Podcast appearances and mentions of violet lange

Who doesn't have trust issues? Let's be real. Whether it shows up as "I don't trust her to handle my anger," or "I'm afraid I'll just be treated like an ATM" or, "I can't relax until I know the person really, really well," — almost all of carry some version of trust concerns into our dating and relationships.Here, my dear friend and co-facilitator Violet Lange and I do something we don't often get to: We put our worlds side by side. I work primarily with men who are attracted to women; she works primarily with women who are attractd to men.Here we map out the top 3 trust issues we see in our clients -- in other words, how trust issues show up differently across men and women that are attracted to the opposite sex. And, encouragingly, we outline how the path to healing them is remarkably similar.We also get practical about the 3 things required to actually rebuild trust — and none of them is blind trust. As Violet puts it, the goal isn't to trust everyone; it's to trust trustable people, and to feel good about staying closed when you need to.If you want the relationship but dread the dating part; if you're tired of being on dating apps; if you keep wondering "why do I keep ending up here?" — this one's for you. Trust can be repaired. People come, they grow, they flourish.—Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I will help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)—Mentioned on this episode:The Love Field: Hot Love Summer — Violet's and my new 3-month program (constellations, embodiment, polarity, and the brave conversations we were never taught to have,). Starts June 18th; early bird ends Monday, June 8th. Enroll at www.violetlange.com/thelovefieldDocumentary: The Mask You Live In — on how our culture socializes boys and men; this is a great way to open dialogue if you have a young man in your lifeDM 114: Bullying, resilience, and relationships — on reclaiming a healthy relationship to the masculine after being bullied as a kid, teen, or adult—Memorable quotes from this episode:"I'm so sick of being on the apps.""I feel like I can't have sex with someone until I know them really, really, really well.""We feel unsafe to be in our bodies.""Wow, that was really healing to experience something different.""The concern is: In my most vulnerable moments, I will be left.""Women fear, 'I won't be chosen.'""I've been loyal to myself throughout.""I'm not afraid to start over.""A lot of it is about recognizing the patterns that we've inherited.""Now I feel a little more relaxed in my body, so that I can be open to men that are safe for me.""I want the relationships but I don't really want to go through the dating part."

You know the feeling. You've been holding a vision — for the partner, the family, the sex life you actually want — for months. Maybe years. Maybe decades. And it's still not here.And underneath the longing, there's a quieter, scarier question: Is there something wrong with me that it hasn't happened yet?Here, my dear friend and co-facilitator Violet Lang and I have an honest conversation about what it actually takes to hold a long-term vision without collapsing or giving up. We speak vulnerably from experiences in our own lives, as well as the lives of hundreds of clients with whom we've worked.Violet walks us through her fertility journey (including two devastating miscarriages, failed IVF, and ultimately the path of donor embryo) — which she never would have chosen without being brought to her knees first. She also shares her journey from dissociating during sex and fearing that maybe she was broken — to a genuinely thriving sex life.I share my own stretch — over a year of unstable housing while trying to co-found a group house, watching teams fall apart, deals fall through, and feeling a good amount of despair. And my 10-year vision of a conscious romantic partner that's still unfolding.We dig into what actually moves the needle; why the closer you get, the harder it sometimes feels; what Violet calls "initiation" — and why you cannot do this alone.Plus, a client story: a woman who, 8 years post-divorce, went on barely 2-3 dates and completely shut down after a shady situation. And then, within a few months of doing the work, met her partner at a coffee shop when he held the door open for her. They've been together since 2017.And a note for the men listening: conscious men who do personal growth work stand out! There are fewer of you than you think, and it matters.If you've been working toward something for a long time and the question keeps arising — is this ever gonna happen for me? — this one's for you.—Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I will help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)—Mentioned on this episode:Violet's summer group program, with which I'm involved: The Love Field: Hot Love Summer — 12 weeks of shadow work (constellations), polarity practice, embodiment, and live dares. Open to men, women, non-binary folks, singles and couples. Starting June. Enrollment open now at www.violetlange.com/thelovefieldDM 265: What if she's got a sexual trauma background? How do you help? -- Violet covers the jade egg and other modalities that can help a woman overcome sexual trauma and go from not wanting sex to feeling back in her sexy, radiant power (whether she's partnered or not)—Memorable quotes from this episode:"I had never masturbated until I was 27."“I had to decide whether I was going to lean in and keep going, or give up.”“When I was trying to find my beloved, I was with someone who looked great on paper, but who wasn't right.”"Your past doesn't have to dictate your future — but you have to call yourself in.""The longings on our hearts are sacred.""Love is an art, and it's meant to be practiced."“I had to give myself permission to have crazy-ass fantasies!”“When I invest in what I want, big shifts happen.”“There's something that is calling me forward.”

Ever felt like there's something blocking you in love — something you can't quite name, but keeps showing up? Maybe you've got anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment traits, or you've sacrificed your needs for others or struggled to own your sexual attraction.It's easy to feel like our issues in our sex or loves lives are all our fault, and all ours to fix. But what if something bigger is going on?Here we explore one of the most fascinating -- and still somewhat underground -- healing modalities out there: Constellations (aka Family Constellations).Constellations is the practice of looking at the broader system you come from — your family, your lineage, generations back — to understand why you might be stuck in patterns that don't make sense given your own life experience alone.Here Violet breaks down how blocks to love, intimacy, and connection are often not about you at all, but about grief, trauma, or exclusion that happened long before you arrived. Think: your grandfather came back from war a different man, and somehow, decades later, you can't quite open your heart. Or as one participant put it, "I had no idea that what I was holding onto wasn't even mine."The really cool part? You don't have to do anything. As the client, you get to watch the healing unfold. We share where this practice comes from (rooted in Zulu tradition, brought to the West by German therapist Bert Hellinger), how it interfaces with epigenetics, and what it actually feels like to receive a constellation. Plus — if you're intrigued, we're doing a live constellations event on April 18th focused on healing your relationship with the feminine. Details below."The Field has its own intelligence. There's no one clear leader. And it will show us what we need to see — the next important step for your healing and for your growth."---Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I will help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Mentioned on this episode:Healing Your Relationship With the Feminine: our workshop April 18th 10a-3p---Memorable quotes from this episode:"I feel like I have a broken picker!""Survival was dependent on not being seen.""We are more than an individual self.""The system itself wants to be fully expressed.""I leave the grief with you.""Trauma is something that happens that our nervous system can't metabolize and then it stays locked in our bodies and locked in the system.""Once our suffering is seen, what's left is the love.""The blocks are not our own inner system — it's not just 'I have this thing with anger.'""We, as human beings, are part of a greater story.""It's about letting the system reorganize.""You lost a child and you closed your heart.""Secrets were kept.""Systems seek wholeness.""Ideally humanity is moving as one, and growing as one.""When you bring the light of consciousness to bear on something, it changes that thing. There's no separation between consciousness and change."

“A common pattern we see is that the sex has dried up.”In millions of marriages around the globe, one partner is starving for intimacy, and the other feels confused, frightened, frozen, or all three. The sexually guarded partner doesn't know how to open, and their partner feels stuck, unhappy and alone.So what can they do?Here we explore exactly that, with a focus on a woman partner who may be terrified of engaging in sexual healing. We explore the origins and root causes of this pattern, as well as sexual intimacy, emotional intimacy, love, commitment, and connection.We talk about the phenomenon of: “I'm so flooded now that we have kids that it's really hard for me to have the bandwidth to connect physically with anyone.” And: “Our lack of physical intimacy started bleeding into a lack of emotional intimacy."We also talk about the prevalence of sexual trauma, whether from childhood or adulthood or both, as well as how to heal from it.Hint: One of the best ways to move through it is as a woman is not with a love relationship partner, but with other women.Sisterhood is powerful medicine.Mentioned on this episode:Violet's program for women: Love Integrated (https://loveandlegacy.circle.so/LoveIntegrated)Violet & Jason & Luke's program for women: Heart of Shadow for Women (https://heartofshadow.com/women/)DM 1: Pain in Pleasure, Pleasure in PainDM 348: ‘I wish we had sex more.' (ft. Violet Lange)DM 325: What if *every* woman had a self-pleasure practice? DM 265: What if she's got a sexual trauma background? How do you help? (ft. Violet Lange) DM 227: How a woman can reclaim her erotic essence (ft. Violet Lange)Memorable quotes:“It can be very easy for a woman to avoid these conversations.”“Couples are complex systems.”“If you can't talk about sex and what's coming up there, you start to close off other conversational doors.”“He's starving for intimacy, and I don't just mean physical sex.”“There's a deeper layer of healing and connection that wants to come forth.”“‘The closer we got, the less interested in sex I became; it was easy to just focus on planning the wedding.'”“I funneled all my energy into work ... and if I'd had kids, I would've funneled it into them.”“There's a leaning in so that you, as a unit, — you and your partner — are generating energy.”“I can't live a full life and exclude this part of myself.”“I'm ready, and I'm scared.”“It's about having a partner who expresses herself so that you really trust her.”“We, as humans, and especially women, are incredibly capable of change and healing and growth and renewal.”“Here I am; I'm alive!”

Do you ever find yourself minimizing your own needs, and/or feeling responsible for others' emotions?Do you tend to stay quiet to keep the peace, or freeze during conflict?Have you ever struggled with boundaries or wondered why standing up for yourself feels so hard?Here we explore a family dynamic that can be just as damaging for what doesn't happen as for what does. If there was a volatile parent in your house and a more passive one (or if that's the dynamic you're in as a parent right now, with your own children), you'll want to hear this.This conversation goes beyond obvious abuse and into the invisible wounds: the confusion of not knowing who will protect you, the way your body learns to brace, appease, or disappear, and how those early patterns quietly follow you into adult relationships.We also explore what healing can look like — not through blame, but through awareness. How do you grieve the protection you didn't receive? What does it take to stop replaying the bully–bystander dynamic in your partnerships, friendships, or inner world? If you've ever felt caught between harm and silence, this episode invites you to name the experience — and begin choosing something different.---Mentioned on this episode:One Million Rising (pro-democracy training): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4496VWDjwS0&t=19svioletlange.com/root -- to sign up & get Zoom link (or replay after Feb 12th). If you have questions, just email violet@violetlange.com. You can also check out her program for women directly at: Love, Integrated 

We've got close to 400 episodes, and with the new year, I felt inspired to categorize Dear Men in order to help you get the most out of it!I've broken it down into six buckets, then listed episodes in an order I believe would be supportive to listen to:1. Do you identify as a Nice Guy? If you already know about Nice Guy Syndrome (perhaps you've even read No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover), you'll love these. If you've not yet heard about it but your spidey sense is going off, it's probably a good time to learn more:374: The 3 main archetypes of men. Which one are you? (ft. Jason Lange)239: Realized I'm a "Nice Guy." Now what do I do about it? (ft. Jason Lange)367: 'For some reason, I tend to attract "projects."' (ft. Jason Lange)289: Do Nice Guys tend to attract volatile women? (ft. Jason Lange)235: 'I see a beautiful woman and immediately get triggered. Why?' (ft. Jason Lange)340: Top 3 traits we've seen Nice Guys develop to get what they want! (ft. Jason Lange)295: Ever 'fallen into' a relationship? (ft. Jason Lange)284: Is cheating (including emotional affairs) correlated with Nice Guy Syndrome? (ft. Jason Lange)296: What does it actually mean to step into your power? (ft. Jason Lange)315: What happens once you've recovered from Nice Guy Syndrome? (ft. Dr. Robert Glover)---2. Ever been with an emotionally volatile partner? If you've ever been with a partner who scared you, who had a lot of emotional intensity, and around whom you felt you were walking on eggshells, then it's time to understand Borderline Personality Disorder. (This could rock your world!)319: 'My relationship is war.' (What do I do?) (Ft. Jason Lange)128: Feel like you're walking on eggshells? Recognizing Borderline Personality Disorder (ft. Violet Lange)313: GuyTalk: Life after being with a BPD partner (Borderline Personality Disorder)354: What's it like treating Borderline Personality Disorder? (Pt. 1) Ft. Setareh Vatan373: What's it like treating Borderline Personality Disorder (pt. 2) (ft. Setareh Vatan)345: The 4 male "types" who partner with Borderline women (Borderline Personality Disorder) (ft. Violet Lange)163: Ever had red-hot sex with someone who's bad for you? (ft. Jason Lange)221: What's her feminine storm, and what's abuse? (ft. Violet & Jason Lange)386: GuyTalk: How do you co-parent with a challenging partner? (including Borderline Personality Disorder or Narcissistic Personality Disorder)---3. Are you curious about sexy time? We have tons of fun episodes on this! Everything from sexual fantasies to episodes with erotica writers. Here's just a taste:37: Secrets of a Sex Researcher (ft. me!)388: GirlTalk: The reddest, hottest sex we've ever had (as women)318: GirlTalk: Role play in sex. What's it like!?152: GirlTalk: How to go down on a woman so she *loves* it189: GirlTalk: Does size matter?282: Anal sex! Yep, we're talkin' about it. (ft. Sara)245: What's it like to be swingers? (ft. John & Jackie Melfi)119: GirlTalk: Blowjobs! What we like and don't like in oral sex on men384: What's the impact of circumcision on a man? (ft. Michael Smith, Intactivist Educator)390: What is foreskin restoration? (ft. Bob Werner)---4. Are you dating/wanting to date?Whether you're wanting to "date better," or you're getting back out onto the scene after a major relationship has ended, you'll find a gem in here:186: GirlTalk: Approaching us in the wild (the "cold approach")220: How do I tell if she likes me? (ft. Jason Lange)136: GuyTalk: Dating after divorce387: GirlTalk: What inspires a woman to deeply trust a man?360: GirlTalk: Striking while the iron is hot!358: Do you trust men? (ft. Jason Lange)335: Ever felt like women had a 'list' in dating & relationships? (ft. Violet Lange)344: 3 dating myths to let go of immediately (ft. Jason Lange)337: GirlTalk: Ever felt like she's testing you?341: GirlTalk: The most important relationship skill of them all324: What does it mean to open a woman? (ft. Jason Lange)291: Want to get better at dating? Here are 3 ways to practice with women (ft. Violet Lange)138: GirlTalk! When should you text her vs. call her?---5. Want to know more about trauma healing?Eventually we all come to realize how messed up we are. ;) It is at that point that it's helpful to learn more about how to un-learn damaging patterns.The good news is that it's never too late, and major breakthroughs are more than just possible when you put in the right effort and get the right support -- they're probable.320: From breakdown to breakthrough: how to recover from trauma (ft. Jason Lange)123: What exactly IS somatic therapy, and how does it differ from talk therapy? (ft. Z Zoccolante)379: Can ketamine really treat depression (and PTSD and ADHD)? (ft. Sam Mandel)314: Can microdosing help you develop better relationships? (ft. David Romero)300: What's it like to do MDMA therapy with your wife? (ft. Lucas)278: Need a breakthrough? Try breathwork. (ft. Luke Adler)371: GuyTalk: What's it like doing in-person men's work?150: Want a happy, healthy relationship? Ancestral trauma healing. (ft. Ben Goresky & Mark Wolynn)166: Can psychedelics help heal you? (ft. Jason Lange)159: It happens to boys, too. Somatic therapies to heal from sexual abuse (ft. Rahi Chun)155: Overcome anxious/avoidant attachment with somatic therapy modality Network Spinal Analysis (ft. Dr. Matt Kreinheder)223: Sexological bodywork, somatic sex education, and overcoming trauma (ft. Chris Muse & Alyssa Morin)199: Want to overcome trauma quickly? De-armoring can help (ft. Sunny Ju)---6. Are you in partnership? Learn about polarity!If you've ever been in a sexless marriage, or a love relationship where you wished there was more sexy time happening, polarity is likely a big part of what's going on. Or even if your relationship is good and you want to take it to GREAT, this is the topic for you.Polarity is a key concept in our work, and it is the balance between masculine and feminine energies, which we often talk about as "alpha" and "omega" energies.380: What exactly IS polarity? (ft. Violet Lange)394: Why is polarity so critical for attraction? (ft. Jason Lange)292: Sex life with your wife not where you want it to be? Reverse polarity could be the culprit (ft. Violet & Jason Lange)360: GirlTalk: Striking while the iron is hot!357: GirlTalk: What does it mean to “claim” her (and why does she love it)?297: The problems with polarity (ft. Jason Lange)293: Give it to me whining! (Ft. Jason & Violet Lange)277: Want to maximize polarity? Learn to do this well. (ft. Jason Lange)66: GirlTalk: When men do this, we get wet.342: Are you scared of her big feelings? This may help. (ft. Jason Lange) [replay]250: How do you re-polarize a relationship (bring back the spark)? ft. Jason Lange322: 5 ways to polarize a powerful woman (ft. Jason Lange) [Replay]

Have you ever found yourself shutting down during sex (or noticed your partner doing the same) and wondered why? In this video, we talk about what's really happening when one or both partners disconnect during intimacy. It's not just about physical arousal; it's often about emotional safety, stress, past experiences, or feeling unseen and misunderstood. We'll explore the deeper reasons people go numb, withdraw, or feel “checked out” in intimate moments, and what couples can do to gently reconnect. If you've ever felt like your body or your partner's body just “turns off,” this conversation will help you understand the why and how to rebuild trust, openness, and closeness in your relationship.

"Polarity" is a term we throw around a lot on this podcast, and a concept that has gained popularity in discussions on masculinity, femininity, sacred sexuality, and conscious relationship over the last few decades.Here we delve into what it actually means ... and how it connect to hot sexy sex. ;)Seriously, though, polarity is a big part of how to generate attraction regardless of what type of body you're in, and it also relates to how to generate safety within relationship.If you want to be magnetic to your current or future partner(s); if you're interested in keeping sexy time passionate over time within a committed relationship, if you like the idea of knowing how to effortlessly encourage a partner to soften and relax into their body -- or step up and step into their power; or you want to know how to make a new dating relationship extra rich and deep, you'll get a lot out of this one.---Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I can help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Mentioned on this episode:Book rec: Way of the Superior Man by David Deida; Dear Lover by David Deida; Blue Truth by David DeidaThe Love Field (new course by Violet Lange): violetlange.com/lovefield/

Violet Lange ~ https://violetlange.com/

A common pattern in a lot of love relationships sounds like one partner (often a man, in a man/woman dynamic) saying things like:"I wish you weren't so busy with the kids.""You never dress up for me anymore.""I wish you'd flirt with me more.""You hide yourself from me; I never really see your body anymore.""I wish we had more sex."---What's driving this, and how does a couple navigate it skillfully? A lot of men yearn for more sexual connection with their partner -- but it's not just about the sex. And the way a lot of men go about talking about this with their woman partner ends up being triggering for the woman.Here we discuss what we've witnessed in terms of men's deep desire for not just sex, but their partner's enthusiastic participation. And we dive right into what's even underneath that: The ache to feel her feminine essence.This is about more than just incorporating sex toys or trying out a new position. This is about the depth and power and range of the open feminine. Get ready for a hell of a ride!Memorable quotes from this episode“I wasn't open and didn't know how to open.”“To the men, it's like a vitamin.”“It's the sense of aliveness as it changes moment to moment.”“A lot of times what women are hearing is, ‘I'm not enough.'”“I want to feel lust for life! I want to feel playful and lighthearted and irreverent.”“The essence of the feminine is desire and emotion.”“When women are in their full range, the relationship accelerates.”“I want you to enjoy it; I want you feel your pleasure and your desire, and I know that's in you.”---Mentioned on this episode:Please Her In Bed: A Course for Men, Designed by Women (www.pleaseherinbed.com)ROSE Code by Violet Lange: www.violetlange.com/rosecode

Is it painful for you when you feel that your woman is closed? Do you long for more ways to help her open up fully? (Not just sexually, but that is included!)Most dating and relationship advice doesn't include the concept of polarity and the three stages of relationship, but it can be nothing less than magical when worked with properly.According to polarity work (originated primarily by David Deida), there are two primary forces in dating, relationships and sex: alpha energy (what we sometimes refer to as masculine) and omega energy (aka feminine energy).The vast majority of omega partners have a deep longing to surrender to a trustable partner. They want to be able to be fully expressed and be met.Yet in many cases, they feel like they're too much. Their emotions are too much; they're too fiery; they feel like they'll never be able to fully express themselves with a partner.The lesser-known part of polarity work involves the three stages. As we grow in relationships, we have the capacity to graduate from stage 1 (rigid roles, often dictated by society), to stage 2 (we rely on talking to resolve tension), to stage three — which brings us to this episode. In polarized stage three relationships we bring in creativity, embodiment, and edgy play. We use breath, sound, and movement to move through tension or discomfort between us. Stage three is exciting, risky, and powerful. And as Jason puts it, "it tends to *wake us up* as men."If you want to lead your woman into depths of safety, red-hot sex, and surrender in ways neither of you has perhaps ever experienced ways — if you want to help her feel even more of her heart, her spirit, and her sex, listen on.Note: Credit to David Deida's work on the stages of relationship and polarity. Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:"Through your direction, you can invite expression.""In stage two we just want it to end. In stage three it's like, 'Bring it all. Let's ride this wave.'""You don't have to do nearly as much as you think.""Tell me that again, but like a hippo."

Ever been with a woman partner who was emotionally volatile? Ever felt like you were walking on eggshells, or that no matter what you did it wasn't enough and she was always disappointed in you?If so, she may have had Borderline Personality Disorder ... or at least traits of it.More people are diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) than schizophrenia and bipolar combined, yet few are familiar with it. Some mental health professionals estimate that a whopping 10% of the population contends with BPD, which psychologists are working to get renamed Emotional Regulation Disorder.Here, we break down the 4 archetypes of Borderline women, and their male counterparts. Much of this is gleaned from Christine Lawson's book Understanding the Borderline Mother.We also go over the ways each of the male archetypes can heal from the intense and unstable, exhausting, and often depleting relationship dynamics involved.Remember: growth and healing are always possible, and nothing is set in stone. Personal growth works, so work it.---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Mentioned on this episode:Dear Men episode 128: Feel like you're walking on eggshells? Recognizing Borderline Personality DisorderDear Men episode 313: GuyTalk: Life after being with a BPD partner (Borderline Personality Disorder)Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder (book)Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship (book)Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents (book)Subreddit for BPD Loved Ones ---Want to support wildfire survivors in the LA area?Go here. They list the families in the most dire need at the top. The long URL is:https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1pK5omSsD4KGhjEHCVgcVw-rd4FZP9haoijEx1mSAm5c/htmlview---Memorable quotes from this episode:"'Children are the first to recognize and the last to admit that something is wrong with their mother.'" (from Understanding the Borderline Mother)"My wife is the fortress and I'm here to protect that.""There's a theme of icing people out.""I'm willing to leave the relationship if you/we don't get help.""You CAN change your patterns of attraction."

Ever gotten the sense that a woman is sizing you up ... deciding whether you match up with a list she has in her head around her ideal partner?You might be right. Whether you're online dating, speed dating, or meeting someone in real life, a lot of women do have a list, and it can be confusing or even frustrating when you interface with it.Here, we discuss the nuances of "the list" -- the why behind it, how to engage with it, and the tension between the need to be open/flexible, and the need to stick with personal boundaries.If you have your own list, you'll likely also relate to this. And you may also relate to the feeling of wanting things to be neat and tidy — to be fully prepared for relationship and have your partner match up with all your expectations.To which I'd share Violet's words: “Would I rather be alone for the next decade, or would I rather have the experience of loving and being loved, and have it be messy?"---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“He has a nice resume; I thought he'd be a good guy.”“My desires and yearnings are holy and I want them to be fulfilled.”“When we cut off our heart in dating, we're missing a rich human experience.”“You never know what's going to delight and surprise you.”“If you want emotional safety, you have to be vulnerable.”

Do you wish your woman was more open to sex? Not just intercourse, but the fun of the whole sex thing -- kissing, making out, foreplay, getting hot and heavy, doing the dirty.Ever longed for more from your wife/girlfriend/partner when it comes to sexuality -- and not just "from her" but with her? Ever wished she had more fun when it came to sex, that she enjoyed it more, was more expressed and into it?Many of our clients feel a yearning to connect more with their woman, but aren't even sure how to bring it up. Talking about sex is sensitive, and even more so if sexual trauma is part of the picture. And masturbation can be even harder to discuss, especially in partnership.Here, we talk all things sexual opening and awakening when it comes to the feminine. We draw from our own personal journeys as well as countless stories from other women who've learned how to connect to their own erotic essence (separate from a partner), and the myriad benefits associated with that. We cover the many health benefits of masturbation, yoni eggs, cervical wands, breast massage, G-spot de-armoring and more.To close this out, I'm gonna drop some slang terms for women getting themselves off, because they're all kinds of fab:Ménage à moiAuditioning the finger puppetsWomansplaining yourselfFanning the furChecking the undercarriageButtering your muffinDiddling Miss Daisyand my personal favorite ... Paddling the pink canoe---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Mentioned on this episode:Dear Men 153: Her sexual healing: How to support her *and* get your needs met (ft. Violet Lange)Dear Men 191: Supporting a woman in her sexual pleasure & healing (ft. Violet Lange & Keri Nola) -- the one about jade eggsJaiya's erotic blueprintsPlease Her In Bed (my streaming course for men who have sex with women)Evolutionary Couples (Violet & Jason's new course for couples)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“I'm in a relationship, I'm finally happy! Why don't I want to have sex with my partner?!”“I hear this from moms all the time: sex is not a priority for me.”“Even if your libido feels like it's dormant, you can still work with responsive desire.”“I really miss the closeness I feel with your body … I long for you.”“Let's swim in the sea of erotic energy.”

Ever chased emotionally unavailable women? Ever dropped a connection because you felt overwhelmed, or like something was "off" but you couldn't quite name what it was? Ever been uncomfortable with the "mess" of dealing with someone else's emotions, or been hesitant to share your own out of a fear of rocking the boat? Then this episode will resonate.Here we talk directly about avoidant attachment traits -- including what they've been like for us personally. For example, finding something small but unappealing about someone (like what kind of shoes they wear), and having that get in the way of relationship.We do this to bring these patterns to light, so that we can learn to work with them. When it comes to the different attachment styles, including anxious, avoidant, and anxious/avoidant (aka disorganized attachment), we also want to be clear that we can always move towards secure attachment, and that learning and growth are more than possible.---More episodes on this topic:Dear Men episode 196: Did you experience emotional neglect as a kid? Here's how to knowDear Men episode 62: What do you do if you're not sure she's "The One"? (ft. Dr. Laura Kasper) (this one goes more into de-activating strategies mentioned on this episode)---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

EP#66 Violet Lange may sound familiar as her husband Jason was a guest in episode 47. Jason offered his wife up on a platter to be a guest on my show and I grabbed her! She is a Dating, Intimacy, & Relationship Coach. I really enjoyed chatting with her. She has a term "Dating Catnip" which I love! She explains this in this episode! BTW today is my surgery, I am dropping this the day I get a new hip!Enjoy!Violets info:Website: violetlange.comTo register for Sacred Sensuality: https://violetlange.com/sacred-sensuality/Email: violet@violetlange.comViolets Podcast: http://violetlange.com/radiantlove/ (next program starts in Spring 2025)Anonymous Andrew Podcast StudiosAnonymous Andrew Podcast-Life & The Choices We Make.Cultimatum Podcast-The Culture of CultsWebsite: https://www.anonymousandrewpodcast.comInstagram: @anonymousandrewpodcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@anonymousandrewpodcastThreads: @anonymousandrewpodcastFacebook: facebook.com/anonymousandrewpodcastFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1910498486077283YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@anonymousandrewpodcastLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrew-peters-a8a012285/X: @AAndrewpodcastSocial Media Producer: Lyndsey BrownMusic by: freebeats.io

Polarity can help you have a hot sex & dating life, not to mention a stronger love relationship overall. And like many things in life, it's not a perfect concept; there are issues with it."In what ways have you found polarity to be useful in your sex and relationship life? In what ways have you found it to be off or problematic?"I posed these questions to our clients in an effort to help shine a light on the problems with polarity. I believe polarity can be hugely helpful in understanding sexual attraction and heat, as well as trust and fulfillment, in both short- and long-term relationships. I also believe it can help us understand ourselves better as human beings in our own rights, not just in interpersonal dynamics.Becoming skillful with polarity is a valuable goal, and including its flaws in the conversation is important. Here we delve into what we see as the top three problems with polarity, and how to use it as a force of good in sex, dating, and relationships.Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:"Alpha is often observing and omega is being observed.""Things can be in opposition without being in conflict.""Polarity is not an excuse for abusive behavior."---Other helpful episodes on polarity:181: What exactly is polarity? We break it down. (ft. Violet Lange)103: Reverse polarity can kill your sex life as a couple -- unless you do this

Does it feel exiting for your woman to be fully open with you, feel deeply cherished, and want to f*** your brains out?Then you're going to want to listen to this one. You're likely familiar with polarity — that sacred dance between alpha & omega. It's a potent force that shows up in dating, sex, love relationships, and beyond (and helps explain the mystery of attraction).But polarity also includes the 3 stages of relating. As we mature in relationships, we can graduate from stage 1 (we're in rigidly-defined roles), to stage 2 (we talk through everything), to stage 3 — the topic of this episode. Stage 3 relationships are cutting-edge. They go beyond societal norms. Stage 3 is exciting, pioneering, and embodied. And in Jason's words, “it tends to *wake us up* as men.” This kind of relating makes things sexy in relationship, and it also makes things deeply safe — if you know how to work it. The truth is, most omega partners deeply yearn to be fully, truly expressed, and in stage 3, that's the name of the game. In Jason's words, “Through your direction, you can invite expression.”If you want to lead your woman in ways you've never even considered — if you want to provide a space within which she can both deeply relax and feel even more of her heart, and even soul, listen on.Note: Credit to David Deida's work on polarity and the stages of relationships. Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“I used to try to explain why what she was feeling was wrong.”“I had so much resistance to the Hot Mess archetype because I was punished by my parents for being that.”“In stage 2 it's about wanting it to end — I want to release and get us back to peace. But in stage 3, it's like, ‘Bring it all. Let's ride this wave.'”“Tell me that again, but like a hippo.”“Once we welcome the expression of energy fully, it often resolves itself … you don't have to do nearly as much as you think.”

As a client recently put it, where do you go to "scrimmage" with women? How and where do you practice relating, flirting, and connecting with the feminine? It can feel like the stakes are high once you're on an actual date (not to mention getting to sexy time and beyond).Here we talk all about that! We cover communities where relating (and practicing relating authentically) is the name of the game. We give you concrete suggestions on where to go during your week to get practice in with women, as well as what kinds of events to prioritize.This is doable. You can join communities where there's a regular partner practice, find spots where women are but someone else sets the container so you can focus on relating to her, and more. We want to support and encourage healthy relationships, and practice around dating can help. It's the new year -- LFG!Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)—Memorable quotes"Online dating can be crushing.""Structure in your life can lead to other structures.""Half my female clients meet their partners in real life.""Creating a structure in your week where there are opportunities to be around new women can be a game-changer."---Mentioned on this episode:Violet's program: Radiant LoveJaiya's community work with the erotic blueprintsLondin Angel Winters & Justin Patrick Pierce's work

Want a woman to feel deeply, profoundly, extraordinarily safe with you? Able to surrender fully, relaxing all the way into your arms, allowing her body to open to you in ways you never knew were possible?Then you need to know about this.Whether you're dating or in a long-term committed relationship, there's an underlying fear that, according to Violet, who has worked with hundreds of women and heard from thousands, 99% of women have.It's a fear you may share. And if it's not addressed, it can block intimacy, whether that's in sex or other relationship dynamics. The good news? You can learn to address it skillfully -- and this can profoundly shift a dynamic within a relationship. If you've been looking for the best relationship advice ever, it might just be this. ;)Memorable quotes from this episode:"I'm not going to be THAT girl.""I don't care what my fling thinks, but I don't want my partner to think I'm a trashy whore.""I'm too needy, bossy, driven. I'm too fat, too slutty, too crazy."---Evolutionary Men RetreatIt's happening! Come join us. This sold out last year and as of this episode dropping, we've still got 4 slots left.Labor Day weekend, Aug 31st - Sept 4th, 2023. Northern California. To sign up or learn more, go here.---Also mentioned on this episode:Violet's Wild Sensuality retreatDear Men podcast episode 128: Feel like you're always walking on eggshells? Recognizing Borderline Personality Disorder

If you want a thriving, connected sex life with your partner, but feel like something's in the way ... it could be sexual trauma.The fact is, 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys are survivors of child sexual abuse. To put that in perspective, that's 42 million women and 21 million men in the US alone.The bad news? We don't talk about this nearly enough, so it can feel overwhelming and scary to address. The good news? It is addressable, and no matter who you are or what happened, you can have a beautiful, connected, and deeply fulfilling sex life. It just takes some work to get there.Here we talk about how you, as a man who has sex with women, can identify the signs that a partner may have a sexual trauma backgroundIf you've ever been with a partner who seems to check out during sex (disassociates), tends to avoid sex altogether, or has certain triggers (like certain lighting or movements on your part that cause her to tense up), it could be this.We also talk about how to bring it up and talk about it in a way that feels safe and welcoming. It's a sensitive topic and it takes a lot of trust for a woman to tell you this is part of their history (and vice versa — it takes a lot of trust for you, as a man, to let her know if you're a survivor). Knowing more about how to respond well and help to lead and guide the conversation will only help you expand and embody the healthy masculine.A vital truth is that if your wife or girlfriend is a survivor of sexual trauma (child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault), it affects your sex life — meaning it impacts both of you. We also discuss how you can support your woman and also address your own sexual needs (without coming off as ignorant or insensitive).Because when it comes down to it, we all want to love one another as best we can. And sex is a big part of that.Books referenced in this episode:• Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine & Ann Frederick• In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness by Peter Levine & Gabor MateReady to go beyond the podcast?We love working with men who are ready to do the work!If you're committed to breaking old patterns and transforming your sex & love life in a real and lasting way, take action here. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

When a woman is going through a tough time (especially for an extended period of time), it can be easy to fall into a codependent dynamic. When she relies heavily on you to help her feel better, this can be taxing on your nervous system. And nobody wants codependence!How do you stay steady when things like financial stress, fertility issues, job concerns, or hard family dynamics cause a wife, girlfriend, or other woman partner to turn to you more than ever?Here we talk about what it means to be emotionally regulated vs/ dysregulated, and concrete ways to feel better and manage stress in a healthy, generative fashion. We outline how a woman (or any dysregulated partner) can soothe herself, as well as strategies you can use to support her through a difficult time.If you've ever felt unsure about how to soothe a woman partner or challenged by feeling the need to hold space repeatedly for something neither she nor you have control over (i.e. her getting laid off, or interacting with a frustrating/difficult relative, etc.), you'll appreciate this one.Mentioned on this episode:Trauma Release Exercises (TRE) (https://youtu.be/FeUioDuJjFI)Network Spinal Analysis (https://tinyurl.com/3assne6v)Violet's site: (https://violetlange.com/)Ready to go beyond the podcast?We love to work with men who are ready to do the work! If something isn't working in your sex or love life and you want to break old patterns and transform in a real and lasting way, we can help.Take action here. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

Want that sizzle, that dazzle, that magical mystique? Of course you do. Everyone does. And if you're in a long-term relationship, it can feel harder to maintain that over time.We're witnessing an epidemic of sexless relationships -- some studies put it at 15% of all marriages. When it comes to sex, sensuality, and a woman's erotic essence, it can be easy to lose.One way this can show up is as mismatched desire. A man wants sex with his woman (i.e. wants to know, "How do I get my wife to have sex with me more?"), but she's not feelin' it. Maybe she feels like her libido is low. Maybe she wants to figure out whether there's something wrong with her -- isn't it her wifely duty to "provide sex" to her husband/man?Here, we delve into the pattern of losing one's erotic essence as well as the delicious ways to reclaim it. YES, it is possible to get that sexy, sassy, soulful passion back -- both in a relationship as well as just in your own body.If you're interested in staying in the loop about the program we reference at the end of this episode, email one of us: dearmanpodcast@gmail.com or Violet at: violet@violetlange.com.Violet's site: https://violetlange.com/

Sexual trauma shows up in different ways — both physically and emotionally. For example, some folks may not have undergone sexual abuse or assault, but have experienced religious trauma that actually impacts their physical body and experience of sex. If you've ever had a woman partner who struggled with vaginismus, vaginal dryness, sexual trauma, or other issues with ladyparts, you'll appreciate this non-judgmental, open conversation about sexual pleasure on the feminine side. Topics include vaginal steaming, the jade egg, sexual healing, and more. Plus shifts in levels of libido (what if hers is higher?) and how lubrication changes over time.Violet's site: https://violetlange.com/

If you're a man who has sex with women, chances are extremely high you've slept with a woman with sexual trauma. Signs can include: she avoids sex (even if she used to want it); she dissociates during sex (she's checked out, not into it, or it feels like she's not really there); she physically pushes you away; and more.It takes a lot of trust for someone to let you know this is part of their history. And if she does tell you, or the two of you discover this, what then? When your wife or girlfriend is a survivor of sexual trauma (child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault), it affects your sex life. For example, how do you balance your own need for a vibrant, healthy sex life if she clearly doesn't want to talk about it? Here, we discuss how to navigate this dynamic, including both supporting your woman and speaking up about your own sexual needs.Books referenced in this episode:• Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine & Ann Frederick• In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness by Peter Levine & Gabor Mate

How do you keep sex hot in your relationship over time? How do you generate attraction on a date without feeling like you're forcing it (whether a date with a new person you met while online dating or your wife of many years)? How can you encourage your woman partner to relax, soften, and receive without saying a word? You've probably heard us talking about polarity before -- here, we start at the beginning and discuss what it is, isn't, and everything in between. Polarity is heat, fire, attraction, and magnetism, and it's something you can consciously learn how to work with. Let's do this.

Hello My Loves! We're back with a brand new season and to start us off, I'm discussing Pleasure with Relationship and Intimacy Expert, Violet Lange. Violet is a devoted mama, ice cream afficionado, and expert in dating, intimacy, and relationships. She helps successful, spiritual women attract and create healthy, lasting love. As a survivor of sexual abuse, she champions women connecting with their bodies, sensuality, and pleasure. Today, I'm sitting down with Violet to discuss her unique approach to coaching and its significance, How she defines Pleasure and Why it's Important in Dating and Relationships, Aligning Your Head, Heart, and Body, Yoni Eggs, and So Much More! I'm so excited to be back and spilling juicy tea, as always! Are you ready to discover The Pleasure Principle?Are your Head, Heart, and Body disconnected? Are you experiencing pleasure on a regular basis? Do you only associate pleasure with sexual intimacy? If so, this episode is for you. Reach out!Violet LangeWebsite: VioletLange.com | Podcast: The Pleasure PathSchedule a Session: VioletLange.com/Talk | Get Your Guy CoachingEmail: anwar@getyourguycoaching.com |  Facebook: Get Your Guy Coaching | Instagram: @getyourguy_coaching | Book a Consultation: Getyourguycoaching.com/apply | 

We decided to bring our relationship coach, Violet Lange, for a behind-the-scenes analysis of the dates that have happened so far. Violet also gives guidance on how to address issues such as dealing with awkwardness in dates, balancing fun and deeper topics, setting boundaries, and more!

After 8 episodes, we take some time to review 10 lessons that we've learned so far from our relationship coach, Violet Lange!

Many couples start out hot and heavy when it comes to sex, only to see that sexual heat fade. One of the sources of this can be unresolved sexual trauma in one or both partners ... which can be hard to talk about. How do you bring up your own need for a dynamic and fulfilling sex life when she clearly doesn't want to talk about it? Here, we look at the dynamic when your wife or girlfriend is a survivor of sexual trauma (child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault), how it affects your sex life, and what to do about it. If you're a man looking to figure out how to both support your woman in her sexual healing work, and how to speak up about your own need for a thriving sex life (which trauma is getting in the way of), you won't want to miss this. Books referenced in this episode: Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma , by Peter Levine & Ann Frederick In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness , by Peter Levine & Gabor Mate

This is a mini-series about an MBA Bachelor going on a number of blind dates to find love. In this episode, we meet Alex, our MBA Bachelor, whom we selected from 70+ nominations across top business schools. He tells us how dating in business school is signing up to always be someone's plan B C D and how he's ready for something more serious and intentional.Later in this season, Alex will go on blind dates with three anonymous contestants handpicked by the Candr team. If he finds a final suitor, both he and his match will have the opportunity to reveal themselves. Through a candid conversation with relationship coach and Harvard MBA, Violet Lange, Alex draws in the listeners with his views on vulnerability, intentional dating, personal growth, and attachment style.  

What does the journey of reclaiming and restoring our organic sexual embodiment and nature involve when healing from childhood sexual abuse?  There are as many paths as there are sacred journeys to healing.  Today, we have the privilege of listening to one such journey, as Violet Lange shares her experiences, both as a survivor of sexual abuse, as well as a guide and coach for women to live a life of pleasure, attuned and in alignment with their embodied feminine nature.  

Women want to feel fully emotionally expressed around men, but where's the line between expression and abuse? Here, we take on the issue of women sharing their truth with full power (whether that's their rage, disappointment, desire, or hurt) -- when it's healthy expression, and when it's abusive. Whether you're in a committed relationship like a marriage, a dating relationship, or a sexual one, this is important to know to be a healthy, aware, and conscious man.

If you've ever wished your partner would open up more or grow in a certain area (i.e. sexual openness or emotional intimacy), you're not alone. Where's the line between wanting someone to "change" vs. to grow, and how long should you "wait" if your partner isn't showing up in the way you need them to? Here we get real about what to do if you don't feel she's doing the work, whether in sex, dating, or a relationship context like marriage.

The number one indicator of whether a marriage will succeed or fail is not about the quality of the match or anything else you might predict; it's whether each person has individuated from their family of origin. In other words, when it comes to sex, dating, and relationships -- especially long-term relationships like marriages -- your ability to set boundaries with your family is absolutely mission-critical.

Ever been in a relationship where little things set your partner off? Ever gotten the silent treatment (or had sex withheld from you) because you did something "wrong", even though it was hard to figure out what the "rules" were from day to day? Ever spent a lot of energy trying to please your partner and apologizing just to keep the peace ... even though it wasn't really logical that you'd have to apologize for what happened? You might have been relating with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. This is a must-listen episode for anyone who can relate.

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Men aren't the only ones who struggle with dating, relationships, and sex. Women of all ages, including those just out of a divorce, have insecurities around sex, dating, and relationships, including around trust, dating etiquette, and more. We discuss what it means for women to do the work in terms of personal growth as well as growth in a relationship, and how when women bring sexy back (to themselves), they grow in their own personal power, which deeply serves the masculine, as well.

Sex, dating, and relationships (including marriages) have all been affected by the coronavirus pandemic of COVID-19. There are unique challenges as well as opportunities to grow here, and people are definitely still meeting, dating, falling in love, and deepening their relationships right now. We discuss dating during COVID (How do you meet people? When you go on a date, do you Zoom first or just do in-person with a mask?), as well as how it has impacted people who were in relationships when the pandemic first hit.

Today on the podcast we sit down with love, dating and relationship expert, Violet Lange. Violet's mission is to help women become empowered in love,  feel amazing in their bodies, and reclaim their feminine essence. She teaches women how to attract and maintain incredible partnerships through her signature program: Queens of Pleasure. Violet teaches that we have the power to build healthy romance, healthy families, and a healthy world. She does this through integrating the masculine and feminine energy within all of us and our partnerships. She has her MBA from Harvard University, is a  500-hour registered yoga teacher, and has been coaching women for the last 7 years. Today you will get to hear Violet share her own story and why her life experiences led her to the work she now does. To learn more about Violet you can visit: https://violetlange.com and follow her on instagram @violetlovelange Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Courageous Wellness! We release new episodes each #WellnessWednesday! You can also follow us on instagram @CourageousWellness and visit our website: www.courageouswellness.net to get in touch. This episode is brought to you by Ned! You can receive 15% off our favorite Ned CBD products . They even offer an entirely female created line for periods called Natural cycles. Go to helloned.com and enter the code CWPODCAST at checkout!   We are so happy to offer our listeners 10% off on all Four Sigmatic superfood coffee and elixirs! For 10% off Four Sigmatic products visit www.foursigmatic.com and use the code: courageous at checkout!

Violet Lange is a love, dating, and relationship mentor who helps spiritual, successful women date like a Queen and feel Fabulously Feminine along the way. Violet has her MBA from Harvard, training from Coach Training Alliance, and is a 500 hour registered yoga teacher and Reiki Master. She is passionate about empowered dating, and lasting loving relationships as building blocks of a healthy society and fulfilling life. Violet recently became a mama to a spunky, sweet daughter named Ruby. 1:42 – Violet’s background 5:19 – How she helps women find fulfilling relationships 7:31 – Using feelings as a barometer of relationship success 10:24 – Helping women connect with their desires 12:42 – How long does it take? 15:09 – Being okay with being single 16:28 – Disproving the myth of “Men aren’t interested in women my age” 19:29 – Disproving the myth of “There are no good men out there” 20:54 – Recommended dating apps 22:51 – Tips for using dating apps 24:05 – Continuing exploring “There are no good men out there” 27:05 – Disproving the myth of “I have too much baggage” 29:33 – Sexuality over 50 Find Violet at: VioletLange.com/Talk As well as Facebook: www.facebook.com/groups/FreeYourFeminine/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/VioletLoveLange Don’t forget to grab your copy of the Amazon bestseller unHidden: A Book For Men and Those Confused by Them. It’s your easy-to-understand at-home guide to Robert’s living unHidden Framework. Get your copy today by visiting www.robertkandell.com/order OR, grab your free audio section of the book if you want to take it for a spin before you buy. And we promise this is NOT like movie trailers where they grab all the best pieces. Unhidden is pure relationship gold https://robertkandell.com/freeaudio Get More of Robert at: www.RobertKandell.com As well as: www.youtube.com/channel/UCA4BLzufNXxgKGUsLVDTnlQ Follows us at: www.facebook.com/robert.kandell www.instagram.com/robert.kandell/ Join the living unhidden Facebook group www.facebook.com/groups/unhidden/

Violet Lange is a love, dating, and relationship mentor who helps spiritual, successful women date like a Queen and feel Fabulously Feminine along the way. Violet has her MBA from Harvard, training from Coach Training Alliance, and is a 500 hour registered yoga teacher and Reiki Master. She is passionate about empowered dating, and lasting […]

On today's episode of the show, we head into part III of our mini-series on sex,love,dating, relationships, and everything in between!The week before this interview happened, I went on my Instagram stories and asked YOU what you wanted to learn from our experts.Some of the things we get into in this episode:Self-pleasure, self-pleasure rituals, and being intentional If we should be ashamed of the kinkier "taboo" things we might likeHow to keep the flame burning in a long-term relationship How to keep the sex frequent (and spicy) in a long-term relationship...and so much more!As mentioned in the show, I want to give another shoutout to our episode's sponsor, Bliss Yoni Eggs. I am so excited to be able to partner up with them and offer you 5% off of your purchase with the coupon "CANTWAIT" which you can apply at checkout! Check out the link below to head to their site!https://blissyonieggs.comFor more with Dawn, you can check out her solo episode, Episode 94, and head to her Instagram or website below at:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-cant-wait-to-tell-you/id1416218499?i=1000485598761https://www.instagram.com/joyfullbody/https://joyfullbody.comFor more with Violet, you can check out her solo episode, Episode 95 below, as well as check out her Instagram and website! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-cant-wait-to-tell-you/id1416218499?i=1000485598761https://www.instagram.com/violetlovelange/https://violetlange.comSome other toys and tools mentioned in this episode: The rabbit (vibrator), a cervical wand, and moonstone dildos.As always, you can follow alone with me and the show on Instagram as well, at:https://www.instagram.com/casey_edward/https://www.instagram.com/icantwaittotellyou.podcast/Thank you so much for tuning in!

On Part II of the show's Mini Series on Sex, Love, Dating, and everything in between, I had the pleasure of speaking to Violet Lange, a mentor and Coach who specializes in helping women create fulfilling and lasting relationships.In this episode, we dive into:-The physical, emotional, and practical legs of dating-Navigating dating and dating apps-How to set boundaries and why that is so important-How your partner is simply the icing on your already fabulous cake and tending your own garden-Moving sexual energy through each of the chakras-Feminine energy and creating without effort ...and SO much more!To follow along or to work with Violet, you can head to the links below!http://www.violetlange.com/talkhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/FreeYourFeminine/https://www.instagram.com/violetlovelange/https://violetlange.com/embodying-divine-union/Thank you so much to Violet for coming on the show!To follow along with me and the show on Instagram, you can head to:https://www.instagram.com/casey_edward/https://www.instagram.com/icantwaittotellyou.podcast/As always, thank you so much for tuning in! Please leave a review and comment on iTunes if this show is providing value to you, as it is super helpful for me! I appreciate the support!

Violet Lange helps women to find their power through following their pleasure, and to date like a Queen and feel fabulous along the way. She loves to activate and empower the divine feminine and help women embody their sacred sexuality. Violet begins with her journey of awakening through the Dao, Jade Egg and Medicine Journeys. She's been using different crystals for the yoni eggs based on the chakras, and share about safety. Please don't use toxic yoni eggs such as Lapis Lazuli! We talk about the many benefits, from physical pelvic floor health to supporting healing through sexual trauma. 

Interested in Dating Like a Queen? Learn some tidbits on how to Magnitize your King and live in Devotion! Whats the difference between Sacred Sex and a Fuck? Surprise, it can be both at once! Also, does my f*ed up fantasy make me a pervert? No, but it can illuminate some things in the subconscious kind of like archetypal or dream interpretation. She gives an example of diving into the feminine to invite adoration of the masculine. Amazingly, sex after pregnancy can be better than ever and we discuss some reasons. Lastly we talk about how pleasure is empowering! How can you bring more pleasure into your practice as a way to tune into the body's true desires and know what it is you actually want. 

How can you tell that your life is really your life? And not just a life of false service? How can following your pleasure allow you to speak your truth?
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I interview Violet Lange about her work coaching women and her experience with psychedelics. Violet has her own podcast called The Pleasure Path and you can find her online at violetlange.com.

On this week's episode, we discuss dating during the Coronavirus, masculine and feminine energy, and learning life's lessons the first time around instead of repeating them over and over again. "(If) the masculine is the frame, then the feminine is the artwork within"- Violet Lange. Violet believes that dating during the Coronavirus is an opportunity for us to get real and give us the permission to ask deep, authentic conversations! Violet believes that there are three elements to a relationship: emotional, physical, and practical. If you're needing extra support through this unprecedented time, join us for a live Zoom call every Wednesday night at 7 pm MST! Just click here to sign up absolutely free! If Violet's message resonated with you today, please reach out to her at violetlange.com and on Instagram @violetlovelange or on Facebook now!

This week Michelle connects with Violet Lange--a love, dating, and relationship mentor. Whether you are dating or currently in a relationship, this episode provides inspiration and advice for staying authentic, honoring your cycles, and bringing the passion to your romantic relationships. More info on the Subtle Online Course: http://bit.ly/38hEWMJ Connect with Michelle: mischeyelle@gmail.com Website: www.blisstonicyoga.com About Violet Lange: Violet is a love, dating, and relationship mentor who helps spiritual, successful women date like a Queen, attract their King, and feel fabulous along the way. Violet has her MBA from Harvard, training from Coach Training Alliance, and is a 500 hour registered yoga teacher and Reiki Master. She is passionate about empowered dating, lasting relationships, and healthy families as building blocks of a high-functioning society and an incredibly fulfilling life. Violet recently became a mama to a spunky, sweet daughter named Ruby. You can learn more at www.violetlange.com https://violetlange.com/talk for a free love strategy session Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/FreeYourFeminine/ Instagram: @violetlovelange Podcast: Violet Lange's Pleasure Path

Guest Bio:Violet went from struggling with dating -- being ghosted, breadcrumbed, left after a few weeks or months, dating down / settling, being in her masculine energy, attracting narcissists, going through a divorce, trying all the apps and failing, being too shy to flirt -- to attracting the man of her dreams and building an incredible life with him, including getting engaged in only 8 months after they met and now being pregnant with a beautiful baby girl.Violet has inspired thousands of women with her incredible transformation and has made it her life's mission to guide women on how to become the woman you've always wanted to be in love, and will help you to attract a partner who adores you and treats you like a queen. If you're ready to find a love that gets better every day and to embody your most deeply powerful self, then you've come to the right place.Violet is dedicated to providing the best knowledge and services in creating fulfilling, lasting relationships. Violet is not a matchmaker — She is a mentor. She empowers you with the tools you need to find and keep a fantastic relationship for the rest of your life.

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Violet Lange is a love/sex/relationship coach who is absolutely killing it in her coaching business. Four months ago she was stuck in low-ticket, content-marketing hell. Listen here to learn how she broke free and did more in 10 weeks than she had all year! In this episode we talk about: ● Violet is an Executive Coach with an MBA from Harvard and was financially struggling before she embarked on the COD program. She was doing all the work but the clients weren’t showing up. ● She was originally drawn to COD by the integrity of the program and knew she needed to take a different route than what she was previously offering as a program. ● Violet knew her program could empower and provide service to many people through her own experiences and extensive knowledge of the dating world. ● The difference between coaching mode and selling mode was an important skill for Violet to learn and structure her program. ● A mindset shift was one of the biggest factors that changed Violet to believing what she could offer for a high-ticket price. ● Violet has enrolled 16 people and has even upped her rates. When you are talking about something as powerful as finding the love of your life, that is one of the biggest investments and decisions one can make. ● Due to how hands-on she is with her clients and the freedom of time she has to work with them, they find their results quicker. ● Her website traffic alone went up from 3 leads a year to 20 leads a week. ● The community and network of the program provided a feeling of support.   Mentioned in This Episode: Clients on Demand Russ Ruffino Violet Lange

The Jade Egg Episode is finally here! Without a doubt since baring my soul and sharing my experience reawakening my connection to my body in the first episode of Ripen, the question I have been asked the most  is, "What's the deal with that Jade Egg thing you talked about?!?!" The Jade Egg is a small, egg shaped stone you can use for what are essentially, at the most basic level, more elaborate and effective Kegel exercises that can reawaken loads of sensation in your vagina (hello more interest in and enjoyment of sex!). Sounds crazy, I know, but the Egg has truly been a major healing tool for me, and I'm excited to share more about it with you. To that end, I've brought in the lovely Violet Lange of The Pleasure Path to talk about all things Jade Egg!     Listen in as Violet and I jam on… +  How to get started and the benefits of working with a Jade Egg +  The two ways to approach using your Egg - As Violet describes them, the "Brushing Your Teeth Mode" (for the busy gal) and the "Intentional Practice Mode" (for bigger benefits) +  How to inserting the Egg and the powerful practice of checking in with your vagina before penetrating her +  Using the Jade Egg for restoring vaginal sensation and healing - from sexual trauma, from residual shame from a sex negative upbringing, or even from simply not treating your vagina with TLC over your sexual lifetime    Violet and I both share a lot about our personal experiences with using the Egg and our healing journeys. I hope this helps you feel normal (YOU ARE!) and inspires you to get started working with the Jade Egg. I'm planning a Q&A on all things Jade Egg - if this episode brings up questions for you please submit them to rachel@rachelsizemore.com and I'll answer them (anonymously!)  on an upcoming episode.   For more information on this episode: www.rachelsizemore.com/episode8   ABOUT VIOLET LANGE Violet Lange is the founder of The Pleasure Path. She loves to help women find pleasure even after pain, trauma, or heartbreak. If you're looking to add more passion to your relationship or create lasting love, request to join her free Facebook group, The Art of Passionate Intimacy. If you're interested in the healing, pleasure, and power of Jade Eggs, you won't want to miss the Jade Egg Summit -- click here to get alerted to details and to receive your free Jade Egg Basic Guide. Violet recommends only these eggs.   LOVE AND FEEDBACK Thank you so much for being a part of the Ripen community. If you're a fan of the show, I'd love to have your feedback. Please head over to iTunes to leave a review and rating. Don't forget to subscribe while you're there!   For more information on this episode: www.rachelsizemore.com/episode8

Maintaining the sexual passion in a long-term relationship is one of the more important and most challenging parts of the equation. We break down the barriers to hot sex for men and women and how to remove them, so the sparks keep flying.

Whether dating or in a relationship, if a man and woman are having sex, both are affected if she can't get wet (natural lubrication). If you've ever been with someone struggling with vaginal dryness or other ladyparts issues, listen to this! We delve into the jade egg, vaginal steaming,

Men and women, or male- and female-bodied people, experience attraction based on difference, or polarity. Here's how to use polarity to your advantage in sex, dating, relationships, and more.

How does a man being in his power affect his woman? Whether in sex, dating, or relationships, the way WE show up affects how the OTHER person shows up -- whether it's a man impacting his woman, or vice versa. This is a cool exploration of how Jason and Violet's relationship unfolded, the obstacles they navigated together, and a description of the resilience of their love.

Want to have (and maintain) hot sex in relationships? You need to know about polarity. Violet Lange, sexuality mentor for women, joins us as we discuss the masculine, feminine, and beyond.