True Stride

Something unexpected happened this morning that touched my heart and made me remember how important it is to be open. I grabbed my well-loved copy of Journey to the Heart by Melody Beattie as I got ready to teach yoga. Usually, I read the meditation that was prescribed for that day, but this time I ended up on a page I wasn't supposed to. I felt like the meditation selected me, not the other way around. It was called "It's Safe to Open Your Heart." That message rang home for me, especially after something had happened recently that made me want to shut down and shield my heart. But instead of backing away, I leaned forward. I began to think about how patterns from the past, especially those that originated in childhood, still affect how I love and be loved today. This episode is about gently seeing those patterns, letting go of where we've hardened, and deciding to be open even when it seems risky. So, on this week's Wise Walk, we'll look at areas we could be protecting our hearts and how we might let love, connection, and healing in while still keeping healthy boundaries. You're not the only one who has ever felt the pull between being vulnerable and protecting yourself. Let's go through it together and find strength in our weakness. ●      Do you feel it's safe to open your heart right now, or are you guarding it in your personal or professional life? ●      Can you set healthy boundaries to manage fear or stress so you can open your heart and see what's possible? ●      Where in your life are you shielding yourself from past hurts out of fear of being vulnerable? ●      Have you ever given people an easy out even when you truly wanted them to show up? ●      What do you risk by telling someone you genuinely want them there—and what might you gain? ●      Are you willing to be vulnerable and let the world fully receive your love? ●      Where can you stay open to your big, beautiful, vulnerable love while creating healthy boundaries? ●      Are you mindfully protecting your energy from those who can't meet you with love right now? ●      Can you recognize the love that deserves all of you and resist falling back into old protection patterns? ●      Are you willing to keep evolving and let your heart stay safely open as you grow? Thanks for sharing this space with me today. As you move through the week, I hope you feel safe to open your heart and stay connected to the love that surrounds you. Until next time, keep honoring your stride and choosing what feels true.   In this episode: [04:30] After my parents divorced, I had a challenging relationship with my father. My mother did the best she could to raise us four girls. [05:08] I saw unconditional love from my mother, but I felt like my father's love had conditions. I felt like I couldn't depend on him, so I developed a pattern where I wouldn't ask for much from him. [06:16] I was shielding myself from vulnerability, because I didn't want to feel the pain from being disappointed. [07:04] This pattern came through in my adult relationships. [08:35] I wasn't being fully vulnerable when I gave people an out. [11:14] Last week I got hurt by someone I care about. They unexpectedly disappointed me. [12:06] When I'm hurt, I physically protect my heart. I want my heart center open so I can give and receive love. [13:23] I was choosing heart openers in yoga this morning. Our hearts deserve to feel open and safe. [14:04] I am consciously working on healing and growing and making sure my past doesn't affect my present or future. [15:23] Even though I got hurt, loving and putting myself out there to that risk is worth it. [16:33] You can still feel safe to open your heart and have healthy boundaries. [17:55] I will still hold space for them and compassionate space for myself. [20:35] I read page 329 of Journey to the Heart. [21:41] Engage in practices that help you keep your heart open.   Memorable Quotes: “I want my heart center fully open because I want to give and receive love in the fullest expansion form.” - Mary Tess “I am consciously working on healing and growing and making sure that my past doesn't necessarily direct my present or my future.” - Mary Tess “Go after and bring more of that love, give more of it, and receive more of it” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value Journey to the Heart: Daily Meditations on the Path to Freeing Your Soul    

What does it truly mean to be in service to others, your community, and yourself? Last week, I had the incredible opportunity to speak in front of 150 mental health therapists and group practice owners. They are compassionate leaders who manage dedicated teams committed to helping individuals navigate life's challenging moments with thoughtfulness, healing and care. Witnessing their dedication inspired deep reflection on how we show up not only for others, but also for ourselves.  In this episode, I share insights from this meaningful experience, exploring the importance of efficient structures and mindful self-care practices that allow these professionals to sustain their vital work. Drawing from my own personal journeys through divorce, miscarriage, managing the impacts of alcoholism, and living with cancer for the past 23 years, I highlight the universal need for feeling seen, heard, and supported. Join me on today's Wise Walk as we ask ourselves these questions.  Are you in service of yourself or only focused on serving others? How are you honoring your emotions and what calls to you? Are you giving yourself space to heal from past experiences you still carry? What does being in service of your own healing and needs look like right now? How can you support your emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being today? As you walk forward, what area of your life is calling for more attention? How can you be in service of others and still hold space for yourself? Are there areas of your life that feel out of balance? Have you gone all in at work and postponed your personal needs? Have you created the space and structure to return energy to yourself? What does commitment to yourself look like in real terms? What can you map out or follow through on to meet your current needs? How are you setting intentions and creating boundaries that support you? Are you currently balanced in serving others and serving yourself? Do your efforts feel sustainable or are they tipping too far in one direction? Is it time to set a new intention or reevaluate your current focus? Are you clear on your needs and creating awareness around them? How are you setting boundaries that honor your commitments and values? How can others support you when you're clear about what you need?  Thank you for joining me on this Wise Walk. As you move through the week, remember to honor your needs, set clear intentions, and stay aligned with your heart. I'll see you next Thursday until then, get your stride on.   In this episode: [06:11] Over the past few months, I feel like I've been called to be in service of my family and to support them. It felt aligned, because I love my family and want what's best for them. [07:15] I now feel fatigued, and I'm going to take the next month to be in service of myself. It's time to get back to my own supportive healing practices. [08:49] My family has needs, but I need to set up healthy boundaries so I don't lose myself in the process. [11:03] I love how this collective of 150 brilliant humans were committing to themselves just by attending the conference. [12:06] I also loved the opportunity to network. [13:53] Cherish the successes, the whoopsies, and everything in between. [16:18] How we care for ourselves and others are all interwoven. [17:52] Another amazing thing that happened is we got more Striders. [19:05] There's a heartbeat behind these self-reflective questions, because this is an opportunity to go within and find the answers within your own beautiful heart.   Memorable Quotes: “You are perfect exactly as you are. Whatever you're going through, support is always a gift.” - Mary Tess “When we are honoring who we are, when we are aligning with who we are, we have more to give this world.” - Mary Tess “Being in service to others doesn't mean losing yourself in the process.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value   Mindsight Partners Kasey Compton

I've come to realize that not every decision needs to be backed by logic or explained away with reasons. When I was recently invited to take on a regular yoga teaching role, I immediately started listing all the practical benefits. But something felt off. The more I tried to rationalize a yes, the more I knew in my heart it was really a no. That experience reminded me how powerful it can be to pause, listen inward, and honor what feels aligned, even if it doesn't make sense to anyone else. On today's Wise Walk, I'm sharing how I've been learning to let my heart lead, how that shift has created more balance and peace in my life, and how I've stopped over explaining my feelings just to make others comfortable. Together, we'll explore how to trust that inner knowing, hold space for our emotions, and let our feelings guide us forward. When you consider options in your life, do you lead with logic or drop into your heart to listen? Do you have enough experience to trust your heart's wisdom, or is that still a muscle you're building? Do you tend to lead from your intellect more than your heart, and is that something you want to reflect on? When someone offers you an opportunity, can you check in with your heart and honor how it feels? If it doesn't feel right, can you communicate a simple no without explaining or justifying it? Do you find yourself trying to make others comfortable with your “no” by offering logic or reasons? Can you give yourself grace and stop explaining your heart-centered decisions to others? Can you accept your own inner knowing without needing outside validation or agreement? When someone doesn't understand your perspective, can you simply share your feelings and hold space? Are you able to let your feelings speak for themselves, even without words or logic to explain them? Where can you hold space for someone stuck in “should” thinking and gently ask how they feel instead? Can you fully accept someone's emotional truth without needing them to justify or explain it? Can you allow a feeling—yours or someone else's—to stand on its own and be accepted as it is? Thank you for walking with me today. I'm so grateful we can hold space for each other as we lead with our hearts.   In this episode: [02:46] I reflect back on times when logic has taken over my decisions. Sometimes logic and rationale will get us to the place we need to go. [03:34] There are times when it's not an intellectual decision or about rationale. We need to give ourselves permission to listen and lead with our hearts. [04:34] I was rationalizing saying yes to teaching yoga when in my heart I knew the answer needed to be no. [05:28] There was a heart knowingness before I even made the decision.  [06:01] My heart did feel good about teaching yoga every other week. [07:32] In the past, I would try to come up with rationale when something didn't feel right. [09:59] Wise Walk big takeaway: Accept and allow my feelings to speak for themselves without having to explain or justify. [11:10] I don't have an explanation. I'm just trying to accept and honor my feelings. [13:07] Because we've all been raised with belief systems and expectations, it makes holding space for our feelings challenging. [16:04] This week I'm going to be very aware of when people make "I should" instead of "I feel" statements.   Memorable Quotes: “What feels aligned to you matters more than what makes sense to someone else.” - Mary Tess “I love how when we feel our way forward, there is this expansiveness and we also don't have to justify our answers.” - Mary Tess “Just make peace with your feelings and hold them sacred in your own heart.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

I've always believed that good leadership starts with staying true to yourself. Back when I was managing high-stakes corporate projects, I learned that the only way to turn things around was to lead in a way that felt natural to me, not just copy someone else's approach. That lesson came back to me recently during a challenging moment in a volunteer role that I had held for years. Someone criticized the way I had been running things, and instead of pushing back, I chose to step aside. It wasn't an easy decision, but it gave me the space to reflect on what leadership really means and how sometimes the strongest move is to let someone else step in and learn, even if they stumble a bit along the way. As we go on this week's Wise Walk together, I'm sharing what that experience taught me about boundaries, authenticity, and the value of stepping away when something no longer feels aligned. Where are you currently being asked to lead in your life? When you take on a project, initative or event, do you have full freedom and support to carry it out in a way that feels authentic to you? Do you stay true to your vision when others try to steer you toward a path that feels misaligned? Is there a leadership role where it might be time to step aside for someone more passionate and vocal? Have you led something successfully yet begun hearing restless feedback about doing it differently? If people bring fresh ideas, are you willing to invite them to lead and let their vision unfold? Can you hand off the reins smoothly, set the new leader up for success, and settle into a supportive back seat? How does it feel to ride along, caring about the destination but no longer steering the bus? Can you give the new leader space to stumble and learn just as you once did? As they take charge, can you appreciate how far you've already brought everyone on the journey? Thanks for joining me on this Wise Walk. I hope it reminded you that staying true to yourself is always the best path forward. Until next time, read the signs, direct your path and get your stride on.   In this episode: [08:01] I felt judgment and under attack when this individual criticized how I was leading a project. It was also disheartening because my efforts and leadership benefited many  individuals for over 6 years. [09:18] It was hurtful to hear criticism instead of collaboration and helpfulness. [10:03] I reflected on my professional experience and decided it was time to pass the baton. [11:52] I knew when it comes to leading something that matters, that I can only drive the bus the way I know. [12:34] I want people involved to be part of the solution and not criticize afterwards. [13:14] Taking a step back has freed me to do other things in my life. [15:53] It's important for me to remember the fact that they don't know what they don't know. [17:14] It's always easier to come in on things that you don't have full visibility to. [19:30] I am so grateful for our Wise Walks that give me the ability to self-reflect and process some of these things that go on in my own life and welcome in other's experiences, challenges and perspectives. [20:20] The biggest takeaway for me is to lead your way. Lead authentically and if it's not in alignment, take a step back or get off the bus entirely.   Memorable Quotes: “Clarity comes when you give yourself permission to step back and trust what feels right.” - Mary Tess “Lead in a way that aligns with your truth, not someone else's expectations.” - Mary Tess “Giving others space and grace allows them to stumble, learn, and eventually shine.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

Have you ever started a big project and wondered how you would ever pull it off? I felt that way recently when it came time to prep my house for sale, and just thinking about all the steps involved made the whole thing feel heavy. But then something beautiful happened. A good friend stepped in, and with her help, what once felt impossible started to feel exciting and even fun. On today's Wise Walk, we are talking about what it means to find your “mission impossible” partner, the person who shows up with energy, ideas, and that can-do spirit that makes a daunting task feel doable. We will explore how to spot what is holding you back, how to create space for your dreams, and why the right support can completely change your experience of a challenge. Let's slow down and get real about the power of asking for help, the magic of clearing emotional and physical clutter, and the joy that comes from turning what once felt overwhelming into something light, energizing, and full of possibility. Are you feeling called to do something that feels heavy emotionally, physically, energetically, or spiritually, like a mission impossible? As you sit with that idea, is there someone you can call and say, this is what I am envisioning, dreaming, and being called to do? Can you ask them to help you mission impossible the crap out of it and block time together to make it happen? Are you willing to give yourself the space and time to turn that mission from impossible to possible? When you think about what feels impossible, what is holding you back or weighing you down? Is there a way to lighten that physical, emotional, energetic, or spiritual block so you can move forward? Do you have a sounding board or expert you can call upon for support and fresh ideas? Are you sharing your mission with others who might have time or energy to help you? Who in your life can make your mission not just possible, but fun, light, and energizing? Are you asking the right people who genuinely want to support you and see your mission succeed? Do you have fun-filled people in your life who can help you turn the impossible into possible? Are you willing to share your vision so those who care about you can help bring it to life? I hope you are dreaming big, clearing any blockages, and leaning on the friends and sounding boards who lift you up.    Whenever the timing feels right, take those steps toward making your mission possible.  As always, I would love to hear what you took away from today's episode.   In this episode: [03:46] I'm ready to put my house back on the market. It's stressful being on call to show the house.  [05:11] I've been trying to process the type of experience I want to have. When the realtor calls, I want to take the dogs and go. [06:05] I reached out to my friend Katie. She volunteered to help me mission impossible. [08:00] She has a great eye for real estate. We have been clearing any distractor.  [10:35] I don't love the idea of storage units. In this scenario it's helpful. [12:24] I'm donating stuff to bring other people joy. It feels expansive and lighter.  [14:38] I love the fact that Katie is just as excited to make it happen. [15:10] We can do this in any part of our life. If we figure out the mission and the barriers and who or what can help us. [17:23] I'm super grateful because Katie and I still have five days to continue to our work.   Memorable Quotes: “Making the decision sometimes is the hard part. But following through and clearing things, that's another hard part.” - Mary Tess “We are getting creative. We are working together. And we are making this mission possible.” - Mary Tess “We don't need to change who we are, but we can free up space so others can see the potential for themselves.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value

Ever find yourself walking into a new conversation still carrying the emotional weight of the last one? That happened to me recently, and I could feel my tone and volume were just a little… off. It wasn't anyone else's fault, but I realized I was letting leftover crankiness affect how I showed up—and that simple awareness gave me the chance to pause, laugh, and reset in real time. On today's Wise Walk, we're talking about those all-too-human moments when irritability sneaks up on us, how to spot it before it spills onto others, and what it looks like to course-correct with grace. We'll explore the difference between feeling your feelings and letting them run the show, how to own your energy without shame, and why asking “can we start again?” might be the most powerful phrase in your toolbox. Let's slow down and get real about the beauty of self-awareness, the art of emotional clean-up, and the way honest resets can lead to deeper connection and understanding. Because being human isn't about being perfect—it's about showing up, reflecting, and trying again with love. When you find yourself feeling irritable, touchy, short-tempered, or cranky, can you catch yourself?  Do you have enough self-awareness to say, okay, I'm not myself right now, I'm a little on edge?  If you impact someone because you're off your game, can you make sure they know it's your energy and not theirs that caused it?  Can you own that crankiness and respect the space and moment you're in?  Can you accept your feelings, own your energy, and still care for the people around you in those moments?  Have you ever walked into a new conversation feeling off or cranky and not showing up as your kind, genuine, caring self?  Have you ever been a little abrasive, had more volume or tone than intended, and needed to reset with someone?  Can you take a breath, ask to start again, and forgive yourself for not showing up as your best self in that moment?  Can you acknowledge that one off moment doesn't define who you are?  Can you use those human moments as an opportunity to connect and share vulnerability with others?  Do you have a pattern of sweeping things under the rug and letting it build up until it eventually spills out?  Or are you practicing constant self-cleansing, dealing with your emotions moment by moment?  Can you accept that emotions like crankiness or irritability often stem from something within you?  Can you recognize that your reactions might be related to lack of sleep, stress, or emotional weight you're carrying?  Can you be present with whatever is going on in your life and acknowledge it honestly?  Can you find a way to clear the emotional build-up so you can move forward without tripping over it later? I'd love to hear how crankiness shows up in your life—and more importantly, how your self-awareness helps you move through it.    I look forward to next Thursday for another Wise Walk. Until then, take good care of yourself. Keep reading the signs, directing your path, and getting your Stride On.   In this episode: [05:07] The other day, I had a heated conversation and I was off my game.  [06:06] I met up with some different friends and realized I had an edge to my voice when I was speaking to them. [07:02] I was carrying around the energy from the prior conversation, and I hadn't shaken it off yet. [11:13] A funny story about my mom disciplining her daughters, and my grandmother reminding her not to be quite so harsh. [12:57] How my mom created space for herself and had the self-awareness to know she could have done a little better. [14:08] Even if we're doing the best we can in the moment, we can still have the self-awareness to do better. [17:47] On a personal level, I have been going through it. Our family lost a dear loved one, and that was really hard. Also, my mom is going to have surgery on Wednesday because she fell and fractured a femur. [18:11] There's a lot of unexpected things entering my life. [19:03] I'm grateful for all of my self-awareness practices, so I can realize when I come across as cranky.   Memorable Quotes: “We all have cranky moments in life. They are inevitable. The question is—can we own them?” - Mary Tess “When we sweep things under the rug, they don't disappear. They pile up until they come flying out.” - Mary Tess “Self-awareness is a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger your relationships become.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

Ever felt so overwhelmed that you knew you weren't fully present, but didn't know how to ask for help in the moment? That happened to me during an emotional week when my dog Trooper got seriously ill and in the middle of a conversation with the vet, I realized I just couldn't take it all in alone. On today's Wise Walk we're talking about knowing when to pause, when to call in support, and how to give ourselves permission to not have all the answers. We'll explore what it means to honor your limitations, why asking for help isn't a weakness, and how having a trusted sounding board can help you make better choices, especially in high-stakes or emotional moments. Let's slow down and get real about the power of phoning a friend, tuning into your energy, and creating space for clarity. Because sometimes the strongest thing you can do is ask for support and trust that you're still the one in the driver's seat. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you knew you needed help, whether because you were low on energy or out of your depth? Is there someone in your life who knows you well enough to support you, ask the right questions, and help you navigate your options? What are different choices you can make for yourself in order to create the space you need? Are you willing to ask someone to pause mid-sentence and let them know you're managing something and need a moment? Can you pull someone else into the conversation? Can you phone a friend? Can you have someone else join the meeting? Can you reschedule for a time when you've had more rest and can fully listen? If this idea turns you off, do you know why? Is there something about asking for help that creates a roadblock for you? Is there a situation in your life where you can relate to this and would consider calling someone next time? Can you look at opportunities in your life to ask for help or let a friend know you might call during an appointment? Can you also offer yourself as a phone-a-friend to someone else? Can you flip the script and say who you're available to support? Where in your life are you stuck? Are you afraid to make a decision because you don't want to make the wrong one? Can you give yourself permission to make a wrong decision and trust you can make another? Can you say, here is what I learned, and use that experience to guide your next step? As you continue gathering good information and support, will you give yourself the freedom to keep making choices? Will you allow yourself the space to make as many decisions as needed until you feel aligned, resolved, or fulfilled? I hope you're feeling energized and uplifted as you move through your day. I'm so grateful we had this time to go on a wise walk together, and I'm already looking forward to connecting again next Thursday.   In this episode: [02:39] I had a very difficult week last week. There were things that I wanted to be there for, but that doesn't mean they don't take a toll. [03:28] On top of feeling emotionally low, my dog Trooper got really sick. [05:12] When the vet was explaining all of the options, I knew I needed to phone a friend, because I needed someone to listen to this conversation in partnership with me. [06:45] My Aunt helped me process and make decisions.  [07:39] I love that I was self-aware enough in that moment to realize my own limitations. [09:25] How many times do you feel overwhelmed and realize there's an opportunity to pause and get help? [11:45] The other opportunity where I employ this concept is when I'm going to doctor's appointments that I can get overwhelmed with. [12:38] Bringing different perspectives into a meeting together can give you really beautiful outputs. [15:06] I'm going to continue to look for opportunities to ask for help where I need it and invite others into the conversation. [16:44] When evaluating who you can reach out to when phoning a friend, make sure they have your best interest at heart. [18:17] I'm going to continue to make decisions that benefit me, Trooper, and our family. [19:54] Are you continually checking in with yourself and making sure that you're at your optimal state for making decisions? [20:24] Do you need to call and support if you're not in your optimal state for making decisions?   Memorable Quotes: “I love that I was self-aware enough in that moment to realize my own limitations.” - Mary Tess “Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is ask for support and trust that you're still the one in the driver's seat” - Mary Tess “There are no final decisions. You're like, OK, I made this decision. It didn't work out. I'm going to make another decision.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value

Ever had a gut feeling that something wasn't right, but you didn't want to say anything because you didn't want to rock the boat? That happened to me recently on a night out with friends and it reminded me how often we suppress our instincts to keep others comfortable. On today's Wise Walk we're listening to those inner nudges we so often push aside. We'll talk about what it means to listen to your instincts, how societal norms can condition us to silence them and how honouring that voice inside can lead to more aligned, authentic choices. Let's slow down and explore what it looks like to trust ourselves more – one step at a time. Have you found yourself in a pattern of suppressing your instincts for the sake of others? Are you aware when your instincts surface and how you typically respond to them? Do you fear your instincts because they might make someone else uncomfortable? When a feeling emerges, do you justify it or layer it with logic to avoid acting on it? Is suppressing your instincts serving you, or is it something you want to change? How can you bring more awareness to your instincts and choose which ones to honor? Which instincts feel aligned for you, and which ones feel safer to compartmentalize? Do you know the difference between what feels aligned and what just keeps the peace? Have you been in situations where your fight-or-flight response kicked in? Have you felt unheard or out of alignment, yet stayed quiet to avoid discomfort? Are you filtering your voice or emotions for the benefit of others? Is that practice truly aligned with you, or is it something you'd like to change? When can your instincts serve you—and maybe even benefit others by revealing deeper truths? Where in your life can you honor and thank your natural instincts for showing up? Are you clear on what your true instincts are, or have they been clouded by conditioning? Could you be mistaking thirst for hunger or ignoring cues your body is trying to give you? Where can you return to center, drop into your body, and really give it what it needs? How can you eliminate the noise and distractions to reconnect with your true instincts? As you move through your week, take a moment to reflect—and thank your instincts for showing up, protecting you, and guiding you toward what truly feels aligned.   I'd love to hear what resonated with you from today's episode, so don't hesitate to share. And be sure to join me next Thursday for another Wise Walk Conversation. Until then, prioritize fun, honor those inner nudges, and get your stride on.   In this episode: [02:45] An example of how I spoke up and didn't suppress my instincts in a kind way.  [05:34] How one of my friends was embarrassed by me speaking up and having our needs met. [06:35] We often suppress the instinctual reactions that are good for us. [07:19] Another example from a friend of mine. Why can't we express our feelings? It doesn't have to be a hostile exchange. [10:38] I discuss our natural instincts like eating, drinking, and sleeping. [11:18] Humans have often been conditioned to suppress their instincts. [12:38] Societal creations or norms are what challenge instincts just like the sweetness of donuts as opposed to ripe fruit. [14:13] Interpreting cues from your own body and listening to your instincts. Be mindful of learned behaviors. [15:01] How children aren't inhibited. [16:15] How we may numb ourselves when we're disappointed for not speaking up. [18:08] It's okay not to speak up if you don't feel comfortable. It's important to be present and aware and notice what instincts are surfacing within you.   Memorable Quotes:   “Our instincts are still pure. What challenges that instinct is our societal creations or pressures or norms.” - Mary Tess “It's okay to not speak up if you don't feel comfortable yet. But the most important thing is to be present and aware and notice what instincts are surfacing in you.” - Mary Tess “As children, our instincts are pure and raw and real. Children have that beautiful quality of being just honest and direct.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value

Have you ever gone for a walk with no distractions - no music, no podcasts, just you and your thoughts wandering through nature? That's what I did on my recent trip to Ireland where I spent hours hiking through limestone formations and steep terrain and just allowed myself to be present with whatever thoughts and feelings came up for me along the way. Today we're going to go on one of those Wise Walks together and I'll share a big realization that cemented for me last week. We'll explore how slowing down gives us the opportunity to check in with our reality, have those big “aha” moments and recognize when something no longer serves us - that point where we can finally say “I'm going to make a better choice for myself” and actually do it. So let's slow down, check our reality, and take a wise walk together. How often in your life are you slowing down?   Are you listening to your heartbeat?   Are you listening to your feelings, paying attention to your thoughts, and just seeing what surfaces?   Are you acknowledging and creating some practices so you can unpack those feelings or thoughts in a deep and meaningful way?   Are you journaling on whatever aha moment surfaces, or reaching out to a friend to say, can you be a sounding board?   What practices can you put in place so that when you get triggered or something surfaces, you can make a better choice for yourself?   Where in your life are you putting others' oxygen masks on first?   Is it something you are ready to shift in your life?   Is it something you want to send out a rippling message about, like yes, I did that in the past, but I am done now?   Is there a part of your energy you are ready to take back so you can put your own oxygen mask on first?   Maybe you are already good at putting yourself first, and if so, that is amazing, but is there another opportunity in your life you want to shift?   What are some ways you can own that shift and recognize that if you want others to respond to you differently, it has to start within you?   Are you willing to behave differently, lead differently, and set a new example so that others know how to treat you?   As you make these shifts in your life, are you willing to notice who applauds and supports you, even if it takes a little time?   Are you open to seeing who respects your boundaries and who is surprised when you stop accepting sloppy seconds?   Can you identify the people who say, I am so glad you told me, and yes, I can shift with you?   Can you be mindful of whatever dynamic you are trying to shift, and whether those around you are truly supportive without stealing your energy or discounting your healthy boundaries? We are all evolving and learning to make different choices that better align with who we are becoming. I am so grateful for your support on this journey and for being part of my evolution.   In this episode: [05:13] One of the things I was unpacking in Ireland was whether I was putting myself first or not. [06:09] It's on me to make this shift happen. [08:46] I used to justify when others hurt my feelings. I was putting their feelings first.  [10:19] I decided to speak up for myself when my feelings were hurt, because I want this dynamic to shift within myself.  [11:35] Pushing back felt like a relief and it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. [12:14] I set a healthy boundary, and I'm so proud of myself. [13:16] I love the idea of going on Wise Walks and looking at areas we may want to explore and shift. [15:09] Can we surround ourselves with relationships that want us to put ourselves first?   Memorable Quotes: “Celebrate those moments when you create the ripple, when people start to look at you differently because you are teaching them to treat you differently.” - Mary Tess “You are the one who has to start behaving differently, leading differently, setting that example differently in order for others to treat you differently.” - Mary Tess “If I want them to see that I am worthy of that first position in my own life, then I have to set that example.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

Have you ever been with someone who made you feel completely seen, heard, and safe — like you could just be your full self without any judgment? That's the power of holding space, and that's what we're exploring today. Someone recently asked me what I meant when I used that phrase, and it got me thinking — how often do we really slow down, eliminate distractions, and give someone our full, undivided presence? In this episode, I'm sharing what holding space looks like in practice, how it's shown up in my coaching and personal life, and how you can try it out too — even with your pets. So let's slow down, check our reality, and take a wise walk together. How can you create distraction-free spaces for authentic connection? Who offers you a judgment-free sanctuary, and are you that sanctuary for others? What does truly holding space mean beyond physical presence? How can you listen without trying to fix or interrupt? What prevents you from offering or receiving compassionate presence? How might you transform listening into an act of love and respect? I would love to hear what you took away from today's episode. So feel free to reach out. And until next Thursday's Wise Walk, please be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path and get your stride on.   In this episode: [02:48] I adopted the phrase “holding space” in 2016 when I got my coaching certificate. It just made me very aware of a one-on-one conversation. [03:38] With active listening you have to let go of your ego, focus and be present for the other person. [04:06] Holding space is about showing up without judgment and distractions. [05:46] I am here. I see you. I'm not going to comment. I'm going to give you a safe container to share. [06:45] It's about eliminating distractions and being present.   Memorable Quotes: “Holding space means shutting off the distractions, letting go of my ego, and choosing to be fully present for whatever someone else is experiencing in that moment.” - Mary Tess “Even in the chaos of everyday life, we can create sacred moments just by being intentional with our time, our energy, and our attention.” - Mary Tess “There's nothing more powerful than showing up with an open heart.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value

You know that feeling when a conversation just flows effortlessly, when both people feel seen, heard, and understood? That's no accident. It's something we can actually design in our relationships. I first learned about this concept during my coaching certification, where we practiced something called designing an alliance. It's a simple but powerful way to set clear expectations upfront so both people walk away feeling valued and supported. And recently, I realized just how much this applies to all areas of life, whether it's friendships, family, or even professional connections. In today's episode, I'm sharing how you can use this approach to create more meaningful interactions in your life. Plus, I'll tell you about a dear friend of mine who had this down to an art, so much so that our time together was always intentional and fulfilling. So let's take a Wise Walk together and explore how designing an alliance can help you connect more deeply with the people who matter most. What are the opportunities in your life where you can design an alliance with your family, friends, or co-workers to ensure quality time and mutual appreciation of each other's needs?   Are you setting the stage to communicate what you need in return, and are you doing that in a way that enhances your relationships?   What are the ways you're bringing this concept into your life to create meaningful conversations and exchanges with those around you?   Are there relationships in your life where you naturally design an alliance or upfront contract expectations, and do you do this unconsciously?   Can you take a moment to appreciate and express gratitude for those relationships where you already hold space for each other to grow and feel understood?   In other relationships—whether work or personal—are there opportunities for you to create deeper understanding and communicate more proactively?   How can you honor the fact that we are all constantly evolving, and how can you adjust your communication and agreements to reflect changing needs?   What are the opportunities in your life to experiment with designing an alliance or an upfront contract, and how might this approach change your interactions?  I'd love to hear what resonated with you in today's episode. Feel free to reach out, share your thoughts, and teach me something new—because I'm always curious. And be sure to join me next Thursday for another Wise Walk.   In this episode: [04:06] How my friend JT and I would appreciate maximizing our time together by having an upfront contract when we spent time together.  [05:18] We designed an alliance with an upfront contract that allowed our relationship to grow. [06:09] I have another friend who upfront contracts her priorities of sleep, eating well, and getting exercise. [07:22] Think about whether you have relationships where there are opportunities to create this understanding and communicate proactively about what you both expect.   Memorable Quotes: “Holding space for someone is about ensuring you're on the same page, appreciating the roles you're stepping into, and creating an environment where both people feel heard and understood.” - Mary Tess “When we communicate our needs openly, we create deeper connections and allow our relationships to evolve in a way that serves both people.” - Mary Tess “When we design an alliance, we create space for understanding, respect, and meaningful connection.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

I recently went shopping for hiking boots at REI, and even though I've hiked plenty in my lifetime, I approached it as if I were a total beginner. I have super narrow feet, so finding the right fit is key, but what really surprised me was how much I learned just by getting curious.  The store associate introduced me to a new way to tie my boots called a surgeon's knot, and it completely changed how my shoes fit and feel. What I love about this experience is how it reminded me that even when we think we know something inside and out, there is always room to learn. So for today's Wise Walk, let's slow down, check our reality, and ask ourselves these questions. Where in your life are you advanced or an expert in something, but in this moment, you wonder if you could learn something new? I wonder if there's something that could enhance my experience or if there's new equipment that might support me in a different way. How do I go about learning or confirming that what I already know to be true is still the best practice standard? As you look at your activities, passions, and experiences where you've already gained expertise, is there an opportunity to ask more questions? Is there an opportunity to hire a coach, trainer, or tutor to teach you what they know and help you see it from completely fresh eyes? Is there something you are active in that you've been doing for so long that you've forgotten that sense of fear? Is there an opportunity for you to appreciate that fear in a different way or take on a new challenge to get back into a beginner mindset? Where in your life can you embrace a beginner mindset, see what surfaces, discover where you grow, and explore what blossoms by stepping into new challenges or perspectives? I invite you to get curious in your own life and explore where you can step into a beginner mindset. See what new opportunities unfold and what other aspects of you blossom as a result.     Thank you for listening and for joining me on this Wise Walk. I look forward to our next conversation next Thursday, so be sure to tune in. Until then, prioritize fun and keep embracing the journey.   In this episode: [02:05] I love that, the gentleman helping me suggested a surgeon's knot. I'm learning and now I can apply it to other shoes.  [03:55] The knot helps eliminate the give when hiking. [04:21] I love the interaction. I learned a new trick and I also got curious about where else in my life I can start asking questions. [06:05]  When I was a ski instructor I was resistant to learn how to snowboard. When I finally relented and learned how to snowboard I also became a better ski instructor. [07:40] Snowboarding helped me learn to relate to my students' fear. [09:00] I would like to get curious about and jump into the beginner's mindset and learn pickleball. I would also like to explore golf.   Memorable Quotes: “Even when we think we know something inside and out, there's always room to learn.” - Mary Tess “By staying curious and embracing new challenges, you can grow in unexpected ways.” - Mary Tess “Get curious in your own life. See where you can step into this beginner mindset and discover what other aspects of you blossom as a result.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value

I'm headed to the United Kingdom, specifically Wales, to watch a Wrexham football match. Wrexham is in the European Football League, which we Americans call soccer, and it's been incredibly exciting. I don't know if you've seen the Netflix documentary by Ryan Reynolds and Rob McElhenney, but they bought this team, and it's been amazing to watch them evolve and earn promotions. They've been doing really well, and it's a blast to cheer them on. I wouldn't have discovered Wrexham or its strong sense of community if not for my good friends, Jenn  and Cass. They live on the West Coast, and we've known each other for over 28 years. I haven't seen them in person since before COVID, which is more than five years ago.  What I love about this Wrexham excitement is how it has reconnected us in a meaningful way. We've always been friends and supported each other, but this shared interest reignited and deepened our bond. So for today's Wise Walk, let's slow down, check our reality, and ask ourselves these questions. What relationship in your life do you want to rekindle, reconnect, or reinvigorate? What shared interests might you bring in to energize it? How can you approach it differently and find new common ground? Could setting aside time for consistent reunions, virtual or in person, help? How can you reinvigorate meaningful relationships that have faded due to time, distance, or busyness? What steps can you take to refocus them in your life? Is there someone in your life that you would love to share one of your passions with? Do you think of a person often, still talk on the phone, and stay connected, but feel that life has evolved? What new interest could you find to bond over and elevate your conversations? How can you get energized and find reasons to show up and do things together, either in person or virtually? How can you grow together and show up for each other in this rekindled connection? How can you support each other as you reestablish and strengthen your friendship? What steps can you take to ensure your rekindled connection keeps getting better over time? Is there a relationship in your life that maintains deep connections across time, distance, and space? Have you expressed to that person how important your connection is to you? Have you let them know you appreciate being in this together and look forward to evolving together? Are you open to finding new shared interests to strengthen your bond? Do you make an effort to learn about what's happening in their life beyond your shared interests? How can you show up and pay more attention to deepen your connection? What is the rhythm of your relationships and how can you honor that rhythm to keep them alive? Are you in a relationship where you can naturally ebb and flow, calling and catching up as you can? Do you need to be more scheduled and intentional about securing time to nurture your relationship? Can you plan a joint activity that you both look forward to, whether it's local or abroad? How can you maintain consistent touchpoints while also planning special events to cherish together? What steps can you take to create a balance between regular communication and memorable shared experiences? As we wrap up, remember to stay curious and open-minded in your relationships. Embrace new opportunities for joy and fun, allowing your connections to evolve while fostering personal growth.    Keep the spirit of friendship alive, whether you're cheering for your favorite team or embarking on your own adventures. Until our next Wise Walk, tune in every Thursday for a new episode.    In this episode: [03:46] A quick recap of my relationships with Jenn and Cass. [05:13] We've reunited because of our shared interest in football. [06:02] It's so nice to know that you can rekindle a relationship and that passion you share spans time and distance. [07:51] I'm in Northern Florida and Jenn and Cass are in Northern California. We're 3,000 miles apart and Wales is across the pond. [08:30] Technology has a beautiful way of bringing us all together. [10:59] I'm excited about the match and a reunion with Jenn. Unfortunately, Cass isn't going to be able to make the trip.  [11:31] We are open to appreciating the friends we have, and expanding and growing our circles. [14:14] It's important to be open and curious in relationships.   Memorable Quotes: “When you have a relationship with those deep roots, and even if life has evolved and things have changed, it's so easy to reestablish that connection with just a little bit of spark.” - Mary Tess “It's beautiful when you can figure out what is the rhythm of the relationships and how can you keep them alive honoring that rhythm.” - Mary Tess “We are at a phase in life where we are appreciating the friends we have. And then we're also growing in relationships with individuals that share common interests.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

I had an unexpected moment this week that made me stop and reflect. My trusty 2019 MacBook Pro - my sidekick through writing a book, producing this podcast and countless creative projects - finally reached the end of the road. As I stood at the Apple Store and heard the words “It's time to say goodbye” I felt an emotional pang I didn't expect. Why is letting go so hard even when we know we need to? What happens when we hold on too tightly to things - objects, identities, relationships, beliefs - that have served us well but no longer serve us? In this episode we explore the art of releasing what no longer fits so we can make space for what's next. We'll talk about embracing change, honouring the past with gratitude and stepping into new phases of life with intention. I'll share some personal stories about outgrowing old habits, shifting perspectives and the freedom that comes with leaving the past behind. Join me on this Wise Walk as we look at what we're ready to release and how we can step forward with clarity and confidence.  Even when it is hard to let something go, can you find gratitude for the growth it brought you?  Can you appreciate everything that item, relationship, or experience gifted you during your time with it?  Can you honor it, release it, and make space for something new in your life?  Are you ready to step into the new version of yourself that you are evolving into? What do you need to let go of right now?  Is there something you are holding onto too tightly because it has gotten you to where you are today?  How can you release it?  What do you want to invite into that space intentionally? Instead of leaving it to chance, what are you consciously welcoming in? Are there relationships in your life that no longer feel aligned, and would you benefit from releasing them to make space for new ones?  Are there interests that were once part of your identity but no longer serve you, even though they brought you joy?  Are you in a different phase of life where new interests might better serve you?  Are there beliefs, thought patterns, or ideas that no longer support your growth, and are you open to releasing them?  Do you feel shame about things you shouldn't, or compare yourself to others in ways that hold you back?  Are you holding onto clothing, habits, or identities that once served you but no longer align with who you are becoming?  Can you open yourself up to growth, expansion, and new possibilities by letting go of what no longer fits? I'd love to hear about the changes you are intentionally making to create space for growth and expansion. Share what's on your heart and how you plan to move forward.    As always, I'd love to know what resonated with you from today's episode. Feel free to reach out and share your thoughts. I look forward to hearing from you.   In this episode: [02:39] I was attached to my old computer, because of all I accomplished with it. I know it's time to grow and embrace the new. [03:58] Healthy plants need to be transferred to larger pots or they won't be able to grow. We need to create space for expansion. [05:23] There are so many things I've outgrown from heels to relationships. [06:50] With each release we can grow more and more into the people that we are meant to be. [07:08] I've also outgrown shame. [08:24] I'm also embracing my gray hair and the idea of who I once was. [10:03] It took me a while to accept and release that I became a walker and a hiker instead of a runner. [11:44] It's a beautiful thing when we can let go of what we want and possessions that got us where we are. [14:09] Let's just honor where we are. Let's give gratitude for the growth in your life, whether it is forced upon you or of your own choosing.   Memorable Quotes: “Even when it is hard to let something go, can you find gratitude for the growth it brought you?” - Mary Tess “We are all in this perpetual evolution, looking to release things in order to reach our highest and best selves.” - Mary Tess “Every phase of life invites us to shed the old and step into the new with clarity and confidence.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value

Last week was Valentine's Day and as I ran errands I saw so many emotions about this holiday. At one store I saw people sending beautifully packaged gifts to their loved ones and at another I heard someone complaining about how much they hate the day and find it stressful or depressing.  These conversations led to a fun realization that many things like Valentine's Day are just social constructs, things we attach emotions to for better or for worse. This got me thinking: What else in life do we accept as given when in reality we have the power to redefine our experience? In this episode we explore how social agreements like holidays and traditions affect our emotions, and how our personal experiences shape our perception of certain events. We'll talk about how to reclaim control over expectations and create meaning that aligns with our values. I'll also share a new way to celebrate love not just on Valentine's Day, but everyday and give you questions to help you examine what's really important in your life. Join me on this Wise Walk as we talk about societal expectations and how we can choose to shape our own reality. As you reflect on Valentine's Day, what emotions surface?   Are they highs, lows, or somewhere in between?   Does your experience change year to year based on what's happening in your life?   Why do you think this holiday affects your energy so strongly?   How does the idea of love and caring influence your feelings about this holiday?   Where are you giving your power away?   What do you want to do about it?  How do you want to design this day in your life?   How can you take it one step further and apply this beyond Valentine's Day?   How are you designing your daily life around constructs that influence your energy?   Can you recognize how these agreements shape your emotions?   Can you shift them in a way that better serves you?   Can you make strategic decisions to create a different experience for yourself?   What feelings surface for you, and what choices or actions can you take to shift your energy?  What areas of your life do you want to explore to determine what is made up and what is truly serving you?   What can you start to examine and peel back to understand what is real?   What is rooted in an agreement you made that you still want to honor?   What is rooted in an agreement that no longer aligns with you?   What steps can you take to change what no longer serves you?   Where can you get curious about the belief systems or constructs shaping your life?   How can you use them to your benefit so they align with you?   How can you let go of what no longer serves you?  I'm so grateful you join me on these Wise Walks each week. So whether it's Valentine's Day, a Valentine's year, or even a Valentine's decade, let's celebrate love, appreciation, and self-love in whatever way feels right to you.    I hope this episode gave you a fresh perspective and the freedom to create your own rules, or let go of the ones that no longer bring you joy. Stay curious, stay true to yourself, and I'll see you on our next Wise Walk.   In this episode: [04:03]  As I reflect back, I realize there's a lot of pressure around this holiday. I feel differently about it now that I'm single. [05:15] My friend had a similar experience. Acknowledging people with a loving heart centered connection makes them light up. [06:58] I was thinking of ways to practice self love and self care on Valentine's Day and make up my own rules. [07:19] I was even thinking about getting my taxes done as a way to practice self-love. [09:15] What is real? So much is rooted in agreement as made up rules. [10:50] In my conversations with Paul Cuneo, I'm exploring what is made up, what is true, and what is coded. [13:56] Peeling back names and labels of religions out there, you realize a lot of the belief systems are more similar than not, but coded language creates differences, which are not necessarily true and real. [14:27] We're all entitled to our individual experiences. [15:11] Deadlines are made up. Often we need them in order to get things done.   Memorable Quotes: “Valentine's Day is every day. I don't need a holiday to mark loving and caring and nurturing.” - Mary Tess “You are completely entitled to your individual experience. I am entitled to my individual experience.” - Mary Tess “There are so many things that are made up in this lifetime, like truly made up. There are made up constructs. There are made up holidays. And we attach emotions to them.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value   Paul Cuneo: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-cuneo   PaulWrites.media  

When I first started yoga and became a teacher in 2009, one of the biggest lessons I learned was to leave your ego at the door. In the spiritual world, we talk about the dangers of the ego, how it can make us competitive, resistant to feedback, or push us into things that don't feel aligned. I loved that perspective at the time. It reminded me yoga isn't about keeping up with anyone else. It's just you and the mat.   But over the years, I've come to realize something else. The ego isn't something to overcome. It's us. It gives us confidence, drives us to achieve, and when in balance, helps us move forward with purpose. So for today's Wise Walk, let's slow down and check in with ourselves. How do we see the ego? Have we been conditioned to see it as bad, or can we start to see its healthy, positive role in our lives?  When you hear someone bring up the ego in conversation, do you automatically see it as a negative?   Have you been taught to believe the ego prevents authenticity and real relationships?   When was the last time you stopped to appreciate the positive aspects of your ego?   Can you slow down and notice all the ways the ego supports you in healthy ways?   Can we acknowledge the healthy side of the ego? Where in your life have you done something that surprised and delighted you? Do you take time to acknowledge it? Do you share your success with others and say, "Hey, this turned out better than I expected, and I'm really pleased with how it turned out"? Can you give yourself that acknowledgment because it's genuine? Can you recognize that it's authentic and not about diminishing anyone else's power or contributions? Can you take a moment to appreciate and express gratitude for how far you've come? If you have a healthy relationship with your ego and acknowledge your successes, do you also take time to laugh at the moments when you fall short or fail? Can you put your ego aside and say, "You know what, I'm not perfect," and accept that as part of life? Can you stay in balance by appreciating both your achievements and the times you fall short? Can you recognize that missing the mark is okay because there will always be more opportunities to try? If you're honest about your failures, can you see how much you've learned from them? What has been your experience or understanding of the ego? Have you been influenced by the idea that ego should always be checked and seen as negative? Can you appreciate and thank the ego for all it does in your life? Can you recognize how the ego can serve both you and others in a positive way? Can you find balance by setting your ego aside when it's not serving you and embracing it when it is? Thank you for joining me on this Wise Walk. I'd love to hear what resonated with you from today's episode. I hope you continue to grow and appreciate the healthy aspects of your ego as you move forward. Join me next Thursday for another conversation.   In this episode: [03:30] When we think about ego, we don't necessarily highlight the positives. It really helps us with our self-esteem and gives us self-confidence. [04:21] If we are focused on achieving for the right reasons, the ego can't be bad. [05:23] If we can capture the child-like essence and be purely proud of when we achieve something in a way that brings joy, that's a healthy type of ego. [06:43] It's okay to appreciate how well something turns out. [08:16] One of the areas in my life where I'm acknowledging my ego driven success is in my cooking. [09:57] Having balance is the key point in managing or appreciating our ego. [12:19] A story about my mom being so proud of not falling while ice skating, which led to a lesson in stretching boundaries and trying new things.  [13:51] I love this story, because it gave me permission to try things and fail or fall.  [15:38] I love how the spiritual world has brought an awareness of ego and not trying to eliminate it, but to increase awareness. [16:11] The duality of ego is important because without contrast we don't know which way to go. [17:35] Don't get triggered by a side of the ego that's not serving you. [18:13] Acknowledge the ego in ways that serve us in healthy ways and when it needs to be checked.   Memorable Quotes: “The ego gives us our self-belief and our self-confidence to go after things that we really want. The ego also helps drive us to achieve.” - Mary Tess “I grew up knowing that it was OK to fail. It was OK to just literally fall, but we had to keep trying.” - Mary Tess “We nurture the positive side of the ego when we try new things, allowing us to build self-belief and confidence.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value

One of the things I've talked about before is how I've learned to pay attention to the small stuff, the stuff that feels like more than coincidence. Over the years, I've noticed patterns, symbols and signs that show up, just when I need them. The more I've leaned into this awareness, the more I've realized these small moments can bring comfort, reassurance and even direction. A friend texted me about a white feather that showed up on her car dashboard, pristine and perfectly placed. This reminded me of how I used to dismiss the small stuff as random but later learned to see the meaning. I also started thinking about the role of signs in our lives and how they can be reminders that we are supported and never alone. In this episode, I share my own stories of unexpected signs, like finding pennies everywhere I went and how they led me to a deeper sense of connection. I also share stories from friends who found meaning in butterflies, frogs, numbers and even songs, all of which led us to feel close to loved ones who had passed. Today's Wise Walk encourages you to slow down, check in with yourself and get curious about the signs around you. Do you ever find yourself noticing something that seems out of the ordinary and wonder if it's a sign?   When you notice a sign, do you take time to appreciate it, reflect on its meaning, or express gratitude for it?   If you don't usually notice signs, are you open to the possibility of them?   Are there opportunities for you to pay closer attention and recognize things that stand out in unexpected ways?   What do you think a particular sign might mean for you? What signs are showing up for you, and which ones do you want to give meaning to? When you receive these messages, do you take a moment to acknowledge and appreciate them? Do you express gratitude for the signs you notice? How do you recognize and welcome these signs so they continue to appear when you need them? Are there signs appearing in your life, whether through numbers, animals, or objects like feathers or pennies? What are some consistent, unexpected events or reminders that feel meaningful to you right now? Is there something weighing on you, or do you seek comfort, protection, or alignment in some way? Once you give meaning to a sign, can you have fun with it and embrace the playful side? Can you actively look for more of these signs when you need reassurance or guidance? Thanks for joining me today. I would love to hear what resonated with you, what signs you notice in your life, and what they mean to you. I always enjoy learning from your experiences and getting curious together.    If you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to tune in next Thursday for another Wise Walk. Until then, stay open, stay curious, and keep noticing the signs around you.   In this episode: [02:44] The first time I started to appreciate signs, I was finding pennies all over the place. [04:00] I thought the pennies were a sign from a higher power, but I didn't know what they were trying to tell me. [05:03] I love that many of us feel a presence or connection and are open to receiving messages from beyond in whatever shape or form. [06:04] When my friend's sister was passing on, she said if you see butterflies it's me. Her family saw butterflies in all kinds of shapes and forms. [07:01] The signs were all over the place, and it gave the family great comfort. [08:03] I love the acceptance and receiving of signs that lift us up. The more we notice, the more we receive. [08:59] We all have ups and downs in life. These signs can be so comforting. [09:50] White feathers generally mean an angelic presence or protection. [12:18] Sometimes when I'm in a rough patch and need a reminder that I'm not alone, I'll just start looking for pennies. [14:02] I love that we can communicate our inner wants and needs and be surprised and delighted when we're open to receiving. [15:09] Start noticing any patterns that consistently show up for you. [16:22] If you think you've received a sign, you have.   Memorable Quotes: “The more we notice, the more we receive. And when we acknowledge these moments with gratitude, they have a way of showing up just when we need them most.” - Mary Tess “If something catches your attention and makes you pause, trust that it's meant for you. The universe has a way of speaking in whispers—you just have to listen.” - Mary Tess “Sometimes, all we need is a little reminder that we are loved, protected, and supported. Those reminders are all around us if we choose to see them.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

If you're new to this podcast, I'm so glad you're here. One of the things I've shared in prior episodes is that I have been managing a bone marrow cancer diagnosis since 2002—that's 23 years and counting. It's been a journey filled with highs and lows, but right now, I'm in a good phase where my blood levels are stable. Even so, I still check in with my doctors regularly, staying in a watch-and-wait phase to monitor my health. During a recent doctor's visit, a new physician assistant looked over my medical history and, with curiosity, remarked, “You're quite interesting.” That moment sparked today's conversation about what it means to be different, to not fit the mold, and to embrace that uniqueness as a strength. In this episode, I share why I've taken a different approach to my health and how it's worked for me, along with the importance of celebrating what makes you unique rather than seeing it as a setback. I talk about how we can find connection and community even when our experiences don't perfectly align, as I've discovered through my involvement with the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society.  I also explore how breaking patterns can lead to new discoveries and perspectives, and why innovation often comes from those who challenge the norm. Most importantly, I reflect on the power of self-trust and the freedom that comes with honoring your own path instead of following what's expected. Whether it's in health, career, or personal growth, we all have moments where we deviate from the standard—but can we embrace it? Can we see it as an opportunity rather than an obstacle? Today's wise walk invites you to reflect on where you've stepped outside the norm, how it's shaped your journey, and where you might want to break the mold next. Where in your life do people say, "Oh, you are quite interesting!" When they say it, what is your emotional or energetic reaction? Do you feel taken aback because they are differentiating you from the norm? Are you able to embrace your uniqueness and the qualities that make you stand out? Can you celebrate your uniqueness as a superpower? How do you want to respond energetically and emotionally when people recognize how interesting you are? When you reflect on a time in your life when you deviated from the norm, what has worked for you? Have you noticed any advantages in doing things differently? Do you manage a team in a way that sets you apart from others? Are you highly skilled in an area but approach it differently than those before you? What in your life do you want to deviate from?   Where do you want to set a new standard or raise the bar? Is there something you've always done a certain way but feel there's a better approach?   What do you have to lose by trying something new?   Are you willing to believe in yourself and honor your uniqueness?   Can you embrace being an anomaly and confidently step outside the norm? Where are you deviating from the norm?   Where can you find a community that supports you?   How can you connect with others through shared understanding and appreciation?   What opens up for you when you embrace your uniqueness?   How does recognizing your individuality change your perspective on yourself? Thank you so much for going on this Wise Walk with me today and for sharing my story. Oh, and my results are strong! I'm staying consistent, and while I still have to check in with my doctor every six months, everything is looking good.    So we're going to celebrate that too. Thank you, thank you for being a part of this Strider's community!   In this episode: [04:58] At first, I was a little bit taken aback because this was the first time I was meeting that doctor. Then I agreed that I am interesting because I don't fit the norm. [06:08] I want to celebrate my uniqueness. [07:35] Can we honor deviations when we feel called? [08:34] My nephew has started playing golf. He uses a traditional grip, but a famous golfer decided to deviate from the norm and now he's revered for his grip. [10:03] It only takes one person to show something new to inspire the rest of us. [11:31] There is excitement about having commonality with people. [12:03] Not fitting the norm or being an outlier can make us feel alone. [13:07] There will always be pros and cons to being unique. [15:35] Sometimes groundbreaking discoveries result from our unique deviation. [16:32] I want to encourage you to deviate from the standard if you feel called to.   Memorable Quotes: “Celebrating your uniqueness is not just about accepting who you are, but recognizing that what makes you different is also what makes you powerful.” - Mary Tess “Not being the norm can be a really great thing, because when you step outside of expectations, you create space for new possibilities and discoveries that wouldn't exist otherwise.” - Mary Tess “Honoring the choices that feel right for you, even when they don't align with conventional wisdom, is an act of self-trust and self-care.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

In our last episode, we explored faith in action, and how powerful faith-based practices help guide our lives. Afterward, a Strider reached out with reflections on communicating through prayer, sparking a deeper dive into the connections and distinctions between prayer, meditation, and manifestation. Another listener then asked if we could unpack manifestation even more. They had dreams for 2025 and wanted to learn how to incorporate manifestation into their daily life. That's what I love about this True Stride community. Each week, as we go on this journey together, you help me drop into my heart, ground myself, and re-center on what's happening and what matters. These Wise Walks are about checking our reality, noticing what works, releasing what no longer aligns, and intentionally attracting what we want to create. For today's Wise Walk, I thought we could slow down, check our reality, and focus on what we want to manifest in our life as a way to be intentional about moving forward.  What are your goals for 2025? What goals are tugging at your heartstrings? If money and limitations were not factors, what would you seek? What do you truly desire? What do you dream of calling forward into your life this year? What would make a big difference for you in 2025? What choices and actions can you take to help manifest your goal?   What path can you create to bring your vision to life?   Who can help you along the way?   How can you send a clear message to the universe that you are serious about your goal?  What are the statements for your buckets of goals? How can you feel the “feels” and write your statements in an "I am,” it's already happening mindset?  How can you envision your goals coming to life?  What choices and actions will you take to back up your vision? I'd love to hear your takeaways from today's episode, so feel free to reach out and share.    If you have suggestions for next week's podcast, keep them coming. I love connecting with you and hearing your thoughts.    Thank you for being part of this amazing Striders Community and for helping us grow and evolve together.   In this episode: [04:11] The number one thing that I'm drawn to this year is the idea of freedom. I spent 2024 trying to purge distractions and things weighing me down whether they be physical, emotional, spiritual, or energetic. [05:40] "I am light, high energy, and grounded thanks to my simple and clutter-free life." [06:36] What is a statement that you can create to get 1% closer or 1% more aligned every single day? [07:17] The part of manifestation that I love is that once you sit down and write your statements, that feel aligned, you move into your heart. [08:31] I love how the universe is supporting me and selling my van. This will make my life more fluid and frictionless. [09:20] We want to create the mindset that things are getting better and better. [10:37]  Another manifestation goal I have is related to my health. [11:32] "My teeth are beautiful, strong and healthy. I only visit dentists for cleanings every six months." [13:07] I love the balance of being intentional and backing it up with other actions. [14:02] I've written out 19 manifestation statements, and one of them is about this podcast and my relationship to you listeners. Memorable Quotes: “If we got 1% more aligned every single day, then by the end of the year, we are 365 days closer to our goal.” - Mary Tess “The more we can envision it, the more we feel it, and the more the universe responds to that.” - Mary Tess “I love that balance of how we can be intentional and then also back it up with choices and actions.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

In our last episode, we explored the profound connection found through prayer and how a simple daily habit between me and my mom turned into a practice of faith and intention. This week, thanks to feedback from a Strider, we're going deeper into faith-based practices.  Have you ever wondered about the differences—and the similarities—between prayer, meditation and manifestation? In this episode I'll break down these three concepts and how each one connects us to ourselves, our intentions and something bigger. Get ready to reflect, realign and discover new ways to bring these practices into your daily life as we go on this Wise Walk together. What is your understanding of prayer, meditation, and manifestation?   How do you incorporate these faith-based techniques into your daily life?   When do you feel called or drawn to manifest?   When do you feel called or drawn to meditate?   What experiences or reasons have led you to seek prayer or offer intentions for someone you love? What are examples in your life where you practice faith in action?   How do you incorporate faith in action techniques to feel grounded, supported, and present in your life?   What does faith mean to you?   Who or what do you have complete trust in, allowing you to surrender and release expectations?   How do you incorporate meditation, prayer, or manifestation into your life?  What is one faith-based practice you want to incorporate right now?   What is one prayer you can say for yourself to ask for support and be open to receiving it?   Where in your day can you incorporate meditation, whether it's walking, silent, or guided, to find inner calm and peace?   What is one manifestation statement you will create, say, and write to envision it as already present in your life?   How can you incorporate that manifestation statement into your daily practice to remind yourself that everything you need is already within you?  As always, I'd love to hear your thoughts and takeaways from today's episode. Feel free to reach out with your comments and questions—I truly appreciate being part of a community that's open to growth and reflection through these Wise Walks.     I'm looking forward to our conversation next Thursday, so be sure to tune in. Until then, be sure to prioritize fun, as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your stride strong. See you soon!    In this episode: [04:06] I love how this question got me thinking about how I apply (or can apply) meditation, manifestation, and prayer into my life. [05:23] With prayer we're looking to a higher power. In meditation, we have complete trust in ourselves. [06:25] Manifestation directs faith internally, because it's our action for framing positive thoughts and intention in a way to attract that thing we are seeking. [07:09] All three of these practices involve faith. [10:06] When I incorporate these things into my life some of them are proactive and some are reactive. [11:11] I can use prayer in a variety of forms, even when I'm teaching yoga. [12:01] Meditation is very grounding for me. I direct my faith inward and create stillness in the moment. [12:45] I incorporate manifestation when I feel my heartstrings getting pulled in a direction, and there's something specific I'm working on or working towards.   Memorable Quotes: “The definition of faith for me is complete trust in someone or something.” - Mary Tess “When we look at prayer, typically we have faith in a higher power or in a universal energy or spirit.” - Mary Tess “In meditation, we have complete trust in ourselves. We are leading ourselves on an experience to be present, to seek inner peace, to go within and experience stillness, go within and experience deep relaxation to quiet our mind.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

I've been thinking about prayer, what prayer means to some of us who practice it. Prayer in its simplest form is a conduit, a way to communicate, to reach out for guidance, support or forgiveness. Whether we're seeking comfort for ourselves or someone we love, prayer opens the door to connection and vulnerability. On this Wise Walk let's slow down and look at how prayer, whether rooted in faith, intention or personal reflection, can help us release, clarify and tap into our purpose. We'll look at how asking for help and being open to receive can change not only how we feel but how we show up in the world. Join me as we embrace prayer as a tool for love, healing and connection. What is something weighing on you that feels heavy or emotionally charged?   What is one thing you can ask for to help lift that weight and feel open to receiving support?   If you're feeling energized and in a good place, is there someone in your life who is struggling and could use help?   What is something you can ask on their behalf to help them receive support or guidance?  Are you open to asking for support, encouragement, or guidance to help you feel more connected to your purpose and what's calling you?   Can you embrace the possibility of hope by being open to asking for what you need?   Are you open to receiving, even if it's not exactly what you envision, but possibly something better?   Can you remain open to what comes your way, knowing it aligns with what you are seeking and need?   Do you recognize that by benefiting yourself, you also create benefits for others, as we all rise together?   Can you be open to both asking and receiving?  Was there a line in my and mom's created prayer that resonated with you and inspires you to personalize it?   What intention can you create today to begin your own communication with the universe?   What can you ask for to align yourself with the right path and desired outcome?   How can you remain open to receiving guidance and direction toward your purposeful life?   What is the next step that will bring you closer to living with intention and purpose?  As we wrap up, I'm sending good vibes, prayers, and positive energy your way as you continue to evolve on your beautiful path. I hope you'll join me for next Thursday's Wise Walk. If something in today's episode resonated with you, I'd love to hear from you—leave a review or send me a note. Until then, keep moving forward with intention, and I'll see you on the next Wise Walk!   In this episode: [02:56] I talk about how my mother and I would pray every morning. [04:06] Faith is powerful because you don't feel alone. [06:13] Making up our own prayers is a powerful way to communicate with our life force and energy. [07:44] Prayer is a powerful conduit of communication. [10:30] Praying with someone or a community creates a bond. [12:12] Prayer also keeps us humble. [13:11] It also offers comfort and supports our emotional needs. [15:15] Help for being purposeful and living your best life. [16:53] A friend of mine who is a beautiful singer and songwriter is going to help me put my prayer into song. [17:17] There's a theme of asking for protection, guidance, healing, and more. [18:41] Create your own prayers and way of communicating with the universe. I share our prayer created by mom and me.    Memorable Quotes: “Releasing what we were holding onto so tightly allows us to invite in support and guidance to get closer to what we feel called to.” - Mary Tess “Put your intentions out there and call upon your holy family, your angels, your ancestors for direction.” - Mary Tess “Whatever it is that we are seeking, ultimately, prayer is that conduit or that vessel to open ourselves up to ask for help and then also open ourselves up to receive.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

Striders, today's Wise Walk is a bit more mellow as I'm still dealing with some lingering upper respiratory inflammation from the holiday chaos and unexpected challenges like the environmental effects of a new roof. As I've been slowing down, resting and prioritizing self-care, life has brought me face to face with another kind of weight: grief. From the loss felt by loved ones who have lost those they love to the changes brought by divorce, aging and changes in our abilities, these moments remind us how deeply love and loss are connected. On this Wise Walk, let's pause to explore the connection between love and grief and how acknowledging this duality can bring us closer to healing and understanding. Join me as we take a moment to reflect, recharge and honor these feelings together. What emotions are surfacing for you as the holidays bring comparisons to past celebrations or moments of loss? Where in your life are you noticing elements of grief, pain, or loss? Do you want to use this Wise Walk to draw awareness to your grief and explore ways to heal or reframe it? How can you hold grief as a sacred acknowledgment of the love you once felt and cherished? Instead of suppressing pain or sadness, can you acknowledge grief in a healthy way that brings peace? How might you choose to understand grief differently or allow it to support your growth? How do you want to spend time acknowledging the grief and love present in your life? What supports you when you experience loss, pain, or grief? What helps you connect with those emotions in a space of love and acknowledgment? How do you create sacred space to feel your emotions without judgment? How do you help those around you manage their emotions with curiosity and appreciation? How can we foster understanding and acceptance so others don't feel judged or rushed? How can we grow stronger together through love and shared support? As we wrap up today's episode, my hope for you is that you're surrounded by big, powerful, loving emotions. May any grief you've experienced feel distant or serve as a gentle reminder of the strength and impact of the love you've given and received. I'd love to hear your takeaways from today's Wise Walk and how you create space for both love and grief in your life. As always, I'm looking forward to our next journey together. A new year is just around the corner, and I'm excited about what we can co-create in the days ahead.   In this episode: [07:08] I love it when you're in the mindset of trying to understand and experience what you're feeling. I've been trying to understand grief and loss and how hard it is to know what to say. [08:02] Joe Van Niekerk posted about how grief isn't something you get over or move on with. Pain isn't weakness. Heartache doesn't mean we're broken. [10:10] I've been encouraging myself to feel loss in a way that encourages the love that I have. [11:01] Is there a way to surrender the judgment, shame, and negative mindset around grief and loss? [12:41] Can you be a supportive presence for someone you know who's experiencing grief for loss? [13:59] I was shocked and saddened by some of the losses my circle of loved ones have experienced. [15:50] It's a delicate balance to feel what we feel and not fall apart while possibly reframing our grief. [17:45] My big takeaway from our Wise Walk today is just this idea of love is ever-evolving, as is grief. And holding sacred space, we can grow stronger and evolve in ways that are just more aligned for us and for all of those around us.   Memorable Quotes: “I love this idea of not looking at grief or pain or suffering or heartache in this negative context, but kind of reframing it to say that we are experiencing those things because we loved so much.” - Mary Tess “I wouldn't be sad from the emotions if I wasn't so invested in the love that I shared.” - Mary Tess “The contrast we experience is also a great reminder to cherish those moments, to cherish those humans that have touched us.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

It's been a crazy holiday season, and this year has been no exception for me. I just got back from New York and it was a whirlwind of catching up with people I hadn't seen in ages. I stayed up late, got up early and packed as much in as I could. It was so much fun but now I'm paying the price. So if you're wondering what's up with my voice I have a cold and my body is telling me to slow down. So on today's Wise Walk I want to focus on the importance of rest, taking time to recharge and creating space to recover when life gets too crazy. Let's take a moment to pause and reflect. Are you in need of rest? Do you feel like the holidays and the end of the year have made you busier than usual? Do you need to incorporate more downtime? Could you benefit from some peaceful relaxation? Do you need to create space to take a break, recover, and refresh yourself mentally, emotionally, or physically? What does rest look like for you? How do you hold space and recover if you've been doing too much for too long? What are the ways you can incorporate a moment, a day, or even a week of rest? What does the word "rest" mean to you? Does rest mean taking a nap? Does it mean listening to music, going for a walk, or being in nature? Does it mean reading a book, getting a massage, or completely disconnecting from screens? Could it involve stepping away from email or your computer? Does it mean incorporating something restorative and unique to you, like pottery or something artistic? What practices can you add to your life to recharge and feel truly rested? Thank you for joining me today. I'm taking a moment to recharge, and I hope you'll do the same. During this busy holiday season, think about how you can be present for yourself and give back to yourself in ways that feel aligned.  I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's episode, so feel free to reach out. I'll be back next Thursday for another wise walk, hopefully feeling and sounding better. Until then, prioritize fun, enjoy the holiday season, and remember to read the signs, direct your path, and get your stride on.   In this episode: [03:38] The word rest has multiple meanings. In music, it's a rest bar. Even in music they incorporate rest. [04:07] Sometimes we overlook rest and the importance of slowing ourselves down. [05:02] One of the ways I like to enter a rest period is through meditation. My meditation routine really set me up for success. [07:03] Meditation grounds and centers me and helps me to not stress. [08:11] None of us are meant to do constant repetitive things day after day without resting. [09:19] Sundays are a day of rest and reflection for people who are religious. You don't have to be religious in order to incorporate a day of rest. [11:02]  Another way I incorporate rest in my life physically is fasting. It's a rest period for the digestive system. [12:20] Where do you feel over exertion? Can you dial it back or step away? [14:08] Can we do our relationship a service and take a beat or go inward? [15:19] Resting is a unique individual experience for all of us.   Memorable Quotes: “We are the only ones that can take a beat, literally, and say, okay, I'm going to pause. I'm going to breathe. I'm going to go for a walk. I'm going to take a nap.” - Mary Tess “I do feel refreshed. After I meditate, I feel a sense of calm. I feel like I am stronger and more collected." - Mary Tess “Our physical body benefits from rest days. If we are working out on a regular basis, we need to incorporate them. We need our body to have time to repair.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

I was thrilled when a fellow Strider reached out and asked me what my word of the year is going to be.  If you're new to this podcast, let me explain: since 2010, I've chosen a word each year that helps ground me, something that represents what I want to embody, what I want to challenge myself to be mindful of, or the intention I'm setting for that year.  For example, in 2010, my word was "ask." I wasn't speaking up or asking for the things I needed or wanted. I was caught up in doing for others while neglecting myself. So that year, I decided I was going to ask for help, ask for support, ask for more resources, and even ask someone out. It was all about pushing myself to take the action I'd been avoiding.  Last year, my word was "heal," especially as I recovered from colon surgery. These words help me stay aligned with my goals, and whenever I feel off course, I can check in with my word to bring me back.  Today, on this Wise Walk, let's slow down, check in with our reality, and set our intention for the year ahead. Do you have a practice that helps ground you in what you hope to feel, accomplish, or challenge yourself with in the coming year?   Is there a word that helps reground you and take you into that mindset, or helps you reframe a perspective to move further in alignment?   If you're new to the "word of the year" concept or the idea of setting a practice to stay grounded, what do you think would make you feel more aligned?   What is a mantra or something you can embody and hold space for, so that as your year progresses, you have it as a compass to recenter yourself when life shifts your energy? What is an adventure or experience you're ready to take on?   What have you learned about yourself this past year that feels meaningful and makes you want to go all in on it?   What is something you feel super connected to, inspired by, or awakened to that feels new and exciting?   How can you create space or a sacred presence for yourself to receive more goodness related to that intention?   How can you actively set that intention and manifest it into the universe to attract more of it? As we wrap up today's wise walk, I encourage you to reflect on the adventure or experience you're ready to take on, and the intention you want to set for the year ahead.  Think about what you've learned about yourself and what inspires you, and create the space to receive more of that goodness. Remember, actively manifesting your intentions is a powerful way to attract what you truly desire.    Thank you for walking with me today, and I look forward to reconnecting with you soon.   In this episode: [04:34] The idea of "divine timing" has been surfacing for me lately. Everything happens when it's meant to be. [05:07] There is something greater than us that's helping us become our higher self. [07:25] The other word that came up for me was trust.  [08:17] With continued soul-searching, I kept looking for the word that resonated the most with me this year. Other qualities include being present, patience, not rushing, and being open to receiving. [09:58] I have different concepts of how I want to show up. I love how the Strider who reached out, reminded me of how important the word of the year is in terms of staying grounded and present to receive and give. [12:20] I have a dear friend who has gone all in on her passion for fashion. It's fun to witness what she's attracting. [13:09] This past year, she is really elevated it in terms of her intention. [14:03] Think about what you can create or attract out of this intention you set for yourself. [15:24] Each one of us has the opportunity to reinvent ourselves. [16:29] I love that we can be intentional to achieve or receive what we are asking of the universe. My word of the year is going to be co-create! [17:11] I know that how I show up is going to be better if I co-create in partnership with the universe, God, and all of the different influences. [18:47] I'm going to co-create my next adventure.   Memorable Quotes: “We can only control or influence so much and then we have to release expectations and trust that there is a plan” - Mary Tess “I want to be present and open. This idea of being open to receiving that next adventure in life, because I do feel like I'm ready for that next adventure." - Mary Tess “The reality is each one of us, every year, has the opportunity to reinvent ourselves. And it doesn't even have to be at the change of the year.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value

This weekend marks one year since my colon surgery, a major turning point in my life. What was supposed to be a straightforward procedure turned into a nine-hour surgery, where they had to remove 20 inches of my colon instead of the planned 12.  There were complications, and the recovery was far from easy, but the good news is, I'm here today, feeling amazing and so grateful for how far I've come. 2023 was a tough year, full of hospital visits, health struggles, and working hard to keep my body in balance while battling infections, medication side effects and digestive issues. But today, I'm filled with gratitude for the effort I've put into my healing, the physical therapy, the self-care, and the small victories along the way. For today's Wise Walk, I thought we'd slow down and take a moment to check in with ourselves and reflect on our anniversaries and how far we've come on our journey.  Is there an anniversary in your life that you want to acknowledge and appreciate? When you think back to any significant moment in your life, how do you celebrate it? How do you use it as an opportunity to reflect and see how far you've come? What energy, effort, and intention have you put into shaping and progressing that anniversary? Is there a relationship or moment where you've seen growth or strength built over time? What anniversary in your life do you want to honor and hold sacred space for? As you reflect on the anniversary that comes to mind, have you changed? In what ways do you feel accepted for the changes occurring in your life? Where do you feel supported? Where do you feel acknowledged for the good choices you're trying to implement? Are the people supporting you in making those good choices the ones who will continue to support your path? Who are the people you can see moving forward with you, especially those who have been with you through rough patches? How do you feel accepted by the changes or intentions you're implementing? How can you encourage more acceptance and support from those around you? As you reflect on the anniversary you're commemorating, in what ways have you grown? What qualities do you want to honor and cherish in yourself right now? How have those qualities made you stronger, more whole, or helped you appreciate your progress? In what ways can you express gratitude for the progress you've made and acknowledge how far you've come? Is there an opportunity to look at the next year as a way to continue your evolution? As you feel appreciation for your anniversary, can you also set an intention for where you hope to be on that next anniversary? As we wrap up today's episode, I want to remind you that you don't need a traditional anniversary to take a moment to acknowledge and appreciate who you are, all that you do, and how you show up in this world. Whatever you're gaining on this Wise Walk, take some time to appreciate it in yourself.  I'd love to hear what you took away from today's episode. Reach out and share your thoughts, and let me know where you're headed in your next evolution. You are truly magical and beautiful, and together, we'll continue to grow, evolve, and build momentum. Thanks for being here, and I can't wait to hear from you!   In this episode: [03:34] I want to acknowledge the idea of feeling accepted. I don't want to be judged by my food choices. [05:16] I had a wonderful time catching up with my friend Jeff, over a cup of tea, in his beautifully decorated house. [07:11] There are so many things I can enjoy with my friends and family that don't necessarily have to revolve around food. [09:44] I'm also appreciative of my strength and resilience. [11:07] It's amazing to think about all that I've overcome and how I didn't give up. [13:06] This past year, I was part of a Shamanic Reiki apprenticeship program. It was all about energy healing and offering healing to others. [14:15] I've learned that I can incorporate energetic healing gifts in everything that I do. [15:14] We need to bring that light in to heal some of the pain, suffering, or trauma. [16:17] I've come a long way in this one year of post-surgery. I'm going to go all in and see where I can take this energy work.   Memorable Quotes: “I am a lot more aware of how I want to invite energy into my life, and how I want to share my energetic gifts with others.” - Mary Tess “You are just magical and beautiful, and we're going to keep growing and evolving and acknowledging what's different just so we can build that momentum together." - Mary Tess “I feel grateful for the acceptance that I feel that I didn't feel before.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

"Less is more." It's a simple phrase, but when we lean into it, it can transform how we live. Simplifying life, whether it's clearing out distractions, reducing clutter, or focusing on what truly matters, can create deeper meaning, bigger impact, and a sense of harmony we all crave. I was inspired to talk about this topic after watching a TV show, and one of the characters reflected on how the news used to feel richer and more meaningful before the 24-hour news cycle took over. I recalled that we grew up in a time when news came in short, focused bursts—at 5 o'clock, 10 o'clock, or 11 o'clock—but not constantly.  It got me thinking about how less can often feel like more in our lives. Simplicity and scarcity sometimes bring deeper meaning and impact because they allow us to savor moments instead of being overwhelmed by them. So for today's Wise Walk, let's slow down together. Let's reflect on where in our lives we might benefit from this “less is more” approach.  What awareness or epiphany did you have regarding how less is more when reflecting on the evolution of the news cycle? What other areas of your life come to mind when you think about where less might be more? How can we incorporate the idea of "less is more" into our lives if we've drifted away from simplicity? How can we create and share moments that are unique, individualized, and impactful because they are less frequent? What am I definitely committed to showing up for? What am I going to say NO to? Can we find the ebb and flow within us that works for us? When is less more? What are those areas in our life we want to be more intentional about? I can't believe 2024 is almost over, and here we are in December. As part of my Wise Walk, I'm planning to journal on this idea of when less is more.  It's my chance to reflect, go inward, and explore what shifts I want to make in 2025, where I want to focus my energy, and what I want to be more intentional about. I invite you to do the same. Take some time to reflect on what stood out for you in today's episode. Where in your life could less be more? Or where have you already seen the benefits of this mindset? I'd love to hear your thoughts and takeaways, so feel free to share them with me. Until next time, take care, enjoy this season of reflection, and keep walking your True Stride.   In this episode: [00:47] The news seemed more meaningful when there wasn't a 24-hour news cycle. [03:32] When I have less distractions, I have more energy. The quality of what I put my energy into is better. [05:08] When I have less clutter, I have more space which means freedom, peace, and harmony. [06:31] Another simple thing that came to mind was when we have less complaining, we have more gratitude. [08:53] When we are able to notice what we're investing our time in, we can create more balance. [10:25] Each of us have things that we can work on and bring to light and be more aware of. [11:51] Is there someone in your life that can help you with what you need to work on? [12:14] Can you get curious about things in your life that are causing anxiety? [13:48] It's about finding what's better for us in that "less is more" category. [15:17] This also applies with gift giving.   Memorable Quotes: “Any time or any energy that we put forward for complaining is less time that we have to be grateful.” - Mary Tess “Space means freedom. It means peace. It means harmony. What a lovely idea for me to focus on less clutter in my life, so that I can have more space and freedom and peace and harmony.” - Mary Tess “Sometimes one thoughtful gift means more than several that dilute its significance.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value

I want to share something that's been on my mind after visiting a few local gyms recently. What started as a simple search for a place to get in some strength training turned into a bigger reflection on how much community shapes and inspires us.  There was an older gentleman lifting more weight than I could, and a woman in sequins heading to Zumba, ready to hit the dance floor. Watching everyone show up in their own unique way reminded me how powerful it is to be part of something bigger and how community can inspire us, push us, support us, and help us grow.  Whether it's a gym, a writing group, or even a bunch of fans rallying for the same team, the connections we make help define how we see ourselves and what's possible.  In this episode, let's take a Wise Walk together and reflect on the communities that inspire us, the lessons they bring, and how showing up matters—not just for us, but for the people around us. How is the support of community positively impacting you? What community are you consistently excited to engage with? How do they inspire you, and how do you inspire others? What about that community makes you say, "That was an amazing use of my time"? What are you gaining from being part of community? What groups or communities have helped you raise your vibration or lift yourself to a higher level? Which communities have inspired you or offered a safe path to explore a unique aspect of yourself? As you explore an interest, what has surprised you along the way? What have you learned that you might not have known if you hadn't shown up? What awareness did you gain from those experiences? In the communities you engage with, where are you the student? How can you take the lessons you've learned and pay them forward to benefit others? How does learning and growing through these experiences become a part of you? How can you use what you've learned to help someone else in the future? When you show up in your community, can you embrace the mindset of being both a student and a teacher? How do you pay it forward in ways that feel authentic and aligned with you? Thank you, for being part of this community, for showing up as your true self, and for bringing your curiosity and energy to push us all to see what's possible.  I'd love to hear what resonated with you from today's episode—what communities are inspiring you right now, and what you've learned by showing up for them. I look forward to our Wise Walk together, next Thursday, so be sure to tune in. Until then, don't forget to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your stride on!   In this episode: [04:40] I'm seeing people of all walks of life doing what lights them up and supports their interest and wellbeing. [05:35] The other thing that community does is it brings us closer together in ways outside of our initial interest. [06:13] The kickboxing class was also going for it. I remember how those classes helped me in that phase of my life. [07:04] We gain a sense of belonging and feel seen for showing up. [08:14] New York JETS fans are diehard because of a sense of belonging and rooting for the underdog. [09:20] Writing groups are also a great source of sharing and caring. Joining communities helps us tap into different aspects of ourselves. [12:12] I love it when we slow down, check our reality, and take time to reflect on these questions. [13:26] Being a substitute yoga teacher is also a gift of community where I can show up and be present. [15:54] Community empowers you and makes you more fearless when you know you have support. [16:32] We are not alone, and we belong when we join a group and put ourselves out there.   Memorable Quotes: “Community isn't always about winning or accomplishments. It can also be about just showing up and having that sense of belonging, that sense of understanding.” - Mary Tess “Every time you're learning, growing, and expanding your knowledge and experiences, that becomes a part of you that you might be able to share to help someone else in the future.” - Mary Tess “The connections we make help define how we see ourselves and what we believe is possible” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

I'd like to take you on an introspective journey inspired by a recent eye doctor appointment with my mother. When we came across a humorous sequence of letters on the vision chart, what began as a normal exam became a source of pure joy. My mom's laughter was contagious, and it reminded me of the energy we assign to the little things in life.  Some moments trigger humor, while others may bring stress—but the choice of how we perceive them is always ours. In this episode, we'll slow down for a wise walk and ask ourselves important questions to explore how we can turn triggers into opportunities for growth, laughter, and connection.  Are there situations in your life, or words or phrases, that trigger you positively or negatively? What energy are you assigning to those things? Do you have the opportunity to reevaluate and ask why they trigger you? Can you shift that energy and see them from a different perspective? Are there qualities or characteristics people call out about you? Have those comments ever triggered you negatively because they challenged your sense of normalcy? Are you still allowing their energy to define how you see those qualities? Can you thank someone for acknowledging a unique part of you and embrace it as a strength? Is there an opportunity to make peace with those qualities, assign them positive energy, and appreciate your uniqueness? Are there things, words, people, or places that once held a negative connotation for you? Is there an opportunity to see them from a different, unique perspective? Can you free yourself from past associations so they no longer hold power over you? Where can you find the positive light and assign a radiant new perspective to those things or situations? Thank you for joining me today. My wish for you as you stride forward is to hold good intentions in your heart, assign energies that uplift you, and embrace the clarity and awareness that supports your journey. I'd love to hear what resonated with you from today's episode.   I'll see you next Thursday for another Wise Walk, so be sure to tune in. Until then, prioritize fun, read the signs, direct your path, and get your stride on!   In this episode: [04:06] The different meanings or energetic values we place on things. When I was young I would get triggered when people said certain things about me, but now I embrace my differences. [05:36] We don't have to assign that energy if we don't want to. We can reframe how we think about things. [06:10] We don't have to accept other people's negative vibes as our own. I love the idea of being intentional about the energy we assign things. [09:07] We don't have to assign negative energy to things from our past. For instance, some people are triggered by flowers because of the negative connotation of receiving them when someone's apologizing. [11:25] Our state of mind can also affect how we assign energy. [12:21] Show up with a high vibration in order to receive positive messages. [13:40] Be aware of the energy that you are projecting. [16:16] Think about where we can reassign energy and meaning to things that might not be said with the right intention.   Memorable Quotes: “I love this idea of releasing energy on things or words that once triggered us and kind of seeing what else is possible.” - Mary Tess “Hold good intentions in your heart and assign energies that lift you up and help you evolve on your path.” - Mary Tess “Life is about constantly evolving and changing—embrace that and let go of what no longer serves you.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

In our last episode, I shared a special experience of transporting a nine-week-old German Shepherd puppy from Austin, Texas, to her new home with my aunt in Palm Springs, California. Everything just aligned perfectly—it felt like divine timing, and everything came together in such a beautifully kismet way.  This little puppy, named Bear because she looks like a tiny black bear, was joining my aunt's family to be a buddy for her other dog, Madra. The journey was truly magical. Traveling with Bear was a bit of an adventure—meeting her for the first time, helping her through the excitement and anxiety of leaving her family, and carrying her energy and spirit through the trip.  The breeder, a lovely person, met me at the airport with a little care package for Bear filled with treats and comforts, which made everything feel a bit easier and more connected. Bear and I bonded in ways I didn't expect. She reminded me of the pure joy in new adventures and that “puppy love” feeling when you're just completely taken by the moment.  So today, in our Wise Walk, let's slow down, check in with ourselves, and explore that sense of joy and appreciation for the new experiences in our lives. How often in your life do you experience that gaga, puppy-love feeling? When was the last time you felt that pure surge of love without any particular reason or foundation? Did you cherish and hold onto that feeling? Do you carried that beautiful, innocent energy into other areas of your life? How have you used that energy in your everyday life to elevate your vibration? What do you find magical about interacting with babies or puppies and their pure, joyful energy?  Are there situations where you can hold onto that gaga puppy essence? When negative energy approaches, can you deflect it and maintain your high vibration without getting involved? Are there times in your life when you need help and support, and are you willing to ask for it? Can you appreciate the kindness of strangers when you have a real need? Who or what can you turn to for comfort and support when you feel anxious, tense, or scared, to help you feel safe and loved? Where in your life can you hold onto that "new puppy" or "new relationship" energy and infuse it into long-standing relationships? Where can you release expectations of mature relationships and embrace acceptance for everyone's inner child? How can you reconnect with your inner childlike essence? Thank you so much for joining me on this journey and allowing me to share these lessons with you. It's been incredibly invigorating, in ways I never anticipated.  Each time I share my experiences, it solidifies these insights even more, reminding me of the beauty in simple things, like Bear's puppy love.  It's funny how these moments teach us what we already know, but sometimes forget. I'm grateful to walk this path with you, rediscovering those simple, powerful truths together.   In this episode: [01:58] Bear and I bonded in ways I couldn't expect, and she was an amazing reminder of how important it is for us to appreciate new adventures and that puppy love feeling. [03:19] When interacting with babies and puppies the energy is pure. [04:36] How often in real life do we interact with people who are having a bad day and putting negative energy on us? We don't have to let it affect us, we can chuckle and step away. [05:17] The puppy also reminded me of the kindness of strangers. [07:23] I share an awesome story about burly men holding sweet little Bear at the airport. [08:07] I love that she reminded me of the kindness of strangers and how it's okay to ask for help. [10:24] Another gift I was inspired to remember is the idea of protecting our inner child. [12:59] Another gift was that I felt seen by Bear.  [13:33] Sitting in silence and looking at each other was beautiful. [14:52] She also brought me a lot of joy and I love the experience. [15:57] Can we infuse more puppy energy into our dynamic? [18:06] The puppy also reminded me of the feelings of forgiveness and understanding.   Memorable Quotes: “When I looked into her eyes, it was like she was looking into my eyes and could see my soul.” - Mary Tess “Sometimes, in our mature relationships, we lose touch with the pure essence of childlike curiosity. Yet, there are always ways for us to find our way back to it” - Mary Tess “Sometimes, the kindness of strangers surprises us and reminds us that it's okay to ask for help and embrace our vulnerabilities.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

Have you ever had a moment in life when everything just seemed to fall into place at exactly the right time? Growing up, I was raised with the belief that while hard work and putting yourself out there are essential, there's also this beautiful necessity to stay open and receptive to the right timing from the Universe.  Divine timing is about alignment, that perfect synergy of purpose, path, and timing, a belief that things unfold just as they should, exactly when they're meant to. In this episode, we're slowing down for a Wise Walk, taking a moment to pause, check our realities, and explore the magic that unfolds when we stay open to the idea that there's a time for everything. Together, we'll ask ourselves questions to help us recognize and honor the moments when life aligns beautifully and unexpectedly in our favor. Do you believe in divine timing? Do you trust that everything happens at the perfect time? Can you hold space for this idea in your life? Are you able to stay present while taking steps toward what you hold in your heart? Can you release the expectation of when things will happen? And can you allow the stars to align, trusting divine timing to bring the right things, people, and opportunities at the perfect moment? When was the last time you truly wanted something? Even if it didn't happen as quickly as you hoped, did it eventually come to be? When it did, was the timing better than you could have planned? As you reflect on that experience, how amazing did it feel to finally receive it? Did you love it even more because you realized how precious it was? How is your energy lately?  Are you able to honor this idea of divine timing to put your energy and intentions out there?  This Wise Walk reminds me of the importance of releasing control and allowing things to unfold naturally. Thank you for holding space for us to reflect and gain awareness on each and every episode.  I'd love to hear your stories of how divine timing brought something magical into your life—something you've been holding in your heart. As we move through the holidays and into next year, let's continue to honor our energy, hold space for divine timing, and see what's truly possible.   In this episode: [02:42] I share a story about my aunt and her beautiful German Shepherd puppy.  [03:41] My aunt was trying to get a companion for her puppy and ended up getting kicked off her plane. [05:03] She was extremely brave and acknowledged that this new puppy wasn't the right fit. The Universe literally got her kicked off the plane with this puppy. [06:14] She ended up getting offered a puppy that was actually the perfect fit. [07:52] It just so happened that I had travel booked to where the puppy was.  [08:50] When the stars align, and you create space in your calendar, the Universe has the opportunity to bring in what truly matters to you. [10:36] This whole experience has been a great reminder for me about how the Universe has our back. [13:11] I'm super excited about flying to Austin tomorrow, and the breeder is going to meet me at the airport. [14:10] I love that I get to see my aunt and pick up her baby girl. Then the weekend is all about me and my dear friend. [14:35] This has been a beautiful reminder that the most important thing we carry is our energy.   Memorable Quotes: “When the stars align, and we open ourselves to receive, the Universe brings things into our lives at the perfect time.” - Mary Tess “The Universe has our back, and when we hold space for something we want, it often arrives in ways we couldn't have orchestrated ourselves.” - Mary Tess “How amazing is it when things manifest without force, like the sky clears and everything clicks into place?” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

I received a message from a new listener—a new Strider—who was asking about the origins of the True Stride podcast. How it came to be, and the connection between Wise Walks and this community. They wanted to understand how they could be a part of it and feel connected on a deeper level. I love that kind of feedback, so thank you for reaching out and asking these questions! For anyone listening, you're always welcome to share your ideas, thoughts, feedback, or reflections based on our Wise Walks. The timing of this message was also special because two weeks ago marked our four-year anniversary. I can hardly believe that our community has been coming together for weekly Wise Walks for over four years now.  So, here we are in episode 214, and I thought this would be a perfect time to slow down, check our reality, and ask ourselves some meaningful questions. How has the True Stride podcast supported you in connecting with your inner knowing? How has it helped you drop into your heart and ask meaningful questions that align you with your True Stride?  How do you apply what you've learned? Or reflect on the insights gained from simply slowing down and tuning into your heart? What are some ways you slow down, check in with reality, and take yourself on a Wise Walk to gain insight into where you are now and where you want to go?  How do you balance logic and heart, releasing the need to control and letting your feelings guide you forward?  Do you feel aligned in moving with both head and heart, or is there space to be more intentional about leading from the heart? How have you incorporated Wise Walks into your everyday life?  Where do you create a safe, sacred space to go inward, clear distractions, and connect with your inner compass?  What insights guide you to stand confidently and declare who you choose to be and what you're excited to pursue in this lifetime? Thank you for joining me on this journey and for the support that has made sharing so fulfilling each week. These Wise Walks help us grow, gain wisdom, and step into new versions of ourselves. I'm grateful for this evolving community and the space we've created to change unapologetically.  I'd love to hear how today's episode resonated with you and how you're bringing Wise Walks into your life. Until next Thursday, keep prioritizing fun, direct your path, and get your stride on!   In this episode: [02:27] True Stride began as a running metaphor. I could feel when I was–and wasn't–in my True Stride.  [03:24] I would find my flow after about 10 minutes of running. [04:06] It wouldn't work if I tried to create that feeling with my mind. I had to allow myself just to be. [04:35] When I started my podcast, I wanted to share how important it is for each of us to find our True Stride. [05:08] How can we feel our way forward and find that True Stride in everything that we're doing. [06:18] The amazing thing about this community is that we support each other and cheer each other on. [07:34] It doesn't matter what the title of the episode is, what matters is whatever surfaces for you. [08:09] This community is a safe environment and we can be open without judgment. [09:29] We are becoming more of the person that we're meant to be as we travel during our time on this Earth. [12:18] It's important for us to realize that everything in life ebbs and flows, and we can't always be in our true stride. [13:30] Wise Walks because walking helps me ground and catch my breath. [14:28] The answers are inside of us. We need to take time to ask ourselves questions. [16:57] We get to design our own lives, and there are no rules.   Memorable Quotes: "Life is a journey we design ourselves, and there are no rules but the ones we choose to honor. - Mary Tess "The True Stride community supports each other in our highs, lows, and everything in between, creating a safe, judgment-free space." - Mary Tess "True Stride isn't just about movement—it's about feeling our way forward, not forcing or controlling, but letting our heart lead." - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

Life has a way of surrounding us with things we once loved—whether it's treasured belongings, relationships, or even past versions of ourselves. But as we grow and change, so do our needs and priorities. In this episode, I'm reflecting on what it means to Upcycle Love. It's not just about letting go of items that no longer serve us, but about giving them new life and purpose in someone else's hands. As I prepared to evacuate for Hurricane Milton, I found myself going through my home and reevaluating what really mattered. It was eye-opening to realize how much I was holding on to things that no longer carried the same emotional weight. This process felt like more than just preparing for a storm—it became a lesson in releasing the old to make space for something new. On this Wise Walk, we'll slow down and reflect on how this idea of upcycling applies to all areas of life—our relationships, our emotional well-being, and the way we move forward. Let's explore how letting go can open the door to fresh energy and allow love, in all its forms, to flow back into our lives in unexpected and beautiful ways.  Are there things in your life that you are ready to let go of that perhaps in your past held this strong love or energetic and emotional connection? Are there things that don't feel that high vibrational factor anymore? What areas in your life are overshadowed by excess? Have you lost sight of what truly brings you joy because items have multiplied? Does life feel heavier because you're holding on to too much? Can you envision feeling lighter by releasing and upcycling those items with love? What in your life are you ready to release so someone else can see its value increase with fresh new eyes? What are you willing to let go of and trust that something new will be born in its place? Can you let go of something and allow someone else to appreciate and cherish it as you once did? Where can you let go of the old version of a relationship to allow it to transform or make space for someone new? Where can you upcycle your relationships to stay fueled by high vibrational people? I'm incredibly grateful for the support of my community and the way we've come together during this time. As we head into the holiday season, I'm excited to release items and relationships that no longer serve me, trusting they will bring new energy and transformation into my life.  I hope you, too, embrace this mindset of letting go and making space for surprises and new connections. As always, thank you for your support. I look forward to our next Wise Walk together. Until then, prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path and get your stride on.   In this episode: [05:19] I was sharing with a friend who was also a grandmother, and she said the same thing. She had 50 plants that she once loved but now she was going to choose 10. [06:11] We had to take everything that was outside and secure it. [07:44] What a gift to upcycle items that someone else can now love. [08:36] It feels good to release things that no longer bring us joy. Now is the time to donate and give things an opportunity to find a new loving home. [09:36] It's the season when people may be looking for donated toys or other items to help with the holidays. [10:34] Give love to the idea of new people being able to appreciate what you once loved. [11:52] The quality of older items is often better.  [12:44] It's important for us to be able to release and upcycle whatever is coming into our life. [13:53] There are a million ways to upcycle things in our lives. [15:04] When we let go of what something was, we can trust the opportunity that something new is born. This holds true for relationships also.   Memorable Quotes: "Upcycling isn't just about physical things—it's about relationships and emotional connections. Letting go creates space for new energy to flow into our lives." - Mary Tess "In moments where you're making quick decisions, you get clarity on what truly matters. The things I thought I would hold on to no longer had that high vibrational factor." - Mary Tess "As we approach the holiday season, what a gift it is to release things and let them find a new home where they will bring joy to someone else." - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value

We have another storm approaching right on the heels of Hurricane Helene. It's a tough time for so many reasons, and Hurricane Milton is shaping up to be a strong and powerful storm. First and foremost, my heart goes out to anyone who's been impacted by Helene or is preparing for Milton. These hurricanes bring so much devastation—emotionally, physically, energetically, and financially. It's a lot to handle, and the stress that comes with it is overwhelming. As I reflect on the impact of storms in life, I've been thinking about the idea of ‘what else is true?' Because crises like hurricanes have a way of triggering our fears, scarcity mindsets, and anxiety. It brings out so much raw emotion, and all of that is real and deserves to be acknowledged. At the same time, while we feel all of those things, I think it's important to recognize that something else can also be true. Yes, we may feel fear, but hurricanes can also reveal our strength. For every negative association we might attach to this experience, there's also something else that's true. And I know it's not easy to see that in the middle of it all, but for today's Wise Walk, I invite you to slow down with me, check in with your reality, and ask yourself questions. What is an event, crisis, or storm that you're facing right now? What is the feeling that's surfacing? Can you take a moment to acknowledge that feeling and then find something else that is also true, to help counterbalance it? Can we find something that helps us shift our mindset and recognize what is true in addition to that feeling? What is also true that is surfacing as a result of this storm? As you reflect back on different instances in your life where you might have had or are currently experiencing a scarcity mindset, what is also true? What about that feeling is raw, real, and valid? Was there something that came about or presented itself that helped you alleviate that feeling? Did it remind you that the feeling is valid, but doesn't have to be the predominant one in your life? I hope that whatever storms you're facing, you stay open to the help offered and remember that there are always truths to help you combat scarcity, fear, and anxiety. Finding balance and aligning with your True Stride is key. I look forward to connecting with you again next Thursday. Until then, prioritize fun, stay safe, read the signs, direct your path, and get your Stride On!   In this episode: [00:40] After hurricane Helene, hurricane Milton is fast approaching Florida. [01:23] What is also true, has been on my mind, because hurricanes or any natural disaster or probably any crisis, they have a way of triggering fears, a scarcity mindset, anxiety, and raw emotion which is natural and real and raw and should be acknowledged. [04:49] We can only control what we can control then we have to have faith. [06:18] How easy it is to go into the scarcity mindset when something you're planning goes wrong. Ask what is also true? [07:26] COVID and the toilet paper shortage was also a great example of the scarcity mindset. [08:24] I love the idea of questioning what is also true because shortages are going to happen. [11:04] As the storm approaches, go inward and feel your feelings. And then follow up with what else is also true. [12:54] I'm concerned and sending love and light and prayers for everyone impacted by both hurricanes. [13:23] I feel very connected to the idea of people over possessions. [15:31] I'm grateful for a friend who offered a safe place for me and my two German Shepherds.   Memorable Quotes: "You can only control what you can control, and then you have to just have faith or release or let go and trust that you have the resilience to overcome whatever happens." - Mary Tess "Let's not feed into this scarcity mindset because the other belief, what is also true, is that we live in an abundant, supportive environment." - Mary Tess "While we feel a sense of fear, hurricanes also bring out our strength." - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value Mike's Weather Page  

What if the most important thing holding you back in life is not what others have done to you, but the mental and emotional burden you are carrying around? In today's episode, we'll look at the profound practice of forgiveness, both for others and ourselves. We all carry emotional baggage from our prior experiences, whether it's a bad relationship, a moment of betrayal, or even guilt we impose on ourselves. I recently watched a very cool video on Instagram that used gym weights to represent the emotional baggage we carry when we lack forgiveness. And let me tell you, it made me think. How much lighter would we feel if we just let everything go? Today, we'll discuss how to let go of those weights, reclaim our vitality, and go on with an open heart. So, lace up your shoes, because we're about to go for a Wise Walk and think on what's holding us back—and how we might let go of those burdens forever.  What emotional weights are you carrying around, and where do you feel them in your heart or body? Who or what comes to mind when you think of sadness, anger, or disappointment? When was the last time you forgave yourself or someone else to lighten your emotional load? What steps can you take today to release a weight you no longer need to carry? Is there a story from your past that you've held onto, and is it time to let it go? How can you choose to drop that story and be more present in your life? Have you ever felt like you were responsible for someone else's happiness? Are there opportunities to release that mentality because it's not yours to carry around? Can you let it go to focus on your own healing? Is there a responsibility you're carrying that isn't truly yours, and how can you see it in a lighter way? Thanks for joining me on this Wise Walk. Remember, the weights we carry—whether they're from past hurts, disappointments, or expectations—are ours to release. Forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves, and it lightens our path forward.  So, as you go through your week, reflect on what you're ready to let go of, and embrace the freedom that comes with it. Until next time, keep prioritizing fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your stride on!   In this episode: [05:19] When I was young and inexperienced I saw things very black and white. Meaning, I had a clear sense of right and wrong. As we grow up we learn that there are so many shades of gray between that black and white. [06:04] Everyone needs to find alignment for themselves. Their choices are their choices, and my choices are my choices. [07:20] Releasing expectations has brought me peace when I have felt wronged in the past. [09:16] Honoring how we show up and forgiving and releasing the baggage that we have from the past. [10:05] "You attract that which you fear most until you heal it." Buddha saying. [11:16] When we cling to our past trauma, we miss out on all of the good stuff and the opportunity to invite goodness into our lives. [13:06] Sometimes I'm weighed down by my desire to help others. Sometimes the best thing we can do is allow them to help themselves. [17:45] What is one weight that you can release and allow compassion for yourself? Intentionally explore ways to release that weight.   Memorable Quotes: “Forgiveness isn't just about letting others off the hook; it's about releasing the emotional weight we carry, so we can feel lighter and happier.” - Mary Tess “We often hold onto expectations of others, but sometimes the best way to find peace is to let go of those expectations and focus on what aligns with our own heart.” - Mary Tess “The more we practice the muscle of forgiveness—letting go of things that no longer serve us—the stronger and lighter we become.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

Often, when I coach a client, we begin the session with three breaths. These breaths are meant to align our rhythms and heartbeats, and to allow us, as individuals, to release anything that happened before we came together. The words I use while we inhale and exhale together may vary. Sometimes I'll say, "Let's take a nourishing breath," or "Let's take a grounding breath," or even "Let's take a restorative breath." These words change based on what I sense in the moment, but I love the idea of taking three breaths because it centers me and connects me with my client. It also sets the intention to be fully present and hold a safe space for one another.  I always appreciate that clients respond positively to this practice. They might be rushing to meet with me or dealing with something that happened earlier, so this moment of breathing gives them time to regroup. In addition, if my client is going through a big life transition or something heavy, another practice I may incorporate into our conversation is a practice of gratitude. On today's Wise Walk, I thought we could slow down, check our reality, and ask ourselves these questions: Do you have a daily practice where you slow down, connect with your breath, and practice gratitude? Can you start to incorporate a practice of gratitude to help you move through life's heavy moments? As you look at your day, or you look at the coming weeks, is there anything that you have anxiety about?  Is there anything that feels a bit heavy for you?  What can you do to incorporate a practice of gratitude to help you move through transitions with a little bit more inner peace? What are some ways you can practice gratitude on a daily basis? Do you journal? What am I grateful for at this moment?  Would you rather practice gratitude in the morning? Do you have a cup of coffee and just allow yourself to be present in the moment?  Can you put where you feel aligned and blessed into words? Can you hold that sentiment in your heart to practice gratitude in whatever way feels aligned for you? Do you have what you need? What is really supporting you?  Who is in your life that you feel grateful for? Can you tell them? What are some of the things that you experienced today that you feel grateful for? What are some things that you're looking forward to that are going to support you on your journey? I am so grateful for each and every one of you. You continue to surprise and delight me. I received some great feedback from the last episode, and I'll be reflecting more on it. So, thank you again. I'm also feeling thankful that my power is back on! I will hold you in my heart as I practice gratitude daily, and I look forward to our next conversation on Thursday. Please join me again for next week's Wise Walk. Until then, be sure to practice gratitude, prioritize fun, read the signs, direct your path, and get your stride.   In this episode: [04:53] This past week, Florida, and a lot of different states, Georgia, North Carolina, South Carolina and some parts of Tennessee, were impacted by Hurricane Helene. [05:17] It was intense with a lot of stress and emotions. [06:01] I live in Northern Florida so I wasn't directly in the path, but we still experienced high winds, tornado warnings and lost power. [06:40] Practicing gratitude really helped me take the storm in stride. I know I am very blessed. Practicing gratitude helped me feel all the positives that I had in that moment, and that I could take that with me wherever I went. [08:11] Everything is relative. "The miracle of gratitude is that it shifts your perception to such an extent that it changes the world you see." - Dr. Robert Holden [11:48] Practicing gratitude has multiple health benefits from boosting your immune system, increasing red blood cells, and even decreasing stress. [12:50] Practicing gratitude can even help reduce pain and depression. [14:08] A lot of times we pay attention to what's not going right. If we can flip that script things will go better for us. [14:45] A grateful mind is a great mind.   Memorable Quotes: “I love this idea of my clients taking three breaths, just because it centers them in the moment, it connects them with their breath.” - Mary Tess “Mother nature, who is unpredictable, and strong, and beautiful, but can also be destructive in different ways, so we have to adjust to the elements.” - Mary Tess “Practicing gratitude really helped, ground and center me in this moment of changing my perspective and helping me move through the heaviness.” - Mary Tess “Practicing gratitude helps reinforce our brain's ability to get to a place of gratitude easier, and reconnect or revisit those emotional experiences that elevate us and boost us.” - Mary Tess Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

Are you facing a significant life decision or transition? Do you hesitate to communicate your goals with loved ones for fear of their reactions or unsolicited advice? Today, I'm talking about something that's been on my mind a lot lately: how do we deal with major life transitions without letting everyone else's opinions throw us off track? I've been thinking about when I decided to relocate to California in 1997. It was a significant move for me, but I was astonished by how my friends and family reacted. How do we defend our dreams and decisions when everyone else has an opinion? I'll share some personal anecdotes and insights I've gathered over the years on creating appropriate boundaries, particularly while we're going through huge life changes. Whether you're thinking about changing careers, relocating to a new place, or making any other significant change in your life, I have some tips that will help you stay true to yourself while maintaining vital relationships. I'll explain how I've learned to control my own emotions and deal with our loved ones' well-intentioned (but often overwhelming) concerns by practicing selective sharing, because not everyone needs to know everything all the time. If you've ever been caught between following your aspirations and satisfying others' expectations, or if you're now experiencing a significant life shift, this Wise Walk is for you! Where in your life can you hold a healthy boundary to protect yourself from outside influences? Can you move closer to a dream you hold in your heart in a way that feels aligned for you? Are you experiencing something right now, like a big transition or a big life change that has been put upon you?  Are you noticing that there are certain people in your life that you can be transparent with, because they don't push their emotional state on you? Are there other people where you being more reserved is a better boundary? Can you give yourself permission to allow for that space?  Where in your life have you felt supported by going inward and making sure that you quiet the external voices? Can you hold space for your own emotional needs?  Do you know what your emotional needs are?  Do you know what's calling you?  Can you put up a boundary to protect those needs and very gently keep everyone else's emotional needs outside? I invite you to boldly set boundaries and selectively share based on your emotional needs. It's healthy to keep things close to your vest if it protects your wellbeing until you're ready to share.  I would love to hear what you took away from today's episode. Reach out if it feels aligned for you. Be sure to tune in to next Thursday's Wise Walk as you prepare for any transitions that are happening in life. Join this inspiring community to uncover a new sense of freedom, and be sure to follow and review the True Stride podcast as we continue to exchange our light and Heart Value with each other.   In this episode: [04:51] The move I made to California was one of the best decisions that I made. [05:24] The distance and space allowed me to figure out what my interests were and what I liked to do. [06:55] I was clear on understanding my emotional needs, and I knew I needed to travel and go live in a completely different environment. [10:00] A story about one of my clients going through a major life transition. [11:24] Sometimes we need to insulate and protect ourselves and make sure we manage our own emotions. [12:15] Are you only sharing when it feels aligned? [14:44] A story about my mom's amazing wit and how we came to healthy boundaries. [16:43] We each need to live our lived experience without pressure from outside forces. We get to decide what gets shared and to whom.   Memorable Quotes: “It was also a beautiful expansion of the fact that we can create family outside of bloodlines. I love that when we expose ourselves to different environments, we can grow.” - Mary Tess “I was not responsible for their emotional needs. We can have our emotional needs, and we can recognize someone else's emotional needs or desires for us, but it's always important to create a healthy boundary during times of transition.” - Mary Tess “Sometimes we naturally know that we can't share everything that we're going through with everyone that loves us or that we love, because that might stir up emotions that are not helpful.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

One of the core principles in my book Heart Value is about aligning with humans that appreciate you and the value you share that lights YOU up. Yes, your heart-centered value is so important to you and others when you share an energetic and emotional connection with each other.  We all have value that lights us up, and we have value that benefits or pleases others, but makes us cringe inside. Yes, it may pay the bills or fulfill other purposes. We've all done that too. But wouldn't it be magical if we could align the value that truly excites us with people who appreciate it—and pay us for it?  I have a special guest today: Shanti Joy Gold.  Shanti spent a couple of decades in corporate leadership roles, where she excelled. She successfully coached sales executives and teams to achieve both personal and professional goals. She's been responsible for managing multi-million-dollar budgets at top national and international companies and has been recognized for sales and women in leadership achievements.  We worked together in the corporate and coaching worlds. She's here today to talk about how she found the niche that lights her up, along with her new podcast, Stories We Haven't Shared, which focuses on helping people discover and tell their authentic stories while finding their true selves.  I'm thrilled to take this Wise Walk with Shanti as we explore how sharing your story can lead you to meaningful work that truly ignites your passion. Where in your life have you felt the contrast of sharing value that brings you joy or sharing value that depletes you or lacks excitement? Who are the individuals in your life that bring you excitement and joy? Are you eager to have conversations with them? Or do you feel a little heavy like there's a disconnect? Do you feel like logically that audience should be your audience? Is something missing that you can't ignore? Are you taking stock of your own presence every single day? Are you nurturing yourself with practices that help you stay aligned? Are you honoring the things that come your way? When they don't work out the way you want, are you releasing them? Where in your life can you get more in touch with your story? Tune in next Thursday when another episode drops. Until then, please be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your stride on!   In this episode: [03:42] Shanti Joy Gold spent a couple decades in corporate sales leadership roles. She's now a coach who helps LGBTQ and underrepresented people thrive in their careers. [04:29] She's now starting a podcast that speaks to this audience as well as allies through the medium of storytelling. [05:03] She loves the outdoors and connecting with people who align with her energy. [06:22] After a couple of years of soul searching, things clicked for Shanti about who she really wants to help through her coaching and her upcoming podcast. [07:36] She was planning on basing her coaching on her lived experience. Her first thought was to focus on high achievers then she realized that helping LGBTQ people live authentically was more aligned with her calling. [12:19] Becoming more authentic includes pausing and having that conversation with yourself. [14:44] Practices for keeping your frequency high include leading and focusing on the steps that feel exciting and eliminating the ones that don't. [19:57] Looking back, ask yourself if that moment will matter. [23:30] Mindset shifts and knowing that the Universe has your back. [27:56] Finding a practical way to tap into what your heart is telling you. [31:39] Shanti shares a little about some of the inspirational stories that will be featured on her podcast.  [38:19] Storytelling is powerful. Part of what is important is to take the time to consider your own story first.   Memorable Quotes: “Grab a surfboard and just get up and surf and flow. The whole idea is that life is unpredictable and that change is inevitable. There's so little that we actually control. Be energized by that versus taking the waves head on.” - Shanti Joy Gold “I love this idea of being in flow and just not resisting what is unfolding for us and trusting the process. I know the universe has my back.” - Mary Tess “There is a deep inner knowing that will reveal itself as long as you surround yourself with people that don't judge.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value Shanti Joy Gold LinkedIn Stories We Haven't Shared   

I've been on a simplification kick, and the funny thing is that, ironically, simplification is very complicated. A friend took off work to evaluate her home and determine where she could streamline, free up some energy, and reallocate resources, focus, money, or space in her life. We were chuckling at just how hard it is to simplify and how complicated the process can be.  So for today's wise walk, I thought we could slow down, check our reality, and ask ourselves these questions. In what areas of your life could you benefit from simplifying? How does it make you feel?  What is involved in freeing yourself from that situation, thing, person?  What are the ways you can dedicate time and space in order to simplify and move through that complicated process? What are your bare minimum essentials? What brings you joy?  What are the things that really matter?  Where can you clear out the clutter and find clarity? Why is simplifying this thing important to you?  Have you listed out all of the steps to move through the complicated period so you have the freedom to honor your why? What is taking up space, time, energy, resources in your life?  Can you shift or simplify to gain energy, resources, space for what is calling you? What is causing you stress or keeping you up at night? What are you worried about or what is holding you back?  Can you create a plan in order to help alleviate that stress and leave space for what matters? What I wish for both of us is that we can simplify and laugh at how complicated simplification is, because it's not for the faint of heart. But we're in this together, and we're going to support each other.  I'd love to hear what you took away from today's episode or which areas you're trying to simplify and what's your why. I hope you're laughing while steadily making progress towards your successful outcome. Join this inspiring community to uncover a new sense of freedom, and be sure to follow and review the True Stride podcast as we continue to exchange our light and Heart Value with each other. Tune in next Thursday as we go on another wise walk. Until then, please be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your stride on.   In this episode: [01:08] It's surprising how complicated and difficult simplifying can be. [02:23] How a city in Belgium gave 2,000 families three chickens each, resulting in a one-ton reduction in the landfill. [03:16] If you ask these families, this simplification process was probably complicated to start. [04:38] It's important to remember that when we're in the process of simplifying, it will feel complicated at first. [05:06] We need to give ourselves space and grace for mistakes. [05:35] Simplifying is our way of clearing the way for better visibility and clarity. [06:24] One of the things I'm doing is getting rid of one of my vehicles. [08:38] Selling my camper van is one example of how simplifying is super complicated. [12:21] A story about a friend returning from London and the questions I asked her and what inspired her to simplify her life. [15:10] I share some of the areas in my life that I have been evaluating when it comes to simplifying. [16:14] I'm also trying to simplify my energy levels. [17:35] There can even be unexpected expenses related to simplification. [19:04] Be kind to yourself and take small steps.   Memorable Quotes: “I think it's really important for all of us to remember that anytime we are on a mission to simplify, we're going to feel the complicated first.” - Mary Tess “We have to move through this process of heaviness in order to fully release what is weighing us down.” - Mary Tess “We might be super motivated, but there also might be a lot of steps involved in order to achieve success in the way that we envision.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value

I'm approaching a big birthday milestone. Yes, yours truly is going to be 50 – the big 5-0. While I feel very young at heart, this turning point in my life feels big. It feels like a major milestone to appreciate, and to be intentional about how I shape this next chapter. Birthdays have always been a big deal to me. I love to take myself on Wise Walks to reflect on what I was doing last year, who I was with, what my priorities were, and how I was feeling. I've always looked at these birthday milestones as a way of reflecting on whether I'm moving in the direction I want to go. So, no surprise, I'm doing the same here. But it feels intensified because I've experienced more life than I might have ahead, and I want to honor all that I am and will become. For today's Wise Walk, I thought we could slow down, check our reality, and ask ourselves these questions:  What milestones or time frames do you go into deep reflection? When you look back at the past year, do you set intentional plans for your future? As you reflect, do you approach it from a place of gratitude? Are you grateful for the hardships you've overcome and the wins you've accomplished this past year? Do you honor the good, the bad, and the ugly to realize how far you've come? How do you use this moment to stand strong in your own evolution? Do you recognize that your future can be more meaningful because of your past experiences? As you reflect on the past year or a big milestone, what difference has that year made? What things immediately spring to mind when you look back? What aspects of your life feel super aligned for you? Where are the areas where you're getting stuck or feeling pressure? Are there situations where you're saying “yes” to please others, but inside it makes you cringe? How can you give yourself the freedom and confidence to express your needs? How can those who love you, support you in ways that truly matter? I invite you to reflect on your own journey and set intentions for what's calling you. As a birthday gift, I'd love to hear about your growth, what's matters most to you, or how these Wise Walks have impacted you. If you're willing, please leave a review on iTunes to help others discover the True Stride podcast. Thank you for being part of this community. Your self-reflection and growth inspire us all. I look forward to our next wise walk – I'll be a bit older by then, but hopefully wiser too. Until next Thursday, keep striding forward.   In this episode: [03:35] I have a friend who uses her birthday to reflect on where she's been and where she's hoping to go. [04:06] It can be a time of renewal based on the seasons or any other time you choose. [04:23] For this Wise Walk, I ask you to get clear on your time frame of renewal. What are the presents you can give yourself? [05:24] One gift I can give myself is a consistent meditation practice. And so I am going to challenge myself to meditate every day. [06:26] When I reflect back on my 49th birthday I was in a very different place. [07:30] I'm grateful that I listened to my body, and I'm grateful that I found a great medical team. [09:03] There's so many things to do with friends and get together without it revolving around food and drink. [10:11] I love that I've been able to communicate, express and set healthy boundaries to support my habits and ways. [12:36] We can be our unique individual selves and honor those around us. [14:10] Honoring my body and my truth was the best gift I gave myself last year. [15:49] Meditation can be more successful after moving your body. [17:14] I'm also going to explore different types of meditation to keep it interesting. [20:04] You presenting yourself with presents teaches everyone else how you are worthy and deserving of gifts.   Memorable Quotes: “I've always kind of looked at these birthday milestones as a way of reflecting on… am I moving in the direction that I want to go.” - Mary Tess “We all have these just internal clocks for us to appreciate how far we've come and also awaken to what matters right now.” - Mary Tess “We have the ability to honor and give ourselves gifts that are really speaking to our heart.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value Insight Timer  

Recently, I've been on a fitness kick, incorporating yoga, strength training, walking, and even some hula hooping into my routine. As someone who prefers outdoor activities to gym workouts, I've been exploring different ways to stay active while enjoying nature. My sister Heather, who's also been focused on well-being and fitness, joined me in an interesting adventure. We decided to climb the St. Augustine lighthouse - all 219 steps of it, reaching a height of 165 feet. The experience was more than just a physical workout. Standing at the top, with the powerful wind and panoramic views of waters, landscapes, and buildings, I was struck by the profound purpose of lighthouses. These structures serve as beacons, guiding ships safely through potentially hazardous waters and helping them navigate to their destinations. This realization led me to reflect on how we, as individuals, can act as beacons in our life and other's lives. We have the ability to shine a light on challenges, offer guidance through difficult times, and illuminate paths forward. Moreover, like the phrase "beacon of hope" suggests, we can also highlight and celebrate the positive aspects of life. For today's Wise Walk, I'd like us to take a moment to consider this metaphor. Let's explore some questions about how we embody the qualities of a lighthouse in our personal and professional lives.  In what areas of your life do you feel like a beacon?  Do you shine a light to illuminate hazards and dangers? Are you shining a light to illuminate areas to celebrate? As you notice what becomes your tendency, how does that make you feel? What are you training your brain to do, and how does that resonate with you deep in your heart? Does being a beacon feel aligned to you? Where in your life are you pushing yourself too hard? Could you benefit from a beacon of reason or beacon of releasing expectations? What intentions are you setting and how are you making sure that you enjoy the win? As we wrap up today's episode, I hope you take some time to reflect on the beacons in your life. Consider what type of beacon you want to be for yourself and for those you love. Also, think about who around you acts as a beacon, safely guiding you through life's ups, downs, and everything in between. I'd love to hear what you took away from today's episode. Go ahead and flash some beacon light my way! I look forward to our next wise walk.   In this episode: [04:23] I share a story of a coaching client who was responsible for quality assurance. Always on the lookout for problems, and it weighed on others.  [05:06] If all you see is problems, then you help others see hazards and navigate around them. [05:42] Train your brain to be a beacon of celebration or a beacon of warning. [06:24] Both spectrums are equally valuable. There are times when we need to be a beacon of warning and awareness. [07:22] We have the ability to be a beacon of hope and inspire someone that's in despair. [08:03] We have to pivot, evolve and change with life or the tides of life. [09:47] There is also a beacon of reason that reminds us to slow down and celebrate what we did today. [10:46] It's important to be a beacon of reason and not burn out. [12:00] The lighthouse has brought so many individuals to safe harbor, and you can feel the energy. [12:43] We enjoyed the win without overdoing it. [13:09] Sometimes it's about releasing unrealistic deadlines or expectations.   Memorable Quotes: “We don't have to be in a lighthouse in order to shine a light and bring awareness to challenges or difficult times or rocky waters.” - Mary Tess “We train our brain either to be a beacon to avoid disaster or a beacon to celebrate, to be a beacon of hope and light and reassurance, a beacon of comfort even.” - Mary Tess “There are times where we need to be a beacon of warning and awareness and make sure that we safely guide ourselves or others to safe harbor.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

Have you ever taken the time to ask what's fueling your mood? In our last episode, we explored the powerful concept of retreat - recognizing when we need to step back, regroup, and realign our energies. Your feedback was incredible, and a common thread emerged: many of you resonated with feelings of heaviness. Today, we're going to explore this shared experience. As someone who's personally navigated through periods of feeling stuck or depressed, I understand the weight of these emotions. Over the years, I've developed strategies to shift my energy in a more positive direction, and I'm excited to share these with you. In this episode, we'll slow down, check our reality, and focus on what's fueling our moods. Join me as we embark on another Wise Walk, exploring practical ways to lighten our emotional load and move forward with renewed purpose.  What is fueling your mood right now? What sounds, environments, or stimulations are impacting your mood? How are outside influences or noises affecting your energy and mood? As you notice your mood shifts based on the stimuli around you, what are you doing to be intentional about what you listen to? As you reflect on this past week, what are the things you are inviting into your life that have been affecting your mood, whether that's positive or negative? What are you doing to change the channel if whatever you're absorbing or whatever is being pushed upon you is negatively affecting you? How can you shift your energies outside of the influences, noises or situations around you, and can you make a better choice for yourself? What events are coming up or occur regularly in your life? How can you incorporate fuel to enhance your mood or create desired experiences? As you incorporate voices or tunes, how do they nourish you and affect your mood? Do you give yourself permission to tune out misaligned influences or uninvite others to be more intentional about what fuels you? As we conclude our Wise Walk today, I encourage you to be conscious of what's fueling or affecting your mood. Consider the choices you can make to create an enhanced experience, and don't hesitate to cut ties with things that weigh you down or feel heavy.  Focus your energy on gaining clarity and intention around the things that are life-giving and bring in more healthy, abundant life force energy.  I'd love to hear your takeaways from today's episode. What's fueling your mood in positive ways? Share your thoughts and experiences with our community. As for me, I'm excited to see what choices I'll make today as a result of our wise walk.    In this episode: [01:23] Last episode we talked about the importance of retreating and recognizing signs and steps we need to move in a different direction. [02:01] I received a lot of feedback on this episode. A common theme was the idea of feeling heavy. [03:35] Intentional Listening, Music's Power as a Channel of Communications a TEDx at Livermore talk by Donna Stoering. [04:17] Music can heal our mood for the positive or the negative and so much more. [07:02] There's a lot to be said for using music as a channel of communication. [09:22] I've also been using music to shift my energy. There's dance music that really brings me joy like Pitbull radio on Spotify. [10:25] I'm also being very conscious about what I'm watching. [11:13] It's scientifically proven that music can spark brain activity. [14:38]  There are so many outside influences that affect our mood including food and exercise which can all affect us at a cellular level. [15:09] I'm cutting stuff from my life that feels heavy, because I don't want to feel this way.   Memorable Quotes: “Music does have healing abilities and you can see music as a channel for joy and sadness. You know, if we're going through grief, there's different music that might help us cry and release that grief.” - Mary Tess “I don't need to absorb any negativity that I don't want in my life related to whatever I'm experiencing.” - Mary Tess “There was specific music I would listen to in order to feel like I was connected more deeply to that writing flow.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value Intentional Listening, Music's Power as a Channel of Communications  

This has been a super challenging and draining week for me. At first, I tried to push through, struggling with a long to-do list while feeling stuck in mud or sludge. Everything felt heavy and hard. It took time to accept my situation, as my mind clung to all I wanted to accomplish.  This episode is about retreat. What it means to you, and signs that it's time to do so. Some of the things I discuss include recognizing the signs that tell us it's time to pause, reassess, and find a better path forward. These signs can be subtle – like lacking energy for activities we usually love, feeling short-tempered with those close to us, or sensing we're stuck in an emotional quagmire.  Sometimes, retreat looks like a peaceful, zen-like experience where we create space to realign with ourselves. Other times, it feels more like escaping from overwhelming situations. Either way, retreat gives us permission to step back from our normal routines and the expectations we place on ourselves. When I finally released those expectations and decided to prioritize rest, retreat, and self-care, things began to feel lighter day by day. For today's wise walk, I thought we would slow down and we would check our reality and ask ourselves these questions: Do you know what signs indicate that you need to rest or retreat or regroup? Do you have a consistent pattern of recognizing those signs? Do you give yourself permission to feel and listen to them? And then what steps do you take to honor where you are? Do you actually know what your well-being needs to retreat and to slowly make strides in the right direction? Do you recognize when retreat would be a healthy choice for you? Are you aware of situations that you've experienced recently where those signs have cropped up and maybe you need to implement some self-care, self-love and self-acceptance so that you can find another direction to move forward? It doesn't mean you're giving up on your dream, but what's a way you can save yourself some strife or internal conflict in order to reposition yourself and set yourself up for success in a different way? What are the opportunities you can give yourself to change perspective, to shift that energy and incorporate retreat in a blissful environment, sanctuary space that you could create for yourself? Basically, where do you seek refuge when you know that there is a life circumstance that is weighing you down and you need to retreat from?  How can you honor and accept that feeling?  Where can you create more space and grace in your life, and withdraw from the normal activities so you can have more peace during your major transition or when you feel emotionally stuck?  What are other healthy choices that you can make that will support you instead of sabotage you? I hope you'll take away from this episode the importance of being mindful of your signs when you need to retreat. Once you notice those signs, consider what practices you can put in place to create space and grace for yourself, allowing you to feel lighter even during heavy times. I'm grateful you listened to this vulnerable share. No one likes to admit they had a bad week, but I did. I love that we can connect - or reconnect - on this level and continue to support each other along the way. Please tune in to next Thursday's Wise Walk. I don't know what it will bring, but I'm excited to see what unfolds for both you and me. As you enter this next week, remember to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your stride on.   In this episode: [03:03] -  When you look at the stress or the weight of the conflict you're in and the only thing to do is to acknowledge it and retreat for your own well-being. [03:39] -  "We are not retreating. We're advancing in another direction." General Douglas MacArthur [04:10] -  Retreat doesn't mean failure. [05:00] -  Knowing when to retreat are signs that come up and say, hey you better stop and figure out a better path forward. [05:37] -  Mary Tess talks about warning signs and red flags, including not having the energy for what she normally loves to do and being really short with something she loves, like her dog. [07:07] -  Another sign when I'm going through a major transition or have just exited a transition is knowing that I've given all of my energy to that transition. Also, feeling stuck or depressed. [08:55] -  The word retreat has different meanings and also different visualizations. [09:21] -  The peaceful zen retreat experience is very positive. You are creating space to get back in touch with yourself and in alignment. [10:34] -  This past week I felt like I was getting hammered and had to escape from a very difficult situation. I had to accept it and release the expectations of what I thought I would get done this week. [11:29] -  I was stuck on an emotional level and felt like I needed to retreat from difficult situations. [12:59] -  Think about moments in your life when you feel tired and overwhelmed and give yourself permission to retreat and choose another direction. [15:48] -  You do what you do in order to manage the chaos that you are feeling. [16:46] -  When we retreat from our normal activities, and the expectations we put on ourselves, then we have more space to just feel lighter.   Memorable Quotes: “We acknowledge when we can't just push through and push forward and will our way to be. Sometimes we have to regroup and then look at alternative paths or look at alternative options in order to move in alignment with ourselves” - Mary Tess “Once we accept where we are, once we acknowledge what we're facing, then and only then can we decide to move in a different direction. Then we can make different choices for ourselves.” - Mary Tess “If I just feel stuck or depressed, these are big flashing warning signs for me to retreat, to regroup, and figure out what's another path or direction I can take in order to regain my momentum and my stride.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

Wherever you are in geographical space, I hope that you are not weathering any literal or metaphorical storms right now. But if you are, I think this episode might interest you because I'm in the midst of managing a literal hurricane approaching Florida, Hurricane Debby. Also, I am metaphorically going through a big transition, and it feels like I've been managing a storm for a while now.  When a storm is heading your way, do you recognize the emotional and physical things you'll need to prepare for, and do you make a plan to control what you can? Do you also accept what you can't control? Because storms have a way of surprising us. We can only control so much, right? So, do you manage what you can and accept the things you can't? Storms can make us feel weighed down, but they also have a way of blowing through, passing over, or going around us. We don't always know the full impact until they hit, whether it's landfall or on an emotional level. But as long as we stay self-aware, go inward, and continue to take these wise walks, we will be able to manage them in a way that strengthens us. If we focus on controlling what we can before the storm actually hits—whether that storm is literal or metaphorical—then we have the opportunity to clear out, to remove any obstacles or hazards that might cause chaos or damage. We can create a space that supports us through the storm, so when it finally passes, we emerge stronger and more resilient. What better time for us to go on a wise walk today, slow down, check our reality, and ask ourselves some important questions about how we manage our storms—or how we weather them? When a storm is heading your way, do you recognize the emotional and physical things to prepare?  Do you make plans to control what you can and accept what you can't control? Do you carve out time for self-care?  Do you have structural things in place to feel supported during this chaotic or heavy experience? Do you have clutter-free zones? Have you taken care of paperwork that seems to be weighing you down? Are there things within your home environment that feel heavy, and can you move them out of the way? What are the things that you can control in your environment, whether that is physical or emotional, so that you feel really supported? Maybe as that storm is approaching you, maybe part of that is just eliminating things that you sign yourself up for? Are you going inward? Are you recognizing your emotions? Are you making a plan to minimize the impact of the storm to yourself as well as those around you? Are you staying informed? Are you staying connected with the community so that you can support each other and know what's in your heart? Are you willing to say yes and no to those things that will help you through this period of transition in a way that feels most aligned? Are you going to be kind to yourself to learn from this experience and this storm that you're currently weathering? As we wrap up, remember that by controlling what we can before the storm hits—whether literal or metaphorical—we have the chance to clear out anything that might cause chaos or damage.  Our environment plays a big role in how we weather the storm, so take a moment to assess and manage your space. Whether you're facing an actual hurricane or navigating an emotional storm. Join this inspiring community to uncover a new sense of freedom, and be sure to follow and review the True Stride podcast as we continue to exchange our light and Heart Value with each other. I would love to hear what you took away from today's episodes. Feel free to reach out and tune in next Thursday as we go on another wise walk. Until then, please be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your stride on.   In this episode: [00:04] - When a storm is heading your way, recognize the emotional and physical things that you're going to need to prepare for. Control what you can control. [07:54] - Part of my emotional storm preparation or planning is all about creating space in my home. [11:23] - The ability to communicate or express yourself and stay connected, even if you are battening down the hatch, is super important for our well-being, for our sense of community, and for those around us that love us to know that we're okay. [15:08] - I have some inward practices that really support me, whether there's a physical or emotional storm coming my way. I'm going to pull them out and make sure that I slow down. [17:01] - While you face the storms, know that I'm sending lots of love and light your way. Until our next wise walk, please be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path and get your stride on.   Memorable Quotes: “We don't always know the full impact until storms hit, whether it's landfall or on an emotional level.” - Mary Tess “Storms can make us feel weighed down, but they also have a way of blowing through, passing over, or going around us.” - Mary Tess “If we focus on controlling what we can before the storm actually hits, then we have the opportunity to clear out, to remove any obstacles or hazards that might cause chaos or damage.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

This week has been one of those weeks, you know the kind where you get these intuitive hits, feel resistance in certain areas of your life, and find yourself wondering, "What am I supposed to do with this information? How do I move forward?" That's exactly what I've been navigating lately. I'm in the middle of a business deal, and at first, everything felt aligned—everyone seemed to be operating in good faith, coming to the table with transparency. It was that good feeling of mutual respect and honesty. But then, something shifted.  You know the feeling when the energy changes, and suddenly you realize the other party isn't being upfront? They're not coming to the table with the same integrity, and that's when the alarm bells go off. So, I had to take a step back and ask myself, "How do I protect my best interests in this situation?" Because at the end of the day, while we can't control how others behave, we are responsible for how we show up and how we respond. We can only hope that others meet us at that same energetic level and reciprocate, but if they don't, it's up to us to pay attention to our emotions and act accordingly. In today's wise walk, I invite you to slow down with me and check our reality and ask ourselves these questions: When you intuitively feel like something is off, either in a business transaction or in some type of relationship or agreement that you made with yourself or with someone else, do you honor those feelings? Do you pay attention when you sense that something is off? When something feels off, do you communicate that, or do you figure out a way to protect yourself? Do you give yourself permission or freedom to choose again if your original plan or agreement is not in good faith? If someone is not operating in good faith with you, do you give yourself permission to pivot, saying, "Okay, it seems like this deal or opportunity has taken a unique turn, so what is my response to that"? When people show up differently than they did in the beginning, do you let that information in, process it, and move forward with your best intentions in mind? When was the last time you made an agreement or pursued an opportunity that initially felt in flow? Did you reach a crossroads where you started to question if it was right for you? Did you begin to doubt whether the other party had the best intentions? When you sensed a disconnect, did you stand up for yourself? Did you communicate that you felt a shift in the situation? What aspects of the transaction or opportunity left you with unanswered questions? As you sought answers, did you experience anxiety or unresolved feelings? If your concerns were ignored, how did you show up to protect yourself? Join this inspiring community to uncover a new sense of freedom, and be sure to follow and review the True Stride podcast as we continue to exchange our light and Heart Value with each other. I would love to hear what you took away from today's episodes. Feel free to reach out and tune in next Thursday as we go on another wise walk. Until then, please be sure to prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your stride on.   In this episode: [6:47] - Asking listeners to reflect on a time when they were pursuing an opportunity that initially felt right but later led to questioning the other party's intentions. [8:46] - Discussing a preference for direct communication with the source in business deals, rather than relying solely on lawyers, as long as conversations remain productive. [10:18] - Explaining the decision to reach out to a lawyer to understand contractual responsibilities and options when communication with the other party broke down. [11:34] - Acknowledging the need to speak with the lawyer to understand responsibilities and options before making a decision. [12:06] - Emphasizing the importance of slowing down and gathering information as a position of power, using both the brain and heart to make decisions. [13:06] - A personal anecdote about my mother who was a lawyer but always sought to mediate and encourage communication outside the courtroom.   Memorable Quotes: “We can show up with our best selves and hope that they meet us on an energetic level and they reciprocate. But we are still responsible for how we feel and paying attention to those emotions and energies.” - Mary Tess “When communication breaks down, when information becomes limited, that's when leaders make bad decisions. And you are a leader in your life. You are the main character, the heroine or the hero of your life.” - Mary Tess “We as humans, we know what is right inside of us. And if we're dealing with someone that is showing up with the best of intentions for themselves and for me, the other party, and for the transaction, if you will, then we should be able to come to reasonable agreements.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

This is a monumental milestone—episode 200 of the True Stride podcast! Can you believe it? Two hundred episodes of taking wise walks on this path together, sharing stories, insights, and personal growth.  When this journey began, I was in a period of major life transition, having left corporate America and embarking on the adventure of writing my book, Heart Value. In planning to publish a book, I received feedback to voice my message and beliefs in a more public and accessible way. Thus, this podcast was born. In the early days, I had no idea how long I'd keep the podcast going. I started with the intention to feel my way forward. And here we are, four years later, still walking together. Through these episodes, I've embraced this theme of going with the flow and stepping into a more aligned, self-guided journey.  It's been a blessing to connect with you, to receive your feedback, and to hear how you are making positive changes in your lives. As we reflect on the past four years, I invite you to ponder: How have you evolved? What are you most proud of? What new practices or beliefs have you adopted?  Your stories of career transitions, setting healthy boundaries in relationships, and practicing self-love have been a source of joy and inspiration for me. We've shared in each other's struggles and triumphs, and I am deeply grateful for your vulnerability and trust. As I look ahead, I see no end in sight for the True Stride podcast. We will continue to feel our way forward, giving ourselves permission to reinvent and align with our highest selves at every juncture. So, as we embark on our 200th Wise Walk, let's celebrate our journey, our growth, and the beautiful connections we've made.  Thank you for being part of this incredible path. Please share your thoughts on what has been most meaningful, surprising, and what you are most proud of. Until next time, Striders, prioritize fun as you read the signs, direct your path, and get your stride on! As you reflect back on the past four years that we've been on this journey together, how have you evolved? What are you most proud of? What's something that stands out to you, a new muscle or a new belief or new self-love practice that you incorporate now? How does that make you feel? As you think about all of the Wise Walks that we've gone on together, what has been surprising to you? What's something you took away that you didn't even know you needed at the time?  What has been illuminated that has become meaningful to you? As you reflect back on your 200 episodes or the past four years, how have you evolved as a human? What crossroads or unique paths that presented themselves made you pivot?  What made you reinvent yourself? Are you enjoying that new version of you as much as I am? Are you giving yourself the freedom to choose again? Are you loving who you were exactly as you were back then, because you needed to be that person to get to where you are today? As you look back and you appreciate where you are, are you doing it from this mindset of self-love and self-appreciation for who you are at all phases of your life and who you are stepping into more and more with each Wise Walk that you take with yourself? Join this inspiring community to uncover a new sense of freedom, and be sure to follow and review the True Stride podcast as we continue to exchange our light and Heart Value with each other.   In this episode: [00:29] - Mary Tess expresses surprise at reaching 200 episodes, reflecting on the uncertainty and growth experienced since the podcast began. [01:08] - Mary Tess discusses leaving corporate America in 2018 and the transition period that followed, including writing her book, Heart Value. [03:23] - The concept of "feeling my way forward" is introduced, highlighting the shift from structured goals to a more intuitive approach. [04:18] - Reflecting on the past four years, Mary Tess invites listeners to think about their own evolution and the practices they've adopted. [06:03] - Stories from listeners about career transitions and setting healthy boundaries are shared, showcasing the impact of the podcast. [09:12] - Mary Tess acknowledges the challenges faced, including COVID-19, and the resilience of the podcast community in continuing despite these obstacles. [11:26] - Emphasis on the freedom to reinvent oneself at every juncture and the importance of self-love and self-appreciation. [14:06] - Mary Tess reflects on her move to St. Augustine, Florida, and how it has been pivotal for her personal and professional growth. [16:02] - Being surrounded by love, because at the end of the day that's what really matters.   Memorable Quotes: “Thank you for showing me what I'm capable of, showing me that I love this connection with you so much that I kept coming back. Regardless of what happened, I knew that we would continue to get stronger.” - Mary Tess “We've faced many challenges together, from personal losses to the global pandemic, yet we never missed an episode. This unwavering commitment to each other is a testament to the strength of our community.” - Mary Tess “One of the super cool things about continuing to feel our way forward is that we're giving ourselves permission to choose again and reinvent ourselves at every juncture, in every crossroads, in every unexpected delay or path” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

I hope that wherever you are, you're listening to this episode in a cool, calm, and supportive environment. I wish that for you because here in St. Augustine, Florida, we've been dealing with some crazy heat lately. It's not your typical hot Florida sun—it's that humid air that feels dense and almost hard to breathe. Over the past few nights, things have taken it up a notch. I'm dog-sitting for my sister, so my two pups and I moved into her home to watch her dog. When her AC went out, the situation became downright oppressive. As I manage this in various ways, I thought, what better opportunity for you and me to go on a wise walk together?  Let's slow down, check our reality, and reflect on how we stay cool, calm, and collected when we're under pressure or feeling the heat. So, the questions on my mind are: When you find yourself in a pressure cooker situation, what ways do you embrace to chill out and feel grounded and centered, even if you can feel the heat coming towards you?  What's a situation you've recently experienced where you've noticed different qualities or responses in how you handle heat? And what are some things you want to do to manage it better in the future? In this episode we'll reflect on stress management strategies and consider how they can improve our reactions in future high-pressure scenarios.  We'll underscore the importance of finding balance, staying centered, and approaching life's pressure cooker moments with a cool, collected demeanor. These wise walk questions can help guide you through reflecting on and improving your responses to high-pressure situations, ensuring you maintain calmness, empathy, and composure. When you find yourself in a pressure cooker situation what ways do you embrace in order to chill out? What's a situation you've recently experienced where you've noticed different responses to how you handle heat? What are things you want to do in order to manage high-pressure situations better?  When was the last time you got hot and bothered by a situation in your life? How did you respond? Are you proud of how you handled the situation or are there opportunities to shift your energy? What situation are you grappling with right now that has you triggered? Can you identify the trigger and choose to approach it in a more compassionate and supportive way? When are we making decisions in our life from a hot and bothered standpoint? When are we making decisions from the cool, calm and collected energy? Can we be intentional about how we're moving through our day? Are we realizing that our normal tendency to react may not serve us and instead go into a place of stillness? What are the different ways you find your center? Can you express yourself and create space from the heat? How do you speak your truth and get the results that you want in a kind, cool and compassionate way? Join this inspiring community to uncover a new sense of freedom, and be sure to follow and review the True Stride podcast as we continue to exchange our light and Heart Value with each other.   In this episode: [04:54] - Mary Tess talks about how she was able to catch herself and realize she was creating her own stress when seated next to a sick person on a plane. [08:32] - When the breaker went out, Mary Tess tried to find a calm way to solve the problem. [09:51] - One of the ways she was managing the heat was by finding her center and being still. [10:43] - The polar opposites of hot and bothered and cool, calm and collected. [13:31] - Mary Tess talks about being a people pleaser and letting things slide, she now isn't afraid to speak up and correct someone.  [16:22] - How do you speak your truth and get the results that you want in a kind cool and compassionate way?   Memorable Quotes: “At the end of the day, I always want to try and be kind even when I can feel the heat or the pressure on.” - Mary Tess “We have the ability to help create the environment that our bodies, mind, and heart needs. Even if we're in a pressure cooker situation.” - Mary Tess “I love it when you can approach any tough, hot situation with a cool, calm and collected truth settling response.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

Even when we're met with a crossroad, life around us continues. It's up to you to honor the transition you're facing. This episode talks about sending blessings and intentions while moving forward in life. I have some loved ones that are in a period of transition. Some of them are selling homes and looking towards new homes, which can be a little stressful. In my own experience, I've bought four homes and sold three. Each time felt different, but what stayed the same is this idea of releasing the old before moving into our new dream. I'm here to spend quality solo time with you for EP198's Wise Walk as we discover our True Stride. The process of transition and reinventing ourselves has brought up different things for me since I also feel I'm at a juncture of big transitions. I'm letting go of what once was and moving forward with a new version of myself, which I'll share more about in a future episode. For today, I'm talking about how I don't want anyone to feel the stress or burden of feeling stuck when you're ready to move on. On our Wise Walk, we discuss sending blessings and intentions as we move into a new era. You can thrive in the process of your transition. Come with me as we reflect on these Wise Walk questions: Wherever you are in this moment, are you living the dream that is near and dear to your heart? Is there a goal that you have your sights set on? Can you start calling in support for making your way towards that transition? What ceremonies can you integrate into your life to bless that future transition? Are there different ceremonies in your life that you've been introduced to that feels aligned to you? Will you explore other ceremonies or celebrations to bless your transitions and alignment? Before you embark on a new journey, it's important to send yourself off with a blessing and good intentions. This extra support helps you stay grounded when there are bumps or detours along the way. Get prepared for your transition. Bless your path with these Wise Walk questions: What is one blessing or intention that you want to set for yourself today? Where do you feel like you could use a little extra support? What can you incorporate into your routine to honor your intention? What blessing or intention do you want to set for someone you love? How can you express that energy to that someone you love? Join this inspiring community to uncover a new sense of freedom, and be sure to follow and review the True Stride podcast as we continue to exchange our light and Heart Value with each other.   In this episode: [00:23] - Welcome to the show! [01:09] - Mary Tess talks about making room for transitions. [03:44] - Do you see a transition in your near future? [05:52] - Mary Tess explains her method of calling upon saints and the Universe to support our dreams and needs. [08:51] - Which ceremonies feel aligned for you? [11:14] - Bring playful practices into your transition. [13:53] - It feels amazing to have support. [15:19] - Thank you for listening!   Memorable Quotes: “Look at what you can do and look at the different ways you can feel empowered when you feel a bit more supported.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

If we're not careful, perfectionism can slow us down and bury our potential. There has to be an easier way. This episode talks about how you can reform perfectionism. I completely love reading something, whether it's an article, book, or social media post, and it strikes a chord as I'm reading. For example, I have a friend who has a history of struggling with her weight and body image. She posted on social media her revelation of finally accepting her fuller physique, including brave pictures of herself in all her glory. It's inspiring. I'm here to spend quality solo time with you for EP197's Wise Walk as we discover our True Stride. My friend's post struck a chord with me when I think about my relationship with being a perfectionist. It was useful sometimes and draining during other times. At each phase of our life, we can appreciate the capabilities and the abilities available to us at the time. Let's celebrate our current capacity. On our Wise Walk, we discuss how you can reform perfectionism. You can find a more flexible approach to achieving your True Stride. Come with me as we reflect on these Wise Walk questions: Where in your life are you holding yourself to a high, unattainable standard? Where can you release that tension?  Where in your life are you being critical because you're comparing yourself to others? Where can you let that comparison go? Give yourself the grace and space to set a new standard that honors your current capacity. Imagine how much better you'll feel and more you'll get done when you let go of your rigid and unattainable standards. Join this inspiring community to uncover a new sense of freedom, and be sure to follow and review the True Stride podcast as we continue to exchange our light and Heart Value with each other.   In this episode: [00:23] - Welcome to the show! [02:33] - Striving for perfection sometimes ruins the magic within the fun. [03:32] - “Not everything in life has to be perfect.” [06:11] - Being happy with where and what you can get right now. [09:04] - Thank you for listening!   Memorable Quotes: “Embrace our flaws, embrace our strengths, and everything in between.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

What gets a reaction out of you? What kind of reaction does it get? Imagine how aligned your life would be if you were aware of when your reaction is taking you off course. This episode talks about encouraging you to choose your response. I love the saying: “We make plans… and God laughs at us.” If you haven't heard it before, it's like a reality check. We make plans and then become flustered when we get hit with a curveball or detour. Meanwhile, God is laughing since there is a plan already in place taking us to where we need to go, and possibly somewhere much better than what we imagined. I'm here to spend quality solo time with you for EP196's Wise Walk as we discover our True Stride. Sometimes we expect our plans to go a certain way, and when it doesn't, we get distracted by that difference. The moment we're supposed to be enjoying gets overshadowed by holding onto that expectation. We have to step outside of that hold. On our Wise Walk, we discuss the power of reframing your perspective and choosing how you respond. You have to ask yourself if you know how to go with the flow when nothing seems to be going as planned. Come with me as we reflect on these Wise Walk questions: When your plans don't go as planned, how do you choose to respond? How can you choose a response that supports your overall well being? When you think about the last time your plans got derailed, did you flow with that detour or fight to get things back on track? When you fought to get your plans back on track, how did that work out for you? Do you often feel that you need to fight for an outcome or are you able to be flexible for an outcome? You might be in a situation where there's not a way to avoid the detour. You could go kicking and screaming, or maybe you can learn to laugh along the way. Make the most of each moment until you can consciously realign with your experience. Choose your response with these Wise Walk questions: When something takes you off track, can you pause and see how that thing could be a blessing in its own way? What opportunity does that pause present you? How can you embrace the moment instead of fight it? What do you notice about how you're choosing to respond? Where are you choosing to expend energy?   Join this inspiring community to uncover a new sense of freedom, and be sure to follow and review the True Stride podcast as we continue to exchange our light and Heart Value with each other.   In this episode: [00:23] - Welcome to the show! [01:11] - How can you choose a response that supports your overall well being? [02:30] - Mary Tess talks about her experience making plans and navigating detours in her podcasts. [04:46] - A surprise. [06:32] - How can we make the most of whatever happens? [08:03] - Life happens, and that's okay. PART 1 [10:44] - Life happens, and that's okay. PART 2 [13:02] - Where is your energy going? [15:52] - Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “We have these expectations, and then when they're not met to the degree we planned them, we take them personally.” - Mary Tess “We can choose to respond to what's important and let go of the rest.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

Life can be so repetitive. We find ourselves in routines that start to feel exhausting, robotic or soulless. If your life is feeling a bit draining lately, it might be a sign you need a vacation. This episode talks about taking breaks to recreate. I remember the first marathon I trained for was a few years after I had foot surgery. At the time, I was still gaining confidence about running. I managed to get my mileage to 13 miles, but a marathon is 26.2 miles. That's when I decided to visit a podiatrist (who I still see to this day) to help with my approach to this marathon goal. I'm here to spend quality solo time with you for EP195's Wise Walk as we discover our True Stride. He asked questions about my running routine. Turns out, my routine put a lot of strain on my body on one side. I realized I may need to take a break and switch up the routes and the routine. On our Wise Walk, we discuss taking breaks to recreate. You have the ability to pause and shift the harmony of your world when you're feeling off kilter. Come with me as we reflect on these Wise Walk questions: What in your life feels like wear and tear on yourself? Where can you step outside your routine or work that's draining you? How can you get excited about shifting your routine? It only takes a moment to recenter. Once you slow down, you get a chance to recognize what's starting to feel stressful and like a task. Then, you have the choice to put some space between you and the draining force. Plan a much needed vacation for yourself so you can recharge. Find ways to renew your energy with these Wise Walk questions: What in your life feels like work, but once gave you joy? How can you incorporate some recreation into your life and re-create joy? What vacation will support your best self? Which types of vacations will replenish you? How can you recharge and come back stronger than before? Join this inspiring community to uncover a new sense of freedom, and be sure to follow and review the True Stride podcast as we continue to exchange our light and Heart Value with each other.   In this episode: [00:23] - Welcome to the show! [02:44] - Re-create your harmony. [04:09] - Mary Tess talks about learning to take a break and switch routines up. [06:25] - A very needed vacation. [08:13] - Where in our lives do we need a vacation? [10:42] - Being supportive while also setting healthy boundaries. [13:00] - Mary Tess talks about putting a pause on draining patterns. [14:57] - Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “We have to figure out what that healthy boundary is so we can balance and harmonize our life in such a way that we support our highest and best self.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value  

Have you ever gotten so used to something that you forget it's there? You may have habits in your life that come so naturally to you that you don't give them a second thought. This episode talks about releasing your flip flop patterns. I had such a lovely morning. I treated myself to a 90-minute massage with an exceptional massage therapist. She is someone that I've worked with for a while, so she knows my body well. One of the things that I love about working with her is how she isn't afraid to tell me what she's observing and what I can do to improve my overall physical health. I'm here to spend quality solo time with you for EP194's Wise Walk as we discover our True Stride. While leaving my massage session today, my therapist requested that I don't put my shoes on immediately. They were flip flops specifically. The reason she didn't want me to put them on is so she could show me the imbalanced footprint left in each flip flop. I wasn't supporting myself properly as I walked and she didn't want me to slip back into that habit once I put my shoes back on. On our Wise Walk, we discuss releasing your flip flop patterns. We need to be present enough to take a step away from a situation so we can see the imbalances. Come with me as we reflect on these Wise Walk questions: Where in your life do you want to feel supported? What are you willing to release in order to support yourself in that way? Are there areas in your life that are holding you back? Can you see them in the big picture and decide if you need to get rid of them? You may need a break so you're not unintentionally settling into a habit that's well established but not good for you. Inside that break, you can make big changes and get away from patterns that loop you into bad habits. Put some space between you and the habits that don't support your best self. Be aware of your patterns with these Wise Walk questions: What's one area in your life where you feel misaligned? As you reflect on that misalignment, what choices keep you stuck in that habit? What could help you move past that habit? Join this inspiring community to uncover a new sense of freedom, and be sure to follow and review the True Stride podcast as we continue to exchange our light and Heart Value with each other.   In this episode: [00:23] - Welcome to the show! [02:23] - What are you doing to support your best self? [04:48] - Is there something worth letting go to of so you have better support? [06:34] - “We have to be aware of our patterns.” PART 1 [09:20] - “We have to be aware of our patterns.” PART 2 [11:45] - Mary Tess shares this lesson she learned about not forcing help on others. [14:24] - Everyone is on their own journey. [17:14] - Thank you for listening! Memorable Quotes: “We have to be aware of our patterns.” - Mary Tess   Links and Resources: Mary Tess Rooney Email Facebook | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram Heart Value