The Not So Perfect Couple Podcast

Sam and Paddy dive into such an important and serious topic with their guest today. How our perception of love can be shaped by things that aren't positive and how that affects how we view it as adults. Carolyn Colleen is a fierce mother of three children, author, international speaker, entrepreneur, and business strategist focused on helping others achieve their goals.  Carolyn is the founder of the FIERCE Academy, an online program that helps women create life strategies that enables them to have the life they dream of—without sacrificing their families, careers, or lifestyles. She is also the author of F.I.E.R.C.E.: Transform Your Life in the Face of Adversity, 5 Minutes at a Time!  With a soon to be Ph.D. in Organizational Leadership and Behavior (Dec 2020), an MBA, and a BA in Business, Carolyn understands the importance of traditional education. She also knows that intertwining personal experiences allows people to maximize the information from her teachings, presentations, and workshop offerings.  As a dynamic and innovative workplace leader, Carolyn has worked as a Program Manager and Business Development Consultant at Gundersen Health System, Associate Professor at the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse, Account Management Executive for Gensler, and a Client Service Executive at UBS Financial Services. She knows how to transition people and processes to achieve the next-level of success while also aligning with organizational objectives.  From standing in a food line at the Salvation Army to Ph.D., Carolyn is avid about sharing her own life story and encouraging others to make changes that move them from fear to focusing on the pursuit of their passions. 

This week the Not So Perfect Couple talk with Elliott Davis about the things you need to do so you can truly sink into that perfect relationship. Yup, there's work that needs to be done. Elliott Davis knows that love is hard. He knows that it hurts sometimes, frustrates sometimes, and disappoints sometimes. Through a dizzying amount of trial and error, epic failures, and exciting triumphs, he also knows how overwhelmingly and ridiculously amazing love can be. He's finally found what it takes to make love last and his relationship methods have been tested and proven all over the world. But it's still not enough. He wants to empower YOU with the tools and insights to find, fall in love, and stay in love with the best partner for you.

In this weeks episode the Not So Perfect Couple break down a fascinating thing we can do to shift the collective consciousness and better the world.  Paddy is truly enamored by this and is really intrigued by the idea that your basic action of setting good intentions creates massive impact in your neighborhood and everyone around you. 

This week Sam and Paddy sit-down with an incredible guest who brings to light how porn may be affecting humans and our interaction. They do deep dives on whether or not there are levels to watching porn. Is being a casual watcher a problem? This episode has become a Top 10 for Paddy because it's packed with so much good content. Gonzalo Salinas is a Men's coach, author, podcaster, and a workshop facilitator. He was born in Lima and moved to the U.S. in 2003. After overcoming an addiction to pornography, he published a book called “Conquering Porn Addiction” and started a coaching practice to help men in issues of masculinity, sexuality, and healing from porn addiction. He started his path as a sex educator, studying sacred sexuality at the International School of Temple Arts (ISTA), and he is currently studying with Taoist sexuality instructor Jerónimo García. Gonzalo has two podcasts. One in English called "Conversations about Men", and another in Spanish called "Conscious Masculinity” (Masculinidad Consciente). In both he interviews experts to help men to become better men. He is currently writing his second book on Masculinity, as a part of a trilogy for masculine development. Gonzalo dances salsa, practices yoga, archery, meditation, and sacred sexuality. Gonzalo lives in Miami.

The Not So Perfect Couple sit down with Reformed Stripper Rob Kowalski to discuss whether waiting to have sex is important for the health of a relationship.  Rob Kowalski is a self professed "reformed bad boy" with a riveting personal testimony from living as the biggest male stripper in his home state of Maryland to running the nightlife in Baltimore, the city he grew up in. He gave up the fast life life of casual sex and partying and is now the founder of the thriving non-profit, CityFam whose mission is to solve loneliness. He is the author of the best-selling book, Why Waiting Works, and has the #1 video in it's category worldwide on YouTube with 10 Reasons Not To Have Sex Before Marriage with over 1.5 million views and climbing. At the beginning of 2020 he wrapped up an International tour called The Truth About Sex. Rob is working on opening a coffee bar/live music venue called HOME. It will serve as a meeting place for anyone craving deep, meaningful connections and redefine how people self-actualize. Rob's story has recently been featured in numerous publications including; GodTV, Daily Mail, Antena Stars, Trinitas, and others..

The Not So Perfect Couple are back...and this week, they sit down with one of their favorite authors, Joseph Grenny. If you guys have listened to any of the other episodes, you know Sam and Paddy often talk about Joseph and his books, and how much they are great teachers for relationships and parenting...even though they are meant to be business books. Well, in this conversation, you'll see why! Joseph Grenny is a four-time New York Times bestselling author, dynamic keynote speaker, and leading social scientist for business performance. Over the past thirty years, Joseph has delivered engaging keynotes at major conferences including the HSM World Business Forum at Radio City Music Hall. Joseph's work has been translated into 28 languages, is available in 36 countries, and has generated results for 300 of the Fortune 500.

This week the NSPC sit down and talk about creating a relationships manifesto for you and your partner. Are you in alignment? Do you want the same things for you and your family? How can you work together to design this and make sure it's followed through. 

This episode is deep! You'll actually notice Sam getting emotional a couple of times, as they navigate the conversation of opening up and being your true self at all times.  Shawn Cheadle has worked in the aerospace and defense industry since 1989, and as in-house counsel since 1997. In his current role as Operations general counsel, he serves launch operations, supply chain, production, quality, facilities, security and special initiatives. Previously, he supported government and international contracts negotiations, drafting and dispute resolution, and was integral in the award of major satellite programs for the US Air Force. He also supports information governance, digital transformation, eDiscovery, records management, and counterfeit parts investigations, and other functional organizations. He is a former ACC Global Board Member, founder and past chair of the ACC Information Governance Network, former ACC Law Department Management Chair, and former Board member and President of ACC Colorado. As an advisory board member, Shawn offers guidance to a few leading edge entities, including a transformational platform for the legal industry's request for proposal practices, dramatically improving how the legal industry buys services. He lives with his wife, Lora Plank Cheadle, Life Choreographer and bestselling author, in Littleton, Colorado and they have boys excelling in college. You can find him fly fishing the Rocky Mountains and the world. Born and raised in Northern California, he received his BA from San Jose State University and his JD from the University of Denver, College of Law. Lora Cheadle, former attorney, author, and Life Choreographer® is a transformational thought leader and media personality who empowers women to find uninhibited joy and gracefully take control of their success and happiness, despite external circumstances. By cultivating a sense of Naked Self-Worth®, which is the ability to show up confidently and comfortably in all facets of one's life as they are, not as they think they should be, women discover that who they are right now is more than enough. Creator of FLAUNT! and Find Your Sparkle coaching programs, workshops, and destination retreats, she has worked with women worldwide to reveal their smart, sexy, and spiritual selves in all that they do, so they can fall deeply in love with themselves and passionately enjoy the lives they have worked so hard to create. An avid traveler and seeker of all things magical, glittery and fun, Lora dances burlesques under the name, Chakra Tease, a tribute to her favorite philosopher. Believing that “Life's a Dance!” she inspires others to stand up and choreograph their own life, instead of letting someone else choreograph it for them. Her book FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self is available wherever books are sold, and you can listen to her podcast or learn more about her at www.loracheadle.com. She lives in Colorado with her husband and has two amazing sons in college.

This is a juicy episode. This week, the Not So Perfect Couple sit down with Eva Clay and they were so impressed, that Sam actually ended up hiring her!  Eva holds certificates and specializes in so many different things, including Couples Therapy Training (with Esther Perel), Embodied Relationship Sex Therapy, Sexual Tantra, Trauma treatment and more. You're going to love this deep dive on so many different topics. Sit down, relax, and learn!

This week, the Not So Perfect Couple have a treat for you. They sit down with "power couple" Dov & Ren Baron. In this episode, they dive into communication, setting boundaries, and making sure the other is happy, plus SO much more. Dov Baron is “The Dragonist”, Inc. Magazine Top 100 Leadership Speaker, #1 Fortune 500 Podcast Host, Entrepreneur Magazine contributor, Loyalty Authority. Guiding us in how to recognize and nurture dragons (the top talent) hidden in our organizations. A Dragon Leader is not a position, it's someone who is always pushing to improve and wants those they serve to reach their full potential. Renuka is a Certified Communications Expert and is a licensed NLP Practitioner. She is a senior advisor at Dov Baron's Authentic Speaker Academy for Leadership. Renuka is also a full partner, co facilitator and mentor at Dov Baron International who train executives and corporate leadership teams to become soul-driven Dragon Leaders. Renuka's philosophy is that when people get the support they need to let go of playing small and embrace their hidden power, greatness emerges. She believes that we all need a little help, from time to time, to reach the heights of our dreams, goals and desires. 

This week the Not So Perfect Couple go solo and recap their guests the Better Lover May. They talk about their takeaways, what they tried, what they didn't, and how it has I'mproved/impacted their love life.  If you haven't tried anything from Better Lover May yet, then now's your time. 

This week the NSPC sits down with Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt. They dive into what is intimacy, how do you get into your heart to become a better lover? How do you make yourself better FOR your partner. This is a can't miss! Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those who have suffered heartbreak and are ready to live unapologetically, and attract an open-hearted, ideal relationship. Her vulnerability and courage landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject, featured as an Icon of Influence, and as Guest Expert on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS & FOX and The Jenny McCarthy Show. This Ivy League grad is the Author of 6 books, has interviewed Whoopi Goldberg and Alanis Morissette, and Hosts the edgy Podcast “Intimate Conversations” where listeners learn how to find the relationship they deserve. A certified coach with close to 5 million viewers on YouTube, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. While supporting non profits like Rise of the Butterfly to end human trafficking, Allana offers private and group coaching plus retreats so that her clients have a thriving intimate relationship with themselves first, which naturally attracts and enhances their ideal partnerships.

The NSPC sit down with the author of the best selling book..She Comes First. You can figure out what this episode is all about! It is perfect for the better lover May! This guest and episode, is kind of a big deal! Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. Ian is regularly quoted as an expert in various media, with recent features in The Atlantic, The New York Times, The Economist and NPR amongst others. Ian contributes regularly on the topic of sex for CNN Health. He lectures frequently on topics related to sex and relationships, with recent presentations at New York University, Yale, Princeton and the Ackerman Institute. Ian is the New York Times best-selling author of She Comes First (Harper Collins) which has been translated into more than a dozen languages. In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and is also a member of the American Family Therapy Academy(AFTA).

The Not So Perfect Couple sit down and have a very in depth and detailed conversation about the art of the blowjob. Fascinating tips and tricks are shared by their guest, and fair warning, they talk about butt stuff... Their guest is Patty Contenta she is the owner of the World renowned Arthur Murray Laval Dance Franchise. She began her career in the ballroom dancing community 20 years ago with the Arthur Murray Dance Studio in Montreal. As a Professional Dancer, Choreographer, Judge, Master Examiner, International Dance Consultant, she has transmitted my passion for dance to students around the world. Her mission is to have everyone who walks through the door of her Arthur Murray Laval Dance Studio, be instilled with a deep desire to be moved and ultimately be inspired to discover how dancing will touch their hearts and change their lives. She is also the founder of Sensuality Secrets, the author of Desirable And Deserving e-book and Sexy In Seconds DVD Program that helps women who are struggling with their body image reconnect with their femininity, confidence and sensuality through the art of body language and dance. Her mission is to have women release their resistance by expressing their sensuality. Patty provides techniques that will lead them to be more playful, build their self-esteem and exude a natural confidence while creating an inviting environment that will make them more magnetic.

The Not So Perfect Couple kick of Make Your Sex Life Better Month with the Perfect Guest, Shari James! They dive into things like erectile disfunction, premature ejaculation, and how men can do things to improve all of this. As a holistic health coach Shari works with men who are struggling with erectile dysfunction and do not want to take male enhancement pills, have taken them and did not get results or cannot take them because of side effects.  She also helps men with Premature Ejaculation who want to last longer and become multi orgasmic.  Borrowing from Shari's expertise as a registered nurse, practitioner of the five elements of Chinese Medicine, and Mastery of Tantra.  Shari's approach is a blend of traditional Western medicine and Eastern healing practices which provides a grounded, accessible and holistic approach. For more check out www.shari-james.com 

Paddy and Sam have a very timely conversation with their guest this week, Susie Miller. They discuss keeping your relationship together during quarantine, and how COVID-19 is affecting relationships all around the world.  Susie Miller is a speaker, author, and coach committed to helping high performers thrive in the relationships that matter most. For over 30 years, she has helped people uncover the deeper issues that keep relationships from thriving, and then develop the skills to win at work, succeed at life, and grow deeper in their faith.  Susie is the author of Listen, Learn, Love: How to Dramatically Improve Your Relationships in 30 Days or Less!, and has written for large publications been a guest on numerous popular podcasts, as well as appeared on NPR. She hosts the podcast: Thrive in Relationships. As an experienced communicator and consultant, Susie has worked with companies, organizations, and individuals to maximize their relationship capital at work, home, and play. As a lover of people, she connects with authenticity and gives them hope! Susie, and her husband John, have been married for 36 years, have 3 adult children, and an adorable grandson.  They currently live and work full time “on the road”, traveling the country in their tiny house/RV fifth wheel.  Connect with her at SusieMiller.com.

In this weeks episode of the Not So Perfect Couple Paddy and Sam go into detail about their own unresolved disagreements. The reality is, there are a number of things you'll always disagree with, with your significant other. The important thing isn't the disagreement, it is how you handle and resolve these disagreements. Paddy and Sam share the steps you need to take to handle such things, and why it's ok.

This week the Not So Perfect Couple sits down with their friend Csilla Veress. This conversation couldn't come at a more perfect time, since we are all trying to keep ourselves healthy. You'll love this conversation they have. Csilla Veress ND, LAc, is primary care doctor currently practicing at TrueNorth Health Center, in Santa Rosa, CA. The focus of her practice and outreach is to educate and inspire individuals to reach their highest potential, through helping them achieve optimal health, combining nutrition and lifestyle medicine.  Dr. Veress regularly lectures at TrueNorth Health, hospitals, colleges and corporation events, on the impact of whole food, plant based nutrition, water fasting and lifestyle modification in preventing and treating chronic illness.  Dr. Veress is a contributing writer for NPLEX, helping elevate excellence for ND board examinations. She is an author of the sleep module component of The lifestyle Medicine Core curriculum offered by the American College of Lifestyle Medicine   She has also written several articles for Health Science Magazine and has been featured on various podcasts. Find her at drcsillaveress.com

In this weeks episode with the Not So Perfect Couple, they share with you something they've developed for a client of theirs on how to deal during this quarantine.  In this episode, they dive into 5 things to keep your relationship alive during the lockdown! Truly game changing information from Sam and Paddy! SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: The audiobook is LIVE! To celebrate, Sam & Paddy are giving away 2 free copies of it to the first people who reach out to them on Facebook and say they are willing to write a review in exchange for it! Don't miss it!

The Not So Perfect Couple has returned...why? Because we are all quarantined and Sam and Paddy wanted to get together and discuss what to do to improve your life and relationships with this extra time we've all been gifted. Paddy and Sam have different takes on how to approach this pandemic, how to calm the mind, how to keep yourself out of the negativity, and so much more.  If you're struggling through this time, make sure to join the NSPC on this episode to feel a bit more "together" Also, make sure to grab their new book to help you through this time, it will help with your patience, your love, and connection.

This week the Not So Perfect Couple sit down with their long time friends Sean Barberio and Melanie Erwin. If these names sound familiar to you, they are the lovely couple that Sam and Paddy married back in November. In this episode, this couple shares their long journey of blending their families, overcoming loss, infidelity, and so much more. What type of advice would they give their younger selves? How they learned to make it work, and why communication is so important. This episode is a can't miss.

Oh WOW! The Not So Perfect Couple have had some massive changes and revelations in their life. What are they? You'll have to tune in to find out. But, lets just say, it's an unexpected and welcome surprise...it's just Grand.... Tune into the episode to hear the SURPRISING NEWS! Make sure to also go get the NSPC's New Book Out tomorrow!

This weeks episode is a continuation from last week, the Not So Perfect Couple dive into the Stages of love. They go over 3 of them, and Sam and Paddy share how they've experienced these and what they made them do.  Including Paddy being "love sick" in Eros over Sam, and getting to the airport a day early. The NSPC knows that butterfly feeling, but what about navigating to other phases? They also talk about how you should navigate them in order to know what your emotions are doing during these. 

This all started with Paddy's frustration during a Super Bowl Commercial when they talk about the "4 Greek words for love" - there are MANY more.  So, on this weeks episode the Not So Perfect couple walk you through what they really are and what they may mean to you during the different phases of love that we encounter in life. 

This week the Not So Perfect Couple sits down with Jeff Delone. Jeff is a highly successful financial advisor and business owner in Philadelphia. He has been practicing the Release Technique since 2008 and has been a teacher since 2016. Since he has been releasing, Jeff has overcome many obstacles in his life and he shares his invaluable wisdom and experience in his work with releasing. He is living proof that there are no limitations in Life. In this episode Sam and Paddy share their experience with the releasing technique that Jeff teaches. How it has allowed them to get through some stressful moments. Including Sam's TEDx talk.  Jeff also walks you through the technique so you can begin to practice this as well. This episode, is GREAT and you don't want to miss it. 

This week the Not So Perfect Couple dives into relationship killers. They dive into the studies of Dr. John Gottman who has over 30 years of research on relationships in his relationship labs. This doctor can tell within an hour whether a couple will stay together or not, based on how they interact with each other. Sam and Paddy discuss the Top 4 definite relationship killers. These are the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" - if these things are happening it is the tell tale sign that the end is near! Tune into this episode to hear their take on this!

Sam and Paddy have a great time with this interview. Patrick in this goes deep into his own self-deprecation, even though he does it in a joking manner, he realizes that his inner "monger" takes hold some times. Don't get us wrong, the not so perfect couple certainly love themselves, but this episode is AWESOME! Nancy has a Masters Degree in Higher Education and in Community Counseling from the University of Dayton. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor with eleven years in private practice and has spent 20+ years working as a counselor/coach. She has written three books on living happier, most notably The Happier Approach: Be Kind to Yourself, Feel Happier and Still Accomplish Your Goals. A certified Myers-Briggs®, Strong Career Assessments®, and Daring Way™ Facilitator, Nancy has brought her light-hearted, practical speaking style to corporations and nonprofits as both a keynote and workshop facilitator like the Bailey Cavalieri Law Firm, CASA of Central Ohio, Wallick Communities and the NAWBO Bradyware Visionary Leadership Conference. Now, if you're interested in helping the NSPC launch their book, they need advanced readers. If you want to be one, email Sam at sam@biggerlove.com 

So, what was it like for the Not So Perfect Couple to venture to a clothing optional resort? If you tuned in last week you knew that Sam and Paddy went for both research and just out of curiosity.  In this episode they dive into how they felt going into it. The nerves about not knowing 100% what to expect. If they got naked? What did it feel like when they thought people were judging them on the journey there. We think you'll be surprised hearing about their experience. We'd love to hear if you ever had any interest to venture into this type of lifestyle? If you'd like to be an advanced reader for Sam and Paddy's new book, send an email to Sam at sam@biggerlove.com to get on the list!

In this weeks episode, Paddy and Sam share what their plans are over the Holiday week. What is it you ask? Well, the Not So Perfect Couple is heading to a nudist resort (clothing optional) so Sam can do some research for her new book about sex.  What's their take on this new adventure? What are they worried about? Are they excited? What tips did they find before exploring this new territory? Oh, and how does Paddy pull off a "Sexy Lumberjack" look? Don't forget to check out the episode in 2 weeks as well, when they talk about their experience and what they learned! 

Have you ever thought of diving into "the lifestyle" with your partner? What does that even mean? In this weeks episode, Sam and Paddy sit-down with a couple who identify as a couple who are into the "lifestyle" or more commonly referred to as swingers. This episode is packed full of hilarious and informative content that everyone will enjoy. Horatio and Rita Stema are a muture couple, 2nd marriage for 13yrs. Met on line.  For 12 years have been openly monogamous, play with others but always together.  We know the who and what of the lifestyle. Nude beaches, clothing optional resorts.  Wrote MPIAD just after #meetoo started. Want to show that all men are the same, getting an erection isn't evil, it's normal.  It's what you do with that erection that defines you. We all get hungry, if I steal your food I"m an ass, if I get my own it's fine.  Life is about letting all consenting people do what they want. You can grab their book at www.mypenisisadick.com Paddy and Sam are looking for readers for their new book! Want to get an early copy of the book and enjoy it before anyone else? Now's the time.

Sam and Paddy wanted to sit down and talk about surviving the holidays. How do you navigate this season as a couple while continuing to grow?  Sam and Paddy talk about their favorite Christmas they've had and how they took back the holiday to get better as a couple and a family. 

This week Sam and Paddy do their first deep dive into the dating world. They normally talk with people who are already in committed relationships and married, but what about navigating the dating scene this day in age? Really, this conversation is a deep dive into self-love with their guest Jonathan Aslay. The Not So Perfect Couple knows that self-love is the key to success in any and all relationships and more...so they believe you're going to LOVE this episode as much as Jonathan knows about the topic itself. Jonathan is one of America's Leading Mid-Life Dating Coach and his passion and focus has expanded into a deeper, essential philosophy of what it truly means to LOVE. After losing his 19-year-old son Connor in 2018, Jonathon Aslay's grief led him on a soul-searching inner journey, where he became aware of an often-overlooked dimension of the dating conversation. He realized that the process of dating reveals the most common emotional health issue faced by many singles seeking a partner: a distressing lack of self-worth, self-regard, and self-love. Today, he is on a mission of encouraging both men and women to fully love themselves with a new book, "What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?"—packed with fun, engaging spiritual and personal growth practices—and his dynamic Mid-Life Love Mastery mentorship program, that inspires hundreds of people daily, around the world. Learn more about Jonathan Aslay: www.jonathonaslay.com/love 

This week Sam and Paddy get into an important topic that we all need to understand a little bit now....trust. What's it mean? How do we give it? What happens when we lose it? Can it be earned back? This episode they do a deep dive on this topic and is an absolute can't miss. They also tell you a little bit about their new book coming out in February!

This week Sam and Paddy sit-down with one of their fellow speakers at the iMater Conference, Bryan Falchuk. Bryan Falchuk is a best-selling author, speaker and life coach. He has faced major adversities and learned how to overcome and achieve. From obesity to running marathons, from career struggles to success as a C-level executive, from watching illness threaten his family to finding lasting health, he has been through many lessons he used to develop his unique approach to inspiring others to succeed. Bryan's best-selling first book, Do a Day, teaches the philosophy he developed to find your true motivation, set meaningful goals and achieve them by freeing yourself of judgment of the past and fear of the future. His latest book, The 50 75 100 Solution: Build Better Relationships, helps people see the power they have to make their relationships healthier and happier. Both his books come directly from his experience facing his own barriers so he could move his life forward. Bryan's work has been featured in many top publications like Inc. Magazine, Business Insider, The LA Times, Chicago Tribune and more. He is a frequent speaker at corporate events, conferences, universities and has spoken at multiple TEDx events. He has been a featured guest on over 150 podcasts and radio shows, and hosts his own weekly show, The Do a Day Podcast. Bryan holds an MBA from the Tuck School of Business at Dartmouth College, and has been a C- level executive and board advisor in the insurance and tech spaces. Make sure to grab Bryan's new book: http://www.5075100.com

Sam and Paddy are back together this week and they update you on all the things Sam has been up to over the past couple of months, including her TEDx Talk and how that went down!  So, how did it all go? Were they pleased? Did it live up to the hype? Tune into the Not So Perfect Couple to find out how Sam and Paddy navigate this phase of their life.

On this weeks episode of the Not So Perfect Couple Podcast Sam and Paddy sit-down with their "soul mate couple" and they talk creating intimacy in your relationship, overcoming your insecurities, and growing closer when the world is trying to tear you apart. Lindon and Cassie have a pretty ordinary love story. They met at work, became best friends, then one of them surprisingly revealed they were in love with the other, they were engaged 5 months later and have been married for six years. However, their life has been any thing but ordinary. They own a personal development company in California, they are constantly looking for ways to over come their unconscious protective strategies to create more intimacy in their lives together and two years ago their first son was born still. The trauma of losing their first baby has made creating a loving intimate relationship challenging but it is also because of their dedication to the love they have for their baby and each other that they embrace the challenge and use it to shape them in becoming even stronger together and as individuals. The fear and the hurt that they feel only serves as the diving board they use to dive into questioning everything that separates them from each other. Make sure to learn more at www.productivelearning.com

With 6 days left to Sam's TEDx talk she shares her thoughts on that and her thoughts on...sex and the benefits of it. This part is actually Sam's favorite part of her TEDx talk. Sam discusses the health benefits of sex, the relational benefits of sex, and our overall happiness and longevity. Tune in to find out more about 20+ benefits of sex and the research behind them. This episode is a true deep dive on the subject.

So, what is arousal? Why is it that we don't always have the ability to desire to be aroused? In this weeks episode, Sam is all by her lonesome again, and she's talking male and female arousal. What it means, why there can be issues, and what we can do to boost it all. This truly solo episode is a can't miss. Come take the journey with a solo Sam.

This week, Sam decided to go solo! She is currently out of town at a spiritual retreat and she wanted to hop on and share her TedX Talk Journey with you. She also wanted to drop in and talk about her libido.  You see, her TEDx talk is about sex, which you shouldn't be surprised about that, but in this episode and future solo episodes Sam is going to be doing a deep dive on her TEDx talk topic...deeper than the 10 minutes she'll have on stage.  So, tune in and do a deep dive on your libido with Sam!

This week Sam and Paddy are super excited to sit down with Julie Reisler.  Life Designer® Julie Reisler, is a TV Host, Next Level Facilitator, and Global Brand Ambassador, and is the founder and CEO of Empowered Living a Life Design and personal development company. Julie facilitates corporate retreats, workshops, masterminds and summits to help participants increase engagement, confidence, working to their strengths and take their life to the next level Julie is also the author of the Get a PhD in YOU book series, a multi-time TEDx speaker, host of The You-est You® podcast and meditation teacher on the popular app, Insight Timer, with over 110,000 downloads. Julie has a master's degree in coaching and more than twelve certifications in leadership, mindset and wellbeing. Julie is also on the faculty at Georgetown University in their coaching program and is a Lululemon Ambassador. Julie is passionate about helping you to be your 'you-est you' so you can up-level your life. To learn more about Julie, go to juliereisler.com. This episode is a can't miss. You have hear the enthusiasm in Sam's voice right from the get go. They talk about how important it is to be YOU even in a loving relationship.

The Not So Perfect Couple is on the road! That means not so perfect sound quality! But, as we know Sam and Paddy ALWAYS deliver perfect content for ALL couples out there. In this weeks episode, they break down why you shouldn't Mama Bear your partner, and why you should respect them on a completely different level!

Sam and Paddy sit down with the author of 7 Ways to Love and 7 Ways to Lead, Andre Young, and boy do they dive in. They discuss what to expect, what to give, how to receive, and everything in between. This episode is a can't miss. Andre Young, speaker, author, and Founder of You Evolving Now. He's worked as a Mental Health Therapist for 19 years, been an employee, business owner, and self-employed. He's lived in inner-city row homes to luxury homes, been married, divorced, and remarried, played sports at every level from high school to professional, written 4 books, have four amazing kids, a wonderful wife! The truth is….no matter where you go, people are the same as they are different and most would like to EVOLVE in their 4 P's as: People, Professionals, Partners, and Parents, but are too busy being "Busy" to do so. Stop letting "Busy" beat you and let's get started! Find out more about Andre HERE.

Is it better to be right, or is it all about allowing "truth" to prevail. In this episode, Sam and Patrick talk about the importance of being right, or not being right in your relationship. This is after a sincere apology to their amazing editor Justin ;).  And you may be wondering, why the shit show? Well, when there's massive changes in your relationship it becomes tougher to navigate. So, with Paddy and Sam making massive changes in their life, they are extra shit showey lately. Tune in to find out how Paddy and Sam get through the changes, while Paddy is so frequently right.....

Sam and Paddy seem to be "excited" about their empty nest, if you know what we mean.... But, the reality is, there is an adjustment period. How do you begin dealing with having that quiet house? Not having to help the kids with homework, running them to sports, or worrying about their problems as much.  Sam and Paddy talk about embracing the subtle changes that happen as your kids grow, making it a little easier once they are gone. Paddy focuses on the positives of things not disappearing, or walking around naked. Sam got a little sad, but it's all normal. And in all seriousness it comes down to communication, enjoying each others company, and knowing what fights to pick.   

Can conflict be a good thing for couples? This week Paddy and Sam sit-down with CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke and talk about this exact topic. You've heard the Not So Perfect Couple talk about conflict in the past, but now they've got two more amazing people talking about it with them.  CrisMarie Campbell, an Olympic rower and Boeing flight test engineer, and Susan Clarke, a former family therapist and equus coach, are the authors of The Beauty of Conflict: Harnessing Your Team's Competitive Advantage and their forthcoming book The Beauty of Conflict for Couples. As partners in work and life for over two decades, they've adapted their proven step-by-step process honed working with Fortune 100 Companies such as Johnson & Johnson, Microsoft, AT&T and Nationwide to help long-term couples use conflict as a catalyst to greater intimacy, passion, and fulfillment. Take a listen to this amazing conversation, and then take Sam and Paddy up on the invite to go to Montana with them to visit CrisMarie and Susan...they invited themselves, so we might as well all join them?

What kind of studies have been done about forgiveness? In this episode Sam and Paddy dive into the recent studies on forgiveness and what it does to the human psyche. It's really all about fact checking their book...but there is a lot great studies on this topic and they discuss how it takes you down different roads of discovery. This on is intriguing, so buckle up and hop on this ride with The Not So Perfect Couple.

This weeks episode, we flip the script and Sam and Patrick are interviewed. During their realization that they haven't been able to truly share their story on their own show, they decided to share this action packed interview with you.  Sam and Paddy were recently guests on the Attorney Heart Podcast in front of a live studio audience and they are now presenting it to you guys here.

When's the last time you had to forgive someone?  Forgiveness is a BIG word. So of course in this episode Paddy and Sam decide they are going to tackle this topic. One thing they discuss is when's the right time to apologize? How do you figure out who's at "fault" and what are the steps you have to take to forgive those who have hurt you. Once they get through the conversation of Patrick forgiving his penis for being a grower not a show-er. Sam talks about the most important concept of forgiveness...which is you forgive someone for yourself, not for them. Paddy may have a different take. Tune in to hear more on this insanely large topic.

This week Sam and Paddy sit down with Alexandra Miu. They discuss tantra, different forms of sex, orgasms, and so much more including how to reclaim your inner power in relationships. Both Sam and Patrick discuss their ventures into this world and how they've navigated almost without trying.  Alexandra Miu, like many out there, has experienced abuse, trauma, pain and failures. She grew up feeling insecure, kind of a nerdy kid in a village in Romania. Feeling like she had to always prove herself. And that took a huge toll on her confidence and self-esteem. Family life was in turmoil, and after a failed marriage at the age of 25, after a divorce, she realized she turned into a scared adult who never felt good enough. Who had a less than healthy relationship with men and felt numb in her own body. But she had this inner knowing that she has something to offer. Something bigger than herself that she had to share. Working through past conditioning, with years and years of deep-seated insecurities and pain, it wasn't a walk in the park. But she knew that in order to experience pleasure and a remarkable life, she had to first go through pain. So now she empowers others to reclaim their inner power. To honour themselves and break free of any limitation and to tap into their most powerful energy – their life force aka their sexual energy.

Sam and Patrick discuss what they truly mean by the "not so perfect couple". They go into details about how nobody is perfect but you can navigate conversations and interactions with others better to improve your relationships.  Sam points out how she asks herself "what would love do in this situation?". Asking yourself that makes you stop and react differently. 

What normally happens in Sam and Patrick's relationship is that Sam reads the books and then fills Paddy in on the cliff notes. Well, this guest wrote a book that Sam loved....and she didn't tell Paddy about it. So, this episode is a great dive into Patrick learning about the power of validation. This weeks guest is Michael Sorenson the author of the best selling book I Hear You Michael is an award-winning author and relationship coach by day, and an avid reader, researcher, and personal development junkie by night. His award-winning book, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships, has skyrocketed to the #1 spot on Amazon's best-seller list and is changing the way people around the world approach relationships in business, love, and life. This is a little different because like most of their guests, Michael isn't a relationship expert. But, his best selling book has become a tool for so many people to improve their communication and deepen their connection.