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So, are you ready to meet the 3rd Horseman of the Marriage Apocalypse?  Couple's fight about this one all the time!  This topic reeks of power and security, therefore, it's a source for, all but constant, conflict.  The topic?  MONEY!  "Sooooo, let's get ready to RUMBLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Last week, the guys kicked off a discussion of the Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse.  The first was sex, and this week they will examine the all too hot topic of THE KIDS.  Most couples tend not to be on the exact same page when it comes to discipline, expectations, and priorities when it comes to their kids, so...arguments tend to ensue.  If this sounds like you, don't miss this week's episode!   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast  How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

You know it coming and you dread it like the plague, but at some point, in every family there comes the need to have “The Sex Talk.”  In this case, however, we’re not talking about the sex discussion with you kids.  This week, the guys delve into the sex talk that every couple needs to have and keep having to address one of the Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse.    ----- PROBLEM: Carries more baggage than a 747.  Mention any possible negative and it can be interpreted as a very intimate, personal criticism We don’t talk about our sexual relationship.  Only might be mentioned when something is wrong.   As a rule, sex is the “unmentionable” in 99% of Christian homes Take any other “mutual” activity that a couple engages in, there is discussion about it.  Cooking, exercise, entertainment…  The assumption is that if we’re married, we should simply know what to do and how to do it.  And if things aren’t great, then we suffer in silence, because, “We shouldn’t have to say anything.” SOLUTION: The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (1 Cor. 7:3–5) Each spouse’s body belongs to the other, and a primary function of sex is to serve and bless each other. The ethic that runs throughout the New Testament applies to sex in marriage: we are to selflessly serve, thinking of the other first. Love is putting someone else’s needs above your own.  Sex is a physical manifestation of spiritual and emotional love between a husband and wife. TALK: If we don’t tell our spouse, they won’t know.  Any time we don’t talk it is out of fear or frustration.  Spouse’s shouldn’t fear their partner’s response. Past sexual history and sin, needs to be discussed, learned from, and not avoided Frequency, duration, & arousal all are impacted as you pass through life stages. Talk about having the talk.  Don’t surprise them with it. Make suggestions; not complaints   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast  The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Have you or your spouse ever said something along the lines of, “We argue over little things.”, or “None of our arguments ever get resolved.”  If you have, then you have fallen headfirst into the Argument Black Hole.  Join them this week, as the guys talk about the biggest mistake couples make when they have a disagreement. -----  PROBLEM: Arguing over facts Arguing over who’s reality is correct Winning is more important than solving the problem My Side Bias skews facts Memories are NOT accurate recordings of events.  Research suggests that that we remember what we WANT to believe happened SOLUTION: Realize that the argument is not about the facts The event is the surface problem to a root cause Chose the hill you will die on Must be able to agree to disagree ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast  How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Perfectionism.  Most would agree that this personality trait is not great.  BUT, if you are a perfectionist, you secretly, sort of, like being this way.  It’s kind of like being a “workaholic.”  We say we don’t like that aspect of our lives yet are inwardly proud of how much we can accomplish.  Perfectionism is, not only, bad for us as an individual, but can be devastating in our home.   ----- PROBLEM: See it in: Kids- upset if not perfect, performance anxiety Mom/Wives- Clean house, fixation on kid’s performance, behavior, and dress, can’t leave work at work Dad/Husbands- How things look, Sports, irritation as substandard behavior/dress… Hold double standard You're constantly evaluating yourself, and not living up to who you believe you could be. This induces shame.  Procrastination can simply be thought of as insecure perfectionism on steroids.  SOLUTION: To want something is good.  To NEED it is not good. Embrace and sit in uncomfortable, unpleasant emotions By grace saved, not of good works Acknowledge it. What is driving this?  What core belief? Anti-anxiety tool is “Worst case” scenario  Adjust your standards to just be “good enough.” ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast  How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

We’ve all seen them, haven’t we?  Those parents who care WAY too much about how their child is doing in sports.  They take out a second mortgage and blow through their family’s savings just to keep their kid on select/travel teams.  They yell at the refs, the coach, and their kid.  You would think their entire self-worth hinged on whether their child plays well and wins the game…hmmm.  I wonder… Listen in this week as Josh and Jimmy get the signal, step up to the plate, and discuss The Push.  Parents and sports.  Play ball!! ----- Warning Signs of The Push Parent getting their own need for self-worth through their child’s sport performance.   Year-round, non-stop sports.  One long, never ending season Year-round specialization.  Tommy John surgery for high schoolers.  All other aspect of family life takes a back seat  Do you care more than your child who is actually playing the sport? ****Anger at child’s performance**** Solution for the Push: Define Success Let the child lead. Brad McCoy Teach your child to try hard, work hard, practice hard, and play hard.  Col. 3:23, “All like doing it for Christ.”  ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

We hear a lot of talk about dysfunctional families these days.  Apparently, they are bad, and can cause some real damage to those who find themselves in one.  But is my family dysfunctional? Did I come from one?  How do I make sure my family doesn’t become one?  I’m glad you asked!!  Join the fellas this week and they discussion what dysfunctional families are, how to prevent them, and what to do if you fear you’re in one. -----  Problem with dysfunction: Long lasting impact.  Consistent, Frequent, Duration, changes the brain Dysfunctional families rack up tons of little “t” traumas. We tend to absorb both healthy and unhealthy behavioral/relationship patterns from our FOO Solution: (Psychology Today; Julie Hall) Here’s several “Signs” of dysfunction…make sure you do the opposite! Acceptance/Love is conditional Someone must always be blamed/scapegoat Vulnerability is dangerous, therefore, no intimacy The family has “Teams” Appearance not authenticity is ALL IMPORTANT Rage is normalized Denial & Defensiveness are the norm ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast  The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Ever feel like a spiritual taxi driver? Is your goal as a parent to make sure your child is at every church event? Do you get nervous when asked to spiritual lead / guide your child? When your child has a spiritual question, is this intimidating? This week Jimmy and Josh discuss your one job as a parent, spiritually leading your child. -----   Harelips the Governor    Pagan Christianity by Barna   Other than praying over dinner or before bed, is God present in your life / your family’s life?    Biggest takeaway, you need to be more spiritually connected in your own life, to be able to guide your own child.    God doesn’t call you to raise faithful kids, he’s calling you to be faithful.   -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers    Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast    The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com  

As the late great country music artist, Mac Davis, once sang, “Oh, Lord, it’s hard to be humble!”  And in our current culture and the competitive, “me-obsessed” environment that our kids are growing up in, these words have never been more spot on.  Join the fellas this week, as they kick around the topic of raising humble kids. -----  We live in a culture that is for the glorification of self. Our culture and a lot of our homes struggle to produce humble kids. “If you have to toot your own horn, your horn ain’t worth tootin’” – Bill Myers Sr We need to teach them how to express their views modestly. How to share praise and blame.  Learning to accept failure is key. It’s important to model a lack of defensiveness. ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast  How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Many of you have read her books to your kids and found them to be an invaluable resource during this unprecedented electronically connected time. And if you haven’t read these books to your kids, after listening to this show, you definitely will. This week Jimmy and Josh sit down with Kristen Jenson, from Protect Young Minds, about her best-selling books, Good Pictures Bad Pictures and her newest, Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.When should we talk to our children about pornography? To quote Kristen, “As soon as they have internet access.” Think about that... ----- https://www.protectyoungminds.org/ https://www.protectyoungminds.org/about/ https://braindefense.protectyoungminds.org/ https://www.protectyoungminds.org/books/ ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com     

You know ‘em! You love ‘em! And you can’t live without ‘em! I don’t know the numbers on their jerseys, but I do know they’re number 1 in your heart...drum roll, please...This week, the boys sit down with Melanie Shankle and Sophie Hudson, the co-hosts of the Big Boo Cast! They talk about the ladies’ new books, life, love, and not to give too much away...pheasant hunting fashion tips. The Big Boo Cast Melanie Shankle Sophie Hudson Opal Nugget Ice Maker Stand All the Way Up by Sophie Hudson On the Bright Side by Melanie Shankle Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com 

I know you’ve never said this before, but I’m sure you’ve known someone who has exclaimed, “That kid makes me so mad!!”  Anger is an emotion that all parents have experienced, yet parental anger that is expressed in the wrong way can be the most destructive emotional element in any home.  Ouch.  This week, the guys chat about putting a lid on parental anger.   ----- Series 33 – Lifeway Problem with parental anger: Things that we say and do that we regret are mostly done in anger Parental anger is the most destructive emotional element in the home Most anger is brought about by faulty thinking that is adrenaline induced. Albert Ellis ABC Model This is now we KNOW that nothing MAKES you mad. 90% of parental anger is sin. We sin, but don’t see God’s wrath We believe it’s justified. But it is never justified. Solution to parental anger: Realize first response is your worst response STOP Stop and separate Tone down tension Open YOUR heart to God Present Christ to your child Excerpt from Toe to Toe with Your Teen (2nd Edition) ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

OMG! This pandemic has done more than just socially segregated us. It has psychologically, emotionally, relationally, and intellectually segregated us. Many of us are trapped in echo chambers that only reinforce what we believe about politics, race, COVID, and a host of other societal issues. Confirmation bias is when we only hear what we want to hear, or expect to hear, without any inclination to consider another point of view. This is toxic for an individual, a couple, or a family. This week the boys discuss a topic that has certainly been around for a while, but has exploded during this unprecedented time in our culture. -----Confirmation BiasPsychological phenomenon that filters out evidence that doesn’t support our preconceived ideas and only allows evidence in that supports our already agreed upon ideas. We set up a “filter bubble”We have mental “schemas” records or tapes in our brain that play on loop. Schemas help us make quick decisions and do things on autopilot. And we begin tosegregate ourselves into tribes that think and feel the same way as we do, which creates more “group think” and confirmation bias. When we have strong opinions and don’t allow for other views, we lose our audience.What do we do?1)Hold our opinions loosely2)Focus on things we have control over3)Get out of our filter bubbles, and talk to people that don’t think like us4)Talk less, listen more-----Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter:@docjimmymyers,Instagram:@jmyersfam, andFacebook:@docjimmymyersDr. Josh Myers on Twitter:@docjoshmyers,Instagram:@docjoshmyers, andFacebook:@docjoshmyers             Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter:@docspodcast, Instagram:@docspodcast, and Facebook:@docspodcastHow do give to the show:www.patreon.com/docspodcastThe Timothy Center:www.timothycenter.com    

Since we’re all doing school from home now, please answer the following questions:   Honey, do these new pants make my butt look big? No, I left your gift at the office.  Do you really think I’d forget our anniversary? Mommy, are some of the kids on my team better than me? Daddy, I’m so sad that Fluffy died.  Is he in heaven with Jesus? Hey, Babe, I can’t see the back of my head.  Am I balding at all?   So how did you do?  Answer honestly.  This week, the guys kick around the topic of how honest is too honest in the family.    -----   We can justify lying by trying to "not hurt our spouse". It's choosing the path of least resistance. "Why would I purposefully hurt my wife" is the thought.   However, lying can be a behavior that can form a habit - quickly.   If you can't tell your spouse the truth out of fear of their response, you're in trouble. Without truth there is no trust, without trust there is no love.   You earn the right to speak truth / be honest. Love people first, then provide your truth.   Our goal in word and deed is congruency. Be the same in front of your wife as you are away from her.   We struggle to be honest with others because we are not honest with ourselves.   Be sure that you yourself are cultivating a relationship where people can be honest with you.   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

We’ve all done it.  Looked at how our spouse is behaving and wondered, “Wow, if he really loved me, he wouldn’t be doing that.”  Some of us have felt that so strongly that we actually say those word to our spouse.  Making their momentary behavior a referendum on “if” they love us or not.  Full disclosure, I have done this myself.  Just the other night I told my wife, Beth, “If you really loved me, you wouldn’t make me watch the Downtown Abby movie a second time.”  Wow, that felt good.  Freedom comes through honesty and confession.  Listen in this week as the guys expose this relationally destructive, yet common conflict mistake.    -----   Even if we don't say these exact words, it is common for us to think/feel that "If our spouse loved me, he/she would -- blank --".    Men ask the same question, "If you respected me, you would".   Don't assume your spouse doesn't love you. Unless your spouse has said "I don't love you" - assume he/she does.      ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

I’m so sorry its taken so long to get this episode out, BUT there were many reasons why it couldn’t get done sooner…Listen, I said I was sorry.  What do you want from me?  You feel hurt that we have kept this life-changing podcast from you for this long?  Well, I’m sorry you feel that way.  To hurt you was not our intent, so really, you have to own your own feelings.  Am I right?  Ok, fine, drop it.  This week the boys discuss how to make a real apology.    -----   Apologies are normal. If no one is apologizing, then there is a problem. Apologies are essential because sin exists.     Top 6 Dynamics of a True Apology   1. A true apology never says a "but" 2. A true apology keeps the focus on what you personally did wrong 3. A true apology doesn't try to find who started it 4. A true apology never apologizes to "shut up" the other person 5. A true apology makes apologizing "not enough" and makes an attempt to do more     ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Here’s a parent’s worst nightmare.  You look upstairs one day and your 27 year old son is still living in the same bedroom in your house that he occupied since the 8th grade!  Somewhere along the line, this young man…failed to launch.  Listen in this week as the guys discuss this growing phenomenon.    -----   Helicopter parenting - hovering over your child to rescue whenever bad happens Lawnmower parenting - clearing the path for your child so that nothing bad happens to them   Helicopter and lawnmower parenting cripples our children   Our kids an just "roll over" due to pressure/anxiety. Pressure from parents, school, friends, self, culture - can lead to kids that are anxious about adulthood and therefore just decide to give up.    Parenting is an 18 year process of deparenting.   When they are young we as parents are supervisors, when they're teenagers we are managers, and when they are adults we become consultants.   Grace ceases to be grace if it occurs too often, it then becomes an expectation   -----   If you have an adult child still in your home that is failing to launch:   1. Begin mourning the loss of your child and accept them as adults   2. Have a clear written agreement on A) responsibilities they have with them still being in your home, B) a defined date when they must leave, C) creating a list of skills they need prior to leaving and D) a list of ways you might assist them financially even after they are gone. NOTE: Any assistance once they're gone needs to have an end date as well.   3. Risk them failing once gone - failure is one of life's great teachers     ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

The boys follow up with their co dependency talk from last week by discussing boundaries today. What are boundaries? How do you institute them? Won't that make matters worse? Listen in.   -----   Boundariless families are dysfunctional. These families are tired.  Lack of boundaries finds its way into most, if not all, relational problems we have.   We mistakenly believe that if we set a boundary, it is unloving.   10 Laws of Boundaries   1. Law of sowing and reaping - needs to be consequences to behavior 2. Law of responsibility - be responsible for self 3. Law of power - make a choice and enact power within relationship 4. Law if respect - respect other people's boundaries 5. Law of motivation - risk disappointing people 6. Law of evaluation - hurt feelings aren't harmful 7. Law of proactivity - setting boundaries early 8. Law of envy - learn to be satisfied with your life 9. Law of activity - can't be passive and have boundaries 10. Law of exposure - choose to matter and exist in relationship   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

What is co-dependency?  We’ve all heard about, accused others of being it, but what exactly is it?  I mean, we should depend on each other…right?  “Lean on me, when you’re not strong…”  Hello?!  But what is it, really?  Listen in this week as the guys unpack the sometimes misunderstood topic of co-dependency, and see if you can recognize your relationship…uh, I mean recognized a “friend’s” relationship.    -----   Enchiladas Y Mas Closed   Co dependency = when one person needs another person, and the other person needs to be needed.   It's a relationship addiction. A toxic dance.   Submissive co dependents - desperately desire loves from dominant dependents Dominant co dependents - don't give love the other desires   We pass on co dependency to our children   Recognizing who you are in your marriage:   Submissives 1. Does your self worth hang on your partners approval? 2. Is it difficult to say no when your partner makes a demand? 3. Do you walk on egg shells around your partner?  4. Do you consistently worry about other's opinions of you? 5. Do you keep quiet to avoid arguments?   Dominants 1. Are you in a constant state of frustration with your partner? 2. Can you not let go of correcting your partner? 3. It is difficult for you to agree to disagree? 4. Do you have a strong need to be right? 5. When push comes to shove, you get your way.   SOLUTION   1. Boundaries (next week) 2. Don't avoid conflict; be a buffalo 3. Figure out wants vs needs. You want your spouse, you don't need him/her 4. It is not your place to correct your spouse   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

In our society today, we love us some tolerance! Vive la Difference! I always like to say, except when those differences we’re “Viveing” are behaviors in our spouse that are driving us up the wall during this sheltering in place experience.  How can we “let go and let God” sooth our relational differences while we’re all boarded up inside our houses 24/7?  Listen in this week as the guys discuss how to accept our spouse’s faults…That’s right.  I said it, FAULTS! They’re not differences, they are flaws in their character that if they loved me, they would change!! Or would they?   -----   Martial Wounds 1. Spouse Preferences - things that minimally impact your life 2. Infractions - things that moderately (and sometimes majorly) impact your life 3. Major Infractions - abuse, infidelity, etc   Scripturally, you only have justification for ending your marriage (or hardening your heart toward you spouse) for the MAJOR INFRACTIONS.    Marriage is about learning to get over things.   70% of all marital arguments are irreconcilable.    ----   So how do we learn to get over things? Decide that it is not your job to change your spouse! There is a Holy Spirit and it is not me. Get the log out of our own eye. Conflict is never about the content, the conflict touches a "raw spot" / insecurity - so your reaction has more to do with you.   Can you agree to disagree?    Be more grateful for your spouse's good, more than you're mad at the bad.   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

What happens when things don't go as expected? When God doesn't make sense? When our worst fears are realized? What then? How do we respond? What's more, how do we lead our family/kids during such a time? Listen in this week as the guys discuss how to handle the storm when it hits.   -----   As parents, we set the emotional tone within the home.    When something bad happens, it's not simply about you, surviving. But as a parent, it is about modeling to our children how to handle storms.   We don't want to model fear.   Faith isn't faith until it is all you have.    How should we has a family handle storms? (Proverbs 3:5-6)   1. Trust in the Lord with all your heart. When storms happen, we must trust. Learning to trust God happens daily, before the storm happens.   2. Lean not on your own understandings. Life doesn't have to make sense. In fact, most often, life doesn't make sense. And just because we don't understand what God is doing, doesn't mean life is ending and the sky is falling. We shouldn't learn on our own understanding.   3. In all your ways, acknowledge God. Seek God and his kingdom first, and all things will be taken care of.     4. The payoff, if you do the first three things, God will direct your path. Then, no matter what happens, it is a no lose in that it will be ok.    ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

I know we discussed last week some ideas on how to cope with the entire family being at home due to the COVID, but what about working with, playing with, eating every meal with, parenting with, sitting and relaxing with, and every other activity you can think of with your  spouse…every day, all day, with no breaks.  Sounds fantastic right?!  Or does it sound like you might need a case of Xanax airlifted to your location.  So, what are some practical ideas for how to cope with sharing your every waking moment with your spouse without running screaming from your house because you decided it would be better to take your chances with the pandemic instead?   -----   1. Give each other space.   2. Empathize with your spouse; seeing through their eyes. Giving them patience and don't assume the worst in your spouse.    3. Keep structure within the marriage.    4. Have "other than spouse" adult time. Hangout with people via an online platform.    5. Have spiritual time together.    ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Okay, the COVID…how do we NOT talk about this?  We’re all now working from home, schooling from home, going to church from home, and oh yea, performing all other human activity during every waking moment…from home.  So how do we make it through?  Other than monitoring Twitter all day?  Listen in this week, as the guys discuss ways to cope with the COVID confinement.  I mean, what else ya got to do?   -----   5 Things Your Family Can Do During COVID   1. Turn off the news   2. Get outside   3. Maintain family routine   4. Keep educating them   5. Don't do screens all day   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

So, you're talking with a friend about something other than the COVID, and your Christian faith comes up.  The friend mentions that they have a huge problem with all of the evil that has been done in the name of God throughout history, and that most Christians today seem to be homophobes, xenophobes, transphobes, and, well, you get the picture.  How do we respond?  How do we teach our kids to respond?  The boys are back this week to offer some very kind, sympathetic, non-abrasive, nor phobic-in-any-way, suggestions.    -----   Oppressive Christianity years ago was killing people; oppressive Christianity today is infringing on thoughts/beliefs.   Christian history does not substantiate an oppressive church history, but the exact opposite.    There isn't any defending terrible acts like the crusades, but you have to begin with questioning whether or not those folks were even Christians. Their actions contradict everything that Jesus said.   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

You know what really sticks with you…other than a foot fungus?  When it comes to our families, the answer is rituals or traditions.  Things that are said and done consistently, frequently, that span over a long duration.  Going to church and small group a couple of times a month is good, but there’s a reason that only 32% of kids raised in evangelical homes stay believers as adults.  This week the guys kick around the issue of family rituals, the glue that can help hold faiths and families together.   -----   Neuroplasticity   To build your child's faith neurobiologically, you must do faith consistently, frequently and over a long duration   Real Life Podcast Jeff Bethke   Jess Bethke Daily Saying "I am not what I do I am not what I have I am not what people say about me I am the beloved of God It is who I am No one can take it from me I don't have to worry I don't have to hurry I can trust my friend Jesus and share His love with the world"   Myers Family Prayer I pray there's not a day you can remember not knowing Jesus. That you understand your need for a Savior at an early age and experience the freedom that comes from giving your life to him.   I pray that praise would be in your heart and on your lips continually.   I pray that you would know who you are in light of the gospel. That you would have a Christ-centered confidence and Christ-centered worth.   I pray that you would hate sin and love holiness.   That you would know the power of the blood to defeat all the works of the one who came to kill, steal and destroy. That you develop relationships based on the drawing of the Holy Spirit.   I pray that you would love the word of God. That you would seek to understand it, hide it in your heart, and base your life on it.    I pray that you will love others well. That you would have a servant's heart and a desire for your life to be used for something greater than yourself.     **Josh was kidding when he said he's "naturally good at Pairadocs topics"; he has to constantly work toward achieving these things by God's grace.    ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

It’s been said that there are only two things that are a certainty in this life: Death and Taxes…well, and you could also add the Dallas Cowboys losing in the first round of the playoffs.  But your family is going face the death of a grandparent, family member, or friend at some point.  That IS a certainty.  So, how do we guide our families through this very sad, scary, and confusing life experience?  Listen in this week.  This discussion is to die for…sorry.   -----   Give yourself grace! Don't judge yourself for your feelings while grieving.  There is no one right way to grieve, but there is a wrong way - avoiding it.   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

It is easy to freak your freak in mid life. This moment, that you've been looking forward to your whole life. You have the spouse. The kids. The job. The house. But it can still feel empty.    But what if this is as good as it gets?   What do you do then? Listen in as the boys discuss.   -----   Wisdom is having the right perspective. It is fighting the feeling of being trapped!  There is purpose in mid life   We must accept that this is mid life. It's not perfect, but it is beautiful. You are not alone; most in this life stage feel this way.   God's word remains a constant, even when your life is a storm. So trust Him. Don't lean on your own understanding.    ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Like a foot fungus you just can’t seem to get rid of…the boys are back with all new episodes for the new year!  And they kick it off with this little gem.  Question:  Would you love a spouse that was gentle, loving, kind, generous, engaged, compassionate, and absolutely couldn’t keep their hands off you?  WELL WHO WOULDN’T!!!  Anybody would love a spouse like that.  The trick is to be able to love a spouse that isn’t like that.  As believers, we’re not called to love our spouse “because”, but to love them “anyway.”    -----   Poltergeist Intro Love Anyway - Gary Thomas Different Types of Love   Luke 6 "It's so hard to see when my eyes are on me" Keith Green Gary Gramling   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

What if there was one thing that would make most, if not all, family conflicts lessen, of not end.   What would pay for get ahold of the “magic bullet” of relational harmony?  Well get out your credit cards my friends, because this week, the guys discuss the all-important issue of empathy.  This one little touchy-feely word can go a long way toward reducing marital, occupational, and parental conflict.  How do I know?  Because I can feel your pain…   -----   Brene Brown on Empathy   Empathy drives connection, sympathy drives disconnection.   Brene Brown ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

The tragedy of a mass shooting.  It’s all over the news.  Everybody is talking about it, political blame is flying back and forth, and there sits our kids.  Scared, confused, and in some cases, completely ignorant of the events swirling around them.  So how do we best discuss unimaginable evil with our kids and keep their innocents intact?  Not sure that's possible, but listen in as Jimmy and Josh tackle talking tragedy with our children.    -----   Luby's Shooting in Killeen   The Case for Faith by Lee Strobel   When God Doesn't Make Sense by James Dobson   If kids are old enough to ask, they're old enough to hear. You don't have to know an unknowable act of God. There's nothing wrong with saying 'I don't know.' Talk about the solution more than you talk about the problem.    Solution: Pray, love others   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

If you are as sick of politics as I am, raise your hand, right there where you are…yes, God bless you…yes, I see that hand.  Are there any others?  With the current political climate and ever-present social media bombarding our every waking moment, we can’t get away from politics, even if we wanted to.  Every song, TV show, movie, sporting event, etc. has comments, demonstrations, or snide political comments.  IT JUST NEVER ENDS!!  Join the fellas this week, as they examine, how we as believers, couples, and parents can navigate the political ocean that we’re all seemingly drowning in.    -----   Margaret Thatcher   Jesus is the Answer (song)   Andy Bannister interview   Home Fires     As parents, we set the emotional tone of the home. Don't freak your kids out with your anxieties. ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

When you look in the mirror, what do you see?  What does your child see?  How does our body image impact the way we perceive ourselves and how we perceive others perceive us…I may have used the word, “perceive” one too many times?  Our self-image has an enormous influence on the quality of our lives and the lives of our children, yet how we determine that self-image can make us fickle at best and be damaging at it’s worst.  Join the guys this week as they look at how we view our physical selves, where it comes from, and how it can negatively effect our entire lives. -----   Josh Harris' announcements about Christianity and his divorce   Solutions: Parents set the tone Eat to live, don't live to eat   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

You’ve heart it said that it is not good for man to be alone.  Well, this week, the guys explore exactly why that is.  This is not about being single, or the benefits of “alone time.”  It’s about the pervasive, negative impact of toxic isolation in both individuals, couples, and families.  So, in keeping with the theme, listen to this episode in a large group of your closest friends! -----   "pathology, sin, addiction breeds in isolation"   "The fruit of the spirit will never breed in isolation"   Isolation - not busyness, but not having people who truly know you.   Solution:   Church! (Being involved, not just going) Be known     ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

This week the guys talk through essential movies to watch with your daughters. Whether you're a dad or mom, watch these movies with your girls. Through these movies you can help them learn healthy feminine traits.    -----   History Lovers Club on Twitter   Top 10 Movies for Girls: 1. Parent Trap 2. Mean Girls 3. Princess Diaries 4. Freaky Friday 5. Moana 6. Brave  7. Wizard of Oz 8. Frozen 9. A League of Their Own 10. Soul Surfer     ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

After three episodes dealing with the devastating impact of pornography on a person’s life.  The boys thought that a wrap up session was in order.  What are some practical step to elevate this problem?  Listen in and find out… -----   www.brainheartworld.org Part 1 - how porn impacts our brain Part 2 - how porn impacts our relationships Part 3 - how porn impacts the world   You have to get real with someone besides the men in your life. Pornography is infidelity. Any sex that is selfish is wrong.   The addict brain tells you the exact thing to do in order to keep you addicted.   Disclosure is essential. Fear is the opposite of faith.   Find a Certified Sexual Addication Therapist (CSAT)   Covenant Eyes XXX Church   If your spouse confesses to you: DON'T SHAME Hurt, anger, sadness are ok emotions to share.     ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

A lot of great things come in threes.  The number of outs in an inning or baseball, how many branches of government the USA has, not to mention the number of personalities that make up the holy Trinity.  But don’t forget to add to that list the number of episodes in the current Pairadocs series on the adverse effects that pornography has on the mind, relationships…and this week the world.  Please view the third video in the series found at www.mindheartworld.org and join in the discussion of the gruesome impact that porn has on society via sex trafficking, child trafficking, and the mind numbing influence that the porn industry has on those who participate in it.  Not a ton of humor in this one…   -----   www.brainheartworld.org Part 1 - how porn impacts our brain Part 2 - how porn impacts our relationships Part 3 - how porn impacts the world   Fight the New Drug   "97 billion hours of pornography are viewed each year, equating to 52,000 years of porn are viewed each year... on ONE porn site"   St. Peter's foot   "Porn is a receipt for rape"   "95% of porn involves a woman getting hit"   "Regular porn views are 1/3 more likely to be involved in domestic violence"   "Porn is a documentary of a woman's humiliation"   Teen Vogue Approves of Sex Work for Girls   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

This week the guys are halfway through their three-part series on one of our favorite topics…pornography.  Hopefully, by now you’ve all gone to www.mindheartworld.org and watched the first two episodes of this groundbreaking documentary about the colossally negative impact that porn has on all that view it.  This week, we will thoroughly examine part two; how viewing pornography all but prevents a person from establishing or maintaining close personal relationships.  One may say, “So what?!  So, I’m watching some pornography.  What harm can there be?”  If you are married, in a long-term relationship, or ever hope to be…listen and learn my friend.  Listen and learn.    -----   www.brainheartworld.org Part 1 - how porn impacts our brain Part 2 - how porn impacts our relationships Part 3 - how porn impacts the world   Fight the New Drug   Harvard Study - Happiness    Wall Street Movie Michael Douglas Ghost in the Darkness The American President   Mirror Neurons   "You double your chances of divorce by viewing porn regularly"   "Happiness=Relationship/Love = Focus"   Keith Green   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Welcome to a new three-part series of Pairadocs.  We don’t do this very often, but in leu of the most recent research establishing the fact that over 8 in 10 of young men between the ages of 20 and 29 are viewing hardcore pornography weekly…I did say, weekly!  We felt compelled to address this issue once again.  We need you to go to www.brainheartworld.org.  This is an amazing three-part video series produced by an amazing organization called Fight The New Drug.  Follow them on every platform that you have available to you.  We want you to log in; view the videos and then engage with us as we discuss the contents.  Part One deals with how pornography impacts…no, changes the brain.  Incredible videos, intriguing discussion.  We’ll tackle the second video next week that focuses on how porn all but short circuits our ability to have intimate relationships…Let’s do this!!   -----   www.brainheartworld.org Part 1 - how porn impacts our brain Part 2 - how porn impacts our relationships Part 3 - how porn impacts the world   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

So, what’s more fun than talking about a VERY heart wrenching topic in a way that will alienate half the listening audience?  It’s a sad subject and is even sadder that the subject has to be talked about.  Take a listen this week as Jimmy and Josh honestly discuss the tragic topic of abortion.     -----   Roe v Wade 1 Timothy 3 Luke 6:32   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

This week the guys talk through essential movies to watch with your sons. Whether you're a dad or mom, watch these movies with your sons. Through these movies you can help them learn healthy masculine traits.    -----   Grumpy Cat   Questions to ask while watching films:   What qualities were depicted in this film that teach us what kind of man God wants us to be?  How can we, like Christ, stand up against insurmountable odds? Why do some men choose to die for what they believe to be noble/right?      Essential Movies   1. Field of Dreams 2. Saving Private Ryan 3. Rudy 4. Remember the Titans 5. Glory 6. Wonder 7. Braveheart 8. Gladiator 9. Apollo 13 10. Hoosiers     **Jimmy Fallon is not on Saving Private Ryan, he was in Band of Brothers   Facts about Paul Revere's ride   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

This week the guys participate in their own golf tournament, benefiting themselves. No surprise, no one else showed up. But Jimmy and Josh had a blast playing and having a conversation about their lives as father and son. You won't want to miss.    -----       ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

I remember once watching John Wayne in an old movie (As every red-blooded American male should do, at least once a month) as he was waiting on top of the wall at the cavalry outpost for an attack from the marauding Indians.  He said to a much less experienced soldier, “It’s quiet…too quiet.”  In other words, when it gets too quiet, it’s all about the hit the proverbial fan!  Freeze and Flee, the last of Sue Johnson’s Demon Dialogues, has to do when couples reach the point of giving up.  When it gets quiet…too quiet.  If you find yourself or someone you love in this desperate state, listen in as the guys help you not get scalped.  Or, or you know what I mean.   -----   Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson   Part 1 and 2 in this series: Plank and Spec Episode Protest Polka Episode   If you are stuck in the 'freeze and flee' dialogue: - Share with your spouse a cue that begins the distancing process - Recognize what you are telling yourself that keeps you separated   Problem solve, discuss with spouse: When you do _____ I don't feel safely connected to you. Then I tend to _______. I do it in the hopes that ________. And as this pattern keeps going, I feel _________. The more I __________, the more you _______. Maybe we can warn each other when this starts.     Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas Gottman's Stonewalling   Josh's Solutions: Realize you are the problem in your marriage (humility and repentance) Seek counsel   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Tune in this week and Jimmy and Josh answer parent questions they received at a recent speaking engagement. The boys bat around several topics you’re sure to enjoy.     -----   The Highwaymen   Lorena   What is the best way to approach the topic of sex with your teenager? Early and often, don't wait until they are teenagers. This is a lifelong conversation   Raising an Original by Julie Lyles Carr Preparing for Adolescence by James Dobson   When is a cellphone a good idea and is there an appropriate age to start? Dumb phone - when you need to communicate with your child Smart phone - high school/sophomore   How do you apologize to your kid without them using it against you later? Apologize for your part and punish them for theirs. They can't leverage it against you unless you let them.   What are the red flags that tells you your child needs counseling? Look at their lowered level of functioning, see if anything has changed.   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Would you like to dance?  Well, if you’re a good Baptist (and Josh most certainly is not!), the answer would an unequivocal “no.”  And that would be the correct answer for all of us when it comes to the Protest Polka.  This deadly relationship dance is one of the main indicators of marriages that don’t make it past the 5-year mark.  Listen in as the guys, two step their way through this issue and tango their way to a solution…ok, I’m completely done with dancing puns.    -----   My Redeemer Lives by Nicole C Mullen   Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson Emotionally Focused Therapy   Baby attachment video   Soften Your Start-Up (Gottman) ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Self-esteem. What is it? How do we acquire it? And how do we build it within our child? Is self-esteem even important? Tune in this week as the guys talk all things self-esteem and your child.   ----- Little Shop of Horrors   A Few Good Men   How we build self-esteem in our children: - We can't just tell them how good and special they are all the time - Make sure we allow for failure - They need to be told they have sinned and that's why we need Jesus - Work. Allow them to struggle - Random expressions of love and pride   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

So, a Sequoia Redwood and a nanoparticle of dust walk into a bar…  What do they have in common?  It’s no joke, it’s your marriage, of course!  The Bible is stuffed full of powerful and famous verses that relate to our marriage relationships.  And this week, the guys dig into Matthew 7:3-5, one of the least known and most powerful of those snippets from God’ Word concerning marital bliss.  Just to give you a heads up.  Jesus doesn’t call folks hypocrites very often…   -----   Anthony Hopkins in Silence of the Lambs - "You don't play the villain like he's the villain, because the villain is the hero in his own story."   ReIengage   "Wagging never works!"    "Self-righteousness never works."   Dr. Susan Johnson - Demon Dialogue   1990s Worship   Matthew 7:3-5 3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.   Watermark Church   "Accept that you're the problem within your marriage."   "When you're arguing both spouses shouldn't leave the argument until both have apologized."   Self assessment:   1) Do you focus on your spouses faults more often than you're thankful for him/her? 2) Do you believe your spouse is lucky to have you?   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com   The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Are you sick and tired of all the books, speakers, and podcasts (present company excluded) telling you how to parent?  This week, the guys kick off 2019, we our new goal…how to be a “good enough” parent.  It’s not that hard, and it’s the fastest way to remove the guilt that you’re feeling for how much your kids will have to pay in counseling later in life!   -----   Sam Ehlinger Wild At Heart by John Eldredge     Texas WINS the NIT!   Spoiler Alert: Josh is now losing all his brackets, and his WIFE is about to win   Fact: We as parents will make mistakes that will negatively affect our children. Prepare our kids for the mistakes that we know will happen Tell your children you are sorry, repair mistakes when they happen Don't sweat the small stuff Accept that your child is going to be who they are going to be no matter what you do (within reason)     ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com  

So how should we parent? Should we parent based on trying to protect our kids? Or should we try to prepare them? Or both? Listen in as the guys discuss.    -----   Howard Payne New Braunfels Fearless Parenting Homeschooling vs Public School Focus on the Family: Preparing vs Protection Age of Opportunity   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

Does the term Toxic Masculinity ring a bell?  It’s become the new “woke” issue in psychological circles.  But the Pairadocs are here to tell you that the term is in fact, poppy cock!  Poppy cock I say!  Listen in as the guys debunk the latest in political psycho-babble.  Not only is masculinity not toxic, it is essential to our families and our society.    -----   Cowboys Outcome   American Psychological Association Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Men and Boys   Affirm your son's masculinity early on Prepare boys and protect girls Jesus is the perfect example of controlled power   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

Many of you have read and loved the run-away best seller, Circle Maker by Mark Batterson, well join the guys, this week, as they visit with Joel and Nina Schmidgall who co-authored the new book, Praying Circles Around Your Marriage.  Have you ever wanted to pray more affectively for your marriage?  Joel and Nina will provide you with several amazing, yet practical, steps to actually bring that about.   Links to information discussed in the show:   National Community Church   Mark Batterson's The Circle Maker   The Schmidgall's Latest Book: Praying Circles Around Your Marriage ---- Website: theaterchurch.com Instagram: @prayingmarriage Twitter: @joelschmidgall and @ninaschmidgall -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

So what do we do with the pain and suffering that we experience in life?  Especially, when it happens to good people, that trying hard to life their lives according to the Word of God?  We want life, and what happens to us in life to make sense, right?  But what do we tell ourselves and our children when it doesn’t?  When life isn’t fair.  When God doesn’t make sense?  Listen in, this might be just for you…   -----   When God Doesn't Make Sense by James Dobson   Pain is OK, God doesn't want us to run from pain. Pain is not punishment.   We don't trust God because we don't take the time to get to know Him.   Celebration of Discipline by Richard J. Foster   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

This week, the guys sit down for a lively discussion with Jeff Huxford.  He had a great career as a physician, a great family, what could possibly go wrong?  How about a car accident that caused a traumatic brain injury?  His life, their life, changed in that instant.  You’ll love his story told in his new book, Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change; An Unexpected Outcome.   Links to information discussed in the show:    Jeff's First Book: Finding Normal   ---- Website: www.jeffhuxford.com Facebook: @jeffhuxfordmd Instagram: @jeffhuxford Twitter: @jeffhuxford -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

When we say “mindfulness” many of you, especially guys, tend to nod off.  Mindfulness, you assume, is about meditation, yoga, and saying, “Namaste” while struggling to get off the floor.  But that is NOT what we mean by being mindful.  We mean, living your life intentionally, and with purpose.  If you want a better marriage, a better family, a better walk with God, then you have to make a choice to make that happen.  Listen in as the boys do their best impersonation of personal fitness trainers, by instructing you on how you can be your best you!!  Come on!! And two and three…   -----   Caffeine Free Diet Coke   Josh's made up change quote: for change to happen there has to be vision, a plan and an act of will   A Celebration of Discipline by Richard Foster   Change requires 3 things: We need to realize the need for change We know what to do to change Motivation to change   If you're not mindful, you're mindless   Be present   Solutions: Time with your family (schedule it!) Talking face to face Play - do something fun Say No Accountability ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

The guys sit down with Brent Crowe this week. He speaks about his new book Moments 'til Midnight.    Links to information discussed in the show:   Student Leadership University   Brent's Latest Book: Moments 'Til Midnight ---- Website: www.momentstilmidnight.com Facebook: @brent.crowe.9 Instagram: @brentacrowe Twitter: @brentacrowe -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

We talk all the time about how we need to choose which battles are worth having with our kids, but the same is true in our marriages.  There’s a difference between an irritant and a “deal breaker.”  So where is that line drawn?  How do we know when to let an issue go with our spouse?  Better yet, CAN we let an issue go?  Listen in as the guys get out their sidewalk chalk and show us where to draw healthy conflict boundaries.    -----   Steve Martin  John Gottman Research Philippi Thessaloniki   "First bucket - Personal Preferences - things that minimally (if at all) impact your life" "Second bucket - Infractions - things that impact your life but aren't deal breakers" Third bucket - Deal breakers - things that are separation worthy"   For personal preferences - mention to your spouse that you'd like this to change and then get over it" For infractions - mention to your spouse you'd like it to change, bring in a 3rd party to speak to you and your spouse (counselor, and then get over it" For deal breakers - mention it to your spouse, seek 3rd person counsel and then potentially separate from spouse. ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

This week, Josh has a visit with Dr. Russell Moore.  Dr. Moore is President of the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission of the Southern Baptist Convention…in other words, he’s a big wig…no, actually, he’s a huge wig!  In fact, if you add an “h” to wig, as in whig, he’s the biggest Whig since Daniel Webster…just a tip o’ the hat to history buffs.  Josh talks with Dr. Moore about his brand-new book, The Storm-Tossed Family: How the Cross Reshapes the Home.    Links to information discussed in the show:   Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission of the Southern Baptist Convention   Russell's Latest Book: The Storm-Tossed Family ---- Website: www.russellmoore.com Facebook: @russellmoore Instagram: @russellmoore Instagram: @drmoore -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

It sounds crazy, but it is one of the most normal thoughts one can have in marriage, "Who is this person I married?" Sometimes our spouse seems completely different than the person we married years ago. What do we do? Is this an excuse to just give up? Is change that bad? It it inevitable? Listen in as the guys discuss what to do when our spouse changes. Spoiler alter - ALL SPOUSES CHANGE! :)   Links to information discussed in the show:   Baby It's Cold Outside Controversy Jeff Huxford Barbara Streisand and Neil Diamond - You Don't Bring Me Flowers   ----- "You didn't marry a lifestyle, you married a person."   "So much of our disappointment with our spouse's changes is our unmet expectations."   "Change is inevitable; when we're doing it [marriage] right AND when we're doing it wrong, change happens."   "You gotta change the change."   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

This week the boys visit with Dan Thomas.  Dan is the Director of Timberline Lodge in Winter Park, CO, which is part of a larger ministry called Torchbearers International.  These ministries focus on discipling young adults and impacting the next generation.  Dan and the boys discuss infusing Christ into your kids and the impact that has on them when they leave our homes.   Links to information discussed in the show:   Timberline Lodge Torchbearer's International Timberline Blog   "Too often we're professing Christians but practicing atheists" ---- Website: www.timberlinelodge.org Facebook: @TimberlineLodge Instagram: @timberlineministries -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

Spiritually and theoretically, we would all say that we want our lives, our marriages, and our children to be different from “the world.”  Yet, if one takes, even a casual glance, its easy to see that we are not very different at all.  In fact, we seem to be working overtime, LITERALLY, to make sure that we’re not different from our lost culture in the slightest way…except for maybe where we go on Sunday mornings…occasionally.  Listen in as the guys discuss how we can learn to Viva La Difference!!    Links to information discussed in the show:      We don't wake up different, you have to be intentional in your difference.   Tumblr removing adult content   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

Your going to love the interview this week, as the guys visit with Hayley Morgan.  Hayley is a writer, speaker, a social entrepreneur, owner of the online boutique, Nellie Taft, and in all her free time, authored the new book, Preach to Yourself: When Your Inner Critic Comes Calling, Talk Back with Truth.  If I was Hayley’s inner critic, I’d be saying, “For the love!  Stop doing so many things!  You’re wearing me out!”   Links to information discussed in the show:   Nellie Taft   Some of Hayley's Books: Preach To Yourself Wild and Free   ---- Website: www.hayleymorgan.com Facebook: @hayleymorganauthor Twitter: @hayleyEmorgan Instagram: @hayley.e.morgan -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

How can we teach our child to tell the truth, when culture is screaming at us every day that objective truth doesn’t exist?  There is no greater example of this than the politically generated Transgender insanity that is currently sweeping the nation.  How do you respond when your 5-year-old kindergartener is being taught, in their school, that not all boys are really boys and not all girls are really girls? They are being force fed the insidious doctrine that objective reality isn’t real after all. God has called you to parent in unprecedented times.  Listen in.   Links to information discussed in the show:   Article from Brown University on Gender Dysphoria When Harry Became Sally ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

This week, Josh, has a great conversation with Ellie Holcomb.  You know her as a singer/songwriter out of Nashville, Tennessee.  But today, the conversation is all about her very first book, Who Sang the First Song?  And no, you cannot simply google the answer, you must read this amazing debut children’s book from an amazing young artist.   Links to information discussed in the show:   Ellie's music   Ellie's Latest Book: Who Sang the First Song?   ---- Website: www.ellieholcomb.com Facebook: @ellieholcombmusic Twitter: @ellieholcomb Instagram: @ellieholcomb -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

The week after Thanksgiving is the perfect time to discuss gluttony don’t you think? The week after Black Friday is even a better time to talk about another type of gluttony. Spending too much on things that we hope will make us happy. Research and Scripture are in lockstep agreement, money and the things that you can buy with it , do not, I repeat, do not bring us any more joy, contentment, or happiness. Yet, we keep spending that it will. Why is that?   Links to information discussed in the show:   This is Us Selena Gomez   Oscar Wilde - 'self denial is the shining sore on the leprous body of Christianity' ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

This week the guys sit down with Bryan Loritts about the new book that he co-authored with John Ortberg, Insider Outsider: My Journey as a Stranger in White Evangelicalism and My Hope for Us All. Can anything lessen the polarization of today’s culture? Is there any hope for racial reconciliation? Listen in and learn the answers to these and many more questions from one of the Pairadocs most amazing guests!   Links to information discussed in the show:   Abundant Life Christian Fellowship Outreach Magazine   Bryan's Latest Book: Insider Outsider: My Journey as a Stranger in White Evangelicalism and My Hope for Us All ---- Website: www.bryanloritts.co Facebook: @bryanloritts Twitter: @ALCF Instagram: @loritts -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

For all the news that’s fit to cast on a pod! This week Jimmy and Josh look at the latest news and journal articles that will catch you up on the latest in arena of marriage and parenting. Don’t be the last on your block to be IN THE KNOW!! Don’t be ignorant! Don’t be a know-nothing, out-of-touch, brain dead, nincompoop! Listen in!!   Links to information discussed in the show:   Holland Man Identifies as 20 Years Younger Half of Teens are Sleep Deprived Negative Impact of Too Much Screen Time #1 Reason Parents Don't Warn Their Kids About Pornography Randy Gunther - 10 Crucial Behaviors That Keep Love Alive John Gottman - Emotionally Intelligent Husbands are Key to a Lasting Marriage   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

This week Jimmy sits down with an ol' buddy of this Case Keenum. Yes, THAT Case Keenum, The starting quarterback of the Denver Broncos. Well, it not really like Jimmy KNOWS him personally, but they did grow up in west Texas near Abilene, They both played Texas high school football, and Jimmy won honorable all district linebacker, and Case took the Minnesota Vikings to the NFC Championship game... They discuss their mutual athletic prowess and Case’s new book, Playing for More: Trust Beyond What You Can See.   Links to information discussed in the show:   Denver Broncos Minnesota Vikings   Cisco, TX Football   Case's Latest Book: Playing for More: Trust Beyond What You Can See ---- Twitter: @casekeenum  Instagram: @casekeenum7 -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

I know it’s hard to believe, but one day, in the very near future, your child is going to leave to go on a date.  Yep, that was a rush of adrenaline that you just felt.  It’s a shock, but true.  This week, the guys discuss the ins and outs of dating.  All your questions will be answered, who, what, where, when, and sometimes Y and W.  It’s never too early to prepare for that day when your little girl walks out of your house alone with a testosterone enflamed young man.    Links to information discussed in the show:   The sooner kids begin one on one dating, the sooner they begin sexual intercourse.   Dads prepare boys and protect girls   Importance placed on dating, but not give everything away too quickly   Melody Green article on dating unbelievers   Dating Standards: 1. Only date believers 2. Suggestion: Group dating at 15, individual dating at 16   ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/pairadocs   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

This week the docs sit down with Brett Kunkle to discuss his new book, A Practical Guide to Culture: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Today’s World.  If you’re worried about this culture’s impact on your child as they head off to school every day, this discussion is for you.  Your kids can be prepared to take on all this secular society has to throw at them, and Brett’s books show you how you can be the instrument in God’s hand’s to bring that about.    Links to information discussed in the show:   Maven   Brett's Latest Book: A Practical Guide to Culture: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Today's World   ---- Website: www.maventruth.com Twitter: @BrettKunkle Facebook: @brett.kunkle Instagram: @brettkunkle -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast  Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

Is the current, toxic political environment making you anxious?  Scared?  Angry?  A recent radio show asked if it was possible that we are heading for another great American Civil War.  And they were serious!  If this political vitriol and violence is perplexing you and your family, tune in this week as the guys discuss how your family can survive these political times of turmoil.  ----- Links to information discussed in the show:   Kavanaugh Hearings -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/pairadocs   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

Ok, ok, ok. We know this is a big week. You can't lead a season with just anyone, that is why we are dropping our interview with none other than Sandy Patty this week. Say what? Yes, we said it - Sandi Patty! Listen in as Jimmy and Josh discuss Sandi's latest book.    Links to information discussed in the show:   I've Got Confidence (Sound of Music) Was it a Morning Like This? MUST LISTEN   Sandi's latest book: The Voice   ---- Website: www.sandipatty.com Twitter: @SandiPattyP Facebook: @Sandi.Patty.Music Instagram: @sandipattyp -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/pairadocs   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

This week Josh and Jimmy sit down with Rodney Bullard who is the Vice President of Community Affairs with Chick-fil-A, Executive Director of the Chick-fil-A Foundation, and author of the new book, Heroes Wanted.  You are going to love Rodney, an amazing man, with an amazing story, who will share the secret of those amazing waffle fries!!   Links to information discussed in the show:   chickfila.com #heroismondisplay   -----   Website: www.heroeswantedbook.com Facebook: @authorrodneybullard Twitter: @rodney_bullard Instagram: @rodney.bullard   -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

You know him, you love him. He's every Christian's lovable grandpa... Bob Goff. And Guess what? He found time in the midst of loving the entire world to write another book. Listen in as Josh sits down with Bob to discuss Everybody Always.   Links to information discussed in the show:   Bob's Latest Book: Everybody Always   Also: Love Does ---- Website: www.bobgoff.com Facebook: @bobgoffis Instagram: @bobgoff Twitter: @bobgoff -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

This week Josh and Jimmy plow into their second week of exposing Marital Myths. This week they confront Myth #3, Common Interests Keep Us Together and Myth #4, Never Go to Bed Angry.  Dumber words have never been spoken…other than, “Love is never having to say you’re sorry.”  Now, THAT was really dumb, but these two are really dumb as well.  ----- Links to information discussed in the show:   Marriage Myth #3: Common Interests Keep Us Together You grow and change, so grow and change together Commitment should be what keeps you together Interest in our spouse, not in our spouse's interest   Marriage Myth #4 Never Go to Bed Angry Not about the time it happens, just that you don't let it fester Allow anger, but figure out what is behind the anger Don't let anger turn to bitterness  -----  Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/pairadocs   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

The docs are so excited to sit down this week with none other than Annie Downs.  Annie is host of the very popular That Sound Fun Podcast, and author of the new book, Remember God.  You know her, you love her, and your going to love her even more after hearing her what she has to say about this book that she never wanted to write.   ----- Links to information discussed in the show:   That Sounds Fun Podcast   When God Doesn't Make Sense By James Dobson   Annie's latest book: Remember God   Other books by Annie   ---- Website: www.anniefdowns.com Twitter: @anniefdowns Facebook: @anniefdowns Instagram: @anniefdowns  -----  Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/pairadocs   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

For the past few weeks the boys have discussed several parenting myths, now it's time to take a swing at the spouses. This is the first installment of marriage myths. Listen in as Jimmy and Josh dispel the myths that happy couples don't argue and marital sex is boring sex.   Links to information discussed in the show:   Marriage Myth #1: Happy Couples Don't Argue Happy couples... argue within limits and just about the issue at hand. can agree to disagree solve problems pursue mutual understanding and mutual empathy   Marriage Myth #2 Monogamous Marital Sex is Boring Sex Happiest, most satisfied sexual relationships are long term relationships   David Schnarch If you believe marital sex is boring and bad, you will look elsewhere   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/pairadocs   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

The guys are excited to sit down, for the second time, with Shannan Martin about her new book, Ministry of Ordinary Places: Waking Up to God’s Goodness Around You.  They discuss how God doesn’t call us to necessarily do great things in exotic places, but to do ordinary things in ordinary places to fulfill His Kingdom here on earth.  You’re going to love her…again!   Links to information discussed in the show:   Shannan's latest book: Ministry of Ordinary Places: Waking Up to God's Goodness Around You   ---- Website: www.shannanmartinwrites.com Twitter: @ShannanWrites Facebook: @shannanmartinwrites Instagram: @shannanwrites -----   Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers   Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers   Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast   How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/pairadocs   Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

Pairadocs is a unique marriage, parenting and family podcast. If you've struggled in relationship; with kids, parents, spouse, or friends. No matter what life stage you find yourself in, you will find a connection with and come to love Jimmy and Josh. The Pairadocs are a father-son duo with Ph.D.s in Clinical Counseling. They are both full-time adolescent/family therapists...husbands and parents. Jimmy also happens to be a full-time granddad (or Ace, as we call him). They've not only studied family dynamics, they've lived it, together. Join them for this weekly podcast as they muse about faith, family and culture. Host: Jerrad Lopes Guests: Dr. Jimmy Myers & Dr. Josh Myers from the Pairadocs Podcast. Mentioned during the episode ·       Stop Behaving: a gospel-centered devotional for men Connect with Dad Tired: ·      To subscribe on iOS, go to our iTunes page and subscribe. ·      Leave an iTunes review, this lets us and others know what you think and increases the chance that other dads will find us. ·      Like and Follow Dad Tired on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter for updates. ·      Join our Dad Tired closed Facebook group for men who are trying to figure out how to be better disciples, husbands, fathers, and men. Show notes provided by Dad Tired contributor Jared Meade.