Real Love Real Stories

Episode Description: In this heartfelt episode of Love Mastery, Kanu dives into one of life's most vulnerable questions: Am I ready for love after everything I've been through? Whether you've healed from addiction, navigated a tough divorce, or overcome a major life hurdle, this episode offers encouragement and guidance for those standing at the crossroads of love and transformation. Kanu shares insights as a therapist and matchmaker, helping you assess your readiness for love, break free from unhealthy cycles, and choose a partner who uplifts the person you're becoming. With practical tools, inspiring reflections, and the hope of 2 Corinthians 5:17, you'll feel empowered to embrace a love that aligns with your growth and worth. If you've ever wondered, “Can I truly find love again?”—this episode is for you.

Join me as I share a powerful story about hiking Mount Hood and the surprising lesson it taught me about love and relationships. We'll explore why self-love is the key to attracting healthy connections and how carrying your own emotional “backpack” prepares you for real partnership. If you've ever felt like you need someone to complete you, this episode will challenge that belief and empower you to thrive as a whole person first. Tune in for practical steps and fresh insights to help you love yourself and others better!

Are you ready to bring fresh energy into your relationship this year? In this episode of Love Mastery, we're exploring 5 simple, practical ways to reset and reconnect with your partner. From reflecting on the past year to setting a shared intention and committing to better communication, these tips are designed to help you and your partner thrive together. Packed with relatable stories, actionable advice, and a dose of inspiration, this episode is your guide to making 2025 your best year yet as a couple. Tune in and let's refresh your love!

Description: In this episode of "Dear Kanu," Kanu dives into the pressing concerns of a recently divorced woman in her 60s. A listener of the Love Mastery Podcast, reaches out with a poignant question about the rising threat of romance scams in 2023. Join Kanu as she addresses this crucial issue, sharing the latest insights, online dating scam statistics, and practical advice to empower individuals to safeguard their hearts and wallets. In a world where vulnerability can lead to heartbreaking consequences, Kanu provides invaluable information to ensure that love seekers are equipped to navigate the digital dating landscape securely. Don't miss this episode packed with wisdom and guidance to protect yourself from the pitfalls of modern romance.

In this episode of the "Love Mastery Podcast," the Kanu addresses a listener's dilemma about when and how to share a significant aspect of her life with her new boyfriend. The listener is in a loving relationship and feels a strong connection with her partner. However, she hasn't yet disclosed that she wears wigs, and she's unsure about the right time to bring it up. The listener acknowledges the importance of honesty and openness in a relationship, but she also wants to ensure that the timing is appropriate. She's concerned about not overwhelming her boyfriend or making the revelation seem like a bigger deal than it is. Episode is brought to you by: www.candleconsulting.net - matching top employers with topnotch talent

In this "Dear Kanu" episode I am answering a listener's letter looking to better manage her emotions and be able to communicate her feelings to her husband of 5 years regarding his female friends. In this episode I answer her question using the following points: self reflection, using "I" statements, active listening and being non-judgemental, seeking to understand first, being vulnerable, building trust and seeking professional help from a therapist. This episode is brought to you by: Candle Consulting Group: www.candleconsulting.net 

This episode is centered around answering a listeners question - " How can I tell if a guy likes me or if he is just being friendly?" I share the top most common signs most guys do if they are interested in a woman: 1) light physical touch 2) body language, compliments, he acts nervous, he opens up, he gives you his personal number, the initiates contact, he rembers details, he makes future plans, he teases you playfully, he is supportive, and he introduces you to friends and family This episode is brought to you by: Candle Consulting Group: www.candlecoansulting.net   

In this episode I read and answer a fan letter. Listener who I am referring to as Norman is in a age gap relationship and is looking to figure what to do. Norman describes the woman he is involved with to check off all the boxes. In this episode I also share the potential challenges and what to do about them.  This episode is brought to you by: www.candleconsulting.net 

Meet this episode's guest:- Kayla and Andy Izard are authors, speakers, founders, and facilitators changing the way the world does connection. Their movement, The Raft Project, is making support normal and expected. Along with creating a safe space for real conversations in their community, they've poured their hearts into their Amazon bestseller, Good, and You? How to Get Real Support Instead of Faking It. Good, and You? explores support and connection in a real, practical, lively way.  After Andy's prolonged mental breakdown in 2018, they doggedly pursued an open support group concept to process what they were experiencing. They knew they needed support – what they didn't expect was so many others looking for the exact same thing.  www.theraftproject.com  https://www.amazon.com/Good-You-Support-Instead-Faking-ebook/dp/B0BZXD6HKT

This episode is brought to you by www.candleconsulting.net  Covering what depression is, criteria for diagnosing, how you get depression, negative effects of depression on relationships, how to support a loved one with depression and protetive factors Patient Health Questionnaire -9 www.therapistaid.com  

Celebrating this milestone of episode 100. This episode is all about discussing what LOVE is / how we viewed love as children and how we think of it now. In this episode you will also here from: Tanner & Lauren, Jennifer, Kalisha, JoJo and Nick & Haley  This episode is sponsored by www.candleconsulting.net   

Drawing upon her 15 years practical experience coaching women, Eleanor now specializes in helping women find lasting love.  As a neurodivergent woman (AuDHDer), she expertly guides women who experience the world differently through their challenges, namely social anxiety, communication difficulties, problems with boundaries (attracting narcissists) and feelings of not being good enough, so they can become the sought after, lovable woman they want to be in their heart. After struggling for decades attracting dysfunctional relationships, she stepped into her power and went on to meet and marry the love of her life in her 40s! She is here to save you the time and heartache she went through to find a mutual give and take relationship.  It is her mission to change the narrative for neurodivergent women from “I can't have love because I'm too sensitive and something is wrong with me” to “I feel seen, heard and held. I feel safe enough to exhale and let go!” Find out more at www.lovemysticeleanor.com Reach out to Eleanor personally on IG. DM her @lovemysticeleanor

Meet Sherman and Desiree based in Arizona... Desiree- In 2018, Sacred Circle Institute came to life. Desiree created the institute to serve as a portal that transports folks into a deep level of healing and pleasure using the creative arts as a process for discovery. www.sacredcircleinstitute.com Sherman's passion and joy for Lego has turned into an eBay business venture. You can find all things Lego in here in his ebay store Sherman's Ebay Sore 

Sonali Chandra is an accomplished Indian-American dancer, model, and comedian who has appeared on “The Dr. Phil Show” and Lifetime's “5 Guys a Week.” Chandra graduated with a Finance degree from Rutgers Business School in New Jersey and worked in NYC's corporate finance/real estate sectors before moving to Los Angeles. She is leveraging her life experiences by developing various creative projects (studio feature film, comedy special, and memoir), so she can inspire and entertain audiences. www.sonalichandra.com

Ruth Marquez is not only a Matchmaker, she's also a Dating and Love Transformational Mentor. Using the knowledge she has attained over many years of matchmaking, and mentoring, she helps singles discover what it is that's stopping them from finding long lasting and true connection. https://www.ruthmatchmaker.com

In this episode as requested by listeners I share lessons learned from the Netflix series "Tinder Swindler" and some tools to avoid being a victim to romance scams. 

Romance Scams are the most reported scams according to the Federal Trade Commission. US reported an estimated $1.3Billion in romance scams. In Canada a reported $50 millions lost in romance scams which went up from $22 million from 2018 In this episode I share with you 3 steps fraudsters put you through in order to scam you out of money. 

https://www.kanujacobsen.com/service-page/pers-prof-goal-setting-workshop?referral=service_list_widget Live Virtual Goal Setting Workshop - January 29th 9am PST / 10 am MST/ and Noon EST A few spots left so please click the link to register before all spot are taken.  

In this episode I share tips on what to do pre: breakup and post: breakup especially if you want to maintain the friendship that is the foundation of your relationship. I share my past experiences too as it relates to the tips I am sharing.  This episode is sponsored by: Wines for Humanity. Browse their wine selection at www.winesforhumanity.com/love Every selection made benefits our community members that are without a home currently. 

This is a followup episode to the "I fell in love with a cat named Summer" -  A listener asked "What should I do my partner is asking me to chose him or the cat?" In this episode I share results from my crowd sourcing regarding this question, I share reasons why a partner might ask you to do that and lastly what you can do avoid having to choose between your fur baby or partner. This episode is brought to you by: www.winesforhumanity.com/love - click this link to browse their selection and know that you are also supporting ending homelessness.

A cat purring on your lap is more healing than any drug in the world, as the vibrations you are receiving are of  pure love and contentment. I will be sharing top 5 things you should consider before getting a cat

Providing you with an update. Real Love Real Stories is expanding to include all types of love going forward. So excited to be releasing and sharing with you this new content. Happy 3rd Birthday Real Love Real Stories 

In this episode I am sharing 10 tips from seniors who gave valuable advice on how to find and keep true love.  The episode is brought by: The Ultimate Love Attractor Plan - helping high-achieving single women become love attractors. Book free Love Attractor Call Schedule Here

Book a free session with me: Click Here In the guest chair is Diana. She is published author of the highly acclaimed memoir called “Living up to a Legend” Available on Amazon She is a former journalist from Toronto and named the first fulltime female foreign correspondent for the Canadian Network CTV National News She is the 4th chapter of her life and is currently the blogger of her new project called “Woman of a Certain Age in Paris” www.womanofacertainageinparis.com

Zach Schleien is the Co-founder/CEO of the video speed dating app, Filter Off. Filter Off has been featured in publications such as The New York Times, BBC, and hit #1 on ProductHunt. Previously he ran and sold the dating blog Top Romp, which covered dating hacks and apps for the modern dater. He is a TEDx speaker and his passions lie in technology, health, and creating authentic connections. When he is not working, Zach loves to travel the world, listen to podcasts, and workout.  Filter Off is a video speed dating app. We host local and community based virtual speed dating events. Local events are specific to a City while a community event can be anything from a Facebook group to a local religious institution.  Site - https://www.getfilteroff.com Run a free virtual dating event - https://www.getfilteroff.com/events.html FB - https://www.facebook.com/filteroff IG - https://www.instagram.com/filteroffdating Twitter - https://twitter.com/GetFilterOff YT - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaODRp6J13DMAQgfdPv-KIg/featured

In this episode you will hear Veronica's love journey. How she met her husband, how he showed up for their first date and how they became inseparable after. Veronica is a life coach, leadership coach and founder of Leadership Life Support.  She works with ambitious, driven women who have a strong desire to up their leadership game and make career moves that seem out of reach. Whether you're an aspiring leader or a manager seeking the e-suite, she helps women like you hone your leadership skills so that you can have an amazing career.

Brian and Maryann Remsburg, certified life coaches and founders of Adventurous Life, seek to live the purpose adventure that God has designed them for, and help others to do the same. After living internationally for eighteen years, working in education and training, along with their four children, they have learned that stepping into your Zone of Challenge is the catalyst to learn and grow in sometimes very unexpected ways. They are ready to help you gain the adventurous mindset to reach your mountaintop summits in life.

Meet Debbie and Ernie Pitochelli. They share a common interest of exercise. They blended their families 10 years ago and their love is still going strong. 

Whitney and Donovan Williams share their love journey. They take us on a journey from when they met in college to their engagement and to now being a beautiful family of 3. Their marriage a christ centered marriage  Coming up soon - they are launching their Instagram Page called "fromthewilliams"

In the guest chair is a woman who asked to be kept anonymous for her safety. It's a candid conversation where she shares her relationship that has been bad from the beginning. If you are constantly demeaned, accused, shamed, blamed, bilittled, or verbally abused please seek help.

Guide to Overcoming the Urge to Buy Affection It’s easy to fall into the habit of buying affection, but there are better ways to make your relationships run smoothly. These are some basic guidelines for relating to others in a healthier way so your inner qualities speak more loudly than your bank account. You deserve to be valued for who you are. It’s delightful to exchange gifts and favors with those you love, but set healthy limits. In the long run, you’ll strengthen your connections and enable everyone to share in the joy of giving.

In this episode Valerie Fair who has been happily married for 49 years  shares her love story and she tells us the importance of finding your own happiness in your relationship.  Valerie is an artist based in Phoenix AZ. You can see her art in a magazine she runs called Artist on the Cutting Edge eMagazine HERE This episode is brought to you by: The Single Black Woman's Advantage ... Click Here for more information   

Jennifer Lehr, MFT is an author, Marriage, and Family Therapist and the founder and creator of WeConcile® – an affordable online DIY relationship restoration program for couples. Jennifer's journey led her from self-growth to helping others grow. Her mission is helping others create a life and relationship of love and joy. Jennifer writes and talks about relational health and wellness as well as healing and living our best lives for various print and online publications as well as podcasts. You can find more about her at https://weconcile.com/about Here are some additional links: https://weconcile.com/ https://weconcile.com/quiz (Relationship Quality Quiz) https://blog.weconcile.com/  (Blog with lots of relationship help) https://www.jenniferlehrmft.com/ Has my personal blog with personal stories and Healing Tips Blog.  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00TBMWQX2  A book for singles. (The Magic Cake: The 7 Ingredients for a Relationship Ready Person.)   Specific Blog posts of interest: https://blog.weconcile.com/2020/08/12/grow-your-relationship-with-an-attachment-style-quiz/ (about attachment) https://blog.weconcile.com/2010/04/06/conflict-in-relationships-when-wounds-collide/ (when wound collide) https://blog.weconcile.com/2020/04/20/use-this-time-to-build-relationships-not-break-them/ (A step-by-step guide to help you build your relationship while isolating and social distancing)   Social Media https://www.instagram.com/weconcile/ https://www.facebook.com/WeConcile/  

With the right attitude, you can enjoy yourself on a first date. Dating is meant to be fun and exciting. In this episode I am sharing steps to take before, during and after your date. A first doesn't have to cause anxiety, especially if you take proactive approach to making things comfortable for you and you date. Let go of your worries and enjoy yourself.  Happy Dating and Love always! This episode is sponsored by: The Single Black Woman's Advantage: A game changing program that is helping many women change their narrative on how they are perceived into an advantage to find love. Click this link or copy and paste for more information: https://singlewomansadvantage.mykajabi.com/pl/186138

In the episode I share the real love relationship my parents had. I share types of love and health benefits The episode is brought to you by:  https://singlewomansadvantage.mykajabi.com/pl/186138

In this episode Andrea and Kevin share parts of their love story. They take us back to when they first met working together at ESPN. They share with us how they make their relationship in these different times. It's a beautiful story. Read their NYT article to learn even more about them https://www.nytimes.com/2020/01/10/fashion/weddings/adding-a-wedding-to-the-highlight-reel.html This episode is brought to you by: The Single Black Woman's Advantage: A game changing program that is helping many women change their narrative on how they are perceived into an advantage to become Love Attractors Click the link below to learn more: https://thesingleblackwomansadvantage.mykajabi.com/pl/186138  

Share | Learn | Thrive in LOVE Forgive yourself for any relationship mistakes that might potentially be deeming your light to attract LOVE! Episode is sponsored by: The Single Black Woman's Advantage - A game changing e-course that is helping women change their narrative on how they are perceived into an advantage to find love  Copy and paste this link: shorturl.at/fzHOY

June is Pride Month (this year marks 50th anniversary of annual Pride traditions) ... I was honored to sit down and interview Tasha and Briann January. Tasha is a Life Coach/ Author and Briann is a former Phoenix Mercury WNBA player who currently plays for Connecticut Sun. They have been in a relationship for 5 years now.  In this episode you will hear their love story/ how they support each other and how they make the relationship work when Bri travels a lot in her basketball career.  Connect with Tasha and Bri on Instagram: Tasha: tashamariecoaching Bri: bjan_20 

Priya and Rohit are both from India but grew up in Zambia. Their families were really close which led to them being suggested they get married. They now live in Arizona and have 2 wonderful daughters.  In this episode they share their love journey, and how they make their relationship work since one partner travels a lot for work.

Meet Britt and Brotha Anthony. In this episode they take us back to when they met. They share how they started to dating, got engaged, bought a house together and got married all in one year. Connect with the Glovers Facebook: Anthony Glover/ Instagram: Brotha Anthony  Facebook: Britt Glover/ Instagram: brit_tuh_nay  

An interview with Chris discussing dating, and how he doesn't believe in the institution of marriage. He is single, 42, and lives in Arizona.   

In honor of April being sexual violence awareness month I am sharing my own story. It has taken me over 20 years to get to this point. The numbers of cases of documented sexual violence have been on the rise in the last decade and that's not even thinking about those that go unreported. Let's talk about and educate each other about this topic. What happened to me was terrible and I don't wish that on anyone. Let's stop it once and for all especially for generations following 

In the guest chair is: Jacqueline J Holness is a seasoned journalist with 15 years of professional experience writing and working for an assortment of newspapers, magazines, websites and other publications. She is a correspondent for "Courthouse News Service," an online, national news service for attorneys. Prior to working for "Courthouse News Service," Jacqueline worked primarily as an education reporter for the "News Daily" newspaper. She also worked as a reporter for the "Clayton Neighbor" newspaper where she covered several beats including education and county and city governments. Endorsed by Candace Bushnell, creator of Sex and the City Her book is available on Amazon and other platforms

Meet Colette and Brian Watson the owners of Black River life Media. The create media that celebrates Black life. They help small businesses reach their communication goals. Brian is a NewJersey born actor, poet and filmmaker son of Jamaican immigrants. Colette is a musician and creative director from the low country of South Carolina. She is also a co-host of a Venus Clapback In this episode they share their love journey from meeting in the arts world in NYC to moving to Arizona where they currently reside Connect with them on: Facebook: blackriverlife Instagram: blackriverlife

Meet Shirley who lives in Phoenix and is married to Dennis. The couple got married many years ago and are looking to get connected with a man who took pictures of their wedding back in 1965. John Brown who was married to Betty Brown back then used his camera to capture images of the weeding but since Dennis and Shirley left town after the wedding they did not stay in contact with John. Shirley gave me permission to use this platform to cast a wider net in search of John and Betty or their families about the pictures. Please reach out and lets get Shirley and Dennis their wedding pictures. 

Sharing some tips that I feel will help you deal with each other during these difficult and uncertain times.  1) Choose joy in the 5 mins of being awake 2) Get Moving  3) Use safe words  4) Make a list of what is annoying  5) Use headphones  6) Take a shower and wear nice comfortable clothes 7) Clean up after yourself  8) Limit news intake  9) Finish unfinished projects  10) Take turns cooking 

Researchers have explored this and concluded that there seems to be an association between our attachment styles as infants to the romantic relationships we choose. There are 4 basic attachment styles: 1) Secure attachment 2) anxious resistant attachment 3) avoidant attachment 4) disorganized attachment  Do you know which you are?

Cori shares how she met and married her husband after 3 weeks of meeting. Cori is the host and producer of "That's Not Proper" podcast. 

Do you have ways that you “date yourself?” Things you wish a significant other did for you, but that you’ve taken it into your own hands to do. I am taking this year to be year to date myself. I am excited about this journey. 

Buffy is a Clinical Psychologist who works primarily with women who are trauma survivors in Phoenix Arizona and her husband Robert is a Criminal defense attorney with an extensive criminal litigation experience.  She is grew up in San Diego and he grew up in Oklahoma, they met in Los Angeles but now call Phoenix their home.

They are touching lives of individuals and families all over the country by providing much needed cancer support. They run the "Living Hope Cancer Foundation" - where they will walk alongside you no matter what stage of the journey you are. You can read more about Chuck's journey with cancer in his book: "Hi ... I'm Chuck" which is available on Amazon and on www.chuckkeels.com Keep an eye out for Hannah's book: "Faith like skin" soon to the published