Podcasts about reimagining love

Have you ever felt like your resilience is being pushed to its limits, especially in the chaotic and complex world we live in today? Dr. Alexandra sits down with organizational psychologist, researcher, and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Tasha Eurich to delve into the insights from her new book, Shatterproof: How to Thrive in a World of Constant Chaos (and Why Resilience Alone Isn't Enough). In this conversation, they discuss the myths of resilience, as well as what a “resilience ceiling” is and how to identify when we've hit it. Most importantly, they talk about how to understand the limits of resilience so that we don't, as Dr. Tasha would call it, “grit gaslight” ourselves when our usual coping strategies don't work the way they used to.You'll come away from this episode with:A clearer understanding of the limitations of resilience and how to identify when you've reached your 'resilience ceiling'.A renewed perspective on the importance of acknowledging struggles as part of personal growth and healing (stoicism isn't the answer here!).Practical strategies and tools to enhance your self-awareness and well-being, such as Dr. Tasha's self-assessment for determining how much of our self-definition is about our work and ambition, and her 2-2-2 tool for managing overwhelm.Insights into the essential emotional needs that foster deeper connections in your relationships.Resources worth mentioning from the episode:The Resilience Ceiling Quizhttps://resilience-quiz.com/Shatterproof: How to Thrive in a World of Constant Chaos (And Why Resilience Alone Isn't Enough) by Tasha Eurichhttps://bookshop.org/p/books/shatterproof-how-to-thrive-in-a-world-of-constant-chaos-and-why-resilience-alone-isn-t-enough-tasha-eurich/9f0e6a8876113ed0Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass:  http://masterclass.com/backtoschoolCouple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: http://pesi.com/dralexandraContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

We're living in a time of information abundance (sometimes information overload!) and lots of that information is about mental health, wellness, and relational health! But there's a difference between consuming content and integrating it. When we consume, the information might just pass through us. Whereas when we integrate, the information weaves its way into our unique story or situation. This creates insight and the potential for a shift in mindset, in emotion, in belief, and in behavior.Reflect and journal with Dr. Alexandra to integrate core lessons from the podcast, continuing with today's conversation from the archive. Originally released in September 2022, Dr. Alexandra and Dr. Thema Bryant discuss the importance of resting and of tapping into the things that make you feel truly alive. They also recognize that the ways the system impacts our sense of identity may hinder us from experiencing ease in rest or leisure. They invite us to incorporate these essential self-care acts into our lives little by little.Get out your favorite pen and journal to reflect on these perspectives:Many of your struggles are influenced by systemic issues and are not as personal as you might think. Acknowledging this makes a lot of the negative voices in our heads related to our worth less of a mystery - often, they did not come from us.Rest is a radical act of self-compassion and connection (and not selfish or lazy!), although many people find it very difficult to slow down for a variety of reasons, particularly those from historically excluded identities.While slowing down can feel overwhelming because it brings up avoided emotions, integrating this practice gradually, and slowly noticing the information our emotions provide us can allow us to tap into our truth.Journaling Prompts:How ​do ​the ​macro ​issues ​of ​the ​world ​shape ​your ​sense ​of ​yourself ​in ​this ​moment ​today? ​What ​do ​the ​voices ​in ​your ​head ​tell ​you ​about ​your ​worth? Did ​that ​voice ​come ​from ​you? ​How ​might ​you ​show ​up ​differently ​if ​you ​rejected ​what ​the ​voices ​told ​you ​when ​they ​told ​you ​negative ​things ​about ​your ​worth? ​What's ​your ​relationship ​with ​rest and ​stillness?  Is ​there ​some ​discomfort ​there? What, ​perhaps, ​keeps ​you ​from ​feeling ​at ​ease ​while ​resting? What ​does ​it ​feel ​like ​in ​your ​body ​to ​be ​still, to ​do ​nothing, ​to ​not ​be ​productive? What ​does ​doing ​something ​just ​for ​the ​sake ​of ​doing ​it, ​not ​as ​a ​means ​to ​an ​end, but ​just ​to ​be ​in ​the ​moment - what ​does ​that ​feel ​like? ​What's ​coming ​up ​for ​you ​as ​we ​sit ​here ​together ​right ​now? ​What ​comes ​to ​mind ​when ​you ​are ​being ​invited ​to ​reconnect with ​​some ​neglected ​parts ​of ​yourself? ​What ​are ​you ​doing when ​you ​feel ​the ​most ​alive? What's ​the ​setting? ​What's ​the ​context? ​What ​time ​of ​day ​is ​it? What ​are ​you ​up ​to? What ​are ​the ​constraints ​to ​entering ​that ​space ​that ​makes ​you ​feel ​most ​alive? ​   What, ​perhaps, keeps ​you ​from ​feeling ​entitled ​to ​make ​space for ​that which ​makes ​you ​come ​alive? ​What ​is ​a ​pledge ​that you ​can ​make ​to ​yourself ​this ​week ​to ​carve ​out ​even ​the ​tiniest ​bit ​more ​space ​for ​rest, for ​stillness, for ​doing ​that ​which ​makes ​you ​feel ​alive? And ​if ​and ​when ​you ​carve ​out ​a ​little ​tiny ​bit ​more ​space, ​can ​you ​just ​notice ​and ​land ​and ​savor how you ​feel when ​you ​enter that ​space ​of ​rest and ​stillness?Resources worth mentioning from the episode:Reimagining Love episode, Coming Home to Ourselves: The Path to Thriving with Dr. Thema Bryanthttps://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/coming-home-to-ourselves-learning-to-thrive-with-dr-thema-bryant/Homecoming: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self by Dr. Thema Bryant:https://bookshop.org/p/books/homecoming-healing-trauma-to-reclaim-your-authentic-self-thema-bryant/20204100?ean=9780593418321&next=tThe Homecoming Podcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-homecoming-podcast-with-dr-thema/id1471604689Dr. Thema's Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/dr.thema/Tricia Hershey's The Nap Ministry (Healing via the REST IS RESISTANCE framework):https://thenapministry.wordpress.com/about/Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass:  http://masterclass.com/backtoschoolCouple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: http://pesi.com/dralexandraContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ 

The fourth and final mailbag episode of the summer is here! Dr. Alexandra has advice for three listeners with three relationship dilemmas related to infidelity and rebuilding trust, both relationally and within themselves.Start healing together with these listener challenges:Our first listener question concerns shame upon discovering an extramarital affair.The second question deals with jealousy in the wake of some boundary-breaching behavior that is impacting the relationship.An affair partner asks our third question, as she struggles with honesty and clarity within the affair from her married partner.Resources worth mentioning from the episode:Can I Trust You Again? e-course: https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceitReimagining Love episode, When Shame Blocks Repair: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-shame-blocks-repair/Reimagining Love episode, When You're the Affair Partner: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-youre-the-affair-partner/Your Midyear Refresh on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/yourmidyearrefreshCouple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: http://pesi.com/dralexandraContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/

Relational Self-Awareness and the Hard Truths of Couples Therapy: An Interview with Dr. Alexandra Solomon Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon joins Curt and Katie to discuss what therapists get wrong in couples therapy, how to work with high-conflict dynamics, and the power of relational self-awareness. We explore how therapists can show up better prepared for the real work of helping relationships grow—or gracefully end. About Our Guest:Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist, professor, author, and host of the Reimagining Love podcast. Known globally for her relational self-awareness framework, Dr. Solomon bridges clinical wisdom, research, and pop culture in her work with couples. She is the author of Loving Bravely, Taking Sexy Back, and Love Every Day. Key Takeaways: The relationship—not the individuals—is the client in couples therapy Why individual therapist skills don't always translate to couples work How regulation and self-awareness reduce conflict and promote connection What therapists should know about the "change partner vs. acceptance partner" dynamic Why therapist bias and romantic myths can derail the work More info, transcripts, and full show notes at mtsgpodcast.com Join the Modern Therapist Community:https://linktr.ee/therapyreimagined Creative Credits: Voice Over by DW McCann: facebook.com/McCannDW Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano: groomsymusic.com

Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A couple therapist, speaker, author, professor,podcast host, and media personality, Dr. Alexandra is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity,and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals and research, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular and vibrant Instagram page, which has garnered over 200Kfollowers. She is an adjunct professor in the School of Education and Social Policy atNorthwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, has reached listeners across the globe and features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You                     Want, Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want, and Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal,Grow, and Thrive. You can visit her online at DrAlexandraSolomon.com and on Instagram at @dr.alexandra.solomon.

Welcome to R&R: Revisit & Reflect, a new episode format here on the podcast. We're living in a time of information abundance (sometimes information overload) and lots of that information is about mental health and relational health! But there's a difference between consuming content and integrating it. When we consume, the information might just pass through us, whereas when we integrate, the information weaves its way into our unique story or situation, creating insight and the potential for a shift in mindset, in emotion, in belief, and in behavior. With these R&R episodes, you'll reflect and journal with Dr. Alexandra to integrate core lessons from the podcast, starting with today's conversation from the archive with the inimitable relationship expert Esther Perel. They explore relational ambivalence and how to reignite the spark inside your relationship, and within yourself, inspired by a listener's question. So, get out your favorite pen and journal and join in this summer reflection. You'll come away from this episode with:A deeper understanding of the importance of rituals in maintaining connection amidst life's challengesA new perspective on the impact of external circumstances on anxiety in your relationships.The ability to recognize and respond to your partner's bids for connection.A framework for self-reflection with actionable journaling prompts to enhance intimacy.Journaling Prompts:How do the macro issues of the world shape your love life today? To what degree are you able to give yourself permission for play and pleasure, even as the world feels so hard? What allows you to do that?In the clip, Esther reminds us that if you don't know how to turn yourself on, there's nothing your partner can do to turn you on. How are you finding ways to connect to your own aliveness? What are some things you can do this week, just for you, that could reinvigorate your internal spark? This could include engaging with nature, art, food, movement, or play.In this clip, Esther and Dr. Alexandra talk about how for a couple to create an experience together, one partner is the initiator and one is the responder. These roles aren't fixed, but which role do you do you tend to find yourself in more? What do you like about being in each position, and what's hard about each of them?“Your Midyear Refresh” on MasterClass: masterclass.com/yourmidyearrefreshCouple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: pesi.com/dralexandraOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

In this conversation, Nina and Dr. Alexandra Solomon explore the nuanced differences between secrecy and privacy in relationships, emphasizing the importance of trust and communication. They discuss how technology has changed relationship dynamics, the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior, and the necessity of understanding emotional needs in partnerships. The dialogue highlights the significance of approaching sensitive topics with curiosity rather than accusation, fostering a deeper connection between partners. In this conversation, Nina and Dr. Alexandra explore the complexities of vulnerability in relationships, the importance of understanding boundaries and privacy, and how healthy privacy can enhance intimacy. They discuss the significance of emotional safety and the need for couples to invest in connection and fun to maintain a strong relationship. The dialogue emphasizes self-awareness and the impact of past experiences on current relationships, providing insights into navigating challenges and fostering growth.00:00: Understanding Secrecy vs. Privacy in Relationships02:56: The Evolution of Relationship Dynamics06:00: The Impact of Technology on Trust08:56: Navigating Privacy and Secrecy11:55: Childhood Influences on Relationship Behavior15:11: Effective Communication in Relationships19:45: Navigating Vulnerability in Relationships24:43: Understanding Boundaries and Privacy28:31: The Role of Healthy Privacy in Intimacy35:55: Investing in Connection and Fun in RelationshipsAlexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is internationally recognized as one of today's most trustedvoices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness hasreached millions of people around the globe. A couple therapist, speaker, author, professor,podcast host, and media personality, Dr. Alexandra is passionate about translating cutting-edgeresearch and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity,and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor toacademic journals and research, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular and vibrant Instagram page, which has garnered over 200Kfollowers. She is an adjunct professor in the School of Education and Social Policy atNorthwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice. Her hitpodcast, Reimagining Love, has reached listeners across the globe and features high-profileguests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning authorof Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships YouWant, Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want,and Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal,Grow, and Thrive. You can visit her online at https://dralexandrasolomon.com/ and on Instagramat @dr.alexandra.solomon. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you've finally left a toxic marriage and your kids, especially adult kids, have spent years steeped in that same environment, the guilt can be crushing. You wonder: How do I help them heal? How do I set them up for success when I feel like I already failed them? Dr. Alexandra Solomon is back, and we're getting into the deep stuff: parenting through regret, healing alongside our kids, and what it means to let our children hold their truth, even when it wrecks us a little. And, when you've walked through fire and come out whole, you get to show your kids that love can look like mutual adoration, and that being single is better than being stuck. Here are some truths you'll hear: Your healing is the best gift you can give your child. Witnessing their pain doesn't mean narrating their story. You're allowed to screw up, and still be a good parent. This one's for every mother who wonders if it's too late to get it right. It's not. Here's what else we discuss in this episode: Why witnessing your child's pain is step one to their healing (7:25) How healing ourselves supports our kids more than trying to fix them (9:37) Why modeling a healthy post-divorce relationship can be life-changing (22:49) The danger of “I don't want my kid to make the same mistakes I did” (35:44) How to have emotionally safe relationship talks with your kids (39:59) Learn more about Dr. Alexandra Solomon, PhD: Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular Instagram page, which has garnered over 200K followers. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, reaches tens of thousands of listeners across the globe each week and features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of two books: Taking Sexy Back and Loving Bravely, which was featured on the TODAY show. Resources & Links: Thank you to today's podcast sponsor: Wild Pastures Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodesFocused Strategy Sessions with Kate  Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Alexandra's websiteIntimate Relationships 101Reimagining Love Podcast Alexandra on Instagram Alexandra on FacebookMasterclass Anxiety Toolkit =================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link:  https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-323-parenting-through-regret-and-repair-with-dr-alexandra-solomon/  

When there's a struggling person in a family, the system often coalesces around that individual, and while we might imagine these patterns get left behind when kids grow into adults, the dynamic often endures for the long run. Reimagining Love listener Cristina wrote in to Dr. Alexandra from Chicago, asking about how to better handle the challenges of such a situation. She's the only one in her family who is in therapy, and she is eager to disrupt the dynamic. Cristina wants to stay connected to her sisters, despite the challenges they've faced, and her hope is to break longstanding patterns of over-accommodation and resentment while honoring her own needs as well as other family members'. Dr. Alexandra dives into this question with the goal of exploring an empowering therapeutic truth: that when you change your own dance moves, you can transform the entire system. If you're dealing with something similar, this episode is going to offer you ways forward you may not have experimented yet, that could have the potential to change everything. If you'd like to submit a listener question of your own, you can do so by following the link below."Your Anxiety Toolkit" on MasterClass: www.masterclass.com/youranxietytoolkitOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Patreon/Supercast Special Release - Taking Sexy Back: A Journey to Empowerment with Dr. Alexandra Solomon This is a sneak peek of our episode with Dr. Alexandra Soloman - available only on our Premium Supercast and Patreon platforms. For as little as $5/month you can have access to special releases like this one, first-to-know about upcoming events and discounts and an ad-free feed. Click here to join & finish the episode!! Dr. Ann Kelley and Dr. Alexandra Solomon discuss her book 'Taking Sexy Back,' exploring the intersection of gender and sexuality, the impact of societal messages on women's sexual experiences, and the importance of self-advocacy in relationships. They dive into the complexities of desire, body image, and the influence of patriarchy on both men and women - emphasizing the need for emotional awareness and connection in intimate relationships. Explore the evolving landscape of sexuality across generations and the impact of online dating and pornography on sexual experiences. "We are taught to serve, to focus on others, but we need to notice our own feelings." - Dr. Alexandra Solomon Time Stamps for Taking Sexy Back: A Journey to Empowerment with Dr. Alexandra Solomon (261) 02:47 The intersection of gender and sexuality 11:52 Impact of body image on desire 14:52 Patriarchy's influence on men and women 17:55 Emotional complexity in masculinity 28:05 The impact of pornography on sexual experiences 36:45 Embodiment and mindfulness in sexuality 41:50 Exploring pleasure and connection in relationships About our Guest - Dr. Alexandra Solomon Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A couple therapist, speaker, author, professor, podcast host, and media personality, Dr. Alexandra is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals and research, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular and vibrant Instagram page, which has garnered over 200K followers. She is an adjunct professor in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, has reached listeners across the globe and features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want, Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want, and Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive. Find Upcoming Events here!! Special Featured event: Ann and Sue are deep diving into clinical application of their work at the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium - March 20-23, 2025. It's an incredible conference - they'd love to see you there! Rethinking Attachment – Using the Attachment Spectrum in Clinical Practice    Our Beyond Attachment Styles course is available NOW! Learn how your nervous system, your mind, and your relationships work together in a fascinating dance, shaping who you are and how you connect with others. Earn 6 Continuing Education Credits – Available at Checkout Online, Self-Paced, Asynchronous Learning with Quarterly Live Q&A's   Integrative Attachment Therapy Course Information Therapists: THIS is our recommended course experience for the most comprehensive training on attachment out there. Use our link for a discount! Thanks for stopping by & for being on this journey with us! 

Content advisory- This episode mentions sex. For mature audiences only.  Is the economy impacting our romantic relationships? Can love truly thrive despite financial stress? What unconventional solutions can help us cultivate healthy love in chaotic times? In today's episode, we dive deep into how financial strain affects romantic relationships, and how we can reimagine love in a way that transcends economic challenges. Let's face it, money stress can create tension, misalignment, and even resentment in partnerships. But what if we approached love differently? What if we broke free from societal programming and embraced a more intentional, fulfilling connection? I'm sharing three unorthodox solutions that can help us step outside of the box and cultivate supportive situations, even in a world that often feels unstable. If financial struggles have been weighing on your life, this episode is for you.  What You'll Learn in This Episode: -How traditional views on love and money may be holding you back -The hidden impact of financial stress on intimacy and connection -3 unconventional strategies to create a thriving, love-filled relationship, despite what's happening in the economy -Why shifting your mindset around abundance and partnership is key to relationship resilience Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode will give you fresh insights on how to redefine love, partnership, and abundance in today's world. Listen Now & Share with a Friend Who Needs This! Resources & Links: Join the Healthy Love Healing App – https://healthylovehealing.com/ Follow me on Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/niajae Podcast Episodes Mentioned Deshaming With Priestess Francesca  Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/2u6BABYWcvCaU8GT1aTXhX?si=A8Fp8AqnQQmep3j6bg2iJA Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/abundance-hack/id1455937925?i=1000621901990 Compersion  Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4S9M7dOHWIF846c506KGTN?si=JOvrdfpRSr6GNyTifPw_hw Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/abundance-hack/id1455937925?i=1000563791729 The 6 Types of Intimacy Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/42kmIbb0FcRG79dAwfqM4Q?si=FKkwKCH7SBC9p7Tf7pdR1Q Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/abundance-hack/id1455937925?i=1000560468823

Tis the season of manifesting deeper love and more aligned relationships. And as Lacy points out, mid-winter brings new light, new hope, and new growth. Whether you're happily single, searching for new love, or manifesting a closer relationship  (or a million other versions of love!) this is the perfect time to let a little more light into your life. We love this day because while, yes, commercially there is a lot of programming, we consider it just the perfect time to look inward and reflect on all your relationships. This episode with Janelle, Lacy, and Jessica holds so many pearls of wisdom that will help you on whatever journey you find yourself on when it comes to manifesting love. When is a “spark” healthy versus a nervous system trigger? Are we speaking to ourselves internally with the love we are seeking? Are you falling for the Disney love myth?  You don't have to wait for someone to take you to the restaurant you're dying to go to for love to find you. You are the architect of your love life, and it starts with the foundation of authenticity. Your love journey starts with you here and now. Just press play. Find the Complete Show Notes Here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast In This Episode We Talk About:Current energetics surrounding love, intimacy, and relationshipsHow self-worth impacts your ability to manifest loveThe problem with fairy-tale love and cultural narrativesIntimacy tolerance: why healthy relationships can feel unfamiliarHow to identify and clear blocks to love in your subconsciousThe role of childhood dynamics in shaping relationship patternsWhy self-love is the foundation of every healthy relationshipReframing love languages to better connect with yourselfRecognizing when it's time to stay and do the work or leave a relationshipTips for creating deeper intimacy in friendships and partnershipsHow societal trends on relationships reveal collective woundsThe importance of aligning with your authentic essence in relationshipsUsing expanders to visualize and attract aligned partnerships  THEMES / TIME STAMPS:How self-worth directly affects the relationships you attract (00:09:25)The Fairy-Tale Myth and intimacy blocks (00:15:55)Tangible tools (including our new Stripped DI) that help shed limiting beliefs, deepen intimacy, and manifest aligned relationships (00:28:20) Resources: **Brand New Video Series! **Channeling with Lacy: Your Energetic Update for Manifesting+ All New STRIPPED DI Live now inside the Pathway Membership only  Missed our free live call on How to Stay Magnetic in 2025?Drop your email here and get the replay!  The Authenticity Challenge is LIVE!!Manifest the life you *actually* want--join anytime!  Share your Challenge manifestation story to be featured on our next mini-process episode! Bon Charge - 15% off with code MAGNETICRed Light Face, Neck and Chest Bundle  ARMRA - Use code TBM for 15% off Colostrum: Immune Revival - Immune barrier superfood  Ep. 300 Best in Class: Love - Romantic, Self-love, FriendshipEp. 299 - Breakup or Breakthrough: Love, Friendships & RelationshipsEp. 298 - Reimagining Love, Relationships & Breaking Codependency with Mark Groves and Kylie McBeathEp. 236 - Best in Class The Love/Money ConnectionEp. 135 - EXPLAINED Love & RelationshipsEp. 265 - People Pleasing, Dating Apps, & Manifesting Self Love – Unblocking: Love & PartnershipFind our authenticity challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Inner Child DI, Self Love DI, and the new Stripped DI) Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@Lacyannephillips@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcastJanelle Nelson, EMDR & MFT TherapistBook an Unblocking session or Intensive w Janelle  Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryNeed Help Identifying Your Block? Access our FREE Find Your Biggest Block Exercise Other ResourcesSubmit to Be a Process GuestAlexis Smart x TBM EXPANDED Flower Remedy

'Tis the season of love. Whether you're dating, single, newly wed or married for years, everybody could use a little advice on love and relationships. Ahead of Valentine's Day, Reset checks in with love guru and psychologist Alexandra Solomon, who is also the host of the podcast “Reimagining Love.” For a full archive of Reset interviews, head over to wbez.org/reset.

Today's episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). We're exploring how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it! All previous role-specific episodes are also linked below, along with the FREE Family of Origin Roles workbook, Reclaiming You.We're taking a look at “The Rebel” role in today's episode. Some family systems are well-equipped to handle disagreement, debate, and resistance. But when a family is under pressure in any way, a child who questions or challenges the system is going to be seen as a threat. While the Rebel may cling to their strong opinions and double down on their critical stance, feelings of fear, isolation, and anxiety may occur and continue into adulthood, especially around conformity and authority. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Rebel can break free from old stories that their only path to safety was to push back and choose the path of opposition. Relevant links:Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming YouReimagining Love episode: “People-Pleasing vs. Brutal Honesty: When & How to Share Feedback with Your Partner”Reimagining Love episode: “When Having ‘No Filter' Hurts a Relationship”Take the Family of Origin Roles QuizDr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker ArticleOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Today's episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). We're exploring how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it! All previous role-specific episodes are also linked below.We're taking a look at “The Parentified Child” role in today's episode. The child cast into this role likely heard that they were “so mature,” “wise beyond their years,” or were praised for their comforting presence when they were growing up. The problem? Kids shouldn't have to provide emotional support to the adults in their family. Unfortunately for the Parentified Child, this felt like the surest route to safety and love, perhaps due to a chaotic environment, overwhelmed parents, or conflict in the family system. As an adult, the Parentified Child carries with them a certain set of beliefs and tendencies that they picked up as a kid in this role. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Parentified Child can free themselves from always taking on others' needs and create more egalitarian relationships that feel safe and nourishing.Relevant links:Reimagining Love episode with Dr. Hillary McBride: Getting Present: Tuning Into Your Body with Dr. Hillary McBrideReimagining Love series: “I Love My Partner, But Their Family is Toxic”: Part 1, Part 2Girlhood Interrupted: The Erasure of Black Girls' Childhood (Rebecca Epstein, Jamilia J. Blake, Thalia González, from the Center on Poverty and Inequality, Georgetown Law)Past episodes of the Family of Origin Roles Series: Introductory Episode, The Perfect One (From Performance to Presence), The Easy One (From Accommodation to Authenticity), The Struggling One (From Scapegoat to Self-Advocate), The Peacemaker (From Referee to Realist)Take the Family of Origin Roles QuizDr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker ArticleOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Be sure to watch this and every epsidoe of the podcast on YouTube: https://youtu.be/zjuKWgivYNo Today Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a renowned relationship expert, joins Dr. Liz Hale and Dr. Dave Schramm to discuss daily practices for love, relational self-awareness, and fostering intimacy. The conversation dives into overcoming relationship stagnation, understanding family of origin influences, and managing differences in relationship work. Learn how small, intentional actions and curiosity can transform your marriage into a thriving, intimate partnership.  About Dr. Solomon: Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is internationally recognized as one of today's most trustedvoices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness hasreached millions of people around the globe. A couple’s therapist, speaker, author, andprofessor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinicalwisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity totheir relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals,and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popularInstagram page, which has garnered over 200K followers. She is on faculty in the school ofEducation and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologistat The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, reachestens of thousands of listeners across the globe each week and features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of two books: Taking Sexy Back and Loving Bravely, which was featured on the TODAY show.   Insights: Alexandra: "Be willing to study your reactivity. You know, the stuff that makes you feel tense, the stuff that makes you feel urgent, stuff that makes you feel kind of shut down or cynical or hopeless, to take a look at that and to and to be curious about what it what it's showing you about a place that you're stuck, or maybe something that you might need to ask for a bit differently than you have." Liz: "I spend a great majority of my time with couples on the here and now, thepresent and the future, and probably not nearly enough time on the past, the family of origin. But I love that you remind almost that we either put it in their place or it's going to run the show. So, it's really crucial to ask some of those key questions about each other's childhood and especially, especially your own." Dave: "I love the idea that just that concept of consistency, of that compassion, that love, what are we going to do for us today? Getting out of those ruts, they require just intentionality. They require a lot of work. They really do, but the best things in life really do require effort and intentional thinking ahead. Yeah, let me check in with my wife today. Or, hey, what's on your mind, or what's stressful? Or what can I do for you? Those types of check ins regularly, making those deposits into those love buckets I think are, are critical."   Dr. Solomon's Links: Website: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/ Podcast: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/?hl=en X: https://x.com/AHSolomon   Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org  Podcast.stongermarriage.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/   Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com    This episode provides a compassionate and practical guide for anyone seeking to build healthier perspectives around sexuality, reduce shame, and improve intimacy in their relationships. Don't miss this deeply insightful discussion!

Let's get honest: Valentine's Day can be messy, confusing, and downright daunting. But hey, we're changing the game! This podcast episode is your new guide to relationships, not just romantic ones but those deep friendships too. We're diving into Galentine's Day fun and the art of hanging out with your pals, minus the romance pressure. Feeling unsure about connecting with people in this fast-paced world? You're not alone. Many of us are figuring out how to date in this vibrant, ever-evolving society. Step into a space that's all about understanding and embracing your identity. Whether you're neurodivergent, queer, or simply navigating life in 2025, this conversation, featuring the incredible Leah Spasova, is your safe haven. Leah is a no-nonsense sex psychologist shaking up the way we talk about intimacy and self-esteem. Her insights promise to be both real and refreshing—just what you need to hear! So, pour yourself a drink, get comfy, and tune into a chat that's all about growing into the person you truly are. Welcome to a journey of discovery, laughter, and genuine connection. Cheers to becoming who you're meant to be!   https://www.lifesexplicit.com/ https://facebook.com/your.lifesexplicit https://www.instagram.com/lifesexplicit_/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/leahspasova/  

Today's episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it!We're taking a look at “The Peacemaker” role in today's episode. All families have conflict, and it's common for one child in the family to play a referee or mediator role, either through intervention or more subtler peacemaking strategies, such as comic relief. As adults, Peacemakers likely find themselves between friends and family members when there are tensions and may struggle to extract themselves from these dynamics. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Peacemaker can embark on their healing journey.Relevant links:Reimagining Love: Disrupting the Underfunctioning/Overfunctioning DynamicTake the Family of Origin Roles QuizReimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You' & Exploring Your Family of Origin”Dr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker ArticleOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Today's episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it!We're taking a look at “The Struggling One” role in today's episode. In some families, there is an individual who needs more care and attention than others. There are a number of reasons why this might be the case, including a difference in ability, a behavioral challenge, or a mental health condition. In any case, the “struggling one” is the recipient of a lot of the family system's energy, and this dynamic may lead to certain challenges and strengths for that person in adulthood. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Struggling One can embark on their healing journey.Relevant links:Minorities Less Likely to Be Identified for Special Education, Study Finds (EducationWeek)‘Boys are disappearing' from mental health care as signs of depression go undetected (NBC News)Girls With Social and/or Attention Deficit Re-Examined in Young Adulthood: Prospective Study of Diagnostic Stability, Daily Life Functioning and Social Situation (National Library of Medicine)The "Spoon Theory" (Christine Miserandino, www.butyoudontlooksick.com)Take the Family of Origin Roles QuizReimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You' & Exploring Your Family of Origin”Dr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker ArticleOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

On today's episode of Reimagining Love, Vanessa & Xander Marin join Dr. Alexandra for a frank and compassionate conversation about sex—specifically, sex in long-term relationships. It's normal for couples to fall into a rut in the bedroom, ranging from sex feeling kind of “meh,” to long periods without any intimacy at all. These ebbs and flows are part of being in a long-term relationship or marriage, and the good news is, there are actions you can take to chart a new course with your partner and to get excited about each other again. Vanessa and Xander are a couple who have been creating that very roadmap for folks, through their amazing online courses, their podcast, Pillow Talks, and their New York Times-bestselling book, Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Vanessa is a sex therapist with 20 years of experience who has been featured in outlets like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper's Bazaar, Vogue, and Goop, and she has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker. And Xander? Well, he is a “regular dude” who left his corporate job to join Vanessa in this work. Together they blend clinical wisdom, humor, openness, and their own personal stories to normalize talking about our sex lives and to offer techniques for improving yours. You are going to hear about their personal experience with couple therapy and how they landed on the agreement, “If it matters to one of us, it matters to both of us.” They share so many juicy insights about sex, from desire discrepancy to initiation to their amazing acronym “P.L.E.A.S.E.,” which you'll learn in this conversation. This episode will give you the confidence to shift the way you and your partner talk about sex and couple therapy, as well as anything else you might be stuck on.Relevant Links:Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life by Vanessa & Xander MarinVanessa & Xander's website: https://vmtherapy.com/https://vmtherapy.com/Vanessa & Xander's courses & challenges: https://vmtherapy.com/holiday-gift-guide-2024Vanessa & Xander's podcast, Pillow Talks: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pillow-talks/id1569466131Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Give the gift of Relational Self-Awareness! All of Dr. Alexandra's online offerings are 20% off until December 20th, 2024! They include the hallmark course "Intimate Relationships 101" and the Reimagining Love Workbook as a beautiful companion to this podcast. Visit https://dralexandrasolomon.com/giftguide2024/ to explore Relational Self-Awareness as you and your loved ones move into the new year.

Scott Mackey: Love is not the Answer... Really? . "Reawakening Democracy: How 'Love' Can Lead Politics Through the 21st Century." . In this episode of the Dov Baron Show, host Dov Baron and his guest Scott Mackey unpack the deeper political and social issues surrounding the post-2024 election, questioning binary thinking in politics. . Scott Mackey, an author, activist, and former Obama campaign member discusses his latest book 'Love is Not the Answer'. He shares his journey from an evangelical, conservative upbringing to a liberal political stance. . This conversation explores the challenges of finding purity and love in a politically charged environment and the complicated relationship between spirituality and political activism. Mackey also provides insights into the impact of young voters and the role of masculinity in contemporary politics. Stay tuned for the second part of this enlightening discussion.  . 00:00 Introduction: Unraveling the 2024 Election 00:59 Meet Scott Mackey: From Washington to Green Tech 02:06 Scott's Emotional Source Code: Childhood and Therapy 08:09 College Years: Shifting Theology and Politics 09:05 Obama Campaign: The Search for Purity 22:31"Reimagining Love and Politics" 24:15 Conclusion: The Possibility of a Political Renaissance   Website https://www.loveisnottheanswernovel.com/ Social Media https://www.linkedin.com/in/scottandrewmackey/ . Dov Baron's brand new course has just been released on coursifyx.com/belonging ------------- Titled: "CREATING A CULTURE OF BELONGING." The course is divided into eight sections, each of which will guide you through exactly how to create a culture of belonging. . Because: CREATING A CULTURE OF BELONGING MAXIMIZES PERSONAL AND CORPORATE SUCCESS. Get Ready to strap on the tanks and Dive Deep into, What it Takes to Create a Culture of Belonging in your organization! Are you curious to know more? coursifyx.com/belonging .  "Those Who Control Meaning for The Tribe, Also Control The Movement of That Tribe" #leadership #leadershipdevelopment #emotionsourcecode #neuroscience #emotional #meaning #emotional #logic #culture #curiosity #humanbehavior

Today's episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it last month!We're taking a look at “The Easy One” role in today's episode. If you were the kid who could always “go with the flow” in your family, this might be you. As a child, you didn't express a lot of needs (even though you had them, as we all do!), and that may have been a relief to the Big People in your system, because their attention was needed elsewhere. As an adult, you may identify as a people-pleaser, always attuning yourself to the people around you, wondering how you can make them comfortable or happy. You may believe you're only worthy to the degree that you're accommodating others. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Easy One can embark on their healing journey.Visit www.masterclass.com/alexandrasolomon to check out the class I co-taught with Ryan Holiday and other experts about the wisdom of ancient philosophy and how it can help us improve communication, resilience, and relationships.Relevant links:Take the Family of Origin Roles QuizReimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You' & Exploring Your Family of Origin”Dr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker ArticleResources about power exchange / kink:From Michelle Herzog's Center for Modern Relationships: Article Part I, Article Part II Pleasure Mechanics: CoursesPleasure Mechanics: Podcast episodeDipsea: “How to explore light bondage play with your trusted partner” by Toni Sicola (2021)Pillow Talk Podcast (Vanessa + Xander Marin): How To Spice It Up In the Bedroom: Exploring Kink For BeginnersTIME Article: “Why I Kept My Kinks a Secret” by R.O. Kwon (2024)British GQ: “A dominatrix gives a beginners guide to kink” by Daisy Schofield (2024)Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Give the gift of Relational Self-Awareness! All of Dr. Alexandra's online offerings are 20% off until December 20th, 2024! They include the hallmark course "Intimate Relationships 101" and the Reimagining Love Workbook as a beautiful companion to this podcast. Visit https://dralexandrasolomon.com/giftguide2024/ to explore Relational Self-Awareness as you and your loved ones move into the new year.Build essential relationship skills with MasterClass. Dr. Alexandra, Ryan Holiday, and other experts share how you can improve communication, resilience, and relationships with the class “Using Ancient Wisdom to Solve Modern Problems”. Learn more at http://www.masterclass.com/alexandrasolomon

What if I told you the real reason your relationship feels strained isn't what you think it is? Picture this: the love you once built with care, passion, and hope now feels fragile—like a sandcastle being worn away by the waves. Criticism, blame, and unmet expectations have crept in, leaving you wondering, Why isn't this working?   In this episode, I'm uncovering the hidden destroyer of relationships—the one that quietly erodes connection and leaves both partners feeling stuck, unseen, and unfulfilled. But here's the powerful truth: while you can't change your partner, you can transform your relationship by stepping into your own power, healing your inner wounds, and reimagining what it means to love and be loved.   This isn't just about your relationship. It's about you. It's about becoming the woman who knows her worth, who no longer waits for someone else to fulfill her emotional needs, and who inspires love instead of demanding it.   In this episode, I'm talking about: The hidden destroyer of relationships that often includes subtle blame, criticism, and unmet expectations. Understanding that relationships begin with love and passion but often falter as unspoken expectations create dissatisfaction. Societal messages that teach women to rely on partners for validation, which create unhealthy dependencies. The impact of blaming your partner for emotional needs leads to withdrawal, not connection or change. How to release your partner from the responsibility of your emotions to unlock healing and relationship transformation. How addressing insecurities and building self-worth creates space for joy and playful love to thrive. Reimaging relationship expectations.   Are you ready to take that step? Listen to this episode now and discover how to reclaim your happiness, reinvent your relationship, and reignite the spark. This is your emotional makeover, and it starts here.   Join my Self-Love Program here: https://amandahanson.mykajabi.com/self-love-program    Connect with Dr. Amanda Hanson on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/midlife.muse/ 

Today's episode is part of a new solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (aka FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it last month!Up first in Dr. Alexandra's exploration of family roles is “The Perfect One.”  If you were the superstar kid in your family, known for bringing home good grades and accolades, this might be you. As an adult, perhaps you seek validation and affirmation of your worthiness through tangible accomplishments. You may believe you're only as good and worthy of love as your job title, latest career win, parenting flex, or fitness milestone. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Perfect One can embark on their healing journey.Visit www.masterclass.com/alexandrasolomon to check out the class I co-taught with Ryan Holiday and other experts about the wisdom of ancient philosophy and how it can help us improve communication, resilience, and relationships.Relevant links:Take the Family of Origin Roles QuizReimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You' & Exploring Your Family of Origin”Dr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker ArticleOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Build essential relationship skills with MasterClass. Dr. Alexandra, Ryan Holiday, and other experts share how you can improve communication, resilience, and relationships with the class “Using Ancient Wisdom to Solve Modern Problems”. Learn more at http://www.masterclass.com/alexandrasolomonHey Reimagining Love Listeners! Quick note here that we're publishing new episodes on an every other week schedule with occasional bonus episodes sprinkled throughout, at least until the end of the year. If you're craving more content in the meantime, you can always search the back catalog and/or find juicy blog posts and other resources at http://dralexandrasolomon.com/

Today's episode is the first of a new solo episode series on Reimagining Love about Family-of-Origin Roles. Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messaging about love, connection, and worthiness as a result.To start off this series, we're revisiting this in-depth solo episode, in which Dr. Alexandra explains the six common roles we might have played in our original family systems. Through understanding our past, we can see how these roles continue to show up in our relationships today and use that knowledge as a powerful Relational Self-Awareness tool. In December, we'll begin releasing role-specific episodes for each of the six roles, starting with “The Perfect One,” so be sure to catch that conversation next month.Visit www.masterclass.com/alexandrasolomon to check out the class I contributed to with Ryan Holiday and other experts about the wisdom of ancient philosophy and how it can help us improve communication, resilience, and relationships.Relevant links:Take the Family of Origin Roles QuizReimagining Love: “Tending to “Little You” & Exploring Your Family of Origin”Dr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker ArticleOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Hey Reimagining Love Listeners! Quick note here that we're publishing new episodes on an every other week schedule with occasional bonus episodes sprinkled throughout, at least until the end of the year. If you're craving more content in the meantime, you can always search the back catalog and/or find juicy blog posts and other resources at http://dralexandrasolomon.com/

Could your love relationship use a bit of boost? Some calm in the storm? Or are you looking for love that's been hard to find? In this On Health for Women episode I'm joined by Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a wonderful couples therapist, professor, author of Love Every Day and the host of the Reimagining Love podcast. Together we explore the real meaning of love and how it can be cultivated through daily practices of self-awareness, self-compassion, and intentional connection. Whether single, in a relationship, or simply seeking a better relationship with yourself, this conversation offers powerful tools to foster a deeper, more resilient connection to yourself and others.Dr. Solomon sheds light on using Relational Self-Awareness (RSA) to build fulfilling partnerships, understand our Family-of-Origin influences, and tackle relationship conflicts as a team. Join us as we unpack the complexities of intimacy and share practical guidance on nurturing love in ways that are both transformative and healing.In this episode we explore: Love as Daily Practice: Why love is more than a feeling—it's a mindful practice that requires small, intentional actions each day.Understanding Family-of-Origin: How early family dynamics, or our "Original Love Classroom," shape our relationship patterns, and ways to move beyond them.Navigating Attachment Styles: A look at common attachment patterns like anxious and avoidant types, and ways to harmonize different styles in relationships.Relational Self-Awareness (RSA): How RSA can unlock healthier relationships by increasing empathy, self-understanding, and resilience.Turning Conflict into Connection: Practical tools for approaching challenges as a team and transforming conflict into intimacy and personal growth.Self-Compassion and Self-Respect: Balancing self-love with loving others without losing yourself in the relationship.Modern Dating Realities: Dr. Solomon shares insights into why dating can be difficult today and how to embrace a compassionate approach.Long-Term Partnership Wisdom: Dr. Solomon's advice on nurturing enduring love with the help of daily practices that strengthen connection, respect, and joy.If this episode resonated with you, consider taking action by sharing it with a friend or leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform. Don't miss out on future episodes! Make sure to subscribe to On Health for more conversations like this one, bringing you expert insights and empowering you to take control of your health and well-being.Looking for supplements for yourself and your family, including some of those I talk about in episodes? You can find those - and your 15% discount on every order here: avivaromm.com/supplementsMentioned in this episode:Looking for supplements for yourself and your family, including some of those I talk about in episodes? You can find those - and your 15% discount on every order here: avivaromm.com/supplements

The decision to cut off a family member is a difficult one. Estrangement is an attempt to solve a painful, systemic relationship problem. This monumental move should be deeply considered, and my collectivist approach to therapy encourages being curious about and striving to understand how the different contexts our family members—epsecially those with a generational divide—grew up and live within can impact how we show up in our relationships. Without, of course, ever dismissing the very real trauma that can precede an estrangement.In this in-depth solo episode, I explore the dynamics of cut-offs, including what both the official research and my recent social media survey have to say. Then, I offer three relational self-awareness questions for folks on both sides of the estrangement experience: those considering cutting off a family member and those who are about to be or have been cut off.These questions aim to support compassionate dialogue that increases both party's chances of finding a solution. Whether you are the estranger or the estranged, it is my hope that this conversation will leave you with some tools and a perspective you may not have considered, one that takes each person's lived experience into consideration and opens up the possibility of finding a middle ground between an unhealthy status quo and walking away.Relevant Links:Get your companion workbook - https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/cutoffMy talk on 1A: “When Loved Ones Become Strangers” - https://the1a.org/segments/when-loved-ones-become-strangers/Reimagining Love Episode: “End or Mend: Managing Difficult Family Relationships with Nedra Tawwab” - https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/end-or-mend-managing-difficult-family-relationships-with-nedra-tawwab/APA article: “Estrangement Is Never Easy or Straightforward. Psychologists Can Help” - https://www.apa.org/monitor/2024/04/healing-pain-estrangementVogue article: “Why So Many People (Myself Included) Are Experiencing Family Estrangement” - https://www.vogue.com/article/why-so-many-people-are-experiencing-family-estrangementAeon article: “Estrangement” - https://aeon.co/essays/modern-culture-blames-parents-for-forces-beyond-their-controlOrder Dr. Alexandra's latest book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Get effortless support for your balanced wellness lifestyle with Factor. Visit https://www.factormeals.com/TCFE50 and use the code TCFE50 to get 50% off your first box, plus 20% off the next month.Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.Hey Reimagining Love Listeners! Quick note here that we're going to be on a very short two week break starting Sept 17th. When we return on October 1st, we're going to start publishing new episodes on an every other week schedule with occasional bonus episodes sprinkled throughout. If you're craving more content in the meantime, you can always search the back catalog and/or find juicy blog posts and other resources at dralexandrasolomon.com.

Founder and CEO of YourTango, Andrea Miller, joins Dr. Share to share the power of being a lifelong “seeker” of relational wisdom. Andrea has dedicated her life to connecting her audience with relationship experts and celebrating relational wisdom, and today, invites us into her journey of opening herself up to love's lessons.Relevant links:Learn more about YourTangoListen to Dr. Alexandra on Open Relationships: Transforming Together with Andrea MillerRadical Acceptance: The Secret to Happy, Lasting Love by Andrea MillerOrder Dr. Alexandra's latest book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.

Loss and grief are universal and profoundly human. The death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, a trauma that drastically shifts the trajectory of a life—each spurs a unique grieving process that can be difficult to navigate for both the people grieving and their support systems. As a chaplain at a Level One Trauma Center in Florida, J.S. Park provides emotional and spiritual care for and comfort to those experiencing grief. His support of patients at the end of their lives, and of the loved ones who remain, adds tremendous impact and compassion to his most recent book, As Long As You Need: Permission to Grieve. In this episode, J.S. shares with Dr. Alexandra what his education and experience have taught him about the “right” things to say and the ways to support grieving loved ones. He offers deeply considered insights into our misguided fear of bringing up the deceased, the impact of loss on the past and the future, and how to care for both a loved one and oneself during the grieving process. Relevant Links:Order J.S.'s book, As Long As You Need: Permission to GrieveConnect J.S. on InstagramOrder Dr. Alexandra's latest book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.

What happens when we listen and are listened to more fully, forging a deeper connection? Decades of research tell us that the brain undergoes physiological changes when we begin to “talk without criticizing, listen without judgment, and connect beyond difference.” This is the definition of dialogue coined by today's guests, Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt and Dr. Harville Hendrix. Doctors Hunt and Hendrix are internationally recognized couples therapists, educators, speakers, and a married couple themselves. Through decades of research, they developed the Imago Relationship Therapy method, which is taught to therapists around the globe. In this episode, they speak with Dr. Alexandra about moving from monologue (turning the conversation to focus on oneself) to dialogue (keeping the conversation focused on the speaker), and how listening and ensuring true understanding of a speaker's meaning has enormous benefits to our relationships and our brains.Relevant Links:Harville and Helen's new book, How To Talk to Anyone About Anything - https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/how-to-talk-with-anyone-about-anything/Learn more about Imago Relationship Therapy - https://harvilleandhelen.com/initiatives/what-is-imago/Explore Safe Conversations, A Methodology for Connecting - https://safeconversations.com/Order Dr. Alexandra's latest book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.

Family therapy expert Dafna Lender and Dr. Alexandra explore the complexities of the parent-child relationship. With 25 years of experience, Dafna has a deep understanding of how a child's difficult behaviors and a parent's reactivity can clash and land a family into a therapist's office. Dafna explains how to disrupt this cycle by removing blame, exploring the parent's attachment history, and bringing a sense of joy and playfulness back into the relationship.Relevant links:Integrative Attachment Family Therapy: A Clinical Guide to Heal and Strengthen the Parent-Child Relationship by Dafna LenderEngage further with Dafna's work onlineOrder Dr. Alexandra's latest book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Get 31% off Dr. Alexandra's two e-courses and workbook! Visit http://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com and enter code BDAY31 at checkout from now until August 12th.Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.

When it comes to life stages, “midlife” often gets the short end of the stick. We speak about adolescence and retirement as vistas rich with opportunity and possibility while we joke about midlife and its related crises. However, when we adopt an affectionate perspective, opportunity and joy prove to be just as possible in this “messy middle” stage. Many transitions take place over the decades following age 50. These milestones are no less impactful than those we celebrate, such as graduation and marriage, and yet most of us lack rituals to mark these evolutions and help us build communities of support in this time of great potential.Chip Conley was a disruptive force in the hospitality industry for decades. In 2018, he combined his experiences mentoring at Airbnb with his own midlife transition to launch the Modern Elder Academy (MEA). Today, the world's first “midlife wisdom school” offers luxurious, personal growth retreats in Baja California and New Mexico. Chip is also the author of seven books, including his most recent, Learning to Love Midlife.In December 2024, Dr. Alexandra will be at the Santa Fe ranch location of MEA leading a 5-day retreat for couples centered on healing the past, deepening connection, and creating a relational vision for the future. You can attend with your partner or on your own. To learn more about the retreat, Loving You Without Losing Me: A Retreat for Couples, visit the website and schedule a free consultation call with the MEA admissions team.Whether you are approaching midlife, are in the midst of it, or if midlife is in your rearview mirror, Chip's affectionate and curious approach to this often overlooked and undervalued stage will illuminate new outlooks and possibilities for how we lean into life's transitions.Relevant Links:Read Chip's latest book Learning to Love MidlifeLearn more about Chip and get his free Anatomy of a Transition resource on his websiteLearn more about Dr. Alexandra's December 2024 retreat at MEAOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.

Research shows that gender socialization plays out most rigidly in our intimate relationships. How do we learn to separate our thoughts and actions from our socialization? In this episode, podcaster, author, and feminist coach Kara Loewentheil joins Dr. Alexandra for an expansive conversation that confronts the ways in which patriarchy influences our thoughts, beliefs, and actions.Relevant links:Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head--And How to Get It Out  a New York Times Bestseller by Kara LoewentheilListen to the Unf*ck Your Brain PodcastOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off at https://www.getkion.com/OSLP with the discount code OSLP.

When there is a lack of lust decades into an otherwise loving marriage or relationship, many, if not most, women assume their indifference to sex is a result of declining hormone levels and that a prescription for estrogen, testosterone or a libido enhancing drug will re-light the flame. A plunge in hormones can be part of the problem, and sometimes a trip to the pharmacy will help, but there are a lot of other reasons that have nothing to do with hormones or menopause that impact on keeping that sexual spark alive.  In this episode, I am joined Dr. Alexandra Solomon, the author of Loving Bravely, Taking Sexy Back, and her latest book, Love Every Day- 365 relational self-awareness practices, to help your relationship heal, grow and thrive.  We discuss:   Is the MONOTONY of monogamy inevitable?  What is “RELATIONAL SELF AWARENESS”? What is UNPACKING and why is it important? Tips to CONFLICT RESOLUTION as opposed to conflict escalation?  What if you are in a good place in terms of love and intimacy, but are worried about losing that connection over time?  Why it is important to understand your PARENTS relationship to have better adult relationships LEAVE the relationship or FIX the relationship?  What if you “love them” but are not “In love with them?”   What do you tell women when it comes to LIBIDO DRUGS to reignite the spark? Why women are often resistant to SEX THERAPY? How past sexual TRAUMA can inform current sexual experiences, and how to reclaim pleasure Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework for Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Alexandra is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular Instagram page, which has garnered over 220k followers. She is on the faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, reaches tens of thousands of listeners across the globe each week and features deep dives into complex relationship dynamics as well as conversations with high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture.  Dr. Alexandra Solomon https://dralexandrasolomon.com/ Dr. Solomon's Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/  Loving Bravely by Dr. Alexandra Solomon https://bookshop.org/books/loving-bravely-twenty-lessons-of-self-discovery-to-help-you-get-the-love-you-want/9781626255814 Taking Sexy Back by Dr. Alexandra Solomon https://bookshop.org/books/taking-sexy-back-how-to-own-your-sexuality-and-create-the-relationships-you-want/9781684033461 Reimagining Love, Dr. Solomon's podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386 Love Every Day https://www.amazon.com/Love-Every-Day-Self-Awareness-Relationship/dp/1683736532 For more information on this topic:  Episode 8: When Painful Sex Leads to Problem Relationships  with Dr. Sheryl Kingsberg Episode 10: Dating After 50- Make it Awesome Not Awful- With Bela Gandhi Episode 20:  Is non-monogamy having a moment? With Dr. Wednesday Martin Episode 41 Why Men go Missing in Bed with Dr. Stephen Snyder  Episode 54 What Happens During Sex Therapy with Rachel Zar  Episode 89  Faking Orgasm with Rachel Zar Episode 115 “Do You Have Good Sex? A visit with Dr. Ruth   Slip Sliding Away: Turning Back the Clock on Your Vagina-A gynecologist's guide to eliminating post-menopause dryness and pain Dr. Streicher's Inside Information podcast is not intended to replace medical advice and should be used to supplement, not replace, care by your personal health care clinician. Dr. Streicher disclaims liability for any medical outcomes that may occur because of applying methods suggested or discussed in this podcast. Lauren Streicher, MD is a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University's Feinberg School of Medicine, and the founding medical director of the Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Medicine and Menopause. She is a certified menopause practitioner of The Menopause Society.  Sign up to receive DR. STREICHER'S FREE NEWSLETTER Dr. Streicher is the medical correspondent for Chicago's top-rated news program, the WGN Morning News, and has been seen on The Today Show, Good Morning America, The Oprah Winfrey Show, CNN, NPR, Dr. Radio, Nightline, Fox and Friends, The Steve Harvey Show, CBS This Morning, ABC News Now, NBCNightlyNews,20/20, and World News Tonight. She is an expert source for many magazines and serves on the medical advisory board of The Kinsey Institute, Self Magazine, and Prevention Magazine. She writes a regular column for The Ethel by AARP and Prevention Magazine.  Subscribe and Follow Dr. Streicher on  DrStreicher.com Instagram @DrStreich Facebook  @DrStreicher YouTube  DrStreicherTV LinkedIn @DrStreicher Books by Lauren Streicher, MD  Slip Sliding Away: Turning Back the Clock on Your Vagina-A gynecologist's guide to eliminating post-menopause dryness and pain Hot Flash Hell: A Gynecologist's Guide to Turning Down the Heat Sex Rx- Hormones, Health, and Your Best Sex Ever The Essential Guide to Hysterectomy Come Again! A Guide to Midlife Libido and Orgasm  (available for pre-order)  To Find a Menopause Clinician Episode 46 Finding a Menopause Clinician Who Will Listen Midi Health  joinmidi.com Midi Health is a telehealth company that provides high level menopause care and also takes insurance in all 50 states. Dr. Streicher is Midi's Medical Director of Education and Community Outreach and is familiar with their medical protocols, which are all regularly updated and set by the top academic menopause experts in the country.  The Menopause Society- Certified Menopause Practitioner List Menopause.org To find a menopause practitioner: https://portal.menopause.org/NAMS/NAMS/Directory/Menopause-Practitioner.aspx Put in your zip code and designate NCMP or CMSP to get a certified menopause practitioner. While all people on this list have passed a competency examination, Dr. Streicher does not vouch for every one of these clinicians. Most are excellent.  Major Medical Centers It also may be helpful to check with major medical centers in your area. Many have menopause clinics or lists of doctors that have an interest and expertise in menopause.  If you are in the Chicago area, the center founded by Dr. Streicher:  The Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Medicine and Menopause Sexmedmenopause.nm.org Menopause Masterplan Sessions. Dr. Streicher offers one on one and group informational and educational Menopause Masterplan sessions.  For more information: https://www.drstreicher.com/menopause-master-plan

June 24th marks the two-year anniversary of The Supreme Court's decision to overturn Roe v. Wade. Because Reimagining Love is a show devoted to relationships and helping people cultivate relationships founded in empowerment and care, Dr. Alexandra wanted to shine a light on the pervasive and pernicious impacts of the Supreme Court's decision on individuals, couples, and families in the United States. In fact, abortion has become virtually unavailable or significantly restricted in 21 states leaving pregnant people and their loved ones across the country facing the fears and roadblocks in their attempts to access reproductive healthcare. In this episode Dr. Alexandra facilitates a roundtable discussion with two strong voices in the field who help us better understand the mental health and the relational health effects of living in Post-Roe America– and how restriction of access to abortion exacerbates economic and racial inequality. Shefali Luthra is a health policy journalist who recently released her first book, Undue Burden: Life and Death Decisions in Post-Roe America, and Dr. Pooja Lakshmin is a perinatal psychiatrist and the author of Real Self Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness.Shefali and Dr. Pooja's powerful insights will resonate with listeners who have experienced these impacts firsthand as well as those watching the landscape unfold from afar.Relevant Links:Read Undue Burden: Life and Death Decisions in Post-Roe America by Shefali LuthraRead Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals,  Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included) by Dr. Pooja LakshminThe UCSF Turnaway StudyTwo years after Roe's overturn, there are more abortions in America — but they're harder to get by Shefali Luthra on the 19th Connect with Shefali on X or through emailLearn more about Dr. Pooja's work, subscribe to her newsletter, and connect with her on InstagramOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'Try Kion Aminos risk-free for 60-days with a money-back guarantee. Get 20% off https://www.getkion.com/OSLP - discount code is OSLP.

Dr. Ish Major joins Reimagining Love for a frank and honest conversation about modern masculinity and the communication gap across genders. Together, they discuss what is often missing from communication in relationships, what masculinity means in our modern era, and how truth is the antidote to toxic masculinity.Relevant links:Connect with Dr. Ish online and on InstagramWatch Counsel Culture with Nick CannonReimagining Love Episode: “Come Together: Cultivating Sexual Connection in Long-term Relationships with Emily Nagoski”Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'

Dr. Frank Anderson is a world-renowned trauma expert and author who has dedicated his career to teaching therapists how to help patients work through trauma. Now, in his immensely personal memoir, To Be Loved, Dr. Frank shares his own story of overcoming trauma. In this conversation, Dr. Frank weaves his clinical knowledge with personal experiences to shine a light on how when we unburden ourselves from the past, we can stop replicating old stories and access our truest selves.Relevant links:To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation by Dr. Frank AndersonConnect with Dr. Anderson online and on InstagramLearn more about the Trauma Institute and Trauma-Informed Media.The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der KolkOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Join Dr. Alexandra's five-day retreat with the Modern Elder Academy — Get 10% off with code 'GF10'

What happens in a marriage when one partner likes to save money and one likes to spend it? According to Dr. Scott Rick's research, when it comes to money, opposites do attract. Dr. Rick joins Dr. Alexandra to explain how our psychology shapes how we handle money and how the choices we make around money impact our relationships.Relevant links:Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships by Dr. Scott RickEngage with Dr. Rick's research and connect with him on Instagram and TwitterOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman stops by Reimagining Love to deliver sage and practical advice for daters. With decades of experience in online dating, Damona gives Dr. Alexandra an update on the current state of the apps and explains why so many daters are feeling burnt out. Instead of looking for red flags and buying into tired dating myths, Damona believes the key is getting specific about what we want and who we are, so that we can use the apps as a tool instead of a toy.Relevant links:F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story by Damona HoffmanListen to Dates & Mates with Damona HoffmanOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Try First Round's on Me premium with code 'DOCTOR'Listen to Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

[Content warning: this episode contains a brief mention of suicide. If you prefer to not listen to this moment, please skip this week's listener question segment at the end of the episode]Nedra Tawwab returns to Reimagining Love to discuss what can be our most challenging and vulnerable relationships: difficult relationships with our Families of Origin. Nedra offers empowering tools and relational strategies to help us adapt and redefine these relationships; tools to help us acknowledge when our family members have changed and accept when they cannot. Together, Nedra and Dr. Alexandra explore how this theme connects with a wide variety of topics: the tricky dynamics of in-laws, differing perspectives around the past, and how to navigate painful decisions around estrangement.Relevant links:Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover TawwabThe Drama Free Workbook: Practical Exercises for Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover TawwabListen to Nedra's podcast, You Need to Hear ThisConnect with Nedra online and on InstagramOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question  Try First Round's on Me premium with code 'DOCTOR'Listen to Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra examines a central tension in all relationships: the need for space versus togetherness. If you often find yourself wanting more connection, are you needy? If you typically need more space, are you avoidant? Here, Dr. Alexandra encourages us to ditch the labels and pathology, and instead acknowledge that both space and connection are fundamental needs in an intimate relationship. To help you navigate this, Dr. Alexandra shines a light on the meaning we assign to our orientations around space and shares strategies to help you and your partner create agreements that maximize connection and minimize resentment.Relevant links:Access this episode's companion worksheet hereMating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther PerelReimagining Love Episode: "Let's Talk About 'Sleep Divorces'"Hermeneutic Labor: The Gendered Burden of Interpretation in Intimate Relationships between Women and Men by Ellie AndersonOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Try First Round's on Me premium with code 'DOCTOR'Listen to Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Author Molly Roden Winter joins Reimagining Love to share her story of opening up her marriage as a happily married mother and the hard-earned and profound truths she learned along the way. For Molly, her journey of non-monogamy opened her up to more: more choice and self-discovery, and feeling more than her roles as a mother and wife. Relevant links:More: A Memoir of Open Marriage by Molly Roden WinterNew York Magazine's "A Practical Guide to Modern Polyamory"Connect with Molly onlineOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Try First Round's on Me premium with code 'DOCTOR'Listen to Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

What would change if, instead of prioritizing romantic relationships, we made friendships the center of our lives? NPR's Rhaina Cohen joins Reimagining Love to explore the possibilities embedded within that question. In her new book, Rhaina invites us into the worlds of people who've organized their lives around deep friendship and, in doing so, challenge our ideas and assumptions about which relationships should be at the heart of a fulfilling life. Relevant links:The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center by Rhaina CohenListen to "Dear Friend," the song inspired by Rhaina's bookConnect with Rhaina online"Parent–adult child estrangement in the United States by gender, race/ethnicity, and sexuality" from the Journal of Marriage and FamilyOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Listen to Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath join Reimagining Love to share the story of their relationship—the story that inspired their new book, Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. In this conversation, they get vulnerable about how they moved from breaking up to fostering breakthroughs; a journey they nurtured through what they call 'a sacred pause.' In the sacred pause, they identified the patterns that blocked their ability to find authentic love so that they could build a new relationship rooted in safety and interdependence.Relevant links: Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire by Mark Groves and Kylie McBeathAfter purchasing Liberated Love, access the PDF Workbook and free Meditation Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Listen to Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

We've been looking forward to this episode for a while and today is the day! Whether you're manifesting a relationship, already in one and looking to take it deeper, or happily single and calling in more aligned people to surround you— this episode is reaching you in perfect timing. Mark Groves is BACK to talk about all things love, but this time he's joined by his amazing partner, Kylie McBeath to give us double the relationship expansion. Through their candid storytelling, they explore what it means to take your relationship from 1.0 to 2.0, highlighting the significance of taking a ‘sacred pause', the power of self-responsibility, and the liberation found in truth and authenticity. This episode offers a roadmap for anyone seeking deeper connection, both with themselves and their partners. Join us as we uncover the essence of liberated love, inspiring you to navigate your relationships with greater awareness and intentionality.  Find the Complete Show Notes Here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast In This Episode We Talk About:The concept of Relationship 1.0 vs. Relationship 2.0 and the transitions between them.The importance of sacred pauses in personal growth and relationship evolution.How to navigate the challenges of trust and ambivalence within relationships.The significance of self-responsibility and autonomy in fostering healthy dynamics.Understanding the impact of childhood imprints and unconscious patterns on relationships.The role of truth and authenticity in deepening connections and fostering intimacy.The transformative power of setting boundaries and cultivating self-sourcing security and validation.Exploring the healing potential of intentional separations or pauses.Insights into managing anxiety and self-doubt through committed self-exploration and healing.The importance of mutual growth, curiosity, and a shared commitment to evolution within partnerships.Practical advice for individuals and couples on initiating their own sacred pauses.How to redefine and renegotiate the terms of a relationship in alignment with personal growth and change.The influence of external validation and societal expectations on self-identity and relationship satisfaction.Embracing the journey of self-discovery as a foundational element of magnetic and liberated love.  THEMES / TIME STAMPS:The evolution from relationship 1.0 to 2.0, emphasizing the importance of truth & authenticity. (00:09:30)The concept of liberated love and what it means to honor individual paths in relationships (00:23:25)The importance of sacred pauses and self-discovery (00:44:20) Resources: Share your Challenge Manifestation Testimonials for a chance to be featured on Expanded! 2023 Manifestation Challenge Survey Beekeeper's Naturals - 20% off your purchase with code TBMBeekeeper's Naturals Nasal Spray+Beekeepers Naturals Throat Spray Osea - 10% off with TBM10 Plant-Based Body BrushUndaria Cleansing Body PolishUndaria Algae Body OilGolden Glow Body Set – Limited Edition Mother's Day Set! ​​Expanded x Ep. 13 - Mark Groves, Human Connection SpecialistEp. 92 - Mark Groves on Navigating Relationships & Self WorthExpanded x Ep. 262 - Being Your Most Magnetic Self in Relationship with Mark GrovesHow to Use Manifestation in Parenting, Love, and Money with Lacy Phillips | The Mark Groves PodcastCall In Your Dream Partner with Lacy Phillips Expanded x Ep. 148: Marianne Williamson on Moving Towards Love Instead of FearExpanded x Ep. 135: EXPLAINED Love & RelationshipsEp. 265 - People Pleasing, Dating Apps, & Manifesting Self Love – Unblocking: Love & PartnershipEp. 236 - Best in Class The Love/Money ConnectionEp. 279 - How to Unblock & Find Your Manifestation Blind SpotsEp. 267 - How To Find Your Manifestation Blind SpotsExpanded x Ep. 227 - How To Manifest Anything You DesireFind the Unblocked: Love and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including Unblocked: Shadow DIs) Connect with Mark and Kylie!Follow Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath on IGBuy Mark and Kylie's new book Liberated LoveFollow Mark on TikTokListen to The Mark Groves Podcast Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@Lacyannephillips@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast Other ResourcesSubmit to Be a Process GuestText Us: +1-213-423-5226 - (texting is only for US, Canada, & Puerto Rico)Alexis Smart x TBM EXPANDED Flower RemedyTBM Manifestation JournalDid you Finish the Manifestation Challenge? Share your experience with us! Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryAre you in a Rut, Rockbottom, Next Level or Magic Dark? Take the Quiz

Throughout her decades as a therapist, Dr. Alexandra has helped many people navigate being "the affair partner." Participating in infidelity creates an intoxicating yet profoundly confusing blend of emotions and experiences. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra examines the psychology of this role and offers a compassionate look into the surrounding context: the thrills, secret benefits, sources of shame, and potential origin stories embedded within this controversial role.Relevant links:"A Great Wagon" by RumiJournal of Sex & Martial Therapy: "Object of Desire Self-Consciousness Theory" by Anthony F. Bogaert and Lori A. Brotto"Taking Sexy Back" by Dr. Alexandra SolomonFacebook Group: Esther Perel Discussion GroupReimagining Love episode: "Guidance for the Newly Single"Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra confronts a common roadblock to repair: shame. Often, in the wake of relational harm, feelings of shame secretly run the show, causing you to get combative and defensive or freeze, flee, or fawn in essential moments. Dr. Alexandra provides strategies for moving from shame into action—so that you can make yourself available for repair—and gives tangible tips for how to make a heartfelt and effective apology.Relevant links:Access this episode's companion worksheet hereReimagining Love episode: "Why Can't I Get Over It?"Brené Brown's TED Talk: Listening to ShameBuilding Self-Esteem: How Learning from Shame Helps Us to Grow by Joseph BurgoOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Ten years after "conscious uncoupling" first entered the public lexicon, Katherine Woodward Thomas joins Reimagining Love to discuss her powerful rebrand of what's possible after a breakup or divorce. Through sharing her story and dissecting the cultural myths that cause us to view divorce as a failure, Katherine encourages us to bring a sense of generosity and intentionality to the process so that we can transform our relationships with our former partner, ourselves, and our futures.Relevant links:Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After by Katherine Woodward ThomasCalling in the One: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life (Revised) by Katherine Woodward ThomasConnect with Katherine online and on InstagramMarriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage by Stephanie CoontzThe Good Divorce by Constance AhronsUncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate Relationships by Diane VaughanOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Esther Boykin joins Dr. Alexandra for an expansive conversation around the intersection of mental health and our careers. Esther highlights the difference between self-care and self-compassion, and points us towards using self-compassion as an essential tool for improving both our personal and work lives. When we bring self-compassion to our careers, we prevent burnout by opening up a deeper connection to our common humanity. Together, Esther and Dr. Alexandra then respond to a listener who thinks her relationship is being held back by her partner's ambition.Relevant links:Connect with Esther online and on InstagramLearn more about Therapy Is Not A Dirty Word and the Compassion CollectiveWho Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamwork by Dan SullivanReimagining Love episode: "Talking about the Future: Navigating a Pace Discrepancy"Order Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Get tickets for "Creating Your Best Relationship Ever" with Dr. Alexandra on March 21st in Washington D.C.

There's often a disparity between how men and women make sacrifices for their relationship. In a long-term partnership, it's normal and necessary to compromise, but how do we ensure that said compromises don't make us lose important parts of ourselves in the process? Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins us to talk about how to identify, communicate, and retain independent parts of ourselves as we embark on a life journey with someone we love. We talk about… - how to keep the “me” within the “we” - is dating objectively harder now than it was in the past? why or why not? - should we go through our partner's phones as a way to ensure honesty? Remember: when two individuals form a unit, there are parts of their individuality that may be pushed aside. It's not always a bad thing as long as we acknowledge each other's individualities within. Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, phD, is internationally-recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awarness has resonated with millions. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tool people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical pscychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of now 3 books: Taking Sexy Back, Loving Bravely, and Love Every Day. Follow Dr. Alexandra on Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon Get Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every Day here: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/book/ And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @dr.alexandra.solomon Mentioned In This Episode... Lizzo's NPR Tiny Desk Concert: https://youtu.be/DFiLdByWIDY?si=KAXcDxpW1aVmA9v2