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If you're a regular reader of Occupational Health & Safety, then you're probably familiar with Robert Pater. Pater is the managing director and creator of the MoveSMART system to reduce soft-tissue injuries and slips, trips, and falls, and he's quickly approaching his 20-year anniversary of writing the Breakthrough Strategies column for OH&S. Moreover, he's written nearly 200 articles for OH&S as well. Robert joins the podcast to talk about the upcoming anniversary of his column, as well as to discuss why slips, trips and falls continue to be a significant workplace safety topic, as well as other safety trends and risks that he thinks should be on safety professionals' radars. Like Robert's columns, this interview is full of safety insights.
Finally arrested in 1990 after an Arizona state trooper approached Robert Ben Rhoads 18 wheel truck on the side of the highway, the Trooper Mike Miller had no idea he was stopping one of the worst serial killers of the 20th Century. With a mobile torture and murder chamber that he also used to make a living, Rhoads was able to traverse the country appearing to be one of the hard working drivers who supply us with all that we need. His route was different. He may have been arrested for three murders but he is suspected in the deaths of upwards of 50 women.
Finally arrested in 1990 after an Arizona state trooper approached Robert Ben Rhoads 18 wheel truck on the side of the highway, the Trooper Mike Miller had no idea he was stopping one of the worst serial killers of the 20th Century. With a mobile torture and murder chamber that he also used to make a living, Rhoads was able to traverse the country appearing to be one of the hard working drivers who supply us with all that we need. His route was different. He may have been arrested for three murders but he is suspected in the deaths of upwards of 50 women.
Dave Rubin of “The Rubin Report” talks to Robert F. Kennedy Jr. about how Trump and Biden are using the same toxic tactics to scare voters; why he is focusing on policies that unite voters instead of divide them; why problems like the national debt and chronic diseases are a far bigger concern than those that Trump and Biden are focusing on; how societal polarization is being fueled by social media algorithms; how common values and solutions can transcend divisive politics; why leaders must rise above partisanship to tackle issues effectively; the surprisingly simple math behind him taking enough votes from both Biden and Trump to win the presidency; the challenge of gaining ballot access nationwide; how he plans to handle media bias and censorship against his campaign; why he is determined to appeal to voters across party lines by emphasizing his alignment with classic Kennedy-Democratic values; how the mainstream media's echo chamber manipulates the public with fear; why Biden's actions pose a greater threat to democracy than Donald Trump; the surprisingly simple math behind him taking enough votes from both Biden and Trump to win the presidency; and much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
iNTO THE FRAY RADIO - An Encounter with the Abyss that is the Paranormal
Lita talks about several encounters with very odd people that possess highly unusual and unique abilities.If you love iNTO THE FRAY and want more content....join us over on Patreon! Exclusive interviews, physical rewards like stickers, signed books, T-shirts and more, interactive live-on-video guest interviews and group chats with fellow patrons, private RSS feed, Patron-only Discord room and FB group, and more.Click HERE to check out the various pledge levels.OR...if you prefer Apple Podcasts...subscribe to iTF Premium in your Apple Podcasts app! You'll get all bonus episodes and early releases of the main show. Completely AD-FREE. If you have an encounter or encounters you'd like to share, contact me HEREor via email, shannon@intothefrayradio.comGet your iTF STICKERS....HEREFollow iTF:Facebook: Join the interactive group and visit the official iTF page Twitter: Official iTF and Shannon's personal accountShannon's Instagram Website artwork and logo for iNTO THE FRAY, by Mister-Sam ShearonIntro music with permission from TanekOutro music provided with permission from Electus OfficialThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5837602/advertisement
Hour 2 - What does the future look like for Bill Belichick? Is he coaching to be fired rather than traded? Why was Robert Kraft walking around the Patriots locker room during media availability? Jones, Mego, and Arcand weigh in on all these topics and more in hour two of the Jones and Mego Show with Arcand.
For this episode of Brewstilled and Barrel Aged Ghost Stories, I'll be talking about the stories of Robert and Annabelle, two dolls said to be haunted and possessed. The first stop is in Key West Florida, which is the home of Robert the Doll who is said to have a haunted history that has terrorized people for several years and who also anger Robert. Robert's history also does include a rather past eccentric owner. We then go to Connecticut, which is the home of Annabelle who is a Raggedy Ann Doll with her own haunted history. Legend has it that Annabelle is possessed by an Evil Spirt. Like Robert, Annabelle has her own history of harming those who get in her way. What is the haunted history behind Robert and Annabelle? Are they indeed haunted? Their stories are here on Brewstilled with a Bourbon Barrel Aged Stout from River North Brewing as the beer pairing.
Has Biden abandoned longstanding US policy on Taiwan? ... The sobering results of recent US-China war games ... Would China ever accept defeat in Taiwan? ... Why the US might bomb Taiwan's microchip factories ... How war over Taiwan could unfold ... Lyle: DC think tanks are underestimating China's military ... Heading to Overtime ...
Has Biden abandoned longstanding US policy on Taiwan? ... The sobering results of recent US-China war games ... Would China ever accept defeat in Taiwan? ... Why the US might bomb Taiwan's microchip factories ... How war over Taiwan could unfold ... Lyle: DC think tanks are underestimating China's military ... Heading to Overtime ...
Episode 17 of The JLS Show has arrived, finally… and the hosts select their usual Top 3 picks from May's playlist.Meanwhile, Lowney continues to straddle fine lines, Stuki picks the ‘Oldest Goldie' ever to appear on the show and David Coverdale makes a special guest appearance.The May playlist on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1kh5VjYJXm9Lx7bczijGDk?si=2738778323e84c30Morrissey comments on Sinead O'Connor's death: Morrissey Slams 'Insultingly Stupid' Tributes to Sinead O'ConnorThe Glove wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_GloveDear Prudence video (YouTube): https://youtu.be/M6rrTROoZIw?si=zEd2q3iKE0PvBvs_Track list:Motorpyscho - PatternsGeese - Mysterious LoveThe Oh Sees - Intercepted MessageYou Said Strange - Eastern SideJim Jones All Stars - Gimme The GreaseBC Camplight - Kicking Up A FussLorelle Meets The Obsolete - InvisibleQuickly, Quickly - Falling Apart Without YouThe Glove - Perfect MurderCinder Well - Two Heads, Grey MareSpitting Image - Devil's BloomOxbow - 1000 Hours Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Welcome back to Analyze Scripts, where a psychiatrist and a therapist analyze what Hollywood gets right and wrong about mental health. Today, we're analyzing one of Dr. Furey's favorite movies - the 2008 comedy "Step Brothers" starring Will Ferrell and John C. Reilly. In this lighthearted episode, we use the comedic depiction of two 40-something year-old men living with their parents to discuss failure to launch syndrome and common difficulties encountered when blending families. We also explore the depiction of an enabling vs dismissive parent, the thrapist-patient dynamics between Brennan and Denise, and the classic narcissistic traits embodied by evil older brother Derek. We hope you enjoy! Instagram TikTok Website [00:10] Dr. Katrina Furey: Hi, I'm Dr. Katrina Fury, a psychiatrist. [00:12] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And I'm Portia Pendleton, a licensed clinical social worker. [00:16] Dr. Katrina Furey: And this is Analyze Scripts, a podcast where two shrinks analyze the depiction of mental health in movies and TV shows. [00:23] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Our hope is that you learn some legit info about mental health while feeling like you're chatting with your girlfriends. [00:28] Dr. Katrina Furey: There is so much misinformation out there, and it drives us nuts. [00:32] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And if someday we pay off our student loans or land a sponsorship, like. [00:36] Dr. Katrina Furey: With a lay flat airline or a major beauty brand, even better. [00:39] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So sit back, relax, grab some popcorn. [00:42] Dr. Katrina Furey: And your DSM Five and enjoy. Welcome back for another episode. I am personally thrilled to be talking about one of my favorite movies of all time, the 2008 smash hit Step Brothers. I feel like in rewatching it for this podcast, I didn't even need to. I know every single line of dialogue, but I still love it so much. [01:20] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I think my husband's favorite movie of all time. [01:23] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yes. This movie also happens to always be on every time I'm in a hotel on TBS or where they're censoring a lot of the dialogue. It's still funny. [01:34] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Yeah. This movie is just, like, iconic. The cast is ridiculous. Will Ferrell, John C. Reilly, Adam Scott. We have Mary Steenbergen, who's also the mom and elf. [01:46] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yes. [01:46] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Which we're going to be will Ferrell. So it's just like I think he likes working with her. She likes working with him. It's just they're great. [01:53] Dr. Katrina Furey: I love it. Yeah. [01:54] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Her voice and her mannerisms, I just love. [01:57] Dr. Katrina Furey: She was so good in this role. Like, all the times when her and Richard Jenkins, who plays Jobak, like, when you can tell he's trying to lay down the law, and she's like, Robert thinks we agree. It's time for you to move, know. Or like, when he's so mad they destroyed his boat with the boats and host thing. And she's like, I am so upset that you two destroyed his boat. That being said, I thought you showed a lot of enthusiasm and inventiveness. And I was like, in some ways, you're so enabling them, but in other ways, that's so loving. [02:33] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: She reminds me a lot of the actress herself and the roles that she's playing reminds me of the wife in What About Bob? [02:43] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yes. [02:44] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: She plays similar roles. She has a very similar cadence. [02:48] Dr. Katrina Furey: The way she sort of like light, airy voice. I totally agree. Totally agree. And then we have Catherine Hahn as Alice, who is Adam Scott's wife. What do you think about the scene with them in the car with their children singing? [03:04] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I sing along every time. It is so funny. I think I sing this in the car sometimes with know, I'm not a great like, I can tell that I'm not good, so I have an ear. [03:17] Dr. Katrina Furey: And I know you're not the little boy's role. [03:20] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: No. [03:20] Dr. Katrina Furey: You might be Catherine. I think I'm her. [03:22] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And someone can yell, flat. [03:24] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Flat. [03:25] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: One $200 voice lessons a week. Offer this. And I was like, wow, that is so mean. So mean. [03:32] Dr. Katrina Furey: He is so mean to everyone. Right? [03:35] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Like, brutal, slurs aside. Like, mean. [03:44] Dr. Katrina Furey: Do you think he is a narcissist? [03:47] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I think that he is a not human person. I don't know. Yeah, I guess I'm trying to think of something else. I was even thinking of animals to compare him to. He's just so gross and obsessed with putting other people down and himself. And sometimes I think, too, I wonder if he is, because he's so homophobic. [04:11] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Maybe he. [04:14] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Pushing something down. [04:15] Dr. Katrina Furey: Repressed energy. [04:16] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yeah. [04:16] Dr. Katrina Furey: To be clear, we are talking about Adam Scott's character, Derek, not Scott himself. [04:22] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right? [04:23] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. Who I don't think is, like, this character at I thought, you know, again, this movie is so funny. It is a comedy, clearly. [04:32] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So they're pushing they're pushing every character to the max. [04:36] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [04:36] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So it's so ridiculous over the top. [04:39] Dr. Katrina Furey: And yet I still think displays some really interesting topics in a really accurate right. Like, I really think Derek meets a lot of criteria for narcissistic traits. [04:53] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [04:53] Dr. Katrina Furey: Like, he's constantly putting other people down to make himself feel better. I loved all the family dinners where he's, like, bragging about going fishing with Jay Z or whatever he's doing. And then by the end, they have to be like, okay, Derek, that's enough. They have to cue him, let other people know. [05:10] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: But then Robert is so enamored with. [05:15] Dr. Katrina Furey: Derek, which people can be, and his. [05:18] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Own son, Dale down in such a mean way that the stepmom Nancy has to tell him to stop. [05:28] Dr. Katrina Furey: But then also, Nancy also chimes in with Brendan has a mangina. [05:33] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I know, right? [05:35] Dr. Katrina Furey: But this is what these sorts of people can do. They can pull this out of you. [05:39] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [05:39] Dr. Katrina Furey: They can make you feel. [05:42] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: When she's yeah, like and then I joined in. [05:45] Dr. Katrina Furey: It's just like what? But the whole scene with Will Ferrell dressed like a pirate doing his dancing on the stage is just and the. [05:54] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Fact that he is so clearly like, a middle aged man, even. [05:58] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yeah. [05:58] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: They're playing, right? Like, you know, in real time. But, like, the flashback, it's, like, still. [06:04] Dr. Katrina Furey: This middle aged so funny. But that's what mean. Like, these sorts of little things. I'm like you're kind of hitting the nail on the head, though. You see Derek splitting the family, right. Even his new stepdad. It's really interesting. He's so mean to his wife and kids. You can tell they all have to be perfect. They're all there to play a role and fill his own need. Of course. He's a real estate agent on the side, right? I just have my license on the side. I had one supervisor once say that. I don't know if there's any data to back this up, and I don't want to offend our listeners who are real estate agents. But she said in her clinical experience. And she's been doing this for decades and decades. There's a lot of narcissism in real estate. And I was like, that's interesting. And she's like, yeah, if you think about it, part of their job is to form relationships quickly, often superficially, and to sell things. And I was like, that's interesting. Yeah, so I just thought for him, it tracked. And I just thought, even though this is so over the top, they did depict this. I don't even know if back in 2008 this was as much of a thing, but this whole notion of failure to launch. [07:18] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Right. Because that's a movie too, right? [07:21] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: It is. [07:22] Dr. Katrina Furey: And even though there's like that new Jennifer Lawrence movie, it's kind of about it. Maybe I haven't seen it yet, or maybe it's just they want to prep their son for. [07:33] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Mean. Failure to Launch, I think is an interesting phenomenon that there's a lot of books out now and yes, like comedic movies as well, but it's really like. [07:44] Dr. Katrina Furey: This interesting cultural, societal thing that's happening. [07:48] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: It seems to be happening more to males than females with just like a anecdotally movies, books. It seems to be more about males that's true. Launch than females. [07:59] Dr. Katrina Furey: Actually, in every single movie we just mentioned, the quote unquote identified patient is a male. [08:05] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [08:05] Dr. Katrina Furey: And in this movie, they're both men. [08:08] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Yeah. And I'm just curious what that's about. I wish I had read one of the books that I'm referencing now. [08:14] Dr. Katrina Furey: Well, we have full time jobs and we're watching a lot of content to do this. So again, if anyone wants to sponsor us, dear Media, feel free and we could really dive into the research. [08:25] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So it happens when the term has been coined, when your adult children are not kind of leaving the home, having independence, able to support themselves financially, emotionally. And you see a lot of I think this is kind of just like the funny end of it. Like basement dwellers who are just kind of living at home. I'd say there also is a difference in my kind of opinion, in practice with today's current housing market and so many people returning home after college or just for whatever reason, after a couple of years, because they just cannot afford to live outside the home. So I'd say, like, if you're living at home and you are working however you are, whatever that looks like, whatever field you are in and contributing to the household in any way that your family is asking you to, and maybe they're not, and that's okay, but that feels different, really. Failure to launch. [09:21] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yeah. [09:21] Dr. Katrina Furey: I think that's a really important distinction to make. And I feel like you're right that there's just so much economic stress for young adults these days in terms of student loans and then housing market and wages and how do you get on your feet? So that, I feel like, is a difference, right? Like sort of living at home until you can launch, but like prepping for the launch and fostering independence along the way. Very different from what we see going on with Dale Brennan. Dale, yeah. Very different. Right? [09:57] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So childlike. Right? Like so childlike. [10:00] Dr. Katrina Furey: Toddlers. [10:00] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Toddlers. [10:01] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Toddlers. [10:01] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I was laughing with what they're eating. So, like chicken nuggets and French fries. A lot of ketchup, which is like a kid meal, right? Kids eat chicken nuggets and they really like ketchup. [10:11] Huff & Doback: Yes. [10:11] Dr. Katrina Furey: They just freaking love ketchup. [10:13] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: It's like the best condiment ever. It's how kids start learning about condiments. Then we move to a balsamic vinegar. [10:21] Dr. Katrina Furey: It's the gateway condiment. You got to be careful. It's a slippery slope getting started with that ketchup. [10:27] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Yeah. So that was just funny, like in all ways, right? The movie is highlighting them as really just like children. [10:34] Dr. Katrina Furey: They're like into Shark Week. Like just every single thing dealing this drum know, just like being like, you can't come over here because this is like my area. Just like so childlike. And the way that Nancy talks to them is just like how I imagine or do talk to know where she's just you just couldn't hold the fart in or what happened there. I heard you interviewed together for that job. Or maybe take the long way home. Just too much. [11:08] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right? [11:08] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And I just imagine her being like that in real, you know, in this kind of bad way that we're going to get to with enabling. But I just think that she's so soft and kind and open that I just feel like that's her in real life. [11:24] Dr. Katrina Furey: Just like how everyone thinks Jennifer Aniston is who we think she is in real life. But then I'm like, what if they're like raging jerks, right? Could you imagine? What if there were all these blind items that turns out were all about Mary Steenberg? That would be shocking, right? She would tell you to F off, but in a really nice, weird way. [11:48] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Toned. Right? [11:49] Dr. Katrina Furey: Which is like worse, right? Like maybe even more dangerous than the people who are really in your face. [11:56] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Right? And it's funny because Robert seems to be irritated with Dale, but it's like you still made him this way, right? And so he gets mad more easily or frustrated with them more. And it's like but you both still have 40 year old sons living with you who are not doing anything. And they both only eat chicken nuggets. They both have their own space. They both are childlike. [12:22] Dr. Katrina Furey: They both wear chewbacca masks. [12:24] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Why are you now getting mad? I get you're probably been frustrated for years, but it's funny, like his response. [12:30] Dr. Katrina Furey: All of a sudden I get the sense that he checked out, right? Like that he's frustrated and he just threw his hands up and was like, I give up. Whereas she is just taking care of Brennan for her own needs, wants to be a mom, right. And is really struggling with letting him go. [12:51] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So more like codependence there. She needs him. [12:54] Dr. Katrina Furey: Even though right. We do see in this movie a lot of very quick and heavy romantic connections, right? Like Robert and Nancy, like, right away lock eyes at that cochlear implement conference. [13:11] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I love to know what she's doing there. [13:13] Dr. Katrina Furey: I was like, I wonder if she's like a rep, like a sales rep of some kind. That's the vibe. [13:19] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I was she's not called Doctor and he is. [13:23] Dr. Katrina Furey: He's the doctor. [13:24] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [13:24] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: That's like, the point. [13:25] Dr. Katrina Furey: I love Dale wanting to go into family business. [13:29] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Yeah. [13:30] Dr. Katrina Furey: And he's like, Trust me, I've tried to tell him that's not how it works, but it's just so funny. Like, at the beginning, they're being intimate and then she tells him, she's like, I have to get this off my chest. And then he's like, Me too. And then that's it. That seals it's like a trauma bond, right? They're like, quickly bonded. And then we see Alice, Derek's wife, fall hot and heavy for Dale very quickly. What did you think of that? [14:00] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Well, besides feeling gross about it and just write the, like, gross open mouth, like, lapping of each other's faces was just like, making me one of them. [14:14] Dr. Katrina Furey: Can you imagine if that's like, your job as an actor? Like, all these people around you, and they're like, okay, do it again. [14:19] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And do it in a way that will disgust people. [14:22] Dr. Katrina Furey: Do it more. Do it like more slobbery. Like, okay, we got to get it from this angle. [14:29] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: The scene where they're like, in the forest, right? And she's like, running after him. She sees him, and then it's just so cringy and funny. [14:38] Dr. Katrina Furey: But if the roles were reversed, like, if it was Dale coming onto her with that intensity, don't you think it. [14:43] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Would feel more I also just think because of their body stature, right? She's like, small, he's really tall. And so when she kind of assaults him in the bathroom and climbs on top of him with zero foreplay and zero consent right. Asking any questions. And then they finish together after 4 seconds, it just feels like right? Like she's the girl, she's small, he could get off her, he could leave if he wanted. [15:13] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [15:14] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: But yes, 100% the other way. If the roles were reversed, even just for body structure, I think it would be more like assaultive. [15:22] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, it would feel more I mean, it is uncomfortable to watch, but it's also a comedy. But you're like, well, Dale's kind of speaking like Attack. [15:30] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And Dale is also like a child, right? So I don't think he knows what's going on, really, what you do in those situations. Besides, there's a lot of masturbation. They have a lot of the nudie mags. And he has this collection that's from like seventy s, eighty s and ninety s and Brennan's crinkling a page because there's three lower body parts with hair on that page. And it's like a classic and it's. [15:54] Dr. Katrina Furey: Just like so funny. I know. [15:56] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Oh my God. [15:57] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And their favorite magazine to ********** to. That's not a nudie. Good Housekeeping. When they're like, aligning finally and have all of these things in common. [16:05] Dr. Katrina Furey: Oh, my God. [16:06] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Combining families is hard. [16:08] Dr. Katrina Furey: It is portia. [16:10] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: It is typically less hard for very obvious reasons. And it doesn't make it not hard, but it's less hard when your children are older. [16:19] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [16:20] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So it's like harder to combine families. I'd say the hardest time I find is when you're in teenhood. So I'd say like ten, I don't know, eight to 18 feels because life is so hard those years. [16:38] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yeah. [16:38] Dr. Katrina Furey: I do just want to point out, like eight to 18 is like a good chunk of childhood. So just to point out, most of the time it's hard. [16:45] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [16:45] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So, like, babies, I would say, don't really know anything different till like three. [16:51] Dr. Katrina Furey: That's it. [16:53] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Three to 18. All of childhood. It's really sounding when you're aware. [17:01] Huff & Doback: Once. [17:02] Dr. Katrina Furey: You have awareness, it's really hard because. [17:05] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: It is so different. [17:06] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [17:06] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And I think one of the hardest things is really not always the siblings, but the parents. Like this guy or this girl who's an adult is coming into your house and you could have the most self aware stepparent who's doing their own work, who's so kind, who's communicative, who's asking questions, and it's still hard. There's boundaries that are supposed to be kind of coming together, but it doesn't feel good at first, and they can't tell me what to do and it feels weird. And what are the other parents? Are they around? It's very challenging, even in the best of circumstances with the best kind of adults. [17:43] Dr. Katrina Furey: And the adults, I feel like, have. [17:44] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: To be able to tolerate the pushback. [17:47] Dr. Katrina Furey: From the kids and not take it personally and just be like, this is to be expected and you have to weather the storm. But I think you do have to have a degree of psychological mindedness and total awareness to be able to do that. [18:00] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Yeah. So I think when you have adult children who are 40 plus, who a shouldn't be living in the home real. [18:10] Dr. Katrina Furey: It shouldn't even matter. [18:11] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: It really shouldn't matter. That's why it's so unless right. The partner, your dad is dating this woman and she's horrible. [18:18] Dr. Katrina Furey: Take advantage of him. [18:19] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yeah. [18:20] Dr. Katrina Furey: But I think that's what makes this movie so funny. And it's like if this movie were done with children between the ages of three and 18, you could still do it. [18:31] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Exactly. [18:32] Dr. Katrina Furey: What would happen? [18:33] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Maybe testing, maybe splitting. [18:36] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [18:36] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Like I'm going to ask now, Stepdad, because he's probably going to say yes. I think it's just like it's interesting when Dale is testing Nancy about know, I like to have a lot of fresh fruit around and I like, whatever in my pancakes or something. [18:50] Dr. Katrina Furey: And she's like, okay, that sounds great. [18:54] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Great stepmom, if anyone's going to be a stepmom. Nancy is the way to go. So supportive. [19:00] Dr. Katrina Furey: I know, but again, where does it tip over from support to enabling, right? And I thought it's crossed. Where do you think it got crossed? [19:12] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Maybe at the mangina moment. [19:14] Dr. Katrina Furey: Maybe she just feels so guilty that now from then on, whatever. [19:19] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Maybe I don't know Dale and Robert. But I'm also curious, just as a side note, and we have no information like what happened to the other parents. [19:28] Dr. Katrina Furey: So are they deceased? [19:29] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And did that have anything to do right. With kind of enabling or not parenting kids anymore? Maybe, but we don't like I thought. [19:39] Dr. Katrina Furey: They said that Nancy and her husband got divorced and she said what's harder on Brennan? I'm blanking on what happened. Know Mrs. Doback number one, or who knows if there was more than one before Nancy. Maybe she didn't, I don't know. [19:55] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I feel like she did and I don't know why. Maybe they said that really quickly, but. [20:00] Dr. Katrina Furey: I think she did. But again, I get the sense Brennan's younger, like Derek's doing okay and then Brennan is stuck at home. But again, I think isn't that what we see in family structures like this? That usually it is the youngest with the parent if there is some codependency. [20:18] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [20:18] Dr. Katrina Furey: At least in my experience. That's what I've seen. Again, I'm not like a family structure expert by any means. [20:25] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: No. I think it's hard to be in any family system who is merging with another family system. [20:34] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, and it's just like they just really touched on some of the, I would say, like common roadblocks in a really humorous way. And I think you could do it because they're like full on adults and they're hilarious. [20:48] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Like space. [20:49] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [20:49] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So having your own space or having conversations about space is so difficult if you're merging a family. And what if everyone can't? What if you don't have the money for a 5000 square foot home where one has their own bathroom and bedroom? It's like sometimes people do have to share and that feels there's not always. [21:06] Dr. Katrina Furey: Enough room for activities. [21:07] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Really difficult. And Dale's drum set should have been moved. It needed to be. [21:15] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [21:15] Dr. Katrina Furey: And that's another place where they're enabling him and they're not helping the families merge by being like, okay, fine, you can keep your drum set. You do have to make but then again, it's like but it's also hard on Dale. [21:28] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: This is his space. It's so delicate. And you just said but it's a comedic way of pointing out really challenging things that this happens all the time, right? Like family. Unfortunately, the divorce rate is high. And as we know, evidence says that it's better to have an amicable divorce than to stay in a bad relationship for your children. So a lot of people will stay married because they think that's what's best. Even though they're constantly fighting. It's tense, it's bad, it's like it's actually better to have. Not everyone can do this. Like an okay divorce where the parents. [22:08] Dr. Katrina Furey: Can co parent supportively. [22:11] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: That is great. Kids turn out great. But it's like these really messy things where there's a lot of **** talking. The other parental alienation. That's when things go really go south. [22:26] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah. So then in terms of other common roadblocks, when people are merging families, what are some other things that you noticed this film depicted? And again, like a hugely ironic, funny way, but pretty accurately. [22:45] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: It felt like Brennan and Dale hadn't met before. They just got married really quick and they both had this big reaction at the wedding. And again, because it happened really fast, which again, they should be able to do because you have two, three. But like very adult children, that should be fine. [23:06] Dr. Katrina Furey: But for younger kids, it is nice to have a transition period where you. [23:11] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Slow process, get to know each other. [23:13] Dr. Katrina Furey: You don't just move right in, right? [23:15] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: This is like mom's special friend who's coming for dinner a lot. And then there's these nice moments where there's like play and you're not in a parent role. You move slowly. Sometimes the snails pace, sometimes backwards. But it should be like friend and fun into kind of both into then like the caregiver role, right. [23:38] Dr. Katrina Furey: But you don't just jump in and. [23:40] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Expect and then make demand. Listen, right? Exactly. Never going to work. [23:44] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. [23:46] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: But they should meet many times and do some fun things, right? Like go to the movies, go see a show. It's easier. And even this in general is good advice for people who are a little uncomfortable. Maybe like if you have some social anxiety, it's good to do things that you can talk about, right? Like go for a hike, go to see a movie, go get a pedicure. And don't just stare at each other and all hang out in your living room. [24:09] Dr. Katrina Furey: Go for a walk, play with something. [24:12] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: That'S so much easier to do than just having to talk to each other. So they should have done some events. [24:17] Dr. Katrina Furey: And it's hard, too, right, when two parents are falling in love and creating a relationship and they have children of their own, then you're like, well, the kids, you want the kids to get along. And what if they just don't? Right? That's got to be really challenging. [24:31] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And I think it's difficult and there's not really anything you can do about this. But when kids are really the same age so if your mom starts dating your dad and you guys are in the same grade at school and then you move in together eventually, even if it's like the grade process and it was slow, it's like all of a sudden your step brothers in your class. That's hard. I think. Again, maybe not none of this is easy, but if you're like 15 and your new stepsister is seven, it's like that feels a little bit easier because the roles are so clear. You have your own identity. You're not having to mix friend groups or these expectations. [25:17] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. Or like, what if you were attracted to your new stepsibling or something? Like, if you're both teenagers, I mean, that is a I feel like that happens. [25:35] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Do we also see a therapist patient depiction in this movie? [25:41] Dr. Katrina Furey: Which I forgot about, but then I was like, oh, this is perfect. [25:44] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right? [25:44] Dr. Katrina Furey: So we see that when Nancy and Robert are trying to push them out of the nest. They're like, we signed you I loved when they're talking to them and they're like, we put enough money in your account for security deposit, and we're going to give you another kind of support. We signed you up for therapy. And I was like, that was a really thoughtful way of introducing this idea. So we see Brennan in therapy with his therapist named Denise. What did you think of this, Portia? [26:14] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So also, just like right? Playing on this other trope of right, you you have sexual relations with your therapist. They end up falling in love with you. They come on to you. They're obsessed with you. I think it happens with other providers, too. I don't know. [26:30] Dr. Katrina Furey: It's always a female therapist, though. I mean, this is just like such a Nick Rope or Nick with you. But I'm just thinking, like, in suits, this happened. It's just in The Sopranos, we see this. I'm like, is this like a fantasy? I think it is, because it's teacher, too. [26:48] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: You see a lot. [26:49] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yes. [26:49] Dr. Katrina Furey: You see that like a woman in power. But I just thought it was so funny. Again, looking at her office pretty good. That was pretty good. She's not wearing suggestive clothing. She's in, like, a business suit. And it's just so funny that she reflects something back to him. So basic. I think she's like, that must be hard. And you see Brennan go. Yeah. Yeah. And then that's it. [27:16] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: He loves know. He feels so seen. She's the only one who can understand him. Like, wow. [27:23] Dr. Katrina Furey: He's like, oh my God, we're in love. And then throughout the rest of the movie, remember when Nancy's like, oh, Denise called and she said she's not your like, stop asking her. And he's like, did she say that? [27:36] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: That rascal. And he's like, no, she's not your girlfriend. [27:40] Dr. Katrina Furey: But then she shows up at the end. [27:42] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Of course she does, right? And is so moved by his singing. She's like and everyone is right. I mean, his singing is excellent. And also the song choice is just so funny. Perfect. Like it had to be Italian, right? He can sing in Italian. Like, he knows all the words. Of course it had to be and Dale is an excellent know it's like, you guys are great. You're actually very talented. [28:06] Dr. Katrina Furey: And when finally pushed lovingly or hopefully lovingly, they can rise to the occasion. They're both working on their feet. [28:15] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yeah. [28:15] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: It seems like Brennan had planned the Catalina Wine Mixer, and Dale is working as a chef. [28:22] Dr. Katrina Furey: Oh, my God. Mark my words. Portia, remind me when I turn 40, I want to have a Catalina wine. [28:28] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I think that's an excellent party theme for a 40th birthday. Right. I feel like this should be normal. [28:35] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yeah. [28:35] Dr. Katrina Furey: So just remind me in a couple of years. [28:38] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I'll put in my calendar. [28:39] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Thank you. [28:39] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, but oh, my gosh. I mean, it was so funny, though, when she's showing up and Nancy's like, oh, hey. And again, it's like, oh, my God, these are such inappropriate boundaries. You're all calling her by her first name. Some therapists are fine with that, but I just feel like in this situation, probably not. And she's like, I had to come. I had a legal obligation because he threatened to harm himself. Back up. That doesn't mean you as therapist, show up. [29:04] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [29:04] Dr. Katrina Furey: Which again, this is a comedy. It's funny, but you call the police or things like that. But again, it is just depicting that Brennan has some problematic behaviors and boundary problems. [29:18] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And then Denise gets really angry and just starts calling all out the parents. [29:22] Dr. Katrina Furey: You're enabling. [29:23] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And she has this moment, and you're like, wow. But yeah, guess. But maybe we could have said this in a way where everyone could have heard it in a session where you're being paid and it's like real then there's boundaries around that. Not at where I'm assuming people have had a couple wine mixers and then we see. [29:46] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [29:47] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Derek try to be emotional with Brennan. And he can't. They're trying to hug and they're just like, leaning on each other, and it's so then, you know, Derek has this outburst, again, because he can't be nice to just it's funny, but it's so ridiculous. [30:06] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yeah. [30:06] Dr. Katrina Furey: And it's also like derek probably does have a lot of repressed emotion, like you're talking about. He does use the F word slur a lot, which is hard to watch nowadays. Looking back at some of these old movies, we're just like, oh, gosh. [30:21] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Because it's like the go to slur for any guy. [30:25] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [30:25] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: It's like such a put down with. [30:27] Dr. Katrina Furey: Like, oh, you're being this or you're being that. [30:29] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And it's like, we don't have any. [30:30] Dr. Katrina Furey: Other creative ways to being like you're. [30:33] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Like a girl or you're gay. And all people said and I do think it's interesting because I think the F word is so much more shocking than like, oh, that's so gay. Right. I think that was really common. And everybody I'm not going to throw everyone under the bus, but that was something that I think most people said in the early two thousand s and. [30:53] Dr. Katrina Furey: Ninety s too much. [30:54] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yeah. [30:55] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: But really, I think still, the F slur was still reserved for more. [31:01] Dr. Katrina Furey: It feels a little more aggressive. It does. It feels like more aggressive. [31:06] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: It does. [31:06] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And so now it feels really. Horrible, and I just think it was, like, a little bit of the times. But also, I do know that with my young adolescent clients, people still do say this. I think we're just also removed from it. I think it has changed a little bit, but I think it's still happening, and I would just love it to not. [31:27] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah. No, I totally agree. All right, well, so as we start wrapping up this episode again of one of the greatest movies of all, know, slurs aside, which, again, I don't want to minimize how awful it is to. [31:40] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Use language like some just putting this out, there like, a little bit of racism thrown in there. When Derek is showing that couple the house, and he's, like, talking to them, and they're like, Why are you saying it like that? [31:53] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yes. [31:53] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Just call just call us, like, mean, I just think that's not funny know? [32:01] Dr. Katrina Furey: I don't know. [32:02] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yeah. [32:02] Dr. Katrina Furey: No, I hear you. [32:03] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I don't think it ever should have been, but it feels so much more. [32:05] Dr. Katrina Furey: Like it feels dated. [32:07] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yeah. [32:09] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Let's be more creative. [32:10] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah. Do you think they were doing that to point out this kind of behaviors from Derek? [32:18] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Yeah, I think it was to point out that he would be like, um. [32:24] Dr. Katrina Furey: And that it's, like, not um. Okay, but as we wrap up, I do think as budding entrepreneurs, I'm really curious to hear what you thought about their pitch to everyone at Derek's birthday party about Prestige Worldwide, because we keep talking about what can we do to get the word out about our podcast. [32:45] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right? [32:45] Dr. Katrina Furey: And I was like, well, this is a creative idea. [32:47] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yeah. [32:48] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Maybe we should make a slide music video combined with a music video of a boat and show it at a party. Right. Can we do it really fast? I'm having one this weekend, and we could just show it. [33:02] Dr. Katrina Furey: I think, though, the thing is that they showed it at a party with new people. Like, these weren't people they knew. Right. I think all of the people we know are already supporting us, which is great. So I'm like, okay, so what entrepreneur tips can I take from this video presentation? A music videos with a catchy song stick in your head. Like, I know all the words. The Santa, the Zena Maria do in the back while I'm drinking sangria. Like, we all know the words. Okay, so maybe that's an interesting tactic. Again, like, you keep saying we got to go viral. It's kind of similar. Right. And then pitching it to strangers with money, I guess, and wanting investments. [33:44] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And I think that they just do such a good job of being bold. They are unashamed of who they are and what they're promoting. And at the end of their Know serenade at the Catalina Wine Mixer, I love how Dale in the background is saying potent hose, and then it's like Prestige Worldwide. So we have to do things like that. [34:06] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yeah, we do. [34:07] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Maybe we should do it at the end. This is a joke for people listening. At the end of our sessions, I'm just going to start saying, analyze Group. [34:15] Dr. Katrina Furey: I'll see you next week. Because people are leaving, like, their hands on the door. You know how in our field there's always like the doorknob comment we talk about when people are leaving therapy and they're like, by the way, you're never going to make me cry. [34:28] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right? [34:29] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: By the way, I'm getting divorced. [34:30] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Yeah. [34:30] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: By the way, this by the way. [34:32] Dr. Katrina Furey: I had this repressed memory. Come back and then, bye, see you in two weeks. I hope you enjoy your vacation. But this could be ours where people leave my script. [34:40] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: What? [34:40] Dr. Katrina Furey: And you're like, oh, nothing. [34:41] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Yeah, psychologically, which is not ethical. I'm going to implant these little whispers. [34:48] Dr. Katrina Furey: Of the podcast, like subliminal messaging. [34:50] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Like you're going to play in the. [34:51] Dr. Katrina Furey: Waiting room, but like, backwards somehow. [34:55] Dr. Katrina Furey, MD: Right. [34:55] Dr. Katrina Furey: So it just gets in your head. Our theme song. Oh, my God. I just love it. [35:03] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Speaking of being supportive, because we are entrepreneurs, we would love for you to follow us on Instagram at Analyze Scripts, on TikTok, at Analyze Scripts podcast and just follow along. Give us some recommendations like this. Rate us subscribe. Thank you for subscribing. We do have a lot of subscribers. It's awesome and we are so thankful for you. It's going up every week and we're reaching for the ride. [35:24] Dr. Katrina Furey: I think we've reached every continent, which is like, wild. We have at least one fan in Kazakhstan, like, who knew? What's up, Kazakhstan? So, yeah, we love the interaction. Let us know what you want to hear. Let us know what you think about this movie. Let us know. Do you enjoy throwback movies like this? Or current stuff? Just let us know. [35:44] Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Yeah, we'd love to hear from you. [35:46] Dr. Katrina Furey: And hopefully if we can find it, we'll send you out with some boats and hose. See you next time. [35:52] Huff & Doback: Boats and hose I got to have me my boats and holes boats and hose boats and holes I gotta have me my boats and hose boats and hose boats and hose I gotta have me my boats and holes I'll do you in the bottom while you're drinking sangria Nachos lemon heads my dad's boat. You won't go down cause my **** can float. We sail around the world and go port to port? 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Welcome back to the dealer mastermind GeorgeWright III with your daily dose of inspiration, motivation, and education. I am super excited to talk with you this week. We have so many things going on. We're launching our brand new weight loss product. We've got a new team that we have that we're going to be working with over in Texas. But I'm excited to share with you a couple of things, because many of you have been talking to me about how frustrated you are in life how you want to make a change, how you want to be able to have new ideas and opportunities. And yet it's ironic to me that we are in probably the best time in my lifetime, that there is to create opportunities. And yet, so many people are struggling. They're struggling. And I tell you this week, I want to start us off. With just a little bit of wisdom from one of my mentors, Robert Stuber now Robert passed away. A few years ago. And I will tell you that's been a difficult thing, but what I do at times is I will listen to some of the audios and teachings that he's had. And it's just a great prime example of the fact that whether you believe you have mentors in your life or people that you surround yourself, that'll help you. You have access to so much information. All you need to do is apply your interest level, your passions. And find yourself, someone, something that continue to, that can continue to inspire you. So I want to share with something with you, Robert and I, over the years have had so many discussions about what it's going to take for people to change their lives. And it always boils back down. To your mindset in your thoughts and things like that. And one of the things that I will go back to every once in a while that I just love is Robert did a program. And it's called the secret. Now, many of you may have heard of the secret because you're familiar with the program and the video that kind of circulated a while back. But prior to that, Robert actually created a program called the secret. And it's an amazing program. It's two parts. And I'm going to share part one with you today, and then I'll share part two with you tomorrow. But part one really talks about this idea of what is the secret and does, and discovering the secret in your life. And I want you to listen to this with two things in mind. Number one. That you can receive the motivation and inspiration you need. By simply finding mentors that you can have in your life. Like Robert. Like individuals. Whether it's audio, his podcasts, videos, YouTube, whether it's live in person or in events. You can find people that can pull out of you. What I know. You have the ability to create, which is you have greatness inside of you. You have everything you need, you just need to push yourself outside your comfort zone. So today we're going to talk about discovering the secret. And second tomorrow, we're going to talk about in part two. Applying. The secret and applying the principles that will help you to not only create in your life, but make key decisions, take your dreams to the next level and then master your emotions. And so I hope you'll enjoy this. I'm not going to talk anymore. I'm going to go ahead and turn it over to Robert. And i will talk with you again tomorrow morning Thanks for Listening. George Wright III
Welcome back to the dealer mastermind GeorgeWright III with your daily dose of inspiration, motivation, and education. I am super excited to talk with you this week. We have so many things going on. We're launching our brand new weight loss product. We've got a new team that we have that we're going to be working with over in Texas. But I'm excited to share with you a couple of things, because many of you have been talking to me about how frustrated you are in life how you want to make a change, how you want to be able to have new ideas and opportunities. And yet it's ironic to me that we are in probably the best time in my lifetime, that there is to create opportunities. And yet, so many people are struggling. They're struggling. And I tell you this week, I want to start us off. With just a little bit of wisdom from one of my mentors, Robert Stuber now Robert passed away. A few years ago. And I will tell you that's been a difficult thing, but what I do at times is I will listen to some of the audios and teachings that he's had. And it's just a great prime example of the fact that whether you believe you have mentors in your life or people that you surround yourself, that'll help you. You have access to so much information. All you need to do is apply your interest level, your passions. And find yourself, someone, something that continue to, that can continue to inspire you. So I want to share with something with you, Robert and I, over the years have had so many discussions about what it's going to take for people to change their lives. And it always boils back down. To your mindset in your thoughts and things like that. And one of the things that I will go back to every once in a while that I just love is Robert did a program. And it's called the secret. Now, many of you may have heard of the secret because you're familiar with the program and the video that kind of circulated a while back. But prior to that, Robert actually created a program called the secret. And it's an amazing program. It's two parts. And I'm going to share part one with you today, and then I'll share part two with you tomorrow. But part one really talks about this idea of what is the secret and does, and discovering the secret in your life. And I want you to listen to this with two things in mind. Number one. That you can receive the motivation and inspiration you need. By simply finding mentors that you can have in your life. Like Robert. Like individuals. Whether it's audio, his podcasts, videos, YouTube, whether it's live in person or in events. You can find people that can pull out of you. What I know. You have the ability to create, which is you have greatness inside of you. You have everything you need, you just need to push yourself outside your comfort zone. So today we're going to talk about discovering the secret. And second tomorrow, we're going to talk about in part two. Applying. The secret and applying the principles that will help you to not only create in your life, but make key decisions, take your dreams to the next level and then master your emotions. And so I hope you'll enjoy this. I'm not going to talk anymore. I'm going to go ahead and turn it over to Robert. And i will talk with you again tomorrow morning Thanks for Listening. George Wright III
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Seth and Sean discuss and assess Robert Woods' comments that he believes he's still a 1,000 yard receiver.
Are a set of 150-year-old parliamentary rules really applicable in a typical boardroom? SCRIPT I was with a board recently, engaged in a conversation about what “good governance” is (surprise, surprise!). One of the board members asked me where Robert's Rules of Order fit into good governance. If you don't know about Roberts's Rules, take a second to Google them. Anyway, it's a perfectly fair question. After all, basically every board deploys Robert's Rules occasionally or frequently, especially when a vote is at hand. It's a handy process to make sure we know that, in fact, a decision happened, which is good! The reason why I found the question so interesting is that it never would have occurred to me that Robert's Rules were anything more than a potentially convenient tool, and certainly not a critical component of corporate governance generally or even board effectiveness specifically. Did you Google them? If you did, you probably saw the Wikipedia page which describes Robert's Rules as “a manual of parliamentary procedure” from 1876. It goes on to explain that the rules “govern the meetings of a diverse range of organizations – including church groups, county commissions, homeowners associations, nonprofit associations, professional societies, school boards, and trade unions.” There's something a bit startling about parliamentary rules being adopted by all these other types of organizations, and especially by boards, to be honest. Have you ever spent time watching a parliament try to make decisions? If you have, you probably noticed that rules matter a lot because, well, there are constantly arguments between groups of people with misaligned interests, pushing and pulling against each other. If that sounds like your board, then maybe you should hang on to Robert's Rules for dear life. If not, you might want to consider a less structured approach once in a while.
How to Speak Maintenance - Tips For And From The Multifamily Industry
On this episode of How to Speak Maintenance we will be joined by Missy Saez with LDG Development LLC and Robert Hills with Camden as we discuss mechanical asset tracking and the importance of preventative maintenance. Like Robert said during the show, "if you stay ready, you don't have to get ready!"
If You Were Gone From Your Team For A Year Like Robert Sarver, How Would Your Team Fare? Debate on Key Topics in Real Estate. Featuring: Steve Trang, Leon G Barnes, Chris Jefferson, Eric Brewer, and RJ Bates III Special Guest: Michael Moulton Hosted by... The post If You Were Gone From Your Team For A Year Like Robert Sarver, How Would Your Team Fare? appeared first on Real Estate Disruptors.
If You Were Gone From Your Team For A Year Like Robert Sarver, How Would Your Team Fare? Debate on Key Topics in Real Estate. Featuring: Steve Trang, Leon G Barnes, Chris Jefferson, Eric Brewer, and RJ Bates III Special Guest: Michael Moulton Hosted by... The post If You Were Gone From Your Team For A Year Like Robert Sarver, How Would Your Team Fare? appeared first on Real Estate Disruptors.
Investing in Real Estate with Clayton Morris | Investing for Beginners
Asset protection is a critical aspect of any real estate investing business. And sadly, it's something that many investors overlook until it's too late. In the event of a lawsuit, it's important that your legal entities are set up to protect your personal assets. On today's show, I'm bringing in the most qualified expert I know to discuss asset protection for real estate investing. On this episode of Investing in Real Estate, I'm sitting down with Garrett Sutton. Garrett is an attorney, bestselling author, Rich Dad Advisor, and the founder of Corporate Direct. In his new book, Veil Not Fail, Garrett shares important strategies for reducing your liability in the event of a lawsuit. Today you're going to hear some of his best tips on legal entity structure, corporate formalities, insurance for rental properties and so much more!
Last time on the Brake, we chatted with authors Robert Braun and Richard Randell about why automobility isn't really about cars at all — and how it's beocme what they call a "totalitarian system" that touches virtually every part of our lives. Today, we bring you part two of that conversation, and dive into the difficult question of what a world beyond automobility might look like — and how on Earth we might get there. Would it be good enough to just make automobility less destructive by equipping cars with batteries and automated driving features? How different would our world look if the evidence of automobility's violence wasn't immediately hidden from the public eye? And could the tobacco industry serve as an example for regulating not just the car itself, but the culture that surrounds it? Listen up, and check out Post Automobility Futures today.
Locked On Bucs – Daily Podcast On The Tampa Bay Buccaneers Fans
Tampa Bay Buccaneers head coach Todd Bowles stated many of the starters, including quarterback Tom Brady, will not be playing in the team's opening game of the NFL Preseason against the Miami Dolphins, and today we examine why starters like center Robert Hainsey, safety Logan Ryan, and wide receiver Russell Gage need to be among the ones that do.Then, with Kyle Trask expected to get more reps in the preseason for the Bucs, what is the perfect playing time scenario for the second-year quarterback in Week 1?Finally, we hear from one Bucs fan who wonders if a veteran isn't needed to secure the offensive line, and if Tampa Bay is really on the outside of the playoff picture without Ryan Jensen.Find and Follow Locked On Bucs:Apple: https://apple.co/3iOePFkSpotify: https://spoti.fi/3BwlScYAudacy: https://bit.ly/3FAcIhVStitcher: https://bit.ly/3tYVt4SGoogle Play: https://bit.ly/2X0IEdSTampa Bay Buccaneers news and analysis from hosts James Yarcho and David Harrison. The Locked On Bucs Podcast is your award-winning source with daily podcasts covering all of your favorite topics.Follow James and David on Twitter, where they share the latest news and analysis about the Tampa Bay Buccaneers, and interact with members of Bucs Nation!James Yarcho: https://twitter.com/JYarcho_BUCSDavid Harrison: https://twitter.com/DHarrison82#TampaBayBuccaneers #GoBucs #NFLFind and Follow Locked On Bucs:Apple: https://apple.co/3iOePFkSpotify: https://spoti.fi/3BwlScYAudacy: https://bit.ly/3FAcIhVStitcher: https://bit.ly/3tYVt4SGoogle Play: https://bit.ly/2X0IEdSTampa Bay Buccaneers news and analysis from hosts James Yarcho and David Harrison. The Locked On Bucs Podcast is your award-winning source with daily podcasts covering all of your favorite topics.Follow James and David on Twitter, where they share the latest news and analysis about the Tampa Bay Buccaneers, and interact with members of Bucs Nation!James Yarcho: https://twitter.com/JYarcho_BUCSDavid Harrison: https://twitter.com/DHarrison82#TampaBayBuccaneers #GoBucs #NFL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Locked On Bucs – Daily Podcast On The Tampa Bay Buccaneers Fans
Tampa Bay Buccaneers head coach Todd Bowles stated many of the starters, including quarterback Tom Brady, will not be playing in the team's opening game of the NFL Preseason against the Miami Dolphins, and today we examine why starters like center Robert Hainsey, safety Logan Ryan, and wide receiver Russell Gage need to be among the ones that do. Then, with Kyle Trask expected to get more reps in the preseason for the Bucs, what is the perfect playing time scenario for the second-year quarterback in Week 1? Finally, we hear from one Bucs fan who wonders if a veteran isn't needed to secure the offensive line, and if Tampa Bay is really on the outside of the playoff picture without Ryan Jensen. Find and Follow Locked On Bucs: Apple: https://apple.co/3iOePFk Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3BwlScY Audacy: https://bit.ly/3FAcIhV Stitcher: https://bit.ly/3tYVt4S Google Play: https://bit.ly/2X0IEdS Tampa Bay Buccaneers news and analysis from hosts James Yarcho and David Harrison. The Locked On Bucs Podcast is your award-winning source with daily podcasts covering all of your favorite topics. Follow James and David on Twitter, where they share the latest news and analysis about the Tampa Bay Buccaneers, and interact with members of Bucs Nation! James Yarcho: https://twitter.com/JYarcho_BUCS David Harrison: https://twitter.com/DHarrison82 #TampaBayBuccaneers #GoBucs #NFL Find and Follow Locked On Bucs: Apple: https://apple.co/3iOePFk Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3BwlScY Audacy: https://bit.ly/3FAcIhV Stitcher: https://bit.ly/3tYVt4S Google Play: https://bit.ly/2X0IEdS Tampa Bay Buccaneers news and analysis from hosts James Yarcho and David Harrison. The Locked On Bucs Podcast is your award-winning source with daily podcasts covering all of your favorite topics. Follow James and David on Twitter, where they share the latest news and analysis about the Tampa Bay Buccaneers, and interact with members of Bucs Nation! James Yarcho: https://twitter.com/JYarcho_BUCS David Harrison: https://twitter.com/DHarrison82 #TampaBayBuccaneers #GoBucs #NFL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Why does Robert DeNiro hate us? We discuss. SELENA AND CROCKETT - 5a-10 on 100.7LEV!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Lies Discussed: The world is too messed up to bring children into. I’m measured by how I compare with other men. With everything going on in my life, it’s really not possible to live with integrity. Being a Christian is supposed to be cool. My death will be the end of my story. Discussion Questions: Name some movie/tv characters who were two-faced. Like Robert the Bruce in Braveheart. What did their back and forth way of living cause in the story? Would your closest friends say that you are a man of integrity, and mean it? Read Matthew 22:37-40. What does the “greatest command(s)” call us to with integrity? (hint: the word “all”) Read James 1:5-8. What does James say are the benefits of integrity, and the results of a lack of integrity? What is an area in life where you need to grow in integrity? Have you ever considered that you might be the only “Jesus” that some people will ever see in life? Read 2 Corinthians 5:16-20. What does Paul call us to? Where are the places you connect with people who don’t know Jesus? What are some of the ways you demonstrate that you follow Jesus when you are with them? What are some ways you could share Jesus more? Read John 14:1-7 What is your favorite part of this passage? If you died in a car accident on the way home today, what will happen?
This week it's the most anticipated movie of 2022 so far, The Batman! The movie stars Robert Pattinson, Zoë Kravitz, Jeffrey Wright and more and is directed by Matt Reeves. We share our likes and dislikes for the film, and where this ranks in the modern-day Batman films. Katie also has an internal debate over whether she likes Robert Pattinson or not, and we discuss Jane Campion's odd comments at the Critics Choice Awards about Venus and Serena Williams. Follow the show on social media! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SilverScreenPodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/podcastsilver/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/podcastsilver Be sure to rate and review wherever you listen! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thesilverscreenpodcast/message
Horses know when we're wrong and judge us silently. Imagine that. This week, we're talking to a legendary dressage pro about his remarkable journey in the sport and getting the low-down on all the wild things that have happened recently, from the EHV outbreak in California to the emotional finish at the Grand Prix of Eventing at Bruce's Field. Thanks for tuning in. Guests and Links Episode 96: Link to Sound File for Sight Impaired: Host: Justine Griffin, Award Winning Journalist with Host: Jessica Payne, International Event Rider for Host: Ellie Woznica Owner/Trainer of Drink Recipe: Link: Link: Link: Guest: Robert Dover Guest: Doug Payne Subscribe: | | Join our Facebook Group: Search for “" Presenting Sponsor: Thank you to our sponsors! This episode is presented by: , and listeners like you!
Horses know when we're wrong and judge us silently. Imagine that. This week, we're talking to a legendary dressage pro about his remarkable journey in the sport and getting the low-down on all the wild things that have happened recently, from the EHV outbreak in California to the emotional finish at the Grand Prix of Eventing at Bruce's Field. Thanks for tuning in. Guests and Links Episode 96:Host: Justine Griffin, Award Winning Journalist with Heels Down MagazineHost: Jessica Payne, International Event Rider for Hampf EquestrianHost: Ellie Woznica Owner/Trainer of Double Barrel CreekDrink Recipe: Sparkling Rose CocktailLink: Boyd wins on Annie Goodwin's horseLink: Horses know when we're wrong Link: Update on EHV outbreaks in California Guest: Robert DoverGuest: Doug PayneSubscribe: The Brief | Donate | Our PatreonJoin our Facebook Group: Search for “Heels Down Happy Hour Podcast Lounge"Presenting Sponsor: Heels Down MagazineThank you to our sponsors! This episode is presented by: Soap for Dirty Equestrians, Candles For Burned-Out Equestrians, Eques Pante, Purina and listeners like you! Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/user?u=87421)
Episode 086 of That Was Disappointing is Live. As Winston Churchill once said, “Those that fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.” Pffft! What does that jerkoff know? Today's Theme: Topic Grab Bag. Totally taking a trip down memory lane with this one. Definitely NOT doing this because something went awry with the scheduling. No sirree, Bob! Our first topic is a meditation on the delicate art of ball/bush shaving. Yeah, it hurts but it's not the 70's anymore… hippie. Art went the extreme route and waxed his taint too. Why he felt the need to share this (let alone complete this task) is anyone's guess, although we appreciate his candor. Our second topic is what you wanted to be when you were growing up. You know, when we still had dreams and weren't chained to a cubicle. Kelly wanted to be a) involved with NASA and b) President of the moon, so she made it halfway to her goal. Better than Producer Kenny, who merely wanted to explore the waxed area around Art's uranus. Our third topic is the popularity of Episode 18. The episode that's blown every other episode out of the water in downloads, and none of us have the faintest idea why. Two boring guests, an in-depth discussion of Marxist theory and Lex failed to mention “BBJ” once. WHY IS THIS POPULAR!? Our final topic is your craziest coworker story. Because we all have one, and if you don't, it's because you're that crazy coworker. Like Robert, who worked with a guy that participated in the January 6th attempted insurrection. Or maybe it's Tyler Durden and that was him. Dun dun DUUUN!
Northside resident Robert received help from The Salvation Army after his sons’ mother died and increased pressures due to the pandemic. He joined John Williams to share his story and says he didn’t know where he’d be if The Salvation Army didn’t help.
Northside resident Robert received help from The Salvation Army after his sons’ mother died and increased pressures due to the pandemic. He joined John Williams to share his story and says he didn’t know where he’d be if The Salvation Army didn’t help.
Matt and Aiden talk about all the potential movement in the coaching staff and front office (Recorded before Dan Quinn hired)
In this weeks podcast Liam talks about his favourite Patrick Troughton adventure. Like Robert’s choice, it had Cybermen in it! But also UNIT, cool music, action, excitement, animation, and much more. Yes it’s “The Invasion”, but is it the best Troughton story? Listen and decide.
The Ross Bolen Podcast returns for its 275th episode. Hosted by Ross Bolen featuring co-host slash producer Mike Moody. Presented by Bolen Media. Full video of this episode: YouTube.com/BolenMedia 2 additional ad-free episodes of RBP each month: Patreon.com/RossBolenPodcast (0:00) Mo City Don Cover (4:31) Introduction (17:06) Becoming Nocturnal (20:30) Water Filtration Systems (27:27) College With COVID-19 (32:11) What Is A Coconut? (35:00) Green Text People Problems (36:32) Phone Tag 2020 (43:19) Maintaining Sanity During Social Distancing (59:31) Announcements and Conclusion Felix Gray: FelixGrayGlasses.com/RBP Ollie: MyOllie.com/try/RBP 888-WRBOLEN Twitter: @RossBolenPod, @WRBolen Instagram: @TheRossBolenPodcast , @WRBolen Snapchat: @WRBolen Recorded and produced by Mike Moody and Grant Davis at Permanent RCRD Studios in Austin, TX. permanentrcrd.com
In this Episode we talk about how is it possible to be tired without doing any work, how Migz looks like Robert De Niro, Akon & his city, Sports, Bad Boys III AND MORE....Like, Subscribe, Rate Us, Share!! Follow us :Instagram, Twitter & Facebook:@wbspodcast--------------------------------------------------------------------Send us an email with Topics Questions and / or looking for advice from this brilliant idiots send it over we'll see what we come up with.podcastwbs@gmail.com----------------------------------------------------------------Look for us in Spotify - Tune In - Apple Podcasts - Google Play
We start with introducing ourselves, then we discuss the Year End Wrap Up with Joe Budden & CTG. We tackle the important issue of trauma & how it relates to R. Kelly. Then we lighten it up answering important relationship questions & end with music we love. Enjoy!
Subscribe, 5 ⭐ And Please Write A Review! The funniest or biggest hater reviews are likely to get a shout out on the show. Listen, Watch, Review, and Share With A Friend! Law Smith is an SMB Consultant, Digital Strategist, Stand Up Comedian and President of Tocobaga Consulting. Eric Readinger is a Website Producer, Video Editor, Certified Strength & Conditioning Specialist, Artist, and Partner at Tocobaga Consulting.
Topics: AB verses Robert Kraft, hypocrisy and racism. Tekashi 6ix9ine is trying to come home, so the fellas tell on themselves before they are told on. Mix: Dj Tay Ferg
Sansa III - The One Where Sansa Yells That Joff is not Like Robert aka the Gang Gets Sent Back to Winterfell (3:52) Eddard XII - The One Where Cersei Says “You Win or You Die” aka the Gang Figures Out About All The Incest (20:45) Daenerys V - The One Where Dany Eats a Horse Heart aka The Gang Crowns Viserys (36:10) Eddard XIII - The One Where Robert Dies aka the Gang Tweaks the Royal Will (54:18) Jon VI - The Gang Swears their Night’s Watch Vows aka The One Where Ghost Finds Benjen’s Men (1:07:24) Eddard XIV - The Gang Usurps Robert’s Will aka the One Where Littlefinger Did Warn Ned Not To Trust Him, You Know (1:32:48) Arya IV - The One where the First Sword of Braavos Doesn’t Run aka the Gang Escapes the Red Keep (1:54:12) Support History of Westeros: bit.ly/howpatreon Flick Invite Link (PHONE ONLY): bit.ly/howflick Discord Invite Link: bit.ly/howdiscord Facebook group: bit.ly/howfb YouTube: bit.ly/howyoutube
Robert Mueller did not have a very good showing testifying before Congress. When someone gets old and loses a step mentally, what should be done? A financial advisor gives his thoughts on how people can avoid monetary and psychological stress providing care for those that are of an age where they are no longer playing with a full deck of cards. Important listening for anyone who was horrified by the Mueller Hearing.
Robert Greene, six-time international bestselling author of The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction, The 33 Strategies of War, The 50th Law, Mastery, and his latest book The Laws of Human Nature, joins our show in this special episode of the Elite Man Podcast! In today’s episode Robert discusses his latest book detailing the 18 laws of human nature and the many lessons we can learn about ourselves and about others by examining our natural flaws and weaknesses. He talks about why these laws are so important, why we all have them, and how we can grow simply by recognizing their existence. Like Robert’s fascinating books, this episode covers a myriad of historical figures and present-day celebrities, and breaks down the ways the laws of human nature apply to them and what we can learn by studying them. If you’re wondering how to master the laws of human nature found in all of us, check this episode out now! *Download this episode now and subscribe to our channel to get more of these amazing interviews! In our episode we go over: The amount of time it took Robert to write his latest book The Laws of Human Nature Why Robert wrote The Laws of Human Nature and how his previous books influenced the genesis of it The fact that you really don’t know yourself and why the image and idea we have of who we are is actually quite flawed Robert’s realization of his own personal flaws and what he’s done since coming up with this internal epiphany Experiencing and discovering different sides to your personality and the fact that we all keep facets of who we are repressed in certain situations Bringing out the favorable aspects of your personality in certain situations, on demand Looking at yourself as if you were another person and the benefits of this The 18 laws of human nature and the fact that every person represents each law to some degree, whether great or small How Robert came up with the 18 laws that encompass human nature Howard Hughes and the myth surrounding his life The lesson we can learn about human nature from understanding the real Howard Hughes The similarities between Elon Musk and Howard Hughes Why adapting even when you become successful is an absolute essential to maintaining your success The key to Steve Jobs’ success and his genius of knowing his strengths and covering up his weaknesses The fact that Stalin was a psychopathic narcissist The incredible strengths that narcissists possess and the glaring weaknesses that hold them back Trump’s narcissistic tendencies and where they may stem from Sociopaths vs. narcissists and the overlaps and differences between each Sam Vaknin one of the world’s reigning experts on narcissism Anton Chekov and the lessons we can learn about self-sabotage through the acceptance of others and the way they are Freeing yourself from the negative thoughts that arise throughout the day and what this can do for you Robert’s recent near-death experience and how this coincided with his 18th and final law What coming to terms with your own demise will do for you and the empathy and compassion that springs about Understanding yourself and the people around you better so that you can more easily navigate the social realm we all dwell in for approximately 80 years Check out Robert on: Website: powerseductionandwar.com Facebook: facebook.com/The-48-Laws-of-Power Twitter: twitter.com/RobertGreene Book: amazon.com/laws-of-human-nature Sponsors: *If you have not checked out our YouTube videos go to EliteManMagazine.com/youtube right now! 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One of the biggest mistakes we witness people make in relationship is the decision, conscious or unconscious, to rein in some of their own desires or dreams because it triggers their partner, because they think it’ll cause too much of a stir, or because of they convince themselves they “should”. See if you can relate to any of these examples from people we’ve been coaching recently. Anna thinks there is something wrong with her because she doesn’t want to marry and have children with the man she has been dating for ten months. After all, he’s a good guy, loyal and responsible (in stark contrast to her ex). He really wants to marry her and make a new life together. So Anna is trying to talk herself out of her feelings of doubt and lack of desire to marry, in order to make him happy and because it just makes logical sense to marry this nice guy. Anthony damps down his desire for sex in several ways: By not acknowledging his need for it in the moment; by trying to talk to himself out of wanting it by minimizing its importance (“It’s not that big of deal, anyway. I’m fine without it”); by not initiating sex or touch with his partner; by backing off at the first sign of discomfort or refusal; and by routinely putting his partner’s needs ahead of his own. Finally, Robert, who is in the throes of divorce and is discovering that he doesn’t know what he wants anymore. He has gone along with his wife’s desires and demands for some 30 years and has totally lost touch with his feelings, desires and dreams. During their marriage it simply became second nature to let her desires be their desires, and whenever he did want something different from her, to just let it slide, because “it was easier that way”. In each of these three examples, you could make the case that they are just being generous – they want their partner to have what they want and need. You could say they are being flexible, because they’re not attached to having things their own way. We could posit that they are peacemakers who value harmony more than getting what they want. We could even call them super spiritual in the sense that “The Great Way is easy for those who have no preferences”. Just today, we read a great article [https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/how-to-have-a-long-lasting-relationship] that states the most important ingredient of a lasting relationship is generosity. We don’t disagree, generosity is essential. However, in the three examples above, our friends are not being generous. Let me qualify that. I’m not suggesting that they are not generous and flexible people, or that they don’t want their partners to have everything they need, or that they’re not spiritual or understanding people. I know for a fact that they are these things, too. The problem here is that what masks as generosity or flexibility in reality is much more avoidance of “trouble”, fear of rejection, lack of power to stand up for oneself, or flat-out laziness. There’s always a long-term price to pay for the short-term gain of “not making trouble” by letting your own desires go. Whenever anyone damps down their own feelings or shuts off their own desires to avoid upset or conflict in relationship, whenever they don't stay engaged and go for what they want and create win/wins that enliven both partners, they set themselves up for breakdown; ultimately risking the stability of their relationship. No one can remain disconnected from themselves and their feelings and their passions for a prolonged period of time without the potential consequence of wanting to break free from their imprisoned experience in relationship in an attempt to “find themselves” again. In other words, negating your own desires and dreams over time creates resentment. This is tricky stuff, no doubt. Who can’t relate to wanting something that you know might trigger your partner, so you go, “Whatever, it really isn’t that important”? You let it slide and don’t speak up about what it was you really wanted. And for a while, it’s totally fine. Until it isn’t. Like Robert, who inadvertently did this with everything, by his own admission. Where they went on holidays, when they took holidays, or not; who they visited, for how long; what color to paint the house, what school to send their kids to, you name it. Her preference became their preference. For the longest time, this system worked fine. Only now, as they’re divorcing, he’s resentful in retrospect that he always got “steamrolled”. In our coaching, he had a profound realization. He went along with her desires because “it was easier”. In doing so, he believed he did her a favor by not causing a stir and thus keeping the peace in the house. He believed he was being easy-going and flexible, and that she’d love him more for it. What actually happened? She lost respect for him, and he lost respect for himself. Plus, he totally lost touch with what he actually wanted about pretty much every aspect of life. To be blunt, he “chickened out” on his own dreams. I offered him this image. From her point of view, his “going-alongness” made her feel alone. It’s like, every time she’d offer up an idea, instead of a sparring partner, he showed up as an amorphous blob, without any distinct boundaries or edges, like a bowl of jelly. In partnership, it produces safety and connection when a partner can put her hand on the other and feel some substance instead of “jelly”. Flexibility and easy-goingness are great qualities and can absolutely support harmony and easy flow. Always yielding like a jellyfish, however, produces loneliness and resentment. Generosity is indeed an absolutely crucial part of a successful, loving relationship. Self-sacrifice to the extent of not getting what you need is something else entirely. The article we quoted above included this important detail: “Giving until it hurts or trying to buy affection does not develop a healthy relationship ... It does not take the place of caring for yourself or expecting your partner to do his or her part.” It’s easy to get mad at your partner when you don’t get what you want. It’s tempting for Anne to get mad at her boyfriend for pushing the marriage agenda. It seems logical for Anthony to get mad at his partner for not being more into sex. (On a side note, there are many ways to communicate directly to your partner about situations where you want seemingly different things. That is outside the scope of this article.) Here, we want to offer you the opportunity to look inwards, specifically at where you let go of your own desires, for whatever reason, when in actuality it was important to you. Look at where, like Robert, you let it happen that you don’t get what you want. Where you let it be ok, even though it’s not really ok with you, to not get your needs met. We encourage you to ask yourself questions like: Where am I not going for what I want? Where am I settling? Where am I holding myself back from my own passionate aliveness? Where do I “forget” what I want and need, in the interest of peacemaking, taking care of my partner, or someone else’s desires? What am I afraid would happen if I stood up for what I want and need? The upside here is for you to find your own clarity about what you want, and the power and worthiness to stand up for what you want as well as what your partner wants. Optimally, you’re saying (and this is part of our definition of a successful relationship or marriage), “I deserve to have what I want, and so do you. I want you to have your needs met, and I want that for me, too. I’m not going to sacrifice my needs to satisfy yours, or yours to satisfy mine. We are both going to get what we want. If we don’t know how to accomplish that, we’ll learn. But we’re not giving up on both of us being satisfied”. You might even consider that you owe it, not only to yourself, but to your relationship, and to your children (if you have children), to listen to the whispers of your dreams and desires, lest you end up resentful that someone didn’t give you everything you wanted. So take the risk. Go for what you want, for what makes your heart sing. Work it out with your partner, so you both get to fly. If you don't know how to do that by yourself, learn. Get help. And don’t back off from what you want. :-) Sonika & Christian PS. 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It is official, all of Roberts schemes have been exposed! He doesn’t care though because all he cares about now is his son. We believe Robert has changed, but that won't stop bad things from happening to him. We predict bad things will continue to happen until the Christmas episode which will be the cause of his complete turn around and start this road to redemption. Besides #RobRon, Sunshine and Scooter talk about politics (how can we not!). The USA is on a downward spiral people, we are watching history in the making, the USA is collapsing like the Roman Empire. RobRon Playlist 2017W48 https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLz2cQ_0d4dfAWhFd5RSbuGLm4BplwQ4iV Contact Info: Email: innievsouttie@gmail.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/InnieVsOuttie Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InnieVsOuttie
Ever heard one of those crazy stories and think, “How did they do that?!” Well, Robert has one of those! He’s the only man in history to walk both the North and South Poles unassisted and has a lot to say about life. Our Guest: Robert Swan is a polar explorer, environmentalist and the first man ever to walk unsupported to both the North and South Poles. He is an exceptionally gifted communicator and is regarded as one of the world’s top motivational speakers. He compares his icy experiences to boardroom maneuvers and his inspirational addresses have received the acclaim of discerning audiences worldwide. His contribution to education and the environment have been recognized through his appointment as UN Goodwill Ambassador for Youth, a Visiting Professorship of the School of Environment at Leeds University and in 1994 he became Special Envoy to the Director General of UNESCO. He was awarded the OBE in 1995. In 2003 and 2004, Robert and his company, 2041, delivered the first ever corporate Antarctic Expeditions on teamwork and leadership. Through positive participation and real missions, the unique insights and lessons he has learned, have enabled Robert Swan to educate and stimulate his audiences. Like Robert’s FB page here or visit 2041.com. Quick Preview of the Podcast: - What walking 900 miles, 9 hours straight every day, for months on end teaches you about life. - How you can open your mind to new realms when there’s no foreseeable hope. - The truth about global warming and how to fix it. - Why you have the power to make your wildest dreams come true, even if no one believes in them. Learn how to overcome anything in your life with this heroic story of adventure that we’re all capable of taking. FREE Guided Meditation for Self Care (led by Shannon) https://programs.shannonalgeo.com/selfcare-meditation
As a parent(1), I think a lot about my children's education(2). Is it good or bad? Is it varied, hands-on(3), relevant? The only way to really(4) find out, is to look at their text books, go to their schools, and talk to their teachers. And then, we have to remember that each person is unique; each has different preferences, ways of learning, and abilities. Some people are comfortable with academics, and others are not(5). Some students are good at taking exams, and others prefer to demonstrate their knowledge in other ways. Recently, my son Robert has been at home with a bad cough. He has been bugging me to buy him an electrical circuit. So, we shopped around until we found the perfect 'kit'(6). It has batteries, a light, a motor that spins, sound devices, and connecting wires. There is also a booklet(7) that gives instructions and warnings, pictures, and general advice. So Robert has spent hours connecting, fiddling(8), and creating, and every minute that goes by he learns something. Play and imagination are great teachers. And learning doesn't necessarily happen on paper, or on a computer screen. When I asked Robert what was so good about his kit, he said, "It's the energy hook-ups(9), and seeing what you can do with them." 1. 'As a parent' this kind of phrase is used with different nouns/titles. a. As a teacher, I try to understand how my students learn best. b. As a policeman, he tries to be observant. 2. 'I think a lot about my children's education'. This is a good format for other sentences. a. We think a lot about our father's health. b. They think a lot about their safety because they live in Hurricane Valley. c. He thinks a lot about buying land in the future. 3. 'Hands-on' refers to activities that involve touch and manipulation. a. The new children's museum in Spokane is hands-on; the kids can really touch, feel, and play with the displays. b. Babies and toddlers learn most of their lessons in a hands-on way. 4. 'The only way to really +verb..., is to ...' another great format for a sentence. a. The only way to really make money, is to work hard for a long time. b. The only way to really make a point, is to speak intelligently. c. The only way to really understand a culture, is to live in that country. 5. 'Some people are comfortable with academics, and others are not.' In this sentence, the adjective doesnot have to be repeated at the end. a. Some people love chocolate, and others don't. b. Some laws are fair, and others aren't. c. Some people work eight hours a day, and others don't. 6. A 'kit' is usually a set of objects that all fit together or work together for a common purpose. Like Robert's kit, all the parts in the box can be used to build different electrical circuits. a. I bought a kit to build a bird house for the garden. It had wood, nails, glue, and paint. b. My husband always has a tire repair kit with him when he goes biking. 7. A 'booklet' is a small, soft book, similar to a pamphlet but bigger. We usually receive booklets with new appliances for instruction. a. The booklet that came with my new vacuum cleaner is not clear. b. You need to read the instructions that came in the booklet so you know how to put the drawers together. 8. 'Fiddling' comes from the verb 'to fiddle' which means 'to manipulate with your hands', 'to mess about', and 'to experiment physically with something'. Kids are good 'fiddlers'. a. Someone has been fiddling with my alarm clock, and now it doesn't work. b. I wish you wouldn't fiddle with my make-up; it's all untidy now. 9. A 'hook-up' is often used generally for a connection of some kind, especially electrical or metallic. a. Where is the hook-up to the power supply? b. We need the correct hook-up to connect the boat to the truck. Join me on FACEBOOK at Anna Fromacupofenglish. Questions and comments? Would you like Skype lessons? Contact me at acupofenglish@hotmail.com. // //
A sermon preached at St Pauls Navasota, 9.16.12