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You will be completely inspired by today's God story. College student Mathapelo (Thapi) Tabele was called by God to leave her native country of South Africa to come to the USA. Hear about the struggles and lessons this young woman endured as she learned what surrendering her life meant. She walks completely by faith with the love of her life, Jesus Christ. (This podcast originally aired in November 2020.)   ********   Kimberly Hobbs   Welcome to empowering lives with purpose. And I'm your host, Kimberly Hobbs. I am the founder of Women world leaders. And we are so happy that you joined us today. And today I have our guest Tapi from South Africa. And in Lisa Morrison who is returning from last week to say hi. Hi, ladies. Hi. Nice to have both of you. Thank you so much for being on. Ladies, God is working in you giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases Him. That's Philippians 213. And we believe that women were leaders by women sharing stories with each other that are inspiring and encouraging and empowering. It will help you the listener to just maybe spark something in you that God is birthing or calling you to. And we are just hoping that we can help you in this journey. It's a journey of, of Jesus and living our life for him. So this is such an amazing South African young story of Tapi. And we are just so excited to share it with you today. The God calling on her life. God did something amazing. And this young woman's life he spoke to her. And she answered saying I will go wherever you send me. And so this is part of part two of an interview that took place last week with Lisa Morrison, and who is tabbies adopted mom here in America. And it is a guide journey of a mother from the United States and a South African daughter, and how they came together in God's calling for their life. So Thapi, can you share how you pronounce your South African name? Thapi Table   My real name is Mathapelo. Kimberly Hobbs   Mathapelo? Yes. Amen. And what is the meaning of your name? Thapi Table   Oh, it means women have prayer. Kimberly Hobbs   Awesome. And Thapi is a woman of prayer to be where she is today. We know that took an amazing amount of prayer. Thapi is an ambassador of Christ and completely sold out to him. And she was born and raised in South Africa. And as I said, she now resides here in America with her God given mother, Lisa Morrison. So we just wanted to say hi to Lisa again today. And you can hear Lisa's part of the story. If you go back a week in a podcast and you can hear Lisa's story today is going to be Tapi story. So thank you ladies for saying hi. So Thapi is currently earning her master's in theological studies at the Nazarene Theological Seminary. And she is also an author and you can hear her story are read her story and courageous steps of faith, which I'll share a little bit more about that at the end of this podcast. But Thapi's greatest desire is to serve the Lord by being a witness to his people in Jerusalem, Judea, Samaria, and carry out his purpose to the ends of the world. So to happy, let's talk to our our audience today and just talk about your calling before you even came into your calling. You grew up in South Africa and you had a grandmother that really spoke into your life growing up, do you want to share a little bit about her? Thapi Table   Yes, I'd love to. So I was brought up in a Christian home Christian family. And I was brought up by this phenomenal, amazing woman of God, my grandmother because my dad passed away when I was three years old. So we lived with my grandmother and she's the one that brought us up. And it was through her obedience honestly to God and her faithfulness to God that she trained us up in a godly way. And we followed it and I personally followed it and it made a huge difference. And in a way it was like God us Seeing her to shape and mold what he has put in my life. So that's how I look at it. And so I'm grateful that she was obedient to actually carry that out, carry her purpose out in training us in a way that we should go. Yeah, Kimberly Hobbs   Yes. And some of our older audience if you're a grandmother, Johnson, that your life is significant in that the lives of your grandchildren. The impact is so important, right, Thapi, you will love that she poured into your life as a young as a young woman, I mean, filed as a child. And they were, you said it like age 10, you felt the calling on your life. I was like, wow. And I was reading your story. courageous steps of faith. I was like, blown away. But that was at age 10. You knew there was a calling on your life and you carry that through. But later in your teen years, you spoke of how you audibly heard from God. Wow, can you talk about that extraordinary moment where you heard God's voice, and how you had to exercise obedience and what you heard. Thapi Table   Right? So that actually that moment, that experience where I heard God is tied back to when I was 10 years old. So I knew, or I didn't fully know what was going on. All I knew was I just had this burning desire to serve God, I just wanted to work for him. Sometimes I would wake up and just feel like I want to climb the highest mountain and just share with people about this loving and caring God. And so you know, when you grow up, the desires that you have the love that you have for God, it starts fading away, and you want to do your own thing, right. So I wanted to become a geologist, I wanted to become a journalist. And you know, that desire slowly but surely, faded away. It was not as strong as when I was 10 years old. And one day when I was 18 years old. We had a college promotion, Nazarene Theological College, came to my church to do a college promotion. And it was in their moment, and they were talking about God's call in one's life. And before the preacher finished preaching his sermon, I knew that God was doing something in my heart. And I was fighting. I was fighting it. I remember sitting down and telling him in my mind, I'm like, God, I cannot do this. I will be anything you want me to be not a preacher. Because you know how preachers have that stigma of, you know, they don't get paid, they're poor, and all those things. And so in my mind was like what I can do, I will be anything, anything you want me to be, but I don't want to be a pastor. I don't want to be a preacher. And I remember when the pastor was done preaching. You know, he said, if you feel that God is calling you, come forward. I just couldn't, I couldn't sit still. I found myself forward, crying, crying so deeply. I was weeping. And I was begging God, I'm like, why now? Why me? And God being God being the faithful God that he is. He actually took me back at that moment. It was like a film playing right in front of my eyes. He took me back to when I was 10 years old. And he reminded me he said, Remember, remember when you had that burning desire to serve me? Remember, when you wanted to preach my word to the whole world? Remember, when you wanted to serve me? And he said, now's the time that I am calling you to go into ministry. So it was just an amazing, and yet scary experience for me at that time, because God had to take me back to when he gave me that desire. It did not come from Me. It was his. Yeah. For him. Yeah, definitely. Wow. Yeah. Kimberly Hobbs   Well, I know that you loved your country very much. And the Bible says that By faith Abraham obeyed when God called him to leave home and go to another land Hebrews 11, eight. Well, you left a country that you loved so much, a family that loved you and you love them. And a grandmother you so deeply love. Your Yes. was huge to God, your yes to leave all that and go to another land. You laid your life down Thapi to serve God in a calling that he had placed on your life. So can you talk about that, that calling where you had to let go of everything you knew in South Africa at a young age? You are you are 2021 Right, I called you out of that of your homeland to go to a far away land. Explain how he called you to America. Thapi Table   So I'll just try and cut it short. So what happened is, I always knew that God would call me to a foreign country for in place. But it did not cross my mind that that place would be America, I thought it would be somewhere in Africa. Because my heart's desire, or the desire that God had put in my heart is kind of like some mission work. So I knew I was going to be outside Africa, but not necessarily America. So how I came, how it came for me to be here in America was through my mom, who you met earlier on how God has put us together, how God has put this amazing love in her heart for me. And so that's how God had called us together to come into ministry. Now, did I know how it was gonna look like did I know why God had to do it that way. I had no idea why God had called me to come to America way. We also have a lot of, you know, seminaries, we have a lot of colleges and universities in South Africa. But he specifically made it clear for me to come here and to live with my American vanilla mom. And it was really hard because I lived, I left South Africa, I didn't want to come to America. I have a loving family that is very supportive. And it was also hard for them. And I'm the last one. So my mum was really worried for me to come here. But I had to obey God, even though I did not know the end, or why he had asked me to come here, I had to obey, leave everything behind and just follow him.  Kimberly Hobbs   Yes, and you did that honey, and you came over. And you called her your vanilla mom, Thapi Table   My vanilla mom Kimberly Hobbs   I love that. We have eboin, ivory, chocolate and vanilla - it's beautiful and you two make the most amazing couple together. Clearly just a God ordained union. I've tried this so beautiful. But But Thapi. Again, you while you were in America, going to seminary, and all of the struggles that you you two are facing. And now you know, Lisa had to take care of a 21 year old when she lived a single life serving God, just being in charge of herself. Now all the sudden God gives her a daughter, you know, the day before you were to, you know, make that decision to come. It's like what God did in that moment. But while you were here, you had some some issues going on. And you were pulled back home, you had some significant losses in your life that brought you back to South Africa. And you could have ended up staying there. I know you've made several trips back to South Africa since you've been here in a mirror. But it was truly obedience to God that led you back here again. Can you talk about that back and forth and that struggle? Because it's something you wrote in your book, and courageous steps of faith is that God asked you Will you still go wherever I send you tapping? Because you struggled. You got back home and you did not necessarily want to come back to America? For a moment. Thapi Table   Oh, Miss Kimberly, there was a struggle. The going back and forth was a struggle for me. Because once I landed in South Africa, and I had to come back to America, everything in me. Everything in me shouted, screamed. No, I didn't want to come back. I honestly I didn't want to come back. I had I had to fight. I had my family. You know, they had to say okay, fine, you only left with two months or three months or so. But it was really difficult for me honestly, to actually come back when I went home to visit. And because I don't want to be here. I'm gonna be honest, I didn't want to be here. Not that my mom is a bad person or that Americans are bad people. It's just that I wanted to be home and safeguard at home. And obviously you have the cultural differences as well. But one significant travel for me was when my grandmother passed away, which you know, when you serve God, you don't know what you're gonna get. And you serve him fully trusting and believing that he's got He, you don't put terms and conditions when you follow God. You don't say God, if I follow you, you must do 12345 For me, no, you just do it because you love him. And you are being obedient to Him. And one of the things that I knew that I was going to face was, Okay, what if somebody pass passes away back at home? Right? Like, what if my grandmother dies, or somebody close to me dies. And unfortunately, it happened, she passed away. And it was the most painful thing. It was on the Fourth of July. And she was doing some a ministry. It was, it felt like a dream. To me, it was the most painful thing ever, in knowing that, you know, she was the love of my life, I looked forward to going back home to her. Right, she was the reason why. And so when I lost her, it was really painful. But there were a lot of lessons learned, where God had to say, I am your God. I am your provider, I am your support, I am you everything you should be. You should only love me I should come first in life, not your grandmother, not anyone. So there were a lot of lessons learned even when my grandmother passed away. Because I know headship in alive, I would not be in America today, I would still be home because I would want I told God straightforward that I want to take care of my grandmother, I want to be with my grandmother. So passing away was a word of God saying that I still have a lot of things for you to do. You cannot be held up by you know, loving your grandmother so much. So Kimberly Hobbs   That's right. And I'm sure we can all listen, learn from this lesson. Like I had goosebumps when you said that, because sometimes we hold on to things are so tight in our life, that they can almost become like an idle, idle. Just, you just love so desperately, you know, and sometimes, you know, it's not that it's a bad thing. But God gently removes those things. Because he knows it could eventually be a stumbling block holding you from your purpose. So you know, if there's anybody listening in, it's like, when you see God's hand move in a story such as yours. Thapi, you know that God has gently been moving you forward, you know, when faith and you see doors opening, and you see Doors closing? Because ladies, when you answer the call, when God has a call on your life, you see you clearly see doors open, you clearly are as close as well as Thapi. Dead, something's happy that you said in your book, I, again, where he leads, I will follow because home is wherever he is. That was like powerful. And I wrote that down because I wanted to share that with the ladies that home is wherever he is. And that's huge. Because you developed a love relationship with Jesus and you knew to me that he became your all in all, he became your first love. And so now you were free to serve Him with all your heart, all your mind, all your body, everything that's in you, can you share with the women? Because I know we're gonna close it up, but just share with them some encouragement, if they are on that road going forward. They may have hit a roadblock of you know, God, I'm afraid to serve you Lord. I don't know what that looks like, you know, this is crashing down all around me. How do I move forward? Can you share? Because you were at that point? You didn't want to move forward to your calling. Thapi Table   Yeah. Actually, the wherever you are, wherever God is. Home is where wherever God is, was actually inspired after my grandmother passed away. Because then when I went home, it did not feel the same anymore, right? Because my grandmother was not there. And I realized that actually, God has been everywhere I've been. And I cannot define home by a place. A certain place I can define home by a certain country. Home is where God is where God is. That's where I'm gonna build my home, right? Because he is there. And so my encouragement to women out there would be another scripture verse for me is tonight pick up the cross, deny yourself to Capri cross and follow Him. And He says that if you're not worth it, if you don't, if you're not willing to let go of your mother, your father, your brothers and sisters, then you're not worth it to be caught his disciple, right. He's not saying God is not saying that To be mean and spiteful for to us, but he knows that when we let go of what we are holding on to his going to take care of it, right, I let go of my family, I let go of myself, my interests, my everything. And I focused on him and I held on to him. The thing is, when you hold on to God, then He takes care of everything. When you let go, he takes care of it, he takes care of your family, whatever it is that you love, he knows that he's going to take, you cannot take care of it on your own. So that's why he says we should cling to him, let go of all these things, because he know, he knows that he's got it. He's got it. He's got you in your budget, and your worries. And so with that, I have this like special song that I would like to share. And seeing it basically says that, you know, God has made a way he has made a way where there seemed to be no way for me. God had has opened up the doors, not only for me, but for me and my mom, I mean, please buy the book, you will read our story. Everything is in the book, because we have a limited time. And so God has made tons and tons of like ways for us when we thought okay, this is it. We you know, what do we do next? God he just has come through for us all the time You made a way Oh, you You made a way. When our backs were against the wall and it looked as if it was so far, you made a way. Lord, you, you made a way. And we're standing here humbly because you made a way. Amen. Kimberly Hobbs   Oh sweetheart, that is just beautiful. And you you sing to the Lord from your heart, which is beautiful in itself. And he surely made a way and he's still making a way for you. And ladies, we just feel that God is making a way for you to know he is because he doesn't he won't leave you where you are. And he wants you to come and that verse Luke, it's Luke 9:23 that Thapi shared that if any man will come after Me, let him deny himself and take up his cross. And follow me. And ladies, we just pray that over your life right now, if you you are feeling led into a calling, don't doubt that calling. Don't let the enemy put things into your mind that shouldn't be there. Take up your cross and be obedient and follow him. He wants you He loves you. And boy, again, Thapi, thank you for sharing your story of obedience, and the calling that you had on your life. And as we spoke about Tapi stories and courageous steps of faith, as is Lisa Morrison story. They're side by side in this book. And this book is put out by Women World Leaders and will be available in November of 2020. Through womenworldleaders.com or on Amazon, I believe it comes out on ebook on November 12. And then it'll be available paperback on November 26. But we do a prefer if you would go through womenworldleaders.com To get your copy of Courageous Steps of Faith. And we're just so excited about this book and the fact that we know it is going to inspire and give hope for those of you out there that just need that courage. And all of these gods stories of how these amazing women like Tapi herself at such a young age, took a courageous step of faith to go into her God calling on her life. And now look at her She's almost done with seminary and we just can't wait to see what God is going to do. He is going to change the world through you Thapi. Thank you honey for answering that call. And we will continue to pray for you Thapi so please, ladies, pray for Thapi, pray for Lisa as this as a journey of faith and trust. We all know what it's like to be in those positions. So we will pray for you, hon. 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A new MP3 sermon from First Protestant Reformed Church is now available on SermonAudio with the following details: Title: Your Yes and Your No Subtitle: The Sermon on the Mount Speaker: Rev. Rodney Kleyn Broadcaster: First Protestant Reformed Church Event: Sunday Service Date: 4/24/2022 Bible: Matthew 5:33-37 Length: 47 min.

Noelle McGough and Charlene Helm are entrepreneurs and co authors on a collaborative book called, 'Women Who Lead: Timeless Life, Career, and Business Secrets from Inspiring Women Around the World'. They talk about how they met and their chapter, in the book called 'Your Yes, Your Success'.

Living In The Future NOW - Bobby Haaby Living in the future now starts with how you see the significance of your life now, today. Your YES to God right now, even in your struggles, sets a marker in the Spirit for your future. You have to see that God has made you SIGNIFICANT and the decisions you make are keys to open and shut doors in your future. Check out more worship songs and great messages of hope, truth and grow deeper in your relationship with God at www.eaglemountain.tv

We can look at the changing seasons each year to know that nothing lasts forever. Life consists of cycles and seasons. But as Christians, we can become so focused on finding a new season to step into that we miss the moment God provided us to move in. Will you have the faith to move when the moment comes? Your YES is so much bigger than you.

Your YES to God is an exciting adventure. Ron speaks with Dr Jennifer Nolan who shared her story that includes starting a new Catholic University for STEM degrees. www.catholicpolytechnic.org

Based on blog posts entitled: Verse of the Day 12-11-21 and Advent a Journey to Christmas: What's on the Other Side of Your “Yes”?

Today on the Brett Allan Show we have the amazing actor, Matthew Del Negro. Matt is known from such amazing projects as "City On A Hill" (Currently), "Scandal", "Teen Wolf", "Goliath" and so much more. Matt has created a masterclass in "the biz" with a podcast, book and online community "10,000 No's How to Overcome Rejection on the Way to Your YES " helping actors and many others navigate rejection on the way to there yes. We deep dive into this, his intro into the industry and so much more. If you deal with rejection, in anything, like most, this program, book and podcast is for you.Be sure to follow us on social media for all the latest podcast updates!Twittertwitter.com/@brettallanshowIGinstagram.com/brettallanshowFacebookFacebook.com/brettallanshowNOW ON YOUTUBE!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChHLbnRKmqYmZ4Xl24v3d7A

You have a Yes! that aligns your purpose and unique contributions with the impact you can generate and the experience you can have, which is yours to choose. Your Yes! always generates net-positive value and your No! always generates net-negative value—your choice. Jim Ritchie-Dunham joins Maureen to explain the science behind our Yes!

It's interesting how everyone says that they are searching for opportunities but very few are actually prepared to leverage the opportunities that they receive. On the one hand, we are pushed to get around the names that can take you places and on the other we are taught to hustle our way to the top. Honestly, what does it look like to leverage an opportunity? You are standing at an open door to a magical room that can change everything in a positive way or a negative. Don't choke! When it comes to leveraging opportunities there are three things that stand out. 1. Your Yes vs. Your No 2. Your Wisdom vs. Your Knowledge 3. Your Consistency These are some of the valuable things that can add or subtract from your opportunity. As the quite one in the room I have often found myself immersed into some great conversations. I didn't have to say much because the quality of what I said mattered. With all the shifts that have been made over the last few years, have you mastered the art of leveraging opportunities?

Welcome to Chelsea's Career Corner! You are now entering a safe space, where you're encouraged to be brave, bold and unapologetic when it comes to building your career. Are you ready for your dose of motivation?You are doing everything right: your informational interviews, your networking, your cover letter, tour resume… yet you don't get the job. This happens, rejection is part of the process. This is why, in today's episode, Chelsea gets straight to the point in tackling the question – Why didn't I get the job. In this episode we cover:·        Rejection is a part of life, your YES is coming·        Outside factors that have nothing to do with you·        How to make the sting of rejection go away ·        Don't forget your self-care  Links and resources mentioned: ·        Visit our website or send us an email·        Connect with Chelsea on LinkedIn or Facebook ·        If you liked today's episode share it, like it and leave us a comment  Quotes:  [00:03:28] With job interviews and job postings, and all of that stuff- you are going to get a NO. You'll get multiple NOs before you get a yes, it just kind of is what it is and you can beat yourself up over it. You know why? There are a lot of outside factors that have nothing to do with you, when it comes to job search. [00:08:53] Your YES is coming and NOs happen for a reason. And you will get a yes for where you are supposed to be.    Support the show (https://app.autobooks.co/pay/seasoned-and-growing)

Welcome to the novachurch Podcast. Join us this week, as Pastor Sam Long brings a message called "The Power of Your Yes" for Nova Church's second birthday.________// LINKSNova Church https://novachurch.comNew To Faith https://www.novachurch.com/new-to-faithWatch Live https://novachurch.com/liveGive https://novachurch.com/giveJoin a Family https://novachurch.com/families________// CONNECT ON SOCIALSInstagram http://instagram.com/novachurchadlFacebook http://www.facebook.com/novachurchadlSupport the show (https://novachurch.com/give)

Matthew Del Negro talks with Ross Crystal on "Showbiz UpFront' about his role as Detective Chris Caysen on Showtime's "City on a Hill" and about his podcast and book titled "10,000 NOs: How to Overcome Rejection on the Way to Your YES"

We have all been rejected at one point in our lives, but each decides how to deal with it. Some deal with it focusing their attention on something else, others get depressed, and for some, it means to keep working towards their goals. Turn 10,000 no's into 10,001 chances just like today's guest Matthew Del Negro did; this is not only the number of times he was possibly rejected, but it's also the name of his book and podcast where the inspiration behind was his struggle to achieve success in acting, turning rejection into opportunities. Matthew sees each role as a challenge where he seeks a physical and emotional, and mental effort in every interpretation. In today's episode, we will hear about how he changed his life from being a great sports athlete to following the acting path. Get inspired and turn your failures into opportunities by listening to today's episode. ABOUT MATTHEW DEL NEGRO Matthew Del Negro is known for his pivotal roles on groundbreaking series like HBO's The Sopranos, Aaron Sorkin's The West Wing, Diablo Cody's The United States of Tara and Shonda Rhime's Scandal. In film, he can be seen in Taylor Sheridan's Wind River with Jeremy Renner and the Reese Witherspoon starrer, Hot Pursuit. His most recent string of roles includes series regulars on the 2nd Season of Amazon's Goliath, the Netflix comedy Huge in France and currently opposite Kevin Bacon and Aldis Hodge on Showtime's City on a Hill. Matt is also the creator and host of the popular podcast on perseverance, 10,000 NOs, which led to a publishing deal with Wiley & Sons. His book, 10,000 NOs: How to Overcome Rejection on the Way to Your YES. CONNECT WITH MATTHEW Instagram: @mattydel Twitter: @MatthewDelNegro WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [2:35] Meet Matthew Del Negro. [4:19] From sports to acting. [8:37] What inspired Matthew to transition to acting. [15:33] Turning a passion into a job. [22:13] The UNcivilized Nation. [23:07] Three years to resign. [31:55] The philosophy behind 10,000 no's. [56:20] Where to find Matthew. If you look at the civilized world and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, Facebook, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.

I am so honored to create this content! I went through the physical storm here in Texas, snow overwhelmed the state causing water and electric outages all over. I wanted to share with you how God used the natural events and revealed the spiritual awareness to three specific areas for us to catch before going any further into 2021. 1. Recognize familiar storms and how you can not respond. 2. Gain understand of what listening is and how to be still, 3. Let you yes be YES! Distraction don't come to distract you, they come to destroy you from achieving your purpose God has called for you. Let me share with you how YES was revealed to me. After not saying and living yes , I came back to God and I said Yes. I will release and Yes I need to obey. Let NOTHING stop you from coming back to God. My YES, Your YES has to be a move of faith, a process of letting go of control and a willing to return to God. Super excited for you to hear, enjoy! Edited by VeryBossyLLC. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jgsgodlypod/message

Actor, writer, and host of the podcast show, 10,000 NOs, Matthew Del Negro has captivated viewers and listeners alike with his vulnerability, insight, and artistry. Matthew is a shining example of what it takes to succeed in the entertainment industry when it comes to hard work and perseverance. Growing up in New York, Matt was no stranger to the actor grind. He spent several years bartending until he landed the beloved role of cousin Brian on Season 4 of HBO’s The Sopranos. Today, Matthew speaks open and honestly about his experience sharing that even though he started acting at 20 years old, that it took him until age 30 to earn his first major credit. Actors, if you’re listening and you feel yourself hitting that 10, 20, 30 year moment of self doubt, today’s episode is for you. Matthew Del Negro has earned credits on some of film and television ’s biggest shows both past and present including The West Wing, The Sopranos, City on a Hill, Huge in France, Scandal, Teen Wolf, Goliath and many more. But his creativity doesn’t stop there. Matthew is also the host of the podcast show, 10,000 Nos, which also led him to the publishing of his book, “ 10,000 NOs: How to Overcome Rejection on the Way to Your YES.” Whether he’s captivating audiences on screen, inspiring listeners and readers to step into their power, or at home playing with his kids, Matthew pours creativity, wisdom, and joy into all areas of his life.   Guest links: WEBSITE: MatthewDelNegro.com IMDB: Matthew Del Negro INSTAGRAM: @mattydel TWITTER: @matthewdelnegro PODCAST: 10000 NOs AMAZON: 10,000 NOs: How to Overcome Rejection on the Way to Your YES For exclusive content surrounding this and all podcast episodes, sign up for our amazing newsletter at AlyshiaOchse.com. And don't forget to snap and post a photo while listening to the show and tag me (@alyshiaochse)! Show Links: WHAT'S MY FRAME: Learn the basic frames used in filmmaking and how to incorporate them to create dynamic and engaging self-tape auditions. Click here to get $30 off the course INSTAGRAM: @alyshiaochse INSTAGRAM: @thatoneaudition WEBSITE: AlyshiaOchse.com ITUNES: Subscribe to That One Audition on iTunes SPOTIFY: Subscribe to That One Audition on Spotify STITCHER: Subscribe to That One Audition on Stitcher Credits: WRITER: Erin McCluskey SOUND DESIGN: Zachary Jameson WEBSITE & GRAPHICS: Chase Jennings ASSISTANT: Elle Powell SOCIAL OUTREACH: Bebe Katsenes

Matthew is an actor (Sopranos, City on a Hill, The West Wing, Scandal, Huge In France, Law & Order, and many more ), a podcast host, and now an author. His new book, 10,000 NOs: How to Overcome Rejection on the Way to Your YES, chronicles Matthew Del Negro's tough journey from humble beginnings, through a sea of rejections, on the way to his eventual rise to become a recognizable face on some of history's most acclaimed television shows. Along the way, he learned hard lessons about perseverance, persistence, and resilience.  Matthew also hosts a podcast under the same name (10,000 NOs ). A creative impulse prompted him to start this podcast, which has resulted in a very successful show, where he talks to people from all walks of life. More than anything I appreciate Matthew's brutal honesty about his struggles, his achievements, and about the power of self-belief. Matthew and I talked about his upbringing and journey to the point in his life when he decided he wanted to be an actor. We discussed the importance of hearing no, and learning from rejection, the mindset of getting into a character, his new book, his podcast, and so much more. We even go down a rabbit hole of cults and cults leaders. This was an extremely fun conversation, and Matthew is a true inspiration. Enjoy the Episode! Matthew Del Negro Matthew's Instagram My Take: Rejection is an important part of growth; it molds us, strengthens us, and ultimately allows us to grow and improve. The important thing is realizing what we can learn/take away when someone's telling you NO. Was it them, or is it something I can improve on and become better at, on the path to my goals? Never let someone else's perception of you defeat you, as every closed door is an opportunity for another door to open. Comments, requests, sponsorships, or questions, please reach out - roybntz@gmail.com

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Pastor Tim and Pastor Barbara tag team it in bringing a word on Your Yes and your position in the Kingdom. Tune in to hear this powerful word.

To celebrate the launch of Matt’s book, 10,000 NOs: How to Overcome Rejection on the Way to Your YES, this past Tuesday, we decided to put him on the hot seat. Through the generosity of Peter Rinaldi, host of Filmmaker Magazine’s Back to One Podcast, we were able to acquire their recent interview of Matt for the 10,000 NOs feed. Delving into some of the nitty gritty of Matt’s approach to acting as is typical on Back to One, Rinaldi also spends a portion of time linking the effects of writing a book on the art of storytelling in general as well as the interpretive work of an actor. Listen to other Back to One EpisodesBack to One Podcast's Instagram Show LinksORDER MATT'S BOOK HEREJOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Your Yes to God’s word and the obedience required in this season unlocks the blessings and gifts he has for you. Let’s talk about it! Connect with me on my new website https://www.dreakayonline.com for updates, events, podcast episodes, music, and More! See What I'm Up To On Social Media! IG: @dreasstory FB: Andrea Kelley

Ashley Manta gets insta-rupted today. Ashley Manta is an award-winning sex educator and coach and has become a sought-after authority on mindfully combining sex and cannabis as part of her CannaSexual® brand. She appeared on the cover of Sexual Health Magazine in January 2019, along with the designation, "America's High Priestess of Pleasure." She recently completed her certification as a Bodysex® Facilitator after studying with legendary pleasure pioneer Betty Dodson. She is a brand ambassador for Sybian and Foria.   At the January 2020 XBiz Awards, Ashley was named Sexpert of the Year. She has been nominated for several other awards in both the adult and cannabis industries including Influencer of the Year, Sex Educator of the Year, and WEGO Health Awards' Best Kept Secret. Ashley has received recognition in Forbes, The London Times, Newsweek, The Huffington Post and many other publications.   She earned a Bachelor’s degree in Philosophy with a minor in Women’s Studies and has completed graduate coursework for a Master of Arts in Philosophy. Ashley is also a certified and attuned Reiki II Practitioner, a certified consulting hypnotist, and a trauma-trained victim advocate. In today’s episode Syd and Ashley talk about being “poly”, hand job techniques, consent, dating, STD’s, BDSM, Entrepreneurship and much more!   Highlights: Growing up in a small town in Pennsylvania Surviving sexual assault Ashley’s journey to helping women through sexual abuse and trauma Learning to love sex for yourself and not worrying about pleasing your partner Having a poly boyfriend whose married to someone else Your “Yes, No, Maybe” list Being collard Living life with genital herpes Dealing with Jealousy How cannabis can help intimacy The “reclining diamond”   Syd Social Media Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/girlinstarupted YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/user/SYDWILDER Instagram – @sydwilder https://www.instagram.com/sydwilder/?hl=en Instagram - @GirlInstarupted https://www.instagram.com/girlinstarupted/?hl=en Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/TheRealSydWilder/ Email: Syd@GirlInstarupted.com   Ashley Manta Website: http://www.ashleymanta.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ashleymanta/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ashleymanta Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cannasexual/?hl=en                                                                  

"How to Say Yes to Your Yes." In this podcast, I explain the evolutionary process that allows you to make huge leaps in your growth and manifest big breakthroughs -- regardless of what obstacles you face -- and why, if you don't understand this, you will stay stuck and stagnate your success.

Do you know what the Immaculate Conception is?  If not, jump over to my blog at janetcassidy.blogspot.com and you will find a terrific link that explains it. Today, though, I am going to focus on Mary’s Yes! to the angel Gabriel. Then, I’m going to share with you a significant Yes! I made to God. And finally, we’re going to talk about YOUR Yes! to God! You don’t want to miss this episode of Opening God’s Word that will hopefully get you thinking! And if you don’t mind, will you please make your comment on my blog as I requested at the end of this podcast? As always, be sure to share this with a friend! I hope you have a blessed day in God’s Word! Janet Cassidy janetcassidy.blogspot.com janetcassidy.blubrry.net

Luke is a young entrepreneur and motivator who has dedicated his time to find the peak performance and passion in everyone and today my Network he will dive deep into how to find YOUR(Yes yours :). ) BIG Idea! Like’s LinkedIn : http://linkedin.com/in/lukesamuelburrows

Sunday 21 July 2019 Ps Bruce Grant "The Other Side of Your Yes" "Imagine - July 2019" metrochurch, Perth Western Australia

About this episode: A conversation circled around  the importance of fully walking in the responsibility of who God called you to be. Tatum shares a series of events where God has placed a mirror in front of her. A mirror not only showing her who she is but showing her areas in her life she needs to improve. Tatum also talks about the importance of our “Yes” to God. When we say “Yes” to God we are saying “Yes” to everything he has planned for us, even the things we much rather not be apart of. Tatum ends this episode reading a dynamic prophetic word from God about moving into the season God is calling us to.  “I will not be made a fool of” says the Lord.  Verse:  Jeremiah 1:5 Time Stamps: 12:05 Tatum talks about the responsibility of saying Yes to God. Your “Yes” cannot be conditional. 16:26: Accepting the call means accepting the responsibility that comes with it. Dying to self.  17:04  Tatum talks about the dangers of fighting with who God has called you to be.  21:03 Tatum talks about watching our emotions and the things they are stopping us from doing what he called us to do. 21:52 Prophetic word from God. Announcements: Join us on the God is my CEO Tour: www.Godismyceotour.com (http://www.godismyceotour.com) -  June 30: Dallas First stop Payment Plan is available  VIP Ticket: Dinner is included  Make sure to follow @Tatumtemia | @blessedandbossedup Join the Blessed + Bossed Up Community | blessedandbossedup.com/community Bossed Up Takeaways With a great platform comes great responsibility. You are wasting time fighting who God has called you to be Move on from any person, place, or thing that is out of season. SPONSORS: THIRDLOVE: ThirdLove knows there’s a perfect bra for everyone, so they’re offering listeners of the podcast 15% off your first order. Go to THIRD LOVE dot com slash BBU now to find your perfect-fitting bra… and get 15% off your first purchase! That’s THIRD LOVE dot com slash BBU for 15% off today! AUDIBLE: Start listening with a 30-day Audible trial and your first audiobook plus two Audible Originals are free. Visit audible dot com slash (BLESSED) or text (BLESSED) to 500-500. STAMPS.COM: Right now, my listeners get a special offer that includes a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale without any long-term commitment. Just go to Stamps.com, click on the Microphone at the TOP of the homepage and type in BLESSED That’s Stamps.com, enter BLESSED to start a 4-week trial PLUS free postage AND a digital scale.

Have you ever wondered what a complete surrender to God meant? Your YES is costly. 

In part 3 of "The Power of Your YES" pastor Nathan teaches us that in order to have a powerful YES you have to learn to say no to other things.

This is a game changer for understanding where you’ve been, where you are now, and where you’re going. Reflect on this statement, “When we say yes to one thing, we say no to something else”. Your Yes’s and No’s reflect your beliefs, attitudes, values, and vision...or do they? Is what you say yes to aligned with you moving toward or away from your best self and your desired goals? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thetomjbullpodcast/support

*Hymns may not match audio.  All material is used for Spiritual/Educational Purposes. TUESDAY Morning Prayer God, come to my assistance.- Lord, make haste to help meGlory to the Father and to the Son and to the Holy Spiritas it was in the beginning, is now, and will be forever.  Amen. HYMN Mother of Christ, our hope, our Patroness,Star of the sea, our beacon in distress,Guide to the shores of everlasting dayGod's holy people on their pilgrim way. Virgin by vow but Mother of all grace,Chosen by God to be his dwelling-place,Blessed are you: God's word you did believe,Your "Yes" undid the "No" of sinful Eve. Daughter of God, who bore his holy One,Dearest of all, the Christ, your loving Son,Show us his face, O Mother, as on earth,Loving us all, you gave our Savior birth. Melody: Farley Castle 10.10.10.10Music: H. Lawes, 1596-1662Text: Alma RedemptorisTranslator: James Quinn, SJ   Or: Behold then the joy of the whole universe.Let the union of God and man in the Son of the Virgin Maryfill us with awe and adoration.Let us fear and worship the undivided Trinityas we sing the praise of the ever-virgin Mary,the holy temple of God,and of God himself, her Son and spotless Bridegroom.To him be glory for ever and ever. Amen. Cyril of Alexandria (c. 382-444)   PSALMODYAnt.1 The angel Gabriel was sent to the Virgin Mary, who was engaged to be married to Joseph. or: Blessed are you, O Virgin Mary, for you carried the Creator of the world in your womb. Psalm 101Avowal of a good rulerIf you love me, keep my commandments (John 14:15) My song is of mercy and justice;I sing to you, O Lord.I will walk in the way of perfection.O when, Lord, will you come? I will walk with blameless heartwithin my house;I will not set before my eyeswhatever is base. I will hate the ways of the crooked;they shall not be my friends.The false-hearted must keep far away;the wicked I disown. The man who slanders his neighbor in secretI will bring to silence.The man of proud looks and haughty heartI will never endure. I look to the faithful in the landthat they may dwell with me.He who walk in the way of perfectionshall be my friend. No man who practices deceitshall live within my house.No man who utters lies shall standbefore my eyes. Morning by morning I will silenceall the wicked in the land,uprooting from the city of the Lordall who do evil. Ant. 2 Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb. Or: You are the mother of your maker, yet you remain a virgin for ever.   Canticle                                                      Daniel 3:26,27,29,34-41Azariah's prayer in the furnace.With your whole hearts turn to God and he will blot out your sins. (Acts 3:19.)   Blessed are you, and praiseworthy,O Lord, the God of our fathers,and glorious forever is your name. For you are just in all you have done;all your deeds are faultless, all your ways right,and all your judgments proper. For we have sinned and transgressedby departing from you,and we have done every kind of evil. For your name's sake, do not deliver us up forever,or make void your covenant. Do not take away your mercy from us,for the sake of Abraham, your beloved,Isaac your servant, and Israel your holy one, to whom you promised to multiply their offspringlike the stars of heaven,or the sand on the shore of the sea. For we are reduced, O Lord, beyond any other nation,brought low everywhere in the world this daybecause of our sins. We have in our day no prince, prophet, or leader,no holocaust, sacrifice, oblation, or incense,no place to offer first fruits, to find favor with you. But with contrite heart and humble spiritlet us be received;as though it were holocausts of rams and bullocks,or thousands of fat lambs,so let our sacrifice be in your presence todayas we follow you unreservedly;for those who trust in you cannot be put to shame. And now we follow you with our whole heart,we fear you and we pray to you. Ant. 3: Trusting in the Lord's promise, the Virgin Mary conceived a child, and remaining a virgin, she gave birth to the Saviour. Or: We share the fruit of life through you, O daughter blessed by the Lord. Psalm 135:1-12Praise for the wonderful things God does for usHe has won you for himself...and you must proclaim what he has done for you: he has called you out of darkness into his own wonderful light (1 Peter 2:9).   Praise the name of the Lord,praise him, servants of the Lord,who stand in the house of the Lordin the courts of the house of our God. Praise the Lord for the Lord is good.Sing a psalm to his name for he is loving.For the Lord has chosen Jacob for himselfand Israel for his own possession. For I know that the Lord is great,that our Lord is high above all gods.The Lord does whatever he wills,in heaven, on earth, in the seas. He summons clouds from the ends of the earth;makes lightning produce the rain;from his treasuries he sends forth the wind. The first-born of the Egyptians he smote,of man and beast alike.Signs and wonders he workedin the midst of your land, O Egypt,against Pharaoh and all his servants. Nations in their greatness he struckand kings in their splendor he slew.Sihon, king of the Amorites,Og, the king of Bashan,and all the kingdoms of Canaan.He let Israel inherit their land;on his people their land he bestowed. FIRST READING                                                      Philippians 2:6-7 Though he was in the form of God,Jesus did not regard equality with God something to be grasped.Rather, he emptied himself,taking the form of a slave,coming in human likeness;and found human in appearance.   Or                                                       Sirach 24:1-16 Wisdom sings her own praises,  before her own people she proclaims her glory; In the assembly of the Most High she opens her mouth,  in the presence of his hosts she declares her worth: "From the mouth of the Most High I came forth,  and mistlike covered the earth.In the highest heavens did I dwell,  my throne on a pillar of cloud.The vault of heaven I compassed alone,  through the deep abyss I wandered.Over waves of the sea, over all the land,  over every people and nation I held sway.Among all these I sought a resting place;in whose inheritance should I abide? "Then the Creator of all gave me his command,  and he who formed me chose the spot for my tent,Saying, 'In Jacob make your dwelling,  in Israel your inheritance.'Before all ages, in the beginning, he created me,  and through all ages I shall not cease to be.In the holy tent I ministered before him,  and in Zion I fixed my abode.Thus in the chosen city he has given me rest,  in Jerusalem is my domain.I have struck root among the glorious people,  in the portion of the LORD, his heritage. "Like a cedar on Lebanon I am raised aloft,  like a cypress on Mount Hermon,Like a palm tree in En-gedi,  like a rosebush in Jericho,Like a fair olive tree in the field,  like a plane tree growing beside the water.Like cinnamon, or fragrant balm, or precious myrrh,  I give forth perfume;Like galbanum and onycha and sweet spices,  like the odor of incense in the holy place.I spread out my branches like a terebinth,  my branches so bright and so graceful. SECOND READING From a sermon by St. Leo the Great, pope(Sermo 1 in Nativitate Domini, 2, 3: PL 54, 191-192) Mary conceived in her soul before she conceived in her body.   A royal virgin of the house of David is chosen. She is to bear a holy child, one who is both God and man. She is to conceive him in her soul before she conceives him in her body. In the face of so unheard of an event she is to know no fear through ignorance of the divine plan; the angel tells her what is to be accomplished in her by the Holy Spirit. She believes that there will be no loss of virginity, she who is soon to be the mother of God. Why should she lose heart at this new form of conceiving when she has been promised that it will be effected through the power of the Most High? She believes, and her faith is confirmed by the witness of a previous wonder: against all expectation Elizabeth is made fruitful. God has enabled a barren woman to be with child; he must be believed when he makes the same promise to a virgin. RESPONSORYHail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with you. - Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with you.Blessed are you among women and blessed is the fruit of your womb. - The Lord is with you.Glory to the Father... - Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with you. Or: After the birth of your Son, you remained a virgin. - After the birth of your Son, you remained a virgin.Mother of God, intercede for us; - you remained a virgin.Glory to the Father... - After the birth of your Son, you remained a virgin.   CANTICLE OF ZECHARIAH                                                       Luke 1:68-79Ant. In his great love for us, God sent his Son in the likeness of our sinful nature.   The Messiah and his forerunner   Blessed be the Lord, the God of Israel;he has come to his people and set them free. He has raised up for us a mighty savior,born of the house of his servant David. Through his holy prophets he promised of old,  that he would save us from our enemies,  from the hands of all who hate us. He promised to show mercy to our fathersand to remember his holy covenant. This was the oath he swore to our father Abraham,to set us free from the hands of our enemies,free to worship him without fear,holy and righteous in his sight all the days of our life. You, my child, shall be called the prophet of the Most High,for you will go before the Lord to prepare his way, To give his people knowledge of salvationby the forgiveness of their sins. In the tender compassion of our Godthe dawn from on high shall break upon us,to shine on those who dwell in darkness and the shadow of death,and to guide our feet into the way of peace. Glory to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit:as it was in the beginning, is now, and will be for ever.  Amen. INTERCESSIONS We celebrate the beginning of our salvation when the coming of the Lord was announced by the angel. Let us pray with joy in our hearts, saying: May God's holy Mother intercede for us.   Mary received God's word with joy,- may joy fill our hearts as we welcome our Saviour. You looked with love on your lowly servant,- in your mercy, Father, remember us and all your children. Mary, the new Eve, was obedient to your word,- may we echo her loving obedience. May God's holy Mother help all in distress, encourage the fainthearted, console the sorrowful,- may she pray for your holy people, for the clergy, and for all women dedicated to your service. Our Father… CONCLUDING PRAYERGod our Father,your Word became flesh and was born of the Virgin Mary.May we become more like Jesus Christ,whom we acknowledge as our redeemer, God and man.We ask this through Jesus Christ our Lord,Who live and reigns with you and Holy SpiritOne God, forever and ever, Amen. May the Lord bless us,protect us from eviland bring us to everlasting life. -  Amen.  

It is one thing to “see” a fashion faux pas or the spin on a curve ball. It is another thing to be able to know what to “do” in response to either; what fashion correction to make or hot to adjust your swing. In the last chapter, we gained eyes to see several of the most common misconceptions or points of confusion about decision making and God’s will. In this chapter, we will strive to learn what to do with that information.As we walk into this conversation, there is a dilemma we must address. Most discussions of decision making, secular or Christian, tend to be highly linear (step to step); but most moments of decision making do not lend themselves to a thorough process. This accounts for why we sometimes think that God’s will is only relevant for the “big decisions” of life – those both warranting and allowing the time for prayer, research, and deliberation.This dilemma is only exacerbated by marriage. We want to be “on the same page” with our spouse in our decision making, even our personal decisions. However, this would require an additional step of consultation that is either cumbersome or not feasible to many decisions.In this material, we will use “steps” (but in a loose sense of that word). However, as we discuss each “step” strong consideration will be given to how each “step” can be incorporated into a lifestyle. Guidance will also be given to how to develop “standard healthy practices” in marriage to allow for greater unity in personal decision making.Here are the steps for personal decision making we’ll use as the major divisions in this chapter.Live with Your “Yes” on the Table for GodIdentify What You’re Stewarding for GodManage the Basics with ExcellenceWatch for Challenges and OpportunitiesPursue the Necessary Information and CounselSeek God’s Guidance through Study and Prayer Decide with Confidence and Freedom See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Many decisions are made. However, because you may be blind to the value of your YES, you give it freely. When you give your YES freely, you are saying NO to something else. Your YES is expensive and is attached to the vision of your life. Do you have a vision for your life? What did God make you for? Not knowing those answers keep your blindside open.

Do you follow your "Yes?"Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week. On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week. Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.  Enjoy! Debbi DachingerNot Following - Debbi was in a relationship years ago where she and her partner, Kent, had to move.  And as they were looking for new places to live, her gut was telling her “Get out. Get out. Get out now! You’re done.” Debbi did not listen to her better self, her “Yes,” that was telling her the relationship was done.  They moved into a beautiful place and immediately things started unraveling. By the end she was sleeping on the sofa. She found another place to live and getting out of their lease was a financial mess. Debbi learned to trust the doubt that is going on as it is usually something very important to pay attention to. Following - Debbi had a corporate job that many people would kill for. But it wasn’t what she was built for, so she left it. She stepped out and followed her “Yes” and it did not take too long before she was making a sustainable living. Here CPA was very worried for her, but every year when Debbi brought in her financials her CPA understood. Our “Yes” is inspiration and often all these voices of logic or upbringing or society start demanding that you demonstrate that your “Yes” is going to work out. These are the “what ifs.” Your “Yes” is that strong guidance about what your next step is. Even if you can’t see to the end of the line, you are very clear what your next right move is. Listen to Debbi's full interview here (https://speakingofpartnership.com/085-debbi-dachinger/) Connect with Debbi - FREE gift -  How to Do a DYNAMITE Radio Interview (http://debbidachinger.com/radio) Debbi's Websites - debbidachinger.com (http://debbidachinger.com) mybestsellerbook.com (http://mybestsellerbook.com) mediamasteryradio.com (http://mediamasteryradio.com) Debbi's Facebook Link (https://www.facebook.com/DaretoDreamRadiotv) Debbi’s Twitter Link (https://twitter.com/debbidachinger) Camille Sheppard-ParrishNot Following - When Camille was an undergrad she started majoring in journalism because she wanted to be a TV talk show host. She also was studying psychology. But she didn’t go down those paths because the paths seems so long. So she went a different direction with her career. She went into Information Technology because it was “quick money.” But it did not bring her the joy and happiness that she was craving. Now she is right back in the same place she was as an undergrad. Working in journalism, TV, psychology etc. But she wasted many years not following her “Yes” and missing out on the joy that she now gets from the work she is doing now. Following - When Camille started diving into the self-help world she was challenged by what was her “why.” What was she so compelled to do that she would do it for free? Though it was challenging she followed it. And realized this was the dream she had way back when she was in college. Following through on this dream now brings her so much joy and happiness. Listen to Camille's full interview here (https://speakingofpartnership.com/086-camille-sheppard-parrish/) Connect with Camille - Camille's Website (http://camillesheppard.com/) Camille's Facebook Link (https://www.facebook.com/YourGirlCamille/?fref=ts) Camille’s Twitter Link (https://twitter.com/YourGirlCamille?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw) (https://speakingofpartnership.com/087/)

Let’s face it, modern relationships can be kinda complex. And if you’re in a relationship with someone who has been divorced, and has children from their previous relationship - or if you have children from a previous relationship, then you’re probably in the middle of that kind of complexity. Back in Episode 21, with Katherine Woodward Thomas, we talked about Conscious Uncoupling and the inner work required to heal from past relationships so you can be present for your current relationship. In today’s episode, we’re going to tackle the topic of success in a post-divorce family head-on. There are challenges that are unique to this situation - and you’ll find that the strategies for succeeding come down to themes that we’ve been covering on the show. How do you connect, communicate, co-parent, and get really clear in a potentially complicated situation? That’s what today’s show is about. Our guest is Susan Wisdom, retired therapist and author of the classic book “Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today’s Blended Family”. It’s one of the few books on the topic - and fortunately it offers a lot of helpful information and strategies for strengthening your relationship, and your family, when you’re operating in a post-divorce world. If you’re not in this situation, then I think you’ll find that today’s show has some great insight that can help any relationship, especially if children are present. In this conversation, Susan Wisdom and I cover the following: The 4 C’s are helpful building blocks for successfully navigating stepcoupling, they are: CONNECTION COMMUNICATION COPARENTING CLARIFICATION CONNECTION: Connection is that wonderfully good feeling that is the glue that keeps couples together. It can be in the form of a thought, a behavior, a caring action, or a feeling that conjures togetherness. The more connection that exists in the stepcouple, the better coparents you will be, and the sooner the children will feel safe and trusting of their new family dynamics. COMMUNICATION: Communication is key in building and sustaining the stepcouple (and any relationship). It is important to learn to communicate in healthy ways, and from a place of deep respect and curiosity. Remember that listening and receiving is just as much part of communicating as voicing and articulating. When you hear your partner say something that begins to boil your blood or trigger you, try on a “hmmm” response- switching from immediate reactivity to questioning and curiosity. Clear communication relies on calmness- calm language and a calm nervous system- if you find yourself drifting out of this, take a deep breath and try again. CO PARENTING: Issues around co parenting go hand in hand with a dedication to communication. Successful co parenting does not necessarily come naturally, rather it is a dynamic that must be addressed head on, created together, and continually nurtured. Face this  directly- develop a plan and find strategies that work for the two of you. As you do this, be patient with each other- you are not always going to get your own way. Instead, observe your partner as they parent, and be open to their influence. Furthermore, be open to the concept that by letting go of some control, you are helping to create a stronger team.   CLARIFICATION: Be willing and able to look at your coparenting dynamic from multiple perspectives, and with a curious mind. Notice, inquire, and remain aware of how issues from the past are manifesting in your current relationship. Stepcoupling- The foundation of a strong blended family relies on the health and strength of the step-couple themselves. When all's said and done, are you each fully committed and in love? Your YES will carry you through the constant challenges (and blessings) inevitable when raising a blended family. It is common for children of split families to try to drive a wedge into the new couple as a reaction to their still being upset about the loss of the original parental couple. If the stepcouple themselves does not feel like a team, the couple AND the children will begin to feel threatened, weakened, and ultimately untrusting. If on the other hand the couple is strong, then the children will begin to trust, adjust, and it will be more natural. Be aware that an adjustment period is natural for all- and be careful to balance your attention between the bond you must maintain with your children, and your excitement for this new blossoming relationship you are in. Know that it is possible! The good news is that if you travel the distance together, there is a tremendous amount of love and fun that is possible! Differences are inevitable and beautiful. There is often a period of shock for partners after deciding to move in together because there are dynamics and details that were never visible or experienced during the honeymoon phase. Accept that these challenges are inevitable. Be patient, join support groups, get counseling, and begin to bust through these unrealistic co parenting expectations and myths: MYTH 1: You will quickly and naturally adjust to your partner’s children once you get married. MYTH 2: You will instantly love your stepchildren as you love your own children MYTH 3: You will attach and bond equally with all children in the family You don’t have to immediately love your step children. Shall we repeat this? You do not have to immediately love your step children. In fact, it is very natural and normal to not love your step children. So stop shaming yourself if you find that you do not love your partner’s children as if they are your own, and focus on being a responsible adult, caring for the children, and responding and providing for their needs. Honor the fact that your relationship with your stepchildren is a unique and different form of relationship, and allow the love to grow in its own time. It is all a work in progress. It can be helpful to acknowledge that blending your families together is essentially an exercise of figuring out how a group of strangers can fit together. This adjustment is going to look different for every family, and for every member of the family. It will develop over time, and it will develop that much stronger if the couple does not hold tightly to expectation that “we love each other so this should be easy”. It is unrealistic to believe that you will agree on how to  raise or discipline your children, in fact, you may never together agree- but you can find ways to compromise and to create new ways together. Remember the beauty and gift of blending families is that you get to develop your own family system! Styles and value differences in families can be DELIGHTFUL.  Parenting is always difficult, and coparenting can be exponentially harder because there are inherently more differences in the picture. Not only is the couple coming from different backgrounds (as is true in all couples) but the children also come into the new family with their own differences in backgrounds, experiences, temperaments, genes, traditions, values, senses of humor, etc. In original families it is possible to maintain an illusion of some cohesion in values, but as soon as you are working in a blended family, all bets are off! It is up to the stepcouple to hold a space for all these differences, and in order to do so there must be strength, love, humor as the glue to hold together the differences of the couple themself! You will have to try to do anything and everything to foster acceptance of the breadth of experience and values that are now essentially being married together. On the toughest days, try on the mantra: different can be delightful! Can you find ways with your partner and your kids to celebrate this chance you have to redefine values, create new patterns, and cohabitate a myriad of differences? Do you want to be right? Or do you want to be together? As you figure out what is going to help make your family stay together over time, return to this question often. Learn to recognize when you are triggered, stop playing the right/wrong game, and find ways to ground yourself in a process (versus immediate result) oriented view. There WILL be compromises. There WILL be adjustments. There WILL be misunderstandings. And there WILL be solutions. Try to not take it personally. Do you find yourself saying “my stepkids do not respect me” or “my stepkids never listen to me”? Taking behavior personally is a common and nearly universal reaction for stepparents.  Have patience with your vulnerability, while trying to not take your stepchildren’s actions too personally. The truth is that they do not know you yet, and they are likely not excited about your entry into the family- for reasons having nothing to do with who you are, rather with that you represent a loss and change. Furthermore, the children are protecting themselves from more disruption and change by testing you to see if you will stay. This trust takes time. And in the meantime, remind yourself often that these children have good reason to not trust, and that their extreme behavior is likely a manifestation of their incredible self-protective instincts. Get curious. Bear in mind, especially in the hardest moments, to embody the qualities of RESPECT and CURIOSITY. Get seriously curious. Who are these children? Where did these children come from? What do they like? What do they not like? Get to know these children. Try dedicating time to get to know each kid independently, while also creating times and ways for the whole family to come together, whether this is during meals, weekend activities, or certain rituals and traditions. Your place as a stepparent will develop over time, and it will come from personal authority versus positional authority. You are setting yourself up for major struggle and tension if you come in believing that “these children should respect me- I’m the adult here”. Personal authority, instead of positional authority, develops from the slow building of rapport and trust. It is slower to develop but it is genuine and long lasting. Extend curiosity to your partner. As you begin to blend your families, you will begin to observe reactions, responses, actions, and patterns in your partner that you might not have been aware of before. Do not assume you understand why your partner does or believes what they do- ask! The more questions you ask yourself and your partner the more clarity and connection you will feel that will help to create that sense of togetherness that is essential in building a strong family foundation. Ask your partner what their relationship is to cleanliness, to religion, to money. Ask how their parents disciplined them, how their parents showed affection, how they were taught to respect their parents, and on and on. You can get creative with your curiosity! This inquiry will yield helpful insight, at the same time as it will develop a sense of feeling respected and invested in. Nothing is more loving than asking those open-ended questions that say ‘my heart wants to understand you’. Acknowledge the children’s feelings and discomfort. Even in the best case scenarios, familial transitions and blending of families is disruptive for children. It is confusing for kids, and it must be known and appreciated that it will take a while for kids to trust the new arrangements. It takes time, gentleness, developmentally appropriate responses, flexibility, and consistency. Truly be there. For the good, the bad, and the ugly, the stepcouple must be there. The stepcouple must show the children that their relationship is strong enough to keep the kids safe, and they must model for the children that having mixed emotions is okay and tolerable. Be aware that the stress that you feel as a couple reverberates throughout the family, and take responsibility for looking inwards when there is stuff coming up with kids. See yourself as the source of your experience- Be mindful of any victim narrative you are living in. Meaning that if you find yourself feeling like this family happened to you, instead of it being a conscious choice you made, then take a moment to step back. Check your triggers. Check your sense of self. No matter how lost, weak, small, or helpless you feel, remind yourself that you are an adult who has the power to shift the dynamics, and that you are always able to change how you relate to the reality that is your new family situation. The children, and your spouse, will respond to your sense of self confidence, and the whole family will feel more stable and safe when you are able to reconnect with your own strength. When you are rocked, reach out for support- ask your partner, your friends, your community to help you find the strength to be with what is, and to change what is needed. Resources Learn more at Susan Wisdom’s website Read Wisdom’s book Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today's Blended Family www.neilsattin.com/stepcoupling Visit to download the show guide, or text “PASSION” to 33444 and follow the instructions to download the show guide to this episode with Susan Wisdom and qualify to win a free copy of Susan’s book, Stepcoupling. Our Relationship Alive Community on Facebook Amazing intro/outro music graciously provided courtesy of: The Railsplitters - Check them Out!

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