Parents Navigating the Teen Years

Nearly two-thirds of today's teens want to become entrepreneurs according to a 2022 survey. But how do parents raise their children so they have the right traits to succeed? Many parents resist letting their children figure out their own path for fear that they won't succeed. However, only doing what their parents think will make them successful will result in young people becoming dispirited and unhappy. The So-What: Parenting expert Margot Machol Bisnow interviewed 70 entrepreneurs and their parents to learn what's needed to incubate an entrepreneur successfully. A recurring theme was letting their children take the lead in their own life and then providing steadfast support. Parents need to lead by following, regardless of where their child wants to go. Children who are allowed to figure out their own passion, and then are encouraged in that passion, live lives filled with joy and purpose. Margot Machol Bisnow spent 20 years in government, including as an FTC Commissioner and staff director of the President's Council of Economic Advisers. For the last 10 years, she has spoken to parent groups about raising creative, confident, resilient children who achieve their dreams. She served as an Advisor to EQ Generation, an after-school program in New York City that gives children the skills to succeed; on the Advisory Board of the MUSE School in Malibu, that prepares young people to live consciously through passion-based learning; and on the Board of Spark the Journey in Washington DC, that mentors low-income high school students to achieve college and career success. Her new book is Raising an Entrepreneur: How to Help Your Children Achieve Their Dreams – 99 Stories from Families Who Did. Learn more at raisinganentrepreneur.com. Why is it important to let children choose their passion and work really hard at it? And why should parents support that passion, regardless of what it is? Why is it important to let children compete if you want a child with grit? What should you teach children about losing if you want a child who isn't afraid to take risks? And why is that important? Why is it important to encourage children to be curious and think of new ways to solve problems? Why does raising kind, compassionate children enable them to find solutions the world needs? And how does that make them more successful? Are grades and test-taking ability key to entrepreneurial success? If not, why not? Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Guest Website: https://raisinganentrepreneur.com/ Facebook:
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Dana Kay is a Board-Certified Holistic Health and Nutrition Practitioner, specializing in the natural treatment of ADHD. She is a two times international bestselling author and CEO / founder of ADHD Thrive Institute and The ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids program. As a mother of a child with ADHD, she knows firsthand the struggles that come with parenting a neurodiverse child. When her son was struggling with his ADHD symptoms, she tried everything she could think of to help him - medication, various therapies, counseling, essential oils, supplements, parenting techniques - but nothing moved the needle. For years, she felt trapped in her own home. That all changed when she learned how to reduce the inflammation in her son's body, which in turn reduced his ADHD symptoms completely. Dana knows the freedom that is possible once parents learn to reduce ADHD symptoms. Using food and targeted supplementation, she was able to reduce her son's ADHD symptoms so much so that he no longer needed any medication. Since then, she has worked with close to one thousand other families, helping them find the same freedom she found. Dana has been featured in Forbes and on Fox and CBS, and various other online media. She has also been a guest at multiple parenting and ADHD summits and podcasts. Her mission is to help families reduce ADHD symptoms naturally so that children with ADHD can thrive at home, at school, and in life. Can you tell us a little bit about why you began working in the holistic health and nutrition industry?  What were some of the challenges you were facing with your son with ADHD? What ADHD interventions did you try, and how did they each go? You have mentioned that there was one huge turning point in your journey with your son. Can you share that with us? (referring to when the doctor requested that 4th medication) What happened next…once you realized that medication was not the right path for your family? What happened in your family once you changed your diet? Did you notice any changes in your son? Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Podcast: https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/the-soaring-child-podcast-thriving-with-adhd Social Website: https://adhdthriveinstitute.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/adhdthriveinstitute Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhdthriveinstitute YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ADHDThriveInstitute LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/74302454 Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/adhdthriveinstitute TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_thriveinstitute Media Publications: https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/publications

Dr. Stoltzfus' mission is to provide information, education, guidance, and resources to parents of young adults struggling to launch their young adults into self-sufficient and responsible adulthood while maintaining a caring bond with them. More today than ever, parents of young adults are trying to determine the best approach to aiding their young adults in their challenges of identity, independence, and intimacy without contributing to their dependency or alienation. Over fifty percent of 18-29-year-olds live with one or both parents; some of these kids are stuck and not moving toward independence. Another group of young people has left home, but 1 out of 4 have cut off communication with their parents for, on average, four months; some will never reconnect. Both of these situations represent failures to launch. When there is a failure to launch, parents and young adults suffer. How can parents navigate the letting go process of the teenage years in order to prepare the teen for greater independence and responsible adulthood? Moving from control and direction to influence, coaching, collaborating, and consulting. Moving closer not to control but to support the key developmental tasks of adolescence- identity, independence, and intimacy. The importance of demonstrating backbone with love or “tough love.” What can parents do to successfully let go and launch their young adult? When is it time for young adults to leave home? The six practices that are important to set up a successful launch into adulthood. Balancing support and letting go with setting limits and saying no. What are basic truths about parents and their adult children? Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Book: Jack's latest book was published in September of this year and is available on Amazon: The Parent's launch Code: Loving and Letting Go of Our Adult Children. Website: parentslettinggo.com

Michael Huber pursued a career in sports psychology after almost 20 years in the corporate world. He was inspired to make this change through recovery from a gambling addiction, as well as by the dysfunctional things he witnessed as a sports parent and volunteer coach. His mission is to give young athletes and their families the tools to successfully navigate an increasingly challenging and sometimes toxic youth sports environment. What helps motivate young athletes? How to help young athletes advocate for themselves with coaches and players. Perfectionism mindset – how to keep it in balance. Dealing with injuries and how it can inspire a young athlete. College application for a student athlete. How to know if your student-athlete needs a sports psychology coach. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://michaelvhuber.com/

Kristal DeSantis is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Clinically Certified Trauma Professional, and a State of Texas approved Premarital Education Provider. She is the creator of The STRONG model of Relational Therapy. Her expertise helps parents, teachers, and coaches navigate the challenges of teaching teens healthy relationship skills. The importance of parents modeling healthy relationship skills. The pillars of healthy relationships are. Safety in a relationship includes self awareness, stability, self-regulation, and self-expression. Trust: sometimes trust means making repairs in the relationship. Respect: make sure you're communicating your boundaries. Openness: the importance of being open and sharing. Nurturing: especially important for fathers to be involved in a nurturing way. Generosity: when you love someone you go the extra mile for them. Privacy and secrecy: there's a difference. Helping teens navigate relationships, especially around consent, boundaries, and respect. How attachment and trauma affect relationships and what parents can do to break the cycle. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://www.strong.love/

Understanding the impact of our early experiences and how we adapted allows us to better understand ourselves as people and as parents. The influence of our early attachments on how we learned to relate should not be underestimated; it can offer us valuable insight into how we may behave as a parent. Yet in all cases, no matter what our attachment style is, being a good parent starts with exploring our own story and being willing to look at any pain we experienced growing up. We can develop ourselves and develop healthier relationships, which will allow our children to have a healthier and more secure attachment with us. In order to make that happen, we have to be open and focus on our own emotional growth and self-development. As a child, Bev lived in a very unpredictable and chaotic environment where she never knew if she could rely on her parents to meet her emotional needs. This led her to absorb unhealthy relationship ideas based on what she was witnessing: she believed relationships were supposed to be unbalanced, uncertain, and overall chaotic. If you have an insecure attachment style, you probably relate to her experience, and navigating relationships can be particularly difficult for you.  Prior to becoming a Certified Attachment Practitioner and founding Securely Loved, Bev was an Executive Leader, University Lecturer and published author, having obtained her Masters' Degree in 2006. She has dedicated her entire career (25+ years) working with adults in the realm of personal growth and professional development. Defining the traits of secure vs. insecure attachment. The first 5 years of a child's life creates their future attachment style. Intergenerational trauma can be repeated in raising kids if the parent doesn't heal their own wounds. Understanding how our attachment style affects our emotional + thought patterns, communication style, relationship to boundaries, coping mechanisms, and ability to emotionally regulate. Using attachment theory to navigate conflict with your teen. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://securelyloved.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/securely_loved TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@securely_loved Free attachment style quiz: https://securelyloved.com/attachment-quiz 

Jessica Speer is the award-winning author of BFF or NRF (Not Really Friends)? A Girls Guide to Happy Friendships and Middle School - Safety Goggles Advised. Her interactive books engage and entertain readers by combining the stories of preteens and teens with fun activities and practical insights. She has a master's degree in social sciences and explores social-emotional topics in ways that connect with kids. Why are friendship and social struggles common in the preteen and teen years? The book shares nine hidden friendship truths. What are some of these truths? What is the Friendship Pyramid, and why is it useful? The book explores the difference between conflict and bullying and ways to respond to each. The book has interactive components, like quizzes and fill-in-the-blanks. Why is that important? Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://jessicaspeer.com/

In this episode we'll explore the dichotomy between challenge and change in our lives as our kids grow, seek independence and control, and what that means for us as parents and as individuals. Jay Ramsden, the enlightening voice behind The Empty Nest Coach on TikTok and Instagram, helps people navigate the uncharted seas of mid-life and empty nesting as he thoughtfully unravels the threads of change, growth, and self-discovery in what has become your new normal. Jay believes there are endless opportunities awaiting us in this new phase of life because life doesn't end in your 40s, 50s, and beyond -- it begins again. Letting go and moving on Having trust that we've set them up for success What does letting go look like in our conversations with our kids? How to find balance in our relationships as they gain their independence Answering the questions; what now and what's next as parents decide their next chapter Examining the challenge of change as our kids grow Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://www.jasonramsden.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.emptynest.coach/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the.emptynest.coach This Empty Nest Life Podcast - https://www.thisemptynestlife.com/ 

Matt O'Neill teaches us that happiness is a choice, even when life gets tough. His work has positively impacted the lives of over 100,000 people worldwide.  As a recognized leader in happiness education, Matt teaches audiences how to live a life of 'Conscious Happiness'. His work includes the "Good Mood Revolution" book and podcast where he explains the importance of conquering negative thought patterns while embracing habits that lead to a happier life.  Matt's teaching isn't just theory, it's tested in the real world too. Matt and his wife have 4 young children, and they run two successful businesses with $8 Million in revenues and over 80 employees. Living by the happiness principles he teaches, his company is recognized as the #1 company to work for in South Carolina.  Matt's unique approach to choosing good moods, even in the face of adversity, resonates deeply with each of us. Invite Matt to share his journey and practical strategies on your audience, and help your listeners unlock their potential for lasting happiness. How can parents model happiness is a choice for their teens? What strategies help break teens' habits of negative emotions? How do you view the relationship between teenage mental health and happiness? Can embracing negative emotions be a teaching moment for parents? What practical habits can families adopt for collective happiness? Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@goodmoodmatt Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/goodmoodmatt/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/goodmoodmatt/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matt-o-neill-02528057/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@goodmoodmatt Good Mood Revolution (Book): https://www.amazon.com/Good-Mood-Revolution-Conscious-Happiness/dp/B0D8RLDCH1/ Website: https://mattoneill.com/

Betrayal is one of the most painful of human experiences. Left unhealed, it can impact our teen's health, schoolwork, and relationships. As parents navigating the teen years, it's important to know how these wounds form and how to help our teens navigate through the healing process. On today's podcast, we'll dive into the 3 discoveries that shed light on betrayal, along with providing a research-based, proven, and predictable way to heal from all of it. Dr. Debi Silber, Founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and National Forgiveness Day (celebrated annually on September 1st), is an award winning speaker, and a 2-time #1 International bestselling author. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice), and more, she's dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most. Tell us about betrayal: Why does it hurt, what does it impact, and what does it create? The breaking of an unspoken promise. What were the 3 discoveries you made during your study? Post-betrayal symptoms will follow you throughout your life unless you heal it. How does an unhealed betrayal impact our health, work, and relationships? What are the questions we can ask ourselves to see if we're numbing/avoiding/distracting ourselves? How do we know if we haven't healed from a betrayal? What do we need to do to move forward and heal from a betrayal experience? How can we learn to trust again? Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com The latest TEDx: “Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?“: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU TEDx: Stop Sabotaging Yourself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@debisilber Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/debisilber

Do you ever feel like you're speaking a different language when you're trying to connect with your teen? You're not alone. In this episode, we dive into the fascinating science behind the teenage brain. My guest today is Natalie Bedard, also known as NatNat, a beacon of resilience and empowerment. In 2019, she founded Lift OneSelf, offering profound energy healing services. Despite grappling with life-threatening illness and single parenthood to three boys, Natalie is a steadfast mentor on the journey of self-discovery and healing. With her profound understanding of the nervous system, she specializes in unraveling emotional blockages and reigniting intuitive connections. Natalie's trauma-competent approach is truly transformative. She guides individuals to embrace their fullest potential through small, actionable steps toward growth and transformation. It's about empowering people to navigate their healing journey with compassion, resilience, and a deep understanding of their unique experiences. Safety and radical honesty are the keys to unlocking the mystery. As a solo parent of three boys, including twins with severe ADHD, Natalie navigated the challenges of the education system and personal adversity. She shares her story of using meditation to heal after a near-death experience and guide a live session to demonstrate how breathwork can facilitate emotional shifts. Whether you're a parent or educator, this episode offers practical tools and insights for connecting with teens. Being a parent is about understanding yourself. How to be willing to experience pain as our teens mature through their learning experiences. Let curiosity take the lead allowing the space to see what is going to happen next, rather than being reactive. Develop trust with your teen by taking an active role in listening to their experience. Being a teen is the time when they begin to make their own decisions, they are going to make mistakes. Keep an open dialogue to talk about risks and how they can manage them. We are feeling bodies that think. It's important as parents that we process our own feelings. Two-minute mindfulness breath mediation example as a way to balance yourself. Natalie shares an abundance of knowledge in energy healing and what that has to do with being supportive parents. Looking at the shadows. Change can only come from within. Ed and Natalie talks about a listener's question on what to do when your teen shuts down. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://LiftOneSelf.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/liftoneself Facebook: https://facebook.com/liftoneself Podcast: https://liftoneself.buzzsprout.com Youtube: https://m.youtube.com/@LiftOneSelfPodcast Free meditation: https://liftoneself.com/gift

A very special 100th episode! Thank you to all of you, our amazing listeners. Whether you've been with us since the beginning in 2020, or you're just tuning in now, you've helped make our podcast the success it has grown to be. I am grateful for your continued support of our programming! I can't think of a better guest today than the person I'm about to introduce. She has been by my side on this parenting journey, my incredible wife, Suzanne. In addition to being an amazing mom, she is the Director of Customer Experience & Channel Marketing at Revolution a REV UP BRANDS Company; a leading B2B organization that serves dance studios and educators world-wide. She has a passion for leading growth, innovation, and change. Suzanne has been published in over 100 business articles for Dance Teacher Magazine's "Ask the Experts" as a contributing columnist for over a decade. She regularly speaks and presents workshops at leading dance industry conferences and events. Suzanne earned her undergraduate degrees in Psychology and Child Development from Colby-Sawyer College. She has an MBA from the University of New Hampshire with a specialization in Growth & Innovation. She is also a Certified Change Management Professional, CCMP. This past July, we celebrated our 23rd wedding anniversary! Each child is so different and the way we communicate with them needs to be too. How we open up the dialogue with them to communicate can be done in a variety of ways. Keeping family values in the forefront is essential in building a foundation for communication. Asking open-ended questions, then listening to what they share, can help you know how to support them. Are you giving advice, coaching them, or just listening? Every child's stage of development is at their own pace. There is no “finding balance” as a parent, it's about going with the ebb and flow of activity, seasons, sports, interests, and hobbies of each child. How to recalibrate when your teen gets too involved. There's no one way to parent, we'll make mistakes, we'll learn. It takes a village. It's important to apologize to your teen if you've not been at your best. Help them leverage with what they're great at! There is so much we can learn from our teen's. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Book: How To Raise An Adult Book: The 5 Love Language's

Elaine is a Master Certified Coach and co-founder of the global coaching resource for parenting neurodiverse kids, ImpactParents.com. The co-creator of Sanity School® for Parents, she is passionate about guiding parents of complex kids and the professionals who support them with training and coaching. A mom to three complex young adults, she is the author of Parenting ADHD Now! and The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, Anxiety, and More. By teaching adults to take a coach-approach that is informed by a simple understanding of brain development, Elaine guides parents to let go of judgement, access compassion, set realistic expectations and dramatically improve the way they communicate with teens. What's different about parenting teens? They are growing and exploring; this is an exciting time! As a parent, are you Directing or Collaborating with your teen? "Whose agenda is it?" Become more interested in their agenda than your own. Help is only helpful if it's on their agenda. Transferring fear onto your teen. Why the coach approach? As a coach, create a place for your teen to explore by asking questions and guiding them into their own insights. What you need to know about the teenage brain. The ways in which parents and kids tend to fall out of trust with each other, and with themselves. When we know better, we do better. Self-care is vital in parenting teens. Elaine shares insights to help you be a calm & loving parent. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Resource Guide: 12 Fool-Proof Tips to Parent a Complex Teen - Resource Guide Website:  https://impactparents.com/ Podcast: https://impactparents.com/podcast

Today I have the incredible honor to talk with a true visionary of the world of science and health. Bruce H. Lipton, Ph.D., former medical school professor, and epigenetic science pioneer, is the bestselling author of The Biology of Belief, Spontaneous Evolution, and The Honeymoon Effect. Bruce received the prestigious Goi Peace Award (Japan) in honor of his scientific contribution to world harmony. For over ten years, Bruce has been listed in the top 100 of “the world's most spiritually influential living people” by the United Kingdom's Watkins Journal. Our lives are stressful, and they seem to get more and more stressful as the years go by. It can be a lot to deal with, but there are ways that we can make ourselves happier, and improve our overall well-being at a fast, and efficient rate. It comes down to the concept of energy psychology. We all know what psychology is, but what about energy psychology? Essentially, it is an approach to psychotherapy that involves coaching and healthcare treatment to work on the important mind-body connection. This is helping a lot of people worldwide deal with things like trauma, stress and more. Living in harmony with all living things, changing the way we interact with nature Parents are shaping the future of our civilization by the culture in which they raise their kids 95% of kids are experiencing life based on their earlier programming up to the age of 7 Bruce shares insights on the power of the conscious and subconscious mind How what we think becomes the message we send our body which in turn creates the chemistry to carry out that thought Helping your teen create a new set of beliefs from old programming Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://www.brucelipton.com/  Resources: https://www.brucelipton.com/resources/ 

Brandon Slade struggled with academics throughout high school, but in college, he recognized that his brain did not work like his peers. After receiving an ADHD diagnosis, Brandon aims to better understand how the ADHD brain works. After teaching special education for 12 years, he started Untapped Learning. Untapped's mission is to help students with executive function challenges—specifically ADHD and dyslexia. Brandon's expertise addresses the challenge of executive function difficulties in teens, particularly those with ADHD and dyslexia. We help parents, teachers, and coaches understand and support students who struggle with organization, time management, planning, and procrastination. Our approach aims to transform misconceptions about these students' motivation and abilities, reducing academic frustration and family tension while building life skills. Explore executive function challenges: time management, procrastination, impulse, emotional regulation, and organization Discuss what it is like growing up with ADHD A family doctor can assess if your child has ADHD and dyslexia Understand why kids struggle with organization, time management, and academics Debunk myths about laziness and lack of motivation in these students Learn innovative strategies to reduce family tension and foster student independence Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@untappedlearning Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/untappedlearning/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/untappedlearning Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandon-slade-ef/ Website: https://untappedlearning.com/

As parents we all want to see our kids grow into capable, strong, individuals who can lead themselves and others with purpose. In this podcast, we explore actionable steps that parents can take to nurture the leader within their teen. Joining us today is Alan E. Nelson, Ed.D. who is a leadership development specialist, trainer, speaker, and Lecturer of Management at the Naval Postgraduate School (www.nps.edu). He previously taught at USC, UCI, LMU, and Pepperdine. Dr. Nelson founded KidLead Academy, the world's first online course to train parents how to develop their child's leadership potential (www.kidlead.com). He also founded LeadYoung Training Systems, designing organizational leadership curricula for 3-23-year-olds (www.LeadYoungTraining.com). He is the author of 40 books and over 200 articles on personal growth and leadership and the founder of KidLead Inc., a nonprofit focusing on young leader development. Alan has a doctorate (Ed.D.) in leadership from the University of San Diego. During the first half of his life, he was an entrepreneurial leader in the social sector. In midlife, he concluded that leadership development could have a better return on investment by focusing on leaders while they're moldable, not moldy. Since 2008, Alan's been a pioneer in young leader development, designing age-n-stage curricula for 3-23-year-olds. Dr. Nelson has traveled to a variety of countries to train people with his curricula, along with interacting with 1000s of preteens and teens, as part of his research. What can parents do to develop their child's leadership potential? What are early indicators of leadership aptitude? Alan talks about key leadership qualities: persuasive, propelled, planner, power. Is a person born as a natural leader or can they develop into a leader? What are the benefits of developing your child's leadership potential? How do parents inadvertently shut down their child's leadership ability? Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://www.kidlead.com/ Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alanenelson/ Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KidLeadAcademy/ Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC280RZ3neguOVOPHNLmVq2Q

Many of us know how stressful this time can be. One big challenge is to step back and let your teen take the lead. It's natural to want to be involved in all stages of the admissions process to selecting the college, having a heavier hand in the student college application essays, etc. How do we as parents let go of those rigid expectations and meet our teen where they are at and what is best for them. Stacy Hernandez is a College Admissions Advisor and has been working on admissions since 1999. Stacy served as an Undergraduate Admissions Counselor at Johns Hopkins University and Northeastern University where she reviewed applications and recruited students around the country. Additionally, she has worked as a College Counselor in high schools in Colorado. In 2014, she opened an independent college admissions advising business called The Best U Admissions Advising where Stacy and her partners serve families from all over the world. Also, Stacy has transformational leadership coaching and intuitive background which allows her to support students to find their authenticity. Help parents understand how they are influencing their teens and how that can impact their ability to self-discover Show up in curiosity for your teen and ask the important questions, allowing them to find their own answers Often times, parent's opinions are not helpful and can limit their teen's ability to explore what they truly want Parents need to be aware of their own fears in letting their teen go Helping your teen determine what they want in a school, their non-negotiables, goals, and interests Meeting their teens where they are at Tips to find ease in this process The college admissions process, what colleges are looking for, and what it takes to get into certain schools. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Follow on Instagram Follow on Facebook Website: https://thebestu.net/ The Blog: https://thebestu.net/blogs/ 1-Month Free Membership: https://thebestu.net/membership/. Use code TBUWELCOME at checkout to receive your first month of TBU Membership free and register for the webinar at no additional cost.

Tim Moore is a Master Hypnotherapist and Neuro-Linguistic Programming Practitioner who has helped people throughout the world break free from issues and limitations that prevent them from living their best, most fulfilling lives. In addition to his work in private practice as a hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner, Tim is also an author, speaker, and trainer of hypnotherapy through his Hypno-Mastery practitioner accreditation program. In this podcast for parents of teens, we delve into understanding and nurturing the subconscious mind to help address common challenges faced during adolescence. We'll explore how to identify and overcome limiting beliefs, combat negative self-image, and develop resilience against bullying, as well as how the subconscious mind can help them reach their academic goals and future potential. The goal is to equip you with the tools to support your teen's mental and emotional well-being, empowering them to build a positive self-image and lead a more fulfilling life. Join us as we uncover the power of the subconscious mind in transforming the teenage experience. How the mind changes the way it receives and stores information as we grow Through our actions and best intentions, we often limit our teen's personal growth The impact of what you say and how it can create limiting beliefs in your child/teen How the root cause of a limiting belief can be transformed into a positive experience The subconscious mind, the conscious mind, and willpower The effects of social media and technology in shaping beliefs Misconceptions of hypnosis and how it can transform your reality in profound ways How hypnotherapy is one of the most powerful tools to making change, but also one of the most misunderstood. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://www.mindoverthebody.com Email: hello@mindoverthebody.com Free access to my mini course “Remove Self Doubt” (which would be good for both parents and teens): https://empowerment.mindoverthebody.com

Jon Mattleman received his B.A. from Clark University in 1978, and his MS in Counseling from the University of Hartford in 1981. Jon's workshops and presentations are geared to give participants tools they can implement immediately, strategies that work with children and youth, and approaches which have proven to be critical to building healthy relationships. Jon frequently consults with schools, parent groups, mental health organizations, and in workplace settings regarding the issues of anxiety, stress, depression, suicide, parenting, and the emotional consequences of technology. Jon is a certified trainer in QPR Suicide Prevention and has worked with professionals in schools, with state organizations such as the Massachusetts Probation Department, as well as with hundreds of parents regarding self-harm and suicide prevention. Jon is best known for his talk “The Secret Life of Teens and Tweens” and has presented this to thousands of parents all over New England. Jon has appeared on numerous radio and television shows lending his expertise on anxiety, depression, suicide, teens, and parenting. When teenagers are giving their parents an attitude, how should they deal with that? Parents shouldn't take an attitude from their teens personally. Be Patient. Never change your expectations of your teen, however you may need to change your timeline. Parents can practice giving themselves a time-out so they don't say something they wish they could take back. What do you do if a kid gets in trouble, for example- smoking in the bathroom at school? What do you do when you learn that your son/daughter is having sex, do you confront them? “In the dark conversations” can be very effective when having challenging conversations as facial expressions can alter the outcome. Jon talks about a teen's brain and what motivates them at different stages, and how to prepare and recognize these shifts. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://www.jonmattleman.com Twitter: https://x.com/Jonmattleman

Karleen Savage, Conflict resolution expert and certified hostage and crisis negotiator shares the tools that work during an argument with our teens. As a trailblazer in the realm of parent-teen relationships, Karleen Savage's insights are not confined to theory, but are forged in the crucible of real-world challenges and triumphs as a parent herself, and from her experience navigating complex conflicts as a crisis negotiator.  As the creator of the Savage Theory of Resolution®, a five-skill model that can be used to resolve any conflict, Karleen knows that peaceful and amicable resolution is possible. Karleen has been featured on MSNBC for her knowledge in hostage negotiation. She holds a Masters in Conflict Resolution & Negotiations, and she is a certified hostage and crisis negotiator. She has been married for more than 30 years and resides in Utah with her family. Universal skills that experts use to resolve conflict Curiosity when you and your teen don't see eye to eye Attitude-how do you show up in conflict? Master listening-this is essential and Karleen shares how to master this Connection Reframing & phrasing: what are the words we're using? Are you “holding” in the conversation? Over-arching philosophies: what do you want for your teen? How do you create that as a possibility in them? How to create parenting mantras and why it's important? Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: KarleenSavage.com Free Download: Get a digital download of The Confident Teen Blueprint  

Rhonda Chadwick is a trained archivist who has written a book called “Secrets from the Stacks: an archivist reveals how to store, digitize, and preserve documents to create a family archive and leave a personal legacy. She has a dual MLIS/Archives Management and MA History degree. She is the owner of a personal history business called LenaSalina Legacy Preservation. The teenage years contain some of our best times that teens will want to preserve, but also, sometimes tragedy strikes and teens may be in a position to want to save items from a loved one who has left this life too soon. Save pictures in non-proprietary format such as jpegs and word documents in pdf. Relying on the cloud for storage can be risky as the data lives on their service. It's best to back up everything using 3-2-1: two local options (computer & flash drive) and one off-site service (cloud). What do to with all the photos on your phone: Keep photos and documents that have enduring stories. It's a great practice to go through your saved photos on a regular basis and delete what is not necessary to save. The digital world is unstable, so printing photos is still a great idea. Social media, email, and text messages can also be saved Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Email: rhonda@lenasalina.com Website: LenaSalina.com Information provided by the Library of Congress: https://guides.loc.gov/family-history-for-kids/preservation https://digitalpreservation.gov/personalarchiving/

Jeannie Burlowski is a full-time academic strategist, podcast host, and speaker for students ages 12–26, their parents, and the professionals who serve them—and she is the author of the book LAUNCH: How to Get Your Kids Through College Debt-Free and Into Jobs They Love Afterward. Jeannie helps parents set their kids up to graduate college debt-free, ready to jump directly into careers they excel at and love. Her work has been featured in publications such as The Huffington Post, USA Today, Parents Magazine, and US News and World Report, and on CBS News. Most commonly known ways to pay for college: government loans, scholarships, and saving $ in advance. There are other options… Students can get a tuition reimbursement job while they're in college. Jeannie shares lots of resources. It's important for teens to figure out their strengths and interests while they're in high school so they can begin to think about companies that offer tuition reimbursement. College is expensive-help your teen be as prepared as possible for what they want to study. Jeannie's research indicates that 48% of kids who take an AP class in high school do not end up getting college credit for it. Real college classes in high school for real college credit: these are called - Dual enrollment and concurrent enrollment. Typically, the state pays for these classes and all of the material and books. Jeannie shares tips and ideas to help teens create a savings plan that works long-term. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: JeannieBurlowski.com. Article: Got a College-Bound Teen? AP Classes in High School May Not Be His or Her Best Option Article: Got a Teen Headed to College? Here's Why a State University May Not Be Your Bargain Option Article: Does Elite Education Lead to a Happier Life? What Does the Research Say?

Jill Grimes, MD, is a board-certified family physician who specializes in college health. She is a nationally recognized medical media expert & author of award-winning book, “The ULTIMATE College Student Health Handbook: Your Guide for Everything from Hangovers to Homesickness”. Teen & college age partying is NOT what parents remember! Beer (with perhaps, worst case, beer bongs) have given way to successive vodka shots and intentional “blackout” drinking, and the mellow “Cheech N Chong” joint sharing version of “pot” is a far cry from today's high THC concentration “weed”. Dr. Grimes shares the inside scoop about the medical challenges and risks of today's party culture. Late middle school and early high school is when you want to begin talking with your teen about managing their health care. If they take medication, schedule a weekly time to work with them on filling a pill organizer so they are prepared. Dr. Jill covers what your teen will need when filling out their own medical forms. Talk with your teen about the process and help them gather information they'll need so they are prepared when they're on their own. Hear from Dr. Jill on the most common illness and medical concerns that your teen may encounter, and how they can be prepared to get the help they need. About inking, Teens can get a temporary tattoo and live with that for a week to see how they feel about it before getting the real deal. Learn how to empower your teen to have a successful conversation with their doctor to be sure their needs are being addressed in the time given, and how to handle medication that's prescribed: cost, side-effects, if they don't feel better, etc. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://jillgrimesmd.com TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@TikTok.CollegeDoc Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jillgrimesmd Purchase the Book on Amazon: The ULTIMATE College Student Health Handbook: Your Guide for Everything from Hangovers to Homesickness

Karleen Savage, Conflict resolution expert and certified hostage and crisis negotiator shares the tools that work during an argument with our teens. As a trailblazer in the realm of parent-teen relationships, Karleen Savage's insights are not confined to theory, but are forged in the crucible of real-world challenges and triumphs as a parent herself, and from her experience navigating complex conflicts as a crisis negotiator. As the creator of the Savage Theory of Resolution®, a five-skill model that can be used to resolve any conflict, Karleen knows that peaceful and amicable resolution is possible. Karleen has been featured on MSNBC for her knowledge in hostage negotiation. She holds a Masters in Conflict Resolution & Negotiations, and she is a certified hostage and crisis negotiator. She has been married for more than 30 years and resides in Utah with her family. Embracing Genuine Curiosity When You and Your Teen Don't See Eye to Eye Are we listening in a way to learn from our teens? As our kids grow older, we shift as having control to being along side them as a partnership. Attitude-be careful not to solve your teen's problems and challenges. Become a master listener – Karleen shares a blueprint of how to do this effectively. Parents need to have only a few rules, and they need to stick to them. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://www.karleensavage.com/ Free Digital Book: https://www.karleensavage.com/parents 

A former middle school English teacher and parent of two, Emily Cherkin, MEd., The Screentime Consultant, witnessed the simultaneous rise of technology use for school, and smartphone and social media use for kids. Today, Emily consults with parents, offers school presentations and professional development training, and writes about parenting and screentime to bring her tech-intentional approach to as many people as possible. Emily's work has been featured in The New York Times, NPR, The Today Show (twice), the BBC, Good Morning America, and more. Chuck Norris has quoted her. Emily is also a co-founder of The Student Data Privacy Project, an activism group dedicated to pushing back on excessive EdTech and screens in schools. Emily's book "The Screentime Solution: A Judgment-Free Guide to Becoming a Tech-Intentional Family" is an Amazon bestseller and available everywhere books are sold. What does it mean to be “tech-intentional”? Why don't you recommend parental controls, and what do you recommend instead? Would you give your 11 yr. old keys to the car? To get a drivers license, it's a process of learning, it doesn't happen right away. It should be the same way in teaching your kids about safe and respectful social media engagement. Be careful about your teen's use of apps and games. They are focused on hooking the watcher and keeping their attention, and on selling. Teens can feel judged about what they're engaging in; be curious instead of judgmental when asking teen's about what they're plugged into. Be aware as parents of how predators seek out victims on social media and have these conversations with your teens. Parents often buy a phone for their teen to keep them safe, and yet it's opens the teen up to other dangers like bullying, mental health concerns, predators, etc. At the end of the day, we want our kids to be safe and we want to protect them. Ask yourself: Do I know what my child is doing online? Do I have a good relationship with my child so we can keep the line of communication open? Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://www.thescreentimeconsultant.com Book Order: https://www.amazon.com/Screentime-Solution-Judgment-Free-Becoming-Tech-Intentional/dp/B0CB9JS5KB/ Instagram: @thescreentimeconsultant LinkedIn: @emily-cherkin Facebook: @thescreentimeconsultant Youtube: @thescreentimeconsultantllc6072 Twitter/X: @ScreentimeLllc

Many mental health therapists are seeing an increase in anxiety, depression, procrastination, panic and self harm in teens. Today, we will talk about ways parents can help their teenagers live happier and healthier lives regarding social media, screen time and why it is important to monitor the amount of time your child is spending on their device.  Denise Schonwald, LMHC, is a licensed mental health counselor, mental intuitive, and public speaker specializing in holistic well-being. With 30 years of experience as an ICU nurse, she witnessed the impact of stress, anxiety, and fear on patients and families. Denise integrates mental and physical health, providing comprehensive support for anxiety, depression, trauma, and more. Her approach combines therapy, meditation, and hypnotherapy. Denise, along with her therapy dog Henry, helps clients achieve optimal health. As a sought-after public speaker, Denise educates and inspires audiences on mental health topics. Why teens need social media & screen time rules and structure What can happen when the mind is exposed to too much screen time and how it affects our physical and mental health The mind can crave more and more screen time; it's important as a family to set and stick to guidelines you've created Lead by example: model want your expect from your teens Having regularly scheduled family meetings is a great way to listen and learn how your teen is feeling It's important to schedule rest and recovery time for teens as they work to manage their time, activities, and social media. Allowing teens to take responsibility for their choices.  Appropriate extracurricular activities for teens.  Sponsored by EdGerety.com Denise is a published Author of three books. Healing Your Body by Mastering Your Mind Insightful Self-Therapy Her latest is a Children's book: Getting Back to Happy Resources Quiz: https://deniseschonwald.com/quiz/ Website: https://deniseschonwald.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deniseschonwald/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deniseschonwaldllc/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/denise-schonwald/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@deniseschonwald


The dangers that exist in the world of social media today and how predators use it to put your child at risk. Lt. Kinsman has been in law enforcement for 24 years and the last 20 of those years at the Portsmouth Police Department. In 2020, Lt. Kinsman accepted an offer in the Investigations Division as the Commander of the NH Internet Crimes Against Children Task Force. NH ICAC is one of 61 total ICAC Task Forces across the country and is responsible for a complex approach to investigating and prosecuting internet-based child sexual abuse cases. Lt. Kinsman is a veteran of the US Air Force and holds a Bachelor's Degree in Psychology and a Master's Degree in Counseling. Parents should start the conversation about social media when they're children are young to create an open dialogue about use and safe practices, and not wait until they are in the height of their teenage years. Kids use social media to connect and if they're growing friendships based on someone's social media ranking, it's a red flag. Because social media is an instant gratification when people like or give a thumbs up, kids can begin to crave more or more. Teens can find themselves trusting someone they don't know while believing that it's a real person who genuinely wants to get to know them. There are multi-billion dollar conglomerates across the world that make a living off of this. They create a false profile and send out a wide net to fish for responses. Kids can fall into being comfortable with these new connections and end up sharing personal photos and information. That can be used against them in an extortion-type method to get $ with the false promise that they won't share the information. As parents we can let our teens know that we are here for them no matter what comes up. Keeping the door open on dialogue with your teen about social media will help keep them informed about possible dangers. Knowledge is powerful. Parents need to work WITH their children on this issue, not AGAINST them. S.M.A.R.T. acronym: be the parent who is aware of what's going on. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Email: kinsmane@portsmouthnhpd.gov Internet Crimes Against Children: www.icactaskforce.org info@icactaskforce.org 

Jack Blackwell is a leader in the field of family constellation work. He has 15 years of experience leading lineage and family healing events and training facilitators. As the founder of Healing Family Trauma, Jack offers resources and guidance to those seeking healing and resolution in their lives. His work emphasizes the role of ancestry and generational patterns in shaping our lives, and how these patterns can be addressed and transformed through family constellation work. Through his facilitation, Jack helps individuals and families unravel the complex patterns and dynamics that have been passed down through the generations, enabling them to move towards greater harmony and connection. With his expertise and compassionate approach, Jack has helped hundreds of clients overcome the challenges of family trauma and find greater peace and fulfillment. As a mentor and trainer, Jack is dedicated to empowering others to share in the benefits of family constellation work, spreading healing and transformation to communities across the globe. Childhood trauma can be impacted by the imprint of what happened to our ancestors. Children inherit the unresolved trauma that happened to their ancestors. Children can manifest a reoccurring pattern of behavior and not understand why, and they may be unable to break the cycle, even though they have family love and support. The trauma our ancestors were unable to heal can be passed down and cause generational behavior issues. The child can pick up the unresolved pain of their ancestors and act it out and recreate it. The trauma pattern begins to heal when parents honor the experiences their ancestors had and raise their children without resistance to that trauma. Family constellation work is based in love and as we open up to the trauma our ancestors faced, we can do it with love and respect for their experience knowing that they did their best. Jack shares his own powerful experience of family generational trauma and how love healed the past. Jack shares ways to begin to discover family history to uncover and heal from generational trauma. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources To Experience a Family Constellation event for FREE - Email me. Events happen weekly. Email: Jack@HealingFamilyTrauma.com Website: HealingFamilyTrauma.com YouTube: @JackBlackwellConstellations

Elizabeth Keating is a professor of anthropology at the University of Texas at Austin who specializes in culture and communication. She recently published her third book, which reached #1 on Amazon's Movers & Shakers in Books in the first week of publication, and was #1 in cultural anthropology the week after. The book, The Essential Questions: Interview Your Family to Uncover Stories and Bridge Generations, takes an anthropological approach to finding out about your own family history, and the Essential Questions help you to uncover new sides of family members you've known all your life. Elizabeth's academic research and writing focuses on culture and communication. She's done fieldwork on the small island of Pohnpei (Micronesia), in the Austin Deaf Community, in Romania, India, Brazil, Germany and the U.S. She has presented talks and papers in 15 countries on a variety of topics in language and culture, and authored or co-authored over 50 academic articles. She has given talks about her research on communication in global teams at Google and in other business settings. She's been a professor in the department of anthropology at UT Austin for over 25 years. Key Takeaways In family conversations, the focus and excitement is generally on what the children and grandchildren are up to. Questions about what it was like for parents and grandparents when they were growing up is uncommon. It's hard for young people to picture their parents and grandparents as kids and ask what their life was like at that time. Elizabeth shares her own personal story about interviewing her mom about the family, and then realizing after her mom had passed, that there was so much she didn't know about her mom and wished she had the foresight to have had those conversations. How is focusing on the stories of our elders important in raising our teens? What lessons do they learn? Teens feel a sense of belonging as family stories are shared and they feel a deeper connection and conversation with their older family members. Often teenagers ask themselves why they do what they do, and in interviewing older family members, they often find a correlation to their family history and way of being. What challenges did older family members have with their parents and the hardships they faced that may have been passed down through the generations This offers a greater understanding for teens to know why their parents/grandparents respond/behave the way they do in certain situations. Teens can learn to become more open and compassionate as they learn about the difficult stories in their family history. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: Elizabeth-keating.com Email Elizabeth: Click Here Follow on Twitter: https://twitter.com/talktofamily

Teenage years can be difficult transitional years. Most people, including teenagers themselves, have little to no idea how much worse processed foods can make those years. As teenagers prepare to leave high school and join the complicated world of adulthood, it is tragic to think that they are doing so with the consequences of processed foods. Surprising consequences can include depression, anxiety, irritability, fatigue, disrupted sleep, racing thoughts, brain fog, weight gain, eating disorders, and illnesses. Find out how to support teenagers to develop their own desire to avoid processed foods. Dr. Ifland is the lead author of the first scholarly description of processed food addiction and definition of addictive foods. She earned her PhD in addictive nutrition at Union Institute and University (2010); her MBA at Stanford Business School (1978) and her BA in Economics and Political Science at Oberlin College (1974). Dr. Ifland has been creating breakthroughs in recovery from food addiction from 1999 with her first popular book to 2018 when her textbook, Processed Food Addiction: Foundations, Assessment, and Recovery was released by CRC Press. She has been selected for her expertise by Oprah Winfrey Network, Martha Stewart Wedding Magazine, Fortune Magazine, and US News and World Report. Key Takeaways How parents can model healthy eating choices to help their teens create good habits. The human brain is wired to fit in and belong. If your teen associates with people who have poor eating habits, it is likely they will be influenced by those habits. Your teens are being inundated with messages that drive their motivation to eat unhealthy food. When you keep food in your home that contains poor quality nutrients such as processed food, sugar, flour, preservatives, additives, etc. your kids will learn to crave those unhealthy foods. Limiting the availability of poor-quality food in your home can help shift your teens eating behavior. Create a list of clean eating foods and have a family meeting to talk about which foods your family enjoys so you can keep them on hand. Make healthy food readily prepared and available so your teen can grab a healthy snack or meal when time is limited. Get your family involved in preparing and cooking by scheduling family cooking sessions once a week. This will set them up for life-long success. As your teens begin to make healthy food choices, keep track of improvements you see in their sleep, behavior, grades, outlook, health, motivations, sports, etc. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: FoodAddictionReset.com Website: ProcessedFoodAddiction.com Self-Quiz to see how you are experiencing food addiction in your own life: Take the Quiz

When our teens engage in challenging behavior, it often triggers negative feelings inside of parents and ignites fears for the future. That fear can lead us to increase our discipline which can lead to heightened conflict. When we learn to see our teen's behavior through a new lens - as an opportunity to identify skills that need to be developed, it can help parents focus on support rather than discipline. That change in perspective and change in our approach helps our teens feel understood and helps them want to collaborate rather than push back. After 19 years, Andrea left her thriving career as a lawyer to homeschool her autistic son when she was unable to find a school in which he could flourish. After nearly eight years of homeschooling, her son was ready to return to school. Instead of returning to her law career, Andrea wanted to share her knowledge and experience with other parents. She also returned to school and earned a Master's degree in Education (M.S.Ed.) to maximize her impact in supporting parents. She started Autism Parent Solutions, to educate, support and empower parents with parent coaching to reclaim the joy of parenting as they help their autistic children make rapid progress, grow communication and collaboration, and create a peaceful home. Key Takeaways Support over discipline: when our children misbehave, we have a tenancy to lean in discipline when often the case is that they do not yet have the skills to cope with what's happening. Skill deficiency leads to misbehavior. Help your teen grow the skills that will give them the support they need to correct behaviors. Parents can take a moment before responding to misbehavior to collect their thoughts and try to understand what is going on for their teen instead of feeling like they have to react right away. An example of opening to a broader understanding might be to consider, “He/she is not giving me a hard time…he/she is having a hard time.” “He/she is doing the best he/she can. Sometimes parents need help implementing what they read and hear about on healthy parenting skills. Parents have their own experiences, beliefs and thoughts about how they were raised when they were a teen and this can influence how they parent their own kids. As parents, we often try to control what's going on for our teens, when that can be the least effective approach. When parents have an understanding of their teen's behavior, it can help their teen feel confident, seen and heard. Heavy-handed discipline can lower your teen's self-esteem. Confident parenting doesn't mean it's perfect. It means you've done a great job and you can be gentle with yourself when things go sideways. It's important as a parent to stop and celebrate what's working. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources To book a call: autismparentsolutions.com/apply For more information: autismparentsolutions.com Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/autismparentsolutions Follow on Instagram: @autismparentsolutions

Therese & “Tee” Forton-Barnes, is a Household Toxins Health Specialist and Coach and owner of The Green Living Gurus and Tee's Organics. Tee grew up in a very healthy home in the 60's and 70's, went to college to open a health food store, and has been helping people for over 40 years keep toxicants out of their homes. Tee is an entrepreneur, activist, podcast host, and educator. She spreads awareness of chemicals in everyday products that could cause many autoimmune illnesses, cancer, and other health issues. She guides women in creating a less toxic home and lifestyle to ultimately increase the odds of a long, healthy, vital life and a safe environment in their homes. Key Takeaways Some of the chemicals that are a concern in our everyday living: fragrance, perfume, talc powder, and color from dye. Teens can get caught up in all the marketing and messages of food and body care products that are loaded with toxins. Parents can guide their teens to eat healthy by modeling what they eat and what they serve their families.  Use essential oils instead of perfumes and fragrances as it's a natural product. Essential oils can be mixed with water to create a spray for household use, your car, gym bag, etc. Laundry detergent and dryer sheets that include fragrance will coat your fabric with chemicals. Read your labels and know your ingredients! Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Use ‘Healthyhome' for 15% off Tee's Organics Follow on Facebook

Debbie Ausburn is a social worker turned lawyer who has worked with youth-serving organizations for more than 40 years. She has served as a camp counselor, juvenile court probation officer, group home parent, criminal prosecutor of crimes against children and litigation attorney advising youth-serving organizations throughout the United States. Her most important challenges, however, have been parenting foster children and stepchildren. She has never had biological children, but she has collected seven children and ten grandchildren. She has put the lessons that her children taught her in her recent book Raising Other People's Children: What Foster Parenting Taught Me about Bringing Together a Blended Family. Key Takeaways If all were right in the world, kids would want to be with their biological parents. No matter how much you love them, this is their reality, and their life is off-balance because of it. It's important not to take things personally if your step/foster children/teens are acting out. It takes time for them to grieve through the changes. “Commitment is stronger than love” a phrase Debbie talks about in her book. When emotions run high, commitment can carry you through the challenging moments. Give them time to work through their circumstances, stay supportive and present for them. These builds trust. Kids are resilient however they can only handle what they can handle. Trauma can affect them in negative ways. They don't always bounce back. Understand the difference between trauma and character flaws in order to help your step/foster teens heal and grow. Sponsored by VarsityLeadership.com Resources WEBSITE: https://www.debbieausburn.com/ BLOG: https://www.debbieausburn.com/blog LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/other-people's-children-llc  BOOK: https://RaisingOtherPeoplesChildren.com

Do you have a teenager involved in the Performing Arts? How do you help them manage the fears that arise including perfectionism, fear of shining, vulnerability, motivation, failure and limiting beliefs? My guest today is Dr. Alaina Johnson, a psychologist with over 20 years of clinical experience. As a mom raising three offspring who are passionate about the creative arts, she recognized the lack of resources on how to understand and support teens and tweens with similar interests. This led her to found Parenting Talent LLC as a support resource for parents, instructors, mentors, and studio owners dedicated to empowering young people in their creative exploration. Dr. Alaina is the author of "Parenting Talent: The Grown-Up's Guide to Supporting Creatively Driven Teens and Tweens," which helps parents and mentors navigate the emotional and practical needs of teens and tweens in the arts. Key Takeaways Achieving Perfectionism is a goal many teens in performing arts strive for. It's about having incredibly high self-standards and what their inner voice is telling them. Is their inner voice a cheerleader or a critic? If your teen has an inner critic voice, you can encourage them to do activities that they're not super invested in so they can take a more relaxed approach. Help them acknowledge their cheerleader voice so they can begin to shift their inner critic. Have them take their over-all goal and break it down into smaller steps. They can find their inner cheerleader voice when they recognize how well they are doing at achieving these smaller steps, even if they don't succeed with the bigger goal of getting the part/role. Parents don't want to see their kids in pain so they can often praise them when the teen knows they didn't do their best job. This can lead to not trusting the parent and can cut off future conversations about their performances. Don't offer false information, give them a hug, and listen. When kids are young, they turn to their parents for validation. As they reach their teen years, they are looking for validation from others. This is a natural progression as they begin to become more independent. So many leaders today participated in performing arts when they were young. There are so many valuable lessons that come from the experience. If your teen is highly driven to stay motivated and engaged in achieving their goal, it's ok to talk with them about how they're feeling. Although they may act as if everything is going well, they could be dealing with internal pressure and overwhelm. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources WEBSITE: http://www.parentingtalent.com/ EMAIL Dr. Alaina: dralaina@parentingtalent.com FACEBOOK: Parenting Talent INSTAGRAM: @parentingtalent BOOK: Parenting Talent: The Grown-Up's Guide to Understanding and Supporting Creatively Driven Teens and Tweens

Rachel Marie Martin believes in the power of the human spirit to overcome, to thrive and to find deep joy and because of that she pours out her heart via these platforms: she is the writer behind the site FindingJoy.net and author of both Mom Enough and The Brave Art of Motherhood and a founding partner in Audience Industries – a company designed to train and equip entrepreneurs in their ventures. Her articles have been translated into over 25 languages, her site reaches millions of visitors per month and she has a robust, engaged Facebook community. Her content has been featured in The Huffington Post, The Today Show, Star Tribune, Tiny Buddha, iVillage, Stuff New Zealand,  John Tesh, PopSugar, Motherly, Parents, What to Expect, Independent Journal Review, Dr. Greene, Power of Positivity, Her View From Home, CafeMom, and many more. She speaks worldwide encouraging moms and entrepreneurs to live each day with purpose and drive. Beyond that, she's a mom to seven, and calls Nashville, Tennessee, her home. Key Takeaways “What's the worst that can happen and can I get through that?” Worry is part of being a parent. Don't beat yourself up if you worry. It's an acknowledgement of your love. As a parent, be sure to settle into the knowingness that you are doing the best you can with the resources that you have. Using a “target with a positive expectation” is a good way to set a goal to give your teens the opportunity to succeed. Choose your words carefully when setting an expectation and use positive language. Give it some pause and grace when you talk with your teens. Setting boundaries can differ with each child/teen. Pay attention to their needs and honor who they are. Allow your teen to explore what they enjoy and consider their passion as a future career. It's important to have a respectful relationship with your teen and to address any comments towards you as a parent. Do not take it personally and have a thoughtful conversation with them about your relationship and the boundary of respect. Sponsored by VarsityLeadership.com Resources WEBSITE: https://findingjoy.net FACEBOOK PAGE: Finding Joy INSTAGRAM: @finding_joy BOOK: Mom Enough: Inspiring Letters for the Wonderfully Exhausting but Totally Normal Days of Motherhood

Dale Troy is a College Success Coach and Certified Health Coach, who helps students transition successfully from high school to college. Dale's experience in helping college students started with her own three daughters. All three of her daughters graduated from Yale College, and she is a graduate of Yale College and Yale Law School. Dale's College Success Formula program provides students with strategies that reduce their daily stress and enable them to thrive. Are you and your teen spending a lot of time talking about college admissions? Most families view high school as the gateway to college, and spend time, effort and resources to help their teens get into a good college. As a parent, you want your teen to have a great experience, and graduate in 4 years with a job that will support them. Unfortunately, many students find themselves stressed, overwhelmed, and lacking confidence in their first semester of college. As a College Success Coach, Dale Troy has identified the key habits and skills all students need to thrive in college. You can help your teen with the transition to college by learning what they need to know before they arrive on their campus. Key Takeaways It takes more than academic ability to succeed in college. There are 4 pillars of habits and skills that lead to college success (academic skills, social connections, physical health, emotional well-being). Time management is the key to college success because it's necessary to balance academics, social life, and self-care. Every student needs a planner, and a physical planner is best as they write down what they need to do it becomes more seated in their brain. It's normal for your teen to feel stressed, however it's important to know when they are overly stressed. When they feel stressed it's important to talk with them about self-care: sleep, nutrition, exercise…are they getting enough. Do they have a way to release stress such as meditation, deep breathing, walking in nature, music, creating. Students want to feel included, make friends, and not feel lonely. It's important for them to join a club, get involved in dorm activities, and talk with their parents about the choices they are making in choosing friends and activities, so they don't get misled. How often to reach out to your teen in their first year of college can differ depending on your family communication. Creating a plan of communication, how often to connect, will set an expectation to stay in touch. A once-a-week face-to-face call (facetime, zoom, etc.) will help you see how they're doing. Most freshman will be homesick, and this is normal. It can mean that they don't feel at home yet in their new environment. As they get more involved in activities and create healthy friendships, they will settle more into feeling at home at school. Rescuing your teen is not the answer, supporting your teen is. Let them figure out the answer to the problem. This is their time to work through challenges, build resilience, and strengthen self-confidence to go out in the world after college. Help your student know where they can go and who they can talk with to solve the challenges they need help with. A resource for college-bound students: “The Greatest College Health Guide You Never Knew You Needed: How to Manage Food Booze, Stress, Sex, Sleep and Exercise on Campus” by Jill and Dave Henry. Sponsored by VarsityLeadership.com Resources WEBSITE: https://www.crushcollegestress.com EMAIL: daletroy@crushcollegestress.com INSTAGRAM: @crushcollegestress FACEBOOK GROUP: College Parent Support Community A resources for parents: Parent Guide to College: Six Keys to Ensure Your Child Graduates on Time A resources for college-bound students: The Greatest College Health Guide You Never Knew You Needed:  How to Manage Food Booze, Stress, Sex , Sleep and Exercise on Campus by Jill and Dave Henry.

Shahar Link is the CEO and founder of Mindspire Tutoring and Test Prep, which has tutored thousands of students across the country for over a decade in the SAT, ACT, and every other academic subject. Shahar has been teaching in high schools and tutoring standardized tests for over 25 years. He earned a master's degree in history from Stanford University, writing his thesis on the history of IQ testing. Ever since he has been determined to help students succeed on standardized tests and in high school. Welcome to the show, Shahar! Key Takeaways SAT & ACT: Some kids are better at one test versus the other. Knowing which test is better for your teen makes a big difference in their success and which one they might take. A majority of universities across the country are now test-optional. This doesn't mean that it's not an important aspect of their application. Students who score with an above average score for the school they're applying to, will have a better chance of getting into that school verses someone who does not submit a score. If your teen's score is less than average for that school you will want to consider whether or not they submit a score. There are some students who don't match what they're capable of on the standardized tests. This could be for a variety of reasons like test anxiety, learning behaviors, etc. They may want to consider not taking the test or working to improve their ability before taking the test. Parents can help their teens overcome test anxiety and stress by practicing breathing techniques and by taking practice tests to help normalize test taking. Make learning active: have your teen write down what they're learning: flash cards, journaling, note cards. This takes what they've learned to a deeper level of remembering. Students who ask teachers for support and help will do better. Empower your teen to be a self-advocate. Sponsored by VarsityLeadership.com Resources Visit Shahar's website Email Shahar Link Visit Shahar on Facebook Follow Shahar on LinkedIn

A graduate of Harrison High School in Harrison, NY and Northwestern University, Jon Varlamos received his Master's degree in teaching from Fordham University. He began his teaching and coaching career at West Hempstead and Locust Valley High Schools before moving to Walt Whitman High School as an Assistant Principal, where he's spent the last 19 years. Jon discusses the mindset and behaviors of teenagers in today's schools with specific focus on being present, coping, interacting and social media's effect on all of this. Key Takeaways Really focusing on the effects of social media on our young adults' behavior, actions, interactions, mindset. It's not going away, this is their world. One of the biggest concerns is that teens get a lot of their “experience” by watching other people's experiences on social media. Parents can look back at life before cell phones when they learned from real world experiences. Teens today are often missing that real-life interaction. Parents can help their teen work through what they're seeing and hearing through social media. It's good to set phone expectations and boundaries as a family so everyone can be responsible based on guidelines. Healthy expectations of your teen is important so they realize it's not what they see on social media. Talk with them about their goals and how you can support them without applying pressure that overwhelms them. It's important to allow your teen to make mistakes and learn rather than jumping in to save them from the learning experience. Respect and responsibility can be taught as parents' model that behavior. It's ok for parents to admit when they've made a mistake or acted inappropriately. Parents can approach a teacher, a coach, an administrator to talk about any concerns. Tap into that support. Sponsored by VarsityLeadership.com Resources Email Jon Varlamos

Better understand how to navigate teen mental health issues in our latest episode, featuring Robin Glenn, chief strategy and business development officer with 7 Mindsets. She'll help demystify typical teen behavior from red flags, provide tips for creating supportive environments at home and school, and share methods for fostering open communication on sensitive issues.  Robin Glenn is an accomplished therapist with over 25 years of experience in working with at-risk teens and their families. She founded BASE Education, a student mental health solution acquired by 7 Mindsets in January 2023. As chief strategy and business development officer with 7 Mindsets, Robin oversees curriculum development and strategic initiatives, further expanding the integrative capabilities and partner access to the highest quality program. Prior to founding BASE, Robin's professional work included roles as a school-based therapy specialist for at-risk teens, private practice therapist for adolescents and their families, treatment coordinator for intensive in/outpatient teen programs, and research specialist in clinical trials for adolescents with addictions. While serving in her various roles, Robin served on panels and boards for various teen organizations, and she has and continues to train law enforcement, school administrators and faculty, medical professionals, and members of the community through various speaking engagements and seminars on issues pertaining to at-risk youth.  Robin is also on the advisory council for the Jake Jabs Center for Entrepreneurship for the University of Colorado at Denver Business School.  Key Takeaways Create an intentional space so you can understand where your teens are coming from. They often don't know to talk about their feelings unless we make the space to give them the opportunity. Create this space in a private setting away from others, allow time so no one feels rushed, sit side by side, set the tone to make it an easy-going experience. Creative ways to ask questions so your teen will open up: “tell me some cool things that happened today, tell me what's keeping you up at night, what's it like being you right now…help me understand. Teens pick up on everything. If you're asking them a question, listen! Don't be distracted. Give your teen the chance to fail when the price is low. When they fail at home, it gives you the opportunity to talk with them about risky behavior to set them up for success in the future, when the stakes are much higher. It's important to give your teens enough rope so they can experience life. They will fail, this is the nature of being a teen, and being there for them to help them understand what they've learned from the mistake, is vital to their growth. Mindsets to view life: letting go of unlimited beliefs, holding your self accountable, live to give, attitude of gratitude, and more. Helping your teen find their passion: let them try different activities and be involved in what they experience so you can see what gets them excited. Help them bring out that passion and let them know what you see in them. Model cell phone use so your teen knows to put their phone down because you do. Put it in another room. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://7mindsets.com/ Email: robin.glenn@7mindsets.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-glenn-b4144b13/

Edy Nathan's private practice focuses on grief, trauma, loss and sex. Tough conversations people don't like to have yet cause obstacles in creating a life worth living. Edy earned her master's degrees from New York University and Fordham University in New York City. Edy is a  Psychology Today blogger, international speaker, and workshop innovator. She is the author of “It's Grief: The Dance of Self-Discovery through Trauma and Loss.” Key Takeaways Grief is not just something your teen gets over, and grief is not only when someone they love dies. When you ask your teen “what are you yearning for and what's missing” you may learn more about what they're grieving. They may be feeling out-of-sync, moody, restless, emotional; have a desire and hunger to fit in, to be included…these are forms of grief and loss. Parents who want to help their teen deal with grief and loss and find that their teen doesn't want to talk about it, will need to be creative in how they engage their teen. It might be through an activity, involving them in something they love; being a witness to their experience without asking something of them. When a parent becomes reactive with their teen and strong-arms them into conversation they don't want to have, they shut down. 11 phases of grief, it's a journey. They're going to go through many phases. Be there for them as a good listener and love them through it. It's important for adults/parents to seek the help they personally need when they are grieving so they can be in a place to support their teen. As a parent, you may find yourself grieving when your teen leaves the family home for college, a job, military, etc. When you're feeling the loss of a child, it's important to let your teen know that it's not their responsibility for how you're feeling. Let them know they have a right to go on their own path. If your teen closes the door on your relationship after they leave the family home without an understanding of why, continue to honor who your child/adult is. Perhaps sometime in the future, they will remember the good times, and possibly reopen the relationship. Parents can look at their own trauma, where that may have bled out into their relationships with their teens, this can be healing and helpful in moving forward. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://edynathan.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/edy-nathan/ Blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/tales-grief Amazon: It's Grief: The Dance of Self-Discovery Through Trauma and Loss

David Samore hails from Sioux City, Iowa, fourth of five sons to immigrant parents.  After serving 18 years as the principal of a leading middle school in Palm Beach County, Florida, he served as the SDPBC Principal of Global Leadership and Innovation. Dr. Samore has been a teacher and administrator at elementary, middle and high schools for over 35 years.  He speaks five languages and earned the International Baccalaureate (IB) Diploma in Britain.  A major thrust of Samore's work has been the creation of overseas opportunities for all learners, including students, faculty, and community. Dr. Samore has just published his first book, Ecstatic Doom: The Adult's Guide to Middle Schoolers (2023). He has also contributed articles to the leading educational leadership magazine of Spain, Supervisión 21 and to the 2018 Collier & Thomas book Transforming Secondary Education: Middle and High School Dual Language Programs. Samore's future books are True Leadership: Why Common Sense and Open Arms Always Win (2023) and Avoiding Titanic: What Schools Can Do to Save the Sinking American Male (2024). Key Takeaways Bullying-all children will either be a victim or a bystander or both. Bullying begins early in a child's life. Honest conversations with your kids: this is what it is, have they experienced it, and what to do about it. It's important for parents to talk with their teens about being proud of who they are and where they've come from. To help them feel strong and use language that helps them stand up for themselves when they are being bullied. Parents can talk with their teens about how they might be perceived by a bully. What they say and do sends a message about who they are, and this can often make them vulnerable to a bully. Teens can practice in front of a mirror or with mom, dad, and friends to say, “Stop doing that, I don't like it.” in a firm and clear voice. Role-playing gives a teen a chance to get prepared. Failure is necessary to learning and parents shouldn't feel the need to protect their teens from failing. It's going to happen. Don't panic, keep calm. Stop, get a private moment with your teen and listen. Strategize with them on how they can handle it differently next time. Know what kind of parent you are. The authoritative or the authoritarian parent. Parents struggle with staying calm. Practice active listening with no other distractions. Repeat back to your teen what you think you heard them say. Raising a good teen takes time and lots of practice. Keep the communication open and clear. Inconsistency in raising your child can lead to disrespectful behavior towards you as they get older. Say what you mean and mean what you say. You are modeling behavior for your teen. You won't be your teens friend; they need you to be their parent. Sponsored by Lessons in Leadership Online Program Resources Website: www.davidsamore.com FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/david.samore.7 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-samore-ed-d-a053402a/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/david_samore YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@davidsamoreed.d.7430/videos Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidsamore/

Stacey Clarke has been an educator for more than 2 decades. She pursued a career in broadcast journalism in college, then had the chance to be a substitute teacher while building her career. Stacey realized that she had a passion for teaching and wanted to help students experience the very best in education, so she changed careers. Stacey is the Assistant Director for a Charter School, grades 6-12, and she is also a parent of two teens. Key Takeaways It can be a big challenge for teens to have a successful transition to a new school or a new grade. Parents can often offer the advice that it's all going to be ok. And that may not be true for all teens.  It can be helpful for parents to share stories of what it was like for them when they transitioned into a new school or a new grade.  Some teens do better than others, keep communication open with your teen. They can have a whole range of different experiences and emotions and it's important to be available for them to share what it's like for them. It's okay for your teen to feel the way they do. Allow them to go deeper into the emotion and let them experience that. It's ok for them to be nervous, uncertain, afraid.  Parents should communicate with their teen's teachers. Tap into resources, academic, social emotional, etc. There is support for your teen in everything they do.  To help your teen stay organized, keep a shared calendar so they and you know what their teen is expected to do, along with deadlines for assignments and projects. Reach out to teachers to help their teen stay organized, lean on school. The teachers are part of your team.  Every student should have a trusted adult at school that they can go to. The parents should also have a person at school that they can tap into too. Teens do better, all around, knowing they have a trusted adult at school. Social media: “put it down and put it away”. Parents can create device free dinners, device fee car rides, etc. Help their teen take a break from the noise. Important for parents to model good behavior. Boundaries are for the parent as well as the teen.  To help teens deal with drama, parents need to listen with non-judgment. Once their teen shares their emotions about the drama, they often will find their own way in overcoming it. Don't try fixing it or pushing it aside.  Keep communication open with your teen so they know they can talk with you and share their day.  Respect yourself, respect others.  Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources  

Patty Hendrickson (La Crosse, WI) is a booked and busy, high-energy and highly interactive speaker sharing with both student leaders and professionals. Since 1992 she's spoken to more than a million people. With a Masters of Business Administration, she's an award-winning association leader; author; and Certified Speaking Professional – a prestigious designation earned by less than 1000 people in the world. Most importantly, she's a mom with two kids and an entrepreneur with a successful business. Her personal mantra is “Don't cheat the world out of your wonderful!” Key Takeaways Statistics indicate that 3 out of 5 Americans are dealing with loneliness. Lean in when talking to people because you never know if they are feeling lonely. By being there for them, you can make a big difference in their life. People want to feel safe, that they belong, and that they matter. We need to show up in our connections with people and let them know that they matter. As a parent, it's important that your eyes say that you love them, regardless of what else is going on. That's a connection. When your teen says they need some alone time, it shouldn't mean that they're going to their room to jump on social media. Are you proud of the person on your pillow? This is a good conversation with your teen as they go off to bed. They may share something about their day that they wouldn't otherwise share. It's important as a parent and in modeling for your teen, to take the time to get quiet each day to reflect. This opens you up to the possibility of manifesting what you do want to experience. Teens start to identify with what they love to do, and unfortunately, when people offer their opinion and their concern/fear about the teen's choice, it can leave the teen wanting to hide what they love. What they love never goes away, even if they choose a different path. Don't let them cheat the world out of their wonderful! Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources PattyHendrickson.com Patty@PattyHendrickson.com Instagram.com/Patty.Hendrickson Linkedin.com/in/pattyhendrickson

Brooke Romney is a writer, speaker and leader of an online community who helps moms of teens and tweens create meaningful, healthy and enjoyable relationships with their children through practical application, education and community. Her goal is for every family to feel confident and connected. The mother of four boys ages tween to adult, Brooke knows parenting perfection isn't real and takes an honest and hopeful approach with her audience. Her best-selling book “52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens” (Volumes 1 & 2) provides weekly tips to help parents and teens navigate the complexities of today's world. The follow-up, 52 Modern Manners for Kids, will feature tips for kids and tweens aged four to 12 and is set to release this August. Brooke and her family live in Utah. Key Takeaways Take Baby Steps: Handing your child a smartphone right off the bat (and at a young age) can cause a lot of issues. Start by sharing your phone. Talk about what apps they can and can't use. Look at your screen time reports and adjust. Start with a media that you can watch together like YouTube to teach them about parameters and how to manage inappropriate online behavior. Model Social Media and Phone Use For Your Children: Show your kids what you're doing on your phone, whether it's sending emails for work, arranging carpool or ordering groceries; parents can show the value of technology as well as the consequences. Talk safety and media literacy: Help your children understand how algorithms work. Teach them to be mindful of what they are encouraging in their feed and how that will affect their mental well-being. Help them understand how to spot misinformation and harmful rhetoric. Although your teen may be tech savvy, they do not have the emotional maturity of an adult. It's ok if they get in over their head with social media to have them take a break from it. It is not you verses your teen when it comes to their phone. You are working together to find solutions and help them use their phone as a tool to live their best life. As parents, it's important to create a working relationship to continue to talk with your teen about social media, what they're experiencing, and how you can help. Let your teen know that if they are feeling unsafe or out-of-control with social media, they can come to you for help without judgement or consequences. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens @brookeromneywrites

Dr. Edward Phillips, an Associate Professor at Harvard Medical School and Juna Grata, coauthors of a new book, FOOD, WE NEED TO TALK: The Science-Based, Humor-Laced Last Word on Eating, Diet and Making Peace with Your Body (on-sale July 11, 2023 from St. Martin's Press). They also host the popular podcast of the same name, Food, We Need To Talk. Juna Gjata graduated from Harvard in 2017, with degrees in cognitive neuroscience and a minor in music. She is a concert pianist and composer, and creator of the podcast. Key Takeaways Some signs to look for that may indicate an eating concern: skipping meals, being restrictive with food, saying no to food at party's and family gatherings, checking weight more than usual. Be aware of who they tune into on social media and if pictures represent body image concerns. Eating disorders are a formal mental health diagnosis affecting 20% of the population.     Your kids will believe what they hear from you. What you are sharing about healthy body image and the way you feel as an adult about your own body, image is very important in modeling a healthy outlook for your kids. If there's an issue, it's better to deal with it than let your teen suffer in silence. Be careful what you say to or in front of your teen about weight loss, weight gain, working out, etc. especially if you are talking about them. You may think you're being helpful to point things out, but chances are they are going to want to do the opposite of what you're advising. They already know they're a concern. It's best not to talk with your teen about any concerns you have about your own weight, body image, calorie counting, or food choices. When you recognize that your teen needs help, seek it right away, don't wait. It's not a phase. Visit the National Eating Disorder Website to learn more. Sponsored by Lessons in Leadership online program Resources https://www.foodweneedtotalk.com/ https://www.instagram.com/foodweneedtotalk/ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/food-we-need-to-talk/id1490621476 https://open.spotify.com/show/23abFTJfrYQwMMBxfPlLr6

Jill Grimes, MD, is a board-certified family physician who specializes in college health. She is a nationally recognized medical media expert & author of award-winning book, “The ULTIMATE College Student Health Handbook: Your Guide for Everything from Hangovers to Homesickness”. Teen & college age partying is NOT what parents remember! Beer (with perhaps, worst case, beer bongs) have given way to successive vodka shots and intentional “blackout” drinking, and the mellow “Cheech N Chong” joint sharing version of “pot” is a far cry from today's high THC concentration “weed”. Dr. Grimes shares the inside scoop about the medical challenges and risks of today's party culture. Key Takeaways Passed out is not the same as blacked out. If you can shake them and wake them up, they are drunk and sleeping. If you cannot wake them, they are unconscious, get help immediately. When someone blacks out, they are unable to hold onto long-term memory. This is especially a concern if they have been physically intimate with someone. They may have been giving enthusiastic, verbal, ongoing consent while they were under the influence, however, they may not remember they gave that consent the next day. How does parental drinking influence your teens? Modeling responsible behavior in key in helping your teen recognize how to keep drinking under control. It's an on-going conversation with your teens, to be aware of opportunities to talk about what it looks like, and how people behave when they're under the influence.  Drunkcalc.com is an app that calculates your blood alcohol level and risks. 20-30% of college teens do not drink, however they become the person who takes care of their friend or roommate. It's just as important for them to know and recognize the signs of over-drinking so they can get help. 1 in 6 teens who try cannabis, get addicted. The high levels of THC are dangerous and can send your teen into a state of paranoia, losing touch with the real world. Edibles are innocent looking, however packed with high doses of THC. It can take 60-90 minutes for the full potency of THC to kick-in, which leads to the possibility of taking more because at first, they don't feel the effects. It's important for parents to be educated on these substances, so they can talk with their teens about the impact it has on their brain function, their body, and the risk of addiction. If your teen is on ADHD medication, they will not feel the first effects of drinking and may over-drink, and then feel the full impact come on all at once. Sponsored by EdGerety.com Resources Website: https://jillgrimesmd.com TikTok: TikTok.CollegeDoc Instagram: JillGrimesMD The ULTIMATE College Student Health Handbook: Your Guide for Everything from Hangovers to Homesickness

Drawing on her Irish-Celtic heritage, Julianne Stanz helps us explore the Celtic idea of the “thin places” and how to help children create spaces for grace in their lives. While thin places have always been associated with specific ancient locations, it is clear that we have entered a thin space today, time of spiritual displacement. This spiritual displacement finds its voice in communal expressions of pain such as protesting and social media trends, and in rioting and civil unrest.  If we can navigate this well, we can emerge stronger, more connected to one another, more empathetic, peaceful and hopeful—and as a result, we will be able to solve problems differently by working together. One way of navigating this thin space effectively, both within ourselves and as a society, is by drawing from the wellspring of ancient spiritual traditions, especially those from the world of the Celtic spirituality. How do we help our children to navigate their own thin times of transformation, growth and wonder?  Tapping into the thin places in your life where there is space to listen to the messages that our beyond our everyday existence.  To meet those thin places in your life, one must slow down, step away from the distractions, and listen.  We are often disconnected from our spirit and teaching teens to get quiet and shut out the noise, is key to helping them find their own inner voice.  Help your teen recognize the things that pull them away and keep them from being centered.   Some strategies to get quiet and connect to your greater self is prayer, mediation, walk in nature, listen to what you're hearing without allowing your mind think for you. Teens can be tuned into everything, and nothing because it's so shallow.  Pain that is not transformed will be transferred. As a parent, what are you transferring that was negative for you and how can you heal yourself? Research shows that this generation of teens is more interested in having a conversation about spirituality. They want to be more connected to a greater connection. Junk drawer: a place where you stuff away the pain. How can you help your teen open their drawer, find a deeper connection to their spiritually to work though their junk drawer? Who is your teens soul-friend? That mirror that helps guide them to their higher self by walking with them through their difficult times, and happy moments.    It's important for parents to share their stories of family so teens can understand who came before them and become inspired by how their family moved forward.       You were made for more! Sponsored by Lessons in Leadership Resources https://www.juliannestanz.com/

Humorist and motivational Comedian Kevin Wanzer is from Indianapolis, Indiana, where he began his speaking career in 10th grade. As a teenager, he addressed the United Nations and was appointed to the White House Conference for a Drug Free America. To this day, Kevin is still one of the youngest presidential appointees in American history. Kevin also served on the staff of The David Letterman Show. Kevin uses humor to focus on the importance of leading through kindness and looking out for those who may be left behind or forgotten. Matthew Vire wrote the first draft of I Love You When in 2019 to assure his soon-to-be-adopted son, Christian, that he is always loved, no matter what. Matthew holds a Master degrees in theatre, psychology and has recently earned a Masters in Business Administration. Together, Kevin and Matthew married nearly 9 years ago and have two children with special needs and two perfect terriers. Special needs include a broad spectrum of neurological differences. Raise the child that you have not the child you thought you'd have. It can be challenging when you reach for support from your peers, friends, and family if they have not raised a child with neurological differences. Their experience is different than yours. It's important to adapt and modify strategies to find what works best when disciplining your teen with special needs. As parents of special needs teens be careful not to let the judgement of others affect you emotionally. Until they've walked in your shoes, they don't know your experience. It's possible that your relationship with friends and family may change if they are not patient and understanding of what your challenges are. Patience, empathy, and understanding are the foundation for parenting. Seeking professional support can make a big difference. Network with parents who have a child/teen with the same or similar neurological differences as your teen. Sponsored by Stand Up For Your Greatness Resources https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubpdfs/child-trauma.pdf https://www.specialolympics.org/ https://www.buddyprogram.org/ https://www.kevinwanzer.com/

Dr. Armstrong explains what makes the adolescent so amazingly powerful and talks about how we can tap its wonders in the middle school and high school level with simple interventions such as bringing emotion into learning, providing students with physical movement as they learn, incorporating real life experiences like internships and apprenticeships, and helping students understand how their brains work. Thomas Armstrong, Ph.D. is the author of 20 books including his latest, a novel called Childless. His other books include The Power of the Adolescent Brain, Neurodiversity in the Classroom, 7 Kinds of Smart, Multiple Intelligences in the Classroom, and The Human Odyssey. There are over 100 foreign editions of Dr. Armstrong's books in 30 languages. Dr. Armstrong has given over 1000 keynotes, workshop presentations, and lectures on six continents in 29 countries, and 44 states in the past thirty years. His clients have included Sesame Street, the Bureau of Indian Affairs, the European Council of International Schools, the Republic of Singapore, and several state departments of education. He has written articles for Family Circle and Ladies Home Journal, as well as a column for Parenting Magazine. Key Takeaways “What were they thinking?” A lot of things are going on in the teenage brain that were not going on 2-3-4 years ago. It's amazing that teenagers are as reasonable as they are given the neurological changes and growth happening within the teenage brain. The teenage brain can often seem that they have their foot on the gas pedal, but the brakes haven't been installed yet. They have an insatiable need for new experiences. The teenage brain fully develops around the age of 22-23. Giving teens the chance to make choices and take responsibility is important for their mental growth. Help your teen to self-regulate their emotions. Help them understand what the triggers are and then help them develop their own strategies on what they can do about it. Teens are looking for leadership, people who can help them learn things. Be sure that they are learning from people who have their best interest in mind. Help them find mentors in their area of interest so they can have hands on experience. The teenage brain is seeking reward. Social media plays a huge role in that need. Parents can tab into rewarding their teen in ways that satisfy that need without giving way to social media. We are born as geniuses with the joy and passion to learn. Over time, that can be diminished. As parents we can stop suppressing the things that they love to do. Let them have the experiences that help them decide what they want to move towards. Sponsored by Lessons In Leadership https://varsityleadership.com Resources Website: https://www.institute4learning.com Email: thomas@institute4learning.com Twitter: @Dr_Armstrong Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drthomasarmstrong LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drthomasarmstrong YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/DrThomasArmstrong Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/86936.Thomas_Armstrong

My guest today is Steve Beals, Principal of Alvirne High School in Hudson, NH. Steve is in his 24th year as a principal and 35th year in education. In this episode, we talk about how to help your teen navigate the waters of school and the importance of partnering with their principal. Key Takeaways There are more challenges today for students than ever before. There's no question that social media and technology plays a key role in that. Many students are still facing learning issues post pandemic and their social emotional needs have changed. Academics is still playing catch up to what was missed in the previous years. Schools have transitioned from the main focus of learning needs to helping students academically, along with society and social needs. Parents can feel overwhelmed by all the issues facing their teens today, stay ever present in your kids lives, even when they're pushing you away. Attend their events, be as much a part of their activities and community as you can be. Teens need parents to be supportive of them. It's perfectly normal for teens to push boundaries and make mistakes, and partnering with their school principal can help them feel supported and understood. When a parent is called to meet with their teen's principal regarding a disciplinary concern, they need to deprogram any experiences they had as a teen. Introduce yourself to your teen's principal and administration at the first of the year to begin building a relationship with them so if there are concerns, you have a connection to work together to support your teen. Teens are resilient! Sponsored by Gerety Presentations: https://edgerety.com/education/ Resources sau81.org

Sheryl Ziegler, Psy.D. is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and a Play Therapist in private practice. She is the author of Mommy Burnout: How to Reclaim Your Life and Raise Healthier Children in the Process. In this important episode, we talk about what keeps parents up at night when it comes to feeling over-whelmed and burned out while raising teens. Key Takeaways New research indicates that the biggest concern parents have today is about their teen's mental health. The adolescent brain is wired to seek out reward by engaging in high-risk behavior. Parents still have the most influence over their teens. Even though your teen may suggest differently, they are listening to you. Your voice is in their head. Parents need to talk with their teens about their family values. What's ok and what's not Parents can learn to collaborate with other parents who are trusted confidants to talk about the issues at hand. Smart phones and online engagement is one of the biggest contributors to teen mental health concerns. Their brain can be inundated with stressful information about worldwide issues that they are not equipped to process. Social media is an addiction. When your teen is ready to talk, it's important for you to be there for them. Puberty is happening at an earlier age for most kids and they are experiencing body changes at a time when their brain is not ready to understand the changes. Sponsored by Lessons in Leadership Resources DrSherylZiegler.com StartwiththeTalk.com Sheryl's Book: Mommy Burnout: How to Reclaim Your Like and Raise Healthier Children in the Process