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What happens when the fairy tale turns out to be a gilded cage? In part two this raw and revealing exploration, we continue our conversation about Crystal Hefner's memoir "Only Say Good Things" alongside Holly Madison's "Down the Rabbit Hole" to uncover the dark reality behind the Playboy Mansion's glamorous façade. The conversation peels back layers of manipulation, control, and psychological erosion that defined life for Hugh Hefner's girlfriends. Despite the surface-level luxuries—weekly allowances, on-demand meals, and leisure time—both women describe a suffocating environment of strict curfews, surveillance, and emotional abuse. "It was an invisible trap framed by the language of choice," Crystal writes, capturing how even their apparent freedom was an illusion. Brett and I thoughtfully explore the complexity of these women's experiences, wrestling with challenging questions: Why didn't they just leave? What kept them returning? How do we reconcile their agency with the manipulation they faced? Through this nuanced discussion, we try to understand how gradually these women lost their sense of identity and worth outside the mansion's walls—to the point where both became suicidal and required medication for depression. Crystal's journey—escaping, returning, marrying Hefner, and finally finding herself after his death—ultimately offers hope. "I used to only say good things, but now I say whatever I want," she concludes, reclaiming her voice after years of silence. Her story reminds us that true freedom isn't about material luxury but about maintaining your identity, even in the most golden of cages. Join us for this powerful conversation about power dynamics, self-worth, and the courage it takes to finally tell your truth.Subscribe now to hear the full episode and support women's stories being told in their own words.Listener discretion advised: this episode includes adult language and discussion about sexual abuse and traumaSupport the show:On Patreon Buy us a book Buy cute merch If you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback! If you leave a kind review, I might read it at top of show!Link to this episodes books:Only Say Good Things by Crystal Hefner Down the Rabbit Hole by Holly MadisonThis episode is produced, recorded, and its content edited by me.Technical editing by Brianna PiconTheme song by Devin KennedySpecial thanks to my dear friend, Brett!Xx, AlexConnect with us and suggest a great memoir!

Crystal Hefner's memoir "Only Say Good Things" takes us behind the glittering façade of the Playboy Mansion into a world of manipulation, trauma, and ultimately, self-discovery. Brett joins me to unpack this raw, unflinching account that exposes the dark reality of Hugh Hefner's empire and the psychological toll it took on the women within it.Our conversation doesn't shy away from difficult truths. We explore how Crystal's early trauma—losing her father at age 12 and experiencing multiple sexual assaults—created patterns that made her vulnerable to manipulation. "I wanted a mother, but she wanted a new man," Crystal writes about her mother's response to grief, setting the stage for a lifetime of seeking validation from men. Her journey from a self-destructive 22-year-old to Hugh Hefner's girlfriend and eventually his wife reveals how easily vulnerable young women were pulled into this predatory environment.What makes this discussion particularly compelling is how it compares Crystal's experiences with those of Holly Madison from "Down the Rabbit Hole." The similarities are striking: both women entered believing they had power in the relationship, only to discover they were being systematically broken down and controlled. We examine how Hefner created a competitive environment among his girlfriends, using their insecurities to maintain control while presenting a sanitized version of his life to the public through shows like "The Girls Next Door."The memoir challenges us to question broader cultural issues around sexual exploitation, consent, and the way society often blames victims rather than confronting predatory behavior. In part one, as Brett and I discuss Crystal's early years up until that fateful night she attended the Halloween party at the  mansion when her life changed forever.Join us for this thought-provoking two-part conversation that goes beyond celebrity gossip to examine the psychological impact of exploitation and the long, complex path to reclaiming one's identity and worth. This is more than just a memoir review—it's a window into how trauma shapes our choices and how even the most broken paths can eventually lead to healing.Listener discretion advised: this episode includes adult language and discussion about sexual abuse and traumaSupport the show:On Patreon Buy us a book Buy cute merch If you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback! If you leave a kind review, I might read it at top of show!Link to this episode's books:Only Say Good Things by Crystal Hefner Down the Rabbit Hole by Holly MadisonThis episode is produced, recorded, and its content edited by me. Technical editing by Brianna PiconeTheme song by Devin KennedySpecial thanks to my dear friend, Brett!Xx, AConnect with us and suggest a great memoir!

What if the shame you've carried your entire life isn't yours to bear?In this unflinchingly honest memoir, Melissa Petro invites us on her journey from girlhood to empowered womanhood, challenging us to examine the roots of our own shame along the way.Growing up with a mother who overshared inappropriate details and a father who maintained separate lives, Melissa absorbed confusing messages about her worth from an early age. As she navigated adolescence and sexual awakening, she found herself internalizing the message that her pleasure and needs were secondary to men's. These early experiences laid the groundwork for a complicated relationship with shame that would follow her into adulthood.When financial necessity led Melissa to work in strip clubs during college, she discovered an unexpected sense of power and autonomy, yet simultaneously battled societal judgment and her own conflicting feelings. This inner turmoil intensified years later when, after establishing herself as a dedicated elementary school teacher, she wrote an article about her past sex work experience. The resulting media firestorm and forced resignation became a crucible that ultimately strengthened her resolve to live authentically.Through meticulous research and deeply personal storytelling, Melissa illuminates how shame functions as a control mechanism, particularly for women. She unpacks the impossible, often contradictory standards society imposes: be sexy but not too sexy, be assertive but not aggressive, be a perfect mother while maintaining your career and identity. By naming these paradoxical expectations, she helps us recognize the external forces that trigger our own feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness.The true power of this memoir lies in Melissa's practical guidance for building shame resilience. Rather than fighting shame—which only creates internal war—she advocates for accepting and understanding our feelings while developing critical awareness of shame's external sources. Her emphasis on storytelling as healing reminds us that shame thrives in isolation and silence but dissolves in community and connection.My friend, NA, and I discuss the reflections that we had during and after reading Melissa's powerful memoir, including our own shame triggers, our efforts to stop the "shame cycle" and how to build shame resilience. The best way? Sharing our stories and our shames. Whether you're grappling with body image issues, sexual history, motherhood challenges, or any other source of shame, Melissa's compassionate wisdom offers a path toward self-forgiveness and authentic living. Ready to unburden yourself from shame that was never yours to carry? Have you read “Shame on You"? Share your thoughts with us! Connect with us @babesinbooklandpod or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com.If you leave a kind review, I might read it at top of show!Buy “Shame on You” by Melissa Petro Melissa's article: Thoughts From a Former Craigslist Sex Worker https://www.melissa-petro.com/articlesSupport the show:On Patreon Buy us a book Buy cute merchTranscripts are available through Apple's podcast app.This episode is produced, recorded, and its content edited by me.Theme songConnect with us and suggest a great memoir!

What makes a life valuable? When Heather Lanier's daughter was born with Wolf-Hirschhorn Syndrome (WHS)-- a rare condition affecting just 1 in 50,000 births-- she was forced to confront just how deeply our society ranks human worth based on "normalcy". My cousin, Kimmy, joins me to share her parallel journey raising a daughter with septo-optic dysplasia (SOD) and how it mirrors Heather's powerful and moving memoir. Join us as we dive into the raw reality of hearing doctors casually deliver life-altering diagnoses before switching to weekend plans, the crushing weight of being asked if you took drugs during pregnancy when your baby isn't "perfect," and the constant battle for resources that should be basic rights. Kimmy's experience moving from a small town to access better services for her daughter highlights the geographical lottery of disability support in America. The conversation takes a powerful turn toward current politics when Kimmy articulates how budget cuts and attacks on diversity initiatives directly threaten children like hers. "80% of the visually impaired community is unemployed because we've been lacking in our support and inclusion," she reveals, challenging the notion that eliminating DEI somehow benefits society.  Both mothers reject the idea that their daughters exist to teach others gratitude or perspective. Instead, they celebrate their children's determination, joy, and inherent worth. In her memoir, Heather writes, "I had to die to some version of myself, the desperate, clinging, distraught version who wanted what her child was not." Whether you're a parent navigating special needs, someone curious about disability perspectives, or simply seeking to expand your understanding of human diversity, this episode offers profound insights that will transform how you see value, ability, and the unexpected paths that sometimes lead to our greatest growth. This episode will make you question what you've been conditioned to value and why—and whether we're creating a world that truly welcomes everyone.Have you read “Raising a Rare Girl"? Share your thoughts with us! We'd love to hear which parts of Heather and Kimmy's journeys resonated most with you! Connect with us @babesinbooklandpod or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com.If you leave a kind review, I might read it at top of show!Buy “Raising a Rare Girl” by Heather LanierTranscripts are available through Apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Theme song by Devin Kennedy Special thanks to my dear friend, Kimmy. I've always been in awe of your strength and determination. Xx, AlexConnect with us and suggest a great memoir!

Can you shine light on the dark parts of your life?Jessica Simpson's memoir, Open Book, is a raw, unfiltered truth from a woman who spent years living her life in the public eye while hiding her deepest struggles. In this heartfelt conversation, my friend, Lizzie, and I unpack Jessica's journey from a pastor's daughter with childhood trauma to pop princess to billion-dollar business mogul. Plus, we explore the profound impact these experiences (plus childhood trauma) had on her identity and relationships.Jessica's memoir reveals devastating childhood experiences including sexual abuse that went unaddressed by her parents, creating patterns that would follow her throughout life. We examine how the entertainment industry shaped her from age 17, when Columbia Records executive, Tommy Mottola, demanded she lose fifteen pounds – beginning a twenty-year battle with diet pills and body image. The discussion turns to her relationships, particularly her marriage to Nick Lachey and the reality show "Newlyweds" that transformed them into "actors in their own lives," and her emotionally manipulative relationship with John Mayer.What makes Jessica's story so compelling isn't just her celebrity status, but her remarkable self-awareness about her struggles with addiction, body image, and seeking validation. Her journey toward sobriety and self-acceptance resonates whether you've followed her career or not. We chat about the incredible fashion empire Jessica built that focused on her commitment to serving women of all body types... even as the media scrutinized her own physical appearance.This episode celebrates Jessica's resilience and hard-won wisdom. Her powerful realization that "we need to own our weakness, our hurt, our pain and say it out loud" serves as inspiration for anyone working to overcome their past. Have you read Open Book? Share your thoughts with us! We'd love to hear which parts of Jessica's journey resonated most with you. Connect with us @babesinbooklandpod or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com.If you leave a kind review, I might read it at top of show!Buy Open Book by Jessica SimpsonTranscripts are available through Apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and its content edited by me.Theme song by Devin Kennedy.Special thanks to my dear friend, Lizzie. You always provide a safe space for me to bare all. Xx, AlexConnect with us and suggest a great memoir!

What happens when the system you joined to fight injustice turns out to be part of the problem? Anna Dorn's memoir "Bad Lawyer" takes readers on a journey through the disillusionment that awaits idealistic young lawyers who enter the profession wanting to make a difference. My friend, Cara (a retired lawyer!) and I discuss how to stay hopeful and find the positives in a "bad" criminal justice system.Though she refers to law as a "hideous heirloom" passed down from her father and grandfather, Anna aims to be one of the "good lawyers" defending vulnerable populations rather than corporations. Because she was able to attend law school fully paid for, she writes she can avoid the "golden handcuffs" shackling so many other well-intentioned lawyers.Anna's memoir shines brightest when exposing the stark realities of America's criminal justice system. Through her work with juvenile offenders and marginalized communities, Dorn reveals how the system serves to "enforce social stratification" rather than deliver justice. She unflinchingly describes a world where most of her clients share identical backgrounds—abuse, poverty, racial disadvantage, and mental illness—trapped in a cycle that offers no real path to rehabilitation.Anna's powerful and honest self-assessment as a "bad lawyer" who couldn't embrace the system's rigid rules speaks to anyone who's questioned their career path. Her journey reminds us that true fulfillment often lies beyond the expectations others set for us, and that sometimes the most meaningful way to fight injustice is to tell its story.Listener discretion advised: this episode includes adult languageSupport the show:On Patreon Buy us a book Buy cute merchShow Links:Enneagram Test Death Penalty Statistics Countries with Death Penalty The Danish Prison System The States Project Five Calls If you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback! If you leave a kind review, I might read it at top of show!Link to this episode's book:Bad Lawyer by Anna DornTranscripts are available through apple's podcast appThis episode is produced, recorded, and its content edited by me. Technical editing by Brianna PTheme song by Devin KennedySpecial thanks to my dear friend, Cara. My article sharing angel! Xx, AlexConnect with us and suggest a great memoir!

How can you grow toward the light?In her compelling and illuminating memoir, Hope Jahren shines a light on her complicated life as a scientist, a woman, and a mother. My friend, Page, and I bond over our mutual admiration and appreciation for Hope and her vulnerability. Page discusses her own experience working as a geologist, shares an absolutely hilarious story about a misadventure in the field, and has her own moving moment of vulnerability about being a working mom. We also chat about our favorite “plant chapter” and Hope's amazing friendship with her co-worker (and twin flame?!) Bill!P.S. Make sure you listen for the secret question you can answer to be entered to win a money tree! Enter by DMing me @babesinbooklandpod !!!!Listener discretion advised: this episode includes adult languageSupport the show:On PatreonBuy us a bookBuy cute merchIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback! If you leave a kind review, I might read it at top of show!Link to this episode's book:Lab Girl by Hope JahrenTranscripts are available through apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Theme song by Devin KennedySpecial thanks to my dear friend, Page. So glad our roots are forever intertwined and it's an honor watching you grow and thrive!Xx, Alex

Surprise! We're releasing the EXTENDED episode for free this week!Why don't we all dance it out? The Queen of storytelling, Shonda Rhimes, tasks herself with saying “yes” when she would rather say “no” for one year. During this year, she discovers she's capable of more than she could ever imagine. In this episode, my friend, Gina, and I discuss her insights and advice, how she balances pushing herself and setting healthy boundaries, and how the word “no” can actually be the best “yes” for yourself. Listener discretion advised: this episode includes adult language, discussion about war crimes and violenceGina's Event Planning Business: Enchanted Events by Gina: https://www.enchantedeventsbygina.com/ Enchanted Events by Gina Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enchantedeventsbygina/Support the show:On Patreon Buy us a book Buy cute merchIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback! If you leave a kind review, I might read it top of show!Link to this episode's book: Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes: https://bookshop.org/p/books/year-of-yes-shonda-rhimes/10370480?ean=9781476777122&next=t&next=tTranscripts are available through apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Theme song by Devin KennedySpecial thanks to my dear friend, Gina. I'll be your belay (billet, ballet?) anytime!Xx, Alex

How do our parents shape our identity?In her beautiful and thought-provoking memoir, Elizabeth Miki Brina, exposes her painful personal history and complicated relationship with her mother. My friend, Nadia, and I discuss the ways Elizabeth seeks to build an understanding of why their relationship was so tense in her adolescence and how she has learned to love the part of herself she was once ashamed of. We also reflect on our own journeys through parenthood and Nadia shares familial anecdotes. Elizabeth also provides an education on Okinawa's painful history.Listener discretion advised: this episode includes adult language, discussion about war crimes and violenceSupport the show:On Patreon Buy us a book Buy cute merchIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback! If you leave a kind review, I might read it top of show!Link to this episode's book:Speak, Okinawa by Elizabeth Miki BrinaShow Links:Maggie Estep performing “Happy” Big Poppa E performing “There's a Hole in My Heart” The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Derk Kolk The Story of Sadako SasakiTranscripts are available through apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Theme song by Devin KennedySpecial thanks to my dear friend, Nadia. Your thoughtful, curious, and compassionate approach to life and motherhood is inspiring!Xx, Alex

Does luck negate success?My friend and Ina Super Fan, Lina, and I discuss our take aways from Ina Garten's fascinating memoir. We chat about what we learned about this incredible woman's life—the obstacles she saw merely as temporary challenges, how she overcame a huge martial hump, and how despite her upbringing, she learned how to value herself and find her voice! Lina and I also discuss the ways we aim to instill a strong sense of self-worth in our children, how we work through our own martial bumps in the road, and Lina shares her favorite Ina Garten recipe!Listener discretion advised: this episode includes adult languageSupport the show:On Patreon Buy us a book Buy cute merchIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback! If you leave a kind review, I might read it top of show!Link to this episode's book:Be Ready When the Luck Happens by Ina GartenShow Links:Want To Raise More Successful and Happier Kids?Transcripts are available through apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Theme song by Devin KennedySpecial thanks to my dear friend, Lina. Thank you for feeding me with delicious food and my soul with amazing friendship. Corny? Food pun! Drink!Xx, Alex

How do you find your purpose?My friend, Suz, and I chat about how difficult it can be to feel like you're on the right path and how in awe of Sister Jean's ability to relax into and trust in God's plan for her. Plus, we discuss Sister Jean's refreshing takes on societal issues, our hopes for you, our wonderful listeners, and a shared regret. A quick nugget of Sister Jean wisdom: "It's easy to do good if you want to do good."Listener discretion advised: this episode includes adult languageSupport the victims and first responders of the Los Angeles FiresSupport the show:On PatreonBuy us a bookBuy cute merchIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback! If you leave a kind review, I will read it top of show!Link to this episode's book:Wake up With Purpose!: What I Learned in my First Hundred Years by Sister JeanShow Links:Forest BathingStress Can Increase Your Biological AgeThe Game of ChangeTranscripts are available through apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Theme song by Devin KennedySpecial thanks to my dear friend, Suz. We'll figure it out!Xx, Alex

Happy New Year and Welcome to Season 2!We're returning to Jessica Pan's hilarious and thought-provoking memoir to reflect on how far we've been and look forward to where we can go! Thanks for being on this journey with me!Xx,AlexWho could you be if you didn't label yourself?  Jessica Pan, a self-described shintrovert (that's shy + introvert) is ready to challenge herself to live like an extrovert for one year and see what positive changes and magical moments she can experience when she steps out of her comfort zone. In this episode, my friend, Misty, and I will discover the importance of mentors, physical ways to combat anxiety, and how getting out of your own way can be the most empowering move of all. I'm beyond thrilled to start my own journey with you as this podcast grows. We recorded this episode almost six months ago and now it's finally here. I couldn't be happier!Support the show!On Patreon!Buy us a book!Buy cute merch!If you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback!Link to this episode's book: Sorry I'm Late, I Didn't Want to Come by Jessica PanOther ways to support/connect with Jessica Pan: SubstackInstagramTranscripts are available through apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Theme song by Devin KennedySpecial thanks to my dear friend, Misty. You've known me all my life and you still love me and allow me to grow and change. Xx

Hope this holiday season brings you many moments of joy and love! Thanks for being on this journey with me!Xx,Alex

How can you find yourself?  I finally read the phenomenon that is Wild! My friend Lauren and I discuss Cheryl's solo journey hiking the Pacific Crest Trail—the physical toll and the emotional and mental growth. We're in awe of Cheryl's raw honesty and vulnerability and reflect on how we can go on our growth journeys without having to hike 1,100 miles. Listener discretion advised: this episode includes adult languageSupport the show:On Patreon Buy us a book Buy cute merchIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback!Link to this episode's book:Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail by Cheryl StrayedOther ways to support/connect with Cheryl Strayed: InstagramPersonal WebsiteTranscripts are available through apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Special thanks to my dear friend, Lauren. I'd go hiking/rock climbing/camping with you ANY day!Xx, Alex

What happens if you stop looking for your flaws?  My friend Jaime is back to chat about Lisa's wellness journey. We reflect on the ways we attempt to find balance and peace and happiness in our own lives, learn about Pema Chodron and her wisdom, and Jaime reflects on who she would “Freaky Friday” with.Listener discretion advised: this episode includes adult languageSupport the show:On PatreonBuy us a bookBuy cute merchIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback!Link to this episode's book:Blissful Thinking: A Memoir of Overcoming the Wellness Journey by LL KirchnerOther ways to support/connect with LL Kirchner: InstagramShow Notes:Carl Sagan - Pale Blue Dot - video Tara Brach - Radical Compassion - book Christy Harrison – The Wellness Trap - book Adam Grant: How to stop languishing and start finding flow | TED TALKTranscripts are available through apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Special thanks (again!!) to my dear friend, Jaime. The light in me recognizes and loves the crap out of the light in you.Xx, Alex

How do you live with unanswered questions?In her moving memoir, Anna Qu shares and reclaims her story as her truth. Brett and I discuss her tumultuous and confusing upbringing, and the complicated relationships between Mothers and Daughters. We admire her strength and empathize with her trauma. On a lighter note, we chat about our favorite romance novels and books (Anna writes about escaping into literature, specifically romance, at a young age).Listener discretion advised: this episode contains adult language, discussion about abuse, a story involving sexual harassment Support the show:On PatreonBuy us a bookBuy cute merchIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback!Link to this episode's book:Made in China: A Memoir of Love and Labor by Anna QuOther ways to support/connect with Anna QuInstagramAnna Qu's websiteLink to Olly Richard's “How Many Languages Are There in China?” Link to Vox Article: You buy a purse at Walmart. There's a note inside from a “Chinese prisoner.” Now what? Tracing a mysterious message across the world to understand how what we buy is made.Brett's Favorite Romance BookCredenceAlex's Favorite Romance BookThe True Love Experiment Transcripts are auto-generated through Apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Theme song by Devin KennedySpecial thanks (again!) to my friend, Brett. One day I will find you a memoir where the mother is amazing! (Maybe! Hopefully?)Xx, Alex

Gave myself a birthday break and you guys access to the extended version of Finding Me by Viola Davis.Also, included this poem that I am turning to right now for hope, comfort, and grit:Still I Riseby Maya AngelouYou may write me down in historyWith your bitter, twisted lies,You may trod me in the very dirtBut still, like dust, I'll rise.Does my sassiness upset you?Why are you beset with gloom?'Cause I walk like I've got oil wellsPumping in my living room.Just like moons and like suns,With the certainty of tides,Just like hopes springing high,Still I'll rise.Did you want to see me broken?Bowed head and lowered eyes?Shoulders falling down like teardrops,Weakened by my soulful cries?Does my haughtiness offend you?Don't you take it awful hard'Cause I laugh like I've got gold minesDiggin' in my own backyard.You may shoot me with your words,You may cut me with your eyes,You may kill me with your hatefulness,But still, like air, I'll rise.Does my sexiness upset you?Does it come as a surpriseThat I dance like I've got diamondsAt the meeting of my thighs?Out of the huts of history's shameI riseUp from a past that's rooted in painI riseI'm a black ocean, leaping and wide,Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.Leaving behind nights of terror and fearI riseInto a daybreak that's wondrously clearI riseBringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,I am the dream and the hope of the slave.I riseI riseI rise.******How do we choose grace and compassion? In her heartbreaking memoir, Viola Davis opens up about her abusive childhood and the adversity she faced as a Black actress. My friend, Ngoc Anh, and I discuss her unparalleled talent, strength in her convictions, empathy and how she encourages us to reflect on what holds us back in our own lives. Through her life story, we see that though the journey to self-discovery is often difficult, it's worth it.  Listener discretion advised: this episode contains mature language and sensitive discussion topics including sexual assaultIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback!Link to this episode's book:Finding Me by Viola DavisOther ways to support/connect with Viola Davis:Viola Davis IMDBInstagramTranscripts are available through apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Special thanks to my dear friend, Ngoc Anh. You're my honorary big sis and I'm so lucky to know you!Xx, Alex

When is it sexual empowerment versus sexual exploitation? This is the question Kate Flannery's memoir had me and my friend, Kate, coming back to again and again. With a literary flair, she tells the story of working for and being sucked into the cult-like American Apparel brand. Her anecdotes made us gasp, made us laugh, but mostly evoked compassion and empathy for Kate and how she attempted to navigate the confusing landscape of women's sexual liberation, sexism, and misogyny in the early aughts.Listener discretion advised: this episode contains adult language, discussion about attempted sexual assault/rapeIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback!Link to this episode's book:Strip Tees by Kate FlanneryOther ways to support/connect with Kate FlanneryInstagramLink to article about the value of SAHP (Forbes)Link to article about hyperthymic temperament (Wiki)Link to article about Marilyn Monroe's “centerfold photo shoot” (biography.com)Link to article about GOP rejecting funding for summer food programs (AP)Transcripts are auto-generated through Apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Special thanks to my dear friend, Kate. Thank you for always being game with a smile on your face.  Xx, Alex

Do you accept the love you deserve?My friend, Priscilla, and I chat about the incredibly unique and moving memoir In the Dream House by Carmen Maria Machado. Carmen illuminates and writes about her own experience with domestic abuse within her same-sex relationship—bringing her story and those like it out of the shadows and into the conversation. Priscilla and I reflect on the ways we resonated with Carmen and the ways she helped open our minds and hearts.Listener discretion advised: this episode contains adult language, discussion about abuse and domestic violenceIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback! If you leave a kind review, I'll read it top of show!Link to this episode's book:In the Dream House by Carmen Maria MachadoOther ways to support/connect with Carmen Maria MachadoInstagramLink to Domestic Violence in the LGTBQ+ community statisticsWays to support survivors of Domestic Violencehttps://www.asafeplace.org/ https://www.1736fcc.org/ https://www.sfaws.org/National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFE(7233) Text BEGIN to 88788 https://www.womenslaw.org/ Transcripts are auto-generated through Apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Special thanks (again!) to my dear friend, Priscilla. Best friends for over TWENTY YEARS!!! (We don't talk about sophomore year).Xx, Alex

How can we continue to learn and grow?Tara Westover's Educated is a moving, inspiring, and thought-provoking memoir. My friend, Jaime, and I discuss Tara's courage to challenge the beliefs she had been conditioned to accept all of her life. And even though her education came with a devastating personal price, her journey is a reminder of the importance of self-reflection, curiosity, and the pursuit of knowledge. Listener discretion advised: this episode contains adult language, discussion about abuseIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback!Link to this episode's book:Educated by Tara WestoverOther ways to support/connect with Tara WestoverInstagramLink to Food Stamp Statistics Transcripts are auto-generated through Apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Special thanks (again!) to my dear friend, Jaime. You're one of the few I'd cold plunge for!Xx, Alex

What makes you laugh?My friend, Page, and I are in awe of how Michelle Buteau seems to lead her life with laughter. That isn't to say she hasn't faced hard things— being a Black woman in America and Hollywood, a body that matured way faster than her peers, and a difficult journey to motherhood that many friends didn't know how to support (just to name a few!) But her book exudes joy and is as inspiring and funny as it is relatable. We get into our first kiss stories, how to show up for your friends and yourself, and THE BEST CLAP BACK EVER. Seriously. EVER.Listener discretion advised: this episode contains adult languageIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback!Link to this episode's book:Survival of the Thickest by Michelle ButeauOther ways to support/connect with Michelle ButeauInstagram Transcripts are auto-generated through Apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Special thanks to my dear friend, Page. Thanks for laughing with me since we were 10 years old. Even though that one time I almost choked and that other time you had the worst hang over ever. Xx, Alex

Can you break through the fear to find the hope and the light?I'm so happy to share this episode as our country prepares to make a very important decision this November. My friend Colette and I discuss Dr. Edith Eger's hellish journey as a Holocaust survivor and are inspired by and marvel at her ability to choose goodness, hope, and love in the face of unspeakable evils and trauma. We reflect on the power we all have in our choices—to see ourselves as the victims or as the captains of our own lives. Colette also drops some beautiful nuggets of wisdom along the way!Listener discretion advised: this episode contains adult language, descriptions of horrific abuse, and attempted rapeIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback!Link to this episode's book:The Choice: Embrace the Possible by Dr. Edith EgerThe Young Adult Version of this book:The Ballerina of Auschwitz by Dr. Edith EgerOther links: NationalWW2Museum.orgOther ways to support/connect with Dr. Edith EgerInstagramhttps://dreger.yoursoulsearch.org/  Transcripts are auto-generated through Apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Special thanks to my dear friend, Colette. You are a beautiful light in my own life!Xx, Alex

Where do your beliefs about yourself and your worth come from? (And how do we change them!?)We're finishing up our discussion about Erika L Sánchez's transformative memoir this week. My friend Diliana is back with more incredibly thoughtful moments and a few confessions about trying to adhere to early aughts beauty standards. We chat about what we allow ourselves to enjoy and what we feel guilty about indulging in and how Erika's memoir allowed us to reflect on who we have been and who we want to be.Listener discretion advised: this episode contains adult languageIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback!Link to this episode's book:Crying in the Bathroom by Erika L. Sánchez Other links:  Kerry's Washington's performance of Sojourner Truth's speech: Ain't I A Woman? ORLAN'S InstagramOther ways to support/connect with Erika L. Sánchez:Instagram Lesson on Expulsion I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican DaughterTranscripts are auto-generated through Apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Special thanks to my dear friend, Diliana. You give me the freedom and encouragement to explore all ideas—good and bad. I think this was a good idea!Xx, Alex 

How do you thrive instead of just survive?In her thought-provoking and vulnerable memoir, Erika L. Sánchez bares all. My friend Diliana and I gain perspective and reflect on our own lives, including Diliana's experience as a teenage immigrant, the pressure of being extraordinary, and reflect on Erika's inspiring journey to the incredible woman she is today. Listener discretion advised: Erika's mental health journey includes suicidal thoughts, attempted sexual assault and rapeIf you have any comments or questions, please connect with me on Instagram or email babesinbooklandpodcast@gmail.com. I'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback!Link to this episode's book:Crying in the Bathroom by Erika L. Sánchez Article mentioned in the discussion:Histories and Hysteria: How Women's Words and Bodies Are Mistreated by the Health System in AmericaOther ways to support/connect with Erika L. Sánchez:Instagram Lesson on ExpulsionI Am Not Your Perfect Mexican DaughterTranscripts are auto-generated through Apple's podcast app—they may not be perfect, but relying on them allows me to dedicate more time to the show! If you're interested in being a transcript angel, let me know. This episode is produced, recorded, and edited by me.Special thanks to my dear friend, Diliana. Thank you for being my creative partner in crime!Xx, Alex

Where will your ambition lead you?My friend Chanelle and I dive into Rana el Kaliouby's fascinating memoir about pursuing your purpose against all odds. We chat about the issues women with careers in the technology field face, how isolating our personal journeys can feel, and the way we might be holding ourselves back from welcoming success in our lives. Listener discretion advised: this episode has description of war crimes

How do your ancestors guide you?United States Poet Laureate, Joy Harjo, takes us on her journey of discovery with beautiful prose. My friend, Priscilla, and I discuss the interesting way she weaves poetry, her familial history, her spiritual intuition, and art into her unique and inspirational story. We reflect on the way our own relationships have shaped us, the expectations that come with life, and the way that art can guide and heal us.Listener discretion advised: this episode has adult language and sensitive discussion topics including sexual assault

How do we choose grace and compassion?In her heartbreaking memoir, Viola Davis opens up about her abusive childhood and the adversity she faced as a Black actress. My friend, Ngoc Anh, and I discuss her unparalleled talent, strength in her convictions, empathy and how she encourages us to reflect on what holds us back in our own lives. Through her life story, we see that though the journey to self-discovery is often difficult, it's worth it. Listener discretion advised: this episode has adult language and sensitive discussion topics including sexual assault

How high can you leap? Misty Copeland's memoir is as full of as much grace as she has on the stage.  My friend, Brett, and I discuss her surprising journey to becoming a principal dancer for the prestigious American Ballet Theatre. Her story is packed with  adversity, compassion, but most important of all, hope. She's an inspiration for dancers (and non-dancers) of all ages! Listener discretion advised: this episode contains adult language

What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail? This is the creed Jackie Speier lives her life by. After narrowly surviving a massacre while visiting the Jonestown commune in Guyana, Jackie is more determined than ever to be a change for good in the world. In this episode, my friend, Lizzie, and I will dive into this incredible woman and her journey. We'll discuss how her faith comforted her through many difficult times, how her drive and empathy would inspire her to pass landmark legislation, and how her compassion, determination and advocacy set her apart in politics. Listener discretion advised: sexual assault, sexual abuse, gun violence, pregnancy loss, spousal death

How do you discover your voice? With my guest, Jaime, we discuss Lindy West's journey to self-acceptance and advocacy and discuss the ways we can be kinder and more compassionate to ourselves and others.Listener discretion advised: this episode includes sensitive discussion topics including rape.

Who could you be if you didn't label yourself? Jessica Pan, a self-described shintrovert (that's shy + introvert) is ready to challenge herself to live like an extrovert for one year and see what positive changes and magical moments she can experience when she steps out of her comfort zone. In this episode, my friend, Misty, and I will discover the importance of mentors, physical ways to combat anxiety, and how getting out of your own way can be the most empowering move of all. 

Hi! I'm Alex Frnka and this is my new podcast, Babes in Bookland. I'm diving deep into the world of women's memoirs and taking a few friends along for the journey. Each episode, we'll break down a book written by a woman about her own life in her own words and discover the guidance and insight she has to offer. I believe in the power of women's voices and know that we can learn a lot from each other when we listen with open hearts. And through these author's personal stories, we'll find inspiration, understanding, and gain perspective on how women from all backgrounds and viewpoints not only survive, but thrive. These stories matter. They're important. And I'm so excited to dig in and discuss. Read along with us and share your own takeaways!You can subscribe on Apple Podcasts or support the show on Patreon to access extended episodes and fun bonus content. There are a lot of women's memoirs out there. Let's read them!This is Babes in Bookland!