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I had a powerful conversation with a client this morning that led me here: the topic of guilt, and more specifically, what it looks like when guilt keeps us from choosing ourselves. This client shared that radical self-acceptance, for her, meant removing guilt when I make decisions based on what I want. This is so common. Especially for women. We are deeply conditioned to believe that putting ourselves first is selfish, that our value lies in how much we give, how selfless we are, how much we sacrifice. So in this episode, I'm breaking down what guilt actually is (and what it isn't), why we often believe getting rid of it completely is the goal (hint: it's not), and how we can begin to untangle our conditioning from the truth. In addition, I talk about practicing a little self-awareness when guilt shows up. What you'll hear about in this episode: Guilt is woven into the tapestry of our social conditioning as girls and women The differences between guilt, shame, humiliation, and embarrassment and why that matters Guilt is about behavior: about making a mistake and making amends, not about who you are as a person Why we often feel guilty for putting ourselves first, even when we've made no mistake This episode featured two reflective questions which I'll leave here for reference: How often have you said no to yourself out of fear of feeling guilty?  When guilt shows up, ask: Is this truly something I need to make amends for? Or is this just my conditioning?” Remember, you get to choose what's true for you, even when guilt tries to argue otherwise. Resources: Rythmia Retreat ✨Interested in a future Rythmia Ayahuasca retreat with me? Drop a DM on Instagram @heyandreaowen or email support[at]andreaowen.com with the subject line “AYA Interested” to be added to the interest list! Devotion: A 6-Month Private Coaching Experience Make Some Noise  Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/podcast/681 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I'm so excited for you to hear this conversation with Amina AlTai. She's enthusiastic, warm, and wicked smart, and her work around ambition is deeply important. Amina is a holistic career coach and chronic illness advocate who helps leaders lead from their brilliance and truth. Her new book, The Ambition Trap, reframes what ambition means, and how it can be a tool for healing and wholeness instead of burnout and over-functioning. We discuss the two types of ambition: the kind rooted in purpose and values, and the kind that comes from pain, people-pleasing, and old wounds. Plus, Amina shares her own story about autoimmune diagnoses and near organ failure; and how they shaped the framework she now teaches.   As Amina says, “Ambition is the desire to grow,”and anything is possible with your ambition when it's coming from that place of purpose and wholeness. You'll hear us talk about: Ambition rooted in purpose vs. ambition driven by family or societal expectations (aka purposeful ambition vs. painful ambition) (6:13) Why overworking is often a systemic and economic issue, plus signs you're caught in the cycle and how to break free (10:25) What it means to live above the resentment line and how it applies to your professional life (12:56) The three E's of identifying your zone of genius: excellence, energy, and ease and how they help align your career with your true self (15:25) How to shift your perspective around the word ambition, especially if it's always felt a little uncomfortable (21:39) Practical strategies to prevent burnout while still pursuing your goals (24:08) The internalized beliefs that equate your worth with your work and how core belief and shadow work can help flip the script (32:53) Resources: Rythmia Retreat Andrea on Instagram @heyandreaowenMy Ketamine Therapy Journey secret podcast seriesAmina's websiteAmina's book, The Ambition Trap: How to Stop Chasing and Start Living Amina on Instagram @aminaaltaiThe Big Leap, Gay Hendricks Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome, Ruchika Tulshyan and Jodi-Ann Burey, Harvard Business Review Book recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: https://andreaowen.com/680 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I'm joined by Sharon Pope, Certified Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert, and we're getting into why women often leave relationships emotionally way before they physically do, how to rebuild self-trust, and what it takes to get clarity when you're stuck in the “should I stay or go?” spiral. We even discuss the topic of infidelity, and what it actually looks like to repair after betrayal. Sharon works with people who are stuck in the “What the hell do I do with this relationship?” phase. Whether that means healing it, improving it, or walking away from it. Whether you're married, dating, single, or “it's complicated,” this conversation is one you're going to want to hear. You'll hear us talk about: Why women often leave relationships mentally years before they leave physically (what Sharon calls “the quiet quit”) (6:12) Self-trust: what it is, how to build it, and why it matters (11:16) How to have hard conversations with more ease—where do you even begin? (27:46) Finding clarity around whether to stay or go in a marriage (33:58) What happens when someone cheats? Can the relationship be salvaged? (Hint: Sharon says, “You have to be willing to do the work…”) (37:07) Resources: Rythmia Retreat Andrea on Instagram @heyandreaowen My Ketamine Therapy Journey secret podcast series Episode 671: Life Lesson 10 on Growth Isn't Linear, And That's the Whole Damn Point Episode 432: CASTMWUP: Andrea and Amy on profound humiliation and its impact Sharon's website Sharon's free video course: Calming Your Constant Marriage Indecision Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: ⁠https://andreaowen.com/679⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode was inspired by a question I brought into a recent ketamine therapy session: “What do I need to know to feel fully able to receive, to feel safe to do so?” What unfolded sparked a powerful exploration into the art of receiving. I'm breaking down what receiving really looks like (it's not always graceful), why it's so often tied to control and worthiness, and how you can begin to gently examine your own patterns. If you're ready to reflect more deeply on your relationship with love, money, and support, this solo episode offers insight and questions to guide that process. You'll also hear me read straight from my journal and revisit two childhood moments that shaped my beliefs about being “too much” and what happens when people can't meet you where you are. These stories opened the door to deeper understanding; not just about my past, but about how those early experiences still impact my ability to receive today. What you'll hear about in this episode: Receiving love or money can activate old nervous system patterns like fear, unworthiness, and the need to prove your self-sufficiency How early wounds of being “too much” can create deep shame and mistrust The messy, emotional “potion” of receiving The devotion to receiving as a full-body surrender; trusting your emotions and your softness. “Maybe receiving isn't something we do—it's something we become.” Resources: Coaching Single Sessions with AndreaMy Ketamine Therapy Journey secret podcast seriesEpisode 661: Lesson 3 on The Magic of Surrender Episode 664: Lesson 5 on What's Important for a Long-term Relationship Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/678 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I have a coaching session for you this week, and in these sessions, I aim to pick topics that are universal. Maggie is brave today and coming on the show with a topic many of us struggle with, resentment, self-abandonment, and the rocky road to self-compassion.  I wanted to give this topic a voice because it's incredibly common. To normalize what it looks like when women find themselves stuck in cycles of indecisiveness, resentment, guilt, and burnout. Maggie's story is specific, but the themes? They're everywhere. In this session, we unpack what's getting in the way for Maggie and work together to create small, actionable steps that bring her closer to showing up for herself in meaningful ways. Her willingness to do the work on herself offers something for all of us - especially if you've been taught to prioritize everyone but yourself. You'll hear us talk about:  What it really looks like to explore resentments and why it matters (10:53) How self-abandonment sneaks into everything from parenting to partnership (26:19) Why you don't have to forgive someone in order to heal (28:07) How indecisiveness connects to fear, self-trust, and early family dynamics (28:39) What self-compassion can look like in real time (especially when it's new) (36:41) Resources: Coaching Single Sessions with Andrea No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, Richard Schwartz Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/677 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You know what I used to call numbing out? A mini vacation. Whether it was wine at the end of the day (I'm now 13 years sober), scrolling endlessly, or just anything to avoid feeling the full weight of my emotions, it all came down to one thing: avoidance. And that's exactly what I'm getting into in this solo episode, the real reasons we numb, what it costs us, and how to begin doing something different. This one goes beyond “just stop doing it.” I'm talking about the discomfort, the deep emotional wiring, and why it makes total sense that you've been avoiding hard feelings. But also, how the shift starts. (Hint: it's not by beating yourself up.) I'm pulling straight from my book How to Stop Feeling Like Shit and breaking down specific tools to start feeling your feelings, even if you're a beginner. What You'll Hear: How numbing and avoiding are really about running from emotions What my therapist told me that I really didn't want to hear (spoiler: she was right) The “holy emotions” we're often most afraid to feel: grief, shame, terror, rage The biggest clues that you might be avoiding emotions (including the empathy test) Three key tools to start feeling your feelings: acceptance, curiosity, and self-trust The role of somatic work, breathwork, and psychedelic therapy in emotional healing You're not broken because you've been numbing out. Your body's been doing its best to keep you safe. This episode is about getting curious, not judgmental; and starting to build a new way forward, one brave feeling at a time. Resources: How to Stop Feeling Like Shit - The 8-Week Experience How to Stop Feeling Like Shit (book) Minisode 675: New Level, Old Devil: Why Family Of Origin Stuff Keeps Showing Up Episode 658: Lesson 1 on self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trust Episode 659: Lesson 2 on The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your Power My Ketamine Therapy Journey secret podcast series Facing Love Addiction, Pia Mellody When Things Fall Apart, Pema Chodron Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/676 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I've had the phrase “New level, old devil” in my notes for years. YEARS. And somehow, it never made it into an episode… until now. Apparently, it wanted to be the finale of minisodes. And honestly? It's perfect timing, because this one runs deep. (And yes, this is the last minisode I'll be airing, but don't worry, the weekly podcast isn't going anywhere! Just scaling back on the extra minisodes. You'll get two episodes a month that are interviews, and the other two will be longer solo episodes, similar to the Coming Home to Yourself Series.)  Here's the deal: every time you uplevel—whether it's in your career, relationships, boundaries, or just giving yourself more damn rest—old stuff tends to come roaring back. Not because you're doing it wrong, but because growth shakes loose the beliefs you've been carrying around since childhood. That family-of-origin stuff? It doesn't just vanish. It waits in the wings until you're strong enough to deal with it.  The truth about those unconscious narratives is that these beliefs are old stories with loyal roots. What you'll learn in this episode: Why personal growth often triggers unresolved family-of-origin stuff The truth behind “new level, old devil” and how it shows up Six key reflection questions to identify where you're stuck or playing small The difference between explicit and implicit messages you absorbed growing up How we unconsciously engineer our lives to avoid rejection, discomfort, or being “too much” The connection between your current habits and your need for belonging What it means to wear emotional “armor”—and how to start taking it off The difference between top-down and bottom-up healing work Tools and modalities to start untangling old beliefs: journaling, somatic work, EMDR, psychedelics, and more How this all ties into the habits covered in How to Stop Feeling Like Sht* When you start waking up to the ways you've been staying small, it can feel overwhelming. But here's the thing—you didn't choose these stories on purpose, and you're not broken for believing them. This is your invitation to get curious, offer yourself some grace, and begin rewriting your life in a way that honors who you are now—not who you had to be back then. If this episode resonated and you're ready to finally break free from self-sabotaging habits and start choosing yourself on purpose, join me in How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: The 8-Week Experience. We start May 15. Details are HERE!  Resources from this episode:  How to Stop Feeling Like Shit - The  8-Week Experience Episode 671: Life Lesson 10 on Growth Isn't Linear, And That's the Whole Damn Point My Ketamine Therapy Journey secret podcast series Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I'm talking with award-winning neuroscientist and author Anne-Laure Le Cunff about how to stop letting goals run your life and start experimenting (in small ways) to a more fulfilling one. Her new book, Tiny Experiments, offers a practical, science-backed approach to navigating uncertainty, ditching perfectionism, and making real progress, on your own terms. We dig into how the pressure to always achieve can mess with your mental health, why your brain freaks out when things feel unclear, and how small experiments can lead to big shifts. Plus, we talk about the beauty in what these tiny experiments hold - data and feedback about what worked, what didn't, whether to keep going, to stop, or to change something up. Anne-Laure's challenge for you, after listening, is to ask yourself: “What tiny experiment can I try this week?” What You'll Hear: How living in a goal-obsessed world affects our mental well-being and sense of self-worth (5:24) The reason we are so afraid of uncertainty in our careers (9:06) “Tiny experiments” and how they can help you find your personalized map to a fulfilling life (13:29) Perfectionism is often a barrier to both happiness and progress – adopting an experimental mindset can help you let go of the need to be perfect (20:42) A few simple, experiments you can try right now (without overhauling your entire life) (35:45) Resources: Join the How to Stop Feeling Like Shit 5-Day Challenge

Friend of the show Susan Hyatt returns, and we're getting into it, from the fears that keep us quiet to the fire it takes to reclaim what we want. Susan is a Master Certified Life Coach, bestselling author, and TEDx speaker who helps women turn up the volume on their lives, whether that means speaking up, starting over, or finally saying yes to themselves. In this conversation, we unpack what it means to come home to yourself in midlife, how to navigate the overwhelm of today's political and social landscape, and why movement isn't just about fitness—it's emotional fuel. Plus, Susan shares her Comeback Compass for bouncing back after setbacks and the real talk we need around menopause, the orgasm gap, and women's health in 2025. What You'll Hear: How to reframe the fear of “who do I think I am?” (6:28) The role of physical movement in personal growth (8:52) Why creating before consuming is key to staying grounded (18:33) Susan's Comeback Compass framework for handling setbacks and building resilience (21:28) What Big Yes Energy actually looks like (and how to tap into it) (25:46) The emerging conversations in women's empowerment that deserve more airtime (29:27) Resources:Join the How to Stop Feeling Like Shit 5-Day Challenge

Hot flashes, brain fog, mood swings… sound familiar? If you've ever felt like menopause hijacked your body and left you wondering what the hell just happened (or concerned that it may in the years to come), you're not alone. But as this week's episode assures you, you're definitely not powerless. I'm talking with Tamsen Fadal, author of How to Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life, and Feel Even Better Than Before. Tamsen's on a mission to flip the script on how we talk about menopause, less quiet suffering and more hope and empowerment. You'll hear us talk about what your doctor probably isn't telling you, how to advocate for yourself in midlife, and why menopause isn't the end, it's a damn evolution. In fact, for me, it was the path to coming home to myself. What You'll Hear What surprised Tamsen most about women's experiences once she started speaking up about menopause (5:17) A crash course on when to get tested for menopause symptoms (hint: you don't have to wait until you're miserable) (6:45) The truth about hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and the myth that it causes breast cancer (10:24) How we can finally change the narrative around menopause (15:48) How partners and family members can step up or how to bring them into the conversation so they actually get it (19:22) The unexpected gifts that come with perimenopause and menopause (yes, there are some!) (22:09) Could hormones be the reason you suddenly don't give a shit anymore in midlife? Plus, why that shift can actually be the start of real freedom (23:24) The connection between menopause and big life changes, relationships, careers, identity shifts, and how to know if it's your hormones or your partner that's the problem (29:09) Resources: Join the How to Stop Feeling Like Shit 5-Day Challenge - We begin on April 28th!

Before we jump in… if you're feeling stuck in people-pleasing, perfectionism, or self-sabotage—this is your sign. I'm hosting a free How To Stop Feeling Like Shit 5-day challenge to help you stop abandoning yourself and start showing up like the confident, grounded woman you're meant to be. One small (but mighty) shift each day. Five days. Big energy. Real momentum. Join us HERE.  ********** We've reached the final lesson in my 10-part series on Coming Home To Yourself, and this one brings it all together. If you've ever thought, “I should be further along by now,” you're not alone, and you're not failing. Growth is layered, not linear. It's messy, spirally, and sometimes uncomfortable, but that's not a problem, it's the process. In this episode, I'm exploring what real healing and fulfillment look like. You'll hear why chasing big, sexy goals can be a form of self-abandonment, how tiny experiments can shift everything, and why self-compassion is one of the most powerful tools we have.  Most of all, I'll remind you that the important thing isn't the pace, it's that you keep showing up. Because coming home to yourself is the success story. What you'll hear about in this episode: Growth is Cyclical, Not a Checklist: It's not about fixing the same thing over and over, but meeting familiar patterns with more awareness, strength, and self-compassion each time. The Myth of the Big, Sexy Goal: It's not about achieving X to finally feel worthy—it's about noticing when chasing the goal is really just abandoning yourself in disguise.  Tiny Experiments over Giant Goals: It's not about massive overhauls, it's about trying small, time-bound shifts like “do this for 7 days” and letting curiosity lead. Your brain thrives on it, and showing up is the success. Self-Compassion & Forgiveness Are the Real Flex: You're not behind, late, or broken. Growth means making space for grief, rage, shame, and fear, and forgiving the past you who was doing their best. Let Go to Move Forward: It's not quitting, it's trusting. Letting go makes space for aligned goals, deeper love, and the unshakable truth that no matter what, you've got you. Download the worksheet and review the summaries for all ten lessons at http://andreaowen.com/671 Resources from this episode: Find me on Instagram! @heyandreaown How to Stop Feeling Like Shit 5-Day Challenge Coming Home to Yourself Private Coaching Write Your Way Through It Group Coaching Getting Damn Good At Life Sign up to make sure you don't miss any of my birthday episodes! Episode 502: Breaking generational curses Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/671 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today's lesson is radical self-acceptance, how to stop fixing yourself, and finally come home to who you are. Why did I choose this as one of the 10 topics? In my nearly 20 years of coaching women, self-acceptance comes up again and again. It's a pattern I see so often. If you're in a transformational period, doing deep work, chasing self-improvement, and still not feeling like you're enough... you're not alone. That push to grow while still feeling unworthy? That's exactly why this topic matters. If you're someone who keeps chasing the next thing, thinking that will finally fix you or make you feel complete, and it's still not landing, this is the episode I really want you to hear. To make this easy to follow and offer some reflection, I'm breaking the episode into five powerful parts, including the truth about why this is so hard and why it's something we tend to circle back to again and again in our personal growth journey. Of course there is a worksheet for this episode! Download it at http://andreaowen.com/670 What you'll hear about in this episode: What the Hell Is Radical Self-Acceptance? It's not about loving everything, but seeing yourself fully, without judgment or sugarcoating. Why It's So Damn Hard: Cultural and generational messaging to be smaller and quieter, internalized shame from decades of shape-shifting, and the fear that self-acceptance means becoming stagnant. The Wisdom of Your Inner Child: How unmet needs and childhood wounds shape perfectionism and people-pleasing, and why re-parenting in small, present ways leads to true healing Embodied Wisdom—Learning to Trust Your Body's Intelligence: Relearning how to trust your body's intelligence, notice somatic cues, and practice self-acceptance through breathwork, rest, and nervous system care How to Actually Practice Radical Self-Acceptance: Shift your inner dialogue, build safety through compassion, and give yourself permission to be messy, soft, and worthy. Resources from this episode: How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Group Coaching Program Coming Home to Yourself Private Coaching Write Your Way Through It Group Coaching Getting Damn Good At Life Sign up to make sure you don't miss any of my birthday episodes! Lesson 1: Self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trust Lesson 2: The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your Power Lesson 3: The Magic of Surrender Lesson 4: Life Purpose: Coming Home to Yourself Lesson 5: What's Important for a Long-Term Relationship Lesson 6: Healing My Relationship with Love: From Heartbreak and Fear to Acceptance and Trust Lesson 7: The Three Things We're All Searching For - Freedom, Feeling Alive, and Wholeness Lesson 8: Leaving People Behind to Find Yourself Episode 557: Reparenting and inner child work with Cybele Botran Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/670 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever gotten to that place in your life where you're carrying so much…plates are spinning in the air and at the same time, somehow you seem to be juggling all of them. And then, one of them falls. Maybe you get an annoying email, maybe you have a minor inconvenience, or maybe someone cuts you off in traffic. Whatever it is, big or small, it's the quintessential “straw that breaks the camel's back”. Then you fall apart. Perhaps a mental and emotional meltdown ensues. I found myself there last night, and wanted to jump on the podcast to record a short minisode to tell you if you're there, or it's recently happened, or even if you've ever been there in the past, I see you. Being in that place reminded me of the quote, “Don't give up 5 minutes before the miracle happens”.  It's not easy to do life, especially right now. There's so much stress and pressure upon us as humans, as women.  Listen to this short episode as I talk more about this, and offer a couple of small strategies to help you walk through this type of fire when it happens.  I see you, I understand you, and I love you.  xoxo, Andrea Resources from this episode:  How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Group Coaching Program Coming Home to Yourself Private Coaching Sign up to make sure you don't miss any of my birthday episodes! Lesson 2: The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your Power Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/669 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Leaving people behind can be painful, but it's often necessary when you've chosen growth, healing, and self-trust. There will be moments when you realize that not everyone will walk the path you're on, and that's okay. Even though it can feel like it, letting go doesn't mean you're too much; it simply means you're stepping into deeper spaces that some people haven't reached yet. Also, the depth of connection is not just about what you bring. For a long time, I thought what I brought would be enough because I could make up for what the other person lacked, but it's also about how deeply the other person has explored their own heart and soul. Ending relationships while you're on a journey of finding yourself is one of the hardest things you'll ever do. It's gut-wrenching, messy, and often feels like the universe is testing you. But it's also a powerful lesson in choosing yourself, even when it feels impossible. In this episode, I'll explore how to navigate the grief of leaving people behind, adjust to relationships, or saying goodbye with grace, all while honoring your own healing. Download the worksheet to dig deeper into this process at http://andreaowen.com/668 What you'll hear about in this episode: Understanding the Pull to Let Go of Certain Relationships: Healing and aligning with your values leads to craving depth in relationships, revealing gaps; surrendering to the truth, not the fantasy; avoiding self-abandonment, and trusting yourself to let go when hope keeps you stuck. The Grief of Actually Letting Go: The grief of holding out hope that someone will change can feel easier than the grief of accepting them as they are. Creating Boundaries, Making Adjustments, and Saying Goodbye: How to adjust relationships, set boundaries, and say goodbye with love and clarity, while honoring your healing and not self-abandoning for someone else's comfort. Resources from this episode: How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Group Coaching Program Coming Home to Yourself Private Coaching Sign up to make sure you don't miss any of my birthday episodes! Lesson 1: Self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trust Lesson 2: The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your Power Lesson 3: The Magic of Surrender Lesson 4: Life Purpose: Coming Home to Yourself Lesson 5: What's Important for a Long-Term Relationship Lesson 6: Healing My Relationship with Love: From Heartbreak and Fear to Acceptance and Trust Lesson 7: The Three Things We're All Searching For - Freedom, Feeling Alive, and Wholeness Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/668 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When it comes to life, we're all looking for various things that will ultimately lead to our fulfillment. But what I've come to realize is that at the end of the day, for most of us, it comes down to three things we're all searching for: freedom, feeling alive, and wholeness.  And here's the truth: they're not “out there.” These experiences come from within, and often, they require us to do the work. Whether it's emotional freedom, reigniting your passion, or embracing your whole self, it's a journey. By the way, this episode is part of a special series. There are six others you can check out (linked below) where I share the most impactful life lessons I've learned and lived, leading up to my 50th birthday. You don't need to cannonball into exploring what it means to be free, alive or whole. Start small. Try a moment of honesty, do something you love, or simply journal about it. These are inner shifts, daily choices that matter. As you listen to this episode or afterward, ask yourself these questions: Where do you feel most free, alive, and whole? Where do you need more of that? You're allowed to claim it now, not later. Download this episode's worksheet at http://andreaowen.com/667 What you'll hear about in this episode: What Freedom Really Means: Emotional freedom, freedom of choice, and freedom in relationships, what blocks it (like people-pleasing and perfectionism), and how to reclaim it through self-trust, surrender, and questioning your conditioning. What It Really Means to Feel Alive: I'm talking beyond just happiness, including passion, purpose, play, and intuition, what shuts it down, and how to reignite your aliveness through curiosity, embodiment, and saying yes to what lights you up. How to Embrace The True Meaning of Wholeness: Accept all parts of yourself without needing to be “fixed,” the ways we resist it through shame, regret, and perfectionism, and how to cultivate it through self-compassion, shadow work, and honoring your journey. Resources from this episode:

I'm hitting pause on our Coming Home to Yourself series for a special conversation with a true kindred spirit and friend of the podcast, Shannon Kaiser. Shannon is back to talk about her newest book, 365 Happy Bedtime Mantras, and let's be real, who doesn't need better sleep these days?  If you've ever struggled with winding down at night whether it be due to stress, anxiety or something in between, having a tangible tool on your nightstand can be a game-changer. Shannon's book is exactly that, a beautiful, accessible tool to help release stress and anxiety so you can finally get the rest you deserve. As Shannon reminds us, "Sleep is a necessary focus of our overall health." What you'll hear in this episode: The difference between releasing stress vs. just managing it (and why that distinction matters) (6:52) How stress and anxiety are the biggest culprits keeping you up at night (8:04) Why a bedtime ritual is key to signaling safety to your nervous system (12:05) The hidden anxiety high-achievers often don't recognize, and how to start healing it (14:23) The underestimated role of sleep in emotional and physical healing (18:38) Shannon's journey with ketamine therapy and how it's supported her mental health (32:50) Resources from this episode:

I'm breaking down how I spent years approaching love from a place of fear, blaming past partners, blaming myself, and clinging to a story that had already been written. Even when I thought I'd moved on, parts of me were still holding on. Finding acceptance and trust wasn't perfect or linear, but it changed everything. I'm sharing my full-circle journey, the power of radical acceptance, and how Ketamine therapy helped me finally, what I call, “land the plane”.  Love is risky because it's vulnerable—but trusting ourselves is the key. When fear creeps in and I find myself getting squirrely, it's curiosity that is my go-to tool. If you've ever felt stuck in old love stories, let's talk about what it really takes to move forward. Download this episode's worksheet at http://andreaowen.com/665 What you'll hear about in this episode: The Realization: Fear Came from the Story, Not the Unknown: I thought my hesitation around love was about heartbreak, but it went deeper Why I Couldn't Let Go: I wasn't stuck on or hurt from past relationships, I was stuck searching for an alternative ending. Healing showed me how deeply I carried this in my body, affecting all forms of love, including my own My “Landing the Plane” Moment: Accepting that the past played out exactly as it needed to The Power of Radical Acceptance: Shifting from fear and anger to gratitude for the love I've experienced An Invitation for You: What love stories are you still holding onto? Where do you need to trust yourself more? Resources from this episode:

I'm back with Lesson 5 in my Coming Home to Yourself series, sharing what I've found to be the seven essential foundations for building a healthy, lasting, and loving relationship. I also talk about how some of these foundations have helped shape my relationship with my new partner, Dr. Fox (not his real name…more on that later)! As I get ready to celebrate my 50th birthday in April, I've been reflecting on the biggest life lessons I've learned about love, partnership, and personal growth.  The health of our relationships has a huge impact on our overall well-being, which is why choosing the right partner, whether you decide to get married or not, is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make. A thriving relationship isn't just about chemistry; it takes emotional maturity, communication, self-trust, resilience, and daily effort. In fact, love isn't just about finding the right person, it's about being the right person.  Download this episode's worksheet at http://andreaowen.com/664 What you'll hear about in this episode: Emotional Maturity and How to Own Your Sh*t: Self-awareness, self-regulation, and recognizing when you're projecting past wounds. Radical Honesty and Authentic Communication: Honesty fuels connection, even when it's hard or messy. Self-Trust & Independence: Keep your passions, friendships, and personal growth alive. Conflict Resilience: You Two vs. The Problem: Ditch shame, defensiveness, and the need to “win.” Letting Go of Control and Holding Boundaries: Trust your partner while standing firm in your needs. Deep Respect and Mutual Appreciation: Love is a daily choice, not just a feeling. Shared Vision and Growth: Use the “Relationship Check-In” to assess what's working, what's not, and what you both need. Resources from this episode:

If you've ever wondered what life coaching really looks like, this minisode is a little glimpse into the process. Kathryn, a former client (and mental health therapist), suggested she come on to share her experience, because coaching is different for everyone. She opens up about navigating what was next for her, breaking free from people-pleasing, and finally giving herself permission to take big, bold steps, including a move to another state and launching a jewelry business. Plus, she shares the simple morning ritual that reignited her spark that she co-created in her work with Andrea.  Sometimes, all it takes is saying your dreams out loud, like Kathryn did. Because, the universe might just be waiting for you to take that first step. Resources from this episode: Coaching with me!  Sign up to make sure you don't miss any of my birthday episodes! Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Lesson 4, where we explore the deeper meaning behind Coming Home to Yourself and challenge the idea that purpose, like love, success, and happiness, comes from outside of us. At (almost) 50, I've come to realize that our real purpose isn't about what we do, it's about who we become.  In this episode, I'll explore how culture and society shape our need to seek purpose and external validation—and whether that truly serves us. I'll also break down what it means to truly come home to yourself and how to shift from seeking to simply being. Lastly, I'll share practical ways to start this journey. Coming home to yourself isn't a one-time event; it's a lifelong practice. It's about unlearning the belief that you must be more to be enough. Download this episode's worksheet at http://andreaowen.com/662! What you'll hear in this episode: The Search for Purpose: How culture conditions us to seek love, worth, and belonging through achievements, people-pleasing, and validation, yet never truly feel fulfilled. What It Means to Come Home to Yourself: Shifting from seeking to being, reclaiming yourself over self-abandonment, and realizing you are already whole. How to Start Coming Home to Yourself: It starts with unlearning external validation, reclaiming your truth, building self-trust, embracing stillness, rediscovering lost parts of yourself, and choosing wholeness over perfection. Resources from this episode:

Surrender isn't about giving up—it's about letting go. In Lesson 3, we're exploring the magic of surrender. What does it mean to surrender and what does it look like in personal growth as well as in relationships? Surrender is the deep trust in the unfolding of your path. Surrender in relationships isn't about rolling over or giving up your needs—it's about loosening your grip on control, allowing love to evolve naturally, and trusting the process of connection.  Surrender is not a weakness, passivity, or resignation.  Learning to surrender is a process and it doesn't have to be a massive life shift. You can practice in small ways. These life lessons are often learned the hard way and they become our greatest teachers. My hope is that by sharing my experiences in my special 10-week “Coming Home to Yourself” podcast series, you'll recognize these universal truths in your own journey and move through them with a little more ease..  Download this episode's worksheet at http://andreaowen.com/661 What you'll hear in this episode: The Role of Surrender in Healing and Personal Growth: How surrender is deeply tied to self-trust (which connects to your work around self-abandonment) Surrender in Relationships: what it looks like, for example, letting go of rigid expectations and softening into trust; and why it matters. How to Practice Surrender: how to surrender to your emotions instead of suppressing them. Resources from this episode:

Before we jump into today's podcast episode, I want to remind you that Write Your Way Through It is currently open for registration! Join us now and take advantage of the early bird price. We start at the end of this month! This week's minisode comes from a direct message I received from a podcast listener. She sent me a message saying that she related to something I was going through and admires me for the way I seem to handle it. [Visit AndreaOwen.com/660 to see the direct message] I'll be honest with you, this one made me very emotional. Partly, because I always love receiving messages like these from listeners, partly because it always feels amazing to be validated for your own growth, and partly because I knew I wanted to come on the podcast and be honest with you about what that particular journey has really looked like. Do I always move through challenges like these with steadiness? Not at all. Tune into the podcast where I open up about this, talking specifically about values work, self trust, and the support we seek and hopefully find in our friendships. Resources from this episode:  Write Your Way Through It Sign up to make sure you don't miss any of my birthday episodes! Episode 658: Lesson 1 on self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trust Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/660 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Emotional fluency is your path to power.” Welcome to Lesson 2, where I explore what I call the four holy emotions—grief, terror, rage, and shame—and how they can unlock your power. But like any personal growth journey, we need to lay the groundwork first. I'll share why we resist these emotions, explore how to stop resisting them, and finally, see them as sacred messengers rather than obstacles. If you're new to my special 10-week “Coming Home to Yourself” podcast series leading up to my 50th birthday, welcome! Every Wednesday, I'm sharing a life lesson that has shaped my personal growth over the last 50 years. I put a lot of thought into what has truly propelled me forward. And because birthdays (and personal growth) deserve to be celebrated, don't forget that I'm giving away a copy of one of my books each week on Instagram!

I am kicking off a special 10-week podcast series leading up to my 50th birthday! Every Wednesday, I'm diving into a different life lesson which includes reflections on personal growth, resilience, and what it truly means to come home to yourself. Because birthdays (and personal growth) should be celebrated, I am also giving away a copy of one of my books each week on Instagram!

If you're living in the United States (and even if you don't), the last few weeks have been a doozy. Between the fires in Los Angeles, and the changes that are happening that our government has been pushing forward, current events have been enough to not only make our heads spin, but cause peak levels of anxiety.  And boy do I feel you.  I recorded a short minisode sharing with you two things I've found online that have been enormously helpful. There's no shortage of information out there about what's happening (whether that information is reliable or not), and I wanted to bring you something about where we go from here.  Last, starting on Wednesday, you'll see something new land in your inbox and in the podcast feed: Ten weekly life lessons I'll be creating episodes about, as I approach my 50th birthday in April! I'll be giving a book away every week, so stay tuned for details on how to win

“You just need to ask for help!” Sure, sounds easy—until you actually try to do it. This week, we're tackling the real reasons setting boundaries is hard and why the mental load still falls disproportionately on women. My guest, Dr. Kat Kaeni, is a perinatal mental health-certified psychologist and host of the podcast Mom & Mind. She's here to break down how our conditioning keeps us stuck in burnout mode and what we can do to shift out of it. We talk about the mental weight of keeping everything running and why self-compassion and boundaries aren't just fluffy concepts—they're essential for protecting your peace and wellbeing.  What you'll hear: The truth about boundaries and why they're so hard to keep (5:55) How shame and self-compassion affect mental health (20:38) Strategies to help you improve your overall mental well-being, today (30:25) Why the mental load tends to fall on women and what to do about it (33:08) Resources: Sign up for my email list Dr. Kat Kaeni's website Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/656 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“A lot of days it feels like standing in a pile of rubble and trying to figure it all out.” In this coaching session, I sit down with Lisa, a listener who's grappling with self-abandonment and the exhaustion that comes from always putting others first. In fact, during this session you'll hear me talk about how Lisa has “mastered the art of walking away from herself to shield from walking away from others”. Together, we unpack her struggles and explore how small, intentional steps can help her rebuild a stronger connection to herself. If you've ever felt stuck, resentful, or unsure how to set boundaries, this conversation will resonate. I'm sharing practical tools and insight to help you shift your mindset, examine your relationship with resentment and anger; and take meaningful steps toward the life you deserve. What You'll Hear The emotional weight of prioritizing everyone else and losing yourself in the process Why anger often masks deeper feelings like resentment and hurt—and how to unpack them Doing the personal development work and the power of small steps in rewiring your brain  Journaling as a tool for clarity and connecting with your emotions Resources: Private Coaching Sign up for my email list My book, Make Some Noise Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/655 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm thrilled to welcome Asha Frost, an indigenous medicine woman, bestselling author of You Are the Medicine, and creator of the newly released Animal Elders Oracle Deck. Asha and I dive into the transformative power of reconnecting with our roots, embracing the wisdom of the seasons, and learning to trust the medicine within ourselves. We talk about the beauty of slowing down, connecting with nature, and the magic of awe and wonder. As you listen, I hope you'll be inspired to embrace your own cycles of growth and healing with compassion and curiosity What you'll hear: How vulnerability can become a powerful tool for healing and supporting others (3:55) Reclaiming your inner medicine (“medicine sparks”) and reconnecting with Self (5:26) Rediscovering and honoring your ancestral roots and healing generational trauma (12:04) Ways to align your evolution with the natural rhythms and cycles of the earth (30:21) Resources: Join me for free group coaching calls in January! Sign up for my email list Asha's website Asha's Animal Elders Oracle Deck Asha on Instagram @asha.frost Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/654 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As the new year kicks off, it can be helpful to spend some time reflecting, intention-setting, and embracing fresh opportunities for growth. In this minisode, we explore why celebrating small wins matters more than ever and how they can create a ripple effect of positivity and progress, even in challenging times. What you'll hear in this episode: The Psychology of Small Wins: Learn how celebrating even the tiniest accomplishments activates your brain's reward system and fosters motivation. Momentum Over Perfection: Small victories build momentum and help combat the all-or-nothing mindset that often hinders your progress. Practical Ways to Celebrate: From journaling to a little dance, discover how to make celebrating small wins a meaningful (and fun!) habit. The Ripple Effect: Understand how small wins accumulate to create lasting change and success in the bigger picture. What it looks like: Explore examples of what small wins in personal growth can look like.  As we navigate the early days of this year, let's commit to honoring our progress—step by step, win by win. Whether it's finishing a challenging task, finding time to rest, or showing kindness in a tough moment, every victory is worth celebrating. Thank you for tuning in, and may this episode inspire you to embrace the joy in your journey. P.S. Our hearts go out to everyone in Los Angeles affected by the recent fires. These moments of hardship remind us of the importance of resilience, hope, and finding light in even the smallest victories. Resources from this episode: Sign up for our free group coaching calls coming up in January Sign up for my email list Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/653 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm thrilled to welcome back Jessica Graham, an incredible author, trauma expert, and meditation teacher, to talk about their brand-new book, Being (Sick) Enough: Thoughts on Invisible Illness, Childhood Trauma, and Living Well When Surviving is Hard. If you've ever felt the weight of trauma, chronic illness, or just navigating life in a challenging world, Jessica's wisdom will resonate deeply. In this conversation, we explore the complexities of healing, mindfulness, and finding balance in a world that often feels overwhelming. After listening, my hope is that you'll walk away with not only a better understanding of the connection between trauma and physical health but also actionable insights for living well—even when surviving feels hard. What you'll hear: What sparked Jessica's new book and how it supports those navigating trauma and chronic illness (17:52) Why we often need science to trust ourselves and what that reveals about healing (21:29) The science of “limbic resonance” and how rewiring our attachment systems can transform relationships and choices (26:48) How mindfulness isn't a one-size-fits-all practice (31:59) Jessica's journey of coming out as nonbinary and finding healing through alignment (37:27) Strategies for living well in a world full of political, environmental, and societal challenges (48:55) Plus, a coaching episode update on Christina about getting out of her comfort zone! (58:11) Resources: Join me for free group coaching calls on January 21st and January 23rd! Private Coaching with Andrea Jessica's website Episode 643: Sexuality and Spiritual Awakening Jessica Graham Episode 623: Gene Keys, Personal Discovery, and Purpose with Tracie Cornell Andrea's psychedelic therapy private podcast feed Episode 648: Coaching session w/ Christina on getting out of her comfort zone Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/652 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heather Chauvin is back, and we're exploring what it really means to step into your power—especially when life feels overwhelming. As a leadership coach, Heather helps ‘successful' women live, work, and parent with courage and authenticity, on their own terms. Through her podcast, Emotionally Uncomfortable, and her work, she offers practical tools and fresh perspectives on what it takes to not just survive, but truly thrive. We talk about what happens when you stop running from life's storms and start facing them instead. Heather shares how tuning into your body's signals can transform your relationship with fear, anxiety, and overwhelm—and help you create a life that feels grounded, even when the world around you feels chaotic. What you'll hear: Why running toward challenges (like a buffalo) can help you move through them faster (9:44) How to recognize the difference between inner wisdom and external noise (15:16) Simple prompts to guide self-trust and decision-making (17:01) What your body might be trying to tell you through stress, fatigue, or other symptoms (38:14) Everyday practices to embody the kind of person your younger self needed (46:39) Resources: Heather's website 647 Minisode: Simple New Year ritual 649: Coaching session w/ Jenna on being on the “right path” Sign up for my email list Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/651 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this minisode, we're diving into a topic that hits close to home for so many of us (me too!): letting go of control and surrendering outcomes. If you've ever found yourself stuck in the cycle of overthinking, micromanaging, or gripping too tightly to people or situations, this episode is for you. Together, we'll explore why control can feel so comforting, yet so exhausting, and how we can begin to release it in ways that empower, rather than paralyze, us. Because this is an enormous topic for me in my own healing and growth, I got the word “surrender” tattooed on my arm in my own handwriting in 2016. How much energy do you spend trying to control situations, people, or outcomes that are simply out of your hands? This episode is an invitation to rethink the way we approach control and surrender. We'll walk through the telltale signs of over-control, the fears that drive it, and tangible steps to cultivate detachment without giving up on what matters most. What you'll hear: We often try to control out of fear, a need for certainty, or an ego-driven desire to get things “right” or “better.” Signs of over-control include exhaustion, strained relationships, and difficulty asking for help. Recognizing where control is sneaking in is the first step to release it. Reflection prompts such as Where are you gripping too tightly—work, relationships, parenting, or personal goals? (plus more examples) Control is often an illusion—we can influence outcomes but not guarantee them. Surrender is not giving up—it's trusting the process while staying committed to what matters. What detachment is and isn't.  FIVE tangible practices for you to use starting now.  Surrendering frees up energy for what you can control—your actions, mindset, and attitude—while creating space for unexpected beauty in life. “The most beautiful things often come when we release the grip and allow space for the unexpected to come to life.”  Resources from this episode: Sign up for our free group coaching calls coming up in January Sign up for my email list Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/650 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have another coaching podcast episode for you based on chapter two in 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life—all about taking responsibility for your life! This episode asks the big question, “Am I on the right path?” Jenna joined me to discuss her journey and the challenges of staying committed to a path when self-doubt and competing ideas creep in. We've all felt that uncertainty about whether we're heading in the right direction or second-guessed decisions we've made. Jenna's experience is a reminder that growth and direction come when we embrace the process—even when it feels messy. What You'll Hear Jenna's struggle with staying the course when doubts creep in How to stay patient with yourself during life's highs and lows The challenge of committing to a path when other options seem tempting Encouragement for trusting your journey  Resources:

I have a coaching podcast episode for you—based on chapter three in 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life– all on stepping out of your comfort zone. In this episode, Christina shares her journey of launching her business and the challenges she faces when it comes to putting herself out there. You might not struggle with the same thing as Christina, but pay attention and look for the universal parts of her story. We all get stuck in our heads, worrying about a problem that isn't the problem. Christina's experience is a reminder that, no matter where we are in our journey, it's easy to distract ourselves from what matters most. What You'll Hear Christina's struggle with the fear of visibility and taking bold steps forward How distractions often take priority over the things that matter most The internal battle between knowing what to do and avoiding it The emotional journey of building a business and confronting the discomfort of being seen  Resources:

Happy New Year

Radical self-love and self-acceptance take center stage as writer and social media creator Heidi Clements shares her inspiring journey of reinvention in her 60s. Heidi uses her TikTok and Instagram platforms to connect with women of all ages, sharing stories, style, and the wisdom she's gained through her unique experiences. An advocate for more stories about women in their 50s, she challenges societal norms and celebrates the pursuit of happiness on your own terms. In this episode, Heidi opens up about her experiences in Hollywood and how they shaped her views on self-acceptance, aging, and beauty. We discuss the journey of cultivating self-love and radical self-acceptance, embracing every part of yourself—the good, the bad, and the messy. Plus, we explore the empowering connection between dressing for yourself and building unshakable confidence. What you'll hear in this episode: Why Heidi started TikTok and Instagram to share her style and life stories. (4:50) How Hollywood shaped Heidi's views on aging, beauty, and self-acceptance. (15:48) Heidi's journey to letting go of opinions and embracing confidence. (18:18) The connection between personal style and self-confidence. (23:58) Resources:

Terri Cole is back for her 7th appearance—yes, 7th—to dive into high-functioning codependency and boundaries. Her latest book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency, is a game-changer and I am thrilled to welcome Terri back to the show! Together we unpack the myth of what codependency is—especially for high-achieving women—and give us a clear picture of high-functioning codependency (HFC). We're talking about things like auto advice-giving and running everyone else's life at the expense of your sanity. Terri and I also break down tools such as resentment inventory and the art of detachment (she explains what these are - don't worry!). And we also talk about boundaries, of course! Specifically how healthy boundaries aren't about shutting people out; they're about letting yourself breathe.  What you'll hear in this episode: What is high-functioning codependency and how does it show up? (6:11) Where it all begins: understanding root causes and the need for control (17:38) Mastering the art of detachment without losing the connection (23:58) The secret to setting boundaries that actually work (27:49) Resentment inventory: your tool for spotting burnout and over-giving (33:30) Resources:

I'm so glad you're here for this second part of our mini-series on not taking things personally. A couple of weeks ago, in Episode 640, we explored how taking things personally shows up in our lives—whether in work settings, relationships, or daily interactions. Today, we're continuing the conversation with actionable strategies to help you shift your perspective and build emotional resilience. Think of these as tools for setting boundaries, reclaiming your narrative, and staying grounded when life feels a little too personal. Let's dive in! What You'll Learn in This Episode: Recognizing Your Personal Stories: Learn how to identify and reframe the assumptions and beliefs that might be causing unnecessary emotional reactions. Building Emotional Space: Discover simple breathing and visualization techniques to create mental distance and regain control over your reactions. Strengthening Self-Worth: Find out how tools like mantras, affirmations, and reflective practices can help you fortify your sense of self Shifting Perspective: Explore creative ways to step outside of your immediate emotions and see situations from a neutral or detached point of view. Celebrating Your Growth: See why reflecting on small wins can create big shifts in how you respond to challenging situations over time. Taking things less personally isn't about suppressing your emotions or excusing poor behavior—it's about choosing how you want to respond. By consistently practicing these tools, you'll build stronger emotional resilience and reclaim the narrative around your experiences. If this resonates with you, be sure to check out Part 1 (Episode 640) for more insights and context. And if you're ready to go deeper into this kind of work, let's connect! My next Daring Way Retreat is open for registration at andreaowen.com/retreat. Resources from this episode: Minisode on Not Taking Things Personally, Part 1 Daring Way retreat (book a call with me!)  Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/644 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm bringing back an amazing conversation with Jessica Graham, a spiritual and sexual activist, author, meditation teacher, and sex and intimacy guide. Jessica isn't just a guest—I had the privilege of working with her as my coach during a deeply transformative chapter in my personal growth and healing. This episode highlights her dedication to helping others explore and heal their relationship with sexuality.  In this episode, we talked about shame, the messaging we received as children about sex and sexuality, and what that all means. We also spoke about the common struggle women face when it comes to their feelings about sex. Plus, Jessica shared how the combination of affirmation and mindfulness can help with sex and intimacy. I hope our conversation will encourage you to explore inner work around your sexuality and spiritual awakening.  In this episode you'll hear: How Jessica is a sex coach who is more than a sex coach (14:35) Sexuality inventory: what it is and what's the purpose (25:11) The most common struggle women face around sexuality (31:27) Why self-compassion is so important to any kind of personal development work (48:04) Resources mentioned in this episode:

We're diving into the art of creating deeper intimacy with guest Magda Kay! Magda is an intimacy expert, Tantra teacher, and conscious relating coach dedicated to helping people connect with their deepest desires and experience transformative intimacy. “Sex and intimacy are not the same,” Magda shares. For her, intimacy is about the depth of human experience—how fully you engage with yourself and the world around you. In this episode, we explore ways to connect with your inner self, honor your needs, and cultivate intimacy in your relationships. Plus, we unpack the practice of Tantra and how embracing your full sensuality can transform your life. What you'll hear in this episode: Are sex and intimacy the same? Sex is something you do - intimacy is how you do it. (4:42) Access your deepest desires and be more intimate - but, where do you even start? (8:24) Magda explains what she calls power centers and how they help you connect to your inner self and honor your needs (10:32) The most common mistakes people make when losing relationships or experiencing their end (16:11) Tantra: what it actually is and how sex is just a small part of the practice (23:22) How to embrace your sensuality and intimacy fully (39:36) Resources: ✨ Early Bird Registration for the Daring Way Retreat opens on Friday, November 29th! Magda's website Magda on Instagram No Bad Parts (book) Episode 327: Harnessing the Power of Womanly Arts with Mama Gena Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/642 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are the conversations you have with yourself empowering or defeating? We're diving back into one of my favorite topics - the inner critic - with guest Joanna Kleinman. Joanna is a psychotherapist, leadership coach, and best-selling author who has dedicated her career to helping people unhook from the negative self-talk holding them back. Through her M.I.N.D Method™, she offers a clear path to recognize, dethrone, and ultimately transform your inner critic's influence. Together, we explore how self-compassion, personal growth, and trusting your inner wisdom can help you break free from the mental loops that keep you stuck.  You'll hear: Why you can never really break free from your inner critic, you can recognize it and dethrone it (5:05) Some of the biggest misconceptions people have about what it takes to cultivate true self-compassion (14:14) The idea that “our pain is our greatest teacher” and what it means for your growth (14:46) Practical ways to unhook from your inner critic with the M.I.N.D Method™ (17:32) What happens when you learn to trust your inner wisdom and embrace the natural flow of life (29:37) Resources: Coaching with Andrea Joanna's website Joanna's book When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times, Pema Chodron Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/641 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Another minisode for you! This week, I'm diving into the habit of taking things personally—something I've covered in my book How to Stop Feeling Like Shit. This is part one of a two-part series, where I focus on how we tend to internalize feedback, silence, rejection, and even others' successes as reflections of our own worth. Taking things personally can chip away at our self-worth and confidence over time and lead us down a path of shame. So in this episode, I talk about why awareness is the first step in breaking these patterns. I also discuss why the advice to "just stop taking things personally" often doesn't help. It's so much more nuanced than that, and this work is unique to each person. So today, I'm identifying 10 specific ways we commonly make things personal—even when they aren't. What you'll hear in this minisode:  Why self-awareness is key to understanding personal triggers How we assume criticism means "I'm not good enough" Taking silence or short responses as signs of rejection Overinterpreting others' moods as something about us Comparing ourselves to others' praise or successes Feeling rejected when others set boundaries The impact of social media comparisons I hope this episode brings some clarity on ways you might be personalizing situations that don't actually reflect on you. Next time, I'll be diving into practical solutions for letting go of this habit. Thanks for listening, and remember—our life's journey is to make ourselves better humans, and our responsibility is to make the world a better place. See you in part two! Resources from this episode:  Daring Way Retreat is opening SOON!  How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/640 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're flipping the script this week! Past guest Hunter Clarke-Fields interviews me on how to develop shame resilience and break free from the shame-driven cycles we often pass on to our kids. Originally aired on The Mindful Parenting Podcast, this conversation dives into the work of handling shame, building self-compassion, and modeling emotional resilience for our children.  We also touch on ways to create boundaries, make peace with people-pleasing, and teach kids to navigate their emotions with empathy. I hope you enjoy this special crossover episode, where Hunter's thoughtful questions bring out new perspectives. You'll hear: Shame resilience—why it's essential in parenting and personal growth (4:36) How to recognize and shift out of people-pleasing patterns (25:12) Defining healthy boundaries and why they matter (27:34) Teaching emotional resilience and empathy to kids without shame (35:37) Why 'giving zero Fs' is harming us (41:43) Resources: Early bird registration for the Daring Way Retreat opens soon - sign up for the interest list for more information! Episode 604: Reparenting and Mindful Parenting with Hunter Clarke-Fields Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/639 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're re-airing an episode with one of my favorite guests - Charlie Gilkey! Charlie offers valuable insights that apply to anyone looking to get more done, whether you're a business owner or simply navigating the demands of everyday life. Who doesn't want to be more productive? Am I right?  As a sought-after advisor and speaker, Charlie shares his wisdom on overcoming overwhelm and overload, why we tend to neglect self-care, and practical time-blocking strategies to boost productivity. Listen in as we revisit our conversation on the behaviors that sabotage productivity, how to handle those “WTF” moments, and the importance of staying present. You'll hear: Combatting overwhelm by looking at your ‘overload' (5:04) Time blocking and how it can be used to help us be more productive (6:02) Illuminating “invisible tasks”, such as turning off the lights or cleaning up after your family (9:05) Why self-care is typically last on our to-do list and the first to get pushed off (12:55) Courage, boundaries, and discipline; how they relate to each other (21:59) Resources: ✨ Get coached on the podcast for free – apply here! Charlie's website Time Blocking Resources and Scheduler Andrea on Charlie's Podcast, Productive Flourishing Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/638 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Building self-trust can feel like a monumental task, especially if you've been second-guessing yourself or holding back from taking real action. In today's episode, I'm sharing a simple, no-fluff process to strengthen your trust in yourself and create a foundation you can rely on. It's about moving from self-doubt to solid self-belief, step by step. We'll walk through five powerful practices to help you connect to your inner confidence and self-trust. I'm also breaking down the BRAVING acronym to give you a framework for building trust with yourself as you navigate life's challenges. Whether you're feeling uncertain, overwhelmed, or just unsure of your next move, these steps will help you get grounded and reconnect with your own inner guidance. Key Takeaways from this minisode: Embracing Self-Reflection: I share the importance of checking in with ourselves regularly to understand how our inner dialogue might be affecting our confidence. The Role of Boundaries in Self-Trust: Establishing boundaries—especially in areas where we tend to people-please—plays a huge part in reinforcing our trust in ourselves. Commitment to Small Steps: Building self-trust doesn't require a major life overhaul; it's about committing to small, daily actions that remind us of our capability. Recognizing Self-Doubt Patterns: I discuss common patterns that sabotage self-trust, like overthinking and perfectionism, and how to start letting them go. Reinforcing Self-Trust Through Accountability: Sharing our intentions with others can be a powerful motivator and builds trust in ourselves to follow through. Building self-trust doesn't have to be overwhelming. It's often the result of small, steady actions that add up over time. Using the BRAVING acronym is a powerful tool to remind yourself of how to nurture that trust, even when things feel uncertain. Remember, this journey is about honoring your own worth—keep choosing yourself, one step at a time. Resources from this episode: Get coached on the podcast – apply here! Brené's episode on trust Braving acronym PDF Getting Damn Good at Life Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/637 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have another re-broadcast episode for you. It is one of my most listened-to episodes. Shannon Kaiser is the wisest, compassionate human - so I am not surprised! Sharon is the bestselling author of five books on the psychology of happiness and fulfillment, including the #1 bestseller, The Self-Love Experiment and Adventures for Your Soul. Her book, Joy Seeker: Let Go of What's Holding You Back So You Can Live the Life You Were Made For, is available this week!  It is always a pleasure to talk to this amazing lady.  Today we talk about joy, spirituality, and authentic living. As you will hear, the underlying message to our conversation is, permitting yourself to do the things you've always wanted to do. We talk about how women can work to trust and believe in themselves, how to live more authentically, and how to speak your truth. As Shannon said so perfectly during our time together, “It all comes back to living your life from a place of integrity, a place of truth, and a place of honesty; that is the true joy.” You'll hear: What led Shannon to write Joy Seeker and how her experiences appear throughout it (5:01) Ask yourself, “What have you always wanted to do but have not given yourself permission to do?” (6:57) How women can work to trust and believe in themselves and how we can follow our hearts and our dreams; plus ask yourself, “What dream keeps coming back to you?” (9:04) Being in gratitude and exploring gratitude practices (28:53) How losing what you love most can help you find what you need and honoring your grief (31:35) Letting go of who you think you're supposed to be so you can be who you're meant to be (36:05) Resources: ✨ Get coached on the podcast for free - apply here! Shannon's website Shannon's new book Episode 165: The Self-Love Experiment with Shannon Kaiser Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/636 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ready to tap into your Big Energy and find out why it's the most important edge you have? Erin King, a motivational speaker, bestselling author, and expert in personal energy management, is back with actionable strategies to help you manage your energy and show up as your best self. With Erin's guidance, you'll learn how to power through less and power up more. “Energy never lies—it's the last truth-teller we can trust.” In this episode, Erin shows us that Big Energy isn't about being the loudest or the one with the most hustle—it's about finding your strength, owning it, and showing up at your best. She walks us through how to find your energy type and then tap into it. She also shares why it's not about making big life changes, but instead tuning into your intuition, and making small, manageable changes that stick. You'll hear: Unlocking Your Big Energy with Erin's tips on creating those "at your best" moments instead of waiting for them (4:43) Discovering the five key energy types and how to find yours (11:53) How to balance being bold and confident without coming off as “too much” (14:54) Big Energy is not about how loud you are, how bossy, or how much you hustle (24:15) Becoming a Big Energy Being by focusing on what you can control and letting go of the rest (26:32) Exploring the emotional side of Big Energy and how your feelings fuel your vibe (31:34) Resources: Sign up for early notification for the next Daring Way™ retreat Erin's website The Energy Exam Erin on Instagram @mrs.erin.king Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/635 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's *Make Some Noise* minisode (#634) is a deep dive into rewiring our brains to help break free from negative self-talk. If you're ready to change how you see yourself and step into a more compassionate mindset, this episode is for you! Let's take a look at the key takeaways:  

Ever wonder if you're being gaslit by a partner, friend, or even a politician? Dr. Robin Stern is here to explain how to recognize the signs of gaslighting and take back control of your reality.  Robin Stern, Ph.D. is the co-founder and senior advisor to the director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. With 30 years of experience as a licensed psychoanalyst, Robin is the leading expert on gaslighting. She's also the author of The Gaslight Effect and The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide. In this episode, Robin helps us unpack the complexities of gaslighting and its stages, explains political gaslighting, and offers some steps toward reclaiming your power. You'll hear: The three stages of gaslighting: disbelief, defense, and depression (5:55) How gaslighters use precise manipulation to control their targets (12:44) The five key signs that a politician is using gaslighting tactics (19:34) How to reclaim your power when you feel like you're being gaslit (22:50) The overuse of words like "trauma" and "gaslighting" is diluting their impact (30:13) Advice on staying gaslight-free by trusting your instincts and setting clear boundaries (34:44) Resources: Sign up for early notification for the next Daring Way™ retreat Robin's website Misuse of therapy words Political Gaslighting Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/633 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we're rebroadcasting one of our most popular episodes featuring the amazing Kara Loewentheil! Kara is a Master Certified Coach who transitioned from a legal career to life coaching, using her expertise in feminist theory to help women break free from the patriarchy's mental grip. She's also the host of the podcast Unf*ck Your Brain and an all-around powerhouse. In this episode, we dive into the social messaging women receive and how it fuels our self-critical thoughts. Kara shares the transformative work she does to help women reshape their thinking and reclaim their self-perception. I'm excited to reintroduce you to Kara—enjoy the conversation! You'll hear: How women's inner critic and feelings of inadequacy stem directly from the patriarchy (5:03) Why you can't simply “be nicer” to yourself to quiet the inner critic (11:31) Kara's approach to thought work, especially for those who've experienced trauma, and why it's such a personal process (15:26) The idea of “believing harder” to boost self-confidence and tackle insecurity (20:35) The disconnect between women's actions toward their goals and what's holding them back (25:29) Kara's take on beauty standards, diet culture, and the impact they have on women (31:50) Resources: Sign up for early notification for the next Daring Way™ retreat Kara's Website Unf*ck Your Brain Podcast Kara on Instagram Episode 259: Challenging Cultural Beauty and Wellness Standards with Melissa Toler Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/632 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, I'm rebroadcasting a minisode where I explore a powerful concept from relationship experts John and Julie Gottman. The Gottmans introduced the idea of The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, and it has helped me personally in my relationships a great deal.  In this minisode, I break down each Horseman, share real-life examples, and provide a resource to help you apply the antidotes to these common behaviors. It's simple but deeply impactful. Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Article on the four horsemen The four horsemen antidotes Article on physiological flooding Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I've compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/631 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices