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In this episode, we delve into the complexities of self-awareness, self-love, and emotional maturity. The discussion explores how overgeneralizations like 'okay, boomer' fit into broader prejudicial-isms and the necessity of individual self-reflection. We debate the importance of loving oneself fully, the obstacles to forgiveness, and the impact of childhood wounds on adult life. We also touch on the role of social media in eroding personal growth and the journey towards authenticity and acceptance.   00:00 Understanding Overgeneralization 01:36 The Role of Self-Love in Overcoming Judgments 02:55 Teaching Self-Awareness and Self-Love 04:34 The Importance of Forgiveness 07:19 Navigating Relationship Betrayals 11:41 Resilience and Self-Trust 14:56 Self-Love vs. Narcissism 15:45 Continuous Self-Improvement 17:28 Maintaining Your Body and Health 18:49 The Importance of Self-Awareness 19:51 Self-Love and Emotional Maturity 20:53 The Path to Self-Improvement 23:09 Childhood Development and Self-Awareness 26:01 Emotional Scars and Adulthood 28:42 Navigating Social Media and Authenticity 31:49 Embracing and Cultivating Your Flaws 34:42 Conclusion and Podcast Outro

The relationship between emotional health and the gut microbiome is an area of growing scientific interest. The gut microbiome refers to the complex community of microorganisms, including bacteria, viruses, fungi, and other microbes, that reside in the gastrointestinal tract. Research has suggested that the gut microbiome can influence brain function and mental health through the gut-brain axis, a bidirectional communication pathway between the gut and the brain. Disclosure: It's worth mentioning that while the gut microbiome appears to play a role in emotional health, it is not the sole determinant. Emotional well-being is a complex interplay of genetic, environmental, and psychological factors. However, Studies have found associations between alterations in the gut microbiome and various mental health conditions, including depression, anxiety, and stress-related disorders. As with many health-related topics, more research is needed to understand the complex relationship between the gut microbiome and emotional health. Is Your Emotional Wellbeing Related to Your Gut Health? New Study Reveals Possible Link in Women

In this episode, we delve into the critical importance of self-acceptance and self-love as foundational elements for extending love and acceptance to others. We explore the concept that true spirituality radiates from within and discuss the continuous process of personal growth akin to how plants constantly evolve. The conversation also addresses the consistent characteristics that form our personality, the necessity of periodic self-recalibration, and the influence of environment on personality expression. We touch on the challenges of narcissism, the compulsive need for control as a safety mechanism, and the pivotal role of emotional maturity. Our discussion expands to societal classifications, unity through uniqueness, and the critical balance between individuality and collective belonging. The episode wraps up with reflections on emotional maturity, wisdom, and the role of self-awareness in personal growth.   00:00 Introduction: The Deception of Combat 00:36 The Importance of Self-Acceptance and Self-Love 00:57 Spirituality and Inner Connection 01:52 Continuous Growth and Self-Evaluation 03:10 Shifts in Values and Perspectives 04:51 The Reflection of the External World 05:33 Personality and Disposition 06:42 The Complexity of Change 09:47 Narcissism and Self-Awareness 13:52 Unity Through Uniquity 15:49 The Need for Unity and Connection 17:34 Archetypes and Classification 25:33 Emotional Maturity and Wisdom 30:35 Conclusion and Call to Action

Have you ever felt down, stressed, or hopeless? If so, you're not alone. Millions of people around the world struggle with mental health issues every day. But what if there was a way to boost your mood and improve your mental health without medication or therapy? That's where the hope molecule comes in. The hope molecule is a real thing! In this podcast episode, we'll discuss the science behind the hope molecule and how you can use exercise to boost your mood and improve your mental health. We'll also talk to a few experts who can share their personal experiences with the hope molecule and how it's helped them. So if you're looking for a natural way to improve your mental health, listen to this podcast episode to learn more about the hope molecule and how you can start using it today. Exercise Treatment for Major Depression Study    

Have you ever had a feeling that something was right or wrong, even though you couldn't explain why? That's intuition. Intuition is a powerful tool that can help us make better decisions, avoid danger, and connect with our inner wisdom. In this episode of the podcast, we'll explore what intuition is, how it works, and how you can develop your own intuition.  Here are some of the things we'll discuss: What is intuition? How does intuition work? Different ways that we experience intuition How can you develop your intuition? Benefits of trusting your intuition We hope you'll join us for this informative and inspiring episode about intuition!

Hyper-independence is a term used to describe people who are overly reliant on themselves and avoid relying on others for help. People who are hyper-independent often feel like they need to do everything on their own and that they cannot ask for help from others. This can be due to a number of factors, such as a fear of being rejected or a fear of being seen as weak. Hyper-independence can have a number of negative consequences. People who are hyper-independent often feel isolated and lonely. They may also have difficulty forming close relationships with others. Additionally, hyper-independence can lead to burnout, anxiety, and depression. If you are struggling with hyper-independence, there are a number of things you can do to overcome it.

Are you stuck in that loop of wanting to step into your dreams, but always finding yourself left with the "want"? In today's episode, Jim and Tanya Talk about why it is so easy to find yourself stuck, as well as some practical ways to actually shift out of neutral and begin creating some momentum. In this episode, Jim mentions the book, Illusions, by Richard Bach Don't forget to grab your FREE Human Design BodyGraph and Mini-report HERE Shout out to Digital Laser Works, where you can get personalized/branded engraved items. Check them out!

We all experience turbulence and overwhelm at some point in our lives. In this episode, Jim and Tanya discuss effective ways to help you move through tough times with grace. 

Not every day brings roses and sunshine. In fact, we have all dealt with difficult emotions, such as discouragement, on one occasion or another.  In this episode, Jim and Tanya discuss ideas for dealing with shadow emotions, tying in some of the Universal Laws, neuroscientific principles, and also Human Design/Gene Keys.  Thanks to Digital Laser Works for being a sponsor of our show. Digital Laser Works provides custom laser engraving services to make your gift stand out from the rest. Browse their online catalog at Digital Laser Works! Curious about how you process energy? Curious about your individual Human Design? Get your FREE Human Design chart and mini-report HERE. If you're looking for a more detailed report that is all about YOU, click HERE.

Jim and Tanya are back after a hiatus and are ready to bring more great content that will help you plug into the Power to Be you! Why is it so important to have self-awareness?  How can Human Design help to illuminate your path to becoming fully embodied? What does a delicious meal have to do with anything?  Free Human Design Chart with Mini-Report: http://p2bu.com Detailed Human Design Report/Workbook: https://mysupernaturaldesign.com/?via=tanya  

What kind of unconventional advice is this? We always want order, not confusion, so what do we mean by this? Guess you'll have to listen in to find out more! Go to P2BU.com for your free bodygraph and human design mini report!  

We live in such an abundant world, so much that it can be overwhelming and exhausting. Jim and Tanya talk in this episode about how this can be a detriment and how to feel sustained, and not drained.

Freedom is one of society's top values, but yet, we have no idea how to achieve it, or even what it looks like. The recipe for freedom may be different than what you think it is. Listen to find out what we believe it takes to be free.  #p2bu #powertobeyou #fyfreedom

In this episode we explore how goals are generally made to satisfy the masculine ideal. But what if goal setting doesn't resonate so much with the feminine ideal? Get your free human design bodygraph and human design mini-report! Just go to www.P2BU.com .    

This episode is a loose conversation we had that started with commitment, or rather, the lack thereof.  Are we committed to change?  What is Jim's "4D Model?" (I'll give you a hint: Decision - Direction - Determination - and, well, I'll save the last D for the show.)   Learn more about what you were designed for - go to www.P2BU.com to get your free bodygraph and mini-report. Trust me, this is really cool and incredibly accurate.  

A lot of us are really tightly grasping onto control - of what other people think of us and what's going to happen. There's a false sense of security that we get from being in control and it's really the exact opposite of what we need to be doing. Honestly, if you don't worry so much about being in control all the time and you're able to just release sometimes, and not to apply our reasoning to it. Jim tells an amazing story that happened to him that changed everything for him, and surrendering was the key element. If you're interested in learning more about you and your unique human design, please go to www.P2BU.com to get your free Body Graph and Human Design Mini-report.

In this episode, Jim & Tanya discuss our need for external validation,  especially from our relationship partners - our wives, husbands, girl- and boyfriends, whomever. It's perfectly normal to take our need for validation and to take our core questions to our partners.  After all, they know us the best, so they would - or should - know the answer to our core questions. What are those questions? There is a masculine core question, and a feminine core question. Listen to find out what they are, and how we need them answered, in part at least, by our partners. 

In this episode Jim & Tanya talk about Human Design. Whether this is a new journey for you, or you have been into Human Design for a while, we think that there is always something new to learn or discover. We consider the Human Design journey to be a beautiful path of awareness, ultimately leading you to your most authentic self-expression.  Human Design IS an ongoing experiment of deconditioning from all of the ways that you have been taught to “be”, and from all of the “shoulds”. It is your highest energetic expression and can help you to understand how best to work with your authentic flow and purpose.  To get your free Human Design Bodygraph and Mini-Report, just go to www.P2BU.com .   

In this episode, Jim & Tanya explore a concept that came to Jim in a dream, the night before recording this episode. This is a raw discussion about the idea of "Ghostkeeping," - when your reality doesn't match up with your perception of the way things should be, or when you are actively holding onto a memory that is holding you back. Jim & Tanya do their best to "flesh it out," (pun intended) in this show. Give it a listen! Let us know if you have an idea about what it means. Join our facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ThePowerToBeYou to join in the discussion, or find us on social media: IG: @jim_varley    IG: @trvarley Twitter: @jhvarley Twitter:   @TVarley921

When we speak of "deconditioning," we're talking about undoing, or unlearning embedded behaviors and belief systems that are within your sub- and unconscious minds. It's more thatn just behaviors, though, because conditioning is lso your paradigm. How we operate from our paradigm, under conditioning, can hamper our satisfaction, happiness, our freedom, and our sense of purpose.  Learning your Human Design can be an essential tool for breaking your conditioning (deconditioning) and  beginning to live your life to its fullest potential and purpose. You can get your Human Design chart for free by visiting either: www.geneticmatrix.com www.jovianarchive.com  and if you would like a personal reading and interpretation of your chart, please reach out to Tanya at tanya@fyimprovement.com or by joining our facebook page The Power to be You: www.facebook.com/groups/ThePowerToBeYou Credit: "Tea in the Sahara," music and lyrics by Sting, performed by The Police. Copyright 1983 G.M. Sumner The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing, by Bronnie Ware (2012)  

Is it responsibility? Or is it response-Ability? We are all responsible for for our own ability to respond. How do you respond to stressors, and how do they manifest in your relationships? What do you do when you have a kid that's misbehaving, or getting into trouble at school? What do you do when you are married to a sociopathic narcissist? Show note: Tanya paraphrases a poem right around minute 29. The poem she is thinking about is called, "Autobiography in Five Chapters," by Portia Nelson.

So, we are talking about relationships a lot, and the podcast is called the power to be you. And how curious is that? And part of the reason is that you can't be your best in any relationship without YOU. YOU are the main ingredient in every relationship that you have. You probably didn't know how important it is to know yourself, to be aware of yourself, and how self-knowledge and self-awareness is to every relationship. But think about it - when you bring your best YOU, the best version of yourself, you make your relationships better. We can tell the difference of quality ingredients in the kitchen, can't we? We can tell when the cook or baker has used inferior ingredients, so why ould a relationship be any different? Learn how to improve your relationship by improving yourself! Self-awareness is the first step. To take the personality assessment mentioned in the episode, go to: www.go.fyimprovement.com/personality If you are interested in a Human Design evaluation and reading, contact us directly at Tanya@fyimprovement.com or James@fyimprovement.com .

There's one secret that ALL happy couples know. This secret is a pretty simple one, and one that you can implement right away. We've got that secret here for you. Lean in close, and listen to what we have to tell you.  This can be woven into the tapestry of your marriage/relationship, and the more you practice it, the stronger your relationship becomes - the tighter the weave, so to speak.  The tighter the weave of the fabric, the stronger it is, and can withstand the storms and stresses that will eventually come.

Part 2 of 2. Jim & Tanya explore different relationship myths that MAY BE SABOTAGING YOUR RELATIONSHIP! Your relationship may be suffering, and you're not even sure why. Could it be that you are believing one or more of these myths? Not only are the myths explored, but Jim & Tanya talk about how to handle them when the shadows of these myths appear in your marriage/relationship. Tanya is a marriage therapist, and Jim is a relationship coach, and they've seen the shadows of these myths appear over and over. In this episode, you'll learn: -What the Beatles have to do with your marriage -Early Dating Behavior (EDB) is great for you when you're first dating, but what do you need for the long term? -Why "never going to bed angry" can be soe of the worst advice you can hear -Your partner is your "world" and is not your "world" at the same time  -How to disagree with each other and meet your partner's deepest needs AT THE SAME TIME.

Part 1 of 2. Jim & Tanya explore different relationship myths THAT MAY BE SABOTAGING YOUR RELATIONSHIP! Your relationship may be suffering, and you're not even sure why. Could it be that you are believing one or more of these myths? Not only are the myths explored, but Jim & Tanya talk about how to handle them when the shadows of these myths appear in your marriage/relationship. Tanya is a marriage therapist, and Jim is a relationship coach, and they've seen the shadows of these myths appear over and over. In this episode, you'll learn: -the role of therapy before your marriage is broken beyond repair -Marriage is much more than 50/50, and keeping score that way will have you bound for failure -Relationship "Contracts" should be avoided at all costs -How to disagree with each other and meet your partner's deepest needs AT THE SAME TIME.        

Knowing this ONE THING can save your relationship! We always want life to be fair and balanced but it never is. Why is it that we expect the same things from our relationships? In this episode, you will learn: Relationships are never balanced - or fair How to release the idea of scorekeeping Please join us in our Facebook Group, The Power to Be You

There are 2 factors that can make or break your relationship: Bids and Betrayals. A betrayal may not be exactly what you're thinking of, like cheating or lying. These kind of betrayals are like "death by a thousand pin pricks."   In this episode, you will learn: What is a bid What is a betrayal How to recognize them,  How to avoid the "one-word shutdown answer" 3 ways to improve bids and reduce betrayals  

MEN: What is YOUR ROLE in your marriage? What can YOU DO to make your marriage better, and what can YOU do that will translate into MORE and BETTER SEX with your wife? We'll give you 5 steps you can take that will do just that. In fact, these steps can improve almost every relationship you have, whether it is parenting your kids or relating to co-workers. Listen to this episode and you'll find out what they are! What you'll learn in this episode: 2 Biggest Complaints that Women have about men; 2 Biggest Complaints that Men have about Women; 5 Steps to Tuning up your marriage that will translate into MORE and BETTER SEX with your wife; Perform a powerful exercise in empathy. References and links: "The Man's Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the 'Love Lab' About What Women Really Want," by John Gottman, PhD, Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, Douglas Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams "The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Pesonal Freedom," by Don Miguel Ruiz

Is it too late for your marriage/relationship? If you wait too long for marriage therapy, it might be. But there are things you can do to turn it around. Jim and Tanya discuss the health of their marriage, what they do to keep it healthy, and their past failed marriages. (*hint - they learned from their mistakes.) In this episode you will learn: Can your partner "complete you?" Values in your relationship Self-Awareness and how it is so important to the survival of your relationship    

Intentions and Goals are a part of all of our lives, whether we accept that or not. In this "Coffee Conversation," Jim & Tanya started talking about the general topic of intentions and the influence of the divine. This conversation was so good,they recorded this conversation as they sat at their breakfast table on a phone.   In this episode, you will learn: How to set the direction and tone for an action; How God the Divine orchestrates; Ensure your goals and intentions are "positively charged" with focus and appropriate action Join us in our facebook group, Power to Be You Thanks for listening! Share our message with a friend!

In 2012, Bronnie Ware, an Palliative Caregiver, published her book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing, and introduced to us what she found to be the top regrets expressed to the dying patients entrusted to her care.  The top regret may surprise you, as it did for us.  How do we keep ourselves from arriving at our own deathbed, looking up to someone. and having a heart filled with regrets? We have the power within us to keep this becoming our future, so listen in and see what you can do NOW to live a life FREE of REGRETS. In this episode, you will learn: What is the number one expressed regret of the dying, according to palliative caregiver and author, Bronnie Ware? How to be yourself in the context of YOUR Life How to evaluate what is no longer serving you Clues to identifying your purpose in life  

Is grounding real? We're not talking about the psychological/emotional type of grounding, but actual grounding of yourself - coming in contact with the earth's electrical field for healing. When Jim first heard about this, he was skeptical, but open-minded enough to give it a go. Now, he is a full-fledged convert! What changed his mind? Listen in to find out more.

Did you know that we have the power to "Speak It Into Existence?" Well that's part of the story. Jim & Tanya discuss this phenomenon, and how it has worked for them. Can over-visualization be helpful? Thank you for listening. Join our Facebook group "The Power to Be You" to learn more.

In this episode, Jim & Tanya talk about where they stand and where the future of the P2BU podcast is going. Our current, artificial environment is not working for us, but against us, and we need to do everything we can to stack the odds in our favor. Chances are, you need some kind of healing in your life, and we want to bring you information so you can evaluate if it works for you. 

All of us face decisions everyday on how to spend our time. Do we choose to spend it on the immediate/urgent, or on what is important? Did the important become urgent because of our neglect? How do we determine what is worthy of our time and attention? Listen to find out!

In this episode, Jim and Tanya discuss tolerations - the things we put up with that hold us back like an invisible leash. All of us have them! Sometimes, they are just little, seemingly insignificant things, but sometimes, they are fairly big things. But, one thing they all have in common: we can do something about them. In this episode, you can learn: how to identify tolerations how they can affect you what you can do to eliminate them which ones to get rid of first  

What is the ONE THING all successful people do? Part 2 of Jim & Tanya's discussion of a very simple formula for success, both in life and business.  Want to make your life better? Want more freedom?  Then listen in to find out more!

When making soup, do you think about all of the ingredients? Do you have a "secret ingredient" that sets it apart from all other soups? The soup-making process is an analogy for success in other aspects of our lives, and in this episode, we are offering our "secret ingredient" for success - in any aspect of your life. Want to make your life better? Want more freedom? Then listen in to find out more!

This day and age, it seems everyone has an opinion about something, and doesn't it feel like they want to attack with it, especially when someone disagrees with them? What is it that makes them do that? Is there a difference between "needing to be right," and "needing to not be wrong?" What can you do to express your opinion without getting shut down?

We all have expectations, some are appropriate, some are not. A lot depends on how we apply them to ourselves or our external world. How does an expectation differ from hope? Which is stronger, and which is better? Jim and Tanya discuss this from their basement couch with a glass of wine and a phone recording the conversation. No cheese puffs were harmed during the recording of this episode. Correction Note: Jim erroneously credited a quote to Henry Ford. The correct credit should go to Theodore Roosevelt. Our humblest apologies to Teddy! Superman ©DC Comics/Time Warner, Batman ©DC Comics, Theme Song from Superman (Main Theme) ©1978 Warner-Tamerlane Publishing (BMI), Music by John Williams.

Have you ever considered hypnotherapy as a way for you to easily and effortlessly achieve your goals? Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool for making your dreams a reality, but how does it differ from meditation, or even affirmations? Listen to find out more!

The One Year Anniversary of launching our podcast!!!  Thank you for listening and being a part of our network! We have the power to be who we are and we have the power to define what that is. But identity can be elusive, a lot of people can't define who they want to be. Learn what is holding so many of us back from being who we want to be, above and beyond who we are, and to learn HOW to shift yourself from who you ARE to be who you WANT to be.

Do you ever feel like you are kind of just wading through your day, without any sense of direction, or going wherever the wind takes you? So how can you fix that? It's really quite simple, and can be done in any context......

We live in an ever-connected world, but our brains are struggling to connect the dots. Information comes at us in such a rapid pace, that we barely have time to digest what we just learned. This is true for everyone, and especially true for the entrepreneur. In this episode, inspired by Jim Kwik's bestselling book, "Limitless," Jim and Tanya discuss exactly what you can do to combat the dangers of Digital Deluge and Distractions. Episode Photo by Maxim Ilyahov on Unsplash.  Be sure to join our Facebook Group, "The Power To Be You," or visit us at FYImprovement.com to learn more. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thepowertobeyou/support

Confidence can waiver, does self-esteem? How can you address these if you think you are lacking? Just how DO you know if you're lacking anyway?How does something as simple as putting on a new jacket change that? Listen, and join our Facebook group, The Power to Be You, to be a part of the FYImprovement Community!  Episode photograph by Jared Rice on Unsplash. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thepowertobeyou/support

Joy is very interesting because. It, as soon as you can approach life in a joyful manner, things just happen more efficiently. The natural state that we are meant to be in is one of joy, grace and gratitude. These are our natural human tendencies because in them is where love resides. The pursuit of pleasure, however, could put us on a path of obscurity and unimportance. In this episode inspired by Donald J. Robertson's @DonJRobertson "How to Think Like a Roman Emperor," wherein we are reminded of Hercules' choice to follow the path of Vice, or the path of Virtue. Which path do you think he took? Jim and Tanya also discuss ways to recognize not only when you take the path of vice, but also what to do when you are on it. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thepowertobeyou/support

Anger can be as addictive as any drug out there. Repeated anger just strengthens neural pathways and allows anger to return even faster the next time. So how do you change that? Jim and Tanya discuss the addictive nature of anger and ways you can address it. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thepowertobeyou/support

Focusing on the "worst-case scenario" happens to a lot of us, and Jim and Tanya are no exceptions. But there is ancient wisdom in ways to manage the stress we feel when things happen that are beyond our control. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thepowertobeyou/support

How can you turn suffering into a period of growth? Jim and Tanya discuss this unprecedented time and how to pull hope - and ultimately, wisdom - from it. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thepowertobeyou/support

The Coronavirus Epidemic has the world in its grip and has changed everything, from the economy to how we live our lives on a daily basis. It is a very powerful force that has a lot of us living, and acting, out of fear. Jim & Tanya discuss how to change your mindset from one of fear to one of expansion. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thepowertobeyou/support

Have you ever noticed how many people are buried in their phones, distracted and distant from the reality that is around them? Are you that person? Sometimes all of are that person, yet we crave such deeper connections. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thepowertobeyou/support