Podcasts about joyful courage

This week's podcast is a must-listen for parents navigating the challenges of raising teens in the digital age! I dive into a relatable post from our Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens Facebook group about a mom's discovery of her 12-year-old's creative use of tech to bypass school filters. We discuss the struggles of setting screen boundaries, the importance of co-creating agreements, and how to handle these conversations with curiosity and connection rather than confrontation. If you're dealing with tech-related parenting hurdles, this episode is packed with insights and actionable tips. Don't miss it! For more show notes and information about our sponsors go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-545-secret-browsers-hiding-tiktok-middle-school-screen-challenges/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This was such a fun episode to create! A parent in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens opened up about their concerns for their 15-year-old daughter, who's beginning to ride with friends who are new drivers. As her peers gain driving experience, this parent is feeling understandably anxious about safety and how to guide their teen through this phase. I acknowledged these valid concerns and suggested a reframing approach, focusing on building trust in teens' growth through their experiences. While emphasizing the importance of safety, I encouraged open, ongoing conversations about responsible driving to help build awareness and accountability. I also recommended that parents engage their teens with questions about friends' driving behaviors and reinforce family rules constructively. To help manage parental anxiety, I shared practical tools like deep breathing, recognizing fears, and reframing thoughts to foster trust in the learning process. Allowing teens to make mistakes within safe boundaries, I explained, helps build their decision-making skills and strengthens the parent-teen relationship. Watching teens gain independence is challenging, but it's a crucial step in their development. Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-527-Managing-our-fears-about-teenagers-and-driving/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I see and field a lot of questions from parents about disrespect and kids who seem to have no desire to connect or be with the family. We talk so much about relationship here, but what happens when there seems to be no desire for a relationship on the side of the kids? This is where we head this week on the show… Big shout out to a member of the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group member who gave permission to me to tease apart a post she shared there here on the podcast! For full show notes and info about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-520-disrespect-and-relationship-with-our-teenagers/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's solo show teases apart the difference between being in resistance and being in flow when it comes to the ride we are on while parenting teenagers. The middle school and high school years are a current that is ever changing, and we have choices in how we lean into the ebb and flow. This week I share a post from a parent in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group that resonated deeply with me, and bring my own learning from a meditation practice I was invited into. For more show notes and news about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-519-finding-flow-in-the-current-of-parenting-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I am digging into a challenge that is plaguing way too many parents of teens - vaping nicotine. It is something I worked through with my kids, and something that shows up for so many of the parents I work with. One parent came forward asking for resources in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens group - their daughter had recently come clean about their use and needed help. Listen in and let me know what you think! Find all the show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-517-when-our-teens-are-vaping-nicotine/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A new MP3 sermon from Santa Rosa Bible Church is now available on SermonAudio with the following details: Title: Confidence in Jesus produces joyful courage Subtitle: The Book of Acts Speaker: Josh Carrillo Broadcaster: Santa Rosa Bible Church Event: Sunday Service Date: 8/25/2024 Bible: Acts 24:1-27 Length: 51 min.

My guest today is my returning friend, Yolanda Williams! We're getting a little meta this week as we focus on what white parent educators can be doing better, but believe me, this episode is full of great content for all parents.   After catching-up on how Yolanda, Parenting Decolonized, and her daughter are doing, Yolanda jumps in and explains who takes on the emotional, physical, and spiritual labor of what's going on in our world and why it's such a huge deal for white parent educators to choose silence in order to not offend their clients. The labor, racism, and speaking out about hot topics that parent educators who are people of color are doing take so much time and effort that white parent educators may not even think of. I get vulnerable with Yolanda and ask about what I can do when I feel uninformed and uncomfortable about topics that I know are important to call out (spoiler: you don't need to have all the answers to start speaking out). I ask Yolanda specifically what I can do to make Joyful Courage a more equitable podcast & platform and what I can be teaching new, fresh parent educators.  Takeaways from the show The roots of traditional parenting in our country is uncomfortable and rooted in racism, sexism, & capitalism  What's the responsibility of white parent educators around race? Where can we grow? What's completely missing?   Who is taking on the spiritual, physical, and emotional labor of what's going on in the world right now? How can we weigh in and stand-up for people when we don't know or understand enough information to feel confident about doing so?  Asking yourself what you're scared of that's keeping you from speaking out? Sit with it, and do it anyway  Centering what our most marginalized children need - everything that they need to be liberated will liberate us, too  Using media as a starting point for these conversations For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me today and consider how we can better be with the unfolding. So many in the Joyful Courage community are moving through big things with their adolescents right now - end of school year, transition into summer, teen risk taking, having a tough time with relationship - it is all real and relevent. AND, what if the contrast and discomfort we're feeling is an indicator that we can expand our mindset and try and see things in a new way? For show notes and info about sponsors, go to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-494-having-faith-when-we-feel-out-of-control/ Join the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/jcforparentsofteens Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, Dr. Delaney Ruston talks with Casey O'Roarty, Med., who is a well-recognized expert in Positive Discipline, particularly when it comes to tweens and teens. She is the author of Joyful Courage and the host of the Joyful Courage podcast and has spent over 15 years working with families. In this episode, Casey provides real-life anecdotes about when kids sneak screen time when they have meltdowns and other behaviors, and she explores fostering curiosity, addressing meltdowns, and finding the delicate balance between having firmness while fostering a strong parent-child relationship.  In addition, another guest, a mother of three kids,  shares her experience with ditching her old parenting ways to adopt the Positive Discipline approach. Show Notes Casey O'Roarty's website  

You and me and enthusiastic curiosity - WOOHOO! It may sound crazy but when we can really connect with the experience we are having while navigating our kids' mischief, regulate, and shift into curiosity, there is space for much deeper connection and learning for all. Truly. Listen to this show for tips on all the things - and let me know what you think! For show notes and more info on our sponsors, head to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-478-Meeting-misbehavior-with-enthusiastic-curiosity/ To chime in on your take-aways, join the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/jcforparentsofteens/posts/1600103267494128/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Inspired by Monday's show and a post for the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group, today is an exploration of the experience and considerations when you find yourself parenting with someone who doesn't align with your style of parenting. Share your takeaways in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group by clicking here. Check out the full show notes and links about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-474-when-we-dont-align-with-our-partners-parenting-style/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm back with a brand new solo show, channeling wisdom and empowerment. Today I am reflecting on a workplace training experience and will emphasize the importance of nurturing relationships with teenagers amidst their complexities and challenges. I share insights on fostering understanding, transparency, and connection with teens, urging you all to navigate the wonkiness of adolescence with curiosity and presence. See more show notes and info about sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-472-The-wobble-of-centering-relationship-and-curiosity-with-our-teens/ Share your takeaways in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group - click here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I get to bring you a much requested episode. We get to dive into what this work looks like with older kids and teens, and especially talking about teen anxiety. I got to hang out with one of my favorite humans, Casey O'Roarty. She hosts the Joyful Courage podcast, and her work really focuses on positive discipline in those adolescent years, and all the things that come up in that space. And she truly is a human that I'm like, I'm gonna need you on speed dial, my friend. I just find her approach to this so in alignment with ours with young humans, and that it really does come back to relationship and connection above all else. And when I look forward to those teen years and look ahead, what I really want is to be in relationship with my teenagers. And Casey does such a beautiful job of laying out what does this look like? What's the messiness of it all and how do we navigate it? I'm so jazzed to get to bring this episode to you. All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Casey: Instagram: @joyful_courage  Website: https://www.besproutable.com/teens/ Order the book: Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey Podcast: Joyful Courage Courses: Positive Discipline for Parents of Teens and Tweens Facebook group: Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens Podcast episode with Rowan: Here  Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Podcast episode with Hunter Clarke-Fields: Here Music by: Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Back again with another solo show inspired by a member of the Living Joyful Courage membership group and her request for something about adolescents and dating.

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Join me in chapter NINE of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I've learned during the wild years since it came out. Get the full show notes and find out more about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-418-joyful-courage-book-chapter-nine/. Get the book and the companion guide at https://www.besproutable.com/joyful-courage-calming-the-drama-and-taking-control-of-your-parenting-journey-book/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me in chapter eight of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I've learned during the wild years since it came out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me in chapter seven of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I've learned during the wild years since it came out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me in chapter six of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I've learned during the wild years since it came out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me in chapter five of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I've learned during the wild years since it came out. For more show notes and info on our advertisers, go to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/joyful-courage-book-chapter-five Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we had a guest speaker, John Erickson, who works with the TCT (Treasuring Christ Together) network, that NCC is a part of.

Join me in Chapter Four of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I've learned during the wild years since it came out. Get the full show notes and find out more about our sponsors by visiting our website: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/joyful-courage-book-chapter-four/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me in Chapter Three of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I've learned during the wild years since it came out. Find out more and learn about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/joyful-courage-book-chapter-three/ Learn more about your ad choices - visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me in Chapter Two of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I've learned during the wild years since it came out. Find out more and learn about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/joyful-courage-book-chapter-two/ Learn more about your ad choices - visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me in Chapter One of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I've learned during the wild years since it came out. Find more info and links to sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/joyful-courage-book-chapter-one/. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join me in reading Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I've learned during the wild years since it came out. Full show notes and sponsor info at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Joyful-Courage-Book-Club-Intro. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's podcast is a solo show with your host, Casey O'Roarty. Today the content comes straight from the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens Facebook group. I talk a lot with my clients and here on the pod about "energetic responsibility" and a mama posted a question asking me to go deeper. The result is this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I'm bringing back to the podcast a guest who has much goodness to offer our community, Casey O'Roarty, a positive discipline trainer, parent coach, author, and host of the Joyful Courage podcast. Casey is just about to publish her first book, a passion project called Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey. I had the opportunity to read an advance copy, and I absolutely loved how accessible, tangible, and real it is.As you'll hear in our conversation, Casey has insights and strategies that are powerful for parents raising challenging kids, and she paints a realistic and doable picture of how we can truly calm the drama happening at home and in our families, as well as find more peace in the day to day. Casey O'Roarty, M Ed, is a facilitator of personal growth and development. Her work encourages parents to discover the purpose of their journey, while also providing them with tools and a shift of mindset that allows them to deepen their relationships with themselves and their families. As a former teacher, and a Certified Positive Discipline Trainer since 2007, Casey has led countless groups through workshops and classes that have left them feeling empowered and excited about parenting. She also offers an engaging podcast, live and online classes, and individual coaching at www.joyfulcourage.com. Casey lives in the Pacific Northwest with greatest teachers – her husband, and two teenage kids. Things you'll learn from this episodeWhy Casey wrote her book and what she hopes it does in the worldThe core ideas behind Jane Nelsen's philosophy of Positive DisciplineWhat truly understanding that we as parents are not alone in our journey does for usHow mindfully paying attention to the body helps us calm the drama at home in difficult momentsThe way using words such as “never” and “always” can negatively impact our parenting experienceHow to develop the muscle of “noticing” and how this simple concept can have a profound impact in our familiesThe power of the intentional pause Resources mentioned for calming the drama at homeJoyful Courage (Casey's website)Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey by Casey O'RoartyJoyful Courage podcastHow Positive Discipline Can Help Atypical Children Thrive (podcast episode)Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen's website)Love and Love with Joyful Courage (Facebook Group)Joyful Courage Parents of Teens (Facebook Group)Joyful Courage on InstagramSupport the showConnect with Tilt Parenting Visit Tilt Parenting Take the free 7-Day Challenge Read a chapter of Differently Wired Follow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram

Another throwback!! Love going into the vault to revisit some of the Joyful Courage solo shows of the past. This one is especialy sweet. Our teens are doing the best they can with the tools they have in the moment. They are responding to the external events and experineces around them. Listen in as I guide listeners through an experiential activity that highlights how the WAY we communicate influences how our kids are feeling, thinking and deciding to do. You're kids are not manipulating you. Get the full show notes for this show at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-183-your-kids-are-not-manipulating-you/

Listeners - you are in for a TREAT!! This Thursday the Joyful Courage podcast feed is being taken over by my good friend, Julie Neale, host and brilliance over at Mothers Quest Podcast.  Julie has powerful conversations with incredible guests and I am honored to be sharing one of those convos here with the Joyful Courage community. Julie's guest is Jonathan Mooney, father, writer, speaker, activist, and self-described “do-gooder.” He is the author of Normal Sucks, How to Live, Learn and Thrive Outside the Lines. Jonathan forged his own path to Brown University where he co-founded an organization and co-wrote a book to help neurodivergent students like himself succeed in college. He has been a champion for neurological and physical diversity for more than two decades, and goes deep and wide with Julie about the pervasive impact of institutionalized and cultural ableism and his quest to help himself and others with differences understand they are not deficient. You are IN FOR A TREAT MY FRIENDS!!  You can find shownotes for this episode by clicking this link: http://mothersquest.com/different-is-not-deficient-with-normal-sucks-author-jonathan-mooney/ While you're at it, be sure to check out MothersQuest episode 93 where Julie's son, a freshman at UCLA, interviews Jonathan about neurodivergent activism and more! Appreciating you all so much!    

For this weeks' Throwback Thursday, I'm excited to do a podcast exchange with Mother's Quest member and fellow podcaster Casey O'Rourty. Casey is a positive discipline trainer and parent coach and host of the Joyful Courage Podcast. When Casey and I talked about sharing favorite episodes on one another's feeds, I knew just which one I wanted to bring to you. It's a powerful, vulnerable conversation between Casey and her daughter Rowan, about Rowan's mental health challenges with anxiety and depression. I remember I first heard this episode when my son Ryan was going through a hard time in high school. Listening to Rowan's courage and self-reflection gave me so much empathy and insight. And listening to Casey's humility and honesty about the challenges of navigating her daughter's challenges, invited me to reflect on how I could be supportive to Ryan during his. In fact, we listened to part of it together and it opened channels of communication in a beautiful way. I hope you get as much as I did from this conversation and when you're done, that you download Joyful Courage on your favorite podcast app so you can check out Casey's other incredible episodes. Much appreciation, Julie Neale ORIGINAL SHOW NOTES My guest today is Rowan O'Roarty. Rowan is my oldest child, she will be 18 in January, and one of my biggest teachers of personal growth. As we all do, we learn who we are as parents, through our relationships with our children. Rowan made me a mom, and continues to influence who I am in the world as I navigate what it means to mother her. Rowan has been through her own journey of personal discovery over the past few years, maneuvering mental health challenges, dropping out of school, completing her GED, and stepping in to big responsibility while her dad and I were gone for 2 months going through my husband's cancer treatment. I am honored that she is willing to come share herself and her journey so candidly with you all today. Takeaways from the show: Where the anxiety started When Rowan became aware of her anxiety Things we did that helped Rowan cope with depression and anxiety Panic attacks  Navigating anxiety attacks and how parents can be supportive What depression feels like Things parents can do that are helpful to their teen's mental health Dialectical behavioral therapy Realizing only YOU can change your experience What Rowan has learned about herself these past few years Mental health and high school Rowan's freshman year Opting into online school Dropping out of school and gaining parent's support The GED test Plans for the future ABOUT THE JOYFUL COURAGE PODCAST Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast is a weekly show that is designed to entertain and inform as host, Casey O'Roarty tease apart all there is to learn on the parenting journey. The solo shows and expert guests interviews are packed full of useful nuggets for parents to take away and integrate into their own experience. — Mother's Quest is a podcast for moms who are ready to live a truly E.P.I.C. life. Join in for intimate conversations with a diverse group of inspiring mothers as they share how they are living an E.P.I.C. life, Engaging mindfully with their children (E), Passionately and Purposefully making a difference beyond their family (P), Investing in themselves (I), and Connecting to a strong support network (C). Join our community of mothers to light the way and sustain you on your quest at https://www.facebook.com/groups/mothersquest/

A huge part of becoming the most attractive you can be has to do with how you show up in your relationships. When life's obstacles get in the way, it gets challenging to be your best self.In this episode, Casey O'Roarty shares her tips for how to show up and be present for those who mean the most to you. If you're ready to learn how to be joyfully courageous through whatever you're facing, tune into today's episode.Today's Speaker: Casey O'RoartyCasey O'Roarty, Med, is a facilitator of personal growth and development.  Her work encourages parents to discover the purpose of their journey, while also providing them with tools and a shift of mindset that allows them to deepen their relationships with themselves and their families. As a Positive Discipline Trainer since 2007 and certified coach, Casey has led countless groups through workshops and classes that have left them feeling empowered and excited about parenting. She also offers an engaging podcast, Joyful Courage - which has been downloaded over a million times - live and online classes, and individual coaching at www.besproutable.com/teens. Her first book, Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of YOUR Parenting Journey launched on May 20th, 2019. Casey lives in the Pacific Northwest with her greatest teachers – her husband, and two teenage kids.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!Episode 110 - How to Live Joyfully Courageous with Casey O'RoartyHas your spouse told you that they are just done with this marriage? If so, you are not alone. Join Kimberly Beam Holmes and Dr. Joe Beam on Wednesday, July 13, 2022 for a webinar designed specifically for you.Visit marriagehelper.com/lost to sign up today!

Casey O'Roarty is a positive discipline Trainer and Parent Coach. She hosts the popular parenting podcast, “Joyful Courage”. For the last 20 years, Casey has worked with families as an educator and coach to broaden perspectives on parenthood, behavior and relationships between parents and children. In this episode, Casey offers advice on how you can improve your relationship with your moody teenager and she reminds parents that we really have the power to influence a better relationship with our teen.   Key Takeaways A little bit about Casey and her work.  What are some common mistakes parents make when raising teens?  Parents often make the mistake that they can explain the world to their children and help them prevent common mistakes from happening.  Teens need to experience the mistakes themselves.  Our teenagers don't care about the laundry, and they don't necessarily remember what it was like to be a ‘cute kid' that used to cuddle up to mom.  As a parent, we influence the dynamic with our own teen.  What does positive discipline mean?  Be careful shutting down an idea your teen might have. It could kill their spirit or make them not want to bring their ideas to you in the future.  How can you help your teen open up? We often minimize or forget the experiences our teens are having. We've been through so much and this is their first time experiencing ‘life'.  What happens when your teen ‘disrespects' you? How do you handle it?  Casey is an excellent problem solver, but that's not always what her teen needs. So that's why she asks first before giving advice.  Just because you've been a teenager once doesn't mean you know what they're experiencing.  You help your teen grow by standing beside them rather than trying to protect them.  How do you navigate the conversation around college?  Sponsored by Stand Up for Your Greatness! Edgerety.com/education   Resources Besproutable.com/teens/ Casey on LinkedIn Casey on Instagram   Quotes:   “We look at our kid's behavior and we immediately believe we're doing something wrong, and that's not always true.”    “Being more experienced doesn't mean we actually know better.”    “Our relationships with our partner, with our friends, aren't perfect either. We have our opinions and our judgements, and the relationship we have for each teen is also going to be different.”

Casey O'Roarty of Joyful Courage shares what's at the core of the Positive Discipline parenting philosophy and describes why children thrive when treated with respect, firmness, and kindness.To learn more, visit the show notes at: https://tiltparenting.com/session20Support the show

In this sermon, Pastor Mike Moses discusses being finding courage in spiritual warfare.

Regardless of what they say or do, your teens need to know that you'll always be there for them; that you will support them no matter what. Their boundary pushing is serving to help them develop their values, beliefs, and who they want to be in the world. In today's episode, Casey shares great advice and tools to use while navigating loving boundaries with your teenagers. She wants every parent to remember this: the messiness of your kids at the moment does not mean you're a bad parent or that you're doing something wrong. There are a few tweaks you can make and some self-care you can practice to influence what you are going through. Casey O'Roarty is a Parent Coach and Positive Discipline Trainer supporting parents in navigating the wild terrain of the teen years. She provides parents with the tools and the mindset they need to deepen their relationship with themselves and their families. She is the host of a conscious parenting podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/joyful-courage-a-conscious-parenting-podcast/id996079418 (Joyful Courage). She is a mom of teens - a 15 and 18-year-old. When she's not creating podcasts, running her membership, or working one on one with clients, you might find her day-tripping on her stand-up paddleboard, burning up the dancefloor, or obsessing on her personal growth. Connect with Casey O'Roarty: https://www.joyfulcourage.com/ (https://www.joyfulcourage.com/) Join us LIVE each week in our Facebook Group … https://www.facebook.com/groups/blissfulparenting (https://www.facebook.com/groups/blissfulparenting) Connect with Blissful Parenting: Free Workshop ► https://www.blissfulparentingworkshop.com (https://www.BlissfulParentingWorkshop.com)  Website ► http://www.theblissfulparent.com/ (http://www.TheBlissfulParent.com/)  Blog ► http://www.theblissfulparent.com/blog (http://www.TheBlissfulParent.com/blog)  Podcast ► http://www.theblissfulparent.com/podcast/ (http://www.TheBlissfulParent.com/podcast/)  Contact ►http://www.blissfulparenting.com/contact (http://www.BlissfulParenting.com/contact)  Follow Us On Social Media: Youtube ► https://www.youtube.com/theblissfulparent (https://www.youtube.com/theblissfulparent)   Facebook ► https://www.facebook.com/theblissfulparent (https://www.facebook.com/theblissfulparent)   Instagram ► https://www.instagram.com/theblissfulparent/ (https://www.instagram.com/theblissfulparent/)   Twitter ►https://twitter.com/blissfulparent (https://twitter.com/blissfulparent)   Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe to the podcast app on your mobile device. Leave us an iTunes review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on iTunes, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on iTunes.

Casey O'Roarty is a Positive Discipline Trainer and Parent Coach. She also hosts the popular parenting podcast Joyful Courage. For the last 20 years, Casey has worked with families as an educator and coach to broaden perspectives on parenthood, behavior and relationships between parents and children. She is a ICF Certified Life Coach and holds a Masters in Education from University of Washington. Follow Casey on Facebook @JoyfulCourage, Instagram @joyful_courage or at www.JoyfulCourage.com. You can find Casey's book here: https://www.amazon.com/Joyful-Courage-Calming-Control-Parenting/dp/1733571507Whole Brain Child by Dan Siegal - https://www.amazon.com/Whole-Brain-Child-Revolutionary-Strategies-Developing/dp/0553386697 Positive Discipline by Jane Nelson https://www.amazon.com/Positive-Discipline-Self-Discipline-Responsibility-Problem-Solving/dp/0345487672

In this week's Summer Re-run of Showing Up Whole: Listen to this vulnerable and honest conversation with parent coach and podcaster Casey O'Roarty who shares her story of how she showed up whole for her family, and herself, through her husband's battle with cancer (during the global pandemic last year) and the other events surrounding it.Together, Casey and Christina discuss Joyful Courage, Casey's business and perspective, and how vulnerability and bravery walk hand in hand. Casey shares powerful insight  about how to develop self care and how to find that inner connection during a crisis so that you can be present as you journey through the experiences and lessons the universe brings your way.As a conscious parent coach, and podcaster Casey O'Roarty sees herself a facilitator of personal growth and development. Her work encourages parents to discover the purpose of their journey while also providing them with tools and a shift in mindset that helps them deepen the relationship with themselves and their families. She is the passionate mom of two teenagers.For more information please visit her website www.joyfulcourage.comHer Instagram @joyful_courageor Facebook @joyful courage Christina  Fletcher has been helping overwhelmed and frustrated parents as a Spiritually Aware Parent Coach and Energy Healer for the past 6 years.Prior to her finding her calling as a coach she has been a musical therapist with her husband, performing in residential and nursing homes both in Canada and the UK, as well as a trained actress,  a film producer, restaurateur, homesteader, antique dealer and a university student in Religious Studies. Christina is a homeschooling, work at home, love at home, mom of 3, married to her soul mate Jeff. She's lived in Canada, Spain and now the UK.She is a passionate storyteller who loves to connect spirituality with words.For more information on her work please visit www.spirituallyawareparenting.com

In this vulnerable and honest conversation, parent coach and podcaster Casey O'Roarty shares her story of how she showed up whole for her family, and herself, through her husband's battle with cancer (during the global pandemic last year) and the other events surrounding it. Together, Casey and Christina discuss Joyful Courage, Casey's business and perspective, and how vulnerability and bravery walk hand in hand. Casey shares powerful insight  about how to develop self care and how to find that inner connection during a crisis so that you can be present as you journey through the experiences and lessons the universe brings your way.As a conscious parent coach, and podcaster Casey O'Roarty sees herself a facilitator of personal growth and development. Her work encourages parents to discover the purpose of their journey while also providing them with tools and a shift in mindset that helps them deepen the relationship with themselves and their families. She is the passionate mom of two teenagers.For more information please visit her website www.joyfulcourage.comHer Instagram @joyful_courage or Facebook @joyful courage Christina  Fletcher has been helping overwhelmed and frustrated parents as a Spiritually Aware Parent Coach and Energy Healer for the past 6 years.Prior to her finding her calling as a coach she has been a musical therapist with her husband, performing in residential and nursing homes both in Canada and the UK, as well as a trained actress,  a film producer, restaurateur, homesteader, antique dealer and a university student in Religious Studies. Christina is a homeschooling, work at home, love at home, mom of 3, married to her soul mate Jeff. She's lived in Canada, Spain and now the UK.She is a passionate storyteller who loves to connect spirituality with words.For more information on her work please visit www.spirituallyawareparenting.com

This week I am replaying a conversation that I had one year ago, almost to THE DAY, with one of my DREAM GUESTs, Dr. Dan Siegel. I am so glad that when I record, there is only audio going on, because I was grinning like a fool while talking to Dr. Siegel. Anyone who knows his work, KNOWS, he is the real deal. Super brilliant. Super dedicated to supporting parents in a way that MATTERS. His books, which he co-authored with another Joyful Courage fave guest, Dr. Tina Bryson, include the whole brain child, no drama discipline, and the yes brain. He also wrote, Brainstorm, the power and purpose of the teen brain – a guide for every parent and teen to understand more fully the special, unique brain development that happens during adolescents. Dr. Seigel came on last summer to discuss his book, Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence. I love LOVED this discussion, and I think you will too!! Takeaways from the show How being present impacts the speed of the aging process Wellbeing and how it is enhanced by being present Relationships with your kids and how being present improves it Cultivating awareness Role modeling resilience How awareness feeds connection vs control Impacts of a lack of structure on the brain and future of children Authoritative parenting vs Authoritarian parenting Why we need the village and how that creates stress for contemporary parents Finding joy, tranquility and connection through expanding awareness Flipping our lid, learning from our body's signals and how awareness can help Monitoring and modifying for self-regulation and to improve responses to stress The 3 O's what they mean Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: Not a lot of show notes today…  I am sharing the feedback and follow through of the Parents and Politics show and talking about letting go of attachment and fear. Enjoy!!  :::::  #Joyfulcourage10 Get ready to commit to ACTION that will change everything! #Joyfulcourage10 is a 10 day program to kick-start your work in growing awareness and bringing more intention to your parenting. Find out more at www.joyfulcourage.com/jc10 ::::: Mother's Journey Are you interested in bringing A Mother's Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility. ::::: All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes Intention Bracelets Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need? DAILY INTENTION CARDS   What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice. ::::: Be a Subscriber Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!! CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!  

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: Today's guest is Rebecca Eanes, the author of two books for parents: Positive Parenting The Essential Guide and The Newbie's Guide to Positive Parenting. She is back to talk to us about her newest resource for parents: The Positive Parenting Workbook. Rebecca leads a community of over a million on her Facebook page, Positive Parenting Toddlers and Beyond.  Join us!  “I see and speak about parenting as a journey… and the journey is a continuous invitation to continue to practice being the parent we want to be as often as possible.” “Parenting is one long personal development workshop.”    “My kids are the best mirrors because in them I have seen my own negative attitudes and bad moods and emotional reactions in really every area that I needed to improve upon.” “I think we definitely grow ourselves up in the process of helping our kids grow up.” “Our kids are going to make mistakes every day. If they had perfect parents, they would not know how to get through this world.”  “Be as gentle and respectful with yourself as you are trying to be with your kids. You are not perfect either and you don't have to be. We are all growing, we are all learning, we are all flawed, and we all need grace. This is a journey and there's not a destination yet that I've seen. It's an ever going thing so be good to yourself along the way.” What you'll hear in this episode: Dealing with swearing and supporting kids in navigating different rules in different situations Positive parenting and what it really means The role of mutual respect in positive parenting Identifying underlying issues under disrespect Shifting focus: from disrespectful behavior itself to supporting learning that leads to respectful behavior. Leadership in positive parenting Non-negotiables and positive parenting The value in personal development and parenting Moving from behavior patrol to positive parenting The origins of the Positive Parenting Workbook Discipline as part of the parenting pie 7 Pillars of family culture as part of positive parenting Words of wisdom for parents working towards positive parenting What does Joyful Courage mean to you? I think Joyful Courage means being brave enough to go against the grain to live true to you and confident enough to believe in yourself and to do so with joy. Resources: Positive Parents websiteThe Positive Parenting WorkbookThe Newbie's Guide to Positive ParentingPositive Parenting: An Essential GuidePositive Parenting In Action  Where to find Rebecca: Facebook TwitterInstagramPositive Parents websitePinterestCreative Child Magazine Mother.ly :::::  #Joyfulcourage10 Get ready to commit to ACTION that will change everything! #Joyfulcourage10 is a 10 day program to kickstart your work in growing awareness and bringing more intention to your parenting. Find out more at www.joyfulcourage.com/jc10 ::::: Mother's Journey  Are you interested in bringing A Mother's Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility. :::::  All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes Intention Bracelets Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need? DAILY INTENTION CARDS  What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice. ::::: Be a Subscriber Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!! CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!  

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: Politics and Parenting - can we keep them separate? Do we want to? Issues: Birth Breastfeeding Spanking Schooling Homework  I am recoding Thursday, Feb 22, a week ago, a community woke up to realize that the tragedy that had rocked their community the day before was not a nightmare. 19 year old Nicholas Cruz showed up at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida and killed 17 people. Kids, adults, 17 people who are now being grieved by friends and family…. I am done with this headline I am also done with feeling like I can't speak my truth for fear of offending people. I dove into following the teens that have been energized into action. I posted my thoughts on my personal FB page. Wednesday, I posted on my IG account and linked the post to my FB Biz page. I posted a meme that said “The children almost broken by the world will become the adults who save it.” Crediting Frank Warren for the quote. Here is the post I wrote:   So here is how I am feeling.... My kids aren't broken, HOWEVER this school shooting/random acts of violence BS had got to stop. Humans are hurting, guns are too available, schools aren't secure - there is a lot going on under the surface here. I will no longer complain about it, I will ACT. I will be IN ACTION. And with this action I will inspire others to see how THEY can act, including the two that matter most to me.  ::::: Rowan and Ian, I love you. I will fight for you. I will get uncomfortable, and curious, and let go of what people think to fight for YOUR future and YOUR safety. You, and ALL kids deserve this from the adults that came before you. ::::: Stay tuned.   I got one reply from one of my followers asking me to not get political. She acknowledged that wasn't why she followed me and advised me to continue on as the resource I am in creating change. She was totally respectful in her tone, however, she was clear with her message.  Sorry, not sorry. I will not be silent. I am a political being. I speak about things that relate to the public affairs of our country.  WE ARE RAISING ADULTS – future leaders and citizens of the world – how is that not political??? I don't imagine that everyone who follows Joyful Courage share all of my views. I am guessing that you all realize that I am a flaming liberal – and if you didn't, well, cats out of the bag. I support dignity and respect for all humans. Black lives matter to me. Immigrant lives matter to me. Woman having equal rights, including rights over their body matters to me. I believe that people have the right to gather and worship in a way that works for them. I believe in climate change and the duty we ALL have to honor the earth. I believe that people who are raised to feel connected, loved and as though they matter don't show up at public or private events with the intent to kill. I do not believe that private citizens have the right to own weapons of war. I believe our schools should be safe and secure. I do not believe that teachers should have guns. I believe in a health care system that is proactive in supporting the mentally ill. I believe in compassion. I believe in civic action. Some of what I just shared may turn you off to my work and my message. I hope it doesn't, because at the most foundational level, I believe in love – living it, spreading it, being it. And that is what will save the world. “Love thy neighbor as thyself” is a message of all major religions – and when THIS is our come-from, when THIS message is what we start to live, the world will be healed. And I acknowledge that it isn't easy. It isn't easy to put ourselves out there and speak our truths we don't want to offend we don't want to argue we worry about what people think we want everyone to be comfortable And right now the environment is so TOXIC! It is so challenging to talk about the issues that matter the most to us. It is scary to get vulnerable and say what we need to say, to lead from the front. Today I declare that I am no longer going to worry about ruffling feathers. I will continue to share the content that you have come to love, and I will elevate it by pushing my fear aside. I will bring more of myself. I will bring more of my authenticity and truth. I will leave behind wanting everyone to like me. I am done with school shootings, and my guess is you are too. It is time to have hard conversations. It is time to look for solutions. It is time to get involved, ask questions, reach out and trust that your voice is valued.  Humans are hurting. Weapons of war are too available. Schools aren't secure. So lets do something about it. Here is what I have done over the past few days…. I emailed the admin team at my daughters HS to voice my concern and to educate myself around what is already in place. I also offered myself as a community member to partner with them to be in deeper relationships with parents and community about how they are keeping our kids safe, including fostering a sense of belonging. I put the monthly principal/parent meet-and-greets on my calendar so that I would go. I am not planning on being on the outside looking in anymore. I want those administrators to know me by name. I want to support them, challenge them and work with them to make my kids schools better I put in a call to our district “safety and risk assessment” person. I left a message and will follow up with an email. Again, I invited myself into the conversation and offered myself as a partner in the work he is already doing. I emailed out local “community coalition” about an idea of have for running a film festival in our town to highlight documentaries that invite conversations around teens and screens, toxic masculinity, the message our girls are getting, and anxiety. I am going to foster community conversations about the things so many of us have opinions and fears about but ARENT TALKING ABOUT. All of this on top of calling my representative and showing up to meetings and rallies for smarter gun laws…. This may not have been why you tuned into the podcast today. I thought I gave a pretty good heads up with the title “Parenting and Politics”.  The good news is there are over 100 other episodes you can turn to today for parenting tips and inspiration. Today is about action. Thank you. Thank you for listening. I feel as though it is my responsibility to speak these truth, it is my responsibility to not pretend that all is well and good and that the world our children are inheriting is going to magically be peaceful. We are in the creation of the world we live in. Everything we do is part of the creation. What we buy Who we vote for Whether or not we speak up when we get that intuitive hit that what we are witnessing is wrong We are in the creation even when WE DO NOTHING. Even when we turn away because it is too hard, or too scary, or too vulnerable – we are STILL in the creation of the world we live in. I choose to be in action. And I hope you join me. ::::: Chaos to Calm New offer from Casey!! This is a four part video training that will support you in transforming the climate of your home.  More information at http://www.joyfulcourage.com/chaos ::::: Mother's Journey Are you interested in bringing A Mother's Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility. ::::: All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes Intention Bracelets Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need? DAILY INTENTION CARDS What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice. ::::: Be a Subscriber Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!! 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Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: Today's guest is Liz Haske, a mother, an international teacher and instructional coach and children's book author. She has over 15 years elementary classroom experience in six different countries and is super passionate about empowering children to be their most courageous selves.  Her first book, When Worry Takes Hold, was released in November 2017 and aims to help young children cope with worry by using mindful breathing. Join us!   “It's about a young girl who's afraid to do different things and she realizes that she has the power inside her and if she puts her hands on her belly, she can be brave.”   “Stories help us be better people if we are reading the right books”   “We want to empower these little people to realize they can do it. They can develop the tools and they can be confident and they can face what is presented to them in healthy and positive ways.”   “Worry gets bigger and bigger the more that we do it.”   “We can be brave, and everyone has worries … whether it's helping our kids be brave or us being brave to face whatever parenting challenge it may be.”   “Courage is just a deep breath away.”    What you'll hear in this episode: The basis & inspiration for When Worry Takes Hold Worry as a visitor and the power to ask it to leave Acknowledging & expecting worry Externalizing worry and setting limits Following the why – getting to the root of big feelings Manifestations and signs of worry Addressing underlying worry vs. addressing the behaviors Taking a wide view to problem solving worry How not to take worry related behaviors personally Why trying to talk kids out of their worries doesn't work Managing worry as a practice Tools for managing worry and how they can be applied to other situations Mindful breathing vs. “Let's take some deep breaths” The power of mindful breathing How to know when to get professional help (duration, intensity, impact, age appropriateness) Journaling worries to find patterns and icebergs Liz's upcoming projects on the horizon The importance of exercising self-compassion   What does Joyful Courage mean to you? I'm going to answer it in two parts. I'd say the first way, which is for me personally, is finally having the courage to do something I've been dreaming about for over ten years and the absolute joy of going through the learning process of taking an idea and turning it into something that kids can hold in their hands and hopefully read and become better because of it. So that is absolutely Joyful Courage. But I think it's also in the context of kids the feeling that they get when they face their fear and they realize how empowered they are. It might not be breathing is their strategy, but perhaps When Worry Takes Hold might be a book that just starts a conversation with them and an adult in their life that, “Yeah, you know what, I do get a bit worried. Let's try this breathing thing.” And, “You know what? This breathing thing isn't working for me.” But then, there's now this opening for more tools to be introduced because it's something that's been brought to the surface. The book ends with, “Courage is just a deep breath away.” I think that when children can realize this, they're empowered. There's really a pure sense of pride and joy in being brave and finding courage and so that's kind of what it means to me.   Resources: When Worry Takes Hold Where to find Liz: Facebook Instagram Website Twitter ::::: Chaos to Calm New offer from Casey!! This is a four part video training that will support you in transforming the climate of your home.  More information at http://www.joyfulcourage.com/chaos ::::: Mother's Journey  Are you interested in bringing A Mother's Journey to your community? Get in touch with me! All MJ workshops happening because people like you reach out and say COME! Fill the room with the mamas you love and enjoy a say of love and learning. Email Casey at casey@joyfulcourage.com to explore the possibility. ::::: All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes Intention Bracelets  Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need? DAILY INTENTION CARDS  What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice. ::::: Be a Subscriber Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!! CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!  

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: A solo show all about routines There are a couple tools, that when put into place, make the whole parenting journey easier.  You have heard me talk about special time, that one on one time that is so important for building relationship and a solid foundation of belonging and significance for our kids. Challenges coming up in the LLWJC group mornings, bedtimes, defiance, meltdowns, sibling issues We find ourselves putting out fires We find ourselves being overtaxed We find ourselves slipping OUT of who we want to be and INTO crazy parent This is also where we loose sight of the way that we are contributing to the chaos at hand…. We blame out kids We fall into the trap of “it is always so difficult” We forget that there is always a flow that comes after the ebb…. Yes, special time helps with the challenges mentioned about. The relationship we nurture with our kids is what has the biggest impact on their behavior, absolutely. AND, another tool that is super helpful to come back to, again and again, is co-creating routines. Now, if you are someone with challenges in the morning, or after school, you may be thinking, but we have a routine, and it isn't working!!! GREAT. Not all routines are created equal. Routines are made to be modified and changed up Routines designed to be HELPFUL for everyone will be the most USEFUL Mindset matters This is not about getting your kids to do what you want them to do This is about helping your children feel like capable, contributing members of the family This is about the process, the opportunity that exists inside the challenge that is currently at the surface Take a deeper look… Co creating routines means that you are CO CREATING Find a time of day when everyone is feeling good, connected Opening up the conversation to child about how they experience the challenging time of day, validate their feelings, listen and let them know you are taking their sharing to heart – this is not time to talk them out of what they are experiencing or getting them to “see your side” Clear out the space through taking accountability for your behavior. This is really important. Ask for their help to make that time of day easier/better for everyone Brainstorm ideas/tasks Offer/counter offer if you need to Be open to their ideas Be firm/not rigid around your non-negotiables “This is what is important to me, how could we make that work?” “What is your idea for that?” Cross off anything that isn't related/reasonable/respectful/helpful on the list Work together to create a visual reminder Try it for a week But, but, but what if it doesn't “work” Shifting to what is “helpful” Focus on the process TRUST the process Let the routine be the boss Revisit at the end of the week and tweak if necessary So many routines…. Housework Family Meetings Mornings Afterschool Bedtime Take it slow – let go of urgency How you show up matters Be in your practice of curiosity and openness – catch yourself when you want to judge  (roshambo/coin flip) Currently in a new routine of turning screens off from 5-7.  This is a slippery place for us…. Recently posted a handout on the live and love page – will put it in the show notes – for walking through this process. Let me know if you have any questions! ::::: Chaos to Calm New offer from Casey!! This is a four part video training that will support you in transforming the climate of your home.  More information at http://www.joyfulcourage.com/chaos ::::: All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes Intention Bracelets Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need??  Joyful Courage SHIRTS Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world. DAILY INTENTION CARDS What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice. ::::: Be a Subscriber Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on Apple Podcast to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!! CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!  

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: Julie Miller is on with us! Julie is on a mission to live a delicious life and bring joy back to the family dinner table.  She is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist and Certified Positive Discipline Parenting Educator who holds a Master's Degree in Human Nutrition from Bastyr University.  She has over 16 years' experience sharing food and nutrition philosophy with diverse communities throughout the Seattle area.  Julie currently specializes in helping families find their own positive feeding dynamic so that food is less of a parenting chore and more of a nourishing experience.  She believes that connection between adults, children and food sets the stage for a lifetime of personal wellness, including healthy eating.  Julie knows, as a Mom, that the constant demand to prepare and serve food can get just a wee bit tiring and tricky.  She emphasizes reducing the drama and eating minimally processed foods, while ensuring that children and adults meet their nutritional needs to support growth, development and wellbeing.    Content: Got into nutrition for personal reasons Had kids and discovered PD So much judgment in parenting – especially fierce around food Helps parents to make parenting around food a nourishing experience for everyone Most typical complaint? “I don't like it” Second biggest? Picky eating Parental Fatigue – parents DON'T want to cook but DO want to feel kids good food PD says – “Eating, sleeping, pottying, you can't make them do it!” You CAN work on belonging, significance and influence They need to be guided, not forced Division of responsibility – defining roles (Ellen Satter's work) Parent responsible for what, when, where AND maintaining connection Child responsible for what they eat and how much Story about Rowan drinking caffeine Over 12 100mg isn't terrible Under 12 no caffeine Guide THEM in using the information to make informed choices Until it is personally meaningful for them to feel the effects of their choices, behavior won't change AND they learn what they live Before bed snacks…. Timing Thank you bites?? What about suggesting….. Serve food family style. Parents can mentioned all the items that are available, then the parents job is done…. What about the salad?? Short term vs long term goals Let go of judgement Invite kids into planning/cooking to bulk up their belonging/significance/influence Your job is to provide food, provide some structure and love them unconditionally Let go of self judgement/what others think/fear

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: Content: Solo show today – from the car….  Thank you for having grace for my audio quality this week!! Feeling inspired to share with you on my way to yoga class. All about the Iceberg Metaphor Shout out to all the parents of teens out there who are showing up and sharing and willing to be vulnerable Connecting seeing an iceberg as a metaphor for children's behavior Unwanted behavior is the “tip” of the iceberg The behavior that we see Under the surface - What's opening the door to the behavior? Perception of connection Perception of influence Perception of mattering Trauma/adversity Kids are ALWAYS making meaning with their underdeveloped brain – and forming beliefs from that place Lacking skills for navigating the challenges/emotions that show up Moving from a place of strengthening relationship as a way to understand what is below the surface, to help us influence the behavior at the tip Episode 104 on Making Amends Always be moving towards nurturing relationship What are some of the things YOU do to look under the surface? Head over to Live and Love with Joyful Courage and share! ::::: Journey to Joy Ecourse Journey to Joy is a 3-part offer.  Each Module contains a video, audio and workbook to guide you in doing your work. You will increase your awareness around the areas you are stuck (you know, the irritation that never seems to go away... the exhaustion, the guilt and shame that shows up so often after you have "dealt with" the challenges your kids bring on a regular basis. You will spend time exploring new choices, new ways of being...  Inviting in the qualities that are missing.  Love, compassion, self-acceptance and non-judgement...  You will learn how to open up your body and allow these emotions in. You will create a practice for teaching your body and mind a NEW pattern, making this new way of being more readily available when you need it. SO EXCITED to share this with you!  Get more info and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/joy :::::  All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes Intention Bracelets Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?   DAILY INTENTION CARDS What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice. ::::: Be a Subscriber Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!! CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!  

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: Alright - My guest today is Liz Blackwell-Moore. I connected with Liz through my friend, and one of your fave podcast guests, Julietta Skoog from besproutable.com. I am so excited to have Liz on today to talk about an incredibly relevant topic – kids and drugs. GAH. I know. No one really WANTS to talk about this, but we have to. Liz has been working in the field of substance use since 2000. Her current work involves working with community coalitions and organizations to provide training on prevention strategies as well as technical assistance to translate public health research into practice and implement a restorative trauma-informed approach to addressing public health problems. So basically, Liz is going to break it all down for us in a way that is helpful.  She lives in Portland, Maine with her wife, two happy kids, and a puppy. Content: Liz shares about her early work with people involved with substance abuse and was drawn to exploring prevention work How can we make “systems” (including the family) better for young people, with more support in their lives? What the “risk taking years” feels like, according to Casey Liz shares her moms' analogy of the two boats Adolescent brain development It's like a house being build bottom up Built through interactions and the environment kids experience Reward center develops first – ready to go, “volume turned up” Front, logical part of brain not fully developed, and not integrated W/o the desire to try new things, how would they ever leave home?? The perception and science of marijuana and adolescence National Academy of Sciences – research on the research Young people using Impacts learning and memory Significant effects on mental health “Regular use” – once every 30 days 2xs more likely to become depressed 3xs more likely to have suicidal thoughts Kids with MH issues are more likely to use/self-medicate Initially make people feel calm/relaxed Brain likes to do what's easy so eventually wants more What about vaping Tobacco companies are SO LAME – trying to suck in kids Some kids just the flavoring Not regulated – we don't know what is in it Lots of kids ARE putting nicotine and weed into the vape All drugs impact the reward center of the brain – putting young people at a greater risk of addiction later in life Rewires/primes the brain for addiction How do we get them to wait???? Relationship is the most powerful tool we have… Share our values…  AND – THEY HAVE CRAZY REWARD CENTERS!!!  GAH!!! Be present, listen, develop a strong relationship Set clear expectations – bring it up in a variety of ways Continue to bring it back to what their goals are, how might risky behavior get in the way? Help them to “see” the bigger picture Restorative practices: Hold them accountable while offering support What are you getting out of this? What were you thinking? How else can you get thrills? Social connection? Is this a mental health issue? Having these conversations REQUIRES the adults to be in solid relationship with their kids Also, our stuff shows up and gets in the way – fear, rigidity Ok to say, “this is disappointing” “this is hard for me” – they need to know how they are impacting their parents Teens aren't great with nuance SLEEP MATTERS!! Natural consequences are powerful Boundaries are MESSY How do we balance nurture and structure?? It's a dance How do we know when it really is a problem? Major changes in physical appearance Personality Participation Peer group changes Public image has changed org – online resources 20-minute guide – helping parents use motivational interviewing 20inuteguide.com Find your people! There is uncertainty and change AND we all have flexible, learning brains – we can be resilient!! What does Joyful Courage mean to you? For me it means trying to see those amazing things that are happening as you move through adolescence – having the courage to stick with your values and follow our instincts… Resources:https://the20minuteguide.com/http://www.drugfree.org/ Good reading on the teen brain: Dan Siegel BrainstormFrancis Jensen The Teenage Brain Links for young people:http://www.teen.drugabuse.gov/ *This is National Institute of Drug Abuse website for teens http://www.protectwhatsnext.com/ *This is a website out of Colorado for young people specifically about marijuana use Where to find Liz: Birchlanestrategies.com (under-construction) Linked in ::::: Journey to Joy Ecourse Journey to Joy is a 3-part offer.  Each Module contains a video, audio and workbook to guide you in doing your work. You will increase your awareness around the areas you are stuck (you know, the irritation that never seems to go away... the exhaustion, the guilt and shame that shows up so often after you have "dealt with" the challenges your kids bring on a regular basis. You will spend time exploring new choices, new ways of being...  Inviting in the qualities that are missing.  Love, compassion, self-acceptance and non-judgement...  You will learn how to open up your body and allow these emotions in. You will create a practice for teaching your body and mind a NEW pattern, making this new way of being more readily available when you need it. SO EXCITED to share this with you!  Get more info and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/joy ::::: All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes Intention Bracelets Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need? Joyful Courage SHIRTS Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world. DAILY INTENTION CARDS  What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice. ::::: Be a Subscriber Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever-larger audience!! CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!  

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: Holding space for having a 15 YEAR OLD!!  WHOA!! What is happening in the BIZ Membership is HAPPENING Alumni group calls Ecourses Coaching calls What is happening in the collective is happening in the individual I speak to the community and I am speaking to myself TRUST – BIG PICTURE – MARATHON NOT A SPRINT How to “hold the container” Jessica talking about “our job is to be the container” Present, available, confident – even as our kids are making mistakes I got you – I am unconditional Our response matters Who we be comes before what we do We can handle it Everything will be ok, or not, either way, we stand by our kids We trust that they can handle what life gives them, and we support them inside of that (the world's consequences, etc) What to do becomes more clear when we practice being in the moment, vs in our emo/fear Learn how to recognize we are there when we are there Practice being with our overwhelm without letting it takes us over (observers) Simple but not easy!!! Takes time!! What we are trying to do is REWIRE the brain (Tina Bryson show 126) Be witness to the presence of the emotional freight train, but let it idle My book!!! Next Fall!!!  WOOHOO Our kids make mistakes Lagging skills/ impulse/ brain development – DON'T BE SURPRISED BY IT Cause and effect Pushing boundaries to know where they are and who YOU are in the process Making judgements about themselves and their peeps Trust? Safety? Dependability? Can they handle this??? BUT WHAT DO WE DO??? Alfie Kohn, Unconditional Parenting – “I am not going to sit here and pretend that I have all the answers to all of your problems. I don't know you or your families…” What are the outcomes that you want? What are the skills that you are hoping that your adult child will one day embody? What are the skills your child is showing you (through behavior) that they are missing? What is a solution to the challenge that will help them learn those skills? Is there something to “make right”? How can you say less and listen more??? Remember – finding solutions to problems, including a “plan for next time” or a “plan to fix the mistake/make things right,” finding solutions are always consequences – HOWEVER consequences that we impose on our children are NOT always a solution to problems. WHAT DO WE DO often is a request for “what do we do to them?” Kids do better when they feel better. – Jane Nelsen Kids want to succeed, they don't always know how. – Ross Greene A Misbehaving child is a discouraged child. – Rudolf Dreikurs Humans are always moving towards a sense of belonging and significance, am I connected? Do I matter? – from Aderian Theory The most powerful tool you have for influencing behavior is the relationship that you nurture with your child. Choosing into the work of Joyful Courage, which really means being willing to grow and practice awareness, being present to your child and your experience, and hold space for your kids, no matter how they are showing up, THIS will nurture and preserve relationship. So – what do you think? Does this make sense to you?? Do you have thoughts about this? Come join the community discussion over in Live and Love with Joyful Courage. This is a closed FB group for listeners and parents that appreciate this conversation and are committed to learning and supporting each other on the journey. Thank you so much for listening today – super DUPER appreciate all you moms and dads out there doing the work of making the world a better place through showing up well for your children!! I will be back next week with Liz Blackwell-Moore talking about teens and drugs – GAH!!!  I know – it's scary, but listen anyways because she is brilliant and the conversation is helpful!! Big love!! ::::: Journey to Joy Ecourse Journey to Joy is a 3 part offer.  Each Module contains a video, audio and workbook to guide you in doing your work. You will increase your awareness around the areas you are stuck (you know, the irritation that never seems to go away... the exhaustion, the guilt and shame that shows up so often after you have "dealt with" the challenges your kids bring on a regular basis. You will spend time exploring new choices, new ways of being...  Inviting in the qualities that are missing.  Love, compassion, self acceptance and non-judgement...  You will learn how to open up your body and allow these emotions in. You will create a practice for teaching your body and mind a NEW pattern, making this new way of being more readily available when you need it. SO EXCITED to share this with you!  Get more info and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/joy ::::: All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes Intention Bracelets Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?. Joyful Courage SHIRTS Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world. DAILY INTENTION CARDS What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice. ::::: Be a Subscriber Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!! CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!  

Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage.  Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: Welcome, thank you for showing up!  Tina Bryson is BACK ON the podcast today!!  You all remember Tina from Eps 100 – which happens to be THE most downloaded show to date of this podcast. Tina co-authored two of MY fave parenting books, the whole brain child and no drama discipline with Dan Siegel and she is BACK on the podcast today to talk about her NEW book, the yes brain. I am THRILLED she is back on…. Content: The Yes Brain is available NOW Tina is a mama to 17, 14, and 11 year boys Yes brain and no brain approaches A “yes brain” is a mindset of saying yes to the world, open – neurological state, our brain is integrated and linked up… Over time it becomes hardwired A “no brain” is fearful, reactive Prompted by “what are the skills my child needs to be successful?” – Tina and Dan Siegel wanted to go beyond academics and gold stars They need an integrated brain that has a strong/functioning prefrontal cortex Yes Brain has 4 Components: Balance Resilience Insight Empathy Developmental brain/age/temperament matters Tina shares a story about her own son who seemed to be lacking empathy at a young age Brain develops through experience - What we emphasize (as parents) in our interactions create new linking connection in the brain. Use books, shows, and real world experiences to model and draw forth empathy in our kids Trust development, trust that what you are doing will pay off Supporting our children in feeling their feelings – support them as they practice tolerating difficult feelings Normalize difficult feelings… 2-3 tools to put into practice: Sleep!!! When we sleep the brain LITERALLY freshens up Survive emotional dysregulation When kids are at their worst is when they need us the most Co-regulaton – a soothing presence to communicate “you're safe, I'm here” Build/teach skills to help them regulate themselves – GREEN ZONE Check out Eps 100 to hear Tina dig deeper into this Teach them to understand themselves Rethinking success Our children having an authentic self that they can trust It's about the journey and not JUST the destination BIGGER than gold stars and academics Eudaimonia – happiness comes from meaning, connection and peaceful contentment Tinabryson.com ::::: Journey to Joy Ecourse Journey to Joy is a 3 part offer.  Each Module contains a video, audio and workbook to guide you in doing your work. You will increase your awareness around the areas you are stuck (you know, the irritation that never seems to go away... the exhaustion, the guilt and shame that shows up so often after you have "dealt with" the challenges your kids bring on a regular basis. You will spend time exploring new choices, new ways of being...  Inviting in the qualities that are missing.  Love, compassion, self acceptance and non-judgement...  You will learn how to open up your body and allow these emotions in. You will create a practice for teaching your body and mind a NEW pattern, making this new way of being more readily available when you need it. SO EXCITED to share this with you!  Get more info and register at www.joyfulcourage.com/joy ::::: All the goods at www.joyfulcourage.com/yes Intention Bracelets  Back by popular demand!! The Joyful Courage intention bracelets are back in stock and I am THRILLED to have been able to have had the community vote on the reminders that are on them…. Breathe, Pause, Trust, Surrender, Kindness – what do you need?. Joyful Courage SHIRTS Women cut tanks and tees are ready for you to BUY NOW!!  Wearable reminders for how you want to show up in the world. DAILY INTENTION CARDS What do you think about the Daily Intention Cards???  These cards are designed to support you in your conscious, intentional parenting practice. ::::: Be a Subscriber Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!!  AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!! CLICK HERE to watch a video that shows up how to subscribe with your iPhone!