The Powerful Man Show

Episode #1084 Ever feel like you've lost your edge at home or like you're walking on eggshells, waiting for your wife to tell you you're doing it right? In this episode, Doug and Chris dig into one of the most common (but rarely talked about) patterns they see in men: the quiet, often unconscious habit of giving up power in relationships. They unpack how this shows up in everyday life from needing permission to make decisions, to becoming another "child" in the household dynamic. Doug shares how even well-meaning guys slip into people-pleasing, indecision, and needing external validation from their partner, all while slowly eroding their leadership. You'll learn why being decisive (even if you're wrong) beats being passive, how routines can help you rebuild internal trust, and what it really takes to stop outsourcing your self-worth. This episode is a wake-up call for any man who's lost touch with his power and a practical guide to getting it back. If you're ready to stop giving your power away and want to lead with confidence again, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's a no-fluff, step-by-step approach to getting clarity, respect, and connection back in your marriage.      

Episode #1083 In this episode, Doug sits down with Andrew to unpack one of the biggest challenges men face in long-term relationships: staying consistent not just for a few weeks, but for the long haul. They get real about why short-term effort isn't enough, why so many guys slip when things start improving, and how old patterns (especially the ones from childhood) keep showing up in marriage. Doug shares a powerful story about a man trying to turn things around after years of being emotionally checked out and why "two and a half weeks of trying" doesn't undo a decade of disconnect. If you've ever felt frustrated because you're doing the work and not seeing results, this is for you. If you're showing up with expectations and getting burned, this is for you. And if you're ready to shift from surface-level fixes to real identity change this conversation cuts straight to it. You'll walk away with practical tools and insights to help you stop the pattern, drop the scorekeeping, and show up in a way that actually builds trust not just today, but consistently. Want the step-by-step roadmap to turn things around in your marriage? Get free access to the powerful training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. No fluff, just clear, actionable tools that actually work.

Episode #1082 In this revisit episode, Doug answers real questions from men trying to figure out how to reconnect with their wives without coming across as needy or making things worse. If you're feeling stuck in a cycle of distance, scheduled sex, or surface-level conversations, this one is for you. He shares actionable tips on how to shift out of the roommate dynamic and start dating your wife again, even if things feel cold or awkward right now. You'll learn why emotional safety matters more than you think, what most men get wrong about communication, and how to stop showing up with needy energy. Doug also breaks down how to reignite passion without pressure, and why honest conversations with zero expectations can lead to the biggest breakthroughs. This isn't theory. It's the exact advice Doug gives coaching clients every week. If you're feeling stuck and don't know where to start, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through what's really going wrong and gives you a proven path to turn things around.

Episode #1081 A lot of guys are stuck in the same loop. You work hard, you provide, and you think you're doing everything right. But deep down, there's frustration. Maybe she's pulling away. Maybe you're walking on eggshells. Or maybe you're just not getting the connection, intimacy, or appreciation you thought you would. This episode is about why that happens and how expectations are often the silent killer behind it. Doug and coach Neil break down the difference between expectations and agreements, and why unspoken expectations build resentment fast. They walk through real examples of how everyday assumptions in marriage who takes out the trash, how often you should have sex, what love is supposed to look like lead to disconnection when they're not talked about. If you've ever thought, "I'm doing my part, why isn't she doing hers?" this conversation is for you. You'll learn how to recognize covert contracts you've probably been making without realizing it, and how to shift your mindset from expectation to possibility. They also share a practical exercise you can do today to start clearing the air and rebuilding real trust and connection. If your relationship feels off, this is where you start doing something about it. Want to fix the problem at the root instead of guessing your way through it? Watch the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through exactly what's going wrong and how to turn it around. No fluff, just clear next steps.

Episode #1080 Ever feel like you've checked all the boxes career, marriage, kids, success on paper but still wake up wondering, "Is this it?" In this episode, Doug sits down with master coach Neil to talk about why so many high-performing men hit a wall, and what to actually do when you feel stuck, numb, or just off track. They dive into what it really means to look in the mirror and not recognize the man staring back. You'll hear real talk about blind spots, why reading books and listening to podcasts won't cut it, and how coaching can help you finally let go of what's been holding you back. This isn't about hype. It's about truth, accountability, and learning how to lead your life, not just survive it. They'll cover what happens when you stop giving to get and finally drop the weight of expectations. You'll hear why men keep falling into the same patterns, and how to finally break out of them. Neil shares what happens when men step away from daily distractions and into a space where they can actually reset. Doug explains why even the most successful men have coaches, and why trying to do it alone almost never works. If you've been feeling like something's missing, this conversation is your sign to stop brushing it off. Want to finally feel clear, confident, and fully in control again? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's straight-up tools you can use right now to start making real change.

Episode #1079 If your relationship is on the rocks, it's tempting to go big. A new car, a luxury trip, maybe even building the dream home. But here's the hard truth trust can't be bought. In this episode, Tim and Bruce break down why trying to buy your way out of broken trust never works, and what actually does. They get into the real building blocks of trust: honesty, consistency, and accountability. This isn't about doing grand gestures. It's about showing up every day the way you said you would and owning it when you don't. They also cover a hidden dynamic most men miss: "safety tests." These are moments when your partner is checking if it's safe to open up again, often disguised as conflict. How you respond matters more than you think. Rebuilding trust takes time, and if you're feeling frustrated by how slow it's going, this episode is for you. It's not about being perfect. It's about being steady. And if you've been reacting, getting defensive, or tying your worth to her mood, this is the reset you need. Start small. Pick one thing this week you can follow through on without fail. One consistent action to prove you're serious about showing up differently. If your marriage is in a tough spot, don't wait. Get free access to the training that shows you exactly how to rebuild trust and connection without long talks or therapy. Watch it here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1078 Most men think of legacy as something they'll leave behind. But what if your legacy isn't about the future? What if it's about how you're showing up today? In this episode, Tim and Bruce dive into the real meaning of legacy. It's not about money, titles, or what people say when you're gone. It's about the emotional footprint you leave on the people closest to you, right now. They walk through three simple but powerful questions every man should ask himself. These are the kinds of questions that cut through the noise and get straight to the heart. You'll also get three micro actions you can take this week to live with more intention, presence, and impact. These aren't big moves that take hours. They're real-life shifts that take just a few minutes but build serious momentum. Think voice notes to your kids, one honest conversation, or a simple new family ritual. It's about consistently showing up, even when life is stressful or busy. Because who you are now is shaping what they'll remember later. If your marriage feels off, don't wait. Get free access to the training that's helped thousands of men reconnect with their wives without long talks or therapy. Watch it here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1077 Ever find yourself messing things up just when they're starting to go well? You're not alone. A lot of high-performing men struggle with self sabotage, especially when life starts to feel steady. In this episode, Tim and Bruce dig into the reasons behind it, whether it's a deep-rooted self worth issue, a nervous system that craves chaos, or an old identity that just doesn't fit anymore. They explore how some men unconsciously create problems just to feel a sense of purpose or control. From procrastination and emotional withdrawal to overcommitting and burnout, the patterns are often the same. The good news is, once you see it, you can change it. You'll hear what actually works to break the cycle and how to stop bouncing between highs and lows in your personal and professional life. If you've ever told yourself "I know what to do, I just don't do it," this episode is for you. You'll walk away with a clearer understanding of where self sabotage really comes from and how to start shifting out of it. We also break down the role of unconscious identity and why traditional willpower won't solve the problem. The goal here isn't perfection. It's progress with intention. If you're tired of repeating the same patterns and want a clear path forward, check out the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It'll help you understand what's not working at home and what to do about it.      

Episode #1076 You know your core values at work. You've built a team culture, held people accountable, and led with purpose. But at home? Things feel off. Maybe you're clear and confident at work but second-guess yourself with your family. You say your family comes first, but your calendar tells a different story. In this episode, Tim and Bruce talk about a pattern they've seen in successful men: strong leadership at work, but little direction at home. They unpack why many guys never define values for their family life, and how that lack of clarity leads to drifting, disconnect, and frustration. You'll hear simple ways to bring intentional leadership into your home, starting with a 15-minute exercise that helps you define how you want to show up with your partner and kids. If you've ever felt like you're failing at home without knowing exactly why, this conversation will hit home. It's honest, practical, and focused on helping you get aligned with the man you want to be, especially when you walk through the front door. You'll also learn how misaligned values can quietly create tension in your marriage. And why setting even three simple core values at home can shift the energy with your wife and kids. It's not about being perfect. It's about showing up with more intention and less confusion. If you're leading everywhere except at home, this is the episode to tune into. If you feel like something's missing at home but you don't know how to fix it, get access to the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's a simple way to start making real changes that matter.

Episode #1075 You'd think selling your business for millions would be the happiest moment of your life. But for many men, it brings something they didn't expect: confusion, disconnection, and a deep sense of loss. In this episode, Tim sits down with Bruce to talk about what really happens after the big win. They share real stories from men who've reached the top only to realize the scoreboard at home looks very different from the one at work. We dig into identity, purpose, the emotional cost of achievement, and why many men feel like frauds even after they've made it. You'll hear why the people at home don't care how big the exit was. Why being respected in the boardroom doesn't always mean being seen in your own living room. And why men often retreat back into work instead of leaning into the harder work at home. We talk about the emotional bank account and what to do when it's overdrawn. If you've ever felt like something's off even when everything looks perfect on paper, this one will hit home. If you're feeling stuck at home, like you're winning at work but failing in your relationship, start by getting clear on what's broken and how to fix it. Watch the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1074 What happens when success on paper doesn't match how you feel inside? In this episode, Bruce shares the quiet crisis he faced in his 40s, one that wasn't loud or obvious, but deeply personal. He opens up about the years he spent hiding behind work, accomplishments, and a polished image, while quietly carrying a weight he didn't know how to name. Through honest conversation, Bruce and Tim unpack what shame really is, how it can quietly shape your life, and why so many men struggle to talk about it. This isn't about fixing everything overnight, it's about being honest about where you are and starting to move in a better direction. You'll hear about Bruce's journey from pushing people away to finally letting himself be seen. He talks openly about what it took to stop pretending and start connecting in a real way, especially with other men. If you've ever felt like something's off, even if everything looks fine from the outside, this conversation is for you. It's real, it's grounded, and it might be the nudge you need to start showing up differently. The goal isn't perfection, it's authenticity. You don't have to do this alone. If you're ready to stop carrying it all by yourself, we put together a free training that walks you through the exact steps men are using to get unstuck and take their lives back. No pressure, no fluff. Just a clear next step. Watch the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1073 In this revisit episode, Gary and Heather return to share what it really looks like when a relationship is built on personal growth, shared responsibility, and honest partnership. If you're tired of going through the motions, feeling stuck in your marriage, or wondering if it's too late to turn things around, this one is worth your time. Heather speaks candidly about what makes a man attractive to her. Not in theory, but in real life. Spoiler alert, it's not flowers or fancy vacations. It's a man who's grounded, consistent, and doing his own work. Gary opens up about what it took for him to shift from feeling stuck to becoming the kind of man who leads without control and creates trust without force. We dig into what being activated really means in a relationship, how to stop being a liability to your partner, and why most women lose respect when their man doesn't follow through. You'll also hear how doing the inner work translates to practical, real-world shifts, from how you show up at home to how your business runs. If you're serious about creating a relationship that's actually sustainable and full of life, this conversation breaks it down in a way that's real and doable. Get access to the free training for married businessmen who want to fix their marriage without begging, arguing, or dragging their wife to counseling. Watch the training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1072 In this powerful revisit episode, we sit down with Gary and Heather, a couple deeply rooted in the TPM community, to talk about something most men avoid: emotional honesty. We're digging into what it really takes to build deep intimacy and trust in a relationship, not through grand gestures but through the simple, consistent act of showing up honestly. Gary shares how owning his needs and communicating them without shame became a turning point in his relationship. Heather opens up about how emotional safety, something she didn't realize she even needed, has become the foundation of their connection. We also talk about what keeps most men stuck. The fear of rejection. The pressure to always be the rock. The habit of hiding behind surface-level communication. But when a man starts being radically honest with himself and his partner, things shift. Real intimacy becomes possible. If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right but still not getting the connection you want, this one's worth a listen. You'll walk away with real, actionable insight on how to start showing up differently without becoming someone you're not. Get access to the free training for married businessmen who want to reconnect with their wives and reignite intimacy without begging, arguing, or losing themselves in the process. Watch it here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1071 If you've ever wondered whether your wife is comparing you to other men, coworkers, friends' husbands, or even her dad, you're not crazy. She probably is. And while it's uncomfortable to think about, it doesn't mean she's a bad partner. It usually means she's hurting, disconnected, or missing something that used to be there. In this episode, Doug and Erin break down exactly why these comparisons happen, what they actually mean, and how to shift the dynamic without playing the blame game. Erin shares the raw truth about how women experience disconnection and why bitterness and criticism are often just cover-ups for sadness and longing. Doug opens up about the patterns he's seen in men who unknowingly slip into the nice guy trap, and what it takes to rebuild trust, respect, and attraction without begging or forcing conversations that go nowhere. If you're feeling like something's off but can't quite name it, this episode will help you see it clearly. Sometimes the issue isn't that she's changed, it's that you've lost connection with yourself. And when that happens, she feels it. Your energy matters more than you think, and when you're checked out, she checks out too. The good news is, there's a way to turn this around that doesn't involve chasing or convincing her to talk. Want a proven way to start leading in your marriage again without long talks or therapy? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It's simple, actionable, and gets straight to the point. No fluff. Just a clear path forward.

Episode #1070 If your marriage feels more like a business arrangement than a real partnership, you're not imagining it and you're definitely not alone. In this episode, Doug sits down with his wife Erin to unpack what disconnection looks and feels like from a woman's perspective. They get real about how so many couples slowly drift apart, even when everything looks fine on the outside. Erin shares what's happening under the surface when a woman pulls away, why she might seem cold, distant, or buried in her phone, and what she's actually craving instead. This isn't theory. It's not a lecture. It's two people sharing what it's really like when the spark fades, and what can help bring it back. They talk about the quiet resentment that builds over time, how to spot the signs that things are slipping, and how to approach your partner in a way that opens the door to real connection again, not more conflict or shutdown. If you're feeling stuck, or you just know you're capable of more than a "meh" marriage, this is your starting point. You'll hear the small things that make a big difference, like how your energy impacts her more than your words. They also talk about what most men miss during postpartum and perimenopause that can quietly break the bond. It's honest, raw, and grounded in real experience, not fluff or surface-level tips. There's no sugarcoating, just clarity on what it takes to shift from surviving to actually enjoying your relationship again. And if you're tired of guessing or walking on eggshells, this episode gives you a clearer way forward. Want to fix the disconnection without long talks or dragging her to therapy? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It's practical, direct, and gives you real steps to shift things now, no waiting around.

Episode #1069 In this revisit episode, Doug sits down with former gym owner and coach David Sherban to talk about what actually works when it comes to building a healthy lifestyle, especially for busy business owners and dads who've let fitness slide. This isn't about hacks or crash diets. It's about taking small, doable steps that actually stick. David shares how to make health and fitness a part of your life without giving up the things you enjoy. They cover simple strategies for building momentum, getting out of pain, managing stress, and making food choices that feel normal, not restrictive. If your back hurts, your energy's low, or you've just lost that drive you used to have, this episode will help you get back on track without overcomplicating it. You'll hear why trying to go hard out of the gate usually backfires and how building a solid foundation, just like in business, is the real key. Doug and David also unpack how things like sleep, inflammation, and even peptides play into your overall vitality. It's a laid-back but focused conversation for guys who want results without needing to overhaul their whole life overnight. If you want to feel strong, clear-headed, and like yourself again, this one's worth a listen. If your marriage has taken a backseat while you've been working on everything else, check out the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through exactly how to spot what's off and how to start turning things around without needing to talk everything to death.

Episode #1068 If you've been cheated on or you're the one who broke the trust, this episode breaks down what to actually do next. Doug and Chris get real about what betrayal looks like inside a marriage, the shame that often comes with it, and how most men either shut down or avoid dealing with it head-on. They talk through how to stop sweeping things under the rug, the exact first steps to take when trust has been broken, and why just moving on doesn't work. You'll hear about the Clean Slate Method, why taking ownership (even when it feels unfair) is key, and what micro-commitments actually look like in real life. If your wife feels distant, if you're walking on eggshells, or if you're the one carrying guilt, this episode will help you see the path forward and it starts with showing up differently than you have before. You'll learn why consistency matters more than big promises. The truth is, most guys try to fix the problem the wrong way and it only pushes her further. Doug and Chris explain what rebuilding trust really looks like day-to-day. They also break down the difference between being needed and being wanted by your partner. And you'll hear why her testing you isn't a bad sign, it's actually your window of opportunity. Want a simple step-by-step breakdown on how to fix what's broken in your marriage? Watch the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It'll walk you through exactly how to get clarity and start turning things around.

Episode #1067 Divorce doesn't usually come out of nowhere. Most guys just don't see the signs until it's too late. In this episode, Doug and Chris talk honestly about what really leads to divorce and why so many men are blindsided by it, especially after the holidays. There's a reason January is known as "divorce season." While you're focused on work or coasting through the holidays, your wife may already be checking out or meeting with a lawyer. This conversation unpacks how good men end up in bad spots, and what to do now if your relationship feels off. Doug shares what emotional safety actually means, how to tell if your wife's already on her way out, and why most divorces that start "amicable" don't stay that way. They also get into why nice guys who avoid conflict often miss the biggest warning signs. If you've ever thought "she'd never leave," this is one you need to hear. The truth is, women usually leave emotionally long before they file papers. And by the time most men realize it, they're in cleanup mode. That doesn't have to be you. If your marriage feels stuck or your wife seems distant, now's the time to act. Not after she's already made up her mind. Want to stop the slow drift before it turns into divorce? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales You'll get the exact steps thousands of men have used to turn things around. No pressure. No fluff. Just a clear place to start.

Episode #1066 Ever feel like you're switching hats all day? One minute you're the leader at work, the next you're the dad, then the husband, then the problem-solver. And somewhere in all that, you start to lose track of who you really are. In this episode, Doug and Chris talk about something most men never admit: how trying to show up differently in every area of life is draining you. Not just physically, but emotionally too. And the worst part? Most of us think we're doing it for the people we love. This conversation cuts through the noise and gets real about why so many men feel disconnected, anxious, or just plain off. You'll hear practical ways to stay grounded, reset your mindset between roles, and stop hiding behind the story that "this is just what it takes." If you've ever told yourself "I'm doing this for my family" but know deep down you're running on empty, listen in. There's a better way to lead without losing yourself in the process. Want to learn how to lead at home the same way you lead at work—without sacrificing your sanity? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It's real, it's practical, and it's where a lot of men start.

Episode #1065 If you've ever felt like you're repeating the same arguments, blowing up or shutting down in your relationship, or avoiding the real conversations that need to happen, this episode will hit home. Doug and Coach Chris talk honestly about how trauma from your past shapes how you show up today. Not in a therapy-session kind of way, but in the real-life stuff—how you react when you're triggered, how you protect yourself, and how easy it is to blame everything on your wife or your situation. They share personal stories about the patterns that used to run their lives and how they started doing the work to shift them. It's not about being perfect or "fixing" yourself—it's about taking responsibility and learning to lead. This is a real conversation about emotional armor, getting triggered, and why most men wait until it's too late. If you're tired of surface-level advice, this is where you start getting honest. If you're ready to stop spinning in circles and start leading at home, go get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It's straightforward, actionable, and where a lot of men begin.

Episode #1064 In this powerful and deeply honest revisit, the men open up about a topic that often goes unspoken—suicide. This isn't theory. It's personal. They've been there. Some have stood on the edge. Some have lost people they love. And they're here to talk about what really goes on in those dark moments most men never share out loud. They break down the real weight of shame, isolation, and the pressure to keep it all together. They share what helped them turn things around and why most guys don't reach out until it's almost too late. If you've ever felt like you're supposed to be the strong one, but deep down you're struggling, this episode is for you. It's not polished. It's not perfect. But it's real. And that might just be what someone needs to hear right now. If you're ready to start shifting things—even just one step—get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. You're not alone, and there's a way forward.

Episode #1063 In this episode, we revisit a raw and honest conversation about what happens when masculine and feminine energies get out of sync in a relationship. This isn't about old-school gender roles. It's about energy, leadership, trust, and polarity — and what happens when those things go missing. Doug and Coach Chris unpack why so many men are stuck trying to be the "nice guy" and how that often leaves their partner feeling more like a caretaker than a lover. They dive into what women actually want: leadership, decisiveness, and safety. Most men have stepped back from this role without realizing it. They talk through what it looks like to lead from the heart, how to rebuild polarity, and small moves that shift the energy fast. If your relationship feels flat or disconnected, this conversation will hit home. Want to learn how to lead without trying to fix everything? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and take the first step toward real change.

Episode #1062 We're revisiting one of our most talked-about conversations — and it's still just as relevant today. Most men think they're showing up as their real selves. But the truth? We all wear masks. Whether it's to protect ourselves, gain approval, or just keep the peace, those masks slowly become part of who we think we are. In this episode, we get honest about why the masks go on in the first place, how they show up in everyday life, and what it really takes to start peeling them off. You'll hear stories from our own journeys and learn the steps we took to start showing up with more truth, more clarity, and more confidence. If you're feeling disconnected, lost, or like something's just off — this is worth a listen. Want help figuring out what mask you've been wearing and how to let it go? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and start the shift today.

Episode #1061  If your wife feels distant or emotionally checked out, you're not alone and it's not random. In this episode, Doug and Erin talk through why so many women pull back in relationships, especially when men start trying to improve themselves. You'll learn what's really going on underneath the surface (hint: it's not about her not caring), and how broken trust and lack of emotional safety can make her retreat even when you're trying to do better. Doug shares a story from a recent men's event where one powerful question helped a husband realize exactly how he'd slipped back into old habits. Erin breaks down the emotional impact this has on women and what makes them feel safe enough to reconnect. They also cover the simple but powerful shifts men can make—things most guys overlook—that create real change in a relationship. No fluff here. Just honest reflection and practical takeaways you can put into action starting today. Want to go deeper? Get our free training to learn how to fix your marriage without begging, talking in circles, or dragging your wife to therapy: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1060 In this episode, Doug sits down with his wife Erin for a real, honest conversation about what happens when women feel like they have to carry everything and what shifts when they start softening back into their natural feminine energy. Erin opens up about her journey from being the "Angry Wife" to creating real connection, trust, and intimacy in their relationship. They talk about the difference between leadership and control, why so many couples get stuck in power struggles, and what actually works to bring the spark back. If you're constantly walking on eggshells or feeling like roommates, this conversation will hit home. You'll hear practical examples of what small changes look like. Things like planning the date night, opening the car door, or even just saying "Come sit with me" can shift the whole dynamic when done from a place of care instead of control. This isn't about playing outdated roles. It's about learning to create a relationship where both people feel safe, seen, and connected. Want to know how to fix your marriage without begging, chasing, or dragging your wife to therapy? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales You'll learn the real reason things feel stuck and how to turn things around step by step. No guesswork, no games. Just clarity and a plan that works.

Episode #1059 This revisit episode dives into a conversation that hits home for a lot of men. Doug and Master Coach Mark Smith break down the quiet trap of needing validation from women. Whether it's constantly checking in to see if your partner is happy, overthinking every interaction, or looking for approval at work, this pattern often runs in the background without being noticed. They walk through where it comes from, why it shows up in relationships, and most importantly, how to break free from it. You'll hear about what it means to be grounded as a man, how to stop giving your power away, and how to build confidence that isn't based on what others think of you. If you're tired of questioning yourself and want to stop chasing approval, this episode offers real tools and a clear path forward. Want help getting started? Check out the free training for married businessmen ready to lead again without trying harder or fixing everything: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1058 We're revisiting this conversation because it's one of the biggest sticking points for men in relationships. You want to lead, you want clarity, and you want a stronger connection—but when it comes to setting real agreements and holding your partner accountable, things get messy. In this episode, Tim and the team break down how to create accountability in your relationship without turning it into a business meeting or a fight. It starts with you getting clear on what you actually want. If you're not clear, there's no way to communicate it, let alone follow through. They share how to bring up needs in a way that invites conversation instead of conflict, how to assume the best without being walked over, and why most men skip the emotional prep that makes these conversations go smoother. You'll also hear why the energy behind the ask matters more than the words you use. If you've ever struggled with resentment, unmet expectations, or just feeling like your partner isn't on the same page, this is a conversation worth coming back to. If you're ready to lead at home with calm, clarity, and confidence, start with the free training that's helping married businessmen do just that. Watch it here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1057 We're bringing this one back because it's a topic that keeps showing up. You start making progress, in your marriage, your business, your health and then out of nowhere, you slide back. It's frustrating, and it's more common than you think. In this episode, Tim sits down with Arthur, Andrew, and Austin to dig into the real reason why that keeps happening. It's called upper limiting. Whether it shows up as self-sabotage, complacency, or just falling off the path, there's usually something deeper underneath it. They talk through how identity, validation, nervous system wiring, and past patterns can all work against you when you're on the edge of growth. The guys also share how they've learned to spot the signs early and what you can do to stay on track instead of resetting every few months. If it feels like you're doing the work but something still keeps pulling you back, give this one a listen. And if you want help staying consistent and leading from a solid place, check out the free training that's helping married businessmen break the cycle and create lasting change. Watch it here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1056 Your wife tells you she needs space, and you're left wondering what that actually means and what you're supposed to do next. Do you back off completely? Do you hold her close? How do you know the difference? In this episode, Doug brings in his wife Erin, a coach who works with married women, to break it all down from her side of the relationship. They talk openly about what's really going on when a woman says she needs space, why those words usually have more emotion behind them than logic, and how to handle it without losing yourself or making things worse. You'll hear how to stay grounded, how to lead with calm strength, and how to know when to give her breathing room and when to pull her back in with love. This one's honest, direct, and full of the kind of insight most men never get. If you've ever felt stuck trying to read her signals or unsure how to show up in these moments, this conversation will give you a solid place to start. Want more clarity on how to lead in your relationship without chasing or shutting down? Get the free training that's helping married businessmen create real connection again. Go here to watch it: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1055 You've been putting in the work. Morning routines are in place. You're communicating better. You're staying calm instead of reactive. But your wife still doesn't seem to notice. Or worse, she says nothing has changed. In this revisit episode, Doug sits down with his wife Erin, a coach for women, to talk about why your efforts might not be landing the way you think. Erin shares what she sees on the other side of the relationship and why some women stay guarded even when their partner is making progress. They get into the fear, hesitation, and uncertainty that can show up and how to lead through it. You'll hear how to show up in a way that feels consistent and grounded, what kind of communication actually helps, and why you need to go all in if you want real change. This is a conversation every married man should hear. Want to take the next step Grab the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It gives you the exact process to start shifting your marriage without needing her to go first.

Episode #1054 A lot of men feel like they're doing everything they're supposed to do, working hard, showing up for their families, keeping it together, but still feel empty, burnt out, or disconnected. In this episode, Doug sits down with master coaches Neil and Mark to talk about why so many high-performing men hit a wall and what finally gets them moving again. You'll hear honest stories from men who've spent years in therapy without results, the surprising stats around male loneliness, and why doing more isn't the answer. This isn't a motivational pep talk. It's a grounded, straight-up look at how to reconnect with your power, your purpose, and your people, starting right where you are. We also talk about what most men get wrong about asking for help, the slow death of becoming the nice guy, and how to stop pushing everyone away without even realizing it. If you've ever felt like you're carrying the load alone or just running on fumes, this conversation is for you. Want a better way to get started? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It breaks down exactly why your relationship feels off and gives you the tools to start leading again, without more talking, guessing, or fixing things by force.

Episode #1053 In this episode, Drew shares his raw, honest story of what it took to hit rock bottom and why that moment became the turning point that changed everything. You'll hear how he went from nearly losing his marriage to discovering a version of himself he didn't know existed. This isn't about fixing everything overnight. It's about learning the tools to stop pretending, take responsibility, and show up fully, first for yourself, then for the people who matter most. Whether you're feeling stuck, distant in your relationship, or just tired of carrying the weight alone, this conversation offers something different: clarity, connection, and a real way forward. No fluff. No clichés. Just the truth from a man who's been through it. We talk about the gap between knowing and feeling, why "leading with love" isn't soft, and how freedom often comes after facing what you've been avoiding. If you're ready to step into a new version of yourself, this one's worth your time. Want to learn the tools Drew used to get started? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's built to help men reconnect with their power and start leading again, without begging, blaming, or talking it to death.

Episode #1052 In this revisit episode, Doug sits down with TPM advisor Christopher Hansen to talk about something every married man needs to understand but few are ever taught. What it really means to lead in your marriage. They dig into what happens when a man steps back from leadership and how that slowly chips away at trust, safety, and intimacy over time. You'll hear why emotional safety matters more than you think, why your wife might be spending more as a signal and not the problem, and how to stop trying to fix things by doing more of what already isn't working. Chris also shares what he's learned from thousands of conversations with men who reach out for support. Most guys wait too long, try to figure it out alone, and don't realize their wife has already started checking out. You'll also hear why "being a nice guy" doesn't always help, and how most men unknowingly give away their power by trying to avoid conflict. If you're tired of walking on eggshells or unsure how to take back control without becoming aggressive or passive, this conversation will give you the clarity and direction you've been missing. If your marriage feels stuck or strained, this episode will help you see a clear path forward. No pressure, no fluff. Just practical insight and real examples of how small shifts in how you show up can change everything. Ready to learn how to lead with strength and rebuild connection without long talks or guessing games? Start with this free training: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It's short, direct, and something you can put to use right away.

Episode #1051 We're bringing this one back because it's one of the most important conversations you'll hear if you're a married man wanting deeper connection and real intimacy with your wife. Doug is joined by his wife Erin, a seasoned coach for women, to talk about something most guys miss. How emotional safety and real presence outside the bedroom shape what happens inside it. If you've ever felt stuck in the same cycle where sex feels like a reward you have to earn or where connection feels out of reach, this is your episode. Erin breaks down what women really want and why so many men unknowingly kill the spark by skipping past the emotional part. They also get into what it means to actually lead in a relationship. Not in a controlling way, but by showing up with consistency, presence, and trust. If your wife doesn't fully trust your leadership, chances are she won't fully open up either. This episode walks through what that looks like in day-to-day life and what to shift starting now. This isn't about becoming someone else. It's about getting back to who you've always been, the grounded, present man your partner deeply wants to trust and be with. Want to learn how to build that kind of connection and leadership in your marriage? Go here to get free access to our training: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales No fluff. No gimmicks. Just straight-up insight and a proven process that works.

Episode #1050 In this episode, we talk about what it actually means to let go and why it might be the one thing standing between you and the life you want. Doug shares a real story about a man whose marriage, business, and family were falling apart. Nothing was working. Then everything changed when he stopped holding onto the stories he believed were true. This isn't about pretending things are fine. It's about being honest with yourself and asking where you might be holding on too tightly. If you've ever thought your wife just doesn't get it or that nothing will ever change, this conversation is going to challenge you. The hardest part for most men is realizing that control and certainty are often just ways to avoid the truth. Letting go isn't weakness. It's leadership. And it takes a level of strength most guys don't talk about. But once you get it, you start showing up differently in your marriage, at home, and in the way you carry yourself every day. Want a real plan to turn things around in your marriage without losing yourself in the process? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and see how other men are doing it.

Episode #1049 If you're the kind of guy who puts everyone else first and leaves yourself last, this episode will hit home. Doug and Chris unpack why self care isn't optional if you want to lead well at home, in business, and in life. This isn't about pampering yourself. It's about learning how to consistently show up as the grounded, confident man your family needs. They walk through how putting yourself last often leads to burnout, resentment, and a quiet victim mindset. You think you're doing the right thing by pushing through and putting others first, but over time it starts to wear you down. And your wife, your kids, your team—they feel it too. You'll hear personal stories and examples of what real self care looks like for high performing men. From simple shifts like lifting weights or taking time to reset, to understanding how your wife views your self investment as a signal of leadership. This is about setting a new standard and leading by example. If you're tired of running on empty or just know you're capable of showing up better, this is your call to take action. Want to start now? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It gives you practical tools you can use right away to reconnect, lead with clarity, and get your energy back.

Episode #1048 If it feels like you and your wife have drifted apart, like you're just going through the motions or living as roommates, this episode is for you. Doug and Chris unpack one of the most common issues men bring up: how to bring back the spark and get the intimacy flowing again in your marriage. Most guys think the problem is sex. But the real issue usually starts way before the bedroom. Emotional safety is what creates the space for connection, attraction, and fun to come back. Without it, you're stuck in a loop of frustration and distance. In this conversation, you'll get a clear look at what's actually going on and what to do about it. Doug shares practical tools that help you shift the dynamic fast, like the Hidden Motives Technique and how to make intimacy something your wife actually wants to initiate. He also walks through how to create an environment where both of you can open up, have more fun, and rebuild that spark without needing long, uncomfortable conversations. This isn't about games or being someone you're not. It's about stepping into the role of a grounded, confident man who leads with clarity and strength. That's when everything changes. Want to go deeper? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's packed with simple tools you can start using right away to reconnect and lead your marriage forward.

Episode #1047 Ever catch yourself wishing your wife would just change? That maybe if she did things differently, everything in your marriage would fall into place? In this episode, Doug breaks that myth wide open and flips the script because real change starts with you. Doug walks you through a practical, no-BS approach to becoming the kind of man, husband, and leader you'd be proud of. He shares simple habits that lead to big shifts, including how to identify the real gaps in your life using a five-area self-assessment, how to build trust through action not words, and how your personal growth quietly calls your partner forward too. You'll also hear how consistency in the small things leads to big results. Whether it's checking in at the gym or committing to honest conversations, it's these repeatable, everyday decisions that build momentum. Doug shares stories from the field and walks you through what it looks like to become the ideal man in your own eyes first, instead of waiting for others to change. This episode is for the man who's ready to lead from the front, stop spinning his wheels, and start making real progress. No drama, no begging, just clarity and action. Get free access to our training on how to save your marriage without long, painful talks. It's practical, clear, and built to get results. Go here to get started: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1046 If you've ever been told to “open up more” but didn't know what that actually means or tried and felt it backfire, this episode is for you. Doug and Erin revisit one of the most important and misunderstood parts of any relationship: vulnerability. They break down why most men think they're being vulnerable when they're actually just offloading, and how that difference can either build trust or break it. You'll hear how real leadership at home isn't about hiding emotion, but about learning how to share it from a place of strength. Erin offers the woman's perspective on what emotional connection really looks like, how safety is built, and why it's not just about doing more. It's about how you show up. If your wife says she feels disconnected or distant, this conversation gets to the root of it. It also gives you clear, grounded ways to start repairing that gap without losing your edge or falling into people-pleasing. This is a revisit episode for a reason. It's one of those conversations that hits differently when you're actually ready to hear it. If you're ready to stop guessing and start leading in a way that actually rebuilds trust and connection, start with the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales.

Episode #1045 You can be the man everyone respects at work and still feel powerless at home. In this episode, Doug and Chris answer real questions from men who feel like they're crushing it in business but falling apart in their marriage. If your wife shoots down your ideas, questions your decisions, or says she's no longer attracted to you, this conversation will hit home. They break down what's really going on when your wife is always in her masculine, how to stop reacting when she tests you, and what it actually means to “be the lighthouse” without shutting down or checking out. You'll also hear how attraction works emotionally for women and what to do if the spark is gone. Spoiler: you have more control over it than you think. This isn't about trying harder or being nicer. It's about showing up with consistency, grounded confidence, and real leadership at home the same way you do at work. And when you do that, everything changes. The truth is, your wife wants to feel safe with you again—but she won't say it that way. She wants to feel your presence, your direction, your edge. If you've lost that connection, this episode is a reminder that you can get it back, but it starts with how you lead yourself. If you want a simple roadmap to rebuild trust and attraction without more long talks or therapy, start with the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales.

Episode #1044 Feel like every argument with your wife turns into a courtroom battle? You explain, defend, try to fix it, and somehow it only gets worse. In this episode, Doug and Chris answer real questions from men who are tired of walking on eggshells and ready to lead differently. You'll learn what DEER Mode really is and why it keeps you stuck. You'll also get real examples of how to stop reacting and start creating emotional safety so your wife can relax and reconnect. Whether she says she needs space, shuts down for days, or tells you she's not in love with this version of you, this episode shows you how to respond without chasing, fixing, or folding. This is about shifting out of panic mode and into calm leadership. It's about taking full ownership without losing your edge. When your wife feels safe, everything changes. And when you stop letting fear run the show, you finally show up as the man you were built to be. If this hits home and you want to take the next step, check out the free training that breaks down how to fix your marriage without more talking or therapy at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales.

Episode #1043 This episode is for the men who crossed the line and now don't know how to fix what's broken. If you've cheated, or you're carrying the weight of a past affair your wife doesn't know about, this conversation lays out exactly what happens next and what to do about it. Doug walks through what women actually feel after infidelity the confusion, the emotional fallout, and the way trust doesn't just crack but completely collapses. He also breaks down what typically happens to men in this situation. The shame. The guilt. The regret. And how that can either be the beginning of real change or the start of a deeper downward spiral. You'll learn why saying “I'm sorry” isn't even close to enough, why most guys make it worse by trying to buy their way back or shift the blame, and what it actually looks like to take full ownership. If your marriage is on the line, this isn't about defending yourself. It's about stepping up, rebuilding trust one small promise at a time, and showing your wife that the man she married still exists. Whether you're trying to save your relationship or just starting to face the impact of what happened, this episode is a grounded place to start. If you're ready to stop living with regret and want a proven path to rebuild trust, connection, and leadership in your marriage, go to https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and get the free training. It will show you how to take action and lead your relationship forward.

Episode #1042 In this episode, Doug and Chris answer real questions from men dealing with the silent drift in their relationships. One guy's wife hides her phone and avoids conversation. Another gets shot down every time he tries to initiate intimacy. Sound familiar? They talk about why therapy often leaves couples stuck in the past and how most men unknowingly fall into the “nice guy” trap trying to fix things by being extra helpful, only to lose polarity and respect in the process. You'll hear coaching insights around what to do when your wife feels more connected to her phone than to you, and how to take action without coming off as needy or overbearing. This isn't about chasing or begging. It's about showing up in a grounded, confident way that actually shifts the dynamic. If you've been asking yourself, “Why does she feel so distant?” or “How do I make a move without risking rejection again?” this conversation is for you. If you're ready to get a clear plan for how to reconnect with your wife and turn things around without more painful talks or guessing what to do next, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's direct, simple to follow, and built for men who want to lead with confidence again.

Episode #1041 In this episode, we're answering a straight-up question from a listener. “I feel like my wife and I are just roommates. There's no spark. How do I get the passion back without begging for sex?” Doug Holt and Chris Hansen dive into what's really going on when men feel stuck in this kind of dynamic. They talk about the shift from being a strong partner to slipping into the “nice guy” role. It sounds helpful on the surface but often kills the attraction behind the scenes. If you're feeling unappreciated, walking on eggshells, or stuck trying to fix things by doing more chores or being extra nice, this will be eye-opening. You'll learn why that approach usually backfires and what to do instead. They also walk through key tools like the Triadic Connection and how to rebuild trust, emotional safety, and attraction in your marriage without begging or forcing anything. It's all about leading from a grounded, confident place. This is real talk for men who want to turn things around and lead at home the same way they lead at work. If your marriage feels off and you're ready to fix it without more talking or guessing, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It gives you the tools to reconnect and lead again. No fluff. Just a clear path forward.

Episode #1040 We're revisiting one of the most eye-opening conversations we've had on the show. Most men were never taught how women's cycles really work. Most women weren't either. Yet when you start to understand what's happening week by week, everything changes in your relationship. In this revisit, Doug is joined by his wife Erin, who breaks down the four phases of a woman's cycle and shows men how to support their partners in practical, everyday ways. You'll hear why she feels like a different woman at different times, how to time conversations and intimacy better, and why this knowledge is just as valuable for dads and even business leaders. This isn't about fixing her. It's about understanding her. When you do, you create more connection, safety, and intimacy at home. If your marriage feels off track and you're ready for a clear way forward, watch the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It will give you the tools to take the lead and start making changes today.

Episode #1039 A lot of guys think they can only grow by surrounding themselves with men on their same level or above them. The truth is real growth happens when you reach back and help another man who is a few steps behind. In this episode, Doug and Coach Mike talk about what it really means to lead, why lifting other men up deepens your own mastery, and how staying humble keeps you moving forward. They share stories about fatherhood, coaching, and the lessons that come when you stop trying to prove yourself and start serving. If you are waiting to feel ready before you step up for others, you are missing the point. The moment you help another man figure something out, the lesson sinks deeper for you too. If your marriage feels stuck and you want a clear way forward, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It will give you the tools to start making changes today and your wife will feel the difference.  

Episode #1038 Most men say they're being real, but deep down, they know something's off. In this episode, Doug sits down with Eric “The Viking” at the TPM Ranch to talk about what actually changes when you stop hiding, drop the mask, and start showing up as your true self. Eric opens up about the shift that happened when he finally got honest with himself and others. It didn't come from a big breakthrough or a single moment. It came from consistent, small actions. Real change showed up in how he led his team, how he connected with his wife, and how he carried himself as a man. They also dig into why so many guys stay stuck being the “nice guy,” how fear of judgment keeps you silent, and what it looks like to build a life that actually reflects your values. If you're feeling like something's missing but can't put your finger on it, this one's worth a listen. It's honest, grounded, and packed with stuff you can actually use. Want to fix your marriage without guessing or hoping she'll come around? Get the free training that shows you exactly how to lead again as a man and turn things around starting today. https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1037 We're revisiting an important conversation that continues to hit home for so many men. What happens when the marriage is technically over, but you sense there's still a chance to reconnect? In this episode, Doug answers a listener's question about when and how to approach reconciliation after separation or divorce. He breaks down why chasing your ex or falling back into old habits pushes her further away, and what it looks like to show up with real confidence instead of neediness. You'll hear practical strategies for getting grounded, filling your own cup, avoiding the “deer” response, and practicing engaged indifference so you can create attraction again rather than giving your ex all the power. This isn't about replaying the past it's about becoming the man you know you can be and approaching the relationship in a healthier way. If you've ever wondered whether dating your ex is possible, this revisit will give you perspective and tools you can use right now. If your marriage feels stuck or distant, don't wait until it's too late. Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It shows you exactly what's going wrong and how to start rebuilding the connection today.

Episode #1036 Are you truly living, or just getting through the day? In this episode, Doug and Coach Steve have an honest conversation about purpose, aging, marriage, and the kind of legacy most men never stop to think about. Not legacy in the financial sense, but how you show up as a man, how you lead at home, and what you're quietly passing on to your kids. They share stories of mentors, tough transitions, and the moments that force you to ask, "Is this really the life I want to be living?" From broken trust to burnout, to feeling stuck in the same daily routine, this is a conversation about what it really looks like to turn things around. You'll hear what happens when men stop waiting and start making bold, uncomfortable moves toward growth. And why living with intention today might be the most important gift you leave behind. If you've been playing it safe or telling yourself it's not that bad, this episode might be the wake-up call you need. If your relationship feels stuck and you're not sure how to fix it, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It breaks down exactly what's going wrong and gives you a clear, proven path to rebuild connection and trust without dragging your wife into another hard conversation.

Episode #1035 What really changes when a man stops pretending he's fine and finally asks for support? In this honest conversation, Doug sits down with a couple from the UK to talk about what it actually looks like to grow as a man, a husband and a father. They cover the shift from feeling isolated and emotionally shut down to building real friendships, taking the lead at home and showing up more fully in marriage and parenting. You'll hear what it's like to go from carrying everything alone to feeling part of a community. You'll also hear the wife's perspective on how the change impacted her, their relationship and their kids. This episode is for any man who feels stuck, disconnected or just tired of trying to figure it all out on his own. If you want to understand what's really broken in your marriage and get a clear path to fix it, check out the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through what's going wrong and how to turn things around without guesswork.

Episode #1034 In this throwback episode, we're revisiting a core conversation that's just as relevant now as when it first aired. If you've ever felt like you're doing all the right things but your wife still pulls away, this one's for you. Doug breaks down what really happens when men fall into the trap of chasing their wife. Whether it's constant texts, over-checking in, or trying too hard to fix the relationship, that energy often creates more distance instead of connection. You'll hear why chasing is a form of needy energy, how it kills polarity, and what to do instead. Doug walks through simple shifts that help men lead from a grounded place instead of needing approval. He also explains the triad of connection and why your wife's reaction is not the measure of your success. This revisit is a reminder that your power comes from within. When you stop chasing and start leading, everything changes.