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  2 Chronicles 24:12 - And the king (Joash) and Jehoiada gave it to those who had charge of the work of the house of the Lord, and they hired masons and carpenters to restore the house of the Lord…   “It is a much easier thing to build a temple for God than it is TO BE A TEMPLE FOR God.” C.H. Spurgeon   A Good Start: A Book for Young Men and Women by C.H. Spurgeon   How can we BE a temple for God?   Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 5:23 that we are body, soul, and spirit - what do each of these components mean and how can we improve in each?   Spirit Must be “born again” - and being made alive in Christ means that you see the rest of reality through a different lens Soul Mind - we don't want to conform to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of our MINDS - trained to think differently, learning to use your mind to advance the Kingdom and not just yourself Emotions - good indicators, bad masters - listen and learn Will - what are you doing that is worthy of being a child of God? Body Be careful of vanity and chasing after temporary things Can you serve the Lord…your family…and others in your present physical condition? T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Psalm 127 Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchman stays awake in vain. It is in vain that you rise up early and go late to rest, eating the bread of anxious toil; for he gives sleep to his beloved.   Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.   Ricky Chelette's Three A's: Attention - I see you Affection - I love you Affirmation - You have what it takes to be a man T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

  The Book of James in the Bible gives the reader great wisdom and insight into God's economy and how the maturity process of a believer generally works - it is usually not through ease and comfort that one grows and matures, but through hardship and difficulties - learning to hear the voice of God and trust Him through the process.   In James 1:19-20, the author tells the reader to “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.   Learn from the wisdom of the great saints of the faith - including Job, who learned that speaking about things that he didn't fully understand was foolish and immature. I hope this examination of these verses in God's Word reminds you to first connect your life to God, made available through the sacrifice of His one and only Son Jesus Christ…then, trust and obey as you walk with the Lord, learning to listen to His voice and trust His ways. T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Guest: Jack Cross   Great conversation with a young man looking forward to his future and asking all the right questions about how to make sure that he keeps his priorities of God and his family at the forefront while also looking to succeed and excel in his career. Hope you enjoy this conversation - and hope it helps you to evaluate your own priorities and the decisions you've made - always good to take some time for self-reflection and self-assessment - and never too late to do the right thing! T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Guest: Gabe Boyd   The Netflix series “Adolescence” has taken the UK and 93 other countries by storm with its powerful and problematic portrayal of the life and struggles of a 13-year-old boy who takes the life of a female classmate. In the midst of the chaos, Netflix asks, but doesn't provide answers, to some powerfully disturbing questions - the most important being, “What is a man?”   Appreciate Gabe Boyd for helping think through this conversation - hope it's helpful to you as well. T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.  

Guest: Greg Tuohy   “To carry a message to Garcia” is demonstrating initiative, commitment, dedication, and tenacity to a purpose. The question from this story by author Elbert Hubbard is why more men struggle to develop these vital qualities. I enjoyed reading this short and poignant book and loved finding out that the saying, “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade,” is actually attributed to Hubbard! I hope you enjoy the conversation with Greg Tuohy about the importance of and strategy to develop these qualities of manhood!   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.  

Let's learn from the story of Rehoboam's Folly...(1 Kings 12)   Cultivate the community of men you're already in! Listen to the wisdom of God that is available to you - through His Word and His people. Pursue wisdom (deepen yourself) Connect your life with a wife who is walking with the Lord. The most attractive woman is one who loves the Lord! Actively pursue wisdom from older men who love the Lord. Take advantage of good books, podcasts, etc. from other godly men. T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

  US Birth rate 1.6 Young women are pursuing education instead of family - in part because there is an idea out there that men aren't worth marrying…   What is the “right stuff” to be a good husband? Good isn't good enough - must be godly Right relationship with God… No man is in his right mind until he is right with God… Walk in the Spirit, not in the flesh Importance of knowing God's Word…mirror and window…   Value of a Godly role model Watch how a person treats those “less than” himself - Matthew 25 principle…James 2 - no partiality, preference because of a person's status or position… More is caught than taught Hard work, stewardship - the value of time and money Holding doors for ladies (others) Why? Demonstrates the value of the other person Uses your gifts and abilities (strength) to benefit others (not just about bettering yourself) Teaches patience Biblical principle - the first shall be last and the last shall be first - idea of servant leadership - Jesus came not to be served, but to serve…one simple way to serve others… The value of being “early” Again - demonstrates the value of others If you're late, you can't help out…things are already done… People can count on you - reliable… Importance of words Speak life into others…build up, not tear down David - prudent in speech…   Self-control (Titus 2) Psalm 16 - “pleasures” of God vs. pleasures of the world (Heb. 11:25 - fleeting pleasures of sin) Will power to say no - and let your yes be yes and your no be no Importance of discipline - David and Adonijah - never said “no” Connection to parents more important than connection to peers - Rehoboam…   Biblical perspective on women Helper - other than, not less than Cherish - husband means cultivator - she should be “better” with you 1 Peter 3 - “fine china” Love - what's in her best interest   Men - sacrifice family for career - now women want to do that as well…   Children - quiver full of children is a blessing Importance of others ahead of yourself Dependence on God - not self-sufficiency, but God-reliance!   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

  Importance of Marriage and Family - Purpose Importance of Mentoring - Person Importance of Maturity - Process   Titus 2:2 Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, in steadfastness.   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

Guest: Adam Griffin, Lead Pastor at Eastside Community Church, Husband, Father, Author   Loved chatting with Adam Griffin - guys, he's doing it right - take notes! He's going to cover a lot of ground, hit on several different important aspects, so pay attention, lean in and listen, and then get up and get busy putting into action what you heard. Here are a few of his books that should be helpful as you desire to grow in your spiritual walk and help others along the way!   Family Discipleship: Leading Your Home Through Time, Moments, and Milestones by Matt Chandler and Adam Griffin   When Wrong Seems Right: A Kids Bible Study on Making Good Choices by Adam Griffin   The Boy Who Was Bold by Adam Griffin   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.

  Psalm 144 Blessed be the Lord, my rock, who trains my hands for war, and my fingers for battle…   It is a battle against the world system to prioritize your spiritual and family life.   It is important to invest into your family…because a blessed nation is one filled with blessed families! What does a blessed family look like - David answers that question with verse 12:   May our sons in their youth be like plants full grown, our daughters like corner pillars cut for the structure of a palace.   Sons will be like plants full grown…or a well-manicured lawn.   Pruning is necessary - say no to them…and teach them self-control, the ability to say no themselves to things that aren't in their best interest!   As young boys grow into godly men, they will be like “full grown plants” - trees that are straight and strong that offer protection and provision (fruitfulness) for others.   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

  In Joshua 1, God encourages Joshua three times with the phrase “be strong and courageous” - what did that mean for Joshua…and what does it mean for you today?   Be strong and courageous for… Purpose - to advance the Kingdom of God, to inherit what God has for you   Be strong and very courageous, being careful to do… Path - do not turn to the right or the left, stay on the path of God's will for your life   Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. Power - God is our power source - not your own strength…but His   Examining how this plays out in the life of David might help us better understand this concept.   David has a purpose - to battle against evil David had a path - didn't let the armor or discouragement of others dissuade him David had God's power - his faith in a mighty God   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

I was up at Sky Ranch recently and had the opportunity to watch students take a “step of faith” off a 30 foot tree - harnessed up so that they wouldn't fall - but still a pretty brave step to take…and it got me thinking that this physical picture of a step of faith is a good metaphor for our spiritual step of faith that each of us must decide to take…or not.   This also got me thinking about those who say that they have “walked away” from their faith - and how impossible that concept truly is. Christianity isn't a set of principles, dos and don'ts - it is not a transaction that you can do…and undo. Christianity is transformational - Scripture compares it to being “reborn” - and when you take that step of faith, the Bible says that you are a “new creation” (2 Cor. 5:17) and the old things are dead…so you couldn't go back even if you wanted to!   The good news is that taking this initial step of faith and surrendering your life to Christ transforms your mind - just like the physical transformation of a caterpillar to a butterfly, you are spiritually transformed. Pastor Tommy Nelson at Denton Bible often uses this little phrase to drive home the point that following principles and rules isn't going to transform your life - but a relationship with Jesus Christ will:   "'Do this and live!' the law commands, but gives me neither feet nor hands. A better word the gospel brings, it bids me fly and gives me wings."   Guys, take the FIRST STEP of transformation from boyhood to manhood - and that step is placing your faith in Jesus Christ.   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Getting ready for a puberty talk to 5th grade boys, the CHANGES that happen in our bodies got me to thinking about the PURPOSE for those changes - what is God preparing our bodies for… Work Women Worship World Wonder/Wisdom   Walk with me on this journey that looks at how creative God is at preparing us for the work that He has created for us to do (Ephesians 2:10) - but if we go through these life changes and never “spread our wings” and fly as the new creations in Christ, then we miss what God intended for us. Change indicates purpose. Don't miss yours.   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.   Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guest: Dr. David Cobbs, PhD, is a Clinical Neuropsychologist in Dallas, TX   This is the second part of a meaningful and practical conversation with Dr. David Cobbs - he begins by sharing about the “mechanisms” that he's put in place to draw closer to others and to God - some call these the “spiritual disciplines.” You need to put these practices in place not only to hold you accountable, but also so that you can look back and do some healthy self-evaluation so that you can do better moving forward!   If you're a “Type A” personality - meaning that you're driven - it means that you have that personality that could be successful in your spiritual and family life too…if those things are your priority! You have to make the commitment to prioritize the important things…and then follow through with those commitments.   If you haven't been doing this in the past, NOW is the time to make the adjustment - and find people around you to help you and hold you accountable. Consistency is key. Also consider your Return on your Investment (ROI) - as you invest in others, seeds of connection and commitment are planted and you will reap the harvest of good relationships in the future.   Single guys - start putting these disciplines in your life and you'll attract a spouse who sees these things as valuable and meaningful. It is critical to surround yourself with good friends who “spur you on to love and good deeds” (Hebrews 10:24). Start with getting your relationship with God “right” first…then all your other relationships will be dramatically affected by this foundational relationship.   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guest: Dr. David Cobbs, PhD, is a Clinical Neuropsychologist in Dallas, TX   Loved hearing the story of David's spiritual journey - how the power of POSITIVE peer pressure can help push you toward good things and keep you from bad things! David really started to grow in his spiritual life in high school - the younger you can get on the path of right living, the better off things will be in terms of living without regrets and disappointment!   True friends share life together. It's good to have good friends and far too many men do not have quality friends around them. Remember, a good definition of a friend is someone who shares the most truth with you. How do you develop meaningful relationships with others - David will tell you that you have to be intentional about spending time together - as Dietrich Bonhoeffer wrote, “doing life together.”   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guest: Robert Christian   Guys, if this message is meaningful to you and you'd like to email Robert Christian directly, you can reach him at robjonchris@gmail.com Words of wisdom and encouragement from Robert: You are qualified God is a good father God wants the best for you God will discipline you You are created to glorify Him You do that through obedience   Resources for more encouragement: Man Alive by Patrick Morely Kingdom Man by Tony Evans The Resolution for Men by The Kendrick Brothers Abba's Child by Brennan Manning Happiness is a Serious Problem by Dennis Prager Knowing God by J.I. Packer Disciplines of a Godly Man by R. Kent Hughes   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

  Judges 3:31 reads, “After him was Shamgar the son of Anath, who killed 600 of the Philistines with an ox goad, and he also saved Israel.”   What is the life lesson we can take from the story of Shamgar:   Shamgar used what he had. Shamgar used what he had exceedingly well. Shamgar used what he had for a purpose greater than himself.   What do you have that you can use for the glory of God? And what is your purpose, because your purpose will determine your plans and preparation!   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guys, consider these three areas of blessing that you can provide for those in need:   Presence - the importance of the “ministry of presence”   Prayer - pray for people in need, let them know that you prayed for them!   Practical - don't just ask what you can do, look for practical, common sense ways that you can help out!   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

I took this word from the title of a book by Puritan author John Owen - Spiritual-Mindedness.   For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Romans 8:6 (For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.)   Taking control of your thought-life - valuable life skill for everyone, everyday!   2 Corinthians 10:5 - take every thought captive to obey Christ   So our thoughts are the best and surest way of showing us what we are in ourselves. “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he” (Prov. 23:7).   If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. Colossians 3:1-2   The strength of the mind is wasted by fruitless thoughts.   The first object, then, of our spiritual thoughts is to consider what God is saying in the daily circumstances of life.   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guest: Kylen Perry, pastor at Watermark Church, Dallas, TX   Every man is made, but are you reactive (responding to life's situations) or proactive (learning, listening, seeking to grow and mature)? Discipleship is a proactive relationship where individuals share what they are learning in terms of their spiritual life with others.   Resource recommendation: J.T. English - Deep Discipleship: How the Church Can Make Whole Disciples of Jesus There must be space for learning and gathering There has to be relationship and training in godliness   What men have you “dignified the voice of” in your life - that you'll listen to their wise counsel and they can speak hard truths into your life? We all need “truth tellers” in our lives - and we need to be open to receive truth from those people.   Mark of maturity - you can learn to listen to truth…regardless of the person who delivers it or how it is delivered.   Where can you find those “truth tellers” - those older men who can disciple you - they are part of the body of Christ, the church.   One of the best things you can do as a young person - commit yourself to a cause greater than yourself! There is no greater cause than advancing the Kingdom of God and growing closer in your relationship with Christ.   Isaiah 66:2 - But this is the one to whom I will look: he who is humble and contrite in spirit and trembles at my word.   God will not anoint any other version of you other than the one that He created and designed for you to be!   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Psalm 111 and Psalm 112 are parallel passages to make a point. Psalm 111 talks about how great our God is - and Psalm 112 talks about the greatness of man…whose God is great.   Psalm 112 talks about what should be truly important in the life of a godly man - his family…and his “home life” - wealth and riches are in his house…   What are the character qualities to help you produce this great home life? Gracious, merciful, and righteous Are you nice, kind? Generous Are you sacrificial - willing to do for others without return? Just Do you do the right thing…even if it costs you? Heart is firm - integrity Do you do the right thing even when no one is watching - or even when others ARE watching?   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

If I had to summarize Gladiator II, it would be the line from Proverbs 22:1 which tells us that a good name is to be chosen rather than great riches! The “good name” of Marcus Aurelius and Maximus is passed on to an inspires the life and efforts of Lucius - who sees how the pursuit of money and power ends up in corruption and deceit - and in the end it is worthless. Great question from this movie - what do you give “worth” to in your life - what do you worship? Many worship the gods of convenience and entertainment. I believe there is more to life - and I think that Gladiator II is not just an entertaining movie, but one that can make you think and wrestle with the great ideas and meaning of life…if you'll let it!   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

  As I reflect on things going on in my world, I'm thankful for a God who knows when to step in…and when to step back.   And I'm thankful for my wife who balances our family and provides a wonderful counter perspective that helps me navigate better.   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

This is the description of David recorded in 1 Samuel 16:18:   Behold, I have seen a son of Jesse the Bethlehemite, who is skillful in playing, a man of valor, a man of war, prudent in speech, and a man of good presence, and the Lord is with him.   Part 2 examines the first three qualities:   Prudent in speech - do you use your words well, do you weigh them before you speak, do you consider how your words are being received by others? Man of good presence - how do people feel when you walk into a room - glad that you're there, or not so much?! The Lord is with him - do you know that as a child of God, the Lord is with you and goes wherever you go, watches whatever you watch - is the Lord pleased to be in your presence?   These are great character qualities to develop in your own life - as Thomas Watson reminds us, you can judge a flower by its buds, you can judge a man by his youth!   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

This is the description of David recorded in 1 Samuel 16:18:   Behold, I have seen a son of Jesse the Bethlehemite, who is skillful in playing, a man of valor, a man of war, prudent in speech, and a man of good presence, and the Lord is with him.   Part 1 examines the first three qualities:   Skillful in playing - David practiced, worked hard, didn't quit when things were difficult… Man of valor - David was a man of integrity, the same man when no one was watching…or everyone was watching… Man of war - David was willing to fight for what he believed in, to protect the name of His God, to protect the weak or innocent…even if it cost him   These are great character qualities to develop in your own life - as Thomas Watson reminds us, you can judge a flower by its buds, you can judge a man by his youth!   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.   Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.  

Guest: Gabe Boyd   This is a throwback episode looking at one of the episodes that Gabe and I recorded talking about some important elements of what it means to be a man - this is the statement that we created to summarize those elements:   Men speak truth, serve others, love deeply, endure joyfully, and humbly walk with the Lord.   The concept of serving others embodies the idea that you see others and desire meet their needs even if that comes at a cost to yourself - this requires humility and an other-centeredness that is rare today - but so important for the maturity and development of a boy into a man!   The action steps that we included in those episode notes three years ago are still so good - so here they are:   Action Step Take notice of those who serve you! Show appreciation to those who serve you… (special note - waiter at restaurant...tip well) Take one person and find a way to serve them…   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.   Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Primary vs. General Election The Primary Election is your opportunity to select the best candidate within your party to represent your party in the General Election The General Election is your opportunity to select the best candidate over the other party's candidate to put those particular principles into action   What if you don't want to “align” with a particular party? Example - you like Shohei Ohtani as a player and you want him to win - he's currently playing for the Los Angeles Dodgers in the World Series - for Ohtani to win, you are saying that you want the Dodgers to win. If the New York Yankees win the Series, Ohtani does not. Period. So, it doesn't matter if you like the Dodgers or not - it doesn't matter if you like party politics or not, if you want particular views and values to be advanced, you will need to align with the party that advances those views and values and vote accordingly.   What if you don't like the Electoral College and how the President is selected? Again, the Electoral College is about winning a majority of the votes from the majority of the states - like winning 4 out of the 7 games in the World Series - it's not about how many runs (or votes) that you get, it's about getting the majority of the runs (votes) in the majority of the games (states).   Finally, what if you think that your vote doesn't “count?” Doesn't matter - it's your vote - and you have both a responsibility and opportunity to cast a ballot - take it. Also, voting for candidates “down ballot” is tremendously important - not just voting for the President in this election. T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Perspective God's at work, you can't see everything… Stop comparing yourself to others We are too often the heroes of our own story…   Prayer Ongoing conversation with God - help me see what you want me to see…and learn…   People Have a proper perspective of others - use the word “friend” sparingly! Take the focus off yourself - be a blessing to others…and you'll be blessed!   Here's what I'm not saying… You don't get to write your own story in life - you are not the master of your own fate, captain of your own soul - sorry William Ernest HenleyBut, regardless of what happens to you, you can control your attitude I've seen hardships make a person better…and bitter. Choose better.   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

  Jeremiah 12:5 “If you have raced with men on foot and they have worn you out, how can you compete with horses? If you stumble in safe country, how will you manage in the thickets by the Jordan?   The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness: The Path to True Christian Joy - Tim Keller Learn to celebrate the victories of others - their victory isn't your defeat…   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Everything physical is a picture of something spiritual…   Genesis 1:26-27 Let us make man in our image, after our likeness.   So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.   In the creation of physical life, there is one who initiates, gives…and one who receives…   In the creation of spiritual life, there is one who gives (grace)...and one who receives (new life)...   Our physical bodies point to God's design for relationship and redemption!   When sin corrupts God's design, our physical bodies point to the coming Redeemer - God institutes physical circumcision, the cutting away of the male flesh to point to the Messiah, who is the Good Seed (semen)   The spiritual reality that corresponds to this physical picture is the idea that as the receivers of God's grace, our hearts are circumcised and new life is created.   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guest: Parker Panetti   Daniel 1:8 - Daniel resolved not to defile himself.   What areas of your life do you need to resolve to do and NOT do to be the man that God has called you to be?   Find some godly men and ask to spend time with them, ask them what things they would recommend you do to improve your position in life.   Dietrich Bonhoeffer - The Cost of Discipleship - the way that I read Bonhoeffer is that the mediocre faith that so many have simply isn't even an option for those children of God who have been bought with the blood of Jesus!   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

What is the goal of the conversation - to win the argument or engage with the person?   Biggest suggestion - learn to ask more questions instead of presenting more information   Matt 10 - be as wise as serpents and innocent as doves   1 Chronicles 12:32 - “understand the times” like the men of Issachar   Psalm 119:130 - The unfolding of your words give light; it imparts understanding to the simple.   2 Cor. 10:5-6 - tear down arguments set up against the knowledge of God…taking captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ…   Colossians 2:8 - See to it that no one takes you captive by vain philosophies and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ…   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

  Lessons from my own experience and God's Word:   You don't work for the pleasure of man, but for the will of God - Colossians 3:23 Don't miss what God wants to do with your work - 1 Samuel 16 Hard work is a blessing when done to advance the kingdom - Joshua 14 (story of Caleb). Leadership matters - Phil. 2:3-4 (Do nothing out of selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others).   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guests: Mike Thornberry, Stephen Bryan, Aaron Ulmer, and Chris Housewright   We recorded this podcast to use for our parent podcast at the school, which also has a video element, so if you'd like to watch this podcast, check out the PCA YouTube page.   The Forge is the latest movie from the incredible Christian movie producers the Kendrick Brothers (Alex, Stephen, and Shannon), who brought Facing the Giants, Fireproof, Courageous, and War Room to the big screens. This new movie is about the process of making a man - and it's a powerful story of prayer, forgiveness, redemption, and salvation!    The Forge opens in theaters across the country on Friday, August 23, 2024.   In the movie, Joshua Moore (older man, business owner) asks a younger Isaiah some important questions that cause Isaiah to pause and evaluate his life and future - here are those questions:   5 years from now, where do you want to be? What ways do you want to grow in the next year? What kind of man do you want to be? What do you want people to think when they see you coming?   The Forge isn't a “self-help” movie about making better decisions - Isaiah surrenders his life to Christ and as he begins to follow Jesus, his life and decisions are radically changed! The Forge also highlights the importance of walking in community - surrounded by others to hold us accountable and encourage us on our journey!   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guests: Gabe Boyd and Mike Thornberry   Chapter 7 Stand Up to the Bullies   If you want to change the world…don't back down from the sharks.   Chapter 8 Rise to the Occasion   If you want to change the world…be your very best in the darkest moments.   No matter how dark it gets, you must complete the mission. Mission above the man - Jim Eliot - he is no fool to give up that which he cannot keep to gain that which he cannot lose.   Chapter 9 Give People Hope   If you want to change the world…start singing when you're up to your neck in mud.   The power of one person to unite the group, the power of one person to inspire those around him, to give them hope.   Hope is the most powerful force in the universe.   Chapter 10 Never, Ever Quit!   If you want to change the world…don't ever, ever ring the bell.   If you fill your days with pity, sorrowful for the way you have been treated, bemoaning your lot in life, blaming your circumstances on someone or something else, then life will be long and hard. If, on the other hand, you refuse to give up on your dreams, stand tall and strong against the odds–then life will be what you make of it–and you can make it great. Never, ever, ring the bell!   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guests: Gabe Boyd and Mike Thornberry   Chapter 4 Life's Not Fair - Drive On!   If you want to change the world…get over being a sugar cookie and keep moving forward…   Dan - we live in a fallen world, sin has corrupted everything, we should expect unfairness… Jesus was the only perfect person - and look how the world treated him - unfairly…we should expect the same…   Those that strived to be the very best expected that they would be rewarded for their stellar performance.   Chapter 5 Failure Can Make You Stronger   If you want to change the world…don't be afraid of The Circus   The Circus, which had started as a punishment for failure, was making us stronger, faster, and more confident in the water. Marc and I were determined not to allow The Circus to beat us.   You will pay for your failures. But, if you persevere, if you let those failures teach you and strengthen you, then you will be prepared to handle life's toughest moments.   I realized that the past failures had strengthened me, taught me that no one is immune from mistakes.   Chapter 6 You Must Dare Greatly   If you want to change the world…slide down the obstacle headfirst.   Those who live in fear of failure, or hardship, or embarrassment will never achieve their potential.   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guests: Gabe Boyd and Mike Thornberry   Chapter 1 Start Your Day with a Task Completed Make your bed - physical Time with the Lord - spiritual   Gabe - we live in a chaotic and undisciplined world…this is one thing I can control.   Making my bed correctly was not going to be an opportunity for praise. It was expected of me. Don't look for the praise of men…Col. 3:23   Chapter 2 You Can't Go It Alone   If you want to change the world…find someone to help you paddle.   Seven men, all working together   The small rubber boat made us realize that no man could make it through training alone.   Now, lying in bed, all I felt was self-pity…but, my wife Georgeann, reminded me of who I was Tough love Good spouse - calling you up to all that God has for you…   Chapter 3 Only the Size of Your Heart Matters   Instructor challenged a guy - “prove me wrong” (motivation)   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.   Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Looking at the story of David, Nabal, and Abigail in 1 Samuel 25   This is the question I want each of us to wrestle with - why are we doing what we're doing? What is our true motivation behind our decisions?   Good friends - a community of individuals who can challenge you to think about your decisions - is such a blessing - build that community!!!   The Chosen - if you're looking to learn more about the person and life of Jesus, reading God's Word is the BEST way - but watching The Chosen is a great addition as well.   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart; wait, I say, on the Lord. Psalm 27:14   Feel stuck in a place, job, relationship? In a difficult situation? What's the plan? Wait on the Lord.   “On the Lord” is the most important part of that encouragement - not your plan, but His. Wait - trust, obey, listen, learn. Wait doesn't mean “do nothing”You can work while you wait Grow deeper - Jer. 6:16 - ask for the ancient paths and walk in them Serve others - look around at how you can help others… Be confident (vs. 3) - decision, not a feeling Don't walk to the right or to the left - don't take a misstep Let the Lord strengthen your heart - waiting is preparation time for the next opportunity/challenge Waiting on the Lord isn't easy - “be of good courage” - it takes courage to wait, to trust the Lord Life is a series of seasons - just because this season is tough, doesn't mean that you're not growing and getting ready for next season…   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Things I know now that I wish I had known then…   1. Importance of godly mentors   2. Importance of reading - you will draw from the books that you've read years later…   3. You learn more from failing than succeeding - so try new things…   4. Understand the power of commitment   5. People matter   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Best part of a new project - demo day   Bible calls this sanctification - to set apart, make holy - consecrate (with force to make sacred)   Tear up the carpeting NO going back! You see all the EXTRA work that you didn't know you had before… It's Worth it!   I want to be a better man, a better husband, a better dad, a better employer/ee, a better friend, a better…   Biblical principles of change… Romans 12 - God is in the business of change - don't conform to the old patterns, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind… Ephesians 4 - put off the old self, put on the new self… Colossians 3 - put to death what is earthly - put on as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you must also forgive…And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. God is prepared for us to move in a new direction - Deuteronomy 17 - the laws concerning Israel's kings - they didn't even have a king… God's principles are timeless - He doesn't change - the real change we need in our lives is the constant transformation of our old selves into the image of Jesus…   5 Things to Help You Change Read more - you become a more reflective person, less thrown about why the winds and wilds of the day… Deepen solid relationships with people who challenge you to be better… Honest assessment of your situation, life, attitude, circumstances - the carpeting is old, it needs to be torn up and tossed out… Don't be afraid to ask for help - Biblical counseling, mature Christian friend, God's Word as a light unto your feet and a lamp unto your path… It's Worth it - it will cost you, but it's worth it…   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guest: Michael Lee Stallard   I was first introduced to Mike Stallard as the author of Fired Up or Burned Out: How to Reignite Your Team's Passion, Creativity, and Productivity. He then turned his passion and research to the power of connectivity and wrote Connection Culture: The Competitive Advantage of Shared Identity, Empathy, and Understanding at Work where he shared the importance of vision, voice and value for a connected work environment.   Mike is a wonderful resource not only from his books, but also as a speaker for businesses looking to create that unified and connected work culture. You can find out more about Mike and his vision to help leaders create connected cultures on his website MichaelLeeStallard.com.   Prior to founding E Pluribus Partners, Michael was a managing director on Wall Street. Earlier in his career he worked in the technology sector. Michael is married to Katharine Stallard. They have two grown daughters.   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

  Abide in Christ - Andrew Murray Vine - plant that is only for the fruit How can you tell the vine that has the most fruit?It hangs the lowest - humility is the key…   Self-assessment Be quick to listenNot listen quickly…then move on… If you want a different song, stop playing the same notesChange is hard, but there are times when it's necessary…   Take the next right step Don't complicate things Don't make excuses - do the will of your father   Jesus our example Didn't make excuses Did the will of his father   Consecrate yourself Sacred - set apart - choose to live differently, other-worldly… I'm so busy - those are decisions you're making - your choices You'll reap what you sow… Your decisions demonstrate your priorities   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guests: Harrison Leak and Parker Panetti   How do you decide what to do, where to go…what's that process look like for a young man who is trying to honor the Lord?   Great resource: Just Do Something: A Liberating Approach to Finding God's Will by Kevin DeYoung   Money shouldn't be the primary motivator for what position you take - there are other things that are more important. A great resource in helping you balance those concepts is Your Life…Well Spent: The Eternal Rewards of Investing Yourself and Your Money in Your Family by Russ Crosson   When considering the concept of “success,” think about the line from CS Lewis that humility isn't thinking less of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less. Along that same line, Tim Keller has an outstanding resource titled The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness: The Path to True Christian Joy.   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guests: Dr. Jason Snyder and Dr. Jonathan Teague   Excerpts from the conversation:   Lie #4: Transgenderism is normal. Scripture does not support transgender ideology/belief/actions as normal, healthy, or to be supported or endorsed. In today's culture, “love” has been redefined as acceptance and endorsement as I am and you are not allowed to say anything in opposition to my beliefs. And since God is “love,” when culture redefines love, it redefines the very nature of God to fit its own desires. This redefined god is not the God of the Bible. How to address this concept - go back and learn about the God of the Bible. Read Rosaria's article entitled, “Why I no longer use Transgender Pronouns - and Why You shouldn't either.” WPATH: The truth about “gender affirming healthcare”   Lie #5: Modesty is an outdated burden that serves male dominance and holds women back. Guys, the issue of modesty isn't just a woman's issue - as men, dads, we need to address this issue in our homes…and lead by example. We don't need to buy into the “modest is hottest” false narrative, we need to understand that modesty is the desire to be holy and honor God with our bodies. Men, if the pornographic culture is shaping the way that you view women, you will not understand the importance and value of modesty. The issue of modesty is less about “protecting men” and more about presenting women as daughters of the living God who are more than mere physical beings - ladies, you are body, soul, and spirit - don't allow the culture to elevate your physical attributes over the other important aspects of who you are!   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website.   Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Happy Memorial Day!   The word graduation comes from the concept of “steps” - taking the next step. What is the next step in your life - college, work, marriage, family? What are you doing now to prepare yourself for those next steps?   Some good questions to ask yourself on your journey: What has God been teaching you recently? How are you feeding the spiritual man?Word of God Words of wisdom - godly people and good books Work Fellowship - we are relational beings Rest Luke 2:52 - Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and with man… How are you feeding your flesh?Pride, envy, lust, disobedience, impatience, anger Romans - be killing sin or sin will be killing you How are you feeding others?Service and sacrifice Titus 2 - older men train up the younger men - urge the younger men to be self-controlled… Friendship - a plant of slow growth   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guests: Dr. Jason Snyder and Dr. Jonathan Teague   Excerpts from the conversation:   Lie #2 - Being a spiritual person is kinder than being a Christian.   The Gospel doesn't just make us nicer versions of ourselves. The Gospel gives us a new nature and the power to live for the glory of God.   What is your working definition of “good”? If your definition of good is absent of absolute truth, then it is subjective and lacking. For a Christian, “good” is defined by the nature of God and is not held captive by “the spirit of the age” or what is defined as good or popular during this particular day.   Make sure that you have an eternal, unchangeable standard for the foundation of your worldview and definitions.   Lie #3 - Feminism is good for the world and for the church.   Most individuals that we know who are supportive of “feminism” as a worldview have specific, individual negative experiences in their own lives from a man who abused his position of power and authority.   Feminism attacks God's design for gender and sexuality, the family, and culture at large. Feminism is incompatible with Biblical personhood because it contradicts the creation ordinance.   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Genesis 26:25 - Building Altars, Pitching Tents, Digging Wells   Five Practical Steps for Building Altars Commitment Building family habits of spiritual consistency…takes commitment to say no to lesser things to advance the more important… Prioritize spiritual things - don't let select sports, etc. take top place   Contentment Beware of the sin of envy and comparison, the thief of joy… Use money to buy more time with your family, not more things You have been blessed to be a blessing… Haggai 1 - be careful of paneled houses when the house of God isn't finished! Raising Spiritual Champions by George BarnaOnly 8% of young people believe that wealth is given by God to manage for the advancement of God's kingdom on Earth - they are far more likely to believe that they have earned what they possess and are free to use their wealth as they see fit without regard to spiritual principles or God's expectations Deut. 8:18 - But remember the Lord your God, for it is he who gives you the ability to produce wealth…   Consistency Thomas Watson - we call a thing by what it generally is David - a man after God's own heart - massive sin, massive repentance   Communicate Listening is more important than talking…learn to listen and hear what is being communicated…2 Samuel 11:3 - And David sent and inquired about the woman. And ONE SAID, “Is not this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?” Learn to listen to things we don't want to hear…   Care/Compassion Love well - care about the well-being of those around you… Do the little things to make their situation better Don't settle for the shortcuts - JFK, we go to the moon because it is hard T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guests: Dr. Jason Snyder and Dr. Jonathan Teague   Excerpts from the book:   Lie #1: Homosexuality is Normal   I lamented male-female relationships that called for a woman's submission, even if voluntary. My feminist worldview/religion declared any male-female sexual relationship that rejected sameness (the idea that men and women are interchangeable) and called for a wife's submission to her husband foundational to rape culture.   The order of creation made the point: the sexes are equal in essence and different in social roles.   It was utterly and completely shocking to realize that my lesbianism was truly a sin.   Godly womanhood does not erase a woman's strength or identity; rather, it applies God's grace to me.   Biblical sexuality is natural, God-blessed, and procreative. In contrast, homosexuality is unnatural, sinful, and barren.   What if it feels right? That sin nature is why homosexuality can feel normal and natural to some people.   The Bible is truer than our feelings.   WORDS matter. And Jesus is still the Word made flesh.   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.

Guest: Russ Crosson, chief mission officer and senior partner of Blue Trust, author of Your Life…Well Spent, The Truth About Money Lies, What Makes a Leader Great, and Your Money Made Simple. You can reach Russ at 1-800-987-2987 or via email at russ.crosson@bluetrust.com   Men, it is so important to realize the difference between investing your time, energy, and resource into your prosperity (wealth/money) vs. into your posterity (children/legacy)   Prosperity - the accumulation of goods The process of working is a real blessing God empowers us to enjoy the fruit of our labor by giving us the proper perspective about it We are successful when we are in the process of being obedient and carefully doing all that God's Word says to do   Posterity - the heritage we leave to coming generations Money is simply a tool to invest in our posterity   When you make spending decisions, ask, “How will this expense affect our entire family?”   Principle of Replacement - the addition of new time commitments to my schedule usually involves a trade-off between work and posterity timeOnly say yes if the activity can replace something else that's already in your schedule that doesn't detract from your posterity time   Only change vocations to better fulfill your purpose and maximize your time flexibility - not to make more money   T4M guys - just a reminder that Training4Manhood is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) ministry and you can make donations either via Zelle (info@training4manhood.com) or by visiting the Training4Manhood website. Huge thank you to Jared Wood for allowing T4M to use his music in our intro and outro selections.