Understanding Personality, Live Your True Voice

We all need a sense of control to feel like our life is manageable. Yet, at the same time, we're all learning what we don't have control over. What's not ours to decide. It's hard not to get triggered by people doing the opposite of what you want them to do. Or to know if your cat is going to knock a plant off the shelf when you can't sit down with them and chat about it after. Our POWER is what we own, and what we protect that we DO have control over. Our attitude is under our control. Our efforts are under our control. But what about the things we fight for, that thought we wanted? Our efforts and attitude are exactly as we want them to be, yet something still isn't right. Things don't work out, or you end up hating it, but because you wanted it so badly, you fight against it. What does that do? You start to feel shame for things "you're not doing enough of". What if it's trying to show you that that isn't the right fit for you? That's alright! Seeing that as a message for your happiness and comfort, sooner, will guide you to the place that makes you feel the best. But believe me, we know that it doesn't feel easy at first. Our understanding of power and control gets scrambled, as human beings in this culture. In this podcast, we'll be applying personality assessments and understanding your customized mind. Differentiating the beliefs of power and control to find PEACE in our every day lives.

"Cheer up", "Happiness is a choice", "Smile, it'll make you feel better". All of these sound simple and heartwarming, don't they? When you're looking at it from the outside, they seem like effective little sentiments. And there's value in them, nonetheless! But what about when you've been depressed for months? For years? What if you have no way to describe the pain in your heart, and as soon as you try, the person you're closest to nudges your arm and says to "cheer up". How does that feel? In this podcast, we're talking about the old belief that "happiness is a choice" (as if it were that simple). Don't you think if we could press a button labeled "choose happy", our ENTIRE world would be a vivid utopia? Depression and anxiety wouldn't exist in most of our hearts and minds. We wouldn't be listening to podcasts and reading books guiding us to freedom, we wouldn't be drinking and venturing until our pain disappears. We want to peel away that repression from you; to break down the facade that our culture is leaves us to portray all the time. We're not always happy! We are human beings on Planet Earth, we feel it all. Today, we want to share the new belief with you, that's it's NOT as simple as one decision with your posture or your facial expressions... for lasting change, we have to go within and see where this pain and this sadness stems from in order to heal it.

You know that old belief that you have to hit your bottom to really be able to heal, to be liberated from what's been causing you so much emotional, physical and mental pain? We hear this stories of people's pivotal points where "their back was against the wall" or "their card was declined at the grocery store", and THAT'S what transformed them. Our culture is left to belief that we have to start from somewhere so painfully specfic. That's an old belief we're here to free you from. What happens when you dig into where that pain really stemmed from? Let's say it's a chronic pain or addiction. The pain may push you to want something better for yourself but what happens when you look within it? How was your body saying "no", when you weren't? What value of your's wasn't being fulfilled? Once you seek your truth behind the pain, we're here to share with you how THAT can be what finally liberates you. In this podcast, we talk about how pain can be a temporary teacher, but the OLD belief is that it is the key to your freedom. We share stories of how this has affected us and people we love; how we believed that the people we loved needed to get arrested or to experience something specific to motivate them to get better. But does that make us more shameful and judgmental? How can we heal with something that brings all of us peace-of-mind, without having to hit the bottom?

Regarding Old Beliefs and New Beliefs again, this one is can be trickier. The old belief that WILL POWER and pushing ourselves beyond our limits; we have that everywhere, don't we? Even on hard days, where we're exhausted, where we're sick, we push ourselves to do more than our bodies and minds can take, so that ONE day, we'll make it to this finish line. Where we're financially stable, where our dreams fit into the molds we've been building, where we tell ourselves, "this is the hard part before it gets easier". It goes hand-in-hand with the "I'll be happy when..." notion, does it not? What about when doing this to ourselves makes us sick? Are we still pushing through it, then too? In this podcast, we're going back to the preciousness of the present moment. How guiding yourself to happiness, forgiveness, and UNDERSTANDING yourself and your needs can happen before you make it to that finish line. How, once you start to create that peace for yourself, the success and things you dream of fall into place SO much easier. And you start to heal right now, opposed to waiting for a 'better time' to do so. When we attach our happiness to our achievements and the outcomes, what happens when we lose those? As our egos are tethered to them? In today's podcast, we tell you just how simple it can be to find happiness and peace, without pushing yourself to the point of physical and emotional pain.

We've all been here, before. In fact, in a lot of ways, we still do this every day. With our dreams of making ten times our current income, having the car we've always wanted, getting to a certain weight, having a ring on our finger... we start to take the idea of those dreams and tethering them to "this is when I'll be happy". Or even, "this is what will make me feel more at peace". We're programmed to be consumers in this world of fitting in, being approved of, credibility, success, and we feel so often that because of these things, time is pressed against us. But what happens when you finally have all of those things you so dearly wanted? Now, having goals and dreams are exactly what we all need-- it's a common factor amongst every human being-- but when we let it become our day-to-day obsession, how does that disguise the "road to happiness"? What things in your mind and heart go unnoticed as we shelve what we really NEED to have that happiness? We're robbed of our ability to be present in the moments we care most about because our temporary 'will power' has us distracted with every superficial mission we set out for ourselves. In this podcast, we're going to dive deeper into the old belief that 'Image Is Everything', or 'I'll Be Happy When'. Showing you that the key to happiness is actually much simpler than those surface-level achievements. What if you could have all of the above?

You would think that we live in a time where vulnerability has a newfound safe haven for people to express, but it STILL isn't quite yet. Many of us were raised or trained not to show our frustration because we'll seem "ungrateful", or for men not to cry because it showed "weakness". How much of that do you still find around you? Where these personalities and characters are expected of us in our everyday lives, where only a fragment of it is permitted. Yet, we as HUMANS are designed to feel the entire spectrum of emotions. We understand what that's like! We grew up in different times than we have today, and though there's been progress, we're still lacking the nurturing and understanding that we need to heal, to grow, and to feel whole. What do you think that does to your body? To your perception of the world around and within you? In this podcast, we talk about why vulnerability is important (in reference to Brene Brown's "vulnerability creates connection" brilliance), and how we can finally start to rid ourselves of the shame that represses most of our authenticity. Sharing stories that you might just relate to, and forgiveness for why things WERE as they were, we'll not only find our way back to the deep connection but to feeling ALIVE, again.

In our every day lives, in pop culture, and in the self-help industry, people are expected to come across as happy, beaming, and sunny at all times. We're programmed into this lie that only some emotions are safe to show. Then, we carry that back home. We all become actors. What do you think that does to your mind? To your GROWTH? To your relationships? We refer to the movie 'Inside Out', where they discover the little girl NEEDS all of her emotions to function. In fact, having her sadness AND her joy is what balances her. To be true to herself and to her parents. She's told my her parents that they need their "happy girl" during their hard times, which is a VIVID example of how we're expected to ACT for the sake of others. But as it's portrayed in the movie and the world around us, it just doesn't work. So, what does? How can we be balanced? When we think about animals that were given anger to SURVIVE, and we feel sadness to CONNECT with ourselves and the people we value, where did that disconnect happen? In this podcast, we share how we understand what it's like to become an actor in our culture; to have to bite back our sadness, and believe that getting 'angry' isn't appropriate. We hear you. And we want to help you understand that it can be safe to be authentic, and how you can start sooner than we did. For your freedom and for your healing, we understand.

This one is a little trickier in the world of Old Beliefs and New Beliefs. It's the belief that our past and our future aren't related. The parts of you that you haven't been able to explain, your habits, the things you're drawn to that others are not; they all stem from things in your past that haven't yet been addressed. Like we've said before, "If you don't let out what you need to, it will LEAK out." There's an insurmountable amount of healing and freedom that comes with seeing your past for how it's impacted you. Looking at your childhood, the things your family showed you, who you were surrounded by, what you become between then and now-- it all goes into what we bring into ourselves, today. And THAT'S one of the most essential things to understand; why you feel the way that you feel, and why we do the things that we do. Don't you think? In today's podcast, we'll be sharing the New Belief that really looking at your past-- though, it can be challenging-- is one of the most freeing things that we've learned to do. How it can give you answers that nobody else can give you. And it can become one of the most powerful tools for your growth and healing, that you can start using right now.

"This OLD way, it not only doesn't work... but it's making us sick." The 'Fake it 'Til We Make It' notion is such a popular one in our culture. In fact, we've been handed habits that create suffering by being told to 'suck it up', 'to pull up our Big Girl pants and keep going'. How many times have you been told something like that, when you were experiencing pain? When we look back on Dr. Gabor Maté's definition of trauma, that trauma is any time you're not authentic to your true self, that means that lots of us are building on our trauma every single day. By not letting out our true, and having so much suppressed inside of us, we're putting ourselves at risk of pain and having the pain leak out in moments that feel hard to control. Why is there so much shame wrapped around sharing our truth? The NEW way that we're going to be talking about is how it's actually brave to be authentic. To express what's hard for you and to be true to what you're going through. To go through your burdens with someone is SO MUCH of what it means to listen to your true voice. To follow your gut instincts, and to follow the path to healing. In this podcast, we're going to be sharing another change from the old way to the new way; what brings us to the healing and happiness you deserve.

You've heard the term that people come into your life for a reason, right? What would happen if we ONLY surrounded ourselves by people who are exactly like us, and we cut out all of those challenging influences instead of trying to understand why they're around you in the first place? What if we never stopped to question what we learned from our impatience or our disconnectedness? We tune out the effects and triggers on our hearts without taking a deeper look at them? "Now there is something to be said about surrounding yourself with Like Minds when you're working on something; we're not quite putting that down. What we're talking about is not judging, right? REMOVING judgment." WE know people who cut other people out, instinctively because they have different views, believes or identities, do you? Without recognizing that having those people have treasures for us to learn and better understand. In this podcast, we talk about how removing judgment from the people around you (and yourself) can make the world around you feel less like a battleground for polarized values. How freeing yourself from judgment can bring you closer to that GENUINE peace. To save us from the isolation that our world has developed with these ideas.

Disclaimer from us to you; this subject may just trigger some strong emotions for some of you. Do you rememeber that story we've mentioned about Jim Carrey writing himself a $10M check to cash when he's reached the peak in his dream career? A lot of people have heard that side of the story, too. It's a popular case of manifestation. But, how many of you have heard his side of the story where... right after he made it, and he cashed that check, he fell into one of the deepest depressions of his life? Why do you think that is? Now, he hopes that everyone gets to exactly where they dream to be, making all the money they desire to make, to see that it ISN'T the answer. It isn't the secret ingredient to happiness. TRUE happiness. What we're going to be talking about in this podcast is how making it to that happiness is achievable whether you start earning your dream income or not. It's actually SO simple, yet we're all guilty of not seeing right away. We'll be sharing with you how we did it-- how we fell into the same obsessions prior to figuring this out-- we want to give you the keys to this so you can see it sooner than we did. You deserve it.

When we're feeling stressed out, we're usually feeling something worrisome about the future. In many cases, too, it's shame and trauma from our pasts. The things that carry heaviness in our bodies and minds every single day. To go within brings us back to the present moment; embracing what's around and within us as they happen. By not staying present, we're losing touch with what matters most to all of us. And with that, comes our unhappiness and chronic pains. Once you create that habit for yourself to go within and be mindful of what's happening this very second; closing your eyes and asking, "What is my body feeling, right now?", "When did this agitated feeling start for me, today?", "What am I surrounded by, right now?", we get that sense of presence back. Our minds quiet down and that overwhelming burn in our minds and bodies starts to simmer. That's where your peace begins. Imagine that becoming a natural state, for you? In this podcast, we'll be talking about how going within and finding that mindful presence is so much simpler than you might think. And perhaps help guide you from anxiety to a NATURAL state of peace.

Having dreams and goals is what keeps us actively participating in our own lives. Some of the bigger ones don't appear as if they could be met without a few years and some hard work; those are the big dreams, right? The ones we answer with when people ask what we've been up to? But have YOU ever known someone-- it could you or a loved one-- that devoted so much time to this goal that it robbed them of most of their days? That they turned down things they knew they wanted to do because they carried a sense of obligation? An obsession, even? And did you start to notice it robbing them of their joy? Because we've been there! In this podcast, we'll be telling you another old belief system that brings us pleasure rather than genuine happiness. And we understand how hard it is to see what it's doing to us until we're deep in the routines. How did that belief system come about? And why does it appear to work so well, from the outside? There's a way to make it to your goals and dreams without having to sacrifice your happiness, and we're excited to share it with you.

Recently, we've been diving deeper into Old Beliefs and New Beliefs; what habits and perspectives do we have as a society that just haven't been working? Why aren't we fulfilled? Why did we ever believe they COULD work, in the first place? It's because our vulnerability has been shamed into silence. Whether it was from our family, our friends, or anyone we tried opening up to, we didn't get the reaction we were looking for. We didn't get the emotional support we needed. Or something, somewhere, made us believe that it's better to shut it out and "keep on keeping on". But the wounds we haven't addressed that have stacked up, over time. What happens to them? What has that been doing to you? In this podcast, we talk about the new way to react to pain, in ourselves, and with those around us. And so we can eliminate the shame and repression that have been making us so unhappy.

This overall subject can be a little hard to truly acknowledge, but ONE thing we only have to lightly research to know for certain... is that we live in a toxic culture. There are reasons anxiety and depression are at an all-time high. Have you ever thought about the connection differences between American culture and Indigenous cultures across the pond? When we spent only a week in Peru, we saw the sense of community, happiness, and support to a degree that is rarely seen here. What about how we take our grief, anger, sadness, and fear and try shutting it out and moving forward without opening ourselves up to it? How have we been doing that? Why isn't it working? And that is just one of the hundreds of reasons so MANY people are suffering. In this podcast, we're going to be unveiling these lies we have in our world. And we want to share with you what truths and changes can FINALLY free you and bring you closer to that genuine peace you're working for by listening here, with us. Gabor Maté's brilliant book: "When the Body Says No" https://www.amazon.com/dp/0470923350/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_MWcqFbKGP0X6J

"You can't force yourself to change... I tried forcing myself out of my depression for two years. It wasn't until I looked at healing the WOUND that things started to change." We had to better understand the powerful mind/body connection, our own individualized needs, and taking a look at where we feel shame and why. In this podcast, we talk about some of the ways you can heal your trauma. Including our successes in the matter, we tell you about some of what we had to go through first. We know that the path to healing isn't an easy one, but we found tools that make this process simpler than it's ever been before. And we want you to have those, too.

"You can't force yourself to change... I tried forcing myself out of my depression for two years. It wasn't until I looked at healing the WOUND that things started to change." We had to better understand the powerful mind/body connection, our own individualized needs, and taking a look at where we feel shame and why. In this podcast, we talk about some of the ways you can heal your trauma. Including our successes in the matter, we tell you about some of what we had to go through first. We know that the path to healing isn't an easy one, but we found tools that make this process simpler than it's ever been before. And we want you to have those, too.

Did you know that Stress IS Trauma? And trauma stunts your natural growth? Did you know that you don't have to have experienced a car crash, an abusive relationship, or a scene written into dramatic films to have been traumatized? We can be traumatized every single day. Referencing teachings from trauma geniuses, like Gabor Maté, we dive into where trauma is misunderstood and mistreated. Believe me, we get it, it's not sunshine and rainbows looking back and comprehending where and when you experienced trauma, but we believe that we ALL have to in order to grow again. Without understanding the ROOT of what's causing you stress, pain and acting out-of-character, all the changes you experience aren't going to last very long. A Quote Gloria Steinem, "The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off." In this podcast, we share what it's like to look back to where your true self and natural growth has been slowed down, and guide it back.

Are you an Introvert living with Extroverts? What about the other way around? Have things been difficult with your family, friends, and relationships because of it? What is it that they-- AND YOU-- need in order to be at peace with yourself and them? To finally get rid of the tension around making plans, and paying attention to what works for life around those people? And RIGHT NOW, spending so much time in one place, how has it felt for you? How has it felt for your loved ones? "We're grieving what our lives used to look like, but we live in a 'suck it up, get over it' culture." How often do you truly acknowledge what you're feeling? And why you're feeling that way? Recently, especially, being aware of what things have been making you feel WILL change every aspect of your experience in the world's madness, right now.

Finding peace-of-mind in times like these are ESSENTIAL, don't you think? To understand what you need to spend every day at ease, EVEN as the world is full of uncertainty? "A federal emergency hotline for people in emotional distress registered over 1000% increase this last April compared to the same time last year." Though we've talked a lot about how going within is the TRUE key to happiness, we hand you the tools to get started on that easier now than before. These tools being a part of the great changes we NEED in times like these. In this podcast, we cast a brighter light on what it REALLY means to go within. We share stories of how assessments and understanding ourselves can save us from these unstable times, and how they've helped us already.

When do you feel emotionally exhausted? What environments seem to drain you, and which ones do you leave feeling light and fully charged? Do you know what you— your personality— NEEDS to recharge, and how it differs from some of your friends and family? How come the things you’ve tried haven’t worked as they worked for them? It’s because YOU have a unique, customized personality. What do you need from the people you care about and what do THEY need from you? In this podcast, we talk about how you can heal, recharge, and feel 100% your BEST by better understanding your unique mind.

Eliminating shame around your weaknesses by understanding how you’re wired, and how you’re NOT MEANT to force yourself to be like the people around you. The people who you’ve felt like you couldn’t be around, collaborate with or be patient with are WIRED differently than you are. But how can you balance each other out? What strengths of yours can benefit those who don’t HAVE your strengths? In this podcast, we talk about how knowing all these ingredients to personalities can finally make all of your important relationships harmonious.

In this podcast, we talk about what distinguishes YOUR mind from those around you, and how we often mistake our NATURAL tendencies for flaws. Maybe you, like us, are the opposite of your closest friend(s) in some way? Does that make it hard to meet in the middle? Have you or they ever carried shame for not being able to BE different for them? What if neither of you had to change to meet in the middle? What if you could stop disagreeing, apologizing, and feeling frustrated with yourself for how you ARE? In this podcast, we talk about one of the most essential roles in knowing true happiness; relieving yourself from shame.

Examples of these personality assessments:DISCMyers BriggsStrengths Finder5 Love LanguagesEnneagram

"To find the COMPLETE answer to joy, happiness and fulfillment, we had to figure out what it WASN'T, first. We had to admit it to ourselves." In this podcast, we share how admitting that we were unhappy was one of the hardest things we'd ever done; some of the hardships, what we gave up, and what epiphanies revealed the path that BROUGHT us to genuine fulfillment. In this podcast, we explain how true happiness is found within... and where that very belief came to us, in the first place.

What DOES it mean to find your true voice? In this podcast, Mandy Keene and Mike Ryan introduce themselves and their stories to you; what brought them here, what powerful tools for fulfillment they'll be sharing with you, what is to be expected of this series, and how understanding personalities (your's and everyone around you) paves your way to true, genuine happiness, as it has done for us.