Podcast appearances and mentions of nicole lapera

In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagle, and Teighlor Polendo discuss the importance of setting boundaries in personal and professional relationships. They demystify common misconceptions, explore why boundaries are essential for healthy interactions, and offer practical advice on how to create, state, and maintain effective boundaries. The conversation includes real-life examples and role-playing scenarios to help listeners understand the importance of clear, direct communication. Tune in to learn how to respect your needs and foster stronger relationships through thoughtful boundary-setting.  Music by epidemic sound. SHOW NOTES: Experts :  Dr. Nicole LaPera, Cloud and Townsend Resources :  Dr. Nicole LaPera's Formula for Boundaries CREATE STATE MAINTAIN https://theholisticpsychologist.com/boundaries-the-ultimate-life-hack/ Cloud and Townsend's Book: https://www.boundariesbooks.com/products/boundaries-updated-expanded-edition Links to AFAF Episodes on Boundaries :  Episode #020: Myths of Boundaries https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/c6b431c4b18335a1759db7588986fd0d Episode #021: Boundaries 101 - How to Say No! https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/8dc8625be3a918b62f8c9d16a1f888f9 Episode #022: Managing Boundaries - How to Manage Difficult People https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/04a05256443fa4baabf2b3dcbfcc32d9 Episode #067: How to Set Boundaries to Help Others Treat You Well https://youtu.be/DWsp-Ma9ZMs Episode #068: How to Handle Boundary Testers https://youtu.be/WeAdKxNlhB0

Since today is Christmas, I am doing a solo episode to connect with listeners and reflect on the achievements, challenges, and milestones I experienced over the past year.  For many of us, 2024 has been a year of remarkable extremes. Join me as I revisit some key moments, discussing my thoughts on the books and podcasts that have inspired me. I also look ahead to 2025, sharing my intentions and recommendations for the coming year. Happy holidays! IN THIS EPISODE: My emotional highs, areas of personal growth, and professional milestones in 2024 Why the support of the podcast community truly means a lot to me How the achievements, transitions, and health challenges of my family have shaped the past year The books that have impacted me the most  over the last year My recommended podcasts for 2024 Some of the most enlightening podcast conversations we had in 2024 My intentions for 2025  How gratitude has played a central role in my personal growth and professional success Connect with Cynthia Thurlow   Follow on Twitter, Instagram & LinkedIn Check out Cynthia's website Submit your questions to support@cynthiathurlow.com Links to topics discussed: Stacy Sims  Vonda Wright  Mary Claire Haver  Tim Spector  Kiran Krishan  Steven Gundry  Lisa Mosconi  Nicole LaPera  Links for Books on Amazon: 1. Blind Spots by Marty Makary  2. Challenger by Adam Higginbotham  3. Lisa Mosconi:       XX Brain        Menopause Brain   4. Nicole Lapera:        How to Do The Work        How to Be The Love You Seek        How to Meet Your Self  5. Food for Life by Tim Spector  6. Gut Check by Steven Gundry

Elle and Vee catch up just the two of them for their 100th episode! They reflect on how much they've changed since beginning the podcast, and fill each other in on their latest sexcapades, learning moments and takeaways.Putting Talk Into Action: Vee doing the work, Elle's intentions to be a better student, gratitude for the guests. (1:10)Elle's tight pussy post-birth: how Vee and Elle have changed since the beginning of the podcast. (6:04)The importance of taking care of yourself to have good sex! Desire level post-birth: how lack of sleep for new parents affects sex drive. (11:48)Alcohol: letting go of alcohol allowed Vee to listen to her body's signals. (16:33)How to Be the Love You Seek check ins: Elle uses tools from Dr. Nicole LaPera's book. (18:27)Vee gets embodied: checking in with yourself - inside and outside of the bedroom. (20:03)First date orgasms! Getting eaten out by a guy with a beard, and learning to let go with a new partner. (21:55)Oral with a timer; giving your partner NRE (new relationship energy) no matter how long youve been together. (28:03)Elle's vacation sex: cock ring + connection + tipsiness + weed = anal sex! (34:51)Balls hitting the ass during sex: yay or nay? (37:09)Putting mens' toys and condoms on for them. (42:15)Setting intentions: cock cage, yoni massage, and tantra retreat. (44:10)Where to find us, and how you can support us:Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shopContact: girlsgonedeep@gmail.comWHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com Instagram: @wlthegameWoo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop!

What if fighting in your relationship could actually bring you closer together? In this week's episode, we're continuing our seven-part series on relationship patterns that build strong couples. We dive into the fourth pattern that helps couples “make it”... Pattern 6: They fought. They got on each other's nerves, they fought, and were frustrated with each other at times. But they knew how to navigate conflict, bounce back, and move forward. (From Dr. Nicole LePera – @the.holistic.psychologist) Let's dive into the surprising truth that healthy conflict isn't about avoiding arguments but learning how to navigate them with grace. Based on insights from Dr. Nicole LaPera's research on lasting couples, we explore why couples who “make it” often have moments of frustration but use them to build resilience, deepen trust, and grow in faith together. Join us as we talk candidly about the reality of getting on each other's nerves and why it's normal—and even healthy. From sharing practical tips on managing conflict to recognizing our own tendencies toward selfishness, we look at how God's guidance can transform the way we relate to each other. Whether you're married, engaged, dating, or single this episode offers faith-based tools to overcome frustrations, support each other, and foster Christ-centered relationships that honors God. Through laughter and honest conversation, we'll help you see how God uses our relationships to shape us, refine us, and teach us to love selflessly. Tune in to learn how even conflict can become an opportunity for spiritual growth, leading to a stronger, more anchored connection with God and each other. Proverbs 15:1...A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. **** This is part 6 of our 7-part series based on Dr. Nicole LePera's (@the.holistic.psychologist) 7 Patterns in Couples Who "Made It." Previous episodes linked below: Pattern 1 Pattern 2 Pattern 3 Pattern 4 Pattern 5

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I got to hang out with my friend, Dr. Nicole LaPera. We got to chat about her new book, "How to Be the Love You Seek". We're diving into how to create secure adult relationships, and y'all, buckle up, because it turns out it's about us. We get to chat about how our childhood impacts our current relationships, and what early childhood trauma can do, and the impact it can have on our mind and our body. And then where do we go from there? What does it look like to dive into that work and look at ourselves so that we can have secure adult relationships? I have had the privilege of connecting with Dr. Nicole for years now. She has been on the podcast. She has been on the podcast before and I absolutely love learning from and with her. I'm super jazzed that her book is ready to go for you right now, "How to Be the Love You Seek". Go snag it wherever books are sold! Connect with Dr. Nicole: How To Be The Love You Seek How To Meet Yourself How To Do The Work Website: theholisticphysologist.com Tik Tok @theholisticpsychologist Twitter @theholisticphyc Instagram @theholisticpsychologist YouTube @theholisticpsychologist   Connect with us on: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Music by: Bensound Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jillian welcomes Dr. Nicole LaPera (@theholisticpsychologist) to discuss what it really means to love, why trauma impacts some people more than others, and how to heal generational trauma with family members. This is a potent and fascinating conversation you do not want to miss. ~~ Follow the show on Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon Find Resources mentioned in the show at the Jillian on Love Recommendations Follow Jillian Turecki on Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki Twitter: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A podcast where we share sixty seconds of inspiration to help you create a kinder, gentler world faster than the speed of heartbreak. We believe that kindness needs to be the number one cherished idea in the world today. So, we created a show that adds one sweet droplet of goodness into the ocean of your life - every day.  #onekindmoment #kindness #kindnessquotes #kind Yesterday by John Hobart - Music Design by Jason Inc. https://brucewaynemclellan.com/    

Ever wondered about the secret sauce that makes relationships last? This episode of Demo with Mo is an invigorating discussion with our relationship community members, Ash, Jasmine, and Rashad, as we unravel the common patterns couples that "make it" share and its essential role in long-lasting relationships.Friendship, we learn, is the bedrock of a successful relationship. Robust friendships offer the resilience needed to weather the tough times. But it's not just about endurance; it's about appreciation too. Shared adversities and appreciation of quirks bind us together in a unique bond that strengthens the relationship. Listen in as Ash, Jasmine, and Rashad share their personal experiences of how humor can help embrace these quirks, and how allowing each other to be themselves, without imposing change, breeds trust and acceptance.We don't stop there. We take you through the nuances of apologizing, communication, and relationship repair, sharing from personal experiences. We discussed the importance of self-awareness and difficult conversations. Finally, we delve into the often-overlooked aspect of relationships—boundaries. Inspired by Dr. Nicole Lapera's research, we explore the benefits of setting boundaries, even within family relationships. Join us for this enlightening discussion and learn how these patterns can create a positive ripple effect in your relationships.Dr. Nicole Lepera: The 7 Patterns Within Couples Who "Made It."Twitter https://twitter.com/Theholisticpsyc/status/1694391329445511628Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/100069813781908/posts/603188648684923/?mibextid=rS40aB7S9Ucbxw6vSupport the showConnect with MoBecome a Subscriber for subscriber only content: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1834533/subscribeMerchandise: https://demo-with-mo.myspreadshop.com/ Website: https://www.demowithmo.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/demowithmopodcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/demowithmo/Facebook Relationship Community:https://www.facebook.com/groups/548524369897098/?ref=share TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@demowithmo/

Welcome to the latest episode of "Grow Your Life" with Jeremiah Krakowski! Dive deep into the complexities of running a business and the growth journey of a CEO. In this enlightening episode, Jeremiah candidly shares his personal experiences of overcoming the trap of perfectionism and the fear of disappointment. Discover the transformative power of embracing personal development, reparenting oneself, and prioritizing mental health in the business world. With insights from the holistic psychologist, Nicole Lapera, and real-life examples, Jeremiah emphasizes the need for self-compassion, resilience, and authenticity in business. Whether you're an aspiring mentor, coach, or just someone navigating the business landscape, this episode offers valuable lessons in resilience, authenticity, and the pursuit of excellence. Don't miss out on these invaluable insights that can reshape your mindset and propel you towards your entrepreneurial dreams. Remember, it's not about avoiding disappointments, but how you grow from them.

In this mid week minisode I catch up with my good friend Lyndal Hunt. Lyndal introduces the concept of the "safety trap", and becoming aware of feeling so good that we start to neglect the ongoing work required to maintain sobriety. She emphasises the importance of vigilance and proactivity, even during the good times, as this is when the risk of relapse can be at its highest.Recovery is an ongoing process and that allowing complacency to set in can be detrimental.Consistent self-care practices and coping strategies are paramount in maintaining long-term well-being. We chat about the significance of sticking to your daily practice to stay on track. Even when you are on holidays!!!Recognising warning signs is crucial in preventing a potential relapse. Lyndal provides insights into being aware of shifts in mood, behaviour, or thought patterns. By taking action early on, individuals can prevent a full-blown relapse and get back on track towards recovery.We also discuss the importance of leaning on friends, family, support groups and your sober gang to stay connected. We touch upon the need for a mindset shift - viewing recovery as a continuous process rather than an endpoint. Embracing the idea of a lifelong journey in recovery can help you maintain focus and dedication and avoiding the trap of complacency.The book Lyndal mentioned is Nicole Lapera, How To Do The Work. To reach out to Lyndal go to @thesobrietygym Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A podcast where we share sixty seconds of inspiration to help you create a kinder, gentler world faster than the speed of heartbreak. We believe that kindness needs to be the number one cherished idea in the world today. So, we created a show that adds one sweet droplet of goodness into the ocean of your life - every day.  #onekindmoment #kindness #kindnessquotes #kind Yesterday by John Hobart - Music Design by Jason Inc. https://brucewaynemclellan.com/    

We're heading back almost two years for the latest bitesize episode on But Why. In March 2021 Clemmie spoke to Dr Nicole LePera aka @the.holistic.psychologist about the role for self-healing work, how that fits alongside more conventional therapy and delves into why everyone could benefit from greater self-awareness - even those who feel they don't need it. The pair discuss learning to feel your feelings rather than emotionally checking out, witnessing our relationship patterns, learning to set and honour boundaries and ultimately live more consciously. Dr Nicole LaPera's book ‘How to Do To The Work Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self' is available now. Check out more podcast content @Butwhy_podcast on Instagram and while you're there, you can find Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Episode, We talk and tap on helping you to heal your mother wound :)Sign up for my event on how to clear limiting beliefs, rewire your subconscious mind and create an intentional life with eft tapping here: https://nicoleforreal.ck.page/bcc50f2703Join the EFT Tapping Soul Circle here: https://nicoleforreal.ck.page/11c921e900If you want to work with me 1:1 book here: https://www.nicoleforreal.com/work-with-me-11Here is the post I referenced from Dr. Nicole Lapera: https://www.instagram.com/p/BuT-3JDgeXU/?hl=enFollow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/nicole.for.real/?hl=enFollow me on Tik Tok at: https://www.tiktok.com/@nicole.for.real?lang=enMusic in Meditation by Chris Collins from IndieMusicBox.comMusic in ad 'WatR-Fluid by WataboiMusic in intro and outro "Inspiring Cinematic Background Music For Videos" by LesfmYour support means so much to me! If you could please leave me a 5 star review, that would help me in getting this content out to more people :) Thank you so much for listening!

"A large majority of us are allowing our habit self to dictate our day" - Dr Niocle LePera Are you living your life on autopilot and struggling to prioritise self-care? In this episode, Meg Durham celebrates the 70th episode of The School of Wellbeing podcast by having a special conversation with guest Dr Nicole LaPera. You may know her as The Holistic Psychologist on Instagram, with over 6M followers! The two talk about the important teachings shared in Dr Nicole's newest book, "How to Meet Yourself: The Workbook of Self-Discovery." You'll learn about the importance of self-care, how our earliest relationships shape how we care for ourselves, and why we resist rest, play and pleasure. Listen to this episode to discover how to create lasting change and live a more authentic version of yourself. Energy By Design - https://openmindeducation.com/energy-by-design/ Episode 70 Shownotes - https://openmindeducation.com/episode70 Thought of The Week - https://openmindeducation.com/thought-weekly/ Booking Requests - https://openmindeducation.com/booking-request/ The School of Wellbeing is one of the best health and wellbeing podcasts for teachers and educators!

I've been learning what it means to have a hypervigilant nervous system and how to regulate it. In this minisode, I share what Dr. Nicole LaPera says on the topic from her book, How To Do the Work. This term recently entered my radar and I wanted to learn more about it. I hope you take away a little something from this too! RESOURCES AND LINKS:Get our free daily emails hereHow to Do the Work* by Dr. Nicole LePeraBuy:Our Happy Habits TrackerOur productivity eBook Download:Learn about masculine and feminine energy hereMake a morning routine that feels good here Support us:Love this podcast and want to help us keep going? Become a member here LET'S STAY CONNECTEDSubscribe: Apple, Spotify, StitcherFollow us on Instagram: click hereVisit our website: click hereNEW MINISODE EVERY THURSDAY*This is an affiliate link that helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you!

In this Episode, We talk and tap on healing the Father Wound :)Join the EFT Tapping Soul Circle Here: https://nicoleforreal.ck.page/11c921e900If you want to work with me 1:1 book here: https://www.nicoleforreal.com/work-with-me-11Here is the post I referenced from Dr. Nicole Lapera:https://www.facebook.com/photo?fbid=2466510046805916&set=pcb.2466510226805898Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/nicole.for.real/?hl=enFollow me on Tik Tok at: https://www.tiktok.com/@nicole.for.real?lang=enMusic in Meditation by Chris Collins from IndieMusicBox.comMusic in ad 'WatR-Fluid by WataboiMusic in intro and outro "Inspiring Cinematic Background Music For Videos" by LesfmYour support means so much to me! If you could please leave me a 5 star review, that would help me in getting this content out to more people :) Thank you so much for listening!

I've been learning what it means to have a hypervigilant nervous system and how to regulate it. In this minisode, I share what Dr. Nicole LaPera says on the topic from her book, How To Do the Work. This term recently entered my radar and I wanted to learn more about it. I hope you take away a little something from this too! RESOURCES AND LINKS:How to Do the Work* by Dr. Nicole LePeraGet our free daily emails hereBuy:Our Happy Habits TrackerOur productivity eBookGet our free guides:Learn about masculine and feminine energy hereMake a sustainable morning routine hereSupport us:Love this podcast and want to help us keep going? Become a member hereLET'S STAY CONNECTEDSubscribe: Apple, Spotify, StitcherFollow us on Instagram: click hereVisit our website: click hereNEW EPISODE EVERY TUESDAYNEW MINI-EPISODE EVERY THURSDAY*This affiliate link helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you!

How well do you REALLY know yourself? Now that's a loaded question. In a world where self-worth is often heavily impacted by the outside world it could be quite daunting to take a look within. Heather is doing just that in this conversation with holistic psychologist Dr. Nicole LaPera. Join Heather as she has a discussion about the physical, mental, and emotional patterns that fill and affect our everyday lives with Dr. LaPera whose new book “How to Meet Your Self” explores just that. From the physical manifestations of anxiety to deprogramming your consciousness from instilled beliefs, no subject is too taboo. It's a raw and vulnerable conversation that will make you ask yourself hard questions–like what are you so afraid of uncovering while self-exploring? While also offering the tools needed to step away from conditioned patterns and habits that are no longer serving. Plus, are the mind, body, and soul really that connected? We're exploring brain fog and how it starts in the most unexpected place…

Kellie and Mel sit down with Micheala of Losing to Blooming in this episode of Our Sleeved Life. Michaela is a regular on the podcast and always offers so much insight and help to overcome the challenges bariatric patients face after WLS. In this episode, Kellie, Mel, and Micaela focus their discussion on maintaining weight loss after bariatric surgery and what happens if you experience regain. They discuss the importance of grounding routines that help us stay on track, building healthful habits and coping strategies, and being open to learning about yourself in your bariatric journey. Kellie has a breakthrough and Michaela offers some hard truths and coaching to help her realize she is still doing the work after trauma and regain. This OSLP episode is packed with so much coaching from Michaela, she should charge you to listen!  Michaela mentions the book How To Do The Work by Dr. Nicole LaPera in this episode. You can find a link in the OSLP Amazon store if you are interested in learning more. Michaela Miller is a bariatric patient who found her calling to help others in their bariatric journey as a bariatric wellness coach. She had VSG in May of 2016 and has maintained a 150-pound weight loss for the last six years. She is a NASM-certified personal trainer, certified nutrition coach, and certified weight loss specialist. She is currently working through an embodiment certification. You can find Michaela on her website www.losingtoblooming.com or on Instagram @loosingtoblooming OSLP strives to educate and inform the bariatric community and those with predetermined ideas about weight loss surgery. Join our email list on our website at www.oursleevedlifepodcast.com for the latest OSLP updates and follow us on Instagram @oursleevedlifepodcast.  Please consider supporting us on www.patreon.com/OSLP and become a Badass Benchie today! OSLP APPROVED PRODUCTS LINKS: www.procarenow.com www.devotionnutrition.com OSLP Amazon Store Front: Portion Perfection and more OR Use these Discount Codes to help support your GIRLS! @procarenow OSLP @devotionnutrition OSLP @modestmixteas oursleevedlife20 @portionperfection 150SLPOD @the.t.r.i.b.e.membership OSLP @hidratespark OSLP @obvi OSLP15 @builtbar OSLP @middaysquares OSLP15 @mybaribox OSLP

I read a great quote from Dr Nicole LaPera aka The Holistic Psychologist yesterday and it resonated so much with me that I felt the need to share it with you. If you haven't read her book yet, How To Do The Work, I highly recommend you do, if you're on a healing journey. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Why your thoughts have everything to your success in life and business I am so excited for you to listen to this episode because my guest is someone who helped get me out of a really difficult time in my life -- a time that I've shared about on this podcast.  Her name is Dr. Nicole LaPera. She's a Cornell-trained holistic psychologist, and thanks to her book, How to Do The Work, I learned some really great tools on how to examine and correct the negative thought patterns I was having last year that led to a bit of a depression. If you've been tuning in to Online Marketing Made Easy for a while, you've heard a lot about this period of time in the beginning of 2021, right after our move to Nashville. It took a big toll on my personal and professional life, so that's why I'm getting super vulnerable in this interview and diving into all-things mental health.  By the way, I am so glad that mental health is a topic that is losing its stigma, and becoming a bigger part of everyday conversation -- because let's be honest, it has a direct effect on how we show up in the world every single day.  Trust me on this one. Dr. Nicole's approach is much different than some of the other types of therapy and personal development work that are out there, and you can expect to walk away from this episode with her unique perspective on how to:  Recognize toxic patterns and how they manifest Heal from personal trauma so you can show up as the best version of yourself in life and in business Make permanent shifts in your thought patterns Take your mental health and healing into your own hands Here's a glance at this episode... [06:54] When Nicole was young, she struggled with anxiety. Her curiosity around her struggles inspired her to pursue a career in psychology so she could help others understand themselves and create change in the world. [09:02] After having a successful private practice, she felt inspired to look at new ways to create change to help people online. She wanted to share her stories and her tools, so she started The Holistic Psychologist. [10:53] The work emphasizes the daily nature of change required. Many of us are stuck because we're not living consciously. We need to be conscious in real time, so we don't repeat the old habits. [16:14] Set random alarms on your phone to check in with yourself. Ask, “How present am I? Am I fully immersed in whatever I'm doing?” Use your senses to come back to being present. [30:59] We have the choice to shift from disempowerment to empowerment, so long as we are doing things consciously and checking in with ourselves. [37:42] Make sure you get the nutrients that your brain needs to function. Geting enough sleep at night, your breathing, and taking care of your body are great ways to start.   [41:36] Learn how to stay committed and connected to your truth and your vision in business. Be discerning about what you hear, and know what you stand for! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Amy and Online Marketing Made Easy."

Even before she came online as The Holistic Psychologist and amassed almost 5 million followers on Instagram in just over three years, Dr. Nicole Lapera was a “human fascinated with other humans.” While working with her clients as a clinical psychologist, she began to see the limitations within the traditional mental health system. A system that she noticed tended to label symptoms as disorders. Her extensive research into trauma, epigenetics and the importance of conscious awareness contradicted much of what she'd learned in school. She began to see and believe that our diagnoses and symptoms don't have to be with us for life. Nicole's book, “How to Do the Work,” spent 5 weeks on the New York Times bestseller list, and she's got two more on the way. Her next book (which will be hitting shelves in about two years) is all about how to cultivate what she calls “heart-based (or 'heart-coherent') authentically connected relationships.” In this episode, I sat down with Nicole to discuss all things love, intimacy, and connection. **To connect with me directly, join the community on Instagram and support the podcast to keep it ad-free, visit www.backfromtheborderline.com ** Breakdown of topics covered: ■ Why we keep repeating the same dysfunctional relationship patterns over and over■ How a fear of silence can prevent us from holding space for our intimate partners■ How am unresolved fear of death and change can prevent us from truly and intimately connecting with the people we love■ Why you may feel stuck in an endless cycle of seeking treatment for your mental health (the importance of digging into the underlying cause and not just treating symptoms) ■ How the behaviors that sabotage our attempts at love and connection in adulthood are the same behaviors that kept us safe in childhood■ Understanding the concept of “love” as a core universal human need as it relates to our early childhood survival and development■ How feelings of unworthiness manifest in parent/child relationships (and is perpetuated and repeated throughout our adult romantic relationships)■ How to prepare with your partner BEFORE arguments happen (to minimize the fallout, shame and regret later)■ Struggles with control and micromanaging: how giving our partners unsolicited (and even well meaning) advice can damage connection and intimacy■ The importance of grieving the end of relationships (and the harm that can come from forcing ourselves to move on too quickly)■ How a lack of understanding our own needs and desires stops us from connecting with our partners■ The role boundaries and space play in the strengthening of relationships■ Triad Polyamory: Nicole's experience being in a “throuple” and what she's learned about intimacy and connection living and growing with two romantic partners Connect with Nicole:Instagram | @theholisticpsychologistWebsite | https://theholisticpsychologist.com/Book | How to Do the Work See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Finishing up this fun AMA series to get us into the new year, this episode brings together your questions about my mindset practices and personal life. I'm truly sitting in the Gravity guest's chair for this one, with eleven different hosts sitting across from me. We begin with my time management philosophies and where I picked them up (Hint: past Gravity guests). We go granular on this subject, detailing my day-to-day routines, how they've changed over the years, and what kinds of things I like to do in my free time – including a list of recommended reading. From there, we jump into the deep end with some great questions about how I perceive myself, my work, and the world they exist in. I talk about walking the line between appreciation or gratitude and the desire to make things better – before another well-worded inquiry prompts me to discuss the complicated role fear has played in my life. We finish up with a few popular podcast topics, how I make and keep friends as an adult and how my wife and I have gone about raising three exceptional young adults as we prepare for an empty nest. Perhaps these subjects are so commonly discussed because they don't have any one real answer or rule book. I hope my perspective on them, or on anything we've covered in these two AMA episodes, has shed some light on something you've been struggling with or made you think about something in a way that allows you to better understand yourself or someone in your life. Thanks for listening. Questions Brett answers: [01:20] Advice on how you prioritize time. [06:28] Tips and programs that help you set and execute goals [08:57] How many hours a day do you work? [10:35] How does your daily routine change throughout the week? [11:30] How do you get into a creative zone? [13:40] Book recommendations? [15:04] Appreciation for the way things are vs. desire to make them better [16:11] Handling fears and self-doubt [18:44] What kind of friendships do you seek/need as an adult? [21:40] Being the best parent you can be to teenagers and young adults [25:57] How do you come to terms or prepare for an empty nest? To learn more about intentional living, and for the complete show notes, visit: https://gravityproject.com/ (gravityproject.com) Resources: https://brett-kaufman.com/g89-dan-sullivan/ (89. The Pursuit of Happiness & Measuring Progress Backward with Dan Sullivan) https://brett-kaufman.com/g82-chet-scott/ (82. A Heart Attack's Teachings: Finding Your Opus with Chet Scott) https://builttolead.com/ (“Becoming Built to Lead” by Chet Scott) https://whonothow.com/ (“Who Not How” by Dan Sullivan) https://www.hachettebooks.com/titles/benjamin-hardy/willpower-doesnt-work/9780316441339/#:~:text=In%20Willpower%20Doesn't%20Work,This%20book%20shows%20you%20how. (“Willpower Doesn't Work” by Benjamin Hardy) https://untetheredsoul.com/surrender-experiment (“The Surrender Experiment” by Michael Singer) https://untetheredsoul.com/ (“Untethered Soul” by Michael Singer) https://theholisticpsychologist.com/book/ (“How To Do The Work” by Dr. Nicole LaPera) https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/37570546-maybe-you-should-talk-to-someone (“Maybe You Should Talk To Someone” by Lori Gottlieb) https://sunlifeorganics.com/products/i-forgot-to-die-khalil-rafati (“I Forgot to Die” by Kahleel Rafati) Website: https://eckharttolle.com/ (Eckhart Tolle) https://endel.io/ (Endel App: Music for your every mood ) Gravity is a production of http://crate.media (Crate Media).

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This week Clemmie speaks to Sunday Times No1 (twice over!) author Vex King about self healing. The pair discuss: The importance of feeling your feelings.  How self reflection and self healing is game changing but uncomfortable.  How belief systems are formed. That default ‘positive thinking' isn't necessarily the answer. The power of asking yourself why you are reacting a certain way. The difference between self compassion and victimhood. Plus a whole lot more! It's an enlightening but down to earth episode. Vex's book: Healing Is the New High: A Guide to Overcoming Emotional Turmoil and Finding Freedom Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness Resources mentioned in the episode: Dr Nicole LaPera on BUT WHY? Eckhart Tolle on Russel Brand's Under the Skin  Shameless plug: **Clemmie's Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself' is available to order now. It includes a section on ‘Complex Feelings'. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ahhhh, the ego. Something highly misunderstood. You probably have heard it both ways? "That guy has an ego...." or "you should really work on your ego if you want to be more confident...".  Well, you're in luck. Today, we are talking all about the ego, and I take from my favorite authors (Eckhart Tolle, Ram Dass, and Dr. Nicole LaPera), and we list 5 ways to get started on making peace and understanding our egos.  Let's go on ahead and hop on to it.  ALSO, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR BEING HERE. WE FINALLY REACHED 52 EPISODES! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/newmoonwellbeing/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/newmoonwellbeing/support

In today's episode, we cover what it means to work on yourself with Dr. Nicole LePera. She is the creator of the popular Instagram account @the.holistic.psychologist, was educated in clinical psychology at Cornell University and The New School of Social Research, and is the author of the best-selling How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self. Introduction It takes a lot of work to go from insight to effecting real long-lasting change, so how do you bridge the gap, why does focusing on the flaws of others hurt your own development, and how does your lack of emotional expressiveness take away from your life satisfaction? Introduction - 4:00 What does it mean to “do the work” when embarking on a path of self-development or healing after trauma? Why is it important to bridge the gap between insight and action and why do so many people fail to, leaving them unable to make progress? How do you overcome your own resistance to change? Detangling trauma from an idealized past - 13:32 What can you do to identify trauma in your life that is causing you to self-sabotage without even realizing it? What are the most common self-sabotaging behaviors people do without realizing it? What are trauma bonds and how does it show up in your relationships in destructive ways you might not even realize? Your unknown expectations can destroy your relationships - 28:28 What role do expectations play in trauma bonds influencing our current relationships? What do you do when you are ready to make a change but your friends or family aren't supportive or ready to make changes themselves? How should we think about emotions - 37:46 What steps can you take to start valuing your emotions instead of dismissing them or allowing other people to dismiss them? Why is self-compassion important when it comes to “doing the work” and growing into the person you want to be? What can you do if you're an overachiever and feel like you need achievement to feel complete? How do you overcome the fear of being who you want to be so you can get out of your own way? Have you ever felt a fear so strong that it nearly paralyzed you or left you trembling? Maybe the event was a real-life trauma, like being mugged. Or maybe it was something more subtle but equally as debilitating - like walking into an interview for your dream job and feeling all those eyes on you, sizing up who they can't wait to reject. All of these events can have long lasting effects on who you are and who you want to become. But you have to be willing to identify them, work through the effects they've had, and get out of your own way to be comfortable expressing who you really are. A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 13,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Resources from this Episode The Holistic Psychologist Instagram account How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self by Dr. Nicole LaPera Dr. Nicole LaPera's website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube

Know the one thing that seems to kick everyone in the you-know-what? CHANGE. It can be a beatdown at times, can’t it? I mean, even when it's a good change that can change your life, it’s still hard to make it happen. And that’s because our fantastic minds are designed to keep us safe. So as much as we say or even believe we want to make changes, our primal brain says, “ah hell naw, we need to stay over here where it’s safe and comfortable.” And behold, everything stays the same. So if you are really ready to make real, sustainable changes in your life, where’s the best place to start? There’s no one better to ask than Dr. Nicole Lapera. Dr. Lapera, The Holistic Psychologist, joined me on this episode to walk us through why change is so hard, and how we can go about navigating it in a way that will help us make the lasting changes we really want in our lives. So unless you enjoy beating your head against the wall trying to figure out why making changes is so damn hard, give this episode a listen. Dr. Lapera has expert guidance that will help you approach change in a new way so it can be just a bit easier. Read the full show notes: screwtheninetofive.com/464  

"Reparenting is the act of giving yourself what you didn’t receive as a child.” Dr. Nicole Lapera, The Holistic Psychologist We dig into Dr. Nicole’s 4 pillars of reparenting and some simple steps to take to begin this critical process. Reparenting yourself is how you become unstuck in your life and change unhealthy habits so that you FEEL better and this allows you to DO better. And in turn, your kids FEEL and DO better too. Enjoy!  Here’s the link to Dr. Nicole’s book, How To Do The Work  Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.

Clemmie talks to Dr Nicole LePera aka @the.holistic.psychologist about the role for self-healing work, how that fits alongside more conventional therapy and delves into why everyone could benefit from greater self-awareness - even those who feel they don't need it. The pair discuss learning to feel your feelings rather than emotionally checking out, witnessing our relationship patterns, learning to set and honour boundaries and ultimately live more consciously. Dr Nicole LaPera's book ‘How to Do To The Work Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self' is available now. Clemmie also mentions psychotherapist Anna Mathur and her notion of the '10 minute shutdown' as an easy re-frame for meditation.  Take advantage of the ‘10% off your first-month' offer with the episode sponsor Better Help here  Shameless plug: Clemmie's Debut book “But Why? How to Answer Tricky Questions from Kids by Having Honest Conversation with Yourself' is available to preorder now, it includes a section on ‘But Why Won't That Person ?” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Que tal que el TE AMO significara Libertad, seguridad y confianza, en lugar del amor romántico que nos quieren vender las redes sociales, la sociedad, tv, etc. ¿Por qué no medir las relaciones en profundidad y no solo los años? En este episodio vamos a hablar sobre una publicación de la Dr. Nicole LaPera (búscala en IG cómo @The.Holistic.Psycologist) que nos habla de las Autenticas Metas de Pareja.     Les recomendamos seguir su cuenta, tiene mucha información de mucha utilidad. Síguenos en nuestras redes sociales. IG: https://instagram.com/deconstructivaspodcast?r=nametag  FB: https://www.facebook.com/Deconstructivas/