Podcasts about gay shame

This week, rewind to one of our earliest episodes on how for two years, the SFPD was uninvited to Gay Pride. In solidarity with the cops, politicians boycotted the 2022 Pride parade, and a few pro-cop LGBTs sold everyone else out.  New episode on the radical history of the Dyke March coming next week, also with Jemma! Gay Shame's 5-0 Out of Pride video series: https://gayshame.net/index.php/five-o-out-of-pride-50 Support us and find links to our past episodes: patreon.com/sadfrancisco

Live from the Mission! A conversation between Deeg, Deni, Jemma and Lavelle recorded March 13, 2025 at 518 Valencia Street, steps away from the Death Star known as Manny's. A night of "tales of queer insurrection" where the audience heard the short and sweet versions of the histories of three longstanding Bay Area queer movement groups: Gay Shame, LAGAI Queer Insurrection!, and Queers Undermining Israeli Terrorism!  Presented in collaboration with HALA Collective and Left in the Bay; thanks also to Clean Air Network.   Support us and find links to our past episodes: patreon.com/sadfrancisco  

Republicans have a hard time recognizing when they're winning the culture war, Amber Rose wasn't invited to speak at the RNC to pander to the MAGA base, she was brought to speak to a demographic that isn't inside the RNC. Her appearance went viral on black twitter and other popular, urban media outlets reaching a crowd we haven't had the opportunity to reach in the past.

Get to know the gay Zionist Burner Manny Yekutiel, of Manny's cafe in the Mission, and why groups like Gay Shame and Queers Undermining Israeli Terrorism (QUIT!) have been boycotting Manny's since 2018. HALA Collective  BAD (Bay Area Drag) Fund  "Progressive coalition boycotts ‘woke-washing' of San Francisco event space" (Toshio at Waging Nonviolence) "What boycott of Manny's in the Mission is about" (Margot Goldstein and Rachel Lederman at SF Chronicle)

Do you know your Queer History? Jordan Gonsalves — from But We Loved podcast — shares what he's learned from queer elders and discusses the divide between LGBTQ generations. The PrEP Generation of gays vs. the AIDS Panic Generation. And who is missing? The generation of LGBTQ people who did not make it. Plus, Billy talks about gender discrimination in the intro. Mentioned: June 14 - The Naked Comedy Show @ Hacienda https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-naked-comedy-show-tickets-913649910477 ACT UP Gayety: Was Abraham Lincoln Bi? Sporcle: Name all the presidents When Brooklyn Was Queer by Hugh Ryan - https://bookshop.org/a/91449/9781250621405 Follow Jordan Gonsalves! Instagram: @jor_gonsalves Instagram: @butweloved TikTok: @butweloved Podcast: But We Loved Follow Billy! Instagram: @thebillyprocida TikTok: @TheBillyProcida Instagram: @billyisprocida 0nlyFans: @callmebilly Money Stuff Venmo: @BillyProcida Cash App: $manwhorepod PayPal/Zelle: funnybillypro@gmail.com Do your affordable book shopping at http://bookshop.org/shop/billy! Make new friends in The Champagne Room at http://manwhorepod.com/discord! Support indie podcasting on Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/manwhorepodcast! Email your comments, questions, and criticisms to manwhorepod@gmail.com. Late Night Radio by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/ www.ManwhorePod.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The most peculiar aspect of 'Pride' is how it has lumped together the gay population, with the most extreme proponents of gender ideology, when the latter have arguably done more than any other group to harm the former. Gareth Roberts has witnessed this firsthand. Gareth has fallen into commentary on gender ideology, but like previous guests of the show such as Graham Linehan and Helen Joyce, he was marvellously successful before wading into such treacherous waters. Gareth is a screenwriter and novelist, best known for his work on the iconic British series Doctor Who. His latest book is titled 'Gay Shame: The Rise of Gender Ideology and the New Homophobia.'Follow Will Kingston and Fire at Will on social media here.Subscribe to The Spectator Australia here.

Ely Kreimendahl is a writer, comedian, and therapist. She's also the host of the Shame Spiral podcast and just an absolute delight. She joins Jeff for a conversation on shame, why it's so painful to experience, why we're afraid to talk about it, and why confronting our shame can be so empowering. Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/Follow Ely Kreimendahl on Instagram: @elykreimendahlSubscribe to Ely's SubstackIf you're near Brooklyn, check out Ely's monthly queer comedy show, Gay Shame. Pre-order your copy of Big Dating EnergyDISCLAIMER: The insights shared in this podcast are for educational purposes only, and should not be seen as a substitute for professional therapy. The guidance is general in nature, and does not equate to the personalized care provided by a licensed therapist. The callers are not therapy clients.

Damon Frank is joined by Matthew Todd, author and journalist. Matthew opens up about his personal journey from being a "problem drinker" to embracing a sober life, highlighting the intertwining issues of trauma, anxiety, and societal pressures that fuel addiction. This conversation delves deep into the cultural narratives and personal realizations that led Matthew to sobriety and inspired his impactful writing, including his latest article, "I spent 22 years as a problem drinker. Here are the 10 things I've learned since I quit."

Novelist, screenwriter and commentator Gareth Roberts joins The Brendan O'Neill Show this week to talk about his new book, Gay Shame. Gareth and Brendan discuss how trans activists hijacked gay rights, the misogyny of gender ideology and why woke homophobia is on the rise. Find out more about spiked's internship programme here: spiked-online.com/interns  Order Brendan O'Neill's A Heretic's Manifesto now from:

Instead of demanding free housing or health care, some people think the answer to homelessness is to build "mental health" jails and forced "rehab" centers to stow unhoused people, indefinitely. With Clio/Thatcher Sady and Tory Becker, from Gay Shame. "Cities Across the US Are Stripping Homeless People of Their Autonomy," by Tory and Toshio, for Truthout In other news: April 5 at Bluestockings in New York City: Come hang out with Shuli Branson, Zuri Arman, and Toshio, around the anthology "Surviving the Future: Abolitionist Queer Strategies" Sad Francisco is produced by Toshio Meronek; this episode was edited by Caitlin Wood. Support the show and find links to all of our past episodes on Patreon.  

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Gaslighting and double-standards are all over the media and at schools, where Zionists often get put on pedestals, while pro-Palestinian voices get silenced. A discussion of how censorship works on and off college campuses, featuring: Dylan Rodriguez, co-founder of Critical Resistance and the Critical Ethnic Studies Association, and professor of Media and Cultural Studies at UC Riverside Loubna Qutami, co-founder of the Palestinian Feminist Collective and the Palestinian Youth Movement, and assistant professor in Asian American Studies at UCLA Shownotes: Palestine Legal: 'Distorted Definition: Redefining Antisemitism to Silence Advocacy for Palestinian Rights'  'Professor 'un-hiring' fuels battle for academic freedom' (Toshio Meronek, Waging Nonviolence) 'Students fight smears as universities back Israel's genocidal attacks' (Nora Barrows-Friedman, Electronic Intifada) A Communique on Sabotaging Zionist Infrastructure: Shutting Down Friends of the IDF (IndyBay) 'The Lobby' (Al Jazeera documentary on the Israel lobby, featuring UC Davis) Dylan on Instagram | Twitter | YouTube Loubna on Academia.edu | Twitter  Past episodes on Palestine: Queers for a Free Palestine with Kate Raphael; the Antizionist Boycott of Manny's with Deeg Support Sad Francisco and find links to our past episodes on Patreon.  If you are in the Bay this weekend: THIS SATURDAY, 12/2/23 Palestine solidarity action c/o QUIT! and Gay Shame, 1 p.m. at Market and Castro THIS SUNDAY, 12/3/23  Howard Zinn Book Fair    

A GAY SHAME podcast. Emmanuel Yekutiel is a marketing associate for conservative causes and Israel who in 2018, opened a gentrification cafe in the Mission that he named after himself. Since then, Manny's has been a safe space for neoliberal figures to gather, including Dr. Jill Biden, Matt Yglesias, Nancy Pelosi, Sam Bankman-Fried, SFPD chief Bill Scott, and the trio of local politicians Manny dubbed the "Power Gays."  Deeg from Queers Undermining Israeli Terrorism (QUIT!) speaks on the boycott of Manny's, and the tradition of queers organizing against Israel's genocide of Palestinians. Queers Undermining Israeli Terrorism (QUIT!) BDS Movement "Alive in Limbo" documentary "Pinkwashing Exposed" documentary  Queer Cinema for Palestine "Progressive Coalition boycotts 'woke-washing' of San Francisco event space" "Mark Zuckerberg's Immigration Hustle"

This week I spiraled out with writer, poet and lovely person LaToya Jordan! We dug deep into her recently published novella, To The Woman In The Pink Hat, and some of the issues it explores: medical racism, infertility, white feminism, the Women's March, and uterine transplants (?!?,) and also spiraled about twenty-something alcohol-induced regrets, the struggle to "make the first move" in attempting friendship with adults and fellow parents, and how sometimes the right amount of shame just affirms you're not a sociopath. Plus, LaToya shared a vulnerable , poignant and retrospectively hilarious shame story about being "outed" as a lesbian on her high school track team (in a horrible, homophobic way, and DESPITE not actually being a lesbian!!!) Follow LaToya on IG @latoyajordanwriter and Twitter @latoyadjordan, and buy her novella!!!!!!! It is such a good read and despite the heavy topics, manages to be truly  IMPOSSIBLE to put down.  https://www.aqueductpress.com/books/978-1-61976-236-7.php And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  AND if you want to hear me spiral LIVE, the next Gay Shame comedy show is next week! 10/30 at 7:30pm at Union Hall in Brooklyn, and in honor of Halloween it is HOCUS POCUS-THEMED, WITCH!!!! tickets available here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/gay-shame-tickets-722973672717Thank you so much for listening! Please review, subscribe, and leave those five shining stars. Audio Engineer: Sarah Gabrielli @therealsarahgabrielli @cruisingpod Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

Kansas City, Olympia, and parts of Boston and DC now have fare-free public transportation. Yet BART and MUNI fares keep going up. Aditya, of the copwatching project Unfare SF, on moving the Bay toward no-ticket public transit. Unfare SF on Mastodon Unfare SF on Twitter Bikehopper Segregation by Design The Bay Area's Lost Streetcars (Chris Arvin) Shaping SF: The Freeway Revolt (Chris Carlsson) Support Sad Francisco and find links to our past episodes on Patreon.  

This week I spiraled out with super funny & absurdly talented comedian, writer, actor & podcaster River Butcher! (The Knew Guys, League Of Their Own.) We talked fear of people leaving if you dare to share your feelings, the difficulty of actually implementing your coping skills when things are POPPING OFF, giving a gift to your inner child and carrying all previous versions of you inside yourself, letting go of trying to be a "better person," somatic therapies, striking out in baseball and SO MUCH MORE. Check out River's incredible podcast The Knew Guys everywhere you get your pods, stream his half-hour comedy special A Different Kind Of Dude,  catch him on Good Trouble and in Friendsgiving, and follow him on IG and Twitter @rivbutcher to stay in the know on upcoming shows! You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  AND if you wanna hear me go off on shame LIVE with a bunch of queer comics, come to my monthly queer comedy show Gay Shame (@gayshamecomedy) at Littlefield in Brooklyn, co-hosted with amazing fellow Brooklyn comic Sheria Mattis of @semi_woke_pod!  Next up is 9/12- which is TONIGHT- and it's gonna be SO FUN.  Headlined by Janeane Garofalo (!!!) and featuring a crop of incredible comics AND a surprise celebrity guest  who will DEFINITELY make you spiral- but in the good way. Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with wonderfully deep, refreshingly honest and truly hilarious writer, actor, comedian, musician AND podcaster Lane Moore! (Tinder Live, You Will Find Your People)  We talked shame and relational trauma, the damage done by unrealistic and grossly prescriptive self-help books, dealing with the incessant self-critical DJ playing the worst songs over and over in your head, making art from pain, the struggle to believe there's nothing wrong with you,  the difficulty of giving yourself the grace & compassion you freely give others, and SO MUCH MORE. Check out Lane's incredible podcast I Thought It Was Just Me, available exclusively on Patreon ( https://www.patreon.com/lanemoore) and buy her freaking amazing and relatable books: How To Be Alone and You Will Find Your People: How To Make Meaningful Friendships As An Adult.  You can follow Lane on Twitter, IG and TikTok @hellolanemoore and find all things Lane at lanemoore.org. And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  AND if you wanna hear me go off on shame LIVE with a bunch of queer comics, come to my monthly queer comedy show Gay Shame (@gayshamecomedy) at Littlefield in Brooklyn, co-hosted with amazing fellow Brooklyn comic Sheria Mattis of @semi_woke_pod!  Next up is 9/12 and it's gonna be SO FUN.  What can I say guys, shame is my brand. Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with hilarious & deeply relatable stand up comic, podcaster (and fellow neurotic Jew) Carly Montag!  We talked the pervasive fear of making others' feel bad, coming out as queer via an improv class revelation, Jewish guilt and hypervigilance, the shame of feeling stupid, internalized homophobia and the pressure to marry a nice Jewish boy, the rocky learning curve of your first relationships and the regrets that follow and SO MUCH MORE.  Carly performs stand up in NYC, DC and beyond, and is the co-host of one of my fave podcasts, Alone At Lunch, a pod about feeling like the odd man out! Go binge it immediately if you haven't already, and follow the pod everywhere @aloneatlunchpod and Carly @carlyjmontag on IG & Twitter!You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  AND if you wanna hear me go off on shame LIVE with a bunch of queer comics, come to my monthly queer comedy show Gay Shame (@gayshamecomedy) at Littlefield in Brooklyn, co-hosted with amazing fellow Brooklyn comic Sheria Mattis of @semi_woke_pod!  Next up is 9/12 and it's gonna be SO FUN.  What can I say guys, shame is my brand. Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with incredibly talented comic, writer and actor Joel Kim Booster! (Fire Island, The Other Two, Shrill)  We talked the impact of growing up extremely religious and queer, fear of going to hell and terrifying fantasies of what hell would be like, caring way too much of what others' think about you, being young and extra thirsty, people pleasing tendencies (except for with the TSA,)  the journey of going from shameful to shameless, a dead Dad orgy, masochistically name searching yourself on Twitter and SO MUCH MORE.Joel has written for and/or appeared in so many shows you probably already love: Shrill, The Other Two, Big Mouth, Loot, Search Party and Praise Petey, to name a few. You can and SHOULD stream Joel's stand up special Joel Kim Booster: Psychosexual on Netflix (IT IS SO FUNNY,) and if you haven't already seen it, go watch the hilarious and moving and iconic film Fire Island RIGHT NOW, which he wrote and stars in, and is an overall absolute delight. And stay glued to his socials @ihatejoelkim for upcoming tour dates! You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  AND if you wanna hear me go off on shame LIVE with a bunch of queer comics, come to my monthly queer comedy show Gay Shame (@gayshamecomedy) at Littlefield in Brooklyn, co-hosted with amazing fellow Brooklyn comic Sheria Mattis of @semi_woke_pod!  Next up is 9/12 and it's gonna be SO FUN.  What can I say guys, shame is my brand. Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week we are joined by Ely Kreimendahl! Ely is a standup comedian, writer, and podcast host. She is also a psychotherapist, specializing in working with LGBTQIA individuals, artists, and trauma/PTSD. Make sure to check out her podcast Shame Spiral and stand up show Gay Shame! In this episode we discuss growing up as one of the only Jewish families in her Chicago community, trauma jokes, Bat Mitzvah themes, writing letters, being a theater kid, going to film school, and so much more. You don't want to miss our discussion about how Ely wasn't allowed to go to certain colleges that were “too queer.” Give this episode a listen! Recommendations From The Episode: PEN15: Season 2, Episode 9 - Bat MitzvahLove, VictorFollow Ely Kreimendahl: @ElyKreimendahlFollow Carly: @carlyjmontagFollow Emily: @thefunnywalshFollow the podcast: @aloneatlunchpodSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shame is that terrible feeling that arises when you get the sense that something is fundamentally wrong about you. It is often accompanied by inadequacy and self-doubt. Shame convinces you that you are not enough. Like it or not, shame plays a key role in the gay man's life. Born into a straight world, we must contend with the fact that we are different. While we all have a unique way of dealing with shame, healing it is necessary if we want to develop an authentic sense of self and truly connect in our most intimate relationships. We'll be exploring 3 key questions: How shame affect us as gay men, specifically How do we identify shame What are some ways we can start healing shame? Take today's episode to the next level: Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection Healing Your Shame course Your Hosts Michael DiIorio Matt Landsiedel Resources Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection Healing Your Shame course Building Better Relationships course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Connect With Us Join the Facebook community and monthly Group Zoom call You can also follow us on Instagram and TikTok Support the Show

A Gay Shame (gayshame.net) podcast. Gentrifying neighbors, politician Hilary Ronen, the SFPD, and the media conspired to shut down parts of Capp Street in the Mission using concrete barricades. While they continue to sink millions into a fire hazard that makes sex workers less safe, Gay Shame talked to Celestina Pearl (St. James Infirmary | stjamesinfirmary.org), Dilara Yarbrough (scholars.org/scholar/dilara-yarbrough), Cesar Espinoza Perez (instagram.com/juliuscaesarsf/), and Ivy Anderson (co-editor of ‘Alice: Memoirs of a Barbary Coast Prostitute' | voicesfromtheunderworld.com) on the history of sex work in the Bay; why decriminalization is better than legalization; and how to help sex workers under attack by the City. | Mission DeFence: instagram.com/missiondefence_sf | Rad Mission Neighbors: radmissionneighbors.org | People's Mission Coalition: thepeoplesmissioncoalition.com | patreon.com/sadfrancisco

This week's episode is all about coming out. Dealing with gay shame, how and when you should come out and how allies should behave around someone they suspect might be gay. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you think you don't experience shame about being gay, think again. In my experience, shame is so deeply rooted into the lives of gay men that we're numbed out to it. In this episode, you'll learn how to recognize and heal shame, so you can live a happier life and improve your relationships. You'll also learn what attachment trauma is and how that relates to shame, and powerful practices of healing trauma and nurturing a secure attachment style.  Can't Host is a gay men's sex and relationships podcast aiming to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, and explore the complex dynamics of gay relationships, with the aim of creating opportunities for healing and growth. We'll discuss whether size matters, question the top/bottom binary, talk about healing sexual trauma, how to overcome dick- and body-shame, falling out of love with someone, homonormativity, and more. If you're a gay guy who's frustrated with the rigid rules of the gay community, seeking more joy and authenticity in your sex life and relationships, you're in the right place!  About Me  I'm George Lizos, spiritual teacher, psychic healer, and #1 bestselling author. Growing up in a small Christian community, I was judged and rejected for being gay and different. After a futile two-year attempt to change who I was born to be, I called myself a human abomination and almost took my own life. Fortunately, in my darkest moment, I saw the light and ventured on a healing journey of love, forgiveness, and spiritual awakening. Yet, my gay dating life since hasn't always been all roses and rainbows, and my past dramas and traumas have definitely kept things spicy. Fast forward past many awkward dates and disappointing sex, I Created Can't Host to challenge toxic gay stereotypes, explore the complex dynamics of gay sex and relationships, and create opportunities for healing and growth. https://georgelizos.com/  About Matt  Matt Landsiedel is an Intuitive Life and Spiritual Coach from Calgary, Canada. Matt specializes in teaching people how to heal shame and trauma and embody their authentic self so they can enjoy meaningful connections in their lives. His areas of expertise are working with highly sensitive people (HSP), empaths and gay men to develop a stronger sense of self-worth. Matt earned his undergraduate degree in Addiction Counselling from the University of Lethbridge and has spent the last 15 years working in the fields of Mental Health & Addiction and Transformative Life and Spiritual Coaching where he guides people on their psychological and spiritual journey through life.  Matt's website: https://www.mattlandsiedel.com/  Matt's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inspiredtobeauthentic/  Matt's book: https://www.amazon.com/Matt-Landsiedel/dp/B084WL9PSK/  Connect With Me  Instagram: https://instagram.com/georgelizos/  Website: https://georgelizos.com/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamgeorgelizos  Facebook Group: http://www.yourspiritualtoolkit.com/  My Books  Be The Guru: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TtCj  Lightworkers Gotta Work: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmKf  Protect Your Light: https://l.linklyhq.com/l/1TmJd

For two years, the San Francisco police department was uninvited to Gay Pride. In solidarity, bureaucrats boycotted the 2022 Pride parade. Jemma DeCristo returns to report from behind the liberal front of a city whose highest-paid employee is a sheriff's deputy. - Support the show (and get upcoming bonus episodes): patreon.com/sadfrancisco - Shownotes Miss Major's Gay Shame '5-0 Out of Pride' video; SF Pride board meeting interrupted (Gay Shame) ‘Wild animals': Racist texts sent by San Francisco police officer, documents show (Scott Glover and Dan Simon in CNN) The strange and terrible saga of Mohammed Nuru turns the page
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That's right... there just simply wasn't enough time to cram in all the shame shared with us at the August Drag Bingo, we had to gift you with a part two! Catch the first shameful offerings here: https://youtu.be/8wQGsND5jE8 Follow us online @unnamed_drag Also if you laugh at any of our jokes, remember you owe us money - so why not donate to our charity, Community Reach-Around? Find out more here: https://www.patreon.com/unnameddrag

Pride is over. It's time for… GAY SHAME! And here are two hags that know a thing or two about making fools of themselves... Dive in fist first as your reprehensible drag duo are the Grand Michelles of the gay shame parade, inviting you all to hear the most embarrassing queer moments shared anonymously by the audience at last month's Drag Bingo! Featuring hopeless hook ups! Douching disasters! Clubbing calamities! So please, lie back, relax, and take some deep breaths as the deepest, darkest secrets are shared and celebrated – nay, *rewarded*! Follow us online @unnamed_drag Also if you laugh at any of our jokes, remember you owe us money - so why not donate to our charity, Community Reach-Around? Find out more here: https://www.patreon.com/unnameddrag

Many people think that you need to come out to be your "authentic self."What does "being authentic" really mean?How is that advice helpful if you're in the closet and have been struggling to come out for years?What if you've been married for decades and are afraid about who you might hurt and what you might lose?If you're in the closet and thinking about coming out, or if you know of someone who's struggling, this episode is about getting clear about your emotional reasons for coming out, and how you can prepare to be as ready — for when it feels "right" for you to come out and freely create a life you love.As mentioned in the episode, if you want to talk with someone about how to come out, or if you're dealing with shame around your gender or sexual identity, let's meet for a private conversation. 

"Until I was 19 (in 1984), and for almost 15 years, I felt a combination of fear, guilt, shame, unrequited desire, silence, isolation, and otherness."Self-examination and knowing the events, the people, the environments, and the conditions that shaped your past are useful information. This is your personal narrative — and you can do with it what you please. In my case, I was determined to live better in the now than I had been living in my past.The complete show notes are published on Queering Self-Mastery. Sign up for practical tips and strategies for queer-thinking creators and change-makers to create a joyful life, accomplish your goals, and make a difference.---------------If you're a creator or change-maker who is struggling to make a difference and create a thriving business that you love, let's meet for a free 90-minute discovery coaching session. I'd like to find out what motivates you and how you want to make a difference in the world.

One of the most common forms of sexual shaming we see in the gay community is towards bottoming. The closed-minded narratives that are perpetuated around receptive anal sex reflect a patriarchal belief system that inhibits our growth as a community. In this episode, we're tackling the topic of bottom shaming and exploring questions like... Where do you think bottom shaming stems from?Why do you think bottom shaming keeps being perpetuated in the community?How do you think we as a community can start moving away from bottom shaming and start empowering ourselves? Join us as we unpack the causes and effects of sexual shaming and understand how we all play a role in elevating the dialogue around sex and sexuality. Watch this ep on YouTube VOTE FOR US FOR THE PODCAST AWARDS! - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

We as gay men grew up in a society that completely invalidates our existence, leaving us to figure a lot of this stuff out on our own... In this episode, we welcome author Matthew Todd, where we discuss his book "Straight Jacket: Overcoming Society's Legacy of Gay Shame". Yes, this is a self-help book - and if you're like me, you think you're perfect and there's nothing wrong with you and reading this would be an absolute waste of time. I'm here to tell you, you're wrong and also YES, you are the problem. We discuss so many of themes mentioned throughout the book, including: the root of why we're so afraid of coming out, gay self destruction and how we compare ourselves to others, bottom shaming, the brighter sides of grindr, why we should be good to our allies, and soooo much more. Reading this book has been life changing for me, and has helped me understand so many things about myself and the gay community that I didn't know I didn't understand. No matter what part of your gay journey you're on, I hope that each of you will pick up this book, and have as many “AHA!” moments as I did. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/yaaasbro/support

Ever since I was a little boy, I've dreamt small.I was a sickly child with severe ADHD. I had a learning disability that made it hard for me to read letters. And I was gay without knowing what that meant.Other kids and a few teachers made me feel like an outsider and not good enough.My health issues, which attracted unwanted attention, and being in the closet kept me fearful of freely expressing my truth. I was too scared to talk about it with my parents because the root of my fear was the thing I knew about myself but didn't understand. My thoughts were, I'm no good, I'm not well, I'm not smart enough, I'll never amount to anything.I allowed those perceptions to limit my life into my early 40s...**********If you're an LGBTQ+ change-maker who's ready to transform into an impactful leader and make a difference, let's have a conversation.

[audio transcription] STOP MEN.. I've been probably writing it and it's been a part of my work for about 15 years. During that Gay Shame time and during a lot of my protesting and, and engaging with the Mission Anti- Displacement Coalition for, you know, a couple of years and the Coalition on Homelessness and working for all these or organizations and advocating for different types of people and everything. Everything I did lost, you know, everything. Like every single fucking thing I participated in failed. Everything, everything. I like, if I breathed the thought, it would come back negative, like it was just like, wow, like nothing's coming. You know, nothing I'm doing is working in any kind of way or helping anything. I was like, what is this all about? You know? And I just basically like, I don't wanna protest laws that are unjust to people and jails unjust to people and, and health as a right or not, you know, like I don't wanna protest a hundred things or question a million things. I just wanna go right to the source and who the fuck is running all this shit. And men are making all these decisions, creating this whole framework and are unchecked, you know, the most violent men, unfortunately, in the country are shaping our reality. And so I just really quickly was just like, oh, well stop men. that's obvious, you know, I'm just like stop men is where I'm at with that. That's what I wanna say, which is stop men. All men need to check themselves. And so from there, and I'm completely comfortable with that with myself. Like, I've been checking myself and trying to learn how to be a good, healthy person for luckily, most of my life, you know, not all of my life, but luckily, most of it. And the heavier way . . sometimes I have a little spit that I say, you know, which I maybe can't get through it perfectly, but a lot of times I answer like this, which is, uh, stop men is the avocation of silence of all men in regards to decision making and leadership over any and all other living things. And men are totally chill to do whatever over their person, you know, make any decisions you want over your person and whatever the fuck you wanna do, but in terms of making decisions or participating in decisions over other living things, it's, we're at a full stop right now. The planet is coming to an end and everything on this planet has been shaped by male violence. We're off that page and we're flipping that page, starting something new. And it starts with men being silent and dealing with listening and not making any decisions of power over leadership of anyone. And this is just like an immediate stop. And from there, I'm not really suggesting who is to take power or whatever I'm out of that, but I'm saying that that needs to happen and that if men are making decisions over other people, if they are forcing their opinion into a conversation, they are identified as non revolution. These are non revolutionary men that need to be stopped. -Xara Thustra on LITQB --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/asher-pandjiris/message

The man with carefully sculpted six-pack is everywhere: in Hollywood action films, on magazine front covers, in your social media feed, on dating apps. And so are the online ads telling you how to get the look. But what does it really take to get a washboard stomach? This week, Ruth Alexander hears from three men about the reality of getting ‘ripped' and how much of it is down to what you eat. They reveal how deeply the experience can affect your relationship with food, your loved ones and yourself (Picture: Male torso ripped in half. Credit: Getty/BBC) If you would like to get in touch with the show, please email: thefoodchain@bbc.co.uk Producer: Sarah Stolarz Contributors: Graham Isador, writer Florian Gaffet, massage therapist Matthew Todd, author ‘Straight Jacket: Overcoming Society's Legacy of Gay Shame'

What's particularly shocking about Nick Telson's success with DesignMyNight is how deliberate it all seemed. They set themselves a target each year, achieved it and moved onto the next one until they'd hit the numbers they needed for the exit they wanted. How many businesses do that? And it was the first startup he'd ever founded… Nick explains how they sold the business - the actual steps they took - which isn't a process that most people know about unless they've been lucky enough to go through an exit themselves. And in classic startup style, it looked like the whole deal was going to collapse on the day of signing until an unlikely hero stepped up. Since exiting DesignMyNight, Nick has founded Horseplay Ventures, and more recently Trumpet, a mixture of Squarespace and Canva and Slack for sales decks. It sounds like something I would use, tbf. Despite his success, throughout his time leading DesignMyNight, Nick kept one aspect of himself relatively hidden - his sexuality. Find out why and what he's doing about it now.  Sponsor links: smithandwilliamson.com/secretleaders netsuite.com/secretleaders linkedin.com/secretleaders vanta.com/secretleaders

On today's episode of Way Too Interested, medievalist Dr. Eleanor Janega talks with Gavin Purcell about her current obsession: The conceptualization of sex. She explains how her field of study has been distorted in the popular imagination, how medieval people thought about sex, and the surprisingly similar way modern internet communities are talking about it now. Then, Eleanor and Gavin are joined by David Halperin, the Distinguished Professor of the History and Theory of Sexuality at the University of Michigan; he talks about the differing philosophies of sex offered by thinkers like Plato, Arthur Schopenhauer, and Sigmund Freud, and how societies — in both classical and modern times — have drawn lines between "acceptable" and "unacceptable," or "natural" and "unnatural" types of sex. Plus: How definitions of gender, eroticism, and virility have changed over time. Please follow or subscribe to Way Too Interested https://pod.link/1588020251 (in your podcast app of choice)! And if you liked this episode, then tell a friend to check it out. Also ... Follow Gavin on Twitter https://twitter.com/gavinpurcell (@gavinpurcell) Follow Eleanor on Twitter https://mobile.twitter.com/goingmedieval (@goingmedieval) Read https://www.goodreads.com/author/list/167114.David_M_Halperin (David's books), including How to Be Gay and Gay Shame

As ex-vangelical, now-proud lesbians, we're talking about the new Netflix documentary, Pray Away, which chronicles the ex-gay movement. We're discussing our experiences with the Church, our coming out stories, and how we overcame “Gay Shame”. Be Out, Be Proud, Be You, and Listen Now! Newsletter/Updates: https://mailchi.mp/9f3bd5f21b00/vulnerability-is-in-podcast Follow No Subject Apparel: @nosubjectapparel Follow Faith: @faithholt on IG + FB, @faithaholt on Twitter Follow Christian: @christiankennedyy_ Theme song is "It's Alright, It's Fine" from Faith's full-length album, The Difference. Show Produced by Morgan Jergens --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/faith-holt/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/faith-holt/support

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Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore is the author of three novels, two memoirs, and the editor of five nonfiction anthologies. Her novels include So Many Ways to Sleep Badly, Pulling Taffy, and Sketchtasy. Her first memoir, The End of San Francisco, won a Lambda Literary Award. Her recent memoir, The Freezer Door, has been longlisted for the 2021 PEN/Jean Stein Book Award. Her most recent anthology, Why are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots?: Flaming Challenges to Masculinity, Objectification, and the Desire to Conform, was an American Library Association Stonewall Honor Book. She recently completed a new anthology, Between Certain Death and a Possible Future: Queer Writing on Growing up with the AIDS Crisis, which will be published in October. Her activism has included ACT UP in the early '90s, Fed Up Queers in the late '90s, Gay Shame, and other unnamed groups. For more Thresholds, visit us at www.thisisthresholds.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Success Is Not an End-Destination, It's a Measure of ProgressIf you don't accomplish a goal, does that make you unsuccessful and a failure? If your actions are too stressful, it's human nature to fight, flee, or freeze. The solution is to do less to reduce or eliminate stress.Failure and success are not dualistic. This is why people get stressed out about failing.Success as a measurement is a process of acting towards an intended outcome, but failure is a moment.Failure is not a process. Failure is the “nonperformance of something due.” No value judgement is required.Success is a process that requires mistakes and well as missed-takes on the way to solving a problem or accomplishing a goal.Success and failure are not in opposition to each other. If you don't succeed at a goal, that doesn't make you a failure. If you recognize that truth, you will be more successful in life.Click here for the complete show notes.⇩ Download my Personal Evolution Process, How to Define, Refine, and Re-Align Your Failures as Successes

Gay, Straight, or Queer, We All Want Love.We all want to be connected with others, to be cared for, and to be accepted for who we are. To different degrees, that's what we call love.Your beliefs about relationships affect your experience of love, compassion, and self-acceptance.Until you clearly define your beliefs about what is true about things like dating, sex, and relationships, you won't know if your choices and behaviours are based on scripts written and directed by someone else. You might be living the belief and values narratives of your parents, religion, or a political ideology.Read the full article here: "As a Gay Man, What Do You Believe About Sex, Love, and Relationships?"⇩ Download the “How to Define Your Core Beliefs About Sex, Love, and Relationships” P.E.P. Worksheet.

In this episode of Think Queerly, I speak with Jon Carl Lewis, the founder of Sex and the Gay Christian. He is also one of my coaching clients.Jon Carl Lewis has studied theology, scripture, discernment, and ethics at Princeton Theological Seminary, Harvard Divinity School and General Theological Seminary. He is currently in training to be a spiritual director, which immerses him in contemplative practices designed to integrate an awareness of the Divine presence into every aspect of one's personhood and relationships.Throughout his studies, he has been distracted by questions he didn't think he could ask — questions that seemed to be at the periphery of the concerns of the academy and the religious establishment. There were places where he could explore identity and questions of belonging as a gay man, as a Black man, and as a Christian embracing those two identities, but he didn't find a place where he could answer his questions about actual sex, sexual ethics, sexual practice, and sexual relating.In this interview, we discuss,Who Jon Carl is and what he believes in;What has happened in his life that has created a curiosity to discover how his sexual attitudes and practices could better integrate with his spiritual life and practices;What led him to create “Sex and the Gay Christian,” a healthy, sex-positive, Christ-centred community, and;The book he is currently writing.We also talk about coaching, specifically,How he was feeling before he reached out to me;What made him decide to connect with me;What happened at the end of our first session;How he is feeling now and what he is doing differently since we started working together three months ago, and;The value of coaching in his life.You can learn more about Jon Carl and Sex and the Gay Christian by going to his Website or following him on Twitter and Instagram.Darren Stehle is a coach, writer, and host of the Think Queerly Podcast. He helps deep thinkers & creatives cultivate their purpose & uniqueness to enjoy more peace of mind, acceptance, and freedom. Subscribe to Darren's Newsletter to be notified of new articles, podcast episodes, and some of his best work and ebooks along the way.

In a recent coaching session, my client asked me to send instructions on how to craft his "statements of self-truth."He was telling me about using affirmations and trying to think positive. We had a discussion about how those words and actions are mostly meaningless because they don't connect with truth.The truth is, we can improve who we are and how we feel about ourselves by accepting our current reality  —  our current truth  — and building upon that truth. Accepting where you are doesn't mean you have to settle there. It only means you recognize the truth of where you are.Read the article here: "What Are Your Statements of Self-Truth?"Darren is a Writer, a Human-Heartedness Coach, and Host of the Think Queerly Podcast. He helps deep thinkers & creatives cultivate their purpose & potential to enjoy more acceptance, peace of mind, and freedom. Subscribe to his newsletter to be notified of new articles, podcast episodes, and some of his best work and ebooks along the way.

The cliché, “Success leaves clues” is telling. Success is nothing more than a process of completed actions that accumulate like the run-out sands in an hourglass and manifest as the accomplishment of one's desired goal.In this episode, I discuss:Why success isn't an end-destination.The negative effects of shame on success (which lead to "feeling" like a failure).If you don't accomplish a goal, does that make you unsuccessful and a failure?Why if your actions are more stressful than you can handle that it's human nature to fight, flee, or freeze.The most effective and seemingly too-simple strategy to deal with overwhelm.Read the article on Curious: "Success Is Not the Opposite of Failure - How this Dichotomy Reinforces Self-Doubt and Shame."Download the Personal Evolution Process Worksheet:⇩ How to Define, Refine, and Re-Align Your Failures as Successes

Welcome to the Gay Shame "reparations salon," where we talk about the hot topic of taking back what's ours.   We all deserve a check, but what forms can reparations take outside of capitalism?   Your host Mary ponders the question from indigenous and/or transgender angles, with the aid of two Bay Area activists working to rematriate land and power to people in the Bay Area.   For more: Justice for Kayla Moore Sogorea Te' Land Trust Recorded December 4, 2020. Transcripts and links to more info at gayshame.net/index.php/gay-shame-the-podcast/.

A few weeks ago I received a comment on one of my most-read articles, “From Sissy Boys to Straight-Acting Gay Men.” The person shared the following:“I don’t agree with the premise of this article that gay men have to learn to forgive themselves. The act of self-forgiveness is often promoted as a panacea for life’s ills, in this case, self-shaming as a gay man. Self-forgiveness suggests that some wrong has been perpetrated (by me).”His message was well-intentioned, and I suggested that there is a subtlety in the understanding of what I meant with respect to “forgiveness”.Read the show notes here:Do Gay Men Need to Forgive Themselves for Gay Shame?Did this episode inspire you in some way? I'd love to know what you thought or how you felt. Send me a message here: https://darrenstehle.com/contact.Get weekly updates from me to cultivate more acceptance, connection, and joy in your life: https://darrenstehle.com/newsletter

The toxic womanizers in power have a new reason to hate Britney Spears: Her fame is bringing attention to the evils of "conservatorship" laws. In dystopian 2020, rich people and their politician-servants are using conservatorship - when a court takes away your self-determination and gives it to a family member or a stranger - to further criminalize disabled people, people who use substances, and/or homeless people through enhanced conservatorship - indefinitely detaining people so they are out of the line of sight of gentrifiers. The Marys were joined by our first guest, the inimitable Gentry, aka @catpowerman5000 on Instagram. Also featured in this episode: Mental Health First - if you're in Oakland, there's a new hotline you can call if you know someone is having a psychiatric emergency: 510-999-9MH1. (Mental Health First also responds to email, and direct messages on social media platforms listed on their site.) Gay Shame made a zine about conservatorship. Mad Mob (♥ Eddie + Peter J) editorial in the SF Examiner. "Cities Across the US are Stripping Homeless People of Their Autonomy," is a conservatorship explainer that ran in Truthout. Recorded October 9, 2020. Transcripts and links to more info at gayshame.net/index.php/gay-shame-the-podcast/.

James and Dan are joined by singer, actor and author Will Young. We talk about how to overcome gay shame plus Will opens up on his struggles with love addiction, disassociation & dealing with homophobic attacks throughout his career.us@gaynongay.com .If you need help dealing with gay shame or any of the issues talked about in this episode, please contact:LGBT Foundation - 03453 303030 - lgbt.foundation .Switchboard LGBT Helpline - 0300 330 0630 - switchboard.lgbt/help .If you're struggling with love or sex addiction, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous can offer life changing support. Visit SLAAUK.org .Please support our podcast, your encouragement helps us to keep going and create meaningful audio that will lead to acceptance for many more. Visit www.gaynongay.com/donate/ . Show your love for our trans and non-binary family. Shop our merch. Get your very own Pronoun Tee, hat or vest with 10% to Mermaids - visit www.gaynongay.com/shop/ . See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This episode explores the idea that sexual categories have socially-defined meanings that evolve over time. Individuals develop their sexual self through telling their story to position themselves within these social definitions.

In which The Marys of Gay Shame's express faux-nostalgia for the early 2000s when vodka companies sponsoring Pride was of great concern, and today's neo/liberal embrace of anti-police movements. Recorded August 6, 2020. Transcripts for episodes here: https://gayshame.net/index.php/gay-shame-the-podcast/

43 years ago today, on August 1, 1977, I was 11-years old. It's a significant moment in Toronto queer history and it was most certainly formative of early queer identity, albeit not in a positive way at the time. Looking back, this incident may have been the root-cause of what made me intent on making a difference in the world, especially for other queer people.Read the article on DarrenStehle.com: How the Murder of a 12-Year Old Boy Shaped My Queerness.  

After the uprisings started in June 2020, the neoliberal vultures started circling. The Marys of Gay Shame's response: 'Abolition is the Floor Not the Ceiling' - an intervention against the capitalist death cult turnup, neoliberal mayors, cop diversity trainings, and reformist nonprofits. Recorded July 9, 2020. Transcript here: https://gayshame.net/index.php/podcast-episode-1/

Matthew Todd, UK writer-journalist talks with Emmy Winner Charlotte Robinson host of OUTTAKE VOICES™ about his exquisite new coffee table book “PRIDE: The Story Of The LGBTQ Equality Movement” published by Weldon Owen. The book documents the milestones in our fight for global LGBTQ equality from before Stonewall to the victories of activists over the last five decades that have led to the gradual acceptance of LGBTQ people in politics, sports and the media. It also chronicles the winning landmark court cases including marriage equality and significant legislation that have furthered our basic civil rights. This pictorial and wide-reaching text takes you on a journey covering key figures, heroes, notable moments, events and breakthroughs in a wealth of rare images and documents as well as providing moving essays from vital witnesses throughout our modern day movement. Though we still have a long way to go to achieve full equality, “PRIDE: The Story Of The LGBTQ Equality Movement” is a unique and comprehensive account of the ongoing challenges facing our LGBTQ community and a celebration of civil rights that have been won for many of us as a result of the sacrifices and passion of this mass movement. The book includes personal testimonies from many relevant activists and allies including Judy Shepard mother of Matthew Shepard, legendary photographer Nan Goldin, Reverend Troy Perry founder of the Metropolitan Community Church, novelist playwright essayist Darryl Pinckney, Jake Shears of The Scissor Sisters, activist and former Pride Award-winner Jonathan Blake, New Zealand politician Georgina Beyer the world’s first openly transgender Mayor and transgender member of Parliament, Deborah Brin one of the world’s first openly gay Rabbis and many more. We talked to Todd about his passion and inspiration for creating “PRIDE: The Story Of The LGBTQ Equality Movement” and his spin on our LGBTQ issues. Matthew Todd is a multi award winning writer and previous editor of “Attitude” a British gay lifestyle magazine from 2008 to 2016. His first book "Straight Jacket - Overcoming Society's Legacy of Gay Shame" was shortlisted for the Polari Prize in 2017 and was voted winner of the Boyz LGBT Book of the Year Award. His play “Blowing Whistles” has been performed in the UK, Australia and the United States. Todd’s fabulous new work “PRIDE: The Story Of The LGBTQ Equality Movement” (Weldon Owen) is currently available online and in stores.For More Info: matthewtodd.net LISTEN: 500+ LGBTQ Chats @OUTTAKE VOICES 

This week on the pod we spoke with the brilliant @mrmatthewtodd, a multi-award-winning writer, broadcaster and sometime performer who edited the UK’s best-selling gay magazine, Attitude, for eight years and is best known for his book ‘Straight Jacket: Overcoming Societies Legacy of Gay Shame’, published by Black Swan (part of Penguin Random House) in 2016. His second book ‘Pride: The Story of the LGBTQ Equality Movement’ was published by Welbeck Books (then Carlton publishing) in the UK and in France in 2019 and will be published by Weldon Owen in the USA in May 2020.Both Lee (The Gay Sober) & Scott (Proud & Sober) alerted us to Matthew's work and the impact that Straight Jacket has had on their lives and unpicking their drinking stories as gay men and it is such an important conversation.It was very illuminating and once again affirming that such a common thread in addiction, SUDs or other addictions is the experience of shame and 'othering' in our early lives and formative years. Matthew talked about gay shame and trauma and we too have talked about trauma and shame before, ACEs, poverty, neurodiversity - ADHD, autism, sensory processing, which all increases your likelihood of SUDs and other addictions. These are all key conversations about why people develop a problematic relationship with a substance - to numb the fear, anxiety and shame because for whatever our story we have told we are less than for being us. Then of course there is the trauma of racism - and the call to see and call bullshit and rise up against systemic racism and to come together to change and learn.It's sitting heavy on us as we are processing once again, the othering that goes on from the heterosexual, white, male, neurotypical train tracks and systems and constructs we have lived within, felt unseen, othered, in pain and sought to ease that pain with addictions.What we feel hope in is these conversations, knowing that we heal together collectively and that sobriety really is a gift for growth, change and acceptance.We are so thankful for Matthew for taking the time to talk with us, if you are looking for  his support group mentioned it is A Change of Scene on FB Grab a cuppa and let's chat x

Diversity is a gift of uniqueness and creativityWhen did you realize that you had to forgive yourself first, before anyone else, for your “gay shame”?Gay shame is a term used (and possibly coined) by Alan Downs, author of The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing up Gay in a Straight Man’s World . Downs worked as a therapist for gay men, many of whom experienced a lack of validation for their identity during adolescence. When you grow up in the closet, the world around you (in the form of parents, family, friends, news, entertainment, politics, and religion) reinforces a status quo in which you might not see yourself represented. As an adult, this can show up as challenging and negative behaviours, unless the shame is understood and dealt with.In this episode, I suggest that the term “gay shame” can be used more broadly for any queer person who experienced growing up in the closet and felt like they were not represented or accepted in the world around them.Once we fully come out into our own sense of self and self-acceptance as a queer person, we can frame the experience of gay shame as a formative and foundational experience in out lives — one that literally gives us the superpower to see the dark truths of social norms and ideologies.When we do the work to overcome internalized shame, we increase our capacity to feel empathy — one of the greatest forms of influence and the capacity to step into another person’s experience without judgement. The generosity of empathy is possibly the most human path towards connecting with another human being and changing their hearts and minds.Explore Further…Is Forgiveness of Homophobia a Gay Male Gift? LOP030Vulnerability: How Gay Men Teach the Cleansing of Shame – LOP080From Sissy Boys to Straight-Acting Gay MenThe Secret that Lives in the Closet---If you want to experience more of the best of who you already are to freely create a life you love, go to: https://darrenstehle.com/

Today on Women's Magazine we look at the resistance to the mainstreaming of Pride events in San Francisco and nationally.  We talk to Mary Sue from Gay Shame and artist and activist  Alex I.Unn about the demonstration at SF Pride this year against the presence of police and large corporations and the resistance nationally ,     And Sharon Sobotta talked to the film team of the new documentary Western Sahara: Africa's Last Colony' which they produced in collaboration with the Human Rights Center at UC Berkeley about the women who are resisting the last colony in Africa. The post Police and Corps out of Pride; Women led resistance in Western Sahara appeared first on KPFA.

Today on Women's Magazine on the 50th anniversary of Stonewall and as we approach the upcoming Pride parades and Marches we will listen to a previously presented documentary Beyond Gay Marriage: The Assimilation of the Radical Queer Movement, which looks at how the campaign for gay marriage was symptomatic of a move away from the radical politics of the Gay Liberation Movement.  And we will talk to Mary J from Gay Shame about their push to get cops out of the Dyke March The post Beyond Gay Marriage and Police out of the Dyke March appeared first on KPFA.

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Do you know what it feels like to live life as a gay man? Whether or not you identify as gay, straight, or anywhere in between, you will learn a lot from this interview about the many aspects of how it is for gay men in today's world. In this episode we explore the many ways that gay men learn to feel a specific type of shame through their experiences as both boys and adults. Our interview with Dan Lacovara introduces us to his Gay Shame Paradigm which teaches us: 1) The 4 pillars of the paradigm in which gay men learn to feel ashamed of being gay, 2) How it feels to go through life as a gay man, and 3) Ways that gay men can support themselves in healing from this learned shame. Dan Lacovara is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and has worked extensively with clients struggling with sex and love addiction issues. He is particularly interested in how gay clients navigate and develop a healthy relationship to sex. He has lectured both locally and nationally on the topic.

Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore is the guest. Her new novel SKETCHTASY is available from Arsenal Pulp Press. Described as "startlingly bold and provocative" by Howard Zinn, "a cross between Tinkerbell and a honky Malcolm X with a queer agenda” by the Austin Chronicle, and “a gender-fucking tower of pure pulsing purple fabulous” by The Stranger, Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore is the author of a memoir and three novels, and the editor of five nonfiction anthologies. Sycamore's memoir, The End of San Francisco(City Lights 2013), won a Lambda Literary Award, and her most recent anthology, Why Are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots?: Flaming Challenges to Masculinity, Objectification, and the Desire to Conform (AK Press 2012), was an American Library Association Stonewall Honor Book and a finalist for a Lambda Literary Award. Mattilda's novels include So Many Ways to Sleep Badly (City Lights 2008) and Pulling Taffy (Suspect Thoughts 2003). She is the editor of four additional nonfiction anthologies, Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity (Seal 2007), That’s Revolting! Queer Strategies for Resisting Assimilation (Soft Skull 2004; 2008), Dangerous Families: Queer Writing on Surviving (Haworth 2004), and Tricks and Treats: Sex Workers Write about Their Clients (Haworth 2000), which now also appears in Italian (Effepi Libri 2007). Mattilda has written for a variety of publications, including the San Francisco Chronicle, BOMB, Bookforum, The Baffler, the New York Times, New Inquiry, Los Angeles Review of Books, Truthout, Time Out New York, Utne Reader, AlterNet, Bitch, Bookslut, and The Stranger, and for ten years, Mattilda was the reviews editor and a columnist for the feminist magazine Make/shift. Mattilda made a short 16mm film, All That Sheltering Emptiness, in collaboration with Joey Carducci. The film premiered in 2010, and has screened around the world. Mattilda created Lostmissing, a public art project about the friend who will always be there, and what happens when you lose that relationship. Mattilda’s activism has included ACT UP in the early ‘90s, Fed Up Queers in the late ‘90s, Gay Shame, and numerous lesser-known (or even unnamed) groups. Mattilda's papers are archived at the San Francisco Public Library, and are accessible to the public. Mattilda lives in Seattle, Washington, but will be on tour for Sketchtasy from fall 2018 through spring 2019. In the past, she has appeared in independent bookstores, community centers, performance venues and universities across the US (and Canada), from Yale to Evergreen, UCLA to Harvard to Mills to McGill. Mattilda loves feedback, so contact her, okay? Mattilda is now on Twitter. Don't tell anyone, but she kind of loves it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Government is now acknowledging there is a problem"  Matthew Todd is a multi award winning writer and author of the book "Straight Jacket, Overcoming Society's Legacy of Gay Shame”. He chats to Ellen and Yvette about homophobic bullying, trauma and the role of the media.  Stay in touch with Mentally Yours on Twitter and our private Facebook group.

Something I learned about myself some time ago, was how gay shame was holding me back and limiting my success. I was afraid of other people’s options of me.For many gay men it’s challenging to feel good enough, to feel like we belong, and to feel equal within society. Not feeling good enough started in my childhood, as it does for anyone who feels “different” (as I did) at a very early age. I felt isolated and rejected by my peers, which had a profound affect on my emotional, intellectual, and psychological development.By trying to fit in and not draw attention to myself as a gay man, I had to hide away parts of myself. Gay shame reared its ugly head later in life when I realized I was afraid of my own success – I was afraid of being visible.What an interesting paradox! On the one hand I wasn’t afraid of being in the public eye, but on the other, years of adolescent shame about being gay was the impetus for self-sabotage.Helpful links:The Velvet Rage by Alan DownsWhy I’m Not Good Enough: My Dirty Gay SecretIf You’re a Gay Man, Are You Good Enough?Living OUT theme music: “Summer” by Bensound.com 

Penny Arcade is a true New York legend, a prolific performance artist, actor, and playwright whose work has been a fixture of the downtown scene and the worldwide experimental arts scene since the early 80s, having already worked with Andy Warhol, and John Vaccaro's Playhouse of the Ridiculous, in the 60s and 70s. Looker and Lamar talk with Penny about the erasure of history, the value of apprenticeship, and Gay Shame.

Join us at Otto's Shrunken Head for a drink with Zev to talk about the intersectionality between gay culture and witch culture. We might barely scrape the tip of the iceberg, but we still get pretty deep into the theory on what it means to reclaim the beastly idea of being a monster in the eyes of society when finding your own personal power. The books referenced in this episode were: "Gay Shame" by David Halperin (Amazon & ThriftBooks) "Witches Sluts and Feminists" by Kristen J Sollee (Amazon & ThriftBooks) "Season of the Witch" by David Talbot (Amazon & ThriftBooks) "From Here to Eternity" Caitlyn Doughty (Amazon & ThriftBooks) "The Creative Habit" Twyla Tharpe (Amazon & ThriftBooks) If you want to find out more about Zev and their work, you can follow them on Twitter, or follow their film's Twitter, and definitely check out thier website to get updates on their animation work. Make sure that you check out the other podcasts on the Podcast Jukebox Network which we are proud to be a part of! Find us on Facebook @DrinksWithGodFind us on Twitter @DrinksWGod Please support us on PATREON! You can get fun prizes! And please buy some tshirts, stickers, and coffee mugs! They say things like "Ask me About my Fucking Amazing Zen-Like Calm" and you can even get the logo on a sticker! They are available at Redbubble …And if YOU have had an alternative theological experience, or even can provide an in-depth viewpoint of mainstream religion, email me at drinkingwithgod@gmail.com Theme music credit: "Do You Know (What I Mean)?" by the now disbanded Jump Up Move Over

Continued coverage of LGBTQ History Month at Southern Illinois University in Carbondale. This week, we interview two memoir authors: SIU Theatre alum Dennis Milam Bensie (most recent book: "One Gay American") and queer activist Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore (most recent book: "The End of San Francisco").

Continued coverage of LGBTQ History Month at Southern Illinois University in Carbondale. This week, we interview two memoir authors: SIU Theatre alum Dennis Milam Bensie (most recent book: "One Gay American") and queer activist Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore (most recent book: "The End of San Francisco").

In celebration of Queer Pride we discuss whether the Gay Marriage movement is really the direction Queers want to move in. We look at some of the conservative, and even racist aspects of the "Gay Marriage" movement and examine what a more progressive movement would look like. We talk to N.Y.U. Professor Lisa Duggan, author of "Twilight of Equality: Neoliberalism, Cultural Politics and the Attack on Democracy," Gay Shame member Mattilda (aka Matt Bernstein Sycamore) editor of "That's Revolting; Queers strategies for Resisting Assimilation," and Matt Richardson and Marlon M. Bailey, two recent graduates of the African American Studies graduate program at U.C. Berkeley. The post Women's Magazine – June 19, 2006 appeared first on KPFA.