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Why is one German tree considered to be the Cupid of Europe? Once upon a time a clandestine love led to a ritual that rivals the dating apps of today. From its centuries-old roots to love under the leaves, this feel-good tale of a tree is a testament to the real romantics out there. Modern courtship could use a little more nature, and thanks to its postal address, there is a charming and whimsical way to reach out to prospective connections via a knothole far, far away in the forest. Send your love note to:The Bride and Groom OakWaldstraße 104808 ZschernitzGermany Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wonder why some of the best stories make you say, “Oh no… please don't do that” before immediately leaning in closer?From ancient mythology to modern prestige television, this taboo theme has been used to explore power, fate, trauma, and the unraveling of societies. In this episode, we trace its use from the tragedies of Greek myth to the shocking twists of contemporary cinema, unpacking why writers continue to return to this most controversial of narrative tools. Is it just for shock value, or is there something deeper at play? Join us to hear more about storytelling's most infamous forbidden fruit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if the secret to unlocking new dimensions of reality is simply letting your mind wander? Dive into the Default Mode Network (DMN)—the brain's backstage crew, working away when there's no specific demand on it. Don't be fooled—while it might seem it's like “doing nothing,” the DMN is busy with some of your brain's most important work. We'll dive into how this network influences creativity, self-reflection, and even your very sense of reality. From meditation to daydreaming, this episode uncovers how quiet moments in our minds might just be the key to accessing new perspectives. Get ready to rethink what “doing nothing” really means, and how it might be the gateway to unlocking your brain's hidden potential. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One minute, you're smitten. The next, you're watching someone pronounce “salmon” with the L and wondering how fast you can escape. This week, Bryde teaches Jeremie all about “the ick”—that sudden, irrational wave of disgust that can turn attraction into repulsion in an instant. Where does it come from? Is it evolutionary self-protection or just our brains being dramatic? From Love Island to TikTok trends, we explore how the ick has evolved, its connection to cringe, and why it might be keeping modern daters single. Plus, a rapid-fire game of “Ick or Red Flag?” that will have you questioning everything. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you think modern dating is complicated, try navigating love, lust, and leeches in the Middle Ages. In this episode, Bryde takes Jer on a deep (and sometimes horrifying) dive into medieval sexuality, from bizarre birth control methods (weasel testicles, anyone?) to the church's very strong opinions on sex positions. We explore the rise of shame, the fall of hygiene, and why monks were doodling dirty jokes in the margins of sacred texts. Plus, a pop quiz on medieval myths—did too much sex really make your eyes move further apart? Saddle up, sip some historically suspect contraceptive wine, and prepare for a wild ride through the sex lives of the past. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is post-sex affection the secret to long-term relationship satisfaction? In this final installment of Carnal Knowledge, we dive into the power of aftercare with resident expert Anna. From cuddles to heartfelt conversations, discover why those tender moments after intimacy matter more than you might think. Anna breaks down fascinating research linking aftercare to stronger bonds, better sex, and lasting relationship happiness—even for busy parents. Plus, hilarious tangents on dishwasher debates and the quirks of cohabitation keep things playful. As Anna bids farewell to pursue her studies in sex-positive therapy, this episode wraps up her journey with warmth, wisdom, and lots of laughs.Link to study: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24777441/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A compliment can be a real can of worms. Even a well intentioned compliment can set off a chain of emotional and psychological outcomes for a person, and this week the hosts sort out the reasons why that may be. Citing a well researched bbc.com article called “Why it's so hard for some people to accept compliments” (Christine Ro, April 2024), Jeremie and Bryde discuss the impact of cultural and behavioural factors on the subject and have come up with some best and worst practices when it comes to compliments. Listen with some reassurance that if you're “bad at taking compliments”, you should probably just not worry about it. For a deeper look, check out the article here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Puberty is a horrendous time when you don't know what the fuck is happening to your body, mind, and worldview. Remember the tortuous days of sitting out of gym class because there was a pad in your underwear, or getting a nickname because of your body odour?Demetra Malios is an entrepreneur in tech and is the CEO and founder of Pu-berry, a platform offering interactive, gamified, and medically verified education to help young people navigate puberty with confidence. Demi shares the stats and incredible outcome measures of success with this platform, and the kids, schools, and parents who interact with it. She also explains the allure of adorable fruit emojis incentivizing youth to learn what they need to know to better understand themselves and everyone around them. This is knowledge for life!Check it out at puberry.org!Sign-up for Puberry's web app here!Puberry Giveaway!Open until Dec 18th, 2024. Raising Empowering Young Girls Giveaway (Puberry x Penguin Random House Collaboration) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Everyone's horny and sexual function is for every body, AND there are some unique considerations for folks living with disability when it comes to personal pleasure. This week, Anna breaks down a literary review that discusses the historical context for studying sex and disability, as well as the positive aspects and particular challenges to sex positivity. A mind-opening conversation is had about how our misconceptions of what disability feels and looks like may be limiting how we see the sexual identity of others, and even perpetuate it unconsciously. The conversation also covers Jeremie's new nightmare, the Homunculus, as well as a heartwarming anecdote about a real best friend facilitating a sexy session for his buddy. Listen to get smarter. Study:https://compass.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/soc4.12508?casa_token=_kvPPo72SpkAAAAA%3A-QXXwUOCX-Ks1YWZ6nzWN2Clkl5o5r36poLp_sm7BNz_pIBsF3FqcyiUE4DZ7ypTVSnTLhN5RtPf-Go Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

William A Moore is making (wet) dreams come true by providing penis enhancements that blow the competitors out of the water. Lips, cheeks, butts, boobs, of course there's also filler for a penis you might want to plump up. Moore chats with the hosts about PhalloFill, a non-invasive procedure using hyaluronic acid to help someone reach their girth goal. They chat about the contraindications (of which there are few), the implications of body dysmorphia as a red flag for treatment, and the importance of choosing safe, reversible options. There are physical, mental, and relational benefits such a procedure can offer and if you love someone who would love to be more of a shower, share this episode. How cozy does it sound to curl up in bed spooning a newly girthy penis? For more: https://phallofill.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Disney should really produce an adult, kink-themed experience for all the now grownups who first became aware of their fantasies after seeing them depicted by cartoon characters in beloved childhood movies. How did “Peter Pan” influence a young, religious cult community escapee to become her fully expressed self? Read all about it! Ariel Anderssen joins the hosts this week to discuss the life trajectory she covers in her memoir, “Playing To Lose: How a Jehovah's Witness Became a Submissive BDSM Model”. She describes the loneliness of trying to come to terms with her desires in the age before the internet could show her that she wasn't alone. When Ariel finally connected with right medium for her passions, she blossomed into a creator of a wide variety of content that elevates how we can all think about sex-work and self expression, and she shares some of her favourite sub activities with the hosts, as well as safety advice for those looking to get into. modelling. For more of this “knotty” sub, order her memoir and check out all of her socials here:Twitter: https://x.com/ArielAnderssenYoutube: @ArielsTwilightYearsWebsite: https://www.arielanderssenauthor.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If Lady Di (Princess of Wales) was still living, she could probably dominate only fans, right? Enter Lauren Spencer, a 50-something, successful adult content creator adored for her soft, teasing manner, and of course, her uncanny resemblance to the OG Spencer MILF. Ms. Spencer shares a little about her journey as a naughty phone operator in the 90s and the no-brainer decision to go all in on camera when the pandemic shut her business in 2020. The hosts are “gobsmacked” when Lauren shares the most obscene scene that she has ever encountered on camera (trigger warning, poop), and are titillated by the zero fucks she gives about being a recognized adult content creator. Find her on instagram at @laurenspencer_uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if closeness was overwhelming to your senses? For neurodivergent individuals, sensory avoidant or sensory seeking behaviours can cause havoc in relationships if not properly understood. The good news is that communication, no surprise, can make a world of difference. This week the hosts sit down with certified somatic sex coach and trauma specialist, Nuria Reed, and the conversation takes some twists and turns, including some thoughts on spiritual frameworks for healing, a chaotic kundalini awakening, and the impact of aging and shifting values on personal identity. This is a unique conversation for and from unique minds, and a reminder that self acceptance is key to healing, and that healing happens in relationship.Find more of Nuria's offerings at www.nuriareed.com or on Instagram @nuriareed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sex education rests in the hands of the media and serves the objectives of capitalism - sounds healthy and pleasurable, right? So not sexy. To undo this, let's go back to school on the subject of childhood development. Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is chatting with the podcast hosts once again, revisiting and diving deeper into the implications of abstinence only sex education and purity culture, and how we can make the future happier and healthier for the next generation by liberating ourselves from sexual shame. Dr. Tina gives a breakdown of the capacity for understanding verbal and non verbal cues about sexuality throughout the developmental stages of childhood, and the impact those cues have to our brains, bodies, and relationships. The hosts have questions about the significance of the language we use to name body parts, the link between purity culture and violence against women, and like, wtf is the madonna/whore complex? Finally, Dr. Tina shares her latest work with psychedelic assisted therapy and some inspiration for what that therapeutic approach can offer to those of us wanting to liberate ourselves perhaps a little more efficiently!This is a great follow up to the podcast's first conversation with Dr. Tina back in December 2022. Listen to that episode for some great information about the origins of abstinence only sex-ed and how it has physical and psychological outcomes on a person akin to the experience of childhood sexual trauma.Learn More:InannaRising.orgtinaschermersellers.comInstagram: @DrTinaShameless@inanna_rising_pat Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes the biggest challenges in a relationship come from within, and sometimes they come from how the world sees us. This week, Anna explores a study on intimacy and sexuality from the perspective of partners of transgender and non-binary individuals. She delves into the complexities of gender dysphoria during intimacy, the importance of consent and microaffirmations, and the many strategies couples use to navigate body dysphoria, such as regendering body parts or using prosthetics. Whether it's avoiding sex, or finding new ways to connect, this discussion highlights the importance of open communication in love and relationships.Link to study Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This one's for the penis'. Jeremie reviews the most recent product the podcast has received from a guest, made especially for the penis, inspired by real, watchable blow jobs. Truly the gift that will keep on giving. Take a listen to August's episode "Blowjobs Unlimited: The Mechanical Blowjob" to hear more about how Autoblow came to be and where you can find your very own VacuGlide, the toy that Jeremie is keeping for himself. Bryde tells Jeremie a bit about phalloplasty (penis surgery), the techniques involved in creating a penis (which includes, but is not limited to growing one on your arm for 4 months), and the outcomes for each kind of penis in terms of sensitivity, rigidity, and ability to urinate. If you have a penis or if you want one, maybe it's time to ask yourself whether you would sacrifice one of your own digits for it. Not an arm and a leg, but still pretty steep. See 1st source for photos. NSFW.Sources:https://www.cureus.com/articles/292183-phallus-reconstruction-using-the-third-finger-transplant-method-a-case-report#!/https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12449578/https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/penile-implants/about/pac-20384916https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK563292/https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/treatment-tests-and-therapies/phalloplasty-for-gender-affirmation Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Window shopping for romance may define this era of dating. Apps have taken over the public spaces where we used to make social connections, and swiping takes seconds, where sifting through a pile of profiles at olympic speed gets you to the bottom of an empty barrel pretty quickly. Today, sex researcher Anna talks the hosts through a paper on the impact of choice overload when it comes to all those fish in the sea (in the barrel?). Turns out that the more fish, the less satisfaction. Have a listen to this week's Carnal Knowledge for interesting findings about loneliness, satisfaction, and rejection mindset when it comes to our modern way of courting. Then put your phone down and maybe try chatting up that cutie in the coffee shop like the good ol days.Link to Study Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you talk to your doc about your sex life? Dr. Evelin Dacker is a family practitioner and sexual health educator. Her experience over 30 years in practice has guided her towards being a leader among physicians, educating other doctors on how and why they should be talking to their patients about sex. The hosts chat with Evelin about the medical impact of pleasure, the healing nature of authenticity, and the result of a culture that glorifies suffering. Dr. Dacker breaks down her STARS framework for thinking and talking about safety, turn ons, boundaries, relationship expectations, and sexual health status. Another one for the toolkit, the STARS method is a great perspective for sorting out our own thoughts and feelings about sex, and finding the words to share that with others. Find more on the STARS framework keep up with Dr. Evelin Dacker here:https://www.maketimeforthetalk.com/On instagram:@maketimeforthetalk@sexmeddocEvelindacker.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

History has been hard on our favourite hands-on hobby. Wanking has not been thoroughly explored in science research despite its significance in human sexuality from beginning to end of life, but Dr. Eric Sprankle has compiled his findings in a book all about our favourite pastime, “DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation”. In this episode, Dr. Sprankle shares some curious and strange tales from the history of masturbation including how the act has been viewed by different religions over time, the stories that have been made up and passed down to discourage self pleasure, and the rise of semen retention as a belief system. The hosts chat with Dr. Sprankle about the interpretation of art, social media and psychology, Satan's semen, the criminalization of sex toys, and the clashing of our mythologies. Rest assured that no demons are waiting to mix your seed with Satan's reproductive fluids.You can find the book at https://www.drsprankle.com/ and definitely follow Eric on Instagram and Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to pelvic floor health, it's not just about Kegels and crossed legs. Dr. Sara Reardon, a.k.a. "The Vagina Whisperer," demystifies the often-overlooked world of pelvic floor therapy, revealing that it's not just for those with vaginas. In this episode, she dives deep into the common issues like urinary leakage, pain, and tension that can affect anyone, regardless of gender. Do you blow your nose while you pee like Bryde? Well, you shouldn't. From sneezing while peeing to managing scar tissue after abdominal surgery, Dr. Reardon breaks down the importance of proactive care and open conversations. This episode has something for everyone—because pelvic health is universal. Find Dr. Sara Reardon on Instagram!@ the.vagina.whisperer Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Brian Sloan has dedicated his career to perfecting the art of the machine-driven blowjob. This week Bryde and Jeremie enjoy a fascinating and hilarious conversation with Brian who details the ins and outs of AutoBlow, the leading brand of blowjob machines on the market. What makes a great blowjob? Tech and technique come together in the innovation of these machines, and if you want to hear how much further tech can take you, tune in to hear about the future potential of video syncing, voice control, and even mind reading. The testing process includes the haters, and the developers are in hiding because it wouldn't be sex without stigma. Find more at https://autoblow.com and research the makers Very Intelligent Ecommerce Inc. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When we're growing up, it's hard to conceive that the future will feel any different than the present, but the slogan “it gets better”, made popular by sexpert Dan Savage specifically addressing LGBTQ+ youth, tries to bridge that gap with reassurance. But does it actually get better? This week, sex researcher Anna delivers a longitudinal analysis following 230 LGTBQ+ adolescents over three and a half years. The paper talks about the distress caused by harassment and the impact and correlation of social support on mental health outcomes. Turn on your mind with a listen to this dose of Carnal Knowledge, and be a beacon for kids still coming through it.Link to Study:Does It Get Better? A Longitudinal Analysis of Psychological Distress and Victimization in Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Questioning Youth Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

They say a picture is worth a thousand words, but sometimes a few well-chosen words can ignite the imagination in ways a picture never could. In this episode, Carly Pfeiffer, founder of Read Aurore, delves into the world of erotic storytelling, exploring how reading erotica can be a more nuanced and fulfilling experience than visual porn. Carly discusses the educational benefits of erotica, from inspiring fresh bedroom ideas to providing a platform for diverse voices in the genre. Whether you're curious about the therapeutic aspects of writing erotica or just looking to expand your erotic horizons, this conversation is packed with both inspiration and practical advice.Links:Read AuroreInstagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Does it really matter if one parent in a couple does more parenting? In today's episode, sex researcher Anna delivers some Carnal Knowledge to Jeremie and Bryde via a research study on how the division of child care can affect sexual intimacy and relationship quality in heterosexual couples. They chat about what influences parents when dividing up responsibilities, what those responsibilities really are, and the systemic barriers that prevent an equal division of child rearing. It turns out that relationship quality is indeed impacted by how this role is shared, and there is a gendered difference of how parents feel about their roles. Listen up!Link to Study:The Division of Child Care, Sexual Intimacy, and Relationship Quality in Couples Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to love and connection, our childhood experiences often cast long shadows. Today's guest is Alex Bishop, a registered professional counsellor with strong roots in the IFS - or - Internal Family Systems framework, and the main focus of the conversation is attachment theory and how it impacts the way we form relationships - at home, at work, and at play. Bryde introduces the concept of IFS, a way of examining one's inner experience from a lens of compassion and curiosity, making space for whatever burdens need to make themselves known, and finding a new way to care for oneself and one's loved ones. Alex delivers his insight with thoughtfulness and clarity, and shares a little bit about his personal burden that resonated so much with Bryde. Tune in for some content that may open new doors of understanding, and offer a way of living and engaging with acceptance for all your parts. Find Alex and his work here:https://www.forloveweheal.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Take a walk through a deep, dark, sexy dungeon and you know what you will find? Attachment styles doing what attachment styles do, playing out secure or anxious-attachment, matching lids to every pot, and finding the right configuration to work through deep desires and heal hurts. This week researcher Anna dishes out the Carnal Knowledge determined by a survey study of 771 BDSM and non-BDSM practitioners to explore whether BDSM is a maladaptive coping mechanism in response to early life dynamics. It reveals some interesting little tidbits about community vs private practitioners, attachment styles, and differences in experiences of trauma. Have a listen and a little bit of learning that will help us all to continue to destigmatize conversations about sex and sexual expression.Link to study:The Psychology of Kink: a Survey Study into the Relationships of Trauma and Attachment Style with BDSM Interests Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The best case scenario when your partner opens up about their fetish is that it turns out to be yours too. Demora Avarice is an adult content creator on Loyal Fans and she and her husband run her brand together while enjoying the gradual but consistent growth of her assets, currently landing around a 36W bra size. Jeremie and Bryde chat with Demora about what goes into (literally) breast expansion and how she came to know and love the experience of feeling her body expand. Demora talks about the mental health impacts of her augmentation, the physical and social demands of carrying around such a voluminous load through life, and her appreciation for Loyal Fans, the platform she most loves to work on with her patrons and fans. Authenticity is key for Demora Avarice, and her sweet, warm personality may actually be the first thing you notice about her.Find Demora on Loyal FansAll of Demora's Links Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mindfulness matters….in bed. Welcome back to another episode of Carnal Knowledge. This week, Anna tells Jeremie and Bryde about the findings of a 2019 systematic review on the role that meditation can play with sexual dysfunction. The review found three themes: sexual disorders related to pain, desire/arousal disorders, and erectile dysfunction. There's a little more research on people with vulvas than on those with penises in this case (say what, science?), but the results are hopeful for either side! The three hypothesize about why there isn't as much research for erectile dysfunction, and discuss how and when to apply mindfulness meditation for a “self directed state change”. Enjoy this snack-sized summer science and may it lead you towards the mindfulness practice that's right for you.Link to study:Mindfulness Meditation–Based Interventions for Sexual Dysfunctions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Disconnection from one's own body has a host of effects on the individual and on a partnership. Dr. Mazarin Molai is a sex and relationship therapist and clinical psychologist with extensive experience and training in the treatment of eating disorders and addiction. She hosts the Sexology Podcast, a weekly discussion with other psychologists and researchers to explore the most intriguing findings in psychology of sex and intimacy. Dr. Moali also hosts a podcast in Farsi, which broadcasts out to her Iranian audience, and helps women and couples find their way back to intimacy and pleasure, and has also garnered her a few death threats along the way. Jeremie and Bryde chat with Dr. Moali about some of the effects of a sexless relationship, the overlap between the psychology of eating disorders and sexual dysfunction, and the importance of the meaning we attach to masturbation, orgasm, and partnered sex. Tune in for Dr. Moali's thoughts and advice about shame and self-compassion on the road to healing.For more on Dr. Moali, visit https://oasis2care.com/ or follow @sexologypodcast on Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Body dissatisfaction in women as it relates to mainstream media has been a thoroughly discussed topic of modern society, but about body dissatisfaction in men? This week, bad bitch researcher Anna presents a correlational study that examines the relationship between pornography, a salient form of media more commonly consumed by men, and men's relationship with their body image. Body ideals and idols are thrust into the psyche of pornography consumers, but how are the messages internalized? What is body monitoring and how is it impacted with increased porn watching? Does more porn use correlate to a particular attachment style? The psychological effects of the “mesomorphic ideal” portrayed on screens for men have been understudied, and if anything is getting in our way of having healthy experiences of intimacy, it should be explored more deeply.Link to study Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Alice Little​ is America's most successful legal sex worker in the books! At 4'8", you might not think you'd be able to spot this red-headed Irish-American farmer in a crowd, but you'd quickly notice as her charm parts seas of people for her. Her genuine kindness is magnetic and it's not hard to see why her success is credited to her personality and ability to connect with people. Bryde and Jeremie chat with Alice about her life between work at the Chicken Ranch and her home on her horse farm. She talks about her values, and about her roles as a mentor to other industry colleagues and as an advocate for the rights and healthcare of sex workers. Jeremie bring up sex robots and sex work as recently discussed with guest Delphine, and the hosts get some insightful thoughts straight from a professional source about what she predicts will happen. The conversation weaves through topics from Alice's curious past careers to the commodification of intimacy​ to the role of AI in amplifying or hindering human connection. Connect with Alice Little via her website for all the right social links, or email her directly to set up an appointment: alicelittle@thealicelittle.comWebsite: https://thealicelittle.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Another episode of Carnal Knowledge! This week Anna strips down the science of relationships! We dive into a study reviewing same-sex couple relationships from 2000 to 2016. The conversation uncovers how same-sex couples navigate relationship processes, characteristics, and external influences. We explore the significance of respecting individual differences, fostering positive interactions, and mastering communication. Discover the egalitarian ideals that often define these relationships and the impact of being openly out. Tune in for an enlightening look at the unique and shared aspects of love and commitment in same-sex relationships.Study link:"Same-sex couple relationship strengths: A review and synthesis of the empirical literature (2000–2016)https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2017-00534-001" Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"The sex machines rose from the ashes of whorephobia. Their war to exterminate sex work had raged for decades, but the final battle would not be fought in the future. It would be fought here, in our present." That's a direct quote from the original Terminator script, until James Cameron decided to make it about Robotic bodybuilders instead of Robotic Only Fans models. True story. This week Bryde and Jeremie are joined by Delphine, a researcher in the intersection of sexuality and technology. She discusses her work on sex robots and sex work, challenging the problematic framing of sex robots as exploited and abused women, highlighting the inflammatory language used in media and the association with sex work. Delphine takes a sex-positive and tech-neutral approach, emphasizing that technologies are not inherently good or bad. She explores the potential of sex robots to replace or supplement human sex work, noting the current discourse on both sides of the argument. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome back to another smoking hot week of Carnal Knowledge, a sexy rendezvous between sex and science. This week, bad bitch researcher Anna treats the hosts to a study that highlights the complexity of human attraction and the subtle ways in which our behaviours can signal deeper qualities to potential partners. The study investigates the role humour plays in social interactions, capable of influencing our perceptions and relationships in significant ways. Anna breaks down how the researchers classified “positive” and “negative” humour and what humour signifies in terms of long-term partnership compatibility. Spoiler alert: Get your little joke books out. Time to communicate with warmth and playfulness.Link to study:My funny valentine: How humor styles affect romantic interest Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you get when you mix water and fire juuust right? Guest Sureya Leonard is a holistic sex and relationship coach, influenced by her personal and spiritual study of Taoism and Tantra and the route of healing that she took when she became chronically ill. Bryde and Jeremie jump feet first into one of the frameworks Sureya uses to help her coaching clients - the Chakra System. Sureya breaks down the use of the Chakra system as a diagnostic tool for understanding and addressing sexual dysfunction, explains how sexual energy moves differently through the system for men and women, and teaches the hosts about the concept of redirecting sexual energy for a more body-full, longer lasting orgasm without ejaculation, or sending the energy in and up, rather than out. Finally, an interesting chat about masturbation, its benefits and its drawbacks. Check out Sureya's free offering via her link tree below!Want more Sureya in your life? Sureya's Links Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome back to Carnal Knowledge - where curiosity meets carnal desires! This week, we dive into the fascinating world of self-expansion and its tantalizing effects on sexual desire and relationship satisfaction. Resident researcher Anna brings us a groundbreaking study examining how self-expanding activities can reignite the flames of passion in long-term relationships. Join us as we unpack the study's three conditions and their intriguing impact on intimacy, self-growth, and romantic satisfaction. Discover how embracing new experiences together can breathe new life into established relationships and spark deeper connections. Don't miss this deep dive into the psychology of desire and the secrets to keeping the heat alive. Until next week, embrace the new, ignite the old.Link to study:https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2018-47337-001 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Intimacy isn't just for the easy times; it's a lifeline when the going gets tough. This week, Sam T joins TMO to explore the profound role of intimacy and connection amidst the harrowing journey of caregiving for a child with cancer. They challenge the taboo of finding joy in hardship, with Sam sharing how her bond with her partner deepened during their daughter's treatment, offering solace and a brief respite from their pain. The conversation dives into the strain preexisting conditions can place on partnerships and the risk of separation or divorce. Together, they tackle the stigma of maintaining intimacy in the face of trauma and emphasize its importance as a coping mechanism. Hear about the heightened emotions, the resilience required, and the growth that comes from choosing to stay connected even when escape seems tempting.Want More Sam?The Deep CInstagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Carnal Knowledge resident researcher Anna shares a study on sexting and its impact on relationships. This spurs conversation between Jer, Bryde and Anna about changing societal attitudes towards sexting, their own experiences with sexting, and that one time sexting almost got included in the big book of psychological disorders. Have a listen and hear abut the influence of relationship type in determining the positive or negative consequences of sexting, gender differences in sending sexy texts and photos, and a link between attachment style in sexting experiences. Until next week, fight clean, text dirty.Link to Study:https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0747563217303898 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week Jer and Bryde are coming at you with a little host hang. Bryde is excited about a recent story that made headlines regarding a multi-million dollar insurance policy taken out on a pair of testicles. Publicity stunt aside, insuring body parts is not as uncommon as one might think. Speaking of publicity stunts, the Japanese government creating a dating app is not one. It's their final Hail Mary approach to address wildly declining birth rates. Might be faster if Japan just imported Nick Cannon for a couple of years.Follow Turn Me On Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome back to another edition of Carnal Knowledge! A weekly rendezvous between sex and science. This week, Anna delivers some interesting research on the impacts that virtual reality erotica can make on feelings of presence, arousal, and sexual desire for women viewers. Could this be a new frontier of sexual exploration of desires and preferences? The study illuminates differences in effectiveness between VR and 2D viewing, as well as first-person POV vs a more voyeruistic third-person experience. Closing the orgasm gap, one erotic story at a time!Link to Study: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0747563217303898?casa_token=HAk1Qsqy6AcAAAAA:1ngfqQ9WoEiFE3hJu43BiSpRQUsVt7qvnX-9XFsAzTZs8yiWzB2x6jh401DBiNU8KbritIaXrQ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When life gives you lemons, sometimes it also gives you endometriosis. April Maria (aka Venus Libido) shares her transformative journey from patient to advocate to sex educator highlighting the labyrinthine path to a proper diagnosis and the frustrating lack of awareness surrounding endometriosis. Delving into the impact on sexual pleasure and intimacy, April underscores the importance of breaking the silence around this often misunderstood condition. She explains the ins and outs of endometriosis, from painful symptoms to the challenges of induced menopause. Through candid discussion, April explores how pelvic pain can derail mental health and daily life, while championing holistic wellness and self-care as vital tools for managing chronic pain. With her expertise as a sex educator, she empowers her followers to take charge of their health and seek support. Follow April:InstagramWebsiteLinktree Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you cliterate or a cliteridiot? Dr. Laurie Mintz is an author, therapist, speaker and Emeritus Professor at the University of Florida, where she teaches the Psychology of Human Sexuality to hundreds of undergraduate students each year. Bryde and Jeremie chat with Dr. Mintz about the evolution of her course and the challenges of teaching in this field. She shares insights on the changing landscape of gender identity, the impact of new research on teaching, and the intersection of sexual pleasure with body image and self-consciousness. And don't miss it - keep your ears open for the one takeaway that has all the apiarists abuzz!Keywordshuman sexuality, gender identity, teaching challenges, inclusive language, debunking myths, personal stories, sexuality, gender, language, education, cultural norms, sexual pleasure, orgasm gap, gender inclusivity, body image, self-consciousness, cultural impact Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We're back with another edition of Carnal Knowledge! A weekly rendezvous between sex and science.This time around Anna explores the findings of a study on women's experiences with genital touching, sexual pleasure, and orgasm. The study reveals that there is a wide range of preferences and techniques when it comes to pleasurable stimulation (duh). Some key findings include the importance of clitoral stimulation during intercourse, the preference for light to medium pressure on the vulva, and the various styles and patterns of touch that women enjoy. But guess what else is important? Emotional intimacy and communication with a partner! Pleasure isn't a one size fits all folks!Link to studyCitation:Herbenick, D., Fu, T. C. (Jane), Arter, J., Sanders, S. A., & Dodge, B. (2018). Women's Experiences With Genital Touching, Sexual Pleasure, and Orgasm: Results From a U.S. Probability Sample of Women Ages 18 to 94. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 44(2), 201–212. https://doi.org/10.1080/0092623X.2017.1346530 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Know what isn't a big deal? Herpes. Don't take it from us. Cassie Black, also known as Safe Slut, joins the conversation to discuss her experience with genital herpes and the stigma surrounding sexually transmitted infections. She shares her journey of advocacy, sex positivity, and the evolution of her brand, Safe Slut. Cassie dives into topics such as safe sex, communication, and the normalization of STI testing and disclosure. Cassie's life isn't just about advocacy though. She is also a porn star! Cassie lays out her evolution from Safe Slut to Cassie Black, the challenges of branding and marketing in the adult industry, the transition from OnlyFans to mainstream porn, and the censorship and stigma surrounding sexually transmitted infections and diseases on social media platforms.KeywordsSTIs, sexually transmitted infections, herpes, sex positivity, advocacy, safe sex, communication, stigma, disclosure, sex education, Safe Slut, Cassie Black, branding, marketing, adult industry, OnlyFans, mainstream porn, sexually transmitted infections, stigma, censorship, social mediaFind Cassie: Instagram: @safe.slut AND @thecassieback Tiktok: @safe.slutOnlyFansYouTubePatreon Website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome back to Carnal Knowledge! A weekly rendezvous between sex and science. This week Anna take Jer and Bryde down a deep dark rabbit hole exploring the mating psychology of incels (involuntarily celibate individuals) and challenges some common misconceptions about them. This study explores the three big M's when it comes to incels; Misfortunes, Misperceptions, and Misrepresentations. A conversation that emphasizes the importance of compassion when talking about a group who's beliefs and behaviours stems from deep rooted issues and trauma. Link to studyCitation:Costello, W., Rolon, V., Thomas, A. G., & Schmitt, D. P. (2023). The Mating Psychology of Incels (Involuntary Celibates): Misfortunes, Misperceptions, and Misrepresentations. The Journal of Sex Research, 1–12. https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2023.2248096 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Purity pledges are a thing of the past, right? Portia Brown is a sex coach and educator, and a purity culture drop out. Hailing from the Midwest, Portia knew from an early age that anything she wanted to understand about sex she was going to have to read about at the library. A religious upbringing paired with abstinence only sex ed didn't stop Portia from becoming the teenager who was thrilled to be handing out condoms at her college fresh week. This week Jeremie and Bryde chat with Portia about purity culture and its impact on society and reproductive rights, evident in the overturning of Roe v Wade, the rise of modesty influencers, and the increase in conservative ideologies. They discuss how the Covid pandemic may have pushed society even further in this direction. Jeremie learns about Father Daughter Balls, or, Purity Balls, commonplace in some conservative a Christian groups in the US.Portia's Links:InstagramTwitterTiktokWebsite Keywordssex coach, purity culture, religious beliefs, oppression, women, LGBTQ+ community, challenge, dismantle, inclusive, sex-positive, purity culture, reproductive rights, societal norms, conservative ideologies, COVID-19, political divide, abstinence-only sex education, comprehensive sex education, Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Turn Me On presents: Carnal Knowledge! Our new weekly rendezvous between sex and science. In this conversation, TMO's resident sex researcher, Anna, discusses a paper titled 'Does Clitoral Knowledge Translate Into Orgasm? The Interplay Between Clitoral Knowledge, Gendered Sexual Scripts, and Orgasm Experience.'The paper explores the inequality in orgasm rates and sexual pleasure between heterosexual women and men. Do women have more clitoral knowledge than men? Does gendered sexual scripts impact sexual pleasure? What is more important for the optimal orgasm experience; a knowledge of our genital anatomy or our ability to advocate for the pleasure that we desire? Science is sexy, folks.Chapters00:00Introduction and Setting the Stage05:19The Clitoral Knowledge Quiz26:03The Role of Clitoral Knowledge in Orgasm Experience34:53Conclusion and Call to ActionLink to studyCitation:Dienberg, M. F., Oschatz, T., Kosman, E., & Klein, V. (2023). Does Clitoral Knowledge Translate into Orgasm? The Interplay Between Clitoral Knowledge, Gendered Sexual Scripts, and Orgasm Experience. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 49(5), 484–496. https://doi.org/10.1080/0092623X.2022.2147112 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If masturbation needs anything, it's some fresh new idioms. Welcome to Season 5 of Turn Me On, a season where hosts Bryde and Jeremie are excited to dive even deeper into their mutual love for words, science, and perspective shifting conversations in the name of bettering the sex and love lives of all. Welcome, Anna! A fabulous addition to this season, Anna is a passionate graduate student from Columbia University who is excited to share the latest in sex research every week in a brand new segment. Fans of Turn Me On, get ready for a second episode every week to help you keep that pilot light lit. In this host episode, Bryde presents Jeremie with some unasked questions about common masturbation habits, and tests him with some hard hitting trivia including how and when masturbation shows up in humans and non-human animals, and which famous person said what on the subject of autoeroticism. TakeawaysMasturbation is a common and healthy behavior in humans and animals.Masturbation can have mental health benefits, such as stress relief and increased confidence.Sex toys can enhance the experience of masturbation, but personal preferences vary.Different animals engage in self-pleasure using various techniques and objects.Famous individuals have shared their thoughts and experiences related to masturbation.Chapters00:00Introduction and Season Launch03:13Masturbation Month and Mental Health06:20Using Sex Toys for Masturbation16:15Animals and Masturbation41:12Famous Quotes on Masturbation Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What's a bigger turn off than feeling like sex might shred your vagina? Deb Porteus found new love right along the same time she started perimenopause, and the kicker is that "new relationship energy" sex combined with vaginal dryness for folks who are going through “the change”, it fucking hurts. They tried the standards and explored at length, but firecracker Deb and her lover Brian were determined to make something better than what they could find, and The Pleasure Pods were born. Longtime friends from teaching yoga together, Deb, Bryde and Jeremie chat about what The Pleasure Pods are made of, what they look, feel, smell, and taste like, and the many ways they can be used to enhance your pleasure. No, this is not an ad! Deb has a spirit that will light you up and inspire you, and you will enjoy her story of how she went about getting into lube development and becoming a “friggin' awesome squirter”.Pleasure Pods Links:InstagramFacebookYoutubewww.thepleasurepods.comTakeawaysPleasure Pods are small, solid lubricant pods made of natural ingredients like mango butter, cocoa butter, and coconut butter.The pods melt upon contact with the skin, providing a smooth and long-lasting lubrication.Pleasure Pods can be used for sexual activities, massages, and as a skincare product for soothing irritated skin.Deborah's personal experience with perimenopause and vaginal dryness inspired her to create Pleasure Pods to address the lack of effective and safe lubricants on the market.Chapters00:00Introduction and Setting Up08:01Using Coconut Oil and the Birth of Pleasure Pods16:27Ingredients and Skincare Benefits of Pleasure Pods29:31Expanding into the United States36:12Understanding the Longevity of Pleasure Pods43:16Connecting with Pleasure Pods on Social Media Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What is the most common question an online sex educator finds in her DMs? Danielle Bezalel, aka DB, is an executive producer and creator of Sex Ed with DB. She has a Master of Public Health with a focus on sexuality and reproductive health. In this conversation, she talks to Bryde and Jeremie about public health and its role with sex education, highlighting the need for age-appropriate and medically accurate sex education that covers topics such as boundaries, consent, puberty, menstruation, STIs, and contraception, and statistics relating to abstinence only sex ed. DB breaks down the benefits of masturbation, including effects on stress levels, mood, and confidence, and details on her own masturbation science project and the findings. Jeremie offers a brief history lesson on the Magic Wand. Other topics of conversation include the challenges of being a sexual health influencer on social media plus a workshop to help folks who are establishing their sex health brands online. DB also addresses questions about talking to children about masturbation and the most common questions she receives as a sexual health educator.Keywords: sex education, public health, abstinence-only, comprehensive, age-appropriate, medically accurate, boundaries, consent, puberty, menstruation, STIs, contraception, pleasure, orgasm gap, sex education, masturbation, sexual health, Magic Wand, confidence, parenting, sex toys, social mediaTakeawaysComprehensive and age-appropriate sex education is crucial for promoting sexual health and well-being.The United States has a lack of comprehensive sex education, with only 17 states requiring medically accurate program content.Abstinence-only programs perpetuate myths and misinformation about sex and sexual health.Sex education should start at a young age, with age-appropriate discussions about boundaries, consent, and body parts.Public health plays a vital role in addressing sexual health issues and promoting overall well-being. Masturbation can have numerous benefits, including stress reduction, improved mood, and increased confidence.Follow DB:X InstagramFacebookTiktokWebsiteWorkshopYoutubeOther episode mentions: Guttmacher Institute Chapters00:00Introduction to Danielle Bezalel (DB)05:54The Lack of Comprehensive Sex Education in the United States12:06Age-Appropriate Topics in Sex Education28:21Comprehensive Sex Education41:19Talking to Children About Masturbation48:09The Challenges of Being a Sexual Health Educator54:33Navigating Social Media as a Sexual Health Influencer Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.