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In this weeks episode, Pastors Kyle, Blake, and Doug answer the following questions. *Please note the first question in this episode deals with sensitive topics. If you have little ones near, we recommend tuning in at a later time*1. Warning for content of people watching with kids around - What do you think God thinks about masturbation? What do you think He expects sexually for single people?2.I've been reading about Paul and the early missionaries how they were able to go into worship places and tell people about Jesus. We don't have that “luxury” today, but sometimes when we encounter people who don't know Jesus, we want to tell them, How can we start up and then tell them about Him? What do we say?Do you have a question you've been wanting answered? Head on over to our website www.invertedorthodoxy.com to submit a question. You can find us on Wednesdays on Youtube, or wherever you subscribe to podcasts. To learn more about our church, you can visit www.livingspringsairdrie.com
In this weeks episode, Pastors Kyle, Blake, and Doug answer the following questions. *Please note the first question in this episode deals with sensitive topics. If you have little ones near, we recommend tuning in at a later time*1. Warning for content of people watching with kids around - What do you think God thinks about masturbation? What do you think He expects sexually for single people?2.I've been reading about Paul and the early missionaries how they were able to go into worship places and tell people about Jesus. We don't have that “luxury” today, but sometimes when we encounter people who don't know Jesus, we want to tell them, How can we start up and then tell them about Him? What do we say?Do you have a question you've been wanting answered? Head on over to our website www.invertedorthodoxy.com to submit a question. You can find us on Wednesdays on Youtube, or wherever you subscribe to podcasts. To learn more about our church, you can visit www.livingspringsairdrie.com
Everyone's horny and sexual function is for every body, AND there are some unique considerations for folks living with disability when it comes to personal pleasure. This week, Anna breaks down a literary review that discusses the historical context for studying sex and disability, as well as the positive aspects and particular challenges to sex positivity. A mind-opening conversation is had about how our misconceptions of what disability feels and looks like may be limiting how we see the sexual identity of others, and even perpetuate it unconsciously. The conversation also covers Jeremie's new nightmare, the Homunculus, as well as a heartwarming anecdote about a real best friend facilitating a sexy session for his buddy. Listen to get smarter. Study:https://compass.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/soc4.12508?casa_token=_kvPPo72SpkAAAAA%3A-QXXwUOCX-Ks1YWZ6nzWN2Clkl5o5r36poLp_sm7BNz_pIBsF3FqcyiUE4DZ7ypTVSnTLhN5RtPf-Go Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Send us a text & leave your email address if you want a reply!Ever wondered why some intimate words make you cringe while others turn you on? In this juicy episode, we dive deep into the power of sexual language and how it shapes our intimate experiences. Whether you're shy about speaking up in bed or ready to explore new ways of expressing desire, this episode gives you practical tools to enhance your intimate communication.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS ✨Why the words we use matter (from sacred Sanskrit to modern slang)How to navigate both pillow talk AND dirty talk authenticallyThe real scoop on the 5 Love Languages and why they matter in bedWhy age has nothing to do with great sexual communicationEPISODE LINKS *some links below may also be affiliate linksBook | The 5 Love Languages - by Dr. Gary ChapmanQuiz | Strengthen relationships: Love, Anger, Apology, and Appreciation Practice | Pillow Talk QuestionsTHE MALE GSPOT & PROSTATE MASTERCLASS. This is for you if… You've heard of epic anal orgasms, & you wonder if it's possible for you too. Buy Now. Save 20% Coupon PODCAST20. THE VAGINAL ORGASM MASTERCLASS. Discover how to activate the female Gspot, clitoris, & cervical orgasms. Buy Now. Save 20% Coupon: PODCAST 20 LAST 10x LONGER. If you suffer from premature ejaculation, you are not alone, master 5 techniques to cure this stressful & embarrassing issue once and for all. Buy Now. Save 20% Coupon: PODCAST20. Support the showSxR Hotline | SxR Website | YouTube | TikTok | Pinterest | Instagram | Dr. Willow's Website | Leah's Website
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Ever felt pressured by societal norms in relationships? In this episode of the "Crown Yourself" podcast, hosted by Kimberly Spencer, the discussion centers on relationships, communication, and the journey of marriage later in life. Author & speaker, Laurie Handlers shares a unique marriage proposal story, emphasizing the importance of self-love, clear communication, and understanding gender differences in relationships. The conversation explores the challenges successful women face in balancing career and personal life, the significance of setting boundaries, and the need for practical relationship skills. The episode encourages listeners to embrace new experiences, prioritize self-awareness, and foster deeper connections with their partners, regardless of age. Enjoy, sovereigns! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music, or your favorite podcast listening platform. You can also watch the episode on YouTube. Moments of Note: Dating Your Species (00:00:00) Advice on dating within your own relationship style, whether monogamous or polyamorous. Podcast Introduction (00:00:25) Kimberly Spencer welcomes listeners and outlines the podcast's purpose for personal and professional growth. Marriage Decision at 75 (00:01:08) Discussion about the speaker's choice to marry at 75 and the significance of the decision. The Unique Proposal (00:01:23) A humorous recount of the speaker's unexpected marriage proposal in a porta potty. Taking Marriage Seriously (00:03:27) The speaker reflects on how they initially didn't take the proposal seriously until later. Setting New Precedents (00:04:20) Emphasizing that new experiences can be embraced at any age, including marriage. Challenges in Relationships (00:05:29) Discussion on how societal expectations affect couples and their communication. Lack of Communication Skills (00:06:34) Critique of education systems for not teaching essential communication skills for relationships. Fear of Seeking Help (00:07:10) Exploration of why couples hesitate to seek help for relationship issues due to shame. Difference in Approaches (00:07:46) Comparison between traditional therapy and the speaker's unique approach to relationship coaching. Focus on Self-Love (00:08:46) Highlighting the importance of self-love as a foundation for loving others effectively. Fearless Communication Techniques (00:10:03) Introduction to communication strategies that enhance connection and understanding in relationships. Understanding Gender Dynamics (00:11:15) Discussion on the biological differences in how men and women experience intimacy and connection. Unraveling Misconceptions (00:12:23) Addressing common misconceptions about gender behavior in relationships. Radical Honesty in Relationships (00:14:20) Laurie shares their experience of building a relationship based on radical honesty and openness. Two Categories of Couples (00:15:22) Identifying two types of couples: those seeking help after many years and those starting fresh. Saying the Unsayable (00:16:35) Teaching couples how to communicate difficult feelings and thoughts openly. Authenticity in New Relationships (00:17:35) Encouraging authenticity from the beginning of a relationship to foster true connection. Setting Boundaries Early (00:18:42) The importance of establishing boundaries in relationships to build trust and understanding. Boundaries in Relationships (00:19:44) Discussion on the importance of boundaries in relationships, especially regarding family planning. Dating Your Species (00:20:37) Emphasis on finding compatible partners based on relationship styles and preferences. Desires and Boundaries Ritual (00:21:41) Sharing personal experiences about discussing desires and boundaries before becoming intimate. Communication in Relationships (00:23:17) Highlighting the significance of open communication and consent in establishing relationship dynamics. Common Relationship Conflicts (00:24:26) Exploring typical arguments couples face and the need for conscious relationship skills. Truth and Sexual Expression (00:25:30) Connecting the ability to speak one's truth with enhancing sexual intimacy and creativity. Sex Education Gaps (00:27:28) Critique of traditional sex education and the need for better communication about sexual health. Generational Shifts in Relationships (00:30:46) Observations on how relationship dynamics and expectations differ across generations. Permission to Speak Truth (00:32:44) Discussion on how older generations feel freer to express desires and boundaries. Shifts in Tantra Classes (00:35:02) Changes in participants' motivations for attending tantra classes over time, focusing on trauma healing. Navigating Trauma in Practice (00:37:25) The importance of understanding trauma responses during bodywork and breathwork practices. Pleasure and Aging (00:39:06) Exploring how permission for pleasure increases with age, leading to enhanced happiness and intimacy. The Importance of Self-Love (00:39:26) Laurie discusses the freedom of self-expression and the significance of self-love in relationships. Practicing Intentional Sex (00:39:48) The concept of intentional sex is introduced, emphasizing the need for self-pleasure and hormonal balance. Breaking Routines for Pleasure (00:41:39) Laurie encourages breaking routines to enhance pleasure and keep the mind open to new experiences. The Role of Age in Sexuality (00:42:12) Aging is portrayed positively, with increased honesty about desires and improved sexual experiences. Understanding Pleasure Beyond Sexuality (00:43:03) Kimberly reflects on trauma's impact on pleasure and the importance of reconnecting with joy in life. Exploring Personal Pleasure (00:43:19) Laurie suggests self-exploration to understand personal pleasure, likening it to an owner's manual for the body. Permission to Explore (00:44:15) Older individuals are encouraged to embrace pleasure and communicate desires freely with partners. Creative Life Force vs. Hustle (00:45:29) The distinction between creative energy and the hustle mentality is discussed, emphasizing pleasure in business. Pleasure as a Birthright (00:46:39) Laurie asserts that pleasure is a natural right, essential to human experience and existence. Pain and Pleasure Connection (00:47:52) The relationship between pain and pleasure is explored, particularly in the context of BDSM and childbirth. Shame Around Sexuality (00:49:22) Laurie addresses the widespread shame individuals feel regarding their bodies and sexual experiences. Embarrassment in Sexual Development (00:50:04) The discussion highlights the embarrassment many feel during puberty and the lack of education around it. Cultural Influences on Shame (00:51:19) Cultural and generational factors contribute to shame surrounding sexuality, affecting both genders. Healing Through Touch (00:53:33) Kimberly shares her journey of self-acceptance and healing through tactile awareness and body exploration. Eradicating Shame (00:54:58) Laurie discusses the constructed nature of shame and its detrimental effects on personal expression. Tangible Steps to Experience Pleasure (00:58:19) Breath, sound, and movement are recommended as practical methods to enhance pleasure and reduce shame. Here are the extracted timestamps and their titles from the podcast episode transcription segment: Working with Successful Women (00:59:57) Discusses helping women transition from corporate masculinity to embracing their feminine energy. Having It All (01:00:45) Explores the possibility of joy and pleasure without sacrificing personal or professional life. Rapid Fire Questions (01:00:59) Introduces a quick round of questions about favorite characters and personal experiences. Favorite Female Character (01:01:04) Laurie shares admiration for strong female characters like Scarlett O'Hara and Alias. Trading Places (01:01:30) Considers who they'd want to swap lives with, choosing Marie Antoinette for a day. Money Routine (01:01:53) Explains a unique ritual of using rose oil on cash to connect heart and money. Morning and Evening Routine (01:02:53) Describes daily routines involving movement, planning, and personal development through Spanish lessons. Dreaming in Spanish (01:04:25) Laurie expresses a desire to dream in Spanish, highlighting their limited dream recall. Defining Queendom (01:05:00) Shares thoughts on personal empowerment and setting boundaries in relationships. Promoting Books and Workshops (01:06:06) Laurie discusses her books and invites listeners to join her workshops and inner circle. Reversing Age Through Sexual Transmutation (01:07:45) Kimberly praises Laurie's vitality and encourages listeners to share her message with others. Creating a Royal Ripple (01:08:43) Kimberly encourages sharing the episode to inspire others and emphasizes personal sovereignty. Mentions + Additional Resources: Tools and Concepts Fearless Communication: "00:10:03" Return to Love Formula: "00:10:03" Seduction as a Team Sport: "00:10:03" Nonviolent Communication: "00:10:03" Assertiveness Training: "00:17:35" Cuddle Parties: "00:20:37" Bubble Ritual: "00:21:41" Temple Slut Game: "00:33:49" Intentional Sex: "00:39:48" Breath, Sound, and Movement: "00:58:19" Rose Oil: "01:01:58" Books "It Gets Better with Age": "00:31:16" Owner's Manual: "00:43:19" "Sex and Happiness: It Gets Better with Age": "01:06:06" "Sex and Happiness: The Tantric Laws of Intimacy": "01:06:06" Websites Crown Yourself: "00:00:25" Laurie Handlers' Website: "01:06:45" Laurie's Inner Circle: "01:07:45" Videos Instagram Videos on Relationship Advice: "00:16:38" Notable Quotes "Date your species": "00:20:37" Recommendations Experimentation with Pleasure: "00:43:19" Engaging with Different Age Groups: "00:41:39" Additional Notes Communication in Relationships: "00:23:17" and "00:25:41" Trauma Awareness: "00:39:02" Discussion on Pain and Pleasure: "00:47:52" Importance of Self-Pleasure: "00:40:31" Spanish Lessons: "01:04:25" Connect with Laurie Handlers WEBSITE https://lauriehandlers.com/ SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/laurie.handlers/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/laurie.handlers/ TWITTER: https://x.com/LaurieHandlers YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@extraordinarylovers Transcript: For a full episode transcript, it can be found here. 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Jenise Hart, a dynamic figure in both the adult film and comedy industries, shares her unique perspective on the intersection of sexuality and empowerment in this engaging podcast episode. Throughout the conversation, she emphasizes the importance of confidence and self-acceptance, asserting that true empowerment comes from owning one's narrative and body. Jenny discusses the challenges and triumphs she has faced, including her experiences with colorism and societal expectations in the adult industry. The dialogue also touches on the evolving nature of relationships and sexuality, highlighting how modern dynamics can influence perceptions of attraction and value. With a blend of humor and honesty, Jenny encourages listeners to embrace their individuality and challenge conventional norms surrounding beauty and desirability.Chapters:00:00 - Introduction to Jenny the Gaga01:12 - The Journey of Jenny the Gaga14:15 - Navigating Trauma and Relationships29:01 - Exploring the Spectrum of Prostitution40:06 - Navigating Life as a Mother in the Adult Industry47:20 - Navigating Body Confidence and Social Perception57:23 - The Evolution of Sexual Expression in Music01:12:44 - Embracing Identity and Self-LoveBecome A Channel Member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAQLEDkByO-ckKb_oq_Stpg/joinSUBSCRIBE to Patreon for exclusive content https://www.patreon.com/RealLyfeStreetStarzFollow us on Social Media:Website: www.ReallyfeStreetStarz.comTwitter: https://twitter.com/Reallyfe_214/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ReallyfeProductions/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ReallyfeStreetStarzFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReallyfeProductions/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@reallyfestreetstarzSoundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/reallyfestreetstarziTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/reallyfe-street-starz-podcast/CashApp: $RealLyfeProductions
12 May 2024 | Pastor Evan continues our American Gods series on the vice of lust and god of sexual expression based on the woman caught in adultery in John 7:53-8:11 53 They went each to his own house, 8:1 but Jesus went to the Mount of Olives. 2 Early in the morning he came again to the temple. All the people came to him, and he sat down and taught them. 3 The scribes and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in adultery, and placing her in the midst 4 they said to him, “Teacher, this woman has been caught in the act of adultery. 5 Now in the Law, Moses commanded us to stone such women. So what do you say?” 6 This they said to test him, that they might have some charge to bring against him. Jesus bent down and wrote with his finger on the ground. 7 And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her.” 8 And once more he bent down and wrote on the ground. 9 But when they heard it, they went away one by one, beginning with the older ones, and Jesus was left alone with the woman standing before him. 10 Jesus stood up and said to her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” 11 She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said, “Neither do I condemn you; go, and from now on sin no more.”
From the blush of first loves to the seasoned affections of later years, intimacy adapts to our changing bodies, shifting priorities, and the various life stages we traverse. Whether it's rediscovering a partner in a long-term relationship or embracing new experiences, sexual expression should be free of judgment and have no expiration date. To expose how to foster a fulfilling sexual life at any age, by oneself or with a partner, Harvesting Happiness Podcast Host Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with the Executive Director of The Kinsey Institute and award-winning researcher and educator, Dr. Justin Garcia about the joys of sexual expression. Justin delves into statistical insights from the Kinsey Institute concerning the impact of COVID on sexual behaviors, highlights pivotal discoveries from the 'Sex After Sixty' collaborative study by the Kinsey Institute and Cosmopolitan magazine, discusses emerging trends in sexuality, and explores the relationship between happiness and intimacy.This episode is proudly sponsored byBeducated— Offers online shame-free pleasure-based sex education for everyone. Spice up your sex life today and get 50% off the yearly pass. Visit beducate.me/happiness and use code HAPPINESS.Like what you're hearing?WANT MORE SOUND IDEAS FOR DEEPER THINKING? Check out More Mental Fitness by Harvesting Happiness bonus content available exclusively on Substack and Medium.
From the blush of first loves to the seasoned affections of later years, intimacy adapts to our changing bodies, shifting priorities, and the various life stages we traverse. Whether it's rediscovering a partner in a long-term relationship or embracing new experiences, sexual expression should be free of judgment and have no expiration date. To expose how to foster a fulfilling sexual life at any age, by oneself or with a partner, Harvesting Happiness Podcast Host Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with the Executive Director of The Kinsey Institute and award-winning researcher and educator, Dr. Justin Garcia about the joys of sexual expression. Justin delves into statistical insights from the Kinsey Institute concerning the impact of COVID on sexual behaviors, highlights pivotal discoveries from the 'Sex After Sixty' collaborative study by the Kinsey Institute and Cosmopolitan magazine, discusses emerging trends in sexuality, and explores the relationship between happiness and intimacy.This episode is proudly sponsored byBeducated— Offers online shame-free pleasure-based sex education for everyone. Spice up your sex life today and get 50% off the yearly pass. Visit
Everything is relative, To the state of my mind, heart, and soul. My ability to remain in calm acceptance, Is my only means of control. ☉ You heard it: after Merc goes direct tomorrow, all planets are full steam ahead until Pluto goes retro on May 2. Who knows what we are in for next, with Mars coming out of chaos to stake a new claim in Aries - the masculine getting more masculine - and Venus settling into Taurus for a bit, the feminine getting more feminine? It will be an interesting rest of the month that could get pretty hectic on the inside and may be best enjoyed from the outside (reminds me of another song maybe for next week). Another thing about Saturn in Pisces, though, besides signifying the dissolution of old forms, let's also keep in mind that it is forming (Saturn) new dreams (Pisces) that will be birthed in 2026 when he emerges out of foggy Pisces. So, as our song for this week and the mantra both state, the only constant is change, and no sooner does one form fall apart than another form takes its place. Everything so temporary may make us question whether anything is worth our time and effort anyway. The answer to that will be different with different people at different times, largely depending on how much of a good time they are having versus how much pain they are in. As the source of all pain is the resistance to change and evolution, living in calm acceptance of what is reduces pain, allows for more joy, and will result in more pleasant experiences, leading us to feel that life really is worth living. Got that? It's the same as fighting the flow, which will wear you down and out, while going with it will be a fun ride. So, let's lay our burdens down, cut out the bickering, and get with it. Life is too short to stay bummed!
In this episode, I am joined by Oliver Morton-Evans who is a sexuality and disability advocate and educator who is currently studying to become a certified sex coach for men with disabilities. Emily and Oliver discuss: What is sexual expression How to create your sexual expression Advice for support workers in talking about sex with your client FOLLOW US on Instagram @thatsorgasmicSend your comments, questions and stories to: emilyduncan@thatsorgasmic.com To book a session with Emily at Emily Duncan Sexology follow the link: https://www.emilyduncansexology.com/ Leave a review for the chance to receive a discounted session with Emily at Emily Duncan Sexology. Subscribe to my Sunroom: https://sunroom.so/thatsorgasmic (sign up on their website for 30% off my membership) Oliver's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oliver_me79/ Resources TV / Film * Latecomers, 2022 (SBS) * Erotic Stories, Ep 3, ‘Bound' 2023 (SBS) * Margarita with a Straw, 2014 (Netflix) * The Intouchables, 2011 * The Sessions, 2012 * Inside I'm Dancing, 2014 Influencers / Educators * Eva Sweeney (FB: crippingupsex) * Andrew Gurza (IG: andrewgurza6) * Hannah Witton (IG: hannahwitton) * Melinah Viking (IG: melinahviking) * Shane Burcaw (IG: shaneburcaw) * Kelly Gordon (IG: mskelgee) Books * The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain, and Illness, C Silverberg etal. Toys Bump'n * https://getbumpn.com/ HotOctopuss * https://www.hotoctopuss.com/articles/sex-for-all/sex-and-disability/sex-and-disability-products/ - See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
My focus now is on myself, My body, my feelings, and needs. For the door to my soul is closed and locked, And they are my set of keys. ☉ Taurus rules the body, among other things, and this Jupiter-Uranus conjunction is pulling us into our bodies for some deep listening. Let's face it—our bodies are AMAZING! There's nothing else as complex, mysterious, resilient yet delicate, strong yet sensitive, indeed, magical in existence. Our bodies are intricately involved with our needs, our feelings, and our souls. Penetrating these with our ego consciousness is an unending adventure! This is such an amazing week with a Mercury/Venus/Chiron conjunction happening in tandem with the Jupiter/Uranus. As I said in the report, we'll have Jupiter conjunct Uranus from early this month until May 26th when Jupiter moves into Gemini. It's a time to be very awake! With eyes, minds, and hearts open, we can take full advantage of the brilliant flashes of insight this conjunction brings. While sometimes the truth hurts, in all cases, it is necessary, timely, and furthers our evolutionary growth. We can get the most out of knowing if we're awake and ready. If we are asleep, we get jolted! So, the healing continues with the emphasis on Chiron. We may also see some “healing crises” in the world and physical earth events. It does seem as if the wounds get bigger and more painful until we pay attention to them, find their origin, and apply large doses of forgiveness, compassion, and love. When we don't, they fester, worsen, and create further crises. So, let's focus on building peace and love, beginning with our relationship with ourselves, extending to those close to us, and letting it grow organically. Blessings on your week, and I hope to see you this Sunday! I'm Still Willin!! https://youtu.be/RNqv85coyTw?si=etllaKm1BHcOxbmN
Today I'm joined again by my FAVORITE sex therapist Dr. Kate Balestrieri! We're here to discuss the topic of sexual shame and self-worth when it comes to "Good Girl Syndrome" (thank you Catholic school). On today's episode we're exploring signs of sexual shame, the impact of societal messaging on our sexual expression, and how to transform shame narratives. We also discuss the sneaky ways shame and guilt might be showing up in our intimate lives and offer therapy room advice on navigating shame in partnerships.On this episode we cover:sex negativity culture self-worthsexual expressionsigns of sexual shamewhat are shame narrativessexual desires and fantasieshow to counteract shame
Michael Hollice is the Founder and Creative Director of The Play LA (that's a sex party) originally from Los Angeles where his class watched the birthing video forwards and backwards… literally. That baby got sucked right back up! In this episode we talk about: 00:46 The Play LA and Prioritizing Health, Consent, Intimacy, and Artistry 04:04 Arielle's Magical Experience at The Play LA 06:19 Sex as a Collaboration 13:18 The Importance of Eye Gazing and Dropping In 15:07 Sexual and Creative Freedom 16:04 Shifting the Culture of Sex Education 26:25 The Pitfalls of Non-Monogamy 34:12 The Nuance of Flirting 37:07 The power of sharing Desires, Intentions, and Boundaries 38:33 No Phones, No Money, No Hierarchy… that's a good play party! 39:29 How to be a voyeur, but not in a creepy way 41:23 Speaking Desires into Existence 42:49 The Evolution of Boundaries 46:32 Anticipation is Foreplay 56:16 The eroticism of being fed Cookies after an orgasm 59:34 The birthing video… in reverse! 01:02:44 Michael's First Sexual Experience and the experience that changed it all 01:07:05 Importance of Repair… cancellation is not always the way 01:18:22 Profound Experiences can happen at Play Parties 01:20:15 Creating a Community of Connection and Vulnerability 01:21:35 The Play LA and The Play Network You can find Michael on Instagram at @theplay.la and The Play LA website https://theplay.la/ Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on YouTube! Download your FREE Yes / No / Maybe list (you'll find out if play parties are on the menu!), get merch or apply for coaching at www.birdsandbeesdontfck.com If you're pickin' up what we're putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also buy me a coffee if you're a real sweetie. Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at @birdsandbeesdontfck & follow your host @ArielleZadok Stay sexy xx
As a Latter-day Saint man, I dealt with sexual repression. I realize this now, looking back ... but at the time I didn't even know this was one of the root causes of unhappiness and lack of fulfillment in my life. Listen to this episode, and let me know what you think.
Unshaming and celebrating our sexuality is an essential step toward self-acceptance. In this deeply personal episode, I share my story of sexual liberation while also exploring the societal pressures that often repress sexual expression and how overcoming these can lead to personal growth and fulfillment. We dive into 3 books that helped me shift my limited perspectives and own my true desires — "Sex Outside the Lines" by Chris Donaghue, "Boyslut" by Zachary Zane, and "Pleasure Activism" by Adrienne Maree Brown.
This week, we got to talk with Heather Levy about her character driven, dual-timeline, steamy thriller Hurt for Me!Get Hurt for Me now as an Amazon First Reads pick!SynopsisA single mother's brutal past threatens to destroy the new life she's built in this suspenseful dark romance set in the underground world of kink.Rae Dixon is lucky to be alive. Fifteen years ago, she survived being trafficked and abused, escaping her captors to reclaim her life. Now, she's running a thriving business with her best friend and raising a teenage daughter on her own. Rae's finally in control—literally. As Mistress V, Rae is the one calling the shots catering to Oklahoma City's elite in her private dungeon, which is fronted by a spa.But when a client goes missing, Rae's world spins out of control.Detective Dayton Clearwater shows up at the spa, sparking panic when he asks questions that risk exposing Rae's true business. After several young women from her underground community disappear, too, Rae spots a chillingly familiar pattern. Together, she and Detective Clearwater must find answers before more lives are destroyed, including those they love.
Today I welcome Dr. Emily Morse to the show, doctor of human sexuality and the host of the award-winning #1 sexuality podcast, “Sex With Emily,” which has been on air for nearly two decades. Dr. Emily Morse normalizes sex in way that rewires your brain to see sexuality through a liberating, new lens. She teaches us the importance of removing shame, addressing all the factors that affect our sexuality like our trauma and getting out of our heads during the act, and focusing on our sexual health. This is an episode you won't want to miss! Dr. Morse is a MasterClass instructor on sex and communication and was previously a radio host and executive producer on SiriusXM. She has been profiled in The New York Times, Forbes, and Men's Health and has been featured by The Today Show, Conan, Entertainment Tonight, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Bustle, and elsewhere. Her mission is to liberate the conversation about sex and pleasure. Her candid conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation, and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. —Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily —Book: https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100 —Website: https://sexwithemily.com Themes: Sex, Sexuality, Authenticity, Relationships, Self-Love, Sexual Health, Communication, Pleasure, Shame, Imago Theory, Psychology 0:00:00 Intro 0:04:01 Sex and Communication 0:06:09 The Impact of Porn on Sexual Education 0:08:17 Making Peace with Your Own Body 0:09:15 Discovering the Truth About Female Arousal and Pleasure 0:13:36 Tips for Couples Who Haven't Spoken About Sex in a Long Time 0:16:36 Faking Orgasms and the Desire for Emotional Safety 0:19:40 Rebuilding and Starting Fresh: Reconnecting and Prioritizing Sex Life 0:22:24 The Role of the Brain in Arousal and Desire 0:24:14 Embodiment Practice: Being Present and Mindful During Sex 0:26:02 The importance of breathing + breathing technique 0:29:40 Tools for better sex 0:32:21 The Importance of Lube 0:35:55 Impact of Swiping Culture on Sex and Dating Apps 0:39:43 Sexual Expression on Dating Profiles 0:42:31 The Power of Personal Evolution in Sexuality This episode is brought to you by: —Cozy Earth: Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at http://www.cozyearth.com —IIN: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Joseph made a commitment to honor God with His sexuality. Unfortunately, it's a rare man who says to the woman that he loves and plans to marry someday, “When it comes to sexual involvement, let's wait.” That's an extraordinary decision for a couple to make. The Christmas story reminds us that this is still a very big deal to God.
In this episode, I define this concept of sexual sovereignty that I've been speaking about over the past few months, offering a casual chat/intro to this work that I took much deeper on Substack. Here's the article I referenced - a great resource to take this work deeper.Today I cover:Just as we are shaped and molded and conditioned throughout our life by external influences, our environment and everything around us, the same thing happens with our sexuality.What this means is, for those of us who are interested in getting to the truth of who we really are, the path from the false self to the true self, we should include a deep dive into our sexuality to find out what is true and what is not true for us.I don't hear many people talking about this, instead it's just a debaucherous celebration of anything goes and all urges running wild without questioning or caring where some of these impulses came from.I understand that there's a collective process happening and some people need to throw off the reigns when it comes to sexuality to explore.However, we also need to be aware that the larger forces that be are VERY intent on programming us in a certain direction.They are taking advantage of this collective urge and turning it haywire.What I see clearly within this is that there is an attack on love, sex, and relationships (I began talking about this in 2021).Within this, there is an attack on healthy, stable, long term monogamous relationships.And, there is an attack on God. because all of this is very anti-life and anti-God.Much more on all of this in today's episode. As always, would love to hear your questions and comments, and I'll be speaking a lot more about sexuality and how we can elevate it moving forward. Be in touch if you need support, you can book a free call with me below.Connect with me below:Book a Free 30 Minute CallWebsiteInstagramSubstackEmail ListI hope you enjoy this episode! Please rate, review and subscribe to support this work. Thank you for listening! I do this for you
Jason and Brett talk to sexpert Zachary Zane (Boyslut) about bisexuality, kinks, overcoming shame, and the importance of talking openly and honestly about sexual expression in its many forms. In case the title of the episode doesn't make it clear: sex comes up a lot in this episode. Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, sex expert, and activist whose work focuses on sexuality, culture, and the LGBTQ+ community. He is the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. He's also the coauthor of Men's Health: Best. Sex. Ever. He has two columns: “Sexplain It” the sex and relationship advice column at Men's Health and “Navigating Non-Monogamy” at Cosmo, where he shares all the mistakes he's made in his polyamory journey, so you don't have to. He is also the founder and editor in chief of Boyslut zine, which publishes real sex stories from kinksters worldwide. His work on sexuality and relationships has been published in the New York Times, Rolling Stone, the Washington Post, GQ, OUT, and many others.**BOOKS!** Check out the list of books discussed on each episode on our Bookshop page:https://bookshop.org/shop/gaysreading | By purchasing books through this Bookshop link, you can support both Gays Reading and an independent bookstore of your choice!Join our Patreon for exclusive bonus content! Purchase your Gays Reading podcast Merch! Follow us on Instagram @gaysreading | @bretts.book.stack | @jasonblitmanWhat are you reading? Send us an email or a voice memo at gaysreading@gmail.com
Sexual Chaos: Discussion on Male Sexual Expression – Interview with Jack KammerIntro: Have you ever wondered why Calming the Chaos Podcast hasn't talked specifically about the topic of sex? It's because nobody has asked me to! Until now. In this podcast, I talk with Jack Kammer, an Author and commentator on issues between men and women. Jack has a passion of helping policy makers see and understand the connection between male gender issues and some of America's social problems. Join us for an open, fair, friendly and respectful discussion about the sexual expression of men and boys today, and what we can do to calm the sexual chaos.I. The Male Point Of View (Jack)II. The definition of Male Sexual Expression (per Chat GPT) Male sexual expression refers to the various ways in which individuals who identify as male express their sexuality, desires, and preferences in a manner that is authentic to them. It encompasses a wide range of behaviors, feelings, and identities related to sexual attraction, arousal, and intimate relationships. Male sexual expression can include aspects such as communication, consent, self-discovery, and the ability to express one's desires and boundaries in a healthy and respectful manner. It is important to recognize that male sexual expression is diverse and can vary greatly among individuals, reflecting the complexity of human sexuality.What is true? How are men “allowed” to express their sexuality? Male Stereotypes. Confusion. Tracy: Does this mean “Free the nip” and “Free the tip?”Jack: It depends on the where, when, with what expectation and intention (context)III. Young men have a difficult time because “Women have the power” • How many times per day do men think about having sex?• How many times per day do women think about being sexy?IV. A Seat at the Table – “Men get cast away from the discussion” (Jack)• Why aren't men included? “Because they are seen as the enemy” (Jack)• Why would we want to attract the enemy? (Tracy)• Historic context, including feminine and masculine roles, and “EP” (Earning Potential) V. This is the chaos!• Tracy: Both male and female traits can be expressed and they are okay. Be yourself!• Jack: Women have a lot of latitude in their self-expression, men don't Are men “subservient, second class, unimportant and inferior?The hope is that females would be aware of their feminine power and I'm respectful, aware and mindful of the needs of men and boys. • Tracy: We all have personal power. Be aware and use it mindfully. • Jack: Let's have open, fair, friendly and respectful discussions. Invite men to a seat at the table! VI. The PatriarchyVII. The Persona and the ShadowVIII. The Alpha Male vs. “The Alphabet Male”IX. What can females do?• Don't laugh at sexist jokes about how clueless men are• Try not to assume male stereotypes• Acknowledge your ideas of superiority over menX. Free the nip and the tip? “Maybe we're not ready for that yet”XI. Sample social media ads that are geared toward making men sufferXII. Impromptu Fun with the two R's: Red Shoe Diaries and Russell BrandXIII. Contact Jack:• Website / Blog: https://malefriendlymedia.medium.com/• Twitter: https://twitter.com/counterfemsw?lang=en• More information: https://on-boys.blubrry.net/jack-kammer-boys-are-affected-by-sexism-too/#sexualexpression #society #feminism
A parliamentary inquiry has been hearing evidence about what is reasonable and necessary to include as supports for participants in the National Disability Insurance Scheme. - 妥当で必要なサービスとして、NDIS(全国障害保険計画)を通した利用を申請できる性介助サービス。政府が支援し法的に認められる一方で、周囲が無意識に持つ先入観が壁になっています。
A parliamentary inquiry has been hearing evidence about what is reasonable and necessary to include as supports for participants in the National Disability Insurance Scheme. Advocates have told the inquiry that sexuality and sexual expression are frequently overlooked for people with a disability. They say there are damaging assumptions about what that community needs or wants.
"So to answer this guy about why am I rapping about my pussy, it's because my pussy has not had a voice for fucking 30 years." - Mandy Mayhem - In this episode we got to interview the LEGENDARY clitoris herself.. TikTok and Instagram viral sensation Mandy Mayhem. Mandy Mayhem is a rapper who gained prominence in 2022 and 2023 through her viral videos. She has a collective of over 300k followers across platforms and has had up to 4 million live views on Tik Tok. She has received organic shout outs from 50 Cent, EPMD, Chris Brown and Tyler the Creator. When not rapping she's acting and has sold two original TV shows. She is based in Los Angeles. In this episode, we address the criticism Mandy received from one of her haters why it's important to rap about PUSSY. The hosts and Mandy explore the significance of approaching situations with a beginner's mind and how it can enhance creativity and artistic expression. They emphasize the importance of curiosity and openness to new experiences, particularly in their sexual encounters, as it has allowed them to tap into their creativity. By letting go of preconceived notions and knowledge, they have been able to trust themselves more deeply. [00:07:52] Age and sexuality. [00:14:20] Surrendering and receiving guidance. [00:17:52] Becoming centered in your pleasure. [00:21:43] Journey to beginner's mind. [00:24:09] Being curious sexually. [00:29:07] Navigating greatness and fear. [00:32:03] Pussy empowerment and self-exploitation. [00:35:38] Infertility and medical manipulation. [00:40:33] Finding success later in life. [00:45:29] Owning and creating personal authority. [00:51:07] The Legendary Clitoris. [00:52:06] Playful sexual content exploration. [00:57:13] Hormones and aging. [01:01:43] New single release on November 1st. Stay Connected with Mandy Mayhem Stream | NEW song Legendary Instagram | mandamurhead LinkTree | Other Resources Complimentary Sexual Satisfaction Session with Sugar This is your opportunity to get coaching/advice from us around your confidence, pleasure and sex life. If you're ready to boost confidence, accelerate pleasure and reignite your sex life, book a session. Visit https://calendly.com/pleasurepositive/pleasure-positive-discovery-call to book a time that works best for you. Support the Show Patreon | https://www.patreon.com/ClitTalkConfidential Download our free audio training: The Ultimate NO BS Guide to Self Pleasure & Sexual Intimacy
Episode Overview: PT II Women's role, power and what is a fully expressed woman. Female sexual expression evolution & female objectifying in the media. Following your passion as a compass in life. Community living and living according to your natural predispositions. Taking the path of Mind or intuition to get to where you want to go? Why does society dismiss older women? Is beauty the only thing women have to offer? Ageing gracefully and loving yourself fully. Pleasure is healing and why is squirting useful. Training your pelvic floor. Why has Sexual energy been repressed in this society. What can women do to open up and embrace their sexuality. Why are so many women having trouble climaxing? What are we doing wrong in sex? How did Kama come about? Why is it so hard for men to receive? Recipe for happiness About Guest: Chloé Macintosh, the visionary behind Kama, is reshaping sexual education and exploration. With Kama, she's making sexual wellness both accessible and empowering. Prior to this, Chloé was the Chief Creative Officer at Soho House Group, leading digital transformation for its vast membership. She co-founded the e-commerce platform Made.com, which went public at £775M in 2021. As a Venture Partner at Felix Capital, she advises on investments and brand strategy. Starting her career as an architect at Norman Foster, Chloé became the youngest Associate Partner at 26. Now based in London, she originally hails from Paris. Find Chloe on : https://www.linkedin.com/in/chloemacintosh/ Find Dana on https://rb.gy/pm0wwp Listen to the audio version here https://anchor.fm/dana-grinberga If you enjoyed this episode, please make sure to Follow and share. Sponsors: https://momo-kombucha.com Use discount code ISTHISIT15 to get a 15% off of your first order of 6 or 12 bottles of Momo kombucha. If you are enjoying this show, please consider joining my exclusive Patreon Community for some bonus content. http://patreon.com/user?u=82757269 Sign Up for My Newsletter https://mailchi.mp/1f9ea0495d70/better-life-one-tap-away --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dana-grinberga/message
Listen, I know its been a minute but this episode was TOO good to leave in my drafts from a few months ago. Have you wanted to know the secrets of mindblowing anal sex, surrender and what it means to call in more connectedness during penetration? Tune into this 15 min riff on everything NOT practical you need to know to create the most delicious anal sex of your life.
Did herpes ruin your sex life? Or was it brought here to liberate and awaken you? This week Kady came to our podcast interview with the intention to speak about Masculine and Feminine energetics in relationships, but the day prior to our recording was met with a herpes outbreak that allowed us to dive deep into the HSV conversation together. Her outbreak was literally THE SPARK that ignited the FLAME of this scorching conversation! Kady is a past client turned dear friend, we worked together three years ago when she was really desiring to BREAK-FREE from her own internalized stigma and shame that surrounded her herpes diagnosis, and this woman went all the way in and did her deep inner work. Now through her work as a Holistic Empowerment Coach, Breathwork Facilitator, and Female Sexuality Practitioner, she inspires thousands of women all around to live bravely and reclaim their pleasure. We cover:
Welcoming Jordan Rondel aka The Caker to the table!Jordan started her made-to-order cake business 13 years ago when she started selling stunning home-made style cakes in NZ that were exactly what her customers were craving. She has now expanded her bakery business to LA and makes the most delicious luxury cake mixes imaginable. You truly wouldn't believe it until you try it!She transcends not only the culinary space, but also the world of entrepreneurship, fashion and beauty. Jordan has 5 recipe books under her belt and is one of the judges on ‘The Great Kiwi Bake Off'!In this intimate conversation, Jordan and I sit down over a mezze platter and a few carrot sticks and discuss Jordans experience with sex love and relating which as Jordan shares, is the first time she has ever done this and is a total edge for her. We discus the difference between being a “sex symbol” and being a “sexual person”. How being a full powered, driven and ambitious business woman has affected her sex, love and relating life. We discus how stress can be a major cockblock, Jordans green flags, red flags and so much more! It's great to have you here at the table, let's get started. Big thank you to our partner at Peaches & Cream for helping us spread the sexy word!Follow Jordan on Instagram hereFollow Finger Food Podcast on Instagram hereFollow Stacey O on Instagram hereFind out more about working with Stacey O here - www.staceyogorman.comI get so inspired by every conversation I have with my community, so if you loved this episode, share it and come say hi on Instagram or email me! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
This episode examines how women may value themselves based on sexual appeal and desire. We also examine some of the issues that may complicate matters. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/romantictruth/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/romantictruth/support
Unleash your authentic self in this thought-provoking episode that explores the transformative power of sexual expression. Lesley Logan with Dr. Celeste Holbrook guides you through candid conversations about overcoming shame, cultivating self-acceptance, and navigating the path towards a deeply fulfilling and liberated sex life.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:How to embrace sensuality and body acceptance.How to become aware of what you want your sex life to feel like emotionally.How to have an experience that feels fully embodied, pleasurable, and present.Why Dr. Holbrook loves the idea of body neutrality.How to nurture sexual resiliency and redefine intimacy as you grow. Sexual liberation and overcoming societal shame over sex. Episode References/Links:Follow Dr. Celeste Holbrook on InstagramDr. Celeste Holbrook's Inspiring Your Worth WebsiteCaged Lion by John SteelGuest Bio:Dr. Celeste Holbrook is a sex educator, speaker and a small town Texas horse girl who helps people achieve pleasurable, connective sex through mental and behavioral changes. She speaks to audiences of all ages, diffusing the sensitive topic of sex through direct language and a knack for making the awkward approachable. She has a Ph.D. in Health Education from Texas Woman's University and a virtual practice where she delivers sex education and coaching to couples and individuals. Celeste believes everyone deserves to define pleasure for themselves, inside and outside of their bedroom. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Get your 15% discount for Toe Sox – use coupon code LESLEY15Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Lesley Logan00:56All right, Be It babe, I am so thrilled to have this guest back. So if you haven't listened to our firstepisode,you are going to want to check out the show notes and make sure you listen to that one nextor pause this one. Listen that one, come back to this one because Dr. Celeste Hallberg is back. Andjust an amazing way I've been following her since we had her onthe show. And first of all, I just wannasay, one of our top downloaded shows, so people are definitely interested in this topic. So I had to haveyou back Dr. Celeste can you tell everyone who you are and what you do, just in case they don't knowyet.Celeste Holbrook01:31Hi, Lesley. Well, thanks so much for having me back. My name is Celeste, I'm a sex educator, I helppeople find pleasure in the areas of their bedroom and their life. And I'm excited to chat today andextend our conversation from lasttime.Lesley Logan01:46Yeah, so me too. So Okay. Um, one of the things that I think we talked about kind of like, at the end ofour last episode, when we got off of the recording was like, just even bodies, like our bot, how we feelabout our bodies,how we feel in our bodies, what even society makes us feel about our bodies canhave that it can affect us in having sex be in the bedroom, be in the world. And so I kind of wanted tostart off with that and kind of hear what your thoughts are, and how you've kind of worked with peoplein that way.Celeste Holbrook02:15Yeah, for sure. And I think we both, you know, have this interesting perspective about body, you'reworking so much helping people be within their body. And so I'm really excited to havethisconversation in this dialogue, because I think it's so important. So as a sex educator, I'm working with-2-Transcribed byhttps://otter.aipeople one on one, I'm working with couples, and something that comes up so so often is, I don't feelcomfortable in my body, or I don't feel comfortable getting naked, or I don't want to have sex with thelights on, it's a really common one. Or if I just, you know, fill in the blank, then sex would be better. Andso that's probably where I want to start is that in terms of, in terms of sex, the waythat your body looksis such a tiny, tiny, tiny part of your sensual experience. So we think of sensuality as the use of yoursenses. You're talking about the way your partner tastes and the way your skin feels, and the way yourclitoris feels, and what you're hearing the the noise of your partner breathing. And so you're having thisbeautiful big sensory experience that has, and your vision or your partner's vision is such a small part ofthat experience, right? And it's so clouded by culture and societyand what we deem as appropriatelysexy. And so you can have the most beautiful, orgasmic erotic, wild, lovely sexual experience inwhatever body that you have. It's like it's not required to look a certain way in order to have great sex.Lesley Logan03:56Okay, love everything I'm like, like, that's just like, please like rewind, save that. Because I don't thinkpeople even think about that way, the way you just, like laid out what our sexual experience can be hasvery little to do with how we look because it's that's not even where we're feeling. And it's so funnybecause like, it sounds so simple. And yet that none of us are thinking about that like you said, we'relike, oh, if I if I look a different way, or if I lose some weight, or if like all thesedifferent pressures we puton ourselves as if that's what's going to make the sex better. But that's not it at all. What you just said islike not at all.Celeste Holbrook04:35And to be fair, you you might feel better if you put on a piece of laundry that you feel really great in,right. But I think as we're going to dig in today, that's more about actually feeling safe in your body thanit is about looking a certain way. And maybe we just don't right in here, so I haven't yet...(Lesley: Yeah,yeah, yeah. Let's go there.) Okay, so I have this theory. about the way that we interact with our ownbodies. And I have been calling it the harm reduction theory. I don't know if that's a great use of thatterm. But basically, I feel like the things that we do, I'm gonna say as women, but this applies foranybody. But women have more pressure from society to appear a certain way, right? The things thatwe do to manipulate our appearance, we do them to help reduce the negative messaging that actuallygets through. So think about it like armor. And that's why I call it the harm reduction approach. So myeyelashes that I put on, my nails or whatever it is that you're doing makeup, boob job, it doesn't matter,whatever it is that you're doing to alter your appearance, is in an effort to feel safe from the negativemessages we continue to get, right? So putting on eyelashes, putting on makeup is kind of the price Ipay to be heard. Sometimes, like, I want people to pay attention to me. So I'm going to look like theywantme to look a lot of the times. And so I think that helps give us some compassion. Both directionslike compassion for the woman who has a BBL, right, we want to like sometimes tear her downcompassion for though woman who doesn't do anything. (...) So. Soit's a way to give compassion to allends of the spectrum, really, of how we interact with our own appearance in the world.Lesley Logan06:32Yeah. Yeah, all that. And I, I, it's so, it's so true. You said feeling safe in our body. And one of the thingslike that attracted me to doing Pilates was actually felt like I was in my body for the first time. Like, I waslike, Oh, I'm, what am I feeling I've never felt before. Oh, this is this is me being in my body. Right? So-3-Transcribed byhttps://otter.ailike, yeah, I can so relate to whatyou're saying and understand it. Because I think so many people aredisassociated from their body from feeling things that when they don't feel safe inside it, because it'snot familiar to them. And then we are doing all these things. We think we do all these things to be likefeel, to feel seen and feel heard. And all of that keeps you from actually just being feeling like all thatstuff, feeling safe. Unless you are consciously making the choice. I'm doing this because it makes mefeel a certain way. Sowhat are your steps for helping women? Or everyone listening, but like, How dowe start to feel safe, safe in our body? Like, like, is it, Do we need to like, touch ourselves more? Do weneed to like be with ourselves more? Like, what are those steps thatmay be like, baby steps to like, thenext level?Celeste Holbrook07:45Yeah, yeah, well, since we, since I am usually viewing the lens of sex, let's talk about it in terms of sex,right. So, I think, the first step really, for feeling great in your ownsex life and safe in your own body isto just to become aware of what you want your sex life to feel like emotionally, because then you canstart to build in. These are the behaviors that helped me feel the way I want to feel. So let's say you andI are partners, and we do this activity together. So I sit down and I say okay, my dream sexualexperience would feel, I really get down to like, what do I want to experience emotionally when I'm withyou in a sexual experience? I want to feel erotic, wild, connected and loved. Okay, so those are myfeelings. And then you write it down. I want to feel intimate and close and connected and safe, right?And so then we look at both of our lists and say, like, Oh, we're both looking for connection. We're bothlooking for some fun. And I have some words over here that maybe you don't have, and you have somewords over here that I don't have. But at least we know what we're both kind of going for. Right? Yeah,yeah. So we know emotionally what we want. And then you can start building behaviors. And so if thebehaviors I'm coming around to body in a second, so then the behaviors might be like, Okay, we bothwant to feel connected in sex. What if we spend a little bit more time talking before sex? What if we hadmore sex where we are looking at each other instead of you're looking at the back of my neck orsomething like that? And so then when you get down to the behaviors, then is where you start to saylike, Oh, I feel uncomfortable when you're looking at me straight on. Right? then then you can start tounderstand or feel like, oh, that's this place where I feel a little something. Something's coming up, youknow, and I really don't love the word insecure because I think a lot of women aren't necessarilyinsecure. I think they are driven by culture to tell you like you don't look okay. Right? When deep downI'm pretty secure. But everybody's telling me I shouldn't be because of the way that my body works, orlooks.Lesley Logan10:05Right. Okay. Yes. So I love that you work backwards. That's a great way to think about it. Like, it's like,okay, where do we want? Where does it work? The end result is how we want to feel at this stage. Andthen what are the behaviors that will get us there, and then seeing which behaviors feel good or feellike I would like to run away from that right now. And then going inward on those things. And that canbe stuff we have to do around our bodies, or it could be other things we have to explore with our partneror with ourselves. And so that is really interesting. And I also have never heard anyone talk aboutinsecure in that way. I think you're completely correct. And you should do a TEDx on this. Because weare walking around thinking we're just insecure, when really, we actually know what wewant. But it'sthe outside world, it's telling us that we're wrong. Yeah, yeah. Cuz Would you feel that way about your-4-Transcribed byhttps://otter.aibody if you were alone on a fucking Island? You would not. So it's not about you. It's about everybodyelse. Oh, my goodness, how do we?Where do we start with that? We'd like to start with our children(...) we would start with ourselves, I think, yeah, you know, because actions are not caught on top. Butokay, so, so okay, we, we've gone through the steps of like, how we could figure outwhere our workneeds to be. What have you found in working with couples and people on bodies that they haveenabled,l ike we've heard some steps or some tips or some tools that have helped them kind of getaround that? Because I do. I hate saying, okay, just turn the lights off. Because that'd be a terrible like,your partner wants to see you. I'm sure they are with you. So where are we? Is it that we've gotta workwith a therapist, like, is it outside of your scope? Like what do we, what do you do?Celeste Holbrook11:55Yeah, so some things that, let's start here. Most people feel a little weird on some level on some thingsin sex, like, oh, like, my, the way that I feel right now is not right, or whatever. So this is not, you know, ifyou're listening,I don't want you to feel like you're out of the ordinary. If you feel, you know, this feelingsof insecurity or discomfort around your appearance or your body in sex, that's most people. You're notalone. Right? And so I think the next step for once you have identified the behaviors that you want toengage in that help you feel what you want to feel, then is where you do the work where you are sobeautiful at emulating is embodiment is really, okay, when we're in this behavior that we both agree onbringsus connection. How do I continue to get back into my body because a lot of times insects, we willspectator, which is where we look, we feel like we're watching the event, instead of being inside theevent or like, Oh, should I be louder? Should I be softer? Should I, you know, pull my sheets up overmy butt or whatever. And so, noticing that, oh, you know what, I'm not in my body right now. I'm goingto come back into my body. What does my clitoris feel like? What do my boobs feel like? What is thefeelingof my partner's hand on my butt? Like getting back into your actual body using your senses, andwe call that anchoring. And Pilates and yoga and all kinds of different movement activities are reallyhelpful for a lot of people in that practice. Okay, return, return, return back into my body, so that I canhave an experience with you that feels fully embodied, and pleasurable and present. So the process ofanchoring is the answer that question I think.Lesley Logan13:53Yeah, yeah. And also like, Thanksfor bringing up (...) shout out to Pilates. Because I always say likehow we do one thing is to do everything. So if you're distracted in your movement practice, you'regonna be distracted while you're driving, be distracted while you're having sex, like your need to straplike, like, we have to have these moments. We practice how we want to feel and be so that we candraw upon them when it's needed, like a strength and a muscle. I'm gonna totally sidetrack ourconversation. Just want you to know that Joseph Pilates definitely created Pilates for sex. He actually,that's awesome. He told there's a book called The Caged Lion. John Steele wrote it. And JosephPilates took John on a walk and he's like, You need to have more sex. And John was like, thrown off bythis 80 year old man telling what do you need to do. And he said, all of the exercises I created are sopeople can have better sex.Celeste Holbrook14:41I love that. I really need to know more about this. I need all the information here.-5-Transcribed byhttps://otter.aiLesley Logan14:49I think like, you know, I mean, not our society so harsh on our bodies and what we're supposed to looklike and even as a body positivity movement, unfortunately as women who are bigger bodies, if they dogo on a journey of weight loss for whateverreason, personally, professionally, whatever that is, they're,they're attacked for it. So on both spectrums, like you said earlier, we cannot win, you cannot, it doesn'treally matter, someone's going to hate on you from any side. And so, you know, whathave you found?You have your daughters, you work with a lot of women, what have you found to help women whomaybe have not realized that they're not insecure that they just that they just haven't owned what theyknow about themselves how they want to feel?Celeste Holbrook15:31Yeah, you know, I really love, I was on board for body positivity until I realized it was still about thebody. And so I, I love the idea of actually just neutrality, I don't have to love my body, but I don't have tohate her. And so body neutrality is just like, Yeah, this is my body. And this is what how she functions isthat she doesn't function. And this is how we're going to work together to get through life. Andsometimes that does mean not shaming yourself for engaging in those harm reduction activities ofmaybe it is weight loss, right? Maybe it is surgery, right? Maybe it is something that helps you movethrough the world in a safer way. And that's okay, like, we have to be okay with that for women to dothat. And continueto march towards the idea that my body, I am more than my body, right? I'm somuch more. And so, you know, it is interesting. I do have, as you say twin daughters who are 11. Andthere are no two humans on Earth that are compared more than identical twingirls. Oh, she's the blankone. Oh, she's the blank one. And it's always around appearance versus boys that get a little bit morelike, Oh, he's the athletic one, or he's the smart one or whatever. Identical twin girls are compared morethan any other to humans on Earth, their bodies, right? People talk about their bodies all the time.Lesley Logan17:14That has to be so hard to, like, observe.Celeste Holbrook17:17Oh, I call it out now actually. So so much. You know, people want to say like, Oh, she's the bigger oneor she's the taller one or she's the littler one or she's the whatever one she has a frog or she has shorthair. She has brown hair, like actually Zoey really loves art and Ella really loves theater. And you know,I will like redirect the conversation so, so hard just to try and change the way that we automaticallymake comments about women's bodies from the get go. To the point where I think I almost went toofar. My my, one of my daughters asked me the other day she she asked me like Mom, do you think thatI am pretty? Because I never ever say anything about their appearance, right? And I was like, Oh,maybe I maybe I maybe I went too far.Lesley Logan18:05The pendulum swung. Yeah, I mean, I guess like that. I first of all, I thinkit's amazing that she evencame to you. So like, kudos to like you've obviously taught her a lot. But also like you're trying to protecther so much from that and she's going to be there are both going to be inundated with it in all of lifeoutside of thehousehold. So it's kind of hard. That's a hard, hard thing to walk. But I have not thoughtabout that about like, just, it's okay to like, like, like it's almost like the word whelmed. It's okay to be-6-Transcribed byhttps://otter.aiwhelmed about your body, you can just like it's like, it doesn't have to be this thing that I love or I hate Ican actually be very neutral about it. We can all be neutral about everybody's bodies. And then maybewe'll see even some of those harm reduction things even reduced because people won't be needing toseek certain ones out or more most of many out just for feeling seen.Celeste Holbrook18:58Yeah, I love that you are getting where I'm trying to go. I feel like I'm like all over the place right now.But like, that's where I would love, I would love us to do just as much harm reduction as we need inorder to continue to move forward in diversity of body and where we can see, and I think and I and Iwould love to hear your view on this. I think we've done a lot in the last I would say five years. I thinkwe've really like you're seeing so much more diversity online and you're seeing all these differentbodies, right?Lesley Logan19:30Every mailer I get I like will look at I'm like, Oh, they kept her stretch marks and oh, they have this andand so like, I noticed that in a way that like excites me because it becomes more makeups it becomesmore than norm like you're just seeing that. I'll actually so where I started. So I grew up in a householdwhere my grandmother was over 300 pounds you lose 100 gain100. Thin Finn was like the best thingshe was so sad was taken off the market. So I've definitely like I was in a diet culture household. I justthought you were on die. it Are you off the diet, but likeCeleste Holbrook20:03There's only two choicesLesley Logan20:04Yeah, that's it, you don't just like enjoy your food that you're eating. Shout out to like the snack wells.Right? So we'll be at three different types of milk (...) Skim milk, 2%, home. Yeah, my brother had togain weight, I should belosing weight, like the whole thing. That's not my parents fault. I was doing amodeling thing. So anyway, I do get you're going with this. And I, the reason those I noticed thosethings in a positive way is because when I was a first Pilates instructor,this woman came into thestudio, and I was running the studio, and she went to the teacher, and the teacher was like, okay, sowhat are your goals? Like, what, what? Why are you seeking out Pilates, which is like a typical thing,you'd ask people for any reason they're trying to hire you, right? And the girl goes, well, I want to looklike her. And she puts an ad of a woman in lingerie in front of us. And, you know, the teacher was like,well, you're very beautiful. I don't like why do we need to look likeher. She's like, because that's me.She like this is I'm the model. And they have airbrushed her. So she's the model for this line. And theyairbrush her. So everything that's put out is not her real body that we're looking at right now. So like shehad ababy, and she's trying to get back to who she was no, like, she's trying to be something that doesnot exist in physical form. And I remember going, Holy fuck, what are we all doing here? Like, what arewe doing here? How am I contributing to this? I did not have the tools at the time. But like, I've definitelyin the last five years have seen like, how there are tools out there that we can no matter what sizebusiness you have, like tap into, and also just being kind of like changing different words. But if that wasnot the first model that I ever saw, do that another girl, I was at a pool event for a bunch of fitnessinfluencers. And she's like, Yeah, I'm just trying to look like this again, I'll just like like this. And I said, I-7-Transcribed byhttps://otter.aidon't really understand.She's like, well, I use IU, she used her own app to remove her ribs to like, looka certain way. And I really was just like, having such a hard time because I was also looking to all thesepeople who, because of what society was doing to them, or they're doing to themselves, that wasactually not reducing harm, it was actually causing more. And so I, I really liked the where you're going.And I feel like we have come so far in five years, in the last five years, I think we have a lot more workto do on people, not judging people wherever they are on their journey in their own bodies. And that's,that's where I get like really frustrated, cuz I get frustrated for the girls that that one of them works for usin another capacity. And she's sharing her journey.And she was trying to lose weight. She's trying tohave a baby, she's type one diabetic. And people were just either criticizing her for trying to be ateacher or criticizing her for trying to lose weight. I was like, Oh my gosh, this poor girl, like it'snot ourplace to decide what she wants to look like. So I really appreciate you bringing that up in this episode.Because I think we can all think about how are we, first of all, forgiving ourselves for doing harmreduction acts that we might be participating in or want to. And then also, maybe being kinder, as yousaid earlier to people who are. Yeah, yeah. And I think you hit the nail on the head is that we're all like,we're all trying to feel better. We're all trying to like, move in this way towards something that feels likevitality for our own life. Right? And probably a year from now, I'll think back to this conversation. But Iwould have said something different, right? Because I think about that on a year ago is podcast and I'mon a journey too, but I think that us as a whole. And maybe I'm talking about women as a whole movingtowards the idea that all our bodies are Okay. And yeah, you know, they're all welcome here. Yeah.Yeah. It's funny, I was listening to another podcast, and it's a comedian.And she, somebody criticizedhow she like, did a 90 second thing on a holiday. And she said, You know, when you're a professionalspeaker, and you like speak for living just (...) it's just a numbers game, you're going to say things like, Ishould have said that a little bit differently, or I should have been a little bit more clear or, or this or that.She's like, soundbites or clips like or reels only have 90 seconds like you're reduced to hoping peoplecan read between the lines. And of course, somebodysomewhere is going to take somethingespecially anything we say even today or any episode I've ever had out of context. And hopefully it isfor conversation and not an accusation. I think there's a difference there like and I think also, you know,being kind to ourselves about the intent we had at the time we set it at and as we as we get older welearn more, the more information, the more people you coach, I'm sure like, you'll even maybe it's notharm reduction theory, it's a, you change the words, whatever. And I think like, that's part of, if we can'teven start to be kind to each other for being in process of figuring out the theories are working on.That's even one maybe step towards being kind to each other about how we look.Celeste Holbrook25:23Yeah, well, I mean, for sure, for sure. And like I recently have been really working on being called in,like, you know, being being called in for whatever some, you know, this probably happens to you too,happens to everybody, somebody DM me the other day, like, you know, what you said on this reel, or,or what was a webinar I was doing about menopause was really harmful to me. And I felt like it was notgreat. Not great suggestion. And I went and got some help from a different provider. And this is whatthey said, and this was really helpful. And I thought you should know. And I just wanted you to knowthat this was, this was my experience with your content. I was like, All right, though. Okay. Like, I wentback and listened to her. And I was like, I couldsee where she was coming from. Right? And so the,what I have been working on is creating thickness around being called in so that I can be better. Youknow, and sometimes people call you and you're like, meh, I don't, I don't know. But a lot of times there-8-Transcribed byhttps://otter.aiis a little bit of a grain of opportunity to learn in there. And so I think it goes both ways, calling in kindlyand also being too fragile about when it happens, you know?Lesley Logan26:44I think that calling and kindly is like, is the thingthere, though. Like, I actually love that she caredenough about you. Yeah. And the content that you're putting out there to share that what yousuggested, or what she heard, was not helpful. But here's what was. And I that kind of feedback is, itdoes feel like a kick to the stomach. Sure. But also it's like, wow, had this person not told me (...) I maynot know that this I could reward I could rephrase this, or I could qualify this or, or, you know, whatever.And I think so that's really cool because so few people actually take the time to share that. Otherpeople will take no time at all to be kind and they will, and for that it's like hard, because it's like, there'sno, there's no actual back and forth, there's no way to actually lean into that and, andengage in aconversation. So I think it's like, Yes, I have had to as well. And sometimes like, you know, we've I'velooked at it, and I'm like, okay, can see what you're saying that is really not at all the intent of that. Andlike, how can we keep goingforward without having that intent? Like, what do we do to change thewords, we need to change this thing? Like, and, and so I think, and then also who is saying it alsomatters to me like, I'm like, this is, I might, have I always been creating this foryou, or are you actuallybetter suited like for this over here? And that's like, so, you know, it's hard to know. But it's like, it'sbetter to even like, evaluate and go, where does this feel? Where did I make like, what can I learn fromthis? And, and then also, like, we're always learning I think it's really hard for, as people who arespeakers of a topic. Of course, we're considered experts. And so we are held to a higher standard, butat the same time, like we're still human beings, there's still moreto learn. There's still types of situationsyou may have not encountered yet in your expertise.Celeste Holbrook28:43Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. And I think what you said earlier, about, like, what was my intent?And what was the impact? like,impact always, to me, means more than my intent, like, I didn't mean to,you know, give this kind of what felt like hard advice about menopause. But the impact was that she feltunseen and unheard. And so the impact was always more important than the intent for sure.Lesley Logan29:13Yeah. Yeah. So, you know, I think it's also something to talk about with this topic is like, you know,there's people who are, you know, in monogamous relationships, where their bodies are gonna changeas we get older, notjust menopause, but like, you know, we're gonna get older, both parties are gonnaget older unless you keep trading him for a younger model. (...) ladies, go ahead. The men have beenthere for a long time, by all means. No judgment on that harm reduction,if that works for you. But, whatare your suggest, like, I'm obviously, you mentioned, like having that conversation with your partner. Itfeels like that conversation is going to change over time, maybe even constantly. Or maybe even in amonth, but alsolike over the course of our of our relationship. How have you seen people approachthat as human? As we get older, our bodies are gonna change, like, how have you seen peopleapproach that?Celeste Holbrook30:12-9-Transcribed byhttps://otter.aiYeah, well, I think it's if we can thinkabout it as a beautiful thing, meaning you're not having sex withthe same person for 40-50 years. You, I mean, it's the same person in your bedroom, but you aretotally new people. Because of your experiences, and because of what you've been through and whatyou're, what you're currently going through. And so in a way, it's kind of like it brings that novelty, whichwe thrive off of insects, we want things to be novel all the time in sex. And so what I like to teachcouples is that your best bet for a longterm sexually pleasurable relationship is sexual resiliency. Andwhat I mean by that is the ability to look at your sex life and go, Okay, where can we pivot? Where canwe do something different? Okay, you're having trouble with erectile, you're having erectile issues,right? Where can we pivot to where we still experience some really beautiful pleasure and connection,but maybe an erection isn't always required? Right? So how do we define sex more broadly? If wedefine sex based on what we want to feel instead of what we do, right? then sex becomes like veryopen. And maybe sex when we first got together was penis and vagina you know, so heteronormative,right? But maybe as we age sex is both laying down and touching each other. Or maybe sex as we ageis you giving me some looks across the table from waffles when we're 70. You know, and I feel all ofthose fun, beautiful things again. I used to go and teach courses for the early onset on Alzheimer's unit,where you have a partner without Alzheimer's and a partner who has just been diagnosed, and we'regoing to talk about, okay, as the disease progresses, how do you still connect intimately when possiblysome consent is going to come off the table eventually? Because consent is not there anymore, offeredanymore, right? What's your sex gonna look like? Is it, you know, holding hands on the porch while youwatch the sunrise? Is that you're going to be your sex eventually. Right? And so being able to redefineit over time is the key to sexual resiliency.LesleyLogan32:42Yeah. It's almost like you have to like put through like, every year you're checking your insurance thingsevery year, you're checking, you're making sure you've updated all these things. Maybe you're like,Hey, where's our consent on? Yeah,exactly. You know? Yeah. I don't know if we talked about this onthe last episode, we might have. So forgive me, everyone. But when you talked about the Alzheimer'sthing, this is there was a New York Times article on elderly sexually active adults. And how muchcriticism there was a judge who, whose husband has Alzheimer's and like, he had a partner in thehospital that he was with, and she was like, so like, there was a there was a picture of someone whereshe was this judge was famous judge in the Supreme Court was sitting with her husband, who hasAlzheimer's, who was also sitting with his partner from the hospital. And people are like, how could shedo that? It's like, everything is on her. Like, she's just being like, rude. But it's like, her husband hasAlzheimer's. He's in a hospital. And we're judging that these two people who are like on a different roadin their brain than the rest of us are having some sort of consensual relationship.Celeste Holbrook33:54Non monogamous. Yeah.Lesley Logan33:55Yeah. And so I just felt so bad for her, but the whole article kind of went into, like, where we, as adultshave, have, like, adult children have got to let their parents sexual behaviors be what they want them tobe. And it's not our choice.-10-Transcribed byhttps://otter.aiCeleste Holbrook34:13Yes. Yeah. You can't regulate that. Yeah.Lesley Logan34:16Yeah. They try to regulate you, but you don't get to do it.Celeste Holbrook34:20You don't get to do it. You don't get to do it. And it's part of like, if you thinkabout, you know, part ofthriving for a parent might be their sexuality and their ability to feel pleasure in that way. And, youknow? how if we can just move past the the puritanical shame around sex, and if we can just look at itlike, Oh, what a beautiful thing that they can still engage in that helps them feel human, right? Sex justhumanizes us. Pleasure just humanizes us and so if we can just move past our own stuff, you know,then it's like, oh, yeah, that's actually a really beautiful thing.Lesley Logan35:00Yeah, the movie pass the puritanical shame. I feel like that might be your other book...(Celeste: Yeah,for sure.) I feel like it's a series.Celeste Holbrook35:13I think you are totally right.Lesley Logan35:15Oh my gosh, oh mygosh, Dr. Celeste, I just adore our conversations. I love exploring this topic withyou, I know that it affects so many people. And so just being able to bring you into their world into theirear so they can explore more with you. Because, you know, beinguntil we see it is really hard to do ifyou're not feeling seen, and if you are not experiencing all parts of yourself. And it can be really difficultto go out there in the world if like, you also don't feel super strong, and your sex life or how you feel inyour body and all that stuff. So this is just a really wonderful topic. This will not be the last time we hadyou on the show, just because I fucking love you. Let's have at least an annual if not semi annual. I loveit. We'll do a whole series. That's my podcast, I can do what I want. You can do whatever you want.Before I let you go, we're gonna take a brief break. And then we're gonna find out where people canfind you, follow you, work with you. And then you'll Be It action items. // All right, Dr. Celeste. Where doyou like to hang out? What's your favorite social places? Which website? Where can people work withyou?Celeste Holbrook36:17Well, I'm on Instagram at Dr. Celeste Holbrook. That's Dr. Celeste Holbrook, where we have a lot offun, and we sling a lot of dildos. And you can find me on my website at Drcelesteholbrook.com Wherewe can work together one on one, or I can work with you and your partner to create a sex life that feelspleasurable for for both of you. And I just love to hearfrom you. I love hearing what you got to say. Ican learn a little bit from you.Lesley Logan36:45-11-Transcribed byhttps://otter.aiYeah, so yeah, you have a deemer, if you aren't, I hope that you feel safe and secure to share whatyou took away from this episode, because it would bepart of that taking away the shame of the topic.Celeste Holbrook37:17I am trying to get on a TEDx stage to talk about pleasure. And so I am using the idea of discipline to doand submit applications even when I don't want to like not waiting for motivation. So that wouldprobably be what I have to offer today is, discipline used to scare me, because I thought it took awayfreedom. But in in reality, discipline has opened me up to lots of opportunities. So discipline, even whenyou don't feel motivated.Lesley Logan37:49What a great reframe of that word. Right. You know?...(Dr. Celeste: I hated that word before) Yeah.Well, because it sounds like you need to be disciplined. (...) But you're, you're actually taking this like, ifI'm disciplined on this thing that I want, even if I don't want to do it right now, it's gonna open up thedoors for the things I want. I love that. And you must let us know when you get a TEDx because we willhave we have to share it. We'll have to put it in the show and haveto have you back. We'll put it in theFYFs. A new segment on on the Be It pod on Friday. That's Fuck Yeah Friday, so you must share awin. So we'll have to share yours when that happens. Yeah. I love you. You're amazing. You're doingsuch amazing work forpeople everywhere and especially women. So thank you for being here,everyone. Thank you for listening. You know, please, I'd love for you to share this publicly. It'd beamazing. It'd be a step and a thing of you and look at me. I'm helping get rid of shame around this topic.However, at the very least, maybe text it to a friend. Let us, get us a review and let Dr. CelesteHolbrook know what your takeaways were. 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Joining me on this weeks episode is special guest, Millie MickleConversation points:Millie's journey to thriving in her sexual identity and why she is so passionate about advocating for others.Why sex is considered such a taboo topic in our corner of the world.The importance of self pleasure.Shame surrounding sexual expression and pleasure.The feminine, masculine, and how these are interwoven and expressed through every - body on this earth.Orgasms (and spiritual orgasms!)Connect with Millie herewww.selfwithlisaclarke.cominstagram.com/selfwithlisaclarke
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Don't listen to this if you don't want to know what could happen at a kinky birthday party! Meg and I sit down for a slightly chaotic and engaging chat about a juicy event I hosted for Meg's kinky birthday. Meg shared their favourite and sexiest moments from the party, what it was like to be spanked, teased and worshipped and you may or may not find out what big role honey plays into all of this. If you have ever been curious what could be possible at this type of event, tune in. We discuss how consent, communication, preparation and intention can set a really good foundation for yummy and delicious experiences! Do I drop some bombs about cake sitting fetishes, my Domme work and all the kinky contraptions I have in my house... ? I don't know you'll have to find out you curious little cat. Meg Froehler is a Métis, queer, gender fluid, photographer who specializes in creating safe spaces for her subjects to discover self empowerment and to witness themselves in a new light. They love to work in the realms of kink, sexual health, queer weddings and motherhood. You can find them on Instagram @meg.froehler and they are open to inquiries at froehler.photography@gmail.com
Guest Seven Graham shares their journey as a trans person who was born intersex (biologically male & female), raised as a girl living for years as a lesbian and in now trans masculine, non-dinary and intersexy.
If you have ever noticed the subtle or not so subtle changes that come with taking anti depressants or ADHD medication and your libido this episode is for you. I share my experience of my plummeting libido on some of these medications and how things are affecting me today. You'll also get to hear some incredible experiences of folks who shared how medication affected their libido in positive or negative ways. This is a great podcast to learn a little more about the intricacy and layers that contribute to your libido and what you can do to feel more balanced in the game of mental health, medications, desire and sexual wellness advocacy. If you want to create deeper intimacy NOW, go grab the 14 days to hotter intimacy E-bookCome find me in the Getting intimate Facebook group! Subscribe to my email list for a juicy gift at https://www.azariamenezes.com/your-pussy-is-a-portal-to-healing or come find me on Instagram @azaria.menezes and say Hi. I'd love to hear your questions so I can answer them on future episodes! *Disclaimer: By listening to this podcast you agree not to use this podcast as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, including but not limited to patients that you are treating. The content here should not be taken as medical advice. The content here is for informational purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions. Anything said should NOT be taken as a replacement for medical, clinical, professional advice, diagnosis, or medical intervention. If you take any action or inaction as a result of any of the content you consume on this Podcast, this is based solely on your decision, and Azaria Menezes and her guests cannot be held liable for any of the consequences of such action or inaction.This podcast represents the opinions of Azaria Menezes and also the opinions of her guests on the show and my guests do not necessarily reflect any agency or organization or company that they work for.
Intimacy and sexual expression are basic human rights and are needed throughout our lifespan. Aging does not mean a loss of sexual intimacy, but when an older adult is cognitively impaired, it can be difficult to determine if they are engaged in a healthy sexual relationship. The right to freedom of sexual expression among these populations has proven a sensitive and sometimes controversial topic, particularly when cognitive capacity is in question. By federal law, individuals residing in long-term care are afforded multiple rights, many of which are relevant to sexuality, such as privacy, confidentiality, the right to make independent choices, and the right to choose visitors and meet in a private location. In this episode, we are joined by Patty Ducayet, Texas State Long-Term Care Ombudsman, to explore the complex issues surrounding the ability to consent to sexual activity among long-term care residents and supporting a resident's right to intimacy and sexual expression.
Why is understanding our uniqueness important to having great sex? What is the dual control model in the context of sexuality and how does it affect our desire? What steps can we take to develop a healthy relationship with sex and sexuality after experiencing trauma or sex negative conditioning?In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline have a rich conversation with Dr. Emily Nagoski about how the societal scripts we are handed according to our sex-at-birth impact our sexual expression and how these scripts are endorsed through many channels throughout our lives. Emily explains how there are accelerators and brakes that calibrate our desire and talks about her upcoming book about the three characteristics of the couples who sustained strong sexual connection.Recommended books that you have to check out:Come As You AreBurnoutThe Come As You Are WorkbookThe Body Keeps the ScoreMagnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary LoversTo learn more about Emily Nagoski, PH.D (she/her/they)Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling Come As You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook, and coauthor, with her sister, Amelia, of New York Times bestseller Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. She earned an M.S. in counseling and a Ph.D. in health behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist. IG: @enagoskiTikTok: @emilynagoskiWebsite: emilynagoski.comEmily's NewsletterCome As You Are PodcastSupport the showConnect with us on IG and more:Curious Fox @wearecuriousfoxesEffy Blue @coacheffyblueJacqueline Misla @jacquelinemisla Email us: listening@wearecuriousfoxes.comLeave us a voicemail: 646-450-9079 Join the conversation: fb.com/WeAreCuriousFoxes
This week we welcome Sarah Strong. She is a star seed coach, divine feminine activation coach, medium empath, telepath, and psychic. She also channels star beings, beings from other dimensions, and many other beings of the light, including the ascended masters angels, and fairies. Together we speak about how trauma can be a gateway to spiritual awakening, paranormal phenomenon, how trauma is associated with spiritual awakening and what can happen when you push a young person well beyond what they're capable of handling, and how a reaction to that manifests in a variety of ways. She also guides us in a lovely meditation that's sure to help you clear space as you start 2023.
What's your opinion of oral sex? Is this a permissible form of sexual intimacy and expression between a husband and wife?
Welcome back to another "Solo-sode" with yours truly and a deep dive into another mystical and natural healing conversation. Today's topic is a new and familiar one, wrapped up together! I will be exploring more of the INNER CHILD and this time going deeper into one of the core needs that we deserve to have balanced and met. This need today will be focused on SEXUAL EXPRESSION. I will be exploring why this is important, what my journey was through this, and how you can bring balance back to this area and meet this need yourself, as the powerful parent to the inner child that you are! See the show notes below for some of the main points (in order) I covered: How to use this episode and what to FEEL My childhood and history with this SEXUAL EXPRESSION not being met How my DIVINE FEMININE comes into play How my sensitivities and emotions come into play Being a man and boy in this current culture The ABUSE that I faced and how it served me What happens in our external relationships when these needs aren't met What do MONEY and PHYSICAL disease have to do with it The SACRAL chakra connection My intimate experience with a partner and what went wrong The ELVIS PRESLEY phenomena Cultural and Religious suppression Media and what "REAL SEXUALITY/SENSUALITY" looks like and how it "should" be expressed The challenge with blocking and suppressing our sensitivities and emotions How to come back to masculine and feminine balance Incorporating SELF PLEASURE Incorporating UNBOUND PLAY Bringing back sensuality and sensitivity Using the breath to move beyond our sexual NUMBING Activating your MICROCOSMIC orbit Connecting to GOD through your sexuality Letting go and clearing guilt and shame in the sacral If you enjoyed this episode make sure you check out the following additional INNER CHILD EPISODES: EP 02 - Dr. Taggy: Holistic Healing, Inner Child & EGO EP 09 - Inner Child Healing (Part 1) EP 14 - Inner Child Healing (Part 2) EP 27 - 7 A's of Healing EP 59 - Dr. Taggy: Inner Child SOUL Wounds EP 74 - COMMUNITY COACHING: Inner Child Healing Looking for more FREE SELF-LOVE TOOLS? Join my newsletter and download some meditations, affirmations and visualizations on me: www.harrisonmeagher.com/learn-more Don't forget to LEAVE A REVIEW if you loved the show to go into a draw for our WEEKLY prizes! Need more COMMUNITY and TRIBE? Join the Cosmic Love Antenna FB GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/cosmicloveantenna Wanting to connect deeper either for coaching, feedback, or becoming a guest? See the following options: Social (FB, Insta, LinkedIn, TikTok. Clubhouse): @harrisonmeagher Website: www.harrisonmeagher.com Email: harrisonmeagher.business@outlook.com LOVE you xxx Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/cosmic-love-antenna/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Welcome to the first ever Hot Sexy Summer Series! All summer long I'm bringing you brand new compilations to rock your mojo. Each Friday episode will focus on a specific theme. This week: The Sexual Expression through Art Edition. Plus! Let's celebrate that we are officially in the 200s of episodes! Two and a half years of sharing evocative, informative, inspiring and sassy content FOR YOU! We couldn't have reached this milestone without you, so a huge shout out to you, the listeners. It's because of you this podcast exists and continues to grow each and every month. I adore having these Friday conversations, answering your questions on Truth + Tequila Tuesdays and seeing what resonates with you the most when you share and tag me on your social posts. I loved putting this episode together for you and I encourage you to share it with your friends or family that are committed to living their highest mojo. So, make sure to generously use your share button. Listen to the full episodes of all clips in this episode with these quick links: Ava Bogle : therealundressed.com/054 Cat LaCohie: www.therealundressed.com/102 Emma Pyne: therealundressed.com/144 Tasha Blank: therealundressed.com/112 =====>>>> OK my love – it's a pleasure hosting The Real Undressed for you….thank you for celebrating with me. As always, THANKS for getting undressed with me.
What You'll Hear In This Episode:Embracing our sexuality and sensuality at any age is beautiful and powerful. Who is Dawn Cartwright, and why does Lisa love her so much? Dawn talks about Tantra, and how it can be a way to explore our own sensuality with ourselves and our partner(s). What does it really look and feel like for a woman to be in her body?Lisa shares how she starts to notice when she's living too much in her head and disconnected from the rest of her body. Men and women want the same thing…and it's not just sex. Dawn shares her thoughts on how long we should wait before sleeping with a man from a Tantric perspective. Okay, how do you learn to pleasure yourself? A facial, but for your yoni? Yes. It's a beautiful thing, and Dawn does it. How can learning about your own body and showing up in a state to receive pleasure translate to meeting a great man and possibly the Guardian of Your Soul? Continue On Your JourneyLisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book a Call With LisaEmail the podcast at: podcast@lisashield.comMentioned:Dawn Cartwright | Chandra Bindu Tantra Institute Quotes“We can always open our hearts more, reveal ourselves more. And sex is such a powerful place to do that.” - Dawn “Actually men and women, we want the same thing, and that thing is union. We all want it.” - Dawn “I don't think people realize that depth in the richness and the potential when you have that level, that safety and trust, when you build that right from the beginning, and you don't rush in.” - Lisa“Learning my body and learning to open to myself made it possible for me to open to a man who wants to commit.” - Dawn “Men are human beings and sex is emotional for them too. But it just happens in a different way.” - Dawn
Zoë Kors is a sought-after sex and intimacy coach. She gives us a road map to heal our sexual selves after relationship betrayal. After sexual betrayal, there is an opportunity to reimagine our sexual expression, whether that's with an existing partner or with a new partner. We explore what is possible for women and men when they embrace their authentic sexual selves and choose pleasure, intimacy, and joy.