Podcasts about oppositional

In this podcast, Dr.Paul Sunseri offers practical tools and strategies to help families though conflict, disrespect, and melt-downs with kids and teens! He walks us though different examples of how to reduce conflict and increase family connection. His book "Gentle Parenting Reimagined: How to Make it Work with Oppositional and Defiant Kids" is refreshing, practical, and highly engaging. Paul Sunseri, Psy.D., is a clinical psychologist and father of four who treats children and adolescents with serious mental health conditions. He is the developer of Intensive Family-Focused Therapy (myIFFT.org), a highly effective form of family-based mental health care.To purchase Dr. Sunseri's book, "Gentle Parenting Reimagined: How to Make it Work with Oppositional and Defiant Kids", please go to https://a.co/d/duluUedJoin us for our Children's Mental Health and Parenting SummitOur Childrens Mental Health and Parenting Spring Summit is happening from April 21- 25th.18 masterclasses, plus 5 live workshops, where world renowned experts tackle incredible topics like parental anxiety, getting kids to listen, early parenting intervention, picky eating, resiliency, keeping kids safe online, healing attachment and so much more!The summit is free- and for those of you who can not attend live - recordings are available. To find out more, click here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Raising kids is one of the toughest jobs you will ever have and the one for which you might feel the least prepared. Knowing how to be an effective parent is challenging. Dr. Paul Sunseri offer tools to help parents solve parenting challenges. Through his work with gentle parenting, Dr. Sunseri helps families create loving and supportive environments with kids who he contends are far better behaved and respectful. Dr. Sunseri is a clinical psychologist who treats children and adolescents with serious mental helath conditions. He is the developer of Intensive Family-Focused Therapy a highly form of family-based mental health care, and the author of the book, Gentle Parenting Reimagined: How to Make It Work with Oppositional and Defiant Kids.   Follow CYACYL: Website: www.cyacyl.com Digital: www.cyacyl.com/digital Upcoming shows: www.cyacyl.com/shows Facebook: www.facebook.com/changeyourattitudechangeyourlife Music: www.purple-planet.com

My guest today is Dr. Paul Sunseri. We're talking about gentle parenting and oppositional teens. We get into how to get your teen on board with the limits & expectations you've set. Dr. Sunseri and I do several role plays as an oppositional teen & father to share specific strategies & language. We discuss threatening and physically aggressive or self-harming behaviors and finish on the importance of modeling emotional regulation.   Takeaways from the show Dr. Sunseri's new book - Gentle Parenting Reimagined: How to Make it Work with Oppositional Kids  What is intensive family-focused therapy?  Defining gentle parenting  Gentle parenting “harder kids”  Staying firm without being punitive or shaming  What is oppositional defiance disorder?   Your kids will be angry with you at times - part of parenting is telling your children “no”  Getting your resistant teen on board with limits & expectations  Handling threatening and physically aggressive behavior or self-harming behaviors  What to do/say in the moment when your teen is raging Modeling emotional regulation - if you're modeling explosiveness, they learn to be explosive  Creating a positive, self-sustaining feedback loop with your teen   What should parents look for when finding a great therapist for their adolescent For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you tired of daily arguments with your teen? Do you feel like no matter what approach you take—being firm or being gentle—nothing seems to work? In this episode of Power Your Parenting – Moms with Teens, Colleen O'Grady welcomes Dr. Paul Sunseri a seasoned family therapist and author of Gentle Parenting Reimagined: How to Make It Work with Oppositional and Defiant Kids. Together, they dive into the challenges of parenting strong-willed teens and explore why traditional parenting strategies often fall short with oppositional kids. Dr. Sunseri shares his journey of working with high-conflict families, uncovering what truly works when it comes to setting limits, reducing arguments, and fostering better communication. Paul Sunseri, Psy.D., is a clinical psychologist and father of four who treats children and adolescents with serious mental health conditions. He is the developer of Intensive Family-Focused Therapy (myIFFT.org), a highly effective form of family-based mental health care. One of the key insights from this conversation is the importance of clarity, consistency, and disengagement in parenting. Dr. Sinceri explains that parents often get trapped in unnecessary arguments because teens use red herrings—distractions and emotional outbursts—to steer the conversation away from responsibilities. He emphasizes that arguing with a teen is never productive and that parents should focus on setting clear expectations without engaging in power struggles. Instead of negotiating endlessly, parents should hold firm boundaries and use practical consequences, such as limiting screen time, until responsibilities are met. Disengagement is another crucial strategy—when a teen escalates, staying calm and walking away removes the emotional fuel that drives the conflict, ultimately leading to fewer power struggles. Three Key Takeaways: Stop engaging in arguments: The moment a conversation turns into a debate or escalates into yelling, step back. Arguments require two participants—when you refuse to engage, the conflict loses its power. Use structured consequences effectively: Screens and privileges should be earned, not given freely. By tying them to responsibilities like homework and chores, teens learn accountability without constant battles. Disengage from emotional explosions: Instead of reacting to tantrums or verbal outbursts, remain calm, state your boundary, and walk away. Over time, this teaches teens self-regulation and reduces dramatic confrontations. By shifting their approach, parents can create a more peaceful home environment, helping their teens develop responsibility while maintaining a loving connection. Follow at https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-sunseri-psy-d-54033b7/ Learn more about Dr. Sunseri and his services, Go to his website at https://www.myiift.org/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feeling overwhelmed trying to support your ADHD child? Learn kind and practical tips by downloading the First 3 Chapters of the book for FREE here: https://bit.ly/first_3_chapters -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- In this episode, host Kate Brownfield sits down with Dr. Christie Rogers-Larke, founder and clinical director of Outside of the Box Therapy in South Carolina. Dr. Christie shares her journey growing up with ADHD, her observations as a therapist, and the inspiration behind her children's book, The ADHD Porcupine and the Bunny. Diagnosed with ADHD in college, Dr. Christie uses her personal experiences and professional expertise to support neurodiverse children and their families. Through practical advice, real-life examples, and the heart-touching story of her book, she emphasizes the importance of understanding, compassion, and recognizing the unique strengths of individuals with ADHD. This episode is a must-listen for parents, educators, and caregivers looking to support neurodiverse children better and help them thrive in their own way.  

In recent years, gentle parenting has become popular among parents but it sometimes can be challenging to pull off. With its emphasis on building connections and acknowledging feelings, this parenting philosophy helps children feel supported and valued while giving parents the tools to calmly guide them as they grow and develop.Yet, while this approach seems infinitely better the authoritarian styles of previous generations, parents often find that it can be challenging to execute with kids that are more strong-willed and oppositional. And because these kids can be so challenging and exhausting, many parents often give up on gentle parenting, concluding that it is unrealistic and just plain doesn't work.But parents can be gentle and still get their kids to be much less argumentative and far more willing to do what they're asked. As leading child and family expert Dr. Paul Sunseri reveals in GENTLE PARENTING REIMAGINED: How to Make It Work with Oppositional and Defiant Kids (Routledge paperback, on sale December 6, 2024), there are practical, effective, evidence-based solutions that drastically reduce (or even eliminate!) common daily behavioral challenges. And these solutions are based on a respectful, loving style that today's parents prefer.Whether they are contending with children who are disrespectful, refuse to listen, resist responsibilities, or are unable to regulate their emotions, parents can access a fresh toolbox of effective methods for solving these challenges in this illuminating guidebook. Detailing the nuance that makes each of his strategies so unique and powerful, Sunseri demonstrates how parents can expertly address their kids' problem behavior by calmly disengaging when things get heated, not ever having to raise their voices, avoiding communication traps, setting limits and boundaries, and solving daily behavioral issues without a fight.Also addressing the unique challenges of the twenty-first century, Sunseri provides parents with novel tips and strategies to help kids get things done in a world full of digital distractions. From chores and homework to driver's licenses and part-time jobs, GENTLE PARENTING REIMAGINED helps parents successfully motivate their kids and teens to achieve their goals and embrace a sense of accomplishment and self-worth.Drawing on over forty years of clinical experience working with strong-willed kids and their families, Sunseri presents invaluable insight and guidance to frustrated parents who feel defeated by well-meaning parenting advice that just doesn't work with more challenging kids. Written in an accessible and conversational style, GENTLE PARENTING REIMAGINED offers both parents and therapists everything they need to help families create harmonious, loving, and supportive environments with kids who are far better behaved and respectful.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/arroe-collins-unplugged-totally-uncut--994165/support.

Gentle Parenting Reimagined In recent years, gentle parenting has become popular among parents but it sometimes can be challenging to pull off. With its emphasis on building connections and acknowledging feelings, this parenting philosophy helps children feel supported and valued while giving parents the tools to calmly guide them as they grow and develop.Yet, while this approach seems infinitely better the authoritarian styles of previous generations, parents often find that it can be challenging to execute with kids that are more strong-willed and oppositional. And because these kids can be so challenging and exhausting, many parents often give up on gentle parenting, concluding that it is unrealistic and just plain doesn't work.But parents can be gentle and still get their kids to be much less argumentative and far more willing to do what they're asked. As leading child and family expert Dr. Paul Sunseri reveals in GENTLE PARENTING REIMAGINED: How to Make It Work with Oppositional and Defiant Kids (Routledge paperback, on sale December 6, 2024), there are practical, effective, evidence-based solutions that drastically reduce (or even eliminate!) common daily behavioral challenges. And these solutions are based on a respectful, loving style that today's parents prefer.Whether they are contending with children who are disrespectful, refuse to listen, resist responsibilities, or are unable to regulate their emotions, parents can access a fresh toolbox of effective methods for solving these challenges in this illuminating guidebook. Detailing the nuance that makes each of his strategies so unique and powerful, Sunseri demonstrates how parents can expertly address their kids' problem behavior by calmly disengaging when things get heated, not ever having to raise their voices, avoiding communication traps, setting limits and boundaries, and solving daily behavioral issues without a fight.Also addressing the unique challenges of the twenty-first century, Sunseri provides parents with novel tips and strategies to help kids get things done in a world full of digital distractions. From chores and homework to driver's licenses and part-time jobs, GENTLE PARENTING REIMAGINED helps parents successfully motivate their kids and teens to achieve their goals and embrace a sense of accomplishment and self-worth.Drawing on over forty years of clinical experience working with strong-willed kids and their families, Sunseri presents invaluable insight and guidance to frustrated parents who feel defeated by well-meaning parenting advice that just doesn't work with more challenging kids. Written in an accessible and conversational style, GENTLE PARENTING REIMAGINED offers both parents and therapists everything they need to help families create harmonious, loving, and supportive environments with kids who are far better behaved and respectful. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/arroe-collins-like-it-s-live--4113802/support.

There are a lot of different ways you can choose to parent your children, and chances are you made a few changes to the way your parents raised you. The modern phenomenon of "gentle parenting" is raising eyebrows amongst older parents and grandparents. Dr. Paul Senseri , clinical psychologist and author of Gentle Parenting Reimagined: How to Make It Work with Oppositional and Defiant Kids, joins Evan to explore the merit of the technique and how it works. We then open the lines and ask you... Did you use or are you using "gentle parenting" when it come to raising kids?

Laurence Holmes has an idea about how NFL teams can implement opposition research into their weekly scouting.

Today I'm going to explore the Nurtured Heart application to a child who is so upset by anything that doesn't go their way, that they even resort to aggression. We explore this in two parts. In last weeks episode we addressed how to navigate the actual moment while applying the 3 STANDS of NHA. In this weeks episode, we talk about what we can do after the fact to be proactive in preventing this type of behavior in the future. Enjoy!

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10 Years of the Creative Pep Talk Podcast. Can you believe it? In this episode the tables get turned! Bestselling Author Katherine May interviews Andy J. Pizza about this ten year journey of a creative project. In this vulnerable behind the scenes chat we cover: How to unlock the creative discipline to keep showing up in your creative practice even when you may want to quit sometimes. Why you might want to include personal / vulnerable information in your work and how to think about what you want to share vs what you want to remain private Behind the scenes and creative journey details that Andy hasn't shared before! We talk: Podcasting, ADHD and Storytelling. SHOW NOTES: Co-Writing / Editing: Sophie Miller http://sophiemiller.co Audio Editing / Sound Design: Conner Jones http://pendingbeautiful.co Soundtrack / Theme Song: Yoni Wolf / WHY? http://whywithaquestionmark.com SPONSORS: Miro Miro is a collaborative virtual workspace that syncs in real time for you and your team so that you can innovate an idea into an outcome seamlessly - http://miro.com Squarespace Head to https://www.squarespace.com/PEPTALK to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code PEPTALK

In this week's episode I'm going to explore the Nurtured Heart application to a child who is so upset by anything that doesn't go their way, that they even resort to aggression. We explore this in two parts. In today's episode we address how to navigate the actual moment while applying the 3 STANDS of NHA. In next weeks episode, we will talk about what we can do after the fact to be proactive in preventing this type of behavior in the future. Enjoy!

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In this episode, I unravel how to extend connection to our children while acknowledging that some might see this connection as a threat. I offer insights on toning down the demand for connection, enabling our children to relax in it, and thereby strengthen their stress response system. I also reference the previous episodes in this four-part series by talking about the science of opposition, some practical strategies, and tackling kids stuck in protection mode, all with the aim of providing a comprehensive understanding of making connection a safe experience.In this episode you'll learn:That providing too much connection can often be overwhelming and feel more like danger than connectionTo titrate connection and supply only as much as the child needs or wantsShowing your child you think of them when are not together like buying their favorite snack, titrates connection by showing that you are thinking of them and you see themResources mentioned in this podcast:Exploring Low Demand Parenting: Shifting Power Dynamics And Nurturing Trust {EP 142}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/oppositional4Follow Me On:FacebookInstagramOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book*** Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources :::::Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

Welcome to Being a Parent is Hard! Join us as we talk about why children and teenagers become oppositional and how to best manage their frustrating, sometime enraging behavior. We will share personal and clinical stories and offer both insights and hands-on advice. We can be found on Apple Podcast, Overcast, and Spotify.

If offering safety and connection is the antidote to oppositional behavior, what do you do if connection isn't experienced as safe or regulating by your child?In this episode you'll learn:How connection and protection can get tied togetherHow to keep offering connection, even when it's consistently rejected by your childThe science behind why YOU need to be receiving connection - and how you can do that even if you don't have a lot of extra time or supportive people in your lifeResources mentioned in this podcast:Regulated Does Not Equal Calm {Ep 31}Match The Energy, NOT The Dysregulation {Ep 155}Free Resources - robyngobbel.com/freeresourcesRead the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/oppostitional3Follow Me On:FacebookInstagramOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book*** :::::Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

Last week we talked about the science of oppositional behavior. This week, let's look at strategies to help children rest into felt safety so their nervous system feels better and their oppositional protective strategies can decrease.In this episode you'll learn:An invitation to consider some of our cultural beliefs around opposition in the parent/child relationshipHow to use our grown-up brains to invite connection and cooperationStrategies for creating felt safety in the child's inner worldStrategies for creating felt safety in the child's environmentStrategies for creating felt safety in the relationshipResources mentioned in this podcast:When Your Nervous System Is Fried {Ep 139}Neuroimmune Disorders And Big, Baffling, Behaviors With Dr. Qazi Javed {Ep 97}What To Do After We Mess Up {Ep 80}Parenting Superpower! X-ray Vision {Ep 13}Self-Compassion Will Change Your Brain {Ep 8}Neuroimmune Podcast Series!~ robyngobbel.com/neuroimmuneseriesRead the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/oppositional2Follow Me On:FacebookInstagramOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With"The best parenting book!" "I highlighted every other page!" "This book has transformed our family."You can get your copy of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/book*** Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources :::::Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

What if oppositional behavior is a normal response to feeling unsafe? In this episode, we unfold the layers of oppositional behavior and its roots in the nervous system. We look into the diagnostic complexities of Oppositional Defiant Disorder and dive into how our own state of the nervous system is important in helping our children navigate their Watchdog and Possum pathways.In this episode you'll learn:That even oppositional behaviors make total senseSpending a lot of time in protection mode is hard on the bodyChanging the behavior is not the goal- regulation, connection, and felt safety isThe diagnosis of Oppositional Defiance Disorder is just a label- we have to stay curious about the causes for treatmentResources mentioned in this podcast:Start Here Podcasts - robyngobbel.com/starthereWhen Your Nervous System Is Fried {Ep 139}Focus On The Nervous System To Change Behavior {Ep 84}Connection or Protection {Ep 7}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/oppositional1Follow Me On:FacebookInstagramOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithThe podcast is searchable if you go to my website!RobynGobbel.com/podcastThere, you can type in any search word and instantly see what episodes I have that cover that topic! Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources :::::Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

"I ran with it and went to a dark place”. If we find ourselves living a more balanced life, we're most certainly living with less stress, and probably going to live longer, and healthier as well. But when we're living a less balanced life, we'll be experiencing what most of us are already experiencing in our day-to-day living. The fact is, it's killing us, absolutely shortening our lives and lowering the quality of our lives, at every age. So, how do we break the cycle? Tune in . . .

Wrapping up the week, Adam continues to dissect 'difficult' and 'easy' people, how one preys on the other and how becoming difficult helps with those that already are. Plus, Dr. Drew explains how opposition is considered confrontational in today's society and the problems with defiance. Leave us a voicemail: SpeakPipe.com/AdamandDrDrew OR Click the microphone at top of the homepage, AdamandDrDrew.com

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Have you ever felt like you're butting heads with your strong-willed kid? Well, you're not alone!  Episode 187 shares some fantastic tips for dealing with those headstrong, independent-minded teens we all know and love. First off, let's celebrate these traits! Heidi reminds us that having a strong sense of self and the ability to think independently are actually superpowers. We're not trying to squash these qualities, just guide them in a positive direction. Here are some nuggets of wisdom from the episode: Choices, choices, choices! Whenever possible, give your teen options. This could be as simple as "Do you want to ride with your brother or us to the event?" It helps them feel empowered and invested in decisions. Find the 'yes' in the 'no'. When your teen asks for something you're not keen on, try to find a small part you can agree to. For example, if they're always asking to eat out with friends, maybe you can say yes to one meal a week. This approach helps them focus on what they're getting rather than what they're not. Watch your tone! Our teens can be sensitive to authoritative tones, so try to soften your approach. It doesn't mean you're not in charge, just that you're being respectful of their growing autonomy. Invite their input. Ask for their thoughts on family decisions. It shows you value their opinion and helps them practice decision-making skills. The best part? These strategies can lead to stronger relationships with our teens. Heidi mentioned that her daughter now comes to her for advice on almost everything! Remember, we're not aiming for perfection here. It's all about finding ways to respect our teens' growing independence while still providing the guidance they need. It takes time and practice, but it's so worth it. Sign up for a free consult call to see how coaching can help you show up as the mother you want to be https://calendly.com/heidibenjaminsen/

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Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) is a disruptive behavior disorder that emerges during childhood or adolescence and is characterized by persistent angry or irritable mood, unruly and argumentative behavior, and vindictiveness. It frequently manifests in hostility toward authority figures. All children display defiant behavior at some point, especially when tired or stressed. Oppositional behavior is in fact normal in toddlers and in early adolescents. The behavior of a child with ODD is much more extreme and disruptive than normal, however, and occurs much more frequently than the type of childhood stubbornness and rebellion that children may display over the course of development. The oppositional behavior of ODD is not only persistent but occurs across a wide array of situations and interferes with children's social, family, and educational life. Give yourself a break and tune in and learn how to identify and manage Oppositional Defiance Disorder!

So you've tried "low demand parenting" for your more challenging kid and it helps a bit. But what are you supposed to do about those essential things that still need to get done? Like, you know, teeth brushing? Meet "high consent parenting" - the MFA approach to getting everyone's needs met with more ❤️ and less

Join us as we dive into the fascinating world of MU waves and their impact on creativity. We discuss the unique role of MU waves in music, art, and neurofeedback, exploring how they influence creativity and learning. Discover insights from Dr. Mari Swingle, author of "iMinds," on topics such as positive dissociation, the genetic links to creativity, the effects of brain fog from viruses, and the importance of sleep for memory. We also address current challenges in education, including the suspension of kindergartners and classroom management strategies. Key Moments: 0:00 Pre-show banter Pete's band Heart of Glass Blondie tribute band 3:44 MU Waves 5:31 Dr. Mari Swingle, author of iMinds, joins the show 8:01 EEG Owl Eye Pattern of MU 10:04 Santiago Brand Positive Dissociation 13:00 Artist Dissociation 13:40 Genetics and music: bipolar schizophrenia 17:00 Virus Brain Fog Learning disability 18:50 Neurofeedback and Creativity 27:40 How do people memorize music? Photographic memory eidetic memory 29:30 Types of memory 31:20 Sleep 36:20 Visualization eidetic memory 42:00 Where are children getting their training from now? 46:10 Suspending kindergartners acting out: Is suspension now a reward or a punishment? 49:55 Oppositional defiance 50:15 OCD limbic system 52:00 Teachers and classroom management 54:55 Shout out to teachers 58:20 Neuralink #MUWaves #Creativity #Neurofeedback #Music #Art #EEG #BrainScience #Memory #Learning #Neuropsychology #BrainHealth #Education #ClassroomManagement #DrMariSwingle #IMinds #PositiveDissociation #Genetics #BrainFog #Sleep --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/neuronoodle/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/neuronoodle/support

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If you're a parent with a kiddo who's constantly angry and acting out, a diagnosis of Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) can seem like an explanation for a lot of disruptive behavior. But what if that defiance and opposition are actually caused by other sensitivity? I've worked with so many parents who struggle to understand why their strong-willed kid is lashing out. An ODD diagnosis can seem like an answer, but the label doesn't come with the tools to actually help their sensitive little human cope with their big feelings. Let's talk about why I think ODD is a symptom, not a cause, and how to approach your struggling kiddo with the empathy they need to become a success story.In this episode, you'll learn:Why I'm convinced the behavior we label as oppositional and defiant is really our kids asking for help the only way they know how. All the other sensitivities and specialness that an ODD label can cause us to overlook.What strong-willed kids are looking for when they use external conflict to compensate for internal discomfort.Why we try to think our way through situations when we should learn how to feel through them instead.And much more! As always, thanks for listening. Head over to Facebook, where you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community. We post tips and tools and do pop-up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!Get all the links, resources, and transcripts here: https://mastermindparenting.com/podcast-284About Randi RubensteinRandi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.She's the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.Randi's Web and Social LinksWebsite: https://mastermindparenting.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparentingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/Resources Discussed/Linkshttps://mastermindparenting.com/callDr. Steven Storage on ODD as a symptom rather than a diagnosis: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C40o3PyL8C_Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

References Guerra, DJ. 2024. Uncollected writings. The Journal of Nutritional Biochemistry 2023. Volume 112, February. 109217 Walker, Cindy.1950 Blue Canadian Rockies. Cover "the Byrds"(1969). https://youtu.be/nzOHtU8Sb3c?si=5GAj7VPzIr7o0OO_t Heinichen J. D. 1711 (?)Concerto in A minor for violin https://youtu.be/V-E25Q-wjwc?si=bbWdZTNEUPGitY-S --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dr-daniel-j-guerra/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dr-daniel-j-guerra/support

Mental illness in children can be hard for parents to identify. As a result, many children who could benefit from treatment don't get the help they need. Understand how to recognize warning signs of mental illness in children and how you can help your child. Mental health is the overall wellness of how you think, regulate your feelings and behave. A mental illness, or mental health disorder, is defined as patterns or changes in thinking, feeling or behaving that cause distress or disrupt a person's ability to function.Mental health disorders in children are generally defined as delays or disruptions in developing age-appropriate thinking, behaviors, social skills or regulation of emotions. These problems are distressing to children and disrupt their ability to function well at home, in school or in other social situations. Tune in and learn how to identify them and what to do!

Mental illness in children can be hard for parents to identify. As a result, many children who could benefit from treatment don't get the help they need. Understand how to recognize warning signs of mental illness in children and how you can help your child. Mental health is the overall wellness of how you think, regulate your feelings and behave. A mental illness, or mental health disorder, is defined as patterns or changes in thinking, feeling or behaving that cause distress or disrupt a person's ability to function.Mental health disorders in children are generally defined as delays or disruptions in developing age-appropriate thinking, behaviors, social skills or regulation of emotions. These problems are distressing to children and disrupt their ability to function well at home, in school or in other social situations. Tune in and learn how to identify them and what to do!

Does your child have challenging and sometimes rebellious and unsafe behaviors that have you desperate for a resource?  Are you feeling fearful and desperate?   This podcast could be your answer.  Today my guest Jessi Stringham shares a resource for parents that is free and really amazing.  It is a peer led support group that is extremely well organized and    From the Changes website: https://cpsn.org Changes Parent Support Network was incorporated in December 1996 and groups officially started meeting in January 1997. We are a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization and are not affiliated with any other group or religious organization. Members include Couples, Single Parents, Stepparents, Guardians, and Grandparents. The families we support have one or more acting-out children ranging in age from middle school to older adult children. Our program provides support and tools for parents to change their own behavior, not “fix” their child. We promote independence and natural consequences for our kids' actions, which is usually not an appropriate approach for younger children. Regardless of your child's age, we will welcome you at Changes. But you may find that our members have less personal experience to draw upon and share if your child is in elementary school.  Typical problem behaviors can be: Violent or abusive Oppositional and defiant Failing grades or not attending school Substance abuse Stealing at home or shoplifting Gang involvement Running away   The purpose of the group is not to change our child's behaviors.  It is to help us give up that need to control and work on changing our own mindset and behaviors toward our children.  We can support them and support ourselves and allow them indepedence to find their own path and feel the consequences of their behaviors.   This is an amazing resources for parents who are feeling anxious and fearful and need support to know what to do.     You can call this number 8884682620. to start the process of signing up.    

On today's episode, we're talking BODIES, BODIES, BODIES! Max is going to tell us yet another Irish tale about a person forced to wear a corpse as a backpack (if we had a nickel...) and Janey is going to tell us Cheyenne tales of body horror! This one's for the ghouls!Janey's Sources - Cheyenne Tales of Body Horror Folk Tales of the North American Indians edited by Stith ThompsonFREE TEXT The Rolling Head  FREE TEXT The Eye Juggler  “Veeho” Cheyenne language  Penguin Random House “From the Page: There, There”  There, There by Tommy Orange  Max's Sources - Teig O'Kane and the Corpse“Celtic Tales: Fairy Tales and Stories of Enchantment from Ireland, Scotland, Brittany, and Wales” illustrated by Kate Forrester  Full free text of “Teig O'Kane and the Corpse”  Support the showCheck out our books (and support local bookstores!) on our Bookshop.org affiliate account!Starting your own podcast with your very cool best friend? Try hosting on Buzzsprout (and get a $20 Amazon gift card!)Want more??Visit our website!Join our Patreon!Shop the merch at TeePublic!If you liked these stories, let us know on our various socials!InstagramTiktokGoodreadsAnd email us at sortofthestory@gmail.com

This week we are here and we're ready to RAGE. Katie takes the reigns on research and discusses Oppositional Defiant Disorder - a diagnosis that is in the DSM V - but should it be? We go in depth on this topic and the alleged overlap with ADHD that splits hairs and makes distinctions that we can't really see even if we squint really hard. One thing is for sure - the children with occupational defiance disorder yearn for the mines! We've got a big update to our Patreon - there's just one tier - ANKLETS - who get ad-free extended cut episodes, video episodes, on-air shout outs, and added to our close friends list on Instagram - so sign up now at www.patreon.com/thebarisanklehigh.   Shop Sun & Swell for 20% off: https://zen.ai/krpZqJaBHwQUWQELntfeSA Shop Liquid IV for 20% off: https://zen.ai/SgwDnrtoYsDFd2clkjuNZg Sign up for Zencastr for 30% off your first month: https://zen.ai/hbxFmHWJjfjA7r-Jy12hoA   Sources: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bender-Gestalt_Test https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7406564/ https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/oppositional-defiant-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20375831 https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/oppositional-defiant-disorder#:~:text=ODD%20in%20children-,Oppositional%20defiant%20disorder%20(ODD)%20is%20a%20type%20of%20behavior%20disorder,teachers%2C%20and%20other%20authority%20figures. https://www.additudemag.com/oppositional-defiant-disorder-odd-and-adhd/

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Friends, I was beyond furious after seeing a post from a parent who was guided by a so-called "therapist" who gave a young child such a damaging label. The diagnosis they provided? Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD). Just thinking of it triggers me because through my research and clinical experience, I've seen the heartbreak it causes. For years, eager, confused, EXHAUSTED parents have come to me seeking understanding - why does little Timmy have meltdowns at sports practice? Why won't Emily stay at a sleepover? But too often, other providers slap these simplistic labels that annihilate the little hope they're hanging onto. Listen to learn more. If your child is demonstrating the meltdown cycle, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/5-shifts-registration If your teen is struggling to engage with your family, shutting down and struggling with a perfectionism spiral, watch our free training here: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/tp/5-steps-registration If you're ready to book a call with our team, use this link: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/pod/book-your-call-now For families with high school aged teens, use this link: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/tp/teentalk

What if you could demystify the complex behaviors of your child? What if you could distinguish between the symptoms of Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) and Conduct Disorder, two disorders often seen in childhood? We, your hosts, Dr. Linton Hutchinson and Stacey Froth, attempt to shed light on these difficult disorders, especially for those preparing for licensing exams. We discuss the key symptoms of ODD, such as anger, irritability, and a defiant attitude that extends far beyond the typical. We explore the vindictiveness in ODD, manifested by an obsessive, disproportionate desire for revenge. Have you noticed your child showing aggressive behavior, property destruction, or continuously breaking rules? It's time to understand Conduct Disorder better. Our conversation in the second half of the episode aims to provide you with the differentiating factors between ODD and Conduct Disorder. While ODD is characterized by resistance against control, Conduct Disorder is marked by attempts to control others. We comprehend that as a parent, these behaviors can induce frustration, discouragement, and even fear. Our objective is to provide clarity, help you navigate these challenges, and empower you with the knowledge to understand these disorders better.If you need to study for your NCMHCE narrative exam, try the free samplers at: CounselingExam.comThis podcast is not associated with the National Board of Certified Counselors (NBCC) or any state or governmental agency responsible for licensure.

NationalCounselingExamWhat if you could demystify the complex behaviors of your child? What if you could distinguish between the symptoms of Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) and Conduct Disorder, two disorders often seen in childhood? We, your hosts, Dr. Linton Hutchinson and Stacy Frost, attempt to shed light on these difficult disorders, especially for those preparing for licensing exams. We discuss the key symptoms of ODD, such as anger, irritability, and a defiant attitude that extends far beyond the typical. We explore the vindictiveness in ODD, manifested by an obsessive, disproportionate desire for revenge. Have you noticed your child showing aggressive behavior, property destruction, or continuously breaking rules? It's time to understand Conduct Disorder better. Our conversation in the second half of the episode aims to provide you with the differentiating factors between ODD and Conduct Disorder. While ODD is characterized by resistance against control, Conduct Disorder is marked by attempts to control others. We comprehend that as a parent, these behaviors can induce frustration, discouragement, and even fear. Our objective is to provide clarity, help you navigate these challenges, and empower you with the knowledge to understand these disorders better.If preparing for your National Counseling Exam visit NationalCounselingExam and try our samplers completely free of charge! It's a fantastic way to identify any areas you might want to review. and brush up on.This podcast is not associated with the National Board of Certified Counselors (NBCC) or any state or governmental agency responsible for licensure.

In this episode, I unravel how to extend connection to our children while acknowledging that some might see this connection as a threat. I offer insights on toning down the demand for connection, enabling our children to relax in it, and thereby strengthen their stress response system. I also reference the previous episodes in this four-part series by talking about the science of opposition, some practical strategies, and tackling kids stuck in protection mode, all with the aim of providing a comprehensive understanding of making connection a safe experience.In this episode you'll learn:That providing too much connection can often be overwhelming and feel more like danger than connectionTo titrate connection and supply only as much as the child needs or wantsShowing your child you think of them when are not together like buying their favorite snack, titrates connection by showing that you are thinking of them and you see themResources mentioned in this podcast:Exploring Low Demand Parenting: Shifting Power Dynamics And Nurturing Trust {EP 142}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/oppositional4Follow Me On:FacebookInstagramOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithBecome a Better Parent Coach is a five-day audio-only training for anyone who works with the parents of kids with big, baffling behaviors. BONUS!! Join us in a private Facebook group for discussion and LIVE Q&As!The training begins October 30 - register now so you get the episodes as soon as they are released. https://RobynGobbel.com/BetterParentCoach ****Ready to dive deeper ?The Club is an online community of connection, co-regulation, and a little education for parents of kids with big, baffling behaviors. We open periodically for new members! Sign up on the waiting list at RobynGobbel.com/TheClubBeing With is a year-long training program for professionals. RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith

If offering safety and connection is the antidote to oppositional behavior, what do you do if connection isn't experienced as safe or regulating by your child?In this episode you'll learn:How connection and protection can get tied togetherHow to keep offering connection, even when it's consistently rejected by your childThe science behind why YOU need to be receiving connection - and how you can do that even if you don't have a lot of extra time or supportive people in your lifeResources mentioned in this podcast:Regulated Does Not Equal Calm {Ep 31}Match The Energy, NOT The Dysregulation {Ep 155}Free Resources - robyngobbel.com/freeresourcesRead the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/oppostitional3Follow Me On:FacebookInstagramOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithBecome a Better Parent Coach is a five-day audio-only training for anyone who works with the parents of kids with big, baffling behaviors. BONUS!! Join us in a private Facebook group for discussion and LIVE Q&As!The training begins October 30 - register now so you get the episodes as soon as they are released. https://RobynGobbel.com/BetterParentCoach Apply for the 2024 cohort of Being With https://RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith ****Ready to dive deeper ?The Club is an online community of connection, co-regulation, and a little education for parents of kids with big, baffling behaviors. We open periodically for new members! Sign up on the waiting list at RobynGobbel.com/TheClubBeing With is a year-long training program for professionals. RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith

Last week we talked about the science of oppositional behavior. This week, let's look at strategies to help children rest into felt safety so their nervous system feels better and their oppositional protective strategies can decrease.In this episode you'll learn:An invitation to consider some of our cultural beliefs around opposition in the parent/child relationshipHow to use our grown-up brains to invite connection and cooperationStrategies for creating felt safety in the child's inner worldStrategies for creating felt safety in the child's environmentStrategies for creating felt safety in the relationshipResources mentioned in this podcast:When Your Nervous System Is Fried {Ep 139}Neuroimmune Disorders And Big, Baffling, Behaviors With Dr. Qazi Javed {Ep 97}What To Do After We Mess Up {Ep 80}Parenting Superpower! X-ray Vision {Ep 13}Self-Compassion Will Change Your Brain {Ep 8}Neuroimmune Podcast Series!~ robyngobbel.com/neuroimmuneseriesRead the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/oppositional2Follow Me On:FacebookInstagramOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithBecome a Better Parent Coach is a five-day audio-only training for anyone who works with the parents of kids with big, baffling behaviors. BONUS!! Join us in a private Facebook group for discussion and LIVE Q&As!The training begins October 30 - register now so you get the episodes as soon as they are released. https://RobynGobbel.com/BetterParentCoach Apply for the 2024 cohort of Being With https://RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith Apply for the 2024 cohort of Being With https://RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith ****Ready to dive deeper ?The Club is an online community of connection, co-regulation, and a little education for parents of kids with big, baffling behaviors. We open periodically for new members! Sign up on the waiting list at RobynGobbel.com/TheClubBeing With is a year-long training program for professionals. RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith

Welcome back to Analyze Scripts, where a psychiatrist and a therapist analyze what Hollywood gets right and wrong about mental health. Today, we have a fun little episode exploring Tim Burton's 1993 film "The Nightmare Before Christmas." In this episode, we discuss our theories about the psychological motivations behind Jack and Sally's behaviors. We use the characters of Oogie Boogie and Lock, Shock and Barrel to explore the diagnoses of oppositional defiant disorder (ODD), conduct disorder, and antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). And we find ourselves wondering - is the Mayor supposed to depict bipolar disorder or a shady politician? We also discuss ways to talk to children after traumatic events like sadistic toys ruining your favorite holiday! We have a lot of laughs along the way and hope you enjoy this spooky episode! Instagram TikTok Website Dr. Katrina Furey: Hi, I'm Dr. Katrina Fieri, a psychiatrist. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And I'm Portia Pendleton, a licensed clinical social worker. Dr. Katrina Furey: And this is Analyze Scripts, a podcast where two shrinks analyze the depiction of mental health in movies and TV shows. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Our hope is that you learn some legit info about mental health while feeling like you're chatting with your girlfriends. Dr. Katrina Furey: There is so much misinformation out there, and it drives us nuts. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And if someday we pay off our student loans or land a sponsorship, like. Dr. Katrina Furey: With a lay flat airline or a major beauty brand, even better. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So sit back, relax, grab some popcorn. Dr. Katrina Furey: And your DSM Five and enjoy. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Welcome back to another episode this spooky month in October. Today we are covering The Nightmare Before Christmas, which is a Tim Burton movie. It came out shockingly in 1993. Dr. Katrina Furey: I don't think that's shocking, Portia. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I am shook. Why? I thought this was like, new. I don't maybe like Max ten years old, and this is almost as old as I am. Dr. Katrina Furey: You didn't watch this in childhood? Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Never seen it before. Watching it for this? Dr. Katrina Furey: You never saw it before? Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Not once. What? I just never got the draw. Dr. Katrina Furey: I don't know. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: It's always shown right everywhere. Like the holiday season. Dr. Katrina Furey: That's why we're covering it. And it's a classic Halloween and Christmas movie. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So my childhood, because I guess this is a childhood ish movie are like Pumpkin town. Do you ever see that? It's on Disney. Dr. Katrina Furey: Yes. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Okay, so I like those one through three. Hocus pocus pocus harry Potter yes. Dr. Katrina Furey: Which we'll be covering in a couple of weeks. Maybe next week. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Maybe it's already out. Dr. Katrina Furey: I don't know. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Stay tuned. So I don't know, I've never, ever seen it. Dr. Katrina Furey: Wow, that's wild. I thought for sure when I recommended this you had seen it. Wow. Interesting. A lot of questions. I've seen it a bunch of times in childhood. And now, as a know, we watch it every year. When we went to Disney World recently at Halloween time, they have a whole Mickey's not so scary Halloween party with Skellington. Like it's like a big deal. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Scary though. Like your kids aren't scared of the movie? Dr. Katrina Furey: I think at certain parts a little bit, but not really. Which I also think is interesting because I also think it is like a spooky movie. And there's also now we have a couple of the children's books. People would gift them to us over the years, and one of them talks about Jack's Sleigh getting shot down. And I always make up a different word for that at that point because I feel like that's a little too much. But there's certainly spooky elements to this movie and scary elements like kidnapping the nefarious, sadistic know. So it is really interesting that kids aren't globally, I know, terrified of it. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And like, Jack, at one time, I think he's honestly the least scary, but he bears his teeth, right? And does a scary face. And I was like, oh, yikes. Dr. Katrina Furey: It's very Tim Burton. It is. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: It's just not my huh. Dr. Katrina Furey: So what are some of your questions? Like, why did I make you watch. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Are we talking about this? No, I'm kidding. I guess just why is it so popular? I know I'm very well aware that other people can like things that I don't. And I'm probably honestly in the minority, maybe minority for this movie, but I just don't understand the draw, really. I think it's scary. Dr. Katrina Furey: Were you scared of sin at all? I don't know. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I just felt like a little watching it. Really? I watched it at night, which doesn't help anything. But I don't know. Dr. Katrina Furey: I think it's like a short movie. It's a cartoon. The animation, I think, is unique. And I would imagine back in the 90s, especially unique. When you think about Disney animation at that time with Beauty and the Beast, Ariel Aladdin, it was just very different. And again, kind of like we talk about in our Harry Potter episode, there's something about the darkness that I think people are drawn to, even children, right? Like, you experience dark feelings as part of being a human. So maybe there's something about it. Where? In Halloween town? I mean, all kids celebrate Halloween, unless maybe you're very religious and you don't dress up or something. But most American children in our culture celebrate Halloween, and kids love it, but there is a spooky element, but that kind of adds to the fun. So maybe there's something about that darkness that resonates with you even as a child. At the beginning, they're all just like being their old Halloween selves and just like, really out there. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I mean, I'm easily scared. I am not a fan ever, even in young 20s, late teens, of going to a pumpkin. Right. What are they called? Like a haunted hayride. I don't like that because I think the actors always know who in the crowd is, like, the best victim. And it's always me. Dr. Katrina Furey: It's always you. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And I've been traumatized at people jumping out at you theme parks. Right. Dr. Katrina Furey: They have Halloween things like, it's scary. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And I've been chased and I hate what do you think you cut down trees with? Dr. Katrina Furey: No, like, axe murderers, shovels chainsaws. That is really scary. Yeah, no, I'm not into that either. I wouldn't volunteer to go walk around and be scared. But I do like this movie. No, I totally hear that. So you're not maybe an adrenaline junkie? Like you wouldn't skydive maybe? Portia Pendleton, LCSW: No. Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, I think some people get a thrill from it, like their dopamine, and adrenaline is just, like, pumping. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: It's, like, good for them. I think it is a safer way, right. Getting it in, like, a risky way. Dr. Katrina Furey: That's true. That's true. So I guess I thought this would be a fun movie to talk about. A, because it's a classic, apparently, this news to Portia, but allegedly it's a classic. It has, like a really interesting. Like, I didn't realize until just now that Catherine O'Hara is the voice of Sally. I think Sally's a really interesting character. I feel like even if you walk around home goods nowadays, you see Jack and Sally coffee mugs, jack and Sally salt and pepper shakers. Like it's in our culture that's always like a cool Halloween costume to dress up as Jack and Sally as like a couple's costume. Now you're in on it. Maybe you'll be Sally for Halloween. We'll see danny Elfman is the singing voice for Jack Skellington, who's the main character. And then Chris Sarandon is his speaking voice. I didn't know they were two different people. Me know peewee herman. Paul Rubens plays one of the little boys. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Locke. Dr. Katrina Furey: We'll get into lockshock and barrel in a little bit, like stuff like that. Like the names of the little boys, right, are a know. But I thought this is just such a cool movie, I guess because A, I love Halloween, I love Christmas. It combines them. And I just feel like it's all about being yourself and being happy with like we see Jack, he's the what is he? The Pumpkin King of Halloween town. And it starts off with know, they're celebrating another great Halloween. And you see him rise up from the fountain in that initial song. I think the music is really good. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I think the songs were clever and catchy and sweet, some of them. Yes. Dr. Katrina Furey: And I think the music has likely contributed to why it's so popular because it's just beautiful music and we see everyone celebrating. But then Jack goes back to his haunted house where he lives with his ghost dog, Zero and seems kind of like, okay, do it all again next year. He seems kind of bored and not really into it. And then all of a sudden he discovers Christmastown and wants to become Santa Claus, basically. And tries but does a really poor job. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I thought it was like I mean, again, I'm not trying to be a hater, and I'm really not, but I thought that when he's dropping off all the presents, it's like traumatizing. Dr. Katrina Furey: Oh, my gosh. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: He thinks he's doing this wonderful you know, at his core, he is not Santa. Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And so he's bringing all of these literally terrifying gifts to the people of. Dr. Katrina Furey: The world, the children. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I know, they're literally like running after. Dr. Katrina Furey: Them, trying to eat them, trying to strangle them. It is pretty frightening. But he thinks he's doing good and his intention is good. So it is, I feel, like, an interesting commentary on how our intent might not match how our actions land and how that's important to acknowledge for the other person. And then he sort of comes back to himself and accepts that that's who he is. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And Santa says Happy Halloween. Which is sweet when he's flying over them. Yeah, that is they kidnapped him and attempted to murder. Dr. Katrina Furey: Oh, yeah, I know. And I guess that's where Jack did order that, right? Portia Pendleton, LCSW: No. Was it? Dr. Katrina Furey: Oogie boogie? Who was it that ordered them to go capture? Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Capture? I think he just wanted to meet him, right? Dr. Katrina Furey: Oh, I thought he wanted them to hide him so he could be Santa. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Oh, I thought he just was getting, like, tips and then Jack or Locke's Shock and, like, took it know? Dr. Katrina Furey: Um, so it's just I don't know. It's interesting. What do you think about the dynamic between Jack and Sally? Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Interesting. Dr. Katrina Furey: I wanted more of a backstory on both of them. Yeah. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: She seems like she cares a lot about him, and it's like, why? Did you previously have a relationship? Are you just kind of admiring him, as everyone in the town seems to do? He was caught kind of off guard, it seemed like, because she was showing him a lot of care, a lot. Dr. Katrina Furey: Of affection, and she was always there when he was in a bind and needed some help. I was confused by that too. Like, at the end, when they kiss, I think that's a classic scene, but I was like, oh, they could have just been friends. They could have been siblings. Like, I don't know. But it was surprising that now they're in love. I think it is also kind of classic for the time. But Sally, we see her literally take parts of herself off to protect him, which I also think is an interesting commentary that the girl is sacrificing parts of herself to be there for the guy. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I think you could talk about internal family systems with that, right? Like, parts theory that's not really about your body parts, but, like, internal parts. Dr. Katrina Furey: But I think it's, like, just the. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Symbol of her sacrificing parts and herself and going to great lengths, like, throwing herself off the tower, sewing herself back. Dr. Katrina Furey: Together, poisoning her father, the Doctor Finkelstein, aka Frankenstein. Yeah. Who I guess was the father. I didn't pick that up until we were reading a little bit about it. I thought he was just, like, an evil scientist who was holding her captive. It now really creeps me out if he was her dad. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Yeah, that's what it says. Like, I don't think that's clear at all in the movie, so you're right. I think it feels more strange and. Dr. Katrina Furey: Like, dark if it's her dad. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Yeah. Dr. Katrina Furey: But I think Sally is like a character that's just really, again, popular in our culture and helps Jack out, but also tries to caution him. He sort of wants her to make his suit. Jack's very demanding, now that I think about it. But she's like, Jack, this isn't like you right. You don't look like know when he puts on the beard, and he doesn't. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Look like that sense of impending doom. And I'm like, is that anxiety. Dr. Katrina Furey: Or like yeah, you're listening to your gut. Very unclear. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Yeah. So she does not want him to go to the world and be Santa. And he is taking charge of Halloween Town, so he know everyone in on it. Everyone's making toys or an aircraft of. Dr. Katrina Furey: Trauma and torture, but what they think are toys because they're spooky and creepy to them, these are funny. These are toys. But it's interesting how I don't know. I guess you could even interpret this through maybe like a cross cultural lens. Like if Halloween Town is one culture and Christmas Town is a different culture, and what it's like to try to. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Assimilate I like how they accidentally captured the Easter easter Bunny. And unfortunately, the Easter bunny. Right. Like, didn't they just take him to Oogie Boogie? Dr. Katrina Furey: Oh, they didn't send it back. In my mind, they send him back. I don't know. Maybe I'm rewriting that story because it's too dark. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Yeah, I don't know. Dr. Katrina Furey: Either way, what did you think about Oogie Boogie? Portia Pendleton, LCSW: He was scary. I thought it was interesting at the end that he's just like all bugs. Dr. Katrina Furey: I know. That's the part that really creeps me out. Even to this day when I watch. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: It, I'm just like, oh, he was definitely dark. And again, yes, I'm aware that children's stories, especially fairy tales right, can be dark. My favorite being Harry Potter, which gets progressively darker, which I think is as I get older. We've talked about that on the episode, so feel free to check that one out. But it just felt like really spooky. Like he's bad. He's a bad guy. Also made me think of the Grinch. Right. Because of where he is. You get to him through all these pipes. He lives away from everyone garbage. Not really, but in a sense, yeah. Dr. Katrina Furey: And why in a town like Halloween Town, where everyone is spooky and creepy and you might say weird, you might say different. I did like how they all just look so different from each other. Like, you got the vampires, you got the kids, you got Jack and Sally. There's just like all these different types of people all living harmoniously in their creepy way. So why is Boogie, like banished? I don't know. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Maybe he took it too far. Somebody always know. Dr. Katrina Furey: Maybe he's the criminal of the town or something. Like maybe he would jack's nemesis, too. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Yeah. Dr. Katrina Furey: I wonder if they grew up together. I wonder if Okie Boogie's kind of like in the jail of he. To me, I feel like is really a good depiction of sadism, or just being very sadistic. Like putting all the people he captures on that. What do you call that circle thing that's like spinning and they're going to die and it's like very table. Yeah, that's what it looks like hanging them. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I mean, it's like it's really sadistic. Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Talk about antisocial personality disorder. Yeah, there it is. Dr. Katrina Furey: Right? Like an oogie boogie. But then he's also kind of like mesmerizing when he's like singing and dancing and serial. Yes, he totally sucking you in. Yeah, he had a beautiful singing voice. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: With you before you ultimately get killed. Dr. Katrina Furey: For his own pleasure. Creepy. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So then we have the three little. Dr. Katrina Furey: The three little kids. Lock, shock, and barrel. What'd you think about that? Portia Pendleton, LCSW: They were like, naughty, to say the least. I think we have both criteria kind of laid out of conduct disorder and Odd. Dr. Katrina Furey: Oppositional defiant disorder. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: That first word always gets me oppositional, which and there is a difference. So it feels like meet more criteria for conduct just because there is that level of physical cruelty to people, physical cruelty to animals. It's a step further with actions often and intent than Odd. So, like, just a little rundown. Oppositional defiant disorder, it's like behavior lasting about six months. It's not just a temper tantrum. Dr. Katrina Furey: This is in children, right, is when we diagnose it. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Children and teens, they lose their temper. They often argumentative with adults. They defy or refuse to comply with rules or requests. They can deliberately be annoying. They blame others for their mistakes. They can be easily annoyed or touchy. They get pretty angry or resentful, and they can be spiteful or vindictive. So where it kind of becomes conduct disorder, so often there's first a diagnosis of Odd, which in its path to ultimately, I'd say, like antisocial personality disorder is an important diagnosis just because it kind of lays the groundwork. However, there is a big shift in the field with just overall less diagnoses of Odd. So you see a lot of typically, like, black youth coming into treatment with an Odd diagnosis, I think, like overly diagnosed and misdiagnosed. Dr. Katrina Furey: Exactly. In certain patients of certain backgrounds. Some might call this racist, and I think it does get over diagnosed misdiagnosed in certain situations. Like when perhaps there could be some trauma going on. Absolutely. There could be add. Sometimes Add and Odd go together. So it is important to get an accurate, well rounded the child could be going through a big transition. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Maybe their parents parents are getting divorced or something. Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So it's good to ask why. Right. When did the behavior start? And maybe asking the child or the teen right. What's going on in your life? Not just like, oh, wow, you seem really kind of jerky right now and you're not listening to anyone. There's always really a reason. 90% of the time there is another better diagnosis than Odd explains the behavior or there's just like changes going on right. That they're reacting to. So that's where in the smaller, more rare cases that Odd then goes on to become conduct disorder. It's really what I would describe, at least in my understanding and experience with it. It's kind of like you get that icky feeling, your feelers go up. Yeah. This child, and I hate to say this or this teen is off in. Dr. Katrina Furey: How they see the world and how. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: They view others with their empathy or lack thereof. Oh, absolutely. Lack thereof. We talked about this in our episode. Dr. Katrina Furey: I think we've talked about a couple on you. I think it came up. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: We talked about this on the whale. Dr. Katrina Furey: Kind of with the daughter, back and. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Forth with his daughter because there is some, we think, like alluding to animal cruelty. Dr. Katrina Furey: Yes. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So that's a big one. Dr. Katrina Furey: That's a big symptom with conduct disorder. And I sort of think of it as like when you have a patient who is committing crimes, often we will look to see, does that person meet criteria for antisocial personality disorder? Which unfortunately, I think increases their chance of committing more and more crimes because they don't have empathy or respect for how their actions affect other people. And a lot of times they get off on hurting other people, so they're not going to stop. And then if you trace it back, you will often see they did meet criteria for conduct disorder in later childhood, teenage, early adulthood, and then earlier than that probably met criteria for oppositional defiant disorder. So it's like most people with antisocial personality disorder will meet criteria for those things. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: The other way is not correct. True. Right. Dr. Katrina Furey: Like if you maybe meet criteria for oppositional and defined disorder, that doesn't mean you're without a doubt going to meet criteria for antisocial personality disorder or be what we call like a sociopath. But once you get to conduct disorder, you start to get more nervous that that could happen. In my experience, when you see teenagers harming animals, like cats, birds, dogs, when you see them setting fires, when you see them also kind of like playing games with their peers, but pitting them against each other, they just start to sort of do these things that make you feel uneasy, and you start to see that they really struggle with empathy. And by that we mean like being able to put themselves in someone else's shoes and imagine or understand what it would feel like to be on the receiving end of an action. And they might get off on hurting people or animals. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And there might be there oftentimes is like a trauma underneath that. And I would say noting kind of back to the odd over diagnosis is like, you could argue that someone who is in a gang could meet criteria for conduct disorder. That's not the case. I wouldn't diagnose someone who's in a gang with conduct disorder. But you could be doing the same thing. So it's like that same question of like, okay, what's going on in your environment culturally? What's happening around you? How do you survive? Right? And so a lot of people sometimes have to do horrible things to survive because they think they have to do that to survive. That's not conduct disorder, right? Dr. Katrina Furey: And that's where I'm like do Locks, shock and barrel meet criteria for conduct disorder? Or is this just like the norm in their culture of Halloween town? Right? Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So some of the great point. Dr. Katrina Furey: Criteria for conduct disorder are frequent bullying, often starting physical fights, using weapons, physical cruelty to people and animals, theft with confrontation of the victim. So it's not like stealing gum from the store. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: That's a good one. Dr. Katrina Furey: It's like armed robbery, being out late without permission, truancy from school, vandalism, breaking and entering, frequent manipulative, lying, covert stealing, forced sex, deliberate fire setting to cause harm, and running away from home overnight. So this is pretty severe. This is pretty severe stuff. And again, I don't remember off the top of my head how many criteria you have to meet or for what period of time, but I'd imagine, like, odd. It's persistent. So just like odd. Again, there's that time criteria of six months. It's not like a child going through a hard time or having some tantrums or just bullying. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: We should not be doing it's, obviously, of course, unkind. And some people bully and they absolutely do not have conduct disorder. Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. And I think, again, a lot of people or children with conduct disorder have also been abused themselves. And they sort of become the abuser because that's what they've seen. That's what they know. That's how they finally feel powerful over someone else when they have felt so victimized themselves. So it's so complicated and complex and hard to treat and hard to sit with, I think, as a provider, trying to help patients with these sorts of things. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Totally. So we also have the mayor of Halloween Town. He's a silly one, so he has two faces. Dr. Katrina Furey: This is really interesting. They sort of flip back and forth really quickly depending on it seems like what he's feeling, right? Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Yeah. So it's like happy or distraught. And it's almost like what comes first, right? The feeling or the spin? And then he reacts that way. I think I'm using almost in a way that we kind of often critique people talking about bipolar, but I don't know, he has these two moods that kind of go back and forth sometimes. Maybe lasting the full day, maybe lasting. Dr. Katrina Furey: Two weeks, maybe lasting rapidly, spinning back and forth. Some mood label. And also, I think he's the mayor, so he's a politician. And I think a lot of people feel like politicians are two faced. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: That's kind of like a funny little jab, I guess. Yeah. Dr. Katrina Furey: But he's an interesting it's like I guess he's the one in power, but it just seems like Jack is all. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: The jack is like the king and then there's the mayor almost, like in. Dr. Katrina Furey: Like is this like Parliament versus the royal family? Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Seems like it like the royal family is in some ways differently beloved to them. And then Parliament is like, you know, the nitty gritty, who you're voting for? So I don't know. Jack's probably always been around. I wonder who was like, do they go on to rule together? Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah. Is that like William and know? Maybe. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Could be. Dr. Katrina Furey: Maybe. And who came before. Like, what do you think was Jack's backstory if you had to fill in the gaps? Portia Pendleton, LCSW: I don't like was he ever alive or was he always a skeleton? You know what I mean? You see a reef yard and then you see his dog who's a ghost. Who's a ghost. But were these ever I mean, they must have if I'm thinking scientifically. Or is this where you go? Is Halloween town like an afterlife place? Dr. Katrina Furey: Oh, that's an interesting idea. Or is it just like a different world? And that's just what they are, right? Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Was he ever a child or was. Dr. Katrina Furey: He always just a full on adult skeleton? Right. I don't know. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Because you do see the kids there's the kids here that way forever. Dr. Katrina Furey: Where are the kids parents, right? Why are they, like, running around with Okie Boogie and acting kind of like being taken advantage of? Which, again, I feel like getting back to kids with trauma or odd or conduct disorder, they can also be victimized at much higher rates, right. Because they're just at risk. They're in more harsh situations. Again, a lot of times, even if they meet this criteria, they have a history of abuse and so they might be drawn to feeling cared for or even just like, given attention, even if it's bad. Right. Sniff that out. Kind of like the chainsaw wielding people at the haunted hayrides could sniff out. You were the one to scare. A lot of times nefarious people, like sociopaths, can sniff out who is vulnerable to getting pulled in and they really get off on that. So it's like it makes me nervous. Like, where are their parents? Portia Pendleton, LCSW: So let me ask you this. If you are living in what we know as kind of like regular world and Jack comes by for Christmas and drops off some of those gifts, how are you and your family coping with. Dr. Katrina Furey: The aftermath of oh, my gosh. Right? I mean, I think I would normalize my children's reaction to being given, like, a duck that looks cute but then runs after you with fangs and is trying to eat you, or like a wreath coming out trying to strangle you. I would just be present with validating their fear. Right. I would hear what they have to say first, try to put words to their feelings and also say, like, gosh, if I were in that situation, I might feel scared or nervous or worried or I totally get it. Try to help them with that. Lot of reassurance that that's over. Things are safe now. I'm here to protect you. They might be mad at me if they felt like I wasn't there to protect them and I should have been. Make space for that and sort of sit with it. That can be hard, I think, as a parent. And then I would imagine they'd have some symptoms of an acute stress reaction. Right. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Might be a little afraid of going near the fireplace. Yeah. Dr. Katrina Furey: Or the Christmas tree. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Oh, my God. Dr. Katrina Furey: I hope it wouldn't ruin Christmas forever. They might have trouble sleeping for a little while. I might sleep with them for a little while and kind of I would probably tell their school so that the school counselors and stuff could check in on them, tell their teacher or other important adults in their life. And then I'd have a very low threshold to seek out some type of therapy to kind of help them and help me help them and then kind of see what happens. And I think a lot of many children are very resilient. Absolutely. So the hope is that with time, they can process it and move through it and then in future years, for future Christmases, if they were showing some avoidance, I would try to challenge it in, like, a gentle way. But to again keep reinforcing, that they are safe now in hopes of mitigating any risk for a PTSD, post traumatic stress disorder kind of thing. I hope that's the right way to handle. Great answer. Oh, my God. Thanks. Yeah. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: And I think the most important piece being is just, like, acknowledging them and their concerns and not dismissing them. Right. So instead of saying, like, that didn't happen, or, that's not scary at all. Dr. Katrina Furey: Everything's fine, everything's fine. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Get over it. You're taking the time to be like, yeah, that was really scary. Let's talk about it if you want to. And then typically, like you said, most kids are okay. Dr. Katrina Furey: And if they can't talk about it yet, depending on how young they are, depending how upsetting it is, drawing with them is really helpful. So I learned this cool technique in my training from a child psychiatrist where he would sit with a kid, and I always was like, Child psychiatry looks so cool because you basically play that looks cool. But he would sit with a kid, and they'd share a piece of paper, and he'd draw a line, and he would have the child make one drawing, and then he would do the next move, and they would make a picture together, kind of. And as they were doing it, he would talk with them and ask, like, well, why did you do this? Why did you use that color? Why that shape? And just over time, it's like a nice way to do something, like, basic and safe and something like all kids kind of know how to do, like, drawing together. You get a lot out of the child. It's really hard to just sit and do, like, talk therapy with little kids, so that's an interesting way. Or just asking them to draw something and just sort of being curious about it together, I think, can be also helpful and a good way of processing. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Using figures, whether it's, like, little animals or dolls or Lego characters to act out what they're feeling, they might be able. To do something with the little doll that they are not going to do themselves. Wow. Okay. Now I'm understanding more. There's so much within child therapy, psychiatry that is so special and unique. And also sometimes we use it with adults oh, 100%. Dr. Katrina Furey: And with play, children playing. There's so much going on within their play. And I think it's really interesting to just kind of be attuned to what they're talking about, what they're acting at, what they're trying to work through or sort through. It can be really fascinating, sometimes disturbing. And I think we see with other horror movies when there's like the child with the dark drawings and they're possessed, it does come out. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Yeah. Cool. Well, thanks for listening to this episode. I certainly had fun being by being open now to this new holiday movie. So keep with family. We have a lot of fun content coming also over the next couple of months. So doing some silly maybe travel stuff with movies and family. Dr. Katrina Furey: Home alone. Portia Pendleton, LCSW: Chaos. We have certainly some more, I guess, traditional holiday movies coming up in December, but thanks for listening. Be sure to like us on TikTok and Instagram. We make some content there with just some extra info. If you want to check us out over there at Analyze Scripts Podcast. We do have a website and an email. If you're looking for more of a professional inquiry, we are happy to provide some information or cross podcasts. Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah. 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What if oppositional behavior is a normal response to feeling unsafe? In this episode, we unfold the layers of oppositional behavior and its roots in the nervous system. We look into the diagnostic complexities of Oppositional Defiant Disorder and dive into how our own state of the nervous system is important in helping our children navigate their Watchdog and Possum pathways.In this episode you'll learn:That even oppositional behaviors make total senseSpending a lot of time in protection mode is hard on the bodyChanging the behavior is not the goal- regulation, connection, and felt safety isThe diagnosis of Oppositional Defiance Disorder is just a label- we have to stay curious about the causes for treatmentResources mentioned in this podcast:Start Here Podcasts - robyngobbel.com/starthereWhen Your Nervous System Is Fried {Ep 139}Focus On The Nervous System To Change Behavior {Ep 84}Connection or Protection {Ep. 7}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/oppositionalpartoneFollow Me On:FacebookInstagramOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithRaising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors is a USA Today Best Seller! Head to RobynGobbel.com/Book or order online from wherever you like to buy books. If you loved it, leave a review on Amazon. You don't have to purchase on Amazon to review on Amazon, and reviews are the best way to help other families find it. ****Ready to dive deeper ?The Club is an online community of connection, co-regulation, and a little education for parents of kids with big, baffling behaviors. We open periodically for new members! Sign up on the waiting list at RobynGobbel.com/TheClubBeing With is a year-long training program for professionals. RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith

Dealing with oppositional behavior in individuals can be quite challenging for parents, often leading to feelings of frustration, helplessness, and even guilt. It's crucial to recognize that experiencing these emotions is a natural response to the difficulties presented by oppositional behavior and should not be viewed as a reflection of one's parenting abilities.Thus, it's essential to emphasize that overcoming these challenges is possible. Learn more about skillfully handling frustrated children and fostering a more harmonious environment for them and the whole family. That's why in today's episode, we'll delve into effective strategies to mitigate possible conflicts in a household, focusing on effectively managing oppositional defiant behaviors in uncooperative kids. Managing oppositional defiant behaviors in children.It's crucial to understand Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) and differentiate it from Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). ODD manifests in explosive reactions, especially when children face simple requests or the word "no." Understanding that ODD and ADD are distinct clinical conditions is key insofar as their brain profiles and responses to treatments greatly differ.For so long, I've noticed that some children are easily overwhelmed with frustration, making them more prone to exhibiting oppositional behaviors. Children who are more prone to frustration often find it challenging to cope with situations that don't align with their expectations or desires. They may struggle to regulate their emotions effectively, leading to outbursts of anger, defiance, or irritability.ODD becomes apparent when a kid consistently exhibits anger and hostility, especially in response to simple requests from authority figures. In many cases, these oppositional behaviors serve as a coping mechanism for children who lack the necessary emotional regulation skills. When they encounter situations that trigger frustration or discomfort, their immediate response may be to assert control or push back, often manifesting as defiance or noncompliance.It's important to recognize that ODD is a genuine clinical disorder, and from my perspective, it's associated with broader clinical issues such as mood disorders like depression or bipolar disorder which can significantly impact a child's emotional regulation, resilience, and overall outlook on life. In my work, I've encountered children with ODD and observed that their behavior isn't simply a result of a different brain profile; there's often more to it. Sometimes, this behavior stems from early stages of life, and I've found a consistent pattern in their behavior since infancy. However, it's also important to acknowledge cases where children develop ODD following a traumatic event or other circumstances.In addressing oppositional behavior, the first step is maintaining a calm demeanor for a harmonious family environment. Regulating oneself and sharing a sense of tranquility can be incredibly impactful, especially when dealing with highly sensitive individuals who might have rejection sensitivity dysphoria, a common occurrence in children with ADHD. That is why I emphasize the importance of nurturing one's nervous system through various methods like PEMF, neurofeedback, magnesium supplementation, breathwork, and more. The good news is that we have a multi-magnesium brain formula – our Neurotastic line – which contains highly bioavailable magnesium crucial for mental health and is available on our website.Another essential aspect is setting clear boundaries and expectations. Blurred lines often cause conflicts in parent-child relationships. As such, providing clear guidelines empowers children to understand limits and fosters healthy interactions. Thus, effective parenting involves not only regulating emotions but also establishing clear boundaries to nurture positive behaviors.Managing...

One of the more misunderstood diagnoses in the world of neurodiversity is ODD, or Oppositional Defiant Disorder. We talk with Amelia Bowler, a behavior consultant and author of the book, The Parent's Guide to Oppositional Defiant Disorder, about the diagnosis, and how to be better at decoding the message that kids are trying to send through their defiance. This is an encore presentation. We're conducting a two-hour continuing education course for mental health professionals called “Assessing and Treating Suicidality and Self-Injury in Neurodivergent Clients.” You can join online or in-person on June 20th in Chesterfield, MO. Learn more and sign up for either version: Online virtual In-person Join our Facebook group and take part in conversations about this episode and anything related to neurodiversity, and find a like-minded community of open support. Amelia Bowler is an author, an artist, a parent, and a behavior consultant. Growing up twice-exceptional with undiagnosed disabilities gave Amelia some firsthand experience with neurodivergence, and she is now raising a fantastically neurodivergent child of her own. Her book, The Parents' Guide to Oppositional Defiant Disorder, was published in 2020. BACKGROUND READING Amelia's website The Parent's Guide to Oppositional Defiant Disorder Instagram

TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction to Disruptive Impulse control and Conduct Disorders in the DSM 5 TR 01:35 Oppositional Defiant Disorder 29:00 Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder 29:55 Conduct Disorder 40:50 Intermittent Explosive Disorder DSM5TR 43:37 Pyromania and Kleptomania DSM5TR 47:50 Risk factors for conduct and impulse control disorders 49:37 Differential Diagnosis of conduct and impulse control disorders 54:25 Suicidality in conduct and impulse control disorders 55:40 Treatment Strategies to address conduct and impulse control disorders Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices