The Powerful Man Show

Episode #1058 We're revisiting this conversation because it's one of the biggest sticking points for men in relationships. You want to lead, you want clarity, and you want a stronger connection—but when it comes to setting real agreements and holding your partner accountable, things get messy. In this episode, Tim and the team break down how to create accountability in your relationship without turning it into a business meeting or a fight. It starts with you getting clear on what you actually want. If you're not clear, there's no way to communicate it, let alone follow through. They share how to bring up needs in a way that invites conversation instead of conflict, how to assume the best without being walked over, and why most men skip the emotional prep that makes these conversations go smoother. You'll also hear why the energy behind the ask matters more than the words you use. If you've ever struggled with resentment, unmet expectations, or just feeling like your partner isn't on the same page, this is a conversation worth coming back to. If you're ready to lead at home with calm, clarity, and confidence, start with the free training that's helping married businessmen do just that. Watch it here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1057 We're bringing this one back because it's a topic that keeps showing up. You start making progress, in your marriage, your business, your health and then out of nowhere, you slide back. It's frustrating, and it's more common than you think. In this episode, Tim sits down with Arthur, Andrew, and Austin to dig into the real reason why that keeps happening. It's called upper limiting. Whether it shows up as self-sabotage, complacency, or just falling off the path, there's usually something deeper underneath it. They talk through how identity, validation, nervous system wiring, and past patterns can all work against you when you're on the edge of growth. The guys also share how they've learned to spot the signs early and what you can do to stay on track instead of resetting every few months. If it feels like you're doing the work but something still keeps pulling you back, give this one a listen. And if you want help staying consistent and leading from a solid place, check out the free training that's helping married businessmen break the cycle and create lasting change. Watch it here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1056 Your wife tells you she needs space, and you're left wondering what that actually means and what you're supposed to do next. Do you back off completely? Do you hold her close? How do you know the difference? In this episode, Doug brings in his wife Erin, a coach who works with married women, to break it all down from her side of the relationship. They talk openly about what's really going on when a woman says she needs space, why those words usually have more emotion behind them than logic, and how to handle it without losing yourself or making things worse. You'll hear how to stay grounded, how to lead with calm strength, and how to know when to give her breathing room and when to pull her back in with love. This one's honest, direct, and full of the kind of insight most men never get. If you've ever felt stuck trying to read her signals or unsure how to show up in these moments, this conversation will give you a solid place to start. Want more clarity on how to lead in your relationship without chasing or shutting down? Get the free training that's helping married businessmen create real connection again. Go here to watch it: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1055 You've been putting in the work. Morning routines are in place. You're communicating better. You're staying calm instead of reactive. But your wife still doesn't seem to notice. Or worse, she says nothing has changed. In this revisit episode, Doug sits down with his wife Erin, a coach for women, to talk about why your efforts might not be landing the way you think. Erin shares what she sees on the other side of the relationship and why some women stay guarded even when their partner is making progress. They get into the fear, hesitation, and uncertainty that can show up and how to lead through it. You'll hear how to show up in a way that feels consistent and grounded, what kind of communication actually helps, and why you need to go all in if you want real change. This is a conversation every married man should hear. Want to take the next step Grab the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It gives you the exact process to start shifting your marriage without needing her to go first.

Episode #1054 A lot of men feel like they're doing everything they're supposed to do, working hard, showing up for their families, keeping it together, but still feel empty, burnt out, or disconnected. In this episode, Doug sits down with master coaches Neil and Mark to talk about why so many high-performing men hit a wall and what finally gets them moving again. You'll hear honest stories from men who've spent years in therapy without results, the surprising stats around male loneliness, and why doing more isn't the answer. This isn't a motivational pep talk. It's a grounded, straight-up look at how to reconnect with your power, your purpose, and your people, starting right where you are. We also talk about what most men get wrong about asking for help, the slow death of becoming the nice guy, and how to stop pushing everyone away without even realizing it. If you've ever felt like you're carrying the load alone or just running on fumes, this conversation is for you. Want a better way to get started? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It breaks down exactly why your relationship feels off and gives you the tools to start leading again, without more talking, guessing, or fixing things by force.

Episode #1053 In this episode, Drew shares his raw, honest story of what it took to hit rock bottom and why that moment became the turning point that changed everything. You'll hear how he went from nearly losing his marriage to discovering a version of himself he didn't know existed. This isn't about fixing everything overnight. It's about learning the tools to stop pretending, take responsibility, and show up fully, first for yourself, then for the people who matter most. Whether you're feeling stuck, distant in your relationship, or just tired of carrying the weight alone, this conversation offers something different: clarity, connection, and a real way forward. No fluff. No clichés. Just the truth from a man who's been through it. We talk about the gap between knowing and feeling, why "leading with love" isn't soft, and how freedom often comes after facing what you've been avoiding. If you're ready to step into a new version of yourself, this one's worth your time. Want to learn the tools Drew used to get started? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's built to help men reconnect with their power and start leading again, without begging, blaming, or talking it to death.

Episode #1052 In this revisit episode, Doug sits down with TPM advisor Christopher Hansen to talk about something every married man needs to understand but few are ever taught. What it really means to lead in your marriage. They dig into what happens when a man steps back from leadership and how that slowly chips away at trust, safety, and intimacy over time. You'll hear why emotional safety matters more than you think, why your wife might be spending more as a signal and not the problem, and how to stop trying to fix things by doing more of what already isn't working. Chris also shares what he's learned from thousands of conversations with men who reach out for support. Most guys wait too long, try to figure it out alone, and don't realize their wife has already started checking out. You'll also hear why "being a nice guy" doesn't always help, and how most men unknowingly give away their power by trying to avoid conflict. If you're tired of walking on eggshells or unsure how to take back control without becoming aggressive or passive, this conversation will give you the clarity and direction you've been missing. If your marriage feels stuck or strained, this episode will help you see a clear path forward. No pressure, no fluff. Just practical insight and real examples of how small shifts in how you show up can change everything. Ready to learn how to lead with strength and rebuild connection without long talks or guessing games? Start with this free training: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It's short, direct, and something you can put to use right away.

Episode #1051 We're bringing this one back because it's one of the most important conversations you'll hear if you're a married man wanting deeper connection and real intimacy with your wife. Doug is joined by his wife Erin, a seasoned coach for women, to talk about something most guys miss. How emotional safety and real presence outside the bedroom shape what happens inside it. If you've ever felt stuck in the same cycle where sex feels like a reward you have to earn or where connection feels out of reach, this is your episode. Erin breaks down what women really want and why so many men unknowingly kill the spark by skipping past the emotional part. They also get into what it means to actually lead in a relationship. Not in a controlling way, but by showing up with consistency, presence, and trust. If your wife doesn't fully trust your leadership, chances are she won't fully open up either. This episode walks through what that looks like in day-to-day life and what to shift starting now. This isn't about becoming someone else. It's about getting back to who you've always been, the grounded, present man your partner deeply wants to trust and be with. Want to learn how to build that kind of connection and leadership in your marriage? Go here to get free access to our training: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales No fluff. No gimmicks. Just straight-up insight and a proven process that works.

Episode #1050 In this episode, we talk about what it actually means to let go and why it might be the one thing standing between you and the life you want. Doug shares a real story about a man whose marriage, business, and family were falling apart. Nothing was working. Then everything changed when he stopped holding onto the stories he believed were true. This isn't about pretending things are fine. It's about being honest with yourself and asking where you might be holding on too tightly. If you've ever thought your wife just doesn't get it or that nothing will ever change, this conversation is going to challenge you. The hardest part for most men is realizing that control and certainty are often just ways to avoid the truth. Letting go isn't weakness. It's leadership. And it takes a level of strength most guys don't talk about. But once you get it, you start showing up differently in your marriage, at home, and in the way you carry yourself every day. Want a real plan to turn things around in your marriage without losing yourself in the process? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and see how other men are doing it.

Episode #1049 If you're the kind of guy who puts everyone else first and leaves yourself last, this episode will hit home. Doug and Chris unpack why self care isn't optional if you want to lead well at home, in business, and in life. This isn't about pampering yourself. It's about learning how to consistently show up as the grounded, confident man your family needs. They walk through how putting yourself last often leads to burnout, resentment, and a quiet victim mindset. You think you're doing the right thing by pushing through and putting others first, but over time it starts to wear you down. And your wife, your kids, your team—they feel it too. You'll hear personal stories and examples of what real self care looks like for high performing men. From simple shifts like lifting weights or taking time to reset, to understanding how your wife views your self investment as a signal of leadership. This is about setting a new standard and leading by example. If you're tired of running on empty or just know you're capable of showing up better, this is your call to take action. Want to start now? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It gives you practical tools you can use right away to reconnect, lead with clarity, and get your energy back.

Episode #1048 If it feels like you and your wife have drifted apart, like you're just going through the motions or living as roommates, this episode is for you. Doug and Chris unpack one of the most common issues men bring up: how to bring back the spark and get the intimacy flowing again in your marriage. Most guys think the problem is sex. But the real issue usually starts way before the bedroom. Emotional safety is what creates the space for connection, attraction, and fun to come back. Without it, you're stuck in a loop of frustration and distance. In this conversation, you'll get a clear look at what's actually going on and what to do about it. Doug shares practical tools that help you shift the dynamic fast, like the Hidden Motives Technique and how to make intimacy something your wife actually wants to initiate. He also walks through how to create an environment where both of you can open up, have more fun, and rebuild that spark without needing long, uncomfortable conversations. This isn't about games or being someone you're not. It's about stepping into the role of a grounded, confident man who leads with clarity and strength. That's when everything changes. Want to go deeper? Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's packed with simple tools you can start using right away to reconnect and lead your marriage forward.

Episode #1047 Ever catch yourself wishing your wife would just change? That maybe if she did things differently, everything in your marriage would fall into place? In this episode, Doug breaks that myth wide open and flips the script because real change starts with you. Doug walks you through a practical, no-BS approach to becoming the kind of man, husband, and leader you'd be proud of. He shares simple habits that lead to big shifts, including how to identify the real gaps in your life using a five-area self-assessment, how to build trust through action not words, and how your personal growth quietly calls your partner forward too. You'll also hear how consistency in the small things leads to big results. Whether it's checking in at the gym or committing to honest conversations, it's these repeatable, everyday decisions that build momentum. Doug shares stories from the field and walks you through what it looks like to become the ideal man in your own eyes first, instead of waiting for others to change. This episode is for the man who's ready to lead from the front, stop spinning his wheels, and start making real progress. No drama, no begging, just clarity and action. Get free access to our training on how to save your marriage without long, painful talks. It's practical, clear, and built to get results. Go here to get started: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1046 If you've ever been told to “open up more” but didn't know what that actually means or tried and felt it backfire, this episode is for you. Doug and Erin revisit one of the most important and misunderstood parts of any relationship: vulnerability. They break down why most men think they're being vulnerable when they're actually just offloading, and how that difference can either build trust or break it. You'll hear how real leadership at home isn't about hiding emotion, but about learning how to share it from a place of strength. Erin offers the woman's perspective on what emotional connection really looks like, how safety is built, and why it's not just about doing more. It's about how you show up. If your wife says she feels disconnected or distant, this conversation gets to the root of it. It also gives you clear, grounded ways to start repairing that gap without losing your edge or falling into people-pleasing. This is a revisit episode for a reason. It's one of those conversations that hits differently when you're actually ready to hear it. If you're ready to stop guessing and start leading in a way that actually rebuilds trust and connection, start with the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales.

Episode #1045 You can be the man everyone respects at work and still feel powerless at home. In this episode, Doug and Chris answer real questions from men who feel like they're crushing it in business but falling apart in their marriage. If your wife shoots down your ideas, questions your decisions, or says she's no longer attracted to you, this conversation will hit home. They break down what's really going on when your wife is always in her masculine, how to stop reacting when she tests you, and what it actually means to “be the lighthouse” without shutting down or checking out. You'll also hear how attraction works emotionally for women and what to do if the spark is gone. Spoiler: you have more control over it than you think. This isn't about trying harder or being nicer. It's about showing up with consistency, grounded confidence, and real leadership at home the same way you do at work. And when you do that, everything changes. The truth is, your wife wants to feel safe with you again—but she won't say it that way. She wants to feel your presence, your direction, your edge. If you've lost that connection, this episode is a reminder that you can get it back, but it starts with how you lead yourself. If you want a simple roadmap to rebuild trust and attraction without more long talks or therapy, start with the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales.

Episode #1044 Feel like every argument with your wife turns into a courtroom battle? You explain, defend, try to fix it, and somehow it only gets worse. In this episode, Doug and Chris answer real questions from men who are tired of walking on eggshells and ready to lead differently. You'll learn what DEER Mode really is and why it keeps you stuck. You'll also get real examples of how to stop reacting and start creating emotional safety so your wife can relax and reconnect. Whether she says she needs space, shuts down for days, or tells you she's not in love with this version of you, this episode shows you how to respond without chasing, fixing, or folding. This is about shifting out of panic mode and into calm leadership. It's about taking full ownership without losing your edge. When your wife feels safe, everything changes. And when you stop letting fear run the show, you finally show up as the man you were built to be. If this hits home and you want to take the next step, check out the free training that breaks down how to fix your marriage without more talking or therapy at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales.

Episode #1043 This episode is for the men who crossed the line and now don't know how to fix what's broken. If you've cheated, or you're carrying the weight of a past affair your wife doesn't know about, this conversation lays out exactly what happens next and what to do about it. Doug walks through what women actually feel after infidelity the confusion, the emotional fallout, and the way trust doesn't just crack but completely collapses. He also breaks down what typically happens to men in this situation. The shame. The guilt. The regret. And how that can either be the beginning of real change or the start of a deeper downward spiral. You'll learn why saying “I'm sorry” isn't even close to enough, why most guys make it worse by trying to buy their way back or shift the blame, and what it actually looks like to take full ownership. If your marriage is on the line, this isn't about defending yourself. It's about stepping up, rebuilding trust one small promise at a time, and showing your wife that the man she married still exists. Whether you're trying to save your relationship or just starting to face the impact of what happened, this episode is a grounded place to start. If you're ready to stop living with regret and want a proven path to rebuild trust, connection, and leadership in your marriage, go to https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and get the free training. It will show you how to take action and lead your relationship forward.

Episode #1042 In this episode, Doug and Chris answer real questions from men dealing with the silent drift in their relationships. One guy's wife hides her phone and avoids conversation. Another gets shot down every time he tries to initiate intimacy. Sound familiar? They talk about why therapy often leaves couples stuck in the past and how most men unknowingly fall into the “nice guy” trap trying to fix things by being extra helpful, only to lose polarity and respect in the process. You'll hear coaching insights around what to do when your wife feels more connected to her phone than to you, and how to take action without coming off as needy or overbearing. This isn't about chasing or begging. It's about showing up in a grounded, confident way that actually shifts the dynamic. If you've been asking yourself, “Why does she feel so distant?” or “How do I make a move without risking rejection again?” this conversation is for you. If you're ready to get a clear plan for how to reconnect with your wife and turn things around without more painful talks or guessing what to do next, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's direct, simple to follow, and built for men who want to lead with confidence again.

Episode #1041 In this episode, we're answering a straight-up question from a listener. “I feel like my wife and I are just roommates. There's no spark. How do I get the passion back without begging for sex?” Doug Holt and Chris Hansen dive into what's really going on when men feel stuck in this kind of dynamic. They talk about the shift from being a strong partner to slipping into the “nice guy” role. It sounds helpful on the surface but often kills the attraction behind the scenes. If you're feeling unappreciated, walking on eggshells, or stuck trying to fix things by doing more chores or being extra nice, this will be eye-opening. You'll learn why that approach usually backfires and what to do instead. They also walk through key tools like the Triadic Connection and how to rebuild trust, emotional safety, and attraction in your marriage without begging or forcing anything. It's all about leading from a grounded, confident place. This is real talk for men who want to turn things around and lead at home the same way they lead at work. If your marriage feels off and you're ready to fix it without more talking or guessing, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It gives you the tools to reconnect and lead again. No fluff. Just a clear path forward.

Episode #1040 We're revisiting one of the most eye-opening conversations we've had on the show. Most men were never taught how women's cycles really work. Most women weren't either. Yet when you start to understand what's happening week by week, everything changes in your relationship. In this revisit, Doug is joined by his wife Erin, who breaks down the four phases of a woman's cycle and shows men how to support their partners in practical, everyday ways. You'll hear why she feels like a different woman at different times, how to time conversations and intimacy better, and why this knowledge is just as valuable for dads and even business leaders. This isn't about fixing her. It's about understanding her. When you do, you create more connection, safety, and intimacy at home. If your marriage feels off track and you're ready for a clear way forward, watch the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It will give you the tools to take the lead and start making changes today.

Episode #1039 A lot of guys think they can only grow by surrounding themselves with men on their same level or above them. The truth is real growth happens when you reach back and help another man who is a few steps behind. In this episode, Doug and Coach Mike talk about what it really means to lead, why lifting other men up deepens your own mastery, and how staying humble keeps you moving forward. They share stories about fatherhood, coaching, and the lessons that come when you stop trying to prove yourself and start serving. If you are waiting to feel ready before you step up for others, you are missing the point. The moment you help another man figure something out, the lesson sinks deeper for you too. If your marriage feels stuck and you want a clear way forward, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It will give you the tools to start making changes today and your wife will feel the difference.  

Episode #1038 Most men say they're being real, but deep down, they know something's off. In this episode, Doug sits down with Eric “The Viking” at the TPM Ranch to talk about what actually changes when you stop hiding, drop the mask, and start showing up as your true self. Eric opens up about the shift that happened when he finally got honest with himself and others. It didn't come from a big breakthrough or a single moment. It came from consistent, small actions. Real change showed up in how he led his team, how he connected with his wife, and how he carried himself as a man. They also dig into why so many guys stay stuck being the “nice guy,” how fear of judgment keeps you silent, and what it looks like to build a life that actually reflects your values. If you're feeling like something's missing but can't put your finger on it, this one's worth a listen. It's honest, grounded, and packed with stuff you can actually use. Want to fix your marriage without guessing or hoping she'll come around? Get the free training that shows you exactly how to lead again as a man and turn things around starting today. https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1037 We're revisiting an important conversation that continues to hit home for so many men. What happens when the marriage is technically over, but you sense there's still a chance to reconnect? In this episode, Doug answers a listener's question about when and how to approach reconciliation after separation or divorce. He breaks down why chasing your ex or falling back into old habits pushes her further away, and what it looks like to show up with real confidence instead of neediness. You'll hear practical strategies for getting grounded, filling your own cup, avoiding the “deer” response, and practicing engaged indifference so you can create attraction again rather than giving your ex all the power. This isn't about replaying the past it's about becoming the man you know you can be and approaching the relationship in a healthier way. If you've ever wondered whether dating your ex is possible, this revisit will give you perspective and tools you can use right now. If your marriage feels stuck or distant, don't wait until it's too late. Get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It shows you exactly what's going wrong and how to start rebuilding the connection today.

Episode #1036 Are you truly living, or just getting through the day? In this episode, Doug and Coach Steve have an honest conversation about purpose, aging, marriage, and the kind of legacy most men never stop to think about. Not legacy in the financial sense, but how you show up as a man, how you lead at home, and what you're quietly passing on to your kids. They share stories of mentors, tough transitions, and the moments that force you to ask, "Is this really the life I want to be living?" From broken trust to burnout, to feeling stuck in the same daily routine, this is a conversation about what it really looks like to turn things around. You'll hear what happens when men stop waiting and start making bold, uncomfortable moves toward growth. And why living with intention today might be the most important gift you leave behind. If you've been playing it safe or telling yourself it's not that bad, this episode might be the wake-up call you need. If your relationship feels stuck and you're not sure how to fix it, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It breaks down exactly what's going wrong and gives you a clear, proven path to rebuild connection and trust without dragging your wife into another hard conversation.

Episode #1035 What really changes when a man stops pretending he's fine and finally asks for support? In this honest conversation, Doug sits down with a couple from the UK to talk about what it actually looks like to grow as a man, a husband and a father. They cover the shift from feeling isolated and emotionally shut down to building real friendships, taking the lead at home and showing up more fully in marriage and parenting. You'll hear what it's like to go from carrying everything alone to feeling part of a community. You'll also hear the wife's perspective on how the change impacted her, their relationship and their kids. This episode is for any man who feels stuck, disconnected or just tired of trying to figure it all out on his own. If you want to understand what's really broken in your marriage and get a clear path to fix it, check out the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through what's going wrong and how to turn things around without guesswork.

Episode #1034 In this throwback episode, we're revisiting a core conversation that's just as relevant now as when it first aired. If you've ever felt like you're doing all the right things but your wife still pulls away, this one's for you. Doug breaks down what really happens when men fall into the trap of chasing their wife. Whether it's constant texts, over-checking in, or trying too hard to fix the relationship, that energy often creates more distance instead of connection. You'll hear why chasing is a form of needy energy, how it kills polarity, and what to do instead. Doug walks through simple shifts that help men lead from a grounded place instead of needing approval. He also explains the triad of connection and why your wife's reaction is not the measure of your success. This revisit is a reminder that your power comes from within. When you stop chasing and start leading, everything changes.

Episode #1033 Most men want to be better at communicating with their wife but don't always know how. Especially when it comes to listening without turning it into a checklist or interrogation. In this episode, Doug and Chris break down what it looks like to build real connection through everyday conversations — even when things feel distant or tense. They talk about the “collecting berries” concept and how it helps men understand the way women process emotions and daily life. You'll learn why your curiosity matters more than your words, how to ask better questions, and what to do when your wife doesn't open up right away. This isn't about scripts or techniques. It's about showing up with genuine presence, creating safety, and knowing when to lean in and when to back off. Doug also shares how simple questions, small moments, and being consistent can rebuild trust and intimacy over time. They also dive into why so many men feel isolated, how to build real friendships as a husband and father, and the role community plays in helping you stay on track as a leader at home. If your marriage feels off and you're not sure what to do next, go watch the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It breaks down exactly what's missing and shows you how to fix it. No fluff. Just a clear path forward.

Episode #1032 What do you do when you're fighting with your wife and it feels like you didn't do anything wrong? How do you handle conflict without making things worse? In this episode, Doug and Chris talk through the real challenges men face when arguments come up out of nowhere. They break down what's actually going on under the surface, how to lead with calm confidence, and how to respond in a way that builds connection instead of more distance. They also share personal stories about how they've worked through conflict in their own marriages. You'll learn how to create safety, shift your energy, and set clear boundaries without backing down or giving in. This episode also covers how to turn everyday moments like cooking or cleaning into chances to build intimacy and connection. It's not about doing more. It's about showing up with intention, even in the middle of a busy life. You'll walk away with tools you can use right now to reset the tone in your home and start leading your relationship forward. If your marriage feels off and you're not sure where to start, go watch the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It shows you exactly what's broken and how to fix it. No guesswork, just a clear plan that works.

Episode #1031 Feeling stuck trying to figure out your purpose or what's next? You're not alone. In this episode, we dive into the real-life tension that comes when your work no longer feels aligned, but walking away from it all doesn't feel right either. Doug sits down with Austin and Alan at the TPM Ranch to talk about the difference between obsessive and harmonious passion, why so many men chase identity through career, and what it really looks like to find purpose that fits the life you want. You'll hear how both men wrestled with their own questions around passion, family, and fulfillment and how small mindset shifts helped them see what they were missing. It's a reminder that you don't need to blow everything up to build a life that feels meaningful. Sometimes, it's about reconnecting to what actually matters to you and getting honest about what's in the way. They also share stories, practical tools, and real conversations on how to reconnect with what brings you joy. Whether you need a full career shift or just a spark in your current role, this conversation will help you stop spinning your wheels and start getting clear. If your marriage feels off and you don't know where to start, watch the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. You'll get a clear breakdown of what's missing and how to fix it. No guesswork. Just a step-by-step process that works.

Episode #1030 In this episode, Doug sits down with two longtime TPM members at the end of an unforgettable event at the TPM Ranch. They unpack something a lot of high-performing men wrestle with what self-love really means, how we unknowingly block it, and why most guys don't realize they're missing real male connection until they finally experience it. They talk about the weight of leadership, why so many men feel alone at the top, and how being part of a strong, honest brotherhood changes everything. You'll hear firsthand how these men broke through years of internal resistance through laughter, hard conversations, and yes, even tears and finally gave themselves permission to slow down, reconnect, and show up better for everyone around them. If you're constantly pouring into everyone else and leaving yourself last, this one's for you. Want to take the next step toward showing up better in your marriage and life? Get free access to a training that's helped thousands of men get back their power, clarity, and connection without dragging their wife into another hard conversation. Grab the training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1028 Most couples spend months planning the perfect wedding but how much time have you spent planning your actual marriage? In this episode, Doug challenges you to think beyond the big day and start treating your relationship with the same intention and energy you bring to your business. He walks through why your marriage needs a clear vision, shared values, and regular check-ins just like any successful company. Whether you've been married a year or a decade, this episode is a call to stop coasting and start building the kind of partnership you both really want. Doug breaks it down in a way that's real, practical, and doable so you can lead with clarity and purpose in your relationship, not just your work. If you're ready to stop drifting and start leading in your marriage, check out the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's designed for busy men like you who want more out of their relationship and are ready to do something about it.

Episode #1027 In this episode, we sit down with two TPM men to talk about what it really looks like to start a new relationship after doing the work on yourself. We unpack what changes when you show up with clarity, confidence, and your own life already in alignment. They share honest stories about how their relationships shifted—not because they followed some script or played games, but because they focused on being real, doing their inner work, and raising their own standards. Whether you're newly single, dating again after a divorce, or trying to figure out what a healthy relationship even looks like, this one will help you get grounded. We talk about red flags, energy, attraction, long-distance dynamics, and how being present (with your partner, your kids, and yourself) changes everything. This isn't about chasing “the one.” It's about becoming someone who doesn't need a relationship to feel whole—but is open to one that adds to the life you've already built. Want to go deeper? Get the free training on how to reset your relationship, rebuild trust, and become the man your partner is naturally drawn to again. https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1026 Most guys stick to surface-level friendships, talking sports, work, or the usual weekend plans. But deep down, there's a part of you that's craving more. Real connection, honest conversation, and support from other men who actually get it. In this episode, we're recording from the TPM Ranch during the Legends Event with men who've done the inner work and keep showing up for each other. We talk about what it's actually like to build friendships where you can drop the act, say what's really going on, and not get judged for it. The guys share how these bonds didn't just happen. They were built, rep by rep, by showing up even when it felt uncomfortable. If you've ever thought, “I don't have any men in my life I can talk to like this,” this one's for you. We talk about what to do when you feel isolated, how to start small, and why just taking one small risk to connect could change everything. Want to go deeper? If your marriage is on shaky ground or you're just feeling stuck, check out this free training: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It's straightforward, no fluff, and gives you a real path forward.

Episode #1025  What happens when you don't give your team the space to grow? They either leave for somewhere that will or they stay and go stagnant—and that's even worse. In this revisit episode, Doug and Tim break down why investing in your people isn't just a nice idea, it's essential if you want long-term success. They share stories from recent team retreats, the lessons learned from bringing people together from around the world, and why real connection goes deeper than cheesy team-building exercises. You'll hear how culture, clarity, and genuine bonding moments make a huge difference in keeping top players engaged and motivated. If you've ever wondered how to build a team that's aligned, loyal, and excited about the mission, this conversation will give you practical takeaways you can use right now. Want clarity in your own relationship the way you want clarity in your business? Get the free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It shows you exactly what's broken and gives you a step-by-step way to fix it so you can bring back the respect, love, and connection that's been missing.

Episode #1024  Ever feel like you're doing life on your own, even when you're surrounded by people? In this episode, Doug sits down with two TPM legends, Mike and Justin, to talk straight about what real camaraderie looks like, why it matters, and how it changes everything from your business to your relationships. They get into the power of being around like-minded men, how vulnerability actually builds trust (not weakness), and what happens when you stop comparing and start connecting. It's not about fake hype or locker room bravado. This is about having people in your corner who hold you to a higher standard and won't let you fall behind. You'll also hear how these guys built lasting brotherhood through shared struggles, open conversations, and calling each other out with love. If you've ever felt like something's missing in your circle or you're ready to stop lone-wolfing your growth, this episode is for you. Want to stop guessing and actually fix what's broken in your relationship? Grab your free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It breaks down exactly what's not working and gives you a clear plan to get your wife looking at you the way she used to. No fluff, just results.

Episode #1023 If you've ever apologized to your wife and felt like it didn't land or made things more tense, this episode is for you. We talk about why “sorry” often falls flat, what your wife is really looking for, and how to approach conflict in a way that actually builds trust instead of just trying to smooth things over. We also break down the importance of knowing your deeper why, not just for your marriage but for yourself. Because if you're not clear on what you're really fighting for, you're just spinning your wheels. This one's about getting honest, showing up with purpose, and learning how to lead with more than just words. If you're tired of trying to fix things with quick apologies and you're ready to actually shift how you show up in your marriage, grab the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's a great place to start getting real change.

Episode #1022 In this revisit, Doug and Erin break down a common disconnect between men and women in relationships. What it really means when she's giving you feedback and how to hear it without getting defensive or shutting down. They explore how masculine and feminine energy play into communication and why so many guys misread what their partner is actually trying to say. Erin brings the female lens to the table, explaining the deeper message behind what can sometimes come off as criticism. Doug shares the patterns he sees in men who feel lost or disconnected and why this moment, when you're feeling stuck, is exactly the time to start leading again. If you've been feeling like something's off but you can't put your finger on it, this one will land. This episode is a real-world look at how small shifts in understanding can open up major changes in your relationship, your energy, and your direction. If you're ready to stop spinning your wheels and start getting real clarity, check out the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It walks you through where things went sideways and shows you how to start getting your power and your marriage back on track.

Episode #1021 In this episode, Doug sits down with Erin to talk about what really happens in a relationship when a man feels stuck. Like he's going through the motions, checked all the boxes, but still feels like something's missing. Erin shares a raw and honest look from the woman's perspective. What it feels like to be partnered with a man who's lost his drive, passion, or sense of purpose. They dig into how that affects the marriage, the energy at home, and why it often pushes her into a role she doesn't want to play. This isn't about blame. It's about seeing what's really going on and choosing to change it. Doug also breaks down how to shift out of that fog and start building real momentum again, in life and in your relationship. If you've ever looked in the mirror and thought, “I was meant for more than this,” this one's worth a listen. If you're ready to stop settling and start leading again, check out the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. You'll get a clear breakdown of where things went off track and how to get your power and marriage back on solid ground.

Episode #1020 If you've been grinding to fix your marriage, doing the therapy, the books, the talking but nothing's changing… you're not alone. In this episode, we unpack why traditional counseling often leaves men feeling stuck, and what actually creates real connection at home. Doug and Chris share a real story of a man who spent 20 years trying to fix his marriage the “right” way, only to find out he was missing a system built for men like him. We break down the Triad of Connection, a simple, proven framework that helps you rebuild trust, intimacy, and admiration in your relationship. If you want your wife to feel safe, seen, and desired again (without feeling like you're dragging her through another exhausting “talk”), this episode is a must-listen. Take the next step! Get your free training now. https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales You'll get tools you can use right away to start shifting things at home without waiting for her to change first.

Episode #1019 Ever feel like your wife has built a wall between you? Maybe she's more critical, distant, or just not as open as she used to be. In this episode, we unpack why some women “harden” over time, what signs to look for before it gets that far, and most importantly how you can help shift the dynamic. We'll break down the common mistakes men make (often without realizing it), how carrying the mental load impacts your relationship, and why simply suggesting solutions isn't enough you need to lead with action. You'll hear practical ways to create emotional safety, take pressure off her plate, and rebuild trust so she can soften and open up again. Whether your marriage feels stuck or you just want to keep it strong, this conversation is about real, actionable steps you can start using today. If you want to go deeper and learn exactly how to turn things around in your marriage without endless talks or counseling, get your free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales

Episode #1018 Most men think their wife isn't interested in sex anymore. But what if that's not actually true? In this episode, Doug sits down with his wife Erin for an honest conversation about what women really want in the bedroom and outside of it. Erin shares insights from her own coaching and real conversations with other wives, explaining why emotional safety, shared responsibility, and everyday connection are just as important as physical intimacy. They talk about the things most men miss when it comes to creating lasting attraction, why women shut down, and how small changes in how you show up can reignite the spark in your relationship. If you've ever felt stuck in a disconnected or sexless season, this episode gives you a clear path forward. It's direct, real, and focused on helping you create a deeper, more fulfilling connection with your partner. If things feel off in your relationship and you're not sure where to start, get the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. You'll get clarity on what's going wrong and what you can do right now to fix it.  

Episode #1017 If you're ready to grow but not sure where to start, this episode will help you figure it out. Doug sits down with TPM advisor Christopher to break down the key things to look for when you're choosing a personal development program. Whether it's for your marriage, your business, or your own mindset, not all coaching is created equal and the wrong choice can set you back more than you think. Doug shares his checklist for spotting programs that actually deliver, including what questions to ask, what red flags to watch for, and how to avoid wasting time on quick fixes or hype. They also talk about why so many men hesitate to invest in themselves and what it really costs when they don't. This is a no-fluff, straight-talking guide for any man who's serious about growth and wants to make smart moves with his time, energy, and money. If your relationship isn't where you want it to be, start by getting clarity. Go to https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and get the free training. It'll show you exactly what's off and what to do next.

Episode #1016 We're bringing this conversation back because it still hits home for so many men. On the outside, Stu had everything. Successful business. Healthy kids. Good marriage. But behind closed doors, he was quietly falling apart. No one could tell, and he didn't know why. He just wasn't happy. In this episode, Stu sits down with Tim to revisit what life looked like before joining The Activation Method, the hidden cost of having it all, and the slow unraveling that almost broke everything. He shares what finally helped him pull out of that place and how he rebuilt his connection with himself and his family. It all started with one simple decision. If you're a business owner, high performer, or just a guy who feels like he's quietly losing the spark, this one is worth a listen. It's a reminder that you're not broken. You're just stuck. And there's a way forward. If your relationship feels off but you can't quite put your finger on it, this free training will help you figure out what's missing and how to fix it. https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales 

Episode #1015 A lot of guys feel stuck in their relationships but don't know where to start. They wait, overthink, or say things like, “I need to check with my wife first.” Sound familiar? In this episode, Doug and Erin Holt sit down to talk about what really makes a man attractive to his partner and it's not about being perfect or waiting for permission. They get honest about what women actually want from their men, why leading yourself first is key, and how personal growth (done the right way) can totally shift your marriage. Whether your relationship feels like it's hanging by a thread or you just know there's more potential waiting, this is a real conversation that gives you clarity and a path forward. You'll walk away with a clearer understanding of what leadership looks like in a relationship, how to break out of a rut, and why taking action, even small steps, can make all the difference. Want to know exactly what's off in your relationship and how to fix it without guessing? Get access to a free training that breaks it all down. Go to https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales and start turning things around today.

Episode #1014 In this episode, Doug sits down with Scott to unpack what it really means to emotionally connect with your partner. And no, it's not about talking more or trying harder. It's about presence, vulnerability, and learning how to show up fully as a man. They talk openly about midlife struggle, emotional safety in relationships, and how most guys are chasing sex when what they're actually craving is connection. You'll hear personal stories from Scott's transformation, going from emotionally reactive to grounded and intentional, and how that shift brought his wife closer than ever. If you've ever felt like something's “off” in your marriage but couldn't quite name it, this one's worth your time. You'll walk away with real insights on what it means to truly penetrate your woman, not just physically, but emotionally, spiritually, and relationally. If you're ready to rebuild connection and leadership in your marriage, check out the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. No fluff—just real, actionable tools to help you step up and lead from the front.

Episode #1013 Ever find yourself wondering why you're always the one apologizing in your relationship? You're not alone. In this episode, Doug and Tim dig into a question that comes up all the time in coaching sessions: why is it so rare for women to apologize—and what does it really mean? They break down the emotional weight behind apologies, how gender differences shape communication, and why “I'm sorry” might not come as easily for your partner as it does for you. More importantly, they walk you through what you can do about it. You'll get practical ways to create more understanding, reduce resentment, and open up honest conversations in a way that builds connection instead of conflict. If you've ever felt frustrated or confused by this dynamic, this episode gives you insight and next steps you can actually use. Want more clarity in your relationship? Get your free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales You'll learn exactly what's been missing and how to fix it—without guessing, overthinking, or waiting for your partner to go first.

Episode #1012 In this episode, Doug and Coach Neil break down what it really means to “eat your own cooking”—doing the work you expect others to do. It's not about having all the answers or reading the next book. It's about actually getting in the arena and being willing to trip, fall, and course correct. If you're tired of analyzing your life but still feeling stuck, this conversation is for you. Doug and Neil get honest about the fears that hold men back—especially husbands, fathers, and business leaders—and they lay out a no-fluff path to real progress. Whether it's your marriage, your health, or your mindset, they challenge you to stop waiting and start moving. Vision, accountability, action. That's the path. You don't need more motivation. You need to take the first step. Ready to get out of your head and back into action? Get your free training here: https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales It'll show you exactly what's not working in your relationship and what to do about it—step by step. No fluff. No theory. Just tools that work.

Episode #1011 Doug and Coach Neil get into a real, grounded conversation about what it looks like to lead at home when things are shifting—whether it's your kid pulling away for the first time or your marriage feeling a little off. They talk through the quiet stuff most men don't say out loud: feeling alone, second-guessing yourself, and wondering if you're really showing up the way you want to. This isn't about fixing your wife or your kid. It's about you. Are you actually leading, or are you hoping things sort themselves out? Doug shares a moment that stopped him in his tracks, and Neil opens up about what his son—and his ex—are still teaching him about how to show up as a man with purpose and presence. If you've been coasting or caught in blame, this episode's a chance to reset. You don't need to be perfect. But you do need to be honest. That's where change actually starts. If your marriage feels off and you're tired of guessing what to do, grab the free training at fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales. It's direct, clear, and gives you a real starting point without needing to bring your wife into it right away. Just you, leading from the front.

Episode #1010 Most guys don't realize they're wearing a mask. Maybe it's the “successful one,” the “nice guy,” or the “always-in-control” version of you. These masks usually start out as protection—but eventually, they just make life heavier, less real, and more exhausting. In this episode, Tim, Grant, Arthur, and Jared get honest about the masks they've worn, how those masks formed, and what it takes to actually let go of them. If you've ever caught yourself saying “Why did I just react like that?” or “Why does this keep happening to me?”—there's probably a deeper layer at play. This isn't about perfection. It's about awareness, small steps, and being surrounded by people who will tell you the truth—especially when you're slipping back into old patterns.

Episode #1009 What do you do when trust has been broken in your relationship—especially if you were the one who caused the pain? In this episode, Doug and Chris have a raw, no-fluff conversation about what it really takes to heal after betrayal. They unpack how long is “long enough” to sit in guilt, when it's time to start setting boundaries, and why beating yourself up won't rebuild connection. This isn't about quick fixes or fake apologies—it's about doing the real work: owning your part, creating a new path forward, and protecting your self-respect while also holding space for your partner's pain. Whether you're the one who broke trust or you've been betrayed, this one's going to hit home. If you've ever found yourself stuck in the cycle of shame, anger, or not knowing how to move forward—this is the conversation you need to hear.

Episode #1008 Ever find yourself resisting the very tools you know will help you? In this episode, Doug Holt sits down with fellow TPM coach Christopher Hansen to answer a powerful question from the community: “What part of the program do you struggle to live out in real life?” The conversation is refreshingly honest. They talk about slipping on routines like the Alpha Rise & Shine, avoiding conflict cleanup, and the very human reasons why even experienced coaches still fall short sometimes. It's not about being perfect - it's about being real, showing up, and staying in the work. Whether you're deep into personal development or just trying to get back on track, this one's a reminder that growth is messy, personal, and always worth it. Ready for a gut-check? Give me five minutes and I'll show you where you're really standing - no blind spots, no B.S.

Episode #1007 In this raw and honest conversation, Tim sits down with Justin McAuliffe—TPM brother, coach, and long-time volunteer at the Alpha Reset—to talk about what real change actually takes. Justin opens up about the traps so many men fall into: chasing external validation, hiding behind success, or numbing out just to get through the day. He shares how the TPM process helped him stop pretending, start feeling, and finally come home to himself—not by fixing everything overnight, but by taking small, intentional steps forward. They also unpack what happens at the Alpha Reset (without giving too much away), and why volunteering as a leader doesn't mean you've “arrived”—it just means you're still growing. If you're stuck, spinning your wheels, or secretly feeling empty despite checking all the boxes, this episode is your sign to take a deeper look.