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A comedy podcast about shame- because no one roasts you harder than yourself! Each week, psychotherapist-turned-comedian Ely Kreimendahl exploits her therapy skills to talk all-things-shame with a new special guest. Every guest shares a core story of something that once made them spiral HARD, answers both silly and emotionally complicated questions, and even if these conversations are ACCIDENTALLY therapeutic, it's not therapy.... Ely goes ALL IN on sharing her shame, too. Does coming together to laugh at our shame and the often inherently comic absurdity of being human make it all easier to tolerate?! Listen in and see what you think. We'll laugh, we'll cry…. we'll SPIRAL.

Ely Kreimendahl


    • Dec 19, 2023 LATEST EPISODE
    • every other week NEW EPISODES
    • 1h 10m AVG DURATION
    • 63 EPISODES

    Ivy Insights

    The Shame Spiral podcast is a truly refreshing and insightful show hosted by Ely Kreimendahl, a comedic genius and therapist. As a long-time follower of Ely on social media, I was thrilled to discover their podcast and it has quickly become one of my favorites. The best aspects of this podcast are the valuable insight provided by Ely, their relatability as a new mom, and the wonderful mix of humor and vulnerability.

    Ely's perspective on various topics, including parenting, shame, money, and mental health, is incredibly valuable. As a new mom myself, I find their insights to be relatable and helpful. It's comforting to know that someone with such knowledge and experience is sharing their wisdom in an approachable way. Additionally, the episodes that focus on non-parenting topics are just as wonderful. Ely's ability to balance humor with empathy creates a truly enjoyable listening experience.

    One aspect that could be improved upon in The Shame Spiral podcast is the frequency of episodes. I find myself eagerly awaiting each new episode only to realize that they are released on a weekly basis. While I understand the time constraints of producing a podcast, it would be great if there were more frequent releases to satisfy my craving for Ely's entertaining and insightful conversations.

    In conclusion, The Shame Spiral podcast is an exceptional show that combines humor and vulnerability in an impactful way. Ely Kreimendahl's ability to provide valuable insights while maintaining their comedic genius makes this podcast truly unique. Whether you're a fan of Ely from their social media presence or simply looking for a podcast that tackles important topics with warmth and humor, The Shame Spiral is definitely worth a listen.



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    "I Don't Think You Can Out-Evil Me" w/ Jes Tom

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2023 82:48


    Hi Shame Spiralers! I'm briefly emerging from our mid-season hiatus just to drop this very special bonus episode with comic, writer & actor Jes Tom! (Our Flag Means Death, Less Lonely.) Jes is one of my favorite comedians and you can and SHOULD drop everything you're doing and go see their one-person comedy show Less Lonely at the Greenwich House Theater in NYC, from now through January 6! This hilarious, poignant show is written & performed by Jes, presented by Elliot Page, and has been described as "an exploration of sex in the face of death and gender transition on the brink of oblivion."  Tickets available now, GO GO GO!  It was such a pleasure to spiral out with Jes this week. We talked perfectionism and failure, fear of being sociopaths, the shame of self-promotion, the relationship between judging oneself and others, career angst, what we want in a therapist, fear of getting in trouble , our very deepest, darkest traits and SO MUCH MORE. And not only was this episode a pleasure for me, it was also AN AGONY- as Jes turned the tables on me, reading me to filth and legitimately making me  SQUIRM.  It was horrifying for me, but I'm pretty sure it makes for a damn good episode.  Follow Jes on IG @ jesthekid and Twitter @jestom, and you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes. ***SEASON TWO UPDATE*** I'm currently cooking up some exciting mysterious stuff for Season 2, so it isn't dropping quite yet. BUT it will be worth the wait! I'm recording amazing eps in the meantime, and will keep you posted on the launch date as soon as I can. While you wait, please  catch up on old episodes, and email me your own twisted shame game scenarios- if it's sufficiently dark and disturbed you might even get to hear me haunt one of your fave funny people with it.  Can't wait to be back with you all weekly soon, and thank you so much for listening! Audio Engineer/Editor:  Theresa Gaffney, IG @theresagaffOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Traumatized & Raw-dogging Life" w/ Alegra Kastens

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2023 88:19


    This week I spiraled out with psychotherapist, OCD specialist, writer & content creator Alegra Kastens! We talked OCD origin stories and the thoughts that broke our brains, the obsessive struggle to discern if you don't like someone because you're not into them or because there's something wrong with you, fear of being cancelled and social media trolls, the idea of "harm," and what it really means to harm someone, obsessing about finding a partner and worrying about your eggs dying,  the dangerous proliferation of unlicensed TikTok mental health "coaches" and the messages they disseminate, the intersection of trauma, shame and OCD, how being a therapist can actually make things MORE difficult for you in dating, love and life, and SO MUCH MORE! Plus, Alegra shares a relatable and vulnerable shame story about being in a dark place in her life and ending up hospitalized for one night- and the shameful aftermath that ensued. And I shared with Alegra a little *casual witchcraft* that I employed when I was looking for love....I promised her the full spell and haven't recovered it yet, but when I find it, trust I will share it with all of you potential witches out there! Alegra is an incredible, radical force of change on social media, sharing openly  and often hilariously about her own experience with OCD and doing the good work of  shattering the debilitating stigma that comes with mental health struggles. Follow her NOW if you don't already on IG & TikTok @alegrakastens! And stay tuned for news about the upcoming BOOK she's writing!As always, you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes. *** special note! After over a year of weekly episodes, this is the FINAL EPISODE OF THE EXTREMELY BULKY SEASON 1! I'm taking a few weeks between seasons to record new eps and recalibrate, and will be back to launch Season 2 shortly. Thank you so much for listening this year- your support for the pod means everything to me, truly!  Stay tuned for news of official Season 2 drop date, and in the meantime catch up on old episodes, and please review, subscribe, and leave those five shining stars.  Audio Engineer: Sarah Gabrielli, IG @cruisingpod Editor: Theresa Gaffney, IG @theresagaffOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Accidentally Shaming Monica Lewinsky" w/ Nicole J. Georges

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2023 66:48


    This week I spiraled out with writer, illustrator, podcaster & professor Nicole J. Georges! (Calling Dr. Laura)  We talked shame and recovery from harmful family dynamics, making amends to yourself & others, the important of zines and yahoogroups for isolated young 90's queers, shoplifting, vegan betrayals, gossiping, gaslighting, writing memoir when you know your family won't be happy about it, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Nicole shared several incredible shame stories, including a true showstopper: a moment in which she may have accidentally shamed one of the best women of our time who we agreed deserves not a SINGLE iota of further shaming: MS. MONICA LEWINSKY HERSELF. Nicole has published several amazing and award-winning graphic novels, including Calling Dr. Laura and Fetch: How A Bad Dog Brought Me Home, and she has a new book out RIGHT NOW called Dog's Breakfast! It's an anthology of diary comics, which includes twelve issues of her zine Invincible Summer, and more than a decade's worth of rare and never before seen stories about love, loss, teaching, being a grouch, drawing graphic novels, dog death, and starting over.  You should ALSO check out Nicole's fantastic podcast Sagittarian Matters, and follow her on IG & Twitter @nicolejgeorges. As always, you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes. Thank you so much for listening! Please review, subscribe, and leave those five shining stars. Audio Engineer: Sarah Gabrielli, IG @cruisingpod Editor: Theresa Gaffney, IG @theresagaffOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "I'm Definitely Not A Beach Read" w/ LaToya Jordan

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2023 52:25


    This week I spiraled out with writer, poet and lovely person LaToya Jordan! We dug deep into her recently published novella, To The Woman In The Pink Hat, and some of the issues it explores: medical racism, infertility, white feminism, the Women's March, and uterine transplants (?!?,) and also spiraled about twenty-something alcohol-induced regrets, the struggle to "make the first move" in attempting friendship with adults and fellow parents, and how sometimes the right amount of shame just affirms you're not a sociopath. Plus, LaToya shared a vulnerable , poignant and retrospectively hilarious shame story about being "outed" as a lesbian on her high school track team (in a horrible, homophobic way, and DESPITE not actually being a lesbian!!!) Follow LaToya on IG @latoyajordanwriter and Twitter @latoyadjordan, and buy her novella!!!!!!! It is such a good read and despite the heavy topics, manages to be truly  IMPOSSIBLE to put down.  https://www.aqueductpress.com/books/978-1-61976-236-7.php And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  AND if you want to hear me spiral LIVE, the next Gay Shame comedy show is next week! 10/30 at 7:30pm at Union Hall in Brooklyn, and in honor of Halloween it is HOCUS POCUS-THEMED, WITCH!!!! tickets available here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/gay-shame-tickets-722973672717Thank you so much for listening! Please review, subscribe, and leave those five shining stars. Audio Engineer: Sarah Gabrielli @therealsarahgabrielli @cruisingpod Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Inappropriate In Front Of Steve Harvey & America" w/ Ashley Lyle

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2023 69:53


    This week I spiraled out with brilliant television writer, showrunner and co-creator of YELLOWJACKETS (!!!!!!) Ashley Lyle! We talked nicotine and being 90s teens, the moment you realize you can hurt your mom's feelings,  caring too much about what people think of you at the expense of the people who truly care, the vicious procrastination cycle and ADHD, anxiety & shame intertwined, unhinged goth childhood behavior, feeling replete with humiliation on CELEBRITY FAMILY FUED,  and so much more! I also gave Ashley two Yellowjackets- specific shame game scenarios, which she was an incredible sport about (even though they fully elevated her heart rate- sorry Ashley!!!)  If somehow you have not yet seen Yellowjackets, WATCH IT NOW!  IT IS INCREDIBLE, TOP TIER TELEVISION!!!! Now that the strike is over, you can finish it and join the rest of us in waiting with bated breath for season three! Ashley has also written on Dispatches From Elsewhere, Narcos, The Originals, and more. Follow her on Twitter @ashannlyle!   And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  And if you're enjoying the pod, please rate, review and subscribe! If you do, I will SPIRAL-but in the good way.  Audio Engineer: Sarah Gabrielli @therealsarahgabrielli @cruisingpod Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Daddy Needs To Gamble" w/ Ali Liebegott

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2023 61:53


    This week I spiraled out with hilarious and deeply relatable novelist, television writer & painter Ali Liebegott!   We talked regret, people pleasing and the shame of saying no,  making mistakes and accepting your own and others' flaws , accidentally farting on a stranger in a grocery store, taking your students to a casino, wishing your childhood fish was more like a dog and SO MUCH MORE.   Ali's published a handful of incredible award-winning books, including : The IHOP Papers, The Beautifully Worthless, Cha-Ching!, and The Summer Of Dead Birds. She's also written for television,  including on amazing shows like Transparent, The Sex Lives Of College Girls, I Love That For You, and The Connors.  And Ali is also a painter- check out her gorgeous work on aliiebegott.com, and follow her on Instagram @friendofducks. You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  And if you're enjoying the pod, please rate, review and subscribe! If you do, I will SPIRAL-but in the good way.  *In the episode, I tell Ali a shameful story involving me, her, and an Eminem song....if you must know, this is the song in question: https://open.spotify.com/track/1HR2CTi0ytRJIcik1QKdOa?si=700c6968828942a0Audio Engineer: Sarah Gabrielli @therealsarahgabrielli @cruisingpod Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "I Can Talk About C*m & Have A PhD" w/ Amy Silverberg

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2023 56:23


    This week I spiraled out with the brilliant & SUPER funny stand up comic & writer Amy Silverberg! (Comedy Central, The Paris Review)  We talked Jewish parents, boundaries, talking about your students and boyfriends in your stand up, fake vs real vulnerability, codependency and hurting people more in trying NOT to hurt them, how being teased can feel like love, being a recovered ghoster, and SO MUCH MORE. Amy also shared several juicy shame stories AND we went deep into the world of her relationship with her now infamous therapist, DR. BARBARA.  Amy's debut novel First Time, Long Time is forthcoming from Grand Central Publishing in 2024, and you can spy her short fiction in The New Yorker, The Paris Review, Best American Short Stories, and more. She performs stand up regularly in LA and tours all over the country- follow her on Instagram & Twitter @amysilverberg and TikTok @amysilverbergrules to stay in the know of her upcoming shows! You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  And if you're enjoying the pod, please rate, review and subscribe! If you do, I will SPIRAL-but in the good way.  Editor: Kalie McAlexander, Twitter @kaliebud & IG @kaliebuddOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Am I Breaking The Contract Of This Bagel Place?" w/ Django Gold

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 26, 2023 53:07


    This week I spiraled out with the hilarious and thoughtful writer & stand up comedian Django Gold! (The Late Show With Stephen Colbert)  We talked social awkwardness, persecution complexes, the weirdness of being an introverted comedian, accepting your flaws, parading around your job with a beard full of ice cream, torturing yourself with anxiety, the benefits of getting older, spectacularly bombing a stand up set and ON YOUR BIRTHDAY,  unintentionally breaking the social contract of a bagel place, and so much more. Django also had to face off with maybe my MOST gruesome shame game scenario yet- and while it's not a win or lose game, we both agreed he crushed it.  Django just released a brand-new hour-long stand up special called Bag Of Tricks, and you should GO WATCH IT IMMEDIATELY! IT'S SO FUNNY! Stream it on Youtube here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lk4rV2_Z4swand follow Django on IG @djangoindustries and Twitter @django to stay in the know on upcoming stand up shows. You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  And if you're enjoying the pod, please rate, review and subscribe! If you do, I will SPIRAL-but in the good way.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Okay, I'm A Monster" w/ Allison Raskin

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2023 82:56


    This week I spiraled out with the delightful & brilliant writer, podcaster, and mental health advocate Allison Raskin! (Overthinking About You, Just Between Us) We talked the nuance around mental health diagnoses, all about OCD, insecurities around friendship, self-compassion as the antithesis of shame, the liberating potential of knowing your own schemas, and even meta-processed a few moments INVOLVING EACH OTHER that made us both spiral, if you can believe.  If you're not already listening, go binge Allison's podcast Just Between Us, buy her new book Over Thinking About You, about the intersection of mental health & romantic relationships, follow her on IG & Twitter @allisonraskin and TikTok @allisonraskinbaby, AND follow her mental health account on IG @emotionalsupportlady! And don't neglect to subscribe to her substack too: emotionalsupportlady.substack.com.  You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  And if you're enjoying the pod, please rate, review and subscribe! If you do, I will SPIRAL, but in the good way.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "That Good Will Hunting Moment" w/ River Butcher

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 12, 2023 79:43


    This week I spiraled out with super funny & absurdly talented comedian, writer, actor & podcaster River Butcher! (The Knew Guys, League Of Their Own.) We talked fear of people leaving if you dare to share your feelings, the difficulty of actually implementing your coping skills when things are POPPING OFF, giving a gift to your inner child and carrying all previous versions of you inside yourself, letting go of trying to be a "better person," somatic therapies, striking out in baseball and SO MUCH MORE. Check out River's incredible podcast The Knew Guys everywhere you get your pods, stream his half-hour comedy special A Different Kind Of Dude,  catch him on Good Trouble and in Friendsgiving, and follow him on IG and Twitter @rivbutcher to stay in the know on upcoming shows! You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  AND if you wanna hear me go off on shame LIVE with a bunch of queer comics, come to my monthly queer comedy show Gay Shame (@gayshamecomedy) at Littlefield in Brooklyn, co-hosted with amazing fellow Brooklyn comic Sheria Mattis of @semi_woke_pod!  Next up is 9/12- which is TONIGHT- and it's gonna be SO FUN.  Headlined by Janeane Garofalo (!!!) and featuring a crop of incredible comics AND a surprise celebrity guest  who will DEFINITELY make you spiral- but in the good way. Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Congratulations On Your Perfect Parents" w/ Lane Moore

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 5, 2023 58:08


    This week I spiraled out with wonderfully deep, refreshingly honest and truly hilarious writer, actor, comedian, musician AND podcaster Lane Moore! (Tinder Live, You Will Find Your People)  We talked shame and relational trauma, the damage done by unrealistic and grossly prescriptive self-help books, dealing with the incessant self-critical DJ playing the worst songs over and over in your head, making art from pain, the struggle to believe there's nothing wrong with you,  the difficulty of giving yourself the grace & compassion you freely give others, and SO MUCH MORE. Check out Lane's incredible podcast I Thought It Was Just Me, available exclusively on Patreon ( https://www.patreon.com/lanemoore) and buy her freaking amazing and relatable books: How To Be Alone and You Will Find Your People: How To Make Meaningful Friendships As An Adult.  You can follow Lane on Twitter, IG and TikTok @hellolanemoore and find all things Lane at lanemoore.org. And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  AND if you wanna hear me go off on shame LIVE with a bunch of queer comics, come to my monthly queer comedy show Gay Shame (@gayshamecomedy) at Littlefield in Brooklyn, co-hosted with amazing fellow Brooklyn comic Sheria Mattis of @semi_woke_pod!  Next up is 9/12 and it's gonna be SO FUN.  What can I say guys, shame is my brand. Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

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    "The Shame Of Breaking Someone's Heart" w/ Carly Montag

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 29, 2023 73:48


    This week I spiraled out with hilarious & deeply relatable stand up comic, podcaster (and fellow neurotic Jew) Carly Montag!  We talked the pervasive fear of making others' feel bad, coming out as queer via an improv class revelation, Jewish guilt and hypervigilance, the shame of feeling stupid, internalized homophobia and the pressure to marry a nice Jewish boy, the rocky learning curve of your first relationships and the regrets that follow and SO MUCH MORE.  Carly performs stand up in NYC, DC and beyond, and is the co-host of one of my fave podcasts, Alone At Lunch, a pod about feeling like the odd man out! Go binge it immediately if you haven't already, and follow the pod everywhere @aloneatlunchpod and Carly @carlyjmontag on IG & Twitter!You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  AND if you wanna hear me go off on shame LIVE with a bunch of queer comics, come to my monthly queer comedy show Gay Shame (@gayshamecomedy) at Littlefield in Brooklyn, co-hosted with amazing fellow Brooklyn comic Sheria Mattis of @semi_woke_pod!  Next up is 9/12 and it's gonna be SO FUN.  What can I say guys, shame is my brand. Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Your Dad Dies And You Have Gay Sex" w/ Joel Kim Booster

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 22, 2023 69:56


    This week I spiraled out with incredibly talented comic, writer and actor Joel Kim Booster! (Fire Island, The Other Two, Shrill)  We talked the impact of growing up extremely religious and queer, fear of going to hell and terrifying fantasies of what hell would be like, caring way too much of what others' think about you, being young and extra thirsty, people pleasing tendencies (except for with the TSA,)  the journey of going from shameful to shameless, a dead Dad orgy, masochistically name searching yourself on Twitter and SO MUCH MORE.Joel has written for and/or appeared in so many shows you probably already love: Shrill, The Other Two, Big Mouth, Loot, Search Party and Praise Petey, to name a few. You can and SHOULD stream Joel's stand up special Joel Kim Booster: Psychosexual on Netflix (IT IS SO FUNNY,) and if you haven't already seen it, go watch the hilarious and moving and iconic film Fire Island RIGHT NOW, which he wrote and stars in, and is an overall absolute delight. And stay glued to his socials @ihatejoelkim for upcoming tour dates! You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  AND if you wanna hear me go off on shame LIVE with a bunch of queer comics, come to my monthly queer comedy show Gay Shame (@gayshamecomedy) at Littlefield in Brooklyn, co-hosted with amazing fellow Brooklyn comic Sheria Mattis of @semi_woke_pod!  Next up is 9/12 and it's gonna be SO FUN.  What can I say guys, shame is my brand. Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "If It's Hysterical, It's Historical" w/ Tara Schuster

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 15, 2023 59:04


    This week I spiraled out with the disarmingly honest, lovely, hilarious & brilliant writer Tara Schuster! (Glow In The F*cking Dark, Comedy Central) Talking shame with Tara was hilarious, delightful, and honestly inspiring AF.  We talked shame and trauma, the relief and empowerment that comes from knowing when the past is crash landing into the present, drunk dialing your therapist, self-compassion & forgiveness, the good side of "selfishness," reparenting yourself, existential angst and SO MUCH MORE. Tara is the author of two incredible mental health/self-help books (with a fabulous dash of memoir.)  Her book Glow In The F*cking Dark came out just a few months ago, and her first book Buy Yourself The F*cking Lilies was a finalist for Goodreads Best Non-Fiction Book of 2020. Before pivoting to writing, Tara served as Vice President of talent and development at Comedy Central, where she was the exec at the helm of iconic shows like Key & Peele!Follow Tara on IG, TikTok & Twitter @taraschuster, buy her books and check out her substack: taraschuster.substack.com! And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "What Kind Of Psychopath Has Half A Beer?!" w/ Emma Willmann

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2023 79:48


    This week I spiraled out with incredibly hilarious, honest and charming comedian,  writer & actor Emma Willmann! (Colbert, Comedy Central, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend)  Emma and I talked ADHD, addiction and recovery, accidentally learning things from TikTok, getting in a fight with Chelsea Handler, ungodly shameful moments with exes and discerning when apologizing is for you and not them, and unpacked maybe my MOST BRUTAL hypothetical shame game scenarios yet ( sorry Emma!) Follow Emma on Instagram and TikTok @emmawillmann and Twitter @iamemmawillmann to catch her insanely funny clips, and stay in the know on upcoming shows! Emma's out performing stand up constantly and she is SO GOOD, get after it!!!! And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "I Would Live, B*tch" w/ Nori Reed

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 1, 2023 62:40


    This week I spiraled out with comedian, writer & actress Nori Reed! (Netflix is a Joke, HBO Max, Comedy Central)  Nori's stand up is iconic, hilarious and brilliant, and she was featured in New York Magazine as one of Vulture's "Comedians You Should Know And Will Know In 2021."  She also recently wrote for seasons five & six of Disney's Raven's Home, creating Disney's first ever live-action trans character, which led to a GLAAD award nomination! Nori and I talked class and financial shame, weirdly going to the same uber-niche Northern California hippy therapy school (!!!!)  in the hopes of having a  transformational experience,  shame as a pesky fly you need to accept rather than keep trying to kill, the lifeline of meeting fellow  queer/trans kids when you are a queer/trans kid, our mutual adoration of Orna from Couple's Therapy, and SO MUCH MORE! You can and SHOULD follow Nori on Instagram @norireed and Twitter @therealnorireed, and go see her perform live! If you're in the Seattle area, she has a show coming up on 8/13 and tickets are available on her IG! GET AFTER IT! And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Oh God, My Clients Might Listen To This" w/ Jess Sprengle

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2023 69:03


    This week I spiraled out with queer, neurodivergent and gender expansive psychotherapist Jess Sprengle! (@TheCrankyTherapist on IG) Jess is an Eating Disorder Specialist and Educator, and especially passionate about engaging with the intersection of the LGBTQIA+ experience, neurodivergence, and eating disorder recovery.  We talked shame as an adaptive response, the fear of being a bad therapist, explored brutal therapy-themed shame scenarios and the strange and specific experience of being a therapist with a social media presence, "cool girl" archetypes, boundaries, dopamine and social media, owning the reality that therapists are real, messy, and flawed people, and SO MUCH MORE. You can and SHOULD follow Jess on Instagram, where they have a massive following- for good reason- at @thecrankytherapist! Jess is so funny, honest, and vulnerable online and in person, which just so happens to be my favorite combination of things. And to learn more about Jess and her work, check out her website: jessprenglelpc.com. You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Embarrassing Myself In Front Of Jon Hamm" w/ Mara Wilson

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 18, 2023 83:05


    This week I spiraled out with writer & actor Mara Wilson! (Good Girls Don't, Matilda, Mrs. Doubtfire)  We talked growing up in Hollywood, being a chronic oversharer, the prison of being a "good girl," the drama of young adult relationships, anxiety & OCD,  My So-Called Life, and so much more! Plus, Mara shares a multi-layered shame upon shame upon SHAME story about embarrassing herself in front of multiple celebrities....and then sharing the story with a friend and feeling shame yet AGAIN by her response. Follow Mara on Instagram and Twitter @marawilson, check out her Substack, and listen to  her new audiobook "Good Girls Don't," available exclusively on Scribd!  It's A LOT about shame and she both wrote and narrates it, and it's amazing so GET AFTER IT! You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Get Me Out Of This Meat Suit!" w/ Marisa Crane

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 11, 2023 88:58


    This week I spiraled out with queer author and hilarious, deeply relatable person Marisa Crane! (I Keep My Exoskeletons To Myself) We talked internalized homophobia, being menaces in our twenties,  self-sabotage, parenting shame, botox and the horror of lying to Drew Barrymore, why it's so damn hard to give yourself the grace you freely give everyone else, the quiet shame of being a jock in the literary world, Rugby as an addictive self-punishment tool, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Marisa shares a shame story about having a history of infidelity in their relationships, feeling like they had really overcome that pattern, and then meeting their wife while they were both in relationships with someone else. We dove deep into what it's like to have their happiness tied to this reminder of one of their hugest sources of shame- and what it would take for them to finally forgive themself.   Follow Marisa on Instagram @marisa_crane, Twitter @mcrane_12 and TikTok @marisacranewrites. And buy their debut novel, I Keep My Exoskeletons To Myself! It's queer and dystopian and INCREDIBLE! GET AFTER IT! https://books.catapult.co/books/i-keep-my-exoskeletons-to-myself/ You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Give Me All The Hard Things" w/ Xander Boger

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 4, 2023 78:48


    This week I spiraled out with physical therapist & cast member of instant queer reality tv classic The Ultimatum: Queer Love Xander Boger! This one is a special treat for all you fellow Queer Love Ultimatum fans, because we dove deep into shame around deciding to be on the show, being on the show, and the emotionally complicated aftermath. And we don't just discuss the show- we also went hard on queer relationships and codependency, chasing people who are giving you every signal that they don't want to be with you, being a healthcare provider with a public persona, and so much more. Plus. Xander tells a shame story about watching the show for the very first time LITERAL HOUR before filming the reunion, and spiraling around seeing herself exist on screen in the place they were in at the time of the show- and reckoning with the world seeing her in that place , too. Xander was such a delight to talk with and was so real and honest about the intricacies of the whole multi-layered reality tv process and about life overall! I officially love them now and I know you will too, if you don't already! You can follow Xander on Instagram and TikTok @xander.ology, and if you want to check out the work they're doing now, peep their website www.movewithxan.com, where they're newly offering virtual physical therapy and yoga and more. You can follow me and the pod on IG, TikTok & Twitter @elykreimendahl and @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun and juicy video clips from the episodes. Thank you so much for listening, and please rate and review! Audio Engineer: Sarah Gabrielli Original Music: Shadwick Wilde Cover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "It's Hard To Be A Person, Man" w/ Busy Philipps

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 27, 2023 74:09


    This week I spiraled out with actor, writer and reproductive justice advocate Busy Philipps! (Girls5eva, Cougar Town, Busy Phillips Is Doing Her Best, This Will Only Hurt A Little)  We talked fear of being a bad person,  processed some internet drama, unpacked our experiences with experiental hippy therapies, pondered over how good it feels to smash things and the difficulty of directly asking for what you need, got real about our shameful struggle to stop saying "YOU GUYS," and so much more! Plus, Busy shares a super juicy and vulnerable shame story about being in a moment  of BIG feelings while doing Cougar Town, and subsequently giving an interview that was...not quite well-received by her co-workers.  Follow Busy on Instagram (her IG is amazing btw, if you don't follow her already I highly recommend,) Twitter & TikTok @busyphilipps, binge her immediately on Girls5eva, listen to her podcast Busy Philipps Is Doing Her Best & buy her memoir This Will Only Hurt A Little!  It's all so good, get after all of it!  You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  And we now have a Patreon! Please check it out, and if you've been enjoying the pod, PATRONIZE US! https://www.patreon.com/ShameSpiralPodAudio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Compulsively Pressing The Relief Button" w/ Gianmarco Soresi

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 20, 2023 82:02


    This week I spiraled out with stand up comic, actor and writer Gianmarco Soresi!   (Comedy Central, JFL, The Late Late Show With James Corden)  We talked being a child of divorce, contempt for institutions but desire for community, fear of being seen as a certain kind of man, zoom vs in-person therapy, existential crises, being a yeller from a yelling family, and so much more. Plus, Gianmarco shares a shame story about being asked by his Mom for his assistance in a wine-cellar related mission against his soon-to-be ex-stepfather, and making a choice that led to a dynamic, complicated, big ol' messy spiral. Follow Gianmarco  on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok @gianmarcosoresi to stay posted of his upcoming stand up dates, and check out his hilarious podcast, The Downside With Gianmarco Soresi, everywhere you listen to podcasts. You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  And we now have a Patreon! Please check it out, and if you've been enjoying the pod, PATRONIZE US! https://www.patreon.com/ShameSpiralPodAudio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Loud Jewish Women Who Change The F*cking World" w/ Vanessa Zoltan

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2023 65:10


    This week I spiraled out with author, podcaster and atheist/Jewish/humanist chaplain extraordinaire Vanessa Zoltan!  (Hot & Bothered, Praying With Jane Eyre) We talked internalized anti-semitism and loud, powerful Jewish women, wanting to be so good that no one can talk sh*t about you to their therapist, shame and love for the romance genre, treating secular things as sacred, and SO MUCH MORE!  Plus, Vanessa tells a shame story about being stalked in college, and navigating shame around not only the experience of that primary trauma, but friends' harmful and misattuned reactions to it.    Follow Vanessa on Twitter and Instagram @vanessazoltan, and listen to her SEVERAL incredible podcasts: Hot & Bothered (@therompod,) Harry Potter Sacred Text (hpsacredtext,) and The Real Question Podcast (@realquestionpod.) And buy Vanessa's new book "Praying For Jane Eyre" everywhere; it's amazing! https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/623433/praying-with-jane-eyre-by-vanessa-zoltan/   You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.   And we now have a Patreon! Please check it out, and if you've been enjoying the pod, PATRONIZE US! https://www.patreon.com/ShameSpiralPodAudio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Chronically Mature For My Age" w/ Yamini Nambimadom

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 6, 2023 71:36


    This week I spiraled out with hilarious standup comedian, writer, actress & podcaster Yamini Nambimadom! (Pillow Fight Podcast,  Chicago 10's) We talked about everyone thinking you're fine even when you're not,  the struggle to ask for help, people pleasing, being a "difficult" child, immigrant parent expectations and feeling pressure to be the best,  mean internet comments, dating, shame embodied as a horrible Beetle named Billy, and so much more!    Plus, Yamini shares a shame story about being in a relationship where she often felt judged by her ex-girlfriend's friends, and then making a small, very human error that left her feeling she was going to be SHUNNED FOR LIFE.    Follow Yamini on Twitter,  Instagram and TikTok @showmetheyamz, and follow and listen to her comedy & culture podcast Pillow Fight @pillowfightpod everywhere you listen to podcasts! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pillow-fight/id1534035677  And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.   And we now have a Patreon! Please check it out, and if you've been enjoying the pod, PATRONIZE US! https://www.patreon.com/ShameSpiralPodAudio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "A Perfect Storm Of Terrible Wonderful" w/ Maggie Smith

    Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2023 75:26


    This week I spiraled out with brilliant poet, writer, editor and teacher Maggie Smith! (Good Bones, You Could Make This Place Beautiful.) We covered SO much juicy ground in this episode, diving deep into Midwestern humility and shame around success,  what you owe or don't owe people as an artist, being an introverted kid with an extroverted mom, imposter syndrome, apologizing for your accomplishments, the idea of a "failed marriage,"  feeling shame about feeling shame, parenting fears, and so much more. Plus, Maggie tells a shame story around her experience of her poem  "Good Bones" going incredibly viral in 2016, launching her into literary stardom and creating a "perfect storm of terrible wonderful" in her life.     Follow Maggie on Twitter and Instagram @maggiesmithpoet, check out her website maggiesmithpoet.com, and buy her recently released memoir You Could Make This Place Beautiful. It's on The New York Times Bestseller list, and for what it's worth, I read it and can personally tell you it is A GORGEOUS ,SHATTERING, DEEPLY REAL MASTERPIECE that will make you feel better about life.  Get after it.     You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.   And we now have a Patreon! Please check it out, and if you've been enjoying the pod, PATRONIZE US! https://www.patreon.com/ShameSpiralPodAudio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "I'm A Real Legally Blond Truther" w/ Ilana Peña

    Play Episode Listen Later May 23, 2023 70:54


    This week I spiraled out with screenwriter, showrunner & director Ilana Peña! (Diary Of A Future President, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend)  We talked how earnestly loving things can make you an easy target, the double punch of when shame and anxiety spirals intertwine, annoying film and theater school bros, feeling haunted by the fear of being a horrible person, being too anxious to do drugs, and so much more. Plus, Ilana shares a hilarious and vulnerable shame story about how at the precise moment that she finally thought she had left her gullible, messy teenaged ways behind her and was living her best and savviest adult life...she was duped by some evil internet scammers, careening her into questioning EVERYTHING.  Follow Ilana on Instagram @lanstagram and watch Diary of a Future President  on Disney+ while you still can- they're removing it from the platform 5/26! Gah! And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.   And we now have a Patreon! Please check it out, and if you've been enjoying the pod, PATRONIZE US! https://www.patreon.com/ShameSpiralPodAudio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "And This Is Why You Can't Trust Foxes" w/ Aparna Nancherla

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2023 80:05


    This week I spiraled out with brilliant and hilarious stand up comic, writer & actress Aparna Nancherla! (The Standups, Crashing, Bojack Horsemen, Colbert)  We talked the relentless suspicion that you're intrinsically wrong and how anxiety finds a million little ways to confirm that,  spiraling over confrontation and relationships, flip-flopping between anxiety and depression, the torturous tension in both craving and fearing vulnerability, shame embodied as a bottomless pit, and so much more! Plus, Aparna shares a shame story about being a pre-teen and having a slightly delayed response to helping a family member- and how she metabolized that objectively benign moment as evidence that there was something  deeply unacceptable about her (don't worry, I force her to at least reconsider.)    Follow Aparna on Twitter and Instagram @aparnapkin for upcoming shows, check her website aparnacomedy.com and pre-order her forthcoming book Unreliable Narrator: Me, Myself and Impostor Syndrome here: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/622556/unreliable-narrator-by-aparna-nancherla/?ref=PRHE88723CCECD0&aid=9673&linkid=PRHE88723CCECD0   You can follow me on  Instagram, Twitter and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.   And we now have a Patreon! Please check it out, and if you've been enjoying the pod, PATRONIZE US! https://www.patreon.com/ShameSpiralPodAudio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Settle Down, Sweet Yeti" w/ Lachrista Greco

    Play Episode Listen Later May 9, 2023 65:26


    This week I spiraled out with author, speaker, curator & librarian Lachrista Greco! (@theguerrillafeminist, Olive Grrrls: Italian North American Women & The Search For Identity)  Lachrista has published several books with another coming soon,  is doing incredible work around preventing and coping with digital violence, and is all-around brilliant, passionate, hilarious and so relatable. We talked growing up with learning disabilities and the crushing ableism in the American education system, the horrors of adolescence, including crushes and mean girls, the agony of being considered boring, anxiety and obsessive thinking about what others think of you, shame embodied as frat-bro Yeti,  and the power of learning self-advocacy as an antidote to shame.  Follow Lachrista's incredible Instagram @theguerillafeminist, check her website lachristagreco.com  to learn more about the wonderful work she's doing,  and subscribe to her Substack:  lachrista.substack.com!    You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.   And we now have a Patreon! Please check it out, and if you've been enjoying the pod, PATRONIZE US! https://www.patreon.com/ShameSpiralPodAudio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "People Are Baking Bread & I'm Making Martinis" w/ Abbi Crutchfield

    Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2023 69:08


    This week I spiraled out with hilarious standup comedian & actress Abbi Crutchfield! (Up Early Tonight,  The Late Show With Stephen Colbert, The Kid Is In School Podcast)  We talked Mom shame, losing your cool, self-blame and that relentless internal critical voice, talking to kids about difficult topics, pandemic feelings, when your coping skills are also a defense, and soooo much more! Plus, Abbi shares a shame story about a tiny jar of sprinkles that led to a not-awesome parenting moment that kept her spiraling for a YEAR (which btw is much longer than she deserved to spiral, in my humble opinion.) Follow Abbi on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok @curlycomedy and her podcast The Kid Is In School with fellow comedian & husband Luke Thayer @kidisinschool on Twitter! And listen to it, it's so good!   And can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.   And we now have a Patreon! Please check it out, and if you've been enjoying the pod, PATRONIZE US! https://www.patreon.com/ShameSpiralPodAudio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

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    "Don't Make Kids Read Hamlet" w/ Jay Jurden

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2023 90:35


    This week I spiraled out with brilliant comedian, writer and actor Jay Jurden! (The Problem With John Stewart, The Late Show, The Tonight Show, High Maintenance) We talked being a tortured queer youth and shameful early queer relationships, biphobia, obsessing over what others' think of you, the anatomy of a shame spiral, the plague of coolness being equated with not trying, fear of abandonment and vulnerability, friend breakups, and so much more!  Including the hidden danger of exposing young minds to the dangerous text known as HAMLET.    Follow Jay on TikTok, Instagram & Twitter @jayjurden to stay posted on upcoming stand up dates and bless yourself with his daily hilarity! And  you  can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.   And we now have a Patreon! Please check it out, and if you've been enjoying the pod, PATRONIZE US! https://www.patreon.com/ShameSpiralPodAudio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "You're Not Gonna Call Me Dirty Because You Feel Dirty" w/ Robby Hoffman

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2023 88:46


    This week I spiraled out with ridiculously funny & brilliant standup comic and Emmy-winning television writer Robby Hoffman! (Workin' Moms, The Chris Gethard Show, Odd Squad, Just For Laughs)  We talked class shame,  being the poorest and most religious Jewish kid in school,  the way people disown and project shame on others so they don't have to deal with their own, queer love, dating and drama, being excellent in crisis and bad at the day to day, the shame-diminishing impact of even one person's kindness, and SO MUCH MORE. Follow Robby on Twitter @iamrobbyhoffman and Instagram @robbyhoffman for upcoming show dates, and stream Robby's hour stand up special "I'm Nervous" on Just For Laughs Youtube Channel here! It is SO GOOD! https://youtu.be/mL8rZf2fZYY   You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.   And we now have a Patreon! Please check it out, and if you've been enjoying the pod, PATRONIZE US! https://www.patreon.com/ShameSpiralPodAudio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "The Piece Of Sh*t At The Center Of The Universe" w/ Isabel Hagen

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2023 77:25


    This week I spiraled out with hilarious standup comedian & Julliard-trained violist Isabel Hagen! (The Tonight Show, Just For Laughs.) We talked obsessing over what people think of you, the shame spiraling that performing comedy evokes and how Isabel deals with BOMBING,  addiction/ recovery, why being vulnerable feels both so good and oh so bad,  what it would be like to be a person who isn't plagued by constant shame spiraling, and so much more! Plus. Isabel shares a shame story about having finally decided to stick up for herself- and in doing so ending up accidentally pushing back HARD against a random person who was truly just trying to help her.    Follow Isabel  on Twitter and Instagram @isabelhagen_ and TikTok @isabelhagen, and keep your eyes glued to her website isabelhagen.com for upcoming stand up dates!    You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  And we now have a Patreon! Please check it out, and if you've been enjoying the pod, PATRONIZE US! https://www.patreon.com/ShameSpiralPodAudio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "I Shouldn't Normalize Being A Selfish A**hole" w/ Clara Olshanksy

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2023 64:11


    This week I spiraled out with standup comedian & writer Clara Olshansky! (Flamethrowers, My First Joke.)  We talked career shame, dating shame, shame embodied as the snake from the Garden of Eden, the horrible things you tell yourself when you've descended into a spiral, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Clara tells a heartbreaking and very relatable  shame story about a moment in a teen improv class that haunts them to this day- which inspired me to share a similar adolescent shame story of my own.   Follow Clara on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @claraolshansky, and keep your eyes peeled for  their upcoming show dates! They're performing constantly around NYC and are RIDICULOUSLY funny, and I'm especially fond of their recurring LGBTQIA+ roast battle at Caveat called Flamethrowers (@flamethrowers.) They also just started a podcast! It's called My First Joke (@myfirstjoke,) and Clara and their co-host interview comics about the first joke they wrote that really worked- and their journey from then to now.  You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "The L Word Made Me Gay" w/ Jess Salomon

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2023 77:27


    This week I spiraled out with super funny stand up comedian and former UN war crimes lawyer Jess Salomon! ( The Tonight Show,  JFL, The El-Salomons) We talked late-in-life ADHD diagnoses, the nightmare of being told you have bad breath, The L Word as a catalyst for Jess' first lesbian experience, Judaism and Zionism, Manatees as the embodiment of shame and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Jess tells an incredibly embarrassing shame story about accidentally mocking someone to their face and having to sit with the discomfort of what that revealed about her- which inspired me to share a pretty brutal shame story of my own (which Jess considered even worse than hers...but I'll leave that up to you to decide.) (Hers is worse.) (Ok they're both equally terrible.)    Follow Jess on Instagram, Twitter & TikTok @jess_salomon,  and go see her perform live she is a DELIGHT!  Her monthly show Sandwich at Union Hall in Brooklyn, NY is happening next on 4/15!  She also performs with her wife, comedian Eman El-husseini as The El-Salomons, playing with the incredible reality that they are a Jewish & Palestinian gay married couple, IF YOU CAN BELIEVE. Follow the duo @theelsalomons, and stream their comedy special Marriage Of Convenience here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NI9UkoZEe_o&feature=youtu.be&themeRefresh=1   You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Got My P**** Ate In The Orchards" w/Marcella Arguello

    Play Episode Play 26 sec Highlight Listen Later Mar 21, 2023 74:10


    This week I spiraled out with standup comedian, writer & actress Marcella Arguello!!! (Bitch, Grow Up! on HBO Max) We talked shamelessness, the value of owning your sh*t and being uncomfortable, plastic surgery, love and dating, family dynamics, and what Marcella thinks truly pushes the envelope in comedy. Plus, Marcella tells a shame story about performing at a comedy festival while reeling from the recent loss of her Dad...and being shocked by an intervention from her friends about her questionable, grief-fueled behavior. Marcella's debut standup comedy special "Bitch, Grow Up!" is streaming NOW on HBO & HBO Max! Watch it! And follow her on Instagram, Twitter & TikTok @marcellacomedy, listen to her album "The Woke Bully," check out her meditation album "Motivational Monday Meditations with Marcella Marguello" on iTunes & Spotify and go see her perform live all over! Marcellacomedy.com.You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925)Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Shame Leads To Starvation From Life" w/ Theo Germaine

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2023 76:07


    This week I spiraled out with actor, writer & activist Theo Germaine! (The Politician, Work in Progress, They-Slash-Them.)   We talked growing up queer/trans in the Midwest, shame embodied as a lanky, hungry bear, the relationship between shame and surviving trauma, navigating sharing vulnerably about yourself when you're a public person, and sooooo much more. Plus, Theo tells a shame story about being impacted by negative reviews of a film they were in, which hurt extra hard because the harshest critiques came from their own queer community -and were basically the opposite of what Theo was hoping for.    Follow Theo on Instagram and Twitter @theogermaine!  And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "I Have Everything You Want & I'm Stress Cutting My Hair" w/ Milly Tamarez

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2023 67:07


    This week I spiraled out with comedian, writer & actress Milly Tamarez! (Betches Sup Podcast, Clown Parade, Wait, Wait...Don't Tell Me)  We talked shame and social media, dating and breakups, shame embodied as a sneaky, slithering snake, the brutal impulse to compare yourself with others in the entertainment industry, staying grounded and hopeful when your world view is challenged, and SO MUCH MORE.   Follow Milly on Twitter @MillyTamarez,  and TikTok and Instagram @milly_tamarez.  Listen to her podcast Betches Sup, catch her hilarious episode of Clown Parade, produced by Will Ferrell and Bowen Yang & Matt Rogers of Las Culturistas Pod, and stay tuned for upcoming stand up dates!    You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Rosebud Baker Is A Self-Care Queen" w/ Rosebud Baker

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2023 70:05


    This week I spiraled out with stand up comedian, actress & writer Rosebud Baker! (Whiskey Fists, Life & Beth, SNL)  We talked being recovering alcoholics,  living like a disgusting swine on tour, feeling no shame when you should and big shame when you shouldn't, sparring with your therapist, the urge to isolate, screaming in the shower, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Rosebud shares a story about being young, drunk and oh-so-white- and coming face to face with some unconscious racism that had bubbled to the surface in a shamefully humiliating, regretful, and cringeworthy way.   You can follow Rosebud on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @rosebudbaker! Stream her hilarious special "Whiskey Fists" on Comedy Central's Youtube Channel here: https://youtu.be/IMCm1V6Z1s4,  go see her on tour NOW (rosebudbaker.com)  and watch her on "Life & Beth" on Hulu and "That's My Time With David Letterman" on Netflix!  You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "I Can't Make An Old Lady Cry" w/ Niles Abston

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2023 58:06


    This week I spiraled out with stand up comic, television writer and director Niles Abston (Dave, Household Name.)  We talked being a people pleaser in life and the furthest thing from it in comedy,  shame embodied as a chilled out orangutan, the most humiliating thing that could happen on a second date, and SO MUCH MORE.  Plus, Niles shares a  story about dropping out of college to move to LA and ending up living in his car for a year- his shame insisting that throughout the whole experience he not tell a soul what he was going through.  Niles has a new stand up special out on youtube NOW and it is ICONIC-  watch it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J3JOUtnGqzsAnd if you'd like to see Niles live, you're in luck because he is currently on tour! Follow him on Instagram @thenilesabstonshow and Twitter @Niles100 to stay up to date on where you can find him.  You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Killin' It At The Hot Dog Factory" w/ Ariel Dumas

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2023 56:17


    This week I spiraled out with the delightfully funny, charming, and ELEVEN TIME EMMY-NOMINATED Ariel Dumas (Head Writer- The Late Show With Stephen Colbert.)  We talked the three shameful things that happen to everyone in adulthood, why feeling bad can feel oh so good, the  spooky and powerful embodied physicality of shame- and Ariel even tolerated me enthusiastically (and obvs unofficially) diagnosing her with ADHD! Plus, Ariel shares a shame story about accidentally mass emailing HUNDREDS  of students a message that likely sent them all careening into their own shame-anxiety spiral! Always enjoy Ariel's work on The Late Show With Stephen Colbert, and stay tuned for the arrival of her new project, which is a LOONEY TUNES MUSICAL!?!?!?!? Ariel is also consistently hilarious on Twitter @ArielDumas,  Instagram @arieldumaspubicaccount and TikTok @arieldoom.    You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Everything Except The Oprah Diarrhea" w/ Clementine Ford

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2023 59:01


    This week I spiraled out with actor and writer Clementine Ford (The L Word, The Young & The Restless.)  We talked Mom guilt, bisexual invisibility,  shame vs embarrassment, toxic diet culture & fatphobia in Hollywood, the complexities of having a famous mother, and so much more! Plus, Clementine tells a shame story about how a seemingly benign seat on a plane quickly spiraled into feelings of worthlessness- and all the history and emotional layers that came together to create that brutal moment.  Follow Clementine on Twitter @clementinesford and Instagram @clementineford, and can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    " A Sticky Monster With Jam Hands" w/ Hannah McGregor

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 31, 2023 101:31


    This week I spiraled out with academic, author & podcaster Hannah McGregor (Witch, Please; A Sentimental Education.)  We talked sticky jam-handed shame monsters, confessed insecurities/projections about each other, unpacked humiliating teenaged moments and our queer femme identities,  and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Hannah tells a super juicy and HORRIBLE shame story about a toxic dynamic with her academic mentor when she was a graduate student, and how that shame-filled relationship impacts how she shows up as a professor for her students to this day.    Follow Hannah on Instagram @ hkpmcgregor, and her podcast Witch, Please on Instagram & Twitter @ohwitchplease. Also: buy her recently released book A Sentimental Education! It is funny, brilliant, and real, just like Hannah.  https://www.wlupress.wlu.ca/Books/A/A-Sentimental-Education   You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Women Can Be Stupid, Too" w/ Kuhoo Verma

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2023 68:30


    This week I spiraled out with film, television & theater actress, and incredible singer  Kuhoo Verma (Plan B, The Big Sick.)  We talked about how being roasted can feel like being loved,  undiagnosed childhood ADHD and punk rock ADHD hacks,  the difference between real vulnerability and the performative kind, and so much more.  Plus, Kuhoo tells a shame story about a seemingly small but horrifying elementary school moment,  and REAL TIME realizes how that one moment still shows up in her life today. Follow Kuhoo on Instagram and Twitter @therealkuhoo, and look out for the March 31 release of her new movie Murder Mystery 2 on Netflix, starring Adam Sandler and Jennifer Aniston!   You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Eating Garbage & Sh*tting Out Double Garbage" w/ Rachel Wenitsky

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2023 83:00


    This week I spiraled out with tv writer,  actor, author & comedian Rachel Wenitsky (The Tonight Show,  Friends Who Folk. )  We talked being shameless but not in a girlboss way,  inherited Jewish anxiety,  feeling dumb vs feeling bad, and so much more. Plus, Rachel tells a deeply relatable (especially to anyone with anxiety) shame story about absolutely SPIRALING after adopting her now extremely beloved dog, Bagel.   Follow Rachel on Twitter and Instagram @rachelwenitsky, buy her Good Dogs book series ( https://www.fantasticfiction.com/w/rachel-wenitsky/good-dogs/) and check out her amazing musical comedy duo Friends Who Folk! Their "Relatable Breakup Song" is featured at the end of the episode, and you should really watch the video after to get the full experience (https://youtu.be/OwXEnCgHVWY.)   You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Casually Destroying People's Lives" w/ Pallavi Gunalan

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 10, 2023 70:52


    This week I spiraled out with writer, stand up comedian, and podcaster Pallavi Gunalan (Lovett Or Leave It, City Counsel.)  We talked feeling like a big ol' mess, why stealing from corporations isn't all that bad, and even stumbled into some accidental DEEP INNER CHILD WORK. Plus, Pallavi shares a shame story about not awesome choices she made while dating in her twenties- that she's determined to leave where they belong (in her twenties.) Follow Pallavi on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok @pallavigunalan, and listen to and follow her incredible politics, comedy and pop culture podcast City Counsel  @citycounselshow on Twitter and IG! And keep your eyes glued to Pallavi's socials for announcements of upcoming stand up shows! Trust, if you get the privilege of seeing her perform live you will laugh until you WEEP.    You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Asking Jeeves About Masturbation" w/Jaclyn Moore

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2023 92:32


    This week I spiraled out with television writer,  showrunner & producer Jaclyn Moore (Queer As Folk, Dear White People.)  We dove deep into shame showing up via religious trauma,  feeling like a bad trans person, horrible online trolls,  accidentally trashing someone's work right to their face, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Jaclyn shares a shame story about being a curious Catholic youth and DARING to ask her Dad to explain masturbation- and when Dad failed to provide the needed intel- turning to the iconic online butler all 90's kid's know oh so well.  Follow Jaclyn on Twitter and Instagram @jaclynpmoore, and keep your eyes peeled for the eventual release of the new season of Nine Perfect Strangers on Hulu!  You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "There's Always An Off-Ramp To Suffering" w/ Ellory Smith

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 20, 2022 76:35


    This week I spiraled out with stand up comedian, Emmy-nominated television writer, and VULNERABLE QUEEN Ellory Smith (Funnilingus, Robot Chicken.)  We talked re-parenting yourself as an adult, whether emotional or physical cheating is worse, the way that ignored pain will make itself KNOWN, and so much more. Plus, Ellory tells an incredible shame story about spending more money than she should have on a FRENCH CLOWNING CLASS, only to panic in the first exercise and bail on the class completely.  (Personally, I think she would be an incredible clown, and we  get a bit into what that le clown magnifique could look like.)    Follow Ellory on Twitter @ellorysmith and Instagram @ellory_smith to stay in the know on upcoming shows and projects, and don't sleep on attending her amazing monthly stand-up show in Los Angeles! @Funnilingus (best name ever.)   You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "A Hannah Horvath Moment" w/ Ashley Ray

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2022 68:19


    This week I spiraled out with stand-up comic, television writer & podcaster Ashley Ray (TV, I Say w/ Ashley Ray.)  We talked the power of a shameless Mom, the fear of letting people down,  the ferocity of high school theater kids, and how shame doesn't always have to be nefarious- to Ashley, it's a friendly lemur on her shoulder. Plus, Ashley shares a shame story about being in a relationship with an honestly super terrible older man when she was in her early twenties, and realizing she had compromised who she was to accommodate his insecurity. Don't worry, she kicks him to the curb in the end, where he belongs. A dirty curb I hope, where crappy ex-boyfriends go to languish for the rest of their days. Can you tell this story pissed me off!? Good. Follow Ashley on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok @theashleyray, and listen to & follow her podcast TV, I Say w/Ashley Ray  on Twitter & Instagram @tvisaypod.  Ashley's also on tour right now, so keep your eyes glued to her socials for upcoming stand up shows!  You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "I Drive People To Drink & Kill Things I Love" w/ DeAnne Smith

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2022 63:33


    This week I spiraled out with stand up comic, writer and disarmingly charming person DeAnne Smith (Comedians Of The World: Gentleman Elf, Just For Laughs.)  We talked feeling you must earn your worth, accidentally sexting your Dad, and learning that some of the awful notions we carry about ourselves for DECADES may not be true- and maybe never were. Plus, DeAnne shares a truly heartbreaking shame story about accidentally harming their beloved Girl Scout Camp companion- a sweet, innocent frog. They worried the story was too heavy, but them boldly sharing it and us laughing together at the tragedy of it all was honestly exactly why I am making this podcast! So thank you, DeAnne, you are a vulnerable ICON! Follow DeAnne on Twitter and Instagram @DeAnne_Smith, and check their website deannesmith.com for upcoming shows and tour dates! You can catch them very soon for their monthly show DEANARCHY in NYC at Union Hall on 12/14! And do not sleep on watching their half-hour comedy special Gentleman Elf on Netflix- IT IS SO GOOD! Search Comedians Of the World, and you'll find their special in the Canada section.  You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Nothing More Awful Than Having A Human Body" w/ Josh Gondelman

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 29, 2022 77:26


    This week I spiraled out with comedian, writer, and total mensch Josh Gondelman! (Desus & Mero, Last Week Tonight With John Oliver, People Pleaser.)  We talked the god-awful experience of having a human body, the desire to control others' perceptions,  the psychology of Elon Musk, and so much more.  Plus, Josh shares a shame story about his body absolutely betraying him,  minutes before his in-laws would arrive to bear witness to the literal mess it made.   Follow Josh on Twitter, Instagram and TikTok @joshgondelman,  and check his website www.joshgondelman.com for upcoming national tour dates, or if you're in NYC,   to buy tickets for his show 12/12 at Union Hall!   You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

    "Straight To The Rotten Core Of My Deficiencies" w/ Leslie Jamison

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 22, 2022 55:51


    This week I spiraled out with novelist, essayist, and gorgeous person Leslie Jamison (Make It Scream, Make It Burn; The Empathy Exams.)  We talked the terror of harming others, the complicated notion of art as therapeutic, and shame personified as a highly critical -and generously tattooed- male graduate student. Plus, Leslie shares a brutal adolescent shame story about seeing her worst fears about herself embodied and then MEMORIALIZED  in her high school yearbook.Follow Leslie on Twitter @lsjamison and check her website lesliejamison.com, where you can learn more about the many incredible books she's written, and decide which you want to read FIRST (if you haven't devoured them all already, like I have.) You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars! twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

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