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His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to extramarital affairs. Building an Affair-Proof Marriage "His Needs, Her Needs" by Willard F. Harley - Book PReview Book of the Week - BOTW - Season 7 Book 33 Buy the book on Amazon https://amzn.to/3SXOsPk GET IT. READ :) #relationship #needs #growth FIND OUT which HUMAN NEED is driving all of your behavior http://6-human-needs.sfwalker.com/ Human Needs Psychology + Emotional Intelligence + Universal Laws of Nature = MASTER OF LIFE AWARENESS https://www.sfwalker.com/master-life-awareness --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/sfwalker/support
Lisa Roers, of Sunshine Cafe, walked through her own health journey. After dozens of doctors, she learned how a healthy lifestyle would improve her life & her family. These tips & tricks can help your kids pay attention and focus better on their studies.In this episode, you'll discover:✅ 1 food to remove from your diet to make a long term impact in your family✅ 5 types of fasting✅ How fasting can grow self discipline in your kids and your own life✅ Tips to encourage your kids to fastResource Mentioned:Book by Willard F. Harley, Jr. - "His Needs, Her Needs"With 26-years in corporate America, Lisa Roers excelled in Business Development, Executive Coaching, and Enterprise Agile Coaching, until her health took an unexpected turn. In 2017, Lisa was hit with an auto-immune disease which escalated to the point where she was unable to walk! After the exhausting journey through 26 doctors across 8 specializations, without any concrete diagnosis or clear path for healing, Lisa leaned into her faith and embraced being her own self-advocate (with God), and has effectively reclaimed her complete health. Today, Lisa teaches Christ-followers how to put their health first while they chase their dreams of success, so they can live life to the full and be their best for God, for their family and for their career. Lisa is a Certified Coach, CEO of the Sunshine Cafe Podcast, a keynote speaker, a disciple of Jesus, a wife, a mom, and a professional musician. www.LisaRoers.com FacebookInstagramPodcast on YouTubePodcast on SpotifyPodcast on Apple
Dive into the world view of men with Junior Smith & Mychael Starke as they reveal the essence of empathy in relationships. In this episode, these men discuss (in detail) things like how to recognize emotions, balance understanding without mere agreement, and the impact of external stresses on our empathetic responses. Listen in to learn more and equip yourself with tools and to build more empathetic connections with your spouse and family. Podcast Mentions Facebook Group: Join the Family! Find more info on Willard F. Harley here. Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/support
Have you ever taken the time to think about what your needs are - to really understand them? We are ALL so busy with so many different things and activities. It's so easy to get caught up in the demands of daily life and put our own needs on the back burner, trying to do everything for everyone else. Knowing and understanding your needs - good, bad or indifferent - is critical for your overall well-being and happiness, it will keep you from feeling empty or burned out - and it's like oxygen, as you feel more understood and respected in your relationships.Books Mentioned:His Needs, Her Needs: Building a Marriage That Lasts - by Willard F. Harley, Jr.His Needs, Her Needs: Making Romantic Love Last - by Willard F. Harley, Jr.The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts - by Gary ChapmanThe 5 Love Languages of Teenagers: The Secret to Loving Teens Effectively - by Gary ChapmanThe 5 Love Languages of Children - by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell—----Subscribe to You Can Do Amazing Things and if you would please leave a rating and review - that would mean the world to me! xo - HollieI'd love to connect!DM me on Instagram @hollierumman | Leave me a voicemail >> Website
Cet épisode fait suite à la lecture du livre "Elle et lui - Combler les besoins de chacun pour une relation durable" de Willard F. Harley. Il est disponible sur Amazon : https://amzn.to/3UB2Psg. Depuis l'année 2018, Dieu me fait lire des livres sur le mariage. Ce livre est l'un des meilleurs livres sur le mariage. D'ailleurs, il y un blog post sur le site La Femme Victorieuse avec une liste de livres pour les personnes mariées, ou les personnes qui aspirent au mariage. Voici le lien : https://lafemmevictorieuse.com/le-blog2/les-livres-pour-preparer-ton-mariage/2022. Le mariage c'est beau, mais c'est du travail. Il faut se préparer avant de se marier, ou encore s'instruire dans le mariage. Comprendre le fonctionnement de l'autre, mais surtout la volonté de Dieu dans le mariage fait toute la différence. Dieu veut t'aider à avoir un mariage épanoui et réussi. Prie et laisse-le te guider vers les bons contenus pour toi. La Femme Victorieuse, c'est la transformation, l'élévation, le positionnement, et la victoire avec Dieu. Pour aller plus loin, vous pouvez vous procurer nos livres de prières sur Amazon : https://www.amazon.fr/Jessy-Herelle/e/B095X9L2JW/, ou encore visiter notre site de prières et de développement spirituel en accès libre : https://lafemmevictorieuse.com/. Nous avons aussi des sessions de formation en ligne pour les femmes qui souhaitent passer au prochain niveau avec Dieu : "L'identité et la puissance de la femme selon Dieu" - https://lafemmevictorieuse.com/lidentiteetlapuissancedelafemme. De plus, si vous parlez anglais, nous vous invitons à visiter notre blog sur l'amour pure "In love with love" : https://loveloveandlove.uk/. Nous avons aussi un Podcast "Love, love and love". Enfin, si vous parlez portugais brésilien, vous pouvez nous suivre sur Instagram : @amulhervitoriosa44. Nous avons aussi un site pour les femmes de Dieu : https://www.amulhervitoriosa.com/, et une chaîne YouTube “AMulherVitoriosa”. La Femme Victorieuse, c'est la transformation, l'él...
Tonight we are joined by Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr. You can find all of his resources on https://www.marriagebuilders.com/ Biography: Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. is best known as author of the internationally best selling book, His Needs, Her Needs: Building An Affair-proof Marriage. Over four million copies have been purchased, and it is available in twenty-two foreign translations. Dr. Harley earned a Ph.D. degree in psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara in 1967 and has been a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in Minnesota since 1975. For the first ten years after earning his degree, he taught psychology at both the graduate and undergraduate levels. During those years, he was also a frustrated part-time marriage counselor with little success in helping couples. In 1973 he discovered that he was not alone in his failure to save marriages — almost everyone in the marital therapy profession were also failing. So he spent the next two years designing an entirely new approach (see How Dr. Harley Learned to Save Marriages). When his success rate skyrocketed in 1977, he resigned from his teaching position to counsel full-time. Over the next ten years his solo practice developed into the largest network of mental health clinics in Minnesota (thirty-two locations) with over one hundred psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers and chemical dependency counselors working with him to provide a full range of mental health services. He became the exclusive provider of mental health and chemical dependency services in ten counties, and had offices in other counties as well. One of his responsibilities was to write support materials for the clinical program he directed. He created over one hundred questionnaires and wrote numerous articles that were given to clients as part of their therapy. Among the materials he wrote was His Needs, Her Needs, which was first published in 1986. Although it was written to be a support text for his marriage counseling program, within three years it had become a national best-seller and a basic reference for marriage counselors throughout the nation. By 1988 he found himself spending almost all of his time administering his clinics, and very little time doing what he enjoyed most — improving his marital therapy program. So he began turning his clinics over to the counselors who worked with him, and the ownership of his last clinic was transferred in 1993. Since then, he has written 19 more books and hundreds of articles. Dr. Harley continues to write, speak, and lead seminars throughout the US and Canada. Information regarding booking arrangements for his weekend seminar is found at How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love Seminar. Dr. and Mrs. Harley also host a daily one-hour call-in show, Marriage Builders® Radio. It can be heard on radio stations and on the Internet. They have been married for 58 years and live in White Bear Lake, Minnesota. They have two adult children, who are now working with them as marriage coaches, four grandchildren, and 4 great-grandchildren.
What are the needs of men and women in marriage? In this Following to Lead episode, Kevin East engages in a conversation with Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D., the author of an internationally best-selling book with over four million copies that have been purchased and are available in twenty-two foreign translations. Do you want to know about needs in marriage and how to solve conflict? Listen to find out more! Follow Jesus Lead Differently. The Mentoring Alliance https://www.thementoringalliance.com/ For donations https://www.thementoringalliance.com/donate https://www.marriagebuilders.com/ https://twitter.com/MarriageBuilder https://www.facebook.com/Marriagebuildersradio https://www.youtube.com/user/MarriageBuilders Similar Episodes: Ep. 71 • Healthy Marriage with Chris Legg Ep. 65 • Setting Goals In Marriage
Doctor Willard F. Harley, Junior's classic relationship book His Needs Her Needs has sold over 4 million copies worldwide and has been used in countless marriage counseling groups and offices. In this episode of the podcast, a married guest co-host and I detail the 5 most important needs most men have in marriage and serious long-term monogamous relationships, from multiple angles. If you want to know what are the most important things you as a woman need to do, maintain, or improve to help better your relationship and give it the best chance at success, this is the episode for you! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/whatizhethinking/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/whatizhethinking/support
Here are our top 5 books from 2021 with honorable mentions of the other 40+ books we read this year. We love to read as a way to grow our minds to different ideas and perspectives and we hope you enjoy these books as much as we do! Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 2:46 - Intro to High and Low from 2021 6:47 - Actual(!) High and Low from 2021 11:44 - The Books of 2021 13:28 - Quick Thank You to Our Sponsors 14:06 - The Books of 2021 cont. 31:09 - Good Word Of The Day!!! 33:21 - Continued Focus on Health Gigantic 2021 Book Review Jihae Books 1 The Madness of Crowds by Douglas Murray 2 Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy 3 Daring Greatly by Brene Brown 4 No Greater Love by AW Tozer 5 The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: How to Stay Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in the Chaos of the Modern World John Mark Comer 6 Business Made Simple: 60 Days to Master Leadership, Sales, Marketing, Execution, Management, Personal Productivity and More Don Miller 7 The Tanning of America: How Hip-Hop Created a Culture That Rewrote the Rules of the New Economy Steve Stoute 8 The Gospel Comes with a House Key: Practicing Radically Ordinary Hospitality in Our Post-Christian World Rosaria Butterfiled 9 Crying in H Mart: A Memoir Michelle Zauner 10 Never Lose a Customer Again: Turn Any Sale into Lifelong Loyalty in 100 Days Joseph Coleman 11 I Am Here: The Journey from Fear to Freedom Ashley Lemieux 12 Surprised by Joy: The Shape of My Early Life CS Lewis 13 Eat a Peach David Chang 14 Fortitude: American Resilience in the Era of Outrage Dan Crenshaw 15 Real Artists Don't Starve: Timeless Strategies for Thriving in the New Creative Age By: Jeff Goins 16 Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life By: Emily Nagoski PhD 17 The Hiding Place by Corrie Ten Boom Re-Read Books 18 For Women Only by Shauti Feldhahn 19 Essentialism by Greg McKeown 20 Love Does by Bob Goff Chris's Books 1 Wizard's First Rule: Sword of Truth, Book 1 Terry Goodkind 2 What Got You Here Won't Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful Marshall Goldsmith 3 His Needs, Her Needs: Building a Marriage That Lasts By: Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr. 4 Nonviolent Communication: Create Your Life, Your Relationships, and Your World in Harmony with Your Values Marshall Rosenberg PhD 5 Public Speaking for Success Jim Rohn 6 It Worked for Me: In Life and Leadership – Colin Powell 7 Twelve Pillars – By: Jim Rohn , Chris Widener 8 More Than a Carpenter Josh McDowell 9 Tangled Up in Blue: Policing the American City – Rosa Brooks 10 Re-read The Compound Effect Read Together 11 Feeding the Mouth That Bites You: A Complete Guide to Parenting Adolescents and Launching Them into the World Kenneth Wilgus PhD 12 Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew By: Sherrie Eldridge 13 The Anatomy of Peace, Expanded Second Edition: Resolving the Heart of Conflict The Arbinger Institute 14 The Outward Mindset: Seeing Beyond Ourselves The Arbinger Institute 15 Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box The Arbinger Institute 16 A Promised Land by Barack Obama 17 How To Have Your Best Year Ever Jim Rohn 18 Your Turn: How to Be an Adult by Julie Lythcott Haims 19 Winning the War in Your Mind: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life – By: Craig Groeschel Keeping Score: Jihae - 29 Books Chris - 19 Books Jihae is the 2021 FV Pod Book Reading Champion!! Other Links: Lily's devo she did on the Bible App - Growing Your Faith Patrick Lencioni 5 Dysfunctions of a Team At The Table with Patrick Lencioni: The Five Dysfunctions … Dave Ramsey Goal Sheet Bek and Kev goal setting with kids Good Word of the Day “Don't ask yourself how you can be more efficient, ask yourself how you can be more effective.” – Carey Nieuwhof Wishing you all a great new year of healthy bodies, spirits, and minds! If you would like to connect: Fostering Voices on Instagram You can also email us! Follow us on YouTube! AND we would LOVE it if you would SUBSCRIBE and leave us a review on iTunes! This helps others to find our podcast so we can share these voices from the foster care and adoption community with more people! If you want to see how to leave a review, check out this handy little video!
In today's episode, I talk about communication and marriage. Over the long weekend, I had a chance to connect with my husband and we talked about what I could talk about on the podcast. Richard and I don't necessarily fight but we do bicker with each other like old people, only because of how long we've known each other. This week, I share ways that you can communicate with your partner and what communication looks like in a marriage. Rachel shares how she and her husband got into an argument over the weekend and what transpired afterward (1:48) How to approach the role of housework with your spouse - tips from author and marriage expert Willard F. Harley, Jr's book. One way is to identify all the household responsibilities (5:14) Many women have this argument that they don't get the help that they need in the household, but this can be avoided through proper communication about each other's roles. Rachel shares how this looks like between her and her husband (9:30) Communicating with your spouse about what you need help with is important to consider. Another way to address housework and avoid conflict according to Willard F. Harley Jr is to communicate which tasks you don't mind doing yourself (11:12) When it comes to housework marriage takes you a step further because you do things for each other because you care about each other's feelings and not because you want them done yourself (13:27) Book mentioned: His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley Jr. This episode is sponsored by She Made Herself a Home, my book that will help you discover how to create a home that is inviting, beautiful, functional and uniquely personal all while staying on budget. It is a home decor planner that features beautiful photography from more than 40 real homes and contributions from other successful home decor bloggers. I promise it will make home designing an exciting, un-intimidating process. My hope is that these pages spark your passions, guide you to create spaces you love and most importantly give you the confidence to try something new. Anyone, no matter age, status, income level or past can make a home for herself and those she loves. Because no one has to break the bank to bring new life, intention and purpose to a home. You can buy your copy anywhere books are sold or at crateandcottage.com/book. Connect with me on Instagram at @crateandcottage Visit my website: crateandcottage.com/
Welcome back to Our Parenthood Podcast! Finally, this is the fifth and final installment of every man and woman needs series based on Willard F. Harley, Jr's book. In this conversation, we'll learn practical ways to show that your family is your primary commitment and how it should reflect in your energies, as well as what Dennis and Thammie admire with each other and how they portray it in their everyday marriage life. Tune in now! *** DISCLAIMER: The views and opinions expressed by the podcast creators, hosts, and guests do not necessarily reflect the official policy and position of Podcast Network Asia. Any content provided by the people on the podcast are of their own opinion, and are not intended to malign any religion, ethnic group, club, organization, company, individual, or anyone or anything.
Welcome to a new episode of Our Parent Hood podcast! This episode will tackle the third set of man and woman's needs in every marriage, still based on Willard F. Harley, Jr's book. The couple will talk about various influences that could affect each married couple's needs, the common denominator of these needs, as well as what each couple's responsibilities are in order for these needs to be fulfilled. Tune in on Episode 37 of Our Parent Hood Podcast if you're ready for a great discussion! --- DISCLAIMER: The views and opinions expressed by the podcast creators, hosts, and guests do not necessarily reflect the official policy and position of Podcast Network Asia. Any content provided by the people on the podcast are of their own opinion, and are not intended to malign any religion, ethnic group, club, organization, company, individual, or anyone or anything.
Hey there, neighbors! Welcome to Our Parent Hood Podcast! For this week's episode, Dennis and Thammie will talk us through the second set of the needs of man and woman in every marriage based on Willard F. Harley, Jr.'s book. In this podcast, the dynamic couple will teach us how to handle each other's differences by creating common ground, create companionship by doing things together, build conversation by bouncing off thoughts and ideas, and lastly, how they learn from each other. All that and more, when you tune in on Episode 36 of Our Parent Hood Podcast! --- DISCLAIMER: The views and opinions expressed by the podcast creators, hosts, and guests do not necessarily reflect the official policy and position of Podcast Network Asia. Any content provided by the people on the podcast are of their own opinion, and are not intended to malign any religion, ethnic group, club, organization, company, individual, or anyone or anything.
So you know your partner's love language. But do you know your partner's emotional needs? In this episode we've got the Doctor himself, Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. author of the internationally best selling book, His Needs, Her Needs: Building An Affair-proof Marriage. It's a book that's sold over four million copies. and it is available in twenty-two foreign translations. So what are the 10 emotional needs? 1. Affection 2. Sexual Fulfillment 3. Conversation 4. Recreational Companionship 5. Honesty & Openness 6. Attractiveness of Spouse 7. Financial Support 8. Domestic Support 9. Family commitment 10. Admiration And there's more! You can have and give your partner all the emotional love, commit to fulfilling their needs, but if you've got love busters in your marriage you can get into real trouble. The 6 Love Busters: 1. Selfish Demands 2. Disrespectful Judgements 3. Angry Outbursts 4. Dishonesty 5. Independent behavior 6. Annoying Habits Dr. Harley earned a Ph.D. degree in psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara in 1967 and has been a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in Minnesota since 1975. For the first ten years after earning his degree, he taught psychology at both the graduate and undergraduate levels. During those years, he was also a frustrated part-time marriage counselor with little success in helping couples. Books :Books | The Marriage Builders® Bookstore - Books | Marriage Builders, Inc. Questionnaires: Forms and Questionnaires | Marriage Builders, Inc. Marriage Builders Radio Marriage Builders® Radio | Marriage Builders, Inc. Website: Marriage Builders® - Successful Marriage Advice | Marriage Builders, Inc. Got Marriage questions? Submit them here: Podcast – lifepixrelationships.com
Every relationship starts with attraction and some passion. And true intimacy grows as we get to know and discover each other. And then we make the decision to commit ourselves exclusively to each other through saying our "I do's".But this is just the beginning of building a lifelong love. As time goes by challenges of blending set in, life gets busy and stressful. It's common for passion, intimacy and commitment to slowly subside. And while it's unrealistic to expect that you'll maintain the same sizzling level of passion, or the deep connection of intimacy, or the strong resolve of commitment — that doesn't mean the flames of romance have to just burn out. In this episode, we'll share some practical ways that you can cultivate more passion, intimacy and commitment in your marriage. You'll Discover:3 elements every marriage needs to be successfulSimple ways to cultivate more passion, intimacy and commitment in your relationshipBlended family challenges that can decrease passion, intimacy and commitment — and how to keep moving forwardWhat happens when a marriage lacks passion, intimacy or commitmentResources from this Episode:Scott River Lodge Retreat: https://www.scottriverlodge.comCheck out this video from Scott River LodgeBook Reference: Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts by Les & Leslie ParrottiMOM Article: Put the Spark Back in Your Marriage with a Spark JarBook Recommendation: His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr.Episode 51: Overcoming Discouragement (Part 1)Schedule your Free Coaching Call with Mike & KimSubscribe & Review in Apple PodcastsWe encourage you to subscribe today so you don't miss an episode. Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsWe would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review”. Thank you!Want to Support the Show?You can join our mission of safe-guarding marriages and supporting step-couples by connecting with our Patreon community. Consider joining our community for as little as $4 per month and as a "thank you" — you'll have even more access directly to us! Click here to join our community today
IN THIS EPISODE OF Marriage Builders® RADIO: Program #1946 Bill and Joyce Harley explain the emotional needs concept found in Dr. Harley's best-selling book, "His Needs Her Needs." PART 1 OF 2 - David writes to Bill and Joyce Harley that he completed the emotional needs questionnaire with his wife. How often should they retake the questionnaire? Do your emotional needs change frequently (Program ID: 1946-1a) ------------------------------------------ PART 2 OF 2 - David writes to Bill and Joyce Harley that he completed the emotional needs questionnaire with his wife. How often should they retake the questionnaire? Do your emotional needs change frequently? PART 1 OF 2 - A listener writes to Bill and Joyce Harley that his wife contradicts him in their home and in public. He finds it annoying, disrespectful, and embarrassing. How can he get her to stop these contradictions? (Program ID: 1946-1b) ------------------------------------------ PART 2 OF 2 - A listener writes to Bill and Joyce Harley that his wife contradicts him in their home and in public. He finds it annoying, disrespectful, and embarrassing. How can he get her to stop these contradictions? (Program ID: 1946-1c) ------------------------------------------ PART 1 OF 2 - Jeffery writes to Bill and Joyce Harley that he has been married for three years. While they were engage, he had a sexual encounter with his former girlfriend. He disclosed this information to his wife before they were married. Ever since, his wife is afraid he will have an affair. She asks that he does not attend meetings where women are present. This, along with other demands, have limited his ability to function at work. He tries to be open about his activities at work, but it hasn't changed her demands. What should they do? (Program ID: 21946-1d) ------------------------------------------ PART 2 OF 2 - Jeffery writes to Bill and Joyce Harley that he has been married for three years. While they were engage, he had a sexual encounter with his former girlfriend. He disclosed this information to his wife before they were married. Ever since, his wife is afraid he will have an affair. She asks that he does not attend meetings where women are present. This, along with other demands, have limited his ability to function at work. He tries to be open about his activities at work, but it hasn't changed her demands. What should they do? Joanne writes to Bill and Joyce Harley that her husband has a negative outlook on almost everything in life. He is upset with his work, family, finances, etc. Nothing seems to please him. Where can she start if he gets upset discussing his negativity? (Program ID: 21946-2a) ------------------------------------------ Sandra writes to Bill and Joyce Harley that she became pregnant after dating her boyfriend for three months. They married due to the pregnancy; however, she never considered him a romantic partner, because they don't have a romantic chemistry. How can she start loving him when there was no romance at the start? (Program ID: 2220-2b) ------------------------------------------ Marriage Builders® RADIO Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. is a Licensed clinical Psychologist of over 45 years and is a best selling author of many books on marriage including His Needs, Her Needs: An Affair-proof Marriage. Dr. Harley and his wife, Joyce, host Marriage Builders® Radio to discuss marriage related issues and to answer your questions about problems you may be having in your marriage. #marriage #marriagehelp #marriageadvice #marriagesolutions
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Hello friends, welcome back to a new episode of The Curious One! I have a very interesting episode for you.. I'm diving head first into relationships, and more specifically, polyamory. If you have not heard of polyamory before, it can be defined as the philosophy or state of encouraging simultaneous loving relationships with the full knowledge and consent of all parties. Although, each form of polyamory will be defined differently depending on the individuals involved. In this episode I sat down with Lindsay Dixon to chat about her personal journey with polyamory. Lindsay has been with her partner for over 11 years and they have been exploring polyamory for 6 years now. Lindsay and her partner have a son, and her metamour (the partner of one's partner, with whom one does not share a direct sexual or loving relationship), has been in her life for over six months now.In our conversation we journeyed through:what does polyamory mean to you?Lindsay's personal journey with polyamorythe biggest challenges she faced when she first transitioned into polyamorysociety's expectations around relationships / love and the effect that it has on usunpacking polyamory vocabulary how do you handle jealousy & can jealousy be viewed as a positive thing feminism & masculinity children and polyamory - the conversation she had with her son and sharing about their family dynamic Lindsay's advice to those who have children and are wanting to explore polyamorywhat happens if your partner is with someone that you do not like?what advice would you give to someone who wants to try polyamory or is just starting out on their polyamory journey?what piece of relationship advice would you give to individuals regardless of their relationship dynamic?what do you hope people take away from us having this conversation around polyamory?MENTIONED:The Curious One Episode 025: A Conversation About Masculinity // Andy Nguyen & Nuke Kombian (KingsOfHearts)Brene Brown (author)Creating An Affair Proof Marriage byThe Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman Find out your Love Languages HereHis Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr.POLYAMORY RESOURCES:More Than Two by Eve Rickert and Franklin VeauxThe Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet HardyBoundaries by Dr. Henry CloudSex At Dawn by Christopher RyanCompersion, Polyamory Beyond Jealousy by Hypatia from SpacePolyamory | Psychology Today"Whatever your priorities, whoever you are, and whichever people you're fortunate enough to bring into your life, for a time, or forever, remember that healthy relationships start with you. They start with your own level of self-confidence, your individual ability to be present and committed to growth, and your personal dedication to be a net-positive for the world; to be someone who adds to the lives of others, rather than sapping them of joy and momentum." -Colin WrightFor more information, resources, and detailed show notes check out my website!
Jump into the conversation as we discuss affection in marriage from the book "His Needs, Her Needs" by Willard F. Harley. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jordan110/support
Season 3 rolls on! Today we're talking about filling and poking holes in "the love tank/bank" as we continue to work through the book "His Needs, Her Needs" by Willard F. Harley, Jr. Press play! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jordan110/support
Romantic Love in Marriage with Dr. Willard Harvey Proverbs 3:17 (NIV) “Her ways are pleasant ways, and all her paths are peace.” Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. is best known as author of the internationally best selling book, His Needs, Her Needs. Over four million copies have been purchased, and it is available in twenty-two foreign translations. Dr. Harley earned a Ph.D. degree in psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara in 1967 and has been a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in Minnesota since 1975. Dr. and Mrs. Harley also host a daily one-hour call-in show, Marriage Builders® Radio. It can be heard on radio stations and on the Internet. They live in White Bear Lake, Minnesota. They have two adult children, who are now working with them as marriage coaches, and four grandchildren. They are also great-grandparents. 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Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.” Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.” Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.” John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.” Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.” Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“ Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“ Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”
Welcome to season 3! This go around we are walking through the book "His Needs, Her Needs" by Willard F. Harley, Jr. Today we talk through the components of building an affair-proof marriage. Join us! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jordan110/support
This week we are discussing the need for family commitment and admiration in a relationship! This episode is based on the book His Needs, Her Needs written by Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D.
This week we are discussing the need for financial security and domestic support in a relationship! This episode is based on the book His Needs, Her Needs written by Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D.
This week we are discussing the need for honesty and openness and physical attraction in a relationship! This episode is based on the book His Needs, Her Needs written by Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D.
In part 3 of our series about the 10 most important emotional needs and the importance of meeting your partner’s emotional needs, we discuss the need for intimate conversations and recreational companionship. This episode and series is based on the book His Needs, Her Needs written by Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D.
In part 2 of our series about the 10 most important emotional needs and the importance of meeting your partner’s emotional needs, we take our time and talk in-depth about the need for sexual fulfillment. This episode is based on the book His Needs, Her Needs written by Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D.
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Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. earned his Ph.D. degree in psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara in 1967 and has been a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in Minnesota since 1975. Dr. Harley is best known as the author of the internationally best selling book, His Needs, Her Needs: Building An Affair-proof Marriage. Dr. Harley’s ground-breaking mental-health approach to marriage therapy has saved countless marriages over the decades, and continues to do so today. He has written 23 other books and continues to write, speak, and lead seminars throughout the US and Canada. Dr. and Mrs. Harley also host a daily one-hour call-in show, Marriage Builders® Radio. It can be heard on radio stations and on the Internet. They have been married for 54 years and live in White Bear Lake, Minnesota. They have two adult children, who are now working with them as marriage coaches, and four grandchildren. Mentioned: His Needs, Her Needs, by Willard Harley In this episode, Dr. Bill Harley and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: The four emotional needs that must be addressed in order to fall in love, stay in love, or get love back again. Breaking the “love busters” to create an environment where a date would actually be a mutually enjoyable experience. How finding things you enjoy doing together, and encouraging each other’s individual passions can build connection. Using the “Love Bank Inventory” to measure what areas of love building need more attention. "No matter where you are in your marriage, dating can create a great marriage for you. It can solve all of your communication problems, it can solve all the struggles that you've been having, trying to make decisions. And I just challenge couples to recognize that 15 hours a week of undivided attention is the answer." — Dr. Bill Harley Connect with Dr. Bill Harley: Website: Marriage Builders® - Successful Marriage Advice Twitter: Marriage Builders (@marriagebuilder) Facebook: Marriage Builders - Home YouTube: MarriageBuilders Show: Marriage Builders Radio Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins: Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.
So you fell madly in love with the person of your dreams! You got married and have been together for a while, but you aren’t happy and what’s worse you feel like you could be falling out of love with your partner! How do you fix this and how can you STAY in love? According to one therapist, discovering and learning to meet each other’s most important emotional needs is the key to staying in love. Listen now to learn more! This episode is based on the book His Needs, Her Needs written by Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D.
Meeting your Spouse’s Emotional Needs in Your Marriage Part 3 (Intimate Conversation & Physical Attractiveness) Episode 015 June 25, 2019 Introduction Welcome Subscribe The 3rd part of our series on Meeting my Spouse’s Emotional needs. Intimate Conversation & Physical Attractiveness Discussion Erica: How we arrived at this topic- Share the conversation we had with the girls. (See episode 13) Get dialogue going between husband and wife if nothing else Recap See episode 13 for details Questionnaire to identify your emotional need Scripture: Philippians 2:3-4 “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” What are my emotional needs? Intimate Conversation (Erica talks about this) #2 most important Emotional need for women. First emotional need met in an affair (Willard F. Harley) Intimacy ( PKJ- Into me I ALLOW you to see) How am I doing? How am I feeling? What do I think? Ryan’s question Dating vs Married Conversations Dating getting to know each other from the beginning Married continuing to get to know other (lifelong journey) Date night conversations We have different reasons for talking Men talk to relay information-head to head (example- sports stats) Women talk to connect-heart to heart (I’m feeling this way) Women are eager to share with other men the problems they are having in the relationship Give her a reason to want to talk to you Reasons he won’t talk to me Nagging Prov 27:15 “A quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm;” Critical Monopolize Conversation Conversation Volly Practical ways to meet your spouse’s emotional need for Intimate Conversation Physical Attractiveness (Sam talks about this) People with this need want their spouse to be hot To be physically attractive Some men (people) could care less...they have other emotional needs that are much more important. Its not about looking like someone else but being the best, sexiest, healthiest, hottest version of you. Love me as I am! To a person that has this emotional need those are fighting words Physical Attractiveness seems like a trivial need...unless it yours (But they all do to someone that doesn’t have them) A person with this need takes it personally when its met and personally when its not. A good indicator that this may be high on your spouse’s list is if they put a lot of energy into their appearance. The Bible speaks of fitness 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. Practical ways to meet your spouse’s need of Physical Attractiveness
Meeting your Spouse’s Emotional Needs in Your Marriage Part 2 (Affection & Sexual Fulfillment) Episode 014 June 17, 2019 Introduction Welcome Subscribe The 2nd part of our series on Meeting my Spouse’s Emotional needs. Affection and Sexual Fulfillment Discussion Erica: How we arrived at this topic- Share the conversation we had with the girls. ( See episode 13) Get dialogue going between husband and wife if nothing else Recap See episode 13 for details Questionnaire to identify your emotional need What are my emotional needs? QuestionnaireAffection (Erica talks about this) As it turns out this is my #1 need Scripture Proverbs 31:10 “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.” Non sexual way of showing he cares Makes us feel like we are the most important person to you Things you used to do before you were married Men were not raised to show affection Tell him what you like Practical ways to meet your spouses emotional need for Affection Sexual Fulfillment (Sam talks about this) The misunderstanding Sex is as important to a man is as affection is to a woman and vise vera but we dont get it. Drive Testosterone makes it a biological thing Sexual Awareness Men, most while their still boys, discover their sexuallity early and therefore usually bring more understanding of how to have a pleasurable sexual experience into a marriage. Motivation That sexdrive, the pleasure and the connection all motivate a man for women its a lot less biological and much more about intimacy and the emotional connection Practical ways to meet your spouse’s need of Sexual Fulfillment How do I feel/respond if my needs are not being met?Resentment Frustration- only restaurant - 1 Corinthians 7:5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. Anger (“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”) “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,”Ephesians 4:26 Insecure Withdraw Lonely What happens in my marriage if my needs are not being met? Disconnect/Drift Affairs/Temptation Lashing out James 3:6 “The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell. ACTION ITEMS Pray for our podcast/marriage-we are praying for you. Don’t forget to subscribe. Share the podcast with two other people. Now that you have a better idea of what your spouse’s emotional needs are try to focus on meeting his/her # 1 need this week. It may be awkward at first but so was that first date. Give each other grace as you exercise this muscle. You can do it! RESOURCES Bible His Needs, Her Needs- Building an Affair Proof Marriage Willard F. Harley, Jr. https://amzn.to/30TX9xc For Married Men Only- Dr. Tony Evans https://amzn.to/31016k3 For Married Women Only-Dr. Tony Evans https://amzn.to/2QGP4Ht
Meeting your Spouse’s Emotional Needs in Your Marriage: Part 1 Episode 013 June 3, 2019 Introduction Welcome Subscribe Multi part series on Meeting my Spouse’s Emotional needs. Discussion How we arrived at this topic- Share the conversation we had with the girls. Share experience with the book in the past and how we landed on reading the book a second time. Introduction to book in small group season at our church We are afraid to be honest with our spouse for fear of response (spouse/culture)Erica’s response to Sam’s need Sam’s response to Erica’s need Get dialogue going between husband and wife if nothing else We have to understand the needs that are marital related and the ones that are rooted in childhood issues. i.e needs not met by an absentee father/abusive mother, seek professional help if necessary. What are my emotional needs? Identify what my emotional needs are? Is it unrealistic for me to expect my spouse to meet my emotional needs? How do I feel/respond if they are not being met? What happens in my marriage if they are not being met? How do I feel/respond when they are being met? What happens in my marriage if they are being met? How do I let my spouse know what they are? What should we do with this information? Identify what my emotional needs are? (listed in no order) Answer the questions on the questionnaire (Sam introduce the easy way to figure it out) Affection Sexual Fulfillment Intimate Conversation Recreational Companionship Honesty and Openness Physical Attractiveness Financial Support Domestic Support Family Commitment Admiration Be honest with yourselfWe may not understand our own needs Don’t just focus on the ones not being met Don’t be ashamed of your emotional needsYour need is your need ACTION ITEMS Pray for our podcast/marriage-we are praying for you. Don’t forget to subscribe. Share the podcast with two other people. Take some time and talk through your emotional needs with your spouse. ?? RESOURCES Bible Emotional needs questionnaire: https://www.marriagebuilders.com/emotional-needs-questionnaire.htm His Needs, Her Needs- Building an Affair Proof Marriage Willard F. Harley, Jr. https://amzn.to/30TX9xc For Married Men Only- Dr. Tony Evans https://amzn.to/31016k3 For Married Women Only-Dr. Tony Evans https://amzn.to/2QGP4Ht
Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Seasons in Your Marriage Part 2 of 4: Seasons - When Your Marriage is in Spring Episode 010 March 4, 2019 Introduction Welcome Subscribe...it’s free! Part 1 of our 4 part series on Seasons In Your Marriage “When Your Marriage is in Spring” Discussion What is spring in a marriage? How do seasons relate to marriage? What spring is? What spring is not? So what do we do now that we know? Seasons are natural laws that further reveal truths about God and His creation He demonstrates His sovereignty We can’t make a season change. Only God can! Spring always follows winter How do seasons apply to marriage There are different things that we should be doing in each season Seasons are temporary. Our experiences happen in and out of season not the other way around. A person might describe 3 tough years in their marriage as one long season when in fact during those 3 years that person actually had a tough time that spanned 12 full seasons. Gen 8:22 "As long as the earth endures, seedtime and harvest, cold and heat, summer and winter, day and night will never cease." What spring is A time when things begin to grow A time when there’s new energy and vitality A time for prime time for planting Starting something new Gal 6:7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Spring is the season when we’re most optimistic and hopeful. Spring is the time when we begin acting on those things we planned in winter. What spring is not A time for reaping We tend to have unreasonable expectations for spring The season to chill (that winter) Spring is about working There is no better time to plant seeds than spring Pro 31:21 NIV When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. What then should we do in spring Plant those things that want to harvest in future seasons When you’re in a bad season you have to remember to plant good seed Celebrate surviving the winter Get and stay active ACTION ITEMS Pray for our podcast-we are praying for you. Don’t forget to subscribe. Share the podcast with two other people. Take some time throughout this month and pay attention to which season your marriage is in. Let us know how it goes. Leave a voicemail or comment on whatever platform you listen to the podcast. We are eager to hear from you. RESOURCES Recreational Enjoyment Inventory from His Needs, Her Needs Recreational Enjoyment Inventory His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr. His Needs, Her Needs on Amazon Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs Love & Respect on Amazon A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau A Celebration of Sex on Amazon NEXT EPISODE Next we dig a little deeper into the different “seasons” of marriage.
What a treat to sit down with Katie’s parents and pick their brains about marriage and family. Here are the links we mention in the show. Keep up with Chad, Jenise and the Big Ski Family here: http://www.thebigskifamily.comhttps://www.instagram.com/thebigskifamily/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCztQCPP0fVADcB1j4LRXDkA/featured Chad and Jenise’s Newly Wed Retreat:https://newlywedretreat.wixsite.com/website Books:-Five Love Languages-Gary Chapman His Needs Her Needs- Willard F. Harley,…
Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Seasons in Your Marriage Part 1 of 4: Seasons - When Your Marriage is in Winter Episode 009 March 4, 2019 Introduction Welcome Subscribe...it’s free! Part 1 of our 4 part series on Seasons In Your Marriage “When Your Marriage is in Winter” Discussion What is winter in a marriage? How do seasons relate to marriage? What winter is? What winter is not? So what do we do now that we know? What are seasons and how do they relate to marriage? Rom 1:20 For since the creation of the world God's invisible qualities--his eternal power and divine nature--have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse. God reveals himself to us through creation His sovereignty Seasons are natural laws that further reveal truths about God and His creation We can’t make a season change. Only God can! Seasons mean a lot to us personally We chose to name our ministry “Seasons” because of the power of this concept How do seasons apply to marriage We have each of the 4 God gives a plan for each of the 4 If we are present and obedient in the season we’re in we are almost ensured better seasons in the future Gal 6:7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Gen 8:22 "As long as the earth endures, seedtime and harvest, cold and heat, summer and winter, day and night will never cease." What winter is A time where very little grows A time when things are less active (stillness) A time for prime time for rest and restoration Almost forced A season filled with beauty...but the beauty looks different A great season for planning and preparing for the rest of the year What winter is not A dead season Your marriage, love or spiritual things are not dead A desperate season It’s only desperate when you haven’t handled your previous seasons properly Pro 31:21 NIV When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. A dry season Technically the precipitation of winter is the basis for the spring growth. A season to be depressed Winter can be as fun and as fulfilling as any other season What then should we do in winter Enjoy all your harvest from the fall Great season for hanging out with your spouse Good time to start new spiritual disciplines Plan your spring and summer Enjoy things that you can only do in winter ACTION ITEMS Pray for our podcast-we are praying for you. Don’t forget to subscribe. Share the podcast with two other people. Take some time throughout this month and pay attention to which season your marriage is in. Let us know how it goes. Leave a voicemail or comment on whatever platform you listen to the podcast. We are eager to hear from you. RESOURCES Recreational Enjoyment Inventory from His Needs, Her Needs Recreational Enjoyment Inventory His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr. His Needs, Her Needs on Amazon Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs Love & Respect on Amazon A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau A Celebration of Sex on Amazon NEXT EPISODE Next we dig a little deeper into the different “seasons” of marriage.
Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Romance in Your Marriage Part 4 of 4: Romance - Celebrating Your Spouse Episode 008 February 25, 2019 Introduction Welcome Subscribe...it’s free! Part 4 of our 4 part series on Romance In Your Marriage “Celebrating your gift” Discussion How to Celebrate Your Spouse! What does it mean to celebrate your spouse? Why should we celebrate our spouse? When should we celebrate our spouse? How should we celebrate our spouse? Celebrating each other is a fundamental element of romance. Romans 12:10: Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Celebrating your spouse is an act of obedience that will endear you to one another Being celebrated reminds us that we are loved Celebration is both motivation and reward Celebrating your spouse touches them deeply and in most cases permanently Why should we celebrate our spouse Celebrating your spouse is another way you strengthen your connection Being celebrated reminds us that we are loved Celebrating each other creates a “fan” culture Celebrating builds confidence Creates memories Builds oneness-teamwork Leaves a legacy for our children 1 Peter 4:8: Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins. When should we celebrate our spouse. A. Birthday Anniversaries Accomplishments Milestones Holidays Daily-regularly How should we celebrate our spouse Publicly Privately In the way your spouse appreciates most (speak your spouse’s love language) Authentically Sacrificially Matthew 6:21: Where your treasures are your heart will be also. ACTION ITEMS Pray for our podcast-we are praying for you. Don’t forget to subscribe. Share the podcast with two other people. If within the last 6 months you had a “miss” with celebrating your spouse.. how about a “do-over”. Celebrate them, celebrate each other. Let us know how it goes. Leave a voicemail or comment on whatever platform you listen to the podcast. We are eager to hear from you. RESOURCES Recreational Enjoyment Inventory from His Needs, Her Needs Recreational Enjoyment Inventory His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr. His Needs, Her Needs on Amazon Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs Love & Respect on Amazon A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau A Celebration of Sex on Amazon NEXT EPISODE Next we dig a little deeper into the different “seasons” of marriage.
Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Romance in Your Marriage Part 3 of 4: Romance - Let’s get away!! Episode 007 February 18, 2019 Introduction Welcome Go ahead and subscribe...it’s free! Part 3 of our 4 part series on Romance In Your Marriage “Let’s get away!! Discussion Why is a getaway important? It gives you something to look forward to To reconnect To celebrate your marriage This may be a new concept for you. Parents never took vacations together Leaving a legacy for legacy To make new memories What should we do on our getaway? Sex Corinthians 7:1-4 “Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.” Set goals Spend time doing things you enjoy doing together Try something new REST!!! Mark 6:30-31” The apostles gathered around Jesus and reported to him all they had done and taught. Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”” We are a society that’s busier than ever these days. Kids are constantly on the go. Ministry Work How long should a getaway last? We recommend at least 3-4 days (but shoot for as long as possible)-it may take you 1 whole day for travel and just to unwind from the last few months or year depending on how long it’s been since your last getaway. If you go to a conference try to go a day or 2 ahead and/or stay a day or two later As important as the number of days are, and they are, the quality of the time is just as important. Who goes on the getaway? Husband and wife only This says to your spouse you are important to me. I want to spend this time with you. You can plan a family vacation and include the kids later. Where should we go? Personal choice Conferences Good for getting refreshed in the Word on how to be married God’s way. Cruises All inclusive resort Different cities or states Favorite hotels To see or do something on your Bucket List What should we do to prepare? Pray/Fast ahead of time. John 10:10 “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” Plan ahead financially (spending plan) Make sure you get passports way ahead of time if you’re leaving the country Have backup plans for childcare/petcare What should we take? As little as possible Music ACTION ITEMS ? Share in the comment section how this is going. We want to hear about it. Pray for our podcast-we are praying for you. Don’t forget to subscribe. Share the podcast with two other people. RESOURCES Recreational Enjoyment Inventory from His Needs, Her Needs Recreational Enjoyment Inventory His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr. His Needs, Her Needs on Amazon Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs Love & Respect on Amazon A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau A Celebration of Sex on Amazon NEXT EPISODE Next we continue our discussion on Romance In Your Marriage.
Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Romance in Your Marriage Part 2 of 4: Romance - Fanning the Flames Episode 006 February 11, 2019 Introduction Welcome Go ahead and subscribe...it’s free! Part 2 of our 4 part series on Romance In Your Marriage Discussion Fanning the flames When we notice the fire going out or dying down we we have take action to get those embers going again. We have to be intentional (my word for 2019) if we want to see change. The Drift Life gets in the way Unintentional Past hurts and unforgiveness can stop a relationship from growing We understand that where there is hurt, resentment or unforgiveness that needs to be dealt with. We suggest you get counseling. We know it’s hard to just put a “date-aid” on a old wound and expect everything to be ok. One small “bump” and the pain will come right back. Seek professional help, it’s worth it!! Work, kids, ministry, family can be a diversion from what’s going on in marriage Can be a comfort zone Meeting the needs of my spouse (Questionnaire) What are my emotional needs? Be honest when filling out the survey. Your spouse can’t meet those needs if you are not honest with the answers. What are my spouse’s emotional needs? Generalizations Her first need is Affection Hold her hand Cuddle for the sake of cuddling. She’s not clingy she has a need. She may not even be aware that this is a need until it’s not being met. When you dated or early in the marriage these things were automatic. His first need is Sexual Fulfillment Her second need is Intimate Conversation She wants your undivided attention. She needs to know that she’s important to you and what she has to say matters. His second need is Recreational CompanionshipSam & Erica call it “hanging out” Meeting these needs make you irresistible to your spouse Realization on whether I’m meeting those needs or not Love bank/ Love tank. When we are meeting the emotional needs of our spouse we are making deposits into his or her account. When we aren’t meeting those needs just the opposite is happening. We are draining our spouse and they begin to feel unloved and will retaliate in a way that hurts the relationship. Am I willing to meet those needs? Meeting those needs has to be intentional Proverbs 5:18-19 Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a living hind and graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love. Ladies, I read in a book that our husbands should be so satisfied that’s it’s like if they were so stuffed with their favorite meal and were offered dessert they would turn it down. It can even work even if your spouse is unaware Burning hotter then it has in the past If you know your spouse’s emotional need / love language you are better equipped to show love to them in a way they need it most. There are blessings in meeting the needs of my spouse Builds a deeper level of intimacy Opens up the possibilities in the relationship Creates oneness. ACTION ITEMS This time we want you to go out on a date. It’s Valentine’s Day this week. Enjoy each other. Try working in meeting the emotional needs of your spouse. Share in the comment section how this is going. We want to hear about it. Pray for our podcast-we are praying for you. Don’t forget to subscribe. Share the podcast with two other people. RESOURCES Recreational Enjoyment Inventory from His Needs, Her Needs Recreational Enjoyment Inventory His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr. His Needs, Her Needs on Amazon Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs Love & Respect on Amazon A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau A Celebration of Sex on Amazon NEXT EPISODE Next we continue our discussion on Romance In Your Marriage.
Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast Romance in Your Marriage Part 1 of 4: Romance - Date Night Episode 005 February 4, 2019 Introduction Who we are Subscribe...it’s free! New 4 part series on Romance In Your Marriage Discussion Making Date Night Spicy! Having a real Date Night, it’s really important What’s holding you back What to do What not to do Having a real Date Night, it’s really important Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all. Ecclesiastes 9:9 Live happily with the woman you love through all the meaningless days of life that God has given you under the sun. The wife God gives you is your reward for all your earthly toil. She is the reward!!! Date Night Builds Intimacy Intimate conversation - we did this before we married. Catching up - life moves fast we need time to reconnect. Dreaming together - this podcast is the fruit of years of sharing our dreams to serve married folk. Sex - Good Date nights usually end in sex (married folk only). Oneness - The net result when a couple commits to Date Night. Definition of oneness: the fact or state of being unified or whole,though comprised of two parts. Mark 10:7-8 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife 8 and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What to do A.Pick a time that fits your schedule Pick the prime real estate not the leftovers. Check with family and friends for help with schedules. Be creative Think about the things you did before you were married Explore common interestsRecreational Enjoyment Inventory (see link below) Datenightbox.com Be consistent Put it in your Spending Plan (if you don’t know what that is check out Episode 001). Get excited! Put the phone down!!! What not to do Don’t talk about the finances Don’t talk about the kids Don’t talk about work What’s holding you back? Small children Money No time Fear (unknown) Not interested ACTION ITEMS This time we want you to go out on a date. If it’s been a while and you struggle with what to talk about try sharing things you’d like to do on future dates. Pray for our podcast-we are praying for you. Don’t forget to subscribe. Share the podcast with two other people. RESOURCES Recreational Enjoyment Inventory from His Needs, Her Needs Recreational Enjoyment Inventory His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr. His Needs, Her Needs on Amazon Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs Love & Respect on Amazon A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau A Celebration of Sex on Amazon NEXT EPISODE Next we continue our discussion on Romance In Your Marriage.
Love is Presence with Traci & David Osborn In this episode, Sam, Pat, Traci and David discuss: · Choosing the relationship first over fights and whatever else may come up. · Meeting your own needs and being responsible for your own happiness. · Tips for maintaining a successful relationship while also shooting for higher levels of success in your professional life. · Finding time to spend with your family and making it count. Key Takeaways: · Don’t try and make your partner be something other than who they are. · Book in family time and be as present as possible during those times. · Don’t try and escalate a heated situation when you’re in reactionary mode. · Be willing to get help when you need it, there are a lot of resources out there to assist you. · Love is presence – it is being there for someone in the capacity they need you to be. "A relationship is a hard thing; it’s a beautiful thing. The deeper and longer you go, even though it gets harder, the rewards get better and better." — David Osborn Connect with David and Traci: Website: DavidOsborn.com & TheGoalTemplate.com Book: Wealth Can’t Wait & Miracle Morning Millionaires References: · His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof marriage by Willard F. Harley, Jr. · Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting out of the Box by The Arbinger Institute · Moment App Connect with Sam and Pat: Twitter: @BiggerLoveBook Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BiggerLoveBook Website: http://www.biggerlove.com/ Book: Bigger Love- How to have the love of your life for the rest of your life Show notes by show producer: Chelsea Taylor-Sturkie Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it.
Young men are clueless and what a woman really needs and are shell-shocked when they discover that everything they thought about women changed the day AFTER they got married. What's worse is when a man discover this 25 years later when his wife leaves him after the children leave the home. Don't be that man. Learn the top needs of your wife so that your marriage will be its best version. Join us with author Bill Harley and his classic book His Needs Her Needs with over 4 million copies sold! Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. is best known as author of the internationally best selling book, His Needs, Her Needs: Building An Affair-proof Marriage. Over four million copies have been purchased, and it is available in twenty-two foreign translations. Dr. Harley earned a Ph.D. degree in psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara in 1967 and has been a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in Minnesota since 1975. For the first ten years after earning his degree, he taught psychology at both the graduate and undergraduate levels. During those years, he was also a frustrated part-time marriage counselor with little success in helping couples. In 1973 he discovered that he was not alone in his failure to save marriages -- almost everyone in the marital therapy profession were also failing. So he spent the next two years designing an entirely new approach (see How Dr. Harley Learned to Save Marriages). When his success rate skyrocketed in 1977, he resigned from his teaching position to counsel full-time. Over the next ten years his solo practice developed into the largest network of mental health clinics in Minnesota (thirty-two locations) with over one hundred psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers and chemical dependency counselors working with him to provide a full range of mental health services. He became the exclusive provider of mental health and chemical dependency services in ten counties, and had offices in other counties as well. One of his responsibilities was to write support materials for the clinical program he directed. He created over one hundred questionnaires and wrote numerous articles that were given to clients as part of their therapy. Among the materials he wrote was His Needs, Her Needs, which was first published in 1986. Although it was written to be a support text for his marriage counseling program, within three years it had become a national best-seller and a basic reference for marriage counselors throughout the nation. By 1988 he found himself spending almost all of his time administering his clinics, and very little time doing what he enjoyed most -- improving his marital therapy program. So he began turning his clinics over to the counselors who worked with him, and the ownership of his last clinic was transferred in 1993. Since then, he has written 19 more books and hundreds of articles. Dr. Harley continues to write, speak, and lead seminars throughout the US and Canada. For information regarding booking arrangements for his weekend seminar, "How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love," click this link for more information. Dr. and Mrs. Harley also host a daily one-hour call-in show, Marriage Builders Radio. It can be heard on radio stations and on the Internet. They have been married for 54 years and live in White Bear Lake, Minnesota. They have two adult children, who are now working with them as marriage coaches, and four grandchildren.
Today on the TBB podcast is my very dear friend Linda Paulk. Linda is married to Bob, a captain in the Naval Reserves, and are blessed with two children. Linda defines the word thrive this way, “you know you are following God’s will for your life when you know you are in touch with who He created you to be, and you are using the gifts that He gave you, all for His glory.” For years, Linda felt her identity was defined by corporate success. But twelve years ago, she left a position as CEO of a large corporation and began to walk a new journey, a spiritual revival, where God began to help her define who He made her to be. As God began revealing His plan for her life, she realized He had a much bigger plan than she had realized. God used multiple people to show Linda she was putting Him in a box. She began a slow journey of letting go of fear, knowing fear is not of God. After much prayer, Linda moved forward into full time ministry as the CEO of Sky Ranch. Linda and I talked about marriage and what she felt has been the most challenging time during their marriage. She felt that, by far, becoming empty nesters has been the toughest. She and Bob found a great resource, His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage: Willard F. Harley a study guide and book which has been life changing. In our interview, Linda shared with me some valuable advice, “Become aware of who you are and don’t be afraid to know who you are and who you are not.” I would encourage you to check out Sky Ranch, an incredible christian family camp. They are in the business of making Jesus famous and leading youth and families to know and follow Christ. Here’s my interview with Linda Paulk.
032 - Lovers and Friends: Choosing the right partners It’s almost time for those awkward office holiday parties and family gatherings. Besides pretending to laugh at a litany of bad jokes, you’ll also have to introduce important people to your partner. Here are a few things to consider when deciding who to have as your guest. Do you want a partner or a project? As a high performer your reputation is priceless. Beware people who have little to lose. Resource: “His Needs Her Needs” by Willard F. Harley, Jr. People close to you have greater access to your emotional state. Keep security tight! Does your partner’s value system match the things that are important to you? What is their attitude toward money? More on the details on the inside. Put some rocket fuel in your career, grow faster, make deeper connections and more money. For more information visit focusthefire.com and join the community list to get fire in your inbox. Facebook | Instagram | Twitter: @focusthefire (show) or @dalanv (host)
Marital abuse occurs on a sliding scale. What I share below is not to minimize the situations someone may be facing such as physical abuse or emotional abuse. I'm sharing what I learned in hopes that it helps some husbands and wives understand the impact they have on their partners, even when they would never describe their actions as "abusive." Vanessa and I are honest, caring, sincere, devoted partners. We love each other more today than the day we got married. Like other couples, even in the best marriages, we argue and fight now and then. Each of us can be stubborn, and convinced the way we see things is the right way. As a result, a minor disagreement, or difficulty seeing the other's point of view, can lead a "discussion" into a downward spiral. Partners in marriage. Partners in business. February of 2015 was a big turning point in our lives. Vanessa was earning more in her Young Living business, than I was as a Senior Director at Life Time Fitness. We saw this as the perfect opportunity to do what we'd always wanted to do: work together in a health and fitness business we could call our own. I resigned from Life Time. We became business partners. Vanessa is the CEO, I'm the COO of Healthy Living How To. We commute from the bedroom to our home office, with a stop along the way to fill up our coffee cups. Spending all day, everyday together, and trying to agree on decisions about the business, we ran into some challenges. When you disagree with people at work, you go home and forget about it. You talk about it with your spouse, and then the next day, you go back to work with your mind clear. Or if you get in an argument with your spouse at home, you go to work, and it can give you time to let your emotions settle down. When you get home, you can have a civil conversation. When you live and work with the same person, that doesn't happen. I saw that I had a lot to do with our arguments. I'm a big believer in taking responsibility for anything and everything going on in your life. No VKTM virus here. So I started reading. Unfortunately, I didn't read Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus until we'd been working together for a year and a half. After reading it, I believe that Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus should be a college requisite class. I did read a lot of marriage books throughout this period, though. I felt like many of the books were written just for me. It was as though the authors were using their words to hit me between the eyes. What is marital abuse? One of the books that's had a lasting impact on me is Love Busters by Willard F. Harley. According to Harley, Marital abuse is a deliberate effort of one spouse to cause the other to be unhappy. Yikes! That is a scary definition. I'll come back to some personal examples in a moment. Harley explains that we have two parts to our personality, as it relates to relationships: The Giver: The part of someone's personality that is concerned only about the happiness of others. The Taker: The part of someone's personality that is concerned only about his or her own happiness. The Giver does things for others to make them happy, even if it leaves himself or herself unhappy. The Taker does things for himself or herself, even it it leaves others unhappy. If someone feels as though they're always giving and never getting, that's the Taker speaking. The Taker justifies bad behavior. In an argument, the Taker prevents you from seeing the other person's perspective. To the Taker, his or her perspective doesn't matter. That Taker is only interested in happiness, nobody else's. In positive, happy, intimate relationship, both spouses see things through the Giver's eyes. They both give to each other, and they enjoy doing so because their individual needs are met by the other. In a thriving relationship, the voice of the Giver is loud: "Do whatever you can to make your spouse happy and avoid anything that makes your spouse unhappy, even if it makes you unhappy."
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