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Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are infections that are spread through sexual contact, including vaginal, anal, and oral sex. They can be caused by bacteria, viruses, or parasites and may not always have visible symptoms.It's important to practice safe sex by using condoms and getting regular STI testing, as many STIs can be treated and cured if detected early. If left untreated, STIs can lead to serious health problems and can even be life-threatening.While getting tested may be difficult and pricey, it's important to understand the spectrum and keep yourself safe. Additionally, if you are an adult content creator, performer or sex worker, taking a risk and not getting a test puts not only your health at risk but also your job. In this podcast episode I had the privilege of conversing with Stacy and Andras, both of whom represent STI testing clinics. Stacy Feemster, a nurse practitioner at Talent Testing Service in the USA, and Andras Vegh, who manages a Talent Testing Service clinic in Budapest.Our discussion is around topics such as STI testing standards, an in-depth discussion about most of the infections that people should get tested for, confusion around Ureaplasma test and strategies employed by Talent Testing to avoid results falsification. The episode is densely packed with essential information, particularly important for those involved in the sex industry or individuals engaging in unprotected sex with multiple partners. If you enjoy this episode, share it with your friends or on social media, and don't forget to tag @redcheeksnoshame

Maggie MacDonalds is a researcher who looks into the fascinating world of pornographic platforms and their cultural impact. With a graduate specialisation in Sexual Diversity Studies, Maggie's work examines how technology, labour, governance, and cultural production intersect in the porn industry. She serves on the advisory board of PornHub and is a proud member of the Free Speech Coalition where she advocates for the protection of sex workers and advocates for the freedom of sexual expression. Tune in to hear her perspectives on the ever-evolving landscape of adult entertainment.In this episode, our discussion centred around digital platforms and their significant impact on the pornographic landscape, particularly focusing on major companies such as PornHub. Maggie shed light on the 2020 PornHub controversy, the underlying motives of anti-pornography movements, and the spread of illegal sexual content on other digital platforms such as Facebook.If you enjoy it, share it with your friends or on social media, and don't forget to tag @redcheeksnoshameSupport the showJoin the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy. This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process. If you want to:

Meet Athena Gayle, also known as The Sex Copywriter.Athena writes about sex and exclusively collaborates with sextech, sexual wellness, and sexual pleasure brands. She caters her email marketing to everyone within the space, from e-comm to solopreneurs. Athena's portfolio includes collaborations with various startups, coaches, therapists, and adult toy companies.Athena is passionate about partnering with brands aiming to build a strong community with their audience. She firmly believes that if everyone prioritized daily orgasms, the world would be a happier place.In a recent episode, Athena talked about her most vulnerable moments, dropped some jaw-dropping tips for perfecting your blowjob game, and spilled a few secrets to crafting newsletters that are so sexy, they practically write themselves.Support the showJoin the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy. This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process. If you want to:

Ola Miedzynska is a sex technology and adult tech entrepreneur, business consultant, sex tech hackathon advisor, sex work advocate and feminist. Ola's career has centered around the technology industry for over a decade, from early-stage startup development to corporate consulting. From augmented reality to wearables, she worked with over 180 global sex tech brands. She is a founder and CEO of Sxtech EU - the only global sex tech platform and annual conference dedicated to the innovation of technology inside the sex tech and adult tech industry.  Ola actively supports technological transformation in building a global ecosystem around two bridging industries - sex tech and adult tech. As co-founder of Eroeblla.com she advocates for sex workers' rights by bridging the gap between sex technology and destigmatization of sex work.Time codes: 00:33 Growing up under the Iron Curtain 01:22 Reflecting on the societal shifts in Poland post 1990s and how they affected communication about intimacy08:44 Formative personal experiences 15:14 Sexual identity exploration 22:26 Entering the world of sex tech and adult industry34:57 Erobella's mission and safety measures01:22 Future of sex tech and impact on traditional sex workSupport the showJoin the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy. This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process. If you want to:

Dive into an unfiltered and entertaining conversation with Lola Jean - the sex educator, fetish wrestler, and record world holder of volume squirting, who also happens to be the head mistress of 7 Days Of Domination. I stumbled upon Lola's sex-ed video about pegging on afterglow. The film was fun, engaging and without frills. At this moment I knew I had to snag her for a podcast chat. In this episode, we dive into it all, no agenda, just real talk. Lola shares details on navigating desires, respecting boundaries, and how to navigate through consensual breath-play. This one's about finding your limits, keeping it real, and having a damn good time. Tune in for a no-frills conversation that's as insightful as it is entertaining. Episode navigation:00:01:14 - Lola Jean's journey into sex education00:04:17 - Squirting: control, challenges, and misconceptions00:09:57 - Exploring reasons for intimacy00:11:25 - Intention in self-pleasure00:21:44 - Sex education without frills00:23:27 - Power dynamics and communication in relationships00:25:00 - Individuality in professional and personal life00:27:30 - Challenges in communication01:15:12 - Psychology in BDSM practices01:16:13 - BDSM and personal preferences01:19:51 - Domination and subspace01:33:13 - Learning about BDSM by exploration01:40:35 - Lola Jean's educational projects and contact infoSupport the showJoin the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy. This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process. If you want to:

Trained as a sex educator, psychologist, and certified clinical sexologist, Camille Bataillon brings rich expertise to the realm of sexual wellness. In 2019, in the heart of Brussels, she co-founded a centre dedicated to this cause. By 2021, she expanded her reach and started working as a sexologist on the first teleconsultation platform dedicated to women's sexual well-being. Apart from her hands-on therapeutic work, Camille has penned a book about sexuality after childbirth, offering her readers invaluable insights, which she also shared on this podcast episode. Working with individuals and couples worldwide, her mission is clear: to foster understanding and deepen the joy in their intimate lives.Camille Bataillon's website & podcastSupport the showJoin the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical production of intimate scenes. I have helped hundreds of first-time models and real-life couples produce their intimate scenes ethically and professionally. Some models eventually became real stars, like Angela White, for example. This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process. If you want to:

Intro:In this episode, I spoke with Maria Bettina, a former competitive rower who became an adult media entrepreneur. She founded Freyja, a platform that combined adult content and sex education.Maria shared with me her journey and the challenges she encountered along the way. Because she ran XXX company, she faced various difficulties, including having her bank account closed, and struggled with marketing her site due to social media restrictions. But every limitation breeds creativity, and so Maria came up with a funny way to captivate the audience and promote her content across the platforms. Also … she turns her favourite social media insults into statements on mugs.Maria addressed the lack of proper content moderation, not only within adult platforms but across social media in general. And we dived into how Freyja has implemented effective moderation practices.Moreover, Maria emphasises the significance of sex education and porn literacy. And we spoke about who bears responsibility for creating a safer and more inclusive industry for both insiders and consumers.If you enjoy it, share it with your friends or on social media, and don't forget to tag: @redcheeksnoshameEpisode Navigation:00:01:00 Watching porn 00:05:30 Social media banns and influencers marketing 00:20:50 Harmful regulations00:26:16 Starting a site with adult content 00:32:00 Overcoming issues with banking 00:36:10 Ethical porn and verification system 00:46:30 Licensing content vs content being uploaded 00:50:20 Age verification 00:57:30 Values 00:59:20 Student-teacher porn01:13:30 Reporting content Links:Freya Education Maria's Substack Support the showJoin RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

*This episode is in the Polish language*Od jakiegoś już czasu chciałam nagrać odcinek podcastu po polsku. Było trochę strachu ze zapomne jak coś powiedzieć w moim języku, ale okazało się że nie było aż tak źle :) No ale druga rzecz jest taka że ja miałam wspaniałych gości w tym odcinku, i w dużej mierze dzięki nim wszystko poszło gładziutko. So … without further due :) Aga i Żwirek - twórcy Warszawskiego Festiwalu Filmów Post Pornograficznych! W tym roku (2023) festival po raz drugi odbędzie się w Polsce. I moim zdaniem jest to niesamowite że coś tak wspaniałego udało się zorganizować w naszym kraju. Duzy szacun!Episode navigation:00:04:40 “Natural Pleaser” 00:14:40 Czym sa filmy postpornograficzne 00:24:10 Widzialność, opór i przyjemność00:36:00 Pornografia i edukacja seksualna 00:42:47 Tworzenie festiwalu, perypetie i przemeblowanie życia00:52:11 Radykalna Troska Links:Oficialna strona festivalu: Post Porn Festival Warsaw Support the showJoin RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Briana, aka ThatSexLady, has always been fascinated by the nuances of sex but only decided to become a full-on Sex Educator when giving a menstrual talk to some high school girls and one student raised their hand and asked, “But if you use a tampon, how will you pee?” And then again, it was reaffirmed when giving a talk on consent and safer sex when yet another one of Briana's students asked, “Standing up sex is safe sex, right?”She knew then and there that she had to reach the world with her knowledge of sex and dive deeper into researching all things sex-related. With a background in education, a Master in Psychology, and a Neuroscience of Mental Health from King's College of London, Briana buckled up and decided to pursue a Certificate of Sex Education from The Sexual Health Alliance. Episode navigation:00:01:44 Porn addiction 00:15:10 Sexual Attitude Reassessment (SAR)00:30:10 Pivoting point to become a sex educator 00:36:49 Tips for exploring sexual pleasure 00:41:53 Safe space 00:50:48 Confidence and pleasure 01:06:39 Meaning of intimacy 01:10:16 Psychodrama 01:20:40 De-rolling rituals 01:26:48 De-rolling in porn Links:Getting in touch with Brie:Web: ThatSexLady.comSupport the showJoin RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Alison Boden is a veteran adult entertainment industry executive currently serving as an  Executive Director for FSC (Free Speach Coalition). She has worked in the industry since 2003 in various roles. From the project manager and marketing director through the software engineering and technology executive. One of the places she worked was Kink.com, where she ensured the professional treatment of performers and an ethical approach to the production of the scenes. Alison holds a bachelor's degree in Sociology with a concentration in Women's Studies from the University of Pittsburgh. Recently she was voted XBIZ's Community Figure of The Year. With her work, Alison supports and advocates for marginalised groups and people's fundamental rights.Episode navigation:00:01:40 - Blow-up doll costume 00:08:40 - Growing up00:15:51 - Selling sex toys 00:24:21 - Sociatey and sexual pleasure 00:27:28 - Free pornography and its impact on the industry 00:35:25 - SESTA - FOSTA and social media00:46:25 - Adult content and sex-ed00:56:37 - Porn and values 01:00:55 - Bodily harm, consent and filming kink01:05:08 - Ethical process01:08:28 - The motivation01:11:18 - Abortion  Links:Alison's TwitterAlison's websiteFSC Support the showJoin RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Are we born with a heterosexual desire, or do we simply end up with it? Is addiction to porn real? How may fear turn into sexual arousal? Why do men like to send d*ck pics? These are some of the topics Frederick Toates and I discussed in this podcast episode. Frederick Toates is an Emeritus Professor of Biological Psychology at The Open University in England and Vice-President of the Open University Psychology Society. He is well known for his work on sexual desire, which he published in a book: How Sexual Desire Works: The Enigmatic Urge - a great read, dense in information and research findings from fields like psychology and neuroscience. Recently he explored why some people engage in serial killings for sexual pleasure, and in 2022 he published a book on this topic: Understanding Sexual Serial Killing. Tune in for this in-depth, highly educative conversation and let us know your thoughts. Support the showJoin RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Is having sex empowering? Where is the limit when it comes to filming more hard-core scenes? Is showing consent in adult films sexy or a turn-off? These and many more topics we tackled in the conversation with Bea Bleu - a wonderful human being and a great filmmaker. Bea is a Viennese filmmaker based in Berlin. Her adult movies aim to show authentic forms of sexual pleasure, exploration and play. She is dedicated to creating adult media where everyone feels safe and respected. Follow her work @__beablue in Instagram or Twitter.Time codes:00:00:10 - amateur performers 00:04:25 - aftercare00:07:00 - director's vision and being flexible 00:14:45 - having the right sex 00:17: 38 - dating, and personal relationships00:22:00 - showing kinks, BDSM and different forms of hard-core sex in porn - where is the limit00:25:40 - how porn can show consent 00:36:40 - Ethical adult media 00:40:20 - Language00:47:44 - are the films you produce part of your personality or do you separate it00:50:40 - fantasies 00:57:00 - Cancel Culture 01:01:00 - sexual scripts 01:03:40 - growing up and intimacy01:05:45 - power01:07:18 - why pornSupport the showJoin RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Are we privileged with our accessibility to sex and pleasure? What is sexcare? Can pornography help disabled people with exploring sexual pleasure? These and many other topics I discussed with Sofie van den Haak.Sofie van den Haak is an applied psychologist who works with different organisations that help disabled people explore intimacy and sex. She started working at the age of 15 in health care. First, she worked helping people with dementia, and for the last three years, she focused on people with disabilities and their need for intimacy and sexual expression. Her mission is to help vulnerable people in society to feel more heard, seen and loved.   Episode navigation:00:00- How it all started00:08 - defining terms like disability and sex-care00:18 - exploring intimacy, communication, and aspect of coaching in sex-care00:27- consent and boundaries00:31 - ethics00:42 - the process - intake, matching, preparation00:48 - activities provided by sexcarer during the appointment00:53 - pornography and disability00:58 - sexcarer's boundaries01:02 - becoming a sexcarer01:06 - sexcare globallySupport the showJoin RedCheeks Academy to learn about ethical production of intimate scenes. Visit the website to learn about new workshop dates, scholarships and important deadlines.

Intro I met Doortje when she was giving a lecture at the University of Amsterdam. She spoke about sexual pleasure not being a luxury but rather a fundamental human right that everyone deserves to experience. After the lecture finished, I left craving more. I wanted to hear what else she had to say, and I knew I needed to record a podcast with her so others could enjoy her wisdom and positive attitude. Despite way too many “precisely” from my side, I hope you will enjoy this episode as much as I did.About Doortje Doortje Braeken van Schaik has more than 35 years of experience in adolescent sexual reproductive health and rights. She is the co-author of the International Sexuality Education Guidelines by UNESCO and a board member of the Global Advisory Board on Sexual Health and Wellbeing. In 2014 she received the golden medal from the World Association for Sexual Health for her contributions to Comprehensive Sexual Education.Doortje worked on guidelines for the sexual reproductive health of young people for WHO. She is the author of seven pleasure principles for The Pleasure Projects.   Time codes00:03:51 - Including pleasure in sexual health education00:10:32 - What is sex, how do we define it and what falls into this category00:13:55 - Language and sexual expression 00:20:50 - Pleasure meter, human rights aspect in sexual pleasure00:36:18 - Educating sexual offenders 00:41:24 - Intimacy and sexual satisfaction after menopause 00:46:35 - Depiction of sex in media Support the show

In this two-part episode, I spoke with a couple about cuckolding. My goal with this episode is to present a different lifestyle and a relationship type that we often don't speak about. Crystal Welch and her husband are a married cuckold couple and they have been together for 8 years. Cuckolding is a type of consensual non-monogamy, where only the woman has multiple sexual partners (called “bulls”), and the husband remains faithful. It's a form of domination that can be expressed differently in the relationship, and most of the time, the wife is the dominant one. The first part is with R, the husband. And in the second conversation, I speak with the wife - Crystal. Both of them agreed to the interview under the condition that their real identities are kept secret.(The first interview ends around 44 minutes in.)Support the show

Avril Louise Clarke is a clinical sexologist and educational manager at The Porn Conversations, the platform that focuses on comprehensive and science-based sex-ed and porn literacy. In addition, she recently took on the role of Intimacy Coordinator for ErikaLust Productions and in this podcast episode, she shared her experience with this role. On her social media, she talks about sexual education that focuses not only on prevention but primarily on pleasure. At The Porn Conversations, she co-created the porn literacy materials tailored to kids of different age groups that help parents have conversations with their kids about porn and its message. Podcast navigation:00:02:14 - Background info, family, sexuality00:14:05 - First experience with pornography00:22:22 - Influence of porn on people00:30:30 - How to think critically about the media that we consume00:37:08 - Porn literacy - definition00:40:53 - Good vs bad porn00:43:52 - IC role00:54:09 - Intimate conversations in private life - how to do it right?Support the show

Zina Berlin is a sex worker with over four years of experience who enjoys different kinks and fetishes. She appeared in diffrent porn films, created her content, did webcamming and worked directly with clients. Zina also has a background in psychology and practices sexological bodywork - a form of therapy that Zina is using with her clients. It's a complex subject, and Zina does a great job at explaining it and introducing some of the practices she is using. In this episode, we spoke about many different topics. Some of them were how growing up influenced who she is right now or establishing boundaries in life and sex work. The second part of this episode is more practical because Zina introduced exercises or ways that help to develop boundaries and navigate through sexual pleasure and desire.  Bookmarks00:00:10 - intro, workday, latex outfits00:07:00 - growing up00:08:40 - sex work in covid times00:13:00 - hobbies while growing up (achievement vs fun)00:16:55 - talking about intimacy while growing up (open/closed door)00:20:10 - first sexual experience / fantasy / self pleasure, sex ed. 00:26:30 - first encounter with porn00:29:20 - getting caught in public kink / being dominated00:35:00 - beginning of sex fork/academia00:41:30 - first experience with doing porn00:44:00 - setting up boundaries before a porn shoot/communication00:47:40 - exercises that help to establish connection and boundaries / giving vs taking00:55:30 - 3-minute game01:01:35 - dealing with no01:08:10 - the importance of touch01:15:40 - sexological bodywork01:20:50 - typical bodywork session01:27:00 - Zina's dream for future/healing sex workSupport the show

Sara Brown (she/they) is a queer human, performer, actor, dancer, and director working in live performance, theatre, and cinema, based in Barcelona, Spain. She's the art director of the multidisciplinary platform IL MONSTRO (former PLEASUREisPOWER), exploring pleasure, desire, sexuality, and gender through different art forms and live events. As a part of it, she's currently producing and directing IL MONSTRO - A Freak Show!, a long-form performance combining contemporary dance and cabaret, theatre and acrobatics, on the conflictual relationship between “normals” and “queers” – is reconciliation even possible?  Sara is also a writer interested in sexual politics, gender, and how these are told by the media. She advocates for a more positive and honest approach to sex, encouraging more porn literacy in schools and less stigma on sex workers' work.00:00:15 - Childhood, growing up. Good and bad experiences. 00:22:00 - IG post discussion, LGBTQ label, abusive behaviour, what queer means for Sara, 01:04:30 - Public talks in school and being outed in an Italian newspaper about her work in porn. Support the show

Sally F.B, a screenwriter and film director, diversity consultant for film and TV. Sally has written and directed a few films for Erika Lust Production (“Tinder taxi”, “Blind(ed) date”, “Another Sex Dimension”, “Touch Crimes”, and “A road to conquer"). Her films convey important messages that the current world must see and hear. For example, “SkinHearts” talks about the importance of touch and the change in the society that lack of it creates. This short film is so up-to-date, especially during the Covid pandemic, though Sally produced this film years before the pandemic hit us. Another of her creations, “Unburied”, portrays the effects of hostile migration policies and is a visual poem dedicated to thousands of Africans that have drowned in the sea while trying to migrate to Europe. She has a unique way of perceiving the world and I am glad that she can express it through her work; the work that is in a way weird and very authentic. Time codes:00:02:15 - Citizen of the future 00:07:50 - "SkinHearts" and predicting future ;), Importance of touch, unsuccessful Tinder dates as inspiration00:19:00 - Childhood and career path, getting the first job on a film set, overcoming perfectionism 00:50:10 - The start of an adventure with EL productions, working with intimacy on screen 00:59:25 - Challenges for real sex scenes01:18:25 - Meditation, observation of thoughts and reactions Support the show

Court Vox is a Somatic Sex Educator, Intimacy Consultant and the founder of The Body Vox, where he provides a fresh and unique form of therapy that helps individuals embrace their bodies and be more comfortable with intimacy. Unlike traditional therapy which is mainly through talk Vox uses hands-on body-based exercises. We had a conversation about vocalising and understanding pleasure, the importance of having honest and deep conversations with the partner and discovering intimate self. Dive into this fascinating conversation with "Introverted extrovert" Court Vox. 00:03:20 - Intimacy when growing up, Somatic exercises that Vox's mum introduced into his life00:08:50 - Coming out, being queer, intimate relationships00:11:27 - Sex education, understanding our intimate side, vocalizing pleasure 00:26:34 - First kiss, first experience with a man and a few other firsts 00:36:43 - How to make "dirty talk" in the bedroom more authentic 00:40:47 - Post-sex talks (aka "Processing")00:47:23 - Too much intimacy 00:49:23 - Ways to create novelty in monogamous long term relationships00:55:38 - Getting into Somatic Education, Back to the body workshop01:13:57 - Mental health and self-careSupport the show

The woman that needs no introduction ... but here it is, just in case :). Maria Riot - a sex worker and sex workers' activist with many years of experience. Maria was born in Argentina and currently, she is living in Spain. She does web-caming, online and in-person sex work, she is a porn performer and director. She is also a member of AMMAR - sex workers union in Argentina.00:03:15 - Childhood and teenage years, approach toward religion, shame and guilt about sexuality, sex education, 00:19:35 - The most significant sexual experience 00:25:30 - Coming out with her sexuality and affection toward women00:31:30 - Pivoting toward sex work and a guest appearance of Maria's cat :)00:40:50 - Women who inspired Maria to try porn work00:49:00 - Facing stigma and discrimination 00:51:50 - Coming out to parents about the sex work00:58:30 - Good and bad about sex work01:07:38 - How people who don't do sex work can support sex workers01:09:55 - Setting boundaries with clients or when performing on a porn set01:16:20 - Values - Fair pay and diversity in Porn 01:18:46 - Binary way of porn01:25:30 - Finding the right company to work with01:32:45 - Working with female clients 01:37:35 - Influence of sex work and flexible hours on mental health01:43:45 - Favourite book (Question from a fan)Support the show

Cintia Taylor is a writer, director for film and theatre and storytelling specialist. In her work, she is driven by stories of women and womanhood and talks about important topics like depression or life after sexual assault (her latest film: Clinch). She also believes that the mainstream film industry can learn from the good practices of the porn industry. In the first part of the podcast, I explored Cintia's personal stories and stories that she tells through her work. In the second part, we focused on the production of intimate scenes - directing and ensuring the actors' safety. In this episode, Cintia shares a lot of wisdom on the topics of stereotypes of seduction, male gaze, feminism, crafting intimacy in a safe way, statistic about sexual assault and her thoughts on critical thinking. Cintia is a fantastic and creative woman with a very interesting background, if you want to know her a little bit more, have a listen to this podcast. 00:02:08 - Start00:05:30 - Cintia's story, starting with directing films00:10:00 - Poetry as a way of making a meaningful change and creativity00:23:25 - Critical thinking and ability to deal with feedback as a part of a self-learning process00:39:39 - The citizens of the world - move between different countries and the feeling of belonging00:48:40 - The importance of telling the stories of womanhood - the narrative Cintia has chosen to tell in her work (celebrating diversity and womanhood and talking about topics of taboo)00:51:04 - Feminism, the importance of the study of female perspective and the male gaze01:01:01 - Clinch - the story of a woman overcoming sexual violence, statistics for sexual assault01:11:50 - "Wet" - Theatrical play about women sex and porn01:16:06 - intimacy - Cintia's definition and ensuring actors' comfort in the play, tactics/exercises. Approach to consent.01:26:00 - What mainstream film can learn from porn - Cintia's take on itSupport the show

Yasmeena Ali is a porn performer, BDSM lover and feminist. She was born in Afganistan and raised in an Islamic family who emigrated to the UK when she was nine years old. Right now, she is a strong and independent woman, exploring her sexuality and doing what she loves the most - being in front of the camera and sharing the beauty of her body and mind. We talked about how growing up in Islamic tradition impacted her sexual exploration. Yasmeena walked me through her life and the difficulties she faced when living with her family. We spoke about her mentors, sexual education, and the escape from home to a better and self-depended future, where she decides who to love, what to wear, or do. We discoursed what the adult media industry is missing and what we should be focusing on to make it a better place.  00:03:12 - Start00:08:50 - Introduction to Yasmeena's background and sex work00:14:22 - Memories and key moments from life in Afganistan from the perspective of 9 years old girl00:22:50 - Education in the UK00:31:50 - The journey from Afganistan to the UK00:38:50 - Living in the UK - adapting to different culture and lifestyle00:47:27 - Mentors, people who helped to navigate in the new world00:50:20 - Sex education in school and exploring intimacy00:57:34 - First sexual experience01:05:20 - Non-muslim relationship, first time falling in love, and running away from home 01:26:10 - Discovering own sexuality and pleasure, BDSM01:33:45 - Introduction to nude modelling and webcamming01:44:15 - Rules in the relationship between her and her husband to ensure the relationship is growing, open relationship01:48:15 - First porn shoot and boundaries01:56:45 - Porn that is designed to please men' needs - Yasmeena's thoughts on this, and things that are missing in porn02:10:25 - Being respected and in control in a porn shoot, Onlyfans experience and negative payment experience02:21: 12 - Regrets02:23:45 - Last question about family and their knowledge about Yasmeena's workSupport the show

Today's guest is Eva Oh, an international, professional dominatrix. She runs her slave training with carefully crafted courses that reveal who she is and how she wants her slaves to serve her. She also organizes something called #teakink, where she talks with BDSM community members to demystify BDSM and sexuality through the intimacy of tea ceremony. I don't know much about domination or the BDSM community, so I was really looking forward to our meeting, and I was very grateful to be able to talk with Eva. She is a cheerful and lovely person, and she did a great job of leading me through the mysteries of the BDSM world. I intended to focus on consent and pushing boundaries within BDSM practice, but naturally, we covered some other topics like work during the pandemic and her overcoming self-doubt. 00:03:30 - start and intro00:05:40 - Growing up in a Christian and a female-dominated environment 00:13:50 - First sexual experience 00:15:30 - First contact with pornographic images/film00:20:45  - Work in pandemic time00:25:55 - Lifestyle vs Professional Dominatrix 00:27:40 - Consent and boundaries in domination (lifestyle part)00:34:50 - The typical day of work 00:37:30 - Difference between sub and slave 00:40:10 - Slave position - what is it?00:41:50 - What slaves learn during the training on youwillpleaseme.com / BDSM identities discovery 00:45:04 - Physical vs psychological punishment00:48:25 - Crossing boundaries in corporal punishment, where to draw the line. 00:55:50 - Recruitment of slaves 01:00:55 - Financial domination 01:07:45 - Eva explains how she cares for her mental health in this emotionally demanding work01:09:45 - Things that a professional dominatrix never does01:11:40 - Kinks and fetishes that Eva enjoys the most01:19:15 - Overcoming self-doubt 01:22:45 - Tips for couples who would like to start practising dom and sub relationship01:22:50 - Recommendations for any woman who would like to start working as a dominatrix Support the show

Today's podcast is the first one where a sex worker speaks in-depth on a selected topic. The person with whom I had a pleasure to talk with is Jason Domino. Jason is the sexual health and wellbeing lead for the UK Adult Professionals (UKAP) and a practising sex worker. Jason speaks from his own experience and he is very vested in and passionate about sexual health, specifically topics like HIV and PrEP. I have learned a lot from talking to him and he provided me with more information than I have gotten from anyone in the past few years on this topic. I hope you will find it useful and it will help you to ask further questions. The interview was focused around HIV prevention, function and use of PrEP and PeP, the importance of understanding different HIV tests and what is the window period, and how it works. This podcast contains a lot of detailed information, and at the end of it, you may have more questions. For this (and many other) reasons we have opened a comment section on http://redcheeks.org/jason. If you want to know more, need further clarification or have general feedback feel free to leave a comment. Please remember to be generous and constructive in your comments. Nasty and sarcastic behaviour will not be tolerated.  A disclaimer: Neither of us is a licenced medical professional, so if you are considering to start on PrEP or have any concerns or questions about your health I recommend you consult with your GP (general practitioner) or any other licenced medical professional. Neither of us takes responsibility for your actions or health.00:00:09 - start and intro00:04:00 - sexual health - meaning 0016:15 - PrEP and PeP - what's that, what's the abbreviation stands for 00:24:46 - Jason's story on his first time having sex with a person who was HIV positive, and him not knowing it,00:29:03 - ART (medication is taken by people who are positive on HIV) and U=U (Undetectable equals untransmittable) 00:30:27 - Research about HIV 00:36:20 - Window Period and HIV tests types - what is the window period and how it differed depending on different HIV test00:58:13 - Where and how to get PeP in case of potential HIV exposure 00:04:05 - Common misconceptions in sex industry about PrEP and HIV01:05:43 - What are other health checks that people should be aware of/ do when on PrEP01:11:33 - Pledge - Porn Professionals For Safety Against Discrimination 01:28:31 - How to access PrEPSupport the show

Today I am talking with Richard Lawrence, the owner and funder of Feck.com the company that runs a few different platforms with erotic media. Richard started with an intention of humanising the idea of porn. He did not want to show it through the male gaze perspective and he thought that it would be more interesting to give a woman a camera and to let her express herself. This is how  I Shot Myself,  Beautiful Agony and I Feel Myself were created. In today's podcast, Richard told us different stories from his personal life, and one of them stood out for me the most, and it was the story of his first kiss with the babysitter. We also talked about more serious topics like socially responsible erotica and the importance of values that the porn portraits. I really enjoyed my conversation with Richard, and I hope you will enjoy this interview too. He is a very interesting person with a tone of experience to share. 00:00:40 Start 00:02:10 Teenage years 00:18:20 First kiss (babysitter story)00:20:50 Favorite sexy scene from a film (Fear and Donnie Darko)00:23:10 Feck.com, ISM, BA and IFM - description of the company 00:32:20 Why porn is taboo - Richards take on this00:38:15 Confessions from Beautiful Agony 00:46:20 Concept of socially responsible porn 00:47:47 Ethical porn - Richards understanding of this concept and how Feck introduces ethics into their production 00:50:20 Porn as a source of sex education for people 01:01:40 Porn and "charmless rendering of human sexuality"01:13:47 Situations where something did not go to the plan on the shoot day Support the show

Abigail Wiliams, a very intelligent, good-hearted activist and sex performer, who completed her degree in anthropology and sociology. Now she works toward her PhD that talks about regulation of online pornography in the UK and how this affects the people who produce it. She gives lectures on a university and she works together with National Ugly Mugs UK - a charity that works toward ending violence against sex workers. We talked about her personal experience as a porn performer, her attraction toward women and why it was hard at first for her to understand being attracted to anyone else than men. Abigaile talked about how she gained her first sexual experience in a threesome and how her abusive (past) relationship directed her toward porn. We dived deeper into talking about her favourite fetishes and how porn can help young people to explore their sexuality. I also would like to note small friction that went unnoticed during the recording of this podcast. We had some sound issues and sometimes the audio may go very low, sorry for this! Likely the audio problem is only on my side, and you can hear perfectly fine everything that Abigail says, and her message is the one that is powerful and must be heard! So If you are eager to hear from Abigail jump on this podcast and hopefully you will enjoy it as much as I did.00:04:20 - The way Abigail came up with her stage name00:06:18 - Abigaile's childhood and family 00:08:48 - Discovering her sexuality 00:10:31 - Sex education 00:15:25 - Describes her attraction toward women 00:19:40 - First sexual experience 00:23:50 - The single moment that turned Abigail toward the porn industry 00:29:10 - The first shoot experience 00:33:52 - "The conversation" 00:36:15 -  Disclosing to partners the nature of her work 00:39:00 -  The PhD thesis on an idea called legal consciousness - how people interpret and interact with the law and how this presents itself in UK BDSM porn00:42:50 - Fetishes 00:46:39 - How else we can use porn00:54:04 - Porn and sex work being stigmatised - Abigail's take on this. 01:05:36 - Advice to someone who is getting into the industry 01:07:31 - The biggest failure and the learnings 01:11:55 - Things that Abigail wished to know before working in porn 01:15:00 - "Before the shoot" rituals  Support the show

In this podcast, I am talking with Garion Hall, the Owner and founder of abbywinters.com - the porn site that produces content of amateur models. The company goes against mainstream standards by encouraging performers to keep their natural look. Garion's story takes us on a 20 year-long journey of producing adult content. During our conversation, we talked about the company's clearly defined standards and ethics, how the production of porn with real-life couples looks like and where are the challenges. Garion told us about 5 am police raid on his house and a stressful time when he faced the false allegations of producing underaged porn. This interview is special for me because abbywinters.com is a place where I started working 10 years ago and it was my first experience in the adult media industry.Jump on this podcast to listen to Garion's story, and I hope you are going to enjoy it as much as I did. 00:01:45 - Introduction00:16:00 – How the idea of producing porn with amateur models was born.00:22:20 – First shoot production.00:41:15 – Church and brothel.00:52:00 – Legal issue and the false accusations of producing underaged porn.00:53:20 – Moving the company overseas.00:56:15 – Visit of police on set in Amsterdam.01:14:25 – Description of work ethics within the company and Garion's point of view on ethical porn.01:17:25 – Performers making an informed decision and how abbywinters.com ensures to provide models with factual information.01:21:00 – “Cooling-off” period as part of abbywinters.com policy for working with performers.01:32:40 – How consumers can choose ethical porn.01:41:30 – Advice to people who would like to appear in porn and/or produce it.Support the show

Paulita Pappel is a Spanish filmmaker and feminist pornographer. After studying comparative literature in Berlin, she worked both in front and behind the camera. She is the founder of Lustery.com, a platform dedicated to the sex lives of real-life couples from around the world. She also co-organizes and curates the Pornfilmfestival in Berlin. Paulita works as a producer, performer, director, screenwriter and podcaster, and is an advocate for a sex-positive, consent-based culture.Recently she started working on her new creation HardWerk.com where she directs and participates in ethically created gang-bank stories. Paulita believes that there is much more to intimacy and relationships than what happens in the bedroom and therefore she created POV - an inclusive platform that takes a deeper look into the world of sex, sexuality and relationships, one point of view at a time. 00:05:05 - Childhood and family.00:06:45 - Sexuality in her teenage years.00:08:34 - Sexual education in school. 00:13:00 - Discussions with parents about her sexuality.00:13:38 - The first mention of Paulita's fascination with pornography.00:14:05 - The first contact with the porn industry.0015:34 - Marit Östberg (www.maritostberg.com) Swedish journalist and filmmaker that created the porn film in which Paulita participated in (her first porn movie participation). 00:19:30 - The first sexual experience and the very first kiss.00:22:30 - Paulita's take on "loosing" virginity. 00:32:00 - The first experience of watching herself on the big screen.00:34:30 - How porn experience translates to Paulita's relationships.00:38:45 - "The conversation" (How Paulita informed her parents about her sex work).00:52:00 - Lustery.com - the idea behind it. 00:54:30 - How Paulita ensures that her performers are making the right decision before participating in a porn film. 01:03:00 - Why it's taboo to enjoy porn. 01:06:45 - A rough day at work and how Paulita deals with it.01:13:12 - Workday rituals.01:16:40 - Advice to other performers and porn producers Support the show