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If you've ever faced the unsolicited question, “When are you having kids?” or the comment, “But you'd be such a great mother,” this episode is here to offer support and perspective. Karena sits down with Ruby Warrington, author, podcast host, and creator of the Sober Curious movement, whose new book and podcast, Women Without Kids, is reframing what it means to choose a child-free life. In this conversation, Ruby and Karena explore how complex family histories, including experiences of parentification, shaped their views on motherhood. They discuss how both couples have navigated the decision to remain child-free, managed familial and societal pressures and navigated the isolating “othering” that many child-free women experience. This episode encourages open, compassionate dialogue that destigmatizes and honors women's choices, celebrating the courage it takes to live authentically and embrace a path that is deeply personal and uniquely fulfilling.(00:00:00) Introductions(00:04:51) How The Way We Were Mothered Influences the Decision to Mother(00:17:57) Normalizing The Nuances of Being Child-Free(00:27:16) Facing Genetic Challenges & Generational Stigmas(00:42:22) Creating Chosen Family, Embracing Empathy & Redefining NormsClick here for full show notesGuest Info:• Website: rubywarrington.com• Instagram: @rubywarrington• Podcast: Women Without Kids• Read: Women Without Kids by Ruby WarringtonResources:• Read: The Big Silence: A Daughter's Memoir of Mental Illness and Healing • Therapy For All: Resources for those in need• Thank you to our partners! Go to thebigsilence.com/partners for special offers for our listenersDonate to The Big Silence thebigsilence.com/donate to be a part of the movement to break the silence and make noise with us!“The Big Silence” theme song written and performed by James Nicholas Kinney.Producer, Bobby Goldstein.The Big Silence is produced by Crate Media.Mentioned in this episode:Therapy for All Donations | Give now at thebigsilence.com/donate to bring change and help increase access to mental healthcare! Your donations supports Therapy for All and increases access to mental health resources.Pique Life | Get up to 20% off Pique's Radiant Skin Duo plus a free starter kit with link piquelife.com/tbs.
Originally published March 28, 2023In this honest and moving episode, author Ruby Warrington joins Fempower Health to discuss her new book, Women Without Kids. We cover all topics from childless couples who don't want children to women who can't have children even though it's their deepest desire.Ruby shares her experiences writing such an important book, societal pressures for women to have kids, patriarchal assumptions, childlessness vs child-free, and fertility and sterility issues influencing adults today. Listen for an insightful, relatable conversation and be sure to check out Ruby's newest book, Women Without Kids, available in Spring 2023.Discussed in this episode:Thoughts on Ruby's new book and why she wrote itWhat does motherhood mean today?The impact our relationships with our mothers have on views on motherhoodWhy do women decide to not have kids?Rethinking the assumption that women should automatically want childrenExternal pressures women face about marriage, motherhood, and childrearing Infertility and its impact on women with no kidsPronatalism and society's historical conditioning“There's no such thing as normal. There's no perfect, untainted path. Whatever path we choose in life is going to come with some regrets, challenges, and suffering.” - Ruby WarringtonRelated to this episode:Ruby's website: www.rubywarrington.com Get the Book: Women Without KidsFollow Ruby on Instagram: @rubywarrington Recommended Book: Birth StrikeRecommended Book: CountdownResources and episodes on Breaking Taboos If you're passionate about advancing women's health, there are many ways you can support the Fempower Health Podcast. Here's how:Subscribe and Listen: Tune in to new episodes every Tuesday by subscribing to the Fempower Health Podcast on iTunes or Spotify or your favorite podcast platform. Your regular listenership is invaluable!Leave a Review: Help us grow by leaving a review on iTunes or Spotify. Your feedback not only supports us but also helps others discover our podcast.Share with Others: Spread the word by sharing episodes with friends, family, or anyone interested in women's health. Every share helps!Engage with Our Community: Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter for the...
Chelsea and Lindsay are childfree by choice. This week they dive into why and lament living in such a pro-natalist place. What do you think when you hear the word 'mother'?We had a great time talking about Ruby Warrington's latest book, Women Without Kids, today. We missed her, but don't worry, you'll get to hear from Ruby later. ;)Check out the book here.https://www.amazon.com/Women-Without-Kids-Revolutionary-Sisterhood/dp/1683649273Connect with Honestlythehonestlypodcast.comIG: @thehonestlyshowTikTok: @thehonestlyshowChelsea's IG: @chelsea_turanoLindsay's IG: @dr.lindsayregehrYouTube: The Honestly PodcastSend us a text
To be or not to be a mother? In today's episode, Taylor is joined by Ruby Warrington, author of “Women Without Kids” to discuss society's greatest expectation of women - motherhood. Taylor candidly shares her personal journey, reflecting on societal pressures and assumptions about motherhood, while Ruby shares valuable advice on:owning the decision not to have kidsfinding supportive communitiespromoting meaningful conversations about non-parenthoodKeep listening as we normalize the conversation around the choice to have or not have children!Show notes: Monu(mental): Choosing (non)motherhoodSelf-Care Sundays Newsletter: innerworkout.co/self-care-sundaysInstagram: @innerworkout | @taylorelysemorrisonConnect with Ruby WarringtonWebsite: Ruby WarringtonInstagram: @rubywarrington Free Take Care AssessmentGet on the App Waitlist
In this episode, Georgie is joined by the fabulous Ruby Warrington for her second appearance on the Anxiety Reset Podcast! Last time Ruby joined Georgie for a thought-provoking discussion on the sober curious movement, delving into our complex relationship with alcohol. This time, we embark on another powerful conversation as we delve into Ruby's new area of focus, a topic deeply resonant with many women: the choice of whether or not to have children. This episode delves into the intricate process of questioning and considering whether parenthood aligns with our lives, navigating through societal stigmas, self-judgment, and external scrutiny that often accompany this journey of self-discovery. Ruby shares that given the current state of the planet, environmental challenges, and the fast-paced nature of society, many women find themselves at a point in life where burnout feels increasingly prevalent. Join Georgie and Ruby as they dive into: A conversion we ALL need to have Why are more women choosing a childfree life? What if you're not sure about having kids? Diving into the stigma, judgements and doubts about becoming a mother This podcast is a must-listen for women at every stage of life—whether you're already a mother, aspiring to be one, or if motherhood simply isn't part of your path. Wherever you find yourself on your journey, you'll discover validation and profound insights in this potent and essential conversation Check our Ruby's website and offerings: https://www.rubywarrington.com/ Get a copy of Ruby's book 'Women Without Kids': https://www.rubywarrington.com/books/women-without-kids/ Follow Ruby on IG: @rubywarrington Celebrating being Childfree: A Retreat for Non-Parents: https://www.rubywarrington.com/events/ ------------------------------------------------------------------ Need more anxiety support? Browse the Hypnotherapy Audio Library here: https://georgiecollinson.com/hypnosislibrary Watch my FREE Masterclass for women with high-functioning anxiety: https://anxiety-reset.mykajabi.com/free-masterclass Australia & NZ - order The Anxiety Reset Method book here: booktopia.kh4ffx.net/3Pbokn US & North America - order The Anxiety Reset Method book here: https://amzn.to/46OpjvH
I am so excited to have my pal and best-selling author, Ruby Warrington, on the show to talk about being sober curious and living a child-free life. Ruby actually coined the term "sober curious" and in this conversation, we both share our experience with that and getting sober. Ruby also shares her thoughts on choosing to be child-free, the societal expectations we face as women when it comes to motherhood, and so much more. I hope it resonates with you as much as it did for me. **Note: we discuss infertility mid-way through the episode. If this is a tender topic for you, consider skipping this episode. ❤️ ** Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/601
Today we're talking to Ruby Warrington all about being a Woman Without Kids, being "a village person," and the nuances of being child-free (by choice or by circumstance). IN THIS EPISODE, we get extremely candid as we talk about: The ways the parenthood vs. non-parenthood discussion has evolved, and ways it hasn't The "motherhood spectrum" vs. the motherhood binary Other people's opinions and cultural expectations / "noise" around motherhood, and how that affects us Our inner "noise" around motherhood, and how that affects us A new spin on the conversations around love and regret Navigating grief when you wanted to be a parent but it wasn't in the cards (childfree by circumstance) How to create a movement that matters ...and SO much more! Ruby Warrington is a British-born author and editor, perhaps best known as the creator of the term “sober curious”. Her 2018 book and million-download podcast of the same title has helped to spearhead a global movement to reevaluate our relationship with alcohol. Her latest book, Women Without Kids, asks: “Instead of continuing to paint childfree women as sad, self-obsessed, or somehow dysfunctional, what if we saw them as boldly forging a first-in-a-civilization vision for a fully autonomous womankind? What if being a woman without kids was in fact its own kind of legacy?” Ruby's other works include Material Girl, Mystical World, The Numinous Astro Deck, and The Sober Curious Reset. With more than 20 years of experience as a lifestyle journalist and editor, Ruby is also the founder of self-publishing imprint Numinous Books and is known as a true thought leader in the “Now Age” wellness space. ~ SHOW NOTES: Find Ruby at https://www.rubywarrington.com/ and on Instagram @rubywarrington Buy WOMEN WITHOUT KIDS Attend the CELEBRATE BEING CHILDFREE retreat at Kripalu with Rachel Cargle ~ BUY WANT YOUR SELF on... WANT YOUR SELF on Amazon (don't forget to rate and review it here!) Amazon Kindle Audible Bookshop Barnes & Noble Target Sounds True ~ Email Katie at katie@womenagainstnegativetalk.com or DM her on Instagram to let her know what you want to hear about, who you want to hear from, or what you want to learn next season of the WANTcast!
This conversation with Ruby Warrington not only delves into the author's latest book, Women Without Kids, but Ruby's own decision not to have children. Listen in as she and Keltie discuss: The immense societal pressure surrounding motherhood. The normalization of questioning the desire to have children. An exploration of Ruby's personal journey and the impact of family dynamics on her childfree decision. Why women without kids should be seen as torchbearers of an alternative vision for womankind. The myth of regretting not having children and the need for new solutions in an ever-changing world. The notion of "fear-driven" decisions and the role of fear as a motivating force. The challenges and pain associated with being child-free, including feelings of envy and loneliness. As mentioned in the show: Find Ruby's latest book, Women Without Kids, here: https://a.co/d/6ox3DLG Find out more about Ruby and her events, services, and work at www.rubywarrington.com. Find Ruby on: Instagram: instagram.com/rubywarrington Or join Ruby's private Facebook group for Women Without Kids, here. __ Join an upcoming Kids or Childfree Workshop and also get access to our free resources at: www.kidsorchildfree.com. And don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review The Kids or Childfree Podcast if you love what you're hearing! Find us online at www.kidsorchildfree.com. Instagram: www.instagram.com/kidsorchildfree TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@kidsorchildfree
Who says a woman needs kids to be happy and fulfilled? A lot of people! But there are more and more women who are choosing to be childless by choice. Bestselling author Ruby Warrington joins Brian, Sharna, and Randy to talk about her choice to not have children, the stigma of childlessness, and her journey to empower other women to not feel guilty or pressured to make a decision they can't take back. The trio also chats with Ruby about the "sober curious" movement she started, including why she began to question her relationship with alcohol even though she didn't have a drinking problem. Plus, Randy opens up about why he started drinking heavily at a young age and how his relationship with alcohol changed as he got older. Ruby's books, "Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood," and "Sober Curious" are available now. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
One in four Americans is familiar with the term "sober curious", and author Ruby Warrington is the reason why. In this episode of The Selfish Gift, Ruby and host Maggie Langrick discuss the book that sparked the Sober Curious movement, as well as Ruby's new book, Women Without Kids. A common theme tying Ruby's books together is the importance of knowing oneself and being fully present in life, questioning societal expectations that can hinder this process, and embracing a rebellious spirit. Ruby also delves into the global trend of women reconsidering motherhood and the ecological and economic implications of population decline. As longtime book editors, Maggie and Ruby discuss the intersection of personal narrative and prescriptive nonfiction, and what new authors should consider when it comes to choosing a structure for their nonfiction book. Ruby opens up about her writing process, and how she navigates the public life/private life boundary, which can be especially tricky when writing about deeply personal—and possibly controversial—topics.In this episode, you'll learn:• The term Sober Curious coined by Ruby Warrington has sparked a global movement and given language to a mindset of exploring one's relationship with alcohol.• Choosing to be sober curious or child-free is a personal orientation that should be normalized, allowing individuals to make conscious choices about their own lives.• The decline in birth rates globally and the rise of women without kids challenge societal expectations and have ecological and economic implications.• Ruby Warrington's work encourages individuals to know themselves, be present, and question societal messages, embracing a rebellious spirit.• Living with integrity and authenticity means valuing the preciousness of the life you are living and standing firm in your integrity despite societal pressure.• When writing a nonfiction book, it's important to consider your storytelling style and how you like to deliver information.• A good structure is essential for any nonfiction book, regardless of the style.• Ruby Warrington takes a research-heavy approach to writing, collecting articles, research, and ideas before creating a loose structure for her books.For more, check outhttps://www.rubywarrington.com/https://www.the-numinous.com/And followhttps://instagram.com/rubywarringtonhttps://instagram.com/numinous_bookshttps://instagram.com/maggielangrickhttps://instagram.com/selfishgiftpodcasthttps://instagram.com/wonderwellpress#authoradvice #sobercurious #alcoholfree #publishingadvice #nonfiction #purpose #lifepurpose #authenticity #womenwithoutkids #childfree #feminist
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit www.louiseperry.co.ukMy guest today is the journalist and editor Ruby Warrington, author of the new book 'Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood.' We spoke about why women are increasingly unlikely to have children, the grey area between voluntary and involuntary childlessness, and why we generally pay so much less attention to men who don't have children. In the extended version of the episode we also spoke about the political and economic consequences of falling birth rates.
In this week's edition of Tranquility du Jour, I chat with returning guest Tim Mooney. Hear about our latest passions and challenges, how we've made it 20 years, why we're unmarried and childless by choice, how we navigate living in a tiny space, and more. Plus, we have a BIG announcement! Pour a cuppa tea and tune in! Link in bio. ✨ Direct download: Tranquility du Jour Podcast #624: Celebrating 20 Years Subscribe in your favorite podcast app such as Spotify, Apple Podcast, Amazon. Visit kimberlywilson.com/podcast for more. New to Tranquility du Jour? Learn more here. _____________________________ Mentioned in the Show Ezra Klein podcast mentioned Instagram handle of man with many senior pets Women Without Kids book Washington Post article we mentioned: saying no to marriage 15 years together podcast A few previous posts about our journey: 2009, 2013, 2014 Let's Connect Receive inbox love through Love Notes: invites, inspiration, and more. Browse my 6 Books and planners. Follow along on Instagram and YouTube. Share a review on Apple Podcasts, Amazon, or Goodreads and you may hear it shared on the show. And, I'd love to send you snail mail as a thank you! Details here.
You're at a dinner and everyone's having a lovely time, but you can't help but notice that for the last 35 minutes the conversation has centred around everyone's kids, and maybe that'd be okay if you had children too, but you don't, and you don't plan to anytime soon. Here on the Friend Forward Podcast, we've discussed infertility and how to support friends who are on challenging journeys toward trying to have children, but we haven't spoken too much about friends who have actively chosen not to have kids, and the silent judgements that we might make about those friends. Today on the Podcast, our resident friendship expert Danielle Bayard Jackson is joined by Ruby Warrington, author of the book ‘Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood' to discuss the issue. They explore the reasons why some women choose to be childfree, some of the assumptions we might make about friends who make that choice, and how to foster understanding and support within friendships where one has chosen to have children, and the other has definitively chosen not to. And as always, stay tuned to the end for this week's homework. There is even more to this conversation between Danielle and Ruby, so to access the full discussion, as well as study guides, questions and activities, you can join the Friend Forward Private Group Chat at www.betterfemalefriendships.com Click the ‘Follow' button now to not miss an episode. To connect with Ruby Warrington, you can reach her at her Instagram. To explore more of Danielle's friendship expertise, connect with her at www.instagram.com/daniellebayardjackson Stay updated with the latest episodes and podcast updates at https://www.instagram.com/friendforward To explore coaching with Danielle visit www.betterfemalefriendships.com/coaching Join our private group chat for extra resources, at https://www.patreon.com/friendforward Book Danielle to speak at your upcoming conference or event, by emailing info@tellpublicrelations.com
Today's the day, Shandies! We've been wanting to cover the topic of childlessness for quite some time, and when Sharleen read Ruby Warrington's newest book, Women Without Kids, she wouldn't take no for an answer in getting Ruby on the podcast! This conversation is for every person, with or without kids. Few books have impacted Sharleen the way Ruby's did, and today we dive deep into the world of Womanhood WITHOUT Motherhood. How often have you heard terms like "maternal instinct" and "labor of love", or phrases like "You don't know true love until you have children" and "But who will look after you when you're old?" Today, with Ruby Warrington's expertise, we examine The Motherhood Spectrum, the truth behind "having it all", and whether or not we can argue with "nature". We discuss the (very real) fear of regret, finding meaning and legacy as a non-parent, the guilt in not bestowing our parents with grandchildren, how to age as a woman in our youth-obsessed society, and of course, Climate Change. This conversation will hopefully guide your heart and help you hear to something inside yourself, versus listening to what so many of us have been conditioned to believe for a lifetime. If you experience grief over the path not traveled or have felt your dearest friendships wither as you and/or your friends have started making babies, this episode is very much for you. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%! More Ruby Warrington: - "Women Without Kids", The Book: https://amzn.to/3MfLT7T - Women Without Kids Podcast: https://www.rubywarrington.com/women-without-kids-podcasts - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rubywarrington - Website: https://www.rubywarrington.com Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Ruby Warrington! 2:58 - What Inspired Her To Write ‘Women Without Kids' And How Is The Result Different Than Anticipated? 8:59 - How Many Tears Did She Shed Writing This Book? 10:00 - The Motherhood Spectrum 14:46 - The Mommy Binary 19:19 - Who Are We To Argue With “Nature”? 25:41 - Labor Of Love 29:54 - “Having It All” 33:19 - Climate Change 35:29 - Regret 41:54 - Purpose 44:54 - Legacy 46:42 - Guilt Over Not Bestowing “Grandparenthood” To Our Parents 53:03 - Finding Positivity In Aging As A Woman In Society 55:10 - Female Friendships 1:00:17 - Fear-Based Decisions 1:03:16 - Grieving The Path Not Traveled 1:06:36 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Author Ruby Warrington joins Chelsea to talk about choosing not to procreate, why drinking less changed her life, and the joys of dying alone. Then: A sometimes-sober AA member wrestles with a sober reset. A Jersey girl navigates friendships as the rest of her girl-group has kids. And a mom of two wonders why her bestie avoids her boys. * Find Ruby's books here! * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at DearChelseaPodcast@gmail.com * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees. This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all. Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Author Ruby Warrington joins Chelsea to talk about choosing not to procreate, why drinking less changed her life, and the joys of dying alone. Then: A sometimes-sober AA member wrestles with a sober reset. A Jersey girl navigates friendships as the rest of her girl-group has kids. And a mom of two wonders why her bestie avoids her boys. * Find Ruby's books here! * Need some advice from Chelsea? Email us at DearChelseaPodcast@gmail.com * Executive Producer Catherine Law Edited & Engineered by Brad Dickert * * * * * The views and opinions expressed are solely those of the Podcast author, or individuals participating in the Podcast, and do not represent the opinions of iHeartMedia or its employees. This Podcast should not be used as medical advice, mental health advice, mental health counseling or therapy, or as imparting any health care recommendations at all. Individuals are advised to seek independent medical, counseling advice and/or therapy from a competent health care professional with respect to any medical condition, mental health issues, health inquiry or matter, including matters discussed on this Podcast. Guests and listeners should not rely on matters discussed in the Podcast and shall not act or shall refrain from acting based on information contained in the Podcast without first seeking independent medical advice.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
How do you make a hard decision, and feel good about it?It's easy to get caught up in the things you think you "should" be doing and end up designing a life on someone else's terms.As someone who has completely reinvented her career three times over, I understand the guts it takes to untether yourself from relational, cultural, and societal expectations so you can choose your authentic path.Still, there's been one spot where I've been tethered for nearly 20 years: the decision not to have children.As a Midwestern Catholic girl, making this choice felt shameful. Like I was turning my back on all women everywhere, choosing not to enjoy the full fruits of the experience I'm meant to have. I have long felt like something is wrong with me for not desiring to go that route with my life.This shame kept me in limbo. While knowing I was making a decision that was aligned for me, I held a low grade fever of potential regret. Maybe, someday, I'll regret this. And so, while I knew the right choice, and was continuing to make that choice day-to-day, I kept the door cracked open. Until now. And sure, I'm 40 and the time clock is ticking, which certainly is a forcing mechanism, but my husband and I have finally made the very solid decision that kids are 100% off the table, now and forever. Guess what I feel? F-R-E-E.There was so much internal struggle on this choice, and once I made it, I feel absolute freedom, and peace. The shame I felt around it is gone, because I know the freedom it brought me.You see, the feelings in your body don't lie, and I know to trust this feeling of freedom in my own body. This is the way to peace with your hard decisions. Follow your aligned sensations in your body. What are the feelings that bring you peace? This is where you find authentic alignment, and the world need your truth more than it needs you do things you feel like you "should" be doing.In this episode, I walk you through a very simple exercise to help you align with those feelings so you can begin to make choices from that place.Listen to this episode to hear:How shame around my decision not to have children made me question my worth as a woman The ways we can be shamed by our aligned choices, even if no one is directly saying to you that what you're doing is wrongA short somatic breath practice you can activate when faced with a hard a choiceThis is a Thursday Thread episode where I pull a thread from the previous episode featuring Anna K Morris: How to intentionally craft a life you loveSupport the showGet on the waitlist to join Jen's upcoming membership Brilliant Breathwork! Other ways you can support: Become an Untethered Unicorn Share an episode and tag Jen on Instagram @untetheredjen Follow/subscribe to get updates of new episodes Leave a review! Connect with Jen JenLiss.com @untetheredjen Music created and produced by Matt Bollenbach
How do you make a hard decision, and feel good about it?It's easy to get caught up in the things you think you "should" be doing and end up designing a life on someone else's terms.As someone who has completely reinvented her career three times over, I understand the guts it takes to untether yourself from relational, cultural, and societal expectations so you can choose your authentic path.Still, there's been one spot where I've been tethered for nearly 20 years: the decision not to have children.As a Midwestern Catholic girl, making this choice felt shameful. Like I was turning my back on all women everywhere, choosing not to enjoy the full fruits of the experience I'm meant to have. I have long felt like something is wrong with me for not desiring to go that route with my life.This shame kept me in limbo. While knowing I was making a decision that was aligned for me, I held a low grade fever of potential regret. Maybe, someday, I'll regret this. And so, while I knew the right choice, and was continuing to make that choice day-to-day, I kept the door cracked open. Until now. And sure, I'm 40 and the time clock is ticking, which certainly is a forcing mechanism, but my husband and I have finally made the very solid decision that kids are 100% off the table, now and forever. Guess what I feel? F-R-E-E.There was so much internal struggle on this choice, and once I made it, I feel absolute freedom, and peace. The shame I felt around it is gone, because I know the freedom it brought me.You see, the feelings in your body don't lie, and I know to trust this feeling of freedom in my own body. This is the way to peace with your hard decisions. Follow your aligned sensations in your body. What are the feelings that bring you peace? This is where you find authentic alignment, and the world need your truth more than it needs you do things you feel like you "should" be doing.In this episode, I walk you through a very simple exercise to help you align with those feelings so you can begin to make choices from that place.Listen to this episode to hear:How shame around my decision not to have children made me question my worth as a woman The ways we can be shamed by our aligned choices, even if no one is directly saying to you that what you're doing is wrongA short somatic breath practice you can activate when faced with a hard a choiceThis is a Thursday Thread episode where I pull a thread from the previous episode featuring Anna K Morris: How to intentionally craft a life you loveSupport the showJoin Jen's Awaken Your Brilliance Virtual Retreat happening on Friday, December 1Join Brilliant Breathwork before November 30 to become a Founding Member AND get a free ticket to the retreat ($197 value!) using code SPARKLE Other ways you can support: Share an episode and tag Jen on Instagram @untetheredjen Follow/subscribe to get updates of new episodes Leave a review! Connect with Jen JenLiss.com @untetheredjen Music created and produced by Matt Bollenbach
Ruby Warrington is an author and the creator of the term Sober Curious, a movement that has sparked a global reconsideration of our relationship with alcohol. Her books "Material Girl, Mystical World," and "The Sober Curious Reset" have inspired countless individuals to explore their inner worlds, challenge the status quo and reimagine their lives. Ruby's latest book, “Women Without Kids,” is a candid exploration shattering stereotypes and bringing to light the intricacies of choosing a child-free path. In this episode, Ruby and I discuss the emotional journey of deciding not to have children, confronting cultural expectations, embracing personal empowerment around this subject, societal narratives and internal struggles that so many of us experience, Ruby's dedication to making the conversation around childlessness mainstream, and so much more!To learn more, visit https://nicolejardim.com/podcasts/unpacking-the-decision-to-be-child-free-ruby-warrington/.Podcast Production Support: Amazing Gains | https://listenerstoclients.com
My guest this week is Women Without Kids author, Ruby Warrington. We're are at a fascinating time in history – where, both in the UK, US, and across almost every developed nation like Switzerland, Italy, Japan and South Korea, adults are having children later in life – or, indeed, not at all. While statistics vary, it is a recognised trend – and that trend is relevant to all of us whether we have children now or in the future, or don't. Author Ruby Warrington, for this week's episode, has tackled that subject in her latest book, Women Without Kids – a timely non-fiction investigation into what it means to be, as it says on the tin, a woman without children today, with the help of expert insights from philosophers, anthropologists, social scientists and other writers. This is naturally a topic that lends itself an alonement slant, too – we all know that parenthood isn't exactly famed for its abundant alone time, but what about a life, and heterosexual relationship, that takes place without it? Ruby, who is now in her mid-forties and has been with her husband Simon for over 20 years, shares the answers to that question, and many more – offering so many insightful perspectives into being childfree by choice.We discuss, among other things:Why alone, for Ruby, means ‘sovereignty' [3:57]The value of having strong connections in your life as insurance against loneliness [8:30]The link between Ruby's introversion and her choice to be childfree [11:54]Why alone time is important in Ruby's marriage [15:04]How Ruby envied her father's lifestyle growing up [21:39]Ruby's experience of abortion [29:32]When Ruby questioned whether she did want kids [35:09]Chosen families and ‘other mothers' [39:18]What Ruby gained through the process of writing her latest bookRuby's favourite kind of alone time [47:47]You can purchase Women Without Kids from all good bookshops, and online.Subscribe to my weekly email newsletter at francescaspecter.substack.com to follow my personal writing plus podcast bonus content.You can also order my book, Alonement: How To Be Alone and Absolutely Own It, which is based on this very podcast, now from Amazon, Waterstones and Bookshop.org.Thank you to WestLab for sponsoring this season of the podcast. Their bestselling Dead Sea bath salt range is a skin hero, containing a unique blend of magnesium, calcium and potassium, which is brilliant for protecting and repairing your skin barrier and managing conditions like eczema, psoriasis, acne and sensitive skin. Visit westlabsalts.co.uk/products/dead-sea-salt and quote the code ALONEMENT15 for 15% off when you spend £10 or more, excludes subscriptions,T&Cs apply. Code expires 31st August 2023.Twitter:* @ChezSpecter*Instagram: *@ChezSpecter@rubywarrington* With a one-off payment of £5, you can listen to the Alonement podcast ad-free. https://plus.acast.com/s/alonement. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Original Airdate: March 6th 2023Kayla is joined by author Ruby Warrington to discuss the complex decision to not be a mother and explore the social circumstances that pressure female bodies to procreate. She also covers the long history of misogyny that bestows cruel judgment on women who cannot bear children simply due to biology or financial circumstances. A topic close to her heart, she encourages mothers and non-mothers alike to be involved in the conversation. Follow Ruby Check out “Women Without Kids” the book: https://www.rubywarrington.com/books/women-without-kids/Check out “Women Without Kids” the podcast: https://www.rubywarrington.com/women-without-kids-podcasts/Follow Us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/candicekayla/ Twitter: www.twitter.com/CandiceKayla Website: www.candicekayla.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Ruby Warrington is an author, journalist and publishing consultant and as she shares her life lessons with us in this episode, we linger on the topic of her new book Women Without Kids. Ruby and I are of a similar age and neither of us have, or want, children and that's something which still, in some circles, makes us a bit weird. It shouldn't though and hopefully being open and honest on this topic is the way we remove the taboo.Ruby's book Women Without Kids is available now.To join the closed Facebook group for the podcast click here >> The Emma Guns Show Forum.To follow me on social media >> Twitter | Instagram.Watch clips from the podcast >> Youtube | The Emma Guns ShowSign up for my newsletter here >> Newsletter. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Have you ever questioned or explored the decision not to have children? In this episode, Ruby Warrington explores the underlying reasons behind the decision not to have children. She dives deep into conversations around these often left unexplored issues and provides insight into how women can make conscious decisions regarding motherhood. She shares her journey of alcohol-free living and how it helped her gain clarity on the root causes of her own behaviors, family dysfunction, self-doubt, and low self-esteem issues. Ruby covers the idea of generativity - leaving a positive legacy for future generations through various ways, such as mentoring, teaching, and creating products and services that shape society somehow. Listen in to learn more about making conscious decisions about parenthood and positively impacting future generations! Ruby Warrington is the creator of the term Sober Curious. Author of the 2018 book and million-download podcast of the same title, her work has spearheaded a global movement to reevaluate our relationship with alcohol. Other works include Material Girl, Mystical World (2017), The Sober Curious Reset (2020), and her latest book, Women Without Kids. [00:01 - 07:39] Opening Segment • Ruby introduces her new book, Women Without Kids Exploring deeper issues around not wanting to have children • The decision to become a mother and how it impacts the trajectory of women's lives • Why the birth rate is declining globally and how it will impact our societies in the future [07:40 - 22:28] Exploring the Impact of Our Relationship with Our Mothers on Becoming a Parent • Confronting discomfort is the key to healing and becoming more confident in ourselves Two choices: either take the edge off or confront the reality of our lives • How hard it has been not to have an emotionally intimate connection with her mother • Processing pain is not numbing it, but turning towards it and going deeper [22:29 - 37:51] How to Leave a Positive Legacy and Impact Future Generations • The impact of having a child with special needs on a family • Factors that influenced the author's decision not to become a parent • Uncomfortable truths around motherhood and family responsibility • The generativity concept and how it can be applied to all our actions [37:52 - 45:14] Making Conscious Decisions and Finding Peace With Your Choices • Even small actions can have a ripple effect on the lives of people we come into contact with • Why healing Ruby's family lineage has been an important part of her legacy • Making conscious decisions and understanding motivations behind them is progress Everyone should pursue desires confidently and nonjudgmentally [45:15 - 53:33] Closing Segment • Women now have the option to pursue alternative paths to parenthood in a meaningful way • It is possible to celebrate life transitions that don't include getting married or having kids • Celebrating accomplishments is an important way to honor women who are making positive contributions to the world Want to connect with Ruby? Follow her on Instagram. Visit her website to learn more about her work! Key Quotes: "The way to process our pain and to process our wounding is not to numb it or to shy away from it, but it's actually to turn towards it and go deeper into it." - Ruby Warrington "I believe that sharing our stories is a way to offer opportunities for healing to others." - Ruby Warrington "The more you can understand your deeper motivations behind making the choices or having the desires that you do, the more confidently you can stand behind those choices and the more confident that you can pursue and fulfill those desires." - Ruby Warrington Learn more by connecting with Amanda through Instagram or visit AmandaKuda.com. It's time to unbottle your potential. Apply to work with Amanda. If you liked the show, please LEAVE A 5-STAR REVIEW, like, and subscribe through your favorite streaming platform!
Ruby Warrington takes on a taboo topic, women who are childless by design or circumstances, and empowers everyone to live without shame and regret while opening up the conversation about choice and community and womanhood. She shines a spotlight on a choice that more and more women and couples are making-- to remain childless and stay autonomous-- and what it means for society. Show Notes:If you want to learn more about Ruby and her work check out: https://www.rubywarrington.com/Production by Peoples Media Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Ruby Warrington is the author of the 2018 book, Sober Curious, and million download podcast of the same title. Her work has spearheaded a global movement to reevaluate our relationship to alcohol. With 20+ years' experience as a lifestyle journalist and editor, Ruby is also the founder of self-publishing incubator Numinous Books. Her new book, Women Without Kids, is out now. Today Danielle talks with Ruby Warrington, author of Women Without Kids about all things motherhood, family, and the process of women crafting their own identities separate from societal and patriarchal standards. Ruby introduces the motherhood spectrum (6:16) and continues on talking about the consequences of choosing not to have children (11:40). Later Ruby mentions the idea of pro-natalism and its effect on various facets of society (18:33) and her own relationship with her mother (30:23). Ruby and Danielle finish up talking about the concept of family constellations (38:16) and relationship between female pleasure and procreation (42:00). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Stay tuned for a new format and more impactful conversations in Women Without Kids: Season 2!
Over the past year, through New Legacy Radio, New Legacy Institute has worked to provide a breadth of perspectives from thought leaders, activists, and members of our community, to create a platform of visibility and social justice for our collective community of people without children. We continue to assess the current state of things for our community, from workplace policy, housing and taxation, to global, national policies, which most often exclude and fail to consider the needs of people without children, and those who are single, and in diverse, legally unrecognized relationships. We also have a sense of urgency in addressing the extremist narratives, which are projected onto women, when it comes to reproductive, relational and full life autonomy. In today's episode we will discuss current cultural and policy narratives, which advocate for the control of women's lives. Further, women without children, have been specifically targeted and blamed for unsubstantiated claims of population “crises” across the globe. Therefore, it is vital that we collectively challenge the weaponization of these false narratives, for our community and beyond. Join us for a conversation addressing these issues, and more, with today's guest, Ruby Warrington. As a recognized thought leader, Ruby brings a unique, in-depth perspective to the complexities and priorities of our community, and the culture narratives, which impact women without children. She is the author of the brilliant, highly recommended book, “Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood. “Women Without Kids” published by Sounds True, and is out today!
Women without children make significant contributions to future generations through acts of generosity, activism, and leadership. In this enlightening episode, thought-leader and author Ruby Warrington shines a spotlight on the need to empower women to make personal decisions about motherhood without shame and judgment. Discover why the “unsung sisterhood” of non-mothers are not misfits – but a vital part of our evolution and collective healing.In this episode we cover:0:06:16 – Second Adulthood0:11:07 – Pro-Natalism0:17:07 – Deciding Not to Have Children0:25:07 – The Unsung Sisterhood0:30:07 – Childless by Circumstance0:36:07 – Declining Birth Rates0:47:07 – Erosion of Community0:54:07 – Lack of Institutional Support1:01:17 – Childless by Climate Change1:04:07 – Runaway Consumerism1:12:07 – Generativity and Legacy1:25:07 – Modern Elders1:32:07 – Women Without KidsLearn more about Commune and check out all our health, nutrition, and functional medicine courses free for 14 days at onecommune.com/trialThis podcast is supported by:HVMNA clean energy boost without sugar or caffeine. One shot will help you feel clear, focused, and ready to take on the day. When you're low on fuel, Ketone-IQ™ is your secret weapon. 20% OFF HVMN promo code: COMMUNE https://hvmn.com/COMMUNEThrive MarketThis podcast is supported by Thrive Market - Join Thrive Market today and get a FREE $80 in free groceries when you go to thrivemarket.com/communeBiOptimizers Magnesium Breakthrough is the ultimate magnesium supplement that offers the full spectrum of all seven types of magnesium, specially formulated to reach every tissue in your body for maximum health benefits.This one-of-a-kind product is designed to reverse low levels of magnesium, which could be causing a multitude of health problems.This means that this supplement acts like a brake on your body's nervous system, helping to calm and soothe, promoting a better quality of life. Visit magbreakthrough.com/onecommune and get 10% off on Magnesium Breakthrough with code onecommuneApollo NeuroThe Apollo™ wearable uses scientifically-backed touch therapy to rebalance your nervous system and support your circadian rhythm. Sleep better, feel calmer, find focus, and get energized with this groundbreaking new wearable. SPECIAL OFFER FOR FRIENDS OF COMMUNE: Try the Apollo wearable today and get $40 off your purchase at apolloneuro.com/communeTimeline NutritionTimeline Nutrition is pioneering a new approach to longevity, one that stands on a decade of scientific discovery to unlock the power within your cells. Your body is an energy generating machine, Timeline makes it more powerful. Use code commune to get 10% off at apolloneuro.com/commune
Women without children make significant contributions to future generations through acts of generosity, activism, and leadership. In this enlightening episode, thought-leader and author Ruby Warrington shines a spotlight on the need to empower women to make personal decisions about motherhood without shame and judgment. Discover why the “unsung sisterhood” of non-mothers are not misfits – but a vital part of our evolution and collective healing. In this episode we cover: 0:06:16 – Second Adulthood 0:11:07 – Pro-Natalism 0:17:07 – Deciding Not to Have Children 0:25:07 – The Unsung Sisterhood 0:30:07 – Childless by Circumstance 0:36:07 – Declining Birth Rates 0:47:07 – Erosion of Community 0:54:07 – Lack of Institutional Support 1:01:17 – Childless by Climate Change 1:04:07 – Runaway Consumerism 1:12:07 – Generativity and Legacy 1:25:07 – Modern Elders 1:32:07 – Women Without Kids Learn more about Commune and check out all our health, nutrition, and functional medicine courses free for 14 days at onecommune.com/trial This podcast is supported by: HVMN A clean energy boost without sugar or caffeine. One shot will help you feel clear, focused, and ready to take on the day. When you're low on fuel, Ketone-IQ™ is your secret weapon. 20% OFF HVMN promo code: COMMUNE https://hvmn.com/COMMUNE Thrive Market This podcast is supported by Thrive Market - Join Thrive Market today and get a FREE $80 in free groceries when you go to thrivemarket.com/commune BiOptimizers Magnesium Breakthrough is the ultimate magnesium supplement that offers the full spectrum of all seven types of magnesium, specially formulated to reach every tissue in your body for maximum health benefits.This one-of-a-kind product is designed to reverse low levels of magnesium, which could be causing a multitude of health problems.This means that this supplement acts like a brake on your body's nervous system, helping to calm and soothe, promoting a better quality of life. Visit magbreakthrough.com/onecommune and get 10% off on Magnesium Breakthrough with code onecommune Apollo Neuro The Apollo™ wearable uses scientifically-backed touch therapy to rebalance your nervous system and support your circadian rhythm. Sleep better, feel calmer, find focus, and get energized with this groundbreaking new wearable. SPECIAL OFFER FOR FRIENDS OF COMMUNE: Try the Apollo wearable today and get $40 off your purchase at apolloneuro.com/commune Timeline Nutrition Timeline Nutrition is pioneering a new approach to longevity, one that stands on a decade of scientific discovery to unlock the power within your cells. Your body is an energy generating machine, Timeline makes it more powerful. Use code commune to get 10% off at timelinenutrition.com/commune
Our first guest conversation is with author Ruby Warrington to talk about “Women Without Kids.” We discuss what is our legacy when we die, parenting and breaking the taboo around motherhood. In this episode Natalie & Ruby discuss: What is a legacy for a woman without kids? How can we make an impact without kids? What is a cultural parent? How to honour the end of a creative project? What happens when a creative project dies? Ruby reflects on what she thinks she will experience when she dies. Ways to Connect with Ruby Warrington You can follow Ruby on IG at @rubywarrington Check out Ruby's website and buy her book - here Ways to connect with NATALIE Carry on the conversation on Substack Visit - www.natalie-miles.com for all her offerings and services. Including mediumship and psychic reading sessions Instagram - Follow Natalie Instagram- Follow Things That Die Credits Podcast Music: “Things That Die” by Baljit Rayat Editing - Kelly Whinnem
“There's something incredibly dangerous to the status quo about us no longer feeling ashamed for choosing lives that are right for us, and within that choosing to direct our creative life force energy that we all embody into whatever we so choose.” - Ruby Warrington Today I delve into the complex and often ignored topic of non-motherhood with author Ruby Warrington. Ruby wrote “Women Without Kids” to challenge the prevailing societal narratives surrounding motherhood and unravel the inherent binary thinking that erases the diversity of human relationships and caregiving experiences. We explore the broad motherhood spectrum, which encompasses women who are unable to have children and those who consciously choose not to. Ruby passionately dissects the harmful effects of pronatalism, an ideology that values parents over non-parents within a colonial capitalist framework. Throughout our conversation, we emphasize the vital role of non-parents, particularly women, in societal transformation amid the daunting challenges of climate impact and economic collapse. Furthermore, we explore the notion of deviance and shame associated with choosing alternative paths in life and how shedding shame can unleash our creative potential and empower us to challenge the status quo. Also in this episode: breaking down the mommy binary undoing the ideology of valuing parents over non-parents within colonial capitalism women without kids as a necessary vital part of societal transformation among decimating climate impact and economic collapse found family and less hierarchical ways of creating community and family what caregiving looks like within and outside the role of motherhood social life in berlin and the value of community engagement undoing shame of being “deviant” or “other” and taking back our creative potential Ruby Warrington is creator of the term Sober Curious. Author of the 2018 book and million download podcast of the same title, her work has spearheaded a global movement to reevaluate our relationship to alcohol. Other works include Material Girl, Mystical World (2017), The Numinous Astro Deck (2019), and The Sober Curious Reset (2020). With 20+ years' experience as a lifestyle journalist and editor, Ruby is known as an astute cultural commentator and true thought leader. She is also the founder of self-publishing incubator Numinous Books. Her new book, Women Without Kids, is out now. Links: Ruby's Website: https://www.rubywarrington.com/ Ruby's Books: https://www.rubywarrington.com/books/ Women Without Kids Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-without-kids/id1642683714 Women without Kids Retreat at Krippalu Center in June https://kripalu.org/presenters-programs/women-without-kids Reclaiming All Parts of You: Healing the Roots of Shame and Insecurity [Free workbook & meditation download] https://witty-creator-9045.ck.page/e89cafda64 Research: Gateway women, Jody Day https://gateway-women.com/ Regretting Motherhood by Orna Donath https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/552538/regretting-motherhood-by-orna-donath/ Disclaimer: The DEPTH Work Podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Any information on this podcast in no way to be construed or substituted as psychological counseling, psychotherapy, mental health counseling, or any other type of therapy or medical advice.
This podcast delves into lots of different areas and experiences of motherhood and parenthood, but one area I've wanted to cover for ages is the act of not having kids. My guest today is Ruby Warrington who has known ever since she was a child that she doesn't want to have children.Her book, Women Without Kids, is a fascinating and refreshing look at what it means to be a mother and therefore what it means to not be a mother. Ruby talks to me about the language we use (childless = so sad, child-free = carefree and deviant), the history behind why we think all women should have a child in order to fulfil their reason for existing and so much more.Follow Ruby on Instagram and buy her book here.If you enjoyed this episode then please leave a rating or review - and you can follow the podcast to ensure you don't miss future episodes. Thank you! Not Another Mummy Podcast is brought to you by me, journalist and author Alison Perry. I'm a mum of three and I love interviewing people about parenthood on the podcast. You can check out my other episodes and you can come chat to me on Instagram: @iamalisonperry or on Twitter: @iamalisonperry. You can buy my book OMG It's Twins now. Music: Epidemic SoundArtwork: Eleanor BowmerSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/notanothermummy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this episode we talk to journalist and author Ruby Warrington about her new book Women Without Kids - The Revolutionary Rise Of The Unsung Sisterhood. This is a truly amazing conversation, where we dive into what it means to not have children and how it's often deemed by society as sad or selfish. We explore what Ruby calls the Motherhood Spectrum, and also how our personal family stories might impact the choices we make around having children. This episode opens up an incredibly diverse perspective and we very much hope you enjoy it. You can buy the book here: https://amzn.to/42XBIv3 To find out more about Ruby and her best selling books, please go to her website: https://www.rubywarrington.com/ Please remember, if you find the show helpful or it makes you laugh, motivates and inspires you - please do like, share and rate us. We don't run ads on the podcast or for the show because we want to keep it as enjoyable for you to listen as possible. So if you can help us spread the word, we'd be incredibly grateful. Join our free Facebook Group: The Midlife Mentors Community - where we connect with you all on a daily basis. https://www.facebook.com/groups/themidlifementorscommunity And go to our website for more information: https://themidlifementors.com And please do review and share this podcast so we can help more midlifers achieve health and happiness. You can also find free workshops, coaching, workouts and coffee mornings at our youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/themidlifementors Instagram: @midlifementors Email: team@themidlifementors.com
This week, Anna is joined by editor, author, book doula and creator of the term 'sober curious', Ruby Warrington. In this episode of The Therapy Edit, they discuss Ruby's One Thing: how society must turn the tables on their approach towards women without kids.Foregoing motherhood has traditionally marked a woman as "other." With no official place setting for her in our society, she has hovered on the sidelines: the quirky girl, the neurotic career obsessive, the "eccentric" aunt. Instead of continuing to paint women without kids as sad, self-obsessed, or somehow dysfunctional, what if we saw them as boldly forging a new vision for a fully autonomous womankind? Or as journalist and thought leader Ruby asks, what if being a woman without kids were in fact its own kind of legacy?We hope you find Rubys words insightful.You can find Ruby on Instagram hereOrder Ruby's book 'Women Without Kids' here.Order Ruby's book 'Sober Curious: The Blissful Sleep, Greater Focus, and Deep Connection Awaiting Us All on the Other Side of Alcohol' here.
Whether or not to become a parent is a central question in life. There are many factors that influence the decision, some of which are out of our control. Yet foregoing motherhood, for any reason, can lead to painful stigmatization and conflict (within and without). In this podcast, Tami Simon speaks with thought leader and author Ruby Warrington, about her profound book Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood—and the long-overdue conversations we need to begin having as a society around this complicated topic. Tune in for a rich discussion of: the motherhood spectrum; the interwoven nature of choice and circumstance; the lack of support for—and the devaluing of—mothering in overall society; the global slowdown in reproduction rates for the past century; the concept of a birth strike; making peace with your choice to remain childless; fulfillment and being true to oneself; generativity and our sense of legacy; the "existential FOMO" that childless women may encounter; the complicated—and not always unconditional—love between a parent and child; regretting motherhood; the unfinished work of the feminist movement; healing the false divide between moms and non-moms; and more.
Ruby Warrington coined the phrase “sober curious” and is now back with a new book, Women Without Kids. In our conversation, we talk about what it means to be sober curious, how curiosity can help us redefine our relationship with alcohol and motherhood, and how to navigate the real feelings that surface when you decide not to have kids at all. :57 — Meet Ruby Warrington 1:48 — Thread between Sober Curious and Women Without Kids 6:33 — Getting to the true essence of how you feel about motherhood 12 — Coining “Sober Curious” 14 — Staying curious around motherhood 19 — The power of women changing their mind 23 — The guilt of choosing your own path 25 — How to talk to your community about motherhood openly 34 — Motherhood through the generations 38 — Human life spans expanding and its impact on motherhood 42 — Legacy when you choose not to have kids 45 — Statistics around motherhood
RUBY WARRINGTON is a British-born author, editor, podcaster, and the founder of Numinous Books. Recognized as a true thought leader, Ruby has the unique ability to identify issues that are destined to become part of the cultural narrative. Her previous books include Material Girl, Mystical World; Sober Curious; and The Sober Curious Reset, and her work has been featured by countless media outlets globally, including the New York Times, The Guardian, and Good Morning America. She lives in Miami. To learn more, visit rubywarrington.com. She joins Veronica for a conversation about sobriety, motherhood, the role of women and making choices. They explore what it means to be a mother, why women feel this is their primary role and why more and more women are opting out. To learn more, visit the show notes.
This week's episode is all about women without kids, as Clemmie talks to British-born author, editor, podcaster and the founder of Numinous Books Ruby Warrington. Recognised as a true thought leader, Ruby has the unique ability to identify issues that are destined to become part of the cultural narrative. Her previous books include Material Girl, Mystical World; Sober Curious; and The Sober Curious Reset, and her work has been featured by countless media outlets globally, including the New York Times, The Guardian, and Good Morning America. Her latest book “Women Without Kids” set Clemmie's brain absolutely whirring and questioning so much: “I am speaking to the ones who've never wanted to be mothers, the ones who are teetering on the fence, the ones who've tried and failed to become parents, and the ones for whom it just never happened.” It's a challenging, and enlightening chat. You can find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Check out Ruby @rubywarrington. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This podcast episode is a companion to “Issue #81: Should I Have Kids? Considering the Big Question.”I recently spoke with Ruby Warrington, whose new book Women Without Kids explores the taboo, but increasingly popular, decision to not have children. With over 20 years of experience as a lifestyle journalist and editor, Ruby has a knack for being on the cusp of major societal shifts (she coined the term “sober curious” in 2018, which I covered here) and her latest book deftly explores the life-altering decision around becoming a mother—or not. Thanks for listening! You can access the original issue here. Get full access to morning person at www.morningpersonnewsletter.com/subscribe
On today's episode, Alexandra speaks with her dear friend, author, and visionary, Ruby Warrington.Ruby Warrington is creator of the term Sober Curious. Author of the 2018 book and million download podcast of the same title, her work has spearheaded a global movement to reevaluate our relationship to alcohol. Other works include Material Girl, Mystical World (2017), The Numinous Astro Deck (2019), and The Sober Curious Reset (2020). With 20+ years' experience as a lifestyle journalist and editor, Ruby is known as an astute cultural commentator and true thought leader. She is also the founder of self-publishing incubator Numinous Books. Her new book, Women Without Kids, is out now.In this episode, you'll discover:Discussion around the privilege of choosing to have kids or not, and consideration around the difference between that choice being a fundamental right vs. a privilege.How Ruby's personal experience of not wanting to have kids and feeling like an outsider because of it led her to start doing the research around this and writing this book.Ideas around a potential shift to letting people decide what's best for themselves around procreation, and what that may look like for our future as a society and community.Grab your copy of Ruby's new book Women Without Kids here.Explore all of Ruby's offerings here.Follow along with Ruby on IG here.Join our Radical Awakenings virtual mentorship program here.Mentioned in the episode:Caliban and the Witch audiobook and paperback is here.Emotional Inheritance audiobook and paperback is here.
Ruby Warrington is back on the show for a raw and tender conversation about her newest book, “Women Without Kids.” Ruby unpacks how as a society we have a binary view of motherhood when it's really a spectrum, and the cultural expectation of women having children. Jessica shares for the first time her feelings on kids, and Ruby shares her journey of getting to a clear, convicted stance of being a woman without kids. They discuss the need to think about family and community differently, finding community, prioritizing friendships, and women looking out for one another. The conversation touches on the “regret” conversation of growing old without kids, eradicating the shame and self-doubt women experience, and the cultural belief that it's “selfish” to be a woman without kids.Today on The SimplyBe. Podcast:The Motherhood SpectrumRuby & Jess share personal feelings on having kidsCultural expectations of women having childrenRedefining family and prioritizing friendshipsEradicating the shame & self-doubt of being a woman without kidsThe power of impact and empathy for one anotherFollow Ruby:Instagram: @rubywarrington Website: www.rubywarrington.com / the-numinous.com Books: Women Without Kids / Sober Curious / Material Girl, Mystical WorldFollow Jessica:IG: @jessicazweig / @simplybeagencyBuy Jessica's Book “Be.” here“Be.” Workbook hereVisit simplybeagency.comVisit jessicazweig.comThis show is produced by Soulfire Productions
What is “woman” if not mother? This is one of the many thought-provoking questions Ruby Warrington asks in her book, Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood. This is a book designed to confront the ways we normalize women as mothers and stigmatize women who don't have children. It takes on the stubbornly taboo topic of women without children, and offers a timely and brave reframing of what it means not to be a mom, instead of continuing to paint women without kids as “sad, self-obsessed, or somehow dysfunctional.” Guest Bio Ruby Warrington is a British-born author, editor, and publishing consultant. Recognized as a true thought leader in the wellness space, Ruby has the unique ability to identify issues that are destined to become part of the cultural narrative. Her previous books include Material Girl, Mystical World; Sober Curious; and The Sober Curious Reset. For more, visit rubywarrington.com. For episode homepage, resources and links, visit: https://kristenmanieri.com/episode237 Learn more about coaching: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com Mentioned in this Episode Guest's Book: Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood https://www.amazon.com/Women-Without-Kids-Revolutionary-Sisterhood/dp/1683649273 Guest's website: https://www.rubywarrington.com/ Host Bio Kristen Manieri is a coach who works with teams to increase both productivity and wellbeing. She also helps individuals navigate transition with clarity and confidence. Her areas of focus are: stress reduction, energy management, mindset, resilience, habit formation, rest rituals, and self-care. As the host of the weekly 60 Mindful Minutes podcast, an Apple top 100 social science podcast, Kristen has interviewed over 200 authors about what it means to live a more conscious, connected, intentional and joyful life. Learn more at kristenmanieri.com/work-with-me. Learn more about coaching: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com Connect with the 60 Mindful Minutes podcast Web: https://kristenmanieri.com Email: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com
In this honest and moving episode, author Ruby Warrington joins Fempower Health to discuss her new book, Women Without Kids. We cover all topics from childless couples who don't want children to women who can't have children even though it's their deepest desire. Ruby shares her experiences writing such an important book, societal pressures for women to have kids, patriarchal assumptions, childlessness vs child-free, and fertility and sterility issues influencing adults today. Listen for an insightful, relatable conversation and be sure to check out Ruby's newest book, Women Without Kids, available in Spring 2023. Discussed in this episode: Thoughts on Ruby's new book and why she wrote it What does motherhood mean today? The impact our relationships with our mothers have on views on motherhood Why do women decide to not have kids? Rethinking the assumption that women should automatically want children External pressures women face about marriage, motherhood, and childrearing Infertility and its impact on women with no kids Pronatalism and society's historical conditioning “There's no such thing as normal. There's no perfect, untainted path. Whatever path we choose in life is going to come with some regrets, challenges, and suffering.” - Ruby Warrington Related to this episode: Ruby's website: www.rubywarrington.com Get the Book: Women Without Kids Follow Ruby on Instagram: @rubywarrington Recommended Book: Birth Strike Recommended Book: Countdown Related Episodes on Fertility If you want to support this women's health podcast, leave a review for Fempower Health on iTunes or Spotify. Spread the awareness and share this episode with someone you know! Support and connect with our women's health community: Subscribe to the Fempower Health Podcast for new episodes every Tuesday Visit us online at www.fempower-health.com Sign up for our weekly newsletter for the latest announcements, news, and research Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Join Fempower Health on Patreon Email us for inquiries & outreach: info@fempower-health.com **The information shared by Fempower Health is not medical advice but for informational purposes to enable you to have more effective conversations with your doctor. Always talk to your doctor before making health-related decisions. Additionally, the views expressed by the Fempower Health podcast guests are their own and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them or any entity they represent.** **Contains affiliate links and I will be compensated if you make a purchase after clicking on my links**
Over the past year, through New Legacy Radio, New Legacy Institute has worked to provide a breadth of perspectives from thought leaders, activists, and members of our community, to create a platform of visibility and social justice for our collective community of people without children. We continue to assess the current state of things for our community, from workplace policy, housing and taxation, to global, national policies, which most often exclude and fail to consider the needs of people without children, and those who are single, and in diverse, legally unrecognized relationships. We also have a sense of urgency in addressing the extremist narratives, which are projected onto women, when it comes to reproductive, relational and full life autonomy. In today's episode we will discuss current cultural and policy narratives, which advocate for the control of women's lives. Further, women without children, have been specifically targeted and blamed for unsubstantiated claims of population “crises” across the globe. Therefore, it is vital that we collectively challenge the weaponization of these false narratives, for our community and beyond. Join us for a conversation addressing these issues, and more, with today's guest, Ruby Warrington. As a recognized thought leader, Ruby brings a unique, in-depth perspective to the complexities and priorities of our community, and the culture narratives, which impact women without children. She is the author of the brilliant, highly recommended book, “Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood. “Women Without Kids” published by Sounds True, and is out today!
Ruby Warrington has staked out ground in a number of areas. She is the founder of the self-publishing platform The Numinous and also a leading figure in the “sober curious” movement; she coined the term and is also the author of the 2018 book of the same name. She visited The Unspeakable to talk about a subject very close to Meghan's heart; the decision not to have kids. In her new book Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood, Ruby examines the rise in women (and men) who are childless--either by choice or circumstance--and reports on the “global reproduction slowdown” of the last several decades. She shares her own story and reflects on how much (or how little) the family dynamics of her own childhood shaped her choice not to become a mother. She and Meghan talk about how childless people are planning for their old age, the degree to which concerns about climate change are affecting people's choices, and whether there really is a global population crisis (and if so, which direction it's going in). For paying subscribers to the Unspeakable Susbtack, Ruby stays overtime for a topic that has never been covered on the podcast; astrology! Meghan is skeptical about the whole thing (in other words, a typical Aquarius) but nonetheless interested in what her birth chart might tell her about her struggles of late. They also talk at length about the sober curious movement, including how and why Ruby began hosting sober curious events and how this approach is different from traditional twelve-step programs. Meghan even shares a bit about her still-in-progress year off from drinking. Guest Bio: Ruby Warrington is the author of Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood and is the creator of the term “sober curious." Author of the 2018 book Sober Curious and million-download podcast of the same title, her work has spearheaded a global movement to reevaluate our relationship to alcohol. Other works include Material Girl, Mystical World (2017), The Numinous Astro Deck (2019), and The Sober Curious Reset (2020). With 20+ years' experience as a lifestyle journalist and editor, Ruby is also the founder of the self-publishing incubator Numinous Books.
Our society often places pressure on and stigmatizes women who do not have children for whatever reason portraying them as “less than” the women who do. There is no “right” way to be a woman and whether you have children or not, your worth and value are just as important as every other woman's. This week, episode 1 of season 3 of Cosmic RX Radio is about the truth about women without kids!In this episode of Cosmic RX Radio, Madi Murphy is joined by guest Ruby Warrington to ware out the shame and taboo surrounding women without kids and how having awareness is the first step to cracking the shell of patriarchy.
In this episode, you will hear me in conversation with Kelly McDaniel, a therapist and author, whose latest book, Mother Hunger, examines the impact on women specifically of having lacked the proper nurturance, protection, and guidance from their primary maternal figure in early life.The reason I wanted to speak to Kelly in the context of “women without kids,” is that it seems obvious to me that living with mother hunger can't NOT have an impact on how one feels about becoming a mother, or about the experience of being a mother after having had a child. In the episode we discuss:-Kelly's definition of “mother hunger” and how she came up with the term.-Why 50% of the population experience mother hunger and how it manifests in issues around food and love.-What causes mother hunger - and why this is often the result of an epigenetic inheritance.-Why structural issues make it harder for mothers and babies to bond - and the lifelong attachment issues that can result from this.-How mother hunger impacts our procreative choices and how we may feel about becoming mothers ourselves.-The links between mother hunger, anorexia, and being “a-reproductive” (i.e. having no desire to reproduce).-The impact of a lack of paid parental leave on mother hunger-Why choosing not to have a child can be the most “loving” choice if we are aware that our capacity to mother is being compromised.-Why our materialistic, consumer culture is just another substitute mother - and a way we seek to soothe our mother hunger.Learn more about Kelly and her work HERE and check out Mother Hunger HERE.You can get your copy of Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood HERE.
Therapist and author Kelly McDaniel on the links between non-motherhood and what she calls "mother hunger." In the episode we discuss:-Kelly's definition of “mother hunger” and how she came up with the term.-Why 50% of the population experience mother hunger and how it manifests in issues around food and love.-What causes mother hunger - and why this is often the result of an epigenetic inheritance.-Why structural issues make it harder for mothers and babies to bond - and the lifelong attachment issues that can result from this.-How mother hunger impacts our procreative choices and how we may feel about becoming mothers ourselves.-The links between mother hunger, anorexia, and being “a-reproductive” (i.e. having no desire to reproduce).-The impact of a lack of paid parental leave on mother hunger.-Why choosing not to have a child can be the most “loving” choice if we are aware that our capacity to mother is being compromised.-Why our materialistic, consumer culture is just another substitute mother - and a way we seek to soothe our mother hunger.Learn more about Kelly's work HERE and find her book, Mother Hunger, HERE.Get your copy of Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood HERE.
Author Ruby Warrington joins Jameela this week to discuss her new book Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Uprising of an Unsung Sisterhood. They cover the story around her own choice not to have children, how that choice is often informed not just by independence but by hardship, the ways women's sexuality has been tied to motherhood, the issue of "regrets", the ways we can extend maternal care to the people in our lives, and more. Check out Ruby's newest book - Women Without Kids - wherever books are sold. Follow Ruby on Instagram @rubywarrington You can find transcripts for this episode on the Earwolf website. I Weigh has amazing merch - check it out at podswag.com Jameela is on Instagram @jameelajamil and Twitter @Jameelajamil And make sure to check out I Weigh's Twitter, Instagram, and Youtube for more!
Ruby Warrington, author, book doula founder of The Numinous, and movement maker joins Julia to discuss her newest book, Women Without Kids. Ruby uniquely has her finger on the pulse of social revolutions and her latest book explores the growing phenomenon of women living childfree by choice or circumstance. Together Ruby and Julia discuss some of the many reasons more women are choosing to be childfree including feminist history, financial independence, environmentalism, and social norms. Ruby opens up candidly about her personal decision not to have kids and the many expectations others had for her and we explore conflicting feelings of shame, self questioning, intuition, and certainty. Why do some women feel shame when deciding not to have a child? What is motherhood? Why is not wanting children still so taboo to talk about? What does a “normal” family look like? Ruby and Julia dive into these questions and more. Women Without Kids”will hit the book stands on March 28, 2023. Take advantage of Ruby's free gift when you pre-order the book! IN THIS EPISODE: [00:00] Julia introduces Ruby Warrington and defines the mission of Stork'd [04:00] Ruby describes her career and why she came up with the term “book doula” [09:06] Women Without Kids addresses fundamental stereotypes as to why women make their decisions about having a child [16:06] Ruby reflected on the time of her life when she questioned having children, which morphed into is there something wrong [25:07] Why is there shame involved in not having children, and are there rising numbers of women without kids [33:54] Is there a trend or movement afoot to reduce the number of children you have [37:53] The political choices surrounding women's rights [43:49] What was the impetus for writing the book, and how is the word being spread [46:21] Ruby discusses her journey of emotions leading to accepting her decision regarding children [53:52] Ruby defines her meaning of “found family” and discusses the inscription to her family in her book, and she shares her definition of family KEY TAKEAWAYS: Writing a book can be compared to having a baby in that you spend time and energy on both, and the result can be called “your baby.” Acknowledging that your career takes such focus and leaves you no time for children is a decision women should be able to make without shame. Why are women the hardest on other women who choose not to have a family? RESOURCE LINKS: Ruby Warrington - Website Ruby Warrington - Instagram Ruby Warrington - Facebook Women Without Kids Book Stork'd - Facebook Stork'd - Instagram Stork'd- YouTube ABOUT RUBY WARRINGTON: Ruby Warrington is the creator of the term Sober Curious. Author of the 2018 book and million download podcast of the same title, her work has spearheaded a global movement to reevaluate our relationship to alcohol. Other works include Material Girl, Mystical World (2017), The Numinous Astro Deck (2019), and The Sober Curious Reset (2020). With 20+ years' experience as a lifestyle journalist and editor, Ruby is known as an astute cultural commentator and true thought leader. She is also the founder of self-publishing incubator Numinous Books. Her new book, Women Without Kids, will be out spring 2023.
Rethinking aging as women without kids, with TV host and menopause activist, Stacy London. In the episode we discuss:-Stacy's experience of being faced with her biological clock - and being confronted with the finality of menopause. -Her friend group getting younger and younger, as all the women her age got married and had kids.-What longer lifespans in general will do for our procreative potential.-Why the “grandmother” figure is the only valid role for older women in our society - and how women without kids can embody grandma energy.-Why agism is often cloaked sexism. -The different factors - genetic and otherwise - that determine how we experience menopause. -Why Gen X is changing the script about what it means to be an “older woman.”-Why information is power when it comes to navigating menopause – and how to advocate for what you need.-Why Stacy decided her product company, State of Menopause, was not the best way to help people in this transition, and why she is shifting her focus to education going forward.Follow Stacy on Instagram to learn more about her work @stacylondonreal.You can pre-order your copy of Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood HERE—and enter your order details to receive a free book club guide and be entered into a prize draw to win one of 10 limited edition "Sisterhood of the Selfish C*nts" tote bags.
Kayla is joined by author Ruby Warrington to discuss the complex decision to not be a mother and explore the social circumstances that pressure female bodies to procreate. She also covers the long history of misogyny that bestows cruel judgment on women who cannot bear children simply due to biology or financial circumstances. A topic close to her heart, she encourages mothers and non-mothers alike to be involved in the conversation. Follow Ruby Check out “Women Without Kids” the book: https://www.rubywarrington.com/books/women-without-kids/Check out “Women Without Kids” the podcast: https://www.rubywarrington.com/women-without-kids-podcasts/Follow Us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/candicekayla/ Twitter: www.twitter.com/CandiceKayla Website: www.candicekayla.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Forgoing motherhood has traditionally marked a woman as “other.” With no official place setting for her in our society, she has hovered on the sidelines: the quirky girl, the neurotic career obsessive, the “eccentric” aunt. Instead of continuing to paint women without kids as sad, self-obsessed, or somehow dysfunctional, what if instead we saw them as boldly forging a first-in-a-civilization vision for a fully autonomous womankind? Or as journalist and thought leader Ruby Warrington asks, “What if being a woman without kids was in fact its own kind of legacy?” In this episode, Adama dives deep with Ruby to discuss a taboo yet important topic, plus her upcoming book, Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood. Ruby Warrington is creator of the term Sober Curious. Author of the 2018 book and million download podcast of the same title, her work has spearheaded a global movement to reevaluate our relationship to alcohol. Other works include Material Girl, Mystical World (2017), The Numinous Astro Deck (2019), and The Sober Curious Reset (2020). With 20+ years' experience as a lifestyle journalist and editor, Ruby is known as an astute culture commentator and true thought leader. She is also the founder of self-publishing imprint Numinous Books. Her new book, Women Without Kids, will be published with Sounds True in early 2023. To access a visual version of this episode with captions visit us on Youtube Find Ruby Warrington: Web: RubyWarrington.com IG: @RubyWarrington
It's time to focus on less on what potential parents want and more on what the children of the future need, says human rights lawyer and founder of the Fair Start Movement, Carter Dillard. In the episode we discuss:-The origins and the mission of the Fair Start Movement.-Why all children deserve a “fair start” in life, from both an economic and an ecological perspective. -The concept of “procreative ethics” and the policy and ideological changes that are needed to support this.-Why having kids is not a personal matter - since deciding to create another human being cannot be framed as an autonomous act.-The ethics of China's lapsed one-child policy, and whether governments have a right to interfere in people's reproductive lives.-The thinking behind the three pillars of the Fair Start Movement: “parental readiness,” “birth equity,” and “smaller families.”-The human rights issues with “pro-growth” economics - which is what tells us we need “more new people” entering the economy in order to support the aging population. -Why Japan's plummeting birth rate is framed as a crisis – despite the country being ranked number 6 in the world when it comes to quality of life.-Their differing approaches to family formation being an early indicator of the rift between Princes William and Harry (!)-Words of comfort and encouragement for people who would like to have a child, and who are concerned about the future of our planet.Learn more about Carter and his work with the Fair Start Movement HERE. You can also pre-order your copy of Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood HERE—and enter your order number to receive a free reading group guide for the book.
Childfree advocate Rachel Diamond on the complex reasons more women are opting for irreversible sterilization procedures. In the episode we discuss:-What a “bilateral salpingectomy” involves - and why Rachel decided to go this route versus other sterilization procedures.-Why her requests for sterilization were initially turned down, and all the reasons she she was given for this.-Her experiences with other forms of long-term birth control and experiencing an ectopic pregnancy while fitted with a copper IUD.-All the different factors that led to Rachel's realization that she never wanted to have children of her own.-Why her traditional “white-picket-fence” upbringing meant she never questioned whether she would become a mom - and the relief of realizing that not having children was an option for her. -How watching her friends struggle with pregnancy and postpartum depression solidified her feelings on the subject.-Women having the ability to assess their parental readiness - and plan accordingly - being a marker of human progress.-The uptick in requests for sterilization procedures following the overturning of Roe v. Wade. -The impact of more people pursuing more creative and meaningful - but less stable - career paths on our reproductive choices. -Entering the dating pool sterilized - and being clear upfront with a potential life partner about your feelings on having kids.You can follow Rachel on TikTok and Instagram for more on her childfree journey.You can also pre-order your copy of Women Without Kids and enter your order details HERE to receive your free book club guide to accompany the book.
It is time to revalue the unpaid labor of childrearing, says Jenny Brown—feminist organizer and author of Birth Strike: The Hidden Fight Over Women's Work. In the episode we discuss:-Jenny's background campaigning for birth control access led to her deciding to write her book, Birth Strike.-Ominous insights into the forces that led to the overturning of Roe v. Wade roughly a year after we recorded this interview.-Abortion being legalized during the post-war “baby boom” of 1955-1975—a time when politicians were concerned about overpopulation.-Why the founder of the official “Birth Strike movement” changed their message in 2020 to better reflect their environmental stance (not having kids in protest to conditions NOT as a comment on overpopulation).-The systemic issues behind the current spontaneous “birth strike” being staged by women without kids globally.-The impact of witnessing our mothers' struggle on the procreative outcomes of modern women without kids.-The roots of the Covid childcare crisis, and why this had been a long time coming.-The policy change and ideological shifts that would enable more people to confidently embark on the path of parenthood.-Why higher wages across the caregiving spectrum, and higher status being given to these jobs, are essential for the thriving of future generations.-Jenny's obvious, clear-cut solutions to the issue of the aging population!You can learn more about Jenny Brown and her work and order your copy of Birth Strike HERE and follow her on Twitter HERE.You can pre-order your copy of Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood HERE—and enter your order number to receive a free book club guide and be entered into a prize draw to win a limited edition tote.
In this week's episode of Spinsterhood Reimagined, I talk to journalist, author, editor, thought leader and podcaster, Ruby Warrington. Ruby latest book 'Women Without Kids' will be published in the spring but is available to pre-order now. She is the creator of the term ‘Sober Curious', and the author of the 2018 book and million download podcast of the same name. Her work on the subject has spearheaded a global movement to reevaluate our relationship to alcohol. Her other books include ‘Material Girl, Mystical World' and ‘The Sober Curious Reset'. With more than 20 years' experience as a lifestyle journalist and editor, Ruby is known as an astute culture commentator and thought leader. She's also the founder of self-publishing imprint, Numinous Books. In this episode, Ruby and I talk about the three motivators that drove her to write Women Without Kids; the nuances of not having children and her theory of the 'motherhood spectrum'; and how the desire to be a parent is something that can be ever-changing over the course of someone's life. We also talk about the importance of being supported when making the often complex decision of whether or not to have a baby; how women without kids are diminished in society; and how childfree women can often be seen as ‘selfish', especially when they prioritise and spend time on their personal growth. Ruby and I also talk about Orna Donath's studies on women who regret having kids, as well as our own feelings around being told we'll regret not becoming mothers; the healing that Ruby has done with her own mother as a result of writing her book; and how she feels now that the book is about to be birthed into the world!Finally, we talk about Ruby's love of astrology; how the term ‘woowoo' is being reclaimed; Ruby's meditation and yoga practices; and her platform, The Numinous. Follow Ruby on Instagram: @rubywarringtonFind out more at Ruby's website:https://www.rubywarrington.com/Pre-Order ‘Women Without Kids' (UK Link):https://www.amazon.co.uk/Women-Without-Kids-Revolutionary-Sisterhood-ebook/dp/B0B19DQ3K3 Pre-Order ‘Women Without Kids' (US Link):https://www.amazon.com/Women-Without-Kids-Revolutionary-Sisterhood/dp/1683649273 Listen to Ruby's podcast, Sober Curious, on Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/3GukloeJytjkvFoSLaUaayAnd on Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/sober-curious/id1460377009Listen to ‘Women Without Kids' on Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/27nkJLSZgjcv6zawomaaKm And on Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-without-kids/id1642683714 The Numinous:https://www.the-numinous.com/ Fancy getting your hands on my FREE Top 10 Mindset Tips? Head over to: www.lucymeggeson.com Interested in my 1-1 Coaching to help you feel happier and more positive about your single status? E-mail me: lucy@lucymeggeson.com Join my private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1870817913309222/?ref=share Follow me on Instagram: @spinsterhoodreimagined Follow me on Twitter: @LucyMeggeson Email me: lucy@lucymeggeson.com And thank you so much for listening!!!
It's time to teach kids about human sexuality beyond the procreative act, says sexuality educator, Justine Ang Fonte. In the episode we discuss:-Why sexuality education tends to reduce our bodies to their reproductive function - and what is problematic about this -Why human sexuality is equally about pleasure, intimacy, agency, and personal power, and how to talk to kids about these things-Justine's introduction to teaching sex ed and why she's so passionate about enacting reform in this area-Why all non-procreative sex - including queer sex, masturbation, and sex work - is still so stigmatized -Why we can't have a real conversation about consent without centering pleasure - since consent begins with asking, “does this feel good?” -Why male sexual entitlement stems from the notion that women's bodies belong first and foremost to society as the means of reproduction -Why talking about a “gender-full” world is part of dismantling reductive gender roles in the realm of human sexuality -The role of intimacy education and teaching about healthy relationships in the context of sex ed. -Why Justine does not expect to see a truly sexually liberated society in her lifetime - and why this won't stop her continuing to work towards this You can learn more about Justine and her work HERE and follow her on Instagram @imjustineafYou can also pre-order your copy of Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood HERE—and enter your order details to receive a free reading group guide for the book
Author, activist, and doula adrienne maree brown on mapping our procreative choices against the emerging needs of our species. In the episode we discuss:-The concept of “emergence” as a way to think about creation and contribution beyond procreation-Why we are both wary of describing our books as our “babies”-What the drop off in the birth rate globally shows us about how society is evolving - particularly in terms of prescribed patriarchal gender roles -The impact of increased acceptance of queerness on baby-having and baby-rearing-What it means to engage in “science fictional behavior” when considering the future of our species and our planet-What our responses to the pandemic showed us about what we believe is at the center of life and whose needs we prioritize as a result-Why our collective addiction to accumulation extends to pro-natalist ideas about family formation -Why the concept of bodily autonomy often does not extend to our procreative potential - and who decides who and what our bodies are “for” -How being introverts has influenced both of our feelings about becoming parents -Adrienne's “big gay theory” for saving the worldLearn more about adrienne's work HERE, and check out her new book, Fables and Spells HERE, and find her podcast, How to Survive the End of the World HERE.You can pre-order your copy of Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood HERE—and enter your order details to receive a free reading group guide to accompany the book.
Author, podcaster, and childfree OG Meghan Daum on finding meaning and fulfillment when biological family is not the center of your life. In the episode we discuss:Why we are so sentimental about family - and why it's so hard to remove our rose-tinted spectacles when it comes to the subject of family life -The historical risk to life of both “going to war” (for men) and “childbirth” (for women) - and how these experiences are romanticized -The loneliness and the gifts of being an outlier, and making life choices that diverge from the “norm”-The influence of Meghan's upbringing - and her basic personality - on her choice not to become a mother -What made her question this decision, and how she navigated her ambivalence-Why choosing not to have kids is an acknowledgement of how hard it is to be a parent -Meghan's feelings about the miscarriage she experienced at age 41-How lucky she feels to derive enough meaning from her work in “the world of ideas” not to feel the need to procreate -Her experience of working in the foster care system, and her wider thoughts about fostering and adoption -How rapid progress in terms of technology and globalization have widened the “generation gap” and -Meghan's thoughts on aging without kids, and why we need a more progressive conversation about how to manage the aging populationYou can find links to all Meghan's books HERE, listen to her podcast HERE, subscribe to her Substack HERE, and learn more about The Unspeakeasy, a new community for free-thinking women, HERE.Pre-order your copy of Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood HERE - and enter your order number to receive a FREE reading group guide top accompany the book.
Dr. Nicole LePera on creating a new legacy with our self-healing the potential impact of the "conscious parenting" revolution. In the episode we discuss:-How dysfunctional patterns and behaviors are passed down the generations and imprinted in us in childhood-Why not having children can be a way to stop the patterns repeating – as can conscious parenting-How our mothers' “self-healing” practices impacted both of us – and the potential for future generations of more people engaging with this work -The roots of Nicole's early knowing that she did not want to be a mom-Why our experience of being mothered inevitably shapes how we feel about becoming mothers ourselves-The decision not to have children due to fears about our mental health or passing on other genetic conditions-The enormous emotional challenge of raising kids and how to assess our capacity for the vocation of parenthood-Why grieving is part of any journey of healing from dysfunctional family dynamics -Why feeling seen and heard is the essence of community – and why this begins with feeling safe to express who we are-The healing path as a vocation in itself and a way to live a meaningful life without kidsNicole's new book, How To Meet Yourself: The Workbook For Self-Discovery is out December 6, 2022. Get your copy HERE.You can also pre-oder Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of An Unsung Sisterhood HERE. Enter your order details to receive a FREE book club guide to accompany the book.
Evolutionary biologist Gillian Ragsdale on the myth of the "maternal instinct," and the extent to which the desire to birth a biological child is a social and cultural phenomenon. In the episode we discuss:-Why no mammal has a primal instinct that links sex to a desire to reproduce -Why we talk about a “maternal” instinct and not a “paternal” instinct -The real purpose of the sex drive in human beings-Why individual differences and preferences are overlooked in conversations about procreative potential -The different factors that might make a person more susceptible to “baby fever”-Why it is so challenging to implement more shared responsibility for childrearing between men and women-An evolutionary perspective on the global population slowdown -Why modern societal structures and family formation are antithetical to proper caregiving -How “pair bonding” came to take precedence among humans and the impact of this on community and family life -What it means to “widen the moral circle” when it comes to who we care for and about – both individually and as a society -Why biological evolution doesn't care about “quality of life” - but how lifestyle stressors do impact human fertility You can learn more about Gillian Ragsdale and her work HERE.You can pre-order your copy of Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood HERE—where you can input your order details to receive a FREE book club guide to accompany the book.
Psychologist Aurelie Athan on the emerging concept of "Reproductive Identity." In the episode we discuss:-How Aurelie defines the concept of “reproductive identity” and how she came to this work-The different life experiences that help to form our reproductive identity - and how this intersects with other identity markers -The cultural and social developments that have shifted the narrative about who is “supposed to” have children, and why-Why the transitions and developmental phases of mid-life have been so unexamined -Evolving attitudes to the concept of “generatively” - what we are contributing to future generations -The impact professionally and culturally of women delaying motherhood to prioritize education and personal development-How not becoming a parent is its own developmental phase psychologically -The specific factors can help inform our “reproductive orientation” - and why some people are naturally “a-reproductive” (as in a-sexual) with no desire to reproduce -How to create more space for ambivalence and fluidity in terms of reproductive identity and / or orientation -The importance of having our self-identity verified by the way we are received in the world-The importance of creating new language to describe the full spectrum of emerging reproductive identities -The wider and ongoing implications for the concept of reproductive identity being embraced in the mainstreamRead Aurelie Athan's full paper on Reproductive Identity HERE.You can pre-order your copy of Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood HERE.
Dr. Jennifer Mullan of Decolonizing Therapy on non-motherhood as part of our intergenerational healing. In the episode we discuss:-The intersections that are at play when we talk about intergenerational healing -Different ways of thinking about what is “ending with us” when we don't have kids -The concept of the “soul wound” - and how this is passed on down the generations -The trauma done to peoples - and lineages - across the globe by colonization, and the survivalist coping mechanisms that we have inherited from this -Jennifer's definition of “family dysfunction” - and how this is often a manifestation of these coping mechanisms -Her experiences of family therapy, and how the focus is often on the child who is “acting out” - versus looking at the whole family system -Why ambivalence about having children can reflect an intuitive pull not to pass intergenerational patters - or “curses” - on to a new generation -“Parenting” in our activism or other community work - and prioritizing this over having kids -What we are opting into when we “opt out” of having kids - whether this is a conscious choice or not -How the pillaging of Mother Earth has impacted our capacity for mothering -Jenn's family's response to her not pursuing motherhood - and her rage at their insensitivity around this -The need for specific care and lifestyle options for older women without kidsLearn more and Dr. Jennifer Mullan and her work HERE and follow her on Instagram for updates about her forthcoming book, Decolonizing Therapy: Oppression, Historical Trauma & Politicizing Your Practice.You can pre-order your copy of Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood HERE.
Sociologist Orna Donath, author of the book Regretting Motherhood, on the roots and the impact on women of society's greatest taboo. In the episode we discuss:-Why the subject of “regretting motherhood” is so taboo – and why it is so hard for women to express their regret about having kids-The “feeling rules” about motherhood, which only permit us to feel a certain way about it-Why loving one's children and loving being a mom are not the same thing-Why there is no country or society where femininity is not synonymous with motherhood -The importance of acknowledging the diversity among women and all female identifying individuals when it comes to our gifts, our limitations, and our desires for our lives-Why maternal regret is often hidden by complaints about the material difficulties of the role-The damage done to children when women are pushed into motherhood against their will-Why being honest about how things really are – no matter how painful – creates a culture of trust and helps people feel more secure -Why telling women they will regret not having kids is a “political use of emotion”-Insights from Orna's new study, which looks at the lives of older women without kids-Why people – especially women - who chose to live alone are also subject to stigma concerning their life choicesGet your copy of Regretting Motherhood by Orna Donath HERE.You can also pre-order your copy of Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood HERE.
Psychotherapist Jeanne Safer, author of the 1996 book Beyond Motherhood on why not all women are destined to become mothers—and that's okay. In the episode we discuss: -Anticipating—and fearing—our parents' responses to us writing on this subject-The value in accepting the cold, hard facts, for healing family dysfunction-Why being a “woman without kids” is still seen as so taboo – and the internal questions that can arise as a result-The liberation that results from staying true to what is right for you-How attitudes have changed in the 25+ years since Jeanne's book was published-Working through the shame of feeling insufficiently “loving” as a non-mother-The traits that equip a person for the “psychological vocation” of motherhood -Why there is no life without regrets – no matter what path we choose-Using the climate as an “excuse” for not having kids-How the IVF industry plays to women's fears that they will regret not having kids-Grieving not becoming a mother – no matter how you feel about not having kids-Why “mothering” is not inherently “feminine” and why it's okay not to feel a maternal instinctYou can learn more about Jeanne Safer, and her book Beyond Motherhood HERE. You can also read her follow-up essay in Meghan Daum's anthology, Selfish, Shallow and Self-Absorbed: 16 Writers on the Decision Not to Have kids.You can pre-order your copy of Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood HERE.
Gateway Women founder Jody Day on the false divide that separates 'childless' women who can't have kids, from 'childfree' women who don't want to be mothers. In the episode we discuss: -The roots of the false binary that divides the ones who “can't have kids” and the ones who “don't want kids” -The role of pronatalism in this divide, which is the ideology that says that parents are more important than non-parents-The concept of being “childless by circumstance” – versus being childless by choice or due to infertility-How Jody came up with the word “NoMo” (from not-mother) to describe any and all women without kids-The “disenfranchised grief” of childlessness – and grief, like love, being a process of identity transformation-The role of empathy and consciousness raising in overcoming judgement, stigma, and shame-How women without kids from across the spectrum of non-motherhood can come together and support each other-The primal roots of our fear and loathing of women without kids, and how this plays out in society today-Why the notion that we need more new people to support the aging population is an example of ageism – and why the solution lies in changes to current economic policies-Why the “othering” of women without kids is linked to all other forms of prejudice under white supremacist, capitalist, patriarchy-Jody's “Conscious Childless Elderwoman”projectLearn more about Gateway Women HERE and follow Jody on Instagram @gatewaywomen.Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood is out March 2023. Pre-order your copy HERE.
Women Without Kids is a special podcast series created from research interviews for my book of the same title, which will be published in spring 2023. The conversations I'll be sharing here are with the authors, philosophers, healers, activists, anthropologists, and social scientists, whose work has helped me make sense of everything it means to be a "woman without kids" today—whatever our reasons for this.First episode coming September 11 2022. You can also find places to pre-order my book, Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood, HERE.
Ruby Warrington joins Sober Stories host Beth Bowen to talk about the rapid evolution of the sober curious movement. Ruby shares the origin story of the term “sober curious,” and what it was like to begin to put words to a new way of conceptualizing ones' relationship with alcohol. Beth and Ruby talk about how alcohol is portrayed in media, and how it actually separates us from others when we desperately want to connect. Ruby shares how her creative process as a writer has changed since she removed alcohol from her life, and Beth and Ruby discuss her upcoming book about choosing to not have children, Women Without Kids. Ruby shares what her story would be called: "Sober Curious" Ruby Warrington is creator of the term Sober Curious. Author of the 2018 book of the same title, her work has spearheaded a global movement to reevaluate our relationship to alcohol. Other works include Material Girl, Mystical World (2017), The Numinous Astro Deck (June 2019), and The Sober Curious Reset (Dec 2020). With 20+ years' experience as a lifestyle journalist and editor, Ruby is also the founder of self-publishing imprint Numinous Books, and is known as a true innovator in the “Now Age” space. Her new book, Women Without Kids, will be published with Sounds True in early 2023. Key Takeaways: Coining the term “sober curious.” How Ruby discovered her sober curiosity and where she is today. Alcohol in the media from a journalist's perspective. Personality types and the commonalities with alcohol addiction. Resources mentioned: Episode 14 - “Against the Grain” Sober Curious with Jordan Grainger https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/against-the-grain-sober-curious-with-jordan-grainger/id1612979571?i=1000564172297 Sober Curious Workshop https://www.eomega.org/workshops/sober-curious/sober-curious Join Ruby's newsletter - https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5fff55528e3856b921432a8a Connect with Ruby: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rubywarrington/ Website - http://www.rubywarrington.com/ Podcast - http://www.rubywarrington.com/podcasts/ Support Sober Stories: Follow us on Instagram - @wearesoberstories Follow us on TikTok - @wearesoberstories Receive email updates From our sponsors: Use code SOBERSTORIES for 15% off your next De Soi order.
Continuing our women podcast for women's history month, Chelsea Heppert is back! Chelsea is here talking about adult women in the workplace who do not have kids. She talks about how they are treated differently from women who do have kids in the workplace. Chelsea also talks about how friend groups and society judges the women who do not have kids or choose not to have kids. Chelsea even talks about her personal experiences on this matter as well. This is something women are going through everyday, and Chelsea is here to shed light on it. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/level-7-crew/support
Join us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/friendswithyounybWhy does being so NICE have to be so FRUSTRATING? After all, you do for them. So why don't they do the same for you? You say "yes" when work is short staffed, you volunteer for the things no one wants to do, you help, you run, you go, you drive, you offer. DOESN'T ANYONE SEE THAT?! Maybe it's frustrating... because you've been lying. Ouch? But yeah. You've been saying "yes" when you mean "no." Your "kindness" is actually someone begging to be seen. Your "doing" is actually investing in hope that they'll do the same for you. But this obligation is tired. And resentment is festering. And it means you're living your life from the hope of someone else's response, rather than from honoring your own authenticity. When you do that, your spirit and body will tell you. It shows up as heartburn, IBS, gut issues, eczema, teeth clenching and bruxism.Life Coach Kelsie Bentley was there herself. After burn out depression and persistent heartburn, she realized she need a change.Now she's helping others do the same. In this episode she shares why women without children are frequent people-pleasers, how to determine if you really want to do what you say "yes" to, and how to draw new boundaries if you don't.Watch this episode on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcQtsHifLdXzXiMUs73XaGQShow notes:www.ImFriendsWithYouNotYourBaby.com
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