Love.Heal.Transform. Podcast

In this episode we dive into why listening is the most important part of any conversation and how you can become an amazing listener and finally understand your partner at a deeper level. You'll also discover the exact words I say to my husband when I feel he's dismissing me or not hearing me. Plus I'll give you two powerful tools to help you pause, stay calm and remove defensiveness from your conversations. Imagine, leaving every conversation in your marriage with understanding, connection and peace (rather than arguments and misunderstandings!?)    Get full show notes and more information here: www.valeriekolick.com/healtotransform/60

This is the 3rd video in the 3-part groundbreaking video series: How To Repair, Revive & Reignite Your Relationship.  You are about to get the 5-Phase process for creating an Epic Relationship quickly! Grab the blueprint here: www.valeriekolick.com/video3 Join the Waitlist here: www.valeriekolick.com/waitlist 

This is Part 2 of the 3-Part Groundbreaking Video Series: Repair, Revive & Reignite Your Relationship.  I'll be giving you a simple exercise to help you become aware of beliefs that may be blocking your happiness, I'll show you how you have the power to change your relationship - no matter what stage you're in now, and then in video 3 I'm giving you the exact keys - the steps to take your relationship from lonely to loved. Grab your workbook here: www.valeriekolick.com/video2

Welcome to Part 1 of the 3-part groundbreaking video series that will show you the secrets to Repair, Revive & Reignite Your Relationship! By the time you complete this entire series, you'll have the blueprint for transforming your relationship into one that is supportive, loving and gives you the confidence, love and freedom you truly desire.   Grab the workbook at: www.valeriekolick.com/gift

13 Sneaky Ways Trust is Broken In A Relationship and How To Avoid These Things Why creating connection and intimacy in your relationship relies on building or rebuilding a strong trust foundation What to do when trust is broken, and  A 3 Letter Acronym that will help you identify where trust needs to be strengthened in your relationship. Save Your Seat in the FREE 3-Part Video Series: www.valeriekolick.com/loveseries

Self-love will not only improve your own level of happiness, but it will raise the love and abundance all around you.  So, are you ready to take the first step? Join me in today's podcast where you'll discover:  The scientific and brain-based reason you must love yourself in order to truly connect and have a deep love with anyone else.  The subconscious blocks that are holding you back from self-love and confidence and a motivational brain priming exercise to remove these blocks.  How to quickly remove self-judgement so you can feel less anxiety, guilt and shame, and  Much more! Are you tired of struggling in a disconnected and unfulfilling relationship? Then I've been cooking up something incredibly special for you and I wanted you to be the first to know about it…..The Repair, Revive & Reignite Your Relationship 3-part training!! It's starting January 16th - but you can reserve your seat today - it's free and it's going to be life & relationship-changing. Learn more here: www.valeriekolick.com/loveseries

You're about to get the strategies and mindset shifts so you can finally feel what it's like to be adored and cherished, and live an EPIC love story. How what you learned as a 6 year old may be sabotaging your relationship today.  The #1 thing to do if you want to feel adored, cherished and truly loved in a supportive and caring relationship.  Why communication is tough and how to get rid of defensiveness and anger.  A quick mind-body exercise that will show you how to harness the power of your brain to change your life and relationship! Join the Heal To Transform Free FB Community Here: www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform Learn more at: www.valeriekolick.com/healtotransform/57

This podcast is my favorite ever and it's a must listen! My friend and fellow psychotherapist Kate Schroeder and I are philosophisizing (sure that's a word!) about why reaching for happiness is one of the biggest mistakes in true life meaning, purpose and fulfillment and what we should be doing instead. In This Podcast You'll discover:   What it really means when you are feeling stuck, unfulfilled and unhappy. The biggest mistakes most people make that are keeping them from reaching true fulfillment and abundance in their lives. The secret to moving through fear, strong emotions and creating inner peace and resilience. Why curiosity may be the missing piece to your freedom and success in all areas of your life. The truth to moving past trauma, emotional hurt and childhood wounds. *And much more! This is a life-changing, mind-altering, relationship-transforming session that you don't want to miss.  See ShowNotes at: www.valeriekolick.com/healtotransform/56    

In this podcast, you will discover:    The importance of boundaries and how they can protect your relationships, your energy, time and self-esteem. How to set boundaries with your time, energy, and with others.  The big mistake most of us make that add stress - especially around the holidays. And more...    Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ Free Heal To Transform FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com

In this podcast, you will discover:    How to overcome any trial or challenge What you need to know about suicide and signs to what to do if someone in your life is considering self-harm.  How to heal if you've been affected by suicide or suicidal thoughts.  Understand how to dig in deep to find your resilience, strength and joy.   Suicide Prevention Hotline: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, 800-273-8255 Connect with Contessa www.lessonsfromadversity.com    Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ Free Heal To Transform FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST! You don't want to miss a thing. Make sure to click above and subscribe to the Heal To Transform podcast so you get automatic updates of new podcast episodes. CLICK HERE TO LEAVE US AN iTUNES REVIEW! We love to hear about your wins and successes….and your feedback means the world to us. So, if you're loving this podcast, make sure to spread the love and leave us a review today. Also, the reviews and ratings from our listeners help us to rank higher in iTunes, so more listeners can find us.

In this podcast, you will… Discover why you may be limiting yourself right now and how to start dreaming bigger! Understand how challenges are actually opportunities to grow and reach your goals quicker. Get the exact steps to become more clear on your vision and desires. Learn how to create a vision board that is aligned with your heart so that you can deliberately create and manifest your heart's desires! Also, get Melanie's free gift “Envision Your Future Self” at http://melaniemoore.co.uk/futureyou

Every year in November I start thinking about my 3-5 personal goals that I want to work on for the following year.  And I thought I would share this journey with you - and give you the tools if you want to join me! My intention for 2020 is to live a life full of passion, fun and abundance.  And to truly live that way in 2020 - I discovered that there are 5 main focus areas or keys that I need to master.  #1 - Healing the Inner Child #2 - Reigniting my Feminine Power & Energy #3 - Raising my confidence #4 - Reaching goals (no more losing motivation half way through!) #5 - As always - continue to strengthen relationships! So, in this podcast you will…. Understand how these 5 keys could help you to become irresistibly happy! Learn exactly what Feminine Energy is and why it's so important (especially to mothers) Discover how events of your childhood may be negatively affecting your current life and what to do about it And much more…. GET YOUR FREE TICKETS TO THE REAWAKEN YOUR PASSION ONLINE EVENT: www.reawakenyourpassionevent.com 

Ever heard of monkey brain?  You know when your thoughts are going about 5,000 miles per second, you have so many things you need to do, and places you need to be, decisions you need to make that you aren't able to focus on anything.  You can't turn it off even when you go to bed and then you notice your heart is beating a little faster, you think maybe you forgot something….ugh….you can't focus...you can't sleep….and you don't think you'll ever find a moment for yourself.  This monkey brain leads to anxiety, depression, sleepless nights, overeating, procrastination, inaction, bad decisions, loss of motivation, forgetfulness, use of drugs/cigarettes/food/alcohol to mask the restless brain…. Ugh, it's all bad! Lucky for you, you can get rid of monkey brain with the three step GMM daily habit I've been teaching you about in the last two podcasts (Episode 49, Episode 50) and finally, I'm introducing you to the third part of the process here in Episode 51!! It's time to slow down so that you can speed up and truly be the calm, amazing, focused and loving woman you were meant to be - and the groundbreaking GMM Daily Habit is going to teach your brain exactly how to do that! “The soul usually knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind long enough to hear it” - Caroline Myss In this podcast you will... Learn how to make meditation super simple so that it becomes your favorite part of the day (even if you have monkey brain!) Get the secrets to making meditation work for you, even if it hasn't in the past.  Create your GMM Daily Habit to rewire your brain for happiness, joy and fulfillment.  Finally get off auto-pilot, lower stress, feel more connected to others and to God and discover how meditation can help you let go of bad habits like overeating, smoking, indecision, and low motivation.  Podcast Resources: Omvana Meditation App: https://www.omvana.com/ Buddhify Ap https://buddhify.com/  Headspace Meditation App: https://www.headspace.com  Wheel of Awareness FREE Meditations with Dan Siegel: https://www.drdansiegel.com/resources/wheel_of_awareness/  Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ Join the FREE Heal To Transform FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST! You don't want to miss a thing. Make sure to click above and subscribe to the Heal To Transform podcast so you get automatic updates of new podcast episodes. CLICK HERE TO LEAVE US AN iTUNES REVIEW! We love to hear about your wins and successes….and your feedback means the world to us. So, if you're loving this podcast, make sure to spread the love and leave us a review today. Also, the reviews and ratings from our listeners help us to rank higher in iTunes, so more listeners can find us

In this podcast you will... Discover how incorporating mindfulness into your day can improve your physical and mental health drastically...leaving you with more energy and less stress. Hear how simple a mindfulness practice is and I'll give you my secrets to practicing mindfulness every single day! Understand how mindfulness helps you to step off autodrive and start creating your life with intention, purpose, and awareness so that you can become the creator of your circumstances and successes! Learn the cool science showing how mindfulness actually changes your brain and your genetic coding! Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ Join the FREE Heal To Transform FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST! You don't want to miss a thing. Make sure to click above and subscribe to the Heal To Transform podcast so you get automatic updates of new podcast episodes. CLICK HERE TO LEAVE US AN iTUNES REVIEW! We love to hear about your wins and successes….and your feedback means the world to us. So, if you're loving this podcast, make sure to spread the love and leave us a review today. Also, the reviews and ratings from our listeners help us to rank higher in iTunes, so more listeners can find us

At some point in our lives we all feel stuck....like we've lost the passion in our lives. We get overwhelmed, stressed, and we try to take care of ourselves and our health…. ….but most women tend to ignore ONE huge thing that can truly change your life…our mental wellness! When we don't take time to take care of our minds and brains we end up with anxiety, depression, overwhelm, sickness, and a general hopelessness. So, over the next three podcast episodes, I'm going to be sharing with you a simple 3-step daily practice that takes less than 15 minutes a day and will ensure that your brain is in tip top shape.  If you're struggling with ANY of these things…. Can't sleep,  feel anxious and stressed,  lose patience quickly,  brain fog,  feel angry,  sad and get stuck in pessimistic thinking,  attention is bad,  can't think straight,  memory and learning go down,  people are annoying,  bad things keep happening Overwhelm Crappy relationships Constantly sick ...then you don't want to miss this 3-part series on training your brain to create more peace, joy and fulfillment in your life! In this podcast you will... Discover how stress is killing you and what to do about it.  Learn a simple 3-minute daily habit that will make you feel more positivity, more connected to others, and will help you enjoy each day more! Hear how heart failure patients lowered their inflammation and felt more gratitude and hopeful with one simple mind exercise.  Get my secrets to upleveling any gratitude practice (aka gratitude on steroids!) P.S. Make sure to join the Heal To Transform community and take part in the Gratitude Challenge!! (I'm giving away amazon gift cards every week!!! - don't miss out!) Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ Join the Free Heal To Transform FB Community & The FREE Gratitude Challenge: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com

Have you ever heard yourself say, “one part of me really want this, the other part of me really wants that….” why am I so indecisive?  Or, what is wrong with me, I can't let go of this anger, anxiety, hurt. I'm so broken. Why do I keep doing this to myself - I keep sabotaging myself….what is wrong with me. You are not broken, and there is nothing “wrong” with you...and trying to get rid of the parts or fix the parts of you that you don't like may be exactly what's keeping you from growth, transformation, happiness and from living your best, most authentic life.  It's keeping you frustrated, confused and it's also keeping you in unhealthy, self-sabotaging patterns that are stopping you from reaching your goals.  Most struggling women and men make the big mistake of trying to ignore, fix, or get rid of the parts of themselves that they dislike - and this is probably a mistake that you're making right now.  I consistently have women and men come to me and say, Val, please let me get rid of this anxiety, anger, people-pleasing, criticism, guilt and shame! There is something wrong with me - I'm so broken and I don't know why I keep doing this to myself.  They waste energy, ruin relationships, keep themselves in a box because they are trying so hard to hide parts of them that they don't find appealing.  In sneaks the guilt, shame, and overwhelming stressed out spiral! If this is you - it's not your fault. In this podcast, I'm going to teach you how to truly love and embrace every single part of you. You're going to learn how to leverage every part of you in order to get these massive results in your life... Access your true, authentic self Gain More Confidence with One Simple Trick Make friends with all of your emotions Stop the self-sabotage Reach your goals and dreams Create Better relationships Trust within yourself This is a podcast you don't want to miss!! See you inside! Learn more at www.valeriekolick.com/podcast 

Last week you took part in Steps 1 through 3 of the 5 Steps to Improve the Communication and connection in your marriage.    Now, at your request, Steps 4 & 5 are ready for you!!   You're about to get all of these benefits in this special two-part podcast: How To Improve the Communication & Connection in Your Marriage in 5 Steps!   In Part 2, you are going to discover...   Understand internal and external boundaries and how healthy boundaries can save your marriage.  Learn how let go of fears, big emotions, and defensiveness that is keeping you stuck.  Get the 4 reasons most women stay stuck, hopeless, and lost in relationship and how to move past these mistakes. Discover the True Love & Connection framework that will help you repair and revive any marital or relationship challenge.   Make sure to listen to this ASAP, because it's a limited release podcast and it's going down on August 27th!

  DURING THIS TWO PART PODCAST YOU'll DISCOVER... My exact steps to improve the communication and connection in your marriage quickly (even if your husband does nothing). How to get your husband to open up more, so that you can connect deeper and lern more about each other, yourself and your relationship. The exact words and attitude you must have to feel heard, understood, and supported after every conversation (without arguing, defensiveness & hurt feelings) Break the dangerous communication cycles that keep you stuck in misunderstanding, high emotions and disconnection. Join in the fun and get all of the challenge exercises by going to www.valeriekolick.com/communication 

Have you ever had a big decision to make and you didn't know if you should trust your heart, your head or your gut? Maybe you're looking for purpose. Or wondering why you don't feel fulfilled?  Maybe you're wondering if you need to cut loose a toxic relationship or finally quit an energy sucking job.  Maybe you just didn't even know where to start and you felt stuck and frustrated. Spending precious energy and time searching for an answer….asking around, reading books and blogs, searching for just one ounce of clarity?  We've all been there...unfortunately, most people are making HUGE MISTAKES when trying to make a decision or looking for clarity.  This mistake leads to wasted months, days, even years and causes anxiety each and every passing hour.  That's why in this episode of the Heal To Transform podcast I'm breaking down the exact steps to find clarity and giving you a simple process to help you make any decision.  In this podcast, you'll discover… The BIGGEST MISTAKE most people make that's keeps them stuck and prevents them from clarity and action.  How you can find REAL clarity. How to become more DECISIVE, CONFIDENT & INTUITIVE using a powerful process I break down in the podcast.  Why your BRAIN KEEPS YOU FRUSTRATED, overwhelmed and stuck in inaction and what to do to change this! This is a short, but powerful episode that you don't want to miss!!  Resources:  Get the 10 Powerful Questions for Clarity at www.valeriekolick.com/healtotransform/45

This week is a special podcast just for my mommas out there - especially the ones with young kiddos - this podcast is for you!   As a mom to a 6 and 8 year old I know (boy do I know!) how challenging it can be to stay patient and calm when my kiddos are pushing every possible button I have.    Not to mention that guilty monkey brain that sneaks up every night where I promise myself, “Tomorrow, I'll yell less. Tomorrow, I'll be more patient. Tomorrow, I'll do better.”   Have you been there?  I'm joined with a special guest In this week's episode of the Heal To Transform podcast...Wendy Bertagnole, parenting expert and author of Taming Tantrums: Simple and Positive Ways to Address Challenging Behavior and host of the Exceptional Parenting Podcast In this episode, you'll discover:  Why time-outs, punishing, and ignoring your child when “they just want attention” may work for the time being, but they also can lead to shame and guilt in your child all the way into adulthood.    Wendy breaks down the three reasons your children may be acting out, and how you can help them through these big emotions without distress and punishment.    What's really going on in your child's brain and how punishment can causes subconscious limiting beliefs and “not good enough” beliefs in your child and in you.    A powerful exercise to help you find more patience, CALM, and stronger connection in your every day parenting.   Learn more about Wendy Bertagnole https://wendybertagnole.com/about/ IG @imperfectmom Exceptional Parenting Podcast Taming Tantrums: Simple and Positive Ways to Address Challenging Behaviors by Wendy Bertagnole

You ready to meet some goals. Want to get motivated and stick to your change. Want to create some new habits and get rid of old habits that are no longer serving you?  What do you want for your life? What's your biggest goal, dream or desire? Then - you are in the right place. Today, you're going to learn about the powerful tool, called Motivational Brain Priming that will help you replace subconscious habits so that you can reach goals quickly and without willpower! WANT THE FREE WORKBOOK THAT WALKS YOU THROUGH EACH STEP? Follow me on IG @vkolick or FB www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching, FIND the Episode 43: Meet All Your Goals & Break Bad Habits with this 5 Step Motivational Brain Priming  POST and share, making sure to tag me! I'll DM or PM you the Workbook right away!

Could your expectations and beliefs be sabotaging your relationship?  What's generally accepted in society - isn't always the truth about your relationship.  Join me today, as I break down 6 HUGE MYTHS that could be hurting your relationship then....  REGISTER FOR THE FREE ONLINE WORKSHOP: 5 Secrets to Repair and Revive Your Marriage Workshop tomorrow!!  Click Here To Register for the FREE WORKSHOP This podcast will tell you about the sabotaging beliefs and lies about relationships - then the workshop is going to break down the 5 secrets to creating an Epic relationship.  It's the perfect pairing!    

Would you like to live your life more authentically and let go of extra added stress?  Did you know that by saying “yes” to others and not having boundaries adds stress to your life - AND can cause physical illness??  Our conversation today is all about how to stop living your life for others - and start living the life that you truly deserve… What's the #1 thing holding you back from your Epic life?  It's that people-pleasing attitude!! You're going to get tons of value today if ever feel like you don't have time for yourself or if you have constant stress and feel run down or lacking of energy. I hope you'll really take this in and be open to applying these new thoughts and ideas today.  If you are a new listener to the Heal to Transform podcast, we would love to hear from you.  Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you today! In this episode of the Heal To Transform podcast, you'll discover... Recent studies are showing that “people-pleasing” activities may actually lead to auto-immune diseases and raised levels of stress. The 4 most common behaviors that lead to physical illness and overwhelm.  Why your childhood may be the reason for the “people-pleasing” behavior, and 5 questions you can ask yourself each week that will help you stop living your life for everyone else - and start living authentically YOU! Download Your Worksheet Make sure to download and print this FREE journaling worksheet that will help you overcome “people-pleasing” and help you to live your life with less stress and more energy! Just click here. Resources Mentioned When the Body Says No: Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection by Gabor Mate  Episode 9: Boundary Superhero Episode 10: The Exact Scripts for Setting Healthy Boundaries Today. 5 Questions Journalling Download  Join the Conversation Our favorite part of recording a podcast each week is participating in the great conversations that happen in our FREE Facebook Community: The Heal To Transform Group. This weeks question is: Question: What was your biggest take-away from this weeks episode? Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ Free Heal To Transform FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST! You don't want to miss a thing. Make sure to click above and subscribe to the Heal To Transform podcast so you get automatic updates of new podcast episodes. CLICK HERE TO LEAVE US AN iTUNES REVIEW! We love to hear about your wins and successes….and your feedback means the world to us. So, if you're loving this podcast, make sure to spread the love and leave us a review today. Also, the reviews and ratings from our listeners help us to rank higher in iTunes, so more listeners can find us.

Why is loneliness one of the biggest epidemics in the world?    In this episode of the Heal to Transform podcast - we have a simple answer to this impossible problem….we'll also answer some of your other common challenges such as:    Why do I have to work so hard to change myself and my partner isn't doing anything.    My partner and I are growing apart - we're just not in love any more.    I'm changing and he's not, and it causing problems and disconnection in our relationship.   This episode is possibly one of the most mind-bending and relatable podcasts yet...it even made Wendy tear up...because it touched her so deeply.    If you are a new listener to the Heal to Transform podcast, we would love to hear from you.  Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you today! This podcast is for anyone who wants to do better, be better, and love more...   Our culture is directly responsible for the epidemic of loneliness - and you can start to change this with one simple act!! Which stage of growth and transformation are you in?  Why we push others away when they aren't doing what we want them to - and how to change this.  And one poignant statement that brought Wendy to tears and shifted her completely. Join the Conversation Our favorite part of recording a podcast each week is participating in the great conversations that happen in our FREE Facebook Community: The Heal To Transform Group. This weeks question is: Question: What was your biggest take-away from this weeks episode? Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ Free Heal To Transform FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST! You don't want to miss a thing. Make sure to click above and subscribe to the Heal To Transform podcast so you get automatic updates of new podcast episodes. CLICK HERE TO LEAVE US AN iTUNES REVIEW! We love to hear about your wins and successes….and your feedback means the world to us. So, if you're loving this podcast, make sure to spread the love and leave us a review today. Also, the reviews and ratings from our listeners help us to rank higher in iTunes, so more listeners can find us.

Are you a superachiever? Are you often very critical of yourself and get hurt easily by others criticism or judgement? Do you often feel exhausted or anxious because you are pushing yourself so hard and trying to prove your worth to yourself or others? Do you procrastinate and wait until the last minute to turn things in because you're not sure if your work is good enough?  If you answered yes to any of these questions - you may be a perfectionists….which means this episode of the Heal to Transform podcast is a MUST-LISTEN! If you are a new listener to the Heal to Transform podcast, we would love to hear from you.  Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you today! In this episode, you'll discover: The 3 HUGE mistakes that all perfectionists make - and what to do instead How fear and shame may be hiding under the need for success, accomplishment and overachievement.   How perfectionism is dangerous to your physical and mental well-being and health. Three simple actions you can take today to relieve the anxiety and exhaustion of needing to be perfect. How to help your daughter or son overcome perfectionism and teach them it's okay to fail. Join the Conversation Our favorite part of recording a podcast each week is participating in the great conversations that happen in our FREE Facebook Community: The Heal To Transform Group. This weeks question is: Question: Which of the 3 simple actions to overcome perfectionism are you going to take today?   Check Out More Heal To Transform Resources Episode 38: How to Get Over the Fear of Rejection Episode 37: Quieting Your Inner Critic Episode 33: 5 Simple Steps to Eliminate Indecision Episode 23: Overcome These 3 Challenges and You Will Become One of the Happiest, Most Successful People You Know Episode 21: The Power of Facing Your Fears Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ Free Heal To Transform FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST! You don't want to miss a thing. Make sure to click above and subscribe to the Heal To Transform podcast so you get automatic updates of new podcast episodes. CLICK HERE TO LEAVE US AN iTUNES REVIEW! We love to hear about your wins and successes….and your feedback means the world to us. So, if you're loving this podcast, make sure to spread the love and leave us a review today. Also, the reviews and ratings from our listeners help us to rank higher in iTunes, so more listeners can find us.

In this episode of the Heal To Transform podcast we're diving into one of the biggest fears that may be holding you back from living your epic life…. When this fear shows up it may cause some seriously sabotaging behavior like numbing yourself, shame, people-pleasing, avoiding success, playing small, and losing out on amazing connection. It's my biggest fear, and one that I've been working hard to overcome. It's the Fear of Rejection….and if this is one of your fears too then you'll want to listen to this episode of the Heal to Transform podcast, as we lay out 7 hacks to overcome so you can start playing BIG and living your dream life! If you are a new listener to the Heal to Transform podcast, we would love to hear from you.  Please visit our Contact Page and let us know how we can help you today! In this episode, you we discuss: The attitude of "who cares what others think" just doesn't work - we talk about WHY! How getting clear on your values and you “WHY” may be the biggest asset to moving past the fear of rejection. Why your past experiences are strengthening your fear, and how to move forward. The secret to leaving fear at the door when you are meeting new people, stepping outside of your box, or want to create new connections. How long it takes to actually change your negative thoughts and fears into empowering thoughts that drive you to action and success. Join the Conversation Our favorite part of recording a podcast each week is participating in the great conversations that happen in our FREE Facebook Community: The Heal To Transform Group. This weeks question is: Question: Which of the 7 hacks are you going to try out this week when the fear of rejection pops into your life? Check Out More Heal To Transform Resources Episodes 1-5: Creating Your Ultimate Life Statement Episode 37: Quieting Your Inner Critic Episode 33: 5 Simple Steps to Eliminate Indecision Episode 23: Overcome These 3 Challenges and You Will Become One of the Happiest, Most Successful People You Know Episode 21: The Power of Facing Your Fears Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ Free Heal To Transform FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com   CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST! You don't want to miss a thing. Make sure to click above and subscribe to the Heal To Transform podcast so you get automatic updates of new podcast episodes. GET A SHOUTOUT! CLICK HERE TO LEAVE US AN iTUNES REVIEW! We love to hear about your wins and successes….and your feedback means the world to us. So, if you're loving this podcast, make sure to spread the love and leave us a review today. Also, the reviews and ratings from our listeners help us to rank higher in iTunes, so more listeners can find us.

We all have an inner critic that we must learn to work with so it doesn't work against us. The problem is if we try to ignore the inner critic, it will just get louder and louder. Keeping us stuck in guilt, shame, unworthiness, and sabotaging our relationships and our deepest desires and goals. In this podcast, we've identified the FOUR TRUTHS that you must understand if you want to finally quiet that nagging inner critic, and start using it's power for good. Once you understand these four truths, you will be armed with a powerful tool for working with your inner critic instead of it working against you. You'll finally be released from it's sabotaging clutches and will learn to live with inner peace and confidence. In this podcast you will... Understand why ignoring your inner critic may be the worst mistake you could make, and what to do instead. Discover how humor can help you to disconnect from the inner critic and can quickly bring you back to inner peace (& laughter). Learn how the inner critic is holding you back in life and may be interfering with your relationships and your successes. Learn the ONE LINER that will instantly quiet your inner critic so that you can relax again and continue in your success! Join the Free 10-Day Quieting Your Inner Critic Journaling Challenge Click here Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ Free Heal To Transform FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST! You don't want to miss a thing. Make sure to click above and subscribe to the Heal To Transform podcast so you get automatic updates of new podcast episodes. CLICK HERE TO LEAVE US AN iTUNES REVIEW! We love to hear about your wins and successes….and your feedback means the world to us. So, if you're loving this podcast, make sure to spread the love and leave us a review today. Also, the reviews and ratings from our listeners help us to rank higher in iTunes, so more listeners can find us.

We all deserve to live a happy, fulfilling and exciting life. The problem is that we often get stuck in our day-to-day activities, so we forget what once inspired us and made us happy. We start thinking, “I have it all, why am I still unhappy?”, “Why do I feel like something is still missing from my life?” “Isn't there more to life?” 80% of how we think, feel and behave is on auto-pilot, and somewhere along the line we lose ourselves...we lose our identify. In today's podcast, Wendy and I are going to walk you through 4 Powerfully Simple steps you can take to get unstuck and start finding your true identity and purpose again. Follow these 4-steps and you'll never wonder “Isn't there more to life?” - you'll know the answer - and you'll know exactly how to get there! In this episode you will… Discover why you don't need to feel guilty by wanting more! Stop letting the fear of success and the fear of failure keep you from creating your incredible life. Understand what your BRAIN needs in order to be more successful and create more self-esteem Learn how to recover and thrive after a big change in your life - like a divorce, a move, a job change, and so on... Here's to your happiness, fulfillment and success!! Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST! You don't want to miss a thing. Make sure to click above and subscribe to the Heal To Transform podcast so you get automatic updates of new podcast episodes. CLICK HERE TO LEAVE US AN iTUNES REVIEW! We love to hear about your wins and successes….and your feedback means the world to us. So, if you're loving this podcast, make sure to spread the love and leave us a review today. Also, the reviews and ratings from our listeners help us to rank higher in iTunes, so more listeners can find us.

Is it possible to transform your marriage in 25-minutes? (without your partner even knowing?) Passionate, loving relationships ARE NOT created by learning great communication, weekly date nights, or mastering “secret” intimacy skills. Because even if you know all of these things, you usually don't do them.   We're smart women - we know we're not “supposed” to nag or scream at our husband. We know we're not “supposed” to think he's a lazy, selfish jerk. We know we're not “supposed” to imagine how our lives and marriages would be so much better if he would just change (or magically become Channing Tatum) We know we're “supposed” to say things like “I feel…” and “So, what I heard was…” We know we can't control our husbands - but, boy, do we try! It's not your fault. Your brain isn't wired for passionate, healthy and happy relationships. Your brain is wired to protect you. And it will do whatever it can to keep any potential rejection or pain far, far away. Your brain will do some extreme things to keep you safe - stuff like trying to control your partner, tricking you to believe there's something better out there, unleashing the anger, and telling you not to trust or fully love your partner - because eventually...he'll hurt you. Unfortunately, all of these tactics are the exact thing creating distance, resentment, and unhappiness in relationships. And, until we reprogram our brain to realize that it's safe to fully committing to and deeply loving our partners - we'll continue to push the passion away. We'll continue to stay disconnected, and feel like roommates. So, what if you could teach your brain how to react with love, how to create passion, and how to let go of blame, control and resentments? What if you could do this in less than 25-minutes, even if the relationship's been struggling for years? Join me for my free, 25-Minute Relationship Reboot. Your chance to reprogram your relationship mindset using the 5 simple steps I teach inside my paid program. These 5-steps can help you fix any relationship challenge, and will also help you to feel more loved, adored and appreciated. Is your marriage and happiness worth 25-minutes of your time? READY TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP: Check out the groundbreaking Relationship Mindset Bootcamp at www.relationshipmindsetbootcamp.com   

Having control over our lives offers us a sense of security and safety. The problem is that the need for control often goes into overdrive, wastes our precious energy and puts us in a place of stress, overwhelm and anxiety. Just the opposite of what we truly want. It's time to learn what you can control and what you can't control so you don't get dragged down anymore! To help you start letting go of overwhelm I've created a simple Who, What, Why, How process that is going to help you let go so that you can get your energy back and start allowing more peace and happiness into your life. Use this simple practice, and you'll release the worry and discover more energy and freedom. What possibilities would that open up for you? In this episode you will... Understand how trying to control can make you feel more outta control than ever. Learn the difference between what you can control, and what you can't control. Get the 4-step simple process for finally “letting go” so you can have more peace and freedom than ever before. Discover how letting go of control can positively impact your relationships. 7-Day Relationship Mindset Challenge: Have you saved your seat for the 7-Day Relationship Mindset Challenge yet? It's a 7-day experience full of community, LIVE coaching videos, activities and discussion that may just fix your relationship challenges quickly! Click below to join now - we start May 23rd! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE CHALLENGE Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: valerie@valeriekolick.com CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST! You don't want to miss a thing. Make sure to click above and subscribe to the Heal To Transform podcast so you get automatic updates of new podcast episodes. CLICK HERE TO LEAVE US AN iTUNES REVIEW! We love to hear about your wins and successes….and your feedback means the world to us. So, if you're loving this podcast, make sure to spread the love and leave us a review today. Also, the reviews and ratings from our listeners help us to rank higher in iTunes, so more listeners can find us.

Do you ever have a hard time making decisions? Wish that someone else could just tell you what to do? Every day we're faced with dozens of little and big decisions. From standing in your closet debating between the black flats or the cute new platforms you just bought - but you know are going to hurt your feet. To life-altering decisions like a career change or big move. We get burned out trying to make decisions, and then we stop to trust ourselves and get paralyzed with fear that we'll make the wrong decision or that we're going to regret something. In the Heal To Transform podcast, Wendy and I are breaking down the three biggest obstacles you face when making a decision. And then we give you 5 simple steps you can take TODAY to help you make confident decisions with NO regrets!! Here's some of the highlights: How indecision is killing your energy and drive! The top fears you need to overcome so you can be a decision making superhero. The one tool that will help you let go of the fear of regret, so you can move forward confidently in any decision you make. How to tap into your intuition using a tool you'll find in your wallet! Learn more: www.valeriekolick.com/healtotransform/33

Ever wonder why you're working so hard, yet you feel like you're living paycheck to paycheck? Are you a business owner, that can't seem to break a certain income level? Ready to eliminate debt, and start putting some moolah into your savings account - so you can finally have all of those experiences and vacays you've been dreaming about? You may not know this, but the amount of money you have in your bank account is directly related to your thoughts and beliefs around money!! In today's podcast, I'm going to show you how you can make more, spend less, and pay off your debt quicker - just by shifting your thoughts. I know it sounds crazy - Wendy didn't believe it either - but right after this episode...she watched extra income roll-in...and maybe you will too! In this episode you will... Discover the mindset blocks that are keeping you from abundance and wealth Rewire your brain and mindset so that you can experience money flow. Get the tools to stop overspending, and learn how some money may be toxic and you need to get rid of it, if you want the good money. Learn YOUR PERSONAL money blocks and how to overcome them! Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST! You don't want to miss a thing. Make sure to click above and subscribe to the Heal To Transform podcast so you get automatic updates of new podcast episodes. CLICK HERE TO LEAVE US AN iTUNES REVIEW! We love to hear about your wins and successes….and your feedback means the world to us. So, if you're loving this podcast, make sure to spread the love and leave us a review today. Also, the reviews and ratings from our listeners help us to rank higher in iTunes, so more listeners can find us.

Ready to get more done, have more time, and start living your fullest life? The two biggest reasons I see for people not taking the first step to change and growth is “I don't have the money to invest” and “I don't have the time to invest” The problem is that we have a poor relationship with time and money. Until today!!! Wendy and I are breaking down the most common mindset blocks that are keeping you from having more time in your life, and we'll also be giving you practical steps to find more time in your day RIGHT NOW! Learn more: www.valeriekolick.com/healtotransform/31     Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST! You don't want to miss a thing. Make sure to click above and subscribe to the Heal To Transform podcast so you get automatic updates of new podcast episodes. CLICK HERE TO LEAVE US AN iTUNES REVIEW! We love to hear about your wins and successes….and your feedback means the world to us. So, if you're loving this podcast, make sure to spread the love and leave us a review today. Also, the reviews and ratings from our listeners help us to rank higher in iTunes, so more listeners can find us.

Can a sabbatical - or just a vacation - change your life? We all need to schedule pleasure and fun back into our lives, and there's no better place to start than planning your next vacation - or month long sabbatical!! It's time to start making travel a priority in order to recharge your life, bring you new experiences, and make incredible memories with your family. The problem is that we're too busy, we think we have too much to do, or we don't make traveling and fun a priority. THIS IS A HUGE MISTAKE! Susie Chau of Carpe Diem Traveller joins us today to talk about how travel can refresh your mind, your body, and bring amazing clarity and experiences into your life. Traveling can open your mind and your heart to new, incredible ideas and inspiration! She also gives us tons of advice around how to make travel a reality no matter your time or money budget!! Resources Mentioned:  Me to We - volunteer trips (some are tailored to families) https://www.metowe.com/trips/ Austin Adventures - group tours for families around the world, specializing in outdoors adventures, especially in US National Parks https://www.austinadventures.com/ Backroads - multi-day group tours by bike (they have family options as well) - https://www.backroads.com/ Golden Door - All-inclusive and immersive wellness retreat in Southern CA (has women-only weeks and caters to single travelers) https://goldendoor.com/ ******************** About Susie Susie Chau, founder of Carpe Diem Traveler, helps burnt out professionals take a month long sabbatical to explore the world and themselves. She took two month long and one year long sabbaticals throughout her 13 year career as a Management Consultant, all while keeping her job and moving up the corporate ladder. Susie's love of travel inspired her to open a travel agency to help people get outside their comfort zones and open their minds to new possibilities. She has combined her travel planning, consulting, and sabbatical expertise into a program with a step-by-step roadmap to planning a month long sabbatical in 30 days. Social Media: Website: https://www.carpediemtraveler.com/ FB (622): https://www.facebook.com/carpediemtraveler/ IG (1083): https://www.instagram.com/carpediemtraveler/ LI (825): https://www.linkedin.com/in/susiechau Twitter (2342): https://twitter.com/carpediemtravlr Pinterest (519): https://www.pinterest.com/carpediemtravlr/

If you are struggling or feeling stagnant in your relationship and you've tried everything but feel like nothing works - then it's time to harness the power of your mindset and your brain to start creating change from the inside out. The problem is that we are looking outside for the greatest communication tricks, the latest “relationship fix” book, or a blog that will magically fix our relationship. But, the truth is these things won't work until you shift your mindset and neuro-hack your brain for incredible inner and outer love. Your mindset impacts everything in your life - especially your relationship.How you respond to your partner, how you communicate, how close you feel to your partner, and how much you allow yourself to be cherished and adored. The difference between those who continue to struggle in their relationships and those who break the pattern and reinvent their marriage is this: They understand how their brain, thoughts, emotions and behaviors are affecting their relationship. Over the last week, I released a 5-part FREE video series that broke down a powerful framework that will reprogram your mind and help you create a relationship where you feel heard, understood and desired. And today, Wendy and I are going to hand it to you - cliff notes style!! If you want to truly create happiness and transformation in your relationship - then this is where you MUST start...because if your brain is operating off old patterns and sabotaging beliefs...then there's no chance for change. In this episode you will… Understand why your brain doesn't want you or your relationship to change, and how to get around this. Get the 4 keys to creating an Epic relationship and life. How your unspoken thoughts may be destroying the connection between you and your partner and how to change it immediately. Learn why you have a hard time controlling emotions in your relationship and what you can do about it so you can stop the arguments and truly start connecting. And much more… Resources: The Relationship Mindset Challenge All Access Page (Waitlist after April 20, 2019) The Relationship Mindset Bootcamp The Epic Relationship Framework Visual

Great communication is the foundation to any amazing relationship - and this is no different for your marriage. Unfortunately, 90% of couples state that communication is their biggest problem. The problem is that our brains are wired to protect us and often go into fight or flight at the first signs of trouble in an intimate relationship - which makes “healthy” communication really tough. Luckily, we can learn to manage this reaction - and help our partners manage their reactions - with some simple skills. Once you learn these skills, your communication and connection will become sooo much deeper! In this episode you will: Discover exactly what makes your partner heat up with anger or become cold as ice and close off and how to change the pattern. You'll learn the single driver that is causing communication difficulties. You'll get the magic “LUVE PINS” potion that will help you avoid arguments, get your needs met, and connect intimately to your partner. And, if you listen closely - you'll hear one technique that my husband created, and I DO NOT RECOMMEND : ) RESOURCES:  Sign Up For the FREE CHALLENGE 5-Days To Feel Heard, Understood and DESIRED in Your Relationship! www.valeriekolick.com/desire Get more information & FREE LUVE PIN Communication Cards here: www.valeriekolick.com/healtotransform/28

“You have value, your feelings matter, and they're telling you something.” - Stephani Roberts We are wired for connection and a great group of friends are needed more now than ever. In this day and age of digital connection the rate of loneliness is higher than ever! The problem is, making and keeping great friends as an adult can be tough. We end up becoming friends with our kids' friends' parents and whoever happens to live next to us. Which can be a blessing or a curse. So, when is it time to lean in to a friendship or when is it time to opt-out of a friendship that may not be serving you. Stephani Roberts, walks us through:  A 3 part process for getting rid of toxic friendships,  How to bring in new friendships that are supportive, loving and uplifting, and You'll also understand how to deal with friends how are overly needy, or not being the type of friend you need them to be. We open up a lot of great conversations here and you'll gain so much about how to tune in to yourself in order to gain an awesome support circle of amazing friends.   Resources: Don't Forget to Join the FREE LIVE EXPERIENCE: 5-Days to Feel Heard, Understood & DESIRED in Your Relationship! Join here: www.valeriekolick.com/desire   More About Stephani: STEPHANI ROBERTS The Authority Amplifier for Content Creators Steph Roberts is an avid lifelong learner and spiritual seeker. She's a podcast host shining the spotlight on women freeing themselves from emotional abuse and finding a way to heal and thrive on their terms. She's a Digital Content Strategist who works with experts, coaches, and spiritual healers to Amplify their Authority online via podcast guesting and strategic repurposing of content. Web: https://StephaniRoberts.com  Get the 3 Ways to Amplify Your Authority FREE PDF http://bit.ly/3WaysAmplify Podcasts: https://AudaciousMamas.com https://TheAudaciousLife.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephaniroberts/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephGetsSocial/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/audaciouslife/

We have all gone through trauma or emotional hurts and bruises throughout our life that has caused energetic blockages in our mind and in our body. The problem is that unless we learn how to release this hurt and negative energy from the past, it can cause illness in our bodies and can sabotage success in other areas of our life. Today, Silke Tyler, Energy Healer and Hypnotherapist, is sharing some simple steps to heal us heal energetically and clear patterns that are holding us back. This is a new take on healing your physical body through energy and emotion, that may seem a little woo-woo but is actually backed by recent science! Silke also starts to convince me of the power of crystals and flower essences to heal - it's never been my thing, but her experience and knowledge has got my interest...and I bet it will spark some curiosity within you too! In this episode you will… Discover where energy blocks may be lying within you and how they can be cleared for ultimate healing in your mind and body. Understand how to stop “being so hard on yourself” so you can open up more possibilities in your life. How we can heal energetically and clearing patterns that are holding us back. A quick glimpse at using crystals and flower essence for healing. Resources Healing Through Energy Work: https://www.silkesart.com/blog/2019/3/healing-through-energy-work Learn more about Silke: https://www.silkesart.com

We all have to learn to let go sometimes...to release the overwhelm, guilt and stress of our lives and truly step into our purpose and mission. The problem is that we're overworking ourselves, are filled with guilt, and aren't taking the time to reflect, learn, and create a more purpose-drive, fun, and joyful life….until a HUGE life tragedy or illness strikes. Tracy Calvert, a certified soul centered success coach, knows this experience all too well. She was overworked and suffered a tragic physical injury that left her in incredible pain, and was no longer to work and serve. Until...she discovered that she had the inner power and will to heal herself and create a life on her own terms. A life of joy, epic experiences and massive success! Today, Tracy is going to be sharing some major truth bombs, and magic that will help you step out of the F.O.G. of stress and overwhelm so that you can create a life full of love, creation, and joy! In this episode, you will - Learn how to give yourself permission to “let-go” of stress & overwhelm. How to release guilt & shame for good. Discover your soul's purpose and vision (it may not be what you think!) A quick exercise to help you “find your happiness,” and Why being “strong” may not always be the answer. Resources Tracycalvert.com Follow Tracy on IG @tracyjcalvert Episode 24: The 2 Minute Morning Ritual

The most successful & productive people start their day with intention, purpose and the perfect morning routine to rev them up! But, who has time for a two hour morning routine when your getting the kids up, rushing out the door, and just trying to get to work on time. Luckily, you don't need 2 hours every morning to be more productive and have the perfect routine - you can truly transform your life with just this easy 2 minute morning routine. Do this routine every day right after your brush your teeth and you will start your day with more energy, happiness and drive than ever before. All you have to do is THINK B.I.G.! Dive in and listen to this super simple, two-minute morning routine that will supercharge your day!

  Vibrant leaders must overcome 3 HUGE life challenges in order to create true success, abundance & joy in their life. The problem is that most people will NEVER reach their full potential in life because they are focusing on the wrong areas….or just trying to do too much! Over the past two years, I've been trying to distill everything I know from two decades of brain & psychology research into a simple framework to help people quickly transform their lives. I've wanted to know what is the ONE thing that will have the biggest impact to those I work with and to the world. Unfortunately, I couldn't limit it to ONE thing….but I've discovered that there are 3 SECRETS - 3 challenges that you must overcome - if you want to reach your full potential and become the happiest, most abundant, most successful version of yourself. And in this podcast, I'm finally releasing this magical system! If you are able to overcome these three universal challenges, YOU WILL DISCOVER incredible transformation and unlimited potential & joy in all areas of your life. So, are you ready to discover the 3 SECRETS?? Dive in here…. In this episode you will… Learn the 3 obstacles that the ONLY the most successful, happiest, and abundant people in the world have over (and how you can too!) Discover where you are currently in life and how you can become the Vibrant Leader you are meant to be. Understand why focusing on “How You Want To Feel” is much more important than “What You Want To Have”. Learn how to break free from the chains and beliefs that are sabotaging your life, so that you can stop living in mediocrity and become limitless! Resources For more information about subconscious reprogramming, listen to the following episodes: Episode 19: How to Get Unstuck In Any Part of Your Life Episode 18: The 4 Sabotaging Fears - And How To Break Free Episode 8: The Limiting Beliefs That Are Keeping You Stuck Episode 7: Rewiring Your Brain for Your Ultimate Life

You need to feel cherished & adored in your relationship. The problem is that improving your communication, thinking more positively, or weekly date nights aren't working. And every relationship is so different that one relationship “fix” isn't going to work for another. Luckily, I've identified 6 universal mistakes that most women make in their relationships, which are holding you back from feeling adored and cherished. Stop making these mistakes, and you'll see the passion come flooding back into your relationship. You'll notice that he looks at you with a new adoration, and you'll feel more supported and loved than ever before. In Episode 22 of the Heal To Transform podcast, you will... Discover why communication isn't the problem (and what to focus on instead) Learn how you may be putting unneeded pressure on yourself, your partner, and your relationship and how this is actually pushing him away. Why I don't do date nights, yet still keep the passion alive! Finally let go of resentments, so that you can start rebuilding your relationship from a positive foundation. Resources 6 Reasons You Don't Feel Cherished In Your Relationship (MindBodyGreen) FREE CHECKLIST: 8 Simple Hacks to a Passion-Filled Marriage

Vibrant achievers face their fears & challenges head-on.The challenge is that facing your fears and problems head on can cause some anxiety. It can make you feel so uncomfortable. But, avoidance is making your life small, keeping you from reaching your goals, and ruining relationships...every single day. In episode 21 of the Heal To Transform podcast, we're breaking down a simple process you can use to overcome resistance, and face your challenges and problems head on (without shutting down) Use this process in your life now, and you'll never miss a big opportunity again because of fear! You'll open up more possibilities, and fix problems quickly and without anxiety & stress. So, how will your life expand when you finally face what you've been avoiding? Click here to join the discussion in the Heal To Transform Community. In this episode you will… Discover how to face your biggest challenges and problems with courage and confidence - so you can live your biggest, most fulfilling life. Understand how avoidance is holding you back in relationships, opportunities, and reaching your goals. Learn how to overcome resistance and anxiety when facing challenges and fears. Get two techniques for relieving fear, stress or anxiety QUICKLY, so that you can crush your goals!

How do I get my husband on board with my new business idea? My husband sabotages my diet and exercise plan. My husband doesn't support me in anything that I do! How can I get my husband to take on more of the parenting and household work, so I have more time to concentrate on my new journey? I hear these statements all the time. It can be scary to go down a new professional or life path - and even scarier when your spouse doesn't support your new journey, or worse yet, tries to sabotage the journey. In this episode of the Heal To Transform podcast, Wendy and I will help you build your arsenal....so you can finally get the support you need in your relationship! And I even give you the EXACT SCRIPTS you need to get your husband's support.  CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE GUIDE & EXACT SCRIPTS References:  Why I Expect Nothing From My Husband (MindBodyGreen)

We are walking around in a daze for most of our lives. Living out habitual thinking, acting, and doing...and then wonder why we feel stuck and unfulfilled in our current circumstances.  In this episode we break down the main theory of change, and how you can use these simple steps to get unstuck from any area of your life.  So, if you need to spice up your relationships, change careers, start kicking your body into gear, or just want to be freaking awesome - this episode is for you! To learn more about the Forgive To Transform program go to: bit.ly/forgivetotransform   

I've come to find, after years of working with clients to heal their past & release their fears and blocks - that there are four main fears that continue to sabotage success, relationships & wealth. If you can discover these fears - and start to push past them - you open up a whole new world for yourself. You stop holding yourself back. So - I'm going to give you the FOUR biggest fears and give you an example of each - then I'm going to break down some simple ways to push past your fears. Often - all it takes to rewire your brain for success is the learning experience - the knowledge that you gain - this new knowledge creates new connections in your brain. And that new connection creates EPIC FREEDOM in your life!  

In today's episode I'm talking with one amazingly courageous woman who's overcome the trauma of a toxic mother, childhood molestation, and has rebuilt tumultuous relationships with her daughter. Dr. Melissa Halstead has achieved extraordinary healing and continues to spread her love & caring to her students, family and her community. Today, you're going to hear her story of how she's done all of this in less than 6 months and how you can do it to! The Healing & Forgiveness Experience: Have you saved your seat for the Healing & Forgiveness Online Experience yet? It's a 5-day experience full of community, LIVE coaching videos, activities and discussion that may just alter your life forever. Click below to join now - we start January 7th! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE EXPERIENCE Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST! You don't want to miss a thing. Make sure to click above and subscribe to the Heal To Transform podcast so you get automatic updates of new podcast episodes. CLICK HERE TO LEAVE US AN iTUNES REVIEW! We love to hear about your wins and successes….and your feedback means the world to us. So, if you're loving this podcast, make sure to spread the love and leave us a review today. Also, the reviews and ratings from our listeners help us to rank higher in iTunes, so more listeners can find us. www.valeriekolick.com/heal

Raise your hand if you are a big ol' procrastinator - you're always waiting until the last minute to get stuff done - and it has really affected your life (and stress levels). Now, another form of procrastination is not following through - this is just procrastination on the back end of the activity. You start - you just don't finish. Raise your hand if this is you? Okay, shout out loud if you have the hardest damn time making a decision? And lastly, give me a big nod if you consider yourself a big of a perfectionist? How many of you have your hands up, shouting and nodding profusely up and down - please send me a picture if you are doing this - I'd love to see it. In today's Heal To Transform podcast, you're going to discover exactly why you procrastinate...why you have such a hard time making a decision….or why you have an overwhelming need to do things perfectly. And, you'll figure out a quick way to get rid of these sabotaging habits!   The Healing & Forgiveness Experience: Have you saved your seat for the Healing & Forgiveness Online Experience yet? It's a 5-day experience full of community, LIVE coaching videos, activities and discussion that may just alter your life forever. Click below to join now - we start January 7th! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE EXPERIENCE Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST! You don't want to miss a thing. Make sure to click above and subscribe to the Heal To Transform podcast so you get automatic updates of new podcast episodes. CLICK HERE TO LEAVE US AN iTUNES REVIEW! We love to hear about your wins and successes….and your feedback means the world to us. So, if you're loving this podcast, make sure to spread the love and leave us a review today. Also, the reviews and ratings from our listeners help us to rank higher in iTunes, so more listeners can find us. www.valeriekolick.com/heal

Today you're going to finally discover how to be free of shame and unhealthy guilt in your life. We're going to break down the different between shame and guilt, explain why you need guilt and how it can help you to become the best version of you, and on the other hand, you'll discover how shame can be detrimental to your health if you don't learn how to forgive yourself and let the shame go. And in honor of the #metoo movement - we'll also be discussing how to release body shame and start taking back your power. I know this episode is life-changing! So dive in. Highlights: Difference between shame & guilt Life saving attributes of guilt and how to use it to your benefit How to release shame, including body shame #metoo Raising your confidence & self-esteem Finding freedom and power in emotional hurts & wounds The Healing & Forgiveness Experience: Have you saved your seat for the Healing & Forgiveness Online Experience yet? It's a 5-day experience full of community, LIVE coaching videos, activities and discussion that may just alter your life forever. Click below to join now - we start January 7th! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE EXPERIENCE Let's get social: IG: https://www.instagram.com/vkolick/ FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healtotransform/ FB Business Page: https://www.facebook.com/valeriekolickcoaching/ Website: www.valeriekolick.com Contact E-mail: mailto:valerie@valeriekolick.com CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST! You don't want to miss a thing. Make sure to click above and subscribe to the Heal To Transform podcast so you get automatic updates of new podcast episodes. CLICK HERE TO LEAVE US AN iTUNES REVIEW! We love to hear about your wins and successes….and your feedback means the world to us. So, if you're loving this podcast, make sure to spread the love and leave us a review today. Also, the reviews and ratings from our listeners help us to rank higher in iTunes, so more listeners can find us.

I'm a HUGE BELIEVER that the quality of our life is directly related to the quality of our relationships. That's why I'm so excited to release Episode 14: How To Stop The Struggling In Your Relationships TODAY! In Episode 14, we're bringing you some major truth bombs and mindset shifts that are going to help you stop the struggle….

If you ever feel anxiety, stress or overwhelm….if you ever feel like your brain has been taken over by the negative thought aliens and you can't stop the running reel in your head saying, “I'm not good enough, I can't do this, I'll never get through this, I CAN'T HANDLE THIS ANYMORE!, What's wrong with me!” Then this episode of the Heal To Transform Podcast is for you. Tune it to learn: How to stop the monkey brain of negative thoughts that keeps you up at night, and make your heart race and your mind spin. What's going on in your brain and body to cause anxiety and stress and more importantly - how to put an end to it. The FIVE simple questions you need to ask yourself in order to have a more peaceful mind & life. A quick 20 second exercise that will stop anxiety in it's tracks. Why anxiety is actually protecting you….and how to start using your anxiety to heal yourself from past hurts and emotional wounds. And Much More…. If you want to feel more peace, release the anxiety and stress, and create true transformation in your life, this is a must-listen episode! You won't find this information anywhere else! Grab Your Free Guide Here: www.valeriekolick.com/healtotransform/13