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In this episode, we delve into the insights of Erica Komisar, a licensed clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and author renowned for her work on the emotional needs of children and the pivotal role of parental presence. With over 30 years of experience in private practice, Erica has become a leading voice in discussions about attachment theory and child development.Erica's perspective emphasises the critical importance of a mother's physical and emotional presence during the first three years of a child's life—a period she identifies as foundational for healthy emotional development. Her book, Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters, explores this concept in depth, offering guidance for parents navigating the complexities of early childhood care.This episode is dedicated to mothers who may feel overwhelmed, questioning, or in need of affirmation. It's a reminder that seeking support and understanding is a strength, and that every parent's journey is valid and deserving of respect.What You'll Learn:The foundational principles of attachment theory and its relevance to early childhood development.Insights from Erica's research on the impact of maternal presence in the first three years.Discussion on the societal pressures faced by modern mothers and how to navigate them.Strategies for building a supportive community and finding balance in parenting roles.Resources:Erica Komisar's WebsiteBeing There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years MattersChicken Little: The Sky Isn't Falling(no affiliate links)Connect with Us:Instagram

In honour of LGBTQ+ Families Day I'm thrilled to welcome Jillian to the Dam Parenting podcast. This special day celebrates the diversity, resilience, and love within LGBTQ+ families, highlighting that not all families fit into the traditional structure of one mother and one father. Jillian shares her personal journey of moving to the Netherlands as part of a same-sex couple, seeking a welcoming environment to raise their child. Despite initial challenges in finding the support they hoped for, Jillian has since flourished—establishing her own business, launching a podcast, and becoming a vital resource for other LGBTQ+ families navigating similar paths.In this episode, we discuss:The motivations and research behind choosing the Netherlands as a home for their familyThe realities faced upon arrival and the gaps in support systemsJillian's journey to building a supportive network and communityResources and advice for LGBTQ+ families considering or adjusting to life in the NetherlandsWhether you're part of the LGBTQ+ community, an ally, or someone interested in the diverse experiences of international families, Jillian's story offers valuable insights and inspiration.Resources Mentioned:Meer dan Gewenst is the name of the community organisation Jillian mentioned.The webinar Jillian spoke about details can be found below in the link. The next webinar is expected July 11th.Online space with an abundance of resourcesJoin the Conversation:We'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Share your experiences or questions on our InstagramSubscribe & Review:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe to Dam Parenting on your favourite podcast platform and leave us a review. Your support helps us reach more listeners and continue sharing diverse parenting stories.Connect with us onInstagramThank you for celebrating LGBTQ+ Families Day with us and for being part of our community.

Welcome to the first instalment of our new monthly mini-series on Dam Parenting, where we delve into significant parenting topics in concise, manageable episodes. We're thrilled to reintroduce our resident child psychologist, Faye from Kerr Psychology, who previously joined us in Episode 75 to discuss building resilience and a growth mindset in children.To kick off this new series , Eva and Faye will explore the world of "big emotions" in young children—those intense reactions that can be perplexing and challenging for parents. Faye helps us understand the developmental aspects behind these emotions and offers practical strategies for managing them effectively.What You'll Learn:Defining Big Emotions: Understanding what constitutes "big emotions" in young children and why they occur.Developmental Insights: Exploring the role of brain development, including the amygdala and prefrontal cortex, in children's emotional responses.Everyday Examples: Discussing common scenarios like frustration over putting on shoes, food refusal, and end-of-day meltdowns, and what they signify.Meltdowns vs. Tantrums: Differentiating between the two and understanding age-related factors.Co-Regulation Techniques: Learning how to stay calm and connected, using phrases like "I see you're upset. I'm here with you.""Name It to Tame It": The importance of labeling emotions to help children feel understood and develop self-regulation skills.Resources Mentioned:Introducing helpful tools and books, such as The Invisible String, or The Huge Bag of Worries to support emotional development.Other examples: The Worrysaurus and Stompysaurus by Rachel BrightConnect with Us:Instagram: Follow us @damparenting for updates and parenting tips.Subscribe: Don't miss out on future episodes—subscribe to Dam Parenting on your favourite podcast platform.Leave a Review: If you found this episode helpful, please leave us a rating and review. Your feedback helps us reach more parents and caregivers.Join the Conversation:Have questions or topics you'd like us to cover in future episodes? Reach out to us on Instagram or through our website.Thank you for tuning in to Dam Parenting. Remember, understanding your child's big emotions is a step toward more connected and empathetic parenting.

Grief Is Grief: Why Everyone Should Sign This PetitionToday's episode brings attention to a critical, often overlooked gap in workplace policy: the lack of national grievance leave for parents who experience pregnancy loss before 24 weeks. Currently, there is no legal protection or standard allowance for time off — it's left to individual employers to decide, leaving many to return to work while still deep in grief.I'm joined by Fidessa, a powerful voice behind a growing petition calling for grievance time to be recognized on a national scale — regardless of pregnancy gestation. While a draft government proposal begins support at week 24, we ask the difficult question: What about the grief before that? Is it any less real?This conversation is about raising awareness, honouring early loss, and pushing for policies that reflect the lived realities of so many parents. Miscarriage, stillbirth, and pregnancy loss deserve more than silence and a swift return to business as usual.Please don't just listen — sign the petition and share it widely. Ask your partner, friends, family, and coworkers to stand with us in recognizing that grief has no timeline — and support shouldn't either.Thank you to Fidessa and Renée for both putting the effort into creating this .Click on the link hereTime to Grieve report in UK

Episode 1 of our Monthly Multilingual Series with MiMiAre you constantly wondering: “Am I doing enough to support my child's bilingual development?” You're not alone—and this episode is for you.In the first episode of our new multilingual parenting mini-series, host Eva is joined by MiMi of Growing Up Multilingual to explore the invisible emotional load many international parents carry while raising children with more than one language.They unpack the quiet pressures, guilt, and self-doubt that often live beneath the surface—and why self-awareness (not doing more) is the most powerful tool we have. Together, they talk about redefining what “enough” means in a multilingual family, anchoring in your personal “why,” and how your emotional well-being is directly connected to your child's language development.Whether you're a tired parent on a quick walk, a caregiver juggling cultures, or someone raising kids across borders and languages—this conversation is here to offer relief, clarity, and connection.What you'll hear in this episode:The emotional complexity of raising multilingual childrenHow self-awareness can lighten your parenting loadWhy perfection isn't the goal—connection isSimple, sustainable strategies for language exposureWhat the research really says about maternal well-being and language developmentLetting go of comparison and doing what truly matters to your familyIt's not about doing more—it's about doing what matters, on purpose. Tune in, take a breath, and know this: You're not behind. You're not alone. And you're doing more than enough. Subscribe, rate, and share this episode with fellow multilingual families. MiMi will be joining us every month to dive even deeper into these powerful, real-life conversations.Links to topics discussed-A study published in the Journal of Child Language found that maternal mental health predicts the richness of a child's home language environment and even their expressive language skills - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33818326/

On June 28th, something special is happening in Amsterdam—The BBABBY Fair. This isn't your typical baby expo. With over 60 incredible people involved—from lactation consultants and postpartum doulas to couples therapists and support groups—this event is all about nurturing you, not just your shopping list.In this episode, we share what to expect from this one-of-a-kind gathering of familiar (and soon-to-be familiar) faces in our parenting village. Think of it as a day full of real conversations—spanning Before, Belly, Birth, and Beyond. It's personal, it's powerful, and it's a reminder that preparing for parenthood means supporting your mental and emotional health, too.This isn't a drive for more stuff. It's a drive for connection, care, and community.Click here to buy your tickets

Trigger Warning: Hyperemesis Gravidarum (HG) – More Than Morning SicknessIn this powerful episode, we shine a spotlight on Hyperemesis Gravidarum (HG)—a severe, often misunderstood pregnancy complication that affects up to 3.6% of pregnant individuals in the Netherlands. Unlike common morning sickness, HG brings relentless nausea, uncontrollable vomiting, dehydration, and extreme weight loss—sometimes requiring hospitalization for months.Our guest, Jessica Sinay from ⁠Stichting ZEHG⁠, shares her personal and emotional journey battling HG multiple times. She offers insight into the mental, emotional, and physical toll of the condition, and the lack of medical recognition HG still faces today. We also discuss the critical need for national treatment guidelines currently being developed in the Netherlands.What You'll Learn in This Episode:What is Hyperemesis Gravidarum, and how is it diagnosed?Common treatments in the Netherlands (Amesafene, Primperan, Ondansetron)The long-term impact of HG: PTSD, postpartum depression, digestive issues, dental problemsSupport networks for women, partners, and families via Stichting ZEHGAccess to HG coaches trained to support women mentally and practically during/after HG (see: ⁠www.hgcoach.nl⁠)The work of ⁠⁠ Professor Rebecca Painter⁠⁠⁠, a leading expert on HG and malnutrition at Erasmus MCGlobal efforts via ICHG charity network⁠⁠:: International collaboration with clinicians and patient groups from the UK, US, Australia, and moreResources & Support:HG Coaches & Mental Health SupportPrivate Dutch HG Facebook communities for women, partners, and familiesA private Facebook community ⁠ (>4,400 members)⁠Dutch HG group for partners of women with HG ⁠⁠ Dutch HG group for family, friends etc⁠ ⁠⁠⁠A network of trained dietitian's in cooperation with ⁠Novita in Utrecht⁠Partner stories and recovery support articles on the ⁠official website⁠ ⁠You can make a donation to Stichting ZEHG here and support better care for women with HG.Listen now and help raise awareness about this life-altering pregnancy condition.#HyperemesisGravidarum #PregnancySupport #StichtingZEHG #HGAwareness #MaternalHealth #PregnancyPodcast #DutchHealthcare

It's a new season on DAM Parenting — and we're kicking things off with a familiar voice. In this episode, Eva reconnects with Harriet, one of our early guests, for a heartfelt 14-month postpartum check-in. What has shifted? What stayed the same? And what does motherhood really feel like more than a year in?Together, they reflect on identity, expectations vs. reality, the unexpected joys, and the parts no one prepares you for. This isn't just a catch-up — it's a raw, honest window into the ongoing journey of becoming a mother, well beyond the early baby days.Whether you're in the thick of postpartum life or reflecting back from further down the road, this episode offers a moment to pause, relate, and breathe.You can find Harriet on Instagram here

Well, it's finally here. I guess I can't delay it any further.May is Maternal Mental Health Month—a time dedicated to acknowledging and addressing the emotional and mental health challenges that mothers face. This important event seeks to break the stigma around maternal mental health issues and provide support and resources to mothers everywhere. ​This month holds special significance for me, as it's the foundation upon which Dam Parenting was built: supporting mothers in their journey while living in the Netherlands. Last year, we hosted 16 episodes focusing on various aspects of maternal mental health, aiming to shed light on topics often left in the shadows.​Now, I'm excited (and nervous) to kick off Season 2 - just me, Eva. I'll continue to explore the multifaceted world of parenthood, delving into topics that matter to you. From the joys to the challenges, we're here to navigate it all together.Your voice is invaluable. If there are specific topics you'd like us to discuss, please reach out on Instagram. There's a link in the bio to send a message or fill out a form. I would love to hear from you.​Let's continue this journey, supporting one another through the beautiful chaos of parenting.#MaternalMentalHealthMonth #DamParenting #Season2Launch #ParentingInTheNetherlands

After speaking with some of our community, we are moving forward with the podcast! Hurrah!But what does it mean? Well, we need a bit more time, whilst we work with our resident guests, working on new voices, and well - work!Stick around, send us messages on Instagram if you have any specific topics you hope we will cover, or just get in touch! This podcast is created with our community in mind!

Well, here we are—wrapping up 2024 with over 100 episodes in the books! In this special end-of-year episode, Maren and Eva take a moment to reflect on the highlights of the year, revisiting some of the most popular and impactful episodes. From exploring relationship dynamics to personal growth, we've covered a lot of ground, and we're excited to share some of our favourite moments with you. Plus, we've got a major update and news about what's to come in 2025. Be sure to tune in, get in touch with us, and most importantly, enjoy the festive holiday season. Here's to closing out an amazing year.

It's Christmas time - one of the most stressful periods in the calendar year. Many of us are overwhelmed with shopping lists, cooking, presents, visits to make - which can build up tension in a relationship. In this episode Eva and Maren are again joined by Dr. Naomi as they explores the often misunderstood concept of conflict in relationships. Conflict is not the problem—it's how we handle it that matters. Dr. Naomi breaks down the many forms and intensities conflict can take, and why it's essential to understand your own attachment style when navigating disagreements. You'll learn that conflict actually means “I care,” and how to respond to it from a place of emotional maturity, rather than reacting from past trauma. With practical tools like using "I" statements, regulating your emotions, and practicing active listening, Dr. Naomi teaches how to transform destructive conflict into productive, growth-oriented conversations. She emphasizes the importance of seeing your partner as a teammate, creating space for both people to be heard, and working towards shared goals, even when you don't agree. You'll also discover how your body responds to conflict and how you can re-train your body to react more constructively. By establishing clear "rules for conflict," being mindful of your body's needs, and practicing accountability, you can resolve conflicts in ways that strengthen your relationship. Tune in to learn how to turn conflict into an opportunity for deeper understanding and connection with your partner.

In the previous episode of body image in Matrescence, we spoke about the changes our bodies go though, and also our own perception of ourselves. And yet in Matrescence our own minds shift so much, and our confidence can take a knock as we navigatenour way in this new phase of our lives. Which brings us to how can we give ourselves a helping hand with one part of this jigsaw? Bekah joins us today to discuss how colours play an important element in how we see ourselves in the mirror as we put on our clothes each day. Links spoken about in the episode;https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/02646838.2021.1916452#abstracthttps://aestheticsofjoy.com/does-wearing-colored-clothes-change-our-feelings/

TW: addictionIn this heartfelt episode, Maren and Eva sit down with Maria aka MamaMaria, who opens up about her personal journey with addiction and sobriety. Having grown up in a family impacted by addiction, Maria shares her raw and inspiring story of breaking generational patterns and finding strength in her own recovery. From navigating the emotional toll of living with addiction to the daily practices that help her stay on track, this conversation is a powerful reminder of resilience, self-compassion, and the importance of community.Tune in for a real and relatable conversation about healing, hope, and managing life one day at a time.Mamamaria is a Psychologist and Aware Parenting Coach, (sober) mother of 2 and step mother of 1. She has seen first hand how different tools can transform parenting life and life as a whole. She works internationally with expat parents and also works with companies providing group parenting coaching.She supports parents that want to break the cycle of disfunctionality inherited from their families of origin.If you are seeking any further assistance with this topic you can always reach out to Alcoholic Anonymous

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In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren have reached out to our amazing community to bring Christmas Gifts to life! From 1-on-1 consultations and counseling to playdates, books, and more—there's something for everyone. And the best part? There's even more to come! Starting December 1st, we'll be sharing all these goodies on our Instagram, so make sure to follow us and join in the fun. Let's celebrate the season by helping each other grow and thrive!

In this episode, Eva and Maren are diving deep into the transformative power of compromise with resident psychologist, Dr. Naomi Gibson. As much as we want to believe relationships are all about teamwork, the truth is, we're also individuals—each with our own unique needs, perspectives, and backgrounds. So, how do we bridge the gap without feeling like we're losing ourselves? Dr. Gibson unpacks what true compromise looks like and why it's more than just a middle ground. Instead of “my way” versus “your way,” true compromise is about finding our way—a solution that respects and combines both perspectives, rather than eliminating one entirely. She explains how compromise, when done right, is rooted in respect, vulnerability, empathy, and open communication. Together they also explore why compromise can sometimes feel like a sacrifice—and how to avoid that trap by approaching it with responsibility and the willingness to step into your partner's shoes. Plus, Dr. Gibson shares the surprising link between teamwork in couples and long-term relationship satisfaction. Whether it's learning to communicate the impact of your compromises, finding creative third solutions, or shifting from resentment to collaboration, this episode offers practical tools to help you and your partner create a stronger, more unified relationship. Tune in and discover how true compromise can bring you closer together—not as individuals giving something up, but as a team creating something better.

Ever find yourself exhausted but still up late cleaning toys, folding laundry, or scrolling your phone instead of heading to bed? In this episode, Eva and Maren take a deep dive into a recent discussion she had with her therapist - the nightly chaos that so many parents face after putting the kids to bed. From tidying up books and tackling the never-ending pile of dishes to dealing with laundry and the pressure to “be productive” in the evenings, together they explore why evenings feel so overwhelming—and how procrastination and the phenomenon of Revenge Bedtime Procrastination keep us from getting the rest we desperately need. Together also talk about creating better bedtime routines—for both parents and kids. What does a wind-down ritual really look like? How can we reclaim our evenings without sacrificing our sleep? Join Eva and Maren as we unpack the struggle and share tips to help you transform chaotic nights into restful ones—for everyone in the house. Bedtime Routine for adults Instagram

In this episode, Maren and Eva dive into the whirlwind of modern parenting—the endless to-do lists, the pressure to create magical experiences, and the exhaustion that comes with trying to do it all. From playdates and dance classes to museum trips, gymnastics, and trampoline parks, birthday parties and more..... they explore how the constant pursuit of "giving our kids the best" can leave both parents AND children feeling drained. Together they also tackle the impact of social media, where perfectly curated timelines suggest parents are never doing enough—like rushing to a fruit-picking farm that's only open for certain periods, just to check it off the list. But does cramming every moment with activities truly create joy? Or are we losing sight of the experiences we're trying so hard to make special? Join Maren and Eva unpack the guilt, the hustle, and the "Keeping Up with the Joneses" mentality—and talk about how to slow down, reconnect, and find real joy in parenting without the pressure. Because sometimes, less is more.

In this episode, Eva and Maren are joined by Faye from Kerr Psychology, who dive into the fascinating journey of a child's developing sense of self. Did you know that around the age of 4, children start to compare themselves with others, and by age 7, they become fully aware of differences? As caregivers, we play a powerful role in guiding how children perceive themselves and their abilities. Our tool? Resilience. Together, they explore the profound impact of nurturing a growth mindset over a fixed one, helping children see that effort shapes their outcomes. From encouraging intrinsic motivation to embracing challenges, learn how to shift your child's self-belief from “I can't” to “I can't...yet!” Discover how simple words, the right kind of praise, and focusing on effort over results can transform a child's confidence. They also discuss the importance of uninterrupted, child-led playtime, especially during transitions, and how helping your child build a vocabulary for emotions can lead to healthier self-expression. Packed with practical tips, like reframing “don't” statements, creating a toolbox for emotional management, and teaching them to see challenges as growth opportunities—this episode is a must-listen for every caregiver looking to raise resilient, motivated, and emotionally intelligent children. Join Faye, Eva, and Maren as together they unpack the insights and strategies that empower our children to thrive today and long into the future.

What's the rush? In this episode, Montessori expert Simone Davies joins Maren and Eva to discuss the power of slowing down in parenting. She shares how letting children explore at their own pace can turn everyday moments—like a walk down the street—into discovery adventures. Simone offers simple, mindful ideas that parents can use to nurture curiosity and independence. Montessori principles, she explains, make it easier to support children's natural learning without overwhelming ourselves. Simone reminds us that Montessori is a journey for parents, too, requiring patience, a sense of curiosity, and the right community to support us. From adjusting activities to match a child's needs to modeling calm and presence, Simone shows how even small changes can transform our routines and foster more meaningful family connections. With her practical tips, this episode helps set up a home environment that balances freedom and boundaries, bringing more joy and ease to parenting.

It's bookclub time again, and this time Elizabeth is bringing the well known How to talk to kids so they will listen, and listen so they will talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. Breaking down their take aways, learnings and their opinion on it´s relevancy after it had been published for the first time 40 years ago. For more additional info, check out our IG: https://www.instagram.com/damparentingpodcast/

It's been one whole year since Dam Parenting launched into this podcasting journey—two moms who were going through it, joining forces to make parenting a little easier for those who follow. Knowing how exhausting it is for parents to constantly dig up the same information, wasting precious time and energy on repeated research of the Dutch system. So, that's how Dam Parenting was born: a space to share essential information and practical guidance, all with the help of trusted local professionals and the voices of our international community. Creating the podcast was one thing, but how to launch it? Thats where the wonderful Gemma from MamaSocial came in. She herself created MamaSocial from her own experience of wanting a more social matresence experience she has created the most popular meet up events for mothers - the brunches, cocktails, networking, and even day retreat. Together, Dam parenting podcast was announced to a room of 20 other mothers. Dam Parenting has covered everything, from pregnancy essentials and understanding the Dutch healthcare system with verloskundigen (midwives) and kraamzorgs (maternity nurses), to invaluable conversations with Dr. Naomi Gibson, a psychologist our community trusts. Bringing in diverse voices and experts to share insights on topics close to every parent's heart—sleepless nights, food allergies, relationship hurdles, gentle parenting, and even raising multilingual kids within the Dutch school system. Month by month, Dam Parenting highlights critical topics, from maternal mental health and the process of matrescence to back-to-school stress and, this month, ADHD. Our message? You're not alone. Someone has been there, is there now, or will be. We're here to give you the support and resources you need in a digestible, accessible format. So grab your earbuds, bring the baby for a walk, let your toddler roam the playground, or take us along on your bike ride to work. Dam Parenting is here to make the journey of being an international family in the Netherlands a little lighter and a lot more connected.

In this episode, Eva and Maren dive into the world of ADHD in schools with Learning Diversity Specialist Kate, exploring the unique challenges children with ADHD face in the classroom and how parents and teachers can work together to support them. From managing focus and organization to navigating social interactions, we'll uncover practical strategies for educators and parents alike. Discovering your child has ADHD is just the first step. Learning to manage it is a journey—but building a supportive community and partnering closely with your child's school can make a world of difference. By working together, you'll not only strengthen your child's support system but also help set them up for a brighter, more resilient future.

In this episode, we've reached out to our community to hear from our cities magnificent offerings and have gathered a perfect mix of warm, family-friendly places for you and your little ones to escape the chilly weather! Whether it's drizzling or downright freezing, we know how important it is to have a go-to spot where parents can relax with a warm drink while their children are entertained. From cozy cafés with play areas to community centers offering toddler-friendly activities, we've compiled a list of must-visit locations. Check out out our instagram page for a full list of locations! Playhood Club Abbey Mallow Garden Mamasocial Robbeburg Coffee and Kids Wonderpark café Amstelveen Monti's World Kiddo Inspiration Center

In this episode, Eva and Maren explore the importance of parenting as a team with Dr. Naomi Gibson. While being a couple and parenting are different, research shows that aligning with your partner benefits both emotional well-being and your child's development. They discuss key strategies like using "I" statements, avoiding absolutes like "always" and "never," and addressing big issues calmly. They also cover identifying shared parenting goals and values, supporting your partner during struggles, and assigning tasks based on strengths. Lastly, there is emphasises on rekindling the friendship in your relationship, remembering that parenting is a partnership built on mutual care and understanding. Dr Naomi's 'Stick Together' cards are included in this episode, which she created to help parents have open conversations about topics that can sometimes be difficult to bring up. Available online, and also at Monti's World in the Pijp.

On today's episode we hear from Anne, and her family's emotional journey of navigating getting their child diagnosed with ADHD after moving to a new country. Initially, they brushed off the signs—attributing the symptoms to adjusting to a new language, culture, and school environment. They kept saying "yes, but..." to each concern, thinking it was just part of the transition. However, when the school's staff stepped in, recognising the underlying signs of ADHD and offering support, the family realised there was more to their child's challenges. With the school's guidance and resources, they were able to begin the process of diagnosis and treatment. The family reflects on how their community of teachers, specialists, and fellow parents became part of their village, providing support, understanding, and a shared desire to help their child thrive. Anne went on to create 'JellyPie FireFly' a book designed to spark conversation with children and their carers as they navigate living with the letters ADHD. Listen to episode DamChats 11 to hear the story of how this book came about. A Different Story is a space where you can find support for families with different backgrounds, experiences and diagnosis. Ludica provides peer support groups in Amsterdam, for families with neurodivergent members. CHADD a national organisation that provides information, education and support for people with ADHD and their families.

Maren and Eva spoke with Emma, an ADHD potential coach, about the challenges neurodivergent mothers face, particularly when dealing with boredom in motherhood. Emma shared practical strategies to help ADHD moms manage the often mundane aspects of raising young children. From the early stages of caring for babies, who don't yet interact, to the high-energy demands of toddlers, Emma offers tips for staying engaged, managing overstimulation, and balancing self-care. Her advice is tailored to help mothers with ADHD navigate the unique hurdles of each stage with more focus and fulfillment. You can find Emma at theADHDpotential Research papers: The effects of the mother's ADHD on her parenting role Parent ADHD is Associated with Greater Parenting Distress in the First Year Postpartum Overwhelmed Mom Syndrome — It's a Real Thing

Let's talk about ADHD this month. On this episode Maren and Eva sit down to get tot grips with the stigma attached to ADHD label - backed by science -as well as a personal journey on diagnosis and treatment here in the Netherlands. Efforts were placed into getting key personnel involved in this journey to join us on the episode, but due to the sensitive nature of medical care in the Netherlands, this episode does not contain a key professional on the diagnosis route. Instead, a personal journey provides one example of the many that are out there. Guest: Marlies Visser VU PhD student ADHD related stigma

Ever heard of Matrescence before our monthly series? Many haven't. And what's worse, is there is little information out there for us - except for books like Lucy Jones Matrescence which we reviewed in our BookClub. We welcomed back members of our community who many of you are familiar with - or introducing you to your village. With our resident psychologist Dr Naomi Gibson, a well known postpartum doula herself on her 6 month's check in - Harriet - from nourish and nest, and also one of the most versed women in Matrescence in our intimate village here in Amsterdam - Ilena Standring. We searched high and low, reached out to the four corners of the globe to provide a closing episode of research and facts- but the reality is - there isn't much out there. So this episode- is just Eva and Maren, discussing their final thoughts on this month's series. If any of these episodes resonated with you, or if you feel more need to find out more - share it with your community. We owe it to ourselves, our friends and our village. You are not alone.

Matrescence is brings on a full range of thoughts, emotions and questions. In this episode, Maren, Eva and Naomi sit down to discuss this passionate topic for them - where Naomi breaks down what Matrescence is on a psychological level. Sharing our experiences, some you may recognise, some you may not - and hopefully will shed some light and empower you to move through your own Matrescence knowing more than many have ever known. Naomi's journal exercise: Writing in a journal can be useful when we are experiencing times of transition. Journalling helps to make sense of and navigate challenges, and cultivate a deeper sense of self- awareness, mindfulness, and creativity. By expressing thoughts and feelings in a journal, we can gain clarity, insight, and perspective on our lives. (You don't need a fancy journal to do this, a simple notebook or your phone notes app work just as well) Try answering one or all of these questions, letting your pen do all the work and you might be surprised what comes up for you! 1. Reflect on a moment of joy from today, as a mum 2. Recall a challenge you overcame recently. What strengths did you use to get through it? 3. Think back to a moment where you have felt proud of your parenting 4. What's surprised you most about becoming a mother? 5. How has your life changed since becoming a mother? What are the most significant lessons you've learned along the way? Stay in touch on Instagram, let us know how you get on! @damparentingpodcast @drnaomipsychologist

As a follow on from episode 65 Body Image with Ilena Standring, we bring you a loving journalling exercise where you will need to find somewhere quiet, and some uninterrupted time to be able to do it. Sit comfy, and allow your hand to write all about what your body does when it comes to self care, and your communication and your body's relationship with other people. If you want to find out more about this journalling exercise, please check out ExpandYourHorizon.org Research from Enhancing body image in motherhood: A randomised controlled trial of Expand Your Horizon among mothers of young children

Ilena is back, and we are continuing our previous conversation (episode 34) when were were trying to discuss all things Matrescence. When the topic of body image came up - we realised this really should be a whole episode on its own. And here we are. Want some further reading? Sociocultural pressures and body related experiences during pregnancy and the postpartum period: A qualitative study Mumbod? A comparison of body image and dietary restraint among women with younger, older, and no children Pregnancy makes many women feel negative about their body image, new Mental Health Foundation survey reveals

Harriet is back with a 6 month check in and a discussion on her own Matresence journey. As a post partum doula for several years, she has always been there to support families, but now as she enters into this new phase of life herself - what has she experienced? What learnings has she taken? And how is this changing her perception for her own work? Looking for a post partum doula? And want to reach out to Harriet? You can find her at Nourish and Nest or follow her on Instagram

In this episode, Elizabeth sits down with Maren and Eva, after reading their next book: Matresence - by Lucy Jones. Ever heard of this word? Maybe only heard of it in 2024? Jones's experience exposes a profound cultural failure: the glaring silence around the realities of childbirth and motherhood. This silence leaves countless women unprepared for the physical and emotional upheavals they will face. Society mainly presents a sanitized, romanticized view of pregnancy and motherhood—emphasizing joy and bonding while obscuring the pain, trauma, and identity crises that are just as real. In mainstream media and public discourse, the raw, unvarnished truths of motherhood are often glossed over or ignored altogether. This absence of honest depictions left Jones feeling blindsided, unprepared for the brutal realities of labour, postpartum recovery, and the deep personal transformation that motherhood demands. Without access to real stories that convey the full spectrum of maternal experiences, women are left with dangerously unrealistic expectations. When the harsh realities of motherhood inevitably clash with these expectations, it can lead to profound feelings of disillusionment and betrayal. And we at Dam Parenting have always wanted to put topics like this into focus and have a conversation to find the words, learn ways to help ourselves and be open to listen to others experiences. If you enjoyed this episode, if you learned something new - if you found the words you have been trying to use to express yourself - be sure to share this episode, grab the book, and step foot on your newfound path. We are all waiting to welcome you.

In this episode, hosts Eva and Maren welcome Erin ( Instagram) , a relocation counsellor, consultant, and coach who specialises in providing emotional support and practical advice to those who have recently moved. Erin shares her expertise on navigating the challenges of relocation, from adjusting to a new environment to building a sense of community and belonging. She offers valuable tips on how to manage the emotional rollercoaster that often accompanies such transitions and emphasizes the importance of establishing connections in a new place. Join the conversation to discover strategies for making relocation a smoother and more fulfilling experience.

We are revisiting this important episode with Eowny from On Raising Bilingual Children about the exciting journey of navigating bilingualism as our children embark on their school years. Discover invaluable insights on how to seamlessly integrate multiple languages into their educational experience. Eowny sheds light on strategies for maintaining fluency in home languages while embracing the linguistic diversity of the school environment. Prepare to be enlightened as we explore approaches to fostering linguistic growth and cultural awareness in this captivating episode with Eowny from ⁠On Raising Bilingual Children. ⁠ Top blog posts from Eowyn on her website: ⁠Top 5 Tips for parents with children starting school in a new language⁠ ⁠Is Your Child Starting School in a New Language? 5 Strategies for Caregivers to Support the Transition⁠ ⁠Supporting multilingualism in schools: Spotlight on best practice

In this episode, hosts Eva and Maren are joined by resident psychologist Dr. Naomi Gibson to discuss the whirlwind of emotions parents experience when their children start school. Together, they explore how our own memories and feelings about school can unconsciously be transferred onto our kids, impacting their transition into this new phase. Dr. Gibson offers insights on how parents can navigate these complex emotions, ensuring they provide the support and encouragement their children need. Through candid conversations, the trio delves into strategies for managing this pivotal moment in parenting, helping parents create a positive and empowering start to their child's educational journey.

In this episode, hosts Eva and Maren dive into a journaling exercise using the Brief Parental Self-Efficacy Scale, a tool designed to help parents evaluate their current strengths and areas for improvement. By engaging with this exercise, parents can reflect on their challenges, recognise where they might need support, and gain clarity on how to become more effective and confident caregivers. Join them for an episode of self-discovery and growth as they explore what it truly means to be a capable and resilient parent. Link: I Know What to Do; I Can Do It; It Will Work

We are delighted to welcome back Isabel Cruz, who previously joined Eva and Maren on episode 32 where she discussed school choices in the Netherlands. Now she joins the ladies with her teacher hat on, and provides insights from a teachers point of view. From clothes, lunch boxes, to even prepping our little ones for the big first day. This is a great episode for any parent whose little one will be starting school in the future!

This is our second part of our introduction into the school process of out little ones starting in September. In the first part we spoke about trying to find the schools, how we went about it and operating in the lottery system and how we found out our acceptance. In today's episode we will be chatting about all things after the acceptance letter. Eva and Maren had very different experiences - for one- two meetings exploring the school with their daughter to the other having one meeting and a trial day for the other. Be sure to listen and gain insight into Eva and Maren's own experience so you are prepped with the knowledge to ask the questions they forgot to ask!

Raising a child is an incredible and awe-inspiring responsibility. For us mothers, nurturing a little girl means empowering her to believe that she can achieve anything she sets her mind to. We have the power to ignite her imagination, fuel her ambitions, and instill the confidence that her dreams are limitless. As mothers of little girls, Maren and Eva today are joined by Sara from Project Fearless - a Stichting which empowers girls from 9-14years of age, in Amsterdam and Rotterdam - to get hands on, breaks stereotypes, find their voice and create a lasting impact. With girls who are not even in school, Eva and Maren are already excited for their daughters to be able to join the future Project Fearless and some of the amazing courses and projects they will be running in the future! Research paper: Leisure time physical activity is associated with better mental health among adolescents Uk research: girls loose interest in sport as teenagers

The third session of the DamGoode Bookclub with Elizabeth Goode - an award winning librarian from the US, writer, and sharing aficionado for our young little ones. This time Maren, Eva and Elizabeth are speaking about the very popular parenting book: The Whole Brain Child by Dr Daniel Siegel and Dr Tina Payne. Published in 2012, with over 46,000 GoodReads ratings averaging 4.27 - this book has been enjoyed by many families around the world and today all three cohosts are going to share their takings from this highly informative book based on research.

It's holiday time so Eva and Maren are taking a few weeks off so we will be revisiting some of the most popular episodes - either downloaded, shared, or listeners have reached out to share their camaraderie, having felt seen or having finally some words to put to their own feelings. It's hard going into the parenthood - and we are all going through our own struggles. Sometimes at the same time as you, sometimes a little ahead, and some far off that you can listen to the episodes when you need it in the future. This episode, we revisit the self identity episode with Dr Naomi - which seemed to resonate with so many listeners - and everyone involved too. Entering motherhood - Matresence is really an unchartered period of our lives which contains so many different moving parts -and we can feel we are trying to do this jigsaw piece on our own. In September we are going to be celebrating Matresence by speaking with different persons from our community who can add value to this Everest of a topic.

It's holiday time so Eva and Maren are taking a few weeks off so we will be revisiting some of the most popular episodes - either downloaded, shared, or listeners have reached out to share their camaraderie, having felt seen or having finally some words to put to their own feelings. It's hard going into the parenthood - and we are all going through our own struggles. Sometimes at the same time as you, sometimes a little ahead, and some far off that you can listen to the episodes when you need it in the future. This episode, Zyanya from Adapting to love joined the conversation to share her own experience with bedtime routines with her own little- and not so little - ones. This really is about letting everyone know that some of us are really sitting with our kids, humbled by their little hands, embracing these fleeting moments that soon can never be again.

It's holiday time so Eva and Maren are taking a few weeks off so we will be revisiting some of the most popular episodes - either downloaded, shared, or listeners have reached out to share their camaraderie, having felt seen or having finally some words to put to their own feelings. It's hard going into the parenthood - and we are all going through our own struggles. Sometimes at the same time as you, sometimes a little ahead, and some far off that you can listen to the episodes when you need it in the future. This episode, Eowyn from On Raising Bilingual Children joins Maren and Eva to discuss strategies to help our International community on raising our little ones in the Netherlands when Dutch isn't our first language. Be sure to check out further episodes with Eowyn regarding starting school years with our kids, and also how it's never too late to bring a language into the family.

It's holiday time so Eva and Maren are taking a few weeks off so we will be revisiting some of the most popular episodes - either downloaded, shared, or listeners have reached out to share their camaraderie, having felt seen or having finally some words to put to their own feelings. It's hard going into the parenthood - and we are all going through our own struggles. Sometimes at the same time as you, sometimes a little ahead, and some far off that you can listen to the episodes when you need it in the future. This episode, is only a recent episode but housing is a huge issue which can cause stress, frustration, exhaustion, confusion and heartbreak when we don't get the bid accepted. How is or has your been experience:?

It's holiday time so Eva and Maren are taking a few weeks off so we will be revisiting some of the most popular episodes - either downloaded, shared, or listeners have reached out to share their camaraderie, having felt seen or having finally some words to put to their own feelings. It's hard going into the parenthood - and we are all going through our own struggles. Sometimes at the same time as you, sometimes a little ahead, and some far off that you can listen to the episodes when you need it in the future. This episode, Harriet, a well known postpartum doula joins Eva and Maren to shed light on the years of experience she has gained. A great insight for any first time pregnant parent to gain some insights to what to expect. When this was recorded , Harriet herself was in her last trimester carrying her first child - be sure to check out her 3 month check up on episode 50 released back in May.

It's holiday time so Eva and Maren are taking a few weeks off so we will be revisiting some of the most popular episodes - either downloaded, shared, or listeners have reached out to share their camaraderie, having felt seen or having finally some words to put to their own feelings. It's hard going into the parenthood - and we are all going through our own struggles. Sometimes at the same time as you, sometimes a little ahead, and some far off that you can listen to the episodes when you need it in the future.

Its nearly the summer holidays which means one thing: Parents are taking the show on the road - so who really gets a holiday? Dr Naomi is back and together with Eva and Maren, they are gong to figure out the best way to manage their holiday expectations, their emotions and to make the most out of these very limited family holidays!

It's that time! Both Eva and Maren's little girls will be turning 4 in the coming months - and of course it's in their mind of what to get them. So, they wrote out some ideas separately and now sit together to go through their list of ideas they are considering. Maybe this might be helpful to listeners, maybe you might have some other ideas!? Be sure to head over to Instagram to give your suggestions too!