Podcast appearances and mentions of ryan michler

Modern culture often treats masculinity as something dangerous that needs to be suppressed, softened, or apologized for. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler challenges that narrative and draws a critical distinction between masculinity and manliness. Masculinity, Ryan argues, is the raw, God-given force within men - the drive to compete, build, protect, lead, and conquer. It is neither good nor bad on its own. Manliness, however, is what happens when that force is refined, disciplined, governed by principle, and directed toward a righteous purpose. Ryan outlines five practical ways to forge masculinity into manliness: attaching your strength to a mission, submitting yourself to discipline, living by a code, serving others, and embracing voluntary hardship. He explains why purpose, responsibility, and self-mastery are essential for becoming the man you're meant to be. If you've ever wrestled with what it means to be a strong man in today's world, this episode offers a framework for harnessing your natural gifts and turning them into something valuable for yourself, your family, and your community. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Introduction 00:07 The Lie We've Been Told About Masculinity 02:32 Masculinity vs. Manliness 04:58 Why "Toxic Masculinity" Gets It Wrong 07:17 Responsibility Over Shame 09:14 Choosing Who You Become 11:22 1. Attach Your Masculinity to a Mission 15:47 2. Submit Your Masculinity to Discipline 19:11 3. Govern Masculinity with Principles 23:08 4. Aim Your Strength in Service of Others 25:27 5. Embrace Voluntary Difficulty 28:46 Happiness vs. Fulfillment 30:18 Why Men Are Not the Problem 32:09 Becoming a Man in Command of Himself 33:13 Iron Council Invitation 34:02 Final Thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

Masculinity isn't inherently good or bad - it's a force. Like fire, it can be used to build or destroy. The real question isn't whether masculinity is the problem; it's whether a man has learned to direct it with discipline, character, and purpose. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores the critical distinction between masculinity and manliness, then breaks down five immature archetypes that keep men from reaching their full potential. From the Man Child to the Jester, Ryan explains how these patterns show up in everyday life and what it takes to move beyond them. If you're willing to take an honest look in the mirror, this episode may reveal exactly where you need to grow.   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Intro 00:17 Masculinity Is Not Inherently Good or Bad 02:26 Masculinity vs. Manliness 04:33 Being Good vs. Being Good at Being a Man 05:44 Manliness Requires Virtuous Direction 06:40 The Meaning of Arete 08:29 Masculinity Without Refinement 09:27 Archetype #1: The Man Child 15:31 Archetype #2: The Ghost 21:27 Archetype #3: The Tyrant 25:36 Archetype #4: The Martyr 30:49 Archetype #5: The Jester 34:45 Which Archetype Are You? 36:45 Iron Council Preview Invitation 38:05 Final Thoughts and Challenge   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

In this solo Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler tackles some of the most common challenges men face in midlife: complacency after success, leading a family without becoming controlling, overcoming conflict avoidance, dealing with regret, and building meaningful male friendships. Ryan shares practical frameworks for finding purpose after you've achieved your goals, developing conviction without coercion, stepping into leadership at home, and letting go of past mistakes through accountability and changed behavior. He also offers candid advice on creating deeper connections with other men and why meaningful struggles are essential for growth and fulfillment.  SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:12 - Introduction and Iron Council Preview Call 01:20 - Staying Sharp After Success and Comfort 07:09 - Passing Faith to a Teenage Son Without Control 12:32 - The Midlife Emptiness Many Men Experience 15:28 - Overcoming Conflict Avoidance and People-Pleasing 30:50 - Leading Your Family Without a Power Grab 44:18 - How to Deal with Real Regret and Move Forward 55:32 - Why Men Struggle to Build Deep Friendships 01:05:30 - Where to Find Strong Male Relationships 01:06:55 - Final Thoughts and Closing Remarks   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Most men don't lose control of their lives overnight. It happens slowly - through comfort, approval-seeking, distraction, blame, and outsourcing identity to culture and other people. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down the five most common ways men surrender their sovereignty and explains how to reclaim authority over your life, decisions, standards, and future. This conversation challenges men to stop living reactively and start becoming the primary author of their lives.   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Most Powerful Version of Yourself 01:28 - What Sovereignty Really Means 04:46 - Men Are In a Battle 07:01 - Approval-Seeking 11:36 - Addiction to Comfort 15:12 - Digital Dependency 21:24 - Abdication of Responsibility 26:58 - Identity Outsourcing 31:15 - Reclaiming Your Sovereignty 34:29 - Final Challenge & Resources   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this episode, Ryan Michler explores the ancient concept known as the "Ulysses Pact" and explains how it can help modern men build discipline, avoid self-sabotage, and stay committed under pressure. Drawing from Homer's Odyssey, Ryan breaks down why willpower alone often fails and how intentional systems, accountability, and pre-commitment strategies create lasting change.   Through practical examples involving finances, alcohol, work-life balance, and relationships, he shows how men can protect themselves from moments of weakness before temptation ever arrives. Ryan also shares the importance of brotherhood, structure, and personal responsibility in becoming the man one is meant to be. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Why Men Break Promises to Themselves 01:56 - The Story of Odysseus and the Sirens 04:15 - The Nature of Temptation and Self-Sabotage 06:06 - Why Willpower Is Not Enough 08:23 - Understanding the Ulysses Pact 10:38 - How Stress Destroys Rational Decision-Making 12:47 - Financial Discipline Through Pre-Commitment 16:03 - Alcohol, Accountability, and Better Decisions 18:10 - The Workaholic Trap and Family Presence 20:10 - Managing Conflict and Emotional Reactions 22:30 - Five Principles of the Ulysses Pact 23:39 - Building Friction Into Bad Habits 25:00 - Why Accountability Is Essential 26:00 - The Power of Specific Commitments 27:00 - Respecting Your Future Self 29:05 - Ryan's Challenge to Build Your Own Pact 30:26 - Brotherhood, Iron Council, and Final Thoughts   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

What if the sacrifices you make aren't actually about service... but identity? In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down the dangerous trap many men fall into: building their entire identity around suffering, responsibility, and sacrifice. Drawing from philosophy, psychology, and personal experience, Ryan explores how men unconsciously become martyrs - believing their worth is tied to how much pain they can endure. From Carl Jung's concept of the persona and shadow, to Stoic philosophy and Sartre's idea of "bad faith," this episode challenges men to ask a difficult question: Are you sacrificing for something... or sacrificing as something?   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Question That Changed Everything 01:05 - Becoming "The Responsible One" 03:35 - The Persona Men Build 05:35 - When Suffering Becomes Identity 06:45 - The Trap of Proving Your Worth 07:20 - Sartre and "Bad Faith" 09:20 - The Mindset of the Martyr 10:40 - Stoicism and Virtuous Suffering 12:15 - Why Men Perform Sacrifice 13:20 - Carl Jung and the Shadow 15:15 - The Hidden Patterns of Martyrdom 16:00 - Keeping Score in Relationships 17:10 - Why Martyrs Refuse Help 18:50 - Resentment Disguised as Dedication 21:05 - "I Had No Choice" 22:15 - Why Nobody Loves a Martyr 24:05 - Martyrdom vs Purpose 25:05 - The Story Your Kids Learn From You 26:15 - Losing Yourself in Responsibility 27:30 - How to Break the Pattern 28:00 - Name the Performance 28:50 - Reclaim Your Sovereignty 29:55 - The Boy Still Carrying the Weight 31:20 - Conscious vs Compulsive Sacrifice 32:10 - Building Identity Beyond Suffering 33:20 - A Man Who Knows Who He Is 34:35 - The Epictetus Quote 35:20 - Learning to Put the Weight Down 36:10 - Suffering With Purpose 37:00 - Final Thoughts on Martyrdom 37:45 - Share This With Another Man Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorenson tackle hard truths about masculinity, leadership, discipline, and faith in this AMA episode. They discuss why many men struggle to lead confidently at home, how toxic behavioral patterns become comfortable, and what real brotherhood and accountability look like. The conversation dives deep into self-awareness, responsibility, relationships, and the danger of using faith as an excuse for passivity. Along the way, they share practical advice for helping struggling friends, becoming a man worth following, and building stronger purpose-driven lives.  Packed with candid stories, sharp insights, and actionable takeaways, this episode challenges men to stop avoiding reality and get to work. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Episode kickoff 00:46 Ryan's rant on biohacking culture 04:32 Why men focus on what they obsess over 06:00 Lacrosse fundraiser and leadership lesson 10:19 Ego, purpose, and mission-first thinking 17:16 Leading a wife who doesn't want to be led 27:24 Masculinity resources and recommended books 29:23 Why men repeat destructive patterns 36:07 The power of brotherhood and accountability 48:32 Helping a friend who refuses help 58:26 Faith, responsibility, and ownership 01:03:35 Why men are called to work Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

What happens when a man loses his mission? In this powerful Friday Field Notes episode, Ryan Michler breaks down why purpose is not optional for men - it's essential. Drawing from military experience, personal stories, and alarming statistics around depression, suicide, addiction, and isolation, Ryan explains why so many men feel lost today and how to reclaim direction. Using the acronym MISSION, Ryan walks through a practical framework to help men identify meaning, build identity, serve others, develop skills, pursue interests, overcome obstacles, and take the next step toward a purpose-driven life. If you've felt stuck, numb, disconnected, or unsure of your next move, this episode is a direct challenge to stop drifting and start building a mission worthy of your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction 00:33 - The Soldier Returning Home 02:58 - The Crisis Facing Men Today 04:32 - Why Men Need Mission 05:05 - M = Meaning 06:55 - I = Identity 08:40 - S = Service 13:05 - The Power of Generational Impact 14:30 - S = Skills 16:20 - I = Interests 18:45 - O = Obstacles 21:23 - N = Next Step 22:55 - Mission, Depression & Isolation 24:20 - Young Men Without Purpose 26:05 - Why Great Men Had Missions 27:20 - Final Challenge to Men 28:25 - Iron Council Invitation & Outro Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Most men think they struggle with discipline, confidence, or motivation - but beneath all of it is a deeper issue: the inability to trust themselves. In this Friday Field Notes episode, Ryan Michler breaks down the concept of inner authority - what it is, why so many men lose it, and how to reclaim it in a world constantly demanding your attention, validation, and compliance. Ryan explores: Why modern men outsource their decisions How social media destroys self-trust The hidden resentment created by seeking approval The difference between wisdom and permission How to stop overexplaining yourself Practical ways to rebuild confidence and sovereignty If you've ever second-guessed yourself, needed external validation before making a move, or felt disconnected from your own instincts, this episode will challenge you to reclaim ownership of your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction 00:19 - The Problem Most Men Never Name 02:41 - A Question About Decision-Making 04:13 - Why Men Seek External Validation 06:38 - What Inner Authority Really Means 08:10 - Ownership, Accountability & Agency 10:10 - Criticism, Praise & Self-Trust 12:11 - How Men Lose Their Inner Authority 14:06 - Conditioning, Compliance & Institutions 15:57 - Relationships and Losing Your Voice 17:52 - Social Media and Validation Addiction 19:18 - Indecision and Overthinking 21:23 - Resentment From Outsourcing Your Life 22:02 - Success Without Fulfillment 24:17 - Ryan's Personal Crossroads Story 26:12 - How to Build Inner Authority 26:38 - Make Small Decisions 27:55 - Stop Asking Permission 28:45 - Stop Explaining Yourself 29:52 - Get Alone and Hear Yourself Think 30:43 - Do Difficult Things in Private 31:55 - Disagree Out Loud 33:05 - Track Your Wins 34:02 - You've Already Survived Hard Things 35:40 - Why Inner Authority Matters 36:35 - Iron Council Invitation 37:10 - Preview Call Details & Closing Remarks Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Ryan Michler breaks down what it truly means for a man to be "safe" in a relationship - and why most men get it wrong. Drawing from his own failed marriage, he explains how emotional volatility, inconsistency, and lack of self-mastery can erode trust at home. Ryan challenges the idea that safety equals weakness, arguing instead that it's rooted in strength, discipline, and control. He outlines practical ways men can become more grounded, reliable, and առաջնորդ-driven - through emotional regulation, clear personal standards, accountability, and presence. This episode is a direct, no-excuses call for men to lead themselves first so they can better lead and protect their families. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction: Rethinking "Safe Masculinity" 02:21 - Personal Story: Marriage Breakdown & Accountability 04:49 - The Cost of Being Unsafe as a Man 07:11 - Why Women Need Safety in Relationships 09:38 - What "Safe" Actually Means (Not Weakness) 10:59 - The Problem with the "Nice Guy" 13:22 - Personal Responsibility in Relationships 15:35 - Sovereignty & Emotional Regulation 19:52 - Practical Traits That Create Safety 22:03 - The Importance of Having a Code 24:04 - Protection & Masculine Provision 26:04 - Accountability Without Excuses 28:07 - Presence vs Absence 29:27 - Lion vs House Cat: True Masculinity Defined 31:23 - Final Call to Action Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler tackles a controversial but critical idea: what if free markets aren't the problem—but the proving ground for masculinity? Ryan breaks down how systems built on risk, accountability, competition, and earned success shape men into capable, resilient leaders. He contrasts this with the growing appeal of dependency-driven systems and explains why outsourcing responsibility may come at a deeper cost—your purpose, identity, and sovereignty. This is a direct, unfiltered look at what men lose when struggle disappears—and why the free market might be the arena men actually need. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Question No One Is Asking 00:34 - Free Markets & Masculinity Explained 02:12 - Struggle Is the Point 04:02 - Masculinity Under Fire 05:20 - The Rise of Dependency Thinking 06:09 - Sovereignty vs Security 07:54 - Personal Responsibility 09:50 - Risk & Reward 11:46 - Purpose, Work, and Male Disengagement 13:40 - Independence & Self-Reliance 15:26 - Earned Respect vs Entitlement 18:20 - The Power of Competition 21:46 - Justice vs Mercy 23:33 - The Lie About Capitalism (Cronyism) 25:40 - Consumerism & Empty Men 27:43 - Comfort Is the Real Threat 29:25 - Final Thoughts & Challenge Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down what it really means to "quiet quit" your family - being physically present but mentally and emotionally checked out. He explains why this is one of the most dangerous and overlooked problems facing men today, how it happens, and what you can do to fix it before it costs you your marriage and your relationship with your kids. If you've ever found yourself distracted, disengaged, or just going through the motions at home, this episode is a wake-up call. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Quiet Quit at Home 00:40 - Why This Is So Dangerous 01:35 - The Shocking Stats on Fatherlessness 04:05 - Presence vs Engagement 06:20 - Why Men Don't See the Problem 08:05 - How Relationships Quietly Break Down 10:10 - What Quiet Quitting Looks Like 11:50 - The Root Causes (Exhaustion, Avoidance, Identity) 14:15 - Why Men Default to What They Can Measure 15:20 - Step 1: Define a Home Standard 17:00 - Step 2: Create a Threshold Ritual 18:20 - Step 3: Audit Your Attention 20:30 - Step 4: Schedule Hard Conversations 21:30 - Step 5: Build Accountability 22:30 - Final Warning: The Invisible Damage 23:30 - Be the Man Your Family Needs 24:20 - YouTube + Iron Council CTA Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down the 7 forms of masculine provision - a complete framework for showing up as a capable, present, and effective man in your family and community. If you've ever thought that working hard and paying the bills was enough, this conversation will challenge that assumption and give you a more complete standard to live by. You'll learn why provision goes far beyond finances - and how neglecting the other areas can leave your family lacking, even if the bills are paid. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Intro 00:48 The Problem with "Providing = Money" 02:27 The 7 Forms of Masculine Provision 03:10 #1 Financial Provision (The Floor, Not the Ceiling) 04:52 Are You Hiding Behind Work? 05:30 #2 Physical Provision (Protection + Capability) 08:10 Health, Awareness, and Responsibility 10:23 #3 Emotional Provision (The Hard One) 10:50 Emotionally Checked Out 12:25 Dealing With Your Own Issues 14:45 #4 Intellectual Provision (A Mind Worth Following) 17:01 Leading Through Curiosity and Thinking 19:25 #5 Spiritual Provision (Be the Anchor) 21:41 Creating Meaning for Your Family 23:48 #6 Time Provision (You Only Have So Much) 24:14 You Only Have 10 Summers 26:28 #7 Self Provision (The Foundation) 28:36 The Full Framework Recap 30:40 Iron Council + Forge Event 31:05 Subscribe + Closing Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this episode, Ryan Michler breaks down one of the most influential-and dangerous-movements shaping modern men: the manosphere. While much of its message contains elements of truth-strength, discipline, success-it ultimately promotes a distorted version of masculinity rooted in ego, domination, and consumption. Ryan draws a critical distinction between masculinity (amoral traits) and manliness (moral responsibility), arguing that strength without character leads to destruction, not leadership. He challenges men to reject surface-level success metrics-money, women, status-and instead focus on what truly defines a man: what he builds, carries, and gives. This episode is a call to step away from performative masculinity and toward a life of purpose, discipline, and service-to become the kind of man others can depend on. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Manosphere Is Shaping a Generation 02:10 - Why the Message Is So Seductive 04:32 - The Rise of Performative Masculinity 06:52 - Strength Without Character Is Dangerous 09:17 - Masculinity vs. Manliness Explained 12:29 - What Actually Defines a Man 14:25 - Why Success Doesn't Equal Fulfillment 16:31 - How Culture Is Failing Young Men 18:17 - The True Measure of a Man 21:26 - Men Are Starving for Direction 22:39 - A Question Every Man Must Answer 24:49 - What Real Masculinity Looks Like 26:48 - Iron Council & Final Thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down the real root of chaos - not just on the global stage, but in your own life. While most people blame politics, religion, or circumstance, Ryan argues that the real issue is far closer to home: a lack of direction, discipline, and leadership among men. He challenges you to stop looking outward and start looking inward - at your role as a man, husband, father, and leader. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Real Cause of Global Chaos 01:40 - It's Not Politics (Here's What It Really Is) 03:50 - Why Conflict Never Gets Resolved 05:50 - Chaos Is a Leadership Problem 06:20 - How You're Creating Chaos in Your Own Life 08:15 - Why Men Feel Lost Today 10:00 - "Just Be Happy" Is a Lie 11:50 - Why Lack of Direction Is Dangerous 12:05 - The 3 Types of Directionless Men 12:15 - The Passive Man 13:50 - The Drifting Man 15:45 - The Undisciplined Aggressive Man 17:05 - From Global Problems to Personal Responsibility 18:20 - Direction Is the Cure 18:40 - Step 1: Define Your Mission 20:05 - Step 2: Set Non-Negotiable Standards 21:40 - Step 3: Control Your Emotions 22:50 - Step 4: Think Long-Term 24:40 - Where Are You Creating Chaos? 26:00 - The World Needs Strong Men 27:00 - Are You Creating Order or Noise? Because the truth is simple: Chaos isn't accidental - it's the result of poor leadership. Ryan walks through:  - Why undisciplined leadership leads to destruction (globally and personally)  - The 3 types of directionless men - and how to identify where you fall  - How modern culture has removed standards without replacing them  - Why "just be happy" is terrible advice for men  - A tactical framework to build direction, discipline, and purpose If you feel stuck, frustrated, or like you're drifting through life - this episode will give you the clarity and structure you need to take control. Key Takeaway:  - Direction creates order.  - Lack of direction creates chaos. The question is: Are you leading your life - or reacting to it?   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

We've been sold a dangerous lie - that the goal of life is comfort. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down why comfort is quietly destroying ambition, discipline, and purpose in modern men. What feels good in the moment is often the very thing holding you back long-term. If you've been feeling stuck, unmotivated, or drifting, this episode will challenge you to rethink everything. Ryan shares 5 practical ways to reintroduce challenge into your life, build discipline, and become the man you're meant to be. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Lie of Comfort 00:35 - Why Comfort is an Addiction 01:10 - Life is Too Easy (Not Too Hard) 02:15 - The Slow Fade Into Mediocrity 03:00 - Comfort Mimics Progress 04:20 - Do One Hard Thing Daily 05:30 - Eliminate a Comfort Crutch 06:45 - Stop Hiding (Accountability) 08:40 - Schedule Discomfort 10:05 - When Comfort Destroys Your Life 11:50 - Earn Your Comfort 13:10 - Comfort Creates Weak Men 15:30 - Ask "What's Required?" 17:00 - Final Challenge Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen answer listener questions on masculinity, business, relationships, and personal discipline. They discuss common misconceptions about manhood, why men can't succeed alone, and the hidden "inner work" behind strong masculinity. The conversation also covers social media side hustles, financial decisions, building business networks, and how to break out of destructive habits. Ryan and Kipp also tackle relationship dynamics, including respect in marriage and the real reason attraction fades in long-term relationships. This episode is packed with practical advice on taking ownership, building momentum, and becoming a better man. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Opening conversation 02:33 Iron Council preview call announcement 03:14 Question: Beliefs about manhood that proved wrong 16:50 Question: Is my social media side hustle a waste of time? 25:53 Question: Thoughts on peptides 29:48 Question: Is $2,200 rent on $6K income realistic? 36:00 Question: Building a construction trade network 43:44 Question: Breaking destructive habits and starting over 49:05 Question: Respect and cooperation in marriage 53:11 Question: Why wives lose attraction Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Life can collapse faster than we expect. A divorce, financial loss, health issues, or the breakdown of relationships can leave a man wondering where to even begin again. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler shares six strategies for rebuilding your life when everything feels like it's falling apart. Drawing from personal experience and years of working with thousands of men, Ryan explains why rebuilding doesn't start with massive breakthroughs—it starts with small, disciplined actions that restore stability and control. If you're facing rock bottom—or helping someone who is—this episode outlines the mindset and practical steps required to rebuild stronger than before. Ryan covers why stabilizing yourself is more important than rushing into strategy, how taking full ownership restores your personal power, and why rebuilding your body is one of the fastest ways to regain confidence and discipline. He also explains the importance of simplifying your life, stacking small wins, and surrounding yourself with the right brotherhood so you don't face the rebuilding process alone. Rock bottom doesn't have to be the end of your story. It can be the foundation for becoming the man you were meant to be. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Intro 00:22 When Life Falls Apart 02:56 Where Do You Even Start? 03:33 Stabilize Before You Strategize 05:05 The Fundamentals: Sleep, Training, Nutrition 07:12 Creating Daily Structure 08:49 Take Ruthless Ownership of Your Life 11:20 Powerful Questions for Self-Reflection 12:40 Simplify Your Life Aggressively 15:28 Rebuild Your Body First 17:25 The Power of Stacking Small Wins 21:00 Why Brotherhood Matters 24:55 Why No Man Rebuilds Alone 25:55 Using Rock Bottom as Your Starting Block 27:19 Who Do You Become Now? 28:00 Iron Council Brotherhood 29:00 Final Thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

In this AMA episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle a wide range of listener questions-from AI and authenticity to divorce, brotherhood, and extreme ownership. Ryan shares lessons from his own divorce about reflection, accountability, and rebuilding your life after a major setback. The conversation also dives into why authenticity builds trust, the danger of labeling words as violence, and how men can start building strong brotherhoods even if they've spent most of their lives alone. If you're feeling stuck in your career, isolated in life, or unsure how to take the next step forward, this episode offers practical guidance and honest perspective. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:04 - Introduction and lacrosse tournament story 03:46 - Listener question: AI and content creation 17:57 - Navigating divorce and staying afloat emotionally 30:17 - New Order of Man merchandise designs 32:14 - Ideals worth fighting or dying for 35:15 - Violence, language, and societal perception 42:16 - Building brotherhood from scratch 51:22 - Extreme ownership when stuck in a job 59:24 - Reflecting on advice given years earlier 59:50 - Episode closing remarks Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

My good friend Kipp Sorensen interviews me. I'm on the hot seat today and very excited to be talking with you about all things Order of Man, including the origin story of Order of Man, why we need to be careful of falling into the comparison trap, but how it can actually help you by comparing yourself in healthy ways to others. We talk about having healthy relationships with delayed gratification. Any misconceptions about what order of man does what we're doing now and into the future, how we've grown the movement, and how we continue to innovate and come up with new ideas. We talk about some of the tactics and strategies. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Cold Open & Fight Talk 03:12 Reversing the Roles — Ryan on the Hot Seat 05:30 The Origin of Order of Man 11:20 Launching the Iron Council 13:50 Commitment and Delayed Gratification 19:28 Why Ryan Never Quit the Mission 22:00 Lessons From Personal Struggles and Divorce 28:00 Commitment to the Mission vs Results 30:20 The Trap of Always Chasing "What's Next" 34:28 Dealing With Pressure and Escapism 40:32 Handling Leadership Pressure 43:07 The Danger of the Red Pill Movement 48:00 The Problem With Modern Masculinity Influencers 50:53 The Real Men We Should Look Up To 53:25 What Men Often Get Wrong About Masculinity 54:47 The Intangible Side of Protect, Provide, Preside 01:00:37 Tactical vs Strategic Leadership as a Father 01:14:17 Being an Introvert With a Massive Audience 01:15:41 The Impact of Listener Stories 01:22:26 Call to Action for Men Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Ryan Michler challenges the cultural myth of the "lone wolf" man and explains why isolation is quietly destroying modern men. While movies, social media, and modern culture glorify the rugged individual who needs no one, the truth is the opposite - men were built for brotherhood, tribes, and shared struggle. Ryan breaks down why modern systems incentivize isolation, how loneliness leads to mediocrity and addiction, and what men can do to build real brotherhood again. From historical examples of men organizing to modern distractions that keep men disconnected, this episode is a powerful reminder that the strongest men aren't lone wolves - they're leaders of packs. Ryan also shares practical ways to build connection, including where brotherhood naturally forms and how to take the first step in creating it. In This Episode Why the "lone wolf" myth is a lie What actually happens to lone wolves in nature How isolation is affecting modern men Why systems and incentives push men toward loneliness How technology simulates brotherhood without delivering it The dangers of losing accountability and perspective Why strong men throughout history built tribes Practical ways to build real brotherhood today The three environments where men improve together Why shared struggle builds deeper bonds than conversation Resources & Links Iron Council Brotherhood https://orderofman.com/ironcouncil The Men's Forge Event https://themensforge.com Montana Knife Company https://montanaknifecompany.com Code: ORDERMAN Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler reflects on the public rise and fall of actor Shia LaBeouf to explore a deeper issue affecting men everywhere: isolation. While fame and success may amplify a man's strengths and weaknesses, they cannot stabilize him. Ryan argues that the real danger is not failure, but a lack of brotherhood and accountability. Through personal insight and hard-earned experience, he challenges men to build strong systems and surround themselves with brothers who will confront, support, and walk with them - especially when life begins to unravel. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Rise and Fall of Shia LaBeouf 04:36 - Success Amplifies, It Doesn't Stabilize 07:15 - No TMZ in Your Living Room 09:36 - Untouchable Men Become Unstable 12:05 - What Real Brotherhood Does 16:25 - Systems Over Willpower 18:51 - Fame Didn't Destroy Him 20:09 - Who Can Confront You? 21:02 - Submit to Accountability 22:48 - A Call to Build the Brotherhood Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Men have lost initiation. There was a time when boys were tested before becoming men. They faced hardship. They endured pain. They returned changed - recognized as men. Today, that process is gone. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down: Why modern men feel lost The three elements of ancient initiation Why pain is necessary How comfort culture is weakening men Why nobody is coming to initiate you How to initiate yourself If you feel stuck, drifting, or chasing validation - this episode is for you. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Men Have Lost Initiation 00:26 When Boys Knew They Became Men 02:50 The Cost of Extended Adolescence 05:10 Comfort Culture Is Weakening Men 07:25 "Where Have All the Real Men Gone?" 08:05 The Three Elements of Initiation 08:30 Removed From Comfort 09:24 The Benefit of Pain 11:15 The Trial: Facing Fear 12:56 Recognition and Acknowledgment 14:49 Drifting, Chasing, and the Integrity Gap 16:35 Nobody Is Coming to Initiate You 17:14 Voluntary Hardship 18:45 What Initiation Looks Like Today 19:45 Brotherhood Is Modern Initiation 20:51 The World Needs Grounded Men 21:15 Questions Every Man Must Ask Himself 22:21 Do Something Difficult This Week 23:47 Steadiness Over Loudness 24:35 Choose the Fire 25:00 Join the Iron Council 25:20 The Men's Forge Event 26:00 Final Challenge   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

In this Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen answer powerful questions from the Iron Council on leadership, fatherhood, faith, discipline, and personal responsibility. They explore how to eliminate noise and live an integrated life, coach teenage boys through cultural conflict, raise resilient children, and avoid bureaucratic leadership traps. The conversation also confronts modern church culture, challenges the pursuit of comfort over growth, and defines what it truly means to be present as a father - even when work demands time away. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Episode Introduction 03:50 - Signal vs Noise and Life Integration 14:27 - Coaching Teens Through Cultural Conflict 22:52 - Leadership Systems vs Human Judgment 34:41 - Faith, Masculinity, and the Modern Church 47:29 - Helping Kids Find Their Passion 52:31 - Defining Presence as a Working Father 56:19 - Men's Forge Event Announcement Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Most men believe confidence comes after certainty - once they make more money, gain more experience, or eliminate risk. In this Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler challenges that belief and explains why clarity, not certainty, is the real source of confidence. Ryan breaks down how ambiguity quietly drains a man's energy, why indecision exhausts the nervous system, and how avoiding clarity eventually leads to resentment, broken relationships, and missed opportunities. He also explains why most men don't lack clarity - they lack the courage to act on what they already know. This episode is a call to action: stop negotiating with clarity, make decisions, and move forward calmly, deliberately, and decisively. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Confidence vs Certainty 00:38 - Why Ambiguity Drains Men 02:32 - How Indecision Exhausts Your Energy 04:34 - Clarity Calms the Nervous System 05:45 - Confidence Is Calm, Not Loud 06:30 - Why Men Avoid Clarity 08:08 - Clarity Requires Courage 10:16 - "Patience" as Avoidance 12:19 - What You Avoid Will Confront You 14:00 - Clarity Is Respect, Not Aggression 15:52 - The One Question You Must Ask Yourself 17:02 - One Decision Can Change Everything 19:07 - Confidence Comes After Decision 21:22 - Final Challenge to Get Clear Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

In this Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle real-world questions from men across the globe. They discuss staying on the path after divorce, resisting the urge to chase new systems, and why consistency matters more than quick results. The conversation dives into parenting sons and daughters, raising boys through real-world apprenticeship, navigating estranged relationships with adult children, and how emotional regulation shapes leadership and influence. From fitness and fatherhood to boundaries, patience, and embodiment, this episode offers grounded wisdom for men committed to growth. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Weekend banter and life updates 03:35 - Systems after divorce and consistency 14:12 - Predictions, expectations, and relationships 21:26 - Taking young children into the outdoors 29:29 - Connecting with daughters as a father 35:55 - Teaching young men leadership and decisions 42:46 - Estrangement from children and self-leadership 51:48 - Men's Forge event announcement and CTA   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Healthy boundaries are essential - but most men don't know what they actually look like. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down eight practical boundaries every man must establish in his personal, professional, and romantic relationships to build respect, alignment, and long-term success. These boundaries aren't about control or ultimatums - they're about clarity, self-respect, and creating relationships that truly work. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Why Boundaries Matter 01:10 - Why Men Struggle with Boundaries 02:38 - Grace, Communication, and Relationships 03:05 - High Fences Make Great Neighbors 05:05 - Alignment in Healthy Relationships 06:15 - Boundary #1: Reciprocity 07:26 - Boundary #2: Initiation 08:50 - Boundary #3: Flow 10:55 - Boundary #4: Capacity 12:08 - Boundary #5: Self-Abandonment 14:45 - Boundary #6: Regulation 17:30 - Boundary #7: Exit Boundary 22:55 - Boundary #8: Potential 24:10 - Identifying Triggered Boundaries 26:05 - Communicating Boundaries Effectively 28:40 - Join Iron Council 30:05 - Final Thoughts & Sign-Off Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Divorce doesn't just end a marriage—it can shatter a man's identity, confidence, and sense of direction. In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, I sit down with my close friend Ryan Michler, founder of Order of Man, to talk openly about what it really looks like to navigate divorce as a man—and come out stronger on the other side.   Ryan shares his personal experience of being divorced for nearly three years, including the identity loss men feel when they're no longer husbands or full-time dads, the mistakes many men make by orienting their lives around their ex, and why healing starts when you make yourself the project. We also dive into rebuilding relationships with kids, handling co-parenting with integrity, resisting isolation, and why brotherhood is non-negotiable in seasons of separation. If you're divorced, separated, or supporting a man who is—this episode is required listening.     Timeline Summary [0:00] Why this episode is for divorced and separated dads [2:35] Introducing Ryan Michler and his journey through divorce [3:37] Losing identity as a husband and father after divorce [4:59] Feeling like "less of a man" after separation [6:02] Why orienting your life around your ex is a mistake [7:21] Making yourself the project after divorce [9:01] Isolation, vices, and the danger of being alone too much [10:45] Why brotherhood accelerates healing [12:15] Journaling, self-regulation, and daily discipline [14:06] Rebuilding physical health and confidence [15:32] Redefining masculinity and self-worth [17:15] Being honest—but appropriate—with kids about divorce [19:02] Staying present in your kids' lives beyond "your time" [21:11] Customizing connection with each child [23:23] Never giving up on estranged relationships [25:08] Civility, boundaries, and co-parenting with integrity [29:02] Why consistency matters more than outcomes [31:22] Divorce Not Death program overview [34:40] The Men's Forge experience and why it's different [38:15] Bringing sons to Men's Forge and legacy building [41:41] What boys learn by watching their fathers lead [45:54] Final encouragement for men navigating divorce     Five Key Takeaways Divorce shakes a man's identity, but it doesn't have to define his future.  Healing begins when men stop orienting around their ex and start orienting around growth.  Isolation amplifies pain, while brotherhood shortens the recovery curve.  Consistency and integrity rebuild trust with kids, even when relationships feel strained.  Men who make themselves the project come out stronger, healthier, and more grounded.      Links & Resources Men's Forge Event: https://themensforge.com Dad Edge Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/alliance Dad Edge Alliance Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/preview 1st Phorm Dad Edge Challenge: https://1stphorm.com/dadedge Divorce Not Death Program: https://divorcenotdeath.com Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1433     Closing Remark If this episode spoke to where you're at—or where you've been—please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Divorce is not the end of your story. With discipline, brotherhood, and intention, it can be the beginning of a stronger chapter. Go out and live legendary.

Pain is part of life. Breakups, divorce, job loss, grief, frustration - every man faces suffering at some point. The difference between men who grow stronger and men who grow bitter isn't whether they suffer, but how they carry it. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explains what it really means to "suffer like a man." Not suppressing emotions. Not performing toughness. But learning how to metabolize pain into strength, discipline, clarity, and usefulness. Ryan shares five powerful principles that will help you stop wasting your suffering and start using it as fuel for growth, leadership, and resilience - in your work, your family, and your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Suffer Like a Man (Intro) 00:50 - Suffering Isn't the Problem 01:45 - Why Men Numb Pain 03:11 - When Suffering Makes You Bitter 04:56 - Stop Resisting Pain 06:10 - Name the Pain 06:58 - Contain It, Don't Leak It 07:23 - Explode or Implode 08:45 - Move Pain Through the Body 10:58 - Don't Waste Your Suffering 11:35 - Extract the Meaning 13:12 - Let Suffering Make You Useful 15:18 - Suffering Builds Strong Men 16:42 - Suffering Is Part of the System 18:05 - Final Charge to Men Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle some of the most pressing questions facing modern men. From the pros and cons of testosterone replacement therapy to rites of passage for men who were never initiated, the conversation dives deep into masculinity, leadership, and responsibility. They explore how men can give advice with confidence, navigate today's confusing cultural signals around manhood, and prepare their sons for a challenging financial future. This episode is a powerful reminder that being a man is not a title - it's a daily commitment to action. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Opening & Current Events 04:55 - Testosterone & TRT 12:35 - Rites of Passage Into Manhood 22:45 - Giving Advice With Authority 33:20 - Masculinity, Adolescence & Maturity 42:30 - Preparing Sons for the Future 50:30 - Wrap-Up & Iron Council Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

In today's episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler challenges one of modern self-help culture's most sacred ideas: vulnerability. While honesty, humility, and emotional awareness are essential to growth, Ryan makes the case that vulnerability - when practiced without discernment, responsibility, or purpose - often becomes performative, destabilizing, and counterproductive, especially for men in leadership roles. This episode is not an argument against emotion. It's an argument for self-mastery, containment, and earned honesty. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Intro 00:37 - Why Vulnerability Became a Sacred Cow 02:45 - Emotional Awareness vs Emotional Exposure 04:55 - Vulnerability Without Discernment = Emotional Exhibitionism 07:40 - Oversharing Shifts the Emotional Burden 09:50 - Why Emotional Dumping Kills Trust & Attraction 12:55 - Leadership Requires Stability, Not Collapse 14:40 - Transparency vs Discernment 16:30 - Honesty Is Not a Lack of Self-Mastery 17:40 - Regulation vs Repression 19:20 - Lessons from Stoic Men & Great Leaders 21:10 - Earned Vulnerability Explained 23:00 - Secure Containers, Not "Safe Spaces" 25:05 - Responsibility Over Emotional Relief 27:00 - What Men Actually Need More Of 28:20 - Vulnerability Is Not the Goal—Integrity Is 30:20 - Final Thoughts & Call to Action Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

As we head into 2026, Ryan Michler breaks down 10 destructive money mindsets that quietly sabotage men's ability to build real wealth. Drawing from his experience as a former financial advisor, Ryan explains why income is not the same as wealth, how debt has been falsely normalized, and why outsourcing responsibility for your finances is a losing strategy. He challenges the belief that "more money will fix everything" and dismantles the idea that your situation is somehow different from everyone else's. This episode is a hard-hitting call to take ownership of your financial decisions, develop discipline, and shift your focus from chasing money to creating real value in the world. Key Topics Covered Why procrastination destroys wealth faster than bad investments The difference between earning money and building wealth How debt has been normalized - and why it's costing you freedom Why outsourcing your finances weakens your sovereignty The danger of entitlement-based spending ("I deserve this") Why more money magnifies problems instead of fixing them Investing vs. gambling - and why doing nothing is the riskiest move Why you must understand money instead of delegating it The myth of being "special" or financially different Why money isn't the problem - behavior and priorities are Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

What does it really mean to lead with integrity when institutions fail and people disappoint? In this Ask Me Anything episode of Order of Man, Ryan Michler answers real questions from the community on leadership, anger and forgiveness, building passive income, physical fitness, accountability, and personal standards. Ryan shares hard-earned insights on responsibility, discipline, and how to operate with clarity in uncertain times. This candid AMA delivers practical guidance and mindset shifts for men committed to growth, strength, and personal ownership. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Ask Me Anything Kickoff 02:42 Asking Better Questions as a Leader 13:36 The Quality Ryan Is Most Proud Of 19:27 Passive Income and Multiple Streams 28:21 Faith, Truth, and Broken Institutions 33:50 Society, Maturity, and Self-Control 41:32 Baseline Physical Aptitude Test Explained 44:16 Letting Go of Anger and Forgiveness 54:52 Dealing With People Who Drop the Ball Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In the final episode of 2025, I take time to reflect, express deep gratitude, and share what's coming next for The Dad Edge as we head into 2026. This episode is about honoring what this community has built together over the past ten years, celebrating the wins, and casting a clear vision for what's ahead for men who want to lead their families with intention.   I walk you through several major announcements—from the return of Wednesday Q&A with Uncle Joe, to our brand-new Dad Edge Alliance membership platform, upcoming marriage and health initiatives, and powerful in-person experiences like Men's Forge. This episode is both a thank-you and a rallying cry for men who are ready to step into the next year with clarity, purpose, and brotherhood.     Timeline Summary: [0:00] Welcoming listeners and reflecting on the final episode of 2025. [1:23] Celebrating 10 full years of podcasting and the growth of The Dad Edge. [1:41] Gratitude for listeners, downloads, and being ranked #1 again. [2:22] Why fatherhood, marriage, and family are the most important work we do. [2:56] A heartfelt thank-you to the community for showing up all year. [3:13] Announcement: Wednesday Q&A episodes return with Uncle Joe in 2026. [3:49] How to submit your questions for the Q&A episodes via email. [4:06] Introducing the brand-new Dad Edge Alliance membership site. [4:49] Why moving away from Facebook, Slack, and WhatsApp changed everything. [5:24] Weekly call teams and global time-zone support for members. [5:47] January focus inside the Alliance: marriage, parenting, vitality, and money. [6:26] February marriage training focused on intimacy, passion, and connection. [6:44] Partnership with 1st Phorm and upcoming health initiatives. [7:18] Announcement of the 8-week transformation challenge starting February 1. [7:55] Coaching, accountability, and community inside the challenge. [8:54] Information call for the Roommates to Soulmates live course. [9:14] What the Roommates to Soulmates course will teach men about marriage. [10:02] Larry shares his personal experience with marriage disconnection. [10:39] Men's Forge announcement with Ryan Michler and Order of Man. [11:01] Event dates, speakers, and why nearly everyone returned from last year. [11:56] "Bring a Brother" and "Bring a Son" ticket options. [12:12] Why exposing teenage sons to intentional masculinity matters. [13:10] Announcing the December Dad Edge 1st Phorm Man of the Month. [13:55] Recognizing Shay Chase for leadership and health coaching impact. [14:39] Directing listeners to the full show notes and resources. [15:01] Final thank-you and encouragement heading into 2026.     Five Key Takeaways: Intentional fatherhood creates generational impact, and this community exists to raise the standard for men.  Brotherhood and accountability matter, especially when men are navigating marriage, parenting, health, and finances.  Marriage requires skill-building and leadership, not passive hope that things will improve.  Physical health fuels leadership at home, and structured challenges create momentum and consistency.  The next year can look different if men commit to standards, community, and intentional action.      Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance Membership: https://thedadedge.com Roommates to Soulmates Course: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates 1st Phorm Partnership: https://1stphorm.com/dadedge Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1421     Closing Remark Gentlemen, thank you for an incredible 2025. Thank you for showing up, doing the work, and choosing to lead your families with intention. My hope is that we bring even more men to this table in 2026 so we can continue to change lives, marriages, and families for the better. Go out and live legendary.

In this Friday Field Notes episode, Ryan Michler delivers a direct and uncompromising message: success never happens by accident. He challenges listeners to confront the ways they may be drifting through life, reacting to circumstances rather than intentionally leading themselves. Ryan explores how comfort, avoidance, and distraction quietly compound into years of lost potential, and contrasts that with the strength and freedom created through discipline, structure, and brotherhood. This episode calls men to choose hardship on purpose, define their standards, and begin taking directional action immediately instead of waiting for motivation to arrive. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Introduction to the Drift 02:29 Weakness as the Default Setting 04:56 The Deceitful Nature of Drift 07:19 Mistaking Activity for Productivity 09:43 Structure, Discipline, and Freedom 13:26 Chaos Versus Ownership 15:03 Drift Creates Weak Default Patterns 16:22 Blindness to the Cliff 18:15 Choosing Your Struggle 19:42 Direction Before Motivation 20:23 Standards and Daily Requirements 21:30 Brotherhood as an Antidote 24:34 Identifying Where You Are Drifting 26:58 Final Call to Action Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

In this Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle the number one issue facing men today: money. From scarcity mindset and debt to retirement planning, investing, and raising financially responsible kids, the conversation blends practical financial wisdom with deeper insights on discipline, self-belief, and values.  Ryan breaks down Dave Ramsey's baby steps, explains Roth vs. traditional IRAs, challenges popular budgeting rules, and shares how to instill abundance thinking in your family. A must-listen for men looking to build wealth without losing perspective. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Financial stress and the current economy 03:46 Physical baseline and discipline 08:59 Scarcity vs. abundance mindset 19:23 Dave Ramsey's seven baby steps 26:01 Roth IRA vs. traditional IRA 34:45 The 50-30-20 budgeting rule 37:29 Building wealth in an underpaid career 45:08 Teaching kids financial discipline 56:18 Iron Council and end-of-year call to action Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this week's Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorenson tackle a wide range of listener-submitted questions on leadership, relationships, accountability, confidence, and personal development. They dive into topics such as coming out of difficult life seasons, raising prices in business, being "unarmored" versus vulnerable, navigating age-gap relationships, reclaiming decisiveness in the home, and staying consistent with difficult tasks.  They also discuss communication differences between men and women and how men can lead more effectively with clarity and purpose. A practical, direct, and insightful conversation for men committed to growth. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Intro 01:28 - Ascending out of a difficult season 07:20 - Raising prices with early clients 15:43 - Being unarmored vs. vulnerable 23:01 - Age-gap relationships 28:06 - Regaining accountability leadership 33:00 - Decision making in the home 42:29 - Doing hard, unappealing tasks 47:00 - Iron Council promotion & closing Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this Friday Field Notes episode, Ryan Michler delivers a direct challenge to men who've been giving away their power. He breaks down how modern culture, comfort, and conditioned beliefs push men into outsourcing responsibility - and how reclaiming sovereignty starts with ownership, discipline, and intentional action. Ryan explains why accountability feels heavy, why most men avoid the truth, and why no one is coming to save them. He closes with practical steps to take back control and a reminder that transformative change begins from within. A hard-hitting message for men ready to stop drifting and start leading. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Introduction 00:05 Outsourcing Power 02:31 Psychological Slavery 04:49 Responsibility Reveals Truth 06:40 No One Is Coming to Save You 09:29 What Can I Do About It? 11:54 Taking Control of One Domain 14:17 Surround Yourself With Better Men 16:40 Invest in Brotherhood 18:46 Power Comes From Within 20:31 Iron Council Invitation 20:45 Next Week's Episode Preview Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In today's Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler shares a powerful message built around a simple but meaningful reminder: your dust, your rust, and your scars do NOT define you - they tell your story. After finding an old, rusted metal grid and working to restore it, Ryan reflects on how men often feel discarded, overlooked, or worn down by life. Through this analogy, he unpacks five key truths about identity, hardship, and resilience. If you've ever felt beat up by life, sidelined by circumstances, or dismissed by others, this episode will remind you of your worth and your purpose. In This Episode: Why your scars are proof that you've lived, not that you're broken How stagnation creates "rust" in your life How to wipe away habits, attitudes, and behaviors that no longer serve you Why rejection doesn't define your value How to turn your scars into stories that help others Five Lessons From This Episode: What clings to you is not who you are Rust only forms when you sit still You can wipe away what no longer serves you Your scars are your stories - your mess is your message Someone's trash is another person's treasure SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Introduction 00:27 – The Rusted Metal Grid Story 02:51 – Men Feeling Discarded 03:20 – Five Lessons About Dust and Rust 03:30 – #1 You Are Not Defined by What Clings to You 05:16 – #2 Rust Only Forms When You Sit Still 07:29 – Stop Wearing Other Men's Names 08:07 – Become the Man Who Leads 09:30 – #3 Wipe Away What No Longer Serves You 10:27 – #4 Your Scars Are Proof You've Lived 12:40 – Turning Scars Into Stories 13:50 – The Restored Rusty Truck Story 14:46 – #5 Someone's Trash Is Another's Treasure 16:04 – Being Valued at Home 17:19 – Recap of the Five Lessons 18:00 – Final Encouragement & Closing CTA Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this Friday Field Notes episode, Ryan Michler challenges men to stop drifting through life and confront the apathy holding them back. He breaks down the five core actions that help men regain direction, eliminate complacency, and move with purpose. Ryan speaks candidly about distraction, burnout, and his own past patterns of escape, giving listeners a direct path to clarity and discipline. This episode offers a clear call for men to reclaim their focus, cut the noise, and commit to what actually matters. A powerful, practical reminder for anyone who feels stuck or overwhelmed. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Introduction 00:22 Burnout and rising apathy 01:54 Why men are giving up 03:40 Know what you want 06:10 Delegate what drains you 08:45 Remove energy draining people 11:23 Go deep, not wide 14:50 Ryan's story of sedation 16:06 Stop escaping your life 18:34 Final message and call to action Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Most men think the X Factor - that magnetic presence of strong, capable men - is something you're born with. It's not. It's built through five rules that any man can follow. In this Friday Field Note, Ryan Michler breaks down the simple, actionable formula that will make you more influential, bold, and courageous - and help you create the life and relationships you want. The 5 Rules Every Man Must Follow: Be Strong - build the trifecta: physical, mental, and emotional strength Be Emotionally Stable - create safety and calm for your family and team Be Kind - true kindness comes from power, not weakness Be Discerning - not everyone deserves your time or vulnerability Be Courageous - take action even when you're scared SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: 00:00 - What Is the X Factor? 00:30 - The Myth of the X Factor 02:58 - Rule #1: Be Strong 07:18 - Rule #2: Be Emotionally Stable 11:11 - Rule #3: Be Kind 13:20 - Rule #4: Be Discerning 18:04 - Rule #5: Be Courageous 24:15 - The Iron Council Promo 24:50 - Closing Challenge Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this week's Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores the importance of building meaningful male friendships and creating your own "band of brothers." Drawing from personal experiences, including his annual hunting trip in Minnesota, Ryan breaks down five key principles for cultivating brotherhood - working toward a shared goal, finding common activities, embracing challenge, engaging in banter, and showing up consistently. He reminds men that strong friendships don't just happen - they're built through shared effort, loyalty, and reliability. Listeners will walk away with practical strategies for deepening male bonds and strengthening their sense of purpose and connection. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Introduction: The Power of Male Friendships 02:17 – Work Toward a Common Goal or Enemy 04:38 – Find Shared Hobbies and Activities 07:56 – Embrace Challenge and Growth 09:24 – Banter, Insults, and Testing Bonds 11:54 – Consistency and Predictability 16:35 – Recap: The Five Keys to Male Friendship 17:12 – The Iron Council Brotherhood Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Most men are working hard, providing, producing — but not necessarily happy. In this Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler shares six practical principles to help you rediscover joy and meaning in your life. From cutting toxic influences to reconnecting with purpose, this episode helps you break out of burnout and live with more fulfillment. Whether you're frustrated, exhausted, or simply drifting, this conversation will help you recalibrate your priorities and bring more joy into every area of your life. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why so many men feel unhappy despite “doing everything right” The real reason joy isn't selfish — it's essential How to identify people who lift you up vs. those who drain you Why you must remove toxic activities to make room for happiness How minimalism creates margin for peace and purpose The importance of saying yes to adventure and interesting experiences How to attach your work to a deeper mission Why serving others is the ultimate path to joy Resources & Links Mentioned: Join The Iron Council – our exclusive brotherhood for men: www.orderofman.com/ironcouncil Follow Ryan on Instagram → @ryanmichler SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction 01:00 - Why so many men are unhappy                            02:20 - What's the point if you're not joyful?                 04:59 - Finding meaningful work                                07:08 - Step 1 – Only spend time with people who fulfill you   09:15 - Step 2 – Eliminate toxic activities & find margin      11:38 - Step 3 – Have fewer things                             16:29 - Step 4 – Say yes to things that make life interesting  18:59 - Step 5 – Attach your work to a mission                 26:09 - Step 6 – Be selfless and serve others                  32:06 - Final message – Take action and find joy           Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

In this week's Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down how men can reclaim masculinity in an overly feminized culture. He outlines five principles for leading, protecting, and providing in a world that often mislabels masculine virtues as toxic. Ryan challenges modern misconceptions, redefines what strength looks like, and calls men to take responsibility - for themselves, their families, and their communities. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Intro - The Cost of a Feminized Culture                   00:12 - We Live in an Overly Feminized Culture 02:33 - Rule #1 - Reject the Idea That Men and Women Are the Same 05:38 - Rule #2 - Masculinity Isn't Toxic, It's How You Use It    08:04 - Masculine vs. Feminine Virtues: Different, Not Opposed    10:27 - Rule #3 - Don't Take Masculinity Advice from Women        14:31 - Rule #4 - Boys Need Men: Why Male Influence Matters       16:40 - Rule #5 - Read the Room: Strength vs. Compassion          20:15 - Balancing Masculine and Feminine Parenting Roles          22:35 - Rule #6 - Embrace Meritocracy & Earn Influence            26:50 - Next Week: Dr. Steven Pinker Teaser                       26:57 - Subscribe & YouTube Growth Promo                          KEY TAKEAWAYS Modern culture has conditioned men to abandon masculine traits. Masculinity itself isn't toxic — it's how you use it. Men and women are equal in worth but different in design and purpose. Men must mentor boys to become strong, capable leaders. Leadership requires discernment — strength and compassion both matter. Reclaiming masculinity means earning influence through merit and integrity. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Upcoming Guest: Dr. Steven Pinker (next week's interview) Subscribe on YouTube: youtube.com/orderofman Follow Ryan Michler on Instagram: @ryanmichler Join the Order of Man Community: orderofman.com   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this week's Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle a wide range of powerful listener questions—from raising children without a “heart at war” to building better connections with your sons and wives. They dive deep into personal growth, leadership, and balance, discussing authenticity, recovery, and what it means to find peace while still pursuing excellence.  They also explore the realities of career transitions and starting new business ventures. A thoughtful, real, and motivating conversation filled with practical wisdom and relatable life lessons. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Opening banter & hunting talk 02:19 – First viewer question (Tony) 12:14 – Staying driven without Iron Council 15:53 – Connecting with teenage sons 26:13 – Reflecting on past podcast episodes 30:41 – Relationship checklists & intentional connection 34:32 – Resources for starting a business 39:32 – When to leave your job 43:17 – Finding peace while still growing 50:08 – Promotions & course announcements 52:22 – Closing remarks Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this week's Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and guest co-host Jay Jairdullo tackle powerful questions from members of the Iron Council and the broader Order of Man community. They dive into overcoming complacency after success, saving a struggling marriage, the real key to consistency, and finding clarity amid diet confusion.  Ryan also shares guidance on battling depression, building self-worth, and mastering emotional regulation. This episode is packed with wisdom, frameworks, and honest stories that every man can apply to become stronger and more grounded in purpose. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Intro and catch-up with Jay 01:26 – Setting new goals and avoiding complacency 07:42 – Navigating marital separation and self-improvement 17:31 – Why some men thrive in the Iron Council 34:18 – Using the Pareto Principle 42:51 – Overcoming depression and learning self-love 48:35 – Managing emotions and staying calm 56:21 – Final thoughts and Iron Council invitation Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this Friday Field Notes episode, Ryan Michler explores what it truly means for men to take risks and why it's essential for growth, leadership, and purpose. He outlines the importance of knowing your “why,” weighing risk versus reward, hedging your bets, and preparing every area of your life before making bold moves. Ryan also emphasizes the need for courage, resilience, and guidance from mentors. This conversation is a practical and powerful guide for men who want to step into greater responsibility, push past fear, and live with meaning while taking calculated, righteous risks. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:14 Big goals and the role of risk 02:24 The importance of knowing your why 07:03 Measuring risk versus reward 09:27 Hedging your bets 11:50 Getting your house in order 14:16 SWOT analysis for decision-making 16:37 The mandate to take righteous risk 18:55 Coaching opportunities and Iron Council Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this week's Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down the truth behind the phrase “Nice Guys Never Win.” He explains how the tendency to avoid conflict, suppress needs, and chase approval leads to weak boundaries, indecision, and frustration in relationships and careers.  Ryan outlines the real costs of “nice guy syndrome” and challenges men to reclaim respect through clarity, honesty, and decisive action. He closes with five daily practices to help men stop self-betrayal and start leading with conviction. This episode is a direct, no-fluff call for men to stop playing the victim and step into responsibility. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Defining the Nice Guy 02:13 – Consequences of Nice Guy Syndrome 04:32 – Indecisiveness and People Pleasing 06:53 – Suppressing Needs and Passive Aggression 09:18 – Inauthenticity and Fear of Judgment 11:43 – Playing the Victim 13:51 – Confusion, Distrust, and Frustration 18:43 – The Cycle of Anger and Resentment 20:46 – Five Daily Practices to Overcome 27:58 – Closing Thoughts and Challenge Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this week's Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler addresses the troubling rise of political violence and cultural hostility, urging men to step up as protectors, providers, and leaders. He lays out a clear roadmap of four key actions—protecting your family, speaking out against destructive ideologies, stepping into positions of influence, and building strong brotherhoods. Ryan also shares upcoming plans for local Order of Man chapters and emphasizes why good men must refuse to stay silent any longer. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Introduction 02:15 – The power of prayer and courage 05:00 – Protecting your family and building skills 07:00 – Financial security as protection 08:30 – Speaking out against dangerous ideologies 14:15 – Stepping into positions of power 16:40 – Building influence through business and community 18:30 – The importance of brotherhoods 21:30 – Call to action and next steps Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

In this Friday Field Notes episode, Ryan Michler breaks down what it really means to be vulnerable “like a man.” He challenges the popular narrative that vulnerability is strength in itself and instead explains how it should be used as a tool for growth. Ryan outlines why discernment matters, how goals must shape openness, and why solutions must accompany weakness. Listeners will walk away with a sharper, more practical understanding of vulnerability—stripped of fluff and grounded in responsibility. This episode is a call for men to embrace honesty without falling into the trap of empty exposure. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Rethinking vulnerability 02:30 – Vulnerability as weakness 04:40 – Exercising discernment 09:00 – Setting goals for openness 11:20 – Pairing vulnerability with solutions 18:00 – Vulnerability plus solutions equals results 20:20 – Iron Council promotion 22:45 – Closing thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready