Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast

Let's be real—dating at any phase can feel like walking a conversational tightrope. How much is too much? What's not enough?  When should I ask?  What do I say if they ask me about something that I don't want to talk about?  And how do you strike that magical balance between showing up as your radiant, authentic self and still being curious, fun, and engaging? In Part 2 of our juicy conversation, I'm back with the brilliant Lindsay Anderson, one of Smart Dating Academy's most beloved coaches, and we're continuing our deep dive into how to absolutely crush it on a first date. We cover:

Ever wonder what makes a truly great date, and what are the best questions to ask (and how)? In this must-listen episode (part 1 of 2), the brilliant and longstanding Smart Dating Academy coach Lindsay Anderson and I sit down to break down the art of dating with confidence, ease, and authenticity. If you've ever felt awkward on a date, struggled with what to say or what to ask, or worried about making a lasting impression, this episode is for you! ✨ We dive into: The key traits of a great date

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Ever feel like you're giving too much in relationships—and getting little in return? Or struggling to communicate what you truly need? You're not alone. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Henry Cloud, a world-renowned clinical psychologist, leadership expert, and New York Times bestselling author of Boundaries—a book that has transformed the way millions navigate relationships. With over 20 million copies of his books sold, Dr. Cloud brings deep wisdom (and a dose of humor) to the art of setting healthy limits while still fostering connection. We dive into: Why boundaries are essential for thriving relationships. Whether in dating, friendships, or family dynamics, Dr. Cloud explains why saying no can actually bring you closer to the right people. How to recognize unhealthy patterns. Learn the red flags of toxic relationships and how to break free from cycles that drain your energy. The secret to confident communication. Struggling to express your needs? Dr. Cloud shares simple yet powerful ways to set boundaries without guilt or fear. Dating with emotional intelligence. Discover how self-awareness can help you attract healthier, more fulfilling connections. Overcoming the fear of rejection. Rejection isn't just about the other person—it's about how you respond. Dr. Cloud offers a fresh perspective that will change the way you see it. If you're ready to level up your relationships and stop settling for less than you deserve, this episode is packed with actionable insights you won't want to miss! Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs. For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

What if you could transform your dating life with just a few mindset shifts and practical strategies? In this episode, I sit down with Nichole Farrow, a renowned relationship coach with over a decade of experience helping singles and couples navigate love with confidence. As a resident expert on BBC 5 Live, Nichole has guided countless people in strengthening their relationships—starting with the most important one: the relationship with themselves. We dive into: Why confidence is the key to dating success. Bela and Nichole break down how self-assurance impacts attraction and gives us real-world strategies to build it. The power of first impressions. From body language to the energy you bring into a room, learn how to captivate your date before you even say a word. Navigating rejection like a pro. Let's face it—rejection is part of the dating game. But Nichole shares a fresh perspective that will help you bounce back stronger. Dating etiquette that actually matters. Forget outdated rules—Nichole reveals the small yet powerful ways you can show respect and authenticity on a date. Self-awareness & emotional intelligence in relationships. How tuning into your emotions and understanding your patterns can help you attract the right partner. If you're ready to level up your dating life with expert-backed strategies and a fresh dose of confidence, this episode is a must-listen! If you're ready to change your dating life, message Smart Dating Academy today through its website at www.smartdatingacademy.com Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs. For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

In this heart-opening episode, I sit down with the incredible Shelley J Whitehead—a highly sought-after relationship coach who has spent decades helping people heal from heartbreak, refine their relationship skills, and build the love lives they truly deserve. We talked about: How to move forward after heartbreak—the key mindset shifts that will help you heal and open your heart again. Breaking free from past patterns—how to recognize and release relationship habits that no longer serve you. Building confidence in dating—simple but powerful strategies to show up as your best, most authentic self. Navigating the dating world with clarity—how to identify red flags, green flags, and make empowered choices in love. Shelley's expert advice on attracting the right partner—why self-love is the foundation for a thriving relationship. If you've ever felt like love has passed you by or that you keep attracting the wrong people, this episode is for you! Shelley shares her wisdom with warmth, humor, and deep insight, making this conversation a must-listen for anyone ready to embrace love again. Listen now and take the first step toward the love life you deserve! Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs. For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

In this captivating episode, I sit down with the incredible Sara Jane Ho—an international etiquette expert, Emmy-nominated host of Netflix's Mind Your Manners, and author of the book of the same name.  From her early days in Hong Kong to earning degrees from Exeter, Georgetown, and Harvard Business School, Sara brings a wealth of wisdom and charm to the table. Together, we dive into the art of dating with grace, confidence, and authenticity—and why etiquette is about so much more than just which fork to use! We talked about: Why etiquette matters in modern dating. Sara shares her unique perspective on how understanding etiquette can help you foster deeper, more meaningful connections. Spoiler: It's not about being stuffy or old-fashioned—it's about being thoughtful and authentic. Practical tips for first dates that set you apart. Learn Sara's go-to advice for making a stellar first impression—from body language to choosing the perfect setting. How to handle rejection with elegance. Let's face it, rejection is tough. But Sara gives us actionable advice for navigating it with confidence and class, so you come out stronger on the other side. Building self-awareness and confidence. Sara opens up about her own journey and how she's learned to balance vulnerability with strength. Her story is a testament to the power of self-discovery and self-respect. The surprising link between etiquette and self-love. Did you know that treating others well starts with how you treat yourself? Sara explains how cultivating self-love and respect can transform not only your dating life but every relationship in your life. Tune in to this episode if you're ready to elevate your dating game, embrace your most confident self, and learn how to "mind your manners" in the most empowering way possible! Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs. For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

In this electrifying episode, I sit down with the brilliant Alison Fragale—a professor, distinguished scholar of organizational behavior at UNC Chapel Hill, and the powerhouse author behind the transformative book Likable Badass. Alison brings her sharp insights and relatable wisdom to help us understand the delicate balance between being liked and being respected, and how we can do BOTH to maximize results in personal and professional lives!  Great advice across the board, for life AND love!   We talked about: HOW to be a likable badass!   What the difference is between being likable and being respected—and why you shouldn't have to choose. Practical strategies for showing up confidently without sacrificing authenticity. How to overcome the fear of being judged when speaking up. Alison's personal journey and the inspiration behind Likable Badass. The science of confidence and how small mindset shifts can create big results. Tune into this episode if you're ready to own your space, amplify your voice, and develop your inner & outer "likable badass!" Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs. For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Welcome to this week's episode, where we dive into the love story of all love stories! When it comes to finding love, everyone's journey is unique—but they often share the same ups and downs. This week, I'm thrilled to introduce Lauren, an inspiring woman who went from feeling stuck in her love life to meeting her dream partner. With insights from our coaching team, including the extraordinary Ilene Collins, Lauren's story proves that love can blossom when you least expect it. Lauren's transformation wasn't just about meeting "the one"; it was about becoming the best version of herself first. She embraced her fears, overcame self-doubt, and found clarity in her values—all while navigating the challenges of dating in the modern world. We talked about: Lauren's Journey: From frustration to fulfillment, hear how Lauren stayed hopeful and open to love. Key Strategies for Success: Learn about the mindset shifts and actionable steps that helped Lauren attract her ideal partner. Overcoming Doubts: How Lauren silenced her inner critic and found confidence in the process. Support Systems: The role of coaching and community in Lauren's journey. Love in Action: Real-life tips on navigating the dating world with authenticity and grace. Lauren's story is a reminder that love is out there, and it's waiting for you to claim it. If she can do it, so can you! Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs. For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

In this enlightening episode, I welcome the brilliant Dr. Jenny Taitz—a clinical psychologist, UCLA faculty member, and author of the transformative book Stress Reset. Together, we dive into actionable strategies for managing stress, staying grounded, and transforming your mindset for success in dating and beyond.  She's also the author of one of my favorite books, "How to Be Single and Happy!"   Whether you're navigating the emotional rollercoaster of modern relationships or looking to level up your personal growth, this episode is packed with wisdom and practical tools. We talked about: How stress impacts your dating life and decision-making. Simple yet powerful techniques to reset your mind in moments of overwhelm. The science behind stress and why it's not just “in your head.” Why self-compassion and mindfulness are key to successful dating. How Dr. Taitz's personal journey inspired Stress Reset. Tune into this episode if you want to feel more confident and centered in your dating life! Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs. For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

This week, I had the privilege of sitting down with the incredible Marilyn Chinitz—a powerhouse attorney with over 40 years of expertise in family law and divorce. Her wisdom, wit, and compassionate approach to navigating life's trickiest transitions are unparalleled. Whether you're curious about protecting your assets, healing after heartbreak, or setting yourself up for a thriving relationship, this episode has golden nuggets just for you. We talked about: The Art of Resilience: How Marilyn turned decades of challenging cases into a masterclass on thriving after setbacks. Dating After Divorce: Tips for re-entering the dating world with confidence and clarity. The Power of a Prenup: Why these agreements aren't just for the wealthy—they're tools for communication and trust. Red Flags vs. Green Lights: Spotting the signs of a strong, healthy relationship. Self-Care in Transitions: Marilyn's personal strategies for staying vibrant, focused, and fabulous at any age. What steps are you taking to build resilience and confidence in your relationships? Remember, the road to love and fulfillment starts with understanding your worth and protecting your peace.    Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs. For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

I'm so excited to share this week's powerful story, featuring a journey of resilience, hope, and finding love again against the odds. In this heartfelt episode, we dive into the incredible experience of one of our listeners who, at 48, faced a life-changing loss: the sudden passing of her husband from a heart attack. Grieving and single for over a decade, she never imagined herself dating again, let alone getting remarried. But everything changed when a friend issued a life-altering challenge: give Match.com a shot for six months. Little did she know that this challenge would lead her on a transformative journey, one that would ultimately bring her to the doors of the Smart Dating Academy. We talked about: Overcoming the Fear of Starting Over: Imagine not dating for over 32 years. How do you even begin to navigate the dating world again? We discuss the struggles and triumphs of re-entering the dating scene after loss. The Power of Support and a Clear Process: Teresa opens up about how the guidance, tools, and support from the Smart Dating Academy helped her identify and attract the right type of partner. Defining What You Want in a Partner: Why is knowing what you want so important, and how can you stay true to that vision? We explore the mindset shifts that made a difference. Taking Things Slow and Building Friendship First: The magic of getting to know someone as a friend before diving into romance, and how this approach created a solid foundation for her current marriage. Using the Marriage Map Tool: Learn about the impact of this tool and how it guided Teresa to determine if her partner, Curtis, was the right match. Teresa's story is a beautiful reminder that love can come back into your life when you least expect it, and that with the right approach and support, you can find a partner who complements your life perfectly. Ready to redefine your dating life or need guidance on your journey to love? Visit Smart Dating Academy to learn more about our transformative programs. For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

I'm thrilled to bring you a special guest this week, Coach and Conscious Relationship Teacher Veronika Amaya. Veronika is a relationship expert with a unique global perspective on dating and connection, and in this episode she will help us uncover the “missing pieces” that can keep us from forming genuine bonds. Veronika has a wealth of knowledge on the emotional nuances that make relationships thrive and offers down-to-earth tips for bridging those gaps to find and maintain meaningful connections. We talked about: How to recognize what's truly missing in modern relationships and why it matters Simple, practical steps for building deeper connections in a fast-paced world The art of vulnerability, and why it's often the key to authentic intimacy How cultural perspectives shape our connections and understanding Ways to identify and shift patterns that may be keeping you from feeling seen and understood Veronika is a treasure trove of insights for anyone who feels that their connections could use a little more depth or clarity. She invites us to look within, encouraging a fresh perspective that feels both reassuring and actionable. Website: https://www.veronika-amaya.com/ For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Heather's Journey to Self-Love and Self Discovery - What I Learned at Smart Dating Academy For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

I'm beyond thrilled to have Dr. Nadine Macaluso (Dr. Nae, as I call her!). on today's episode! Dr. Nae's story is nothing short of jaw-dropping — she was married to The Wolf of Wall Street himself, Jordan Belfort. But this conversation isn't just about her past; it's about her incredible journey of survival, healing, and growth. Dr. Nae has taken what she's learned from that chapter of her life and is using it to help others break free from toxic relationships and trauma bonds (she went back to school and got her doctorate as part of her journey to help herself and others). We had such an amazing chat, and I know you're going to love it! Dr. Nae has been through it all, and she's come out the other side stronger, wiser, and ready to share her insights on how to stop repeating old patterns and start thriving in healthier relationships. We talked about: Her experience with trauma bonds and why we keep picking the same type of partner How to break free from unhealthy patterns and build a stronger sense of self What it really takes to heal after trauma and thrive in love again Why choosing healthier partners isn't just about avoiding red flags, but learning to trust yourself The power of resilience and how to bounce back from hardship I can't wait for you to hear this episode! Dr. Nae's story is powerful, and her advice is game-changing if you've ever struggled with toxic relationships. If you love the episode, please subscribe, rate, and share it so we can keep bringing you these incredible conversations! Website: Drnae.com For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

In this heartwarming love story episode, I sit down with our beloved client Tara, an accomplished attorney from Chicago, who shares her incredible journey of love and self-discovery. Tara's story begins in a traditional household, where arranged marriages were the norm, and she herself entered one that didn't quite work out. However, through her resilience, career-focused mindset, and our Smart Dating work together, Tara redefined what love meant for her, and found a relationship that truly aligned with her heart. We dive deep into the challenges she faced, the lessons learned, and how she overcame cultural expectations to create her own love story.  We talk about: The emotional and mental complexities of arranged marriages and why they may or may not work for everyone The importance of being open to growth and self-awareness when navigating relationships How a career-driven woman can balance love, self-worth, and ambition without compromising on any Strategies Tara used to stay resilient and open to love after her marriage didn't work out How mindset and support can help you attract the right relationship Whether you've had an arranged marriage experience, are navigating modern dating, or just love a good love story, Tara's journey will leave you feeling inspired, hopeful, and ready to take control of your own relationship destiny. Ready to rewrite your love story? Tune in to this episode and learn how you can find your own version of love, no matter where you start. Don't forget to subscribe, share, and leave us a review if you enjoyed Tara's inspiring journey! For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Title:  Beyond Mars and Venus: Relationship Skills for TODAY with Dr. John Gray I couldn't be more excited to have Dr. John Gray, who wrote one of the most well-known and trusted relationship books of all time: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus (the #1 bestselling book of its decade).  We had such a good chat that you're going to love; John lost his loving partner of decades and has found love AGAIN!  We talked about love, loss, new love, and getting the BEST out of your partner - whether your relationship is brand new or decades old.  He has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, and others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, and People. We talked about: How he got over his wife of 34 years' passing and how he found love again What the biggest change in relationships is since he wrote his first book What the difference is in what men need and women need in a relationship Enlightened sexuality and what it means Why men need to reconnect with their masculine side and women with their feminine side How to have a happy relationship Can't wait for you to listen to and LOVE this episode!   If you love it, please subscribe to our podcast, and feel free to give it the top rating so we can keep it going for you!   For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

I am super excited to have Todd Baratz as a guest on the podcast. Todd is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approaches to mental health and relationships have established him as a leading figure.    We talked about: His new book "How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind" Reframing how we approach relationship issues How to deal with breakups The difference between cultural diagnoses and true toxic traits What "hurt potential" is, how it can impact new relationships, and what we can do about it How to craft a "relationship contract" The first step we can all take today to improve our relationships This episode has so many great take-aways to build healthier and more fulfilling relationships. It all starts with developing more self-awareness and getting to know ourselves on the inside.   In addition to his clinical practice, Baratz is a prolific writer and speaker. His insights are regularly featured in various media outlets, where he discusses topics ranging from romantic relationships to individual mental wellness.  Website: https://www.toddsbaratz.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourdiagnonsense New Book: How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Guest: Jill Foos, National Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach (NBHWC) with a rich background in psychology and functional medicine health coaching. This week, we come to you with one of your favorite things to hear because it's HOPEFUL, a Smart Dating Academy real-life love story. Jill was a coaching client who found the lid to her pod and started her own business.  Jill met her husband at a young age and they eloped to get married and had 5 kids. Jill started seeing the red flags early on, and that they were on separate pages just a few years into the marriage, but they stuck it out for 24 years and eventually got divorced. Jill and Bela met in 2018 when she wasn't dating yet. She knew she needed help getting back into the dating world and decided to start working with SDA. Lindsay and I helped Jill figure out what characteristics and traits she SHOULD BE looking for in a partner to make her happy -- vs. the standard "checklist" women often use!    After setting up her dating profile on the apps, Jill really embraced the whole process and dated for about 18 months.   What was her 'last first date'?  A wonderful set-up date by a friend with a man named Noah. She immediately liked Noah during their first date because he made her laugh. This was during Covid, so they kept it slow and got creative with their dates. After about 6 months of dating, Jill moved a block away from Noah and half a year later her lease was up and she moved in with Noah. They have been in a relationship for 4 years now and are still going strong. The relationship feels easy and their blended family, which includes both of their kids, Jill's ex-husband and his new partner, gets along well and spend holidays together.  And Jill started a new career as well, as one can when they have happy love!  She is now a dedicated National Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach (NBHWC) and the founder of Jill Foos Wellness. She's helping women and look better at all ages, but especially during midlife. I hope that you are inspired by Jill's story. She felt like her life was shattered, but she built it back up step by step and is now in a better place than ever.  For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

This week on the podcast, I have the absolute pleasure to interview Elizabeth Earnshaw, a renowned Gottman therapist and bestselling author (she has a new book coming out in September!) who is the owner of a thriving family and marriage therapy practice. She is known for her popular Instagram account @lizlistens and has been featured in the New York Times, USA Today, The Washington Post, and more.    Elizabeth and I delve into various crucial topics concerning relationships and stress management.  We talk about: What a healthy relationships is and what kind of stressors are faced by couples and singles How to recognize and address stress in relationships, both external (work, family) and internal (relationship dynamics) What "stress spillover" is in a relationship The significance of emotional regulation in conflict resolution and the importance of taking pauses during heated moments The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse in relationships Recommended strategies like to de-escalate conflicts and regain composure before addressing issues The importance of early stress recognition to prevent conflicts from escalating The need for self-awareness in maintaining healthy communication Elizabeth shares such valuable insights and this is a must listen if you want to focus on managing stress and fostering healthy communication in relationships. Website: elizabethearnshaw.com The Balancing Act | Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT | Substack For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

This week, I welcome Natalie Lue to the Smart Dating Academy podcast. She is a boundaries and relationship coach and the creator of one of the longest running self-help blogs in the world, BaggageReclaim.com. Natalie helps people understand how their emotional baggage is interfering with their ability to live their lives happily and authentically. We talk about: The impact emotional baggage has on relationships The connection between emotional availability and people-pleasing behavior The significance of boundaries in personal growth and relationship dynamics Learning to say no and setting healthy boundaries Recognizing and addressing emotional baggage to avoid repeating negative patterns in relationships Prioritizing self-respect, self-acceptance, and making decisions that align with one's true self to foster healthy and fulfilling relationships This episode is a must listen if you would like to establish healthy boundaries and cultivate meaningful and genuine connections in romantic relationships AND personal relationships.Blog: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk Website: www.natalielue.com For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

This week, I'm so excited to introduce my friend and former client, Stacy Katz to the podcast. Stacy is a sought after mindset coach who helps women create more Relaxation and Power with her R.E.L.A.X Mindset Method. Her approach is rooted in real-world experience, making it both relatable and actionable. She has over two decades of experience in mindset and peak performance. She has guided C-level executives and leadership teams inside some of the biggest global brands like HP, Verizon, Spotify and more.  In this episode Stacy and I explore how you are going to get more relaxed and more powerful in dating and in your entire life. We talk about: The concept of limiting beliefs and how they affect our results in and out of the dating world How we can transform limiting beliefs and non-useful thinking What it means to “listen for the gold” on a date and how it can create deeper connections and make others feel safe and supported in relationships. How Stacy became to focus on being Relaxed and Powerful How someone should begin the practice of developing compassionate self-forgiveness, especially if they've had tough dating experiences How focusing on internal alignment and being psychotically optimistic can positively impact dating and overall life experiences Stacy is offering a special gift to the listeners of The Smart Dating Academy podcast: An Energy Audit to help you understand how different aspects of your daily life and routine either contribute to or deplete your energy levels. This is a key first step in creating your Relaxed and Powerful Life. Go to www.stacykatz.com to get your gift! For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

I had the absolute pleasure to have a conversation with the amazing Vienna Pharaon about how breaking family patterns can liberate the way we live and love. Vienna Pharaon is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City's most sought after relationship therapists. She has practiced therapy for over fifteen years and is the founder and owner of the group practice, Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy. She has been featured in The Economist, Netflix, Vice, and Motherly, and has led workshops for Peloton and Netflix, amongst others. Her book "The Origins of You" is a National Bestseller. We talk about: Why we adopt and adapt to family's beliefs and behaviors The difference between belonging and fitting in How origin wounds, such as prioritization and belonging wounds, can impact relationships and the ability to trust others  How we can heal from these origin wounds and break free from unwanted patterns Why tolerating discomfort and taking risks are necessary for change and empowerment. You will learn so much from Vienna about the impact of attachment, authenticity, and family dynamics on relationships and how origin wounds can shape our behaviors and choices in relationships. This is a must listen if you want to heal and break free from unhealthy patterns and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.  Website: https://viennapharaon.com Instagram: @mindfulmft What is Your Origin Wound? Quiz: https://1wsm6geg69z.typeform.com/to/d981R7Cl For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Bela has a wonderful conversation with Relationship Maven Dr. Abby Medcalf. She is a psychologist, author, podcast host and TEDx speaker who has helped thousands of people think differently so they can create connection, ease and joy in their relationships (especially the one with yourself)! With over 35 years of experience, Abby is a recognized authority and sought-after speaker at organizations such as Google, Apple, AT&T, Kaiser, PG&E, American Airlines and Chevron and she's been a featured expert on CBS and ABC news, and has been a contributor to the New York Times, Women's Health, Psychology Today, Well+Good and Bustle. They talk about: The number one problem in relationships (and it's not what you think!) The importance of identifying and clarifying your own needs and standards in a relationship What trust in a relationship is built on  What boundaries should be based on how to communicate them EFFECTIVELY Collaborative questions can deepen understanding and connection in conversations Giving others the benefit of the doubt and seeking clarification before making assumptions This is a must listen if you want to gain invaluable insights and guidance to improve your relationship and create more fulfilling connections with your partner. Dr. Abby is truly a gem! Website: https://abbymedcalf.com Newly Released Book: Boundaries Made Easy; Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

This week we welcome Dr. Heidi Brocke to the podcast and you will LOVE the gems that she will drop on us! Dr. Heidi Brocke is a Toxic Relationship Awareness & Healing Specialist. After spending 14 years in an extremely emotionally and narcissistically abusive relationship she broke the chains and turned her past into her passion. She's an international keynote speaker, recipient of Empowering Women in Business of The Year award by Inspiring Lives Magazine, and has been featured in both Forbes and Time Magazines for the dedication given to her clients and for her work in the toxic relationship area. We talked about: Spotting a Toxic Relationship (and wait til you hear her 'unconventional' checklist) Trusting Your Gut (your internal alarm system!) Understanding Emotional Abuse (it can be very sneaky) Taking the Time to Heal What to Do When Children are Involved Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing YOU Reaching Out for Support Dr. Heidi wonderfully highlights the importance of recognizing and addressing toxic relationships. This is a must listen! Trust your instincts, take care of yourself, and don't be afraid to ask for help. You've got this! Website: www.coachingwithdrheidi.com For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

This episode will take the mystery out of the BEST and most humane way to break up with someone that you've been dating for any extended amount of time, and is with Natalia Juarez. Natalia is a seasoned relationship coach specializing in heartbreak. Following a broken engagement at the age 29, she redefined heartbreak as an opportunity for transformation. In 2014, she started helping individuals in navigating romantic hardships and fostering healthy relationships. We talk about: How one can be sure that breaking up is the right decision How to not blindside your partner with a breakup Choosing the right time and place to initiate a breakup In what circumstances it would be appropriate to break up through a phone call or text Strategies to maintain firmness while also showing compassion during the breakup conversation Setting boundaries after a breakup to ensure both parties have space to heal When it's appropriate to consider reestablishing contact after a breakup  Natalia's Website: Lovistics.com Follow Natalia on IG: @thebreakupcoach Free Breakup Scripts For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

This week I welcome my esteemed colleague and great friend Jenny Stevens to the podcast. Jenny is a licensed clinical counselor turned personal/ professional/divorce coach. She is known as 'The Champion for Change' having gone through her own share of difficult life changes. We talk about: How working with SDA has helped her find the lid to her pot The difficult changes that Jenny had to navigate to lead her to where she is now How to redesign your life in 3 simple steps  The importance of mindset and breaking free of our limiting beliefs The Top 5 mindset hacks How to break free from perfection and overthinking Jenny will inspire you to not wait for a life changing event to create the life you want. You can do anything you set your mind to! Life is so short, don't wait! https://jennystevenscoach.com/ For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

This week we welcome the wonderful Kendra Allen to our podcast. Kendra is a breakup coach, host of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast, author of The Breakup Workbook, and founder of Break Up Bestie. She shares how she saw a huge gap online for practical and healthy heartbreak advice, after going through a series of painful breakups. So, she set out to fill it in. We talk about: The first steps to take to get through the beginning of a breakup (and it starts with sharing your true feelings!) Why it's not good to numb away the breakup The importance of the No Contact rule in healing How moving on from a breakup is similar to the experience of getting sober Kendra's stance on on-again, off-again relationships Navigating social media when it comes to your ex Practical things people can do to help to heal from a breakup Why routines are so important when going through a breakup You will love this episode! Kendra is such a wealth of knowledge and you will learn so much about how to navigate this difficult time. For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

This week on the podcast I chatted with the amazing Sharon Pope about the secrets to keeping a relationship healthy.Sharon Pope is a certified Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert helping women and men get the tools they need to improve, heal, or release their struggling marriages. She is a  seven-time international best-selling author and has appeared in numerous media outlets and online publications, including the “Modern Love” column of The New York Times. We talked about: What led Sharon to become a certified Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert How we can become the best version of ourselves to attract and sustain the relationship we want How we can become more self-aware What Sharon learned during her divorce and how she met her new husband The one (most important) thing to look for in a partner (if you want a long term, committed, connected, loving relationship) Essential relationship tips before you say "I Do" Tragic mistakes that absolutely destroy a relationship and how to prevent them How to start conversations of evolution in a relationship and what questions to ask your partner For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

This conversation covers AMAZING gems, including: --3 Myths About Men (these are awesome, and have to do with 'the chase', sex, and feelings) --The differences between men's & women's brains (I about passed out when I learned this - it makes COMPLETE sense) --The AWESOME four communication archetypes (are you a lioness, puppy, koala bear or scorpion)? --How to get men to HEAR you (and it doesn't have to do with raising your voice)! --What are some quick communication tips that women can use in challenging situations with men?    --How to get men or anyone to help you (it's called the 'appreciation' sandwich) --The ONE simple daily practice to stay in balance --How we can tell if our lives are OUT of alignment (and how that affects our dating lives)--Why 'going hard' is BAD for a relationship --What 'coming from a place of love' can do to blossom your love for EVERYONE in your life.  Sandy Weiner, Bela's guest, is the founder of Last First Date, is a TEDx speaker, relationship coach, author and podcast host.    Sandy's communication archetype quiz is here:  https://lastfirstdate.com/4-communication-archetypes/#sthash.HVO24czW.dpbs For more free tips and up to date information, click here to register for the Smart Dating Academy free newsletter!   https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/

Megan's love story with Nick is wonderful, and you will hear yourself in her story.   She wasn't comfortable around boys growing up, and started dating after college (side note, Bela and Megan were college friends who had lost touch for many years).  Megan knew a few things:  she knew she wanted lasting love, wasn't picking the right people, and that she wasn't getting the results she wanted.   A college friend told Megan about Bela's Smart Dating Academy, and Megan enlisted their professional help because she knew that she wouldn't get different results doing the same things over and over again!  In this episode, Megan tells her story of dating 'life of the party' guys, and how she cast her net wider to find the 'life of the party's best friend who's an accountant' type of guy :)   She put her profile on a unique app that she mentions, and was VERY dubious when she received a “you have a match”message….she saw the guy and he looked good but you'll hear why she almost didn't message him back……You will relate to this and it shows why taking risks can sometimes be the best decisions you'll ever make! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

This episode will blow your mind (no pun intended) - we are talking about using Psilocybin (mushrooms) in a regulated, facilitated environment to remove traumas!  I welcome back the awesome Dr. Michelle Roberts as a guest on SDA. Michelle is a Pulitzer winning journalist, professor, and psychotherapist who specializes in working with women who have complex trauma disorders (or have experienced narcissistic abuse). In her work she helps women discover how past trauma influences their current relationships.    We talked about: What "eye movement desensitization and reprocessing" (EMDR) therapy is How you can know if you might benefit from EMDR What psychedelic-assisted therapy is and how the outcomes are different from traditional therapy How psilocybin therapy helps heal from relationship trauma The safety nets that are in place for psilocybin therapy (you are not just popping acid!) Real-life stories about women who've gone through psilocybin therapy for their relationship issues and are now in healthy and happy relationships If everyone can try psilocybin therapy to fix their picker If you are ready to 'pick" the right person, get on our VIP coaching program waitlist (we do exceptional 1:1 work, as you can hear in the dozens of "Love Story" episodes on this show)!  Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Smart Dating Academy client love stories are YOUR favorites (and ours too) - these stories are from people just like you who started our process with a healthy dose of excitement and nervousness!   I am so excited to have Ruth tell you one of the most unique, awesome, and unexpected love stories in this week's podcast. Ruth is an amazing high level executive client who is full of life. After her beloved husband passed away years ago, Ruth felt like the rug was pulled from under her and she felt lost after this unexpected loss. Once she found her footing again, she decided to date casually, because finding a new partner wasn't a priority.   Through her dating process, she realized that she now wanted someone wonderful and available.  Understanding that her priorities had changed, she contacted Bela, after a friend told her about Smart Dating Academy. Ruth attended one of Bela's workshops for C200 Professional Women, and after some back and forth decided to work with SDA to find love again. Ruth came to Chicago for her photoshoot and worked with Ilene on perfecting her profile and what characteristics Ruth is looking for in a partner by looking at the elevator people in her life. After launching on the apps, Ruth looked through the responses and talked to a few people. But one stood out. His name is Tony and the caveat was that he was traveling back to his home country of Nigeria, which threw a curveball at Ruth. Nevertheless, Tony and Ruth talked on the phone and on FaceTime every day for over 4 months, before they met for the first time in person. Tony kept splitting his time between the US and Nigeria and they kept their relationship going. Ruth loves Tony's integrity and knows that she has found the lid to her pot. Ruth and Tony have lots of plans for the future. Ruth's story is an inspiration that no matter where you are on your journey or in your career and no matter your age, love can come to you in an unexpected package with the right guidance and love coaches! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

I am excited to have Wendy Sloane as my guest. Wendy is a former TV producer for The Phil Donahue Show and The Geraldo Rivera Show. During her career in broadcasting, she covered some of the biggest news stories of our time, including the O.J. Simpson and JonBenet Ramsey murders. She was also the host of the popular radio show "What's Up with Wendy" and started her popular podcast "Divorce Doesn't Suck" during Covid - about new perspectives and how to move forward and focus on the future and take the chance to restart with a blank new canvas. We talked about: Her career as a TV producer and what led her to change her career How her divorce led her to start her podcast What she knows now that she wish she knew then about divorce How dating looked like for her as a single mom Her experience with long distance dating (there were alot of FaceTime dates!) The process of smart dating The Golden Bachelor Show Listen up if you are a single man or woman dating at any time! Our conversation about Wendy's ideal man turned into a mini-coaching session about how to be a smart dater! So many great takeaways (and most things apply to women of all ages!). You don't want to miss this episode! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Get ready to dive deep into the world of hormones with the charismatic Dr. Anna Cabeca! She is known nationally as The Girlfriend Doctor and is host of The Girlfriend Doctor Show. Dr. Anna is triple-board certified and a fellow of gynecology and obstetrics, integrative medicine, and anti-aging and regenerative medicine. From testosterone to estrogen, progesterone to dopamine, each hormone has its own unique influence on our emotions and behaviors towards our partner. In this episode, we will dive deep into the mysterious interplay between oxytocin and cortisol, and how it affects your romantic relationships, friendships, interpersonal dynamics, and overall well-being. She explains how the 'love hormone', oxytocin, can breathe life into your relationship, and grab practical tips to boost your oxytocin levels naturally through diet. We also talk about the secret behind the ebb and flow of intimacy as she demystifies the fascinating hormonal changes over time.  It's time to get intimate with your hormones, get enlightened, and spice up your life! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

I couldn't be more excited to have a conversation with the fabulous Tamsen Fadal - I met Tamsen while doing dozens of love segments on her TV Show in NYC on PIX11. Tamsen is an award-winning journalist (she won 13 Emmy awards!), speaker, author, podcast host and menopause advocate. She is dedicated to championing women's stories being bold in midlife and beyond and shares advice and education on menopause, relationships, divorce and career so that women do not feel alone during this stage in their lives. We talk about: Starting a matchmaking business before dating apps existed and what she learned from that Tamsen's experience with divorce and dating after divorce How she met her 2nd husband and how she knew he was the one (and she didn't think she would ever remarry!) Advice on dating and meeting the one in midlife What an "easy relationship" REALLY means The moment that made her become a menopause advocate Tamsen's advice on taking the action to lead a fulfilling life Make-up tips (check out her IG for more amazing tips) Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

This week we are bringing to you your favorite kind of episode: another love story from one of our dear clients who will inspire you with her self-awareness, action, and authenticity at a young age. Bianca is a 36-year-old Chemist who lives in Ontario, Canada. Bianca describes herself as a late bloomer and an introverted, independent woman by nature. By her mid-twenties nearly everyone she knew was married and often to the only person they had ever dated. Bianca was puzzled on how this worked for them, but not for her. After several unsuccessful relationships, Bianca still couldn't analyze what had specifically gone wrong. One day, she saw Bela on the Steve Harvey Show and on Good Morning America and got in touch with Smart Dating Academy.  Through coaching and devoutly following the advice from Bela and Lindsay, she realized that she had so many false beliefs that were holding her back. Bianca soaked everything up during her sessions, got more confident in dating, AND adopted the mindset of being psychotically optimistic in her entire life. At the start of 2021, Bianca met Derek online and after their first date she thought that she would not hear back from him. But she did! They went on a second date and many more to follow. Bianca got to know him more and more and Bianca realized that he is the lid to her pot. Bianca and Derek got married last year in 2023 and couldn't be happier to be real partners in life.   She is absolutely adorable, and you will hear your own story in hers.   Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

This week, Dr. Wendy Walsh joins me to talk about the science of love. Known as America's Relationship Expert, Dr. Wendy Walsh is an award-winning television journalist, a Radio Host & Podcaster, the author of three books on relationships & thousands of print and digital articles. Dr. Wendy shares with us how she got to where she is today and how she went from news anchor to relationship expert, as well as what we can do to attract the best love. We talk about: What attachment theory is and how you can change your attachment style How different attachment styles work together in a relationship The importance your "tribe" plays in picking the right partner What butterflies in your stomach really mean What to do to get over being attracted to "bad boys" (and this may take a long time) The RIGHT way to process your feelings (shame is the hardest one to process!) The role self love and positive talk plays in finding true love How to have emotional conversations and why is it important in building great relationships What boundaries really are and how to enforce them the right way This episode is a must listen! Dr. Wendy drops so many lovely gems during our conversation that you don't want to miss! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

In this week's episode, I'm having a conversation with the lovely Dr. Sheva Assar about how we can amp up our confidence, especially in the dating world. Dr. Sheva is a clinical psychologist and she has a specific interest in the areas of self confidence, establishing and maintaining healthy, fulfilling relationships, and living authentic, value-oriented lives. Dr. Sheva believes that the relationship that we have with ourselves, particularly how we think and respond to ourselves, is the foundation for our relationships with others. Let that sink in for a moment! We talked about: How we can be more confident in a world that often makes us question ourselves How to challenge our own self-doubting beliefs & why writing them down before dates is so useful! Ask open-ended questions to build authentic relationships  How we can express how we feel the RIGHT way during a conflict/ disagreement Ways to be more authentic throughout the dating process How investing in other areas of our world can make us a more confident dater This episode is a must listen if you want to be more authentically YOU during dates! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

WIll dating a friend ruin the friendship?  The answer to this question, as you might expect, is complicated, and there isn't a firm yes or no.    It's going to depend on you, and the person.    Before you get into the relationship, look at this person crucially.  Listen to this amazing podcast where Bela explains the eight crucial things to consider before jumping into a relationship with a friend (and she has a LOT of experience with this with her own marriage and clients)!    Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

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Bela will share an amazing set of sentences that she learned serendipitously from Dan Harris that will bring you more joy, ease, and reduce anxiety.   It has changed her world in the last week, and everyone she has shared it with has LOVED it.  Today, she's giving it all to us in this jewel of a mini episode.  Be ready for things to change for you in a very loving way.    Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela

This week I'm having a fun conversation with Lane Moore, who was the "sex / relationships" editor at Cosmo, is an award-winning actor, author, and comedian. Moore is most famously known as the creator and star of one of the most well-reviewed comedy shows in the world, Tinder Live, where she projects her dating app onto a screen, swipes through profiles live on stage, and the audience votes whether she swipes right or left, to cathartic, hilarious, and surprisingly kind results.  We talk about:Fun moments on her Tinder Live shows  Her books "How to be Alone" (and it starts with accepting who we are and what we need) and "How to Find Your People"   What self-love and self-worth really means (I love her defintion)  How a pet can help you feel healthy, happy, and unconditional love and heal from heartbreak How to form authentic adult friendships  Different attachment styles and what they mean in friendships  Friend breakups: How to know when to leave and how to do it  The ONLY time ghosting is ok  What being vulnerable REALLY means You don't want to miss this high energy episode filled with awesome advice on how to find YOUR people. Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela    

Get ready to be inspired by another true "finding love story" from one of our awesome clients that found the most amazing love (and it took a longgg time)!  Massive plot twist here, by the way, that you won't believe, so listen to the WHOLE thing!   Courtney Bass Sherizen is a badass HR Executive with two degrees from Harvard and is also a certified yoga teacher. She just celebrated her 4 year wedding anniversary and has a 2 year old. But just a few years ago she was in your shoes looking for love. Courtney was on a long and arduous journey when it came to dating and was longing to find a lasting partner and to be a mom. Her parents saw Bela on the Steve Harvey Show and encouraged Courtney to reach out to SDA, which changed her course forever and fixed her picker. You literally will not believe how Dan won Courtney's lasting love and marriage - still blows me away (yes, men that want to be with you will move MOUNTAINS to be with you) You will hear: How Courtney had to overcome self doubt and fear when it comes to dating How she found out about Smart Dating Academy How the online dating stats used to bring her down How she used to hide parts of herself and held up barriers to protect who she was - which prevented her from showing up in relationships How she fixed her picker with Lindsay's help How Dan reached out to Courtney, and why she said NO at first :) How she KNEW she wanted to be a mother, and wouldn't settle for less How Courtney left Dan, and why he came back SHORTLY thereafter (and what changed) - this is truly amazing How they blend their families together (Courtney is African American and Dan was raised in the Jewish faith) You will absolutely love Courtney telling her love story! Love came in an unexpected package for her and it can come for you, too!  Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela    

This week the amazing Kate Anthony, author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage and the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, Should I Stay or Should I Go? came to chat with me about all things involving the decision if we should divorce or breakup.  Kate empowers women to find their strength, passion, and confidence even in the most disempowering of circumstances and helps them move forward with concrete plans.  There are some of the incredible insights that Kate shares with us to help you navigate one of the toughest decisions of your life. Kate talks about: The very first thing women need to look at when trying to make this decision (which is not what you might think!) How to get to know yourself again The Research that shows why women are often unhappy in their marriages (which will blow your mind) Why women often feel like they aren't enough without a partner What you should feel in a healthy relationship and an emotionally abusive relationship What feeling to look for in a relationship that are major red flags (and that applies for all non-heterosexual relationships) What the difference is between a narcissist and a sociopath You don't want to miss this awesome episode! Even if you are not thinking about divorce, you can get so many eye-opening and great takeaways. Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela    

JJ Virgin, Fitness Hall of Famer, triple-board certified nutrition expert and TV personality, has an amazing conversation with Bela about aging powerfully and sexily at ALL ages!   JJ is 60, and you'd think she was DECADES younger while looking at her.  She explains why body composition is crucial, why tracking is good for you, lifting heavy things is "everything" and HOW to do this.   She is inspiring and will kick your new year off in an AMAZING way!!    Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela    

This episode is for EVERYONE -- single, coupled, introverted & extroverted!!  Bela talks with best-selling author Debra Fine, about HOW to make 'small talk' and WHY it's so important!  You'll hear: Small talk is a SKILL - not a gift the lucky were born with How Debra, an introverted engineer, realized she did not know how to interact with people at work conferences How she thought losing 75 lbs would 'make her better' at small talk, but it didn't Why Rex, and one conversation, changed EVERYTHING for her How to "be prepared" - and feel great before any conversation Why "what keeps you busy" is a WAY better question than "what do you do?" How to look for 'free info' that people give away about themselves How to BE a good conversationalist (being an 'introvert' is no excuse) How she met the love of her life - and WHY she knew he was the one How to exit conversations with the "wrap up" rule - so no one holds you hostage! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela    

In this episode, Bela interviews Dr. Justin Garia, Executive Director of the Kinsey Institute and Scientific Adviser to Match.com.   Justin leads Kinsey, the foremost experts and thought leaders on sex/sexuality.   We discuss the hottest topics in sex research, why second dates really matter, the upsides and downsides of dating apps, aging & sex (and the Golden Bachelor), orgasms for younger and older singles, and the TOP 5 thing singles are REALLY looking for in relationships according to Match's research on "Single In America!"   You won't want to miss this episode !    Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela    

Everyone's favorite segments are the love stories!   Dr. Laura, a physician in Chicago, found love online at 49 years old!    She had never been married, had a great career, and suffered from a bad picker.  Laura said to herself, "If I can do an Ironman, I can find my soulmate!"   Laura heard an interview with Bela, and she reached out to find her soulmate!  That action changed the course of everything, and helped her find her amazing FBI agent husband, Doug!   You'll hear: How Laura went through some cruel times in school because of a birthmark How her 'bad picker' started back in high school (crushed hard on gay guys - didn't know they were gay)! How she started falling for emotionally unavailable ones in her 20s (starving artists, long-distance, and more) This continued on well into her 40s, while her career was booming and she became a full fledged Iron Man triathlete! She heard Bela interviewed by Arielle Ford, and reached out to Bela What the key things Smart Dating Academy (SDA) did to FIX HER PICKER! How her "last first date" happened with Doug, who was an FBI agent that had adopted three daughters from China! How she knew, finally that Doug was the ONE!!   (it's Bela's favorite word about relationships - spoiler alert) How they got married at a ceremony at her house and are living happily ever after! It's Peak Dating Season, and the perfect time for YOU to start YOUR new plan to find love!   If Laura can do an Ironman AND find her SOULMATE, so can YOU!!    Schedule your 1:1 session with us today to "be like Laura" and make 2024 the year that changes EVERYTHING! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here!   We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you!  https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela