The Renew You Podcast

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Dear Quinn, Help My Parenting! Your Listener Questions Answered About Helping Kids Become More Independent, Disrespectful Teens and Moms that Need Breaks In the episode, Quinn answers these questions: 1. What should a mom do when they feel that their kids are being highly vocal in their teen years about the things I am not doing right as a parent? I want to take feedback, but don't want my feelings hurt. 2. My children are moving from the younger needy phase to the older independent phase and I'm struggling to let go of micromanaging them. How long are we supposed to let the leash lengthen between us and our child as they grow? 3. What happens when I am touched out? I don't want to be rude to them but I need space. Mind Renewal Tip: In parenting, if we remember that we grow as parents as our children grow as humans, we stay humble and adapt as their needs change. Scripture Renewal Tip: "Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding, for the gain from her is better than gain from silver and her profit better than gold. She is more precious than jewels, and nothing you desire can compare with her." Proverbs 3:13-15: Purchase Sacred Marriage HERE.

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. It can be hard to know what is real and what is fake in the digital world we live in. Because of this, millions of older adults are falling victim to financial fraud with the FBI estimating that seniors lose more than $3 billion a year to scammers. In this episode, Quinn teaches listeners how to navigate and teach themselves and their loved ones about online safety by addressing: 1. Common types of scams 2. The way these play on your emotions 3. Common Red Flags to Look Out For Mind Renewal Tip: Rushed decisions are typically not the wisest of decisions. So take time to consider when a decision is being made based on emotion and not fact. Scripture Renewal Tip: You shall not spread a false report. You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness. Hebrews 13:18 Resources Better Business Bureau. Before giving money away, research charities on sites like Charity Navigator and CharityWatch https://www.buckley-law.com/articles/romance-scams-elderly/ To report scams and fraud, you can file a report with the Federal Trade Commission The Federal Trade Commission offers helpful information online about obtaining free credit monitoring or reporting services. Learn more about Hope for the Heart's upcoming Mental Health and the Church event here. Purchase Sacred Marriage HERE.

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. We have a generation of boys struggling to launch and leave the nest. They seem easy at home because they are content on technology, but many parents find it feels hard to get them motivated to fly the coop. In today's episode Quinn addresses: 1. If the phrase “He's so easy. Just give him a video game and food and he doesn't make a peep!” is something to applaud. 2. What E word we should be focusing on as parents that isn't the word easy. 3. 7 Focuses We Want to Give Our Attention to When Raising Sons Mind Renewal Tip: We don't want easy boys, we want engaged boys, and they also end up engaged in easy, then we'll take that too! Scripture Renewal Tip: David defeated Goliath with a sling and rock. He killed him without even using a sword. David ran over and pulled out Goliath's sword. Then he used it to cut off Goliath's head. 1 Samuel 17: 50-53 Learn more about Hope for the Heart's upcoming Mental Health and the Church event here. Purchase Sacred Marriage HERE.

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. The world often shows preference to extroverts because they seem friendly, warm and engaging, but introverts have equally needed and powerful traits that can get overlooked if they don't have opportunities to show their strengths. In today's episode, Quinn highlights: 1. The differences between introverts and extroverts 2. The myth of being shy versus being introverted 3. The traits that make introverts great leaders Mind Renewal Tip: Introverts often show their best self when they are focused on a task versus connection because the pressure of connecting does not take their energy. Scriptural Renewal Tip:There is one body, but it has many parts. But all its many parts make up one body. It is the same with Christ. 13 We were all baptized by one Holy Spirit. And so we are formed into one body. It didn't matter whether we were Jews or Gentiles, slaves or free people. We were all given the same Spirit to drink. 14 So the body is not made up of just one part. It has many parts. I Corinthians 12: 12-14 Learn more about Hope for the Heart's upcoming Mental Health and the Church event here.

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. In today's episode, Quinn addresses the subtle pressure many parents feel to make their children “great” in something be it academics, sports or another extracurricular activity. Because while most parents wouldn't say anyone is directly telling them to do this, they can admit they feel the outside influence to prepare their child to excel more than generations in the past. In the episode, Quinn teaches parents how to keep a balanced perspective and also encourages to be mindful of: 1. Two questions to ask yourself when feeling the pressure that your child needs to be doing big things 2. Times when you might be taking it too far in the expectations you have of them 3. A powerful connection time that can refocus your goals in parenting Mind Renewal Tip: If this won't be relevant to you in ten years, it shouldn't be something that keeps you up at night. Scripture Renewal Tip: “You don't get wormy apples off a healthy tree, nor good apples off a diseased tree. The health of the apple tells the health of the tree. You must begin with your own life-giving lives. It's who you are, not what you say and do, that counts. Your true being brims over into true words and deeds. Article: https://www.facebook.com/share/1FgNTH4djk/?mibextid=wwXIfr

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Avoidant attachment is one of the four attachment styles that can present in a person that affects their view of self and others. 1. How it happens or what it looks like in a relationship 2. What someone with avoidant attachment feels when someone tries to get too close 3. How to help them out of their shell and not take it personally Mind Renewal Tip: Avoidant attachment is something that is meant to be personal to others. It's a coping mechanism developed to protect the person from stress. Scripture Renewal Tip:A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Alcohol and drinking can be a controversial topic for Christians. Some believe drinking is a sin and some believe that Jesus is accepting of it because he drank wine himself. But the question remains: “How much alcohol is acceptable (if any) as a Christian seeking to honor God?” In today's episode, Quinn discusses this very topic by talking about: 1. What the surgeon general stated in his January 2025 advisory 2. What the Bible has to say about drinking and what is recommended as a healthy amount 3. Questions to ask yourself about your drinking to help you have a clear mind Mind Renewal Tip: Drinking often takes more than it adds but we tend to focus on the short term benefit and ignore the long term cost. Scripture Renewal Tip: Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. Acts 11:24 Resources: https://www.brown.edu/news/2025-01-14/alcohol-cancer-warning

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Around twenty percent of the population struggles with procrastination regularly but it is often a source of frustration and shame to those that experience it. Procrastination can often lead people to feel like they are lazy and or unintelligent when really they are just the opposite! In today's episode, Quin teaches listeners: 1. The two kinds of procrastination and why they aren't the same 2. The myth about what causes procrastination and the mindset to change it 3. The power of writing out your problems when ready to get started Mind Renewal Tip: When you forgive yourself for procrastinating, you are less likely to procrastinate the next time you want to! Scripture Renewal Tip:Whoever watches the wind will not plant; whoever looks at the clouds will not reap. Ecclesiastes 11:4

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Many people look at their lives and feel like they are stuck in a negative story that repeats itself chapter after chapter. In today's episode, Quinn talks about how to get out of a bad chapter of our life and start a new story. In the episode, Quinn teaches listeners how to: 1. Identify lies keeping you stuck 2. Learn what to look for in order to change the perspective of your story 3. Focus on good story writing pointers Mind Renewal Tip: We change our story when we change the way we view God, ourselves and others! Scripture Renewal Tip: His mercies are new every morning. Lamentations 3:22 Find out more from Hope For The Heart Here.

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria is symptom associated with mental health disorders including ADHD, autism and depression. When someone experiences RSD, they can have extreme reactions to experiences of rejection not just emotionally but also physically. In today's episode, Quinn teaches listeners: 1. What RSD is and how it affects the brain 2. How to take a self-assessment to see if they meet criteria for it 3. Easy ways to begin not allowing RSD to drain them Mind Renewal Tip: Rejection is not a hate of you as a person but a clash of needs between two people. Scripture Renewal Tip: For the Lord will not reject his people. He will never forsake his inheritance. Psalm 34:17 Resources: https://laconciergepsychologist.com/blog/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-adhd/ Find out more from Hope For The Heart Here.

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Over 366 million adults worldwide are affected by symptoms of attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder which is a developmental disorder characterized by an ongoing pattern of inattention, hyperactivity, and feeling restless. Yet research suggests that women are often underdiagnosed in childhood because they do not display the hyperactive symptoms. In today's episode, Quinn sheds lights into some of the adult symptoms women with ADHD experience that often go undiagnosed. In the episode, Quinn teaches listeners: 1. What ADHD is and how's it diagnosed 2. The different subtypes of ADHD 3. Less known symptoms that lead to it being underdiagnosed in women Mind Renewal Tip: ADHD in women is less about being hyperactive and more about being overactive and the mental load. Scripture Renewal Tip: Jesus says, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." Matthew 11:28-30 Resources: https://youtu.be/ohGLvsy4HCg?si=WxoUSUGRUfahKblitw https://www.aafp.org/dam/AAFP/documents/patient_care/adhd_toolkit/adhd19-assessment-table1.pdf Find out more from Hope For The Heart Here.

Join the mission! Visit donate.accessmore.com to help fund more episodes and shows like this. One of the reasons kids struggle with anxiety is that they feel scared of their own anxiety and unsure they can stop it! In today's episode, Quinn teaches kids and parents the mindset that helps reduce anxiety by empowering your child. Additionally, Quinn discusses techniques that can be used to reduce anxiety. After listening, you will understand: 1. Two Simple Breathing Techniques to reduce anxiety 2. The Even if Mindset 3. 3, 3, 3 Method for Grounding Mind Renewal Tip: We have the tools we need to work through anxious situations. We are stronger than we think! Scripture Renewal Tip: "For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7 Resources: https://youtu.be/kpSkoXRrZnE?si=8caKJSvf4No9tMGL

Join the mission! Visit donate.accessmore.com to help fund more episodes and shows like this. Gaslighting is a trendy yet often misused word that involves someone using manipulation to make someone doubt their perceptions, memories, or reality. It's different than someone disagreeing with you, but it can feel consuming to know the difference. In this episode, Quinn helps differentiate between the two and teaches listeners: 1. Where the term came from 2. What it sounds and feels like 3. How to stop it when someone is doing it to you Scripture Renewal Tip: “Yes, just as you can identify a tree by its fruit, so you can identify people by their actions. “ Matthew 7:20 Mind Renewal Tip: If someone is actively trying to deny or control your reality, they are unhealthy – not you.

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. We have all heard that we aren't responsible for managing others' feelings because we can only manage our own feelings. But what if what you do and say hurts others? Should you care about their feelings then? In today's episode, Quinn discusses how to process the fact that healthy people should not feel responsible for others' feelings but how often that can feel cruel or harsh toward those that we have hurt. In the episode, Quinn empowers listeners to dig deeper and understand: 1. What letting go of responsibility of others' feelings does for our decisions 2. What two extreme ways of thinking to avoid 3. What To Do When Someone Is Hurt by Our Decisions Mind Renewal Tip: While we are freed of guilt for our needs and wants when we stop trying to manage others' emotions, we can still feel compassion for their hurt. They are not mutually exclusive. Scripture Renewal Tip: "Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Colossians 3:12

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. In honor of Valentine's Day, I wanted to record an episode focused on marriage and what makes for a healthy marriage. But I wanted to do that by sharing some personal stories from my marriage that have taught me how to love better that I believe can help you too. These stories on not focused on things that I do for my husband but instead, things he does for me that have taught me how to love better. In the episode, I share how: 1. Verbal affirmations of love can not only strengthen your marriage but your kids' wellbeing too. 2. Focusing on mutual service changes the way partners feel about marriage 3. An apology can quickly change the course of a moment, day or period of time in marriage for the better! Mind Renewal Tip: The goal in marriage is not to get caught up in roles but instead to be focused on how you can mutually serve one another based on the needs in front of you. Scripture Renewal Tip: Serve one another humbly in love. Galatians 5:13–14

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. If you've been on social media, you've likely read about the benefits of a cold plunge. And if you've ever stepped foot in a gym, you know how widely loved and used saunas have been for years! But did you know that both of these types of exposures to heat and cold can also help your mental health? In today's episode, Quinn gives listeners a simple and introductory lesson to both. After listening you will know: 1. The benefits of a cold plunge and sauna treatment 2. How cold is cold enough 3. How much you need to do both a week for benefits Scripture Renewal Tip: So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth. Revelation 3:16 Mindset Renewal Tip:Sometimes the pain we avoid is the pain we need to grow stronger. Resources:https://youtu.be/pq6WHJzOkno?si=C5ytNwqPaJ2cdhyf https://youtu.be/7aYArAYghUA

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. There are some people who have the ability to walk in a room and instantly light it up. From the outside looking in, it can seem like they have a special gift but today's episode reveals the common tools they utilize. After listening today, listeners will know 9 things that allow anyone to light up the room. In the episode, Quinn discusses the power of: 1. Smiling and eye contact when you first walk in a room 2. The art of listening and responding 3. The power of importance in putting others at ease Mind Renewal Tip: When making others feel valued -- Confidence and arrogance are important to differentiate between. Arrogance makes others thing you are more important than them. Confidence is the ability to show others how you see their value because you also understand your own. Scripture Renewal Tip: You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven". Matthew 5:14-16 Resources: https://geediting.com/10-habits-of-people-who-light-up-every-room-they-walk-into-according-to-psychology/

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Anxiety is on the rise in teens and young adults. But what is causing it to rise and how to stop it is something many parents want to know. So today's episode, which is part one of a two-week series, outlines what parents can do to rescue anxiety in their homes. In the episode, Quin teaches parents: 1. The need for risk and responsibility in the lives of our children 2. The four rules for phones recommended by Jonathan Haidt 3. The power of failure in creating resilience against hardship Mind Renewal Tip: “Parents are overprotecting children in the real world and underprotecting them online. Scripture Renewal Tip: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God”. Philippians 4:6-7

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Anxiety is on the rise in teens and young adults. But what is causing it to rise and how to stop it is something many parents want to know. So today's episode, which is part one of a two-week series, outlines what parents can do to rescue anxiety in their homes. In the episode, Quin teaches parents: 1. The importance of identity in reducing anxiety 2. The power of belonging in your maintains your child's well being 3. The reason goals are needed even in children and teens Mind Renewal Tip: Our goal is parents isn't to prevent all anxiety from being a part of our children's lives, but instead to equip them with the right tools with how to handle it when it hits! Scripture Renewal Tip: Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. Colossians 3:2

Today Quinn discusses imposter syndrome and how it can keep people from doing the things they are meant to do or feeling secure in the things they are already doing. In today's episode, Quinn encourages listeners to start looking forward to and let go of the imposter doubts holding them back. In today's episode, Quinn teaches listeners: 1, What imposter syndrome is 2. The 5 different imposter roles 3. And 3 C's to stop imposter syndrome from the book, “Own Your Greatness: Overcome Imposter Syndrome, Beat Self-Doubt, and Succeed in Life (Ulysses Press © 2020)” Mind Renewal Tip: No one starts off an expert. Scripture Renewal Tip: We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:5 Resources: Own Your Greatness: Overcome Imposter Syndrome, Beat Self-Doubt, and Succeed in Life (Ulysses Press © 2020) https://a.co/d/fWlVqGq

Bad habits or addictions are something most people struggle with. But while it's easy to say we want to stop them; we often don't know what to do to kick the habit for good. Today's episode focuses on the power of getting serious about breaking the habit with 6 easy tips. In the episode, Quinn teaches listeners: 1. The definition of addiction 2. The Four C's to look out for 3. What makes something become addictive Mind Renewal Tip: You can't break an addiction if you aren't all in. Scripture Renewal Tip: If your hand is causing you to sin, cut it off. It is better to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go through hell. Matthew 5:30 Other Resources: Pornography Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/6-steps-to-begin-safeguarding-your-children-and/id1444827854?i=1000607297529 Dopamine Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dopamine-detox-resetting-your-brain-from-addictive/id1444827854?i=1000672186446 Breaking Habits: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/renew-you-with-quinn-kelly/id1444827854?i=1000582997788

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. It's Christmas Eve which means families are likely together and reflecting on the story of Jesus' birth. And while it's great to remember the story, it's often easy to look over its relevance to our lives which is why today's episode gives listeners a chance to apply some of the powerful cognitive truths God teaches us through the story of Jesus's birth to the lives of our families. After listening today, Quinn believes listeners will have a chance to: 1. Reflect on seasons of waiting and stillness in a new way 2. Look for God's unlikely use of circumstances to do something great 3. Feel a new found confidence in each family member's giftings Mind Renewal Tip: Waiting is often mistaken for a lack of God's presence or plan for our lives when in fact, waiting is often the indication that God is in the midst of completing the greatest work among us. Scripture Renewal Tip: For to us a child is born, to us a son is given; and the government shall be upon his shoulders, and His name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. Isaiah 9:6

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. We often think of play as something that is just for kids, but did you know that play has just as many benefits for adults as children benefiting both our physical and mental health. Yet because adults don't understand its value, they often don't make room for play in their everyday lives. In today's episode, Quinn teaches listeners: 1. How play affects your creativity and stress 2. The 8 types of play 3. Easy ways to incorporate play in your lives for the new year Mind Renewal Tip: We often assume that play ends with childhood but do not understand that play continues to benefit our minds and bodies well beyond the child years. Scripture Renewal Tip: A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22 Resources: https://nifplay.org/books/play-how-it-shapes-the-brain-opens-the-imagination-and-invigorates-the-soul/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-importance-of-play-for-adults#how-to-be-more-playful

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Do you have a house full of memories but more messes? Do you find that it's hard to keep your house cleaned out but desire to have organization and peace within the chaos? In today's episode, Quinn teaches listeners how to declutter and restore order to your space based on the work of Dana K White. In the episode, Quinn teaches listeners: 1. One thing to say to yourself when feelings sentimental: I'm not rejecting the item, I'm just saying I don't have room for it. 2. Two questions to ask yourself when organizing 3. What containers are meant for Mind Renewal Tip: Containers are meant to contain and serve as a limit – not as a place to stuff. Every space is a container that sets a limit. Scripture Renewal Tip: "There is a time to keep, and a time to cast away". This verse suggests that it's okay to get rid of things that are no longer useful. Ecclesiastes 3:6 "Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal". This verse suggests that material wealth is temporary and can be lost, while heavenly treasures are eternal Matthew 6:19 Resources: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/2019/05/printables-for-making-life-easier-and-cuter/

It's easy to expect the holidays will make us feel loved and accepted but often they can be reminders that we feel rejected by those we love the most. And this can make Thanksgiving and Christmas hurt our hearts. In today's episode, I talk about how to stop the pattern of seeking approval from the loved ones that continue to leave you feeling discarded by discussing: 1. Signs that we need to end seeking approval 2. Scripture that resets our mental perspective 3. Ways to focus on empathy for healing Mind Renewal Tip: If we chase after others' approval, we often feel rejected. But if we chase after God, we quickly find acceptance. Scripture Renewal Tip: "Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 6:11-12:

Visit donate.accessmore.com to give to help fund more episodes and shows like this. It's easy to see when other people are continually difficult and in need of healing, but sometimes we can't see that we are the one that is hurting – not them! Today Quinn discusses how easy it can be to point the finger at others for their unhealthy behavior but the importance of taking time to ask ourselves, “Am I the one that needs healed?” In today's episode, Quinn teaches listeners: 1. 6 Indications we are hurting 2. A question to ask yourself regarding your future that shows we need to heal 3. 3 Steps to take when we are hurting Mind Renewal Tip: It's not our fault we get in unhealthy places but it's our responsibility to notice and take action. Scripture Renewal Tip: "But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint" Isaiah 40:31

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Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University.In today's episode, Quin discusses the unhealthy pattern of trying to express yourself and your needs toward someone you love and feeling like that person consistently receives your needs as an attack on them. In response to that, Quinn teaches listeners how to break that pattern by: 1. Understanding the difference between attack versus communication 2. Disarming statements to use to help a discussion go well 3. Tips by Dr. John Gottman for creating soft start up in a conversation Mind Renewal Tip: Focusing on what you need someone to do versus what someone did wrong disarms a person's defensiveness. Scripture Renewal Tip: The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. Proverbs 12:15 7 Ways to Soften Start Up by John Gottman 1. Take responsibility 2. Complain without blame 3. Start with “I” Statements 4. Describe what is happening 5. Be polite 6. Be Appreciative 7. Don't let things build up

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University.Raising teenagers is hard on its own, but guiding teenagers in dating relationships can be harder than expected! As parents, we want to guide them but we often can find ourselves unsure as to how to keep them healthy, happy and protected when dating. In today's episode, Quinn empowers parents to: 1. Draw a boundary with their level of comfort in dating based on age and maturity 2. Have guidelines to teach kids for healthy relationships 3. See one hidden benefit that comes from teen relationships Mind Renewal Tip: Guiding our kids through dating relationships while they are in our home is a great way to prepare them for healthy relationships when they one day leave the home! Scripture Renewal Tip: Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. 1 Timothy 4:12

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University.Liberty University can help you get there. Learn more here. Parenting teenagers is fun and challenging all at once. You get to enjoy them being more independent but also have to navigate how to let them be independent while still guiding them in making good choices that they want to make on their own. In today's episode, Quinn encourages listeners to stay sane while parenting teens by: 1. Teaching parents how to not take it personally when your teen doesn't enjoy you 2. Remembering the importance of protecting them digitally but giving them real life freedom 3. Giving grace when they make mistakes because they will Mind Renewal Tip: Even mature teens are immature! There brains aren't fully developed so don't be surprised when they show it. Scripture Renewal Tip: Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Liberty University can help you get there. Learn more here. It's that time of year when division can easily seem all around us. Politics, holidays, everyday life. It can feel overwhelming to disagree with people you love, and it can feel angering to not know how to handle it! In today's episode, Quinn shares her best tips in helping you create understanding and find peace when the world tells you to fight by: 1. Giving you one overarching principle to guide your conversations. 2. Offering a mindset to start a heated conversation with. 3. Teaching a tip to deescalate yourself when feeling triggered with anger. Mind Renewal Tip: Being angry at someone that doesn't agree with you is about as pointless as brushing your teeth with Oreos in your mouth. Nothing productive comes from it but frustration. Scripture Renewal Tip: Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick tempered displays folly. Proverbs 14:29 Resources: https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036 https://www.amazon.com/Dopamine-Nation-Finding-Balance-Indulgence/dp/B08LQZCGDJ/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1CUP9CCSGL4EX&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.zHSDmXDw0zRM-BzS0qqNoX-lkMEA7NV5Au2BUwmgK61NBpoo3KzOBed1kr1DzaqWoJCvsXOMrWLZ_R_Kz6w_6g.3o2Rwxj3NWto_KMX5SeVvjWsa9JySVsvor0TgqLVeIQ&dib_tag=se&keywords=ana+lemke&qid=1727723852&s=books&sprefix=ana+lemke%2Cstripbooks%2C193&sr=1-1 Correction: In the episode, Quinn mistaken says the term omnifinality instead of equipfinality.

Liberty University can help you get there. Learn more here. God desires to use each and every one of us for his glory and for our good. But our minds often lie to us and tell us we aren't worthy of taking steps to fulfill our passions. Today's episode is all about breaking through those lies to honor God's call in our lives. In the episode, Quinn encourages listeners: 1. Identify what they feel called to 2. Understand the lies or the barriers keeping them stuck and away from that call 3. Be bold in taking the first step to making that dream for their life a reality Mind Renewal Tip: Most anyone you talk to that has done something great has had to overcome imposter syndrome. Feeling like they aren't really the right one for the job. But here's the truth, no one feels like they are the right one for the job until they start the work and see what God does in and through their obedience. Scripture Renewal Tip: As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Ephesians 4:1

Liberty University can help you get there. Learn more here. In today's episode, Quinn teaches listeners about dopamine, a hormone and neurotransmitter related to pleasure and reward that is present in addiction. In the episode, Quinn asks listeners to examine habits in their life that follow addictive patterns of excess including overconsumption of social media, drinking, sugar or even the news and consider whether a dopamine fast might be something they would benefit from. In the episode, Quinn teaches listeners how: 1. Our brain is hardwired to keep us in a homeostatic state between pain and pleasure 2. Long term dopamine exposure affects the brain 3. Incorporate habits that reset your dopamine baseline Mind Renewal Tip: Every pleasure has a price. The ultimate end result in pursuing dopamine is to feel worse than when you started. –Ana Lemke We are hardwired to seek pleasure. But the constant seeking of pleasure can lead us to feeling less pleasure by becoming addicted to patterns. Scripture Renewal Tip: "The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever." 1 John 2:17 Resources: Dopamine Nation https://a.co/d/ja3EkUW Ice Bath Article: https://www.hubermanlab.com/newsletter/the-science-and-use-of-cold-exposure-for-health-and-performance

There seems to be a trend in society that when someone hurts us, we block them not only on our phone and social media but out of our heart as well. In today's episode, Quinn discusses that while this trend may feel easier for us, it is not always healthy. After listening today, listeners will understand: 1. Different types of boundaries that guard the heart 2. Ways to gauge is someone is trustworthy 3. How to view that person in a Godly way before seeking repair Mind Renewal Tip: We often feels cut off protects us when in reality, it often hurts us. Scripture Renewal Tip: I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them. Romans 16:17 Resources: Old Testament Article: https://petergoeman.com/what-does-it-mean-cut-off-bible/

A recent study by the CDC released on February 13, 2022 found that teen girls are struggling with their mental health and thoughts of self-harm significantly more than a decade ago. And while there are many factors that can be contributing to this decline including negative effects of continual exposure to social media and longstanding repercussions of isolation from pandemic, it is important for parents to take a proactive approach to strengthen their daughter(s)' mental health. In this episode, Quinn offers parents an understanding of: 1. What the recent research shows as to the decline of mental health of girls 2. The power of connection in improving mental health 3. Practical ways parents can protect their daughters Mind Renewal Tip: The more we focus outward on others, the smaller our individual problems seem Scripture Renewal Tip: "No weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, declares the Lord." Isaiah 54:17 Link to Study: https://www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/data/yrbs/yrbs_data_summary_and_trends.htm Declaration of Identity: I am loved. I am here for a reason. I was created with unique purpose. I am beautifully created. And I will see myself that way. I am more than my emotions. I am more than my mistakes. My story is bigger than today. My life is a part of God's bigger plan. I have a future and a hope. I will live with that in mind. J

Today is Quinn's 41st birthday and in honor of that, she wanted to share four phrases (plus one bonus phase) that have changed her life for the better. These phrases are one that are easy to remember and easy to apply if you see their importance. After listening today, Quinn teaches listeners: 1. How too big of goals often stop us from making goals at all. 2. Why living for others keeps you from living for God 3. The importance of not leaving important people in your life guessing if you care Mind Renewal Tip: Often once we get started with a small something, the big something that we truly desire ot accomplish seems tangible to us! Scripture Renewal Tip: Because He bends down and listens, I will pray as long as I have breath. Psalm 116:2 Quinn's Phrases: 1. Something is better than nothing 2. You cannot control what they think of you. So you should focus on what God thinks of you instead. 3. If they're important, they should know. 4. These are the days. 5. Bonus +1 -- Life with God (even when you're mad and confused) is better than life without God.

In life we often find ourselves assuming responsibility for things that are not meant to be in our control. Instead of focusing on our own decisions or actions, we find ourselves focusing on what others think about the things we are choosing to do, which is exhausting and unproductive. In today's episode, Quinn teaches listeners: 1. Where the bible says our focus should be 2. What we sacrifice when we are focused on the happiness of others 3. The danger of trying to meet unrealistic expectations from others Mind Renewal Tip: If you are focused on keeping others happy, you are often sacrificing your own well being. Scripture Renewal Tip: Acts 5:29 Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men. Resources: https://www.cleerelystated.com/blogs/daily-devotion/ten-things-you-arent-responsible-for

Fund conversations that matter: donate.accessmore.com Whether we realize it or not, we choose what we believe in hard times. We can choose to believe we are alone or that God is with us. And that choice can be the difference between suffering and peace when facing the same thing. There comes a point in all of our lives when we are in the middle of a hard time or trial, l and we feel like we might not make it through. Maybe it's a job loss. The death of a loved one. Or a struggle with illness. Regardless the circumstance, it's hard to know how to find your way out. In today's episode, Quinn teaches listeners how to navigate a hard time more easily by examining: 1. How choice plays a large role in perseverance 2. God's promises have the ability to keep our minds stable Mind Renewal Tip: You've got to stand for something or you'll fall for anything. Scripture Renewal Tip: Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist. Ephesians 6:14

Fund conversations that matter: donate.accessmore.com Moms don't have to be perfect to be effective in being there for our children. But sometimes, it's hard to know where to put our mental effort and focus when trying to raise happy and healthy kids. In today's episode, Quinn discusses: Three hidden superpowers of Rockstar moms The importance of connecting with other kids in your home The value of respect in creating a household of healthy kids Mind Renewal Tip: Kids that feel respected by their parents feel more inclined to respect their parents in return. Scripture Renewal Tip: The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. He will not always hide, nor will he keep his anger forever. He does not deal with us according to our sins, not repay us according to our iniquities. As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him. Psalm 103: 8-10,134

Fund conversations that matter: donate.accessmore.com Most people feel stress from time to time, but healthy individuals do not carry stress day in and day out or it begins to take a toll on our health. When we adjust to holding stress and not managing it, we can end up with high cortisol levels which wreak havoc on our bodies both mentally and physically. In today's episode, Quinn shares about: What cortisol is What it does when it's elevated How to reduce it naturally in our daily life Mind Renewal Tip: We can fight off stress all at once but if we proactively do things to reduce it daily, we can slower make it disappear. Scripture Renewal Tip: “Cast your burden on the Lord, And He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved” (Psalm 55:22) Resources: https://www.charliehealth.com/post/vagus-nerve-exercises https://elara.care/nutrition/foods-that-lower-anxiety/ https://www.goodrx.com/well-being/diet-nutrition/foods-that-lower-cortisol?label_override=undefined https://www.womenshealthnetwork.com/adrenal-fatigue-and-stress/negative-effects-of-high-cortisol/#:~:text=Thyroid%20imbalances-,Negative%20effects%20of%20high%20cortisol,continual%20state%20of%20hyper%2Denergy

Have you ever felt God telling you to do something that doesn't necessarily make sense? In this episode, Quinn tells the story of her friend and ministry partner Jarrell feeling compelled to come lay hands on her face at the start of her diagnosis of Ramsay Hunt.In the episode, Quinn teaches listeners:1. What often happens when we don't listen to God2. The mystery and power of trusting God is at work3. The power of focusing on God's timingMind Renewal Tip:Obedience is the key to unlocking blessings. --Priscilla ShirerScripture Renewal Tip:"And through your descendants all the nations of the earth will be blessed—all because you have obeyed me." (Genesis 22:18)Jesus replied, "But even more blessed are all who hear the word of God and put it into practice." (Luke 11:28)Wherever You Go I Want You To Know is available here. Save 25% by using code: Go25

Life is not one big story, but instead a compilation of seasons God uses to grow and refine us. When a season isn't our favorite, it's tempting to try and rush through the season we are in instead of allowing God to grow us and use our God-given gifts to bloom where we're planted. In this episode, Quinn talks about: 1. Different types of seasons God leads us through 2. What happens when we move from one season to the next 3.The best ways to bloom where you're planted Mind Renewal Tip: All seasons have purpose. One isn't better than another. Although one may be more fun than another. And the beauty of God at work in us is not rushing from one season to the next, but allowing God to give us the strength and wisdom to bloom where we are standing. Scriptural Renewal Tip: There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance… Ecclesiastes 3:1-4 Resources: https://www.umcdiscipleship.org/spiritual-gifts-inventory/en The Forge Movie. Click here for theaters and showtimes.

Have you ever felt like your child is not the typical child and you want to accept them but find it challenging too? We often want our children to be themselves but struggle when they stand out for being weird or unlike the other kids their age. They may be confident with their own unique desires and interests, but we may struggle to support them more than we even understand. In today's episode, Quinn helps parents: 1. Understand why God wants us to embrace our unique children 2. Identify areas we need to explore for our own healing 3. See the power of writing a new future with who they are instead of who we thought they would be Mind Renewal Tip: If we spend time trying to be everyone else, we will miss out on being who God called us to be. Scripture Renewal Tip: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2

In marriage therapy, there are several ways of thinking that seem to destroy healthy communication in marriage. These thoughts fit into a category called cognitive distortions and they are faulty ways of viewing events that prevents partners from seeing things in a positive light. In today's episode, Quinn teaches listeners: 1. Three of the common distortions she sees in marriage therapy 2. Why these ways of thinking contribute to communication going poorly 3. Steps to challenge your thinking in order to improve your communication Mind Renewal Tip: If you want to know what your partner is thinking about a situation, ask them instead of assuming. It's often what we “think” we know about a situation that makes it go poorly instead of the true facts surrounding it! Scripture Renewal Tip: Ask and it shall be given to you. Seek and ye shall find. Knock and the door will be opened unto you. For everyone who asks receives, the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. Matthew 7: 7-8

Relationships often end up in negative cycles that repeat themselves and unless we understand how to stop it, we stay stuck in it. In today's episode, Quinn discusses 5 steps to renew a negative relationship with a friend, spouse, child or coworker. After listening, listeners will understand how to: 1. Identify it's time to renew a relationship 2. The power of needs in changing a negative pattern 3. Do something different when negative things seem to repeat themselves Mind Renewal Tip: We often repeat the same negative patterns of conflict with people we love and while it seems impossible to start new, simply seeing that person as one in whom Christ dwells can transform everything. Scripture Renewal Tip: Do not conform to the patterns of this world but instead be transformed by the renewing of your mind so you can test and approve what God's will is. His good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2 Resources: https://www.amazon.com/Good-Beautiful-God-Falling-Apprentice/dp/0830835318 Wherever You Go I Want You To Know is available here. Save 25% by using code: Go25

Everyone makes mistakes, but learning to forgive yourself for them is often easier than it sounds. It's easy to focus on the power of forgiving others but forget how important it is to forgive ourselves in the process. In the episode, Quinn discusses: 1. The power of understanding your emotions in self forgiveness 2. A sign in your relationships that reveals you need to forgive yourself 3. The power of mistakes in allowing us to grow Mind Renewal Tip: We often don't want to make mistakes but fail to recognize that it is our mistakes that allow us a chance to grow and alert us that we need to. Scripture Renewal Tip: Ephesians Be kind to one another, tender-hearted forgiving each other, just as God also has forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32 Resources: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-forgive-yourself-4583819 What are the 4 R's of self-forgiveness? Responsibility: Accept what has happened and show yourself compassion. Remorse: Use guilt and remorse as a gateway to positive behavior change. Restoration: Make amends with whomever you're forgiving, even if it's yourself. Renewal: Learn from the experience and grow as a person Wherever You Go I Want You To Know is available here. Save 25% by using code: Go25

If you're a parent you've likely had a time where someone has wronged your child and you feel an instinct to protect them in a way that is powerful and strong. But often that instinct can lead parents to rash decisions that make both our child and us look bad. In today's episode, Quinn teaches listeners to: 1. Identify the things that trigger them to act out as a mama or papa bear 2. The ultimate goal of parenting in these hard situations 3. The length of time to wait before responding Mind Renewal Tip: Opportunities when we are triggered are the opportunities to show the world how someone with Christ responds to adversity. Scripture Renewal Tip: But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22 Wherever You Go I Want You To Know is available here. Save 25% by using code: Go25

In this episode, Quinn examines several lies Christians believe when they are going through difficult times that make hard times harde3r than they need to be. People often things these lies comfort them when in actuality, they lead to stress, In the episode, Quinn teaches listeners: 1. Why We Tell Ourselves These Lies 2. What to Tell Ourselves to replace them 3. Steps to Cope with Sadness in Difficulty Mind Renewal Tip: We want to make sense of things that are non-sensical. We want to have the whole picture when we are only looking at half the drawing. Scripture Renewal Tip: His asked Him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he would be born blind? Jesus answered, “Neither this man nor his parents sinned, but it was so that the works of God might be displayed and illustrated in him.” John 9:1-5 Wherever You Go I Want You To Know is available here. Save 25% by using code: Go25

In this week's episode, Quinn shares about two honest conversations she has had with women lately that propelled her to analyze why honesty is so vital in close relationships. Quinn also addressed the myth that honesty can cause division instead of closeness. In the episode, Quinn teaches listeners: 1. Feelings that might indicate its time for an honest conversations 2. Phrases that keep honest words safe and approachable 3. What honestly does to the person receiving it Mind Renewal Tip: When you take the time to have an honest conversation with someone -- even when it involves hard words -- it builds far more trust and intimacy than holding back honesty can. Scripture Renewal Tip: Seek peace and pursue it. Psalm 34:14 Wherever You Go I Want You To Know is available here. Save 25% by using code: Go25

In the Bible, the word “ezer” is used to describe military and divine help 21 times in the Bible and all from positions of strength. God even describes himself as that word 16 different times, meaning that helping is a concept that has deep value in God's eyes. In today's episode, Quinn focuses on the power of being a help and strength to those in our lives. Specifically, she focuses on: 1. Teaching a mindset that changes our perspective on helping 2. How being a helper transforms our attitude in hardship 3. Scripture that focuses on God as our helper Mind Renewal Tip: When we stop telling someone how to change and start helping them create the changes we think are necessary, our relationships improve. Scripture Renewal Tip: I I lift up my eyes to the mountains— where does my help come from? 2 My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth. Psalm 121:2 Wherever You Go I Want You To Know is available here. Save 25% by using code: Go25

In today's episode, Quinn addresses reasons why you might be struggling with chronic anger. She explains levels of anger and teaches the ways in which we want to address our emotional needs instead of suppressing them so that we don't explode. In the episode, Quinn explains to listeners: 1. The four stages of anger including irritation, frustration, rage and fury 2. The power of saying no to the unnecessary when dealing with chronic anger. 3. The benefit of finding a calming phrase in the middle of an anger surge. Mind Renewal Tip: Anger isn't the problem. What's causing your anger is. Scriptural Renewal Tip: Wise people are careful and stay out of trouble, but fools are careless and quick to act. Someone with a quick temper does foolish things, but someone with understanding remains calm. Proverbs 14: 16-17