ChallengHer Podcast

Easier said then done. Social wellbeing has three elements1. Social Acceptance - accepting others2. Social Actualisation - knowing who they are and their purpose within society 3. Social Contribution - A sense of belonging to the community and making a contribution to society. In this episode we touch on Social Acceptance.  High performers are the most incredible listeners. They hold space and ask strong questions. They want the best from their tribe. They want to empower their people and always get them to believe in themselves. Sometimes we don't get that response from athletes. If I want to be a high performer - I make the most generous assumption people are doing the best they can. Then we go from there. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do we achieve success without big aspirations. How do we align ourselves if we don't know what for. Our goals and dreams align if we are brave and courageous enough to not stay accustomed to the worlds societal expectation of us. Our limits are our own. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If everyone could apply this stuff we would have many successful people in the world, but how do we be the anomaly In order for us to control and manage stress, to feel good and function well we need to have a clear vision of the person we are trying to become.  Values are the key. See the quiz option attached https://personalvalu.es/  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sleep, Nutrition and Hydration have to be the most imperative controllable that can aid muscle growth and tissue repair, cognitive behaviours, problem solving and stress regulation. What I've learnt so far in this space!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Elite female athletes are currently in a prosperous but hard growth phase. With majority of our Australian/NZ team sports, the female spaces are full of new opportunity, but also huge responsibility. Traditionally as the care-takers of the house hold based on societal norms, many of our young, old or new female professional athletes are having to manage this space with limited expertise.  Our research in sports performance as female athletes equates to only 3% of all sport performance research internationally.  Based on our female physiology the way we function is very different to a male. Therefore I think it's important to share learnings of how we are strong in our own right. How you can become a high performing part-timer, and how you can reshape your thinking to do the best you can with what you have at this time in female sport. Resources: https://www.viacharacter.org/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How to balance emotions? Meditation, breathing, mindfulness, gratitude...there are all of these alternative ways thats available to us to help stress-reguate and have more control over our emotions....but is it really that easy.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Finding the gap between who we are and who we want to be through understanding your environment and the people you give your time too.  In a high school environment there is an obscene amount of pressure on our young people. Unfortunately in a space where social heirachy either helps you fit in or makes you feel isolated, our young women aren't able to grasp their sense of self and instil self-belief when they are trying to mould themselves for safety - a friendship group etc. How to move forward. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We are quick to dream and create a vision of what we want, but do we have the capability to show up everyday and change our actions, behaviours and habits towards becoming the person we need to be in order to achieve those dreams.  Brendon Bouchard, James Clear, Corey Keyes, Brene Brown.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

"It's not a priority"  We don't need to have good wellbeing strategies and a sense of self or identity until we do. We don't needs stress regulation strategies or a support network, until we do. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Balancing Self-Compassion and Accountability.  We are human. Everyone has their own perception of personal development, purpose and ways to cope in this world.  My podcasting journey was started to increase education and awareness for myself, and hopefully in the process, allow others to learn from my mistakes and different learnings.  Resetting away from your flourishing environment takes a lot of falling down, but I will keep working on improving myself, my focus and my attention. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Bitesize podcast explaining the takeaways from Johann Hari's conversation with Steven Bartlett around Lost ConnectionsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aligning to last weeks episode, we can get very caught up we can make many decisions on a day to day basis purely based on the preconceived idea of what a person may be thinking about us or toward us. This then can shape our next movement, behaviour or action. It is vital to catch yourself in these small moments during the day and remind yourself of your circle. Those who's opinions matter most. This then allows you to by-pass those negative thoughts and feelings which create our insecure nature and show courage at the most pivotal times. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Your energy represents your soul, passion, love - your ability to connect with others. Unfortunately due to our nature we tend to make assumptions of others based on their actions....totally normal right? I've been here before with you - talking about making the most generous assumption of others...but when you work in a space with people (mostly all jobs) this is VITAL! You will fail. Go back to it. Do it again. Repeat, forgive yourself and do it again. I promise the person you are presenting to the world will reap with love, opportunity and happiness. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

SuperW athlete - Sophie Holyman sheds light on her story, the adversity she has faced and her experience in High Performance culture. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our youth need us. Social Media needs to be understood - not banned, not changed - we need to have knowledge and education around how we can live WITH social media and strategize to positively impact our lives helping keep human connection. This perspective and knowledge comes from Larissa May a global marketing guru and founder of #HalfTheStory (HTS), a non-profit dedicated to empowering the next generation’s relationship with social media.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do we do what we do. What triggers our behaviour, why do we feel we need to act or feel certain ways. This podcast is a mixture of different information and stories in my mind as to why we make assumptions, make up stories, why we have certain views and values and how they have been shaped. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A short re-introduction. Its been 8 hectic weeks in my world. Nothing huge on the adversity front but just dealing with a lot of change and uncertainty. Reading a few gems which I will touch on later. Johann Hari - Stolen Focus Making of a LeaderSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“Life is our resume. It is our story to tell, and the choices we make write the chapters. Some of his clear messages from the book allowed me to gain new perspective on consciously living and being aware of our choices and how they can shape our lives.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Belonging by Owen Eastwood has been the latest book I have delved into. With many learnings around what it takes to be a high performing team and the need to belong to the space, the people and environment. In this episode I go into the 6 elements of building trust and the success they could bring a team, organisation or group wanting to build relationships and work cohesively.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One of the key success principles to creating personal growth and setting goals is around finding the top 10% in your field and seeing what they do differently to the rest of the world. I truly believe Chyloe is in this category. A female powerhouse who has brought abundance and energy to life through creating the AFLW. Working within the national sporting industry and breaking down barriers for women in sport through closing participation gaps in Golf and Bowls Australia. She now has shifted gears working with the Australian Red Cross as the Diversity and Inclusion Manager. An insightful and educational conversation with an incredible person. Thanks again ChyloeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“She’s Got Confidence” composed by Karina Brown one of our star pioneering NRLW players who has shown courage to immerse herself in her creative and innovative musical talents away from the sporting field. Teamed up with @houseofharlen_ to create this incredible song!We sat down today and spoke about the reasons behind composing a song about confidence in young women, the importance of paving the pathway for our younger generation and instilling self-belief and confidence in our girls. A huge lesson we can take away from this is the understanding that you are more than what you’re good at and by immersing yourself in different interests you find new spaces for innovation, discovery and self-improvement. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Reality checking your expectations that you put on yourself and other people is vital to understanding whether you are setting yourself up for disappointment. So much to learn. So much to practice, but 1% improvement and 99% failure will still put you in a better place than yesterday. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Comparison "Fit in and Stand out" "Fit in, but win" the underlying reason as to why we can get so caught up with feeling not worthy or making others feel as though they aren't worthy. To compete or compare and the connection to our self-worth. What if we could just stay in our lane, look across and appreciate each other rather than compare and compete.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

People are more important than possessions. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Only when we take our values off the wall and actually live them can we say we have a strong corporate culture. The key to a strong workplace culture is a shared sense of purpose—a WHY.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Isn't funny....you see so many wonderful people say Good Morning, Hi How are you, Hey, What's up! All you can think is how kind that someone has gone out of their way to greet us.....yet for someone like me, introverted at times....I struggle to summon the courage to say an easy Hello to strangers. Just a reflection on my current behaviours. A little embarrassing for me to admit but hopefully relevant for some. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Being involved with the NRLW Titans Mindset Workshops with Glenn Azar at Project 180 left me feeling purposeful, driven and inspired. There was a clear learning I took away from this weekends session with the team, a lesson through what their current Head Coach - Jamie Feeney is doing to help better the players and the environment. A clear demonstration of servant Leadership. The lesson "To take the EGO out of it" See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Here’s how to tell if you’re a blamer: When something goes wrong, do you immediately want to know whose fault it is or do you make room for empathy and accountability? If you’re guilty of the former, you’re probably a bit of a blamer—But take heart, you’re in good company. We all have these tendencies, this is normal. It's how we take note of our actions, emotions and behaviours and acknowledge ways to improve the response. Another beauty from my favourite Brene BrownSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You are almost there. For the Year 12 students who are struggling with the intense time of external exams.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This podcast touches on learnings from the book 'Untamed' by Glennon Doyle. She explores the joy and peace we discover when we stop striving to meet others’ expectations and start trusting the voice deep within us. A founding place for women empowerment. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As part of our growth and personal development journey the girls teamed up with Glenn to help on the latest Aella Youth Personal Development Camp. These camps are created to help instill confidence, resilience and perseverance in our young women of today. After the three day camp we thought it would be a great idea to sit down and talk about what lesson we took away from both the camp and the girls.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As we grow up, we adopt negative beliefs and false assumptions and sabotaging fears from the world around us. These become our Invisible Fences.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

At 26yrs of age Evania Pelite sits down and shares her experiences, challenges and learnings of being an elite athlete involved in the Aussie Rugby Sevens Womens program over the last 8 years. She speaks about her highs and lows from winning a Gold Medal at the 2016 Rio Olympic games to her personal struggles being away from home. Vani sheds light on working through the physical and mental expectations on her and her teammates and the need for cultural change in one of the most physically demanding sports in the world. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kiri Lingman sat down with me to shed light on her current Honours Degree which is focusing on Women in Rugby and the current barriers, pressures and challenges we face. I loved this conversation. It was so real to talk about issues that are so close to our hearts. Exremely insightful and a lot of learnings for me. Thank you Kiri.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Throughout this first podcast season I'm starting to hear the same message. We have so much armour that stops us from being seen, having courage and stepping forward in the world. We care so much about the way we are percieved.....something I am struggling with. It is so easy to talk about it but actioning these changes in our lives are scary and can be lonely. Just an observation. Self-awareness is definitely the first step to making positive change.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The 19th and 21st Surgeon General of the United States speaks about Lonliness and it's connection to physical and mental health. His podcasts, interviews have been blowing my mind and all the research I have been reading all keeps sending the same message. The relationship of health and technology is alarming. The cause and effect of values demonstrated through social media are causing our generations to be lonelier than ever.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Australian Olympic Softball player Chelsea Forkin opens up about her challenges and triumphs throughout her life. - Waiting 13 years for the opportunity to play at an Olympic games - Moving across the country to care for and lose a loved one See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brene Brown speaks so incredibly about the importance of showing up even when you can't control the outcome. Reserve a seat for the critics and judgement. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

So I have shared audio from one of my favourite interviews by Simon Sinek around Social Media and addiction. This audio truly resonates with some of the struggles I have around social media as a numbing tool. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

My dear friend Asako Ono has an incredible story. Moving from Tokyo, Japan to Australia by herself at 16yrs old with no ability to speak English to chase her rugby union dream. Many obstacles and challenges have made her one of the most injury resilient athletes I have ever met. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Energy Thieves are real and everyone has experienced them on some level. Instead of using their energy to grow themselves, they become really good at taking from others. Tim Thomas in Fight, Flight, Feel gives a great perspective on how to protect your energy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Showing up to a vulnerable space and putting yourself out there is what we call "The Arena". The place where people can judge, critcise and comment on your bold moves in life. Recently I had a moment of this. It was super scary but necessary for my growth. I did it and now I feel so alive!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Having the most generous assumption that people do the best they can with what they have.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Taylah Robertson and Anna Pesto sit down and discuss the experiences and changes they went through dealing with Social Media and the scarcity culture for young women.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

An Interview with Ally Kemp, 22yr old QUT Honours Medical Engineer student diagnosed with Dyslexia in Year 11 shares her amazing story about school and life after and how she didn't let her learning difficulty define who she wants to become. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The anatomy of trust. Understanding relationship breakdowns.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Accountability Learning how to be accountable is one of the hardest traits. A learnt behaviour and skill to own your actions and truly evaluate and reflect on how you respond to different circumstances.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kell shares her story about growing up in a supportive environment and overcoming adversity with sport and cultural identity.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why a lack of boundaries causes resentment. How to live with boundaries so you can be more passionate and protect your energySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Understanding what trust and friendship is meant to look like. It's quality over quantity with deep friendships. Figuring out who your "Marble Jar" friends are can definitely have a positive effect on your well-being and mental health. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Bec Olsson a Country Music Sing/Songwriter from Innocent Eve. I have a chat today with Bec about overcoming adversity and her personal growth throughout her life. She is dear friend of mine who I look up to. Her ability to respond to situations with humility, perspective and gratitude is breathtaking. A lot of lessons from today's discussion. https://innocenteve.com.au/ https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=3007328966194585 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.