From the Nth POWER

You know what good head is, but your real head gets in the way of the orgasmic bliss of a good life all the time. What's waiting for you beyond your daily thinking which is distorted by over-thinking anxiety is the life of freedom and contentment you crave. How can you even begin to get past the harm done to you that you're still stewing over? You get clear and you get calm and you try the path of the WAY. The way is in your body because your body is the ONLY route to connection. Your thinking will give you unsatisfactory head again and again - and you'll stay for that til the better end when you'd leave a poor lover long ago. Healing is waiting...why ain't you moving instead of thinking more?

I know, you have a lot of rights you feel like people are going to take away from you. You spend a lot of time asserting those rights in defense of the fear others hold over you. However, have you recently stopped to consider what you DO have the right to do but should stop because it doesn't actually create any more space for your rights - while it also pisses people off? Think about it a new set of anti-rights that might actually liberate you FULLY. 

If you don't have a vision, it's hard to establish a goal. This is so simply because without imagination, your end result has no spark...no capacity to magnify the world or people. Your brand is YOU - who you are, how you speak, what you want, and how you'll get where you're going. It's the concept - the why - behind being alive. And it needs to get into the world and shake things up! If you're unclear about your vision, or you have a vision but don't understand how to get to your brand from there, then watch my latest podcast where I'm joined by Brand Strategist & Mindset Coach Lisa Guillot (Find Your Clear Vision podcast). Lisa's concept of a C.L.E.A.R. vision will spark your imagination and help you get to the next step in creating the greatest concept of your lifetime - YOU!

You could be missing out on great vocational purpose and fulfilling work because you think of work as a four-letter word. The conundrum with this is that you'll spend way too many hours trying to GET something out of work while giving NOTHING to it. In other words, the days are flat...the mission useless...the people not measuring up. All of this would be resolved if you could change your perception of work and transform it into something you really give a s**t about. Ahriana Platten (https://www.youtube.com/@asoulfullworld) has a great perspective on how to be a Wise Woman (wisewomanguide.com) at work, even if your energy is masculine. Having the experience of being a businesswoman AND coach, Ahriana sees what's needed to change the energy of do, work hard, be smart and be productive for the growth of modern business with reverence and space for the feminine AND masculine. We agree it's not about hiring more women. Have a listen...

Learning to BE with life will help you balance your energy for proper and most maximum effect. If brokenness happens to you, if you feel darkness and despaire, your over-intellectual mind will lead you to over-thinking which augments your negative feelings. Most things are small experiences that you keep mulling over and fighting, which makes them larger and most painful. When you remind yourself that being broken up can be worked through, your surrender makes each experience less painful. The most painful experiences SHOULD change you by breaking you and creating pain. Then, the pain created innumerable heights of greatere self-acceptance. You must accept that life will break you open and dealing with it by stopping your feelings is a way of avoiding the problem and, subsequently, the solution. Not to mention, there are thousands of people in your lfie that you'd like to save and when you're broken open to truly do good for these people. When you change, you can change others. What can you do to make a difference by letting people know who you are. 

Hope is highly useful for keeping us going emotionally and mentally. Hoping for the Best is a great attitude. But hope, in and of itself, is nothing but a feeling going neither up or down nor into good or bad. When you add simple actions, the hope become a bona fide strong hold for living a truly succesful life from the inside out. We are only the energy we are creating and hope is a foundation that needs action steps to move us into the life we want. What you want cannot be thought after as much as it needs to be energetically manifested by living your life from reflection, vision and embodiment of love and desire. What you want is available, you just need to stay connected within and living your purpose. 

We all have darkness inside. That's never been the problem. The real problem is the mis-use and misunderstanding of darkness...of how and why it can be beneficial. Along with that, when you are trying to relate to your darkness, blank spots and lack of self-esteem, you'll find people who will validate you too well, thereby helping you stay stuck while saying they're helping you get out of it. Belonging is good for validation, but NOT when you can't seem to find a way toward the light.  It will become more and more important to learn how to intuitively grow and self-actualize over the next few years. The outside world has changed and you can no longer live externally first, it has to be from the inside out.  Chasing a mania of excitement and validation will only serve to help you fall more deeply into the loneliness of despair. But there is a place inside you and out of the quicksan you've been drowing in. It's your true depth - where sanity exsits and love can take you back to your Highest Self which is powerful and purposeful.

When you're older and you cannot remember your own innocence, you'll suffer more from your unhappiness.  If you've learned to be unforgiving and believe the world is out to get you, instead of accepting what's happening and being flexible to job, life and love changes, you falter around finding new ways to emerge from the types of crises that affect ALL of us at one time or another.  Life is not a never-ending lovefest with peace. It's more often a struggle between what you've come to believe that can be limiting and what your intuition or highest self wants you to believe... That everything can be resolved and overcome with love.  If your career is stagnant and you're not getting what you need from your profession, if you don't make changes you'll feel consumed with hate and blame. If your relationships are unfulfilling and you find yourself thinking obsessive, ugly thoughts of guilt and resentment, if you don't make chagnes, you'll feel consumed with a feeling of codependence that strips your sense of wild independence. Your life is designed for movement and change. If you can't live in the present it's because you can't settle with a past that stripped your innocence. But that innocence CAN return if you remember the gift...that being vulnerable to your fear contains the strength you seek. And when you're strong enough to overcome even the slightest harm, you're on your way to greatness in your career - and everywhere in your life.  You CAN kickstart a new job, career or business if you can be in your innocence once again.

When confronted with how to change, most people become overwhelmed before they even begin. Such questions as: How do I change? Where do I start? and What should I do? - being vague in nature - become the starting place for a quick ending. When you can't define a path or see things as manageable most people quickly give up. This is a truth around anything from changing careers, growing a business, working on a relationship or even just wanting to improve a personal habit. If you talk to Cody Smith, however, he will tell you that change happens incrementally. Although it's good to dream and to surround yourself with people who are where you want to be, you also must realize that many of them got to where they are with perseverance and time. HOWEVER, if you truly want to be where they are, and can envision yourself there, you don't need to worry about how or how long, you simply need to take small steps. Because one small step leads to another step which ultimately leads to traction, change, and the place you really want to go. What's stopping you from that new job, more purposeful business, better relationship or better you? Pretty much you and the ego-driven sense of failure in thinking you have to have arrived before you even begin. Cody's Habit Tracking system can help you change that, and to start a real path to change, progress or success one step at a time.

You think you know what love is? Of course you do because it's what it is to you - what it feels like, looks like, sounds like, smells like. But what IS it REALLY?  Is it a feeling? Is it an experience? Is it simply everything all at once...the convergence of energies that will alter your existence, even if only for a brief moment in time? If you ask me, love is the highest vibrational force in the universe. It can explode, implore, impart, include and revere anything. It is the greatest gift you never asked for and the most painful thing to experience when you believe you've lost it.  But ask Scotte Burns, and he says it's not a feeling at all. It's more about connection and ways to bridge a gap between another person and what's happening inside of you. For love, according to Scotte, is all about the embodiment of a power in you and the way someone else brings up the gift of that power inside.  In the end, love is only and ever inside of you, waiting to flow into the next experience you have. It really doesn't matter if the experience "feels" good or bad. Love is the energetic essence of your being and when you deny it's there, or believe it's only a fleeting feeling, you may be missing out on the greatest loves of your life.   

If you're like me you might have learned that kharma is about some big-bad God waiting to get back on you for everything from a minor fault to an egregioius mistake. Realistically, universally and simply, kharma, according to Dr. Lynn Anderson, is about cause and effect. And EVERYTHING you do is the cause of something else. Now, you don't need to worry about that person you offended so much as you should be a bit concerned with how these "effects" have and will turn into consequences to/for you. BTW, none of this is about moral judgment. It's about how you feel. So for those of you who love to immerse yourself in how you feel, let me say this... How YOU feel should matter to no one but you. Because as you traipse through this world thinking, doing and being, everything within you that is energy is pulling and pushing you toward lightness and love or darkness and despair. It's you who gets to decide the cause and effect of all your thoughts and actions - based on how you feel. That's what feelings are...indicators for self-knowledge and, if you're healthy of mind and body, indicators of self-actualizing actions. Some that if you don't take, will lead you down a road of effects you don't like.  But don't listen to me, hear my conversation with Dr. Lynn Anderson here.  

Your work life is never far away from who you are. Many people want to bring more of themselves to their work but don't understand why they don't feel fulfilled. It's probably because fulfillment is not something that you get just by showing up and getting a paycheck. You have to be invested in a vocation, a calling, with who you really are. Some think that the overall change we seek in business by bringing a deeper self is to talk about feelings, or hire more women. This is one way to balance a historical lack of duality, but it doesn't make enough of an impact to change business. WHY? Because business lacks real masculine and feminine the best ways, those ways that produce, that birth great ideas and that create synergies of the utmost greatness. Unfulfilling work is the earmark of the post-Covid workplace and era. Sitting in your house should have shown you, more than ever, how unhappy you are lacking purpose at work. Your eyes have now been opened. Your heart has been warned that you cannot turn back now that you have this knowledge. Any attempt to ignore the obvious lack of purpose in our work will lead to misery and lack of health, pure and simple. Have you forgotten who you are? You ARE the light in the world because you are you. And if you are NOT fulfilling what you came here to do, well, you're simply missing out on that happiness and real intrinsic success that you know you want - and keep telling yourself is in the next paycheck or vacation. It's NOT...and you know it. So why not do something about that? I'll coach you find out what happened to that purpose-filled person who wanted to become and do more than what s/he is doing. Let me...nicoledevlin.com #businesslifecoach #lifeteacher #lifecoaching #fromthenthpower #realsuccess #thetruthaboutsuccess #power #changeyourself #opportunity #businesswoman #entrepreneuriallife #buildingbetterbusinesses #fromthenthpower #spiritualdevelopment #freedomfromfear #experience #creatingsuccess

Getting your entire life into LOVE mode takes the kind of work that's about practice. And that practice can last a lifetime. Because even though we were born to love, we have had TOO much practice learning to fear. Yet, as Nina Presman reminds us, fear, although distinct, dark and seemingly overpowering, will ALWAYS vibrate lower than love. How does one start the shift in the direction of love? How do you begin to understand your individual fear- and harm-based scripts and patterns that will thwart the journey to love? Well, as Nina puts it, you have to understand and modify your own programming. Sometimes that programming can be translated, sometimes it has to be slayed. Either way, it begins with becoming just enlightened enough to be aware of it and just diligent enough to do a little something loving and energetically cathartic every day. If you want to find out more about shifting from fear to love and how it will change your life, listen to this week's podcast episode and interview with Nina Presman, Energy Healer and unlimited being of transformative and healing work. Nina can be reached at 561-654-0177 and energyworkunlimited@gmail.com.

If you've ever enjoyed a good magic show as a child, you know how fun, mysterious and enlightening it can be. As adults, we've been looking at our lives as way too pragmatic, not enviable and definitely like a computer program that we haven't exactly gotten to run quite right. In other words, we're in a loop...a loop of boredom, mediocrity, lack of questioning, and FEAR. So the big question is WHAT HAPPENED TO THE MAGIC? Magic is like the elements, there but unpredictable and unknown. And most of you are scared to death of the unknown. You'll change your whole life to avoid the unknown. You'll stay stuck to avoid the unknown. You'll need to come to BELIEVE in magic once again to FEEL the life within you that can counteract the boredom, stuckness and darkness. This week's podcast is about just that...my interview with Alane Hathaway, professional Tarot Card Reader, Energy Healer, and Spiritual Advisor. Alane has intellectually thought-provoking and fascinating ideas that demand looking at if you are a seeker, or even just interested in opening up stuck spots and trashing limiting beliefs.  The more prominent and divinely-inspired things we talk about are: 1-The difference between religion & spirituality 2-How to use spirit guide communication and a healing practice to grow and recover from trauma l 3-Ways to channel the divine into your thoughts, body and overall life. Have a listen to our conversation.

Many people feel they need more guidance than ever...but the people, places and systems they used to be guided by in the past (media, government, work, authority, etc) haven't been working quite as well. Even the weatherman (or is it weatherperson?) seems to be wrong more than ever. WTH do we do NOW? We do what we should have been doing in the first place - relying on our own intrinsic power, our Good Powerful System (GPS). This guidance system is in ALL of us, whether we answer to it or not. Deb Kelly has been teaching kids about their Good Powerful System for years. Deb believes it's important to teach children about thoughts and feelings, since they are the receivers to direct us in how to respond to life using our GPS. In other words, our natural intelligence is always consciously directing us through our thoughts and feelings. Deb believes (and so do I) that it is important to teach our children how to use their GPS to take conscious actions and live good lives. This isn't just for young people though. Many adults never learned about their GPS when they were young and now lack power, which is responsible for much suffering and disconnection from others. This is true simply because disconnection from others stems from disconnection from self. The remedy? Start building your GPS - a good powerful system - within you that grows power and can withstand ANYTHING the world can throw at you with strength and peace. 

Everyone wants to win or - at the very least - not feel like a loser. Despite all types of money and successes, deep inside a lot of people is the "not enough/loser" feeling. If you have that, "losing" will continue to follow you despite anything you acquire. Since everything you acquire is on loan, choosing to chase "stuff" prevents you from working out the kinks in your foundation that prevent real and lasting success. You were born to win. Let me say that again... YOU WERE BORN TO WIN. If you think that's not true for any reason - gender, ethnicity, orientation, identity - you are mistaken. There is a divine streak in all of us that knows the greatest heights and the most magnificent pathways. That energy wants you to express yourself exactly as you please and exactly as you are. This week's podcast, I spoke with Kat Sterling, Coach and Author who has led people into winning mindsets and strategies - and has written a book about it. We talk about how to be who you are and where you're at. We talk about our own struggles and the beneficial self-discoveries in those struggles.  Have a listen, but only if you want to WIN with a POWER that creates the growth, change and success you've wanted your whole life.   

When you're angry,  have you ever tried Counting to 10...before you do or say anything? Or, when learning a new sport or a musical instrument, using some form of counting brings your mind to the task - and to the present moment. And, it's always the present moment where things happen and love & learning occur. When your mind is focused on one task, all sorts of solutions appear. A gateway to greater and more powerful consciousness opens and you are present and in your physical body. From the most present, physical place, your emotions can be addressed and learned to be tolerated. This is because most (maybe all) emotions are learned and conditioned scripts and things developed and nurtured from the past. When you are present, you start to learn that you are NOT feeling things based on what others are doing or saying, or what's happening outside, but what's happening inside. This inside experience is a calling of the highest self, as creative consciousness is asking you to address your own emotional well-being to the exclusion of the outside experience. Right now, the world is validating that your feelings are caused by what's happening outside and it's justifying how you feel based on external events. THIS IS POWERLESSNESS at the level of the victim - and it is DEADLY to your emotional well-being. Pain is a signal or indication that you need to step up and SEE your power. When you deny this pain through avoidance, blaming, medicating or changing things to "get away" from the "source" of your pain (the external or the other, not yourself) you are avoiding growing toward the peace you say you want. What do you really NOW about this peace if you've never even experienced it. Who do you wanna be? Do you want to live in the fullness of your feelings, heart, mind and spirit? You'll probably need to become more autonomous. And then you'll probably feel MORE FEELINGS, not less. This is where trudging the road and seeking help and support comes in. Your unhappy life, living to avoid or living for others is limiting your space your growth and your confidence. Seeing this takes time and help. Get it. Use it. 

If you've ever sought to change another, you know it's not as simple as having ONE conversation and expecting them to change. Progress and the process take a lot of time. Nature is of the highest order in the decision to change even one thing about yourself. In particular, when it comes to another person, self-acceptance will allow you to understand that their transformation need not be part of your struggle. If you want to change another person and think a conversation or scripted formula will do the trick, it won't...unless that person wants to change.  And changing ain't easy for anyone, no matter what the wish or motives.  Changing requires diligent effort and open communication. It's about recognizing negative habits, creating consequences for re-evaluation and re-training one's thinking through acknowlegement and ongoing effort. We train dogs by ringing bells, giving treats and petting. Humans need similar efforts of acknowlegement, yet we don't change from the simple desire for a treat.  Our habits and conditioning are like sticky gum. Once it gets into the tread under the soles of your feet, it takes A LOT to get it out/off. Once you're out of childhood and your personality has been molded, change doesn't come easy--most of the time desire comes from pain or suffering. Even if pain and suffering are there, getting all that gum out will take time.  Give time time and BE loving to yourself and others. 

Are you sitting comfortably surrounded by people who talk and think like you do? Do you see/spend time only with people who agree with, or relate to,  everything you say? Have you also taken it upon yourself to find media which keeps you stuck in this bubble? When was the last time you let your mind wander to the space where people are "on the other side", thinking very unlike you? There are lots of places where you can find people who don't see things the way you do and it can get really uncomfortable quickly. Yet, with all your passion, are you not willing to be uneasy for the sake of your conviction? Better yet, can you stay your convictions on the sidelines while you listen and even interact with people with questions instead of disagreement? Are you the person who shuts down arguments that people have when you don't want to hear it? Let's face it, if you keep talking, you might win through manipulation, shaming, name-calling, or even annihilating someone's point of view. Maybe it's time to stop telling and start listening to what's happening below the level of the conversation. If you want to be seen and heard, yet you won't afford tolerance and understanding to others, what kind of message are you sending? When you live the way you want, you give permission to others to lean into who they are. You don't need to be at the edge of the minefield - for the mind can't handle the fear and insanity there. Staying unattached and free to allow the mind to wander away from the minefield and toward problem-solving (and LOVE) is what/where we want to grow toward. Think about that the next time you want to engage with those people who "don't get it" (while you do?)

Your mind is capable of higher thinking - MUCH higher than you can imagine. But your thoughts have to get out of the way. Sounds like opposite ideas, but your mind isn't just about your thinking, especially when it's detached from your heart or soul. This is the story of me obsessing about not remembering the combination of a lock on my bicycle. This obsession lasted a solid three days. I had to let it go before I could take it to the bicycle store. And guess what happened? I remembered, late one night, out of the blue, that the combinaton of my lock here is not the one I was thinking. My mind surrounded itself around these numbers and my mind became a block. I set about any way to use my brain to figure out how to figure it out. And I just kept hitting walls. The lock analogy you may find simple and funny, but do you realize that your brain can work the same way vis-à-vis your emotional problems. Thinnk about it, don't you obsess on what's wrong with you? Don't you have a hard time mentally trying to overcome emotional problems? Don't you re-live a bothersome situatoin again and again, talking about it and justifying your feelings, in order to be right? And, after all that, isn't progress minimal? Where are your answers...REALLY? Not entirely in your brain. And if you think it is, creative and emotionally healthy solutions will elude you as your brain attaches itself to justification and resentment. Your mind really IS a bridge... is the ultimate bridge or tool between the depth of you and your thinking. Your mind, when connected like a bridge is a higher self, higher mind and the depth of being that is ME. Get the brain out of the way to create greater connection through awareness and toward growth.

Reality is not necessarily REAL. How do you define reality? How do you know that you know reality? I'm pretty sure that reality is not one's opinions...because opinions come from intellect- and are often ego-based. Convincing other people of the need to see and believe what YOU believe is not reality, it's your conviction and drive to have others see you, i.e., your perception. Your reality is very much emotion-based, which means it's not always going to be completely in line with others who have different feelings. BTW, those other people are not wrong for having different feelings. The problem with the power of human emotions is that if your reality starts to differ from your peers, you might feel alienated and lonely, which no one wants. Then, the fear of ostracization will probably provoke you to join the opinions of the predominant group. No questions asked is the way to stay safe, yet the questions to be answered will remain there waiting for you to look at them. Your soul needs you to become a human being of the utmost self-expression of love. No one can determine your reality, it must come from within and be validated by making up your own mind. 

You pass on SO much inforation that you don't question. As a matter of fact, you have layers upon layers of beliefs that are cemented and are making/keeping your soul sick. Then, because of prolonged sickness, your perceptions are continuing to be limited. Your realit(ies) were gathered before you learned to question - you just BELIEVED. You validated and sought out continued confirmation - through the unconscious nature of your eyesight. You CANNOT poke holes in people's belief systems without trust so you can stop fighting with people to get them to SEE. No knowledge is irrefutable...TRUTH is. You cannot take away people's beliefs but you can share your own power by bringing people into healty, open conversations where they can be right and wrong, not simply parroting what others are saying. "Your" truth has holes because as soon as you say it's yours, it has bias. You never have to give anything up when you're open and loving. You practice love with your choice. Choice can be right or wrong, but it must be conscious. No one has to accept another's experience as proof because you think they "know more" as a person of an identity group. They can be "wrong" because they're biased too. Liberation comes from an energy that allows connection. By growing ourselves, we infuse our inner energy with more emotional intelligence and spirituality. 

Our lives are full of a lot of emotion these days. The way you feel can be validated by finding like people and communities who provide security, belonging or comfort. This is GOOD. Yet, these spaces of comfort can provide limited thinking and can enhance narrow minds, becoming a bubble because their purpose is to inflate a "safety zone." What happens when that bubble becomes destructive and you start to feel "apart from"? In other words, that bubble BURSTS. You may feel alone. HOW do you then figure out who you are or how to feel? If you're open, you can start to change your mind by finding a new space and new awareness of yourself. Awareness and action TOGETHER can help you express yourself in new ways. Maybe, then, you'll find new parts of yourself that you didn't know were there because you never questioned how you see things. Instead, you've always accepted others' opinions as your own. A new perspective and experience will be created by questioning your decisions and experience. Question reality...it may not be real. Power comes from thinking for yourself after the bubble bursts. Making up your own mind is real freedom - the kind that CANNOT be taken away. 

Awareness, awareness, awareness. It's key and it's also not about you being aware of me, but me being aware of myself. What is it that awareness is supposed to do? Do we need more awareness when, in fact, there is more awareness than ever and things don't seem to be going away? It seems to me that the "awareness-building" media are creating more openings for more pleas for more awareness. But once I'm aware, what do I DO? Where does my awareness take me? Am I now qualified - because I understand more or am talking about it more - to help more people get more healthy? Does my awareness of something in the world help it become eradicated? Truth be told, is it possible that the problems that are plaguing us are not really being addressed? Is it likely that the problem is that these problems are multi-faceted...and EVEN SPIRITUAL in their essence?  The patterns in your thinking are conditioned by your experiences and the responses in your community to those experiences. Can it be that the solutions you were offered never really dived deep enough into what was happening in your thinking and emotions? Was what you learned missing something spiritual? I'd like to propose that we need to increase spiritual health awareness instead of mental or emotional health awareness. What would happen in your life if you decided to seek a higher power instead of seeking another doctor or another pill? Solutions to human mental deficiencies and scary emotions can sometimes only be alleviated by something far greater and more deep than your own human understanding (or physiological solutions). If you decide never to explore this because of your pride and prejudice against God, you are missing out on a valuable and ongoing cathartic healing. It's more often about what's going on in your soul, not your head. The world is NOT responsible for how you feel, you are. Without a personal and autonomous purpose, feeling lost is automatic. Give time time. Open your mind. Start questioning the stupid shit that you think makes sense...

Your fulfillment of deep spiritual human needs can be compared to eating. We eat in gluttony and don't think about whether or not we're getting what we need. We "fill up" our well, but with things that leave us empty; we're not satisfied to our fullest human digestive state. When you eat empty calories, they fill up your stomach and you'll be satisfied momentarily, but it will trigger an addictive cycle of wanting more. Material fulfillment is like that - it's empty and fundamentally dissatisfying. Nothing is stored for later and nothing is balanced. You don't have enough of macronutrients, the pieces of nutrition that create full satiety. When you're not fulfilling your need for deep spiritual connection, you're forever hungry and you're living a half-life that is stressful and disconnected. Smooth, connected satiation is something you only dream about, staying hungry for another car, relationship or money that will scratch that itch. This is the root of fear and unhappiness where you can no longer give yourself the satisfaction of your desires. It is a chronic escapism of what IS. 

Why are you struggling so much? Your barrel/well that you keep trying to fill up with "stuff" has a hole in the bottom and you keep scraping for more of what you can't reach. The container that is YOU needs a balm for the loneliness that's been fueled by low self-esteem. Low self-esteem resides in your thinking and is waiting to tell you that you'll never fill the barrel and that you're still not enough. The stuff you've been taught to fill the barrel with is the vapid-who-you-think-you-are that rules your life...your job, where you live, who you're married to, what your kids look like. These "feathers" can never completely fill a barrel. The more you focus on them, the easier they float to the bottom. A foundation of true self-respect and self-esteem is the only way to fill the hole AND the well. The full well is who you're meant to be. That fullness ABSOLUTELY NEEDS CONNECTION! Don't let negativity and scarcity become darkness and feed your demons. Your life should be steeped in deeper consciousness, larger purpose and vision which will determine how you truly feel within your highest self. From there you'll see face to face what you fear and you'll surrender to a release that will bring the peace you crave. 

Sometimes I feel disappointed in what I see as weakness, and I'm not talking about expressing feelings, nor about strength. Sensitivity is human and far from weak. What makes me weak is what I do with what's happening with me and how I feel. When you don't address feelings by taking responsibility and owning what's happening to YOU from within YOU - you lack courage. No one is "making" you feel anything and believing so by assigning blame to others is a form of weakness. If your feelings cause another feeling of weakness, that may be because you haven't been present to these feelings before. Vulnerability is beautiful but when you start talking about having boundaries or working on self-care, you're probably assigning meaning to another and not REALLY being vulnerable. Just because you express your feelings you don't necessarily have a consciousness that is power because you're still waiting for responsibility to come from someone else. You'll never pinpoint how you can grow and become powerful when you're complacent and waiting for others to act. Courage is stepping up and not playing the game. "The Game" is you being obese with self - in your opinions, arrogance and the vapid nature of your weakness. Once you're weak and then you wait on the world to change, you're on your way to a slow death of unhealthy finger-pointing and attachments. You think you know what should happen and you're not acting on what you believe is right. Don't be an entitled idiot...aspire, be motivated, indulge in integrity, seek the highest love. The highest love is your spiritual nature. Stand in that nature and BE. 

Limiting beliefs and excuses put up roadblocks to your dreams. And our society reinforces these falsehoods all the time. Just look around at those living their dreams. They refuse to believe what people would say to keep them down or limited. People's masks are telling you that you can succeed, while showing you all the things you should be warned about the potholes that will stumble and harm you. The message is "keep yourself safe", "don't risk", "take it easy". AND if you think outside the box, you might be identified by people - even those closest to you that you've known all your life - may start to think you're crazy. But ARE you crazy, or have you been freed from pervasive social fears that have been ruling your life and keeping you stuck? Your main focus in life should be to cut ties to your limiting ideas. Once you are freed from this thinking, your path becomes a new game to play. Get excited about your life, about what you want to achieve. STOP listening to people who are afraid of you being "all that" Who DO you think you are? The answer should be Greatness...because that's who we ALL are. Your failure is seeds for success, as a freed and humble servant of life. 

How do you find answers? Do you automatically, when struggling or seeking, go within and negatively over-examine or do you quickly seek answers from others before any self-introspection? There are many self-help modalities built on dialogue, commonly known as shooting the shit. Education, also, is a form of trading ideas. No matter what the modality, these types of conversational self-help are a great catharsis because, of ourselves, we cannot fully find our own answers. When you have a problem, if you go to therapy or get coaching, for example, you're affording someone else the intention to get to know you and help you find YOUR OWN answers. The opportunity there, for me as a coach, is to get people to see themselves more clearly and honestly to open windows within them. However, if you - or any client - is not being honest, you cannot expect to find answers. The coach's job, in a therapy of words, is to allow a client to grow in their self-awareness through language, finding words and having free-flow conversation. There is a lightness, being, power and freedom for those who seek and talk with honesty and clarity. They find liberation through a sense of higher consciousness. This freedom affords a surrender that has more answers than one can find from self or any other PERSON. When you find the capacity for presence, you realize you know more than you thought you did. Your feelings now have clarity, meaning and purpose. You are alive. You are changing. THEN go change the world.

When situations present themselves and you don't like what you see, you probably want the easy way out - which is usually just to listen to others and follow along with the predominant messaging or what "they" tell you to do.. Yet, what will that net you in finding truth? What will you sacrifice in terms of your own confidence when you can't make up your own mind? When a larger group pushes an agenda, and you are in conflict, you'd be wise to go to the people you know whom you can ask "What do you think I should do?" and their response is "What do YOU think you should do?" The building blocks of self-esteem are created from ignoring those who want to tell you what to do. It will be HARD to find peace and clarity in the midst of people who yell and scream for fear that a person making up their own mind is dangerous. In this podcast, I look at Covid vaccination and social justice as two subjects around which I had deeper questions outside the "normal" scope of simple acceptance of what I was being told about how to think. The larger dialogues aren't always the best or most forward-thinking dialogues, I've found. But those questions I ask myself find me the right place to be truthful and helpful - even transformational - as I seek to change my world one conversation and one day at a time. These important conversations need the creation of unlimited potential for power and change. 

Catharsis is the purging of emotions or the alleviation of emotional tensions. Metamorphosis is change of form or substance. Catharsis should lead to metamorphosis if the alleviation of emotions or the eradication of emotional tensions is followed up by action. That action should naturally lead to change within once your inner tension has been released. When you purge emotions, you are releasing hormones AND stuck energy. Catharis begins a spiritual process that MOVES energy for your improvement. You can change your own substance by catharsis followed by metamorphosis. Until I relieve myself of emotional tension, I can't see the path ahead. That path needs actions to define where you're going to go, and how you're going to do things differently. Metamorphosis will eventually come if you remain open.

What is true happiness to you? Is it an excited feeling or the presence of calm? When you're happy does it mean things are going your way and life is good? Or is there more to it...such as the idea that brokenness can bring on ever greater happiness? Real happiness - in a power sense - is the presence &  awareness of peace of mind. For some, the belief that happiness should be ever-present is what brings more dark/lack thinking. When happiness eludes you, do you think there's something intrinsically wrong with you? Well, let me tell you, you're wrong about that, LOL. Happiness "feels" most embedded within not when I'm excited, but when I'm calm. On the one hand, too much happiness can create imbalance and leave you with an emotional hangover. On the other hand, when negative thoughts pervade peace of mind, most people experience unhappiness, but this is not the whole picture of reality outside your pleasure-seeking mind. Peace is a powerful connection of physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Happiness can also be being broken over things that make you unhappy and tear apart your ego and intellectual headiness. We need more reliance from the sixth sense of our own fully integrated power. To conclude, power is also in the harsh realities that we've perpetrated on each other. Every time we break, we open up new evolutions of greater intrinsic power. New seeds are being planted for true dynamic power. I can't wait to see what will happen next for us. 

Are you a confused modern woman like me? What type of energy do you as a woman express in your life? Do you doubt your femininity because you don't fit a mold of the traditional woman - but you don't know how to define what feminine means to you? The ultimate goal of the feminine, in all of our lives and society, is to infuse its deeply intuitive resourcefulness into more places that are imbalanced - no matter who we are and how our feminine expresses itself. This does not mean to give more positions of leadership to women because leadership is about balancing energies. Without the equilibrium of true personal power, there will still be a lack of masculine/feminine ying/yang in too many aspects of our society. The society I've been a part of has missed out on using and creating more space for assertive and powerful feminine energy. What would feminine leadership or feminine partnership look like if my success depended on intuitively matching another's energy? The feminine is absolutely powerful enough to adapt itself without losing itself. Being successful means partnering with someone for that person's growth and peace of mind. Within each of us there ARE strong energies that match whatever role we're being asked to play for the benefit of ALL. The feminine is creation itself, we need to give it the power it deserves.

Manipulation takes many forms, but why would we be trying so hard to manipulate our reality to be mediocre, to not grow, to be stuck? There is a great force moving through the world to be yourself...express yourself...live how you wish. Personal expression is terrfic. What is challenging, though, is that people can't be the fullest expression of themselves if they don't know who they are. If you're seeking a goal but you don't know where you're going, it's easy to settle into mediocrity. And, mediocrity is not about not being OK where you are. I absolutely know it's true that when you can't accept being stuck, you must accept being stuck before you can grow or move ahead. Yet, settling in when you won't try to change is accepting a powerlessness that will keep you stuck. When things are hard and you overcome them you become stronger, you're not mediocre or as vulnerable. When you submit to the dark energy within you and stay in that mediocrity, you become ill. Don't get OK being mediocre when your spirit demands you grow to higher heights. You don't have to run marathons or become the next Einstein. You just want to keep doors open for your increased sense of being alive and to allow you to become more of the you you REALLY want to be. Mediocrity is another form of fear. 

We all know about "What You DON'T Know Won't Hurt You", which means don't ask or seek to find out what other people are saying about you that may not feel good, because the aggravation isn't necessary. Let people say what they want when you're not around; you don't want it to drain your power. Yet, there are little things that you believe and don't question (traditions, beliefs, conditioning) that are laying under the surface of your consciousness and driving your behavior and your life - and you don't know they're there. Not coming to consciousness and understanding how these things propel your beliefs, your opinions, your relationships and feelings is NOT knowing about what will hurt you. This is true because some of these limiting beliefs, biases and stereotypes are holding you back and putting you into resentment in ways that steal your power. It will prevent you from having success and healthy relationships. How do you change the vibe that is drawing these harmful subconscious/unknown ideas into your life? You seek consciousness and humility. You seek higher power and energy. You question your negative attitudes toward others. Power will bring you situations - sometimes painful ones - that create the opportunity to become conscious and free. Know your history and the ideas that have been passed onto you that will keep you stuck...even harm you and stall all spiritual growth. 

So many of us are looking more closely at our beliefs - especially around culture and race. While we're looking for "answers", personal experience is causing many to feel defensive in their lack of understanding of broader issues. Then there are those who are certain they know the answer - and that there is a larger problem that is "someone else's" (probably those people who don't get it, or are being defensive). This energy is particularly curious for me because I want to know the thoughts, opinions and predominant beliefs of all those around me. We ARE different. How much of us are creating the larger dialogue and present reality while claiming to want to dismantle it? The most outspoken can often be the most guilty. Predominant ideas circle and return again each time society has changed as people continue to hold to stereotypes because of fear fed by messaging that sets us apart. Yes, we're different, but we're also all human and we won't be able to see that unless we increase our power by seeing ourselves in our experiences and allowing ourselves to tell the truth in intimate conversations. We cannot continue to fear "the other"; self-honesty must deconstruct our limiting beliefs and cease the payment of buying into false walls. Take what you like in finding the value in those who are not like you. Learn about others, make friends, open up, seek to understand and identify from the inside out. 

The ISMs that I'm talking about here are those of sexism and racism. What I'd like to talk about here is how those structures in the world that create imbalance and powerlessness, but also how I am seeking balance and power as I show up as a woman and a white person and am trying to grow my own sense of personal power. As a caveat of explanation, I feel a strong sense of responsiblity in growing my power to understand what this dialogue looks like in the world and in systems and how that may be aligned or different from how those ISMs show up in my personal experience and the experience of people I want to connect with and help grow. In the work world, I will not explain myself as a woman and I don't subscribe to the belief that men in business lord over me in any way. In fact, tapping into my feminine energy makes business better overall. Historically speaking, it's just been hard for many women to do that in a domain which was dominated by men. Notice I say dominated, not controlled. I don't believe a man - or structures developed along masculine energy lines can control me. This is because feminine energy, by it's very nature, leads by moving, dancing, flowing and nurturing the masculine to procreate balance in energy that becomes whole. Everyone knows when this energy is present - it's called true leadership and it can come from a woman or man. And it can be destroyed by a woman or man who is misaligned and out of balance. Lastly, as pertains to racism (and sexism), it's about opportunity seen, not individual unhealthy and biased behavior that would work against you as an individual. Power is THERE...take it and own it. There's no need to give it away to anyone. The shame is that there never was

When you debate - especially the more contentious modern day subjects - it is hard for anyone, once emotional, to hold their own. Debate, if you can be met, can be exhilirating, informing and convincing if you are capable of feeling stupid. Are you strong enough to see the loopholes in your own position? Are you capable of allowing the petty nature of your emotional insecurities to make you feel small and stupid...and to let it go? Passion about what you feel or your point of view is great, but when your emotions rule the communication, you may more easily lose the interest and connection of the other person. When you need to WIN - you'll lose more of yourself than you'd like, most importantly, self-esteem. Yes, persuasion/debate/argument can be highly emotional and it can also be a strong educational tool when you stay in the game and your emotions become something useful instead of just something that drain you of energy and power. Emotions can become the foundation of impactful lessons. Stay in the communication, feel your ignorance and see how much more you can win by not needing to win at all. 

Your awakenings - when they first happen - are like new relationships. You're learning about yourself and expanding your capacity for gratitude and love. You're life feels exciting. Then things get routine, and maybe you get bored. THAT is when you should start serving others. When you serve others and share with them what happened to you and how, you RE-LIVE your awakenings while watching others wake up. You feel power as you see the light come on in people's eyes. You know the light burns strong, finding additional homes in more of your cells, which helps you heal and release additional stuck energies. The love you share flows like an infinity pool. Transitioning into the area of romantic relationships, a recent break up left me feeling like my love tank was empty and I did not have the capacity to re-fill it. In a new experience, I see today that I was the person I left and I am now watching this new person be who I was in my past relationship. It's quite the revelation, separating me from my grief and also allowing me to feel the loss of love other people don't have from within themselves. In order to fill the love tank - again and again - like an infinity pool - one must let go, surrender to the grief and allow life to provide new seeds of love for more growth. Love is an energy that cannot be stuck. Your ability to love again, depends on giving it away to keep it. It's about the infinity of forgiveness.

Normalcy, often correlated with tradition, can be an expectation. You go along, you fit in a box, you do what others did or are doing because...why wouldn't you? But if you wake up one day and discover that what's normal and helps you "belong" is now unattractive or scary, THEN what do you do? It's time to redefine normal by changing traditional expectations...of YOURSELF. However, when you break out, it's going to feel dark, lonely and even dangerous as your ego tells you to belong...to not stray too far. If you won't challenge yourself to think for youself you settle into being normal - and often depressed from never finding your depth by walking through the challenges of life. Breaking away from normalcy can be painful and also enlightening. If you shy away from your true self, the fitting in you settle for is a half-life of half-happiness. AND you'll still have challenges, which your insides will be constantly afraid of. So YOU choose, safe but fearful or risky and free.  

A prick of the heart can change your life without someone trying to change YOU. As a Boston friend said, "I'm gonna prick their haaahts" - which was a way to nudge or prod his children to take action, or "do the right thing." This prick is the puncture of a small idea into another person, WITHOUT pressing. It isn't about controlling other people. It is NOT about you knowing better what someone else should do. Rather, it is about planting a seed into becoming a small gut-feeling that cares or is connected to others. Someone's sense of responsibility cannot be taken away... but I can exercise an obligation to point to LOVE. Some slight re-frame may provoke someone to think for themselves. This is a concerned and loving - but hands off - way of being present. No fixing, no doing for, no taking away one's right to handle their own lives. Leaving someone alone allows them to know when they know. What follows is the beauty of freedom. 

When you came to realize who you are, you may or may not have accepted or liked what you realized. You asked if it reflected your ideals or values, which is when you also started to question your reality and experience something different. At that point your experience became your greatest teacher. You set in motion wheels of change from within and the world responded. Situations and experiences were mirrored toward your thoughts. Teachers of your goals start showing up that you can relate to because they are only slightly ahead on the path you wish to travel. In other words, they've experienced the next step. You find out what they thought and did and you decide to follow the wisdom of their experience. Think about it - when was the last time you wanted to change and thought you couldn't but when you saw someone who DID (aka experienced it), you knew you could. Know that the experience of the highest value in your existence is to use power to stand FOR what you want to experience, rather than against what you no longer desire. When you desire to change you life, first, change your mind and then act differently. Your efforts to re-experience something new with the confidence of a higher power will win in the end, no matter how long it takes. 

The bondage of others is when someone says something - or poses a question - that makes you disturbed or propels you into over-thinking. In other words, you personalized their response to something you said, or you made up a general opinion they had about you. Certainly, people say things that make you think, or plant a seed of self-examination about your own dis/comfort level. SHOULD the things people say or [seem to] insinuate provoke you to question yourself? It's normal to be affected by your response to what others say. However, it's trying to find the parts of what they said that were relevant to you and also to feel your own bodily reactions that are the most important parts of self-discovery. When in a group setting, it's appropriate to want to be heard and to want the communication to go well. Questioning oneself after the fact can also be good...Over-attachment to a perception of negativity from another that makes you over-analyze yourself is NOT. Understand the difference so you can let go of what others think of you. Without self-examination, your thinking can go to extremes...and next thing you know you're feeling bad about yourself and you don't even know why. Being aware is finding out what's best for you to let go of. That's being truly free of the bondage of others. 

Madness, in our modern world, is doing things to each other that are disconnected and even harmful - with intellectual justification. We also insanely over-protect people from their own consequences by trying to remove or cushion their "bottoms" (aka breakthrough)--so they don't grow a willingness to change. Our relationships are peppered with back-biting and over-criticism, while talking unconditional love. Our hardness, fixed-firm lines and gaps between each other are all about "I'm right". But what does it all mean? Can we meet or understand each other in such madness? Yes. I don't have to win and humanity won't die if I seek to allow EVERYONE their point of view. The new mechanism - the only way to sanity - is to accomplish a valid purpose amongst us that can work even when we disagree. The new mechanism - the only way to sanity - is to accomplish a valid purpose amongst us that can work even when we disagree. As we continue to draw attention to our lives the path of sanity is humor...another is greater openness and willingness. These things work to create lightness and being which conquer darkness. From there, you can find an opening in communication, expression and understanding, not your own intellectual superiority. Are you trying to be a greater being? A simple way to do so is to change your purpose to greater awareness so you can see things differently. 

Understanding sameness means you find or connect with the things in you that you share with another. Being different means no matter how similar you are - in values, upbringing, etc. - there will still be things that have differed in your lives and experience. When something (job, relationship) fails due to these differences, it provokes a greater understanding of how to respect all sorts of other differences that may never make sense. If you are someone who likes order, organization and clarity, it may disturb you to find that when you look for similarities and stereotypes you still cannot understand completely what's happening with others. Yes, common threads can mean common sense. They can also remove you from the education you get being present to someone who is different in ways that intimidate you. Worse yet, when you try to find too many similarities so as to avoid discomfort, you don't benefit from finding ways to think for yourself. When you think for yourself, you are more liberated to avoid generalizations and even the need to stereotype. What follows is more openness and vulnerability to new experiences and new people. Reservations and stereotypes block love. Consciousness has needed to replace my bullshit and too-smart-for-my-own-good need to categorize to understand. I DO understand...that I DON'T understand. 

The world is plagued by mediocrity - people living to die in a state of absolute contemplation of nothing. The path of least resistance is a well-worn road, rife with depression, anxiety, stress and lack of fulfillment. Why? Because it's EASY. And people love easy. The problem is that easy is not IT. Easy is failure. Easy is lack. Easy forgets and deserts the connection you claim to want so bad but won't work for. As you barely plant seeds and don't water the plant, you wonder why nothing grows. BECAUSE THERE IS NO SUNLIGHT. Because you let no storms in. Because you haven't surrendered your life to nature in a way that will satisfy your soul instead of your pocketbook or your vanity. What a shame-based life to live, brought on by nothing and nobody but your ignorance and unwillingness to be uncomfortable or look stupid. Life is difficult; you won't learn how much until you live it fully. The more fully you live it, the more likely you will master storms - AND the more likely you will learn how to REALLY LIVE. You'll climb mountains when you didn't even own hiking shoes. You will swim oceans when you're afraid of the tides. There is plentiful courage. You simply first have to face pain. Welcome to the mastery of your life at the top of the mountain of resistance. Enjoy the climb!  

Nope, it ain't to take a new job, get married (or divorced), move or have children. It's TO LOVE. What makes it the most major decision is because the decision or choice to love creates the most amount of positive consequences. Making the decision to love is conscious and ideally balanced between logic and emotion. Many feel love is a feeling but it can also be very grounded in logic and sanity. A decision to love can produce a ripple effect of positive energy for you and others. Choice is so powerful because it clears away uncertainty and leaves a foundation of connection. To understand all this consciousness make me feel more comfortable being more emotionally loving. The decisions I made to be "in love" produced the greatest consequences and fundamentally transformative experiences for me and others. Don't think you can "decide" to love? OK--but if you don't choose--are you preparing for a grounded love that will last or, at least, produce positive movement, change and energy? Love is the greatest force in the universe...choose it for better or worse. FromTheNthPower

"What it all boils down to is __________" refers to extracting things down to their essential elements. Can this be done with people? Are we all similar when it comes to something like our values? It doesn't appear to be so. As someone who likes to figure things out and form scripts that could make it easier to understand how human beings tick, it has been virtually impossible to find a clear path through human behavior by examining values. Although I would still insist that people are motivated by the same needs, it's still difficult to match those needs to common values that make sense for everyone in the same way. Despite not having enough common values, we can still better meet each other if we grow our ability to be open-minded and to reserve simple judgments when it comes to what people do and why. The first place to start - if you want more healthy connection to others - is to meet people on their terms and from their point of view. It will seem odd, or be difficult at first, but soon you will start to see more and more how people really are very much the same despite our vast differences. 

What is "security consciousness" and why is it a sword? We all know people who have no money but who are abundant and confident. On the flip side, there are wealthy people who live an emotionally empty existence. The Sword yields force...Consciousness is powerful...Security is abundance mindset. Much of the people I know who grew up without a lot of money often work hard but still don't feel secure financially, no matter how much money you/they make. Simply put, a security consciousness is necessary for the financial freedom most seek. It means that you choose to believe that you can have abundance and that your consciousness will draw abudance to you through dreams and visions. Ideas you have about money have been taught with words and unconscious behaviors so you must unlearn them with words and conscous actions. Also, one of the biggest block to security consciousness says that money and people who make more money are BAD. If you believe this, your own security consciousness - and therefore financial abundance - will continue to be a struggle. Deep early childhood experiences revolving around family financial drama will also prevent the level of financial (and even emotional) security you crave. Having a hard time getting ahead financially? Might be time to do some work around financial and emotional security limiting beliefs. You may need to search deep within your heart to find security. Let me lead you there. 

Let's be honest, love is - and never should be - about keeping score. But let's play with that anyway because sometimes we don't know what we know (or don't) about love. For me, consciously, LOVE is doing/being/becoming what you love. LOVE is everywhere all the time. LOVE is living in abundant manifestation. The (imaginary AND creative) scorekeeping system of LOVE I present here is creative food for contemplation... Love is about: TIME: if you want love, you give your time. I am a liar if I say "I love you" but won't give you my time. It is my greatest and most precious gift to give or spend.  ATTENTION: if I give you my time, I will do my best to not allow distractions to remove me. Even if I have my own emotions happening, I will come back to being there.  ENGAGEMENT: Being fully engaged means I'm on the highest level of deep listening. I ask questions. How do I engage with you to help you experience my time as powerful? PRESENCE: Being fully present means my body - mind, eyes, ears, feelings - are looking to KNOW who you are. Breathing consistently re-engages presence. I am MYSELF. RESPONSE: Am I attentive to your/our needs both then and later? How I respond to you as an individual and partner means I do my best to remember what you need.  If you explore this type of scorekeeping, the game of competition ends and the game of LOVE remains and reigns supreme - as it should. 

Opinions these days are rampant. Even as I watch highly intelligent, sought-after speakers, authors and experts voice what is meant to be open-minded and tolerant, I hear the voice of opinion. Why is this? Because to be truly open-minded, it takes being completely in the experience of now and deciding how you're being. When one lives in the intellectual space too long and too exclusively, there is a lack of being that permeates an inability to go DEEP. Do you crave a better life? If so, have you come face-to-face with your need to be vulnerable - and how much you avoid it with your smart opinions? Opinions are great and strong ones that take years to form can be valuable. What is NOT valuable is using those strong opinions to create divisions, or refuse to see another point of view. If greater conscious creation is moving us to better things - to a source of POWER greater than anything you've ever known - are your opinions helping or hindering you from getting to that power? Only your heart knows...