Empowered AF

Empowered AF 2.0 - Episode 111: "Mark's The 7 Laws of Problem-Solving"In this episode, Mark Santiago shares his "7 Laws of Problem-Solving," a framework developed from his experience as a coach and business owner. These laws guide individuals in addressing both personal and relationship challenges:Not all problems need to be solved.Not all problems need to be solved now.Problems are agnostic - they don't care who you are.Problems are meant to help you grow as a leader.Solving problems is a game of sequence - solve the right problems at the right time.Problems are challenges meant to help you grow.Don't solve problems that haven't been created yet.Mark applies these principles to relationship issues, emphasizing the importance of addressing root causes rather than just symptoms. He shares a story about a client who regained power in his relationship by making the right decision to stay rather than leave.Highlights:How to discern which problems to tackle firstUnderstanding emotional disconnection in relationshipsThe significance of doing inner work and setting healthy boundariesMark also provides practical advice for listeners, like Nate, who are dealing with complex relationship issues such as infidelity. He encourages focusing on personal growth and healing before moving forward with new relationships.---------------------------------------------------------------- YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.Join our 5-Day Challenge: https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastJoin our Facebook Group: https://empoweredman.co/groupBook your FREE Strategy Session here: https://training.empoweredman.co/application?el=Podcast

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark engages in an impromptu "Ask Mark Anything" session, tackling a variety of questions. He delves into complex relationship issues, such as dealing with a partner's affair, overcoming codependency, and navigating a divorce. He also emphasizes the importance of self-healing, boundaries, and genuine communication in facing challenges, offering insights and guidance to anyone grappling with emotional turmoil and relationship struggles.Episode Summary:Navigating infidelity and confusion in a marriage. 0:03Mark explains that false positives are common in situations where a spouse has cheated, and the cheated partner may exhibit affectionate behavior towards their partner as a result of confusion and conflicting emotions.Mark advises a listener who is experiencing this situation to be patient and understanding, as it is normal for the cheated partner to go through a range of emotions and to take time to process their feelings.Infidelity and healing. 2:17Mark describes the process of healing from an affair as a "deep component" that requires self-reflection and personal growth.The responsibility of the person who has been cheated on is to work on their own healing and how to move forward, rather than trying to fix the other person.Mark acknowledges that you may not have put a gun to your wife's head to make her cheat, but you may have created an environment that contributed to that.Mark recognizes that men often struggle to open up about their emotions and deal with them in a healthy way.Communication during and after divorce. 6:38Communicate with your ex-wife as a neutral person, not a former partner or friend, to maintain boundaries and respect each other's space during a divorce.Mark shares his personal experience with moving on from a previous relationship and how he took the time to heal and come to a place of readiness for a new relationship.Mark advises others to prioritize healing and self-reflection before entering a new relationship, rather than rushing into it without proper closure and healing from past wounds.Grief, codependency, and confidence. 10:01Mark offers guidance on building confidence through self-reflection and identifying past wins.Mark discusses how men often struggle with codependency and losing confidence, leading to feelings of insecurity and a need to control.Mark emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation and honesty in addressing these issues.Personal growth and marriage reconciliation. 13:38Mark emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation and personal growth for men in marriages facing...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark shares more about the powerful "Be the Gift Challenge" he initiated during Christmas. He explores the profound parallels between Game of Thrones' iconic theme "Winter is Coming" and the challenges faced in marriages. Drawing lessons from the series, he emphasizes the inevitability of life's challenges, urging you as a man to prepare emotionally for Christmas and New Year, regardless of your marital situation. Mark advocates for the importance of a supportive brotherhood, highlighting its role in confronting internal struggles. Rejecting the idea of a single solution, he stresses the need for a focused strategy to address the root causes of pain, guiding you towards empowerment and authentic self-discovery. Episode Summary:Mark Santiago introduces the next level of his podcast empowered AF 2.0, focusing on healthy communication, lifestyle, and personal growth.Mark references Game of Thrones to emphasize the unpredictability of life and the importance of being prepared for challenges, using the theme "winter is coming" as a metaphor.Mark discusses the theme of winter coming in the series, emphasizing its apocalyptic implications.Mark compares the show's focus on winter to the way people ignore looming problems in their own lives, such as divorce or separation.Using pain to overcome obstacles in life. 4:37Mark notes that the White Walkers in Game of Thrones are relentless and overwhelming, despite efforts to defeat them with Valerian steel.A plan is ultimately successful in defeating the White Walkers, led by a brother and sister who work together to kill the king and shatter the army.Mark discusses the importance of facing pain and taking responsibility for personal growth, using the story of a linchpin to illustrate the idea that one key element can lead to significant change.Mark encourages listeners to be the gift they want to receive during the holiday season, rather than ignoring or denying problems.Coping with divorce during the holiday season. 9:29Mark acknowledges that winter (divorce) is coming for many couples, and preparation is key to being the best version of oneself.Mark encourages listeners to choose between being the "best version" or "bitch version" of themselves during the upcoming holiday season.Mark struggles with maintaining a facade of confidence and normalcy during a stressful family event, revealing their inner turmoil and emotional pain.Mark acknowledges the importance of confronting and dealing with your emotions, rather than burying them and pretending everything is fine, in order to move forward and find a positive outcome.The importance of addressing internal trauma for personal growth. 13:25Mark emphasizes the importance of a "brotherhood" in overcoming personal struggles and achieving success (14:56).A brotherhood can provide support, accountability, and the ability to "call out...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark shares the powerful "Be the Gift Challenge" he initiated during Christmas. He replays Facebook Lives where he discusses the inspiration from the movie "Jingle All the Way." Mark emphasizes the importance of fathers being present, not just with material gifts but with time, energy, and affection. He challenges you to give one new gift daily to your children and suggests that, for many, the first step is giving these gifts to yourself. Mark passionately encourages you to invest in your emotional well-being, affirming that you are worth the effort and capable of being the greatest gift to your families.Episode Summary:Gift-giving and self-care during the holidays. 0:03Mark Santiago discusses the "be the gift challenge" during Christmas, encouraging men to be present and supportive for their families.Mark shares personal stories of going through separation and divorce during Christmas, offering insights on how to navigate difficult times.Mark discusses the pressure on men to provide gifts for their children during the holiday season, citing the movie "Jingle All the Way" as inspiration.Fatherhood and Christmas gift-buying. 3:51Howard struggles with balancing work and fatherhood in "Jingle All the Way."Mark discusses how men often try to buy their children's affection during separation and divorce, using gifts as a way to make up for not being present as a father.Mark shares a personal story about a character in a movie who goes on an adventure to find a toy for his son, but ultimately realizes that the son doesn't want the toy, he wants his father's attention and presence.The importance of being present for children. 9:37Turbo Man saves his son from falling after being attacked by Sinbad's character, and the son reveals that he's been wanting a Turbo Man doll for Christmas.Turbo Man's wife is shocked to find out that her husband is actually Turbo Man, and she gives Jamie the special collector's edition Turbo Man doll.Mark emphasizes the importance of being present for children, not just giving them gifts.Mark encourages fathers to do the work of healing and being present for their kids.Mark plans to discuss practical ways to be present for children in future videos.Personal growth and relationships. 15:42Man's neglect of wife and son leads to temptation for another man.Mark emphasizes the importance of self-investment for personal growth and relationships.Being a good father and husband. 18:49Mark emphasizes the importance of being a gift to one's family, particularly as a father, and offers three ways to give without relying on...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark introduces Matthew, a regular guy who turned his life around by investing in himself through the Empowered Man program. Matthew shares his journey from a challenging divorce to financial struggles and how he chose to make an investment in personal growth. The episode emphasizes the difference between a cost and an investment, highlighting the profound impact it had on Matthew's life, leading to a new relationship and a sense of purpose. They also challenge you to see yourself as a worthy investment and to take control of your destiny.Episode Summary:Empowerment and personal growth for men. 0:03Mark Santiago introduces Matthew, a client who went through a transformation with Empowered Man.Matthew shares his personal journey and reasons for joining Empowered Man, highlighting the impact the program had on his life.Taking responsibility for personal growth after infidelity. 2:05Matthew's personal journey of self-discovery through Empowered Man coaching.Matthew reflects on his past mistakes and struggles with boundaries, financial control, and vision, and how writing down his goals and vision has given him power and direction.Matthew credits the pain of past failed relationships as a motivator for taking his personal growth more seriously and writing down his goals.Matthew acknowledges his role in the failed marriage, taking responsibility for his emotional unavailability and lack of emotional growth.Matthew emphasizes the importance of doing "deep shadow work" on one's inner child self to heal emotional wounds and become a better, more emotionally available man.Personal growth and investment. 9:37Matthew shares his experience of feeling unfulfilled and lost before discovering the Empowered Man podcast, which inspired him to tap into his internal producer and provide more than just financial support.Matthew describes how they were inspired by the podcast to recognize his potential as more than just a provider, and to prioritize his own growth and well-being.Matthew describes how they saw the loan as an investment, not a cost, despite having been bankrupt in the past.Mark highlights the difference between a cost and an investment, and how Matthew's mindset demonstrates his willingness to transform and change.Self-worth and investment in personal growth. 14:11Matthew believes they have purpose and meaning in life, and are willing to invest in themselves to achieve their goals.Mark questions whether other men see themselves as worthy investments, and notes the impact of low self-esteem on a person's ability to provide for their children.Mark expresses fear of investing in oneself due to potential divorce, highlighting the need to overcome this fear for personal growth.Matthew...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark discusses the core of every man's desire – respect. Drawing inspiration from the iconic song "Respect," he explores how self-respect forms the foundation for earning respect from others, especially in relationships. Mark shares personal anecdotes, emphasizing the pivotal role of boundaries, self-care, and emotional healing in garnering the respect every man craves. He also challenges you to confront your own disempowerment, urging you to take ownership, lead with conviction, and transform into an empowered man. Episode Summary:Self-respect and its impact on relationships. 0:03Mark Santiago discusses the importance of respect in relationships.Mark identifies lack of self-respect as the root cause of disrespect in relationships.Self-respect and empowerment in marriage. 3:09Mark discusses how some men don't value themselves in their marriage, leading to them not setting boundaries and allowing their partner to cheat.The importance of taking care of emotional wounds and setting boundaries to move forward in a healthy relationship.Mark argues that men are hardwired to feel respected and that disrespect can lead to disempowerment and fighting.Mark believes that men should focus on respecting themselves rather than blaming their partners for disrespect.Self-respect and empowerment in relationships. 8:11Respect yourself, act like a man, and earn respect from others.Men often act like children when they should be acting like adults, disrespecting themselves and their potential.Mark encourages men to respect themselves and take ownership of their lives to change the dynamic of disrespect and empower themselves.Personal growth and taking ownership of one's life. 11:49Lack of leadership, vision, and proactiveness can lead to disrespect in marriage.Mark emphasizes the importance of taking ownership of one's life and circumstances to overcome victim mentality and achieve personal growth.Empowerment and self-respect in relationships. 15:03Mark emphasizes the importance of self-respect and empowerment in personal growth, particularly in the context of a difficult divorce.Mark encourages others to take ownership of their actions and decisions, rather than blaming others or feeling disrespected.Mark shares his personal journey of transforming from a "disempowered" man to an "empowered" one through self-reflection, emotional healing, and taking decisive action.Mark thanks listeners for tuning in and encourages them to visit earlier episodes of the podcast and join the Empowered Man group for further support.Listen...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark and Joey dive deep into the cycle of disempowerment, engaging their audience by prompting them to share their experiences. They explore the impact of guilt, blame, and the tendency to fix things in relationships. They challenge conventional narratives and encourage you to take ownership of your actions, fostering personal growth and the pursuit of authentic connections.Episode Summary:Feeling disempowered and the cycle of guilt. 0:03Mark Santiago introduces the topic of empowerment and invites listeners to share their experiences with disempowerment.Joey discusses the cycle of disempowerment, including feeling stuck, overanalyzing, and hiding behind achievements.Men often turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as drugs or alcohol, to deal with feelings of inadequacy and shame.Feeling guilty about not being able to fix a problem or figure out what's going on, which Joey calls "the dogma."Divorce, toxic masculinity, and personal growth. 5:49Mark shares their experience with divorce and how it affected their children, emphasizing the importance of owning one's "stuff" and creating a healthy environment for kids.Mark believes that divorce doesn't have to be destructive and that there is a path through it that can help children thrive, with the help of a supportive stepparent.Mark discusses how men are socialized to fix problems, but often end up fixing the wrong problem, leading to unhealthy patterns and relationships.Mark argues that taking ownership of one's actions and emotions is key to personal growth and healthy relationships, rather than sacrificing oneself for the sake of a marriage.Blame and responsibility in marriage conflicts. 11:04Joey acknowledges that men often blame external factors for their relationship problems, rather than taking responsibility for their own actions.The importance of taking ownership over one's marriage and personal growth.Mark emphasizes the importance of both partners wanting to work on a marriage, stating that one person cannot save a marriage alone.Mark criticizes the idea that one person can "get their spouse back" and then six months later, they're cheating again, highlighting the need for self-reflection and personal growth.Taking ownership and responsibility in relationships. 15:28Men taking ownership of their roles in failed marriages and blaming themselves for not being a "safe place" for their partners.Taking responsibility and ownership to break free from guilt, shame, and blame cycles.Men are encouraged to join the Empowered Man group for further support and knowledge on how to be an empowered man in their relationships and various aspects of life.Listen In!

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark and Joey discuss the essence of conviction and why you might not be where you want to be. They challenge you to explore the impact of true commitment and guide you towards a path of self-discovery and transformation. Mark also shares stories from their Thrive program, emphasizing the importance of owning your actions and breaking free from the guilt cycle. Episode Summary:Personal growth and self-improvement. 0:03Joey discusses the importance of having cameras on during virtual calls to build connection and accountability.Joey encourages those feeling unfulfilled to take action and do something different.Joey shares an assignment from their private vault to help call participants gain value and tangible takeaways.Guilt, shame, and blame in personal relationships. 4:08Joey addresses guilt, limbo, shame, and regret.The importance of acknowledging and dealing with feelings of guilt and shame in relationships.Taking ownership and responsibility in relationships. 9:03Joey encourages listeners to take ownership of their emotions and mistakes, rather than blaming others.Joey shares personal experiences of blaming CrossFit for a failing marriage, but acknowledges the importance of doing the work to improve the relationship.Joey reflects on blaming others for relationship issues and takes ownership of personal growth.Personal growth and transformation for men. 14:46Joey encourages men to break free from guilt and shame cycles through community and personal growth.Joey encourages those feeling stuck to take action, mentioning they've worked with some on Thrive and Revive, a training showing how to leverage AI in business.Taking ownership in relationships and personal growth. 19:08The importance of taking ownership in relationships to achieve desired outcomes.Joey helps a man who was displaced from his home and provides support in setting boundaries and achieving goals.Listen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark and Joey discuss the concepts of guilt, shame, and blame, urging you to move away from the cycle of misery and toward ownership. They emphasize the transformative power of taking responsibility and of choosing one's interpretation of life events. They also talk about the freedom that comes with radical accountability and the journey toward empowerment and unshakable futures.Episode Summary:Guilt and shame cycles among men. 0:03Mark Santiago introduces the next level of his podcast, Empowered AF 2.0, where he delves deeper into what it means to be an empowered man.Guests share their reasons for joining the call, including wanting to become a better man, dealing with separation, and seeking advice on how to improve their lives.Joey acknowledges the cycle of guilt, shame, and blame, recognizing the need to take responsibility and break the cycle.Taking ownership for personal growth and freedom. 4:43The importance of taking ownership and responsibility for one's life, rather than simply feeling guilty.The group discusses the concept of "bridging the gap from guilt to ownership" and how it leads to true transformation.Men struggle taking ownership due to fear of vulnerability and accountability.Men's emotional struggles and empowerment. 9:04Men often struggle with asking for help due to pride and fear of being judged as lesser men.Men's inability to ask for help can stem from a lack of self-awareness and a fear of vulnerability, leading to feelings of inadequacy and arrested development.Guilt and shame can be avoided by taking ownership and leaning into pain.Mark emphasizes the importance of taking ownership and responsibility in life, rather than blaming others or external circumstances.Mark encourages listeners to adopt an empowered mindset, where they see obstacles as opportunities for growth and development, rather than as sources of shame or blame.Taking responsibility and personal growth. 15:40Joey emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility and living from a place of leadership to achieve freedom.A man reaches out to Joey for help reapplying the discipline he learned from him, feeling stuck and unfulfilled in his current state.Taking ownership and accountability in life after divorce. 19:46Taking ownership of one's life after a divorce.Mark reflects on their divorce and how they chose to interpret it as an opportunity for growth, rather than just a negative experience.Mark encourages others to take ownership of their actions and set themselves up for a future that is unshakable.Mark shares...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Joey discusses the uncertainties and challenges of relationships, especially when the word "divorce" is thrown into the mix. Offering hard truths, he challenges you to embrace lessons from both your wins and your losses. He discusses the power of gratitude, emphasizing its importance in good times and bad. Joey passionately explores the need for self-improvement, urging you to lead with intention and authenticity. He also invites you to take action, providing an opportunity for personal transformation and a chance to build the marriage that you desire.Episode Summary:Personal growth and gratitude for men. 0:03It's time to do something different if you're not where you want to be.Find lessons in both winning and losing, and welcome them equally.Gratitude is tested when things aren't going well, and finding it in both situations is key to continued success.Personal growth and validation for men. 6:19Joey emphasizes the importance of learning to communicate with women in a non-aggressive manner.Acknowledge that you are trying to show your wife changes by doing work, but questions whether the work is truly for your or to appease your wife.Validation from a partner is necessary for personal growth, but recognition from within is more important.Personal growth and relationships. 11:48Joey emphasizes the importance of taking ownership of one's actions and decisions for personal growth and better relationships.Joey advises against being overly concerned with protecting or "saving" your partner, as they are grown individuals capable of making their own decisions.Joey encourages men to take a more assertive approach in their relationships, rather than constantly catering to your partner's needs.Transforming marriages through communication and leadership. 16:31Joey encourages men to take action and apply information, not just read books.Take the lead and create a beautiful new marriage.Marriage, parenting, and personal growth. 21:41Joey emphasizes the importance of doing the work to navigate marriage challenges and build a strong relationship.Joey shares personal experiences with navigating hurdles and friction in his own marriage, encouraging others to do the same for their kids' sake.Joey encourages you to take action and do the work to improve your life, acknowledging that truth always comes forward and you are both the problem and the solution.Listen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark and Joey discuss the impact of personal narratives on relationships and challenge you to confront the lies you tell yourself. They share personal stories, debunk common myths, and emphasize the power of owning your truth. The episode encourages you to embrace accountability, reject societal dogmas, and embark on a transformative journey towards becoming the authentic, empowered man that you aspire to be.Episode Summary:Truth and lies in personal beliefs and practices. 0:03Empowered AF host Mark Santiago explores truth vs. lies with guests, delving into personal growth and self-discovery.Mark passes down a family tradition of cutting off both sides of a ham, but the reason is revealed to be a lie passed down through generations.How many of our beliefs and practices are rooted in unverified stories and traditions, and how important it is to question and seek the truth?Military deployment and relationship dynamics. 3:46Mark and Joey express frustration with the pattern of losing someone and then trying to get them back, only to lose them again.Mark asks the group to share their thoughts on this pattern and what they are holding onto.Mark and Joey recognize a pattern of detaching and reattaching in their relationship, indicating a need for change.Joey describes a cycle of detachment and attachment in military relationships, with a breakdown occurring after periods of time apart.Self-defeating beliefs in relationships. 8:54Joey identifies the lie as the pattern of getting stuck in a false hope, while Mark emphasizes the importance of recognizing the truth behind someone's return or absence.Lies about self-worth are repeating relationship patterns.Personal growth and relationship healing. 13:04The importance of personal growth and self-awareness in saving a marriage, rather than solely focusing on changing one's partner.Mark asserts that they are truthful and transparent in their approach, even if it means losing clients.Men need to take control of their own personal growth to save a struggling marriage, rather than relying on their partner to do the work.Personal growth and transformation after a divorce. 16:36Mark describes feeling trapped in a marriage and experiencing a turning point where they realize they need to make changes for their own happiness.Mark shares their decision to file for divorce and the emotional journey that followed, including feeling liberated and relieved.Mark and Joey acknowledge the need for change and conviction rather than relying on "band-aid" solutions.Mark emphasizes the importance...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark and Joey discuss the impact of accusatory statements on relationships, addressing the roots of those behaviors, and the cost of holding onto those patterns. They also explore the implications on one's identity, family dynamics, and the necessity of transforming those behaviors for personal growth and healthier relationships.Episode Summary:Weak statements in communication. 0:03Host Mark Santiago introduces the next stage of his podcast, "Empowered AF 2.0," focusing on healthy communication and personal growth.Joey shares experiences of rejection and tantrums, encouraging honesty and maturity.Dealing with rejection and self-reflection. 3:43Feeling rejected during intimacy, leading to self-reflection on the stories they tell themselves.Mark acknowledges the emotions that come with rejection and encourages listeners to explore their own stories and emotions.Joey reflects on past experiences of feeling rejected and silencing their inner critic to question if they view deep connection only through intimacy.Joey considers the possibility that rejection may lead to self-reflection and growth, rather than assuming the worst about themselves.The impact of ego and accusations in relationships. 8:39The importance of understanding and connecting with yourself before pursuing a healthy relationship with others.Mark encourages listeners to examine their own emotions and actions in relationships, rather than blaming or accusing others.Neil shares how his wife's infidelity has cost him everything - partner, self-worth, and time with his kids.Personal growth and transformation after a divorce. 13:39Neil struggles with defining a relationship with themselves before bringing it to the table, citing family problems and ownership of personal issues as major obstacles.Neil struggles with forgiveness and detaching from the outcome of a difficult situation, and fears becoming someone new.Neil identifies a lack of true ownership and clarity on the fact that the relationship has ended as the root cause of his struggles.Personal growth and identity shift. 18:55Mark emphasizes the importance of humility in personal growth, acknowledging that it takes humility to unlock growth and overcome ego.Mark encourages listeners to stop making excuses and take ownership of their lives, recognizing that real men stop making excuses and bear their crosses.Neil is struggling with self-deception and lying to himself, and recognizes the need to shift his identity to a higher standard.Mark is taking action by setting new standards for himself and seeking

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark is joined by Sam Davis and they discuss Sam's transformative journey post-divorce. From dissecting his ego's role in the marriage to confronting his past behavior, they unearth the raw emotions and pivotal realizations. Sam's heartfelt letter to his ego becomes a beacon of hope for self-acceptance and growth. His commitment to being a better father and breaking generational patterns shines through, offering a powerful lesson in personal evolution and parental guidance.Episode Summary:Marriage, communication, and control. 0:03Host Mark Santiago introduces the next stage of his podcast, Empowered AF 2.0, focusing on healthy communication and lifestyle for men.Sam describes how his business travel and desire for control led to the end of his marriage, causing his wife to feel lonely and unhappy.Sam reflects on how his controlling behavior was a hindrance to his relationship, rather than a help, and how he wishes he could have seen his wife's perspective earlier.Personal growth and self-awareness in a post-divorce context. 4:20Sam recognizes and takes ownership of his role in failing marriage after joining empowerment group.Sam realized he was raised with toxic masculinity and was taught to suppress emotions, leading to a desire to get his ex-wife back through the program.Sam's initial motivation for joining the program was to change himself in hopes of getting his ex-wife back, but he eventually realized the importance of self-improvement and becoming a better person.Sam realized the importance of living in the moment and prioritizing his daughters, leading to increased happiness and fulfillment.Sam's shift in focus allowed him to put his daughters first and experience the rewards of doing so.Fatherhood, marriage, and emotional intelligence. 11:48Sam reflects on missed opportunities with children, now prioritizing presence in their lives.Sam shares how they've learned to live in the present and enjoy his family, rather than focusing on the future and saving money.Mark appreciates the progress Sam has made in his communication and emotional intelligence, and notes that it's opened his mind up to new realizations.Ego and marriage after a failed relationship. 15:33Ego and wounds played a significant role in the Sam's failed marriage and subsequent decision-making.Sam admits to being an "embarrassing dick" to his partner during a difficult moment, revealing his ego's defensive mechanisms.Sam reflects on his divorce and the idea that love is a fleeting emotion that can change over time, requiring work and commitment to maintain a successful marriage.Sam acknowledges that letting go of a loved one can be difficult, but it's sometimes necessary for personal growth and...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Joey discusses the essence of taking responsibility in relationships. He dissects feeling sorry, guilt, shame, and blame in a cycle, emphasizing the shift towards responsive responsibility. He engages listeners in self-reflection, encouraging accountability, and offering tools for personal growth. The episode ends with an opportunity to explore further through a seven-day trial for self-improvement tools and live coaching sessions.Episode Summary:Taking responsibility in relationships. 0:03Mark Santiago discusses taking responsibility and guilt in relationships.Speakers share experiences of guilt, shame, and blame in a group setting.Responsibility leads to freedom, while apologies lead to guilt and shame.Taking responsibility in marriage. 6:19Freedom leads to clarity, which leads to growth.Joey emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility in a marriage, rather than blaming your partner.Taking responsibility in marriage and moving on. 11:57Taking responsibility for not listening empathetically in a Thrive exercise.Being in a long-term unhappy marriage and feeling trapped, but ultimately finding freedom and happiness after a spouse left.Marcelino reflects on their past choices and realizes they were willing to settle for an unhappy marriage for the sake of their children, but now sees the benefit of being single again and taking responsibility for their own life.Taking responsibility and setting boundaries in relationships. 17:23Neil shares concerns about giving leadership, feeling it can make one appear weak or immature.Setting boundaries with an ex-wife after years of disrespect, cutting off communication.Joey emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and finding freedom and peace in relationships.Personal growth and empowerment. 23:47Joey emphasizes the importance of vision and clarity in personal growth, encouraging viewers to take action if they're feeling stuck or unfulfilled.Joey offers a free $7 tune-up for those ready to enhance their kingdom and step into their vision, with the option to purchase more comprehensive programs for those who want a deeper transformation.Joey shares personal insecurities about penis size, finances, and marriage.The program offers weekly live and group trainings with empowered man coaches, a private community, and bonus content.Joey offers a $7, 7-day trial for a call with no commitment or contract, emphasizing the importance of taking responsibility for one's life.Thanks for joining the podcast and encourages them to visit previous episodes for more...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark is joined by Scott Suazo and they discuss the powerful concept of kicking ass, taking responsibility, and owning your actions. Scott, a military officer, shares his journey in understanding and implementing responsibility in his life. The conversation highlights the importance of communication, the impact of past experiences on relationships, and the significance of setting boundaries. Scott's journey serves as a testament to the transformative power of personal growth and taking charge of your life. Episode Summary:Personal growth and responsibility. 0:03Mark Santiago introduces the next level of his podcast, empowered AF 2.0, which will delve deeper into what it means to be an empowered man.Scott Suazo, a client of Mark's, joins the episode to discuss the importance of taking responsibility and ownership, with a focus on kicking ass and being a manly figure.Taking responsibility and communication in relationships. 2:07Scott reflects on his personal responsibility and sense of duty, citing his parents and personal beliefs as influences.Scott grapples with the idea of men not taking responsibility, suggesting it may be due to a lack of programs or support structures encouraging personal accountability.Scott reflects on his first marriage, acknowledging communication issues and the importance of taking responsibility and ownership in relationships.Scott's ex-wife and current wife have different personalities and communication styles, leading to challenges in their relationships.Communication and boundary-setting in relationships. 7:27Mark and Scott discuss their experiences with toxic communication in their previous relationships and how they've learned to set boundaries and communicate better through a program.Scott credits the program with helping him understand how to use "I feel" statements and set boundaries, but still struggles with it at times.Toxic relationships and personal empowerment. 10:08Mark shares his experience with a toxic relationship, highlighting the importance of setting boundaries and recognizing when someone is not a safe space for vulnerability.Scott relates to the experience, emphasizing the difficulty of finding support groups for those who have been emotionally drained by toxic relationships.Mark emphasizes the importance of empowering individuals to make their own decisions, rather than telling them what to do.Scott shares his personal experience of gaining insight and control through therapy and self-work, leading to a divorce decision made by themselves.Relationship dynamics and personal growth. 15:00Scott...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark and Joey dive deep into the lies men often tell themselves, especially in moments of friction and crisis. They discuss the societal pressure and social status associated with marriage and divorce within certain communities. They emphasize the importance of not using your children as emotional shields and how showing up for them is crucial. They also share personal experiences and insights on building healthier relationships with your kids post-divorce. They also challenge you to confront your own lies and uncover the truth, providing valuable guidance on how to lead yourself and your children effectively. Episode Summary:Lies men tell themselves about marriage and relationships. 0:03Mark Santiago explores the lies men tell themselves about marriage and failure.Staying in an unhappy marriage for the sake of social status and saving face, rather than prioritizing his own happiness.Mark's coach challenges this mindset by pointing out that being single does not define a person's worth or masculinity, and that prioritizing one's own happiness is essential for personal growth and fulfillment.Using children as shields in divorce and moving forward. 5:04Mark credits himself with raising kids better after divorce, despite ex's mental health struggles.Mark advises men to be honest about their feelings and stop hiding behind their children in their relationships.Parenting and personal growth after divorce. 8:19Mark reflects on his divorce journey and how he prioritized their children's well-being by leveling up and showing up for themselves.Mark credits coaching and community support in developing the Empowered Man program, which addresses missing elements of masculinity and community in traditional coaching.Mark emphasizes the importance of showing up for his children, even when he's struggling personally.Father-daughter dynamics and emotional manipulation. 13:06Mark shares his experience of manipulating their daughter emotionally, recognizing the unhealthy dynamic and seeking forgiveness.Mark shares how he prioritizes his children's needs and expresses gratitude for the intentionality in building a relationship with his oldest daughter.Mark discusses their upcoming training, "The Five Dimensional Man," which focuses on balancing various aspects of life, including parenting, marriage, and personal health.Personal growth and transformation. 17:36Mark challenges listeners to challenge themselves on their goals and take action for progress.Robert Frost suggests overcoming analysis paralysis by engaging in physical activities to feel emotions and...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark is joined by Ray Muscat and they discuss Ray's transformative journey in California. Ray, a typical blue-collar worker with a chaotic life, reflects on his past behavior and how he was trapped in a cycle of stress and neglecting his own needs. However, Ray's story takes a turn when he recognizes the need for self-care and self-love, leading to a powerful transformation. He shares how the program, Empowered Man, changed his perspective on life, relationships, and gratitude. Episode Summary:Personal growth and self-improvement. 0:03Ray Muscat shares his personal journey of self-transformation and authenticity.Ray describes his pre-transformation life as chaotic and stressful, with a long commute and little time for self-care or personal passions.Ray felt completely exhausted and lost his sense of self, with hobbies and passions dying out and causing depression.Neglecting relationships due to prioritizing work. 4:34Ray's absence due to pursuit of money and material items led to devastation of his relationship with his wife.Ray acknowledges being transactional in his relationship, not being intentional or present, and regrets not having hard conversations.Recognizing the pattern of not accepting yourself or your partner, leading to a toxic dynamic.Personal growth and transformation. 8:46Ray recognized the need for change when he realized he wasn't putting in effort to improve his life and was expecting a quick fix.Fear was the catalyst to take action and make changes in life.Ray struggled with fear and paralysis in his relationship, feeling stuck between making changes and lacking the courage to act.Ray's conversation with the program facilitator helped him see the importance of transforming for himself, rather than just trying to change for his partner.Personal growth and relationship improvements. 14:10Ray reflects on his journey with Thrive, mentioning a major breakthrough in recognizing the importance of self-care and prioritizing their own emotions.Ray realized he was not showing up for his children as he thought, and was controlling and disrespectful towards them.Ray is now guiding his children with questions to help them find their own answers and show up differently in their relationships.Self-care and personal growth for men. 19:17Prioritizing self-care by dating yourself, enjoying food, and practicing meditation.Ray finds joy in simple tasks like sitting in a park, feeling the sun on his skin, and connecting with nature.Ray reflects on his transformation and the importance of joy and financial stability...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark and Joey discuss weak statements and the impact of poor communication in relationships. They emphasize the importance of slowing down, listening, and understanding your own emotions. They offer practical tools for improving communication and fostering emotional connection within relationships. Jerry shares his personal experience and takes the opportunity to express his feelings and self-reflection. The episode delves into the complexities of relationships, the consequences of not prioritizing one's partner, and the need for self-awareness and transformation.Episode Summary:Toxic statements and their impact on relationships. 0:03Mark Santiago introduces the topic of weak statements and shares personal experiences with them.He invites listeners to share their experiences and encourages them to use the "number one" in the chat if they've been in a similar situation.Defensiveness in relationships and its impact. 2:42Joey discusses the dangers of "weak statements" in communication, which are accusatory and defensive responses that avoid taking ownership of one's actions.Mark provides examples of weak statements, such as "You always make me feel insecure" or "You never take responsibility," and encourages listeners to be more mindful of their own emotions and communication style.Mark Speaker reflects on their childhood experiences of feeling undefended and now defending themselves in relationships, realizing the toxic ecosystem they've created.Joey recognizes the defensiveness and stonewalling in their own behavior, likening it to one of the four horsemen of Dr. John Gottman, indicating the relationship's doomsday.Emotional regulation and empathy in relationships. 8:28Participants share emotions of anxiety, sadness, anger, and feeling unheard, revealing insecurities about self-awareness and identity.The inability to sit with one's own emotions and feelings leads to pushback and resistance in relationships.The lack of emotional regulation in children can be compared to a "terror" or "gremlin" when they are hungry or upset.Emotional intelligence and communication in relationships. 12:18Mark says that not dealing with internal emotions and pain can lead to coping mechanisms like blaming others, which can harm relationships and even emotionally abuse children.Mark shares their personal experience of being emotionally abused by their father and how it has impacted their life, highlighting the importance of self-reflection and doing the "hard work" to become empowered.Improving communication in marriage by slowing down and actively listening to partner.Improving communication in relationships.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark is joined by Josh Marlowe and they discuss Josh's journey of personal transformation. They explore the challenges men face, such as societal expectations and the fear of vulnerability. Josh reflects on his past marriage, his journey to self-discovery, and how he learned to own his shortcomings. He emphasizes the importance of self-love and self-care for men and shares how he found a supportive brotherhood.Episode Summary:Personal growth and healing after divorce. 0:03Josh shares his story of transitioning from nervous to empowered in a Facebook group.Josh reflects on his marriage and divorce, seeking therapy and self-discovery.Personal growth and emotional intelligence. 4:03Struggling with self-blame and pride, realizing they were the common denominator in past relationships.Josh encourages the listener to face themselves in the mirror and work on personal growth.Growing up in a household where emotions were suppressed, leading to low self-esteem and difficulty forming authentic relationships.Confronting and overcoming these issues through therapy and self-reflection, allowing them to live their authentic life and form healthier relationships.Healing and personal growth for men. 10:05Dealing with inner pain and struggles through external successes.Josh found personal growth and happiness through self-awareness and self-improvement.Josh found healing insights and new perspective on father wound through Empowered Man event.Healing, growth, and self-love after divorce. 16:01Josh shares their experience of divorce and how it has affected their life, including the challenges of co-parenting with their ex-partner.Mark asks questions and provides support, highlighting the importance of communication and healing in the divorce process.Josh is on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment after going through a divorce, focusing on internal peace and happiness.Josh acknowledges the cultural shift in men prioritizing self-care and personal growth, highlighting Speaker 1's commitment to investing in themselves.Personal growth and empowerment for men. 22:39Josh shares their personal transformation journey through the program, emphasizing the importance of diving deep and doing the work for internal growth.Mark encourages listeners who are on the fence to join the program, emphasizing the focus on becoming an empowered man and rising above disempowerment.Mark shares their personal journey of healing and growth, encouraging others to do the same.Josh encourages men to find a way to better themselves, despite...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Joey discusses he difference between boundaries, control, and manipulation. He guides you through creating effective boundaries and provides insights into enforcing logical consequences when boundaries are crossed. Joey's gives practical advice and real-life examples that can transform your interactions with others and he empowers you to take charge of your relationships and emotional well-being. Episode Summary:Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries. 0:03Mark Santiago discusses Empowered AF 2.0, healthy communication, and boundaries.Joey discusses challenges in setting and maintaining boundaries, seeking clarity and support from viewers.Identifying emotional needs and boundaries in relationships. 3:34Joey discusses the "Four Horsemen of Relationships" and their impact on emotional health.Joey emphasizes the importance of identifying and articulating individual needs and rights in relationships.Joey emphasizes individuals' rights to emotions, opinions, and personal space.Setting boundaries and validating emotions. 9:48Joey shares personal needs, including validation, self-love, and healthy relationships.The speaker teaches a formula for setting boundaries, emphasizing the importance of emotional security in relationships.Joey teaches listeners how to set boundaries and enforce consequences in relationships.Boundaries, manipulation, and consequences in relationships. 16:46Joey defines boundaries and manipulation/control, providing examples to illustrate the differences.The speaker shares a story of a client, John, who manipulatively restricts his wife's access to the kids on Saturdays, revealing his own insecurity.Boundaries are for stating how you wish to be treated, while consequences are for enforcing those boundaries.Setting boundaries and consequences in relationships. 21:52Joey upholds consequences for disrespectful messages to maintain boundaries.Joey emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and consequences in relationships.The speaker emphasizes their care for the listener and sets boundaries, advocating for no contact or block for 2-3 days to facilitate an apology.Setting boundaries and improving mental health. 29:37Man instructs wife to go no contact for two days when yelled at or hit, citing safety concerns.The speaker emphasizes the importance of reciprocity and giving value to clients, while also sharing personal anecdotes and...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark changes the format to a Q&A style, inviting listeners to ask questions and engage in a coaching environment. He emphasizes the importance of setting healthy boundaries in relationships, focusing on self-protection rather than trying to control others. Mark discusses various aspects of dealing with marital challenges, including co-parenting under the same roof, navigating open relationships, and coping with the pain of infidelity. He encourages listeners to lean into their emotions, grieve, and communicate openly with their partners as values evolve in a marriage.Episode Summary:Empowerment and coaching for men. 0:03Mark Santiago welcomes listeners to Empowered AF 2.0 and invites them to ask questions on various topics related to personal growth and self-improvement.Mark Santiago plans to answer questions from listeners live on the call and provide coaching, making it a fun and interactive experience for those participating.Setting boundaries in a marriage after separation. 2:36Michael emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries for oneself, rather than using them to control others.He advises against weaponizing boundaries and instead focuses on creating mutual respect and submission in a marriage.Mark: "If she doesn't want to be with you, she doesn't want to be with you. Anything you do to try to force her back is manipulation."Mark: "Boundaries are about what is okay for you, not what is okay for her. Share how behavior makes you feel, but don't control it."Mark: "If she's using pre menopause as a reason to be mean, it's not okay for her to talk to you that way. Communicate and understand her pain, but set boundaries."Communication and vulnerability in relationships. 8:16Mark encourages men to open up and communicate with vulnerability, especially in their relationships.The speaker suggests creating a "Mr. Rogers identity" for men who work in difficult jobs and need to switch to a softer persona when they come home.Co-parenting under the same roof after separation. 10:30Mark discusses struggling with co-parenting under the same roof after separation, with financial constraints and toxic dynamics causing tension.Boundaries are key in this situation, with the speaker communicating their limits and feelings to their ex-partner, while also addressing their own guilt and emotions.The speaker describes how they and their ex-partner created a co-parenting schedule to live separately in the same house, with designated days for each person to have the kids and maintain their own space.The speaker plans to have dinner separately and not be involved in family activities on their designated days to maintain their own space and avoid conflicts with their ex-partner.Personal...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark is joined by William and they discuss the crucial topic of effective communication and personal growth. William shares his transformative journey from realizing his communication shortcomings to embracing change and personal development. They discuss the importance of shedding ego and pride to create healthier relationships and the invaluable support of a community of like-minded men. Episode Summary:Communication and personal growth with a podcast guest. 0:03William Woody shares his insights on communication, revealing his personal definition and experiences with the topic.Mark Santiago asks William questions to delve deeper into his perspective, highlighting his wisdom and knowledge on the subject.Communication skills and relationship issues. 2:06William reflects on his upbringing and how it impacted their communication skills, particularly in empathetic listening.William shares his experience of being married twice, highlighting communication issues in both marriages and their subsequent self-reflection.The speaker reflects on their past relationship, recognizing that they were not a good communicator and often prioritized work over their partner's needs.The speaker's lack of empathy and active listening led to misunderstandings and outbursts, ultimately contributing to the breakdown of the relationship.Emotional intelligence and communication in relationships. 6:17William reflects on creating an environment that led to an affair, realizing he didn't give his partner enough emotional attention and left a gap open for someone else to fill.William emphasizes the importance of emotional awareness in relationships, acknowledging that neglect can lead to affairs and vulnerability to external influences.William reflects on his experience in the Thrive program, highlighting the importance of communication and setting boundaries.Speaker implements newfound skills in their daily life, including saying "no" to tasks that are not safe or beneficial for them or their employer.Personal growth and self-improvement. 10:58Unknown Speaker reflects on past relationships and realizes the importance of having the right friends who can provide support and guidance.William believes that joining a program like the one they are in now could have helped them save a past relationship and improve their life in various aspects.The speaker reflects on their personal growth and evolution, crediting a coaching program for helping them improve their communication skills and reach their full potential.The speaker offers advice to other men who may be facing similar challenges, encouraging them to seek out coaching and support to improve their relationships and overall well-being.Empowerment and

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark and Joey discuss the complexities of navigating marriage issues and Mark's seven laws of problem-solving within a marriage context. The episode emphasizes the importance of identifying the right problems to solve, understanding that not all problems need immediate solutions, and recognizing that problems can be opportunities for growth. They also stress the significance of mindfulness and self-awareness in managing ego and handling relationship challenges. Episode Summary:Introduction. 0:03Welcome to the next level of Empowered AF 2.0, and what it means to be an empowered man in his most advanced form, healthy communication, healthy lifestyle, physically and emotionally, and evolving into the man you've always wanted to be.The seven laws of problem-solving in marriage.What you think is a problem is actually a symptom. 2:31The first thing is that not all problems need to be solved. Sometimes what you think is a problem is actually not a problem and it's a dichotomy or it's something that is not really the real problem.The more you understand that symptoms are just a symptom of a deeper problem, the better you can get at defining what a real promise for you is.Not all problems need to be solved now. 5:32Not all problems need to be solved now. Not all problems are created equal. The problem is deeper than that. It's important to optimize for the right problem.The third part of that is not all problems have to be created equal, which means that the problem may not be solved today, but it may be solved tomorrow.Not all problems are created equal, and everything is different in terms of how you interpret what a real promise is.Prompts are agnostic, which means they are just what they are.My ex-wife broke up with her boyfriend and moved across town to some guy's house and took my two kids with her to this guy's place.Not all problems need to be solved. Not all problems are created equal. Problems are just agnostic. They are problems.How to turn obstacles into opportunities. 12:02If you start seeing your problems for what they really are, you're going to start turning obstacles into opportunities.Having hopeful faking is going to be a key to release you to the next realm of where you want to go as a man.Every problem that you encounter is an opportunity to encounter who you possibly can be in the future, and your future self is waiting for you to become that man.Solving problems is a game of sequence. 14:52Solving problems is a game of sequence. Stay in sequence and solve the right problem at the right time again.The right...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark is joined by Ed and they share the story of how Eduardo got his name and discuss personal experiences, including disempowerment in marriage. Eduardo talks about the impact a past affair had on his self-confidence and how he learned to take control of his life. The episode highlights the importance of seeking help, the power of a supportive community, and the journey to self-discovery and spirituality.Episode Summary:Intro to Empowered AF 2.0. 0:03Mark is excited to introduce listeners to the next level of the podcast, Empowered AF 2.0, and what it means to be an empowered man in his most advanced form.Over the next six to seven weeks, Mark will be talking to some of his clients.Empowerment in marriage. 2:06A few months ago, Joey and Kate were at a hot tub event in Phoenix and a couple of the coaches asked Joey a story about himself.The next event in Nashville is in Nashville, and the next one in San Diego is in April.How she disempowered herself by putting her partner on a pedestal and always playing catch-up when she noticed it.How her significant other didn't notice anything different in the relationship.The trap men fall into with disempowerment. 6:59He became a jerk and shut down and didn't know how to communicate his feelings.He fell into the classic trap that a lot of men fall into with disempowerment, especially the pedestal thing, self-confidence. Once he got comfortable, he got complacent and became complacent, fear of losing what he hadThere is a stereotype of guys being strong and not wanting to ask for help. Women are allowed to suffer, but men are not.The effect his own dad had on his relationships.Choosing to be the strong one. 11:12He met his stepfather when he was nine and had a fear of abandonment from his biological father. He learned to man up and had three younger brothers.He learned to be an adult and to take care of his younger brothers, and learned to manipulate his partner.When Mark found out about the affair, he had no idea what to do. He blamed himself and blamed everyone around him.The five-day challenge was one of the first moments where mark realized that he needed to take his life back.What shifted to your ego? 16:19The five-day challenge was a small investment, but taking the leap was a bigger leap.The first thing that came to mind in the five day challenge was the idea that he was not here to save marriages, but to save men.When he talked to the entry and intro with the thrive program, he was caught off guard because it was like he had to apply and be ready to...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark and Joey discuss transitioning from reacting to building resilience, tackling internal pain, and confronting emotional challenges. Live listeners share their struggles with pain, uncertainty, and limbo. They delve into distinguishing between situational and internal pain, emphasizing personal growth. They explore coping mechanisms, avoidance, manipulation, and the impact of a lack of emotional nurturing. They also urge setting goals, envisioning a better future, and embodying both the warrior and poet within, encouraging men to reclaim leadership and authentic masculinity.Episode Summary:Intro to the episode. 0:03Welcome to the next level of empowered AF 2.0 and what it means to be an empowered man in his most advanced form.Internal pain vs external pain, internal pain.Situational pain. 2:14Situational pain is the situation that is causing you pain, not the situation. It's the underlying pain, the pain that is what's happening to you.Separation of a wife and divorce is a situation where you're hoping to get the reps over with, but not the growth.The three main ways that men deal with internal pain, and how they deal with the external pain.The three ways that guys deal with external pain, avoid, manipulate and complain.How do we deal with rejection? 7:31The importance of having a healthy grid for dealing with rejection and how to deal with it, and how it can make us feel like a little boy.How a reframe perspective can help us see the situation a little differently and more clearly.A lot of guys here don't have approach goals. They have avoiding goals, which is why they stay stuck in their shame cycle.Some of you have found yourself dating the same woman in a different body over the years, and it's costing you your marriage and relationship.Takeaways from the training. 12:44Ben shares his takeaways from today's training, including past relationships and dealing with the pain of losing his father at a young age.The legacy he wants to leave for his kids.The first thing is not to waste time. The second thing is to go deeper with what happy means and what it looks like for them.80% of Americans don't even set goals for themselves.How to get past the pain. 17:17Every good season will pass, and every bad season will come. The difference is how you show up each day and how you receive what's possible.Connecting with your own future.The more emotionally connected a man is to his future self, the more of a reality it becomes.The cycle of crisis all of us are living in.Crisis Crisis...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark and Joey delve into the complex emotions of confronting betrayal and heartbreak. Sharing personal experiences, they emphasize the need to lean into feelings, not just dismiss them, as they guide you through healing wounds, identifying core pains, and stripping away layers to reveal your empowered self that transforms pain into growth.Episode Summary:How do I shake the feelings of regret? 0:03Welcome to the next level of Empowered AF 2.0, the next stage of empowered man.Danny wants to wake up one day and share regret and shame with his ex, but he can't shake the thoughts of wanting her to get back with him.How to deal with uncomfortable feelings. 2:07Dealing with uncomfortable feelings is a lifelong process. Every day, you have to pick up your shield and never forget to always bear your shield.Keep the pressure on where you are.It takes time to unravel all of this stuff. 3:48It takes time to unravel all of that stuff, and it takes time for guys to get on the other side of an affair.There is always another level to thrive.Embracing the pain and moving on. 5:37Grief is like the ocean, it comes in waves, and when the waves come, you need to give yourself permission to feel those waves.75% of clients have been cheated on.Accepting the pain of betrayal. 7:23Many guys get stuck in the situational pain of their wife's affair, and they don't understand the gravity of what it feels like underneath the surface.Most marriages can't be fixed because there's toxic shit that happens in them, and most with affairs.What does this say about me as a man? 9:55One of Mike's sons-to-be, tuition tuition wife, cried for three weeks straight, and it was time to cry for her.As he was coming to that place, he started to really identify with what he was actually feeling, and for him, the word abandonment.The true gift of this divorce. 12:04The true gift is opening up wounds that were there that were never healed properly before, and this marriage is an opportunity for you to go deep and unlock things that you didn't even know were inside of you.Michelangelo, who created the sistine chapel, said he stripped away everything that wasn't David.The momentous opportunity to become an empowered man.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark and Joey dive into the complexities of post-divorce dynamics and personal growth. Discover the significance of identity, hidden beliefs, and boundaries in moving forward. Listen in as they provide insights into healthy communication, avoiding manipulation, and defining new relationships. Learn how investing in self-improvement and addressing past wounds can lead to authentic transformation.Episode Summary:Intro to this episode. 0:03Mark is excited to introduce the next level of this podcast, Empowered AF 2.0, and what it means to be an empowered man in his most advanced form.Your ROI is commensurate to the investments.The importance of knowing who you are. 1:40Joe was at a conference for salespeople this past weekend. He went there to invest in himself and get something out of it. He got some gold nuggets and found some good salespeople to work for him.Hanging out after divorce is not normal. It stifles the healing process.The advanced use of neutral warming and its benefits. 3:45Lance talks about the advanced use of different levels of neutral warming and how it has progressed over time.Lance shares his thoughts on boundaries and his relationship with his wife.Setting boundaries and positive communication. 5:40The neutral woman technique, making a lot of boundaries and positive communication.The next level is missing something in the next step of making communications work better.What is the problem? 7:49What is it that you feel you need to accomplish that is causing you to feel like you are missing a step?Define what you want your relationship with your ex wife to look like.The problem with getting sucked back into the relationship. 10:03You can easily put yourself in a precarious position if you are not careful. It is easy to get sucked back in.Being honest with yourself about what you ultimately want.Letting things happen naturally. 11:45He was trying to make things happen, but he was not doing it in a healthy way. He wants healthy progression and family interactions.He wants to be able to let things happen naturally.Stripping off the old identity.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark and Joey explore the critical distinction between tactical and strategic solutions in relationships. They emphasize the importance of leadership and empowerment for men in saving their marriages, providing personal anecdotes to illustrate their points. They also encourage you to take strategic action and embrace your role as a leader in your life and relationships. Episode Summary:Tactical vs. strategic solutions. 0:03Mark is excited to introduce the next level of this podcast, empowered AF 2.0.Today's topic is the tactical solution versus strategic solution, marriage savers vs saving marriage.Tactical vs. strategic. 2:02The difference between internal pain and external pain, and how to neutralize her as a woman and respect her boundaries.The paradise or paradox of manipulation.Why you need to tell the truth. 3:57One of the biggest things that happened in his first marriage was when his ex-wife wanted to foster some kids, and he didn't want to do it.When he finally started telling the truth, it led to a big part of the destruction of his marriage.The importance of being a strong leader. 6:29Women feel the most safe, secure and emotionally connected with a man who leads a man that is confident. That's why so many women end up cheating.Marriage is a byproduct of who you are as a man, whether it lives or dies.No such thing as bad marriages only bad husbands. 8:24There is no such thing as bad marriages, only bad husbands. If you have a bad marriage, you have to look at yourself and understand where you have failed.Being empowered is more powerful.A marriage is no good with disempowered leaders. 9:47A man feels disempowered when he feels emasculated, sad, depressed and depressed. He lashes out and gets on drugs.People cycle from rough patch to rough patch over 10 years.The importance of having an influence on your wife. 10:55Too many men are scared to confront the truth and come to the table with truth. They want to live in this paralysis analysis shit.Every team needs a leader.Make a decision to save your marriage. 12:32Make a decision, and it should not be to...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark and Joey address the pain, uncertainty, and frustration experienced by many of their listeners. They explore the options of saving an old marriage, creating a new one, or considering divorce. They also talk about the importance of clarity, empowerment, personal sacrifice and prioritizing one's own happiness.Episode Summary:Intro to this episode. 0:03Welcome to the next level of empowered AF 2.0 and what it means to be an empowered man in his most advanced form.The three things you need to have clarity on. 1:50The three things that are on the table, new marriage, divorce or old marriage.If a guy wants a new marriage ask himself why he wants to be married to this person.Why do you want to be married to this person? 3:50The first question to ask is, why do you want to be married to this person?The goal of reconciliation is to become the most empowered version of yourself.What has to matter to you? 5:41The desire for healthiness has to supersede anything else. The lack of health is what is dictating your life right now, and you have today what you deserve because of what you believe in.The truth serum exercise, seven days of truth to understand what is really happening in your marriage.What we've done for 21 plus years. 8:23The future holds unknown avenues, and the future has unknown avenues. They have always kept their morals up, no cheating, etc.What they have done for 21 plus years has not worked.How do you choose to move forward? 10:07The question is in Tony's court. He gets to choose how they move forward.The children have come to you also and said dad, we're not happy here. We want to go back to Canada. Why would you give up children? 12:48Thomas is not giving up his children. He is giving them 48 members of her family that no other family members are around.The other option is to not allow them to go there.Choosing the path of least resistance. 15:12The atomic reaction of choosing the path of least resistance, the one that will produce more happiness.The calculation is how to get the collective to be more happier.You can always come up...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn this episode, Mark and Joey dive deep into the cycle of dysfunction among men dealing with marital challenges. They discuss the need for self-empowerment and clarity about your identity. They encourage brutal honesty, emphasizing the importance of personal growth before seeking reconciliation. Mark and Joey also urge you to focus on becoming empowered and setting boundaries, regardless of the outcome of your relationships. Episode Summary:Intro to the episode. 0:03Welcome to the next level of empowered AF 2.0.The cycle of dysfunction.What were the stories you were telling yourself before dysfunction happened? 2:16What guys were telling themselves before this dysfunction happened.The first time in history, everyone was good.How am I supposed to show up when I'm in limbo? 5:06Polarizing question, how am I supposed to show up?Lack of identity and limbo.Deer in the headlights. 7:44Trauma entering the body and what to do with it.Playing the victim card.Fake it 'til you make it.Focus on the goals in front of you.Can I just please fuck you one time. 12:19Her leaving is not the real problem.How to approach your wife.The saddest thing I've ever seen. 14:38The saddest thing ever seen in a marriage.How to set boundaries.What happens when you start to value yourself. 16:54Some of us are addicted to toxic relationships.The George Jefferson story.Empowerment is more valuable than personal empowerment.Acceptance is more important than being needy.When do you approach the conversation with your wife? 22:12How to approach a conversation with his wife.How to deal with situational pain.Clarifying the boundaries that you need. 24:54The shame cycle that men go through.The first thing to do is clarify boundaries.Wake up and book a call.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark and Joey discuss the importance of choosing complete healing over short-term quick fixes, taking ownership of one's life, shifting from victimhood to empowerment, and the significance of surrounding yourself with an environment that supports growth and transformation. Episode Summary:Intro to the episode. 0:03Welcome to the next level of Empowered AF 2.0.Shame says I am a bad man. 2:13The difference between guilt and shame.Why most men fail to take responsibility for their transformation.Blaming everyone else and blaming the circumstances.The importance of not looking past the question.How did I contribute to the failure of the marriage? 5:24Narcissistic ways and beliefs.How did he contribute to the failure of the marriage.You are not a victim if you choose to be. 7:13You are not a victim right now.Taking ownership of your own life.The truth shall set you free by taking responsibility. 9:43Being a free man vs being enslaved.How to own your shit.Owning the shit is an identity shift.The power of environment and accountability. 14:56Leveraging the power of the environment.The power of accountability.Show me your friends and I will show you your future. 17:07Our lower aspirins around us judge us.Your friends will get you where they are.How can I choose complete healing over short term quick fixes? 18:33How to choose complete healing over short-term quick fix.Pressure relief valves.How to feel empowered. 20:17Venting will make you feel good for a second, but it doesn't heal anything.Tom Brady's coach.How to get clear on your goals. 22:12Clarity one-on-one call with mark.The growth of the empowered man group.The first 50 episodes in the podcast.Listen In!

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark and Joey discuss the powerful emotions of guilt and how it can lead to transformation. They explore the pitfalls of incremental improvement and emphasize the need for radical identity shifts to initiate meaningful change. They also talk about how to break free from the guilt-shame-blame cycle and embrace conviction to redefine your path. Episode Summary:Introduction to today's episode. 0:03Introduction to the next level of Empowered AF 2.0.Guilt vs conviction.How to begin the transformation. 2:35Guilt isn't enough, there has to be some level of pain.The three-step process.The cycle of shame and guilt. 5:00The connection between guilt and conviction.The cycle of shame and guilt.The drama triangle, guilt, shame and blame.The shift from guilt to conviction.The conviction needed for transformation. 10:03Conviction of transformation vs conviction of disempowerment.Shifting thoughts to what he will do differently.The importance of acknowledging your own guilt. 12:36The importance of acknowledging guilt and setting a new standard.The power of ownership.The first step is to feel guilty.The second step is the conviction.Being better is better but better is bullshit. 18:13Being better is not bad, but better is bullshit.10x is easier than 2X.The radical shift from drug addiction to sobriety. 20:29The difference between a drug addict and a former drug addict.Most men don't want to become empowered.Becoming a completely different man. 22:10Becoming a completely different man.Taking care of yourself and shield yourself from things.What does 10x look like for you? 26:49What 10x looks like for you right now.How to balance time and energy.What makes me come alive as a man? 29:35What makes...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark and Joey lead an encore discussion on how to defuse toxicity in relationships. They emphasize the importance of self-ownership, setting boundaries, and taking responsibility to break the cycle of dysfunction. They address the challenges of control and the need for personal growth to achieve freedom.Episode Summary:Intro to this episode. 0:03Welcome to the next level of empowered AF 2.0.The importance of being effective in relationships.Ownership equals responsibility and shame equals shame. 1:57Level of toxicity is a reflection of the toxicity in us.Ownership, responsibility and shame.How to deal with toxicity in a relationship.How to overcome toxicity in relationships.Boundaries are never about the other person. 7:04Boundaries are for you 100% of the time.Asking the right question..Pride is the worst thing you could deal with.True leaders demand accountability of themselves. 10:36True leaders demand accountability of themselves before they demand accountability from others.You get to choose what you do and whether or not you engage with it.You have to make the choice based on what you put up with.Why we don't save marriages. 15:30The importance of valuing yourself enough.The story of the man who manipulated his wife back.Making a choice to move on from toxic relationships. 17:55Being 100% responsible for himself and his kids.The importance of being 100% accountable.The two places guys are in right now.When it's time to give up.How to deal with toxicity. 22:52How to deal with toxicity and conflict.How to rekindle the emotional connection.How to create a new marriage. 25:13Creating a new marriage is the only way to move forward.It only takes one person to save their marriage.How to build a relationship with her.How to take down the mental hurdle.Why do you want to be with someone who doesn't want you? 30:33The...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark and Joey discuss the importance of taking back your power in relationships. They address issues like feeling stuck, dealing with affairs, and navigating pain and uncertainty. They guide you through four steps: clarification, setting boundaries, understanding the partner's perspective, and taking appropriate action. They emphasize the need to own your emotions while also recognizing what is not yours to own. They also encourage you to focus on personal responsibility and self-value, urging you to establish healthy boundaries and refuse to tolerate mistreatment.Episode Summary:How to turn your pain into power? 0:03Welcome to the next level of empowered AF 2.0.Three types of men.How to turn your pain into power. 3:06Step one, clarify what is yours to own.Owning the emotions.You are responsible for you and how you show up.Owning something that doesn't belong to you.What is not yours to own. 8:20Step two, set some boundaries.Step three, get a pulse on your wife.Get a pulse on ownership. 11:04Step three is to get a pulse.Ownership vs freedom.Why boundaries are important in a cheating marriage.The importance of setting boundaries.Setting healthy financial boundaries. 15:58Setting healthy boundaries and financial boundaries.Develop a plan. Step three, clarity and clarity.Steps to take back your power. 18:00Four steps to take power back.Best way to handle an affair partner.There is not a damn thing you can do about it.Being friends with his ex-wife.The importance of boundaries in divorce.Do I stay loyal until the divorce is final or work on myself? 23:57Loyal until the divorce is final and just work on yourself.Trauma bond over trauma.How to deal with false positives. 26:44False positives.bpd and npdHow to manage an affair.An emotional affair is more damaging than a physical affair.The importance of connecting with your wife.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark and Joey continue the discussion on how to defuse toxicity in relationships and the importance of taking ownership and responsibility in relationships. They share a story of a man who initially wanted to file for divorce but decided to work on himself instead. They emphasize the need to create a safe space for oneself and the significance of self-improvement. They also address the challenges of co-parenting and offer advice on handling pushback in a productive manner. Episode Summary:Intro to the episode. 0:03Welcome to the next level of Empowered Man 2.0.Creating a new marriage.It always comes back to us. 1:55It comes back to the man in the mirror.Take ownership. Step one, take ownership.Why men don't show up for themselves 3:24Men don't know how to show up for themselves.95% of what men say is bullshit.It's all her telling me how to fix it. 5:03Taking responsibility instead of trying to fix it.The man he wants to be.Understanding that just because your marriage is over doesn't mean your life is over. 6:33Marriage is dead for 98% of you.How to get empowered to move forward.Santiago family 2.0 vs Santiago family 1.0.Kids are more resilient than you realize.Understanding your values and willingness to compromise. 11:06Being a shell of the man he used to be.How to handle push back.Things that aren't worth the battle. 13:16No fighting over petty things with your ex-wife.Recognize when kids are with you and when not.How do you detach from the outcome? 15:13Summer camp for five-year-old daughter.How to deal with summer camp conflict.What are indicators that a spouse is ready to return to the marriage? 17:31Three indicators that a spouse is ready to return to the marriage.How to protect yourself from manipulation.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark and Joey discuss how to defuse toxicity in relationships. They address the importance of open communication, the presence of disagreements, and the need to address toxic behaviors. They emphasize the significance of mindset, owning one's emotions, and staying empowered in difficult conversations.Episode Summary:Intro to the episode. 0:03Welcome to the next level of Empowered Man 2.0.Check in with the collective.How to deal with toxicity. 2:01How to defuse toxicity in a marriage.How to open up in prayer.The little foxes spoil the vine. 3:40The little foxes that spoil the vine.Why men are afraid of their wives.The hard conversations never stop. 5:22Avoiding the hard conversations to avoid conflict.The hard conversations never stop.How to deal with disagreements. 7:00The tipping point is accepting disagreements.The number one thing in the chat.Resentment creates resentment over time.Toxic communication, stonewalling and gaslighting.The mindset is everything to me. 11:00Mindset is everything to me.Being present in the moment, being present.This is what I do now. 12:45Owning her emotions instead of owning your own.Every man wants to be exposed.Athlete's stance. 14:28Getting an athletic stance.The last time he yelled at his ex-wife.You have permission to ask for healthy space. 16:05Friction met with friction.Manipulation is an unhealthy way of getting healthy needs met.How to check your ego? 18:38Ego at the end of the day.True love is not controlling, but freedom.You are the problem, not her.Listen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark and Joey discuss the topic of pain and how it can be turned into power. They emphasize the importance of taking ownership of one's pain and changing the environment to foster growth. They also highlight the need for a clear vision and determination to overcome challenges. Join them as they provide insights and answer questions from listeners.Episode Summary:How to turn your pain into power? 1:36Training on how to turn pain into power.Pain is not the only one.Getting used to navigating through the pain.Step one, inventory pain and take ownership of pain.Taking a stance of ownership. 6:25Take a stance of ownership.Elevate your community and environment.The difference between impacted and distracted. 9:24Most men never heal from this stuff.The difference between a disempowered and impacted man.You can't get masculinity from your female therapist.Be determined and have a plan.Saving your marriage is not a goal at all. 14:24Open up for questions.Robert has a question about accountability and accountability.Your wife holds your balls in her hand.Saving a marriage is a state.Respect is earned. 17:20Men are sick of men being manipulated by their own penises.Respect is earned, not automatic.Men don't have any value for what they bring to the table.If she doesn't trust you.Why you shouldn't be happy with who you are now. 22:35Respect goals and not content with who they are.100% ownership equals 100% freedom.Lying to yourself about your identity. 24:47Hunger is the thing that drives and pushes you forward.Lying to yourself constantly.New layers of love and trust.Isolation is the problem 99% of the time.Ending the cycle of loneliness in men. 29:09Empowered men end the cycle of loneliness.Empowering men to come fully alive.The importance of having a goal. 31:13Sign up for a 30 minute call with...

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark and Joey discuss the topic of disempowerment and the cycle it creates. They discuss the impact of inflection points in relationships and the stories we tell ourselves. They explore the tendency to blame external factors instead of taking ownership and the allure of short-term fixes. They also provide empowering questions to break the cycle and choose complete healing over temporary solutions, as well as:Being present with your emotionsThe blame and shame climate of the worldThe concept and importance of community and connectionChoosing complete healing over quick fixesVulnerability is true powerListen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark discusses the importance of knowing and understanding yourself to continuously grow and navigate challenges. He shares a personal experience with his wife, highlighting the power of taking responsibility and transforming friction into opportunities for deeper emotional connection. Mark emphasizes the significance of internal locus control and the freedom that comes with taking ownership, as well as:Recognizing patterns and understanding oneselfSomeone has to be the final leaderThe power of taking ownership and responsibilityThe role of personal growthThe need for gratitudeOvercoming victim mentality and embracing personal growthListen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark discusses his personal journey of wanting to get into real estate investing but never taking action. He then recounts how he found a mentor who guided him through a potential real estate deal that could have cost him a significant amount of money and stress. Mark emphasizes the importance of having someone with experience and expertise to help navigate challenges and make informed decisions. He urges you to seek mentorship and coaching to save yourself from costly mistakes and accelerate your personal growth, as well as:Real estate dreams and missed opportunities.Finding a mentor who shares the same goals.Evaluating a risky property with potential profits.The value of mentorship and coaching.Listen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark discusses the journey and mindset of an empowered man. He explains that it's important for men to focus on themselves, to have strong boundaries, to communicate effectively and to take responsibility for their own actions. He also discusses the importance of apologizing for the part you played in the destruction of your marriage, even if it's only internally, as well as:The journey towards becoming an empowered man can be difficult, but it's worth it.Men often come into groups seeking validation for their pain, rather than actively seeking help to improve themselves.It's essential to focus on yourself and not get bogged down in trying to control your partner's actions.Building a strong sense of self is a gradual process that takes time, effort, and investment.Listen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn This Episode, Joey discusses when it's time to accept that a marriage is dead and cannot be revived. He emphasizes the importance of both partners committing to their growth individually, and offers a five-step process for men to follow to save themselves and their marriages. He also discusses the significance of having a plan and the value of brotherhood and accountability, as well as:A year of dedicated work may be needed to feel content and complete.Consciously choose to choose to get better, take action, and have a plan.Men need brotherhood, collaboration, companionship, and accountability to succeed.Take assessment of what led you to this point and take ownership over your part.Listen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/5d-challenge?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark discusses the danger of randomly evolving due to one's environment and lack of intentionality. He highlights how small goals and urgent battles keep you stuck and disconnected from your future self. Mark also emphasizes the need to be in the arena of life and not just shout from the sidelines. He also explains why success can often be the catalyst for failure and why one's focus should be on becoming an empowered man internally rather than just seeking external success, as well as:Being unaware of your environment leads to random evolutionSmall goals and urgent battles keep one stuckBeing in the arena is crucialSuccess can be the catalyst for failureListen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/sales-page-483638151651254399768?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark shares advanced lessons on how to shift from contraction to expansion by connecting with your future self. Learn how to overcome pain, be present, and become your future self now, as well as:Importance of understanding your future selfImpact of contraction and expansion in lifeOvercoming pain and turmoil of separation/divorceConnecting with your future self for personal growthImportance of being present in the momentShifting from contraction to expansion for personal growthListen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/sales-page-483638151651254399768?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark answers marriage related questions received from the Facebook group and discusses wanting a physical and emotional connection with your wife, how important sexual intimacy is in a marriage, being both strong and vulnerable, as well as:- Creating a new marriage with your current wife- Understanding how women think - Investing in what needs to be fixed- Not getting wrapped up in your egoListen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/sales-page-483638151651254399768?el=podcastIn This Episode, Joey discusses how to stop being a nice guy without being a jerk, taking comments and actions by your wife at face value, as well as:- Keeping the pressure on yourself- Reframing your needs- Defusing contentious situations- Understanding your intentionsListen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/sales-page-483638151651254399768?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark and Joey discuss getting stuck in a loop of trying to say the same thing over and over again, being empowered to ask for forgiveness just once, how masculinity bestows masculinity, as well as:- Needing to forgive yourself- Owning your shit- Refusing to engage in toxic behavior- Using power statements- Setting boundaries- Activating a new standardListen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/sales-page-483638151651254399768?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark discusses what to do on Valentine's Day, what to do if your feeling gray in your marriage, what to do when you're wife says she doesn't love you or that she's having an affair, as well as:- Asking empowered questions- Doing the healing work- You are the fucking problem- We are all in pain- Missing the power of humility- Investing in yourselfListen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/sales-page-483638151651254399768?el=podcastIn This Episode, Mark and Joey discuss how to be ready for your new future after a separation, dealing with what's going on inside of you so you don't repeat the same mistakes, having the best relationship possible with your ex-wife and with your children, as well as:- Focusing on what you can own- Figuring out what you really want first- Getting clarity on what you need- Moving on in your own healing- Evolving in your empowerment journey- Starting another relationshipListen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/sales-page-483638151651254399768?el=podcastIn This Episode:- Leadership in the bedroom- Getting your wife to desire you again- Showing up in your masculine energy- Having a functional relationshipListen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.

Get the Rules of Engagement For When She's Cheating, Says She Doesn't Love You, or Filed for Divorce - https://training.empoweredman.co/30dvslyt?el=podcastJoin the Empowered Man 5-Day Challenge! - https://www.empoweredman.co/sales-page-483638151651254399768?el=podcastIn This Episode:- Empowering yourself to establish boundaries with your wife- Communicating those boundaries to your wife- Living from a place of empowerment- Committing to showing up and doing the workListen In!YOUR journey of healing starts with trusting the Empowered Man process and a $27 buy-in. If you can't afford that, then you are doing the wrong work. You are paid commensurate to your value — so create more value.