Podcasts about mothers everywhere

    Being a mother is the most important job in the world. So why are moms given so little support, recognition, and respect? As a mom and a career woman, I've faced a double standard that men never even have to consider. I lost count of the number of people who questioned me about where my children were and who was taking care of them. Did my ex-husband ever face this kind of interrogation? Of course not. My experience isn't unique, moms across the country are burning the candle at both ends, excelling at their jobs in the workplace and taking on the tasks of childrearing like packing lunches and getting the kids to school.    Today I discuss the unfair treatment that mothers receive compared to fathers regarding childcare responsibilities. I discuss the difficulties women faced before the Me Too movement when they felt they couldn't speak up about sexual harassment. I share my own experiences as a working mother and the harsh double standards I faced that my ex-husband never had to deal with. I point out that women often take on the responsibility of caring for children while still trying to maintain a career. I also encourage you to reflect on your behavior towards mothers, recognize the difficulty of juggling a job and raising children, and thank the women in your life for what they do.   “We aren't fair to moms. We do not give mothers the same opportunities. They're just not available.” - Jennifer Nassour   This week on Political Contessa:   How America fails working mothers The challenges that working mothers face The double standards for mothers and fathers How to balance work life and motherhood How pay inequality hurts women     Awaken Your Inner Political Contessa   Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Political Contessa. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts.   Spotify I Stitcher I Apple Podcasts I iHeart Radio I TuneIn I Google Podcasts   Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media. And if you've ever considered running for office – or know a woman who should – head over to politicalcontessa.com to grab my quick guide, Secrets from the Campaign Trail. It will show you five signs to tell you you're ready to enter the political arena.    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A daughter's transition to adulthood can be even more stressful on mothers and daughters than the teen years. In this follow-up to her bestseller Dial Down the Drama, family therapist Colleen O'Grady helps you navigate this tumultuous time with an essential guidebook to this important stage of life and your evolving relationship. Colleen O'Grady Colleen O'Grady, MA, LPC is a licensed therapist and life coach who helps moms reduce drama, reclaim their lives, and dial up the dream with their teen and young adult. Colleen has a thriving private practice in Houston, TX and coaches' moms from around the world.After more than 50,000 hours of working with parents and teens -- and being a mom in the trenches with her own teenage daughter herself -- she published her best-selling book Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter----A Guide for Mothers Everywhere. Her latest release, Dial Up the Dream: Make Your Daughter's Journey to Adulthood the Best for Both of You (Page Two, May 1, 2022) is now available wherever books are sold.Colleen is also the creator of the Power Your Parenting: How to Reconnect with your Teen (and Reclaim Your Life). This is a seven-week program with like-minded moms designed to transform negative patterns (drama) into a healthy, fun, loving connection with your teen while you reclaim a life you love.Colleen has shared her message of practical hope with moms worldwide in Parents, The Wall Street Journal, popular parenting podcasts, and on the red carpet at TEDxWilmington. She is the host of the Power Your Parenting: Moms with Teens podcast, which has been ranked the number one podcast on parenting teens.www.colleenogrady.comPower Your Parenting: Moms with Teens (podcast)

Vogue just released a new cover image featuring Rihanna, A$AP Rocky, and their newborn son and Chrissie comments on the importance of how the image depicts motherhood. Dave Thornton also joins us to talk about his gripes with hecklers both on, and off the stage!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Raising teen girls can have its challenges, but if you know these secrets, you'll not only survive but be able to have a healthy relationship with your daughter. The secrets to raising teen girls are centered around communication. About Colleen O'Grady Colleen is a licensed therapist, coach, and trainer who helps moms reduce drama, reclaim their lives, and dial up the dream with their teen(s) and young adult(s). She has a thriving private practice in Houston, TX, and coaches oms from around the world. After 50,000 hours of working with parents and teens and being a mom in the trenches with her own teenage daughter, she published her award-winning and best-selling book Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter---A Guide for Mothers Everywhere. Her sequel, Dial-Up the Dream: Make Your Daughters Journey to Adulthood the Best for Both of You is also available wherever books are sold. Colleen has shared her message of practical hope with moms worldwide in Parents Magazine, Wall Street Journal Lunch Break, popular parenting podcasts, and on the red carpet at TEDx Wilmington. She is also the host of the Power Your Parenting: Moms with Teens podcast. Colleen started her journey as a youth minister. She was immersed in the world of teens. The teens thought she was a rockstar. She saw the great side of teens through this journey. Once she became a psychotherapist, she began seeing the worst of teens, and the hard stories of teenagers, and she had her own daughter. As she navigated her relationship with her daughter, she started studying neuroscience around our stress response. The human brain is not fully developed until the age of 25. Kids will mature at different rates, but no matter the rate of maturity, they are not able to make great decisions all the time. People often spend a lot of time in the fight, flight, or freeze mode because we don't know how to handle situations, both kids and adults. Staying calm amidst the drama Timing is everything. If your daughter is stressed, hungry, intoxicated, angry, or emotionally flooded, it is not the right time to have a conversation. Likewise, if you are in any of these states, it is not a good idea to have a conversation with your teen daughter. Give space instead of addressing things immediately. The contain the situation and talk later rule for raising teen girls Daughters are hard-wired for drama and are hard-wired to make mistakes. It is not personal when she acts out. It is a normal part of development. Therefore, it is important not to feel like a failure. Giving yourself time to calm yourself down is helpful for having a healthy relationship. Like with everything in life, it is important not to compare your daughter with other girls. Let them be who they are and discover themselves. Likewise, choose the battles versus focusing on the things that don't really matter. Perfectionism and raising teen girls As moms, we feel the need to be the perfect mom, and that our daughters need to be the perfect daughter. If we are feeling this way, we are going to make our daughters feel that we don't care about them, we only care about perfection. Drama kills the relationship. Therefore, it is important to dial down the drama to build a connection. Don't let the drama control the connection with your daughter. Be intentional about connection by dialing down the drama. If there is drama all the time, you will miss out on great moments with your daughter. Instead of being a monitor when raising teen girls, build in focused time to be present Get up, give me your phone, and go to bed, constantly being in this mode is just managing your teen. Take the monitor hat off and commit to being with your daughter for 20 minutes a day. Be the mom who she sees laugh. Be present for her at least 20 minutes a day. When she sees that you aren't always pouncing on her, she will let you in more and more of her life. Robyn emphasized that it is important for your daughter to know that she can come to you with anything and have a conversation about anything, versus them feeling afraid of being judged by us. This demonstrates acceptance of imperfection. When raising teen girls, the best way to discipline your teen is... Colleen suggested that the best way to discipline is in a way that will help your teen grow. If your teen was drinking at a party, ask what skills she needs in these situations. Did she succumb to peer pressure? Is there something else going on? Teach them skills to handle situations versus punishing them out of anger. Powerless and powerful messaging when raising teen girls We can empower our daughters, or we can take the power away depending on how we treat our daughters. An example, it feels selfish to take care of us or to put ourselves last. If we don't take care of ourselves, we are the worse version of mom for our daughters, and this will push them away. It is critical to be self-aware of your own emotions. When raising teen girls, it is important to note that a powerless message in their junior and senior years of high school is to focus more on their end goal for their future than to communicate and be in a relationship with them. There is such an emphasis on future focus and all we can see is the best college, applications, etc. It feels like as moms we must push them over the finish line, and then they'll say thank you. But if for two years we have the future focus, we miss out on the relationship and their well-being. It is best to have a holistic view of success. If your child gets into the ivy league schools but hates their life, that is not success. Make room for connection and pay attention to your daughter's well-being. Don't lose sight of well-being. Don't miss these years. Our children have a sense of pressure, and we don't need to add to that, especially if they already have anxiety. The six keys to healing conversations when raising teen girls Your daughter is not going to come to you and ask for a healing conversation. But, out of the blue, when they are in college, they will come to you and tell you everything that's wrong with you. It is easy to get upset, hurt, and angry. Mother's always get blamed. But when your daughter attacks you, it is really about her, her being stuck in her own life. Clear motive Having a clear motive is important so that you can pause and focus on why your daughter is hurting. Slow it down The second key is slow it down. Your teen will create a story about you and any situation. Slowing it down is saying “hold up, let's go back to “one thing” because there is a lot that you are saying, but let's go back to that one thing and fix that first. Be curious Listening with curiosity is the next step. This means putting judgment aside. Our defensive reaction is” you are so immature”, or “you are so entitled”. Instead, say “so tell me what happened that made you think that I don't care about you, I would love to know about that”. Your curiosity will soften her anger. Then you can have a conversation. Take time This may seem counterintuitive. But instead of having multiple conversations going in one text, have one-topic conversations. And a lot of them. This will prove less overwhelming and result in less anger and overwhelming for both of you. Own our part This applies to high school and middle school. The first place we go to as a mother is to say that is so wrong or so rude. But often times this results in the teen getting more defensive and angrier. Maybe you know that your daughter is 99% wrong, but if you own your part, even if only 1%, it will make it easier for you and a big difference for her. If she says that you are so stressed, or afraid recognize how you are feeling. Respond with “you know when you said I was stressed, I am sorry that I was so intense. You may trigger your daughter to apologize and say she was hard on you too. When we own our own part, our daughters may soften and own their part as well. This may feel like defeat, but it is about healing. A heartfelt apology We can give a really lousy apology like okay, I'm sorry but... A heartfelt apology is when you pray, meditate, and give yourself time to understand it. It takes empathy to see it from her perspective and context. And express this to her and tell her what you are going to do to be more mindful going forward. Don't miss the moments when raising teens When your teen wants to talk or share something, don't let the moments go by without engaging with her. When you stop and listen, you will create amazing memories. Learn more about Colleen O'Grady and connect with her:   Website for Colleen O'Grady Dial Down the Drama Book Dial-Up the Dream Book Facebook Instagram LinkedIn Power Your Parenting: Moms with Teens Podcast If you or your teen are experiencing anxiety, download my free eBook on Alleviating Anxiety by Developing Health Habits for a Healthy Mind.

This week on Imperfect we're celebrating mothers everywhere, with our Mother's Day Special!

This is it. This is where the fun begins. Sydney and Pat spend Mother's Day celebrating their mother-son relationship, reminiscing on Coachella, chatting almond butter and exploring the multiverse. So, yeah. This one gets weird.

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In this episode, I will be discussing: First, I want to give a belated Mother's Day Shout Out to all the Mothers Everywhere. We wouldn't be in existence without our Mothers. I love you, Momma! Welp, now we done got that out the way! TOPICS discussed in this show: ** THE NEW MR TRIPLE DOUBLE KING! RUSSELL WESTBROOK! -- Breaks Oscar Robertson's triple double record! -- 182 total triple doubles! -- MOST IN NBA HISTORY! -- HATERS GON HATE! **CELTICS JAYLEN BROWN OUT FOR THE SEASON? -- apparent wrist injury **LAKESHOW NEWS: AD IS BACK; LEBRON RETURNS TUESDAY vs. KNICKS -- Lakers are trying to avoid play-in game **TIM TEBOW TO PLAY TE FOR JAGUARS -- played QB for Meyer at Florida -- currently a NCAA football analyst * *AARON RODGERS' SCUFFLE WITH PACKERS FRONT OFFICE. **DEVANTE ADAMS RETHINKING HIS CAREER IN GREEN BAY? -- whats REALLY goin on in LAMBO? -- FIRE THE DAMN GM!! **CHAD JOHNSON DECLINES UNDER CARD FIGHT vs. PACMAN JONES -- Chad, you have lost the last little respect that I did have left for you. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/undrafted-allstarz/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/undrafted-allstarz/support

May 9, 2021--“Hear Ye, Hear Ye!”…“Radio Ha Ha For Kids” (And Their Families & Friends) celebrates “Mothers Everywhere” with host Jim Beatty, The Dancing Grandpa. Featuring songs, dance, stories, the “listening game”, fun facts, & more, “Radio Ha Ha For Kids” is listening fun for everyone, young, old and in between. Tune in live and dance, sing and play every Sunday at NOON on KZYX and Z. It sounds like FUN!

The decorated American sprinter on being a mother, an athlete, and an advocate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A radical mother is a woman poised in her power ready to disrupt cycles of generational trauma running through her family like wildfire. She's working to improve her life, the lives of her children, and shape the landscape of her community. If that's you - you're in the right place. This podcast is designed to connect you with resources, inspiration, and the reminder that you are not alone as you embark on your journey of radical mothering.In today's episode...I discuss why I'm so upset about the recent reports of excess heavy metals in baby food (and it's not why you think). I also discuss...The common frustration toddler moms everywhere feel when these reports come out.How even little things feel like BIG things during this pandemic.Coming to terms with the difference between who we expected to be as mothers and who we are as mothers.Why the shame & blame game in the mommy world need to be redirected.How we've outsourced the work of the village to corporations and what that means for us as mothers.For the full show notes, including transcript head to -->https://christagowen.com/podcast-heavymetals/The US House of Representatives Baby Food Staff Report:https://oversight.house.gov/sites/democrats.oversight.house.gov/files/2021-02-04%20ECP%20Baby%20Food%20Staff%20Report.pdfNews Article About the Heavy Metal in Baby Food:https://www.parents.com/recipes/scoop-on-food/clean-label-project-study-finds-contaminants-in-formula-baby-food/To connect deeper, join the "virtual village" on Facebook at --> facebook.com/groups/theradicalmothervillageFollow me on Instagram --> instagram.com/radicalmothervillageGrab a FREE copy of the Radical Mother's Balance Blueprint --> christabevan.com/balanceGet started with a free 20-minute consult to see how I can support you on your journey of mothering radically --> http://christabevan.com/free-20-minute-phone-consultI'm your host Christa Bevan and I'm a certified TRE provider (which stands for tension & trauma releasing exercises), trauma-informed yoga instructor, and also a dynamic self-care coach for moms. And of course, a fellow radical mother. My approach to this work blends neuroscience-backed tools and heart-centered intuition.

We all can, and need to do more for others.  "Your life does not get better by chance; It gets better by change."  - Jim Rohn from Kevin McCaskill via LinkedIn --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/aaron-polansky/message

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An episode dedicated to mothers featuring one of the sick and shut-in church mothers from my church. As one of my guests mentions, mothers are essential workers and we appreciate them highly! To hear the shorter version including a song by said church mother, click here --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/diane-stafford/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/diane-stafford/support

Celebrating our Mothers! Honoring steadfast, praying and strong women of God. We love, endur, we hurt, and yes we make mistakes. Let forgive ourselves and move on. God's got it and you too. Celebrate yourself! You earned it. Blessings Always! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/barbara-tamaklo/support

Author John Trent, PhD shares the power of blessing and practical ways mothers bless their kids at every age. Encouraging! Happy Mother’s Day to Mothers Everywhere!

Rebecca began her career as an on-air radio personality in Tampa, Florida. She relocated to Albuquerque in 2003 and fell in love with the Southwest, later moving to the mountains of Red River to pursue her passion for destination marketing as the Tourism and Economic Development Director. She leveraged her background in communications to unify her community’s hospitality partners, draft dynamic programming to attract a record number of visitors, and lure large-scale events to spur economic development. With Rebecca at the helm, Red River was awarded six Tourism Industry Association Recognition Awards in four years. She served as the Chair of the Enchanted Circle Marketing Cooperative and was an Executive Committee member of the Tourism Association of New Mexico. In 2013 Rebecca was named New Mexico’s Tourism Professional of the Year, and in April 2014 she relocated to the New Mexico Tourism Department as Communications Director. In January 2015 Governor Susana Martinez appointed Rebecca as the Cabinet Secretary of the Tourism Department. Under her leadership the department achieved unprecedented success in increasing visitation through the New Mexico True brand advertising campaign, which was shown to deliver a 7:1 ROI at the tax base level (Longwoods Intl 2015). In 2017, American Mothers, Inc., the national nonprofit organization known for honoring the contributions of mothers who make a positive impact in the world, named Rebecca National Mother of the Year®. She began her service to the organization as a member of the Board of Directors, and was named Chief Executive Officer in January 2019. Rebecca is a proud wife and mother who loves God and is addicted to social media. She wears multiple gardening and being outdoors with her family

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland compares the love of a mother to the love that the Savior has for each of us.

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Get ready, Modern Lovers! Tonight we're tackling an issue that's bedeviling mothers everywhere: how do you deal with the precious daughter you brought into the world when she starts to see you as her archenemy? Colleen O'Grady is the author of Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter -- -- A Guide for Mothers Everywhere. Colleen is also a seasoned licensed marriage and family therapist for 25 years; nineteen of those she trained psychiatry and psychology residents in both the child and adolescent department at major hospitals. Colleen, known as an expert on teens in her community, found her real expertise was earned in the trenches with her own teenage daughter. Now, Colleen is changing mother-daughter relationships around the world with her Power YourParenting programs, podcast and workshops. Her website is www.colleenogrady.com.

Welcome to the Real Fast Results podcast!  You have made a wise decision to join in today because it is our honor and privilege to bring for the words and advice of Mr. Jack Canfield.  In this episode, Jack is going to share how to develop a bestseller mindset.  According to Jack, there’s a lot that goes into creating a bestseller, but most importantly, you have to have the right outlook.  As you probably know, this man has been able to accomplish more than most people could even dream of.  Let’s see what he has to say… Benefits to Having a Bestseller Mindset For me, it has meant selling nearly 500 million books around the world.  I’ve had 47 books on the New York Times Bestseller List, and I have been able to travel to 47 different countries and give workshops.  As a result, I was in the movie The Secret, and I’ve had lunch at The White House.  I hang out with people like Jeff Bridges, and Chaka Khan, people like that who are celebrity friends that I have now.  And, you know, I’ve personally been able to stand on the first base line at a Dodger’s baseball game.  I’ve had meetings with Bill Clinton, and John Gray, and I could just go down the list of fun things that have happened for me. Most important is the ability to make an impact in the lives of other people.  I can remember being in a hotel in New York and watching this girl walk in with a bald head, probably about 12 or 13, obviously doing chemotherapy.  I walked up to her, and I said, “I wanted to tell you that I’m supportive of you. I’m Jack Canfield.”  “Oh my God!  You’re the Chicken Soup for the Soul guy.  I’ve read Chicken Soup for the Recovering Soul,  Chicken Soup for the Teen Soul, Chicken Soup for the Cancer Patient Soul…”  And, you just go like, “Wow!  I’m making a difference in the lives of others.”  That’s what really matters, the impact you can have. Achieving a Bestseller Mindset, from a Big Picture Standpoint You have to believe that it’s possible for you to have something really important to say, and that you have the ability to say it.  So, a lot of it is self-esteem, self-concept, and belief in yourself.  Then, I think most people don’t think big enough.  One of the quotes that I have in my book, The Success Principles, is by General Wesley Clark, who used to be the head of the NATO forces in Europe for the United States.  He said that it doesn’t take any more effort to dream a bigger dream than it does to dream a small dream.  In other words, you can think of five zeros after a one, or six zeros after a one, or eight zeros after a one, in terms of your income and in terms of impact. I just set a goal to train one million trainers to do my work by the year 2030.  People think I’m crazy, but we’ve already trained 1,500 people since last November and certified them.  So, we now have people in 79 countries teaching our work.  When I told my publisher, we wanted to sell a billion books by 2020, he thought we were freaking crazy.  We’ve sold a half a billion books, and it’s only 2016.  The “hockey stick curve” is taking off. You have to dream big and believe big, and I think you also have to have an attitude and a mindset that it’s going to take work.  You have to learn how to market, you have to learn how to do a podcast, you have to learn how to be on Good Morning America.  You have to learn how to do internet marketing.  You have to have a mindset of studying.  You have to be willing to learn. Quincy Jones, who’s 83 years old, the producer of Michael Jackson, “We Are the World”, The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, etc., said something.  He said that when he decided to do television, he went to UCLA, and this was in the 60’s or 70’s, but he said that he took six months of courses in screenwriting, producing, and directing.  He said that every field has a structure and a science to it, and you have to study that if you want to be successful, whether it’s music theory, how to be a bestselling author, etc. What is the craft of being a good writer?  What is the willingness to get feedback?  You have to be able to get feedback. One of the things that I tell people all of the time is that most books get published when people have read them: The writer, the wife/husband, the acquisition editor at the house.  Well, with Chicken Soup for the Soul, we had 40 people read every story and grade them on a scale of 1-10.  We put that on an Excel spreadsheet, and everything that averaged less than a 9 never made it into the book, including stories that I wrote. It’s like you have to have the willingness to get feedback and get off your ego trip as well. How Can I Make Myself Feel Like I’m Worthy of a Bestseller? Here’s the deal.  Everybody has a message.  Every life has lessons that people have learned. You have to be willing to share that, and if you are willing to be clear that you have something valuable. Now, if you don’t work on yourself, if you don’t do self-introspection, if you don’t take seminars, if you don’t do therapy, if you don’t meditate, etc, your awareness of what you know and how much you know is going to be limited.  So, #1, you have to be somewhat committed to growth, somewhat committed to constantly learning and never-ending improvement.  CANI, as Tony Robbins likes to say. The reality is that you’ve got to be a learner, and then you share what you’ve learned. The belief is that you’ve got something of value. Mark Victor Hansen used to always say to me, when we were co-authors of Chicken Soup for the Soul… I’d say something, and he’d say, “You have to write that down.  Write a blog.  Write a chapter.”  I’d say, “Mark everyone knows that,” and he’d say, “No Jack, they don’t.”  Often, we figure that everyone knows what we know, and the fact is that we all have a lot of unique knowledge. I think that whether it’s through affirmations, through meditation, whatever it may be, you’ve got to start with the idea that, “I have something to share, and I am worthy of success.”  My wife is writing a memoir right now, and she has had some amazing lessons in her life.  She’s so afraid that people are going to judge her for where she used to be in the earlier chapters of her book. I told her, “I’m going to steal the freaking manuscript and publish it behind your back if you don’t publish it because it’s so good.” I think the main thing is to have other people read what you’re writing, and they’ll tell you if it’s good or not.  It doesn’t mean that you don’t have something to say, it just means you haven’t written it yet.  Most people, the feedback they get is, “Oh my God!  This is so valuable,” or “Oh my God!  I wish I had read this book 20 years ago.” I was counseling some writers the other day, and one of the women had written a book called: Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter--A Guide for Mothers Everywhere.  She is a woman who was a child psychologist, and she was working with lots of, I think, 20,000 teenagers, but when her daughter hit 12, it was like “Uh-oh”.  Now she’s in it, right?  So, she negotiated those teenage years.  Her daughter is now 20, and she wrote a book based on her experience.  The only people who are going to be interested in that book are going to be mothers with daughters, but that’s a lot of people. You may be someone who had a special needs child, and you had to learn how to negotiate the educational system.  That’s a valuable message.  You may be a meditation teacher, but you’re only going to attract a certain kind of person.  Maybe they’re Christians, maybe they’re Buddhists, maybe they’re teenagers that are getting off drugs, but everybody has a group that will resonate with your message.  You have to believe that.  Also, don’t compare yourself to someone who has a universal message, like the Dalai Lama, Tony Robbins, Lisa Nichols, The Secret.  You know, we’re not all meant to be billion dollar bestsellers, but we’re all meant to get our message out there and be bestsellers in certain categories, for sure. The Path to Feeling Worthy First of all, you can’t feel worthy or unworthy.  You feel mad, sad, glad, and scared.  That’s it.  What you think is that you’re unworthy.  So really, you have to address your thoughts.  Self-esteem comes from the Latin word “aestimare”, which means to estimate.  We either estimate that we’re good or we estimate that we’re bad.  It is a thought.  It is a thought that most of us picked up either from our parents telling us, “You’ll never amount to anything,” or “You’re a bad kid,” or we made a decision because we got rejected by our girlfriend, we didn’t make the debate team, we didn’t get into Harvard, you know, whatever.  Then, we tell ourselves, “I’m not okay,” or “I’m bad.” You know, maybe you had an abortion when you were 16 and now you’re judging yourself as a bad person, but that’s you making a judgement.  The fact is that you can simply replace that thought with another better-feeling thought.  So, it’s a matter of repetition.  Thoughts are things we think, and we can change them or replace them through repetition.  I don’t know if you’re familiar with EFT tapping, where you tap on these 9 acupuncture points while you think your negative, limiting belief.  Literally, you can disappear a limiting belief.  I’ve seen people do it in 10 minutes or less, using tapping. I wrote a book called Tapping Into Ultimate Success about tapping with a tapping expert. You can go on YouTube and type in “tapping”, and there’s like 5,000 free YouTube videos teaching you how to tap.  But, the main thing is that it is a choice.  You do not have to suffer with low self-esteem anymore because it is simply a thought that can be replaced with another thought through repetition, through tapping, through self-hypnosis; there are a number of things you can do. Bestseller Mindset: Write the Book Well, I think it’s simply, you have to write the book.  And, part of the mindset has to be, “I’m going to do whatever it takes to make it good.” That’s where I really am a big believer in feedback.  I know one couple who wrote a business book, and they invited 15 people to come to their apartment in Aspen.  Every morning they had to read a chapter and give them feedback, and in the afternoon, the other people went skiing, and they edited the chapter based on the feedback.  The next morning, they did another chapter. What we did was send our stories to our 40-reader panel.  Urban, rural, black, white, brown, Asian, old, young, conservative, liberal, independent. You know, trying to get a really universal feedback thing.  Most people are afraid to put it out because they are afraid of what they’re going to hear.  Treat everything as a first draft.  Just get words on paper, and then you can go back yourself and edit it, like, a week or two later, when you’ve got some distance.  Then, give it to people and let them bleed all over it.  You’re not in school, you’re not going to get a grade, you’re not going to fail.  You’re just going to get feedback.  “Here’s where I’m confused,” “You said this in another chapter,” “I don’t know what you mean here.”  You know, that’s how you make it better. The guys who wrote The One Minute Manager, they would take their book, print 5,000 copies, sell them for cost to all of their clients, get feedback, and only then would they rewrite it and send it to a publisher.  You’ve got to be committed to doing the work, and again, your message is worth the work because once it gets out there, it’s going to last forever.  We all have life lessons that someone coming along behind us can benefit from.  Whether it’s an 80-page book or a 500-page book, it doesn’t really matter.  What matters is getting your message out there. I think another thing you have to deal with, in terms of a bestseller mindset, is you’ve got to get over your fear of rejection because you’re going to get rejected by editors that are going to acquire your book, the publishers.  You’re going to be rejected by people who won’t have you on their podcast.  You are going to have people read your book and give you critical reviews.  But, you’re going to reach so many more people.  I just did a book called The 30-Day Sobriety Solution.  It came out in January.  It’s got 95 reviews on Amazon.  Ninety-three of them are five-star reviews, and three of them are one-star reviews.  So, you’re always going to have people that are going to go, “This doesn’t work.  These guys are full of it.”  You’ve got to develop a thick skin. Your message isn’t for everybody.  You know, if I had a message for fundamentalist Christians, that might turn off the New-Agers living in San Francisco.   If I had a new age message, it might turn people off, you know, going to Joel Osteen’s church in Texas.  So, you’re not going to please everybody, and you just have to confront that.  Get over that fear. Really spend time on getting a great title.  You know, the “Chicken Soup for the Soul” title came in a meditation.  Originally, we got rejected by a lot of people, but that title is now a brand worth almost a billion dollars.  You know, there’s “Chicken Soup for the Soul” cat food and dog food.  It’s ridiculous what has happened with that, and we actually won a brand management award in Asia for the best brand in books and so forth. I was counseling some people that were writing a book, and it was about how to avoid your children, declaring you incompetent and assigning you to an insane asylum so that they can take your wealth.  They had some big, legalistic title that nobody would pay any attention to.  We ended up with, “How to Protect Yourself from Your Own Children in Old Age”.  So, people are like, “Stop.  What is that?  I want to know what that is.”  Really invest in a good title.  Sometimes you might have to pay a consultant to brainstorm with you. Your book is going to be sitting on a table somewhere, or spine out on a shelf.  You want something that’s going to grab you.  We did a lot of research on titles.  You can actually muscle test titles.  Put covers of a book in front of somebody and have them muscle test it.  If they go weak when you push down their arm, when they’re looking at your book, they won't but it. They will look at that cover, and they won’t know why they didn’t buy it, but they won’t buy it. We had a guy that had a book called Dumpster Diving for Wealth.  People were throwing away valuable things in their dumpsters, and the cover was a guy’s butt sticking out of a dumpster.  Everyone we tested with that cover went weak.  When we took the guy out of the dumpster and had him standing next to it with something valuable, everyone tested strong.  Nobody wanted their face in a garbage bin, basically.  So, there are a lot of tricks like that you can learn along the way.  You’re sending a message to people emotionally, and you don’t even know you’re doing it.  That’s, I think, a critical piece of it too. Another thing is to set big goals.  You’ve got to dream big.  Set a big goal.  We set a goal to sell a million and a half books in a year and a half, and our publisher laughed at us.  He said, “You’ll be lucky to sell 20,000.”  We said, “No.  We’re going to visualize it.  We’re going to affirm it.”  We put mock New York Times headlines all around our office.  You know, “Chicken Soup for the Soul Sells 1.5 Million”.  We made up fake bestseller lists with our book #1 in the New York Times.  Now you can do it on your computer, but then we did it with whiteout, back in 1993. You have to have that big dream, and then visualize it.  We used to visualize bookstore windows where the whole window was filled with Chicken Soup books, just like you see them when the new Harry Potter book comes out.  Well, three years later there were bookstores with whole windows full of Chicken Soup books.  People underestimate visualization.  See, you want to live in that dream as if it’s already true.  This is basic “Law of Attraction 101”, but it works. Visualizing There are two things that are important:  You want to have a vision board where you have some external images.  For example, you sitting next to Oprah.  You can Photoshop it.  I just was on Super Soul Sunday in December; I had Oprah on my vision board for a year before that.  I wanted to be on Super Soul Sunday, so I had that, and in September I get a call out of the blue.  We weren’t even talking to our editors and producers.  Images of a headline with how many books you’ve sold.  Pictures of your books you can mock up.  You can go on Fiverr and have someone for $5 make all kinds of images for you. Then, what you want to do is maybe have 3x5 cards, or index cards, with your affirmations.  “I’m so happy and grateful that I’ve sold a million copies of Real Fast Writing,” or whatever it is. You read your affirmation with enthusiasm, close your eyes, and then visualize what you would see from inside your eyes as if you were looking out at the world, with some iconic image that says, “I’ve made it.”  So, whether it’s the $1,000,000 check, the headline, your cover on Writer’s Digest.  You know, Success Magazine or whatever it might be.  Visualize that, and feel the feelings that you would feel if you already had that experience. The feelings are the gas.  The feelings are the turbocharger.  It’s like a car.  The destination, you put in Waves or your GPS, is the goal.  The gas that moves the car forward is your emotions.  So, feel the emotions strongly, believe it’s possible, and do that for a couple of minutes.  Then you just go live your day, but pay attention because you’re going to get downloads of ideas. I was over in Hawaii, after the first Chicken Soup for the Soul book came out.  I was in Turtle Bay Hilton.  I remember this, and I was visualizing our book having sold over a million copies.  And, I did that for about seven minutes.  I was just really into it, and then I came out, and all of the sudden I was just flooded with ideas.  “What if you put a book in the back of every limo driving to LAX?”  And, the limo driver, he would start to read the book, and the person would say, “Where can I get this?”  The limo driver says, “I’ve got a box in my back car.”  You know, “Sixteen dollars, you’ve got one.” What if they were in every salon where people are waiting for their nails and their hair to dry?  They could sell them to the people there.  Well, we had sales people going into every salon on Ventura Blvd selling our books.  Doctor’s offices, Chiropractors’ offices. We were in bakeries, Shell stations, etc.  Places where you wouldn’t expect to find books, which we later called “bypass marketing,” bypassing the book stores.  Now we have Amazon, and websites, and all that stuff.  That wasn’t available to us in 1993.  So, those ideas will start to come, and then you have to act on them.  That’s another thing about the mindset; it has to be an action-oriented mindset. I always say, “Birthing the book is the feminine quality.  Marketing the book is the masculine quality.”  A lot of people give birth to their book, but then they put it in the dumpster behind the hospital.  They don’t raise it.  I actually have a son who wrote about getting through his drug experiences as a teenager, called Long Past Stopping.  It’s a fabulous book, and he refused to do media.  He was just too shy, and the book never did well. You know, here I am, his father, teaching him all of this stuff, but he was so shy and so afraid of rejection, he wouldn’t do it.  You’ve got to do the sales stuff.  You’ve got to get out there and talk about your books. Additional Steps: Marketing I have a handout that I give out at writer’s workshops called, “How to Market a Bestselling Book”.  There are 37 steps, which we don’t have time for.  Just some other steps that are important. Read books on marketing. John Kremer wrote a great book called 1,001 Ways to Market Your Books.  Well, when we did Chicken, we took about 900 of those, that we thought were relevant, and made a Post-it for each one. I had two staff people writing them for days.  We put them on a wall, about 12 feet long, and every day we took a Post-it off and did it.  It took us two years to get through all those post-its, but by the end of that, we were #1 on the New York Times list and we stayed there for three years.  Then, the second book came out, and it was #2.  It was there for three years.  At one point, we had #1, #2, and #3 on the New York Times list because we kept doing those things. I think hiring a media coach [is important] because most of us don’t know how to make good media; there are secrets to that.  I’ll give you one.  John Gray taught me this--the guy [who wrote] Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.  You talk about that your life’s going along at a certain level, then something bad happens.  You have an accident, you get cancer, your daughter gets pregnant, you lose your job, bankruptcy happens, you lose your mortgage. Then you’re down in the pits, down here.  Then you discover something that gets you out of the pit. My book, The Success Principles, may have helped you, and for someone else, it may have been a book on cancer, or nutrition, or how to eat holistically.  Then, when you put that into action, not only did you get better, you got better than you were before.  Now, you’re up here, and this thing you discovered is what my book is about, and it’s going to help you because you’re down here and you’re in the same situation.  You don’t know what to do with your kid, you’re divorced, you’re laid off, you just got a new job as a manager and you don’t know what the hell you’re doing.  That’s what my book will teach you to do.  That little model will get you through any talk show, any podcast, and people will identify with you because they identify being down in that crater. I’ve got this great idea, and everyone tells me I should write a book.  Now I’m depressed because I don’t know what to do. They discover you, and you help them get their book written.  Now they’re up here, and they’re wealthy, and they’re on Oprah.  So, it’s that kind of a thing, and you have to have your little success stories.  You can tell them not just about your own life, but about all the people that you’ve helped so far with this methodology, technique, book, or whatever it might be. There are other points like, “How do you get on the covers of magazines,” and “How do you get in the airline magazines?”  The world today is a podcast world.  Tim Ferriss, who wrote The 4-Hour Work Week, understood that very quickly.  Bloggers and Podcasters are the new book tour.  So, you have to know how to play in that world and become one so that you have the respect of the other people.  Tim started forwarding everyone’s blogs a year before his book came out.  I actually mentored him in the writing of his book.  He’s now far surpassed me in the marketing side for, you know, the younger generation.  But, the reality is that you should study the people that have been successful. As Tony Robbins says, “Success leaves clues.”  I’ve left clues. John Kremer is leaving clues.  There are a lot of people who are bestsellers leaving clues.  So study that.  I watch an hour of Ted Talks, and podcasts, and YouTube videos every single day.  There’s so much information out there that we have to be lifelong learners. Here’s a real cool thing one of my friends does.  He does a three-minute video blog every single day.  He was here in my house a couple of weeks ago.  He was in the guest room, I thought, and I walk into my office, and he has his camera out, and he’s going, “I’m in Jack Canfield’s office, and if you’ll notice, there’s 3,000 books in here.  Leaders are readers.  Look at all of these books.  You need to be reading.  By the way, one of the books you need to read is…” And then he promoted some book.  He does this sort of thing every single day. He went from having 600 people at his workshops to 800, to 1,000, every single day, all around the world.  When I met him, he was making $140,000 a year.  He makes over a million a year now.  Again, he took a little course with me on how to be a bestseller, and then he applied this one technique better than anyone I know, and he’s got a huge following. Learning More From Jack I just want to say one thing about the Bestseller Blueprint.  I got together with Steve Harrison, and we, not only with myself, but with about 10 other bestsellers, we put together a course, literally from A-Z. The course teaches you everything you need to know about how to write the book, how to name the chapters so that they become hooks for the media, how to market the book, how to get on radio shows, how to get magazine interviews, etc. I mean, there’s so much in there. So, I really want to encourage people to check that out, and you can just go to BestsellerBlueprint.com.  Go to JackCanfield.com for my workshops.  I do two “Break Through to Success” seminars every year, and then we are doing some one-day workshops around the world.  We have books, and tapes, and all of that good stuff.  But, my parting line would be this: “You have everything you need to do everything you want.  All you have to do is believe that and take action on that.  And, if you follow the principles of taking action, responding to feedback, and continuing on and never giving up, you can achieve every goal you want in life.  I’m proof of that, and there’s millions of people around the world that are proof of that.” Resources: Some of Jack's Books: Chicken Soup for the Soul Chicken Soup for the Recovering Soul Chicken Soup for the Teen Soul Chicken Soup for the Cancer Patient Soul The Success Principles Tapping Into Ultimate Success Other Books Jack Mentioned: Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter-- A Guide for Mothers Everywhere. The One Minute Manager Long Past Stopping 1,001 Ways to Market Your Books The 4-Hour Work Week Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus Real Fast Results Community If you are diggin’ on this stuff and really love what we’re doing here at Real Fast Results, would you please do me a favor? Head on over to iTunes, and make sure that you subscribe to this show, download it, and rate & review it. That would be an awesome thing. Of course, we also want to know your results. Please share those results with us at http://www.realfastresults.com/results. As always, go make results happen!

This episode comes from the fourth chapter in my book Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting to Your Teenage Daughter---A Guide for Mothers Everywhere. Today we are going to discuss why your clarity matters. Your clarity is huge. Without it you can't parent effectively or enjoy your life. See your teenage daughter (or son) is clear about what they want. They may not be clear about when their history project is due but they are clear about what they want to do the next weekend. Often we lose our clarity because we live our lives at 90 miles per hour. We may accomplish lots of things on our to-do lists, but we can end up in a huge fog. What happens when foggy mom meets clear daughter. Well clarity trumps fog every time. It's time to get on the road to clarity which starts with understanding how you lost it in the first place. Next you need to know where you are, (which takes courage and honesty) to get where you want to go. This can be overwhelming for a lot of moms. You may feel like you  have no idea what you want. Don't worry we can start small. I'll give you practical ways to tap into your clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Read My Lips Radio – February 1, 2016 guests: Michelle Lobdell and Colleen O'Grady Michelle Lobdell – author of the upcoming Real Men...Love their Wives – has spent 5 years researching and interviewing couples to create RomanceMadeEZ.com (RME), an answer to the devastation of disconnected marriages and divorce. Tune in for Michelle's advice: ** Men: Make Your Relationship “Valentines Day” Proof. ** Why 70% of Divorces Are Filed by Women: WAKE UP, HUSBANDS!  ** How the “Hook Up” Culture is Ruining Lives and Relationships ** Husbands: How to Turn Your Nagging Wife Into a Purring Kitten ** Wives: How to Turn Your Husband Back Into the Romantic Guy You Married … and more. Colleen O'Grady – author of Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter, A Guide for Mothers Everywhere – is a licensed marriage and family therapist, life coach, and workshop leader, and a mom-in-the-trenches raising her own teenage daughter. Despite being an “expert”  in parenting theories , Colleen was shocked at how easily she got hooked in her daughter’s drama. Colleen discovered the missing pieces to having a healthy connection with her teenage daughter—and these same principles became the framework for her Power Your Parenting programs, blog, podcast, and weekly e-zine, that help mothers and daughters around the world.

Thank you for joining us on The Michael Dresser Show! Today we welcome these guests to our show:Tami West, Ph.D.: Author of the upcoming book, "Risky Relaxation: What Every Woman Needs to Know About Managing Stress," http://www.tamiwest.comToby Haberkorn: Author of "When My Granny Forgets, I Remember: A Child's Perspective on Dementia," http://www.tobyhaberkorn.comColleen O'Grady: Author of "Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter - A Guide for Mothers Everywhere," http://www.colleenogrady.comT J Woodward: Author of "Conscious Being: Awakening to Your True Nature," http://www.consciousbeingbook.com Thank you for joining us today on The Michael Dresser Show.http://www.MichaelDresserShow.com

Thank you for joining us on The Michael Dresser Show! Today we welcome these guests to our show:Tami West, Ph.D.: Author of the upcoming book, "Risky Relaxation: What Every Woman Needs to Know About Managing Stress," http://www.tamiwest.comToby Haberkorn: Author of "When My Granny Forgets, I Remember: A Child's Perspective on Dementia," http://www.tobyhaberkorn.comColleen O'Grady: Author of "Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter - A Guide for Mothers Everywhere," http://www.colleenogrady.comT J Woodward: Author of "Conscious Being: Awakening to Your True Nature," http://www.consciousbeingbook.com Thank you for joining us today on The Michael Dresser Show.http://www.MichaelDresserShow.com

A short Mother's Day commentary by Kim Greenhouse.

Steve celebrates mother's day for mothers everywhere, looks back on the life of Jade Goody, looks through the papers with Chris Hawkins and celebrates 50 years of Paddington with his creator Michael Bond