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Are you struggling with Nice Guy Syndrome? Always putting others first, avoiding conflict, and trying to please everyone, yet still feeling stuck in love, relationships, or your career? In this episode, I'm joined by Jason Lange, men's embodiment coach and certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach, to explore the dark side of being the so-called “nice guy.” We dive into why being kind isn't the problem, but rather the hidden patterns of people-pleasing, neglecting your own needs, and suppressing your true desires. If you've ever thought, “I'm doing everything right, so why am I still not getting the results I want in love and life?” this conversation will give you the clarity and tools you need to stop living on autopilot and start showing up with real power, presence, and connection.

When things are bad, are you good at asking for support?More than once, we've had clients disappear for a bit, and upon reappearing say things like, "Sorry, I just had one of the worst weeks of my life last week."And we wonder: Why, during some of your darker times, are you not reaching out for love?Here we break down the reasons why this pattern exists. Why is it so hard for men in particular to ask for help? What helps shift a man from this kind of pattern into a healthier one of interdependence?And how does all of this show up in a marriage, love relationship, or even in dating? Because make no mistake -- it does.If you want to be successful with women, be the best husband you can be, or just feel more settled, grounded, and confident when it comes to dating or relating, check this out.Support the podcast and join The Heart of Shadow at melaniecurtin.com/heartofshadowWork with usReady to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I can help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“You don't know the love that you're missing.”“I don't want to share this because it could be ammo for attack.”“Men don't want to be a burden, and ‘put their feelings on someone else.'”“I've been there — men hold it all inside.”“I gotta go back to that stoic man who doesn't need other people.”“We don't trust society. We don't trust culture.”“So much of the wounding men carry come from peer relationships when they were young.”“When one man brings forth the truth or vulnerability, it inspires the other men.”“Every time a man disrupts this kind of culture, you're lighting the way for another man.”“When we collapse and don't reach out, there's something in the background: This belief that there's not enough. Not enough money, not enough money, not enough women.”“Is my wife gonna still love me tomorrow?”“What is masculinity? That's the debate we're having right now as a culture.”“It just leaps out of our hearts.”“It's moving from ‘I am alone' to ‘I belong.'”“By joining the group, you actually become more yourself.”“The shared value is: We want to grow.”“As I was running myself ragged, I was running my wife ragged.”“I'm just going to be here with you in it.”

Send us a textJason is a men's embodiment coach, group facilitator, and evolutionary guide. He helps men drop in and wake up to deeper clarity in their life's purpose and relationships. He believes every man should be in a men's group for the growth and support opportunities they provide.Jason is a certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach, and has trained and studied with leaders such as John Wineland, Dr. Robert Glover, Jun Po Roshi, Tripp Lanier, and Ken Wilber.https://evolutionary.men/https://evolutionary.men/talkWe are forming a NEW GROUP!  Join the current group to stay up to date on the move and to get your personal invitation to join!Contact US:  Rumble/ YouTube/ IG: @powerofmanpodcastEmail: powerofmanpodcast@gmail.com.Twitter: @rorypaquetteLooking for Like-Minded Fathers and Husbands? Join our Brotherhood!"Power of Man Within" , in Facebook Groups:https://www.facebook.com/groups/490821906341560/?ref=share_group_linkFree Coaching Consultation call whenever you are ready... Message me!Believe it!

“I knew it was something I wanted to be in because I thought it'd get me chicks.”So begins Jason in describing his journey around learning to be "in his masculine" and "in his feminine." These are terms related to polarity that get thrown around a lot, and we wanted to break down what we're referring to in more depth.What does it mean to be dominating versus assertive? Is it ever helpful to be passive? How does healthy polarity impact a marriage -- and especially one's sex life? Can you re-polarize a love relationship that feels "off" or isn't working in some way (sexually or otherwise)? Where does being in the masculine intersect with trust?Listen to find out.Come to the Retreat!Want to go deeper than the podcast? Join us LIVE for our yearly, in-person retreat. As of this episode dropping, we've got 3 slots left. We'll be in NorCal this Labor Day weekend, Aug 28th - Sept 1st, 2025. To sign up or learn more, go here. www.evolutionary.men/retreat---Work with usReady to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I can help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“I like to think I'm super ‘in my masculine' but a lot of times I'm just in my head.”“I was waiting, which meant she was being put in the lead.”“The friction points in my marriage are when she has to track something (and doesn't feel like I'm tracking it).”“A lot of us Nice Guys shy away from this because we don't want to be dominating.”“I have to read her body, but I also have to direct.”“This is masterful; I'm just going to let go completely for the ride.”“The willingness to get it wrong is part of what makes it meaningful.”“Good leadership always involves listening.”“I literally just needed to do the thing I wanted to do.”---Mentioned on this episode:DM episode 181: What exactly is polarity? We break it down.DM episode 103: Reverse polarity can kill your sex life as a couple -- unless you do this.DM episode 277: Want to maximize polarity? Learn to do this well.

How connected do you feel to your heart? How about to your cock?One of the advantages we have as coaches for men is that we seen the patterns that frequently show up for different men. We've noted three specific archetypes in our work and here, we go over them. (If you've ever heard me reference the heart/cock matrix, that's part of this episode.)Why does this matter? In large part because most women I know who are attracted to men (myself included) have a deep yearning to relate romantically with men who embody one specific archetype that we discuss here. We cover all three types of men, their differences, their paths, and the one that a lot of women crave from the depths of their being.(And while the themes in this episode are framed in a heterosexual/straight dating and relationship context, I believe there's a universal human longing involved here.)Come to the Retreat!Want to go deeper than the podcast? Join us LIVE for our yearly, in-person retreat. As of this episode dropping, we've got 4 slots left. We'll be in Northern California this Labor Day weekend, Aug 28th - Sept 1st, 2025. To sign up or learn more, go here. www.evolutionary.men/retreatWork with usIf you're committed to breaking old patterns and transforming your sex & love life in a real and lasting way, we'd love to work with you. To see if there's a fit, book a call here. www.evolutionary.men/applyMemorable quotes from this episode:"A lot of men were raised by a dad who they didn't want to be like.""For the basic bro, there's a lot of 'go' energy -- a lot of action-taking; and a lot of 'I' energy (rather than 'we' energy).""These kinds of men will get laid, but they won't get her to commit to them.""If he hasn't gone to those depths within himself, I don't trust him to hold my depths as a woman.""Nice Guys -- one of their superpowers is helping people to feel safe.""Growing up, these guys are learning to prioritize others rather than themselves.""'I was waiting for her to give me a sign that it was OK to kiss her.'""It's allowing yourself to be seen when you don't have it all together.""For these men, it feels like, 'I'm giving and giving and giving, and never getting.'""He re-polarized his relationship, and it changed everything.""Nice Guys will often end up in a relationship because the woman took the initiative.""Who were you raised by?""What does it mean to love myself and grow?""Around anger I had thoughts like, 'Why bother? It won't do anything anyway.'""It's the ability to go to wherever we need to go in any given moment."

Jason LangeMen's Guide - Every Man Should Be in a Men's GroupI used to think I was just a mom—until unresolved trauma from my husband's childhood began to shake the foundation of our family. It nearly ended our marriage. The traditional paths didn't bring us the healing we needed, but through alternative therapies, deep personal work, and spiritual tools, we slowly found our way. What felt like everything falling apart was, in truth, my life coming together.That crisis became a catalyst for my own awakening. I turned inward, discovered the gifted healer within me, and began the long, sacred work of transformation. I got certified in multiple modalities of energy work, and intuitive practices, along with NLP and IFS—and I built a platform to help others access the same kind of healing.Today, I'm the founder of The Wholeness Network and creator of The Wholeness Library—an on-demand collection of teachings from global experts in emotional healing, spiritual development, and embodied wellness. From learning how to make a nourishing breakfast to activating your own healing hands, the Library is a toolkit for living more consciously and completely.I'd love to bring this conversation to your audience—because healing is possible, purpose is real, and wholeness is available to every one of us. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Have you ever felt trapped in a relationship, or like you knew something was off but didn't know what to do about it? Maybe you've had a vague awareness that you're somehow suffering (and so is she), but again, you didn't know how to even start to go about addressing it.A lot of people know the term "codependence" but aren't clear on what it actually means in a concrete way, or what to do about it if it does fit. For example, how do you know if you're codependent or your spouse is? Can one person "be" codependent while the other is not?Here we go right into what codependent dynamics are, and aren't -- and how to grow into independence and ultimately interdependence.In Jason's words of his own experience: "It was years of trying as hard as I could to make things better but never being good enough to matter how hard I tried." And, "That rescuer is filled with needing to be needed. That's where it began for me."If your love relationships have always confusing, unfulfilling, or just not quite right -- or if you've often felt like you were just taking care of your partner (she wasn't able to take care of herself), this will likely be helpful to you.The men we work long for MORE, and I also want to say direct: That's available. You don't have to stay stuck. Growth is always possible.Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode: “As long as my partner was approving of me, there was a sense of, ‘I'm OK.'”“There was a fear — if I'm not with her, I'll be alone.”“We're deeply entwined with each other where there's almost no agency or independence.”“While the relationship was ‘safe', we were both suffering deeply inside.”

When Jason was in his mid-20s, he was stuck. He numbed out with porn much of the time, had never had sex, and struggled with dating and love relationship.Even outside of dating, it felt like something was missing in his life ... like he just wasn't completely alive. He knew he wanted something different, but didn't know how to get there.Then he attended one of his first personal growth events -- a men's workshop. When the attention was place on him, within twenty minutes a mentor had him on the floor (in a good way).He got to a place during that workshop that he hadn't gotten to in three full years of talk therapy. It was transformative, uplifting, and revolutionary to his nervous system. He released energy that had been stuck within him for decades. In a way, it set him up for the life he actually wanted to lead.If you've ever wanted MORE, you're not alone. You don't have to stay stuck. You can have the breakthrough you've been waiting for.---Work with us!Want to go deeper than the podcast? We're ready to work with you! To see if there's a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. https://evolutionary.men/apply/---Come to the retreat!This year it's Thurs Aug 28th through Mon Sept 1st in Northern California (about 2 hours from SF). For more info, go to evolutionary.men/retreat. We'd love to see you there.

Have you got a history of partnering with women who are physically or emotionally unstable? Maybe they've got an insecure living situation (or chaotic/dangerous ex-partner). Perhaps they're financially challenged, or they've got serious issues with depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues.You may even have been with a partner who became so emotionally dependent on you that you became concerned that if you weren't there, she'd be in serious trouble -- might even hurt or kill herself. As Jason puts it, "If I remove myself from the situation, I don't know how my partner would survive."This episode is actually not about those women! ;) This episode is about the other side -- you.If you've wondered why you've repeated this pattern of attracting "projects," you've come to the right place. Here we break down what goes into the pattern of attracting women you feel you need to "save" or "rescue." We talk about the vulnerability involved in dating healthier women, as well as the immense payoff -- and how to get there.This episode will also resonate if you've ever felt burdened or resentful in your relationship -- like you're doing way more than your partner, and putting in more than you're getting back. We talk about the pain of feeling used ... and what to do about it.---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. If you're looking for high-quality relationship advice, we've got it.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“There's a type of security, safety, and polarity that comes from being the hero.”“If I'm doing stuff for you and you appreciate that, I get to feel good about myself.”“Just because you need some kind of help doesn't mean I have to rescue you.”“When we overextend, we attract partners who don't have a sense of boundaries.”“I know and trust she can handle herself.”“We are co-creating together, rather than one of us pulling the cart the whole time.” “When we're not getting energy back as men, resentment builds like crazy.”“If I'm not winning, are you still going to love me?”“Get on a growth path.”“Getting into good community with men is inoculating yourself against future projects.”“I don't want to do all the heavy lifting.”

In this episode of Coaching In Session, host Michael Rearden welcomes Jason Lange, a men's embodiment coach and facilitator, to explore the transformative power of men's groups in fostering mental health, emotional resilience, and personal growth.Jason discusses the historical isolation of men, the impact of societal expectations on masculinity, and why the "lone wolf" mentality is harmful to men's well-being. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, redefining failure, and finding purpose through community support.If you're a man seeking authentic connection, emotional growth, and deeper clarity in life, this episode is for you!Key Takeaways:✅ Men's groups provide crucial support for mental and emotional health.✅ Isolation has severe health consequences, comparable to smoking.✅ The "lone wolf" myth harms men's well-being and relationships.✅ Vulnerability is strength and fosters deeper connections.✅ Redefining failure as feedback empowers men to take risks.✅ Societal expectations pressure men to conform to outdated ideals.✅ Finding purpose requires introspection and community support.✅ Support and connection enhance resilience and productivity.Guest Links:

What does it mean to be a good parent?If part of your job is to provide stability, then it can seem like even if your love relationship isn't fulfilling, it's best to grit your teeth and get through it -- at least until the kids are out of the house.The truth is a lot more nuanced.Consider the following, for example:What are you role-modeling to your children if you stay in a relationship that's physically or emotionally barren? What are they learning from you and your partner about conflict and repair? About boundaries? About warmth and affection?Would you want them to someday be in the relationship you're in?One confusing constellation of this can be when you're great co-parents with your wife/partner, but, say, your sex life is dead. In other words you manage the household well together, but there's no passion. Another is when you have a difficult spouse/partner and feel concerned that if you're not around to protect the kids from her, issues will arise.Here we delve into unhealthy (and healthy) relationship dynamics, whether "making it work" is a real thing, and what you impart to your kids daily, without saying a word.Growing almost always requires discomfort, but here's the good news: When you choose to lean into growth, you're teaching your children the bravest lesson of all.Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. If you're looking for high-quality relationship advice, we've got it.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

We all know the "rules" have changed when it comes to dating and relationships. There are few absolute in terms of how to relate to a dating or relationship partner, which begs questions like:If not money, then what IS the modern man supposed to provide?If you're a man, it may be hard to grasp what a woman truly craves from you. There's good news on this front, though: We women still need you! In fact, many would say we need healthy, passionate, masculine men now more than ever. And there are two very specific things healthy, embodied women truly desire from men. Here we delve into those, and along the way touch on sexy time, how hot it is when a man has a strong backbone, and how to keep up with all the shifting dynamics going on when it comes to sex, love, and dating in the modern world. ---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. If you're looking for high-quality relationship advice, we've got it.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Mentioned on this episode:Dear Men episode 262: Are you lonely?Dear Men episode 215: Are you intimidated by her big emotions? Here's what to do.Dear Men episode 329: How do you stay grounded when she's upset or dysregulated?Dear Men episode 305: GuyTalk: Overcoming religious programmingDear men episode 327: Transforming shame into power---Memorable quotes from this episode: "How do I win in this?""Can you provide me steadiness in a turbulent world?""We men are being asked to show up more — with more complexity.""I just avoided conflict … deny, deflect, defend."“If we don't have a capacity to attune and be present with ourselves, we can't do it with a partner.""Emotional safety does not mean please and appease.""There's not a lot we as a couple can do about that until I've worked with my own shame.""Women, more than ever, want to be polarized!""Most people want to know their partner wants to f*** them!"

Let me know your thoughts on the show and what topic you would like me to discuss next.Many men struggle with outdated expectations of masculinity, creating disconnection from purpose, relationships, and self while carrying the weight of social norms that no longer serve them. Jason Lange joins us to explore how embracing men's work, uncovering shadow elements, and building supportive relationships can help men reclaim their vitality and purpose.• Shadow work involves making the unconscious conscious, bringing to awareness what might be running your life without your knowledge• The "man box" confines men to behaviors like never showing emotion, never asking for help, and always appearing tough• Studies show men who strongly identify with traditional masculine values are more likely to commit suicide• Loneliness and isolation are as harmful to health as smoking a pack and a half of cigarettes daily• The "fierce, loving masculine heart" offers a third path beyond macho jerk and passive nice guy• Integration of masculine and feminine energies creates wholeness regardless of gender• Community builds resilience—men need other men to model healthy masculinity• Many men push themselves with strategies and goals while ignoring their dysregulated nervous systems• Connection and rest often naturally lead to renewed motivation and energyJoin a men's group or find ways to build deeper connections with other men. Visit evolutionarymen.com to learn more about Jason's work and programs.How to reach Jason:Website: https://evolutionary.men/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evolutionarymensworkInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/evolutionarymen/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@evolutionarymenSupport the showThanks for listening to the Revolutionary Man Podcast. If you want more information about our programs, use the links below to check us out. It could be the step that changes your life. Want to be a guest on The Revolutionary Man Podcast? Send Alain Dumonceaux a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/revolutionarymanpodcast

Are you concerned about your lack of experience, whether that's sexually, in a dating context, or time in long-term relationships? Maybe you feel behind in some way, and hesitant or fearful about telling a woman about your level of experience.As Jason says, "For men in particular, it means something about you if you haven't had sex."If it took you a while to start dating, have sex, or get into a relationship (or if, perhaps, you're not there yet as of today), you're not alone!Here we talk through Jason's experience around pursuing ("The hope was a girl would tell me they liked me, and THEN I would feel comfortable to make the move."); dating without a lot of sexual experience (“I was terrified of what a partner would think.”); and journey around overcoming these patterns ("When you have the right system, growth can happen pretty fast!”)Listen on to feel more relaxed and empowered about your dating and relationship experience -- wherever you're starting from.---Memorable quotes from this episode:"All my somatic, unprocessed wounding would come forward.""There's this deep sense of being behind.""If you don't like me, I get hooked on you in a sense.""In my family, we were robots in the same house.""He had people on his team to cross this divide.""I kinda ended up with a partner that I don't really like.""Every man carries a few arrows in his heart.""Who even wants me? What is my value to society?""It was hard to throw myself into a career when I didn't know myself.""Opportunity comes from connection."---Mentioned on this episode:DM 196: The “invisible” relationship pattern that can affect everything (on childhood neglect)Book: Of Boys & men: Why the Modern Male is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do About It

Ep. 129 In this ground breaking episode—our first ever with a male guest—I sit down with Jason Lange, a men's embodiment coach, to explore what softness truly looks like in men today, and why so many struggle to access it. From healthy masculinity and emotional intelligence to boundaries and male intuition, this is a powerful conversation for anyone curious about the evolving role of masculinity in our world.Segments:Healthy Masculinity (00:00)The Power of Men's Groups (05:18)Embracing Softness (10:34)Energy Management & Boundaries (19:58)What the Feminine Craves from the Masculine (31:08)Understanding Male Intuition (38:08)Sensitive Men & Societal Perception (46:55)About Jason LangeJason is a men's embodiment coach, group facilitator, and evolutionary guide. He supports men in awakening to their deeper purpose and building more fulfilling relationships. Jason believes every man deserves the transformative power of a men's group—spaces of growth, challenge, and deep support.Book a Call with JasonJason's WebsiteViv's Socials⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedInWant to be a guest on Perspective with Viv?Send Viv a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/perspectivewithviv

When I ask my male friends, "Do you trust men?" most of them say, pretty unequivocally, "No."Why does this matter?A lot of our clients come to us because they want to improve their dynamics with women. Whether they're single and dating or partnered and seeking more sex, intimacy, closeness, or harmony with their woman, there's a lot of focus on women.So what does a man's relationship to men have to do with it? Why does it matter to know whether you trust men, if you're working on healthy relationships and sex with women?For one, as Jason puts it: "As a man, if you have never experienced healthy masculine energy on the outside, it is almost certain you will have a hard time trusting it inside yourself, too."And if you don't trust your own inner masculine, it will be very challenging for you to generate sexual polarity, set boundaries, or go after the things you want (including women and intimacy).The thing is, most men don't trust men because a lot of men aren't trust-able! Millions of boys and young men are bullied, for example. Whether by a parent, sibling, or classmate, a large percentage of men experience bullying as children, teenagers, or adults.As the medical director for the LA Department of Children and Family Services puts it, "A bully gains power in a relationship by reducing another's, and shows little regard for the consequences to a victim's health or well-being."Fortunately you can reclaim your relationship to the healthy masculine, and this will directly impact you having a healthy relationship with yourself as well as women in your life.Whether you're single looking for dating advice, married looking for relationship advice, or somewhere in between, this is a vital -- and often under-explored -- topic.---Quotes from this episode:"Many men have been the recipient of masculine dysregulation.""One of the big crises for men is lack of role models.""The patriarchy is extremely damaging to men.""It's a step a lot of guys want to skip.""The sense is on-guard vigilance.""All I have to do is be here.""Men can become my allies.""Masculinity is a transmission, and without witnessing the healthy, deep versions of it is essential.""The power of groups is healing peer relationships."---Mentioned on this episode:DM 114: Bullying, resilience, and relationships

What does it mean to be a good husband?Many men we work with were trained to take care of everyone else before themselves. They often feel burnt out, and like they don't get nearly as much back as they give.If you've ever felt like you've tried everything you can to make your woman happy, but this only results in both of you being miserable ... you might be able to relate.Or perhaps you've lived some version of, "No matter how hard I try to please her -- how much I do -- it's never enough."Here, we talk about why this is. If he's bending over backwards to do what he thinks she wants, why doesn't it work?The answer lies in part with polarity, in part with childhood trauma (because of course), and in part with the fallacies of being a lone wolf.Related questions we cover:What does it mean to be a provider in modern times? (Hint: It's got nothing to do with money)How does this pattern impact sexual polarity?If it's not about sacrifice, then what does it actually mean to be a good husband?---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good. If you're looking for high-quality relationship advice, we've got it.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“If we're used to taking care of everyone else, we'll often attract someone who needs to be taken care of.”“The trouble with ‘please and appease' is that it leads to deep resentments.”“We have this fantasy that if she were happy, she'd naturally give me what I need, whether sexual connection, support, time, etc.”“When we feel a partner not respecting themselves, it causes contempt or disdain.”“What it means to be a provider is changing.”“The most valuable status is connection to community.”“Our relationships should be a source of wellness.”---Mentioned on this episode:Dear Men 196: Were you a child of emotional neglect?Dear Men 345: The 4 male "types" who partner with Borderline women (Borderline Personality Disorder)Dear Men 292: Sex life with your wife not where you want it to be? This could be the culprit

Does a part of you ever feel like just giving up? It's too much, it's too heavy, it's too complicated, it's too hard. Or has it ever felt like, "What's the point?"The truth is, we all have points in our lives when we feel overwhelmed. This can also show up in the, "Here I am again… I'm in the SAME SPOT. I always circle back to this.'"If you're single, perhaps it's: "Nothing's working in dating." If you're partnered, it could be: "I'm trying and trying, but nothing's working to get us reconnected."Or as Jason says, "In my relationship, it would be anytime that I would get activated into feeling like I'm not enough."Here we go into what's happening on a physiological level when this part is showing up for you -- the two poles. These are dorsal shutdown — disassociation/sleepy/collapsed/yawning; and sympathetic overdrive — hyper/activated/manic/wired/anger.We talk about how to recognize these states, and what to do it when you do. Hint: "Connection and movement are two of the most important things. And sometimes to shift our mindset, we have to shift our body first."---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:"Our whole system just shuts down, and we're frozen or disassociated."“What's the point of trying? What's the point of getting angry? What's the point of connecting with someone online? It's not going to change.”"It's a deep place of suffering when we don't feel like we have agency over our own life.""Rumination — our mind is racing but our body isn't moving.""The optimal place is in the middle: We're engaged, and we're relaxed.""One of the ways we get back to that relaxed state is through social connection.""One breath, one step."“If we can be with it, we can be free from it.”---Mentioned on this episode:Dear Men 196: Were you a child of emotional neglect?

From cultural confusion to political shifts, men today are caught in the crossfire of conflicting expectations. Are they supposed to be strong and assertive or soft and sensitive? Should they embrace traditional masculinity or rewrite the script entirely? And why are so many turning to right wing politics for answers? In this provocative first episode of The Integral Edge, Keith Martin-Smith sits down with Jason Lange and Raymond Fismer to break down what's really happening to men in the modern world. They explore why so many are feeling lost, how social, cultural, and economic changes have reshaped masculinity, and what a truly evolved man looks like in today's world.

"You'll never know unless you try." Jason Lange wants every man to get emotional. In his work as a men's embodiment coach, Jason teaches men how to invite their suppressed emotions to the surface and moving toward a more embodied way of living. This conversation goes beyond men, however. As human beings, we can learn to navigate spaces to create a greater sense of safety for ourselves and others. We simply have to give it a try. Links + Resources from this episode: JasonLange.me Embodiment.men/talk Learn more about Restorative Grief Become a Patron

"Porn was the #1 relationship I had in terms of intimacy."So says Jason on his experience of sex, love, and closeness in his 20s. (Fortunately, after engaging in personal growth, including men's work, he's now married to a radiant goddess!)If you've ever struggled with your relationship to porn -- and if that has also impacted your relationship to sex and sexuality, you're far from alone. Countless clients of ours start out with a challenging dynamic with porn, and here's the truth: Porn use isn't really about porn. Weed use isn't really about weed, either.When it comes to using weed, porn & masturbation, and other substances like alcohol, as Luke puts it, "It's almost always covering up deeper material that men do not know how to handle."The good news? There are lots of ways to handle that material, safe spaces within which to process it, and a TON of energy, vitality, and joy on the other side. Remember: Personal growth works, so work it.---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“When I watch porn, I have the freedom to experience pleasure and the freedom to not experience rejection.”“Gimme the weed again because I don't want to feel the Shame Guy!”“We all do things to avoid feeling the thing that we don't want to feel.”“Emotion starts as sensation in the body.”“Most of what ails you can be significantly soothed by connection.”

Send us a textWelcome to another transformative episode of the Rewire Your Attachment Style podcast! In this episode, host Maya Diamond sits down with three exceptional guests—Zev Aaron, Jason Lange, and GS Youngblood. These accomplished men's coaches bring decades of experience working with men to help them deepen their purpose, strengthen their relationships, and lead more integrated lives.Meet the Guests-Jason Lange: A men's embodiment coach, group facilitator, and certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach. Jason is passionate about helping men gain clarity in their life's purpose and relationships. He believes that every man benefits from being part of a supportive men's group.Zev Aaron: With over 15 years of experience, Zev has coached executives and facilitated transformative workshops. His wisdom comes from mentoring with George Bertelstein, where he learned to embody vulnerability, strength, and love as a man.GS Youngblood: The acclaimed author of The Masculine in Relationship, GS teaches men how to embody the Masculine Blueprint—a model that fosters groundedness, leadership, and relational skills. Drawing from diverse disciplines, his work has inspired thousands of men to redefine their masculinity in a healthy, relational way.Episode Highlights1.⁠ ⁠The Intersection of Purpose and LoveHow does a man's career and financial success influence his romantic relationships?Insights into balancing the demands of career and the cultivation of one's romantic relationship.2.Societal Expectations and MasculinityExploring how cultural norms shape men's relationship with money, career, and worth.Breaking free from outdated “provider” roles and embracing a more integrated identity.3.⁠ ⁠Overcoming Challenges in RelationshipsPersonal stories from the guests about when finances or career created tension in their romantic lives—and the lessons learned.Tools for maintaining emotional intimacy while pursuing professional goals.4.⁠ ⁠Balancing Career and ParenthoodKey considerations men face when planning for a family, including timing, finances, and emotional readiness.How men can prepare for this life transition while staying connected to their partner.5.⁠ ⁠Strategies for GrowthHow to redefine success in a way that supports both personal growth and relational presence.Practical tips for managing financial stress and detaching self-worth from career achievements.Why Listen?This episode is for men who strive to balance love, purpose, and career while navigating the societal pressures of modern masculinity. It's also a valuable listen for women who want to better understand and support the men in their lives.Resources Mentioned:•The book: The Masculine in Relationship by GS YoungbloodFollow the Guests:•Jason Lange: [evolutionary.men]•Zev Aaron: [ig: zev_aaron]•GS Youngblood: [gsyoungblood.com]Don't miss this deeply insightful conversation about what it means to live as an integrated masculine man in today's world.Subscribe & Share:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe to the podcast and share it with your friends or loved ones. Your support helps spread the message of growth, connection, and love.Support the show

Are you gettin' out onto the dating scene in 2025? Whether you're newly single, a refugee from the world of pickup, recently divorced, or you've been dating for a while now, there are a few myths we see as obsolete that we wanted to bust.Sex, dating, and relationships can be confusing territory, and there are a lot of dos and don'ts when it comes to dating in the modern world. This is especially true in a post-#MeToo culture, where a lot of men have deep-seated concerns around coming off as creepy.If you've ever wondered whether it's "right" to text her right away (will you come off as thirsty if you text too soon?), whether you need to hide your nervousness (hint: you don't), or how to ask her out respectfully, listen on.If you're looking for pickup artist nonsense, you won't get it here. But if you're seeking attuned, loving dating advice for men from people who deeply care about men, women, and all human beings -- and staying openhearted -- then you're in the right spot.---Mentioned on this episode:Dear Men 138: GirlTalk: When to text her vs. call her!Dear Men 274: How do you make sure you're not coming across as creepy?Dear Men 296: What does it actually mean to step into your power?Dear Men 332: Ever gone into freeze? Here's what's actually going on---Memorable quotes from this episode:"I don't want to ever make anyone else feel uncomfortable, so I want them to initiate and drive.""There's a belief that I need to hide my attraction or first establish a friendly relationship.""It's another type of pressure men carry about a certain way they have to be in order to be seen as worthy.""Seven years into your marriage you're still going to have to share something that's scary."

January 6, 2025 marked two grim occasions: the four year anniversary of Donald Trump inciting his followers to take over the U.S. Capitol and the present-day Congress certifying Trump's 2.0's presidential election victory.This week, Katelyn, Christine, and special guest Meredith Shiner compare and contrast their experiences as congressional reporters on Capitol Hill. Meredith, a communications consultant and journalist, is the preeminent critic of the insurrection that aired live and what she calls the “polite coup”—the 147 Republicans who voted to overturn Joe Biden's 2020 presidential victory. Biden and the Democrats abdication of their responsibility to any timely or enduring accountability and the mainstream media's passivity, exacerbated by consolidation under their billionaire owners, are recurring topics. But the discussion does not get mired in cynicism. This episode's energy is what we all must hold on to heading into next week's second Trump inauguration, and whatever comes after.Links: Follow Meredith Shiner on Bluesky Meredith Shiner for The New Republic: The Capitol Riot Killed “Both Sides” Journalism Katelyn Burns for Rewire News Group: Lawmakers Who Survived Sexual Assault Demand Halt to Kavanaugh Hearings Follow HuffPost's Jennifer Bendery—a great Washingtion reporter—on Bluesky Alexander Mallin for ABC News: Where the Jan. 6 Capitol attack investigation stands, by the numbers: DOJ Chris Canipe and Jason Lange for Reuters: The Republicans who voted to overturn the election Ben Jacobs for The Guardian: 'This needs to stop': Guardian reporter Ben Jacobs' statement to court Claire Wang for NBC News: Behind the viral photo of Rep. Andy Kim cleaning up at midnight after riots Hyunsu Yim and Ju-min Park for Reuters: South Korean investigators question arrested President Yoon in insurrection probe Greg Owen for LGBTQ Nation: Trans & wildly popular “Oprah of China” suddenly blackballed by Chinese government Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

January 6, 2025 marked two grim occasions: the four year anniversary of Donald Trump inciting his followers to take over the U.S. Capitol and the present-day Congress certifying Trump's 2.0's presidential election victory. This week, Katelyn, Christine, and special guest Meredith Shiner compare and contrast their experiences as congressional reporters on Capitol Hill. Meredith, a communications consultant and journalist, is the preeminent critic of the insurrection that aired live and what she calls the “polite coup”—the 147 Republicans who voted to overturn Joe Biden's 2020 presidential victory. Biden and the Democrats abdication of their responsibility to any timely or enduring accountability and the mainstream media's passivity, exacerbated by consolidation under their billionaire owners, are recurring topics. But the discussion does not get mired in cynicism. This episode's energy is what we all must hold on to heading into next week's second Trump inauguration, and whatever comes after. Links: Follow Meredith Shiner on Bluesky Meredith Shiner for The New Republic: The Capitol Riot Killed “Both Sides” Journalism Katelyn Burns for Rewire News Group: Lawmakers Who Survived Sexual Assault Demand Halt to Kavanaugh Hearings Follow HuffPost's Jennifer Bendery—a great Washingtion reporter—on Bluesky Alexander Mallin for ABC News: Where the Jan. 6 Capitol attack investigation stands, by the numbers: DOJ Chris Canipe and Jason Lange for Reuters: The Republicans who voted to overturn the election Ben Jacobs for The Guardian: 'This needs to stop': Guardian reporter Ben Jacobs' statement to court Claire Wang for NBC News: Behind the viral photo of Rep. Andy Kim cleaning up at midnight after riots Hyunsu Yim and Ju-min Park for Reuters: South Korean investigators question arrested President Yoon in insurrection probe Greg Owen for LGBTQ Nation: Trans & wildly popular “Oprah of China” suddenly blackballed by Chinese government Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

According to PBS News, American men are experiencing what has been termed a "friendship recession." Currently, 20 percent of single men report that they do not have any close friends, and more than half of all men feel dissatisfied with the size of their friend groups.   Only 21 percent of men receive emotional support from friends on a weekly basis, compared to 41 percent of women. Among men under the age of 30, 15 percent claim they do not have a close friend, a significant increase from just 3 percent in 1990.   Jason Lange is a men's embodiment coach, group facilitator, and evolutionary guide. He helps men gain deeper clarity regarding their life purpose and relationships. Jason believes that every man should participate in a men's group due to the growth and support these groups provide. He is also a certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach and has trained with influential leaders such as John Wineland, Dr. Robert Glover, Jun Po Roshi, Tripp Lanier, and Ken Wilber.   Many men are currently struggling because the old paradigms of masculinity are no longer relevant or appropriate. Men's work offers a path to discover healthier ways of being in the world, enabling men to shed the outdated "lone wolf" mentality. I began my journey into men's work in my 20s after enduring years of loneliness, discomfort in my body, and difficulty establishing romantic relationships. Over the past 20 years, I have found that men's groups have had the most profound impact on improving my daily life. It has become my mission for every man to join a men's group so they can express themselves more healthily, cultivate meaningful intimate partnerships, and contribute positively to their families and communities.   For more information: https://evolutionary.men/

Ever felt intimidated when your woman was upset (about something that involved you)? Ever gotten defensive, stonewalled, or made her wrong -- "that's not what I meant, so you shouldn't feel that way"?You're not alone!And there's a high cost; this can be exhausting for you. Whether you're just dating or married, if you're at the mercy of her feelings, you likely feel out of control. You're only OK if she's OK. And you're not OK if she's not OK.The truth is, holding space for a woman's upset or hurt is one of the most profound ways you can love her. It also builds safety in a relationship in a way nothing else can.Learn to do this skillfully, and you will experience true freedom in relationship. Bonus? You knowing how to hold her full range of expression will als leads to very hot sex. ;) When she feels deeply accepted and held, even in her "big" feelings, she will often open to you like a gorgeous, radiant flower.

Jason is a men's embodiment coach, group facilitator, and evolutionary guide. He helps men drop in and wake up to deeper clarity in their life's purpose and relationships. He believes every man should be in a men's group for the growth and support opportunities they provide. Jason applies an integral framework to all his work, drawing on many disciplines and modalities to effectively serve. He has trained with the likes of John Wineland, Dr. Robert Glover, Tripp Lanier, Ken Wilber, and is a Stages International Certified Debriefer. His online program, Pillars of Presence, is a 16-week boot camp for men ready to transform their romantic relationships from the inside out that he co-leads with Melanie Curtin. He also leads twice a year Shadow work-based men's groups with Luke Adler in the Heart of Shadow program. Outside of men's work, Jason is also a filmmaker and is blessed to be married to his amazing wife, Violet, who coaches women on love and femininity, and father to his amazing daughter Ruby.   Find him here: https://evolutionary.men/about-jason-lange/ https://www.facebook.com/evolutionarymenswork https://www.instagram.com/evolutionarymen/ https://www.youtube.com/@evolutionarymen https://www.tiktok.com/@evolutionarymen

We've worked with a lot of men who consider themselves Nice Guys (a la Dr. Glover's famous book, No More Mr. Nice Guy).And we've witnessed certain patterns in terms of what leads to breakthroughs.Memorable quotes from this episode:“I want to be with you”“Now I don't have to hold that, ‘What if?'”“She liIkes me for emotional support, but she's not attracted to me.”“He really just owned it.”“This frozen place starts to thaw out and they just start moving more.”“The safety that comes from community.”“You don't have to get stuck in the purgatory that a lot of Nice Guys are in.”

Ever feel like you're being deliberately provoked by your woman? Or that she sometimes pushes and pushes until she gets a rise out of you -- often about what seem like tiny things? This pattern can be confusing until you understand the deeper reasons for it. And it's quite a common in dating and relationships, though we don't often discuss it explicitly. Related to polarity, the way Jason puts it is that "the poke is a call for presence and deeper feeling." It's not always the most mature or conscious way of relating. And the truth is, we as human beings don't always act in the most mature fashion. But if we can grasp the underlying vulnerabilities that drive us, then we often hit on wells of compassion that help us deepen and relax into love in ways we couldn't before.Remember: Personal growth works. It's not a straight line, but it's always worth it.---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:"I need to pause you right there.""It's meant to evoke, 'Where are you?' And ‘I'm having a hard time trusting your right now.'""This ties into a common masculine feeling of, 'I'm not enough.'""Sometimes there's a sense of, 'Oh, yeah, caught red-handed. I actually wasn't here.'""Acting out is another kind of poke."

Do you ever feel ashamed of your porn use, or wish you could stop or cut down? Ever had trouble getting it up and wondered if that's connected to porn use? Ever compared dating partners to women you see in porn, and wondered if that was negatively impacting your sex or love life?Over 10% of men are addicted to porn, according to a 2019 study in the Journal of Behavioral Addictions. (As of 2024, I suspect that number is even higher.) Porn has also been linked to to erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and delayed ejaculation in some cases.Here, we talk about why porn addiction has become so prevalent, and help to answer the questions: How do you know if you're addicted to porn, and how do you quit (if you want to)?Jason also delves into his own personal experience with porn addiction, how he overcame it, and what life and sexuality is like now (including with his partner).---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

Welcome to a profound conversation that hits close to home for many—"Men, Loneliness, and Social Isolation" with our special guest, Jason Lange!

When your partner gets anxious or upset, do you feel like it's your fault or that you have to fix it immediately? How able are you to stay grounded and feel your own self, even amidst her storm/upset?Ever found yourself doing anything to calm her down -- because your sense of being OK was contingent upon her feeling OK? (We find this common in the men with whom we work.Here, we talk about how to stay grounded even when she's going through it. We outline how to know what's actually going on for you in those moments, how to "interrupt" the sense of compulsion around fixing it, and what a deep offering it is to maintain your own, separate nervous system instead of merging with hers.As Jason says, now that he has become more skilled in this area, “I can be connected to her without being swallowed up by what's going on for her.”Whether it's in sex, dating, or a committed relationship, you will be more stable, reliable, and frankly sexy partner when you learn to master this.---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“When she would get dysregulated, I would get dysregulated."“Avoiding conflict often tends to create more conflict.” “If my partner isn't feeling well, it feels like it's my fault.” “Oh wow, her nervous system is not my nervous system.” “I'm here with it, whatever it is — and I'm being impacted.”“It's OK to be messy and imperfect.”

What are you most ashamed of? Is it your sexuality -- how much you want and need sex, or your deep-down cravings that you fear others would judge if they knew about? Is it your yearning for love, your desire to be held or seen or known in some fundamental way?Many of the biggest breakthroughs we've witnessed in clients have come when they've headed directly into shame, been witnessed with compassion, and come out the other side.It is almost inevitable that releasing shame builds power, which is often electrifyingly transformative. Shame around sex, relationship, love, need, weakness, neediness, and desire is normal. It's human. But it doesn't have to be paralyzing; in fact, it can be catalyzing.Here, Jason and Luke share personal stories of shame, and we outline the process of transforming shame into power.---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“If we don't feel strong or powerful or directive in our lives, we will feel the tinge of shame.”“I was terrified to be asked to do something that I didn't know how to do.”“What wants to be said to your ex-wife? What's incomplete there?”“Whatever you're not feeling is where all your vitality is stuck.”“I got to feel a boyish curiosity come back!”---Mentioned on this episode:DM 305 GuyTalk: Overcoming religious trauma

Ever been around a woman who was closed down, shut off, or emotionally unavailable? Ever felt like your partner wanted to say something but was holding back, and if you'd somehow shown up in a different way, maybe she'd have let you in?Perhaps you've felt some version of, "I can't handle that anger right now so I need to remove that anger from her." Or if your partner is upset with you, you've expressed something like, "You don't need to feel that way because here was my *intention* in doing that."Dating, sex, and relationships can feel like a huge mystery. Hell, women and feelings themselves can feel like a huge mystery! But there are certain principles that hold true, and grasping the nuances of polarity can help you navigate everything with more grace and clarity.Here, I share personal stories of feeling opened by a man (as well as times I've felt closed by one), and we outline what it takes to become the man who can open an available woman.—Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:"Instead of acknowledging what she was feeling and getting curious, it triggered my wounding around not being enough as a man, so I would try to explain to her why she was wrong.""Can I allow the person who hurt me to then be the person to hold me?""The deeper trust we form is, 'Oh, we can do this. We can move through conflict.'""This is one of the greatest gifts we can bring to another human being."

Joining us on The Rich Mind Podcast today is Jason Lange, a men's embodiment coach, discusses the importance of men's groups and the impact of generational trauma on men's emotional well-being. He shares his personal journey of discovering the need for emotional connection and the challenges men face in expressing their emotions. Lange emphasizes the significance of awareness and embodiment in understanding and regulating emotions. He also addresses the tendency for men to distract themselves from their emotions through addictive behaviors and the importance of breaking this cycle. Lange highlights the transformative power of men's groups in providing a safe space for men to explore their emotions and develop healthier ways of relating to themselves and others. In this conversation, Jason Lange discusses the importance of men's groups and the transformation that can occur through connection and community __________________ Takeaways Men's groups provide a safe space for men to explore their emotions and develop healthier ways of relating to themselves and others. Generational trauma and cultural conditioning impact men's emotional well-being and their ability to express and regulate their emotions. Awareness and embodiment are crucial in understanding and regulating emotions. Men often distract themselves from their emotions through addictive behaviors, and breaking this cycle is essential for personal growth. Developing emotional awareness and regulation can positively impact family dynamics and create a healthier environment for future generations. Men's groups provide a space for men to slow down, connect with each other, and become more present to their emotions and experiences. Men often experience anxiety about joining a group due to past experiences of competition and threats from other men ____________________ Connect with Jason and learn more about his work through the following links

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Has your woman ever been in her masculine, and you wished she was in her feminine? Here's something that doesn't work: "Hey, could you drop into your feminine already?" ;)So how do you polarize your woman well? Polarity is one of those mysteries in life like electricity: We don't fully grasp why it works, but we can harness its power to make our lives better.I love polarity work because it can make a concrete difference in sex, love, dating, and relationships. I've seen countless clients ditch old dating advice, learn about this, and then say, "Wow, this polarity thing really works on a date." Or, "Man, I wish I'd known about polarity sooner ... my marriage might have gone differently."The fact is, no one teaches us about dating and sexuality and HOW to connect well. Most men don't learn how to flirt with girls, how to polarize a partner, or even what polarity is. Yet it's a fundamental relationship dynamic that can help with everything.Here we lay out five practical ways to polarize a woman partner into her feminine, helping her to drop into her heart and soften. If you've ever wondered why certain evenings with your wife or girlfriend were magical, while others felt like pulling teeth, this may help.And if you're a man who has sex with women and you want to help your woman soften, receive more of your love, and relax into even deeper levels of trust, this one is for you.Quick note: We talk about this on the podcast and wanted to include it here: If you suspect your partner may have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) (i.e. nothing you do ever seems to make a difference with her), polarity work won't cut it.You may also want to listen to our episode on that subject: 128: Feel like you're walking on eggshells? Recognizing Borderline Personality Disorder.---

Have you ever been concerned about getting involved with a woman because you didn't want to hurt her feelings if it didn't work out?Ever felt like you shouldn't go deeper emotionally with a woman you were dating because you weren't sure you wanted to put a ring on it?Does it ever feel like all women want a long-term, committed relationship, so if you're not available for that, you're somehow doing something wrong?The fact is, sex, dating and relationships are complex. There are a lot of possibilities, and the best kind of relationships are the ones that feel good to both parties.Here, we explore how to date ethically, share what you're available for, and how to be aware of what's underneath your fear of upsetting a woman. We also outline the immense value of short- and medium-term relationships, and what some women really want when it comes to those.---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“There are a LOT of men who have so much care and concern, it causes them to not fully engage.”“I'm here for this; let's see what's here.”“You cannot be in relationship with someone and never hurt them.”“A successful relationship doesn't always mean life partnership.”“Experience is always more valuable than theory.”

If you've become aware that you experienced developmental trauma (and/or attachment wounding), you may wonder how to heal from it.Where do you go to move through stuck parts of yourself that are holding you back? How do you get things moving and release blocks so you can finally get what you want in sex, dating, and relationships?Jason was a self-proclaimed late bloomer Nice Guy with developmental trauma — he had sex for the first time at 26, and still had a lot to learn around dating. Plus, he was often numb and felt like life was sort of happening to him. He wanted more, but didn't know how to get there.Then he went to a men's work workshop where a mentor took just twenty minutes to get him to a place he hadn't touched in 3 full years of talk therapy.It was transformational.(And now he's married to a beautiful, self-aware, radiant woman with whom he has a thriving relationship.)Here's the story of how he got there — and how you can, tooEvolutionary Men RetreatReady to do the work live? Join us in Northern California for an epic time connecting with nature, making friends, and healing your bodymind. This sold out last year and the year before. As of this episode dropping, we've got 5 slots left.Labor Day weekend (last weekend of August), 2024.To sign up or learn more, go here.

Ever felt like when it comes to your relationship, you're constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop? Or that when you come home, you don't know what (or who) you're going to get? Or that every moment is, "Are they OK?" "Are they OK?" "Are they OK?"Reality check: It is not normal to be constantly on guard or anxious in your relationship. That kind of chronic anxiety is highly dysregulating -- and yet it's the "norm" for many of the men with whom we work. Whether they're in sexless marriages, struggle with overwhelming anxiety in dating, or yearn for more closeness with their partners, they're suffering. Are you?Here we discuss the difference between an unhealthy and healthy love relationship. A healthy love relationship is one in which the relationship GIVES you evergy, rather than draining it from you. Or as we put it, “It's not a healthy relationship if it requires you to abandon yourself over and over.”And: “Our relationship should co-regulate us, not dysregulate us.”---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“There's a sense, if I don't keep making my partner OK, they won't make it.”“We definitely see the toxic loyalty play out with Nice Guys.”“I've got to pay attention to survive here.”“Being with you in our dynamic is actually causing me self-harm. I'm hurting myself just being in relationship with you.”“Most importantly, I feel safe with you.”“Your relationship becomes a generator!”---Other episodes related to this one:Episode 106: What does it mean to 'do the work'?Episode 196: Are you a child of neglect?

"It felt kind of like a trap, but at the same time felt like a soothing warm blanket to feel safe and ruminate within.""The codependent relationship is filled with drama. There is blaming, a victim and the rescuer/protector. That rescuer is filled with needing to be needed. That's where it began for me.""It was years of trying as hard as I could to make things better but never being good enough to matter how hard I tried."The word "codependence" gets thrown around a lot, but it's not always clear what it means. How do you know if you're codependent? How do you know if your partner is codependent? Can one person be codependent while the other isn't?Here we delve into our own personal experiences of codependency, as well as the experiences of some of our clients. We aim to provide clarity on codependent dynamics and how to overcome them.In Jason's words, "Too many men stay in a place of perpetual suffering." If your love relationships have never felt quite right -- if they've always felt off, or you've felt like you were just taking care of your partner (she couldn't take care of herself), or you've never felt like you could get it right with your partner (nothing was ever enough), this will be relevant for you.A lot of the men we work with are aching for MORE, and I just want to say -- that's available. You don't have to stay stuck. Growth is always possible.Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode: “We're deeply entwined with each other where there's almost no agency or independence.”“While the relationship was ‘safe', we were both suffering deeply inside.”“As long as my partner was approving of me, there was a sense of, ‘I'm OK.'”“There was a fear — if I'm not with her, I'll be alone.”

Jason is a men's embodiment coach, group facilitator, and evolutionary guide. He helps men drop in and wake up to deeper clarity in their life's purpose and relationships. He believes every man should be in a men's group for the growth and support opportunities they provide.Jason is a certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach, and has trained and studied with leaders such as John Wineland, Dr. Robert Glover, Jun Po Roshi, Tripp Lanier, and Ken Wilber.Jason Lange's WebsiteFaceBook: https://m.facebook.com/evolutionarymenswork?wtsid=rdr_0Qp5TahByQdjHXGLuYouTube:https://youtube.com/@evolutionarymen?si=Zl_2nO_dx1QKYSvrIG:https://www.instagram.com/evolutionarymen?igsh=MWk0M3BqZjJyOXFxNA==website:https://evolutionary.men/talkBook a free exploratory call with Jason to talk about what's going on in your life and how men's work and coaching might support you.

Did you have a deeply present, emotionally aware father who took the time to attune to you and teach you how to be a trustworthy, integrated man?If so, you're in the minority. ;) Most of our clients had far-less-than-ideal role models when it came to the masculine -- which makes becoming a trustable adult man challenging.For example, do you feel equipped to lead hard conversations with your woman partner, and help the two of you navigate repair? Are you able to stand up for yourself in a deep, grounded way without getting defensive or shutting down? Did you ever see any of those things role-modeled in your family of origin?The fact is, we learn how to be in the world from our caregivers. If you were raised by people who were abusive, alcoholics, neglectful, or just not emotionally attuned to you, then there are gaps in your understanding of sex, dating, and relationships. Here we talk about how to fill those in -- and how to replace bad role models with good ones.If you're someone who wants to grow beyond how he was raised -- this one is for you.Themes from this episode:The impact of having an emotionally volatile dad vs. absent/passive dadIf you don't want to be "that guy" -- the angry guy, the shut-down guy, the guy who makes women uncomfortable -- how do you act instead?How do you reclaim your manhood if you grew up with women who badmouthed men? (i.e. "Don't be like your father")The power of men's work---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

Send us a Text Message.In this episode of Living the Dream with Curveball, we delve into the transformative journey of men seeking deeper clarity and purpose in their lives. Our special guest, Jason Lange, an embodiment coach, group facilitator, and evolutionary guide, shares his insights on the importance of men's support groups. He discusses his personal journey, the concept of the "man box," and the profound impact of men's groups on personal growth and relationships. Tune in to explore why all men should consider joining support groups and how it can lead to a more fulfilled and connected life.Please be sure to follow, rate, review, and share this episode to as many people as possible.www.evolutionary.men

Episode Show Notes Calling all men yearning for deeper connection, clarity, and purpose – brace yourselves for a mind-rattling voyage that will obliterate everything you thought you knew about navigating life's challenges. In this unfiltered dialogue, men's coach and podcaster Jason Lange unleashes a torrent of hard-hitting truths, pulling back the curtain on the deeply ingrained myths that have left countless men stranded on the treacherous island of isolation. Smashing the "Lone Wolf" Fallacy With unflinching candor, Jason deconstructs the toxic cultural conditioning that has brainwashed men into believing they must confront life's trials alone, stoically toughing it out in solitary confinement. Through deeply personal anecdotes and startling statistics, he exposes the profound toll this warped narrative takes – a silent epidemic of loneliness, disconnection, and a pervasive sense of emptiness gnawing at the masculine soul. But this isn't just a scathing critique of the status quo – it's a battle cry to reclaim the transformative power of authentic male connection. Jason maps out a refreshingly practical blueprint for cultivating a supportive tribe, one rooted in vulnerability, accountability, and an unwavering commitment to personal mastery. Forging Unbreakable Bonds of Brotherhood Here are just a few of the revelatory insights you'll gain from this paradigm-shattering discussion: The two pivotal questions every man must answer to build an unshakable core identity and lasting sense of purpose Counterintuitive yet potent tactics to dismantle the psychological barriers preventing true vulnerability between men How to forge bonds of brotherhood that transcend mere "activity buddies" or "drinking buddies" – creating a sacred space for growth, support, and mutual accountability Practical strategies to prioritize these life-giving connections amidst the relentless chaos of work, family responsibilities, and the incessant distractions of modern life Jason Lange's Guest Links: Website https://evolutionary.men/ FaceBook https://www.facebook.com/evolutionarymenswork Instagram https://www.instagram.com/evolutionarymen/ Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@evolutionarymen YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@evolutionarymen The Evolutionary Men Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/4jQr495pFaJk3E9YnkUK9l Kaizan for Men's Personal Development Are you striving for personal and professional growth? Join Kaizan, our new 6-week holistic coaching program for Men's Personal Development, designed to help you achieve your full potential. We're offering an exclusive 40% discount to the first 6 men who contact us or sign up—this is our lowest price ever and it won't be repeated. Gain insights, overcome barriers, and build the foundation for lasting success with personalized and group coaching. Invest in yourself today!  Https://www.thefallibleman.com/Kaizan Chapters Markers 00:00:00 Building Meaningful Connections and Overcoming Loneliness 00:02:26 Getting to Know Jason Lang 00:05:59 Fatherhood and Personal Insights 00:14:03 Childhood Imagination with Action Figures 00:18:38 Emphasis on Caring 00:19:35 The Journey of Personal Growth and Men's Group Formation 00:26:56 Rooted and Grounded Men 00:27:27 Challenges of the Lone Wolf Mentality 00:34:41 Overcoming Social Anxiety in Male Communion 00:37:03 Influence of Media on Male Connections 00:45:49 Isolation vs. Solitude 00:50:40 Value of Community and Group Connections 00:57:43 The Nature of Male Communication and Connection 01:06:12 Practical Steps to Foster Male Connections 01:08:13 Jason Lang's Continued Mission 01:09:42 The Importance of Connecting with Healthy Men

In today's evolving cultural landscape, simply being a "tough guy" who doesn't show weakness isn't enough. Both men and women are seeking partners who can lead powerfully while staying grounded in their humanity. But how do we get there? How do we balance masculine and feminine within, while bringing our best selves to our relationships? And how do we release what's holding us back on a physical and emotional level? In this episode of the True Love Knots Podcast, Maria is joined by men's coach Jason Lang. They will be talking about Jason's personal journey to intimacy and emotional connection, and his work helping men cultivate presence, polarity, shadow integration for healthy relationships, and much more! Standout Quotes: “Many of us men don't know how to do that because, historically, men have been rewarded for being disembodied.” “As a man, I have feminine energy, and as a woman, women have masculine energy. Part of what's been shifting in our culture is the great rebalancing of these energies.” “What's important is for there to be "juice" in a relationship. You have to play with those energies. It doesn't always have to be the same, but you can experiment and find the balance that works for both partners.” Key Takeaways: Evaluate your level of presence and embodiment. How "in your head" are you, and how can you better connect to your physical body and emotions? Consider where you may be disconnecting from your feminine side or energy. How can you better integrate both masculine and feminine? Ask yourself what unresolved emotions you may be holding in your physical body. Make a effort to prioritize self-care, relationships and emotional intimacy beyond just work and tasks. Episode Timeline: [00:00] Introducing Jason Lange [04:42] Exploring men's emotional expression and body connection [10:07] Personal development and relationship dynamics for men [15:20] Embodiment, polarity, and shadow work in men's relationships [21:12] Emotional healing and growth through energy work and retreats for men Learn more about Jason Lange on his socials: Website: https://www.jasonlange.me Learn more about Maria Romano and True Love Knots at: Website: https://trueloveknots.com Email: maria@trueloveknots.com Phone: +1 702-501-4150

In this conversation, Jason Lange talks about how to face your dragons and unleash your life force. He shares his journey of discovering men's work and its impact on his life. He discusses the challenges he faced in his relationships and the role his upbringing played in shaping his experiences. Connect with Jason Lange: https://evolutionary.men CONFESSIONS is now available: https://mirrortalkpodcast.com/confessions-book/ Thank you for joining me on this MIRROR TALK podcast journey. Kindly subscribe on any platform. Please do not forget to leave a review and rating. Let us stay connected: ⁠https://linktr.ee/mirrortalkpodcast⁠  More inspiring episodes and show notes here: ⁠https://mirrortalkpodcast.com/podcast-episodes/⁠⁠ Your opinions, thoughts, suggestions and comments matter to us. Share them here: ⁠https://mirrortalkpodcast.com/your-opinion-matters/⁠ Invest in us by becoming a Patreon. Please support us by subscribing to one or more of the offerings that we have available at ⁠http://patreon.com/MirrorTalk⁠  Every proceeds will improve the quality of our work and outreach. To serve you better.  Chapters 00:00 Unleashing the Power of Men's Work 05:27 The Impact of Upbringing on Relationships 09:46 The Strength in Asking for Help 13:19 Embracing Feedback for Growth 22:10 Embracing Feedback: There is No Failure, Only Feedback 26:50 Unleashing Life Force: Facing Our Dragons 30:35 The Benefits of Shadow Work: Vitality, Resilience, and Choice

Ep 307: He Came To Me In My Dream - Violet & Jason Lange - #podcast about #love, #marriage & #relationships by #relationshipexperts #DrRayandJean offering #relationshipadvice for #couples, we talk w/ Violet & Jason about doing the work to have a healthy marriage https://evolutionary.men/ Please subscribe to our podcast and leave us a comment and review. If you have questions, topic suggestions or would like to be considered as guests, email us at contact@couplessynergy.com. For more information about Couples Synergy, look us up online at Couplessynergy.com