Persuasions of Comfort

Today's conversation was a deep dive into what it really means to live with intention. We explored everything from setting intentional goals and staying disciplined, to navigating fear, building supportive communities, and knowing when to lean in—or step back. It's clear that being intentional isn't just about having a plan—it's about aligning our values, checking our motivations, and being honest about who and what is helping—or hurting—that journey. Whether you're running solo or leaning on your crew, the key is to stay rooted in what's real for you.

Sometimes, a breakthrough isnt about achieving a massive goal-- its about realizing you've been measuring progress the wrong way. Breakthroughs are moments in time where we discovered a connection between the feeling giving up and the feeling of giving it one more try. The key is to divorce the story of your limitations and marry the truth of your abilities. 

Are you standing firm on your boundaries? Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others. Boundaries are not about keeping people out but about showing people where the door is. I have the right to protect my energy and prioritize my needs.

Have you ever had a great idea and a plan to execute  but find yourself crippled by fear.f Most people interpret risk taking to be associated with negativity. Therefore, they make the decision to avoid crossing paths with opportunities which require taking risks. 

Sometimes we find ourselves on the fence trying to decipher our past experiences in order to figure out our next move.  In between this phase you may find yourselves stuck in the peril of self doubt. Finding the balance between autonomy and collaboration is important for personal growth and success! 

Traveling is trendy. Its fun and creates lasting experiences. At some point the travel ends and we find ourselves struggling to adjust back to reality. Tune in to this episode for seven steps that can help you transition back to reality from traveling.

Sometimes when life starts to shift and undergoes changes, our goals can fade into the background. In this episode, I discuss four methods I employ to navigate challenges while staying committed to my objectives.

Goals should hold specific significance in your life, be measurable, action-oriented, deserving of rewards based on commitment, and have trackable timelines. This episode covers the cornerstone of all goal-setting endeavors —Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-bound. Also known as S.M.A.R.T.

In this episode, my guest Jessica Fields and I delve into one of the most contentious topics in a constructive manner – navigating the waters of two common "-ships" simultaneously. How crucial are friendships? Do they significantly impact the relationships we pursue?

This episode is a direct reflection of my journey in South Africa. It was a roller coaster ride, yet a humbling and progressive experience. In this episode I share 7 valuable lessons I learned from the Mother Land.

Adulting is all fun and games except when we are required to be an adult. In this episode I highlight 6 keys to makes sense of this journey into adulthood.

Most of us are heavily dependent on motivation to get us through the day. However, when motivation is not working in your favor, then what? How do you continue pushing forward without it? This episode covers three sources I like to tap into when motivation is not enough.

In this episode Brittney Bayne and I dive into different topics revolving around relationships, friends who fear our personal growth, and understanding the concept of moving on and letting go of people who no longer hold value in our lives. Some of these conversations are hard to have because majority of us can relate to being in one these positions. Are we truly giving ourselves grace to evolve from our thoughts?

What does 100% control of your life truly look like? Does will power dictate the amount of effort you put in? Moving with a purpose means we have vision, clarity for the process, and an understanding of how things work. Do we have the capability to control the outcomes of the decisions we make daily or are we simply a moving through life as a matter of circumstance? @laculura717 @blacc_by_lacultura @oswald_shelby @persuasionsofcomfort

This episode covers 3 techniques that can be applied today to ensure improvements with habit changing. With these techniques we can becoming more aware of our habits, learn to create a time and space for those habits to coexist in the world with us, and lastly they will allow us to get sufficient repetition to transform those habit into routines and systems. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

So how do we identify whether or not our habits are serving a purpose in our lives? “What you crave is not the habit itself but the change in state it delivers.” Once we are able to understand the fundamental laws of habits and how to alter them to our specification, then creating good habits and breaking bad ones can become second nature to us. Habits are shaped by the systems in your life. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Improvements are only temporary until they become part of who you are. When your behavior and your identity are fully aligned you are no longer pursuing behavior change. You are simply acting like the type of person you already believe yourself to be. The best version will always require you to edit your beliefs in order to expand your identity. Relatable Episodes: Episode 46:  Start Turning the Keys Episode 49: Book Forgotten, Message Received: Atomic Habits Part 1  --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

When you forget your goals and focus more on the systems, you will quickly realize that you don't rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems. BOOM! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

It first begins with a thought, and that thought becomes an idea, and then some of us tend to get stuck. Transforming the idea into action is always one of the toughest challenges to overcome. However, with the proper techniques we can put ourselves in the best position to move from one phase to the next. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

It is believed that a persons personality, employee skills, and or being culturally fit are what makes up for being successful. I am not convinced. I believe there are more attributes that can contribute to someone becoming successful. In my opinion the concept of success is subjective. At the same time we can define success as a set of preferences and tendencies through which we approach the world. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

This episode centers around the urgency to start turning the keys on your purpose in life. The hardest part about doing something new or revisiting something old--- is not knowing where to start, why you're doing it, and how to sustain consistency and longevity. The time is now to take control of the wheel and drive off into the direction of your passions, gifts, and talents. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

The best way to track your progress and get things done is to make a list. The ability to memorize more patterns and routines build good habits. Exercise keeps our mind and body active and assists in our ability to concentrate. Mediation allows us to direct our focus. When we can identify distractions we become the best designers to arrange our environment for success. Breaking down tasks into smaller parts can help reduce stress. We can measure our success by setting up sprints for each task we tackle. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Is the term "Intentions" is being overused or misused? Are we allowing folks to use the term "Intentions" without properly holding them accountable to follow through? Are we allowing the true concept of courtship and intentions to fall out of perspective? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

“The complete saying was originally "A jack of all trades is a master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one." A compliment that means a person is a generalist rather than a specialist, versatile and adept at many things. A figure of speech used in reference to a person who has dabbled in many skills, rather than gaining expertise. Not having soft skills can be the different between being hired for a position or overlooks for a promotion. In this episode, I highlight 5 soft skills that any individual can master. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

“Do not confuse movement with progress. You could be running in place and going nowhere.” - D.W This is one of my favorite quotes. Whenever I begin reciting this quote aloud it usually means I'm stuck. Caught up and a web where fear, doubt, and lack of progress begin taking up real estate in my mind. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Having a basic understanding of your own communication style is important to building better relationships in your personal and professional life. Understanding the difference between your own personal communication style from others is much more powerful because it provides us with insightful benefits and makes us aware of the consequences. The goal of any communication is first seek to understand then to be understood. In this episode I highlight what I learned about communication through dating. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Decision fatigue is the idea that after making many decisions, a person's ability to make additional decisions becomes worse. An individual experiencing decision fatigue may be reluctant to make these decisions, take longer to make them, or simply make a decision that they later regret. In this episode I highlight six steps that I learned and applied to improve my decision making process. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

As I wrap up this book series, I highlight three effective ways to "Expect the Best and Get it." When we claim to desire specific things in life we should always expect to receive them if and only if we picture success and not a vision of failure. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

One of the biggest struggles in life besides adulting is figuring out how to handle and avoid burnout. In this episode I share my input on how emotion can impact our energy production. Emotion aka energy in motion can be useful as well as a blocker depending on the situation. Discovering when to set our emotions aside can help us maximize our efforts while exerting less energy. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

This episode is a continuation of my book review from The Power of Positive Thinking written by Norman Vincent Peale. In chapter 2, he writes about the power of a peaceful mind and how we can use it to generate power. In my perspective, I interpret this generated power from a peaceful mind as the capability to avoid toxic situations that may surface throughout our day. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

The average human being has 60-80 thousand thoughts per day. Our thought patterns affect how we interact with others, it shapes how we chose to live, and confirms how we feel about ourselves. Norman Vincent Peale drops gems on how to establish a method that will help re-educate our minds to produce more positive thoughts. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Backing out of a prior commitment is never easy. We fear the backlash and want to avoid the disappointing looks that follow especially if we've built a habit of canceling obligations. Melody Wilding wrote an article for Harvard Business Review on the different ways to retract your "Yes" and turn it into a "No" with dignity and preservation.  --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Is your incentive for success fueled by instant gratification? Practice does not necessarily make perfect, but it does make progress. That same progress is a process that eventually leads to success. Therefore, we can concluded that success is a process. Throughout that process there will always be someone looking to tear us down by our weaknesses and shortcomings. The principles in this episode speaks on how to give others something else to focus on.  --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Are we so consumed by what others have and what we lack? Are too focused on what the world claims we should have accomplished or who we should be by a certain age? Have we been crippled by lost or failed dreams that we attach ourselves to someone's else dream because we are unsure whether or not we can transform our own dreams and passions into reality? Principles 3 & 4 of this book highlights how important it is follow our own dreams and passions, along with viewing our losses as lessons for the next opportunity. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

I never knew there was such a thing called Black Privilege. When the word privilege comes to mind I usually only think of one thing “white”. It wasn't until reading this book, Black Privilege, written by Charlamagne Tha God, I was able to fully understand what it means to have & embrace Black Privilege— Opportunity Comes to Those Who Create It. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Reading seems to be mandatory in grade school, and optional as an adult. As time goes by the concept of reading becomes less critical or important. And we replace reading time with social media or something less trivial. So the question now becomes how beneficial is reading for you? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

They say 30 is the new 20! But is this actually true? Joining me in this discussion, are three successful individuals who have recently reached, "Dirty Thirty". We share our stories and experiences as we touch on the topics of reflecting on our 20's, perception of what a 30-year-old looks like in society today, and adulting-- personal development & social media flex. @goodboybrian | @iambrittney_lauren | @shanellegayle | @persuasionsofcomfort --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

As I close out the series of The Alchemist, here are questions to consider if you're looking to achieve your personal legend. What do I claim to desire? Am I actually doing the things that I claim I desire? What am I doing on a daily basis that is helping or hurting ME? Am I claiming the X outcome but choosing the Y behavior? Discipline creates consistency. Adopt discipline, welcome it and love it. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Entering the final stages of the The Alchemist series, I highlight some of the underlying themes and concepts that I found most interesting throughout the book. I also discuss the Power of Decisions & Mysterious Outcomes, the emphasis or credit we give to Luck and Coincidence, and how critical it is to Grasp the Concept of our personal journey. None of the former are feasible unless the intention is clear. Every aspect of the journey is a moment. We must learn to be present in that moment. We must understand that timing matters. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

I believe there is a formula for everything. If I can first be honest with myself, worry less about the success of others, begin to count my own blessings, and understand that subtle difference matter, I might be onto something. This formula helped me discover that the journey starts with always believing in myself, counting the small wins, recognizing the journey will be long and difficult, and that my daily decisions will affect future rewards. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Why is it important to depend less on luck and more on developing your skills to master the craft? When we ask objective questions we increase the ability to rely on our own instincts. Understanding the effects of giving up too soon can help establish patterns towards seeking new perspectives in uncontrollable situations. Choosing to be open to change is a separate hurdle from the willingness to accept change. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

What does it mean to follow your heart and live out your dreams? Why is growth difficult and changing for the better so expensive? How do you use your gifts and talents to achieve your purpose in life? Who is choosing your path? Is it fate, or others in your environment? All of these questions I was able to answer from reading the The Alchemist. Not once but twice. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

"Despite the many setbacks of social and economical injustice and oppression brought upon the black community since the ages of slavery, black people continued to make a profound impact on American culture. We will continue to create awareness around Black History, while also honoring the voices, stories, and contributions of our black colleagues and peers across various markets and industries." -- OTT --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

"Black History Month and its origins began as a week celebration highlighting the progress that black people have made since the destruction of slavery. We continue to celebrate the progress and significant contributions that black people have made from science, medicine, and politics, to business, entertainment, and athletics." -- OTT --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Time is not always on our side. Often we find ourselves trying to figure out where the time goes when the day slips out of our control. When we do not have control of our time, our level of productivity decreases causing us to lose focus and miss deadlines. Not only do we need time and discipline to break bad habits but we also need tools that can help us replace bad habits with better ones.  I share 7 methods I use daily to maintain a level of productivity and take back control of my time.  --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In this continuation of our Finance Fundamental series we explore financial success and financial freedom, investing, community growth and how to build generational wealth. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

"Freedom is the goal, knowledge is the key." Powerful words from the author of a book titled, The 6 Keys to Financial Success. We all talk about wealth and being rich but how many of us actually have the knowledge and tools required to achieve this goal. Aaron Hyatt, an electrical engineer turned finance professional has worked as a business analyst in the financial industry for the past 7 years.  Aside from paying off $60,000 of his own debt in a span of 2 years, he also teaches personal finance via Instagram and helps aspiring entrepreneurs open their LLCs. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Self-care is more than just a facial or a Spa day.  Self-care encourages you to maintain a healthy relationship with yourself so that you can transmit the good feelings to others. I sat down with , London Wolfe, “The Practical Spiritualist” an experienced life coach, an educator, and a strategist. Together we discuss the importance of incorporating healthy self-care routines, and tools that can be used in real time to renew ones confidence and move past current challenges. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

The stress from losing a job can cause nothing but chaos in our lives. As millions of people around the world have lost their jobs amid the current COVID 19 crisis, this involuntary disruptive life event does not come with a handbook. How does one not only process but adjust and stay balanced. Dr. Shaheena Janjuha-Jivraj, an author and a Forbes Contributor, provides us with 16 Important Things To Keep In Mind after a Job Loss. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Often we hear and have conversations about our biggest regrets. Most of us tend to remember situations where we should have or could have done something, but chose otherwise due to reasonings based on facts, emotions, circumstances, and experiences. When was the last time you've shared a list of your BEST decisions? Choices you are proud to talk about with No Regrets. In this episode, Nahum shares a list of his top 5 best decisions he has made thus far. Using them as a reminder to stay authentic, learn from past mistakes, and how to make better decisions moving forward. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

One of many controversial discussions, ignored and overlooked -- vulnerability, which refers to the inability to withstand the effects of a hostile environment. What if we are able to redefine how we view and understand vulnerability. Rather than accepting it as a word that means weakness, we can embrace the powerful benefits of the vulnerability that can create courage and strength. Joined by the esteem Akilah Flynn, Certified Integrative Wellness Life Coach (@akilahflynn), we discuss vulnerability, healing and aligning with our authentic selves. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app