The Blended Family Coaching Show

ResourcesEpisode 210.  Is Your Child Pulling Away?  Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and LoveEpisode 211.  8 Warning Signs Your Ex is Manipulating Your Child's Heart and MindEpisode 6. Are Your Kids Stuck in a 'Parental Allegiance' and What Can You Do About It?Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts, too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we appreciate your feedback!

We know how heartbreaking it can be when your child starts pulling away from you.  It can leave you wondering if your ex is negatively influencing them behind the scenes. We've lived it. In this deeply personal episode, we open up about the painful season we went through with Kim's daughter, Annika. We talk through how to recognize the signs of manipulation, avoid common parenting missteps, and respond in ways that protect your child's emotional well-being.  All while preserving your connection. Plus, we share the powerful strategy we call “the pebble in the shoe” and how it can shift distorted narratives over time and help your child embrace the truth. If it seems like you're living under a black cloud, and you're feeling discouraged or defeated, there is hope. You're not alone, and your story isn't over.You'll Discover:How to identify subtle signs that your co-parent may be manipulating your child — and how you can respond effectivelyHelpful ways to communicate with a hurt, angry, rejecting, distant child.A powerful strategy (“the pebble in the shoe”) to gently counter misinformation without escalating conflictThe importance of remaining steady and staying connected even when your child is distancing themselves from youResources from this Episode:Episode 210. Is Your Child Pulling Away?  Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and LoveArticle by Dr. Bob Evans:  17 Primary Alienation StrategiesEpisode 194. Powerful Tips for Effectively Connecting with Your Angry or Distant Child [ with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker]Book by Amy J.L. Baker:  Parenting Under Fire - How to Communicate with Your Hurt, Angry, Rejecting, Distant ChildEpisode 195. Connecting with Kim's HARD Child - Facing the Challenges of Parental AlienationEpisode 161. How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]Episode 112. 3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting - And Hurt the KidsEpisode 113. How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued, or Dismissed by Your Former SpouseEpisode 175. 8 Tips to Protect Kids From Stress and Tension When Moving Between HomesEpisode 33. How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your Kids Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession Leave a Review in Apple PodcastsWe would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts. Your review will help others find our podcast. Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

ResourcesEpisode 210. Is Your Child Pulling Away?  Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and Love Episode 207. 4 Big Myths About Parenting When an Ex Has Different Rules and How to Build ConsistencySuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts, too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

This one hits close to home for us. In this episode, we're opening up about a painful season in our parenting journey when Kim's daughter began pulling away from our home and requesting to spend more time at her dad's. We know how confusing, heartbreaking, and disorienting this can be, especially for blended families with limited time together. That's why we're sharing 3 essential tips that can help you manage yourself in a tough parenting moment, retain connection with your child, and respond in a healthy, constructive way.   You're not alone—and there is a path forward.You'll Discover:The emotional impact of watching a child distance themselves from you - and how to manage your emotions and reactions.How to ask powerful, curious questions that open the door to connection and uncover what's under the surface.Why validation can change the tone of any tough parenting conversation.A practical way to co-create one new action step with your child, without caving in to their requests.The truth about whether kids “get to choose” where they live at a certain age.Resources from this Episode:Episode 184. The Heart of Motherhood:  Navigating Messy Moments with Empathy and Love (emotional regulation)Episode 168. Actionable Steps For Helping Kids Navigate Through Difficult Emotions and Problem SolveEpisode 33.  How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your Kids  Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback! Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

ResourcesEpisode 129. What does it take to build and maintain trust in your relationship?Episode 119. 6 Tips to Grow Empathy and Create More Connection in Your MarriageEpisode 203. How to Make Better Decisions and Solve Problems as a United TeamEpisode 108. 3 Unity Breakers that are Detrimental to Your Connection and How You Can Avoid ThemEpisode 206. Avoid These 5 Common Pitfalls to Ensure a Successful PartnershipEpisode 192. A Simple Process to Navigate Sensitive Conversations About Each Other's KidsEpisode 154. What practical and emotional shifts can you expect as you blend your family?Episode 107. 3 Disheartening Realities That No Couple Wants To Go Through - But We all Have ToEpisode 187. Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 1 of 2)Episode 160. A 4-Part Framework for Achievable Expectations and How to Live Them OutSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback! 

If you've ever wrestled with second-guessing yourself, feeling stuck in past mistakes, or wondering if you can truly trust yourself again, you're not alone. In this episode, we open up about the very real struggles with self-doubt that we've faced personally and that we often see in the blended couples we coach.Together, we're exploring five powerful habits that can help you break free from the cycle of self-doubt and start building real, lasting confidence. We'll share practical mindset shifts and simple steps you can take today to start building more self-trust. We hope that you'll walk away feeling seen, encouraged, and ready to believe in yourself again — because real healing, growth, and breakthrough are possible.You'll Discover:5 essential habits to break free from self-doubt and trust in yourselfReplace self-criticism with self-compassion. Conquer fear, guilt, and worry. Embrace a growth mindset. Speak up with confidence. Let go of perfectionism by adjusting your expectations.Why your daily habits matter more than your genetics or past experiences when it comes to self-confidence.Simple tools to overcome self-sabotaging habits and learn to trust yourself.Resources from this Episode:Check out our supportive community, Blending TogetherSoundtracks by Jon AcuffThe Beginner's Guide to Self-Compassion by Nick WignallEpisode 99. 3 Tips to Help You Move Beyond Painful Guilt and RegretEpisode 180. Break free from Guilt and Blend with Authenticity and SecurityEpisode 179. Conquer Fear and Embrace Your Blend with Confidence and Clarity Episode 165. How important is your mindset when it comes to blended family life?Episode 50. How to Openly Communicate What You Really Want (Assertive Communication)What Causes Perfectionism and How to Get Over It by Nick WignallEpisode 14. 3 Helpful Steps to Overcome Your "Perfectionist" Ideals and DisappointmentsEpisode 187. Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 1 of 2)Ready for some extra support?We're here to help!  Schedule your free coaching call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsWe would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts .  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you!

Additional ResourcesEpisode 178. Suriving the Turbulent Teen Years:  Expert Insight and Strategies for Today's Parent [with Dr. Michael Bradley]Episode 124. How to Effectively Parent Through Each Stage of Development - and Reduce Painful Interactions (Part 1)Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts, too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you. We really appreciate your feedback!

In this episode, we share a practical and powerful strategy to help step-parents confidently navigate solo time with their stepchildren. Whether you're a biological parent or a step-parent, this episode is for you!  You'll discover how preparation, communication, and teamwork can transform tension into opportunities for connection. The key? A simple but often overlooked strategy called the Transfer of Power. You don't want to 'wing it' when flying solo with step-kids — instead, be smart and plan for success.You'll Discover:Why solo time can trigger anxiety, fear, or dread for step-parentsHow the "Transfer of Power" can set the step-parent up for success - and the critical role of the bio-parentSteps to prepare beforehand: Anticipate tension, plan for fun, and discuss expectationsHow to manage yourself and the kids during solo time — without power strugglesSimple strategies to stay calm and set kind, clear boundariesHow to reflect as a couple and make improvements for next timeResources from this Episode:Episode 192.  A Simple Process to Navigate Sensitive Conversations About Each Other's KidsEpisode 204. 4 Facets of Stepparenting:  Defining Appropriate Roles and Responsibilities (Part 1 of 2)Episode 187. Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 1 of 2)Episode 158.  An Effective Stepparenting Approach Focused on What Works - and What Doesn'tEpisode 159. How to Stay Hopeful as a Stepparent When You're Continually Rejected and Hurt Episode 85. How to Uniquely Build More Love and Connection in Your Blended Family [with Ron Deal]Episode 37. Why do kids struggle to accept their stepparent? Episode 39. How to Create Strong Bonds with Resistant Stepkids Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession Subscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsWe would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts, too. Your review will help others find our podcast. :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review”. Thank you. We really appreciate your feedback!

Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Parenting in a blended family can be tough — especially when your ex has completely different rules and expectations. Today, we're tackling a common source of frustration: navigating household differences.  We'll uncover the four biggest myths that keep blended couples stuck and reveal the counteractive truths that bring clarity, confidence, and collaboration. Plus, we'll share our Four A's strategy for communicating with your ex to build more consistency between homes.You'll Discover:The four myths about parenting across different households—and what you can do to move beyond delusion, confusion, and frustration.How to establish healthy boundaries in your home without trying to control the other home.Why "Our home is our zone" should be your mantra.How to avoid fear-based parenting and hold firm to your values—even when they don't align with the other home.A simple four-step communication framework to foster better co-parenting collaboration and create more consistency for your kids.Resources from this Episode:All Episodes on Parenting and DisciplineAll Episodes on Co-Parenting Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you. We really appreciate your feedback!Join us on April 5th for Blended & Blessed! Click here: https://www.blendedandblessed.com/

ResourcesEpisode 135. How to Set Appropriate Boundaries and Negotiate Well with your Ex-SpouseEpisode 188. Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and DistressEpisode 153. How to Empower Organization, Improve Communication and Create Peace Between Your Kids Two HomesEpisode 112. 3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting - And Hurt the KidsEpisode 113. How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued, or Dismissed by Your Former SpouseEpisode 67. The Best Co-Parenting Strategy That You Already KnowEpisode 31. Unexpected Ways to Improve How You Cope with You ExEpisode 33. How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your KidsSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts, too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you. We really appreciate your feedback!

Does it ever feel like you are miles apart as a couple when it comes to leading your blended family?In this episode, we dive into the most common partnership pitfalls that couples face. From feeling unheard and untrusted to navigating misaligned parenting expectations, we unpack the challenges that often create disconnection, stress and conflict. We also share practical tools to shift from frustration to deeper connection, trust, and teamwork.You'll Discover:How assumptions about each other's motives can fuel conflictThe impact of feeling unheard or untrusted in a blended family dynamicPractical strategies to stay connected and solve problems togetherHow to build resiliency and effective communication in your relationshipResources from this Episode:Episode 204. 4 Facets of Stepparenting:  Defining Appropriate Roles and Responsibilities (Part 1)Episode 205.  4 Facets of Parenting:  What Bio-Parents Need to Know to Achieve Best Outcomes (Part 2)Episode 154. What practical and emotional shifts can you expect as you blend your family?Episode 134.  How to Make Good Decisions in Tough Situations and Stay Connected as a CoupleEpisode 59. Why are you stuck in a Parent-Child Allegiance? Episode 160. A 4-Part Framework for Achievable Expectations and How to Live Them OutEpisode 167. Achievable Strategies to Make Your Marriage the Foundation of Your Blended Family Episode 202. How to Break Free from Painful Cycles and Enjoy Deeper Levels of Intimacy [with Ron & Nan Deal]Episode 187. Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and DistressEpisode 192. A Simple Process to Navigate Sensitive Conversations About Each Other's KidsEpisode 147. Do sensitive conversations end up creating conflict in your relationship?Episode 203. How to Make Better Decisions and Solve Problems as a United TeamEpisode 79. 4 Conflict Communication Patterns That are Hurtful and Toxic to Your RelationshipEpisode 172. 2 Key Elements to Resolve Your Parenting Style Differences - And Get UnitedEpisode 139. The Most Common, Challenging Pain Point Every Blended Couple Experiences (The Trapped Teammate / Stranded Stranger Dynamic)Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a FREE coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionJoin us on April 5th for Blended & Blessed! Click here: https://www.blendedandblessed.com/

ResourcesEpisode 74. How to Develop Appropriate and Effective Consequences that Empower ResponsibilitySuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

We know firsthand that parenting in a blended family isn't the same as parenting in a first family. A biological parent's role is crucial in helping kids adjust to change, supporting step-relationships, and keeping things running smoothly.But here's the challenge—many bio parents either hold too tightly to their old parenting patterns or step back too quickly and expect their spouse to fill in. Both can create major tension.In this episode, we're breaking down the four key facets of parenting and defining the roles and responsibilities of the bio-parent: Meeting practical needs while avoiding unnecessary frictionProviding support while managing shifting priorities Teaching important life lessons  - and overcoming parental blind spotsDelivering discipline in a way that strengthens relationships rather than tearing them apartIf you've ever felt stuck between your kids and your spouse—or if you've struggled with guilt, fear, or parental paralysis—this episode is for you. You'll Discover:The most common 'easy wrong turns' that bio parents make when trying to “blend” the familyHow to avoid creating unnecessary frustration, and resentment in your homeWhy bio parents need to lead in discipline—and how to set step relationships up for successHow to provide boundaries and emotional support for your kids without letting guilt or fear take overStrategies for building an effective parenting partnership — even when you see things differentlyResources from this Episode:Episode 204. 4 Facets of Parenting:  Clarifying the Roles and Responsibilities (Part 1) Episode 163. How Intentionality Helped One Couple to Accomplish a Successful Blend [with Sean & Staci] Episode 81. How a Missing Bio-Parent Impacts Kids in the Delicate Blending Process (Part 1 of 2)Episode 132. How do loss and grief impact blended family integration?Episode 108. 3 Unity Breakers that are Detrimental to Your Connection and How You Can Avoid ThemEpisode 139. The Most Common, Challenging Pain Point Every Blended Couple Experiences (Trapped Teammate / Stranded Stranger Dynamic)Episode 168. Actionable Steps For Helping Kids Navigate Through Difficult Emotions and Problem SolveEpisode 49. Should your highest priority be your marriage - or your kids?Episode 25. How to Survive Time Alone with Your Step-Kids (Transfer of Power Strategy) Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John GottmanReady for some extra support? We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

ResourcesEpisode 136. How to Intentionally Create Positive Family Time and Reduce Relational TensionEpisode 149. How to "Blend" Holiday Traditions and Create Meaningful Connection This SeasonEpisode 85. How to Uniquely Build More Love and Connection in Your Blended Family [with Ron Deal]Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Stepparenting raises many questions: What's my role? How involved should I be? What if my stepkids don't accept me? It's easy to make wrong turns without even realizing it.In this episode, we're delving into four key facets of parenting: meeting practical needs, providing support, teaching life lessons, and delivering discipline. We'll uncover the unique roles and responsibilities of a stepparent regarding each facet and define what's appropriate and inappropriate.If you're feeling frustrated, disconnected, or unsure how to navigate parenting in your blended family, this conversation is for you! We'll share best practices, real-life examples (yes, including our own!), and strategies to help you stay in your lane while building healthy bonds with your stepkids and strengthening your parenting partnership.You'll Discover:Why stepparents should focus on connection before correction How to support your stepkids and meet practical needs without overstepping or experiencing resentment The best approach for building genuine connection, trust, and respect with your stepkids Why delivering discipline too soon can backfire—and what to do insteadA simple but powerful strategy to create a strong parenting partnership with your spouse and reduce tension in your homeResources from this Episode:Episode 47. How to Like Your Stepchild Even When You're Feeling Frustrated and AnnoyedEpisode 39. How to Create Strong Bonds with Resistant StepkidsEpisode 9. A Surprisingly Simple Strategy for Bonding with Step-KidsEpisode 29. What is a Loyalty Bind and What Can You Do About It?Episode 102. 4 Revealing Myths About 1 on 1 Time Between Parents and their Bio-Kids (Part 1 of 2)Episode 192. A Simple Process to Navigate Sensitive Conversations About Each Other's KidsEpisode 25. How to Survive Time Alone with Your Step-Kids (Transfer of Power Strategy)Building Love Together in Blended Families by Ron Deal & Gary ChapmanStepparenting: Keeping it Sane by Charles Fay, Ph.D.In Their Shoes by Lauren ReitsemaPreparing to Blend by Ron DealReady for some extra support?Connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: Blending Together Community — Blended Family Breakthrough

 In this episode, we're delving into a common challenge for blended family couples: decision-making and problem-solving. Whether managing kids' expectations, negotiating with an ex, or facing the pain of being a “trapped teammate” or “stranded stranger,” disagreement and differing perspectives can create tension and keep you stuck.We've been there ourselves, and we share relatable stories, including a meltdown at the mall over a swimsuit and how it almost derailed our unity. Plus, we unpack practical strategies that have been game-changers for us and the couples we coach. We believe every blended couple needs a strategy for decision-making and problem-solving that helps them stay united and avoid confusion, pain, and disconnection.  Grab a coffee, sit back, and let's tackle this together.You'll DiscoverHow to avoid falling into the "trapped teammate" or "stranded stranger" dynamic.Three key “DON'TS” that will safeguard your relationship from unnecessary conflict.A powerful brainstorming hack to make decisions and solve problems as a united team.How to manage decision-making pressures from kids and ex-spouses.Practical tips to stay connected and strengthen teamwork in tough moments.Resources from this EpisodeEpisode 202. How to Break Free from Painful Cycles and Enjoy Deeper Levels of Intimacy [with Ron and Nan Deal]Episode 21:  What is the Stranded Stranger & Trapped Teammate ExperienceEpisode 22:  One Simple - and Romantic - Way to Combat Being Stranded or Trapped Episode 23:  How to Move From Feeling Stranded to Being ConnectedEpisode 24:  What if You Could Relieve the Trapped Teammate Pressure?Episode 95:  Do You Dread Negotiating Schedule Changes with your Ex - Try These 5 Practical TipsEpisode 13:  How to Parent as a Team in Your Blended FamilyEpisode 83:  4 Everyday Favoritism Traps that Dishearten Kids in a Blended FamilyReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part Ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: Blending Together Community — Blended Family Breakthrough Ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: Blending Together Community — Blended Family Breakthrough

ResourcesEpisode 202. How to Break Free from Painful Cycles and Enjoy Deeper Levels of Intimacy [with Ron & Nan Deal]Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

No one enjoys being in conflict with their spouse.  But the reality for every couple is that conflict is unavoidable.We all experience disagreement that leads to conflict.  But there's a big difference between doing conflict well versus spiraling into unproductive patterns where we say and do things that at best aren't helpful and at worst erode love and trust in  our relationship.You can probably relate.  Your spouse does something that triggers a painful emotion and you react.  You might blame, shame yourself, take control, or try to avoid the whole situation.  It's natural and normal for all of us to react these ways, but you don't have to stay stuck in unproductive, damaging patterns.  You can learn to do conflict well,  just like we have!In this episode, our friends Ron and Nan Deal share their personal journey.  After hitting rock bottom in their marriage, finding restoration, and discovering the tools that transformed their relationship, they've written an amazing book called The Mindful Marriage.  Their new book breaks down powerful concepts into relatable, practical steps for couples everywhere.Ron and Nan are popular speakers who specialize in restoration therapy, blended families, and supporting grieving parents. Ron, a bestselling author, licensed marriage and family therapist, and podcaster, also serves as a senior director at FamilyLife. Nan, a retired teacher, now champions her community through Live Thankfully.From navigating destructive cycles of conflict and emotional pain to increasing love, trust, and intimacy in your relationship — today's conversation is full of hope, encouragement, and actionable wisdom!What You'll Learn:Identifying and breaking free from pain cycles in your relationship.Practical steps to create a “peace cycle” that strengthens love and trust.Insights into how family history impacts marriage dynamics.Why emotional regulation is a game-changer for blended families.The importance of “usness” in building a thriving relationship.Resources Mentioned:The Mindful Marriage by Ron and Nan DealRestoration Therapy model by Dr. Terry HargraveBonus materials are available at RonDeal.orgReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

ResourcesEpisode 139:  The Most Common, Challenging Pain Point Every Blended Couple ExperiencesSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

How serious are you about creating enjoyment and fun in your relationship (and in your home)?You probably started off your relationship experiencing lots of enjoyment as you were getting to know each other and falling in love.  But as the busyness and stress of blended family life set in, maybe your enjoyment started to wane a bit. The truth is, if you want to increase enjoyment and safeguard your relationship, then you've got to take FUN seriously!Our friends Rich and Christa blended their family 13 years ago.  Although they've had their share of ups and downs, they've managed to make fun a top priority……and they've reaped the benefits of deep connection, laughter, and genuine enjoyment in their relationship (and in their home).Rich and Christa are on a mission to strengthen marriages and families in a culture that's losing hope.  They want to help couples avoid the tragedy of divorce and enjoy a thriving marriage full of joy, friendship, and fun.Join us for a raucous conversation as Rich and Christa share practical — and serious — ways they've discovered to increase fun and how you can do the same.What You'll LearnWhy fun is a safeguard for your marriage and how it deepens connection.How to create a family culture of fun, even in challenging stepfamily dynamics.The importance of “micro-moves of fun” and small intentional gestures.Practical ways to align your schedule and priorities to boost enjoyable couple time.How to balance personal expectations with the realities of blended family life.Resources MentionedEpisode 200.  A Heart-to-Heart Conversation Exploring the Secrets to Lasting Love Click here to connect with Rich and ChristaBook by John Gottman:  7 Principles for Making Marriage WorkBook by Sam Jolman:  The Sex Talk You Never GotClick here to learn more about Weekend to Remember marriage eventsTo learn more about our Relate Strong program, CLICK HERE to schedule your FREE coaching callEpisode 136. How to Intentionally Create Positive Family Time and Reduce Relational TensionEpisode 146. Friendship and Connection or Friction and Distance - what's the state of your relationship?Actionable TakeawaysDefine Your Fun: Identify activities you and your spouse enjoy and prioritize them in your schedule.Celebrate Small Wins: Whether it's playful traditions like funny birthday cake messages or silly rituals, embrace the small moments.Move at Your Child's Pace: Honor your stepchild's readiness for connection without pushing. Small cracks in the door can lead to big breakthroughs over time.Model Connection: Let your kids see you laughing and enjoying each other—it's a powerful way to teach them about healthy relationships.Invest in Growth: Attend retreats, read books together, or explore coaching prAre you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

ResourcesEpisode 151. What has the potential to steal your joy and how can you hold onto it?  (Part 1 of 2)Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed to or following the podcast yet? If not, we encourage you to do so today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

ResourcesEpisode 200.  A Heart-to-Heart Conversation Exploring the Secrets to Lasting LoveEpisode 165. How important is your mindset when it comes to blended family life?Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

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ResourcesArticle by Big Life Journey:  7 Effective Ways to Help Children Overcome Social AnxietyEpisode 136. How to Intentionally Create Positive Family Time and Reduce Relational TensionSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

In this episode, we're diving into a topic that hits close to home for every parent—social wellness for kids and step-kids. If you've ever felt unsure about how to guide your children through the ups and downs of friendships, bullying, or personal boundaries, you're not alone. We've been there, too, and we're sharing some of our own experiences—both the wins and the missteps—as we supported our kids' social growth. This is the third episode in our wellness series, and today we're focusing on the social skills that help kids thrive, not just in childhood but for the rest of their lives. We'll talk about what social wellness really means, why it's so important, and how blended family dynamics can add an extra layer of complexity. Plus, we'll share six practical strategies that have made a difference in our home.You'll hear stories about how we coached our kids through rejection, mean-girl drama, and personal boundaries—all while learning some lessons ourselves along the way. We know firsthand how tricky it can be to help kids build confidence and navigate social challenges, but we're here to offer encouragement and ideas you can use right now. Let's tackle this together!What You'll Learn:Why social wellness is vital for kids' emotional health and overall happiness.Common parenting challenges in supporting kids' social development.Six actionable tips to help your children build social skills.Resources Mentioned:TED Talk: The Good Life is Built with Good Relationships by Dr. Robert Waldinger.Episode 168. Actionable Steps for Helping Kids Navigate Through Difficult Emotions and Problem Solve (the skill of Emotion Coaching)Article by Isa Marrs:  7 Signs Your Child is Being BulliedArticle by Jason Marrs:  What to do, and not do, if your child is being bulliedBook: Crazy Stressed by Dr. Michael BradleyEpisode 19. How to Help Step-Siblings to Get Along BetterAdvice for parents teaching social skills:  Where I Can Be MeTips for Teens around social issues:  Where I Can Be MeActionable Takeaways:Choose one or two of the six social skills strategies to focus on with your child this week.Share this episode with a friend or co-parent who might find these tips helpful.Ready for some extra support? We're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession#BlendedFamily #SocialWellness #ParentingTipsWe would be so grateful if you left us a review on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help othersAre you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Resources:Episode 198.  How do sleep habits impact the health and wellness of your kids? [with Jessica Bryant]Reach out to Jessica for a Free 15-minute sleep Audit if you have questions about sleepThe Better Sleep CounselEpisode 178. Surviving the Turbulent Teen Years: Expert Insight and Strategies for Today's Parent [With Dr. Michael Bradley]Book by Dr. Michael Bradley:  Crazy Stressed - Saving Today's Overwhelmed Teens with Love, Laughter, and the Science of ResilienceEpisode 197. Conquer Digital Overload: Parenting Tips for Raising Tech-Savvy Kids [with Steve Arterburn]Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Are your kids ever irritable, anxious, or just "off"?Maybe they aren't getting enough sleep.You might be surprised how inadequate or inconsistent sleep habits can negatively impact your kid's ability to focus, tolerate stress, and manage relationships.  Lack of sleep increases fatigue, affects mood, and decreases overall wellness.   In fact, our guest Jessica Bryant says there really isn't any health concern we might have for our kids that isn't impacted by sleep — particularly their mental health.Jessica has helped over 2000 families across 5 different countries to create healthy sleep habits.  She's done that using her unique combination of professional experience as an early childhood intervention specialist and her personal focus on creating healthy sleep routines with her own children. In this episode, Jessica shares some simple steps that can make a massive difference and increase wellness in your family by promoting healthy sleep habits.You'll Discover:The real risks and health concerns for kids struggling with sleep deprivation Practical tips around healthy sleep habits for kids of all agesHow to implement new habits as a family to promote wellness through sleepEncouragement and positive ways to approach sleep issues in your home — even when your kids' other home operates differently.Resources from this Episode:Connect with Jessica at Sleep Happy ConsultingReach out to Jessica for a Free 15 15-minute sleep Audit to help answer your questions about sleepThe Better Sleep CounselEpisode 172. 2 Key Elements to Resolve Your Parenting Style Differences - And Get UnitedReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession Subscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

ResourcesEpisode 20. 4 Big Myths About Parenting When an Ex Has Different RulesEpisode  197. Conquer Digital Overload: Parenting Tips for Raising Tech-Savvy Kids [with Steve Arterburn]Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a FREE COACHING CALL to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Ready for the Co-Parenting workshop? Join The Blending Together Community here: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

In today's screen-saturated world, parents are facing a unique challenge that previous generations never had to navigate……how to raise tech-savvy kids!Screens are everywhere.  Your children may wake up to the morning news on TV. They might work on a laptop or even a government-issued tablet while at school. Throughout the day and into the evening, they may play a game on their tablet, text friends on a smartphone, or watch a movie with the family—maybe even all three at once! Your children's 24/7 access to screens will expose them to a universe of connection and content: some good, and some damaging.  The influence of screens impacts the overall health of your kids.  The reality is that digital overload often leads to decreased health and wellness. The lure and influence of screens can leave parents feeling powerless.  How are you supposed to raise a physically and emotionally healthy, socially competent, well-balanced child in a screen-saturated world?This is a question that every parent wrestles with… …and our guest, Stephen Arterburn, is here to help!  Stephen has a personal parenting story of screen-related trauma in his family which lead him down a path to discover answers to the most common challenges that parents face in our tech-saturated world. Listen in and discover how you can make a positive and powerful impact by raising tech-savvy kids who are aware, safe, and responsible in how they engage with screens.  You'll Discover:The importance of flexibilityPractical tips for healthy screen habits in your homeWhy the worst outcomes occur when screens are "outlawed" for kidsA helpful mindset around the dangers and the benefits of the internetHow to teach kids awareness, safety, and responsibilityHow to help your kids move toward healthy choices and increased wellnessResources from this Episode:Book by Steve Arterburn and Alice Benton :  Understanding and Loving Your Child in a Screen Saturated World  Episode 70. 5 Simple Ingredients for Healthy Tech Habits with Your Kids [with Rob Hayes-St.Clair]Book by Andy Crouch:  The Tech-Wise Family - Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper PlaceEpisode 178.Surviving the Turbulent Teen Years:  Expert Insight and Strategies for Today's Parent  [With Dr. Michael Bradley]Episode 73. 4 Simple Principles for Setting Healthy Boundaries with KidsNewlife Ministries -  Help and Hope in Life's Hardest PlacesReady for some extra support?You can connect with us for a free coaching call - schedule your FREE call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionReady for the Co-Parenting workshop? Join The Blending Together Community here: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

The holidays can be a time of excitement and high hopes for family "togetherness".  You probably want to plan fun, festive activities so that you're able to enjoy memorable moments as a family.But nothing can rob you of all that fun like struggling to negotiate some details about scheduling or other logistics with your Ex.We've been there more times than we've wanted to be.  Over the years, we've discovered 5 simple things that can reduce the headaches and avoid the heartaches that often come when negotiations break down.If you're anticipating having to negotiate changes to the visitation schedule this holiday season, don't procrastinate!  We'll help you navigate the negotiations so they don't rob your joy.  Hop into this episode to discover how you can approach negotiations well and enjoy more peace this Holiday Season! You'll Discover:5 tips for negotiating schedule changes with your former spouse that can increase cooperation and ease tension How to stay focused on what's best for the kids and set them up for a peaceful Holiday Season Practical strategies for responding to your child's disappointment when they miss out on an activitySimple thoughts for managing your own emotions when things don't go as planned Resources from this Episode:Episode 67. The Best Co-Parenting Strategy That You Already KnowEpisode 112. 3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting - And Hurt the KidsEpisode 113. How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued or Dismissed by Your Former SpouseEpisode 135. How to Set Appropriate Boundaries and Negotiate Well with Your Ex-Spouse Episode 33. How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your KidsEpisode 31. 3 Unexpected Ways to Improve How You Cope with Your ExEpisode 71. How to Help Kids Cope with Painful Holiday DisappointmentEpisode 7. Toxic Exes and Hurting Kids - 5  Steps That HelpReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

ResourcesEpisode 195. Connecting with Kim's HARD Child - Facing the Challenges of Parental Alienation Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Do you ever stop to think about what it will be like 15 years from now?  What will your relationship with each of your children be like?Maybe you've got a HARD kid (Hurt, Angry, Rejecting, Distant) who's putting up walls and seems to have turned against you - and it feels like this painful season will never end.  The tension in your relationship with your child has robbed you of the connection you really want — and you aren't sure how to respond.That's exactly what we were experiencing 16 years ago, but you know what……it didn't last forever.Back when we were navigating a 3-year battle of parental alienation, Kim's daughter, Annika, was hostile and actively rejecting our family.  In the middle of all the confusion, anger, and pain, we weren't sure how to move beyond the 'black cloud' of tension we experienced during our visitation with Annika.Somewhere along the way, Kim discovered some practical strategies that created bridges of connection with Annika.  It was just enough to help us hold onto hope and keep us moving forward. The perseverance has paid off and now in Annika's adult life, we have a strong, loving connection with her.Kim is sharing a few powerful tips in this episode that can help you build bridges of connection too.  We want you to know that you can stay hopeful and show up well, even with a HARD child.  Your current season might be filled with difficult challenges, but you have what it takes to help your child know that you're loving, safe, and available.Listen in on this episode to find out more.You'll Discover:Our story of parental alienation and how Kim was able to carefully create bridges of connection with her daughter.Encouragement and practical tips for engaging with your hurt, angry, rejecting, or distant child.Resources from this Episode:Episode 194. Powerful Tips for Effectively Connecting with Your Angry or Distant Child [with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker]Article by Dr. Bob Evans:  17 Primary Alienation StrategiesEpisode 42.  Our Challenging Story of Parental Alienation - and 6 Tips for YouBook by Amy J.L. Baker and Paul R. Fine:  Parenting Under Fire - How to Communicate with Your Hurt, Angry, Rejecting, Distant ChildArticle by Amy Baker:  Five Things to Never Say to an Alienated ChildReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple Podcasts Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Resources:Episode 194. Powerful Tips for Effectively Connecting with Your Angry or Distant Child [with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker]Book by Amy J.L. Baker: and Paul R. Fine  Parenting Under FireArticle by Amy J.L. Baker:  Five Things to Never Say to an Alienated ChildSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Children of divorce who are hurt, angry, rejecting, and distant (HARD) are challenging to parent.  They can be rude, uncooperative, and disagreeable.  It's difficult to relate to or connect with them, and they can appear hardened against the love and guidance you want to provide.When conflict between two homes intensifies, children often become entangled in loyalty conflicts or sometimes victims of parental alienation. Whatever the reason might be, parents need help!If it feels like you've been parenting "under fire" and you're struggling to understand the dynamics your child might be experiencing, and you're trying to figure out how to best communicate and connect with them, you won't want to miss this interview. Our special guest Amy J.L. Baker, Ph.D., shares her experience working with parents of HARD children as they navigate the minefields of confusion, pain and frustration.  Amy offers effective strategies to enhance attachment with your child and manage your difficult dynamics — including how to respond to false accusations.If you're trying to parent a "HARD" child we want you to know there's hope and you can start making progress by listening in for practical tips on safeguarding your relationship through appropriate communication, self-awareness, and empowerment. You'll Discover:Effective ways to connect and communicate with a child who is hurt, angry, rejecting, or distantHow to respond to false accusations and avoid reinforcing negative beliefs  that the other parent is influencingPractical steps to enhancing attachment with your child by focusing on safety, love, and availabilityWarning signs to look for in your kids (and your Ex) that could possibly lead to Parental Alienation Resources from this Episode:CLICK HERE to connect with Amy J.L. Baker, Ph.D. Book by Amy J.L. Baker and Paul R. Fine:  Parenting Under Fire - How to Communicate with Your Hurt, Angry, Rejecting, Distant ChildArticle by Amy Baker:  Five Things to Never Say to an Alienated ChildArticle by Dr. Bob Evans:  17 Primary Alienation StrategiesEpisode 42.  Our Challenging Story of Parental Alienation - and 6 Tips for YouReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Resources:Episode 193. The Advantage of Learning The Basics BEFORE You  BlendCLICK HERE to receive a curated podcast list to help you learn the Basics of Blending Episode 109. Preparing to Blend:  The Couples Guide to Becoming a Smart Stepfamily [with Ron Deal]Book by Ron Deal:  Preparing to Blend:  The Couple's Guide to Becoming a Smart Stepfamily Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Most of us start off on the blending journey with some ambiguity about how to deal with the complex dynamics that will come as families merge.It usually doesn't take long before you're blindsided by the reality that there's SO MUCH MORE to blending than first anticipated.  Feelings of overwhelm, frustration, and disappointment might hit and you realize you're not as prepared as you thought. If you're seriously dating, contemplating marriage, engaged, newly married or getting ready to merge and move everyone under one roof — or if you've been on your blended journey for a while and you just need to get back to the basics……this episode is for you!Discover in ADVANCE what you can do to prepare for your blend and avoid the common "easy wrong turns" that often create confusion, resentment, tension, conflict, and disconnection in blended families.  Hop into this episode to learn best practices, helpful strategies, and understand the basics of blending so that you can set your family up for the best possible experience!You'll Discover:The advantage of preparing in ADVANCE for blended family lifeBasics for blending that build a healthy foundation so that everyone in your home can experience the best possible outcomes How to avoid the 'easy wrong turns' that lead to confusion, resentment, relational tension, painful conflict, and disconnection for blended families Resources from this Episode:CLICK HERE to receive a curated list of episodes that take a deeper dive into today's A.D.V.A.N.C.E. topicsBook: Crucial Conversations  - Tools for Talking When Stakes are HighJoin our Blending Together CommunityReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Resources:Episode 172.  2 Key Elements to Resolve Your Parenting Style Differences - And Get United Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

What's one of THE most challenging "feats" for blended couples to successfully master?Building a healthy, collaborative parenting partnership!What makes this so difficult?The sensitive topic of parenting can naturally kick off an emotionally-charged conversation, ending in disagreement, conflict, and disconnection.If you're anything like us, you've probably experienced painful, unproductive interactions around parenting that left you at risk……at risk of shutting down or shutting each other out…at risk of reacting poorly in those moments that matter most…at risk of ongoing distrust…at risk of experiencing double standards, hurt feelings, ongoing tension, resentment, and relational strain in your home.Here's the good news:  you CAN minimize these risks by practicing new ways to communicate that build your parenting partnership!In this episode, we'll share how we've learned to master the "feat" of building a parenting partnership by engaging in sensitive parenting conversations that built trust and healthy collaboration in our relationship.  Ultimately, all of this will lead to better outcomes for kids — and for you!You'll Discover:A simple 4-part process to initiating sensitive conversations and address concerns about your partner's child How to reduce conflict and break free from unproductive, ineffective communication patterns around parenting  Practical steps for building a healthy, collaborative parenting partnership Resources from this Episode:Episode 187. Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress Book:  Crucial Conversations - Tools for Talking When Stakes Are HighReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Resources Episode 191.   Achieve Financial Harmony:  Expert Guidance for Blending Your Finances [with special guests Ron Deal & Greg Pettys]Book by Ron Deal, Greg Pettys & David Edwards:  The Smart Stepfamily's Guide to Financial Planning:  Money Management Before and After You Blend a FamilyClick here to connect with Greg Pettys for a FREE consult regarding basic estate planning (wills, trusts, power of attorney, and guardianship) Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Money is emotional.That's why it can be a touchy subject for couples — whether they're preparing to blend or if they've been blending for a while.  Discussing finances can lead to very real challenges.The process of "merging money"  can easily become complicated and overwhelming for blended family couples.  The complexities tap into deeper emotions tied to things like fear, trust, loyalty, security, and stability. But "complex" and "impossible" are two different things.  The emotional nature of money doesn't have to keep couples stuck.  It is possible to create transparency, understanding, and alignment around your finances — for today and for the future. And the great part is, alignment around finances often creates greater levels of trust and intimacy in your relationship.So if your goal is to love, care, and provide for everyone in your family, but you just aren't sure how to effectively merge your finances — this episode is for you!We're so grateful to have Ron Deal and Greg Pettys on the show to share expert advice and practical steps for discussing and managing your financial expectations and future plans…  …this episode is a MUST for every blended couple.You'll Discover:How to move beyond fear and ambiguity to create transparency, understanding, and alignment around moneyThe difference between a Prenuptial Agreement (which is a contingency plan that assumes failure) and a Togetherness Agreement (which is a proactive plan that assumes success)How to build emotional and financial security and safety while making decisions around money — even when there's doubt and distrustHow to honor and provide for your children's future, while offering care and concern for your spouse and stepchildren's financial future as wellResources from this Episode:Book by Ron Deal, Greg Pettys & David Edwards:  The Smart Stepfamily's Guide to Financial Planning:  Money Management Before and After You Blend a FamilyClick here to connect with Greg Pettys for a FREE consult regarding basic estate planning (wills, trusts, power of attorney, and guardianship) Click here for a list of Smart Stepfamily Providers for help with 'under the surface' issues. Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Resources:Episode 139. The Most Common, Challenging Pain Point Every Blended Couple Experiences (Stranded Stranger / Trapped Teammate Dynamic) Episode 5. How to Get Over the Hurts and Triggers From Your PastDr. Patricia L. Papernow - Stepfamily RelationshipsSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

I (Mike) have had so many moments of just feeling stuck.  I wondered how we would ever move forward and I figured out pretty early on that I wouldn't be able to sort out all the complex chaos without some support.The problem was, I had no idea what kind of support we needed.And when we were stuck in unhealthy patterns that kept leading to disconnection and pain, it was challenging to sort out how to move forward.That's a frustrating place to be.  It can sometimes feel confusing or even hopeless.In this episode, we'll share some painful moments where we felt stuck and how we discovered the difference between engaging in counseling and coaching and the benefits of each at different seasons of our journey.The great news is there wasn't anything "wrong" with us that we couldn't work through with a little help!If you're feeling stuck in the complex realities of blending, you aren't alone and you don't have to stay stuck either.  Listen in to discover the best approach for getting the help you need today!You'll Discover:Distinct benefits and differences between counseling and coaching How Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE's) from the past might be impacting your present realityHow to get unstuck and move toward positive growthPersonal questions to help determine the best support for youResources from this Episode:Article from Cleveland Clinic:  Adverse Child Experiences (ACEs)Counselors & Coaches with Stepfamily Training Episode 165. How important is your mindset when it comes to blended family life?Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

It's hard to accept that grief is simply a part of every blended family's journey.  But that's your reality because everyone in your family has experienced some kind of loss along the way.If you aren't able to acknowledge grief and create a safe space to process through it, you'll miss out on valuable opportunities that lead to healing.In this episode, you'll discover a few truths about grief that you probably haven't considered before — plus the positive impact of allowing yourself and your kids to embrace your unique grief journey. Our special guest, Krista St-Germain, shares her personal experience of unexpected loss and critical realities that she's discovered about grief.  Krista's traumatic circumstances eventually led her on a journey of hope and healing.   As a life coach, she now devotes herself to equipping others with powerful tools to manage grief and love life again — and to help their kids do the same. Understanding the impact of loss and grief and creating opportunities to heal together is essential for blended families.  That's why we're excited to welcome Krista to the show!You'll Discover:How to normalize what's normal about loss and grief The reality of grief being a natural human response to a perceived lossHow to help your kids acknowledge and process griefWhat is trauma and post-traumatic growthResources from this Episode:Click this link to Connect with Krista St-GermainEpisode 168. Actionable Steps for Helping Kids Navigate Through Difficult Emotions and Problem Solve Episode  132.  How Does Loss and Grief Impact Blended Family Integration?Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Resources:Episode 20. 4 Big Myths About Parenting When an Ex Has Different RulesEpisode 187. Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 1)Episode 188. Basics for Blending:  How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 2)Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Discomfort and distress are common experiences for those of us navigating blended dynamics.  One key to learning to manage discomfort and distress well is practicing some simple strategies that acknowledge what you're actually experiencing and then choosing clear, healthy responses.Now, we know what you're probably thinking……"I've done everything possible to cope with my discomfort and distress, but when it comes to this specific person or certain challenging circumstance, I just get so frustrated, hurt, or angry!"We've both felt that way along our journey as well.That's why we're continuing our discussion in this 2 part series.  In this episode, we're offering practical ways to withstand 'Opposing Obstacles' — those people or circumstances that leave you feeling powerless, overwhelmed, hopeless, or defeated.We'll share some challenges we experienced with our biggest Opposing Obstacle and effective ways to approach difficult interactions and painful situations — which can ultimately help you tolerate and manage your discomfort and distress too!You'll Discover:The value of 'Radical Self-Care' (it's not what you might think)How to guard yourself from other people's bad moods - and not allow their problems to become yoursPractical ways to withstand 'Opposing Obstacles' and respond well to  criticism, rejection, and hostilityHow to hold onto your power in challenging situations - and experience more joy Resources from this Episode:Click here for episodes that focus on impactful strategies and best practices with Co-ParentingTo learn more about our RelateStrong Program, click and schedule your FREE coaching callReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback! Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

What if every moment of blended family life felt fun, connected, and peaceful?It's pretty hard to imagine.  We all know the struggles and challenges that barrage us each day.  It might seem like there's way more discomfort and distress than there is fun and connection.We've navigated countless seasons of discomfort over the past couple of decades and struggled through intense moments of distress as well.  One thing we've discovered is that these difficult experiences don't have to rob us of the peace and satisfaction we really want.Discomfort and distress are simply part of the journey — and they're hard to cope with.  But even in the midst of these moments, we each have the power to choose how we will respond.In this episode, you'll discover a few mindsets and approaches to dealing with discomfort and distress so that you can be free to enjoy the good moments with more confidence and peace.You'll Discover:Why it's critical in blended dynamics to tolerate and manage discomfort and distress How to move away from avoidance and  unhealthy reactions that perpetuate underlying issues A practical approach to reduce your discomfort and distress  Resources from this Episode:Take the Blended Family Breakthrough QUIZCheck out the Blending Together CommunityEpisode 107. 3 Disheartening Realities That No Couple Wants To Go Through - But We All Have ToEpisode 184. The Heart of Motherhood:  Navigating Messy Moments with Empathy and LoveEpisode 168. Actionable Steps for Helping Kids Navigate Through Difficult Emotions and Problem SolveEpisode 172. 2 Key Elements to Resolve Your Parenting Style Differences - And Get UnitedEpisode 59. Why are you stuck in a parent-child allegiance? (Part 1)Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast.  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” —Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether