs - Scheduling that feels easeful - Balancing your needs with your neurodivergent children's needsTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 417: Healing the stigma and conflict so blended families can thrive

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2023 74:18


    How do you move from high-conflict and separation grief, to wonderful relationships between four parents, and shared care of all the kids? In this episode we talk to Jess on how she's created her modern-day village, with powerful insight on traversing separation, re-coupling, boundaries, needs and co-parenting in a blended family. If there's any threads in Jess' story that pull on your own life experience, then you'll want to play this episode again and again to really get the wisdom - so make sure you save it!In this episode we discuss:- Different re-partnering timelines- Children with past partners and new partners- Being one big family with four children and four adults - Grief over a ‘new woman' - Conflict between old and new partners - Harvesting empathy when you feel insecure - Respect for different grieving timelines and moving past the hurt- Your own childhood experiences colouring how you process the grief of old and new relationships, and what's possible for your blended family - Holding intense grief while also showing up as a parent - Turning to your toolbox to reset out of fight/flight, to come into empathy and a rational lens - Being open and honest with kids in age appropriate ways- Including kids in the process - Ensuring you have your own adult supports that can hold harsh, honest, open and reflective conversations - Reconciling ‘the ex' as your family (as your child's parent) whether you like it or not - How respecting and backing ‘the other mum' builds your relationship - Turning to your care for another single mother - Moving toward the radical concept that you are the other mums ‘partner' - so how can you work together and support each other? - Compromising on parenting approaches - knowing where to let go, and where to remind yourself how loved, safe and supported your child is - Providing stability and consistency across all homes - Establishing boundaries as a parent group, and who is responsible for which area of life - Honouring the needs kids might have for their other parent - Minimising your child becoming ‘collateral damage' of the relationship breakdown- Listening to your children but not letting them dictate the choices for the family system - Working with a high-conflict partner - Creating a pact with other parents to not talk down ‘the other parent' - Holding the vision of a cohesive and stronger blended or larger family - Knowing you can be strong, powerful women who raise their kids togetherConnect with Jess at:https://www.instagram.com/the_blended_family_co/To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 416: Disconnected, yelling and feeling on edge? Let's create some breathing room for you.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2023 38:15


    We are socialised and conditioned to leave ourselves in order to be loved and accepted by others. If regulation is connection to self, and dysregulation is feedback that we're out of alignment, then how do we find our way back?In this episode we encourage you to be deeply self-curious and awaken some answers that lead you back home to yourself.To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 415: Regulation does not mean ‘calm'

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2023 34:25


    Sick of striving for the ‘regulated self' above all else? If you're done with self-resentment and the projection and judgement that creates a lot of pain in your world, then this podcast is for you.In this 30-minute conversation we'll get you to love the other side of yourself, and feel safer in your dysregulation, so you can go beyond ‘calm at all costs'.In this episode we discuss:Dysregulation as the guardian of connection to selfYou don't always need to be calm to be connectedStay hating your dysregulation and you'll miss your growthYour next identity is in your dysregulationCreating successful relationships by embracing dysregulationMoving beyond your childhood imprintDysregulation keeps you humble and opens your heart to othersThe beauty in accessing more of yourselfTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 414: Making peace with friendship and losses in motherhood

    Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2023 34:14


    Friendships in motherhood can feel so intense, intimate and important that when they begin to fade away, we can feel and immense amount of grief and loss.This episode is designed to fill that hole in your heart with love and a calm, quiet appreciation for what was, and a blooming possibility for what might be.In this episode we discuss:Considering friendship as more of a carousel, where different people step on and off, at different points in your life, to unlock your next consciousnessFiguring out the purpose of the friendship that you had, to take the sting out of nowConsidering the law of the one and the manyFlipping from focusing on what's missing to a growth mindsetBuilding an identity on friendshipFeeling lonely makes you ache moreThinking about finding friends differently, so it becomes an active processFilling your ‘available space' with friends that are going to awaken that area of life for youKnowing what you want in a friendship and becoming an energetic match for thatLove is always changing form…let's fill ourselves with more loveTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 413: Letting go with tweens and teens: When to trust and when to guide - PART 2

    Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2023 50:03


    Following on from last week's podcast, we continue the conversation around social media, screens, education, sex and alcohol and all the glorious boundary setting and conversations in between.In this episode we discuss:The importance of staying in relationship while negotiating boundariesThe value of evolving conversations rather than hard and fast rulesHaving your family values as an active conversationRemembering teens use screens to facilitate expansion of self, and creating meaningful negotiation from that understandingEquity versus equality in family boundary-settingChoosing educational institutions for the tethering to community that they provideListening to many diverse lived experiences to inform your choicesCreating a sex-positive within culture within your homeRecognising the value of sibling relationships in teaching consent, negotiation, and sensitising to another human, which is necessary for healthy sexual relationships in the futureTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 412: Letting go with tweens and teens - when to trust and when to guide - PART 1

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2023 38:15


    Following on from a flurry of responses on our socials, this podcast is a round-table honest mum-wisdom discussion about the realities and lessons learnt on the tween/teen journey. In this Part 1 we discuss:⁃How to recognise when you're ‘in this phase' of parenting⁃Holding relationship as the key fundamental to successful parenting in the teenage years⁃Knowing when to step back or lean in⁃Teaching our kids how to be with commitment and responsibility to more than themselves and in doing so, teaching them how to trust more than their anxiety and fear⁃Loving and connecting with your tween/teen - how it changes and bringing awareness to your connection points⁃Enjoying your tween/teen and who they are as a whole and complex human⁃Finding grace within the sharp barbs of these years and what creates the difference between a brutal or beautiful experience⁃As our kids grow, letting them grow us and embracing the growth that is your life RIGHT NOW⁃Not being ‘so perfect' and allowing space for your kids to witness your own imperfection and messinessWe will continue this conversation next week where we'll move into social media, boundary setting, choosing education systems, sexually active and alcohol conversations.To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 411: Are you stuck in an overfunctioning > overwhelm > resentment cycle?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2023 25:20


    If you stay overfunctioning, you're training everyone around you to underfunction. If you stay in overwhelm, you'll stay in a fight/flight/freeze/fawn activated state, never really moving forwards. If you stay in resentment, you'll forever blame others and never really be available for connection.So what's the way out? We give you one step to disrupt the cycle, at each stage. In this episode we discuss:Training people to underfunctionOverfunctioning to mask your own vulnerability When your self-worth is attached to ‘doing' Letting go of control Triaging your overwhelm Chunking down tasks so they're manageable Hoarding your mental load It's not all on you Being willing to let go and delegate Resentment happens when we lose ourselves When we get angry at others for not giving us the thing we're not giving ourselves To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 410: How is the perfect mother myth undermining your boundaries?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2023 25:49


    The ‘perfect mother myth' permeates our culture; it implies ‘children before mother' and asks you to pour copious amounts of energy, money and time into your child. But what happens when this ideology is so loud it undermines or overrides your boundaries?In this episode we discuss:Key ways to check in with yourselfGetting clear on whether your yes is authentic or a narrativeRecognising when you're saying yes but you really mean noThe impact of resentment on your child or yourself, when you do something you really don't want to doChallenging the narrative that disrupts your self-worth or identity as a motherGetting clear on your reflexive ‘no'Differentiating dysregulated and anxiety responses from solid, self-governed responsesProviding opportunities to develop future relationship negotiation skillsCaring, Careful and Careless relationshipsIt's not safer saying ‘yes'Your ‘no' opens their creativity and problem solvingBeing willing to be with the other person not liking your boundaryTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 409: Monogamish: What are you really committing to?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2023 34:08


    Nothing kills relationships faster than neglect and assumptions. So if you're choosing this person today - why? You need to have a shared ‘eye on the prize' (your end goal) to create the deeply fulfilling daily experience you crave.In this episode we discuss:Should's vs agreementsUndermining your relationship intimacyThe pain is from the assumption, not the moment itselfExpressed or implied, your partner feels the weight and burden of a ‘should' from youCreating consensual relationship agreementsWhatever you demonise you createMedicinal moments in relationship that call forwards integrityAllow sexual energy to build, but learn to direct itMonogamy needs a strong connection to self and highest valuesActively choosing your source of attractionBeing an active participant in your relationshipThe impact of social and religious conditioning and dominant family structuresThe devastating reality of financial abuse for womenCreating heart-open gratitude by overlapping both your top valuesWorking towards something bigger than todayTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 408: You don't have to ‘fix' everything: Your fallback patterns can be beautiful

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2023 61:51


    Through Julie's share of a traumatic weekend, which started with a broken arm and ended in ICU, we discuss the beauty of our old and new coping strategies. We explore getting off the treadmill of always ‘being better' to bring instant relief and lightness. We hope you give yourself the deepest compassion and permission from this podcast. In this podcast we discuss:- Holding deep self-compassion alongside our self-growth- The self-created punishment cycles when old habits arise- Moving beyond the ‘fixing' of ‘I'm not functioning' - Not giving your strategies so much power that you fuel them - Balancing your perceptions when you're in a wound- Recognising how the mother wound plays out - Phoning a friend: the value of perspective - Seeing that you don't have to everything for your child's best outcomes- The subtleties of intuition and how it speaksTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 407: Not living the life you want? You probably need better boundaries

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2023 41:14


    When you're feeling like you're in a limbo phase with no joy, and you're itching to get out, it's probably time to recognise that you've shifted, and your boundaries need to catch up. In this episode we explore:- Boundaries with self- Boundaries with kids- Boundaries with workTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 406: Scared of having another child, but really want to? Let's workshop it.

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2023 37:23


    This episode is inspired by a listener's question on whether to have another child. We delve into her blocks, and open up the conversation on our old stories, balancing our perceptions and the potential relationship toll. In this episode we discuss:- Knowing the stories you bring to this decision- Digging deeper into ‘what's wrong' with your childhood- Understanding how the brain works during stress, and that you'll regress to the stories you come with- Setting yourself and your partner up for success through these tricky times - Being with the terror, feeling it all, and letting your desire be spoken - Choosing your inspired suffering and where you rise - Balancing being seen as ‘better' - Recognising when we have a fantasy driving our actions - Expanding our mind and our world by seeing where the opposite is equally true - If he's not on board, where is that a reflection of where you're also wobbly?- Resourcing yourself to upskill what you need to expand your life in more fulfilling ways, as you expand your family - Holding the paradox of your needs and your partner's, especially when they're different - How our fears are often driven by lack of empowerment- Empowering yourself so your fears are no longer a barrierFor more episodes that explore this topic, check out:NTM 84: Accepting the unexpected (Julie's surprise baby #4) https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/nourishing-the-mother/id1013746031?i=1000380581657NTM 183: Getting to a place of ‘yes' for more children https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/nourishing-the-mother/id1013746031?i=1000426436345NTM 218: Thriving with a newborn, and beyond (reflections on the newborn stage with Bridget's baby #3)https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/nourishing-the-mother/id1013746031?i=1000447858141To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 405: No guilt, no shaming: returning to yourself when it gets tough

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2023 30:20


    Whether home or on holiday, practice holding yourself and your needs without coercion or contortion. We're here to give you three easy keys to alleviate the mental load and open up spaciousness wherever you find yourself. In this episode we discuss: ⁃ The amplification of relationship stress and family dynamics on holiday ⁃ Recognising conflict as different agendas based on different values ⁃ Scaffolding yourself and your kids for successful experiences  ⁃ Planning for neurodiversity and dysregulation  ⁃ How to bring familiarity for the brain that creates safety ⁃ Knowing that when things don't go to plan, we activate and emotionally regress, and don't have capacity  ⁃ Scaffolding for when the plan doesn't go to plan  ⁃ Hoarding the mental load, and letting it go  ⁃ Moving beyond ‘f you, f them, I'm out!' ⁃ The personal responsibility involved in the tap out  ⁃ Kids contribution to the family having a wider lens  ⁃ When parenting feels like it gets in the way of what you really want to be doing  ⁃ Creating baseline spaciousness  ⁃ When the layers of holding are compounding and increasing internal pressure  ⁃ No guilt, no shaming ways to return to yourselfTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 404: Why you need to be around the people that intimidate you

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2023 33:19


    The people that intimate us stretch us in all the ways our soul wants us to expand into, but our nervous system needs us to parent ourselves through.The people that intimidate us open our world, our beliefs and our possibilities, so we want you to be around them more! And we're going to tell you how.In this episode we discuss: ⁃ Why you really DO want to be around the people that intimidate you ⁃ How to help your nervous system stay in intensity, so you can stay in the transformation ⁃ How to love the defences that arise in their presence ⁃ Avoiding shame spirals ⁃ Bodywork to build safety  ⁃ Mindset shifts to make it safe to ‘be here' ⁃ You can't stick your hand in a pot of honey without some of it sticking ⁃ Consciously putting yourself in the path of that which you want to stick  ⁃ The bigger your challenge, the bigger your potential for transformation  ⁃ Balancing your perceptions of kindergarten and mastery within them and youTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 403: When it feels like there's no release from your ‘hardest kid'

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2023 36:24


    Your nervous system feels frayed, and you feel like you just can't take it anymore…every day is like a firing of that trigger, and there's no break and no light at the end of the tunnel…listen to this!We'll take you through three easy, tangible steps so you can change your story, so you can change your life. In this episode we discuss: ⁃ What does it mean to be the ‘too good' child?  ⁃ Dispersing the ‘good' and ‘bad' traits across a family dynamic ⁃ As parents, we can further polarise, and amplify traits and behaviours in our children ⁃ The way children end up playing the role that we cast them in  ⁃ Owning the trait so you stop rallying against them  ⁃ Making room in your life for new things that are important to you ⁃ The choice point we have around how we can respond  ⁃ Whether we see our child as a problem, or we see this as a deeper initiation into greater skills and identity  ⁃ Trusting your child's strength more than their fragility ⁃ Witnessing an emotion without making it mean anything ⁃ Getting skilled at seeing your child wider, to reduce your emotional responseTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 402: Getting off the struggle-bus of overwhelm

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 6, 2023 43:21


    You know you're on the struggle bus when you feel like a passenger to your life, you can't see a way out, and you're exhausted. Now it's time to gently give yourself permission to take a step off. In this episode we discuss:  ⁃ Three main areas of overwhelm; family finances, parenting and mental load inequality in relationships  ⁃ Flipping your debt into service ⁃ Having a bigger plan versus immediate spinning your wheels  ⁃ Getting immediate inspiration and meaning by seeing a long term plan that you're inspired by  ⁃ Creating more agency with your time ⁃ Recognising what comes up for you  ⁃ Asking ‘how' instead of stopping at ‘I can't'  ⁃ Meeting your resource needs so you can manage your parenting needs  ⁃ Changing what you see so you feel differently ⁃ A review process for your mental load  ⁃ Sharing and delegating mental load so your lifestyle is more sustainableTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 401: To be fully seen you have to drop the fantasy of being liked

    Play Episode Play 60 sec Highlight Listen Later Feb 27, 2023 28:13


    We give up pieces of ourselves for other's comfort and for our sense of belonging. What happens when you realise your way of belonging to the world is now keeping you small? How do we drop the addiction to being liked so we're fully free to live our authentic selves.In this episode we discuss:Holding yourself without persona, perfection, protection or projectionConsciously stepping forwards into your ever-evolving most-authentic selfMoving beyond the peacemaker and the doormatembracing your whole self including your shadowReleasing your children so they have full permission to follow their inner compassStop diluting yourself and dimming your light so you're palatable for othersUntangling from past fears so they no longer run your futureRecognising there's a part of you that benefits from trying to contort yourself for the appetite of othersKnowing that in order to be seen and celebrated in the way that you want to, you have to be willing to be challengingThe value holding yourself in the discomfort of being disliked and raising your emotional intelligence to move beyond conformityTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 400: Don't let your ‘I'm not enough' wounding lead you, let it fuel you instead

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2023 47:55


    Rather than empty platitudes we ground you in three easy steps on how to stop ‘I'm not enough' in its tracks.In this episode we discuss:Remembering what it feels like when you're connected to *you* so you can always return thereMoving beyond a lack mindset that keeps you stuckSinking into the belief that challenge isn't without fruitSeeing that comparison creates infatuationTaking the thing that you're comparing yourself to off a pedestalDialling down the noise so that the things that *are* for you can find youCleaning up and curating what you're consumingThe truth of who you are creates ripples in the world far greater than any fantasy about who you think you should beTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 399: How do you ‘find peace' without removing ‘toxic people'?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2023 37:42


    Your body takes the shape of what reality you're believing, so the question is, what is the story you're telling yourself in any given moment? In this episode we centre what you can do when you have what you perceive is a ‘toxic mother', and how to avoid to avoid making your imprint your parenting.In this episode we discuss:The destabilising effect of trauma in the nervous systemWhat it takes to lead yourself wellThe deeply hidden aspect of mothering yourselfSinking into the dynamic and knowing what you're getting from itWhy removing ‘toxic people' can limit your child's growthGiving your kids agency and tools in tough momentsCreating your own ‘peace plan'Loving yourself and them deeply through the processTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 398: Explore your motherhood alongside who you are becoming

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2023 36:02


    We're all about creating permission on how we can be more ‘us' alongside seeing, honouring and allowing our whole child in front of us. In this episode we take you through the four steps to really giving yourself permission to be fully lit and inspired as you mother.In this episode we discuss:What is your lineage and your lens?Response-ability is shaped by where you come fromFeeling swallowed by the weight of perfectionPerfection is future-focussedKnowing the stories you return to, and bringing awareness, so you don't embody the shadow you're running formNoticing what's in competition and bringing connectionNoticing beliefs that keep you smallAuthentic and inspired you follows the true expression of you, so connection is the only possibilityAllowing shift and changeTrusting your child's strength and capability more than your anxiety-driven, controlling parenting measuresSelf-righteousness will happen, so bring humility when you come full circleWhat we can't love holds us back, so love who you are in every evolutionTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 397: There is a way to create spaciousness that feels good!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2023 32:11


    In this episode we give you the three-step how-to that gives you spaciousness in motherhood that doesn't feel like you're gripping, controlling and hanging on. Let's create some ease, flow, fulfilment and feel-good vibes!In this episode we discuss:Offering yourself the same love and compassion that you offer your childrenStop creating resentment cyclesMoving your motherhood beyond servitudeLeaning into your own boundariesStretching more of who you are and what you can doKnowing how to value your own needs and stop apologisingRemoving guilt and shame so you can be filled by what you receiveDon't ignore what lights you upStop doing ‘later' on your your dreams and desires‘Capacity' is not a thingWhen you're wobbly, being pulled into your bigger whyYour life is in continuous conversation with youInspiration creates capacityKnow where you're headed, vision board your perfectionTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 396: Creating a family holiday that actually *feels* like a holiday

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2023 28:33


    The tips you need to know to create a family holiday that feels like connection and joy, and leaves you feeling replenished. Instead of assuming you'll have a great time, because it looks the Instagram picture, but it feels like resentment and overwhelm. In this episode we discuss:- Becoming attached to the experience your child has- The expectation on everyone to have a good time because you've spent money- Measuring yourself against others' experiences and ending up in shame and guilt - Using comparison to fuel us, but recognising when it's collapsing us- Creating a ‘heads up' to guide your family and balance their nervous systems - Giving details that help our kids feel safe - Setting our kids up to adjust and flow with change - Getting your kids on board, rather than fighting you - Creating more ease as a parent - When you hide the challenge, you intensify the problem - Co-regulation tools to use with your child - Clearly defining parent roles and expectations - Recognising the needs and meeting them - Resisting labelling and judging our kids, which leads to more irritation - Asking ourselves ‘How could this look different?'- Allowing your child's experience (even and especially when) it's the opposite of yours.- Remembering the more powerful teacher is letting your kids have their own experience - Holding the vision and trusting the processTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 395: Setting up an easy Back To School

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 16, 2023 26:15


    This time of year brings with it a looming mental load of pressure and responsibility, particularly on mums. So we'd like to help you make going back to school as easy and effortless as possible. In this episode we discuss: - Getting the gear sorted so there's no last minute angst- Reducing nervous system stress-load- Relieving mental load - Always asking “How could this be more easeful?”- Setting yourself up to have night time spaciousness - Keeping lunchboxes easy - Leaving room for how you do things to be different - Changing how you do things so you don't crowd out your creativity - Easy meal-prep - Giving yourself permission before you uplevel- Figuring out what it looks and feels like to walk as this woman in 2023 before you make plans - Your stuckness can leave you feeling threatened- How can I optimise my life with self-reflection and greater ease?To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 394: “New year, New you”; F*ck that!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2023 26:01


    This time of year, the headlines are fever-pitch on all the ways you can improve yourself. What if you just chose to exit that system and hustle culture and said ‘F*ck that! I'm going to go my own way'In this episode we discuss:- There's no wagon to fall off if you don't create a wagon- Cultivating deep appreciation for yourself, versus running shame and guilt- Remembering you are enough, always- Remembering ‘they' are enough; watch where you're projecting onto your partner- You are everything you need, for everything you want- Be here, now. It's on the way, not in the way- It's okay to crumble- The part of us that fights ourselves on rest, and naps- The spiritual practice of leaning back vs hustle culture- Visions, not goals- Don't attach your self-worth to goals- It's okay to change- Shifting expectations to allow for the wobble of identity shiftTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 393: Manifesting like a mofo: Intention-setting done right

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 2, 2023 21:28


    To set your 2023 year up right, and use your manifesting magic, let's co-create with potency and clear direction. Grab your pen and paper, follow along and let's get you set up.In this episode we discuss:Reconciling your 2022 to glean the wisdomRating each area of life on a ‘health' scaleReviewing each area for fulfilment or dissatisfactionBeing ruthless in your review of what you are spending your time doing, vs can you drop it or delegate itTargeting where you want to consciously improve your lifeBeing clear on what you're manifestingClearly mapping where you're heading and how you're getting thereAppreciating yourself and your lifeTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 392: Smotherhood: The lean-back skillset

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 26, 2022 31:09


    How do you know when motherhood has become a little toxic, enmeshed and smothering, and is now preventing yours and your child's future growth? It begins with breaking the fantasy of the fully supportive mother and pulling out of the pit the imperfect, challenging mother. The challenging mother inoculates your child from life-long subordination - so how about we love her?The lean-back skillset is a tangible you can follow along to, and break the shackles of your own subordination to the perfect mother.In this episode we discuss:How you can do the lean-back skillsetSeeing your patterns that create smotheringLosing your own identity in your children and how that robs them of individuationRepulsion as a vehicle to coming back into connection with our true selvesLetting go of the perfect mother who always walks in connection and celebration of her childHow shaky your worth is when it's wrapped up in how you perform as a motherCreating narratives for yourself outside of the ‘Hallmark' motherReconciling your own father-force blueprintThe value of quiet holdingBreak your fantasy on supportHow we can be participants in our own pain cyclesDifferentiating when it's about me, or when it's about my childDisentangling your worth from care-takingTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 391: How to flirt well + quit your resentment cycles

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2022 27:15


    One of the biggest fizzers of passion and attraction in long term relationship is the dying of flirtation and play, and the beige, insidious sense of apathy that ‘this is how it is now'. So let's breathe back life into our love, romance and connection.In this episode we discuss:Quit hustling for who has it worseStop making it all about youThe feminine archetype as the ferocious destroyer and the seductive creatorHow to see the sexy kitten, instead of the volcanoHow to play and flirt your way through resentment into connectionHow to be an invitation for your partner to step towardsShowing your delight and attraction for your partnerKeeping yourself and your relationship in a non-sex simmerTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 390: How ‘me' can I be at Christmas?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2022 23:29


    Ever feel like you're the peace-keeper at Christmas? Or just ‘going through the motions' but it doesn't feel right? In this episode we give you your power back so you can move beyond the ‘good descendent' and into the ancestor your children need. In this episode we discuss: ⁃ ‘Keeping the peace' assumes a win:lose ⁃ Minimising your own needs and desires in service to someone outside of you ⁃ Peacekeeping is an act of performance rather than authenticity ⁃ ‘Hot' authenticity vs grounded authenticity ⁃ Asking for what you really want ⁃ Having hard conversations  ⁃ Artfully creating a win:win where everyone's needs are met  ⁃ Letting your inner child know they're still loveable when you choose something different to your family to originTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 389: Allowing space for your humanness in any big life change

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 5, 2022 76:43


    We centre Julie's honest and open experience post-surgery but please insert ‘hysterectomy' or ‘big life change' that transforms your identity. In this podcast we discuss the two areas of any big life change - what you can prepare for, and what you'll be asked to surrender to. In this episode we discuss: ⁃ rites of passage in women's lives ⁃ active health care ⁃ advocating for yourself and your health and healing journey  ⁃ Slowing down enough to feel ⁃ Setting yourself up for a great recovery  ⁃ Meeting yourself emotionally where you're at, at every stage ⁃ Calling in and creating a support network that holds you ⁃ Recognising control can often be a wounded childhood pattern for survival ⁃ Knowing that any identity shift will ask you to surrender, and you can either move with that, or struggle against it.  ⁃ Allowing space for the messy human  ⁃ Meeting yourself in fear and shock ⁃ Fortifying your mental strength ⁃ Creating spaciousness by being able to meet each moment  ⁃ Trusting the universe to provide whatever you need ⁃ The deeper aspect of letting go  ⁃ Liberating yourself so you're no longer an inhibitor to your life  ⁃ Exploring what needs to be healed here for me to live the experience I want ⁃ How is the excuse a way not to dealTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 388: The 3 things no-one tells you about that are running your Christmas experience

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2022 53:18


    Your Christmas experience can be defined by what you filter, plug into and consume - so let's be conscious about what you're reaffirming. In this podcast we dissect what has you feeling constricted vs heart-aligned in the festive season, and how to compassionately distill down who is in the driver's seat of your life.In this episode we discuss:  ⁃ Bringing your unconscious, conscious ⁃ The stories that run you this time of year ⁃ Bringing conscious awareness to when an old belief is driving your behaviour ⁃ Being a vibrational match for what you desire your festive season to be ⁃ Crashing into old resentment stories ⁃ Boundaries and needs as self care ⁃ Holding curiosity instead of using this new awareness to beat yourself up  ⁃ The stacking of tension this time of year  ⁃ Your money stories at Christmas  ⁃ Altruism vs consumerism  ⁃ The psychology of giving and receiving  ⁃ Shame and guilt of the past and it impacts your present ⁃ Being prideful in your thriftinessTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 387: Resenting the people we love puts us in a cage: how do we break free - Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2022 29:33


    Following on from last week's episode, we give you three super-tangible steps to break free of the resentment cage.In this episode we discuss:⁃ Seeing what it's costing you to hold firm on the belief systems you already have⁃ Understanding that your children ‘set you up' to feel as they do - and can you apply this as a universal principle to those you're in resentment of⁃ Our resentment dynamic holds clues for what it's like to be in relationship with us…and can we use this for our own growth in how we love?⁃ Our rigidity constricts our children and our flexibility relieves them⁃ Allowing more flexibility within ourselves as we change, so our children can occupy more subject positions for themselves⁃ Our true level of emotional intelligence is revealed when we're in challenging situations⁃ When we are stressed, we emotionally regress⁃ Letting go of the grip of previous identities⁃ Our world is a conservation of opposites, it's only our brain that cannot perceive both sides in a moment⁃ The tightrope walk of the good mother/bad mother binary. We only know ‘the good mother' because we know the bad motherTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 386: Resenting the people we love puts us in a cage: how do we break free - Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2022 41:24


    Following on from a listener's email, we have an impromptu but revelatory conversation on the lived experience of resentment within our family systems. We explore deeply how mothers are ‘not allowed' to have the complexities of humanity, according to the ‘perfect mother' myth reinforced in patriarchal motherhood.In this episode we discuss:⁃ Understanding that we only know something, by knowing it's opposite⁃ The Madonna myth⁃ Continuously measuring your mother against a self-created fantasy ideal⁃ The process that happens inside our brain of remylineating existing beliefs, which reinforces our emotional charges⁃ Understanding that we will resent them to the degree that we're holding the fantasy ideal up on a pedestal⁃ Our neurochemical addictions to repeated family dynamics⁃ Our addiction to our current neurochemistry reinforced by our polarisations⁃ Rewiring our brain for change is hard⁃ Recognising that if you got what you wanted, there will be an equilibrating loss somewhere else⁃ Finding appreciation for your own complex family dynamics and loving the people who play the roles for youTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 385: Remembering how to play and laugh with your fears

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2022 34:03


    With modern-day motherhood's ‘hangover' (tiredness!), Julie and Bridget debrief Jules' completely non-PC Hysterectomy Party with a whole lot of laughter, soul and consciousness. Our key reflections were on:⁃ Finding more availability within yourself through lightness ,laughter and self-celebration⁃ Meeting women in the place of no pretence, where shame evaporates, and healing happens through laughter⁃ When we name, and dance with, the fears wrapped up in our next evolution, we take away their power over usWe would love your reflections on this conversation, so please reach out!To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 384: When you're asked to crumble your identity and instead you're holding on

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2022 26:40


    When disconnection and discontent are your primary emotional experiences, it might be time to look at where you're being asked to crumble your current identity…and let go of self-righteousness?In this episode we discuss:- Recognising where self-righteousness is masquerading as ‘choosing myself' and ‘being in integrity' - How to get back into connection with self, partner and parenting - Recognising when you're running ‘moral high ground' stories- Seeing the protection strategy in looking for evidence for all the ways you're ‘right'- The inherent vulnerability in realising there's so many ways to be right - Realising that surrounding yourself with total support creates further disconnection - Dropping into your heart and out of your head - Noticing a manic energy that ‘needs to prove something' - Stopping the spiral of ‘You're so…' & ‘They're so…' - Recognising when your coping strategy is bringing you benefits - Noticing your physiology when you're ‘on the hunt' for supportTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 383: How do I be my own anchor in my perfect storm?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 26, 2022 40:41


    In this episode we look at the shame stumble of identity crisis and finding the spaciousness to love both a past and future self. In this episode we explore:- Balancing out shame about a past version of self - Opening up possibility for a future version of self- Listening to the stories of others that both support and challenge you, with an open heart - Learning how to be in opposition with an open heart- Recognising the role of the challenger - Using the heart-stings and pain points as fuel for your self-inquiry - Seeking comfort and getting pushback - Recognising the echoes of your inner child - Appreciating the push into individuation - Learning to love yourself and other widerTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 382: Recognising when you've flipped from activism to stuck anger

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2022 28:25


    Following a listener's email we talk to you about how to dance the line between anger and activism in a powerful and sustainable way. We give you points to discern when your anger has flipped from being constructive to destructive, and what to do to pull yourself back into heart connection, where true change is possible. In this episode we discuss:- When anger is pulling you forward, versus keeping you stuck- When anger is motivating, and when it keeps you distracted- Recognising when you're heart connected, or disconnected - Being consumed by fixing things outside of you - Being able to hold self-integrity and reflection on the path of activism - When everybody's not listening to you, recognising that they're not designed to care like you - Humanising versus de-humanising people - Collateral damage when we're connected to our righteousness - When your polarised lens is perpetuating anger cycles - How striving for a one-sided world creates more anger- Sustainable activism is built upon relationship - Being an invitation to change versus repulsing those who can create change with us - With great power comes great responsibility; how will you wield the sword of power that is anger?To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 381: Busting your FOMO on the ‘perfect family holiday'

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2022 70:53


    Do you sometimes find yourself in a spiral of comparison when you see families living the ‘perfect instagramable holiday'? This conversation will bust your polarised FOMO and have you appreciating yourself and your own life, bringing you back into heartfelt connection with yourself and your own life. Through Julie's travel stories, in this episode we discuss:- The ‘shine' we see is also balanced by the ‘shit' - You don't escape your family dynamic on a holiday- Family holidays will magnify anything that already exists - Experiences outside your comfort zone will stretch your nervous system capacity, and your children's - Balancing adult expectations with children's developmental realities- There is no holiday for the mother - The value of tag-teaming as co-parents- Recognising the safety you have in a controlled environment at home which brings you freedom, balancing the perception of travel being the ultimate freedom- Normalising children's fearful experiences on holidays- Maintaining humour through struggle sets you freeTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 380: When you're green with envy, and what to do about it

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2022 26:12


    What do you do when you find yourself in full-bodied longing for the thing you don't have (like pregnancy, money, a great relationship…). We want you to let your desires fuel you, but beware when they engulf you, or send you into victimhood.   This episode has four clear and easy steps to get yourself back to being a powerful manifestor.   In this episode we discuss: - Resenting the world, and how to come back into appreciation  - Victimhood as a normal, human, transient state, versus when it becomes your chronic story - Moving from lack and scarcity vibes and into abundant manifesto vibes - Lifting ourselves out of the pit of heaviness  - When support is beautiful, and when it keeps you stuck in a lack story  - Breaking the grasping ‘need' to bring abundant states back  - Seeing wider than the narrow lens of resentment  - Comparison to everyone else  - Subconscious motives that keep you stuck  - Healthful soul-searching, but noticing when it turns to navel-gazing - Super-charging your worth, power and vitalityTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

    NTM 384: When you're asked to crumble your identity and instead you're holding on

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2022 26:40


    When disconnection and discontent are your primary emotional experiences, it might be time to look at where you're being asked to crumble your current identity…and let go of self-righteousness?In this episode we discuss:- Recognising where self-righteousness is masquerading as ‘choosing myself' and ‘being in integrity' - How to get back into connection with self, partner and parenting - Recognising when you're running ‘moral high ground' stories- Seeing the protection strategy in looking for evidence for all the ways you're ‘right'- The inherent vulnerability in realising there's so many ways to be right - Realising that surrounding yourself with total support creates further disconnection - Dropping into your heart and out of your head - Noticing a manic energy that ‘needs to prove something' - Stopping the spiral of ‘You're so…' & ‘They're so…' - Recognising when your coping strategy is bringing you benefits - Noticing your physiology when you're ‘on the hunt' for supportTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

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