Take A Mental Load Off

Episode Summary: In this episode, we explore the unexpected power of service—how showing up for others can be grounding, energizing, and deeply fulfilling, even when life feels overwhelming. From hilarious mishaps to heartfelt moments, we share personal stories that highlight why meaningful service starts with observation, connection, and the courage to both give and receive. Timeline Summary: [1:15] - The joy and awkwardness of being served—and why we often resist it [4:38] - That time my neighbor did my laundry... yes, even the underwear drawer [7:12] - How serving others can energize us instead of drain us [11:05] - The emotional reset that comes from showing up for someone in pain [17:43] - Why true service is 90% observation and listening [23:26] - The everyday miracles of being supported during a crisis [29:18] - Teaching my kids that service is uncomfortable—and beautiful [34:55] - Reframing service as connection, not performance Closing Remarks: If this episode made you laugh, cry, or reflect on the power of showing up, would you do us a favor? Rate, follow, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. And hey, maybe share it with someone who's always there for you. Because when we share stories like these, we build community—and that's what it's all about.

Episode Summary: In this episode, Rachel and Shauna talk about a major mindset shift around letting go of the need to "judge" or control everything. Whether it's kids fighting, work stress, or imaginary deadlines we put on ourselves, we explore how stepping back can actually create more peace, connection, and personal growth. We also share real examples from our own lives, including parenting moments, professional challenges, and daily mental battles, and why choosing curiosity over control is so freeing. Timeline Summary: [1:12] - Shauna notices how often she unnecessarily steps in to "fix" her kids' conflicts [5:44] - Rachel shares a story about trusting her child's ability to assess his own safety [10:30] - Why we don't need to give kids a list of ideas when they say they're bored [14:25] - Shauna opens up about the burnout of trying to protect others from "bad" interpreters [18:02] - How trying to change someone's opinion drains energy and creates resentment [21:30] - Practical ways we're shifting from obligation to choice in everyday parenting Closing Remark: Thanks for listening! If today's episode helped shift your mindset even a little, please take a second to rate, follow, share, and review the podcast. It really helps us keep these conversations going. See you next time!

Today Shauna is sharing a conversation she had with her 9-year-old that helped her explain what the mental load of motherhood really feels like—and how something that seems small can actually be a lot when it's stacked on top of everything else. From prepping for church to managing her jam-packed family calendar, she opens up about the invisible work that often goes unnoticed and how we're learning to communicate better as a family. We also talk about a recent miscommunication with Colby that turned into an important moment of growth for both of them—and a reminder that taking something off our plate isn't as simple as it might look. If you've ever felt like everyone's “shortcut,” this episode will hit home. Episode Highlights [1:12] - Explaining the mental load with a stack-of-paper analogy [4:50] - The invisible to-do list running through my brain on a typical Sunday [9:03] - Teaching kids to help without adding more to my plate [14:15] - How we've evolved our family calendar (and why I love the Skylight) [18:47] - The “just tell me” moment with Colby that led to a deeper convo [24:10] - Why being everyone's go-to resource can feel more draining than helpful [28:35] - Lightening the mental load vs. stretching your capacity Links & Resources Skylight Calendar – Shauna's favorite family tool for syncing schedules, chores, and more If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to rate, follow, share, and review! Your support helps the podcast reach more moms (and dads!) doing the invisible work every day.

In this episode, we are sharing some of our favorite tools and strategies for building trust, responsibility, and emotional resilience in our kids—without shame or labels. From how Shauna uses her Skylight Calendar to manage chores and rewards, to navigating honesty, sneaky behavior, and those classic “he said, she said” moments, we're getting real about what's working (and what definitely hasn't). We'll also dig into how lying is actually a developmental milestone (yep, for real), and how to have meaningful, shame-free conversations that build connection and long-term character. If you've ever wondered how to help your kids be more honest, while keeping the peace at home, this one's for you. ⏱️ Episode Highlights [2:05] - Why we love the Skylight Calendar for family organization and chore tracking [6:40] - How our kids earn, spend, and (accidentally) hack their star rewards [11:55] - Lessons learned from sneaky behavior and “resetting” the system with consequences [17:10] - Why lying isn't bad—it's actually part of healthy brain development [23:20] - Tools we use to build trust, including our cotton ball trust jars [30:45] - How to call out behavior without shaming or labeling kids [38:10] - Finding everyday teachable moments and modeling emotional resilience If this episode made you think—or laugh—please follow, rate, and share it with a friend. Your support helps the show grow and helps more parents feel empowered in the messy middle of raising good humans.

In this episode, Shauna opens up about a recent experience that challenged the way she thinks about grief, emotional capacity, and the constant comparison we all fall into. From a funeral that stirred unexpected emotions to a family trip that left Rachel feeling “less than,” we share how we're learning to validate our feelings and recognize that capacity is personal—and always shifting. If you've ever told yourself you “shouldn't” feel a certain way, or felt guilt over not being able to do more, this episode is your reminder that pain doesn't need to be ranked, and you don't need to earn rest or compassion. Your experience is enough.

This week, Rachel hit her first hard pass as a mom: playing Pokémon. Yep, she's officially found the one thing her kids are obsessed with that she just cannot get behind—and she's letting herself be okay with that. In this episode, we share why this moment hit deeper than expected and how it's opened up a conversation about identity, motherhood, and the tricky transition of letting go. ⏱️ Episode Timeline Highlights [1:05] – Why Pokémon is my personal nightmare (and my parenting boundary) [4:12] – When your kid's interest doesn't align with yours—and what to do about it [7:58] – A quick look at child development stages and why space might be good [12:30] – Grieving the shift from being their everything to stepping back [17:44] – The identity crisis of being a “solo supermom” when that's no longer the case [22:19] – Learning to enjoy the free time—and let it reshape who I am   Enjoyed this episode? If this one hit home, we'd love for you to follow, rate, and leave a quick review. And hey—send it to another parent who might need permission to not care about Pokémon today.

In this episode, Rachel and Shauna unpack the messy emotions around doing “too much” or “not enough” as a parent. We talk about how guilt and resentment can be helpful signals, explore Erikson's stages of development, and share how our different parenting values play out in everyday choices. This is one of those honest, back-and-forth chats that'll have you thinking about your own version of medium vs. maximum. ⏳ Episode Highlights & Time Stamps [3:10] – What guilt and resentment are really trying to tell us [7:45] – Erikson's stages of development and how they show up in parenting [13:20] – Independence vs. obedience: how our values influence everyday decisions [17:30] – Feeling the call to “go maximum” (or step back to medium) [24:05] – Why overcorrecting from guilt sends mixed signals to our kids [31:40] – 15 minutes a day: the power of intentional time [36:15] – Letting emotions guide us without letting them take the wheel

Episode Summary: Mom guilt is real, but are we being too hard on ourselves? In this episode, we dive into the tension between sacrifice and self-care, exploring why we feel guilty even when we're spending plenty of time with our kids. We share personal experiences with working motherhood, homeschooling, and shifting seasons of parenting—plus, a reality check on what enough really looks like. Whether you struggle with overextending yourself or wonder if you're doing too little, this conversation will help you rethink balance in a way that actually works. Episode Highlights: [0:45] – Are we sounding too unbalanced when talking about self-care? [4:30] – The guilt of working and feeling like it's never enough [9:10] – Breaking down the actual hours we spend with our kids (it's more than we think!) [15:20] – How different seasons of motherhood shape our time and priorities [22:40] – Why “just a mom” is the biggest lie we tell ourselves [28:15] – The role of resentment in motherhood and what it's trying to tell us Enjoyed this episode? If this conversation resonated with you, we'd love for you to share it with a friend, leave a review, or subscribe so you never miss an episode. Your support helps us keep these honest and heartfelt discussions coming! ❤️

IEPs (Individualized Education Plans) can feel overwhelming, but understanding them is crucial for advocating for your child's education. In this episode, I share my personal experience navigating the IEP system for my son, Eli, and the key lessons I've learned along the way. From early intervention to working with (or pushing back on) schools, I'll break down what every parent needs to know to ensure their child gets the right support. We'll cover how IEPs are determined, the role of advocates, common pitfalls to avoid, and how to make sure your child's accommodations actually help them progress. If you've ever felt lost in the system, this episode will give you the confidence and tools to navigate it like a pro. Episode Highlights: [02:10] – What is an IEP, and who qualifies for one? [07:25] – Understanding autism classifications and their impact on education [21:15] – The testing process: How schools determine eligibility for an IEP [35:10] – Why every parent should consider bringing an advocate [42:25] – The mistake I made that almost cost my son crucial support [50:10] – The difference between an IEP and a 504 plan   If this episode helped you, please rate, review, and share the podcast! Your support helps more parents access this important information.

Episode Summary: Why do we stay up late, even when we're completely drained? In this episode, we unpack the real reasons behind bedtime procrastination—whether it's the need for "me time," avoiding emotions, or not aligning with our natural energy cycles. We also explore how rest during your menstrual cycle can improve overall sleep, plus practical ways to reset your nighttime routine. If you're tired of being tired, this episode is for you! Episode Highlights: [1:45] – The struggle of wanting "me time" vs. needing sleep [4:30] – Are you avoiding emotions by staying up late? [9:15] – How your menstrual cycle affects rest and reflection [14:40] – Letting go of old habits to create space for new goals [18:20] – The science behind why sun exposure helps sleep [20:10] – Practical tips to reset your sleep schedule Links & Resources:

Episode Summary: Ever notice how kids will do anything to avoid going to sleep? Turns out, we do the same thing—just in different ways. In this episode, we explore why we resist things we know are good for us, from sleep to simple habits like taking vitamins or getting outside. We dive into the emotional roadblocks behind avoidance, how it sneaks into our daily lives, and what we can do to shift our mindset. If you've ever caught yourself procrastinating something for no good reason, this one's for you! Episode Highlights: [1:45] - The bedtime excuses kids use (and why they fight sleep so hard) [5:30] - How adults avoid sleep and other beneficial habits [10:15] - The hidden emotional reasons behind avoidance [15:40] - When avoiding something actually makes it worse (hello, chaos!) [20:00] - A mindset shift: running toward what we want instead of away from what we don't Links & Resources: Listen to our Problem-Solving Episode for more on overcoming mental roadblocks Interested in learning more about sleep habits? Check out this resource on sleep hygiene from Holistic Health Educators. Enjoyed this episode? If this resonated with you, please rate, review, and share the podcast! Your support helps us keep these conversations going.

Lessons from Loss, Legacy & Self-Care Losing her grandmother and aunt over the past two years has made Rachel reflect on the legacy we leave behind and what she wants her kids to remember about her. So often, we hear about women being praised for their selflessness, but is that really the goal? In this episode, we dive into family stories, breaking generational patterns, and how prioritizing joy over exhaustion can change everything. Episode Highlights:

Hey, my little darlings! Today I, Shauna, am bringing you my very first solo episode! With Valentine's Day around the corner, I'm diving into what it means to celebrate when your partner's unpredictable schedule doesn't always align with the holiday. In this episode, I share my perspective on flexibility, mindset shifts, and communication strategies that can help make Valentine's Day—or any holiday—meaningful, no matter the circumstances.  Episode Highlights [1:30] – Why I'm recording from my minivan and why I love it so much. [4:15] – My childhood Valentine's Day tradition (featuring roly-poly potatoes). [7:20] – The key to a stress-free holiday: Flexibility. [10:40] – How shifting your mindset changes everything. [14:55] – The power of interpreting your partner's actions with kindness. [19:10] – Why clear, direct communication makes all the difference. [22:05] – A little love note to my husband—because he deserves it. ❤️ Final Thoughts The true measure of love isn't in a holiday—it's in the everyday moments and the way we show up for each other. If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review! Love you, bye!

Episode Summary: Valentine's Day isn't just for couples—it can be a time for self-love, family traditions, and authentic celebration. In this episode, I share my journey with Valentine's Day, from childhood crushes to navigating it in a marriage where holidays weren't celebrated, and now, as a mom creating meaningful traditions. Whether you're single, in a complicated relationship, or just looking for a new way to celebrate, I offer ideas for making the day special—without the pressure. Let's rethink Valentine's Day in a way that feels true to you! Episode Highlights:

Summary This episode is all about the importance of mentorship—not just for our kids, but for the kids around us. Shauna reflects on lessons from inspiring mentors, like President Sabe. We explore how small, intentional interactions with kids can create lasting impact, and why being present and caring matters more than perfection. Whether it's building a network of trusted adults for your children or becoming a mentor yourself, this conversation is packed with tips and heartfelt stories to inspire you. Episode Highlights [3:05] – President Sabe's lessons on family, career, and priorities. [7:12] – "You love Mom more than me": A story about love, relationships, and parenting choices. [13:30] – How a middle school flute teacher became a mentor. [18:22] – Why 10 intentional minutes with kids can make all the difference. [22:45] – Parenting without control: Influence through connection. [27:15] – The value of making kids feel seen and respected. [34:50] – How to intentionally be a mentor to the children in your life.   Closing Thoughts This episode is your reminder to take small steps toward building meaningful relationships with the kids in your life. Whether it's your own children, your nieces and nephews, or the kids in your community, you have the ability to make a lasting impact. And don't forget, the small things—like nicknames, a few minutes of undivided attention, or simply listening—can be the most impactful. If you enjoyed this episode, I'd love it if you shared it with a friend or left a review! Don't forget to rate, follow, and subscribe to the show so you never miss an episode. Let's keep building those connections—one conversation at a time. See you next week!

Episode Summary: In this lively episode, we dive into Shauna's story as the youngest of six siblings with a larger-than-life personality. From hilarious childhood moments and sibling dynamics to her lifelong dream of motherhood, Shauna reflects on how these experiences shaped her. She also shares how her bond with nieces and nephews guided her parenting philosophy and led to the discovery of her calling as a sign language interpreter. Packed with humor, heart, and valuable insights, this episode is a celebration of family and self-discovery. Episode Highlights: [1:45] - Growing up as the youngest of six: A big personality in a busy household. [5:10] - Childhood stories: Declaring "the batteries are dead" and family dynamics. [9:00] - Navigating the label of "dramatic" and the impact on self-expression. [12:30] - Finding a balance between authenticity and earning approval. [15:40] - Shauna's deep love for her nieces and nephews and early parenting theories. [18:05] - The life-changing moment that sparked her career as a sign language interpreter. Links & Resources: "Let's Fix the Kids" by James Jones – Parenting course Shauna references The Color Code Personality Test – A tool that influenced Shauna's early parenting philosophy Closing Note: Thanks for listening! If Shauna's story inspired you, share it with someone who would love it too. Don't forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast—it helps others find the show. See you next time!

Building Immunity and Letting Go of Sick Season Stress In this episode, we share practical tips for navigating sick days with your kids, along with why our kids getting sick is not a failure. Whether you're dealing with runny noses or unexpected tantrums, this conversation will help you approach sick days with confidence and calm.   Timeline Summary [2:18] – Why getting sick is essential for building immunity. [8:45] – Mindset shifts: Embracing sick days as part of childhood. [14:32] – My go-to natural remedies and why sugar matters. [23:05] – Supporting your kids' immune system with warmth, hydration, and nutrition. [32:48] – Tips for managing fevers without panic. [39:22] – The emotional side of illness: Building resilience in kids. [42:50] – A reframe: Behavior and symptoms as helpful information. Links & Resources Book Mentioned: Smart Medicine for a Healthier Child Dr. Christopher's Kid-E Herbs (for immune support) Herbally Grounded (natural health store) Closing Thoughts When the inevitable sick days come, remember: you're doing great, and your child's body is designed to handle this. By staying calm, informed, and intentional, you're building their resilience and fostering a stronger bond. If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to rate, review, and share with another parent who needs this reminder today. See you next time!

Summary: Do you ever find yourself caught between anxiety and intuition? In this episode, we share about trusting the universe/God and recognizing the difference between panic-driven thoughts and genuine prompts to act. Through personal stories and real-life moments, we explore how to let go of unnecessary worry, embrace intuition, and find peace in knowing things will work out as they're meant to. Episode Highlights: [2:15] - The urge to check if your baby is breathing. [7:30] - Recognizing the difference between intuition and anxiety. [10:45] - A life-saving poolside moment driven by instinct. [14:10] - Why letting kids learn on their own is essential.   Thank you for tuning in! If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to rate, follow, and share the podcast. Your support helps us reach more listeners who can benefit from these insights! See you next time!

Happy New Year Friends!   Enjoy highlights from TWO of our top listened to episodes!    Happy New Year and thank you for being a part of the 'Take A Mental Load Off' family. We love this community we are building together. 

Episode Summary: This week, we're taking a step back from the hustle and bustle of the holiday season with a lighthearted and relatable Medium Club Christmas episode! Let's face it: the holidays are a lot—on top of our already full plates. In this short but sweet episode, I'm bringing a mix of humor, validation, and a fun “Never Have I Ever” holiday edition game to remind us that it's okay to embrace imperfection. So grab your earbuds, take a breather, and let's share some laughs! Highlights: [1:00] - A Christmas joke to kick off the episode with some laughs. [3:12] - Why Christmas feels extra (and why that's okay). [5:45] - “Never Have I Ever” holiday edition begins—put those fingers up! [8:30] - From reusing gift bags to forgetting hidden presents—relatable holiday confessions. [10:15] - Embracing hiccups as part of holiday memory-making. [11:50] - A heartfelt reminder to give yourself permission to rest and enjoy the season. Closing Note: If this episode brought you a smile or reminded you to ease up on the holiday pressure, please consider rating, reviewing, and sharing the podcast. Wishing you a Merry Christmas filled with laughter, rest, and maybe a few perfectly imperfect moments!

Episode Summary In this episode, we're tackling a topic that every woman needs to hear: how resting during your period can transform your energy and mental clarity—not just for the day, but for your entire cycle. I share practical strategies to help you prioritize rest, reduce burnout, and find balance during the busiest times of the year. Learn how simple shifts during your period can build momentum for sustained energy and leave you feeling recharged, not depleted. Timeline Highlights [3:15] - Breaking down the phases of the menstrual cycle and their impact on energy. [10:45] - Why resting during the menstrual phase builds long-term energy momentum. [18:30] - How daily and menstrual cycles interact—and why women's energy isn't the same every day. [26:12] - The importance of sleep quality and why hours before midnight are the most restorative. [34:20] - Practical tips for reducing guilt around rest and the surprising role of mindset. [38:45] - How to use tools like period tracking apps and moon cycles to identify your energy patterns. Links & Resources Period tracking apps (e.g., Flo, Clue, MyFlo): Tools for tracking your cycle and moods. Closing Remarks This episode is your permission slip to rest and recharge without guilt. By honoring the natural rhythms of your body, you can experience more energy, mental clarity, and resilience—not just during the holidays, but all year long. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, follow, and share with someone who might need this reminder too. See you next time!

Summary: In this episode, we dive into the art of navigating uncomfortable conversations with grace and intention. Whether it's setting boundaries at family dinners, addressing unsolicited advice, or handling tricky workplace dynamics, we explore strategies to maintain your peace while advocating for yourself. From lighthearted comebacks to serious boundary-setting techniques, we share actionable tools to help you pre-game your responses and approach these moments with confidence. Tune in for thoughtful insights, personal anecdotes, and practical advice that will leave you feeling empowered to handle even the most awkward exchanges. Timeline Highlights: [0:55] - Why intent and delivery matter in challenging conversations. [3:40] - Exploring the concept of pre-assignment control for better responses. [8:15] - Playful yet effective comebacks to common unsolicited questions. [14:30] - The importance of stating boundaries and knowing how to enforce them. [21:10] - Teaching kids to advocate for physical boundaries and self-respect. [27:45] - Using humor and tact to redirect awkward or invasive comments. Links & Resources: Jody Moore's Better Than Happy Podcast (Referenced for boundary-setting strategies). DM us on Instagram @TakeAMentalLoadOff for personalized advice on navigating tough conversations. Closing Remarks: We hope this episode equips you with the tools and confidence to navigate your next challenging conversation. If you found this helpful, please take a moment to rate, follow, and review the podcast—it helps us reach more listeners like you! Don't forget to share this episode with someone who could use a little encouragement in handling uncomfortable situations. See you next time!

Episode Summary In this lighthearted episode, we're sharing more about our personal lives—what it was like growing up in a big family, how those experiences shaped Rachel, and the lessons we've carried into parenting. With funny memories, heartfelt reflections, and some laughs along the way, it's a chance to get to know us a little better while breaking up the heavier content. Episode Highlights [1:12] - Growing up in a big family and the chaos of six siblings. [5:47] - A funny moment before a major family event. [10:22] - Being the “third parent” as the eldest sibling. [15:37] - Shifting from bossy kid to gentle parenting. [20:11] - Reconnecting with siblings as an adult. Links & Resources Follow us on Instagram for more stories and insights: @takeamentalloadoff Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, follow, and leave a review. Don't forget to share it with a friend—see you next time!

Episode Summary: In this episode, we're talking about the fine line between helping out of love and overstepping out of fear. Inspired by a thought-provoking quote from The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz, we explore how letting our kids and partners take on their own challenges can build resilience and lighten our mental load. We dive into the concept of “crop rotation” for our minds—learning when to give ourselves a break so we can keep going strong. This is all about cultivating independence, trust, and respect in our relationships while giving ourselves the space to thrive. Episode Highlights: [1:10] - Powerful quote from The Mastery of Love: distinguishing compassion from pity in parenting [6:30] - When helping becomes overstepping: how fear sneaks into our support [13:20] - Crop rotation for the mind: learning to rest certain “fields” in our lives [20:05] - Allowing kids to problem-solve and the impact on their resilience [29:15] - Lightening our mental load by letting partners and kids handle their own responsibilities Links & Resources: The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz   Thank you for listening! If this episode was helpful, please remember to rate, follow, and share the podcast. Let's keep growing together!

Episode Summary In this episode, we explore the art of letting our kids face challenges to build resilience, using the analogy of a tree growing stronger roots when exposed to the wind. We dive into why allowing our kids to navigate adversity helps them grow into confident, capable adults, and how to balance support without overprotecting. You'll hear stories, practical insights, and reflections on how even small challenges help our kids develop essential life skills. It's a thoughtful look at parenting with intention and purpose. Timeline Summary [1:05] - How resilience grows through adversity: the tree and wind analogy [5:12] - Setting up kids for long-term growth, not just short-term comfort [9:47] - Practical ways to support kids without shielding them from every challenge [14:20] - Recognizing true threats vs. perceived dangers in parenting [18:33] - Familiarity as safety: how our brains react to new challenges [22:15] - Building confidence and independence by letting kids problem-solve Closing Remark Thank you for joining us on this journey into resilient parenting! If you enjoyed the episode, don't forget to rate, follow, and share the podcast with fellow parents and friends.

Episode Summary: In this heartfelt follow-up, we share a new perspective on managing seasonal depression and the challenges of parenting through it. We discuss how vulnerability and adversity can foster growth, both in ourselves and our children, and reflect on the balance between protecting kids from pain and allowing them to build resilience. Through personal stories and honest insights, we explore how embracing imperfections can ultimately help us all become our best selves. Timeline of Highlights [1:10] - Revisiting seasonal depression: effects on family dynamics and personal struggles [3:45] - Insights from Inside Out: the transformative power of sadness and vulnerability [7:20] - Adversity as a tool for growth: reframing suffering as a path to connection [11:00] - Balancing guilt with accountability: navigating emotional outbursts and repair [15:15] - Conversation with Misty: seeing challenges as character-building moments for kids [20:30] - Reflecting on childhood experiences and the impact of unpredictability at home [25:00] - Embracing resilience in parenting: allowing kids to struggle and grow Links & Resources Inside Out (movie) – A thought-provoking look at emotional complexity and personal growth “I Wish You Pain” by Andy Grammer – A song with powerful lyrics about resilience and growth

Ever wondered how seasonal depression really feels beyond the usual stereotypes? In this episode, Shauna opens up about her experience with seasonal affective disorder (SAD) and sheds light on its lesser-known symptoms, like sudden irritability and frustration, that often catch people off guard. Together, we unpack how seasonal shifts can affect mental health, why recognizing patterns in our moods can be a game-changer, and how we use practical tools to help navigate this annual challenge. We share personal insights on how SAD & depression manifests in daily life, along with actionable steps for staying present and grounded, even when patience and energy feel depleted. Tune in for an honest look at the ups and downs of living with SAD and tips for making it through the darker seasons with resilience. Episode Highlights [3:05] - First signs of SAD and how it took me by surprise [8:40] - Irritability as a symptom of depression—why it's often overlooked [15:20] - How SAD affects family dynamics and ways to keep connections strong [26:35] - The importance of setting boundaries and protecting mental well-being [35:50] - Creating routines that help with stability and resilience [45:10] - Recognizing and managing seasonal triggers before they take hold Links & Resources Holistic Health Educators - A resource for exploring alternative health practices. Recommended Supplements: Vitamin D, B12, and additional protein sources. Suggested Essential Oils: White Angelica for calm and motivation. Thank you for tuning in! If you found value in this conversation, please take a moment to rate, follow, or share this episode. Together, let's keep raising awareness about mental health and supporting one another.

Episode Summary: In this episode, Rachel opens up about the guilt many of us moms feel when it comes to screen time and not feeling like we're "enough" for our kids. She reflects on her own solo parenting days, the pressure to do everything perfectly, and how she's learned to let that guilt go. We talk about how things really do get easier as our kids grow, and the surprising joy of seeing them become more independent. Join us as we share real stories, relatable struggles, and how to embrace each phase of motherhood—without the extra guilt!   Episode Timeline: [1:15] – Feeling guilty about turning on the TV for my kids and the pressure we put on ourselves as moms. [4:30] – Reflecting on my solo parenting days and the survival mode that often led to hours of screen time. [8:10] – The realization that my kids are thriving despite my past worries, and letting go of mom guilt. [12:45] – How taking time for myself—like an international trip—showed me my kids are more capable than I thought. [16:30] – Embracing the joy of seeing my kids become independent, from reading to each other to doing chores. [21:10] – The importance of not adding unnecessary pressure and understanding that motherhood gets easier over time. [25:05] – Celebrating the small wins, like playing board games with my kids and enjoying this new phase of life.   Closing Remarks: If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to rate, follow, and share it with other moms who might need a reminder that they're doing a great job! And hey, while you're at it, leave us a review to let us know what you think—your feedback means the world to us. Until next time, let's embrace the highs and lows of motherhood together.

Episode Summary: In this episode, Shauna shares three essential parenting strategies that have helped foster trust, safety, and open communication with her kids. From why we don't do secrets (only surprises!) to handling tricky situations with neighbors and setting boundaries with babysitters, we offer practical tips for navigating the challenges of modern parenting. Tune in to hear how we empower our kids to speak up and stay safe in a complex world. Episode Highlights: [0:50] – The key difference between secrets and surprises, and why we emphasize this rule in our family. [3:12] – Addressing an issue with a neighbor's inappropriate video game and introducing the concept of “family business.” [7:25] – How "family business" helps us keep sensitive topics within trusted circles while maintaining open communication. [12:18] – The power of teaching children the correct anatomical terms to keep them informed and safe. [16:40] – Establishing clear boundaries with babysitters and having tough conversations to protect our kids. [21:05] – Role-playing scenarios with kids to help them set boundaries and feel confident in uncomfortable situations.   Links & Resources: Check out Attachment Nerd on Instagram for more about secure attachment and child safety. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, follow, and review the podcast! It helps others find the show, and we'd love to hear your feedback. Don't forget to share it with a friend!

Episode Summary: In this episode, we talk about the importance of teaching kids to trust their intuition, especially in social situations. Through personal stories, Shauna shares how she guides her kids in setting boundaries and recognizing their gut feelings when something feels off. From navigating tricky interactions with neighbors to building situational awareness, we explore how parents can empower their children to listen to their instincts. Plus, you'll hear some funny and heartwarming stories about our family's experiences with these lessons. Timeline Summary: [2:14] - Encouraging kids to trust their intuition about people and situations. [5:50] - Story of my daughter feeling uncomfortable with a friendly neighbor and how we practiced setting boundaries. [12:20] - Navigating playground interactions and teaching kids to stand up for themselves when peer pressure strikes. [22:35] - My son's struggle with friends who make him feel uncomfortable, and how we talk about listening to his gut. [30:15] - The impact of playful moments, like tickling, on teaching consent and body autonomy. [45:10] - Funny family stories about grandparents, intuition, and navigating old-school parenting with love and humor. Closing Remarks: If you enjoyed today's episode, don't forget to rate, follow, and review the podcast. Your feedback means the world and helps us reach more listeners. Thanks for tuning in, and we'll catch you next time!

Summary: Raising kids with food sensitivities can be a challenge, but it doesn't have to be all about restrictions! In this episode, Rachel shares how she helps her boys make mindful food choices, especially at social events, while still letting them enjoy treats. From corn syrup to food dyes, she's had her learning moments—but the goal is teaching them to listen to their bodies without the guilt or strict rules. You'll hear some funny, relatable stories about how our kids have become little food detectives and how we strike the balance between healthy eating and fun. Whether you're managing food sensitivities or just want to help your kids build healthier habits, this episode is packed with real-life tips and insights!   Key Topics Covered: Teaching kids to recognize how food affects their bodies Handling social situations with food sensitivities Balancing fun treats with maintaining healthy habits Avoiding judgment while respecting different family food choices The importance of modeling healthy eating behaviors as parents Timeline Summary: [1:15] – Navigating food sensitivities at social gatherings and how it impacts the kids. [5:22] – Explaining to my kids why different families eat differently. [10:08] – Letting the kids have occasional treats and discussing how it affects their behavior and energy. [17:45] – Teaching my boys to listen to their bodies and recognize symptoms after eating certain foods. [24:30] – A funny story about my son's "liver power" and how kids perceive food and health. [31:10] – Making small, sustainable changes in our family's eating habits and seeing long-term improvements. [38:45] – Encouraging mindful eating and physical intuition for lifelong healthy habits. Links & Resources: The Dirty Dozen List: EWG's Guide to Pesticides in Produce Closing Remarks: If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast. Your support helps us continue these important conversations. Share this episode with a friend who might be struggling with navigating food choices with their kids. See you next time!

Episode Summary: In this episode, Shauna shares a funny, yet eye-opening encounter at a church activity that made her reflect on the well-intended (but sometimes unhelpful) advice she receives about autism. As she talks about her son Eli, his unique way of seeing the world, and the challenges we face navigating school systems and IEPs, you'll get a real glimpse into the ups and downs of parenting a neurodivergent child. From quirky stories to the frustrations of advocating for proper support, this episode is a heartfelt and honest look at what it's like to raise a child with autism—and why understanding matters more than quick fixes. Timeline Summary: [1:05] – The surprising (and awkward) conversation about "curing" autism. [4:32] – How visual flashcards help Eli learn words and remember patterns. [9:15] – The frustrations of an IEP that doesn't support Eli's real needs. [15:45] – My heated conversation with the principal about discipline and autism misunderstandings. [22:20] – Explaining Eli's brain: why autism is like a blank Excel spreadsheet. [33:12] – The positive turnaround with Eli's SPED teacher and the support she provided. [38:40] – Picture day chaos: Eli's hilarious take on getting his school photo taken. Links & Resources: The Pattern Seeker: How Autism Drives Human Invention – A book that explores how autistic minds have contributed to some of the greatest inventions. More info on ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis) Therapy for autism. Closing Remark: Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to rate, follow, share, and review the podcast—it really helps us reach more people. See you next time!

In this episode, we're opening up about something we all struggle with—control. Whether it's trying to manage things beyond our reach, like when someone else is driving, or figuring out why we're really upset, we'll walk you through Shauna's process for identifying the root cause of our frustrations. Plus, we'll share how we learned to let go and stop sweating the small stuff—because spoiler: It's often not in our control anyway! But it's not all serious talk! We'll also dive into how FUN is the secret weapon every parent needs. Fun isn't just a luxury; it's an essential ingredient for better parenting, stronger connections, and happier kids. We share quirky, effective strategies like using animal sounds to get kids to listen or how the “ducks and wings” method changed grocery store trips forever. You'll also hear about how establishing simple SOPs (Standard Operating Procedures) for everything from bedtime to behavior can save your sanity. Timeline Summary: [1:15] – Letting go of control: Why trying to micromanage doesn't work. [3:50] – What's really the problem? Is it the kids, or is it you? [6:12] – How fun creates connection, movement, and solves problems. [9:00] – Using animal sounds to get kids to cooperate (and yes, it works!). [12:05] – Establishing "ducks and wings" for smoother grocery store runs. [16:30] – Creating simple, life-saving parenting SOPs. [20:15] – Fun as a non-negotiable: Why joy and playfulness help with parenting challenges. Links & Resources: How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk (Book mentioned) Acupressure mats for meditation and problem-solving Kid2Kid (Store mentioned for buying creative tools like tutus) Closing Remark: If this episode helped you see parenting in a new light, or if you got a good laugh from my animal sound antics, we'd love to hear from you! Rate, follow, and share the podcast. Leave a review so we can keep the conversation going. Remember, parenting doesn't have to be a struggle—sometimes, a little fun goes a long way!

Episode Summary: In this episode of Take a Mental Load Off, Shauna shares her unique approach to tackling the everyday challenges of motherhood with humor, insight, and creativity. We dive into her personal process for identifying problems, figuring out what's really bugging us as moms, and how to create solutions that actually work. From reflecting on those frustrating moments at the end of a long day to learning how to delegate and not take on every little task, Shauna's method is a game-changer. Together, we explore how to recognize what's truly worth problem-solving and how to avoid taking on responsibilities that aren't even ours. This episode is packed with practical strategies, relatable mom moments, and a few laughs along the way! Episode Highlights: [1:05] – Shauna's method for problem-solving as a mom and why it works [3:12] – Identifying the things that frustrate you most – and turning them into problem-solving opportunities [7:25] – The power of asking yourself the right questions to find solutions [10:45] – Handling those oversized reactions and why they hold important clues [14:02] – Logistics vs. mindset: How to know what kind of solution you need [16:30] – Recognizing when it's not your problem and why that's a relief Links & Resources: Simply on Purpose Parenting – Instagram Closing: If you found today's episode helpful, don't forget to rate, follow, and share! We love hearing your thoughts, so leave a review and let us know what you think. Thanks for tuning in, and remember, taking a mental load off starts with recognizing what's really your responsibility!

Episode Summary: In this heartwarming episode, we explore how simple family rituals can create deep connections and lasting memories. Join Rachel as she chats with Shauna about the intentional moments she weaves into her family's daily life—like their fun dinner-time questions and quirky bedtime routines. We dive into the magic of these small, meaningful practices and share tips on how you can easily incorporate them into your own family's rhythm. Whether it's a special hug or a silly tradition, these moments are the glue that holds us together. Tune in to discover how you can start or strengthen your own family rituals today! Timeline Summary: [2:15] - Observing intentional moments of connection during dinner time at Shauna's house. [5:30] - The origin of the four dinner questions and how they became a family ritual. [9:45] - The concept of rituals, both big and small, and their impact on family culture. [14:20] - Sharing unique and quirky family rituals, from “camp couch” to the "brain freeze kiss." [19:00] - How stories and shared memories become part of family lore and strengthen bonds. [25:40] - Sensory input and how it plays a role in regulating emotions and behavior in children. [32:15] - Discussing how to create or identify family rituals that enhance connection. [40:55] - An update on Shauna's life, from handling emergencies to the ups and downs of family life. Closing Remarks: If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to rate, follow, and share the podcast with your friends and family. Your support helps us continue to bring meaningful conversations and valuable insights to our listeners. Thank you for tuning in!

*This is the Final Part of a 3 Part series on Friends* Episode Summary: In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of friendships and relationships, exploring how they evolve over time. We share personal stories about long-time friendships, how they have adapted to changing circumstances, and the importance of allowing friendships to naturally ebb and flow. We discuss the idea that not all friendships need to have the same level of closeness or commitment, and that it's okay to let relationships be what they are without forcing them into a mold. We also touch on the delicate balance of maintaining connections, avoiding the trap of "love bombing," and recognizing when it's time to let a friendship evolve or even drift apart. Join us for an honest conversation about what it means to truly value and nurture the friendships in our lives. Timeline Summary: [0:45] - Reflecting on different functions and levels of friendship commitment. [2:10] - Navigating a long-distance best friendship with ease and acceptance. [5:05] - Learning to let go of resentment in relationships and allowing them to be what they are. [7:30] - The sustainable dynamics of various friendships and how they change over time. [10:20] - Balancing intense friendships and the lessons learned from moving neighborhoods. [13:15] - The importance of acknowledging seasons of life in friendships. [15:00] - Watching for red flags in new friendships and the value of giving relationships time to develop. Closing Remarks: Thank you for tuning in to this heartfelt episode on the dynamics of friendships. If you enjoyed our discussion, don't forget to rate, follow, and share the podcast. Your reviews help us reach more listeners who could benefit from these conversations. Until next time, keep nurturing those important relationships in your life!  

*This is Part 2 of a 3 Part series on Friends* Episode Summary In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of building authentic friendships and navigating social dynamics. Shauna shares some valuable advice she gave her niece Brynlee, who's at an FSY camp, about the importance of being your true self in friendships and recognizing when relationships might be mismatched. We discuss how to identify if someone is genuinely interested in getting to know you or just going through the motions, and why it's crucial to value your own time and energy in friendships. We also explore the idea of leading with different aspects of our personalities depending on the context, and how that can serve as a filter to find our true tribe. There's a heartfelt shoutout to Shauna's mom, Dawn, for teaching her the art of asking meaningful questions, and some funny and insightful moments as we unpack how our personalities shape our relationships. Plus, you'll hear about why it's important to embrace your authentic self, even if it feels a little scary at times, and how that can help you attract the right people into your life. Timeline Summary [1:05] - Advice to Brynlee: The importance of being your authentic self in friendships. [3:45] - Recognizing signs of mismatched friendships and valuing your time. [6:20] - How asking the right questions can reveal someone's true interest in you. [10:10] - The influence of my mom's question-asking skills on my social interactions. [14:15] - Leading with different aspects of your personality to filter friendships. [18:30] - The significance of finding your tribe by being yourself. Closing Remarks If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to rate, follow, and share the podcast with your friends! We'd love to hear your thoughts, so please leave us a review. Keep being your authentic self and remember, your tribe is out there waiting to find you!

*This is Part 1 of a 3 part series on Friends!* Episode Summary In this episode, we're diving into the challenges and joys of making friends, especially as adults. Whether you're navigating new friendships as a mom, figuring out how to connect with others who share or differ from your values, or just trying to maintain the relationships you already have, this conversation is for you. We also share some hilarious and cringeworthy stories from our own youth group experiences, where we learned the do's and don'ts of social interaction—like how not to ask someone about their "eternal companion" on a first dance! Tune in for some laughs, insights, and practical tips on building and maintaining friendships. Timeline Summary [1:15] - Struggles of making friends as a new mom and how different values can influence friendships. [4:30] - The importance of asking questions and how it helps in forming connections. [10:45] - A fun story about running into an old acquaintance at Costco and how to keep a conversation going. [15:00] - How remembering details about people can make them feel seen and strengthen relationships. [16:30] - Flashback to our awkward but memorable experiences at a youth church camp, including a guy with a "crush list." [17:50] - The unforgettable "statue dance" and the mystery of why we both ended up on the floor! Closing Remarks If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to rate, follow, and share the podcast with your friends! Your reviews help us reach more listeners, and we appreciate your support. Thanks for tuning in, and we'll catch you in the next episode!

Episode Summary: In this episode, we dive into the contentious world of sibling rivalry and fighting, a topic that often triggers frustration and anxiety in parents. We explore the surprising benefits of sibling conflict, inspired by Wendy Mogel's insights from her appearance on Armchair Expert. You'll hear about how these seemingly chaotic moments can actually lay the foundation for close-knit relationships in adulthood. We also discuss personal experiences with sibling dynamics, the importance of conflict resolution skills, and practical strategies to manage and even embrace these interactions. Plus, we introduce the "family battery" concept, a unique approach to curbing physical altercations while still allowing kids the space to navigate their own conflicts. Tune in to find out how to balance the discomfort of hearing your kids fight with the long-term benefits it could bring—and why sometimes, stepping back might be the best approach. Timeline Summary: [1:10] - Introduction to the topic: Why fighting among siblings can be beneficial. [4:22] - Wendy Mogel's theory on sibling conflict and adult relationships. [10:15] - Personal reflections on sibling relationships and the impact of age gaps. [15:30] - The hilarious (and dangerous) story of siblings power-washing each other. [22:05] - Discussing a friend's experience with a conflict-avoidant family. [31:40] - The "family battery" system: A creative way to manage sibling violence. [50:10] - The challenge of balancing conflict resolution with allowing natural sibling rivalry. [1:05:50] - Final thoughts: Accepting sibling conflict as part of building lasting relationships. Links & Resources: Wendy Mogel's interview on Armchair Expert Ralphie's Simply On Purpose (Instagram)  Jody Moore's Better Than Happy podcast Closing Remarks: If you enjoyed this episode, please remember to rate, follow, share, and review the podcast! Your support helps us continue to bring our insightful and silly discussions to your ears. See you next time!

Episode Summary In today's episode, we dive deep into the realities of household labor and its impact on our mental well-being. We'll explore the delicate balance between maintaining a clean home and nurturing meaningful relationships with our families. We share personal frustrations and insights, discuss societal expectations, and reflect on a poignant conversation that shifted my perspective on cleanliness and motherhood. Join us as we redefine what it means to create a happy, healthy home environment without sacrificing our sanity or our relationships. Timeline Summary [1:15] - Introduction to household labor and its mental impact [3:30] - My frustration with keeping a clean house [6:45] - A conversation about kids and cleanliness that upset me [9:22] - Kids' play areas and the reality of shared family spaces [12:10] - Perspective shift: Embracing messes as memories [15:55] - Balancing cleaning with making memories with our kids [18:40] - The mental load of maintaining a perfect home [22:05] - The importance of prioritizing relationships over cleanliness [27:30] - Teaching kids about responsibilities and natural consequences [31:50] - Recognizing invisible labor and its true value [35:45] - Establishing boundaries and self-care as a parent Closing Remarks Thank you for tuning in to this heartfelt episode. Remember, it's okay to prioritize your mental health and relationships over a perfectly clean house. If you enjoyed today's discussion, please rate, follow, share, and review our podcast. Your support means the world to us and helps us continue to bring valuable content to you. Until next time, take care and cherish those little moments with your loved ones!

Episode Summary In this episode, we dive deep into the complex and often heavy feeling of guilt, especially as it pertains to parenting. Inspired by a recent personal experience, we explore why guilt arises, how it impacts our actions, and whether it serves a beneficial purpose. We discuss the various scenarios where guilt might surface, such as taking time for oneself or doing activities without our kids, and how shifting our mindset can transform guilt into a constructive emotion rather than a debilitating one. Join us as we unpack the nuances of guilt, share personal stories, and provide insights into managing this pervasive feeling. Timeline Summary [1:15] - Introduction to the episode's inspiration: a personal conversation about guilt. [3:45] - Discussing a specific instance of feeling guilty for going to the store without the kids. [6:30] - Exploring the idea that all emotions, including guilt, serve as information. [10:50] - Examples of valid guilt versus unnecessary guilt. [15:22] - The connection between ideals, behavior, and cognitive dissonance. [20:05] - Real-life examples of guilt from personal parenting experiences. [25:40] - The importance of taking breaks and prioritizing self-care. [30:12] - Benefits of modeling self-care and independence for our children. [35:00] - The balance between safety and independence in parenting. [40:30] - Encouragement to take time for oneself without feeling guilty. Closing Remarks Thank you for tuning in to this insightful discussion on guilt. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, follow, and share it with others who might find it helpful. Your reviews help us reach more listeners and continue to provide valuable content. Don't forget to take a break, take care of yourself, and let go of that unnecessary guilt. Until next time!

In this episode, Shauna reflects on the challenges and successes of parenting energetic and intense children, emphasizing that her strategies stem from necessity rather than having everything figured out. She shares various family mantras used to instill values and maintain harmony, from humorous phrases inspired by pop culture to meaningful sayings that promote honesty and responsibility. These mantras serve as tools for connection, resilience, and family identity, helping children navigate life with confidence and integrity. Rachel & Shauna discuss how family culture, reinforced through these mantras, provides a strong foundation against external societal influences.

In this episode of "Take A Mental Load Off," Rachel & Shauna delve into the philosophy of effective goal setting with insights from holistic health coaching and the book "Atomic Habits" by James Clear. They discuss the importance of gradual improvement, and highlight the unsustainability of extreme goals  They share the concept of scaling goals to fit current capabilities and integrating new habits into existing routines. Rachel & Shauna explore practical strategies and the mental benefits of small, consistent actions. They discuss the importance of recognizing one's accomplishments, reinforcing the idea that the hardest part is often just getting started.

In this episode, Rachel & Shauna discuss the concept of "hiccups"—unexpected, minor disruptions that frustrate but don't cause significant emotional upheaval. They share personal anecdotes, including family trips, misadventures, and everyday challenges, illustrating how these hiccups often become cherished memories. The conversation highlights the importance of flexibility and humor in navigating life's small setbacks, emphasizing that these moments can strengthen family bonds and create lasting connections.

The podcast discusses family cleaning routines, focusing on how to involve young children in household chores. The conversation highlights challenges of maintaining consistency, especially with younger kids. Rachel & Shauna share personal anecdotes about delegating tasks, addressing sibling dynamics, and the impact of developmental differences like autism on family cooperation. Shauna emphasizes the importance of fun and positive reinforcement to motivate children and provide various creative strategies for engaging kids in cleaning, such as games, rewards, and teamwork. The overall message encourages parents to teach life skills through patience, persistence, and making chores an enjoyable family activity.

In this podcast, Rachel & Shauna discuss the concept of embracing discomfort to build resilience, particularly as it relates to the responsibilities and emotional challenges faced by single mothers and spouses of military / first responders. Rachel shares a transformative experience of participating in a firewalk, which helped her learn to confront and accept discomfort, both physical and emotional. This practice of deliberately facing discomfort has enabled her to handle difficult conversations and situations more effectively. Rachel also introduces the idea of incorporating small, daily practices of discomfort, such as cold showers, to strengthen mental and emotional resilience. She highlights how these practices have improved her ability to manage stress, maintain emotional balance, and enhance her overall mental health.

In this podcast episode, Shauna & Rachel discuss strategies for managing playdates with their children. Key points include: Start with a Snack: Ensure children are not hungry to avoid unhappiness. Open Doors Policy: Keep doors open during play for safety. Game Rules: Host's child is the first player for video games at their house. For imaginative play, here's three main rules: Inclusion: Everyone can join the game. Autonomy: Each child chooses their own role. Respect: Use polite requests to avoid controlling others. They discuss managing dynamics between mixed-age groups, scheduling activities flexibly, and using a three-strike rule for Shauna's 6-year-old with autism. They emphasize the importance of free play, conflict resolution, and allowing children to learn through experience.

In the podcast episode "Intervening Vs. Preventative Self Care" of "Take a Mental Load Off," the hosts discuss the importance of balancing immediate, emergency self-care with ongoing, preventive self-care. The episode begins with an anecdote about a mother celebrating finally getting out of the house with her kids, highlighting how easily self-care can be neglected. Shauna shares a personal story about managing life with young children while her husband worked multiple jobs, leading to exhaustion and an ADHD diagnosis. The couple struggled with different approaches to self-care: her husband preferred working until complete burnout before taking breaks, while she advocated for regular, less intense breaks to avoid burnout. Their counselor introduced the concept of two types of self-care: intervening, where one takes a break only when completely burnt out, and preventative, where one incorporates regular, small acts of self-care to maintain well-being. Examples include daily gym visits, social outings, and manageable household tasks. Shauna & Rachel emphasize that recognizing and practicing preventive self-care can prevent the need for emergency interventions and promote overall mental health. They encourage listeners to find what recharges their batteries and to balance efforts to avoid burnout.

Get a taste of our mission here at Take A Mental Load Off, as we publish our first FIVE episodes this week!