But Why?

In this look back through the But Why best bits collection, we return to December 2022 when Clemmie talked to friend of the pod, mum of three, psychotherapist and bestselling author Anna Mathur about loneliness. Anna is passionate about taking therapy out of the therapy room and sharing her own personal and professional experiences to support mums through motherhood. Her podcast, 'The Therapy Edit', has over a million downloads and her new book, 'The Little Book of Calm for New Mums', is out now! Find Anna on Instagram @annamathur and check out Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford. You can also find more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's bitesize episode sees Clemmie delve into the world of style with East London based Art Director & Stylist Zeena Shah. Zeena trained as a printed textile designer at Chelsea School of Art & Design, she has a passion for colour, print and pattern AND she's also a print designer/maker/illustrator and Creative Workshop Tutor.  As if that's not enough, Zeena is also an author and her most recent book - Marbling: Projects, Design Ideas and Techniques for a More Colourful Life - is all about preserving the art of marbling. Oh, and her incredible wedding also featured in Vogue! Clemmie and Zeena discuss why style is so important, how shopping in your own wardrobe can bring unexpected delights and why men have it tough when it comes to fashion. You can check out Zeena on Instagram @heartzeena and why not follow Clemmie too @Clemmie_telford. You can also find lots more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's Rewind episode is all about CODEPENDENCY & PEOPLE PLEASING as Clemmie chats to Jo Westwood aka The Codependency Coach. Jo specialises in helping women to recover from codependency so they can feel content and secure alone, and have healthy fulfilling relationships in all areas of their lives. She's a recovering codependent herself, and the creator of the Wildly Worthy codependency recovery community, as well as The Anti People Pleasing Podcast.  Clemmie and Jo cover: WHAT IS CODEPENDENCY? WHAT ARE THE SIGNS TO LOOK OUT FOR? HOW DOES THAT RELATE TO PEOPLE PLEASING? THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN CODEPENDENCY AND NARCISSM THE ANXIETY GAP? HOW DO YOU RECOVER FROM CODEPENDENCY Find Jo on Instagram @JoWestwood, Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast episodes and content @ButWhyInsta. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's But Why bitesize is extraordinary and a little different. In normal circumstances, these mini episodes involve a very complicated edit, but not this week. In this episode Clemmie is looking at war with child genocide survivor Taban Shoresh, who founded Lotus Flower, a non-profit that supports female conflict survivors and refugees in Kurdistan, Iraq. And this shortened episode is simply her first answer. You can find the full episode wherever you get your podcasts. With a political activist father during Saddam Hussein's regime, Taban was imprisoned with her family aged just four, and they narrowly escaped being buried alive.  After a year dodging bombs and bullets, they were finally flown to the UK by Amnesty to start a new life.  In 2016 decided to give up her successful City of London career and establish Lotus Flower. It now supports women and girls who lost everything at the hands of ISIS, including their homes and loved ones, and who also suffered barbaric crimes such as slavery, rape and torture. To find out more about Lotus Flower visit Supporting Women & Girls impacted by conflict I The Lotus Flower. And to check out more content and listen to previous episodes go to @ButWhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this look back, we head to May, 2022, when Clemmie explored burn out with writer, humourist, ex-professional actress & singer Caroline Dooner, who wrote the The F*ck It Diet, all about her relationship with food and dieting, and Tired as F*ck, all about her "exhaustion & two years of rest". Ten years ago Caroline started writing a blog called The Fuck It Diet as she tried to heal her relationship with food, and learn about the dark side of dieting. What she learned about food and weight changed her life. If you struggle with your relationship with food, the The F*ck It Diet is for you. In 2016, four years after she healed her relationship with food, she realised she was exhausted, burnt out, and...filled with existential dread. Her second book, Tired as F*ck, is about how she got back on her feet and her "years being a neurotic little b*tch". Read the beginning here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're taking another trip down But Why memory lane to find a chat all about your gut. Clemmie welcomed twins Lisa and Alana Macfarlane (aka DJs The Mac Twins), who set up The Gut Stuff website to empower gut health in everyone after taking part in a piece of ground breaking research. Lisa and Alana had tried every fad diet under the sun, including the cabbage soup diet pre-Magaluf 2005 (remember that?) and grew up in Scotland eating deep-fried pizza and chips That all changed when they volunteered to be part of the TwinsUK research at King's College London. Twins are a great constant for medical research, and they became the ‘chief guinea pigs' for the British Gut Project. They discovered that despite twins having 100% of the same DNA, their guts shared only 30–40% of the same microbiota (head to intro to the gut for more on the basics!), which could explain why all of our bodies behave so differently.  Check out Lisa and Alana on Instagram @themactwins and The Gut Stuff @thegutstuff. And visit Home - The Gut Stuff for more info on how you can improve your gut health. The episode was made in partnership with Bimuno.  Biumuno Daily is a unique, high in fibre prebiotic supplement that has been proven to need and stimulate the growth of good bacteria in the gut. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this rewind episode, we go back to June 2022, when Clemmie explored the topic of County Lines with Danielle Marin. Danielle grew up in London with first generation immigrant parents, she was accepted into a grammar school, however her life changed completely after a brutal attack led her to involvement with ‘gangs' and drug crime. She later enrolled at university and graduated with a 1st. She has since advocated within the criminal justice system for many women: “the hidden victims and participants of organised crime”, and began her Masters in 2021. Clemmie and Danielle discuss what County Lines and 'country' means, why Danielle doesn't agree that she was in gang, and why nothing she experienced came close to the pain of having her son taken away from her. Danielle's book, ‘Top Girl', is out now and comes highly recommended! Find Clemmie on social media @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's But Why Rewind episode is from March, 2022, when Clemmie chatted to author and journalist Grace Timothy about ADHD and her own chance diagnosis made in 2021 after an appointment to check on her hearing. Clemmie and Grace, who has written for publications including Style, Vogue, Glamour, Marie Claire, the Sunday Times and Teen Vogue and is about to launch her own podcast about ADHD, discuss: Clemmie's husband Ben's recent ADHD diagnosis How ADHD affects women How ADHD is linked to other conditions like depression and anxiety And how Grace's own chance diagnosis helped her make sense of her life. Check out Grace on Instagram @Gracetimothywriter and you can find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's bitesize episode Clemmie talks about expectations and more importantly, how to manage them, with award-winning journalist, author and power lifter Poorna Bell. Poorna is the former Executive Editor and Global Lifestyle Head for HuffPost. She won Stylist's Rising Star award for 2019, Red Magazine's Big Book Award for 2019. Poorna has published three works of non-fiction: Chase The Rainbow, In Search of Silence and Stronger, which won a 2022 Sports Book award. Part memoir, part manifesto, Stronger explores society's pressures and expectations where women's fitness is concerned. She tackles everything from toxic environments and self-esteem to ageism, sexism, desirability and why choosing between your potential and social acceptance can be limiting. In Case of Emergency is Poorna's first work of fiction. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and Poorna @Poornabell. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's But Why Rewind, we revisit a chat Clemmie had with author Liv Thorne about the challenges of solo parenting. The pair discuss: How she reached the decision to have a baby alone. The process of choosing the sperm. What has surprised Liv about it? Hardest part? What it's taught her? How she talks to her son Herb about it. What advice would you go back and give yourself at the beginning of this process? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's But Why Bitesize, Clemmie tackles the topic of trauma with trauma expert, research psychologist, author, coach (and school friend) Dr Sarah Woodhouse, who has created the Freedom Process for women who are ready to look honestly at their past and understand why how and when it's affecting their life today. Clemmie and Sarah explore trauma, how it impacts on lives and how people can break free from their trauma and live the life they want. Plus they discuss Sarah's own experiences of trauma and how that has impacted her work. Find out more about Sarah, her work and her book - 'You're Not Broken' - at Sarah Woodhouse - Redefining Trauma. And you can find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're heading back to June 2021 for this But Why rewind episode, when Clemmie talked to an actual Dame and Gold medal winning Olympian Jessica Ennis-Hill about balance in our lives. As well as Clemmie wanting all the details on what it felt like to be Jessica on ‘that' Super Saturday, the pair discuss: - balancing a demanding career and the rest of life . - later balancing personal ambition and motherhood. - balancing your training and fitness regime inline with your cycle  This is all particularly relevant as Jess had just launched Jennis CycleMapping, an innovative new training programme which helps women optimise their hormonal health by mapping the right training sessions to the four phases of their menstrual cycle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this bitesize episode, which went out in October 2021, Clemmie speaks to podcaster and mental health campaigner Emma Tulley-Williams - aka @mummyspaininthearse - all about endometriosis. The pair discuss: Her first experiences of periods. How immediately shocking they were. The journey to getting diagnosed with endo. How misunderstood endo is, even though it impacts 1 in 10 women.  The impact of endo on her career, relationship and sex life.  The reality of living in pain. Her fears for her daughter as she approaches puberty.  What we can all do to help raise awareness of endo.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the latest trip down the But Why memory lane, Clemmie chats to Zoë Colville - aka @thechiefshepherdess on Instagram - about how she swapped a hair salon in Soho for life on the farm in Kent, why gold hoop earrings are important even when feeding goats, AND why she's determined to educate people about where food really comes from. To find out more about Zoë, check out her Instagram page and to get your hands on some of the produce from her farm, head to The Little Farm Fridge. – the little farm fridge. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's bitesize episode takes us back to July 2021, when Clemmie spoke to Darren of Rule_ette_out who is six years in recovery from gambling and has since set up gambling addiction support & awareness group. In the episode we discuss: Darren's first experience of gambling. How it is intrinsically linked to sport. When his habit moved into addiction. Seeking help and the process of recovery.  Misconceptions a gambling.  What we can do to educate our children about gambling.  Support: Anyone seeking advice and support please do reach out to: Gamcare Nacro Be Gamble Aware Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For this week's trip into the But Why archives, we go back to June 2021 when Clemmie chatted to Helen Thorne, one half of the Scummy Mummies about life in the aftermath of the breakdown of her marriage. Helen and her husband separated just days before the country went into lockdown in March 2020 and in this episode Helen chats openly about navigating heartbreak, the power of friendship, rediscovering dating and the huge pride she has for her children. It's a frank, raw and occasionally humorous episode. Resources: Helen has written a brilliant book about her experience. ‘Get Divorced Be Happy' is available to preorder now. On a previous episode of Honestly Clemmie spoke to divroce lawyer Sarah Langford about the legal process. Listen to it here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's bitesize episode, Clemmie speaks to Belinda Kirk who is a professional explorer! In 2010, she captained the first all-female rowing team to circumnavigate Britain non-stop, completing the journey in 51 days. The pair discuss: Belinda's incredible career including a trip where she sailed the Atlantic. The joy of adventure Why it is essential for our wellbeing. The long term impact of ‘choosing challenge'. Ways to instil adventure in our kids.  Belinda's book  Adventure Revolution: The life-changing power of choosing challenge is out now.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're trawling the But Why archives and bringing you some of the best bits from the last 100+ episodes. And this week we head back to April 2021 when Clemmie welcomed author and menstrual expert Maisie Hill to the pod to ask 'Why do we live in fear of menopause? Constant rage? Longer or shorter cycles? A desire to change your life? Any of these things sound familiar?(errrr yes) Then you could be on heading into perimenopause! And if that's you, how do you learn to embrace this transition rather than dread it. And you can start by listening to this epsiode! Maise Hill's Book: Period Power: ‘ Harness Your Hormones and Get Your Cycle Working For You' Perimenopause Power: ‘Perimenopause Power: Navigating your hormones on the journey to menopause.' Motherkind Podcast: During the episode they mention Motherkind podcast hosted by Zoe Blaskey, who talks to leading global experts on the challenges of modern motherhood. It's reassuring, smart and thought provoking. New episode every Thursday. Give it a listen here.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are back with more bitesize episodes, featuring your favourite conversations from But Why, and this one takes us back to a conversation Clemmie had with Sunday Times No1 (twice over!) author Vex King about self healing. The pair discuss: The importance of feeling your feelings.  How self reflection and self healing is game changing but uncomfortable.  How belief systems are formed. That default ‘positive thinking' isn't necessarily the answer. The power of asking yourself why you are reacting a certain way. The difference between self compassion and victimhood. Plus a whole lot more! It's an enlightening but down to earth episode. Vex's book: Healing Is the New High: A Guide to Overcoming Emotional Turmoil and Finding Freedom Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Chatting to Clemmie this week about how their brand came to be is Georgie Cleeve, founder of skincare brand, Oskia. Georgie founded Oskia in 2009 after her own experiences led her to become passionate about the benefits of nutritional skincare derived from natural ingredients. Oskia is now used and sold in shops and spas across the world and Georgie chats frankly about the sacrifices this brings from juggling her own family life with a business as well as working alongside your partner. She also shares the pitfalls of being your own product tester, and gives Clemmie a sneak peak into the brand's latest releases. Oskia is such a well known brand it was great to get a glimpse behind the scenes Check out Oskia Follow But Why  Follow Clemmie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Joining Clemmie to chat all about founding their business is Anna Lahey, founder of cosmetics brand Vida Glow. Anna turned her passion for ‘ingestible beauty' into Vida Glow in 2014, and since then it's grown into a global brand. Clemmie sits down with Anna to chat about all the challenges of growing a business and the pitfalls of being your own boss.  Anna also shares an insight into the brand's latest release, directly formulated for women's health, something she is hugely passionate about. If that isn't enough Anna was just about to go on maternity leave before having her fourth chat when this interview was recorded-if that's not inspiring we don't know what is! Listeners can get 10% off the Vida Glow Women's Health Range using the code CLEMMIE10 (one time use per customer). Check out Vida Glow Follow Anna Follow But Why  Follow Clemmie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stepping into the Meet the Founder hot seat this week is editor in chief of Stylist magazine, Lisa Smosarski. After working as an editor for a number of other successful women's magazines Lisa was asked to take the helm and launch Stylist in 2009, and since then it's become a household name. Lisa shares some of her trickiest decisions and early mistakes, from early editorial mistakes to being aware of a changing cultural landscape in order to best reflect the content she's putting out. Clemmie and Lisa even take a trip down memory lane and re-live some of their own memories from building their own careers in the noughties. Read Stylist Follow Lisa Follow But Why  Follow Clemmie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sharing the journey of their brand this week is Anna Richards, founder of modern erotic platform FrolicMe. Anna founded FrolicMe after being overwhelmed by the number of less ethical, old fashioned tube sites pushing male entered erotica. Anna's passion comes from wanting women to feel great, and some of the erotic fiction and films stems from Anna's own fantasies and the conversations she shares with other women. Anna opens up to Clemmie about the time and financial sacrifices it has taken for her to build FrolicMe, including battles with payment platform Paypal and a number of shocking Instagram shadow bans.  We hope this episode encourages you to prioritise your pleasure too… Listeners can currently get two years of FrolicMe for just £49.95 for two months. Check out FrolicMe Follow But Why  Follow Clemmie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Joining Clemmie this week to share their business story is Jamie Wild, founder of distilled alcohol free spirit, Feragaia. Jamie co-founded Feragaia after noticing an unfair lack of alcohol free spirits on bar shelves across the country, fast forward a few years, Feragaia is making waves across the city, in cocktail bars and in supermarkets. Clemmie and Jamie discuss the peaks and pits, of launching into the often tricky food and drink market, as well as overcoming challenges as a small business whilst maintaining your authentic roots and messaging. Jamie even shares some of his less successful business ideas from over the years and gives Clemmie a glimpse into the unique taste of Feragaia… This chat had us running to grab ourselves a bottle! Meet the Founder Listeners can get 20% of Feragaia with the code - CT20 Check out Feragaia  Follow But Why  Follow Clemmie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stepping into the Meet the Founder hot seat is founder of Peanut App, Michelle Kennedy. Whilst expecting her first child in 2014, Michelle noticed that there were not any social media apps for mothers to connect, which led her to start Peanut, which now hosts a community of millions of women, sharing advice, asking questions and building relationships. Michelle tells Clemmie all about the challenges of starting an app, being a woman in the tech industry and why she hates the term ‘Mumtrepreneur'. Michelle we salute you! Follow Michelle Follow Peanut Follow But Why  Follow Clemmie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Joining Clemmie this week for some nosy business chat is founder of Bird and Blend Tea, Krisi Smith. Krisi is the mixologist extordinare behind best selling tea brand Bird and Blend which started out as just one store in the Brighton lanes and has now expanded to 15 across UK high streets. Krisi and Clemmie chat through all the highs and lows of building the brand, from packing tea orders in a bedroom at the beginning, to re-branding and even working alongside your ex-husband (!). This chat will really inspire you to just go for it, and to try more flavours of tea! Meet the Founder Listeners can get 15% off Bird and Blend Tea with the code BUTWHY15 (one time use only). Follow Bird and Blend Follow But Why  Follow Clemmie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sitting down with Clemmie to chat through their brand is Gynelle Leon, founder of specialist succulent store, Prick London. Gynelle has an extrodniary knowledge and passion for plants, in particular succulents. She opened London's first cactus shop as part of building the Prick brand.  Gynelle opens up about how she became such an expert in her trade and how she has moved her brand from a high street shop to exclusively e-commerce site after making the difficult decision to close the store. Gynelle is such a powerhouse for change, and this chat really tackled some difficult business decisions. Follow Gynelle Follow Prick Follow But Why  Follow Clemmie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the hot seat this week is the founder of women's clothing brand Never Fully Dressed, Lucy Aylen. Lucy takes Clemmie through the brands journey from selling her designs in an East End London market in 2009, to keep her busy when acting auditions were scarce, to amassing over 1 million instagram followers and launching the brand internationally. They chat about the challenges Lucy has faced along the way from management to delegation and managing both a physical store and an e-commerce site. Lucy is clearly not afraid to get involved in all parts of the business and this chat was wonderfully honest. Meet the Founder Listeners can get 15% off Never Fully Dressed using the code NFDxMTF15 (main collection only excluding delivery) Follow Never Fully Dressed  Follow But Why  Follow Clemmie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

'Meet the Founder'. Honest conversations delving into the human stories behind brands we know and love. How they began, where they've stumbled, and what's had to be sacrificed for success. Business chat, but nosier… Join Clemmie Telford each Wednesday, from the 26th of April. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the 100th episode of But Why Clemmie hands the reigns to producer Steve (host of BBC pod You, Me and the Big C) as he delves into the life and times of Creative Director/Instagrammer/Blogger/Podcaster/Author/Fitness Fanatic and mother of three Clemmie Telford. In a raw, honest conversation, we get to know a young Clemmie, find out about her most challenging life moments and her secret talent, and - the big one - we finally discover what her favourite crisp is. Plus why she's so into astronomy, how she met husband Ben and why she's chosen a sober life by the sea. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford, and indulge yourself in more pod content @Butwhy_podcast. And if you're interested, you can find Steve on there too @Mr_Blandy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this bitesize episode, Clemmie talks luck and serendipity with Dr Christian Busch, who is the bestselling author of Connect the Dots: The Art & Science of Creating Good Luck, and an internationally known expert in the areas of innovation, purpose-driven leadership, and serendipity. Clemmie and Christian explore how we can make our own luck, how embracing the unexpected can lead to a more fulfilling life, and how there might actually be science behind serendipity. Christian is the director of the CGA Global Economy Program at New York University (NYU), and also teaches at the London School of Economics (LSE). His work has been featured by outlets such as the Strategic Management Journal, Harvard Business Review, Forbes, The Guardian, Washington Post, and the BBC. He is a regular speaker at conferences such as the World Economic Forum, TEDx, and Financial Times Summit, and is a member of the World Economic Forum's (WEF) Expert Forum, a Fellow of the Royal Society of Arts, and on the Thinkers50 Radar list of the 30 thinkers "most likely to shape the future." Find him on Twitter: @ChrisSerendip. You can also find Clemmie on Instragram @Clemmie_Telford and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's episode is all about women without kids, as Clemmie talks to British-born author, editor, podcaster and the founder of Numinous Books Ruby Warrington. Recognised as a true thought leader, Ruby has the unique ability to identify issues that are destined to become part of the cultural narrative.  Her previous books include Material Girl, Mystical World; Sober Curious; and The Sober Curious Reset, and her work has been featured by countless media outlets globally, including the New York Times, The Guardian, and Good Morning America.  Her latest book “Women Without Kids” set Clemmie's brain absolutely whirring and questioning so much: “I am speaking to the ones who've never wanted to be mothers, the ones who are teetering on the fence, the ones who've tried and failed to become parents, and the ones for whom it just never happened.” It's a challenging, and enlightening chat. You can find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Check out Ruby @rubywarrington. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this bitesized episode, Clemmie explores happiness, or maybe contentment....or should that be joy? Either way, her guest is one of her mum's faves, and two-time Brit award winner Will Young. Will shot to fame in 2002 after winning the first series of Pop Idol. He has released seven albums, four of which hit Number One in the UK charts, and he has 10 million record sales and two Brit Awards to his name.   But that's just the tip of the iceberg. Will is a leading voice in mental-health awareness. His highly acclaimed book 'To be a Gay Man' explored mental-health awareness, particularly within the LGBTQ+ community with a focus on gay shame. He has a podcast - ‘The Wellbeing Lab' - where he interviews experts on different mental health topics each week, AND his second book ‘Be Yourself Only Happier' was released last year - when this conversation took place! In this episode Clemmie finds out what makes Will happy and what steps he's taken in his life to ensure he stays that way. Plus they do not talk about dry stone walling. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and Will @willyoungofficial, and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**Trigger warning – this episode contains talk of intrusive thoughts of harm. Please take care when listening. In this episode Clemmie chats to chartered clinical psychologist Dr Caroline Boyd about intrusive thoughts. Caroline has over 10 years' experience working in the NHS and mental health settings, and specialises in supporting parents from pregnancy to childbirth and beyond. She is also the author of Mindful New Mum, and her published research explores mothers' experiences of intrusive thoughts about their babies. Her work has been featured in You magazine, Grazia, BBC Radio Scotland and Woman's Hour on BBC Radio 4. Caroline specialises in supporting parents around difficulties related to anger and anxiety. In her independent psychology practice, Parent Therapy Hub, she works integratively and draws on Compassion Focused Therapy, Mindfulness and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, as well as Systemic, Narrative and attachment models. Caroline is fully trained in Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR), an effective approach for working with difficult memories and traumatic events. Caroline shares psychology ideas on Instagram and in the media to help parents feel more connected - to themselves and their children - and less alone.  You can reach Caroline at drcarolineboyd.com or via Instagram @_drboyd In her independent psychology practice, Parent Therapy Hub, Caroline offers workshops and courses supporting mums around maternal anger: https://drcarolineboyd.com/course-mum-rage Caroline's book, Mindful New Mum: A Mind-Body Approach to the Highs and Lows of Motherhood, is available to buy online Amazon, Waterstones or Bookshop ------------- Note – Fathers also report experiencing these thoughts, but to a slightly lesser degree than mothers. If this episode raises any concerns for you please talk to a trusted health professional such as your GP. You can also reach out to the services below: UK: PANDAS - 0808 1961 776 Samaritans – 116 123 For emergency help - call 999 or visit your local A&E department US: Postpartum Support International - 1-800-944-4773(4PPD)   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this bitesized episode Clemmie speaks to author and psychotherapist Anna Mathur about rage. And in particular maternal rage. We've all been there - your jaw is tightening, you can feel your blood boiling, you feel trapped and frustrated and suddenly you find yourself yelling CAN EVERYONE JUST PUT THEIR SHOES ON! Only to instantly regret it.  The pair discuss why these ‘loss of control' moments happen, why they make us feel so awful and more importantly what we can do to make them less likely to happen. It's honest, reassuring and jam-packed with useful advice. Resources: Anna has two books: ‘MIND OVER MOTHER: Every mum's guide to worry and anxiety in the first years  ‘KNOW YOUR WORTH: How to build your self-esteem, grow in confidence and worry less about what people think'  You can find Anna on Instagram @annamathur and while you're there, check out Clemmie @clemmie_telford and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week Clemmie explores selfishness and why it might actually be a good thing, with five-board accredited life coach, broadcaster and public speaker Michelle Elman. Named as one of The Sun's most inspirational women in the UK, Michelle quickly established herself as the Queen of Boundaries. With a huge following she shares her experiences and expertise with an engaged audience who have followed Michelle's journey and rise in popularity with pride.  She has written 3 books: “Am I Ugly?”, “The Joy of Being Selfish?'” and, most recently,“The Selfish Romantic: how to date without feeling bad about yourself” . Michelle and Clemmie delve into what it means to be selfish, why boundaries are important and how being selfish can impact, and benefit, your dating life. You can find Michelle on Instagram @michelleelman and while you're there, check out Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford and more pod content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all need boundaries right? But are we setting enough, and are they the right ones? In this week's bitesize episode Clemmie talks all things boundaries with transformational coach Zoe Blaskey, who founded Motherkind, a self-empowerment platform for mums, and a podcast of the same name. They cover: the differences between internal and external boundaries why boundaries are the key to successful relationships and why you shouldn't ever use the word 'boundaries'! To become the most 'alive and joyful version of you, and to check out more of Zoe's work, head to MOTHERKIND or find Zoe in Instagram @motherkind_zoe. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Clemmie talks about comparison this week, with Lucy Sheridan, who is the world's first and only Comparison Coach™. Through her book ‘The Comparison Cure', private practice and workshops, Lucy has helped thousands of people go from compare and despair, to #comparisonfree. Accredited by the Association for the Psychological Therapies, named as one of the New Wellbeing Specialists by Style Mag and praised as one of the UK's most successful coaches by The Times, Lucy's work has been featured in global outlets such as Psychology Today, BBC, Forbes and Google Labs. And she loves wearing white in winter! You can find Lucy on Instagram @LucySheridan on Instagram and check out her work at The Comparison Free Club · Lucy Sheridan. Check out Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford, and find more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's bite size episode Clemmie talks about expectations and more importantly, how to manage them, with award-winning journalist, author and power lifter Poorna Bell. Poorna is the former Executive Editor and Global Lifestyle Head for HuffPost. She won Stylist's Rising Star award for 2019, Red Magazine's Big Book Award for 2019. Poorna has published three works of non-fiction: Chase The Rainbow, In Search of Silence and Stronger, which won a 2022 Sports Book award. Part memoir, part manifesto, Stronger explores society's pressures and expectations where women's fitness is concerned. She tackles everything from toxic environments and self-esteem to ageism, sexism, desirability and why choosing between your potential and social acceptance can be limiting. In Case of Emergency is Poorna's first work of fiction. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and Poorna @Poornabell. And get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week Clemmie looks at conscious parenting with therapist Dr Shefali Tsabary PhD, who is the author of four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. Her latest book - The Parenting Map - is "a comprehensive, fail-safe, whole-family programme designed to help both adults and children heal and thrive." Specialising in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, Dr Shefali brings together the best of both worlds for her clients. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development and runs a private practice in New York City. Dr Shefali is also a keynote speaker who has presented at TEDx, Kellogg Business School, the Dalai Lama Center for Peace and Education and other conferences and workshops around the world. She's been featured on Oprah Winfrey's SuperSoul Sunday and Oprah's Lifeclass. Visit her website www.drshefali.com or follow her on Instagram, TikTok and Facebook @doctorshefali. You can also find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's bitesize episode, Clemmie explores moons, star signs and all things astrology with astrologer and writer Francesca Oddie, whose quest is to present the subject simply and to enable people to comprehend and utilise the reliable roots of astrology.  Clemmie finds out why her husband is a 'turbo Aries', discovers how Francesca ended up as an astrologist and delves into the big question of what Francesca would say to someone who thought the whole thing wasn't for them. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford, find more podcast @butwhy_podcast and check out Francesca on her website Home - Francesca Oddie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Clemmie marks International Women's Day 2023 by chatting to Irish-Nigerian academic, broadcaster and bestselling author Emma Dabiri about joy. This week's episode is part of the Power of Women festival based in Thanet, Kent. Check out powthanet.com for the full POW festival line up which runs throughout March. and happy International Women's Month! Emma is the author of two highly acclaimed books and has fronted numerous documentaries, including Hair Power (2020) for Channel 4 which won the Cannes Lion Silver award for entertainment. She co-presents Britain's Lost Masterpieces on BBC 4 and has appeared on Newsnight and Have I Got News for You as well as hosting BBC Radio 4's Saturday Review and Front Row. She is currently working on another book and writing a one-woman play called Throwing Shapes which opens in Dublin in October and at the Soho Theatre in January 2024. You can find Emma on social media @emmadabiri, Clemmie is on Instagram @clemmie_telford, and you can get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this bitesize episode Clemmie explores the topic of County Lines with Danielle Marin. Danielle grew up in London with first generation immigrant parents, she was accepted into a grammar school, however her life changed completely after a brutal attack led her to involvement with ‘gangs' and drug crime. She later enrolled at university and graduated with a 1st. She has since advocated within the criminal justice system for many women: “the hidden victims and participants of organised crime”, and began her Masters in 2021. Clemmie and Danielle discuss what County Lines and 'country' means, why Danielle doesn't agree that she was in gang, and why nothing she experienced came close to the pain of having her son taken away from her. Danielle's book, ‘Top Girl', is out now and comes highly recommended! Find Clemmie on social media @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is all about estrangement and Clemmie's guest is Harriet Shearsmith, a mum of three, parenting creator, author of Mummin' It and the podcaster behind Unfollowing Mum. Harriet shares her story of how she became estranged from her mum, as well as her experience of motherhood, cycle breaking and estrangement online with her community; with a little bit of fun, fashion and life chucked in for good measure! For her sensational tiktoks and outfit videos, you can find Harriet on Instagram @tobyandroo. And if you want to get more podcast content, check out @butwhy_podcast and @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this bitesize episode of But Why, we're heading back to October 2021 when Clemmie chatted to clinical psychologist and certified psycho-sexologist and author Dr Karen Gurney - aka @thesexdoctor - all about sex. The pair discuss: Redefining what we mean by ‘sex'. Whether we judge our sex lives by unrealistic standards? How to define what ‘good sex' is Research around oral sex and the sexual scripts that surround it. The orgasm gap. What stands in the way of great sex in long term relationships. For more podcast content follow @butwhy_podcast on Instagram and you can find Clemmie on there too @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Clemmie explores all things sleep with TV Presenter Cat Cubie and baby sleep expert AND Norland Qualified Nanny Sarah Carpenter. The pair are best known as the hosts of top ten parenting podcast The Sleep Mums and authors of Sleep Better Baby which disrupts the narrative around baby sleep whilst empowering parents with skills and confidence to get a good nights sleep. Clemmie, Cat and Sarah discuss how to get a good night's sleep, how to cope if your kids aren't sleeping and why 'awake routines' are just as important as sleep routines. To find out more about Cat and Sarah's work head to @thesleepmums on Instagram. You can find Clemmie there too @Clemmie_Telford, or check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this bitesize episode from June 2022, Clemmie talks optimism with former Labour Party leader Ed Miliband, who is now Shadow Secretary of State for Climate Change. Ed tells Clemmie how he coped when Labour lost the 2015 election, why optimism was key, and how and why he came to the decision to step down as leader. They also talk about Ed's book, GO BIG, which was out in paperback in March. GO BIG tackles some of the big questions around our future and the way our society and democracy works, as well as timely topics such as paid parental leave and climate change. As well as his Parliamentary work, Ed is the co-host of popular current affairs podcast ‘Reasons to be Cheerful' with Geoff Lloyd. The pod explores the ideas, people and movements that are pioneering change worldwide. Follow Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. And you can find out more about Ed here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode Clemmie explores the Ebola crisis in Sierra Leone with consultant obstetrician and gynaecologist Benjamin Black. Benjamin is a specialist advisor to international aid organisations - including Médecins Sans Frontières, specifically on sexual, reproductive and maternal healthcare for populations in times of crisis.  Part of which he documents in his (jaw dropping) first book, Belly Woman: Birth, Blood & Ebola; The Untold Story A call to arms to consider ‘What happens to pregnant women when a humanitarian catastrophe hits? This is acutely significant in February 2023, as the world watches the rescue efforts following the earthquakes in Turkey and Syria. You can get Benjamin's new book here. Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and check out more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're taking a trip down memory lane in the latest of the special bitesize episodes of But Why. We're going back to March 2021, when the pandemic and the lockdown was in full swing, and Clemmie talked to Ellie Gibson; Games journalist, part of Dara O'Briain's Go 8 Bit and one half of @scummymummies.  Ellie patiently allows Clemmie to voice her concerns and stereotyped perceptions of the world of gaming. While it's easy to jump to conclusions about gaming being an anti-social subculture, it turns out the opposite just might be true. Not only is the gaming industry big business, it also can be a hugely positive space that champions community mindedness, social interaction and problem solving. Ellie's account @elliegibsongames is full of great advice and games recommendations for family friendly games play. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode Clemmie tackles the topic of overwhelm with Steph Douglas, the founder of Don't Buy Her Flowers. As well as running her own business, Steph also writes about motherhood, business, relationships and juggling the rush hour of our life. She also has her own Don't Buy Her Flowers podcast and she's also the mother of three young kids. Clemmie and Steph explore what they mean by overwhelm, how to spot you might be overwhelmed, how to avoid it, and what to do about it. It's a biggie! If you want to follow Steph, head to @steph_dontbuyherflowers on Instagram. For more podcast content, visit @butwhy_podcast and you can find Clemmie @clemmie_telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're heading back almost two years for the latest bitesize episode on But Why. In March 2021 Clemmie spoke to Dr Nicole LePera aka @the.holistic.psychologist about the role for self-healing work, how that fits alongside more conventional therapy and delves into why everyone could benefit from greater self-awareness - even those who feel they don't need it. The pair discuss learning to feel your feelings rather than emotionally checking out, witnessing our relationship patterns, learning to set and honour boundaries and ultimately live more consciously. Dr Nicole LaPera's book ‘How to Do To The Work Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self' is available now. Check out more podcast content @Butwhy_podcast on Instagram and while you're there, you can find Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices