Podcasts about intimate violence

In this episode, Kimberly dives deep into guest author Catherine Simone Gray's book Proud Flesh: A Memoir of Motherhood, Intimate Violence, and Reclaiming Pleasure. With tenderness, Kimberly and Catherine share their mutual appreciation for each other's writing and the deep impact Kimberly's work has had on the journey that led to Catherine's book. Catherine guides us through her journey of healing from a vaginal tear postpartum, which led to the discovery of proud flesh, a term for hypergranulation tissue. She describes the emotional and physical challenges she faced across two births (one hospital/C-Section, one home/natural), including silver nitrate treatments and the support of her husband; recounting the story of how the couple's relationships to one another's bodies changed when she invited him to draw her vulva daily. Catherine and Kimberly both emphasize the importance of language and writing in redefining sexuality and eroticism, and how this process can support women in reconnecting with their body. If you enjoyed this conversation be sure to sign up for their online gathering Writing as a Pathway to Pleasure on Sunday, February 23rd at https://kimberlyannjohnson.com/writing-pathway-to-pleasure/   Bio Catherine Gray is the writer and creator of Unsilenced Woman, a blog where she explores modern motherhood, sexuality, and healing after trauma. Catherine's writings have captivated audiences globally of up to 2.5 million, and she's devoted almost a decade to helping writers mine the stories of their lives for self-knowledge and growth.   Her writings have been featured by respected organizations for new mothers, such as La Leche League USA, International Cesarean Awareness Network, and ImprovingBirth. She has been a guest on The Birth Hour, the #1 podcast in iTunes Kids & Family, and her essays have been acclaimed by The Bitter Southerner in its Top 10 reader favorites for two consecutive years.  A charismatic speaker, Catherine has delivered two addresses at the Mississippi Women's March. Her first memoir Proud Flesh: A Memoir of Motherhood, Intimate Violence, and Reclaiming Pleasur was published in 2025 by Penguin Random House.Today, Catherine lives happily (and mostly healed) in Jackson, Mississippi, with her husband and their two young sons.    What You'll Hear Kimberly's deep appreciation for the writing craft found in Catherine's book and is moved by the way their work has intersected Catherine has been a Jaguar since 2017 and shares the way many baths listening, reading and sitting with Kimberly's work influenced Proud Flesh Catherine recalls key moments with her doctor in making a healing plan for a natural birth injury Catherine describes how  the scientific term Proud Flesh took on poetic meaning in her life Catherine discusses the difference in healing from the numbing disconnect of C-Section to the embodied pain of a natural birth. Catherine describes a profound confrontation with how her and her husband relate to each other's bodies, which led to a durational art project in which he drew her vulva over time. Catherine and Kimberly reflect on erotic writing that doesn't reify centering the male gaze Kimberly and Catherine talk about their own evolving relationships to their bodies and the craft of writing   Links IG - @unsilencedwoman Website - www.unsilencedwoman.com Book - https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/771427/proud-flesh-by-catherine-simone-gray/ Online Gathering - https://kimberlyannjohnson  

When it comes to HIV, women are forced to contend with more than just stigma and barriers to care. Factors like gender inequality, intimate partner violence, and bodily autonomy make everything from prevention and treatment to status disclosure more difficult and more dangerous. In this episode, we're exploring common obstacles women encounter in the fight against HIV, as well as the global efforts to improve women's visibility and protection. Our guests are: Dr. Rageshri Dhairyawan, a sexual health and HIV doctor currently serving as Consultant in Sexual Health and HIV Medicine at Barts Health NHS Trust in London. Roukhaya Hassambay, program coordinator at Ikambere, an organization that offers holistic supports to women living in precarious situations and with chronic illness. This podcast was created and fully funded by Gilead Sciences, Inc. GILEAD, the GILEAD logo, and the & design are trademarks of Gilead Sciences, Inc. © 2023 Gilead Sciences, Inc. All rights reserved. IHQ-UNB-4319 Date of Preparation August 2023. References: Borumandnia N, Khadembashi N, Tabatabaei M, Majd HA. The prevalence rate of sexual violence worldwide: a trend analysis. BMC Public Health. 2020;20:1835. doi:10.1186/s12889-020-09926-5 UNAIDS. Fact sheet 2023. Global HIV statistics. Accessed August 7, 2023. Available at: https://www.unaids.org/en/resources/fact-sheet GLAAD. Glossary of Terms: Transgender. Accessed August 7, 2023. Available at: https://glaad.org/reference/trans-terms/ World Bank. Girls' education. Updated February 2023. Accessed August 7, 2023. Available at: https://www.worldbank.org/en/topic/girlseducation Cabecinha M et al. Current PrEP provision does not align with women's preferences: early results from a cross-sectional survey investigating PrEP awareness, interest, and preferences among women in England. British HIV Association conference, Gateshead, April 2023. Abstract P028. Available at: https://www.bhiva.org/file/645cfa43aca4f/P028.pdf Desgrées-du-Loû A, Pannetier J, Ravalihasy A, et al. Sub-Saharan African migrants living with HIV acquired after migration, France, ANRS PARCOURS study, 2012 to 2013. Euro Surveill. 2015;20(46):1-8. doi: 10.2807/1560-7917.ES.2015.20.46.30065 Dhairyawan R, Tariq S, Scourse R, Coyne KM. Intimate partner violence in women living with HIV attending an inner city clinic in the UK: prevalence and associated factors. HIV Med. 2013 May;14(5):303-10. doi: 10.1111/hiv.12009 Smith K, Coleman K, Eder S, Hall P. Homicides, Firearm Offences and Intimate Violence 2009/10. Supplementary Volume 2 to Crime in England and Wales 2009/10. 2011 Home Office Statistical Bulletin. Accessed August 7, 2023. Available at: https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/116512/hosb0111.pdf Sullivan TP. The intersection of intimate partner violence and HIV: detection, disclosure, discussion, and implications for treatment adherence. Top Antivir Med. 2019 May;27(2):84-87. US Department of Health and Human Services. Guidelines for the Use of Antiretroviral Agents in Adults and Adolescents with HIV. March 2023. Accessed August 7, 2023. Available at: https://clinicalinfo.hiv.gov/sites/default/files/guidelines/documents/adult-adolescent-arv/guidelines-adult-adolescent-arv.pdf. American Association for the Advancement of Science. People living with HIV at substantially higher risk of depression and suicide, especially in first 2 years after diagnosis. Press Release. European Congress of Clinical Microbiology & Infectious Diseases (ECCMID); Copenhagen, Denmark, 15-18 April, 2023. Accessed August 7, 2023. Available at: https://www.eurekalert.org/news-releases/984677

Why do pogroms occur in some localities and not in others? Jeffrey S. Kopstein and Jason Wittenberg examine a particularly brutal wave of violence that occurred across hundreds of predominantly Polish and Ukrainian communities in the aftermath of the Nazi invasion of the Soviet Union. The authors note that while some communities erupted in anti-Jewish violence, most others remained quiescent. In fact, fewer than 10 percent of communities saw pogroms in 1941, and most ordinary gentiles never attacked Jews. Intimate Violence: Anti-Jewish Pogroms on the Eve of the Holocaust (Cornell UP, 2018) is a novel social-scientific explanation of ethnic violence and the Holocaust. It locates the roots of violence in efforts to maintain Polish and Ukrainian dominance rather than in anti-Semitic hatred or revenge for communism. In doing so, it cuts through painful debates about relative victimhood that are driven more by metaphysical beliefs in Jewish culpability than empirical evidence of perpetrators and victims. Pogroms, they conclude, were difficult to start, and local conditions in most places prevented their outbreak despite a general anti-Semitism and the collapse of the central state. Kopstein and Wittenberg shed new light on the sources of mass ethnic violence and the ways in which such gruesome acts might be avoided. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

Why do pogroms occur in some localities and not in others? Jeffrey S. Kopstein and Jason Wittenberg examine a particularly brutal wave of violence that occurred across hundreds of predominantly Polish and Ukrainian communities in the aftermath of the Nazi invasion of the Soviet Union. The authors note that while some communities erupted in anti-Jewish violence, most others remained quiescent. In fact, fewer than 10 percent of communities saw pogroms in 1941, and most ordinary gentiles never attacked Jews. Intimate Violence: Anti-Jewish Pogroms on the Eve of the Holocaust (Cornell UP, 2018) is a novel social-scientific explanation of ethnic violence and the Holocaust. It locates the roots of violence in efforts to maintain Polish and Ukrainian dominance rather than in anti-Semitic hatred or revenge for communism. In doing so, it cuts through painful debates about relative victimhood that are driven more by metaphysical beliefs in Jewish culpability than empirical evidence of perpetrators and victims. Pogroms, they conclude, were difficult to start, and local conditions in most places prevented their outbreak despite a general anti-Semitism and the collapse of the central state. Kopstein and Wittenberg shed new light on the sources of mass ethnic violence and the ways in which such gruesome acts might be avoided. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/history

Why do pogroms occur in some localities and not in others? Jeffrey S. Kopstein and Jason Wittenberg examine a particularly brutal wave of violence that occurred across hundreds of predominantly Polish and Ukrainian communities in the aftermath of the Nazi invasion of the Soviet Union. The authors note that while some communities erupted in anti-Jewish violence, most others remained quiescent. In fact, fewer than 10 percent of communities saw pogroms in 1941, and most ordinary gentiles never attacked Jews. Intimate Violence: Anti-Jewish Pogroms on the Eve of the Holocaust (Cornell UP, 2018) is a novel social-scientific explanation of ethnic violence and the Holocaust. It locates the roots of violence in efforts to maintain Polish and Ukrainian dominance rather than in anti-Semitic hatred or revenge for communism. In doing so, it cuts through painful debates about relative victimhood that are driven more by metaphysical beliefs in Jewish culpability than empirical evidence of perpetrators and victims. Pogroms, they conclude, were difficult to start, and local conditions in most places prevented their outbreak despite a general anti-Semitism and the collapse of the central state. Kopstein and Wittenberg shed new light on the sources of mass ethnic violence and the ways in which such gruesome acts might be avoided. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/military-history

Why do pogroms occur in some localities and not in others? Jeffrey S. Kopstein and Jason Wittenberg examine a particularly brutal wave of violence that occurred across hundreds of predominantly Polish and Ukrainian communities in the aftermath of the Nazi invasion of the Soviet Union. The authors note that while some communities erupted in anti-Jewish violence, most others remained quiescent. In fact, fewer than 10 percent of communities saw pogroms in 1941, and most ordinary gentiles never attacked Jews. Intimate Violence: Anti-Jewish Pogroms on the Eve of the Holocaust (Cornell UP, 2018) is a novel social-scientific explanation of ethnic violence and the Holocaust. It locates the roots of violence in efforts to maintain Polish and Ukrainian dominance rather than in anti-Semitic hatred or revenge for communism. In doing so, it cuts through painful debates about relative victimhood that are driven more by metaphysical beliefs in Jewish culpability than empirical evidence of perpetrators and victims. Pogroms, they conclude, were difficult to start, and local conditions in most places prevented their outbreak despite a general anti-Semitism and the collapse of the central state. Kopstein and Wittenberg shed new light on the sources of mass ethnic violence and the ways in which such gruesome acts might be avoided. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/political-science

Why do pogroms occur in some localities and not in others? Jeffrey S. Kopstein and Jason Wittenberg examine a particularly brutal wave of violence that occurred across hundreds of predominantly Polish and Ukrainian communities in the aftermath of the Nazi invasion of the Soviet Union. The authors note that while some communities erupted in anti-Jewish violence, most others remained quiescent. In fact, fewer than 10 percent of communities saw pogroms in 1941, and most ordinary gentiles never attacked Jews. Intimate Violence: Anti-Jewish Pogroms on the Eve of the Holocaust (Cornell UP, 2018) is a novel social-scientific explanation of ethnic violence and the Holocaust. It locates the roots of violence in efforts to maintain Polish and Ukrainian dominance rather than in anti-Semitic hatred or revenge for communism. In doing so, it cuts through painful debates about relative victimhood that are driven more by metaphysical beliefs in Jewish culpability than empirical evidence of perpetrators and victims. Pogroms, they conclude, were difficult to start, and local conditions in most places prevented their outbreak despite a general anti-Semitism and the collapse of the central state. Kopstein and Wittenberg shed new light on the sources of mass ethnic violence and the ways in which such gruesome acts might be avoided. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/german-studies

Why do pogroms occur in some localities and not in others? Jeffrey S. Kopstein and Jason Wittenberg examine a particularly brutal wave of violence that occurred across hundreds of predominantly Polish and Ukrainian communities in the aftermath of the Nazi invasion of the Soviet Union. The authors note that while some communities erupted in anti-Jewish violence, most others remained quiescent. In fact, fewer than 10 percent of communities saw pogroms in 1941, and most ordinary gentiles never attacked Jews. Intimate Violence: Anti-Jewish Pogroms on the Eve of the Holocaust (Cornell UP, 2018) is a novel social-scientific explanation of ethnic violence and the Holocaust. It locates the roots of violence in efforts to maintain Polish and Ukrainian dominance rather than in anti-Semitic hatred or revenge for communism. In doing so, it cuts through painful debates about relative victimhood that are driven more by metaphysical beliefs in Jewish culpability than empirical evidence of perpetrators and victims. Pogroms, they conclude, were difficult to start, and local conditions in most places prevented their outbreak despite a general anti-Semitism and the collapse of the central state. Kopstein and Wittenberg shed new light on the sources of mass ethnic violence and the ways in which such gruesome acts might be avoided. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/jewish-studies

Why do pogroms occur in some localities and not in others? Jeffrey S. Kopstein and Jason Wittenberg examine a particularly brutal wave of violence that occurred across hundreds of predominantly Polish and Ukrainian communities in the aftermath of the Nazi invasion of the Soviet Union. The authors note that while some communities erupted in anti-Jewish violence, most others remained quiescent. In fact, fewer than 10 percent of communities saw pogroms in 1941, and most ordinary gentiles never attacked Jews. Intimate Violence: Anti-Jewish Pogroms on the Eve of the Holocaust (Cornell UP, 2018) is a novel social-scientific explanation of ethnic violence and the Holocaust. It locates the roots of violence in efforts to maintain Polish and Ukrainian dominance rather than in anti-Semitic hatred or revenge for communism. In doing so, it cuts through painful debates about relative victimhood that are driven more by metaphysical beliefs in Jewish culpability than empirical evidence of perpetrators and victims. Pogroms, they conclude, were difficult to start, and local conditions in most places prevented their outbreak despite a general anti-Semitism and the collapse of the central state. Kopstein and Wittenberg shed new light on the sources of mass ethnic violence and the ways in which such gruesome acts might be avoided. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/genocide-studies

Why do pogroms occur in some localities and not in others? Jeffrey S. Kopstein and Jason Wittenberg examine a particularly brutal wave of violence that occurred across hundreds of predominantly Polish and Ukrainian communities in the aftermath of the Nazi invasion of the Soviet Union. The authors note that while some communities erupted in anti-Jewish violence, most others remained quiescent. In fact, fewer than 10 percent of communities saw pogroms in 1941, and most ordinary gentiles never attacked Jews. Intimate Violence: Anti-Jewish Pogroms on the Eve of the Holocaust (Cornell UP, 2018) is a novel social-scientific explanation of ethnic violence and the Holocaust. It locates the roots of violence in efforts to maintain Polish and Ukrainian dominance rather than in anti-Semitic hatred or revenge for communism. In doing so, it cuts through painful debates about relative victimhood that are driven more by metaphysical beliefs in Jewish culpability than empirical evidence of perpetrators and victims. Pogroms, they conclude, were difficult to start, and local conditions in most places prevented their outbreak despite a general anti-Semitism and the collapse of the central state. Kopstein and Wittenberg shed new light on the sources of mass ethnic violence and the ways in which such gruesome acts might be avoided. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/russian-studies

Why do pogroms occur in some localities and not in others? Jeffrey S. Kopstein and Jason Wittenberg examine a particularly brutal wave of violence that occurred across hundreds of predominantly Polish and Ukrainian communities in the aftermath of the Nazi invasion of the Soviet Union. The authors note that while some communities erupted in anti-Jewish violence, most others remained quiescent. In fact, fewer than 10 percent of communities saw pogroms in 1941, and most ordinary gentiles never attacked Jews. Intimate Violence: Anti-Jewish Pogroms on the Eve of the Holocaust (Cornell UP, 2018) is a novel social-scientific explanation of ethnic violence and the Holocaust. It locates the roots of violence in efforts to maintain Polish and Ukrainian dominance rather than in anti-Semitic hatred or revenge for communism. In doing so, it cuts through painful debates about relative victimhood that are driven more by metaphysical beliefs in Jewish culpability than empirical evidence of perpetrators and victims. Pogroms, they conclude, were difficult to start, and local conditions in most places prevented their outbreak despite a general anti-Semitism and the collapse of the central state. Kopstein and Wittenberg shed new light on the sources of mass ethnic violence and the ways in which such gruesome acts might be avoided. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/eastern-european-studies

Why do pogroms occur in some localities and not in others? Jeffrey S. Kopstein and Jason Wittenberg examine a particularly brutal wave of violence that occurred across hundreds of predominantly Polish and Ukrainian communities in the aftermath of the Nazi invasion of the Soviet Union. The authors note that while some communities erupted in anti-Jewish violence, most others remained quiescent. In fact, fewer than 10 percent of communities saw pogroms in 1941, and most ordinary gentiles never attacked Jews. Intimate Violence: Anti-Jewish Pogroms on the Eve of the Holocaust (Cornell UP, 2018) is a novel social-scientific explanation of ethnic violence and the Holocaust. It locates the roots of violence in efforts to maintain Polish and Ukrainian dominance rather than in anti-Semitic hatred or revenge for communism. In doing so, it cuts through painful debates about relative victimhood that are driven more by metaphysical beliefs in Jewish culpability than empirical evidence of perpetrators and victims. Pogroms, they conclude, were difficult to start, and local conditions in most places prevented their outbreak despite a general anti-Semitism and the collapse of the central state. Kopstein and Wittenberg shed new light on the sources of mass ethnic violence and the ways in which such gruesome acts might be avoided. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do pogroms occur in some localities and not in others? Jeffrey S. Kopstein and Jason Wittenberg examine a particularly brutal wave of violence that occurred across hundreds of predominantly Polish and Ukrainian communities in the aftermath of the Nazi invasion of the Soviet Union. The authors note that while some communities erupted in anti-Jewish violence, most others remained quiescent. In fact, fewer than 10 percent of communities saw pogroms in 1941, and most ordinary gentiles never attacked Jews. Intimate Violence: Anti-Jewish Pogroms on the Eve of the Holocaust (Cornell UP, 2018) is a novel social-scientific explanation of ethnic violence and the Holocaust. It locates the roots of violence in efforts to maintain Polish and Ukrainian dominance rather than in anti-Semitic hatred or revenge for communism. In doing so, it cuts through painful debates about relative victimhood that are driven more by metaphysical beliefs in Jewish culpability than empirical evidence of perpetrators and victims. Pogroms, they conclude, were difficult to start, and local conditions in most places prevented their outbreak despite a general anti-Semitism and the collapse of the central state. Kopstein and Wittenberg shed new light on the sources of mass ethnic violence and the ways in which such gruesome acts might be avoided. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Award-winning filmmaker Tanya Selvaratnam bravely recounts the intimate abuse she suffered from former New York State Attorney General Eric Schneiderman, using her story as a prism to examine the domestic violence crisis plaguing America. Her book is called Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence.. She and Farnoosh discuss the inadequate accountability of powerful abusive men and advice for victims of abuse. If you or someone you know needs immediate help, please reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE. More about Tanya Selvaratnam: She is a writer and an Emmy-nominated and multiple Webby-winning producer. She is the Senior Director, Gender Justice Narratives for the Pop Culture Collaborative; and the author of THE BIG LIE. Her essays have been published in the New York Times, Vogue, Glamour, ELLE, Cosmo, CNN, NBC News, and McSweeney's Internet Tendency. Want more articles and videos by Farnoosh? Check out www.cnet.com/somoney. Subscribe to her weekly So Money newsletter for the latest updates and advice. Catch her weekly money videos on YouTube. Post navigation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tanya Selvaratnam, author of "Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence," joins Jess and Zerlina on the show to discuss Domestic Violence Awareness Month and what you can do to help yourself or others who may be facing abuse.

‘Intimate Violence' is a term that is not well known. Tanya Selvaratnam is changing that in a big way. Her recently published memoir ‘Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence' is her story. A story of a committed relationship and the 'intimate violence' she endured. Meet the woman who helped bring down former NYC Attorney General, Eric Schneiderman. Tanya met Schneiderman at the Democratic National Convention. It started off as a fairytale romance that quickly turned into a nightmare.

In the second episode of our Author Snack Series, we're sharing a bite-sized interview with Tanya Selvaratnam - artist, Emmy-nominated producer and author. We talk to Tanya about her new book, “Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence” about her abusive relationship with then New York Attorney General Eric Schneiderman. We hear about her struggle to come forward, how she reclaimed her feeling of safety, and why bystanders need to become upstanders. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

In the fall of 2017, the #MeToo movement became a national force, outing men who for sexual abuse, assault, and harassment. At the time, artist and film producer Tanya Selvaratnam was dating one of the movement's most vocal and effective male allies-New York Attorney General Eric Schneiderman, known for filing charges against Hollywood's Harvey Weinstein. And at the time, Schniederman was also regularly abusing and assaulting Selvaratnam.rnrnIn 2018, in the pages of The New Yorker, Selvaratnam went public with the abuse and assaults she had suffered at Schneiderman's hands. The disclosure was especially challenging, given Schneiderman's role as a public advocate and as New York's top law enforcement official.rnrnHers was a high profile case, but it is not unique. Intimate partner violence is one of the biggest threats American women face today. According to a 2017 Center for Disease Control report, roughly one in three women has experienced stalking or physical, sexual, financial, and/or emotional violence by an intimate partner in her lifetime. That number is far higher for women of color, and incidences of intimate partner violence surged during the COVID-19 pandemic due to increased stress and trauma, economic hardship, imposed isolation, and decreased access to community and faith-based support. And, because abuse within the context of a consensual heterosexual relationship is often shrouded in secrecy and hidden behind closed doors, experts believe there many more instances that go unreported. Selvaratnam tells her story in her new memoir Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence.rnrnJoin Selvaratnam and Melissa Graves, CEO of the Journey for Safety and Healing, for a conversation about the book and the deep, often hidden issues many women face.

Exiting abusive relationships can be extremely difficult — especially when your partner is extremely powerful. But that's what Tanya Selvaratnam did when she broke up with former New York Attorney General Eric Schneiderman. Unladylike senior producer Nora Ritchie talks to Tanya about how she got out; why she went public; and what she wants to accomplish with her memoir, Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Exiting abusive relationships can be extremely difficult — especially when your partner is extremely powerful. But that's what Tanya Selvaratnam did when she broke up with former New York Attorney General Eric Schneiderman. Unladylike senior producer Nora Ritchie talks to Tanya about how she got out; why she went public; and what she wants to accomplish with her memoir, Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Maria is joined by guest co-host Dr. Christina Greer, associate professor at Fordham University and co-host of the FAQ NYC and What’s In It For Us podcasts, to discuss the #MeToo Movement in light of the sexual harassment allegations against New York Governor Andrew Cuomo. They talk with Josefa Velásquez, senior reporter for The City, about covering the Cuomo administration and the recent scandals. They are also joined by Tanya Selvaratnam, author of her new memoir, "Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence" to talk about her decision to come forward about her past abusive relationship with former Attorney General of New York Eric Schneiderman. This episode was produced by our New York Women's Foundation IGNITE! Fellow, Lisa Salinas. If you or anyone you know is a survivor or has been a victim of sexual abuse, you can contact the National hotline operated by the RAINN at 800.656.HOPE. You can also search for a local center here. ITT Staff Picks: In a 2019 Vox interview Tarana Burke, the founder of the #MeToo Movement, discusses "preparing the next generation of survivors to do the transformational work of healing."This article for City & State New York details all of the sexual harassment allegations against New York Governor Cuomo.Joe Sexton, senior editor for ProPublica, writes about the Cuomo administration's nursing home scandal of undercounting the number of residents believed to have died from COVID-19. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Writing advice from Tanya Selvaratnam, an award-winning filmmaker and the author of the memoir Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence. * To listen to Tanya's full interview with host Zibby Owens on the podcast Moms Don't Have Time to Read Books, click here: https://apple.co/3w1FMdj * To read (or re-read!) this writing advice, click here: https://bit.ly/3tUSzwo * Want to buy ASSUME NOTHING? Click here: https://bit.ly/2ZZ2kwz * Feel inspired to write? Submit your work to Moms Don't Have Time to Write, a Medium publication. Guidelines here: https://bit.ly/3w1aQdi * Love what you hear? Subscribe! Give us a 5-star rating! Leave a comment!  * And please follow us on Instagram @momsdonthavetimetoreadbooks!

When it comes to raising the voices, power, and social influence of marginalized groups, people of color, women-identifying, and communities experiencing discrimination and exclusion, men are needed as allies in order to create a workplace and a world that works for all of us. During this powerful panel discussion with male allies, you will learn how to challenge, enroll, and take inspired action at work to support the global shift toward greater justice, equity, inclusion, and belonging. I’m joined today by four male allies who are calling in, challenging and using their voice, social capital and influence to support women, people of color, LGBTQ+ folks and marginalized identities. The panel includes Founder and CEO of Hummingbird Humanity Brian McComak; Head of Learning & Development at ReadySet Willie Jackson; Vice President Intel Corporation Operations General Manager Corporate Services Americas Manufacturing Operations Vince Gugliemetti and LinkedIn Principal Learning and Development Partner Kyle Grubman. Together we delve into the critical importance of showing up, speaking out, and championing the change that we need to see in the workplace and the world.   Key Takeaways: [1:46] Carley reflects on the critical importance of male allies in creating a culture of inclusion and belonging. [18:48] An introduction of each of the all-male panelists who embody the conscious and inclusive way of leading at work and in the world. [27:23] Carley shares the statistics and experiences that have brought the topic of male allyship to central importance to her. [35:12] Why is it so hard to speak up in a professional environment? Carley speaks to the factors that can prevent voices from speaking out and the covering that occurs in response to fear and shame lurking in the workplace. [38:22] What is male allyship and how is it different from simply being an ally? Vince reflects on his responsibility to educate himself as a male ally and Willie shares his definition of male allyship as both a marginalized and privileged male. [43:00] Kyle shares his desire to celebrate and champion women, the importance of validating others and also of challenging others to give up their privilege so that the real work can happen. [45:58] Brian reflects on the practice of allyship and the importance of amplifying the voices of others and how it shapes how all groups of people can experience the world. [47:23] The value of cultivating the inner game and reflecting it on the outside as a male ally in the workplace starts with amplifying all voices by creating opportunities for more people, taking up less space and offering credit to others. [56:55] Overcoming the sociocultural obstacles of the ‘man box’ starts with challenging the way that men are expected to show up in the world and removing yourself from spaces that don’t support your intentions. [1:01:25] Love needs to be the driving emotion at the core of every action we take, regardless of gender. [1:06:28] Curiosity can be harnessed to build connections and increase understanding. Perspectives from the LGBTQ+ and other URMs offer insights into how we can each show up as ourselves. [1:09:40] Practical ways that everyone can show up as their true self in order to grant permission to others to do the same. [1:15:56] Opportunities to get involved as an ally reveal blind spots, challenges long-held traditions and impacts lasting change. [1:18:18] How can leaders increase their vulnerability and take greater personal responsibility for how their actions impact others. [1:23:11] What steps does an inclusive leader take when someone needs to hear feedback on how their behavior is negatively impacting others? [1:26:25] How can the next generation be raised to be effective allies with less of a learning curve than we are currently facing? [1:30:08] Carley offers simple actions that will elevate the momentum of male allies and details the guests and topics of upcoming panel discussions.   Resources: Leading from Wholeness Carley Hauck on Instagram Carley Hauck on LinkedIn Lead From Light Daily Rituals Four Sigmatic — use discount code SHINE for 15% off Shinebook Sounds True Publishing Free Community Events Brian McComak Willie Jackson Vince Gugliemetti Kyle Grubman Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence by Tanya Selvaratnam  

Tanya Selvaratnam’s new book, Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence, speaks truth to power by exploring her journey through an abusive relationship with the very powerful politician, former NY Attorney General, Eric Schneiderman, who was forced to resign based on Tanya's revelations. Covered extensively in Time Magazine, The New Yorker and beyond, Tanya's narrative has created profound conversations about violence against women and the next phase of the #MeToo movement. Tanya is a writer, artist, and Emmy-nominated and multiple Webby-winning producer with more than twenty-five years of experience in the arts & social justice. Selvaratnam’s producing range includes films, branded content, live events, large-scale convenings, and exhibitions. Her films have played on HBO, PBS, Showtime, Vice, the Sundance Channel and more. Born in Sri Lanka and raised in the States, she is a cofounder w the artist Laurie Anderson and the producer Laura Michalchyshyn, of The Federation: a coalition of artists, organizations, and allies committed to keeping cultural borders open and showing how art unites us. She has also been an advisor and producer for For Freedoms. “My Swan Dive was writing this book, because it helped me write my way out of the darkness which I found myself in after I had come forward against the former New York State Attorney General in 2018. And, I was inspired to write the book because I had so many people reaching out to me sharing their own stories of intimate violence, and I decided I would write this book for them and also for the millions of people that experience it ... to take the reader along my journey from victim to survivor and thriver and, hopefully, help others find their light.” says Tanya.

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Film producer and activist Tanya Selvaratnam joins us to discuss her memoir, Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence, which details how her relationship with former New York State Attorney General Eric Schneiderman devolved into abuse and how she ultimately left the relationship and decided to share her story.

This week, Farai Chideya talks with Senator Elizabeth Warren about why she still pushes for student debt relief and an increased minimum wage, and why she believes these are racial-justice issues. Epidemiologist and Our Body Politic contributor Dr. Kavita Trivedi takes our most pressing questions about Covid-19 vaccinations. Film producer and author Tanya Selvaratnam discusses her new book “Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence.” Plus, our political roundtable with Errin Haines and special guest Brittany Packnett Cunningham, unpacks the racial resentment behind the aftermath of the January 6th insurrection, CPAC, and Senators’ grilling of the Biden-Harris Cabinet picks.EPISODE RUNDOWN0:59 Senator Elizabeth Warren talks about how her personal experience growing up “on the ragged edge of the middle class” informs her view of our current economic structures6:15 Black and Latinx students are disproportionately impacted by student loan debt, Senator Warren explains, which is why she says debt relief is a racial-justice issue.12:11 Dr. Kavita Trivedi explains in detail what you need to know about the protection the Covid-19 vaccine provides.15:39 The decline in Covid cases in the U.S. might be a hopeful sign as we aim for herd immunity, Dr. Trivedi says.22:06 Tanya Selvaratnam discusses why she wrote her new book, “Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence.”25:13 Selvaratnam says she talks about her experience with intimate partner violence to remove the stigma of being a survivor of abuse.30:41 “Sippin’ the Political Tea” guest Brittany Packnett Cunningham talks about her podcast, UNDISTRACTED.35:19 Errin Haines talks about the potential significance of Maya Wiley’s candidacy in the New York City mayoral race.36:04 Haines says the idea of “electability” hampers many minority candidates, including Black women who run for office, but that “electing somebody is what makes them electable!”37:56 Packnett Cunningham compares the lack of accountability for the January 6th, 2021, insurrection to decisions made in the post-Civil War era.40:12 “I'm less worried about Donald Trump running for reelection than I am about a kinder, gentler, ready-for-prime-time Donald Trump to run,” Packnett Cunningham says, about why it’s important to hold the former President accountable for his role in the insurrection.42:28 Packnett Cunningham says the real concern about elections should be around the unprecedented amount of voter suppression bills currently in state legislatures.44:50 Farai Chideya says fear of revenge from historically oppressed minorities may be a factor in the higher scrutiny several Biden-Harris Cabinet nominees are currently facing in the Senate.

[REBROADCAST FROM APRIL 13, 2020] Tanya Selvaratnam, author of the book Assume Nothing: A Memoir of Intimate Violence, discusses how the coronavirus crisis has impacted domestic violence victims.

Tanya Selvaratnam, author of the forthcoming Assume Nothing: A Memoir of Intimate Violence, discusses how the coronavirus crisis has impacted domestic violence victims.

When do people to commit mass violence against an ethnic, religious or racial group in their midst? Does the demand for minority rights inevitably spark existential fears and violent reactions from the majority group? In his book Intimate Violence, co-author Jeffrey Kopstein of University of California, Irvine looks at pogroms against the Jews of Poland to explain when and why ethnic violence occurs. This season of the Tel Aviv Review is made possible by The Van Leer Jerusalem Institute, which promotes humanistic, democratic, and liberal values in the social discourse in Israel.

In this seminar, Jia Xue discusses the current state of domestic violence law in China. In particular, she focuses on how this social issue transfers into a policy agenda. Jia draws on findings from her current project, which examines the use of social media in the context of intimate partner violence in China. Additionally, she introduces another project investigating the impact of intimate partner violence on mental health through the examination of Weibo messages (Chinese version of Twitter).   Jia Xue, Ph.D. Candidate in Social Welfare, University of Pennsylvania. Fellow, Carr Center for Human Rights

We hear from Bea, a member of Undercurrent. We have a wide ranging discussion about intimate violence which occurs in 1/3 of relationships in LGBTIQ+ communities: from 'love is love', the monster myth, beyond the necessity of consent, violence against women, to systems of oppression and prison abolition.*There is a mention of Reina Gosset on tbe extraction of black trans poor disabled life underpinning the creation of David France's 'fi'lm', The Life and Death of Marsha P Johnson.Events mentioned:Bahdoesa Tote TakeoverCocoa Butter ClubTwo steps on the water with boats launch

Learn the signs of an abuser and if you are a victim. You will get statistics and find out where to turn for help.

We discuss domestic violence awareness as well as feature Special Guest, Author and Domestic Violence Advocate and Overcomer Rhonda A. Thompson